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DISCUSSIONConnect_Chipmunk_691/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:59 AM
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DISCUSSIONConnect_Chipmunk_691/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:00 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYConnect_Chipmunk_691/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:36 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYConnect_Chipmunk_691/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:09 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYConnect_Chipmunk_691/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:58 AM
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RANTConnect_Chipmunk_691/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:58 AM
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WHOLESOME CONTENTConnect_Chipmunk_691/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:22 PM
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Honestly there's a whole history behind this of how men and women have typically been treated with this like women have been told and conditioned to accept men the way they are and keep trying harder. In conservative and religious communities this mindset is definitely still very prevalent. If you look at vintage sexist ads you'll see this mentality there too. The ads aimed towards men are men or the dominant powerful ones who are basically here to rule the world and it's their job to get keeper…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/26 12:24 AM
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This! Some of the stuff I came across researching the sexual assault & abuse, etc, in the US military was a thread either on here or Quora talking about this and how these guys, former military people, were saying this is just how men are and they have needs, and the Russian military was right to bring in a cruise ship full of prostitutes for their men and how they sent their men out on boats to go take care of their 'business' or whatever before they brought them back in. Stress relief and all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:26 AM
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THIS! I've come across this stuff extensively over the past couple of years and it shattered everything for me and broke my heart. This is the nasty underbelly the military doesn't talk about. No one talks about it really. Why this was so heartbreaking for me in particular is because we've all been sold this image-because it's what they tell us and it's what their family and friends tell us. It's what everyone tells us about the military. They are our heroes and represent the best of the goodnes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 02:23 AM
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One of my friends older sisters was married to a guy like this. We all went to a concert or an event together or something and this dude was just angry the whole time it drove like a crazy person on the way to wherever we were going to the point where we refused to get in the car with him to go home. I don't remember how we got back there but when we did get back to the house he was in a rage and my friend's sister went into her room to try and pack some of her things and he locked her in there …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:07 PM
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Truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:06 PM
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Woooow..... Those are really important things you can totally overlook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:04 AM
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😂😂😂 That last line! 🙌🙌🙌💃💃💃 I'm not a fan of piercings myself but that's their business and their body and most people who get piercings that I've seen are not stupid about it hopefully and she doesn't sound like she was. I'm sure she knows how to take care of those things so they won't get infected! Also they go over that stuff with you when you get a piercing! Yeah this dude's got issues! And this awesome lady totally rocks! Sad that he doesn't see that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:26 PM
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Yeah that's a mega immaturity there. I don't necessarily blame him for feeling that but staying in that place instead of working through it and recognizing that it's his own crap that he's got to deal with is a big problem. All of us can feel tinges of insecurity or jealousy about successes and things that we see people attaining but those are areas where you need to grow not camp out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:24 PM
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Wow....... This dude has some issues! I get like being frustrated if you've experienced a lot of crap in your life but that stuff he's talking about is not her being impulsive and stupid and not experiencing consequences. It sounds like her making some good choices and things working out. Why the heck is he pissed off about that? And maybe some of the choices for her piercings weren't impulsive. Maybe those are things she'd been thinking about for a long time. Isn't a lot of Life impulsive accor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:22 PM
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😂😂😂 Deep breaths, sis.....find your happy place! We're all in this together! Personally, I'm at the beach in my head! 😆🥰🙌💃⛱️🌊🏖️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:39 PM
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😂 I'm thinking of that Kelly Clarkson song now! You go, girl! We all have our crazy stories! And so glad we've learned from them! 💃💃💃🥰🙌🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:47 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:45 PM
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All of that sounds good! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:08 PM
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Wow! I don't think I've ever learned all of those details but I feel like I'm starting to remember some things from history class about Hong Kong never being independent. What you're saying makes complete sense as well. That's a rough thing too in making sure you're securing solid relationships that are practical but also dependable and trustworthy. Not as familiar with Singapore's History either or I'm not remembering as much because we don't hear about these issues as much as we do other thing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:16 PM
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😂😂😂 I'm going to bring that one up next time! There are other arguments I've used but that one is a good one and I have thought of it before but not stating it that way specifically and I think stating it that way specifically since so many of them are into smoking and grilling and whatever is perfect! Also what phrase did you use for the search engine to look up that data? That sounds really interesting and I would love to read more about that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:07 PM
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Oh wow, I had no idea! It makes sense though especially if it attracts certain cerebral types. I don't think my one ex was a polyglot but he was definitely a walking encyclopedia narcissist. Who are the ones you follow on YouTube that you actually like? I would love links for their channels!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:05 PM
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What?! A mattress pad?! Oh my word! Debating now whether that one or the nest of clothes we all read about on another post is the worst with that sitch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:03 PM
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Now there's an idea! Thanks for the tips, sis! 🙌🙌🙌 Yeah, I used to love Top Gun and I cannot watch that movie anymore because of all the different things I've learned about regarding the realities of our military and our military pilots. 🤮🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:02 PM
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Holy wowza! Yeah, nobody needs that! Where are these guys from? I knew some vague things about Hong Kong as far as British colonialism went but not as much with the political goings-on because mostly what we hear about is China and possibly Japan but mostly China! The latest I've heard is just Hong Kong wanting to have their independence back which I fully and completely support. But still we have not heard many details about those things and now I'm going to be looking up all the other things y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:56 PM
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I also feel way more comfortable and comforted with the feel of the blanket and also not sweating! And yes, definitely the reason you were saying also! Not having fabric bunching up or cutting off your circulation or making things weird when you're trying to sleep is another huge benefit! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:50 PM
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Wow, really?! Damn that's disappointing! You read things but you just hope that they're not true. I've always loved planes and anything related to flight, rockets, NASA, etc since I was a little girl. I was once on a page about planes on another social media platform and some of the pilots on there were just gross with their comments. Someone there had also posted a meme showing women at a swimming pool with plane names above their heads indicating which ones they would be because planes are so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:47 PM
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Yikes! I sleep like that, but I'm clean and so's my bedding! 😂 Dudes you have to be careful with no matter what they're wearing! One of my male cousin's roomed with a guy who was just an absolute slob and made the entire apartment wreak! Between that guy and his cat? Holy God in heaven! I was afraid to sit down and there were times where I had my baby with me because I would stop by when we were out somewhere. But I refused. to stay in that apartment longer than a minute to talk to my cousin and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:42 PM
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You win comment of the day! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:38 PM
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That is one of the most bizarre things of it all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:13 AM
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Yet they all seem to want blondes. 🤔 There are some women that looks great on and some you can tell they're just dying it for the sake of being blonde if you know what I mean. It saddens me to see women whose hair looks fried or unhealthy because of a dye job to fit in or be more appealing to men. Like, sis, you're already beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:25 AM
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They also do this as far as punishing women goes. There's a sub on here where they laugh whenever women don't get their way, & are sometimes assaulted, etc in that process on various posts. It's supposed to be all about exposing women's double standards. I hate how on guard we have to be around men. We don't do that to them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:48 PM
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Yes, this! 💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:05 PM
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😂🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:00 PM
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I swear men being cut off from their own damn hearts when they're kids and being called pussies or girls or whatever for feeling their emotions twists them up into something nasty. And they're also afraid of each other too so they won't stick their necks out for anyone or anything if it means that they're going to get called whatever names they call those guys these days. If it means they're going to be chastised and paraded by other guys especially the so-called alpha males they are not going t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:09 PM
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This one! It must be that same one owl that's doing everything! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:34 PM
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That's the other thing that blows my mind! They have one or two crappy relationships and maybe the woman cheated maybe there's a bad divorce or something but suddenly all women are the worst of the worst and they're totally justified in saying that. Meanwhile you can literally recount a lifetime of trauma involving all kinds of things including sexual harassment and the sexualization of women and girls that we're bombarded with constantly through all of our lives and it's 'not all men'. Because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:33 PM
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And they will blame having to increase the child support on the women just wanting mani-pedis and more clothes or some crap like that. The way that men talk about this stuff totally gives them away and I always wonder what the real story is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:25 PM
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You just keep hanging around the wrong owls! Um, excuse me, Mr Eagle, but why are the good owls so hard to find? Well, yeah, all owls are assholes! What did you expect, all owls think with their bellies? What were you wearing?? Not all owls are responsible for the ones who hurt you so stop blaming all of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:35 PM
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I have to confess that something I've been nervous about. Not because I feel like women owe men sex but because I have encountered men that either felt like that or gave off a creepy vibe that did not make me feel safe to let him pay. That was a while ago and I've gotten way better at listening to my gut which tends to go off pretty quickly. The last date I went on was a couple years ago and it had been a while. But this guy asked me out properly. We met at a cafe for coffee and tea and an outdo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:08 AM
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For me, it's depended on how people said it. Sometimes it felt shallow, but other times it felt they were talking about a whole person inside & out kind of beauty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:53 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:57 PM
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Really?! I had always noticed how it seemed like Disney female child stars were sexualized as soon as they could be but I never seen behind the scenes photos like the ones you're talking about. Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:51 PM
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Holy God..... that's nuts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:38 PM
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That is so sickening and revolting I don't even have words for it and I'm surprised his daughter hasn't punched holes in the wall with the frustration of having a father like that! You can break your hymen with a tampon too! It's one thing for a parent to want to be informed of what's going on with their child's health but that is an invasion of her humanity and her privacy. It's a violation too and it's just humiliating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:31 PM
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Ah, the poser mentality! That last part that you said is really insightful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:49 PM
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This a bazillion times! I feel the same about my son!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:47 PM
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I noticed that too. Everything about that one is vile and disgusting and what do you want to bet the mother and wife is the one taking the photo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:47 PM
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What the hell?! Who is this referring to, btw? Again men tell on themselves all the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:46 PM
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As the mother of a son I totally agree with this! And I would anyway but especially because I'm the mother of a son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:44 PM
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Look how his daughters are posed as well! That one above all the others makes me want to hurl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:42 PM
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I wonder if these are also the types of men who will raise their boys to be the types of men they're going to protect their daughters from? How are they the logical ones again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:39 PM
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Everything about that one is disturbing af!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:37 PM
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All of this and I don't have a problem with fathers protecting their daughters but not like the way this is showing because this is hypocritical b*******. Also how about these fathers start raising their voices to teach men to stop abusing women? I read this great quote yesterday that says something along the lines of why are we always teaching our girls and women how not to be abused instead of teaching boys and men to not be abusers? A man's protection of a woman should never be happening in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:34 PM
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That first one with the four daughters is exceptionally creepy and disgusting! He's straight up admitting that he's done stuff and his daughters are posed in a slightly suggestive manner. Plus what if his daughters had been 'ugly'?! Men telling on themselves. Did the wife take the photo and did she think this was hilarious? I used to think it was sort of funny too but also disturbing and hypocritical. Now I'm just on the completely disturbing and hypocritical side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:32 PM
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Oh that's disgusting! So he's got that and the super bowl thing where basically violating a woman and removing part of her clothing was part of the entertainment.....goody!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:59 PM
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This reminds me of how mental health patients back in the day were lobotomized or sterilized against their will! I did not know about the IUD thing until I was reading this thread!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:32 AM
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Wow what did Justin Timberlake do? I was not really into that stuff at the time so I don't know too much about any of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:29 AM
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This! 💯💯💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:20 AM
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I think if I remember correctly Robert Downey Jr was also allowed to make movies and leave jail or whatever for the time he needed to to do that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:20 AM
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That is stunning to me about Woody Allen and even more stunning is how it seems like it's a bucket list item for a lot of actors and actresses to be in one of his movies! Are you talking about Freddie Mercury and Kanye losing it? Is it just me or does it seem like a different thing the way men will lose it versus how women lose it? Definitely the women are abused more and I think a big part of what happens with the female celebrities is the hypersexualization of them. I remember watching an inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:18 AM
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Same! I wasn't a fan of her music because it seemed like it was so sexualized, like everything about her was so sexualized even at the start but she's a human being and she should not be going through this! Free Britney!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:12 AM
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Oh my word, seriously?! Ugh! That is disgusting! Where did you happen to read about that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:10 AM
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I feel horrible cuz I remember when she snapped and my sister and I kind of laughed about it not too much because I felt guilty but still did. And growing up a bit more and processing my own stuff you understand when a woman snaps like that it's because she has been subjected to so much s, put up with so much s and fought through so much stuff that she just cannot take it anymore. At some point I started seeing stuff from the free Britney movement popping up and was just absolutely sickened! I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:09 AM
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This right here! And no shaming anything! If someone has to blast off about no shaming them over whatever, doesn't that possibly show they already know? The more I've read about all this different stuff, the more I'm not buying it that all of these other things are good, healthy, or empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:44 PM
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Same here! Anything else is a repellent to me. You're being the most vulnerable possible when engaging in sex and emotional safety and intimacy is hugely important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:20 PM
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Ugh, I can't see the original post! 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:18 PM
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And developing and cultivating empathy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:31 PM
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I so wish this wasn't true but it definitely feels like it is. I was on a thread last week and I ended up blocking several dudes because the misogyny was reeking but I was surprised to see that there are still men who think are right to vote should be taken away cuz we've gotten out of control! The way the women were agreeing with them over some things was ridiculous. I don't know anybody agreed with them about the right to vote being taken away part but talking about women being out of control …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:29 PM
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I couldn't even watch that video and I left a comment on it on Facebook! I don't think guys understand that a lot of us would rather be single than put up with that nonsense any day of the week! It's amazing how many of them have such ginormous egos and I don't get it. Like why don't you expend that kind of energy and effort into becoming a better person or being the best version of yourself or striving for that? It just seems like a lot of energy is wasted by them trying to get control over us …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:37 AM
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Ah, that's what I thought! Wanted to clarify and make sure I wasn't mixing it up with something else! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:45 AM
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WOW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:43 AM
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I'm tired of the evolution and biology arguments to justify them treating us like crap. The whole men are visual, men need variety, they've got to spread their seed, men are only drawn to a particular body type because of fertility, men have to have sex or some kind of sexual release or they're going to blow up, men just can't control themselves whenever attractive women are around and they have to look the same way you'd check out a flower and appreciate that or art or a car & and it's all okay…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:46 AM
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Wow! So glad she made it out alive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:55 AM
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Ugh, it won't let me read it without paying for some kind of a subscription. But dang!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:45 AM
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What on earth?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:43 AM
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Good Lord! I've been finding out more and more that our military men are not the heroes we've been told they are. There aren't too many people you can talk to about the realities of that. I had a conversation with the tech who did an ultrasound on me recently. She had been married to a guy in the military and as part of the divorce he signed away all parental rights to their kids to keep her from telling his command about his mental health issues. It really makes me wonder who these people in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:39 AM
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This! Either too independent or too dependent and they're extremely pissed at you either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:27 AM
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What's HNW?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:25 AM
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Seriously?! I don't even have the words for that kind of audacity! I've been feeling like that a lot coming up against these things lately!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:15 AM
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Oh my word, yes! Good skin care is a must! No woman wants to feel like she's hanging out in the woodworking section at Home Depot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:14 AM
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Too right on all that! My mental health took a big hit. I'd rather spend that time and money doing something that I enjoy, things that make me happy and help me be the best version of myself! 🌹💃🙏🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:56 AM
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Seriously?! That's one I hadn't seen. I'm not on dating apps anymore. I tried a couple very briefly for like a day or two at a time for each one and then just quit because it was just depressing. All the guys they matched me up with were not men I was attracted to at all and they were also much older and creepy looking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:41 AM
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That sounds like me and my family! I look like late twenties early 30s and every one on my father's side of the family looks 10 to 20 years younger than they are! I'm in my mid-40s and I want someone who is like 10 years younger than me for a variety of reasons. But one being I don't want to feel like I'm with my father or an old man. For me that would end up making things feel very weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:40 AM
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Oh my goodness, that is so important to point out! I get so sick of that narrative too. Especially the way most men say it. It makes me wonder what they're really like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:45 AM
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😢😢😢💔💔💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:31 PM
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Aw, my goodness, I'm so sorry, sis.......Are you okay? Biggest warmest bear hugs to you......🤗🤗🤗♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:30 PM
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This is how I've been feeling lately! I get tired of all the trauma we go through and being put on the spot to prove that we don't hate men in spite of all of it! It's ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:55 PM
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💯💯💯💯💯🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:52 PM
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Plus they then have to acknowledge all the ways that they failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:51 PM
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Wow, where did you get that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:51 PM
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Goodness, what is this taken from? This reminds me of some of the women who think that we need sex workers out there too appease all the men to keep them from being violent as though they're a fire breathing dragon who needs to have a virgin offered to it so it won't destroy the village. Ugh.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:49 PM
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Seriously?! Oh my word.......💔💔💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:00 PM
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Hateful how true it is. And how they're more wounded little boys. Also, just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:09 PM
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Right?! I could not believe the way women went off on me and others about this stuff! They practically brag about how they've been raped, abused, violated somehow but they don't hate men. I was in the 'not all men' camp for awhile but not with the nastiness--that part's horrific. I held on to men's potential as a whole for decades, believing that there had to be more good than bad. I really think even that was a trauma response. All of that started crashing to the ground a couple years ago with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:44 PM
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Signed! Reading up on her more now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:32 PM
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Oh my goodness, right? We'd also have a way better shot at actually raising good men that way! That's what I'm doing with my son but there is so much garbage that you have to fight. And the way I've seen boys behave with other boys who are different than them, like if they're special needs or whatever, it's disgusting and appalling. And typically the only ones who are nice to those guys who are different are girls, if they're not joining in with the bullying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:00 PM
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That kind of BS is why one of my best friends didn't report being violently raped. The fact that so many men and women shout you down about any of this and vilify you, say all kinds of horrible nasty things to you, in my opinion just displays their guilt, and complicitness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:01 PM
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Oh my word! Back in the day dudes who did this were more the outliers than the norm, or at least just not as common. Wowza! Good on ya for changing your number! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:42 AM
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Thanks a bazillion, sis! Not even kidding, I needed that! 🥰🤗🕊️🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:40 AM
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Holy wowza! The more of these stories I read the more I do not regret not actively dating currently! How old are the guys who are doing this? My friend and I are both in our mid-40s and the guy she was referring to is in his early 50s! Is this just across the board with these dudes now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:05 AM
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I read something talking about this in regards to violence against women and how that leaves everything so ambiguous because who's committing the violence against women? That part is left out with that phrase and it makes and keeps the problem solely ours as though it's just something we have to deal with, rather than something that is done to us by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:33 AM
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This is dynamite! I'm just thinking of this in terms of things I've been through and rephrasing how I've talked about it and the shame I've felt. The ways you still feel like you have to cover for your abusers somehow or not say things certain ways because you're being overly dramatic or something. TW!: The two things this hit me for right off the bat would be to say, my babysitter's teenage son orally raped me when I was five. The pedophile in the toy section at Kmart assaulted and abused me wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:31 AM
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Oh my gosh! I'm in the US too. We're in a state that wanted to give fathers more rights as well which is great if they're good fathers but when they're aholes and abusive s* heads it's horrible! And you're right about the child abandonment charge! Does he at least give good child support? Is he actually a good father or does he just make things worse? I am so sorry you were put through that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:58 AM
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Someone I know adopted a little girl from an area like that. I believe she's a teenager now and her name is Grace! She is beautiful and her mama is now married to a wonderful man for everything I know of it. The other two friends I know are single & adopted babies or young children out of the foster care system. They are absolute sweetie pies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:48 AM
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I think if you're so inclined, the right partner will make a huge difference! I knew a couple of ladies who, while single, once they were in a good place financially, were foster moms & adopted their babies, or just straight out adopted children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:57 AM
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Oh my goodness, that's awful! Yes, thankfully he has no access to my child here! Do parental rights tend to lean more in favor of the father where you're from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:18 PM
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I feel like this is their way of trying to stick it to us for wanting any kind of independence from them. It's their way of trying to punish us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:25 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:24 PM
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Although, in the cases of abusive a**holes, marriage gives them more legal leverage to have access to your kids that you don't want him to have. My abusive ex and I were not married and I was really thankful for that. He got me pregnant on purpose to try and force me to marry him. In the hospital when the woman came around to put the baby's name down he got angry with me because I gave my son my last name and also my mother's maiden name as one of his middle names so he refused to put his name o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:21 PM
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Yeah I don't get why their whole entire identity's caught up in their dick either. I think this also goes back to men not being taught how to be men properly. They're not taught to be connected to their hearts and how important and vital that is because honestly you're not going to be grounded or rooted in your masculinity properly when that's not happening. Especially if you have any wounds going on because you will be nothing but toxic particularly in the romantic relationships. That can happe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:10 PM
16

I have to admit that I'm on the fence with this. Although leaning more towards the not criticizing body parts side. I hated when any of my boyfriends ever picked apart my body or body parts and I refuse to be like that especially over something somebody can't control. If the guy's a jackass or selfish in bed his dick size isn't going to matter. I've dated guys of various dick sizes and heights in the past and while too many of my boyfriends ended up being jerks the physical sex was always really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:10 PM
2

Oh my God!!! Oh my goodness, that is so vile! That's beyond vile! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:10 AM
2

Wow it sounds like dudes have sunk to a lower low. Back in the day we all still hung out together. And typically we introduced our boyfriends to all of our friends male and female and still did things together as a group. One of my oldest and dearest friends just had something similar happen to her where a guy who was interested in her, and who she turned down because she wanted to date someone else exclusively, still checks in with her occasionally to see if she's still dating that guy! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:28 AM
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Oh my gosh I'm not familiar with the term dead eyes and I'm almost afraid to ask but what is that? And it's so sick how so many of them get off on the woman's pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:23 AM
2

Most of them seriously make me twitch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:17 AM
2

😂😂😂🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:09 PM
3

Again, telling on themselves!!! If you guys are so good, etc what is there to protect your daughters from?! Why is it that other men's crappy behavior never stuns or surprises you guys?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:36 PM
4

Oh my goodness, yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:36 PM
2

Yes it is a world problem! What on Earth is the stuff with the Scandinavian men!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:40 PM
4

Wow! Insulting us really is such a compelling factor isn't it? I mean doesn't it just make you want to fall over yourself to get to them? I don't understand how they think that's going to make us want them more. That's the bonkers bit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:39 PM
2

Agreed, especially about that first part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:37 PM
3

That is bizarre to me! Again men are supposed to be the logical ones. How in the world is it logical to expend so much energy defending your garbage and fighting to stay a s*** head? Instead of investing that same energy into becoming a better person. What in the world does that say about someone that they want to stay in gutter dwelling immature adolescent mediocrity & again, will fight you to do so?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:23 PM
2

Wow that sounds like one I need to put on a list along with why men do that or whatever that title is! I'll have to check that out in Kindle and see if I can download some samples first! I always like doing that before I buy stuff! 🤗💕🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:21 PM
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You're so welcome! 💕🙏🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:20 PM
2

Yes and their version of high maintenance and demanding means holding them to a higher standard! Them and they referring to the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:17 PM
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Yes! And if she's dealing with postpartum depression or anxiety in any way shape or form that is not helping at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:45 AM
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😂😂😂 Truth! I don't normally get into it with people about big issues because typically people are just stubborn as crap and aren't interested in having a conversation but there are times where I will see a post or a comment that is so heinous I have to say something. And what I've seen is that when you're speaking about stuff like this men and women both are going to come after you like nobody's business! I've been called all kinds of names and been insulted in all kinds of ways including having…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:03 AM
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That last part is absolutely the shittiest! Especially because when that's happening typically they're blaming the woman instead of holding the men accountable. Completely insane!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:00 AM
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I was just on a comment thread the other day and I ended up blocking this misogynistic jackass as well as the original poster where someone was commenting that this stuff is why women should not be in the workplace! That it somehow protective for us to stay home and just take care of the house and the kids and I'm not knocking that if women want to do that and that's their thing and they're good at it and they have an awesome husband who is actually an equal partner with them but some dudes acti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:47 AM
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And other men absolutely refuse to hold them accountable and will blame women instead for it!!! Got into a conversation with a dude like that and I didn't give up till I made sure that he was legit refusing to hold men accountable for s*** behavior. At the start, he accused me of throwing all the good fathers under the bus and I was like dude, I'm talking about men who abandon their children and abuse women and children necessitating that they get the hell away from them. I stated that very clea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:35 AM
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You're an awesome daughter! And cheers & blessings to you and your sweet mama! 💕💕💕🌹👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:30 AM
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Doesn't it just blow your mind? How they'll exert all that energy and effort into defending their shitball behavior instead of just getting their act together and being better human beings and better men fathers and husbands?! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:29 AM
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This stuff breaks the crap out of my heart. Our bodies are amazing and beautiful and sacred and grow life and birth human life onto this Earth which is such an amazing miraculous thing.....I feel like men in so many ways have made us hate our own bodies and what we're capable of doing and the journeys were on because everything becomes a stressor instead of being a joy when men are like that. Them constantly accusing us as baby trapping them is completely insane! My abusive ex got me pregnant on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:28 AM
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That or she's too exhausted to even be able to think straight! That is some overwhelming stuff!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:32 AM
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Aw, thanks! And you got it! 🥰🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:05 AM
2

YESSSSS! Shout it from the rooftops, ladies! 🥳🎉🎉🎉💃💃💃🎈🎈🎈 Anyone else want to shout for joy and spin around a la Sound of Music?! Woohoo! And thanks so much, sis! All the best to you with all your dreams and plans as well! Big warm bear hugs to you as well! 🥰🙏🙌🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:01 PM
4

😂😂😂 'Scroterwear'!!! Hilarious! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:28 PM
3

They want all the cake! Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:24 PM
2

Rock it, girl! It's amazing when we learn how to use that superpower to our advantage and for good! 🥰😂💪🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:23 PM
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It's really sad because a lot of these dudes who think they're being manly men because they're stepping up to be loud mouths and they go to the gym really don't get how toddler-ish their behavior is. And even the guys who seem like they might be cool? Just bring up this kind of subject or subjects around how women are treated period and see how they react. They'll show their true colors quick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:22 PM
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Seriously! And when you hear men talking about this stuff they'll say things like 'whores are great for playing around but not for building an empire with' and they just want women along for the ride for whatever they're doing again like we're just accessories. I am an artist and I'm hoping to be able to sell my stuff one day and I've got lots of other ideas and plans. There is no way in hell that I'm going to be with someone who's not on board with that and he's not on board with supporting me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:21 PM
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Right?! It's still an amazing superpower! 🥰💪🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 06:41 AM
2

Ah, okay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:47 AM
5

You are not! And you are spot on with all that! Sometimes I drive myself nuts with the over-analyzing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:43 AM
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Narcissistic b******* makes anyone look ugly as crap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:43 PM
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I love this idea! Someone needs to get on that! 🥰💕💪🌷👸👑🍧🍰🥂🍾🌷💐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:42 PM
18

Or they have very close shaven beards so they're actually complementary as opposed to hideaway camouflage scraggly beards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:37 PM
20

And definitely do not listen to them tell you that you're overthinking things because you're not! Every time I've ever had a guy say that to me I ended up being right about whatever it was I was overthinking. It occurred to me recently that part of their game plan is to get us to totally doubt ourselves so that we won't call them out on their s*** because that's part of the purpose of a woman's intuition! Really what should be happening is those men should be coming up higher and becoming better…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:36 PM
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Exactly! They talk about us like we're appliances or stocks to be traded!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:34 PM
14

