CommercialConcern828 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Having the 8 week post Seperation “chat” in a week. Any advice fellas? The medium is the message. Your ‘wife’ doesn’t want to be with you. Accept that first and make yourself your mental point of origin. Lawyer up for custody and child support and start dealing with what works best for you. She can take care of herself and doesn’t view you as an important and central cog in her life. Past 7 weeks should have proved that to you.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/26 09:00 AM
2	She just changed overnight You got a co husband.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/26 02:16 AM
5	Do I tattle on my ex wife and her paramour? (After divorce is final) Jujitsu coach didn’t take an oath of fidelity to you. Let them be and have the pleasure of watching it fall apart. Her attraction to him was in what she believed you didn’t have ie he was complimentary to you in her mind. Take yourself out of the equation and it won’t stand. Please come back and report and give some laughs.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/06/26 10:36 PM
12	You guys were right, you always are Pretty women usually land on their feet. Always a man or 5 willing to clean up their mess. Good for all involved i would say.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/26 08:17 PM
9	Has she tried to come back Million dollar question would be why would you even care? Best revenge (if you are so inclined) is living your best life.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/03/26 08:40 PM
10	Thought I was over my ex, but I was mistaken A divorce can be compared to drug rehab in that you have a cocktail of emotions that need time to go away. That said however, you do need to take your ex wife off the pedestal. 3B other women just like her, take the second chance that life has gifted you.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/25 09:35 PM
2	Did your mutual friends remain "neutral" after wife's affair? I feel you all gentlemen. But always remember whereas Mother Nature is her friend and your enemy, Father Time is the inverse and is your friend. It all works out in the end.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/25 06:16 PM
4	Really tired of the single-dad-bashing Morgan Stanley in the 2019 article titled the Rise of the SheEconomy predicts that 45% of women between the ages of 25-44 will be single by 2030. Preselection continues to be a key sexual strategy by women in 2025, almost 200k years later from our evolutionary past. In a nutshell, a man with children and a family(divorced and at times not) is proven goods and since desired by other women, it cuts out the tedious vetting stage. 100% of women in today’s dating market are after 20% of the men. Talk…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/25 02:32 AM
8	For those of you dealing with cheating, how do you get over the anger? When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. — Sacha Guitry	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/25 06:45 PM
12	Asked for divorce, now I’m regretting it What the brain perceives as familiar is what we crave even when it hurts us. Continue your journey and get yourself out of your negative feedback loop. All the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/25 03:50 PM
-3	What sort of woman stops a man from having his kids 50/50 for no reason?! Save the money and detach and improve. She will bring the kids to you.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/05/25 09:03 AM
4	Spinning plates. Be honest. Tell the women you are interested that you are hella picky and need to be impressed and that for that reason you are dating exclusively. Ps. Tell not ask. Plates should spin themselves with little or no effort on your part: You will be amazed at the results. NB: 10X If you have your money and muscles maxed out.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/25 08:43 PM
1	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Actually think it’s by design.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/25 05:14 PM
37	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment. The game is brutal but still fair.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 04:10 PM
4	Should I force my kids to see me? Nothing makes an ex wife more amenable to reason that an attractive new partner/girlfriend(please don’t get legally married again) and a new child in tow. It’s quite peculiar but from that point it ceases becoming about you and becomes about competition for your resources via your children. The one thing that is common in both scenarios is the man must have access to significant resources. See your kids as per the order but also double down on your money, muscle and mental spokes of the 3Ms that…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/05/25 09:34 PM
0	New GF asking for too much? Not necessarily a red flag in my view. She might be wanting to join the family and FOMO is definitely a thing with women. I would observe more keenly.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/25 02:18 PM
1	Has reconciliation ever worked? Never root through the trash. Whatever was valuable wouldn’t be there and no sense in your neighbors seeing you do it.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 05:40 AM
19	Won 50/50 Custody—Now My STBX Hired a Celebrity Law Firm to Break Me Fight her by shining a spotlight on who she is. Think of it hypothetically like you have a flashlight and there is a rat in a ship. Darkness is its friend and light its enemy. Just shine the light, the rat always scurries away.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 05:17 AM
5	Guys who've had the worst divorce, do you regret meeting her? Anger is part of the process. It too shall pass. In time you will come to view her as an imperfect stranger with her own struggles. Just take the L and move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 05:04 AM
2	Body count? You do realize it is impossible to speed read a book in 18mins? Take your time and study the topic and react from a point of understanding I would say. I have no skin in this game. The last two articles i checked online.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 03:23 AM
3	Body count? David Buss’s book Evolutionary Psychology: The New Science of the Mind (2019) https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-sexual-history-affect-marital-happiness https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability Also feel free to go online and read on it.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 03:05 AM
4	Body count? Research shows there is a direct correlation between a woman’s body count and her capacity to successfully pair bond in a long term relationship. If I remember correctly women who got married while virgins have the lowest divorce rate followed by between 1-3 and the numbers keep going up as do the divorce rates. Add the lesser studied theory of michrochemorisim and you will feel different. You should definitely care about body count.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 02:49 AM
2	She wants me, she wants me not, she wants me and everything else. Get a handle of your situation before you succumb to limerence with your new girl. From your story it’s apparent that you were sex starved and that you are now getting it is validational to you. That you are still living with your ex can be looked at you are still co dependent on her and not fully immersed in your relationship. Torpedo the marriage; good call. Vet the new girl like crazy and NEVER ever live again in a manner that the government can consider you married(Check your state’s definit…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/25 09:38 PM
14	Excellent Insight Your wife has first crack at your libido. Not full custody.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/04/25 02:21 AM
1	Anyone ever remarry their ex…and had success? Anybody ever place a stick of dynamite in their mouth, light it up and not explode?	/r/Divorce_Men	24/02/25 02:05 AM
1	Lets say you have rock solid proof that your wife cheated with a married man. Do you tell the wife of the AP or keep silent to maintain the peace for the sake of your kids? Don’t ever tell her. The fact that she isn’t sure how much you know and to what details will keep her in line forever. Women are totally scared of shame. Don’t throw away your trump card for emotional fulfillment rather use it strategically to your advantage.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/25 02:48 PM
3	Time for divorce? Get out while you still can. Moment you file she becomes an adversary. Sit with a lawyer for a consult and to map out your strategy. Emotions are a weakness in this process. Be aware of that.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/25 01:27 AM
1	How long did it take you to get back to dating after divorce ? No smart man gets married in 2025. Live your life in such a way that the State considers you two separate and distinct individuals.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/25 12:41 AM
8	The divorce subreddit is sickening!!!! The marriage subreddit is worse. I was banned and they couldn’t explain why just a lot of sputter from the mods. Pathetic!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/25 12:12 AM
16	STBX says she filed for divorce because I did not agree to a separation and I should of “offered to leave the house because I am the man” A separation basically means, let me have another man rearrange my guts as I monkey branch to him. If it doesn’t work out, I’ll come back to you. She left you a long time ago, she is just trying to make it comfortable for her by emotionally manipulating you. Don’t fall for it.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/24 02:13 PM
13	She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful? Been there, you need to learn not to care. Read the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. Priceless!	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/24 05:47 PM
2	How soon is too soon to date? Are you married because of a document? Or was the document proof of a choice that you made?	/r/Divorce_Men	13/12/24 04:03 AM
5	Coparenting She is just looking for your attention. Attention is the currency of choice in girl world and any attention even if negative beats no attention. Ignore her and it will go away. I genuinely think that in the modern world, men are the better parents on average. The modern woman only has use for her children as props or as resource extractors in court.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/12/24 06:36 PM
6	Just found out there was another man... you were right (Support) You get a chance to go back to the dating market and pick a new model. Thanks God for your lucky stars. All marriages end-either in death or divorce. She is not yours, it’s just your turn. All the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/24 03:20 AM