I've seen that a lot with so-called alpha males all over social media. Those women do everything the guys do, all of their hobbies and interests and are there building with them and those women are their 'queens'! If you go look on the wifey's page it's typically just pictures of her and maybe the kids and her with her girlfriends and her doing her own thing. There might be some pictures of their whole family. You don't see the dudes reciprocating. Maybe they're supportive of her and they're pro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:34 PM
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Ditto on the reported! Also there isn't a thing of violence against men committed by women so I really don't want to hear that bull crap he's spewing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:24 PM
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The mother f***** is definitely a necessity for the Samuel L Jackson part! 😂 😂 😂 I think a mashup of Alanis and Samuel for a video of this would be awesome! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:19 PM
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😂 That song went right through my head too when I read that! 😂 Still a great whole album for reinforcement of certain things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:18 PM
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That part floors me! They think money makes them attractive but then if a woman wants them for their money they're gold diggers! I believe someone else on this comment already asked this question but I will second it with, Which is it, dudes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:17 PM
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I just read up on that! It is insane how women will sacrifice everything for a man only to get kicked to the curb. You rarely see those stories in reverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:14 PM
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Oh my goodness...... that's vile! So glad he's your ex! People telling someone not to take it personally when their significant other wants to sleep with somebody else and have sex with others are crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:36 PM
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Where is this posted? I totally want to see the original!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:33 PM
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All of these and number three is the most common one I've seen and the one that men and women will argue with you about! It's amazing how damn near everyone wants to normalize that stuff and gas light the living s*** out of all of us over it. Mental health professionals included! That's just how men are, they can't help it, they've got to look around blah blah blah. How about engaging in some maturing growing up and actual self-work and self-improvement? How about some self-control and self-disc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:41 PM
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And that is the thing that those other guys don't get! If you're really truly great and amazing and strong you don't have to show it off or brag about it! You're confident enough in who you are that you just go be yourself and live your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:16 PM
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That's awesome! 🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:15 PM
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So I just looked up the synopsis of this movie on Wikipedia and ewwww! Especially reading about the ending with Gary's whacked out psychotic fantasy! Good Lord! People can say that stuff's just fantasy but you got to wonder about somebody who's coming up with s*** like that in their head!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:13 PM
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Make sure you hug and forgive your former self! There's a great quote by Maya Angelou that goes something along the lines of not judging your past self for what you know now! Totally on to better things for us! 🤗🤗🤗💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:01 PM
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Wow! Really?! And kudos to those two!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:23 PM
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I am really starting to see that with the projection stuff! Everything they accuse us of they do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:06 PM
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I could never bring myself to watch that movie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:06 PM
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Also the way men talk about women adding to their lives sounds more like they're evaluating stocks or appliances. Or they speak about it transactionally like a business deal. She would just be something there existing for them & going along for the ride. She better keep up and pull her weight etc! Men like that when they're talking, it's the most dehumanizing thing! 💔 When women talk about men adding to our lives it's wanting to build and grow a life family and a home with them! It's about mutua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:03 PM
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I feel so bad for their wives! Like there is no love there at all! What a bunch of a**holes! Their wives may have been a refrigerator or a chair or a TV for all they care. Just things to them. I think their wives would be gutted to know they actually feel like this. I'm starting to get to the point where anytime I hear a guy complaining about a woman I think he's lying more than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:59 PM
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Seriously!!! Boggles the mind too because they're always talking about how they're the logical ones and the problem solvers etc and yet they can't seem to wrap their heads around this one or make any of these connections that are so vital and would really be beneficial if they would! 🤦🤦🤦🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:37 PM
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That is an excellent point especially because they tie their crap to evolution and biology all the freaking time! I think it's one of their favorite arguments or favorite ways to argue about this! Like the, I just can't help it cuz it's just how I am, crap! You don't really see any other species going around violating or raping or murdering or beating the s*** out of other animals out of nowhere and for no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:35 PM
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Oh my goodness that is straight up truth! They're constantly talking about how the world centers around us and caters to us and how we get away with everything and are never held responsible for anything. Wow, as I'm saying that out loud that sounds like major projection on their end! Some guy on a post yesterday or whenever he put the comment commented that women have marginalized men as far as children go or something, because they're always talking about the unfairness with kids and fathers a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:33 PM
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You got it! 🤗🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:43 PM
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Absolutely! I was referencing another dynamic of the pick-mes. One is the type that you're referring to with the cheaters and then there are other pikmies who end up in relationships like I was talking about. The other reason I brought that up is because you were talking about if they treat others like s*** they're going to turn on you. So I've seen a lot of these buff self-proclaimed loudmouth alpha types who treat anybody who's not like them like absolute garbage and insult the crap out of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:41 PM
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Or he is the manly buff type who wants his woman home and only stays faithful and won't turn on her as long as she's towing the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:09 PM
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This a bazillion times! Absolute truth! I have no problems being empathetic when talking with other men about the trauma or whatever they've been through, and there have been times where that's been reciprocated--those rare times in my life where I was around men in an impactful way who genuinely cared about me as a human being and didn't want anything from me. Other times, dudes who take take take & give nothing back. But a lot of times guys will show empathy but try to make it sound like women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:13 PM
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Same thing on Instagram or practically any other social media platform! And you'll get stuff like who hurt you? While they insult you and respond to you in ways that have nothing to do with what you said to them. They evade the topic and the responsibility deflect or project insult and try to somehow blame you for whatever you're talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:35 PM
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This is a dude who came to prominence last year for not shutting his gym down during the lockdowns. I eventually stopped following him because I just saw that he can't post anything without insulting and bullying people somehow particularly women. Apparently everything that's wrong with society and everything that's wrong with men is women's fault! The comment threat on this post was an absolute shitshow of misogyny! Pick-mes out the wazoo bragging about their alpha men and trashing women who do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:36 PM
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🤮🤮🤮 Girl, you dodged a major bullet there! And of course if you would have posted that on the relationship advice that they would have gaslit you from here to Kingdom come about not shaming him for sharing his fantasies and desires!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:16 PM
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Oh girl, I am so sorry you're dealing with that! You are beautiful just the way you are and it's on them if they can't see that! I get how frustrating it is though. Sometimes I feel like the only guys who are attracted to me are much older dudes or dumpy lumpy guys who I'm not attracted to. Then I just think maybe God's protecting me from a whole lot of crap! Stay safe out there and keep being amazing beautiful you! 💃🥰💕🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:17 PM
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And they'll use it to dump on women who won't take men's b*******. That pick me energy is real! I don't know how it is for liberals but it's one of the things that drives me nuts about being a conservative. A lot of loud mouth self-proclaimed alpha males and females who are just completely horribly toxic and seem to get off on insulting others and putting others down who aren't like them. I don't care if I agree with their stance on political issues. The way that they treat others makes me not w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:15 PM
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This a million times! I was on a post yesterday of some loudmouth self-proclaimed alpha and the pikmies on that were driving me crazy! And they'll join in on trashing other women with those guys too. To me the way you treat people you're not attracted to and who can't do anything for you speaks volumes! If you can't be kind for kindness sake I don't want to be around you even if you're nice to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:12 PM
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Yeah I love that line when you're engaging in a conversation with a dude about this kind of stuff when he'll say I respect my wife I have a daughter etc. Like dude, that doesn't mean you respect women. And also only respecting women who tow the line or agree with your line of thinking is also not respecting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:09 PM
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That's a major test of character for them right there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:09 PM
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Ooh girl, you are not kidding about that process! Hugs and blessings for the journey! 🤗🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:31 AM
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I was on a comment thread even today scrolling through comments on some loudmouth fake pose or alphas post and was stunned to see Men actually talking about taking away women's rights to vote! And how that's what started everything and all these other different markers for the downfall of the family and how we've been oppressing men for 40 years and how they needed to make us pay to learn things the hard way that we're wrong or some crap like that! Amazing how they leap into action if they're de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:38 AM
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This knowledge has been recent for me and has been such a godsend! It really makes a difference too because of the ways that we beat the crap out of ourselves for it and the way we can get beaten up by others for going through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:49 AM
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Ah, yes! All that makes sense! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:38 PM
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I've never seen this movie but we're saying that both these dudes behavior is horrible, yes? Because I would totally agree with that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:38 PM
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🤗👑🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:43 PM
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I don't even understand how this is empowering at all. I mean it's not but trying to figure out how to twist my brain around women doing dumb stuff like this and thinking it's sexy and amazing and cool and awesome..... I just can't! The other disturbing thing about this is she's not saying and I wouldn't say no like she's going to be making a choice which is still horrific but saying I couldn't as in she has no power to even say no. Why in the hell would you offer yourself up to men like that?! …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:33 AM
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Aw, girl, thank you so much! Totally made my day! You rock, fellow queen! 🥰🌹🤗🕊️🙏💃🌟👸👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:18 AM
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Some of them make nice shorts! At least to bang around the house! 😂 Hanes has a style like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:41 AM
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The gym pics.....and all the peach & flame emojis underneath!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:39 AM
2