1	You know she’s not right, but you keep talking to her anyway It’s a rental car, so long as it works for the ride it should be fine.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/11/24 06:57 PM
3	I made a mistake Wouldn’t date seriously for now.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/11/24 03:22 AM
10	Wife had an affair Do not confront her, that just gets her guard up. Calmly file and then inform her. Give her the chance to tell your son and then tell him. Sorry, but your wife cheating is the end of genuine burning desire. Cherish the memories but from here on, that’s the past. All the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/11/24 11:01 PM
2	So sick of missing her. 4Billion chics out there. Kind of lame to think there is a special one for you. There are some bad ones and there are some good ones but there is No One. That is the soulmate myth and you need to dispel it. Work on yourself. Maximize your Money, Mind and Muscles(the Tri Fecta). And you will be able to get a Younger, Tigher & Hotter Version of her.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/11/24 03:41 AM
13	You think you have it bad….until FUFU. She will be banging another guy in no time. And he will be stuck in jail.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/24 02:13 PM
2	She left me Forget your step kids, you have no right to them. Take your L and move on. Ultimately, get your own kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/10/24 09:21 PM
5	Did you regret getting divorce? Regret? Hell no. I was married to a pure narc. Lucky to have survived it. Been smooth sailing and blue skies for the past 3 years 4 months.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/10/24 03:56 PM
6	She just can't seem to grow up. You are not her father. She is a grown adult who if you were not there would have figured her life out. She is getting her cake and eating it and will never be incentivized to change that state. Bail out.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/24 02:55 PM
3	What do you wish you had asked for during divorce/mediation? You really have no rights over her daughter as you are not the biological father. Yes, it definitely hurts but you need to ask yourself if the juice is worth the squeeze insofar as a child custody battle for a child that is neither biologically nor legally, since you did not adopt her, yours. Personally, I’d take the L and move on and probably when ready get my own children. It really sucks to be the father that stepped up.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/24 02:31 PM
2	How long does this pain last? Pain is good. Pain drives changes and is the fuel for reworking on yourself. Embrace this pain as doing so will leapfrog you into the next phase of your life. You need to find your purpose and all this is will sort itself out. All the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/24 06:54 AM
5	Does the silence ever get to you? Silence is golden. Solitude is a must state for men. Enjoy it while it lasts.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/10/24 08:27 PM
4	My ex wife found out I wrote poetry about her during divorce, now wants to talk Your ex wife should be in your rearview mirror. And fading by the moment as you drive off into your glorious sunset until she is no more than a speck in the horizon and suddenly nothing. She chose another man over you when you were unwell(alcoholism is a disease). All your memories of her? Throw them in the trash and leave them there. Doesn’t matter how many times you watch your favorite movie; the ending never changes.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/09/24 09:22 AM
5	“The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage. ‘The spark is gone’=Lack of Genuine Burning Desire. Women are addicted to the stuff they invest in and will never leave it. In the next relationship, try making it about you. Let the girlfriend bring you a coffee, or a snack, or do your laundry et al. Basically, any mundane thing for you. Firstly, it’s an excellent indicator of whether she has genuine burning desire for you because if she doesn’t then complimenting your life at her inconvenience will not be in her top priority and if she does, t…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/24 08:38 PM
4	Adultery Couldn’t agree more.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/24 03:12 AM
3	Withholding non biological daughter That’s why you never become the father that stepped up. That’s the equivalent of playing another man’s saved video game. Walk away.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/24 08:52 PM
2	After 21 years 4 kids was blindsided. I am so sorry man. You don’t deserve this but welcome to Women’s nature. Chin up. Work will come through and then concentrate on becoming a bigger and better version of yourself. Money I would also recommend getting into the gym. Iron was my therapy and I definitely needed it. It’s good for your health and a good secondary benefit is you will also look good. Muscles. Finally, you need to read and up your mental firmware. Two books I would recommend. Mind. The Unplugged Alpha by Rich Cooper. Rati…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/24 02:02 PM