That's incredible! And surprising regarding his take on the difference!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:37 AM
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YESSSSS!!! 🥰🥰🥰🌹🤗🕊️ I can't explain it, but this comment just means so much to me! I really needed to read this today, sis! Thank you so very much, from the bottom of my heart! I think this healed some years of pain.......wow......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:35 AM
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Me either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:25 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 This should be the requirement for everything they want to do to us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:24 AM
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Holy God, that's horrible! I'm so glad you were able to get away safely, but it sucks that any of us have to be wary of this kind of garbage or go through it at all! And you can literally use everything in your purse as a weapon somehow! My uncle used to teach women's self-defense and taught me different ways that you can use things like your pen chapstick wallet keys etc. It's good to have as much knowledge as possible about everything at your disposal! Statement rings are also good! Also pull …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:08 PM
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That's a fantastic idea! Very smart as well! Will definitely check your posts! And I agree with everything you said! Men really don't realize how much they're shooting themselves in the foot trying to fight accusations of toxic masculinity by just doubling down and insulting us further!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:24 PM
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Seriously!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:06 PM
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Also I would love to see your posts there! It would be fascinating to read the comments for sure. And rock on, awesome lady! 💃💃💃💪🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:16 PM
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🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 A million high fives to this! YES! I will never ever compromise on this! It is so not worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:14 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:10 PM
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Preach, sis! 💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:06 PM
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Oh the audacity of damn near any man of any ethnicity! I've dealt with it in all of them! Black brown and white! The entitlement/depravity across the board with them is no joke!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:57 PM
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This is a great article! Not sure I knew about her but this is really cool to read! I seriously love how she gave the finger to the Hollywood system also!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:12 AM
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I feel the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:02 AM
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Liberal men can be abusers too! They're more covert about it and better at displaying a kinder gentler more sensitive front. But they can abuse in every way possible as well! And you're not kidding with them telling on themselves! Anytime you tell another man crappy behavior you experience at the hands of a man barring extreme examples typically they will say one or two of the following: Well yeah all men are assholes animals dickheads douchebags pricks fill in the blank with their favorite jerk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:39 AM
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😂😂😂 Gold, sis! Pure gold! 🥇🏅🏆🌟⛳ Dadgum, I needed that laugh! "Also, said llamas and goats should definitely not wear sunglasses! That's crucial!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:18 AM
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I so wish somebody would have told me this when I was a teenager! Or even a preteen! This stuff needs to be all over posters coffee mugs t-shirts and billboards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:21 AM
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😂😂😂 That last paragraph! 😂 I'm still laughing over that! I am blown away by how many people say stuff like that or may as well say something just like that! Did you tell him you didn't want him to choke you or that you didn't want him smacking you?! Are you kidding me with that bull crap?! Why is it even going through your head to do something like that to somebody or to want to do something like that to somebody and why aren't you questioning it? Stfu indeed! 🙌🙌🙌💯 Edit: "Didn't you use a safe w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:20 AM
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All of this is also why I will never listen to a man tell me I'm overthinking something ever again because I have been right about whatever I was overthinking every single time! Women are taught to override our guts and our instincts with this and even with motherhood! It's called women's & mother's intuition for a reason! They gaslight us because our intuition ensures that we will see through their garbage and they want to make sure they cut us off at the pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:16 AM
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I really love this line too! It's the damn truth! 💕💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:14 AM
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This a bazillion times! I've never heard anyone put it quite this way and it is crazy how gaslit we are with all this crap! Meanwhile men will support the crap out of each other in kicking women to the curb over anything and everything, not tolerating anything and being okay with that and expecting us to understand it all but then when it comes to them we're supposed to bend over backwards to extend grace empathy and compassion when they don't deserve it more times than not. Porn use, all kinds …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:11 AM
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You're welcome! Thank you too! 🥰 Those are good reminders--& I had no idea those different things were related to poison ivy! Wow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:17 AM
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Oh my goodness, everything you said! Those are irritants, etc for Crohns as well! I noticed for me that cutting out sugar and dairy, at least most of it, were huge helps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:58 AM
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I've had so many friends tell me how comfy thongs are over the years. Um, no! And now that seems to be the trend for swimsuits. 🤦 Edit: If you're in an adult only spot I still don't want to see it quite frankly but I really don't want to see it places where there are kids! Also I don't see how it's empowering to women when they're just giving a free show to men. Am I the only one thinking this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:51 AM
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I had a boyfriend ask me that once just because he could feel my bikini cut panties were cotton! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:46 AM
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Absolutely! We're completely beautiful in our own beautiful skin! 🥰💃🌹👑💕🕊️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:14 PM
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Exactly! 🌹🥰💃💪💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:11 PM
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I agree with everything this woman is saying! Men talking about how women hating men has destroyed manhood and emasculated all of men and ruin society and families etc etc drives me nuts because I'm like, dudes, what were y'all doing first? Why did women respond to you that way if everything that you were doing was so great and amazing and wonderful? There wouldn't be a need! Women would never have needed to rise up and fight for ourselves the way we've had to and still have to if men had been g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:25 PM
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I made a comment about something like that recently how it hurts my heart seeing those videos when they're talking about and defying some guy who told him that they weren't hot but they're putting makeup on and doing it in a way where they look like someone completely different to try and prove the guy wrong. I would love to see it done in reverse where she takes the makeup off and you get to see her natural beauty instead! That is way more awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:21 PM
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I could not agree with this more and I think the exact same thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:21 PM
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Especially needed in the face of so many men doubling down on their toxicity thinking that they're defending masculinity against the accusation of toxic masculinity which is completely insane! Hot air windbag bullies beating their chests like gorillas and self-proclaiming alpha maledom while they insult mock and put down anyone weaker anyone different anyone perceived to be weaker or different than them. Oh yeah gentlemen, this is what all of us ladies have dreamed of for what kind of man we wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:04 PM
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Damned if you do, damned if you don't!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:27 AM
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Holy wowza! That sounds like an interesting read! I had a comment from a dude on another social media platform talking about how women should apologize to men for the past 70 years of everything we've put them through because men never treated us as though we were inferior and that everything they did was to protect us and keep us in the home so we could take care of the children better because women who work in an office for 40 plus hours a week take away from being a good wife and being a good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:26 AM
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You're most welcome & thank you too! 🥰💃💯🤗🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:53 PM
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Probably one of those other types where they talk about how men don't like masculine women but don't realize that when men aren't being men the way they're supposed to be women are going to do it for themselves. This is something that kind of blows me away. Women can figure out ways to do all that stuff if they need to whereas men still don't seem to know how to do any of the heart stuff, or won't put in the work to figure it out, more importantly. I get that people can have flaws and issues the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:35 PM
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PREACH! Louder for those in back! I was able to have a breast reduction and lift done a couple years ago which I'm so thankful for because there were a lot of health issues I'd had for a really long time like upper back and neck pain and skin issues all kinds of stuff, and nothing was helping. The morning of when my doctor was marking me up I asked her how big my breasts were going to be and when she showed me I actually asked her if we could make them smaller! I have not worn a bra since I fini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:26 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:13 PM
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Hell yeah they would! Those women rocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:13 PM
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Oh yeah because those guys think all Western women are hyper sexualized s****. Anytime any of those guys starts following me on any social media platform he immediately gets blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:12 PM
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Oh my word are you citing an actual legit real life example of Kardashian life there? Wowza! I've definitely occasionally seen those relationship advice posts where the guy is talking about this kind of stuff where he expects his woman to take care of everything and do it all really well but then gets upset if she's not paying enough attention to him and instead of helping take the load off of her he just wants more from her. Like if he would help her with the load as far as domestic chores and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:11 PM
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The constant taking and never giving anything in return! And you can experience that with family relationships friendships coworkers etc! And whenever you try to have a rational discussion about what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like and what your needs and wants are and wanting things reciprocated they treat you like you're completely ridiculous and demanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:09 PM
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I also think they're completely unnerved by our power and beauty and also by the fact that life comes from our bodies. They're not secure in their own selves properly and so consequently they're just unnerved by us to the point where they have to knock us down a few pegs and put us in our place etc so they can feel like they're back in control or something. How else would you explain culture and systems and laws that are put in place specifically to hold us back and keep us down for so long. And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:07 PM
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Meanwhile they will tell you that it's not their job to make you feel good about yourself. Oh and they will also talk about how attractive a confident woman is. 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:16 PM
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It's a sad truth and sometimes when you try to talk to them about what your needs are they act like you're being completely ridiculous codependent demanding whatever while they still have no problem just taking and taking and taking from you. 💔💔💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:15 PM
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I was wondering about that and thinking on that recently myself. Especially when men talk about how they've been the pioneers of innovation and we can thank them for phones and technology and all these other things. Next time I see somebody talk about that I will remind him that those men were able to do the things they did because there was a woman behind the scenes waiting on them hand and foot so that they could do those things! But yes one does have to wonder why men put laws into place and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:32 PM
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Don't forget the Cirque du Soleil element! Combination gymnast acrobat and pornstar! While they're expected to do what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:28 PM
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And this wins comment of the day! 🎉🙌 There's a reason why those movies are so dang popular! Dudes could take some notes! 💕💕💕💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:25 PM
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That's gold right there! 😂🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:21 AM
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Yes, that specific thought was occurring to me over the past couple of days! Anytime you talk about this stuff outside of this space you are going to be put on the defense to justify why you're saying any of this and you're going to hear not all men constantly and be chastised about grouping them all together because not all men are rapists, look at p*** or look at women sexually or are violent. Even if you do find men who don't do all those things they still keep silent for the most part about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:09 AM
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I just saw a meme on Instagram today where some guy was talking about how protests school board meetings and other community things are predominantly run by women or dominated by women and then, Men, why are we leaving women to fight all alone? Which sounds kind of nice but then when you look at the caption it's horrible and he's basically blaming women for men being docile whatevers. Oh and the best part was the beginning of the meme said women are practically begging men to step it up intimate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:58 AM
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Oh my goodness, I couldn't even finish reading that one! It was absolute garbage & one of the biggest points he missed was how they make it look like the woman loves it! Nor did he talk about the behind the scenes exploitation, coercion, or all the drug and alcohol use. Cycles of trauma and the PTSD these women suffer. Total crackjob and he looked creepy! Not the Sex at Dawn guy though, but just as wacky!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:50 AM
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Yes! I have learned this the hard way! I thought they were supposed to be a way better authority on things but they're not. And some of the opinions they've had about the sex positivity movement advocating for all that stuff absolutely blow my mind because these people are supposed to know and understand how trauma affects people and how it manifests etc. The guy who wrote Sex at Dawn also has articles on there! Lots of articles about how wonderful BDSM is for you and how great it is for your re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:52 PM
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I think it definitely depends on the situation and the circumstances. Like some things are just out there where you do need to call them out on it. So like my teenage son for example I'm not going to shame him about stumbling and tripping the way he is with corn stuff because I want to keep that communication open and keep talking to him about what point is and what's really happening behind the scenes and the damage is causing those women and to keep the conversation going to help him work thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:29 PM
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We're also designed for True intimacy and love and connection and just feels like people want to throw that out the window these days more than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:58 PM
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Even when there was shame being present I feel like these guys just hid it more. Men have always been doing this stuff even back during the World War II era and the fifties when you think everything would have been different. I was absolutely blown away reading about the prostitution and all kinds of other crazy stuff with World War II and stuff that was set up between the United States Military and South Korea involving supplying the military with prostitutes shortly after World War II. Rape be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:57 PM
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It really depends because sometimes it actually can make it worse because people just internalize and hide things more and it can send it back underground. I don't know what the heck the answer is honestly. I think there's like healthy shame and guilt I guess and then they're like really destructive versions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:55 PM
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Me too! Even with all the trauma and abuse harassment and assault and all the other garbage that I went through for so much of my life I spent the majority of my life hoping for the best in them and looking for it very proactively and just really hitting a wall very recently but starting about 2 years ago with seeing this gross underbelly that's becoming more and more apparent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:52 PM
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🤮🤮🤮💔💔💔 Vile!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:51 PM
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So today I had my mammogram and I had to have an ultrasound done as well. The ultrasound tech and I were talking and she was really cool. We were talking about our kids and she mentioned that her ex just signed over all rights to their children and just about anything else and she informed me that he's in the military. And I talked to her about the stuff that I've come across lately and she's like yes there are some good men but mostly it is an all boys club and all those horrible things that yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:49 PM
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Plus if you're actually having sex with them they're depositing all of that garbage into your soul! I'm not a dumping ground for anybody's garbage! I feel like that's another thing people don't get with all of this stuff is that whatever negative energy whatever toxicity someone has whether you perceive it are aware of it or not is getting dumped into your soul and is connecting with your body when you're having sex with guys like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:43 PM
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🤮🤮🤮 the fact that so many of them think like this and I'll bet they had a lot of upvotes too is just nasty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:42 PM
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Plus it's just violating even though people think it's not a big deal if somebody's violating you in their head they're still violating you and you can feel it when they're around you. There's like a creepy vibe or presence to them and you know you need to keep your guard up. I came across some articles recently probably written in psychology today or by some mental health professionals where they were telling people that it's perfectly normal and healthy to fantasize about other people when you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:41 PM
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You too! 🌹👸🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:59 PM
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Oh my goodness, I love this! You're awesome! Seriously that is such a sweet blessing for whoever those women are because they probably haven't had that kindness in such a long time! 🥰🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:00 PM
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Okay, sounds good! Good luck with car shopping, sis! 🚗🚗🚗🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:53 PM
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Oh my goodness....... That's insane and I totally agree with you! If you're okay dming me the name of that sub go for it! Or sending the link for that particular thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:29 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏 True leadership is servant leadership is loving leadership is sacrificial leadership. It's leadership that leads by example, sets people free and gives people the space to become the fullness of who they're meant to be and to flourish in that. And even if you have to be firm about something as in the position of a boss or political position you do it constructively. It is never to abuse bully oppress or squash down. The goal and purpose is still to be protecting people and building people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:43 PM
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Oh my word, what?! Were they just so freaking shocked they didn't know what to do? Dear God in heaven, that's nasty! 🤮 Was that on the ask me anything sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:36 PM
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It's astounding how many will invalidate your experience or how widespread all this is! I'm blown away by the women who wanted to defend the good men so badly that they're willing to invalidate the rest of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:10 PM
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🤮🤮🤮 Oh my good God! Ewwww! That is so disgusting! I had a friend once several years ago who posted a lingerie site link on my Facebook wall and told me which lingerie sets I would look good in! We'd been friends for almost 20 years at that point and I was so taken aback by that! Most of my guy friends I've always felt a sort of guard up against because you can feel that leechy stuff coming off them. It's an extreme rarity when I have been around men where it felt like they truly cared about me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:06 PM
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The majority of them have absolutely no freaking clue what true masculinity is. They're functioning out of brokenness and some wounded sick twisted version of it that is truly toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:10 AM
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Thank you! I don't like seeing it in movies either and then pushing it so much in TV shows especially shows aimed for the younger crowd blows my mind! Like there's no creativity or innovation really. Just throw in that stuff and some crude humor and you're good to go. 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:09 AM
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My first introduction to p*** was when I was 9 years old at slumber party. The Playboy channel had just been introduced to cable and cable was still fairly new. So the girl whose house we were all at said hey my dad just got the Playboy channel let's check it out and I hated how it made me feel, I hated that any part of me was drawn to it--I dealt with childhood sexual trauma already by that point. It's like poison. I hated when we would go to 7-Eleven with our male cousins or guy friends when w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:03 AM
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I feel like that towards men who sleep around also. Even if they're good in bed and actually give a crap about the woman's orgasm just using each other to jerk each other off is repulsive to me. It still makes it seem like they're putting their dick first and not actually figuring out how to have a relationship or figuring out good coping skills being grounded in their own hearts and having a good relationship with their own selves if that makes sense. Or even looking at women as anything other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:45 AM
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That is one of the biggest differences right there! We're also not lurking on their subs, unless it's for awareness of what's out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:42 PM
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Can't like this enough! Especially that last line!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:41 PM
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Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:39 PM
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Oh wow...... didn't hear of that particular example, but yes about all the hypocrisy on their end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:38 PM
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Oh my goodness, yes! Boggles the mind! 🤪🤯😲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:36 PM
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The projecting thing is sort of a newer concept to me with this but oh my gosh does it make so much sense! I don't think they want to be held accountable for what they do and I think they want to keep passing it all off is just normal men's stuff and boys will be boys blah blah blah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:54 PM
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Oh my gosh, YES! There are a couple of videos that I've seen where women are talking about men telling them they're not hot or something and they're rebuffing the men but they're doing makeup while they're saying these things and they end up looking like a completely different person at the end of it and to me I would rather see her take her makeup off and talk about how beautiful she is without having to project some kind of an image for the male gaze, or how a man would interpret hotness typic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:52 PM
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That's an amazing point! I remembered reading something a little while back where it talked about how men viewed women who were in charge of boardroom meetings and the hurdles women would have to jump through and overcome to be taken seriously and not to just be viewed as a sex object. The way women are treated in the military is another overwhelmingly excellent example. They're looked down upon from the start. I was watching a video of a panel of male army rangers with the first female ranger a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:58 PM
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That pretending is the thing that really floors me and I think has unnerved me more than anything else. Even back in the day with male friends, overhearing their conversations with each other and how they talk about us! And suddenly you can never look at your guy friend ever again the same way. I'm the kind of person who once I see your character and who you really are that's it. I can't look at someone the same pretty much ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:59 PM
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Yes! I have really noticed this over the past 10 to 15 years with more and more of the cookie cutter look coming in meaning the women all look the same or some very slight variation of the same look. Same hairstyles and makeup hair extensions nails false eyelashes pouty lips etc etc. It's frustrating because us women all have natural beauty and I would rather see that then some plasticized version of it if you know what I mean. Back in the day when my friends and I wore makeup it was just kind o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:58 PM
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Sad, just sad..... I also don't think they know how to deal with their own issues and face their junk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:55 AM
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Don't forget about the baseball caps turned to the side with the droopy drawers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:23 AM
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I've had s*** relationships with what would be considered ugly dorky dudes and with what would be considered very attractive guys. So definitely look at character but do not compromise on what you're attracted to at the same time! It's taking me a long time to admit the kind of man I'm actually attracted to because I never felt like I was good enough or that I could be with somebody like that. In the past those guys had bullied me in school or ignored me because I wasn't part of the popular crow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:21 AM
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Yes! Those places usually had to be set up far away from the village because the stuff was so stinky with ammonia and it was used for dying and possibly tanning leather although I'm not sure about that last one but definitely for dying wool and whatever other materials for threads and fabric. Forget what show I saw that on but I was like wow! Not sure if they mentioned that particular phrase although they may have!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:17 AM
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Match with couples? Do you mean for threesomes and stuff like that? Which we all know more times than not is initiated by the men in those relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:15 AM
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That is one of the major things I've seen with these so-called men's men self-proclaimed alphas. They're women are always doing their hobbies along with them and you see all kinds of photos like that on their page and then on their woman's page you see mostly her by herself doing her things. There might be some couple or family photos as well but she's doing her hobbies and her stuff on her own or with her female friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:12 AM
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And they'll want to show you off like a trophy to validate their masculinity and manhood to all the other dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:03 AM
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And I think the guys all know we're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:59 AM
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And most of them don't give us the chances they want us to give them. I've seen all kinds of beautiful women with all different kinds of men but certain types of men you only see with certain types of women and all of those women look exactly the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:42 AM
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Yup! Truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:24 AM
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It almost feels like that's your best bet! I think it sucks that even when you do vetting you have to do it consistently/constantly like you never get a break. That's exhausting on top of everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:03 AM
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This right here is one of the most important distinctions! If we reacted to them for all the stuff they put us through the way they react to us none of them would be standing. They don't get that at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:02 AM
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Love it! Starve it out. And I've seen women argue that we've shot ourselves in our own feet with how we've chosen to handle this or something but what so many people don't realize is that women have been talking about this and as you mentioned begging placating bending over backwards to do everything right and be as perfect and appealing as possible in some kind of manner and it still went over men's heads and they still didn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:35 AM
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Preach, my friend! Everything about the sex positive movement is basically women making themselves even more available to be used and abused by men on pretty much every level. But as long as they consent or enthusiastically consent it's all cool! It's also conditioning and grooming men to be more and more superficial shallow selfish and demanding. More and more of the relationship if there even is one is revolving around his dick & his 'needs', urges, appetites, preferences, etc. People don't ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:35 AM
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😂💯💯💯💪 Absolute truth! And it's amazing cuz if you call them out on their s*** behavior they will always have an excuse to justify it while criticizing you left and right over everything and acting like you have absolutely no right to be pissed off at them ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:33 AM
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Same thing with the women who defend them and I just got blocked recently by one of those!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:32 AM
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Love it! Maybe we should get some questions together for them in response! How many insta models are you following? Do you watch p***? How much and what kind? Do you gawk at women while out in public? Make gross comments to your bros about what you'd like to do to those women? Had a conversation with a dude recently who just kept talking about women being whores and gold diggers and how there are evil people everywhere while not getting how much more prevalent and common and violent the stuff is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:38 AM
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Exhausting is a fantastic word for it all! Burned out? Yup! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:15 AM
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Wow.... Disturbing but makes sense. What are the women doing when they act like that? It's completely baffling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:10 AM
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YES! Spot on! I was just listening to a guy who was talking about how he'd read the Communist Manifesto and he went over parts of it. Completely disturbing. State has ownership of literally EVERYthing, including the family. Part of its aim is also breaking the family down somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:01 AM
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The last paragraph about the birth process! I had to I had to have an emergency C-section and thank God I was not married to my son's sperm donor! He refused to put his name on the birth certificate as well so he's no legal rights to my child at all. But my body was not the same after that and I ended up with a horrific case of Crohn's coming back after. I had plastic surgery a couple years ago to correct the ways that C-section messed me up. I never thought about it that way but you're right it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:53 PM
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It's absolutely mind blowing how they'll have each other's backs over all this stuff & justify horrible and petty behavior, even understanding if a guy snapped over this stuff, but want us to let them get away with all the abusive garbage they put us through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:36 PM
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Reading stuff from like Nazi Germany or Stalin Russia or stuff coming from communist China about mothers is crazy. Like somehow mothers are to be utilized as state-sponsored incubators and nannies. They try to make it sound like something amazing and heroic but it's so completely dehumanizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:10 PM
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Everything about their policies with their children really sucks but especially for women. The expectations they put on their kids is over the top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:27 PM
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Massively so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:00 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:06 AM
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💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌 Yup! Insane!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:04 PM
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Holy cannoli! I wish those men who want proof would just do some damn research themselves because it's out there! They have their phones and they have the time to scroll through this stuff and get pissed off so they have the time to do this damn research and read up on this stuff themselves! They really pick so many ways to shoot themselves in the damn foot! If they would just deal with their own damn s*** and actually grow the hell up and become decent human beings and actual good men that woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:53 PM
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Oh my word......That's disturbing af! It blows my mind how many generations of women have had to deal with much older men pulling crap like this in some form. And people wonder why we're angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:35 PM
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People are in so much denial about it happening and there's still some people out there who will ask what you were wearing and who will blame the victim because of her outfit or drinking or whatever and too many people who will still try to argue that women are just as horrible as men and that they're just as many horrible women as men which is absolute b*******! There are so many of us who have these stories and it's not just one or two instances with a crappy boyfriend although that would be b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:25 PM
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Gotcha! So I did a Google search on it and I'm still going through things because I got stuck in a psychology today article that was trying to argue against the results from surveys like that. It was too infuriating to finish! The person writing that particular article thought it was disingenuous to ask the same question twice & in a different manner so excused the results of those particular surveys. Like most men if asked if they would rape a woman would say no but if you phrase it like, would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:21 PM
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Oh my word, that is beyond treacherous! Isn't it interesting how sometimes you're safer with strangers than you are in places where you think you should be safe?! 💔💔💔 Wow I didn't realize it was so recent! And and when I was talking about the partying stuff I was referring to wondering about the mentalities of people in those kinds of scenes because I'm not familiar with it. I think that's awesome that you had people who looked out for you and who you could look out for as well. That is unbeliev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:22 AM
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That is soul crushing.....and there are really no words to describe it if you haven't experienced it yourself. There is no point of an unaffectionate man. Especially not when you are giving him your whole heart and soul and not getting anything but crumbs in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:17 AM
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I think we belong to the same club!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:14 AM
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💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:10 AM
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Clarified yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:49 AM
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Oh, yikes, do you mean it was a bad reveal when his hair was cut?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:44 AM
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So true! I honestly feel like the frustration and the anger and hate they have with us over damn near everything still speaks to the entitlement they have about us and the control they want over us to make us into who they want us to be. At the same time they will tell us that we're entitled and demanding for wanting a guy who is a genuinely good man and a good human being who can protect and provide for us and our family/home, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:18 AM
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Holy God in heaven, that's beyond deplorable! I'm completely stunned about that! I know years ago when my friends and I found out that girls were being raped and sexually assaulted in the middle of the dance floor at our favorite under 21 club we let each other know and made sure we never went back there again! None of us were really big drinkers or in the party scene so I don't know if that's a difference or not? That would be interesting to find out. I feel like all of us pretty much looked ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:48 AM
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I'd say celebrities are lying to us all too, and there seem to be so many women who emulate them. It's a lot of falsehood and image projection on so many different levels. And I had no idea they were scoffing at that stuff! When did that start? Stunning me the same way finding out how much they despise single moms too! Their insecurity & hypocrisy is overwhelming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:37 AM
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Ugh, I understand that! It's taken me awhile to really let myself admit to myself what kind of man I'm actually attracted to physically. In the past those guys had bullied or picked on me, then in high school, weren't interested--I wasn't part of the popular crowd, were snobby or jerks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:34 AM
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Is there a link to that survey? And damn, that's disturbing & terrifying af!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:05 AM
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I had a boyfriend a long time ago where I desperately hoped he wouldn't shave his beard!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:03 AM
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They look a million times better in that pic! Can't take the mountain man look either! Just looks unkempt sloppy and gross/unclean! Close-shaven and well-groomed beards are cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:02 AM
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Friends letting guys rape their friends who are drunk?! And dear God, I am so beyond sorry that happened to you! How are you doing now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:42 PM
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Twitchy twitch twitch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:40 PM
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Same! The others typically make me twitch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:35 PM
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This right here! They empathize with all the wrong people. And the guy who flips out on his woman if he discovers she cheated on him, but what we go through? Whatever! The violent retributive attitudes are equally terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:33 PM
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I'm blown away by this because it seems like those are the women they're all drawn to and want! They all seem to gravitate towards the 'plastic Barbie doll' look! And if they actually end up with a woman like that, they'll show her off to no end like they're the man. I don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:31 PM
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Oh my word, what?! 💔💔💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:27 PM
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All of that makes perfect sense! Wow! The still trying to appease their abusers is eye-opening!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:26 PM
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You would never see a movie about women like this! Not that I'd ever want to because it's garbage behavior no matter who it's coming from, but this being so idolized by men is alarming, to say the least. Nothing about any part of it sounds or looks like it's condemning the behavior at all. I've not seen a lot of Scorcese's work but I'd totally go there with you about it not being his best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:42 PM
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Oh that's awesome! I had no idea until fairly recently when I was talking to my therapist cuz she's in that age range and she was telling me about how women after menopause can have those sexual peaks too! I was like man that is freaking awesome! 🥰🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:13 PM
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Oh, Esther Perel! Yeah those people like to bring her up a lot! Also the book The Ethical S*** which just makes me want to gag by the title alone and More Than Two are their other go-to's. And reading up on all these different things I came across an article where a woman was bragging about being a s*** and referring to herself in that manner! And talking about her behavior on the dance floor and how nobody should be looking at her like whatever, and I was like, lady, everybody would be looking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:06 PM
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THIS!!! Holy cannoli, a million times this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:35 AM
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Oh it's Sex at Dawn! It's even worse seeing women thanking authors like that to help them understand men better, and basically to get over their own feelings about things! It's just like brainwashing women into compromising themselves and allowing men to just hang out in the immature adolescent mediocrity gutter whilst they somehow think they're being sophisticated and evolved. I thought about those arguments as well regarding getting back to 'being like our ancestors' and stuff. Like why not ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:28 AM
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I love your rambly comment! 😂 That's a treasure trove of stuff there! I will definitely have to check out that link and I was reading up on bonobo chimps. Kind of hilarious to me that the sex had done author picked them because of how female centric they seem to be. I haven't read up on their behaviors yet that that author focuses on but it is astounding to me how people still recommend that book like it's legit science. A lot of pseudoscience garbage out there to justify men's s*** behavior. Ed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:51 AM
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I think my mom watched it because she had heard about that stuff when it was happening around that time like the charges and trials and whatnot. She said it was absolutely horrible and sickening! And she said she would never watch it again and told me not to even bother. I wasn't interested anyway just from what I saw on the ad for it. Just read the Variety oped piece by Whitney Friedlander talking about how it does glorify criminals and excessive behavior. I'm reading the counter argument one w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:48 AM
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I can't even bring myself to watch that movie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:11 AM
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I definitely want to feel like that about my sweetie pie in addition to the amazing heart and character! I want someone I'm safe to love and be loved by in return! 🥰🤗🙏💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:20 PM
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Of the primo good stuff! 🥐🥖🥯🥞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:28 AM
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A million upvotes for this! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:27 AM
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Totally agree with all of that! I've been praying about and trying to figure out what the root is and where things are going wrong because even before we had crazy chemicals and GMOs in our food and everything else men were still horrible generally speaking in one way or another particularly expressed in the laws of various times and how so many things just forced women to have to basically be bang maids and servants. Also treating women like they were second class citizens who solely existed fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:59 AM
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I have to look away whenever the orcs are on screen and probably those other critters too! It's sad because it does make them shells of who they really are or should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:24 AM
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Wow, can we return the favor to all the guys who laughed at, mocked and groped our bodies back then? Oh and let's not forget about all the verbal sexual abuse, oops, I mean harassment, the assaults, rape, and abuse they put us through! Immature jackasses. None of them would be standing if we thought like they do. Why are they so bitter, vengeful and hateful?! Speaks to their entitlement mentality! Also, who wants to tell them women hit their sexual peak in their 40s and can peak again after meno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:14 PM
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Can I like a million times infinity?! This is the truth! And they'll think you're entitled and demanding wanting them to be good husband material!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:07 PM
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Either way, threesomes feel like they're for the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:36 PM
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Wow, that is such an insightful comment! I haven't seen this so much with the infantilized voice personally speaking as I have seen with women who go along with whatever men say and do and will defend the living daylights out of men and not generalizing all of them etc even though they are themselves victims of domestic violence or childhood sexual abuse. The part that stuck out to me particularly was that those women are stuck in the 'don't tell on their abusers' mode. I've been kind of working…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:28 PM
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Oh my word, that is insane! I'm not sure if I knew all that about him but I just remembered that he had served in the military. Two other guys who started p*** mags have been in the military. Larry flynt and whoever started screw magazine. Just nasty vile disgusting stuff all the way around! That infantilizing of women also is something I've been thinking about and I sometimes wonder if women behave that way so that men won't hurt or attack them somehow, and to keep from pissing men off rocking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:35 AM
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YES! All this here! Usually when women are banding together it's to fight for things to be better for us but it's also fighting for our sons and daughters, future generations. So many people don't get that when you're fighting for men to be better, refusing garbage behavior, you're fighting for things to be better for all of us if you know what I mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:25 AM
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I love everything about this post! 🥰🧚🎉🤗👸🌞🙏💃💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:44 PM
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The whole thing with shaming women's bodies or shaming women over how their bodies change with pregnancy makes me want to Barb and the competition among women to see how quickly they can recover their pre baby body is nuts too and it's not even healthy or safe if it doesn't happen naturally on its own. I can't remember when I first started hearing this. Possibly my teens are 20s where guys would be talking about how they didn't want their wives getting fat and that's part of why they didn't want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:51 PM
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This is the truth! It's the same thing with swinging. They took all about the female empowerment side because the women are the ones who get the action started by dancing with each other and then 'playing' with each other first before deciding to let the men in meanwhile the men are getting a show while the women are 'warming up'. Anytime these people can figure out a way to spin it so that it's female empowerment and get women to spout this rhetoric for them just works in their favor no matter …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:42 PM
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Yup! It's irritating to me what a horrible rap women will get if they date younger men like somehow they're desperate predatory crazy out of control nut balls or something. Meanwhile gross ass dudes like Hugh Hefner can be seen with women who are young enough to be their granddaughters and either nobody bats an eye or nobody makes a big enough deal out of it. Or they think he's such a stud because he scored hot babes! The only reason why is cuz he had money and knew how to control those women an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:36 PM
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🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:31 PM
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Yeah the more and more I've read of this stuff, not only am I not buying it but I started seeing certain patterns of passive aggressive undertones of superiority and defensiveness and things that seemed like there was more avoidance and fear-based stuff going on. You do not need to be screwing other people beating each other up or controlling each other allowing yourself to be controlled or mind f****** each other to have intimacy and good communication and that's one of the big selling points a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:21 AM
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Ugh, that's deplorable all the way around except for the woman with her boyfriend in tow coming to check on you! I've read other stories on here recently of women going through stuff like that or men screaming and yelling in their faces and the women having to stand up for themselves or having another woman come in to help her but never another man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:10 AM
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I never bought it about BDSM open polyamory swinging stuff but I decided to do some research over the past year and a half just to see more of what it's about and everything I read was pro all of that stuff. The more I read and the more I researched the more I was not buying it and the more I will never buy it! It reinforced to me why I have never been into that stuff in the first place and always felt off about it all. You have to be disconnected from yourself in some manner of speaking to be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:08 AM
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Oh good Lord, there's got to be some decent guys out there for us 30 & 40-somethings, and not looking our age by the way! 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:56 AM
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Or he'll fall for somebody else and kick his wife to the curb. And probably blame her for it somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:54 AM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:53 AM
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I honestly never thought I would want to be with a guy younger than me but being in my mid-40s now I will be totally fine with a guy in his mid to late 30s! I look like I'm in my late twenties to early 30s and I don't want to be with someone who looks like an old man. Obviously I want us to be compatible and I want to look at him and think he's hot AF and I want him to feel the same about me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:52 AM
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Who in the world is this woman?! I have never heard of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:45 AM
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Oh screw that! I'm in my mid-40s, I've never been married and honestly I would be totally okay with a dude who is 10 years younger than me, but nothing more than that, because I don't look my age and I don't feel my age. But mid-late 30s and mid 40s is way different from 20 somethings dating way over their age, or way older men going for women that age that should say, or 30 somethings being told to date old men! Ugh, why? And the myth out there that somehow older men automatically equates with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:44 AM
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YES! Or even if I didn't have it that way it was still an incredibly awesome experience and it wasn't over too quick either! They took a good amount of time and they got into it even more if I was enjoying it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:36 AM
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Yup, mid-40s! It is completely nuts out there today! And the demands that people have especially men with women's bodies are just insane and talking about how they would never want to go down on a woman if she had hair down there blows my mind! Reading some of these comments made me realize I actually had really great sex at least physically with my boyfriends and some pretty awesome mind-blowing O's! And I'm pretty sure all of my boyfriends actually knew where my clit was, or at least it didn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:31 AM
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I completely agree with everything you said! I haven't been angry like this in a really really long time but I hit the wall with hoping for the goodness of men when I came across the realities of the military what goes on there and just how nasty and foul they are more than not and that the institution is. I know there are some good ones but the majority of them just seem like they are nasty womanizing abusive bastards and they get away with it because of war combat sacrifice etc. That crashing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:57 AM
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One more reason why scraggly beards make me twitch! I'm not even kidding, I literally can't look at them! It's a very visceral cringy reaction! The only beard I would be okay with is close shaven clean and extremely well groomed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:02 AM
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Oh my gosh! I did not make part of that connection until I just read your comment! It's bedtime here so hence the brain fart but ew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:00 AM
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🤮🤮🤮 Audacity is right! Good grief, that's disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:59 AM
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Dear God, I do have to say that in spite of most of my boyfriends being crappy I never had any issues with them going down on me, and voluntarily cuz they wanted to--the only times I ever had to ask was if I couldn't wait long enough!--or making me cum! One guy I dated actually begged me to let him go down on me while we were making out once, which really surprised me and I had never experienced that before or since, and I don't know why but I just didn't have a good feeling about that even thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:47 AM
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It is nasty for sure! Even more sinister when you deal with the ones who can do that in the more subversive ways! And you are most welcome! 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:33 AM
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Oh my goodness, what?! That's horrible! I'm so sorry you went through that and I hope you're doing better now! Big bear hugs to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:44 AM
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It is absolutely mind blowing! I wonder if they understand and I guess they don't that if men were truly good and were doing things well and right since the beginning women would not need to rise up to defend themselves if you know what I mean. And I mean like throughout the course of history. So many dudes like this act like women just went berserk and started this stuff out of nowhere. It does feel like they're an alien species and I don't understand why they won't do things better? Even if th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:44 PM
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I saw several different posts on relationship advice that were really distressing sometime in the past few months. Women who were pregnant or were diagnosed with some kind of illness and who were stressing out about the fact that they weren't going to be able to take care of their husbands sexually so they were either wondering or did decide to open up their marriage so their husbands could have their sexual needs met! The one woman who was diagnosed with some kind of illness and I don't remembe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:38 PM
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Yup! It's totally not worth it and it's so completely selfish to drive that way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:22 PM
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Oh my, what thread was that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:20 PM
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Ugh, this! I was on a different sub where some guy kept arguing that you couldn't even compare how men are about a woman's past with how women are regarding a man's because.......biology and evolution! Basically that it was completely appropriate for a man to judge a woman by her past but not for a woman to do the same with the man! 🤦🤦🤦 I don't even have the words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:22 PM
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I was shocked and stunned when she told me that and then I was even more shocked and stunned finding out how common it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:19 PM
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All of that's totally awesome! 💯💯💯👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:18 PM
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My friend's ex put a tracker on her car and tried to lie to their kids that she was cheating on him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:15 PM
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💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 A thousand bazillion times! These things right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:14 PM
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Dear God, they really do not want to be called to account or called to anything higher do they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:09 PM
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Everything you said here a thousand times! It is been a very rare thing when I have ever been around a guy/man in any capacity where I felt completely safe and didn't feel like I had to have a shield up at least on the inside. And people saying that women are just as bad blows my mind because it's a load of b*******! I know there're some crappy women out there but it is like nothing on the level that's on the male side of the fence with frequency prevalence and commonality. And all of them claim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:08 PM
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It is really sad because that desire to be loved especially if it's coming from a very wounded place takes over all sense and reasoning! Not that it makes the behavior okay but men totally use it against us and use it to pit us against each other I think too. That is completely insane that your ex has tried turning all of his girlfriends against you! I hope you're in a way better and safer place now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:03 PM
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Same reason why they're totally fine with their girlfriends wearing barely there bikinis. So they can show their boobs and butts off to other men! So they can validate themselves to other men with how hot their girlfriends are or whatever. How much do men do that's really for just impressing other men?! Edit: See a lot of this on Instagram with some couples who are big time travelers. You will see a drone go through a hotel room or something and zoom in for a close up of the girlfriend's ass in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:38 PM
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Aw, that's fantastic! Yeah this sub is probably the only spot where I have felt safe to talk openly about this stuff and haven't had to fear push back or lashing out! 🥰 I do not mind waiting for your comment at all! Looking forward to reading that and hope you're having a good day or night! Also thank you very much! 🥰🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:17 AM
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I totally agree with you and I'm glad that my comment actually made sense cuz it's past my bedtime too! If you're feeling coherent enough I would love to read your longer comment! 😂 This is good conversation stuff right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:58 AM
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Wow I cannot love this comment enough! 🥰🥰🥰💪💪💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:15 AM
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💯💯💯 the point I like to make on that one is where the demand come from in the first place? Nobody provides a service for something that's not already in demand! And maybe some of those women thought if they're going to be treated like crap anyway they might as well make a buck off it! But still the bottom line is that men were acting like animals and wanted that stuff from women. I seriously wonder if that kind of male influence had never been around, would women ever present or offer themselves…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:54 AM
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YES! And some bizarre hypervigilance of feeling like you have to be one step ahead of them so you don't fall in any of their traps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:50 AM
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I don't know man for me the sex would not be good if all of that stuff was lacking because I would be so pissed off at that dude for being a deadbeat! 😂 I wouldn't even want him touching me! 🤪😆 Years ago I worked at a bookstore and there was a book we had called Sex Begins in the Kitchen and it was all about how the relationship outside of the bedroom makes or breaks what's going on inside the bedroom! The crazy thing is couples always try to fix the bedroom first instead of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:48 AM
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That stuff would definitely bulletproof most of it! They would need to throw in some serious affection and actual expressions of love and also figure out how to have good conversations and communication! Sad that any of that feels like we would be setting the bar too high!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:36 AM
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I so wish this wasn't true but it really really really seems like it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:35 AM
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There was one post on one of the infidelity subs where this guy was talking about how he caught his wife cheating and I don't remember what the whole post said but I asked some questions in a comment. This dude flat out said that his wife had been a great wife for 25 years admitted that he had anger issues and that he had walked out on her lots of times over the course of the past 10 to 15 years and by walked out he meant leaving the relationship for good is in leaving her with the house that sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:23 AM
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Sounds like he had the perfect cover so everyone would think you were nuts if you ever talked about his crappy behavior! Classic abuser! So sorry you went through that and so glad you're out of there now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:44 AM
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She could have found some seriously disturbing p*** or it happened more than once and she had asked him to stop and he just wouldn't or she had already talked to him about it. These men do not get that watching p*** is cheating because your bonding hormones are being released when you're whacking off to that stuff so you are bonding to that image. I love how they want to dismiss everything that they look at, all the women they check out etc as nothing because it's not them physically sleeping wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:42 AM
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A thousand times! Especially that last part! And all of that crap with how they wrap their identities and masculinity up into how tough they are how many women they've slept with and what kind of women they've slept with and how much sex they're getting and how crazy it is or whatever is only for their other dudes! It's only to show off for other guys which just blows my mind! Further dehumanization of us! And I don't even know what that says about their relationship with each other and how they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:36 AM
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If husbands would actually work on themselves to be good and decent human beings and actually good men and genuinely love and care for and be affectionate with their wives without strings attached the bedrooms wouldn't be dead anymore! That's the part they don't get! They don't bother with that stuff. They just want to start demanding sex or opening relationships up or trying all kinds of other crazy things to satisfy themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:35 AM
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Other men don't even need to be around for them to get like that! Absolutely crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:31 AM
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I think they exist but they're like the rarest of the rare, sadly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:03 PM
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The damned if you do, damned if you don't stuff is too true! It's been an insanely rare thing if I've ever felt genuinely safe with a man. And I don't just mean romantically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:40 PM
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It really is! I still have trouble with the eye contact thing because when I was younger and even sometimes now it feels like eye contact is just an invitation for trouble!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:42 PM
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It's insane to me how good so many of them are at the mind f******!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:41 PM
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That is another fantastic idea! I'm in my mid-40s and there are times where I will catch old men checking me out while they're with their wives or have their walkers and I don't even look my age! I've been dealing with older dudes doing this stuff since I was 12, including an older boss once when I was 14. Well actually he was a co-worker but he was in his early 30s and I had to work alone with him a lot. Anytime there weren't customers in the store he would be grabbing my ass. I feel like I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:39 PM
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I would really hope that it was a man finally getting it and presenting this to show other men like hey this is what we're doing to women and it's wrong. Sometimes men won't listen unless it's another man saying it although even still they're going to get called simps or pussies or white nights or some other stupid b*******. It's like we can't win. I almost feel like we have to be like the ants in A Bug's Life, when they got the understanding and realization if they all stood together against th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:10 PM
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I think there are some dudes out there who get it at least to some extent. Whether or not they choose to pursue that to completely understand and actually do something about it for real is the kicker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:09 PM
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Let us not forget about the ginormous tires! I had a guy friend in high school who somehow removed the backseat of his car so he could put bigger amps and subwoofers in there for the base of whatever he was playing. I hated being in that car and it was pointless to bother listening to the music because you didn't hear it! Just thumping bass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:55 PM
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Sadly there are jackasses out there who would probably be turned on by that! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:53 PM
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I started dissociating and having nightmares after something that happened to me when I was 5 years old so I think the dissociation was a big shield for me and was some kind of safe place for me to be in at least mentally and emotionally. And you are not wrong about the male driving stuff! I have seen women who have run red lights and jumped lanes but most of the s***** driving I've seen as far as tailgating aggressiveness speeding and weaving in and out is all dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:50 PM
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She's not lying! I didn't know whether to laugh cry or cringe at this so I think I did a combination of all three! Even more cringey is that there are methods out there to make fleshlights or sex toys that are molded from your actual body and I think you can do that with your dude's dick as well. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:38 PM
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I totally understand all of this! I didn't play sports but I felt like that as far as dancing went and especially dancing around guys! I always felt self-conscious about my boobs with that and running or anything for gym class!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:30 PM
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It blows my mind how incredulous some men are about that stuff. Meaning that we don't just exist for them. I don't know what made me think of this but I started wondering about the pain and deformation and mutilation women have gone through been subjected to our subjected themselves to for the male gaze over the course of history. Chinese foot binding lasted for 5 to 700 years. Corsets lasted about 300 years with the last 100 years being particularly harrowing with the tight lacing that got intr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:28 PM
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Wow! I'll bet none of them have ever had to do anything to hide or hurt their bodies or the way they walked for safety reasons. Or stop or leave activities that they loved or enjoyed for safety purposes. It is so unreal how blind they are to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:28 PM
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Yeah the only time I've seen it exaggerated is when models are showing off fashion on a catwalk. And I wonder who came up with that style of walking?! It looks insanely painful to me honestly and it doesn't even make the clothes look good as far as I'm concerned. One of the things I've noticed about photos of women for fashion and other products is that they're usually positioned in some kind of minimally sexualized manner but sometimes hypersexualized or just in a really exaggerated uncomfortab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:25 PM
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Yup! And I would love to read that poem If you ever write it! I get so frustrated when I'm constantly told to get over my past. I have worked my ass off to work through my trauma and pain and all that other crap and I'm not totally out of the woods yet but I don't want to bury my head in the sand and turn a blind eye to the fact that this is still happening. I would want to use it as fuel to fight for better things for both current and future generations. This is the thing that people do not und…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:20 PM
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It's sad that we feel like we have to divorce ourselves from our womanhood and our femininity somehow because they can't or won't figure out how to look at us as female human beings and look at our womanhood and our femininity correctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:17 PM
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Dear God, I hate to ask but who is Shane Dawson?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:15 PM
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I hate that it feels like our minds have to be in the gutter somehow to outdo them or be one step ahead or make sure we don't say anything that they can take and twist out of context and turn into something gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:13 PM
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Love it! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:12 PM
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Perfectly happy to dish out all kinds of garbage but can't take it, and they'll totally do their best to double down on you. Also to act like we deserve their nastiness and contempt while we on the other hand have absolutely no reason to ever be upset with them about anything they do. The audacity and entitlement are insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:11 PM
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Yup. Even if you try to explain about anything from your past, you'll be told it's just a joke and you need to let go of stuff. I can't stand crude humor for the most part, but especially not 'jokes' about rape or women being called whores, sluts, or whatever other horrible terms they want to use. I don't get women who do that either. Sometimes I wish there was a special island we could all disappear to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:03 PM
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Sadly, I think they've always been like this. Porn came from a man's brain afterall. Even before there was porn, they were doing all kinds of sexual/deviant art. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:01 PM
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Jesus God, are you serious?! 🤮 I would love to hear a man tell us why we should ever want to be with any of them. I would love to see what would come out of their mouths answering that question. I wonder if I would be surprised? 🤦🙄😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:55 PM
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I went through a phase once where I cut my hair really short and wore plainer frumpier clothes and also changed my walk to be as least feminine as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:44 AM
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And this is why I will also never listen to a guy tell me I'm overthinking anything! Because whatever it was that I was overthinking I was right about! Whether I found it out while I was with him or after I was always right! It's amazing how good some of them are at turning things around on you and making you think you're crazy when you're trying to call them out on their stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:28 AM
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The way some of them talk about relationships with that stuff it sounds like a business transaction! Like she better be doing XYZ work around the house if she expects me to pay the bills and blah blah blah! It's so dehumanizing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:31 AM
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Seriously! They just don't get it and honestly I'd kind of be afraid to tell them the stuff that we do because then our safety might be compromised!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:29 AM
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😂 Yes! I actually have big feet myself, but these boots were bigger with man-shaped footprints which made me feel safer! Edit: Sasquatches of the world unite! 🥾👢🥾👢👣👣👣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:11 AM
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The men's workboots by the door are a great idea! Years ago when I used to go walking through the woods, especially during the winter time, I would borrow my dad's boots cuz they were a lot bigger so it wouldn't look like the tracks of a woman in case somebody happened upon them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:02 AM
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Yeah honestly how does it help to just ignore it and grow a thick skin? It doesn't make it go away and how are you helping current and future generations to be able to overcome this or never have to go through it? I get frustrated because I'm a conservative and a Christian and I feel like a freak. I kind of feel like I don't fit anywhere. I'm also very pro-life though I didn't used to be and that's not because I'm anti woman but I hate the system that puts women in a position where they feel lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:36 PM
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You are not lying! It is nuts! So did you have some of these experiences like face to face? God bless you! Sending you big warm bear hugs! My son was defending someone on a post on YouTube and because he was a male defending a female he had other men calling him a simp and making other derogatory comments. So I had this conversation with him about how and when to speak up and God bless him he was so sweet he was like, I remembered what you said Mama about how too many men don't stand up for wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:15 PM
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It's crazy! It's totally all different forms of narcissistic mental and/or emotional abuse, coupled up with verbal abuse, let's not forget that part! It can be Uber frustrating at first because not only are you not being heard or understood or taken seriously but you were being shouted down and overpowered with their language. Their responses are over the top and they're nonsensical. And men and women both when I've had them go off on me about this stuff. It's very rare if they're not taking tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:34 PM
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Oh good Lord! So I was right to cringe at all of the ads and avoid that show like the plague back then?! We all know if there would have been a show like that in reverse men would have been griping and bitching from here to Kingdom come about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:29 PM
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Okay, just looked this up. It's amazing how they just skip right over that little detail about how he abandoned his wife and son. They just say he left and he was a 'renouncer'--and there was a prophecy when he was born!, like other people who have left families and other things in their lives for spiritual enlightenment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:43 AM
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I cannot believe the amount of jackasses wanting anal these days! My best friend just recently broke up with a guy, for many reasons, but one of the things she broke up with him for or got furious with him about was that he wanted it all the time. Like before it was just once in awhile and she enjoyed that but then he always wanted it and didn't want anything else! 🤮 Also when he returned her cat traveler to her it was still gross and dirty and looked exactly the way it had nine months ago! Bull…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:44 AM
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Oh my word the way that some women and men will lash out at you and try to shut down whatever you're saying when you talk just blows my mind! And you can tell there's just some crazy anger that comes out of them and it's nonsensical. That stuff is draining as well. Constantly trying to be heard, to make your point and just wanting to be understood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:38 AM
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Same here. And the stuff that we did deal with was bad enough! What's going on now is complete insanity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:22 AM
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Oh my goodness, this is fantastic! Can I please repost this on my other social media account? This feels like an amazing call to arms as it were! A declaration of independence for women! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:21 AM
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Too many of them who claim to know God don't actually know much about Him. Like God creating us in His image as well somehow means He subjugated one part of Himself to the other and declared it inferior. That somehow men oppressing objectifying and squashing us down is showing off the part of God they were made to. It's a massive distortion of God's image in them to say the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:17 AM
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🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:05 PM
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Wow! I feel like the trauma I went through when I was younger helped me to see a lot of things but it made me feel like a freak because it wasn't the norm if you know what I mean and fds was not around when I was younger. At least not like the way it is now. I'm so grateful for this sub though because there's so much stuff out there that messes with all of our heads and we need each other!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:00 PM
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DM away, sis! And thank you! I love your username by the way! 🐼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:59 PM
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Oh my goodness, I'm so so glad your mom and you were able to get out of that way sooner than most! Violent drinkers are horrible! On top of all that other stuff!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:58 PM
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Dear God in heaven, what in the world sub was that?! This is a sick world we're living in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:20 PM
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Good thing she woke up! I'm sorry either one of you was subjected to that but I'm glad she didn't stay in there longer than that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:10 PM
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And those assholes who want to pull that stuff out always always completely neglect all of the scriptures telling husbands and men how they are supposed to sacrifice themselves and lay down their lives for their wives and care for cherish and love them the same way they would their own bodies! They also fail to expound on scriptures telling fathers how to treat their children and how they are supposed to teach children what the word says etc. They also completely overlook how Jesus stuck it to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:09 PM
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Actually it's been around for more than 20 years. It's a helpful tool for a couple who's healthy to figure out how they each communicate and receive love to and with each other and when you do understand and learn how to speak it better, that's awesome! But in the hands of effed up people? Yeah, something used for manipulation, and excuses to be a s***** partner, or to excuse your partner's s***** behavior! But honestly people who are in that mindset will kind of latch on to anything to excuse w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:02 PM
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Wow, really? Okay I think now that I think about it more I'm starting to remember something about that! Blech!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:57 PM
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While he cheats on you with everyone he can!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:53 PM
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This right here! Too many of them are perfectly happy to suck the life out of us on damn near every level and excuse the living crap out of it. And their favorite excuses are the pseudoscience of evolutionary psychology and pulling out nonsense biology junkola. Funny how evolution only seems to favor them as far as they're concerned. I know recently when I was doing some processing of trauma I've been through the term 'leech' popped up in my head. And I was thinking more of how most men make me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:48 PM
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🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:03 PM
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Ugh! Your brother is an absolute ass! He of all people should be the last person to suggest such a thing to you! I hesitate to ask how he is with everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:02 AM
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Oh my God! I had no idea that was going on though I'm not shocked. Are there any links for articles about that stuff?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:00 AM
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I love this so much! Even if you bring this stuff up they'll still try to find a way to spin it against you. Completely nuts! But true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:59 AM
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I have always loved this quote! Also the, Though she be little she be but fierce! quote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:02 AM
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Wow that was amazing! I love her spunk! I totally have begun wondering more how these actresses feel with some of the crap they're put through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:01 AM
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Oh my goodness this comment a million times! I've seen this with men on the internet even when they give the pretense of wanting to take women's issues more seriously as soon as any empathy towards them is shown they will take that and skip right over any vulnerabilities about your own past that you've shown or there's a bare acknowledgment of that while they dive into the part that concerns them. I've seen that on a couple of subs here that I had joined initially to try and find better connecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:43 AM
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I was actually talking about all the awesome stuff that the person I was responding to has done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:12 AM
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Oh my goodness, I totally get this! That believing in potential and also not wanting to be another 'bitter female'! And also wanting to find actual love with a guy and believe that some guy out there was capable of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:09 AM
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I love this comment so much! That mommy healer therapist role is no joke! I am naturally a highly sensitive personality type and very empathetic and empathic and I think because of some of the trauma I've been through a functioning more in that role has made me feel like I have a purpose and it's a way to prove that I'm worthy of love if that makes sense. I didn't understand that about myself until recently. Or at least not in an aha kind of way. There were times where I was sort of aware of it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:08 AM
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There were a lot of weird Dynamics with some of my boyfriend's. A couple of them were mixed bags in that there was some really good sweet stuff there and they had some baggage when they're passed that they had not dealt with and weren't aware of cuz we were both really young. But my son's sperm donor is the only guy I dated where I really hate that I let him even touch me. Even though he didn't technically rape me physically I think he did mentally and emotionally for sure. He made me feel raped…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:58 AM
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Oh my goodness, sis, you aren't kidding with that! I have PTSD from a lot of the trauma that I went through which started when I was five so I lived with undiagnosed PTSD for 40 years. I find myself being re-traumatized in some capacity coming across different examples of the depravity of men. It's depressing and it's oppressive with how ingrained it is in our culture and how it's so much a part of the cultural atmosphere if you know what I mean. Like you just cannot get away from it. I've hones…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:50 AM
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I really seriously think this is why they're so angry or at least part of it. We're on to them and they know it and they hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:37 AM
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Or don't want to be treated like s*** by him in the aftermath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:36 AM
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I have dealt with a lifetime of trauma starting at the age of five mostly from men or guys somehow. The military was the main, primary reason why I did not hate men. We were sold this absolute lie that our military are our heroes, that they have impeccable character etc etc and I know I've talked about this in other comments on other posts but my broken traumatized little girl heart grabbed ahold of that as something to hope for. I held on to that throughout the majority of my life and still kep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:35 AM
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Why are they also so stubborn and fight so damn hard to stay despicable and justify every single last little bit of it? I particularly love when they try to pull out evolution and science to justify all of their s*** behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:27 AM
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And this is another reason why they need to focus on & figure out how to be deeply connected to their own hearts and selves, instead of their dicks. And even then that focus on their dicks, because they don't have the deep roots in their inner selves, is way out of balance, out of whack, and quite frankly, gross and dangerous. The majority of men are insanely gross distortions of who they actually should be. The males of other species are appealing enough for the females to mate with but for us,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:47 AM
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Oh my goodness this is a wake up call! A friend of mine recently sent me a short video a couple did talking about Are you loyal to the potential? Meaning are you with a person because they're genuinely a good person who you're compatible with or are you just being loyal to the potential you think you see? And it hit me that I've spent the last 42 years looking for the good in men, being proactive about looking for that and believing in their potential and that it's time to break up with that if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 01:00 AM
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This right here! 1000%!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:21 AM
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I think for me it's feeling disgusted by men. Like sex would be great with the right guy, but I don't want to be vulnerable to or let someone & their nasty energy into my body and soul!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:20 AM
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That seems like it could be a very distinct possibility! I personally have not seen that show but just from the bits I've seen of it, it definitely seems like it could be like that! Also a bit like Pleasantville from the late 90s!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:54 PM
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This a million times! It's a disservice to all of us for men to be disconnected from their own hearts. It would be nice if they got that! It would be nice to see more authentic true male friendships and relationships become the norm and not just men bonding over who's banging who, who they want to bang, and how much beer they can drink. Oh & I guess throw stuff about sports and video games in there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:24 PM
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That is a really excellent question to ask! It's amazing to me too because most of women I know have men and women both who they admire and respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:22 PM
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That is awesome! And that's a really good thing to look for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:21 PM
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I cannot upvote this enough! This a million bazillion times infinity plus one! It's the absolute truth! And I am so happy for you and your marriage! That's the way it should be! Jane Austen has a great quote where she says if you both seek to make each other happy then you will both end up happy! 🥰🤗 I know this example isn't the same but it just shows when people treat you well you respond better. So years ago I took a job as a nanny through answering an ad in my local paper. It sounded great & …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:54 AM
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That's it! I haven't finished reading it, but wow, has it been eye opening!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:58 AM
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You're most welcome, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:56 AM
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I totally get that. It's really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:54 AM