18	Cheater STBXW is suddenly being nice to me 4 months after divorce filing 6 months after DDay I watched a YouTube video by James Sexton, a top divorce attorney. He says that in divorce there usually is a small window where the person who was in the ‘wrong’ is so overcome by guilt that they make a few concessions. He advises to get everything signed off at this stage as it doesn’t last for ever before the justification of why they cheated and then the anger phase comes. All the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/24 05:15 AM
1	She now feels indifferent towards me I think it really is not your circus, not your monkey. Why you would feel the need to call her out shows that you are still emotionally invested in her. She is just an imperfect human, as we all are, whom you now share a past with. She belongs in the rearview slowly fading as the miles rack up until she is nothing more than a blip in the distance as you ride off into the sunset.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/24 08:16 PM
1	What to do You soon to be ex wife has herself smack in the center of her priorities. All her actions are geared towards her benefit. I highly recommend you do the same. No sense watching someone load an M16 with ammo when you can ascertain with a certain degree of accuracy that once loaded you will be one of the targets in the sights.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/24 08:05 PM
3	Wife left me after 6 years of marriage Cheer up mate, she just gave you the best gift-a second shot at life. Enjoy life to the fullest.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/24 07:58 PM
0	mybex Crystal clear. But again, why are you discussing an ex again? Ex belongs in the past, behind the horizon when you glance at the rear view.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/24 05:25 PM
1	Reality. The only way ironically that she would change her mind is if you walked away without a care in the world. That signifies someone coming from abundance or at least an abundant mindset. Men like these don’t pine after women, they understand that if one goes, there is a better one round the corner depending on whether better for the individual mam means more feminine or hotter, younger and prettier et al/ Women despise weakness and neediness from a very instinctual level and your action has only co…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/24 11:14 PM
5	Was it better? Don’t worry about this. In fact, embrace it. The woman you divorce is not the same woman you married. You will be dealing with a very hostile stranger for a while and nothing you can do can change it. Fighting is a definite.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/24 11:06 PM
1	Do you ever regret not fighting for more custody of your children? You can’t control when she gets abusive and neglectful. I also am quite genuinely baffled that you consider her a good mother. Parenting is a full time job not something you take a break from. I’d advise full custody and then monitor her continuously so as to ascertain the moment she is clean with minimal chance of the situation recurring	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/24 10:59 PM
8	Was it better? I would advise not to go this route. Once she knows that you have a soft spot for the kids she will go for the jugular. You are most useful to your kids and to all other relationships actually when you are the best version of yourself. So put in the work. Kids are resilient, they will be fine. Don’t get guilt tripped by your inherent savior dynamic as a man. Teach yourself to mentally override it when necessary. It will be hard the first couple of times and then it will become second nature.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/24 10:55 PM
13	Do you regret getting divorced? Not at all. She was the best woman I could get with the old version of me and I got two kids out of it. That said, the new version of me wouldn’t look twice at her if I met her today and didn’t know her prior.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/24 06:14 PM
3	Grieving You have just discovered that you are playing a game that has a different set of rules than what you were promised’ by society. Be responsible, man up, buckle down and support your family ideal and all will be ok. Basically; happy wife, happy life? Dead wrong. You now need to learn to deal with the cold hard truth of life and not the comforting lies that society panders to us. Physical health is paramount. First hit the gym. Let your rage be focused on the iron. It also helps with your mental ac…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/24 09:45 AM
1	Help me talk some sense into my 20 year old son Yes you do. Be careful and learn from your experience. But you also stop obsessing over the past snake that bit you.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 04:16 PM
1	When You Don’t Know What Ex Is Saying About You All the best. I do coaching for men to help them unplug from the matrix and to get the maximum potential out of their lives.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 04:13 PM
1	Help me talk some sense into my 20 year old son No my friend. Your entire rant is firstly directed at your ex wife, then the image of your ex wife that you see in your son’s woman. Your ex wife defines your reality of women. It is you who is suffering from oneitis.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 04:10 PM
3	Help me talk some sense into my 20 year old son Children learn mostly by observation. He is the way he is because that is how you are. You can not teach him, you can only show him. And that starts with you. You must unlearn a lot of garbage that has formed a central part of your belief system. You must look past the comforting lies and embrace the cold hard truth for you to move on from this. Or not.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 08:51 AM