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Ooh, nice! I'll have to look that up and see if that's who I'm thinking of! Has she ever been on the food Network? I have come across some good gluten-free baking mixes too which I'm very excited about! I love baking things from scratch whenever I can but if I need something quick that's always a good way to go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:26 AM
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That's exactly it! Those rings totally give you a false sense of security!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:15 AM
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YES! 😂💯💯💯🍰🥗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:12 AM
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It absolutely totally is! There's nothing loving about treating someone like that especially over something that you have no control over. And awesome for you that you are a kickass cook! That's so fun! I personally miss baking and I need to figure out a way to do it to tailor it to my own health and dietary issues so I'm still working on that but it's so therapeutic! Cooking too! 🥰🥗🍰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:11 AM
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That is so sweet! A lot of men will read that and think that we're just entitled princess b****** while not understanding that that is a way that a man is showing love for and providing/caring for his wife! I'll bet your parents are absolutely adorable together and I'll bet your mama is sweet too! I'd also be willing to bet that your father was a great dad to you as well! 🥰🌞🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:08 AM
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The ways that men find it funny to torture us and taunt us and do a variety of other things to make us squirm and be uncomfortable absolutely blows my mind. A wife is always always always a reflection of her husband and his love and how he treats her, whether it's good or bad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:04 AM
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I wonder if deep down she actually hates her life and how things are. Not that she should be taking it out on you but I wish that she would be able to face that and face the toxicity of it. And it almost sounds like she's in some kind of survival mode and I feel like a lot of picmeishas are in survival/denial mode. It's awful. All the mental and emotional abuse that's constantly heaped on us from so many different sources. And good on you for all that awesome stuff that you've done and have and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:01 AM
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Oh my goodness I'm so sorry! I wish your grandmother would have told you how beautiful you are without that stuff and that you don't need it! I would love to see women celebrate their natural beauty more! The makeup these days looks like getting ready to go deep sea diving for your face and I cringe when I watch the videos of women making themselves up because I feel like they're covering themselves up completely, meaning you're no longer seeing their actual beautiful face. You're just seeing ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:56 PM
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I remember reading and hearing stories about women who would wake up before their husbands did for work so they could do their makeup and hair! That's insane!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:54 PM
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She looks like someone who's in a refugee or concentration camp. That is so sad and how do they not get that she looks like that because of what her husband did to her and has put her through? Men are so blind to this stuff it's heart-wrenching and frustrating on levels I can't even put words to. I feel like it's pointless trying to talk to them at all. Even if you are completely logical insight all kinds of facts and what women have been going through for the duration of human history they will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:54 PM
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Indeed! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:30 PM
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Ah, wow, okay! I was sad to see that the subs for military MST and something similar didn't have much going on. Didn't think to check anything under 'veteran'. Good tip! And yeah, it's mind-blowing how common it is! 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:12 PM
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That makes total sense! I also get the snark factor because of what so many of us have been through!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:20 PM
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💯💯💯🙌 Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:18 PM
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Oh wow.....so sorry for your friend! 💔 I've heard some horror stories on that and there's a lot of stuff I've read on different things as well. I've been trying to figure out which subreddits would be good to check out to get a fuller picture! Like hearing from more people who have this personal experience as opposed to just articles who are written about people here and there if that makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:16 PM
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That second part you said about how men have been stacking things against us on purpose is a recent revelation. I mean there are ways that that was obvious but coming across things like this and finding out about so many prominent historical successful men had women in the background who were waiting on them hand and foot which enabled them to do what they were doing. I wonder how many men wouldn't have made all the advances and discoveries and whatever if some woman wasn't taking care of everyt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:13 PM
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I could not believe that even as recently as the '60s women could not open bank accounts on their own or have credit cards on their own. Their husbands had to sign for them. I think maybe single women were allowed to have bank accounts but not credit cards at some point. That is completely insane. It's mind-blowing frustrating and honestly heartbreaking how so many are so blind to this stuff that's staring them right in the face. I also think if you're dealing with a guy who you're compatible wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:08 PM
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I would love to see that! Is that a clip you can find on youtube?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:05 PM
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This reminds me of an account I read of how some men reacted to women wanting to run for office back in the early 1900s I believe? I've got to look it up to find the specifics but they put a woman's name in the ballot on purpose or let her run on purpose hoping to shame her and hoping that she would lose. She ended up winning! Boy were they pissed! 😂 😂 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:03 PM
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Very cool! Thank you so much for sharing that! Those are some interesting correlations for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:00 PM
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Ugh! 🤮 That is just nasty! Sounds like they just want to drag women down to their level instead of rising up and actually being the best versions of themselves. I honestly think the hero worshiping is why and how they've gotten away with this stuff for so long. Why the public will not call them to account at least not with a loud outcry. Some fringe people or some voices here and there, although I hope it's gaining momentum with more and more women MST survivors who are speaking up and hopefully…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:16 PM
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This! Extremely disturbing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:11 PM
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That is interesting! Do you have any links with some cool articles to read? That tie in with masculinity is a huge one! Because of the way this stuff is sold and packaged to us the military is the whole reason why it did not hate men after the trauma that I went through at different stages in my life. And all of that's come crashing down over the past couple of years. But it didn't hit me until last week why so much this stuff completely outraged me on such a deep level. Like it went past just b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:19 AM
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Oh my goodness! First off I am so so sorry for your loss, new friend! That's horrific and insane! 💔😓 I have often wondered what's left in the wake of all the freedom fighting. Particularly with the ties to prostitution trafficking and everything else I'd mentioned. Along with the things you've mentioned as well. I've recently begun wondering what the UK military is like. What exactly would a standing army look like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:00 AM
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Oh my goodness, do you mind if I ask what you've read? And I totally agree! Although I didn't until very recently when I started coming across stuff and I was just flabbergasted! We're totally sold this lie that our military are our heroes and that they are supposed to be the best of men and represent the best of the goodness of men have impeccable character etc etc!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:39 AM
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Totally agree with you! And that's part of it right there! 🙌💯 Women seem to practice more self-control, and I'm definitely not okay with objectifying a man for my own pleasure. The couple times I've tripped up into that I just really didn't like it. I didn't like being used and I didn't like using someone else so it spoiled the exchange. That doesn't mean that I haven't been horny over the years but it's how you deal with it! 😂🤗 But talking about the military culture, specifically, it's hypersex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:37 AM
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Do you have a link for that? I still hate that song with a passion! It's not empowering to women at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:10 AM
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🤗🥰🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:09 AM
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I haven't seen that or heard of it but you are spot on about all of that! I feel re-traumatized watching things like that and I think showing the aftermath would be way more effective. Also showing that rape is not always violent. But not through the rape itself. More like the after effects and talking about it by showing the character and therapy or talking to their friends eventually or something. I think anybody who shows that stuff graphically is contributing to the problem because it's legi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:00 AM
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What?! I did not hear about that! That's disgusting! How do these assholes get away with this garbage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:55 AM
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Oy, I'm afraid to ask!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:54 AM
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That is one thing that always bothered me and does when I try to watch reruns. The same thing with Seinfeld with Elaine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:46 AM
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Ugh, really? Everyone I know who loved it loved the historical aspect of the show and defended all the violence and sexual stuff because that's how it was back then, etc. Had no clue about anything with the books! 🤮 I love history but I'm not willing to subject myself to looking at or reading garbage like that because it's not necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:44 AM
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They don't care! I remember years ago there was a movie produced by Sundance I think that showed 12-year-old Dakota Fanning's character being raped by an adult male. They caught a lot of flack for that and their excuse was trying to show the reality of whatever and to make the audience uncomfortable. Um, how is a 12-year-old not going to be traumatized from having to film a scene like that? I'm an artist but I honestly get sick of people pulling that excuse out to show all kinds of disgusting be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:43 AM
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💯💯💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:28 AM
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Even without the war zones the military is still nasty like that! You can look up any Military academy in the States and practically any base and find sex scandals connected to all of them or damn near all of them! Also the sex work industry flocks to military bases the world over and stateside! A lot of times when I've gotten into this conversation with people I'll get, Well, testosterone, fit men & women, and they're so young, and for so many it's their first time away from home, of course the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:19 AM
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I felt like this even before fds was ever a thing and I don't know if it's just from me being an HSP/empathic person or the trauma I went through as a kid or a combination of both. The discomfort over that stuff showing up was real! And I always felt it in a pit of my stomach. I don't understand why they have to be so damn graphic with things anyway. You can get the gist of stuff without having to show all the graphic nastiness because I feel like that's almost as bad as p*** with rewiring peopl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:13 AM
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His very first album cover if I'm remembering it correctly made me want to vomit! It showed some nasty ghetto scene with a white woman passed out on the street slumped up against a fence. Paper bag over her head with her shirt ripped open and something with her skirt too. And some nasty graffiti on the fence. I was telling a friend recently that I don't know how we get over our individual trauma when we keep seeing and hearing this crap everywhere we go--and through the entire course of our live…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:07 AM
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🤮🤮🤮 Everything about that song the video and the stage performance at whatever award show was which I couldn't stomach even watching a second of is just so filthy and vile! Also didn't Cardi B drug and rob men? And try to pass it off as like that was her only option or some crap like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:00 AM
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Wow, that was a fab comment too! Also totally love your username! One of the other selling points that these people have is by saying well these people are happy and it works for them so whatever! That's not their best selling point honestly because like you were saying it doesn't mean they've done the inner work and it doesn't mean that they have a relationship that is formed through emotionally healthy hearts. And plus if you haven't dealt with your stuff and you're in denial of course you're …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:48 AM
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💯💯💯 That totally makes sense! And I'm so sorry for the pain you experienced growing up! How are things for you now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:41 AM
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I totally understand that! I think all of us have those horrible moments or horrible relationships in our past! But that's the important part! They are in our past! On to better and happier things and hopefully relationships as well! I'm glad I found this sub as well! 🤗🤗🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:01 AM
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Same here! And you are so welcome, awesome lady! 💯💕🤗🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:47 PM
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That would be interesting! Honestly everything I've been reading on this stuff, & all of it's been very pro whatever, makes me think it's not all it's cracked up to be! More times than not it's men who get women into all these different things. Even if that's not the case, a lot of it seems rooted in fear. Fear of not being enough (One person can't possibly meet all of someone else's needs! That's too much pressure & ridiculous unrealistic expectations!), Fear of being cheated on, which some of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:32 PM
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Love this comment so much especially that last paragraph! The whole thing is pure poetry! Particularly the part about the skills! 💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:38 PM
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Not exactly the same but talking about the male perspective of this stuff it reminds me of the 40 Year Old Virgin with Steve Carell. All his buddies were shaming him and trying to get him laid. He wanted it to be with someone special and it showed him waiting until his wedding night which I thought was really nice because that's not something you would typically see when it's something male centered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:36 PM
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There is so much trauma that people sustain during those years and it seems like it's more women than not. Not that crazy crap can't happen to men but as far as prevalence and frequency is concerned it's mostly women. Just cuz your body's able to do something doesn't mean the rest of you can handle it. This push with, Well teenagers are going to do it anyway so just keep pushing them to do more and more and more! is completely insane. Would teenagers feel so much pressure to be starting things s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:34 PM
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First off I love your username! It's not so much the concept of sex itself as it is the concept of letting a violator in. Like the idea of sex with an amazing guy preferably the right guy honestly who genuinely loves and cares about me and is attracted to me and where I feel the same about him is insanely appealing! But the idea of anybody coming near me who's just an icky slime ball? Heck no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:30 PM
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💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:26 PM
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I love everything about this comment! Especially the last sentence! And also the point of false intimacy being created by the release of bonding hormones! A lot of people really really do not get that part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:25 PM
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Ewwww is right! It's disgusting how many people think this way! Like sexual compatibility is the pinnacle of everything! The big time deal breaker! Um.....you can be sexually compatible with a sociopath!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:24 PM
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I had this happen with a couple different guys during video chats. They ended up taking screenshots and I felt so stupid and embarrassed. The one guy took photos of my drawings off my one social media account and post them to his making them look like they were his own which I didn't discover until very recently. I don't know how he was able to hide that post. And he did it shortly after we started talking as friends! I'm afraid to say anything or do anything about it though because I don't want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:19 PM
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It's easy to dissociate during sex I guess. You can shut down your mind and your heart or be disconnected somehow. You can still hide inside yourself. It's totally effed all the hell up and it's totally backwards, but yup! I'm starting to wonder if everyone advocating for all of this free sex and free attitudes is really because people are using it as a substitute for intimacy-- feelings emotions being connected to yourself and having a good relationship with yourself and being able to have good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:14 PM
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This is totally legit. 3 months is usually your honeymoon stage and it's easy to catch feels through sex and stay when the mask does fall and you start seeing his real character if it's not good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:09 PM
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💯💯💯💯💯🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:57 PM
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For a lot of us that we're not like other girls face is also like we're not like those bitter feminists who hate men even though we've gone through horrible abuse and everything! There are a lot of men who are pleased with that and are more concerned with that than they are with all the stuff that you've gone through. And usually your personal experiences are dismissed in some manner and even if you make a case for how women around the globe are still going through this stuff and how women have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:45 PM
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The other part of this is feeling like you have to prove to men that you're not bitter or hateful in spite of all the trauma and abuse you've been through whether it's mild or extreme. None of it's really mild honestly though. But I feel like there's a lot of mental and emotional abuse to women collectively. I feel like men love it when we empathize with any of them over the things that they've been through and some will be good at returning that but there are a lot who just kind of stop right t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:29 PM
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Or they'll say things like, all men are assholes but not me! Usually accompanied by a laugh or a laugh emoji. And the ones who say it like that are actually assholes themselves which you will usually find out at some point. The guys I've seen who aren't actual assholes don't talk like that typically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:23 PM
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This a million times! Also how so many of us will bend over backwards to try to be understanding of what someone went through and how they ended up the way they did while we get kicked to the curb and who tries to understand us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:52 PM
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Wow that line where you said that's like prey explaining to its predator why it's wrong to prey on it is spot the heck on! One of the other things I've dealt with at times is feeling like we have to prove that we don't hate all men in spite of everything we've been through. Like that's the thing that's focused on. Not the trauma or the abuse that we've been through. I don't even have words to explain how disheartening and even sometimes traumatizing it is to be treated like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:11 PM
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Yeah I think a lot of guys don't get that and I don't know how many of them would actually give a crap. I write a quote somewhere and I so wish I could remember what it was but it was a guy, some kind of a psychologist or something maybe?, who was talking about how dangerous it is for a woman to trust a man sexually because of how open and vulnerable you have to be and because of the fact that he is literally entering your body and becoming a part of your body during sex. However he worded it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:04 PM
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I actually just had a conversation recently with a male friend who confided something his ex-wife did to me because he didn't know how to talk about it or what to call it. He said he and his wife got married pretty young and at some point she started hanging out with a lot of male friends and she said they were just friends. I guess their intimacy waned? So one night I don't know if she came back from somewhere but they apparently had really great sex and she was doing things she hadn't done bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:02 PM
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I agree with this 1000%! Especially that last line!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:54 PM
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Also men who actually do the deep self work of getting connected to their hearts and properly rooted to their masculinity do not behave like that. They'll speak against it and how damaging it is and what it does to the man in addition to how it affects women and their relationships. Men aren't taught, and I don't know how many care to learn, how to have those deep roots within themselves because they wouldn't go running around acting like immature adolescent selfish narcissistic jackasses if the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:52 PM
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There should be a post just about that! It's eye opening in one of the worst ways when you overhear your guy friends talking together or with their other dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:46 PM
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That makes total sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:43 PM
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Ugh, revolting! Glad you found out when you did and were able to leave! I can't believe anyone in your circle actually gaslit you over that especially after what you found! Sometimes you wanting to snoop is your gut telling you that you need to snoop! I'm so sorry you went through that on top of what you found out! When people react that way it makes me wonder if they're doing similar things and hiding similar things themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:40 PM
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💯💯💯 men checking out other women has always bothered me like my whole life and I always felt like a total freak when I was a teenager and young adult because you're constantly having the message thrown at you that this is just how men are. But women feel wrong about it intrinsically intuitively at the deepest core of their being. I've heard some guy say that cheating for a man is like the most devastating thing that can happen to him and I've told them that this is the same thing! It hits us tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:13 AM
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Because they know exactly how other men are going to be looking at their girlfriends! Somehow I guess she means something to them and they don't want her being treated like that but they have no problem treating other women like that which is complete hypocrisy! Same thing with their daughters. They don't want their daughters being treated like that but they have no problem treating other men's daughters like that. 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:20 AM
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Oh my word, I wish I could give you the biggest hug right now! I can't even imagine everything you went through! I'm glad you're safe and like someone else said that you made it out of there alive! I hope and pray for your healing and wholeness......Thank you get to be free from all of that stuff and don't have to carry that crap around with you for the rest of your life! 💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:18 AM
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I think it was on an anti-pornography sub where a man was posting about the difference in how he viewed and felt about women once he quit p***. And he said that he noticed that he respected and cared about women so much more when he quit! That was remarkable to me and there were other men who'd also quit who completely agreed with him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:14 AM
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I think everyone knows that this is all wrong. But people are in extreme denial! I hate sex work because it's completely degrading and exploitative and because women should have better freaking options than that b*******! Whenever I've seen stuff on threads where people are like, stop shaming women for making a living!, I don't think anybody's actually doing that exactly, we're more shaming the people who are exploiting her and society fighting to keep that as an option instead of wanting things…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:07 AM
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Women damn near always stand up for and protect each other with that stuff! I'm glad you at least had her! That is definitely on my list as well! I must feel completely safe with him at all times! As far as boyfriends go I'm not sure if I ever had one that made me feel completely safe. Possibly my second boyfriend. And one really great guy friend who I knew I was completely safe with all the time and never felt like he was wanting something from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:47 AM
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Yup! I will say that I was just reading a post by a woman talking about how her boyfriend is that type of guy to stand up for women and how he's gotten into physical altercations with other men. Like some of these a** guys are scary as s* even to other men. She was talking about that and loving that he stands up for us and that he does something about it but that she's scared for him too sometimes. That's one of the other things about masculinity that drives me nuts is how s*** so many of them a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:44 AM
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This is true. Honestly one of the things I've been pondering is how do you truly get over it also when it feels like we're surrounded by it somehow. Not our personal experiences but just this stuff constantly happening if you know what I mean. And so many of us constantly being gas lit about all of it. 🤗🙏🌞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:41 AM
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Dear God, you're not kidding! Sometimes it's almost downright traumatizing! One time I was staying over at my best male friend's dorm years ago and we were both talking on the phone with a good friend of ours. He was on the kitchen phone and I was on the bedroom phone and at some point he asked me to get off the phone because he wanted to tell our friend something. I don't know why, I just had this weird gut feeling that I needed to stay on so I pretended to hang up and very quietly listened as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:38 AM
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Wow that sounds like more of that super fun evolutionary psychology they used to justify every stupid crappy thing they do. I've seen that more times than not women are capable of being empathetic and caring about men and others just because they're human beings but more times than not it seems like men who want to get close to you at least want something from you. Either sex or a relationship. Then they get mad at you for friendzoning them and part of why you friend zone them is because you pic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:40 AM
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This a million times! Don't know that it falls in the same category, but it sort of reminds me of times when I'd somehow end up overhearing some of my guy friends' conversations with other dudes. My heart would sink and I lost all respect for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:30 PM
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This is awesome! Might be checking Etsy out soon, though I'm more of an earring girl! Years ago I had a beautiful pearl ring that my grandmother had left for me. It fit the ring finger on my left hand perfectly and I wore it on there because honestly it's the most comfortable on that side. Sadly something happened to the ring over the years but people would always ask me if I was engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:23 AM
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And this is another reason why I don't want to hear crap about how men are protectors. Protectors of what?! Like I said, God bless the dudes who actually do that stuff but they're the anomalies and the exceptions, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:06 AM
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Pretty much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:06 PM
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ME TOO! And thank you so much! Oh my goodness I can't even tell you how many times I have thanked God I didn't marry that guy! He minored in women's studies in college! I had been really good friends with him in high school and he had always been one of my favorite people. We reconnected after he got out of college--I thought that was kind of odd but really sensitive of him. So I thought oh my gosh this is so perfect! He's one of my favorite people and we're soulmates and if anybody would be sui…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:11 PM
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It is depressing, and damn I'm sorry you've experienced that too! I think I had a genuinely good connection with two of my boyfriends for real. Although one of them I went through a mixed bag with him because he had a lot of issues from some things from his past and I don't think he was aware of them. We were both really young so I don't think either one of us were aware of any of our issues. Not that it excuses any of his garbage behavior because it doesn't but he had a genuinely sweet side. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:26 PM
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Good Lord! That's insane! I'm very thankful that guy didn't do anything more than just yell in your face although that's horrifying to say the least. The more and more I come across these stories and think about situations from my own life, and my friends as well, the more it blows me away how women have to protect other women from this stuff because too many men won't. Very occasionally and rarely you will find a guy who will and God bless those dudes but most guys are not like that. I commente…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:16 PM
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Oh my gosh I laughed out loud at your response to those guys! That was so great! It's amazing how men and women both will lash out at you when you try to stand up for women in these areas in any capacity. I haven't been in a situation like what you're describing in a really long time but I have seen some things on social media and get so much nasty stuff in return when I try to stand up for the people that are getting dumped on. Like one example there was a woman I used to follow who posted a me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:51 PM
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I totally feel like that too and you can tell the difference between somebody who is straight up using you versus someone you're connecting with. Although sometimes some guys are pretty good at faking you out for a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:16 PM
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You totally rock! 💯💯💯 I'm glad that you said and did something, plus I think sharing things like that gives other some good ideas for things to do if they don't know what to do in those situations. Also love the mansion idea! 💕🥰🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:57 PM
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When I was 13 years old there was a time where my friends and I were at the mall and there were these 30 something year old guys just leering at us like salivating wolves! It was so vile and disgusting it could make your skin crawl. I don't know that we caught them actually following us but they sure seem to be popping up everywhere we were so we ended up calling one of our parents to come get us the hell out of there. I don't remember if we told our parents what was going on either because I do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:55 PM
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I was reading about this once and the woman who was talking about it made a really good point in saying that all the terms men use sound like something they're doing to us and not only that they sound like they're at a construction site. Laying pipe is the newest one I think along with jackhammer for popularity and it just sounds disgusting because it is totally dehumanizing. The way too many men talk about us is just so completely revolting. I wonder how people would react in the general public…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:46 PM
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I agree with this completely! When you love and are genuinely loved in return you can't help but be generous with each other in a variety of ways!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:42 PM
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I had a 17 year old come on to me when I was 13 and it freaked me the hell out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:40 PM
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Exactly! And the fact that her parents and his parents would be pressuring her to stay with him in the middle of all this stuff grosses me out quite frankly. They should be doing their best to keep her and the kids safe and care about that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:14 PM
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I don't know honestly but if you've read any of her tweets or whatever about it, it's like oh I just hope we can get through this kind of stuff. I really think that she has been seriously brainwashed and I also think that her parents along with his parents are probably pushing her to stay in the marriage and probably telling her it's God's will or some garbage like that which it totally is not! I also wonder if she's in some kind of denial because this stuff is so overwhelming and I cannot imagi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:13 AM
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It is very seductive! So is the well I don't think it's all men or it's not fair to put all men into this category etc etc etc. For me it was the hope that you would be able to come across some constructive like-minded men who would get it when you communicated well and/or hoping that there were more good men than not out there. After 42 years of that I have burned out. I've experienced trauma the hands of men and just about every stage of my life somehow. And seeing that this stuff is not only …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:57 AM
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I don't even understand that! She literally has biblical grounds to divorce him times 10 or more! Being faithful to your spouse does not mean sticking by them through this kind of b*******! Like how are you protecting yourself or your children?! I hope she wakes up sooner than soon! Especially as she is pregnant with her seventh child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:50 AM
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Lots of conditioning grooming and gaslighting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:46 AM
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She's pregnant with their 7th child right now. She literally has biblical grounds to divorce him. Part of the other problem with I would say the cult that they're a part of is that they don't teach their daughters to be or do anything else, literally, which isn't even biblical! Especially when you look at proverbs 31 about the wife of noble character. That woman could do all kinds of amazing things! It is heartbreaking how they literally raise their daughter's in a spiritual prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:45 AM
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I love everything about this! This is something I've been praying about in pondering for a bit now in this provides some major awesome clarity! Yeah it's definitely not something you're supposed to try and emulate! There's a lot of cherry picking of verses and twisting of scripture to keep us in our places while they conveniently ignore all of the charges to fathers and husbands and men in general, especially where women are concerned. 💯💯💯🌞🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:42 AM
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Perfectly said! 💯💯💯👏👏👏🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:28 AM
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Oh my goodness, that's awesome stuff!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:33 AM
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Wow, I didn't know that about the house design! They made things weird! No physical affection or contact between the brothers and sisters and no doing laundry of the opposite sex? I'm all for modesty but you can take it to an absolutely ridiculous crazy unhealthy level where it's not just about having healthy boundaries but basically communicating to your sons and daughters that something is wrong with them from the start and that they've got things to be ashamed of from the get-go. I knew about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:51 PM
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THANK YOU! 👏👏👏👏👏💯💯💯 It is supposed to be leadership that mirrors the character of Christ which means it's loving and its servant based. It's supposed to be leadership that sets people free and gives them a safe space to grow and flourish into the fullness of who they were created to be. It is never something given to lord over people or squash them down, abuse or use them etc. So refreshing to see other people who get this! 🥰🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:46 PM
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As a Christian I completely support and agree with everything you said! So many things have been twisted to suit men and it's garbage. They forget that Jesus told them not to lust after a woman or they've already committed adultery with her in their own hearts. They forget how Jesus stuck it to the patriarchy and stood up for women and honored them, including women that culture really spat on, very publicly also I might add. They forget that husbands are told that God won't even listen to their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:43 PM
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Heavy emphasis on the word, EVERY! Like capitalize that thing! And maybe in a stand out color!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:38 PM
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This is the absolute truth! Is avoiding eye contact on the list cuz that's a big one! Also keeping any verbal interaction to an absolute bare minimum if it can't be avoided for some reason. Also wearing sunglasses, if outdoors! Pretending to talk to someone on the phone? Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:33 PM
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That would be epic! 🌞🌞🌞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:09 AM
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Here's another aspect. Is he also showing that she wants him so she's pissed that he's playing video games and ignoring her? That's this guy's fantasy?! To not only have this woman but put her in a position where she wants him and he's ignoring her? How hateful is that! 🤮 Everything about this is gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:37 AM
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Oh good Lord with the beards! Close shaven and nicely groomed beard, okay. Long scraggly beards, no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:29 AM
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🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 I hate this so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:01 PM
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Yeah and so much of that stuff seems to be initiated by men but then you will also read stories where a guy's like, My girlfriend wanted me to do this to her and she liked it and got off on it so of course I did it! 🤦🤦🤦💔 Like dude, just cuz a woman wants something or is offering something doesn't mean you have to take it or do it if it's wrong! Treat her with respect and dignity anyway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:14 PM
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That connection you mentioned between p*** and people like Ted Bundy is a huge one and it boggles my mind how people overlook that, throw it off to the side and utterly scoff at it. Your thoughts and what you're consuming with your eyes and ears will always take you somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:13 PM
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You said this perfectly! I wonder how many people's persons are being held up by other people who won't let them go. Meaning if you're with somebody and you're not sexually compatible the push these days is to open up the relationship and add in more partners or go do all these other crazy things instead of doing the self work and therapy or instead of breaking up and finding someone you are compatible with on every level. I think a lot of people have major issues genuinely connecting with someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:11 PM
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Says a lot about the relationship! What so many people fail to realize is that the bedroom is merely a reflection of what's already going on in your hearts and heads. So deal with that and get therapy if needed and that stuff will be better automatically because chances are you'll be healthier on every level and you'll be in a position where you're having a healthier relationship with your partner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:07 PM
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That is one of the things that blows me away! And it doesn't matter how constructively or diplomatically you try to have this conversation you're going to get backlash from all of them. And part of the backlashing will be them talking about how they care about this stuff but it's not fair to lump them all in together and simultaneously insulting us and putting us down and also not doing a damn thing about all the bad stuff. And usually they will make it personal somehow by aiming nasty insults &…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:03 PM
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This a million times! That is worded perfectly! That's the part that frustrated me because it made it look like her value and her beauty were dependent on her makeup and not just her amazing self! I want to see the fullness of women's amazing selves without that stuff if you know what I mean. Because we're not things or decorations. I remember somehow coming across a 19 year old model on Instagram and I just remembered thinking good God she's just a kid! And all the likes that were there broke m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:08 PM
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I've actually had the same exact thought about those videos. Like she's completely covering herself up while she's talking about how hot or attractive she is to counter some jackass's insult. To me it sounds very mixed messages like somehow you're not hot or beautiful enough until you have that full face of makeup. I would rather them do that in reverse because they are completely beautiful without all of that. The way makeup is today is so very different from when I was younger because it looks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:43 PM
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That always breaks my heart! Especially when it so alters that woman's appearance. Like you can tell Courtney Cox got cheek implants, and there's no way she needed them! Same thing for Catherine Bell. And Meg Ryan. These women were all beautiful and did not need those surgeries! 💔 It pisses me off because I feel like they're natural beauty was distorted. Not that it's completely gone but it's distorted. I've never seen that with male actors. If those dudes do get any work done it's nothing like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:10 PM
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Oh okay! I thought they were actual publications.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:46 AM
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Oh yeah! Sorry if I wasn't clear about that. I was trying to be delicate because honestly it just makes me gag that children are exposed to that stuff or that adults want to expose them to those things so just even mentioning it is difficult. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:13 AM
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There's a book called Bad Pictures Good Pictures which is supposed to be a really good way of talking to kids about pornography and Internet safety. I think they have one that's geared for younger kids and then one that geared towards the older kids. The book that I mentioned, from all the parts of it that I was able to see, was wildly inappropriate and was more of a grooming thing in my opinion. I seriously hate how proactively they're pushing this stuff on our kids!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:57 AM
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Thank you for this! I really wanted to see what they were! This is completely infuriating and when I was in Middle School or high school I was very excited to see Sassy magazine come out. They did not use models but they used regular looking girls and women and they had articles about all kinds of issues in addition to the fun stuff and the fashion stuff. I don't know if it stayed like that for its entire run but for the first couple of years that I got it it was an amazing magazine and it was v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:48 AM
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Truth! 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:18 AM
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I remember the outrage raised over that article! That was completely insane! And they're minors! A few years ago I got lots of backlashing over something I posted on Facebook. It was an article talking about a sex ed book that was going to be on the library shelves at an elementary school and it was aimed at 4th graders. This book taught them how to put condoms on and how to give themselves an o! Fourth graders do not need to know those things! I had all kinds of people lashing out at me about w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:52 AM
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Oh my, what is the Chive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:50 AM
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Yeah those same dudes will also tell you that you're being overly sensitive, can't take a joke, or will say something serious and when you don't respond to them the way they want you to they'll say they were joking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:44 PM
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And also hoping you will take the bait to try and boost their ego to make them feel better about themselves. Fix them, whatever.....I have busted my ass to work through my stuff and take responsibility for my healing process and those guys need to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:20 AM
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I felt this one! Was just thinking of this very thing today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:14 AM
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Oh my goodness that's a huge one right there! And I haven't seen where the men actually help each other in those situations to be better human beings so it's not a benefit to us and honestly it's not really a benefit to them to be that way either! I do very much appreciate groups of men who are able to be vulnerable with each other and encourage good growth and encourage them to be good to their wives and girlfriends and their kids! I just wish they were more of the norm and more mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:35 AM
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I have heard that! I so wish I wasn't allergic to cats! I love them they're so sweet but I am so horribly allergic. I'm allergic to dogs somewhat too, not quite as bad, but I love all of them so I have to enjoy videos and stories like yours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:34 AM
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That's the confirmation with your kitty cat right there! Animals don't lie! 💕💕💕 So happy for you, awesome lady! 🤗🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:58 AM
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I think you're most definitely right about that last part! 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:09 AM
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The whole thing's so sad and things would be so much better all around if they'd bother with their own self-work! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:00 AM
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This right here! A thousand times this! 💯💯💯 None of us want to be fighting this. It would be nice if men cared about the kind of men they are and fought to be the best versions of themselves and actually encouraged other men to do the same instead of this backwards crazy nasty stuff they end up doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:50 PM
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Thank you so much! I will say it took me a while to get over that and it made me question doubt and feel bad about myself for a long time. I don't think I would have felt like that if he hadn't had the reaction he had and if I hadn't been ousted by people who were supposed to keep my identity concealed. But yes, in a way better place now! 🥰🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:41 PM
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Yes! That's one of the things I've seen men do is coach each other on how to hide things better specifically looking at other women or p***. Like if those guys find out that their wives or girlfriends have issues with them doing that they'll coach each other on how to hide it better. And sometimes they'll do that with financial things as well. I had a friend who got very upset with her husband because he concealed a massive expenditure. And I've used that argument when people talk about feminism…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:23 PM
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Me too! And that's great to hear about your friend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:21 PM
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Ugh! Good Lord! I think we have those same attitudes over here in far too many spaces in the States as well! And you're totally right about the reasons why there was less divorce. A lot of women were also trapped because they only had one car and usually the man used it for work, if the wife stayed home, and if she didn't then they had to share the car. It makes me appreciate my father so much more at least for my early childhood! He was very involved with my sister and I probably more than my m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:20 PM
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Ugh, disgusting! Also horrific grooming because those are people with a position of power and authority and influence and I remember reading somewhere that it compounds the abuse and adds an element to it that makes it worse. I think the situation with the one teacher who is found out to have complaints or charges against him regarding sexual misconduct started when we were in our Junior year. And I don't know how it started but I do know that that girl had a massive crush on him and sometimes w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:11 PM
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I think most men have no clue how to distinguish themselves from women and don't want to be associated with us or anything that's even remotely resembling us so they hate their own hearts and their own emotions because they dismiss them as being 'girly' and 'weak' and they police each other on this to keep each other in line with that. I also think our feminine beauty and power unnerves them. All women are beautiful and men don't know how to actually see our beauty properly so they judge us in s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:07 PM
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And they still blame women for the breakdown of the families not the men who cheat abandon &/or abuse their wives girlfriends and possibly children. They blame women having that, We can do this by ourselves, ladies! kind of attitude. Those women had to after everything they came out of and after having mindsets they had to be dependent on these men somehow. The other women I know who are single mothers were foster mothers and adopted those children or adopted children period. There are some wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:56 PM
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I've heard of the nice guys sub but what exactly is that about because I don't think I've checked that one out enough to know. I did come across the where have all the good men gone sub and that was disgusting! 'P****y pass denied' is another nasty sub where they mock awful things happening to awful women. Like instead of discussing whatever the issue is they rejoice and cheer over these women getting their 'due justice', according to them. For example, one post was a video they had showed of a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:22 PM
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Good God! That's disgusting--& that's absolutely horrible for that girl who almost had to drop out from that! 😠 There's a reason why things like that are part of the storyline for movies like Legally Blonde, Moonstruck, and Miss Congeniality! The other thing that totally sucks about these situations is that all the ways they happen aren't provable in a court of law. There's usually no witnesses around and there's no evidence to collect. We had that garbage when I was in high school, only it was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:14 PM
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Your mom sounds awesome! And she was smart! You definitely don't want to make another mistake with that not just for yourself but also for your child! That's another factor with the dating thing for me and other single moms I know! Just tacking more on to this it's seriously infuriating that these guys have problems with single moms. What about the guys who cheat or who abandon their children or who are abusive jackasses? And I know I've probably already said this in another comment somewhere on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:01 PM
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I'm a conservative myself and that aspect of things where I am really pisses me off. It seems like it's a means to distinguish themselves from liberals. It's sad, really. And I hear you with the avoidance thing! It's also sad that it has to be like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:58 PM
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It could be possibly. I haven't tried cross-posting anything since the new stuff kicked in. It was a really great post and this guy just saw that it came from here & that was it! And he was so offended that I would post something from this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:19 AM
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I've heard of that book so I will have to check that one out! I've seen even just from lurking on the YouTube channels when I was first looking up red pill MGTOW MRA etc. I could not believe the straight up hatred in the comments! And then on certain subs here! It's scary and it's scary how so many of them will cover for and protect each other. 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:16 AM
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💯💯💯💯💯🙏 And where is the hate for the men who abuse the women and/or their children necessitating the mothers getting themselves and their kids away from those guys? I've seen men blame feminism for the single mom life, the rise in single motherhood, and women's attitudes that they can do it without the men and how harmful & devaluing that is. Did they ever wonder why women have those attitudes? A lot of those women had to wake up from feeling like they could never make it without a man and feeli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:13 AM
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I think you're right, and I've recently & slowly been coming around to that conclusion. I have come across some guys who are genuinely upset because they don't want to be lumped in with the s*** heads, obviously not the guy I'm talking about in my comment, and I get that but the ones who behave like this and say these horrible nasty insulting things I think know deep down that it is about them because they do whatever the stuff is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:08 AM
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Good Lord, I guess that's just easier than taking responsibility for themselves, doing some self-reflection/introspection, or fighting what actually needs to be fought, which is the abuse, instead. Victim blaming also requires absolutely no growth or self improvement self-reflection personal responsibility etc. It feels like there's no way out of this because we're going to be fought at every turn by men and women alike. How do we handle these things? I've been stunned at how so many just want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:04 AM
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Woohoo! Thank you! 🥰🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:51 AM
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Yay for that! Totally rooting for you, sis! 🥰🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:51 AM
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The other thing that blows me away is that one of the selling points for this stuff is how the women supposedly control everything. Like the action starts with them dancing and playing with each other till they're comfortable enough for the men to join in and they're the ones who call the shots on who the couple sleeps with or whatever. All of this crap is spun in a way that is supposed to be female empowerment. I had a new friend recently who I actually had to drift away from because of her hus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:50 AM
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Wow I was not aware of the hatred for single moms. What is their beef with us? Every single mother I know who is a single mother myself included is a single mother because we needed to get the heck away from abusive exes or someone walked out on us. Also have you noticed all of the commercials for supplements to boost men's testosterone so they can recapture the vitality of their youth? Is there anything like that for women? I think the most I've seen has to do with vaginal dryness that's connec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:44 AM
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I totally agree with this although I will say it would be nice to see some on different social media platforms speaking out against this stuff because so many people are on social media, especially the younger more impressionable generations, that it would be nice to see more of them on those platforms making a difference and having a good influence/impact. 🙏🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:38 AM
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I have been thrilled when I've seen men's groups in the church that bring those passages to light because too many times in Christianity throughout history verses have been twisted around and cherry picked to hold women down while simultaneously completely neglecting what the Bible says about how husbands and men are actually supposed to be! That's awesome that you had that experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:37 AM
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This could be its own post! Everything here is so well said! And their crying out about hypergamy blows my mind because they're the same people who will throw the books Sex at Dawn and evolutionary psychology up at us to justify everything they're doing. The ways they hate on us and the ways they make our femininity look seem and feel like a liability sometimes makes me wonder if they really just want a bunch of complicit men but with boobs and orifices for them to screw. The coaching conditioni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:35 AM
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I remember years ago when I was in college before the internet I had visited my male best friend at his college and had stayed with him in his dorm room--at his college they had the students mostly in apartment type dorms as opposed to just rooms connected to bathrooms. One day one of our mutual friends called and he was on the phone in the kitchen, I was on the phone in the bedroom and at some point this particular friend of mine wanted me to hang up because he wanted to tell this guy friend of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:33 AM
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The other thing is even if you're discussing the commonalities of violence against women and what so many women go through with so many men instead of engaging in a constructive conversation with you most men will troll your profile or go looking up something to find some way to counter what you're saying. Like look this thing over here makes you a hypocrite or women do this stuff too here's an example of the very few times that women have done XYZ as compared to the thousands or more times that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:30 AM
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Wow, really? How do you mean? Asking because I'm not very familiar with those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:21 AM
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Back in the day they used to call it p**** whipped or just whipped, although I think that mostly applied to a guy in a relationship who actually outwardly showed his affection. It's completely nuts! Unless they know a guy is doing it to get a woman to sleep with him they mock anything nice they do. Although I think they mock that too. Unless they're being ruthless PUAs they get mocked and put down. It's not directly related but this also makes me think of the men who do the chest thumping shouti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:20 AM
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Ugh, that one jumped out at me too! And the men are the ones more times than not in relationships to suggest swinging open relationships or polyamory or just adding in other people somehow. 🤦🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:16 AM
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Was wondering the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:12 AM
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So glad you got out of that situation and are in a better place now! 🥰🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:12 AM
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Wow, where is that comment? And I'm so glad you're in a much better place! Thank you also for all the encouragement you gave me on my post last week! 🥰🤗🌞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:11 AM
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And that knowledge is also why they all freak the f out when they find out they're having daughters and why they get so overprotective when their daughters hit puberty. Even if they weren't/aren't jackasses, they know how other guys are. The system works against the good guys too because if any of them dare to speak out against the garbage and try to stop it they are mocked and shouted down as well. It's nuts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:10 AM
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💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌 And that right there is part of why the generalizations exist! Because we do not see that rejection of the garbage behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:01 AM
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I've seen this with guys on IG who are men's coaches/relationship coaches. For the ones who are getting it right, actually talking to men about how to get deeply rooted in their hearts, how to cultivate a right relationship with a woman and be someone who is safe for her to be with, etc, and I'll have to double check this, but a lot of the comments seem to be from women. The self-proclaimed alpha males who do a lot of chest thumping even if it's about how they protect their wives and their kids …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:00 AM
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Good grief, that's terrible! And yes, witnesses and victims especially should be way more protected! I'm so sorry that happened to your friend! Is your friend okay now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:50 PM
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My favorite part! 😂🥰🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:03 PM
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Oh my word one time in college I had a friend who was filing some kind of report against one of our professors. She told me they were looking for corroboration and basically put it on her to find other people for that purpose. I was at a place in my life where I did not always know what was what if it wasn't obvious so I told her about some of the things that I went through with this professor and I don't know if they were legit bad or not, mildly flirty or just the professor being nice. Like he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:00 PM
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Um, because she was in a position of authority and power and could actually kick their butts if they did hence them coming after you instead! Wow! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:57 PM
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Did they get fired or did you? Asking for clarity! And good on you for reporting it! 🥰🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:47 PM
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These are awesome! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:44 PM
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Oh my word! What in the world? And what in the world do scarves around their necks have anything to do with being in touch with their femininity?! I'm thankful I haven't read either one of these books! I saw enough about Sex at Dawn and I think the guy who wrote it has articles on Psychology's website and I hated them! That was enough to turn me off from ever looking at his stupid book but it's still quoted like it's legit science! Especially by men who use it to legitimize and justify garbage b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:41 PM
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💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:27 PM
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Ah, that would explain a lot! I don't think it occurred to me about men posing as women there, but it makes sense. Goodness, these dudes sure do go out of their way, don't they? 🤦😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:24 PM
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Wow! Total defensiveness! Not even a hint of empathy or compassion or incredulousness that it's happening. That sadly is the typical reaction you get from men when you try to talk about these things and the frequency and prevalence of them. Even sometimes with women although their responses will be a bit more on the calm side but it'll still be things like well that's anecdotal or that's your experience. All of it's completely invalidating for the ones who go through this. Good on ya for stickin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:12 PM
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Yeah I've always been flabbergasted that the response to us talking about all the crazy stuff that we go through individually but collectively is not all men! Like why isn't it instead, holy God this is insane that this is happening so much and we need to do something about it?! It's just sticking their heads in the sand and it accomplishes absolutely nothing. And saying not all men has been going on for decades and it hasn't made any of this stop. If anything it's gotten worse, way the heck wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:05 PM
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Adding this on to say that I completely agree with everything else you said. Most of the men that I have seen with very rare exception will have some kind of a temper tantrum in response to you criticizing them in any way shape or form. And the criticism doesn't even have to be something that's bad, it's anytime you challenge them or question them. Sometimes the response I've gotten when I've tried talking about that is, well how did you say whatever you were saying? Because women are also coach…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:44 PM
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Oh my gosh that part totally sent me as well. Also the part about your husband won't mind if you cry once a year! Like what the hell? Women aren't supposed to be like men. We have our emotions for a purpose and a reason and it's a good thing! And EVERYone is responsible for their thoughts and feelings and actions. Sometimes when I read this stuff it makes me feel like too many men just want us to be like men but with boobs and asses. 'Why can't a woman be like a man?' Professor Higgins! I got to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:38 PM
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Piggybacking off of some of the other comments you made I get livid when some of them try to say that locker room talk means nothing and it's just stupid conversation boys being boys kind of stuff. And my head I'm thinking no that's who you actually really are and any niceties you put out for us are to trick us into thinking you're some great guy when you probably just want in our pants. Then they get angry with us when we call them out on that stuff. And again I'm thinking why don't you call ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:20 PM
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😂 about that last part! And yes this guy had a conversation with said that he gets crapped on by other men anytime he stands up for women. I think he mentioned that particularly happening where he works. He said the other men will call him feminine or weak or other things like that. It's complete Insanity and that kind of behavior is also why a lot of men who go through sexual abuse themselves don't always feel like they can even talk to other men about it because a lot of other men will mock th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:15 PM
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Oh my word, wow! I didn't know red pilled wives was such a thing and I'm guessing tradwives is the traditional kind of stuff where you think of June Cleaver wearing pearls while she cleans? Or the Duggars? And yes I have been completely stunned with how popular the book Sex at Dawn is. Apparently that dude literally just studied one species of monkey or ape and decided human beings are just like them! That one is mentioned a lot and my heart dropped through the floor when I first started seeing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:34 AM
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Ooh, girl, you said it! That evolutionary psychology stuff is an absolute joke and only works for the men. Or at least they only use it for themselves. Which is hilarious but when you want to talk about the securing resources part they resent women while spouting off that that's our evolutionary thing. It doesn't even make sense like how are women supposed to secure resources and be able to be attached to one guy if all these men are running around spreading their seed? And how many resources do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:54 AM
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Wow, I never thought of it like that! 🙌🙌🙌🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:22 AM
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It's extraordinarily disappointing! So apparently some people think that with the more degenerate stuff like apparently there are a lot of conservatives in the swinger population it's because of how they grew up being restricted or some junk like that. As for the red pill stuff I tend to not follow those guys at all because they just make me want to gag. Had not heard about white Sharia! What on God's green earth is that? There are some conservative people, male and female, I follow that don't s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:31 AM
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Absolutely! Just speaking as a Christian personally from my faith it's horrifically ironic because when you read the gospels Jesus actually stuck it to the patriarchy and stood up for women, very publicly I might add, who the culture was spitting on or didn't value at all. That gets totally overlooked as well! There's also a verse somewhere in the New Testament where it basically tells husbands if they're not loving their wives well or if they're neglecting them God won't even hear their prayers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:18 AM
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Oh goodness I forgot about that one! Isn't that where they're talking about having a bazillion women they're sleeping with? 🤬 Literally every way they talk about women is so vile and degrading. It's not even for connection or relationship purposes. It's literally to punish us and get back at us somehow and use us for bragging rights with their boys. What they fail to realize is there's nothing about that behavior that actually validates their masculinity. It does the exact opposite and makes the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:10 AM
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💯💯💯👏👏👏 Oh my gosh, as a Christian woman that kind of teaching pisses me off to no end and it's not even biblical! That's a****** men who have cherry picked and completely misinterpreted scripture to oppress women! And they're the same men who will conveniently ignore all the charges that are given to men about how well they're supposed to love & cherish their wives, take care of their children, and what kind of men they're supposed to be! I am a mother and I do believe that's a sacred thing but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:04 AM
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Check out the 'Men are not made of porcelain' post in RedPillWomen! This did it for me! And look at the comments from some of the dudes coaching women on how to approach them! 'That's the problem, women just want to complain and vent their emotions, men are solution oriented so come with constructive criticism.' I can't even look at this anymore cuz I will throw things! Where are all of the people coaching men on how to approach us and talk to and listen to understand and love us?! While I agree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:49 AM
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Ah, this! Yup! It's so completely hateful! The alphas out there who mock the betas and mock women like us for speaking against this stuff don't seem to realize that they actually look extremely insecure and like they've got some issues they should be in therapy for. The scarier part is how many men and women follow them and fist bump everything they say. I also hate it because just true confessions I'm a conservative woman and there's a lot of dudes like that in the conservative camp and it's gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:34 AM
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Let's do it! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:25 AM
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This! 💯💯💯 The block and delete is fantastic, particularly when dealing with someone who is legit unhealthy or toxic or dangerous, because sometimes it's worse if you try to explain things or let them know you're cutting things off because those types will use that to hook you back in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:24 AM
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What do you mean? I'm sincerely asking because I'm not aware of where in the mainstream this is happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:13 AM
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I'm not totally sure either. It seems like it was pickmes? I didn't stay long enough to check it out because whatever I saw to begin with I wasn't liking. The thing I would most love would be for men to wake the hell up and either grow up and stop doing this stuff get therapy whatever or if they're not doing this stuff actually stand up against it and fight this stuff with us instead of yelling at us about how great masculinity is which actually proves nothing because they're literally doing not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:11 AM
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I feel pretty much the same! That's the other thing that blows my mind. Women have literally been through the ringer with men for millennia and we still have not been going around raping and killing anyone. Or assaulting harassing objectifying etc anyone either for the most part. When people bring up that women do awful things too I will tell them we know that and that's true but it's not a commonality and that's the difference. I actually had a good conversation with a guy on another sub about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:59 AM
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I don't know if Incels fall into the red pill category but it's so bad and dangerous enough that a few books have already been written about it! Those guys are whining and bitching about us not giving them sex and complying with their every whim. We're complaining about things like sexual harassment assault rape domestic abuse domestic violence abuse of all kinds period, stalking, revenge porn, all of the objectification degradation and dehumanization that women are still going through after how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:52 AM
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Oh my goodness, I love that! That's so sweet! That's great that you both are so well suited to each other. That's the difference maker right there! Thanks for sharing that awesome story! That gives me a lot of hope! And honestly I always love hearing people's happy marriage stories, especially when you see & hear how well a husband loves his wife! 🥰🙌💖🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:18 AM
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That's a brilliant assessment! Silent collusion......💯 All of the garbage about youth and beauty and attraction to certain specific body types being touted as indicators of fertility--like no other type of woman body type or age has had healthy children?! They need variety and one all kinds of sexual experiences with all different kinds of women because they need variety and because they need to spread their seed which again is garbage. They're not actually trying to spread their seed and if eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:00 AM
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Wow, that's awesome! How did you guys meet? Very happy for you guys! 🥰💖🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:09 AM
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Wow, God bless that brave woman and good for her! That outcome was totally worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:17 PM
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The evolutionary psychology stuff is so irritating because it sounds like pseudoscience designed to allow these types of men to get away with doing whatever they want and putting all kinds of women down in the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:50 PM
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I'm in my mid-40s and honestly I would be fine with a dude who was 10 years younger than me if we were suitable and compatible with each other. I look much younger than I actually am and I feel much younger not maturity-wise but in other ways. But younger than that, no. Now I have seen certain celebrity couples with age gaps like that where it's older woman younger man. Hugh Jackman and his wife, another British actor I think Maxwell Caulfield, the president of France. And a lot of those couples…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:48 PM
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This is spot on. 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:36 PM
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Wow that is a really great way to look at it and that's very true! I used to beat myself up about that and feel weak and stupid among other things until pretty recently when I realized that I did those things for safety. I did those things to keep myself safe in that moment. Will definitely be checking that stuff out! Thank you so much for sharing all those things with me also! I appreciate that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:42 PM
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And yes to doing things better so future generations of women don't go through this and also so future generations of men don't get sold this garbage masculinity thinking that this is what being a man is cuz it's not! We deserve better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:31 PM
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Something occurred to me recently when I was having a conversation on another a subthread that I have since left. Some guy was griping about the sexual assault trainings that he's had to go through and women who have been sexually harassed don't get to call themselves victims cuz it's not like they were raped and left bleeding to death in an alley. I personally think that is a cop out that allows men to get away with all kinds of behavior, if it's not extreme they're not doing anything bad right…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:31 PM
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That is so very true! I didn't even know about the term toxic positivity until recently and it was extremely helpful to have a term to place to some of the things I've seen out there. And I've appreciated more people who are in mental health care and self-awareness type of fields who call that stuff out in those areas as well. The other place I see it show up a lot is with gym rats. There are some great people out there who do fitness stuff who do not engage in that overly aggressive crazy stuff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:18 PM
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Thank you so much! I really really appreciate that! And that is seriously great strategy to have planned a spa time and self-care time to have as back up!!! Seriously that's such a great idea! And honestly a big part of why I started opening my mouth in addition to it being for me was for other people who feel like they can't talk about it or stand up for themselves. Especially when it was on other people's posts that were just cruel and nasty. I felt like I was fighting for other people too and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:13 PM
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Holy cannoli! I totally relate to everything you were saying about the freezing! I did that with a lot of situations whether it's in a relationship or with jackass bosses. Part of it was being afraid to upset or rock the boat and being retaliated against and fear of rejection because of something that happened during the trauma I went through and I was five but I didn't recognize or know about the fear of rejection part until much much later. I think I've done the same things with fantasizing ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:09 PM
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Wowza! That's awful but I'm so happy to hear that your friend is married to a great guy now and is in a better place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:06 PM
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I don't know if this was in reference to my story or not but I ended up dumping him after he got violent with me. I went on to a relationship with a guy I'd been friends with in high school and we ended up engaged and he ended up being horrible. He minor in women's studies in college which to me at first seemed like he was a sensitive guy who would get me and be a good support while I was trying to start sorting through my past junk. He ended up being an NPD male who I believe used that stuff so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:52 PM
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Thank you for those book suggestions! I forgot about the body keeps the score. That one I've heard of. I'll have to check out the others! I have found researching things like that to be really helpful in addition to the actual therapy. Yeah social media can be crazy. It seems like there are some who are highly favored when they share their stuff and have all kinds of people empathize and sympathize with them and then there are others where that is not the case. For my specific examples I wasn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:30 PM
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That is so awesome about your family! And crappy at your friend! I've experienced stuff like that too where people are like you need to stop dwelling on it and let it go just move on blah blah blah. I was like if it were that easy do you not think I would have done that already?! Have you been able to find a good therapist to see? I'm so sorry that you went through all of that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:19 PM
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Oh my word, what the hell?! Good Lord I'm so sorry you went through all of that! But to have them say that stuff on top of it is horrible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:28 PM
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Thank you so much for your concern! Those are good points. I do have a therapist I've been seeing which is good but I do want to talk to her about whether or not she's trained in things like EMDR as one of the other ladies mentioned. Holy cannoli, it's ridiculous and crazy how careful we have to be about everything! On one hand there's part of me that wants to bust the stigma of all of this and to let people know they're not alone with what they're dealing with. On the other hand there have been…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:58 AM
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Disgusting and outrageous how common that is! I'm so sorry you've been through it too! The gas lighting is real! You're just upset because of your stuff. This isn't really happening to other people or it's not happening as frequently as you think it is! You can't look at all men through that lens! Etc. 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:08 AM
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Thank you for this! It always feels like somebody's ready to throw something at you about stuff. I guess I should specify what I'm talking about anger I want anger that makes me feel good and feels healing. I've experienced anger where it's the bitter side of it and I needed to feel it at the time but I didn't want to stay there cuz it just made me feel ugly on the inside. I don't know if I'm saying that in a way that makes sense. Anger is a good emotion to have for sure and there are a lot of g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:05 AM
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I just had a conversation with a friend on a DM about this just now. I am so sick of being told that my opinion is anecdotal based on my experience. Even when I'm telling these people that every woman I know has been through this crap, that I'm reading about other women who are going through these things now and flashing back to parts of my own life because they're the same freaking stories, when I'm talking about the rampant sexual abuse and rape going on in the military where it really does lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:02 AM
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This right here! Spot on! 💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:54 AM
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Wow, that's amazing! I'm so glad that helped you! Oh my goodness.....I don't think it was something I realized until I was talking through this stuff as I was commenting, it was definitely something I had never pinpointed myself before. I'm very much a verbal processor so sometimes I'll have realizations like that while I'm in the middle of having a conversation or making a comment like the other day! Thank you too for your empathy and for being here! It's appreciated more than you know! 🤗🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:27 AM
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Oh my goodness, you ladies are amazing and awesome! I appreciate all of your responses so far and have taken all of them to heart and I do want to respond to them individually because I have things to say and I'm so grateful! Just right now I'm feeling a little bit wiped out from all of this but I just want you to know that I love and appreciate all of you! 💖🥰🤗🙏👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:34 AM
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I have more to say on this but I am so overwhelmed by your comment right now! This made me cry in good and bad ways. In good ways because I so appreciate the empathy like you wouldn't believe and in bad ways cuz it breaks the hell out of my heart how many of us have these stories and how many of us have these stories when we try to talk about our experiences. I hate how many women, and men too who have been sexually traumatized because I've spoken with several of them who felt safe enough to tal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:12 AM
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Damn that is sad but it makes sense. It's really sad to me to see women who have gone through this stuff lashing out at people like me. It recently occurred to me that they're in some kind of trauma survival mode and some kind of denial. Weirdly it also feels like there's collective trauma that we're all still going through. And lashing out and defending the men seems to be some women's coping mechanism. It's a huge system that needs to be freaking dismantled and shut down to the ground! Keep fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:35 AM
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This is true. It sucks when you feel like you've been trying to speak out and get help for most of your life and usually not finding it or finding people who are willing to throw 30-second pity crumb nuggets at you but not willing to stand by you while you're going through the healing. I encountered a lot of this in the church unfortunately. Some straight up jerks, some well meaning people, some who just don't get it, who just want to fix you right away and get frustrated if you're not being fix…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:32 AM
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YES! I just recently found out about that last one for the helpmate! Wow, was that one eye opening! And finding out about the original Greek for wives submit to your husbands and then it does not mean what we've all been taught it means and it was something actually way more awesome and empowering although I can't remember what it was off hand because I've only heard it once! There's a verse in Jeremiah 31 where God talks about doing a new thing on the Earth and it says something like a woman pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:28 PM
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YES!!! And thank you! It's insane how shit behavior is the norm for far too many of us. The other shitty part is this guy was doing this crap to me beforehand and when he saw my boyfriend wasn't doing anything about it, that's when he looked over at him and grabbed me. He'd never grabbed me before like that, just the other garbage which was bad enough. So he escalated his shit behavior when my boyfriend did nothing to stop him. That same boyfriend raped me (it's rape when you're in pain, tell yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:25 PM
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Plus a lot of dudes become cops after their military service. I hate that we have to be wary of people who are supposed to protect us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:53 PM
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And this is why trauma therapy or some kind of mental health services, rehabilitation or whatever should be an absolute requirement before those guys go back out into society! Good God! My heart breaks that you went through that! I am never shocked or stunned when I discover some bizarre, over the top, or gross sexual thing being connected back to someone in the military. Three major pornographic publications were all started by men in the military--Hugh Hefner, Larry Flynt, whoever launched 'Sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:52 PM
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💯💯💯 And don't forget all the access to sex that the uniform draws! Some men on a sub I was reading where someone was asking about people's sexual experiences in the military talked about how they got laid way more than they ever would have if they hadn't been in uniform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:28 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:47 PM
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Wow, I'm so sorry for those women! I hope they've healed over that trauma and that they're doing better! Yikes! I've been so disillusioned by our military over the past couple of years after everything I've come across! It's sickening. Most of it had to do with the rampant sexual abuse and rape within the troops and out of control sexual behavior of all kinds. Plus ties to prostitution and trafficking along with all kinds of sex work. The sex work industry flocks to military bases the world over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:12 PM
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So true! And so sad.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:52 PM
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I know it's not the same but just along the lines of men not changing their behavior and women having to leave or change something about their lives, my friends and I had to do that with an under 21 club we used to go to back in college. We started hearing stories and reports of women who were being raped and assaulted in the middle of the dance floor and no one being able to hear them over their screams so we stopped going because there was no way in hell we were taking any chances with that. D…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:51 PM
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One of my first thoughts besides yikes! was holy crap she needs to report him! And then it was what would that have done? I wonder if anyone would have cared. Kind of reminds me of the military with this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:41 PM
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Holy s! I'm so glad that you and your mom are in a better place now! I am a Christian myself and I am appalled to see all the ways this stuff gets twisted, cherry-picked and weaponized against us because it's absolute b**** and not even biblical! It breaks my heart when I hear this stuff no matter who it's happening to but it's specially when people are doing it in the name of God! 😡 There's a great book I want to check out called the Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire. She and other Chris…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:16 PM
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Cannot love or upvote this enough! Especially that last part! Ding ding ding & bingo! That's exactly why men are all generalized! 🥰💖🤗🙏🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:10 PM
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Especially when they sell it as being empowering and that it's not a big deal because people know it's just fantasy or some stupid crap like that. Our thoughts always lead us somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:35 PM
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This is another reason why I'm so sick of people saying not just, not all men, but also crap like, women are just as bad. Women don't do this s***!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:56 PM
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So true! And the responsibility is always on the woman to deal with it. I actually saw a meme that a woman I used to follow posted where she was chastising women for constantly talking about how s***** men are. And she was like why do you keep putting up with their crappy behavior. Stop being a victim! And there was sort of like a year better than that kind of thing but they caption underneath the meme said stuff like oh did I trigger you? And I have been noticing her posting these weird memes o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:42 PM