1	When You Don’t Know What Ex Is Saying About You Gym is therapy for men. Unlike women, talking does not soothe us or relieve our anxiety since we are action oriented. Ultimately, what has happened has happened. You need to get into the mindset that you don’t care. Women avoid accountability like the plague. Get used to it.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 05:36 AM
10	Cheating Wife You sowed the wind, You are now reaping the whirl wind. Allow me to explain. Just from your description of her, she has more red flags than a communist parade. Mum divorced 4 times? Absent Dad? You expected her to be Cinderella? You ignored red flags and red flag behavior and that is why you are here. You have just discovered that the game you are playing is being played by a different set of new rules whilst you are playing by the old and no one has informed you. Cut her off, forget she existed…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 05:08 AM
1	When You Don’t Know What Ex Is Saying About You The truth is the truth and isn’t subjective. ‘My truth’ is women talk because they are solipsistic and can only view the world in so much as how it relates to them. It’s a feature, not a bug so no need getting upset over it. It is how they are. Do you work out?	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/24 04:54 AM
2	The new guy I actually would pity the new boyfriend. Would never want to be the man that stepped up. If I can get a younger, beautiful woman with no children baggage why would I complicate my life unnecessarily?	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/24 08:49 PM
2	Happened to Me Too Trial seperation means this. She will try her darnest to find someone who looks better than you, has more money than you and/or has better bedroom game than you. And if she fails to do so, come back to her loving husband no worse for wear after being ploughed by Chuck from accounting and Kevin from Sales. And if she believes she has found even perceptively better than you then this scenario that you are having plays out. Women will move out without a care in the world and forget you ever existed…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/24 08:37 PM
7	When You Don’t Know What Ex Is Saying About You Do you know the difference between wife and ex-wife? With ex-wife you do not even have to be pretend to care. Let her eat bricks. Hit the gym for your mental health. Work on your money. Read. 1. Unplugged Alpha by Rich Cooper 2. Rationale Male Series by Rollo Tomassi. Please read them in that order. You will be laughing about this shortly. You literally are like a drug addict that has checked into rehab. All those hormones that she brought out in your are now in limbo. But you will stabilize. Al…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/24 08:20 PM
2	Well she finally filed Don’t worry about it bro. Boy does it get better. Hit the gym, work on your money and also your mind. The Unplugged Alpha by Rich Cooper Rational Male Series by Rollo Tomassi Do the above 3 and you will be laughing inside of 2 years with a PYT to boot. All the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/24 10:09 AM
1	Friend insults my ex-wife Wimp and a wuss because she preferred another guys dick to yours and you are here missing ‘beautiful things about her.’	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/24 09:52 AM
1	Friend insults my ex-wife You have a real friend there. You on the other hand are a wimp and a wuss. Go hang out with your EW and discuss what? You still are not over her, your protector dynamic indicates that. And you need to work on your self respect. He can’t do that for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/24 09:47 AM
1	Do you wish her happy birthday? What for?	/r/Divorce_Men	12/07/24 06:30 PM
6	Did you date during your divorce? How did it go? Had my first threesome 5 weeks into my separation 3 years ago. Eventually met someone pretty decent who is expecting my first son in November. My other two kids are daughters. Never looking back. Pedal to the metal.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/07/24 05:31 AM
3	How do you justify leaving Hi Mate, You need to make yourself your own Mental Point of Origin. It all starts with you. When you are the best version of yourself then you can be the best father, partner, friend etc. Does the marriage serve your best interests? If not, is it likely to? If not, then you need to terminate it. We all have a penchance for sentimentality but this is extremely dangerous. Outcome independence is what you are looking for. I would recommend reading the following books in this order. 1. Unplugged Alp…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/07/24 10:16 PM
3	Tough day today Totally understand how you are feeling. Thing is you need to realize that what is now talking is your cocktail of hormones. Your dopamine, seratonin and other hormones are in the rage and this is what is making you miss her. You literally go through a withdrawal period that is somewhat similar to a druggie. I made gym my therapy, I suggest you do the same. It also has the extra benefit of making you look good minus the boost to your mental health. Work on your money and mind game though. Lots of…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/07/24 05:59 PM