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Yessss about the venting here! And thank you so much for that! I really appreciate it! 🤗🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:37 PM
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Everything right here! I've absolutely had it with people acting like women brought all this crap on themselves basically because we stood up for ourselves after centuries and millennia of towing the line. That's the part that people don't get. Even when women were doing everything right following every single social protocol dressing perfectly from head to toe etc etc we were still being treated like crap and we were still being forced into a corner. And the disconnection isn't just present wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:33 PM
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I'm thankful you know better now too and you definitely deserve the best, queen! 👸🌞🥰 After all the stuff I've come across over the past couple of years and even just earlier today I am so disillusioned with the military now, actually sickened. The majority of them seem like they behave like out of control frat boys and girls on steroids. Don't even get me started on the rampant sexual assault and rape happening to both male and female service members, of course by male service members! And all t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:14 AM
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Oh my good God! This right here a million times! Especially the sticking it to purity culture part like somehow flipping out and going off on the other extreme is awesome! Nope! And it's not empowering at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:10 AM
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I haven't had sex with a man in years although I did dally a bit in online stuff last year after 15 to 16 years of nothing. Quickly recovered from that but seriously I do not want to be vulnerable in that capacity with anybody until I know I'm with the right guy because I'm not a dumping ground for some jackass and I'm not anybody's fleshlight. I don't want to be open to whatever toxic energy and garbage they might be carrying around with them. I really don't need a dick to get me off that bad. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:07 AM
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Egads with the flipping thirst traps! That's one of the things I do also with any man who follows me on social media. Most of the ones that I follow are fellow artists and follow a lot of actual artists and legit businesses. Like actual interest pages and things like that. Not the jackasses who have 5 million women on there with their boobs and asses hanging out all over the place. I have mixed feelings about that. On one hand I feel frustrated and angry that these women are posting all this s**…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:56 AM
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And if most men aren't like this we wouldn't still be dealing with all this b******* for so much of our lives in one form or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:52 AM
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It does constantly. Or too much anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:42 AM
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Thank you a million times for this! Not even kidding it is incredibly validating! Over the past couple of months from both men and women I have had people absolutely rail at me when I have challenged them about this stuff or just challenged anybody about this stuff. Typically when I engage in a conversation I try to be as diplomatic as possible and stick to the issue and not make it personal. I had two different women in two different conversations about these types of subjects collectively tell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:41 AM
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That makes total sense. Someone's got an agenda somewhere. And people talking about how this stuff doesn't actually affect you, look at this study about how porn doesn't do anything to you and how trafficking and p*** aren't connected at all! I've seriously seen people try to argue those points and claim wacko studies to back them up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:47 AM
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THIS! And the thing is they're crazy to men and women alike! I got that stuff from both men and women about trauma and abuse that I was dealing with. I went through some abusive stuff with my mother and we've worked through this but it took a really long time and it took me a long time to get to a point where I told her that the stuff she was doing was emotional abuse and gaslighting and that literally no one would be okay with that and just take it, that my response was completely normal and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:42 AM
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This! I got the bipolar stuff thrown at me and the you have mental problems and should be locked up in a mental institution kind of crap from people I was gaslit by. And it would always happen right after some kind of verbal abuse or some other crazy junk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:50 AM
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Holy God, if I held on to resentment the way these guys do after all the abuse trauma and bullying I went through at their hands? Eesh! If you even bring that stuff up they'll tell you you're acting like/being a victim and no wonder you're still single, among many other insults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:38 AM
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Holy cow! Good riddance! Unbelievable how some dudes never give up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:47 AM
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Yikes! I don't blame you for keeping an eye out! How long have you all been together and how long has he been in the military?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:43 AM
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How is that empowering at all?! That's honestly just gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:42 AM
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I voted for Bill Clinton in 92 and when that stuff happened I lost all respect for both of them! She not only stood by Bill but she lied along with him & also stood by silently while all of his victims were shamed in the public court. She still has never once apologized to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:39 AM
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This kind of stuff is one of the arguments people will use for stuff like swinging and open relationships polyamory whatever because it's inevitable that it's going to happen so just figure out a way to incorporate it into your relationship! Um, no! And more times than not with that stuff it's the man pushing the woman to do it. I can't even tell you how many stories I've read our videos I've seen with couples where the woman was hesitant to do it but she decided to give it a try and now she jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:32 AM
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This is excellent advice, my friend! While I don't feel the need to argue with them further, I have to say it felt like a very healing thing to let them 'have it' as it were. I stuck to the issues & made my case, but I got to say it to the jerks who needed to hear it but also for those men & women on that sub with a sexual past who were being judged and shamed by these assholes. Both men & women were doing it, but mostly men with the whole I want a virgin and it's completely reasonable for me to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:06 PM
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I so wish this wasn't true but it is. I don't think they can face what they've done and I think they really hate it when we speak against it because we're holding a mirror up to them and they don't like what they see. Instead of dealing with it they throw it back on us. It's just sad all the way around because I don't think men were created for this and I think that they were made for greatness and I think women were made for greatness and there are too many men who choose not to pursue that and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:28 PM
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I was told I was a scumbag twice this past weekend by someone on a Christian based dating sub. This guy also told me that I was an embarrassment to our faith and that he hoped the sub blocked me so I couldn't continue spreading my horrible nasty misandrist advice. Because they found out I belong to this sub and they didn't like that I was calling these guys, actually some women too, out on judging a woman, well actually anybody really, for their sexual past and basically saying that that person …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:18 PM
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What an ass! Oy, I have no words.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:49 PM
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I totally get all of that! What an ass! Glad he's out of your life! 🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:46 PM
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Eesh! More blame shifting! And more fighting for control over us. I can't believe that that is still a huge thing or is a huge thing now! That is absolutely unbelievable! That's like when people try to blame feminism on all of the problems nowadays and on why men can't behave properly or don't know how to behave properly because they're so far they're going to offend us they're walking on eggshells blah blah blah. Even when women were obeying every societal rule and protocol and dressing properl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:20 AM
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Thank you again, awesome lady! 🥰🙌💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:52 AM
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Good grief! What about the woman possibly getting stabbed?! How are you supposed to feel safe with someone like that?! 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:45 AM
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As it should be! Rock on, sis! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:21 AM
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Yikes! And that's an understatement! I think I read somewhere on this sub to look out for guys who always talk about crazy exes because chances are they are the reason why their girlfriends are crazy or they really did something horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:20 AM
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Dang, that's a call the cops moment right there! What a jackass! Did your brother help kick his butt out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:14 AM
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THANK YOU!!! And yes! Jesus was a classy dude! 🙌 I straight up told them if I'm good enough for Jesus then why am I not good enough for a fallible human being? I totally went off on them and at some point I told them they were being a bunch of arrogant pricks just like the Pharisees. I got called out for that one too and I told them that after presenting my case, very biblically I might add, like with complete and total scriptural backup from the Old and New Testaments and also speaking on basic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:56 AM
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Oh my word, seriously?! That's absolutely horrible! I was warned by a friend of mine that some people will automatically ban you from their subs if they find out you belong to this sub! Women calling out misogyny really ruffles some insane feathers there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:43 AM
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When I first saw that I felt outraged too. But now I feel a little differently. Where is the outrage over women being raped or harassed or murdered? This just hit me since you brought it up but they can certainly mobilize themselves when they care enough can't they? 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:28 AM
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Right?! It was even more incredible to see how incredulous these guys were that so many of us were pushing back against them. And what's wrong with them expecting someone who's living according to their faith, etc? Someone can be doing that and still have a past. It's in their past--why are you judging them for something they can't change? And they just kept saying this is how they're wired and why should you get upset about their preference anyway? Why don't you just find someone who's attracte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:00 AM
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You mean about worrying about their own selves instead of protecting women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:44 AM
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This a million times! My new give them what they want and what you think is going to get love from them they end up resenting you for it or using you and degrading you. And in some cases punishing you and making it seem like it's your fault for giving into their demands. I don't know if this falls in the same category but similarly how women are taught not to take men's b****, or maybe more appropriately that you have to show them you're not going to take their b**** in order for them to respect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:43 AM
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It's sad how much that happens. Outrageous really but it's heartbreaking and sad that anybody is going through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:00 AM
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The kid who kicked the one girl and then the one who actually did this with his bike to the girl who fell, neither of them had any emotion on their faces afterwards, especially the kid who knocked her off the tracks. He just started biking on like nothing happened! Women giving men everything they've wanted thinking maybe they'll finally be loved in return doesn't work at all! It's like when you give in to an abuser or a bully instead of putting your foot down. It just gets worse and that's what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:07 PM
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Sadly though they've always behaved this way collectively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:00 PM
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And if you've dealt with any trauma at all in your past, and chances are you have if you're female, you never seem to get over it because you're around stuff like this at some point or constantly hearing about it, because it's still happening. Men I know who have been sexually abused or traumatized in their past go through this too around other men. I'm sick of hearing about how women are just as bad because no they're not. Women do not do this or behave like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:58 PM
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I'm in my mid-40s and I'm having all kinds of flashbacks to things that started as soon as I hit puberty. I am outraged that this stuff still goes on and that it actually seems like it's gotten worse. I went through different situations where there were men around when stuff was happening to me and they did nothing to stop what was going on. I've had it with hearing that they're protectors too because they're not. And there are some out there who will pride themselves on the fact that they are p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:55 PM
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If they do actually care about their own wives and daughters they only care about them and the rest of us aren't worthy of any of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:35 PM
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I feel exactly the same. And the dudes will attack you for calling out this or any of their garbage behavior. I got called a scumbag yesterday and today by the same person who also threw misandrist in there for good measure because I follow this sub so instead of sticking to the issue at hand, which was on a Christian based dating sub, about holding someone's sexual past against them, because these men want virgins!, several men came after me for that. Said absolutely nothing about the connectio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:35 PM
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Yeah that one who kicked her was unbelievable! And I couldn't tell at the end if the guy whose behavior ended up causing her to fall actually cared or if he was afraid that he was going to suffer consequences for it. When I was 12 years old I was walking my dog at night, and this was more than 30 years ago. I saw a group of boys hanging out at the corner where I needed to go and I made sure I crossed the street but when I got down to the corner that was right across from them they caught sight o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:24 PM
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Thank you so much for posting these! 🙌🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:12 PM
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Today, I got called a scumbag by someone on a Christian dating thread for 'supporting FDS'. This was all because I was arguing with these people about holding someone's sexual past against them, as far as a spouse goes because they want their virgins, and telling them that that was not actually a Christ-like thing to do. There were several of us standing up against them because there were a lot of people who have that in their past and hearing someone say that suddenly you're unqualified to be s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:59 PM
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Oh my word, I am so sorry for what your sister went through! And yikes about all that! Were you ever around any of these guys or was it all the stuff your sister told you about? I have a friend with a few military members in her family. Two sisters and a cousin and her two sisters are married to fellow military members. Her one sister dealt with depression and some alcoholism I think and referred to the men she was around as douchebags who were constantly sleeping around and cheating on their wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:43 PM
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Oh my God! I've read things about the UN peacekeepers but I didn't know about the UNICEF and Red Cross versions. I would love to see those links if you find them so thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:20 PM
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This 👏 right 👏 here 👏 Sad, but true...... I also read something recently where they were talking about how some people would say this wouldn't happen if women weren't in the military and the person responding said the only way that you could take rape and assault out of the military would be to take all of the men out of the military. 💔💔💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:12 PM
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Oh man, that's just gross. Checking that one out now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:11 PM
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Ugh, this! And if we call them out on it in one of those settings they might apologize and then as soon as we turn around start snickering about whatever stupid thing they were saying. And they coach each other in their sneakiness. Also turn around and try to say that locker room talk is just meaningless stupid boys will be boys crap. No dudes, that's who you really are if you're doing that! Any niceties you're coming around us with is a facade to trick us. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:08 PM
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So I haven't come across the thing that's most recent while I'm looking this stuff up but there was something a couple decades ago involving several of the instructors. They were charged with things like rape coerced sex assault. A lot of things revolving around those types of charges and multiple charges for some of these dudes! Two of the instructors actually had a sex list where they would evaluate the women they had sex with/raped and compete with each other to see who could get the most on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:50 PM
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Ah, okay! I hadn't seen that acronym before. Thank you for clarifying! 🥰🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:47 PM
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This is honestly what I've said. I don't care how much money a guy has or what kind of status he has or whatever--if he's a jackass or we're not compatible none of those things is going to compensate for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:45 PM
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Holy cow, I'm so sorry you went through that! Are you in a better place with any of that now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:41 PM
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Still looking for the recent one but a couple decades ago there was one involving several drill instructors that were charged with rape sodomy adultery black male and all kinds of other things! Allegedly two of them had a sex list that they kept and they were kind of having a competition to see who could get the most women. This scandal was one of the worst ones in military history and is what led to the hotline being established for sexual assault and other various sex crimes being reported. Ug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:36 AM
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What is SEA?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:12 AM
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Rampant sexual activity happening on the base, cheating on spouses.......I have to look it up again because I was shocked honestly & had not heard of it before. It seems like these people are canoodling no matter what the heck is going on. And if you ever get to visit any base ever you can look around at any nook and cranny and wonder if somebody has screwed there, especially in the motor pool. Honestly the more stuff I read about the military the more it makes it sound like too many of them fun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:10 AM
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Sadly, all that sounds correct...,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:03 AM
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They don't even need to see combat to be caught up in all the crazy sexual activity. There were recent sex scandals at a nearby base and that's stateside!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:03 AM
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This is something I have definitely come to the realization of over the past couple of years but primarily with the military. Seen hint of it with fireman and maybe cops but not the other stuff. That is hypocritical to say the least. I don't even have words to describe that. Our protectors are more likely to function as predators it seems. And the stress of their job does not give them a license to do it. There's this thing called therapy! It's there for a reason and women are not meant to be em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:00 AM
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I was also told yesterday by some guy that the fds sub encourages women to lie and manipulate men. I said if they've ever done that it's been to get an abusive stalker off your back as safely as possible or to vet someone to keep yourself safe! But that's not the case as far as having an actual relationship goes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:50 AM
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Oh I got told yesterday by someone that a man wanting a virgin and expecting sexual purity was nothing compared to women wanting six pack abs and six feet six figure salary and all that crap! I'm pretty sure I blocked that dude after I told him off. Can't remember if he was the one who looked up my comment history and extracted one of my comments from here to use against me. Jackasses! They sound like petulant children when they behave like that honestly. There's nothing appealing or attractive …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:44 AM
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💯🌞💃🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:31 AM
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💯 million times this! Nothing matters if you don't have good character and a good heart! And the guys who whine and b**** about women not giving them a chance, bitterly I might add, do not show that they have good character and a good heart or that they're willing to put the work in to become the best version of themselves. They gripe about how women have unrealistic expectations, are liars & whores, make false rape accusations, baby trap men and use men like ATMs. 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:31 AM
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👏👏👏💃👸🎉💖🌞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:25 AM
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Could not agree with this more! All of this is spot on! I don't think men are born to be assholes either but somewhere along the way something gets really disconnected and twisted up. And the women who defend that and the men who refuse to speak against it just blow my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:35 AM
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Applause, applause, applause! 👏👏👏👏👏🤗🙌🙌🙌💯💯💯💃👸🎉💖🌞👑🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:08 AM
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Oh my word, all the comments on her video make me want to scream and throw things! Men are so oblivious to why we feel the way we do about the majority of them! I couldn't even watch a full 30 seconds of her video because it's so stupid. These dudes might go through something occasionally with a crappy person they date but they don't go through anything near what we go through with the majority of them. They don't have to be on guard for their safety and make decisions for their safety in regard…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:01 AM
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That all makes sense.....just sad all around.....like it's a perfect storm of circumstances to stay trapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:38 PM
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Right there with you! And this is after 42 years of looking for the good amongst them in spite of all of the horrible things I've been through at their hands. No man ever protected me from any of it even when stuff was happening right in front of whoever was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:50 PM
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It's a level of infuriating that goes along with horrific forms of gaslighting. The frustration that comes when you are being abused by someone and when you try to make your case they tell you that it's your fault, that something's wrong with you and the thing that's wrong with you is something that's there because of what they did to you. Instead of taking ownership for the thing they did, they abuse you & use you then punish you for it like all of it's your fault. Entrapment? Bait and switch? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:24 PM
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I think I forgot to tie in there along with the dissolutionment with the military, I've grown disillusioned with the majority of men as well coming across all of your stories and so many different things that way too many women have gone through, are still going through, and how much backlash you get when you try to talk about it, how nobody seems to want to hear this and how it seems like even if men aren't doing stuff to us they're not doing anything about it. And they will really go off on yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:02 PM
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There was some podcast host and I don't remember his name but he and some guy were laughing about how whores are great to have fun with but they're not someone to build your kingdom with! I wanted to throw things at that screen so bad! Like, hey dude, since you're sleeping around so much do we get to be like that with you? I don't know how to put words to the fury I feel at statements like that. Like men just want to use women for whatever and then put her down for being 'soiled' but they're the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:08 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂 Perfect comeback! He can't handle women his own age cuz they wouldn't put up with his immaturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:05 AM
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🤗🥰🙌💃🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:38 AM
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Absolutely! I think in my comment I said something about it being all around and what you mentioned is definitely what I was referring to! The raping of German women just because they were German and it seemed like all the armies were doing it. Russian French American. It seemed like all kinds of women were being raped all over. Just absolute nastiness. I'm not familiar with the goings-on with the UNICEF and the Red Cross! At least as far as that stuff goes. What's their history with these thing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:36 AM
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Oh yeah, that stuck out to me too! Also the parts about this guy's leadership being fine with it and them having strippers to come give the service members buzz cuts! All of it just.....ick, to say the least! 💔💔💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:01 AM
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Ah, gotcha, checking this out now! Thanks for the link! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:45 AM
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Holy God.......did not know that..... I had several family members who were police officers. One of whom I know to be abusive but the others were good guys. And that's heartbreaking about the consequences the policewomen would face versus the men. Was that a reality show or a documentary? That's one I haven't heard of. Yeah that Peacekeepers' mess.....ugh! 💔😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:16 AM
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Holy crap, forgot about the UN Peacekeepers! I was so completely shocked about that and I haven't read very much so I didn't remember until you brought that up. I think what I read had to do with trafficking predominantly. Did not know about the police though. Do you mean in terms of their own personal relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:49 AM
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So before I came across all this stuff I went on my first date in 15 or 16 years about a year and a half ago. It was with an Army guy and he was a perfect gentleman. I had met him through some group therapy situation. I felt okay about going on that date with him but not continuing the relationship because I didn't feel that kind of connection with him, and I was getting ready to start trauma therapy--he had his own issues that he was working on as well so that was not going to be a good call. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:46 AM
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Oh my goodness I had that conversation with a guy friend of mine a few years ago. A few of us were hanging out at our friends baby's birthday party and we were talking about I guess dumb things we did when we were younger cuz that's when we all got to know each other. And he mentioned that. I'm trying to remember how he put it because the way he said it was really good. Whatever it was it was something along those lines and it wasn't said in a derogatory manner. He was saying it in a validating …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:06 AM
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Damn! Holy s***! Gross stuff coming on the heels of technology there. I personally feel like if you're in the military they should have mandatory mental health and trauma screenings and services they should have to go through, especially upon discharge or retiring. It's just indicative of how the military doesn't seem to actually care about its people. And yes it is sad about the wife. On the other hand when you're looking at the debt they got themselves into with the houses and that sort of thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:01 AM
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😂 No, I actually appreciate all of that! Wow! And yes I've heard of a lot of women getting accused of sleeping their way to the top! Good grief! Your sister sounds like an awesome ass kicker & just a cool person to boot! Also I can't imagine it would be that difficult to have more vegetable dishes of some kind for people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:56 AM
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There are some romantic comedies that I like but I'm usually looking at the characters and their story arcs and development and how the plot actually moves. Some are definitely better than others! Mostly the ones I have issues with is because of the cheese factor and the bad writing! I used to love Hallmark Christmas movies and there are still some good ones but mostly they make me cringe! They don't show as many of the good ones as they used to which is sad because the whole reason why they bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:50 AM
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Yikes! Were these people you knew actually in the military or just knew people in the military? 💔🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:34 AM
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Wow... That's some interesting insight! What did she mean by the b**** type? Just curious how that's defined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:16 AM
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💯💯💯👏👏👏 Yes! Someone who gets it! 😂🙌 There was a post I saw on an anti-pornography type of sub where a guy was talking about the crap that is shoved in men's faces as boys normalizing p*** use at an early age being a form of sexual abuse. I had never thought of it that way but I totally agree with that! It made me think of how girls are sexualized from a young age and sent messages that being sexy and sexual performance as a woman is where your ultimate value is. I think that's a form of sexual a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:14 AM
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Oysh, I've come across stuff like that too! With those kinds of military spouses being totally made fun of and stuff. All the references to Dependapotamus' or the Tricareatops. The hatred of single mothers cuz they're just after the paychecks and benefits. Yikes! It's a whole new world and it's been very eye-opening to see because typically what we civilians are presented with is the heroic side of all of it. The service members their spouses and their families. I've been wondering how things re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:09 AM
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Yup, I've seen that mentioned I think in a meme, and talked about somewhere else but not in a positive way. It was making fun of those women. That pissed me off because I just thought there are a lot of women who feel like they don't know what else to do and they feel trapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:40 PM
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Oh good God I'm missing something else! What is FBI open up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:39 PM
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It's cheap humor for sure! It literally takes nothing to craft something full of that junk but if you can make someone genuinely laugh without resorting to those typical stupid things that's way more creative and showing way more talent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:38 PM
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This right here! There are so many movies that get ruined for me over that. I always felt like such an outcast weirdo to some extent when I was younger for that reason and because I'm also not into horror movies. But whatever, I don't want to feel insulted or violated or just gross when I'm watching something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:37 PM
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I wonder what those are as far as the spousal abuse and murder rates go?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:25 PM
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Good Lord....... And it seems like sometimes where they're stationed isn't great with base housing and or they're in an area that's like isolated and cut off from stuff. I feel like that's something I've read about too and why it's been so hard for some women to try and get jobs outside of the home aside from the fact that they're considered bigger risks because of their husband's job with the moving around. I just went to look up a sub for something like army wives and now they're all collectiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:25 PM
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It is completely insane. And it craps all over anything good that they're supposed to be about if you know what I mean. Even looking back at World War II and how necessary that was to stop Hitler, I was stunned by the nasty underbelly on all sides. What this guy's wife, who is one of the top 100 pornstars globally apparently, was saying about the troops thanking her for keeping them motivated during their deployments made me want to puke. They put her name on one of their tanks. It's right up th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:57 PM
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💯💯💯💯💯 I completely agree with you 100 million times! I started becoming very disillusioned with our military a couple of years ago when I started coming across articles about the prevalence of sexual assault and rape and the history of the connections between the military and prostitution and all kinds of sex work. When I was a little girl I experienced childhood sexual trauma and even then as a child I was looking for good men and good examples of manhood, men who wouldn't hurt me, men who woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:15 PM
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I don't doubt that at all and that's really sad. They should have mental health services in place from the start. Were you with them as they changed? Unfortunately, this stuff happens even at the military academies and boot camp before anybody's gone to war. The sex work industry flocks to military bases like moths to a flame, stateside included. All kinds of crazy stuff happens at stateside bases as well. Sex parties, sex scandals of all kinds, swinging, all kinds of out of control sexual activ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:08 PM
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Jesus God, what?!!! That's beyond effed up! That just makes me want to vomit! Why does everything revolve around their stinking dicks and their sexual needs, like nothing else matters?! 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:58 PM
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Broken arms is a new one to me. What is that talking about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:13 PM
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There's a whole sub on this site that's dedicated to that! It's called tip of my penis and the whole thing is them posting photos and videos of women, wanting to know who it is so they can get more of that material! It's so nasty and disgusting! The whole reason I came across that is because some guy posted in a relationship sub about how in love he was with his wife so I checked out his profile and he posted something on that sub! So many letdowns like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:10 PM
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Sometimes I'll go for a drive in my car and listen to really awesome music while I yell out whatever I need to yell out and if I need to yell it at a specific person then I'll do that. It's awesome because you still get that energy and anger out but you don't give that person the satisfaction of knowing how they got to you and you also protect yourself from any chances of getting emotionally entangled in more garbage! Sometimes I'll also have a yelling day where if nobody's in the house I'll jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:56 PM
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Or they're all into their girlfriends or wives, but f*** the rest of us. They'll be all about their kids, but screw everyone else's, unless they're criticizing parents for raising 'soy boys' or whatever. It's nuts all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:37 AM
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Oh my word that's right! I totally forgot about that and that is truly frightening. They have never been our protectors. 💔 Even more disgusting with the DJ said and especially that he got away with saying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:27 AM
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When I was growing up I was always taught that our military were our protectors and our heroes. I went through childhood sexual trauma at a very young age and latched on to that and my child brain attempts to find someone good and find men who wouldn't hurt me and who would protect me from the bad men. Over the past couple of years I've become seriously disillusioned with our military and the rampant sexual garbage that goes on there both consensual and violating. I was not expecting something s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:11 AM
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Awesome! Thanks! 💖🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:05 AM
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Gotcha! And ugh! Wonder how many more like that in the services?! I'm glad you were able to get out of that situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:23 PM
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Good Lord! That's nasty and I am so sorry for what you went through! Is it okay to ask if your ex was always like that or did he change once he entered the military? The Marines United thing I know involved at least 75,000 members across all branches. I can't remember if I heard about the pic sharing thing you're talking about that I've seen mentions of things like that. Who the hell does that to their wife or their girlfriend?! Depraved is right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:55 PM
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Oh my good Lord! Aren't they always telling us how men are protectors, etc?! I'm so sorry! That must have been a fun revelation for you! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:50 PM
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This right here! I wonder how many of our male friends were actually ever our friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:50 PM
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Sure! True confessions I'm not a massive tech person but if I figure it out and find something I will definitely do that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:47 PM
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🤦🤦🤦 Ugh, have any of them actually said that out loud? It does seem like too many men won't stand up for anything or anyone if it means they're going to get called a p**** or a simp. Or if they do something along those lines they have to make sure that they let their boys know that it's just for sex so they can still have their approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:43 PM
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That is absolutely vile and 2017 is when the Marines United thing broke out or was made known. It was a fellow service member who outed them and he went through a lot of crap for it too. Thousands and thousands of photos were found and they have special files or ways of trying to keep it hidden. I think too much of the leadership is in on it and they don't want to put a stop to it. It was originally some kind of a Facebook group that was Private for members only I think? But the examples of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:37 PM
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Yup! They've never really protected us. And they blame us for all their bad behavior because we had the audacity to speak up for ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:40 AM
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Yup! 💯💯💯🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:21 AM
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100,000,000 times THIS! I've given this a lot of thought myself to be able to articulate it well. A guy who sleeps around and will take advantage of any opportunity to have sex does not have the level of self-control self-discipline strength or power that I am going to admire, respect, trust, feel safe with, want to be friends with, want to be vulnerable with, want to sleep with, want to build a home family and life with. One of the things I love about this sub is that it is one of the only safe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:02 AM
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Nope! I think it does the exact opposite--it makes everything worse for us and the more and more of it that men have access to the worst they are with us generally speaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:17 AM
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This s*** happening in the military is absolutely disgusting. Look up Marines United and you'll see what I'm talking about. A lot of guys following their fellow female service members around to take pictures and post them along with their ranks and personal information so other guys could find them. The comments these men made about these women was so nasty and disgusting. The revenge p*** side of it also nasty and disgusting. The military saying that they can't keep track of their own people wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:14 AM
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I really want to know where we can get this video because I want to post it on other social media platforms. This needs to be seen and it needs to go viral!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:08 AM
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I am feeling the same! I am also wondering where all these good men are that I keep hearing about when so many men are spouting off about the virtues of masculinity while not doing anything about jackasses like this. And usually those men who are spouting off about the virtues of masculinity are doing it as an affront to us to give us the finger and tell us to shut up. Those assholes don't realize that they're actually functioning as a shield for buttheads like this guy because they will never g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:07 AM
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It's also men not valuing us enough to actually get to know us and figure out how to have a deep relationship with us and quite frankly they don't care enough about their own selves to be connected to their own hearts and their own emotions. And when all you know how to do is connect body parts you're going to be dissatisfied with any relationship you're in because you have no emotional IQ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:50 AM
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Plus unlike food, we are dynamic and multifaceted as human beings. Nothing about us is actually boring. I've heard people use this as a defense for sex parties and swingers and all that other crap. They refer to them as buffets or having a really great meal. It's nasty how sex has been reduced to nothingness which is actually what makes it seem dirty. It's not dirty in and of itself but the way people are with it nowadays and how people just use each other like objects. The term body count in ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:49 AM
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Pretty much! Just nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:47 AM
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In defending their looking at damn near every woman they feel like it I've heard us compared to art flowers and cars. Like of course you'd look at that pretty thing, how could you not? And of course you'd appreciate how much care someone put into their vehicle! On a different social media platform I was looking on a page for playing an aviation enthusiast and you can't even go there without dealing with this crap. Too many pilots are just so nasty and disgusting generally speaking. But of course…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:45 AM
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True. Who knows. There's so much craziness over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:37 AM
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💯% agree with you! I'm concerned about how that government is going to try to right this. The way that government has been with human rights violations? Eesh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:33 PM
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Seriously! I was absolutely appalled when I heard about it being allowable for baby girls to be aborted or for baby girls to be abandoned in fields and things like that because girls were so undesirable. I forget when they outlawed those types of abortions. I think they did? Like really what did you think was going to happen if you were letting that stuff go on? Of course society and your population is going to be totally screwed up! And then letting the brakes off the one child policy was good …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:35 PM
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I took it to mean that during the dating stage men were investing more then once they got married they totally slacked off whereas once marriage happens it's expected for the woman to sacrifice her life for the family. So the man 'gives more' before marriage and the woman gives way more after marriage. Though it could be what you're saying as well! It's most definitely not a society that values women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:53 AM
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Absolutely! I totally get that--makes perfect sense! I was like that to an extent as well and you're right on about that too! I also was so desperately wanting things to be better between men and women, wanting to speak constructively, like 'I come in peace!' Thinking if you're nice enough they'll care, but there's too much of this still happening. I'm so sorry for what you've been through! Biggest warmest bear hugs to you! And to everyone else in this group! 🥰🤗💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:47 PM
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Or bleaching their assholes! What on earth?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:26 PM
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Wow, really? I haven't stayed on top of all of that so I don't know what she's been about lately. I remember when the 'he for she' movement started where it was supposed to be about having male allies who actually cared about us and were fighting against this too. That I liked & appreciated. It would be nice if that could be a reality, but it's still a good & important thing to have our own special space! Both would be nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:36 PM
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I've come to the conclusion recently that pick mes are not as healthy as they think they are. They're in some kind of stage of denial and survival and have not fully processed their own trauma. It's sad and it pisses me off at the same time because that's evidence to me of the collective trauma we as women still go through. That what they're doing is the only way to be able to get along with men or to get by in this world. It's the way you function when you're in an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:31 PM
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Ugh, everything she wrote is what I think of when I see guys like this. That was such a vivid description I almost felt sick reading it! Definitely good hygiene is a must! Plus can I just say out loud that anytime I see dudes with those gross scraggly beards I twitch? Even if they're clean and well-kept, still just ewwww! A well-groomed close shaven beard yes. Pass that? Nope! Blech! Loved her description of the well-kept dude! 🥰💖🤗😂🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:49 PM
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💯% this! Especially that last part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:34 AM
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Oh my word, I did not know that! Or maybe I did in my younger days but have forgotten cuz it's been so long. That is sick and disgusting. I was also upset to see that both he and Larry flynt who started Hustler and some other guy they knew who started another pornographic publication had all served in the military. Disappointing to say the least. Is that video on YouTube by chance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:15 PM
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My thoughts exactly! I think that men viewing/treating sex in a transactional manner actually makes them look worse, not better or smarter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:48 PM
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Yup! Never liked the whole 'free the nipple' movement for these reasons! They're called 'private parts for a reason. I'm also done with all the thongs at the beach and pools. And saying it's so much more comfortable is nuts but also children are in these places! And it seems like it's the trend for bathing suits to have butt coverage as a factor. But not how much do you want to cover. It's how much you want to show off! Also I don't think there are any swimsuits for men that are just for show an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:27 PM
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This! And they also make sure to down on and insult you if you're not the type of woman to do this. And if you're also the type of woman who doesn't want your dude looking at p*** and who wants to be loved with exclusive eyes you're going to be told that you're jealous insecure immature puritanical prudish uptight etc by men and women alike. 'Geez, what's your problem?!' etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:21 PM
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I never quite made the connection like that.....it totally makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:15 PM
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Oh my gosh, seriously?! That is disgusting! Capitalizing on someone's pain like that! 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:14 PM
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Also, show everyone you're not a little girl anymore, for the child stars when they're old enough, & show everyone you still got it if you're older! Hugh Hefner's son's fiance is an actress. She posed for him & then wrote something all about how empowering and feminist it really is! Crazy! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:09 PM
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I have mixed feelings about this as a first date kind of thing. Is this implying that there's already been some sort of connection and communication established? I guess in my mind a dinner date implies more investment not just financially but emotionally as well. I feel like with coffee it's casual and if you can't stand the guy it's an easier thing to leave from then a dinner that could potentially take up to 2 hours. I am all on board about the not settling for cheap dates though! It's been a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:50 PM
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Yes! And also this was his mo. Where you were really good friends or maybe even best friends and then you became romantically involved and then he would start cheating on you hence his 180 behavior. He was also really good at making you think you were crazy. I have no words for how grateful I am that I did not marry this guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:43 PM
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And now it's not even pressure for a relationship but it's pressure to be into all kinds of crazy and outlandish sex acts and friends with benefits!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:43 PM
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Oh my goodness, and this was the mid-90s so it was pretty unique then. The interesting thing is there a couple of female friends later on when I told my story to some people who thought that was so sensitive of him but the male reaction to that universally was that they knew what this guy was up to! They tell on themselves with this stuff. Generally speaking barring extreme examples when you tell male co-workers family members or friends stuff that you've been through with guys it's never surpri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:36 PM
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Oh my word! My ex-NPD-fiance did this to a friend of mine when I took him to my favorite diner! My friends and I loved this place and we knew just about everybody who worked there so it was supposed to be a fun time. I don't even know what my exes problem was with our waiter but he wrote some snobby demeaning note on the receipt. I think he started off or ended the note by saying that he wasn't giving him a monetary tip so he was giving him a tip on how to provide good service! My friend was so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:49 AM
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I was about to say that very thing! Meet them somewhere public, make sure your closest friends and immediate family members, if that's appropriate, know where you're going to be, and if possible, the length of time you expect your date to last!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:39 AM
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And what site is this on?! Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:27 AM
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Wow! Even more evidence that they need therapy and some serious maturing growing up process of some kind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:47 PM
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Whoa! Which species are those? And that last line you mentioned about protecting our children and keeping them safe from a threat? Wow! 💯💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:20 PM
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Seriously?! Wow, talk about entitlement! 🤦🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:11 PM
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Same. This stuff is mostly new to me too. Sounds like standard rp or mgtow protocol! And also used as a means of keeping a woman in her place & letting her know she doesn't mean anything to you, that she has to earn chivalry, basic manners and anything nice or good. That mindset that all women are just straight up evil until proven otherwise. It's beyond just vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:03 PM
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Since when did being feminine mean just towing the line and going along with whatever the heck the man wants and not having a mind of your own? Oh wait, that's the antiquated version! Having a mind of your own and having your own opinions and thoughts and feelings about things means you're being masculine?! What a doof!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:21 PM
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I got hit on by a 17 year old when I was 13. And the worst part was that my female friend who was the same age as me set me up. She and I were at an RV show because her father sold them so we were hanging out at his company's booth. And one of the guys who was working there with him was attracted to me--like I just met this dude! He had expressed his interest in me to her at some point and she let me know and was kind of pressuring me to hang out with him. I wouldn't & felt completely uncomforta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:54 AM
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Does this fall in line with guys saying it doesn't matter or mean anything to them when they're checking other women out? Or reading super fun articles written by men and women alike about how we shouldn't care about that because it doesn't mean anything to them and those women are right out of their head as soon as they look away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:55 AM
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What?! Reports for what?! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:35 AM
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Yes! I would love that! Maggie Smith was a spitfire in this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:40 AM
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All of these! But the ones that really stand out are you shouldn't have to tell a grown ass man how to love you! The literature out there that's constantly telling us that we have to communicate and we have to tell men exactly what to do because nobody can read your mind and it's ridiculous for us to expect that is overly abundant and crazy! Healthy communication is a good thing but part of loving someone is actually getting to know that person and proactively loving them and anticipating needs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:30 PM
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LOVE this! Is she on instagram? This is so spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:42 PM
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Why do so many guys turn into absolute jackasses once they get a taste of sex?! Like rabid wolves some of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:21 PM
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A million cheers to this!!! 💕🎉🌞🙏💃🙌🥂🍾🍷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:07 AM
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I've seen some modern shoes that I honestly thought looked pretty sweet for self-defense! Big chunky statement rings and damn near anything in your purse can be used as weapons! It's sad that we need to know this stuff. And even though I think self-defense is just wise I think it's stupid that that's a solution instead of telling men to stop acting like jackasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:23 PM
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Or a pie......Ugh! Who came with that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:21 PM
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True all that! It feels insanely manipulative, tbh. And seeing all kinds of mental health professionals going along with this stuff and encouraging it blows my mind! I think a lot of people are sexualizing trauma and pain and nobody's encouraging them to look at the root of anything that's going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:49 AM
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I remember seeing this post on another sub! 😂 I am just hit a point where I finally let myself admit to myself what kind of guy I'm actually really attracted to and I was afraid to do it because I felt like I wasn't worth it. I do have a problem when men talk about their standards and whatever for women because they're so dehumanizing nasty degrading objectifying with how they talk about us. And a lot of times women are just trophies for them. I feel like the women I've talked to, including on t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:41 AM
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I'm convinced that the whole evolutionary psychology stuff is a big massive load of BS pseudoscience used to excuse s***** behavior, and why we should cater to that and just be understanding of what they're dealing with. Meanwhile there are a lot of women who want to be loved exclusively and want to be cherished, respected and valued and have great conversations and connection with their lovers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:24 AM
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You go, girl! 🤗🙌🥰 One of the benefits of being a verbal processor! 😂 That one came out during a therapy session where I was trying to explain to my therapist why certain things were bugging and upsetting me so much if I'm not directly affected. Specifically non-monogamous things and BDSM. Because people are constantly like, 'It's nobody's business what anybody's doing' and yes, people are grown a** adults and they can make their own choices but you can feel it in the atmosphere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:10 AM
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Wow! What is up with men in their need for vengeance? This behavior honestly reminds me of stuff I first came across regarding the military with groups like Marines United. That's a super fun scandal to look up! But it's the same exact thing like they would talk amongst themselves, as it were, to ruin women particularly if they had cheated on them. I read on some post where some guy was pissed off at a woman for some reason so to get back at her he told the guys in his unit that she had cheated …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:00 AM
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First off I love the memory that you shared because that is beautiful and amazing! And I'm glad you experienced that! Woohoo! 💕🥰🎉❤️🤗 Secondly those are interesting questions and I have pondered them myself. I don't understand why that stuff is scoffed at either because it IS beautiful and amazing. There's a lot of toxic emotional and sexual pollution out there for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:30 PM
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This is so right on! Even during a video chat dudes can take screenshots. The first thing I thought of reading this was garbage military stuff I've come across over the past year particularly involving Marines United and other pic-sharing groups run by military dudes. A lot of them would post naked pics of ex-girlfriends out of revenge. Some of them would follow fellow female service members around trying to get photos of them or set cameras up in their showers etc. The comments from these assho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:00 PM
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Where in the world did that even come from? Why does it seem like so many of them have temper tantrums or behave like children no matter what the age is and no matter what the role is? And what I mean by that is I've experienced that through decades of my life from various men including teachers boyfriends family members guy friends bosses etc. Oh and some random army reservist who messaged me last year demanding a nudie pic. He also told me he needed a nap and a bj. I attempted to actually have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:58 PM
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That's really interesting because a lot of times that stuff is actually traced back to fatherlessness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:00 PM
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Was she OCD or Autistic or I think the Sherlock character referred to himself as a highly functioning sociopath? It's been awhile since I've seen that one. I was just wondering if they had female characters that dealt with the same issues that these male characters dealt with and all the same quirks would they have this whole team of people, both male & female, surrounding them who would be empathetic and compassionate even if they got annoyed, they'd still be like a ride or die for them and sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:12 AM
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That cartoon showing, I think it's, the female DC characters as teen girls or something--even they're presented in a sexualized manner. I love shows like Monk and I used to like the Sherlock series with Benedict Cumberbatch. But I was thinking if there were shows that were the female equivalent of those characters or The Good Doctor would everyone love those characters and empathize with them and have compassion on them as much? Or would they just think those female characters are annoying b****…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:26 AM
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I totally get ALL of this! The best orgasm I ever had was also in missionary position and I felt safe enough with my boyfriend at the time to fully let go and enjoy it authentically not just outwardly. It was flipping a-mazing! Felt like light and energy and something amazing/incredible/fantastic was spiraling out from my heart over my whole body! That was a long time ago and I've never forgotten it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:36 PM
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That is WAAAAY better! Also whenever you read about legendary love stories and people who were married for decades and read about their devotion to each other have you ever noticed it doesn't involve crazy stuff? It involves people who are deeply connected to and committed to each other. I will take that any day of the week! 💕💯🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:15 PM
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I was blown away by that too. How do they even justify that? How in the world is domestic violence legal?! And even here in the States there are a lot of states that have laws where adultery is not a reason for divorce or it's not something you can use as a reason anymore. It's 'no fault' something or other, I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:28 PM
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Wow......ugh.....I feel like one of the other things that I've heard is that men think that women try to trap men by getting pregnant on purpose! I got pregnant because my abusive ex did it on purpose to try and force me to marry him. I ended up keeping my baby and I do not regret that decision at all because it's not my child's fault that his sperm donor was an a******. I love my son with everything in me and I'm so glad that he's here but I had to get us the heck away from that jackass. I brok…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:26 PM
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What is there beef with single mothers anyway? Myself included every single mother I know is a single mom because we had abusive exes and we needed to protect ourselves and our kids! Do they feel the same way about single fathers or men who have multiple children with multiple women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:27 AM
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What's up with Discovery of Witches & Bridgerton? The first isn't my cup of tea and all I could find on the latter was some article written by a woman claiming to have had sex for a week like the main character then writing about it. Didn't read it though. But it looks like it's glamorizing something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:36 AM
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Totally want all that too! 💕🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:25 AM
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My favorite too! The most intimate and most body contact & closeness! 💯💯💯🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:24 AM
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Oh my goodness, I just looked these whack jobs up, hadn't heard of them before......🤮 Absolutely hateful! Nothing of value there at all, judging by their comments. I feel like my heart and brain need a shower now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:16 AM
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Just looked this up and came across this super fun article tauting this trend as black empowerment and a testament to black resiliency. https://www.mic.com/p/the-buss-it-challenge-is-a-testament-to-young-black-resilience-56855332
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:16 AM
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Dear God, that's completely insane! Do any of them even try to explain how on earth that's supposed to be empowering?! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:08 AM
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To me it doesn't matter if the woman is making the choice to present herself as an object or if she's being coerced into doing it by a manager or whatever because the outcome is the same. She is still reduced to an object. Men view her as nothing but an object to get off to and girls look at those kinds of women as women to emulate. Why does reclaiming our sexuality have to look like presenting ourselves to the world like that? I feel like I've reclaimed my sexuality through my healing process b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:19 PM
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Oh my goodness, I'm afraid to ask but what is that challenge? That's one I haven't heard of!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:42 PM
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💯💯💯🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:57 AM
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😂 It's all good, girl! And yep, it's sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:56 AM
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Even with women you're not always safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:01 AM
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YES! And she had no problem snapping back at and sticking it to whoever she needed to! 👏👏👏 The first Star Wars movie ever came out when I was 3 years old and it was the first movie I saw in a theater. I don't know if I was three or four when I saw it because movies were in the theater a lot longer than that but I wanted to be Princess Leia so bad when I grew up! 🤩🥰💥 She is one of the best role models ever, and I love the consistency with her amazing character through her whole story arc just lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:20 PM
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Oh my goodness, what's wrong with Star Wars fans? 😬 I love those first movies! Princess Leia was such a badass! I love that there wasn't gross behavior or sexual assault in that. The worship of the slave outfit is totally disturbing though. The whole purpose of that was to humiliate her & show how much of an ass Jabba the Hut was, as also evidenced by the slave girl at the beginning of that movie. The second she resisted him he dumped her to her death. My sis and I were little girls when that ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:40 PM
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That video is awesome! Great commentary/analysis! Thanks for posting! Just sent it to my sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:28 PM
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I'm a pretty nerd! 😂 Seriously though, dang, that's sad you went through that! I'm part geek so I'm not fully immersed in the culture. My sister is a bit more than I am, but maybe not on enough of a level to have experienced this. I thought that would have been a friendlier place! I also found out recently that nerdcons are huge places for polyamory or where it's discussed a lot or something? That was bizarre to find out! Hope you find an awesome tribe of fellows nerds who aren't mean girls! Ps-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:26 PM
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Same! 💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:11 PM
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Thank you so much for these links! Fascinating reads! I was looking up stuff about Hugh Hefner recently and was just appalled. I don't think I'd come across any of this stuff regarding the early days of the clubs but the part about Marilyn Monroe at least as far as him using her photos without her permission is something I knew about. I may have known about him purchasing the tomb next to her. But it blows my mind how many people will still give pushback even in the face of the truth of his beha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:32 PM
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Is anyone else done or fed up with all the evolutionary psychology stuff that justifies so much of this s***? Like men being visual, men preferring certain specific body types because they're indicative of fertility, men preferring younger women because they're biologically drawn to women who appear more fertile, men needing variety and all that other stuff so they can spread their seed, men not being able to control their eyes or their urges, again because of spreading the seed stuff? To me it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:23 AM
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You said it straight up, my friend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:48 AM
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Totally agree! Even worse was that the person who wrote the article just sat there and lauded him through the whole thing. Like he's just some pioneer of millennial sexual liberty or some crap like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:36 AM
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Yup! Hugh Hefner's son talked his mother into reshooting the original naked photo shoot she did for his father and yes, she was naked! But of course it made her feel amazing because of her age and it's so empowering! 🤮 Why is it that women always have to somehow prove themselves in a sexual manner? I was talking about this today with a friend of mine who's reading Jessica Simpson's biography and it was talking about how they groomed her in the business to lose more weight and to become more and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:18 AM
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I've heard about this too! Ugh! His son is an Air Force reservist and has taken over the magazine now. Or the empire business or whatever they're referring to it as. He talked his mother into doing a photoshoot that was just like the first one she did for his father. He directed it. His fiance who is a British actress also did a spread for the magazine and talked about how feminist and empowering it was and is. Hugh Hefner served in the army. There is so much nasty crap connected with so much of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:06 PM
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Wow, I have never of that chart! Where did you find that? And dear God I am so sorry for what you went through when you were 14 and especially that your friends did that to you! I'm glad you're safe now and that you have a safe community of support! And yay for the awesome hubby! 💕🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:00 PM
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Yup! Gross! And it's always a wide age range too. 18-35, 18 or 20-45 or 50+ etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:33 PM
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Same here! I can't remember the last time I looked at it! 😆🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:07 PM
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Ah, very nice! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:42 AM
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Definitely something around the toilet for that exact reason! So if that's what it means by a carpet, cool, but a fully carpeted bathroom I would be hesitant about because of the humidity and the steam from the bath and shower, not because of whatever reasons they mentioned! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:30 PM
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What is breakingmom? I've never heard that term before!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:40 PM
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Ugh, so nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:57 PM
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There are charts out there you can look up that will give you a timeline of age-appropriate chores etc for your kids to give you some good guidelines and obviously you can adapt it accordingly. I think it starts at the toddler stage with just simple things and then builds from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:44 PM
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Oh my God, ALL of this! Totally agree! That's how I am. I don't give that head and heart space to anyone else and I have no desire to, nor do I have the desire to be checking anyone else out or looking at anyone else in that manner period. I also love people saying 'thoughts and fantasies are your own' and 'men just can't help it'. That's one of the things that gets talked about in psychology articles, blog posts, etc as well. Like "your thoughts and fantasies aren't hurting anyone' and 'you des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:30 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏 Integrity is such a huge thing! And excellence in character! I want that from me and those are things that I strive for and I want it in return! And typically p*** and checking out other women and anything connected to that is the kind of stuff that men will coach each other in as far as hiding. There are other things too but that's a big one. I had a conversation with a guy once about this stuff, and he said that he didn't believe in policing thoughts and that if he knew something upset t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:42 AM
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🤦🤦🤦 The other thing it seems men coach each other in is to make sure you hide things that you know upset her and just try not to get caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:53 AM
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I cannot love this comment enough! I've had people ask me about why I'm not on dating sites cuz that's how everybody does things these days. I tried a couple out and all of the matches I was given or the guys who were interested in me were older than me and/or dumpy and creepy looking. Like literally nothing about them was appealing or attractive on any kind of level. And the guys who were attractive either had some strict criteria like, ’no women over 35 because I want more kids!' and actually …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:39 AM
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YESSS! I noticed that too! They both look so happy! She looks like she feels safe and joyful also. 🥰🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:32 AM
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Oh my gosh!!! Squeeee! That's soooooooo amazing! Do you have a link for that story? That is fan-flippin-tastic! 🥰🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:30 AM
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One of the things that sometimes drives me nuts in movies is how you will see men coach each other on how to make it look like they're doing something but not really doing it or making minimum effort but making it look showy so she'll be impressed. Or botching it up really bad on purpose and pretending like they don't know what they're doing so she'll just take over because she's so annoyed. 🤦🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:51 AM
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And she can just walk right on out of there or just not go in in the first place! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:49 AM
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That needs to be on posters, t-shirts and mugs too! 😂🤗🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:01 AM
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Yes! That's where I saw that! I think I actually looked it up that way too. Nuts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:50 PM
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This blows my mind! What a completely lovely, beautiful, sweet, wholesome story! "I want the fairy tale." --Vivian THIS is a fairy tale! 🥰💕🤗💖🌅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:05 PM
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Gasp! THAT'S what that means?! I saw somewhere else that it means simpleton but if that's really what it means that is nasty and it makes more sense with how it's used. Oh my word, how do they not get how nasty they are when they act like that? Oy...... 🤦🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:19 PM
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Then gripe about it on Red Pill and MGTOW sites! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:44 PM
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This seems to depend. I just read a gross blog post last night from some dude who dishes out sex advice for people who are in the sex club and swinging scene and actually talked about this. He was talking about women with their ridiculous standards and how if they looked around more and maybe just settled a bit, although he didn't quite phrase it that way, there were plenty of men on the lower rungs who would be willing and able to satisfy them and take care of them. Whereas men will settle/be h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:42 PM
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So presenting a certain scenario for input, insight, & feedback: I'm in my mid forties & have been single for a very long time. Never married but I'm a single mother. After a series of abusive relationships in my late teens/early twenties I just stopped dating all together to deal with my own issues. A lot of trauma & abusive situations from childhood, & other situations beginning at age 12 & going from there. Started dealing with some pretty debilitating health issues at the age of 18--eventual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:36 PM
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I know it's not as sophisticated, but this is exactly why I hate the movie, 'Weird Science'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:48 AM
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Totally! 💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:18 AM
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This! I was doing a search for something and an interesting looking article popped up and it happened to have been pinned on a military forum site. I don't know if the comment was on the article I was reading but one of these military guys talked about how whores were fine for banging and having fun with and doing all this crazy stuff with but a woman better not ever let him sleep with her on the first date because what proof would that be that she wouldn't cheat on him in the future or whatever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:33 PM
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I legit busted out with that one! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:22 PM
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Ugh! So sorry you went through that! The connection between porn, sex work, etc and the military is sickening! And sorry about the other guys too, especially your dad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:20 PM
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Absolutely right! I think the power of our femininity and beauty completely unnerves them and if they are not emotionally healthy they will turn around and act like little boys having temper tantrums so they can smack us back down and put us in our place. The tells are always a good thing so you can move on! 🥰🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:22 PM
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Aw, thank you so very much! 🤗🙏 I went through a lot of crap with a lot of different guys, as most of us have which breaks my heart and I wish I could hug every single one of you! I am in a way better place thankfully! A lot of good self work and a LOT of therapy, prayer, faith, all that good stuff! Also, I love your username! 😂 That's awesome! 🤗🙏💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:06 PM
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The one I dated who was kind of in that category was someone I had been friends with and my sister had briefly dated him first cuz we were in the same friend group. He was a jerk and cheated on me and also wanted me to kiss him in a very showy way when we were in public to validate himself somehow. He didn't do that at first and the first time he did it just made me feel so gross! Not just gross, but lessened somehow and cheapened and used too. So that was a bullet dodged! And I so love your enc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:09 PM
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Yeah what's funny is that men will gripe about it when we talk about how shallow they are and bring up conversations like this but our collective history is that women didn't always have a lot of choices, if any, and men always did and were always tearing us down. I do feel like there's a difference. Most of us talk about wanting an amazing person but wanting someone we're attracted to at the same time whereas I feel like the way guys talk about women period is so trashy and dehumanizing and mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:06 PM
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Oh yes! I have seen men and women both who can do that stuff without being jerks and without putting other people down or doing stupid comparisons but there are a lot who engage in that toxic stuff, women included! Honestly, it's sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:57 PM
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YES!!! Excellent point there! I've come to that same conclusion! Definitely want someone who's fit and someone where you can both be the healthiest versions of yourselves! 🥰🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:55 PM
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Oh my goodness, there's a lot of that on instagram! And a lot of them are life coaches full of toxic positivity! They also don't like being challenged and will tell you that you're a victim and you're flying off the rails or being overly emotional when you ask them questions about certain viewpoints they promote. They just want their fist pumpers, which so many of them surprisingly have a lot of. And men and women both who are into that stuff and like that behave that way. One of my friends said…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:53 PM
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I would say the majority of my boyfriends were pretty attractive although a couple were dorky looking but still attractive in their own right. One who was very attractive, had abs and all that good stuff was actually abusive and had raped me so I have seen that looks don't compensate for character flaws and aren't a guarantee of good character BUT at the same time I want someone I'm actually attracted to and I'm EXCITED about physically AND as a person! Like, go weak at the knees cuz he's so ama…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:48 PM
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It absolutely affects all of us, and has been for a very long time even before it got a name for the behavior/mindset.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/21 07:59 PM
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Yup! 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:05 PM
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Totally agree with all of that! I've done a lot of self work dealing with my past trauma and stuff and it is hard to forgive yourself when you realize what's really been happening so I totally get that but I hope you don't stay in that place for a long and that you're able to forgive yourself and let go of that! It does take time and it's not easy as I'm sure you already know! And it takes time to forgive the jackrabbits who did the stuff to you. I kind of skipped over the part of dealing with m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:04 PM
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Wow, I am so sorry you went through that! It's been eye-opening to me to see how many of us have gone through these different situations. How are you doing now with all of that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:18 AM
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I saw a post recently in something to do with overcoming infidelity where the original poster talked about his wife cheating on him and catching her in all this stuff but then as you were reading through the comments he talked about what a great wife she had been for 25 years and how he had anger issues and constantly left like left the house making it seem like he was leaving the relationship for good and leaving her stuck with the house she couldn't afford and taking care of kids and did that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:17 AM
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That is fantastic to hear! Very happy for him and the progress he's made! I really pray he's able to work through his stuff and get to a place where he is genuinely happy inside and out! 🥰💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:13 AM
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Oh my goodness that is heartbreaking about your dad! I'm so sorry that he went through that! Is he okay now? This is one of the things that I've seen in connection to crap with the military. There are some people who argue that rampant sexual abuse and sexual assault would stop if you took the women out of the military but someone argued back that it would only stop if you took the men out. Because the men were doing it to the men, and still are, before women were even allowed in. Not exactly th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:12 AM
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Even though they'll talk about how important boundaries are......the gaslighting is real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:00 AM
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I think a lot of people male and female alike want to have all their stuff validated because I think deep down they know something's wrong. And people trying to tell other people that if they have problems with things it's just the shame they've been societally conditioned to have is crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:59 AM
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Seriously! 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:56 AM
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This! A million times, yes! 💯🙌 It's a disconnect they're dealing with, not sophisticated evolved people able 'to pull it off'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:21 AM
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Ooh, I think you hit a big nail on the head with that last part! I've become keenly aware of that pressure too & it was rooted in some childhood trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:09 AM
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Sweet baby Jesus, I was reading a post on some sub by a 19 (M) talking about how he and his gf (19 also) wanted to try some kind of cuckolding experience with an experienced dominating 'bull'. 19, for God's sake! They apparently vetted the guy, and OP talked about how great it was for him and his gf. But the 'bull' was some dude in his early 40s! Apparently age gaps aren't a big deal with alternative lifestyles. 🤦🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:23 AM
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From what I've read there's a lot of drug and alcohol use, even on porn sets. This came from both men and women. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:07 AM
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It has become crystal clear to me very recently that the majority of men hate us. They don't think they do because they want to f*** us but they hate us! I always knew there were some who hated us but I did not realize how horribly widespread it is. I honestly think part of it is being disconnected from their own selves and not being taught how to be properly grounded in themselves/in their own hearts, feelings, self-awareness while being taught very wrong ideas about power and strength from oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:37 AM
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Yes! There are a lot of things that I was aware of in some kind of manner but didn't have crystallized terms or ways to define or describe it till I started reading up on these things and even more so when I came here. I remember when I was much younger in my early twenties I think, I had a crush on some guy and I was asking his friend if he thought that this guy I was interested in would be interested in me. His response was, 'Well, I don't know because I only date women who look like models.' …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:29 AM
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This right here! 💯💯💯 And so many of them think that as long as they haven't violently raped a woman and left her bleeding in an alley that they're not part of the problem. And that women who have dealt with things like sexual harassment are not entitled to call themselves survivors because it's not like the first situation. That is like saying that verbal mental and emotional abuse are not as destructive as physical abuse because there aren't bruises or broken bones or physical death. But a lot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:26 AM
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Wow, this really hit me......thank you for sharing your story! I'm glad you got out of that! 🤗💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:23 PM
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Women have been treated like sex objects and as objects period through most of our history, not taken seriously because we're dismissed as being crazy silly foolish stupid and basically less than men on every front. That's our collective history. Most of us have a personal history that involves instances of rape abuse of some form at the hands of men sexual harassment sexual assault sometimes coupled up with cheating. Most of us have it in multiples starting at puberty. Some of us have traumatic…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/21 06:11 PM
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YES! Everything you said here! Spot on! It's heartbreaking how people are so willing to take advantage of those women. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:37 AM
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I totally caught the facial expressions at the beginning......such smugness and contempt! Couldn't watch past that point though. Just ugh! The very first time I saw him something rubbed me the wrong way because I despise dating coaches who teach women basically how to play games and manipulate I guess or bend over backwards making efforts to make the guy like you and all kinds of dumb stuff. like why aren't they coaching men and how to treat women properly? Or coaching women about feeling good i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:27 AM
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Oh my word! I think I am following this guy on instagram! I haven't seen tons of his content but the couple things I saw were okay. Although the approach from so many telling women all the ways they have to bend over backwards, change and adjust themselves to get a dude seriously annoys me because dudes should be trying to be the best version of themselves already and that's not my job to get them to do that! Thanks for posting this! Looking up all these links now! Also will be unfollowing him o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:51 PM
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💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌
/r/ExRedPill31/03/21 05:16 AM
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BOOM! 💯💯💯👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:13 AM
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Ugh, the gross number ratings! 🤦🤦🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:09 AM
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Right there with you! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:07 AM
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Ugh! On the monogamy thread are men and women who got seriously burned by poly. ALL of their stories blow my mind and break my heart! If the women are the ones wanting the open relationship stuff the men are gaslit about it too. They get the guilt trip about not controlling a woman's sexuality, etc. If anyone gets jealous, they're told about compersion. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:31 PM
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Oh my word, are you serious about some of them believing there should be government intervention for them to get partners and spouses? That's some insane entitlement there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:37 AM
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Ugh! Okay, I think I have heard of that! I can't stand when people treat each other like that. That's not evolved. It's selfish and degrading, imo.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/21 10:20 PM
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Oh my gosh, there's one I haven't heard! What is that?
/r/ExRedPill28/03/21 09:35 PM
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