| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Advice on not being attracted to HVM mom introduced?Telling your mom. A red flag. Not respecting your boundaries. A red flag. Your knowledge and intuition about the citizenship. A red flag. Certainly not HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:20 PM |
| 87 | Why you click with LVMs: Low Distress ToleranceThank you for this. It's so easy to scroll down FDS "oh how terrible men are" but it's much more difficult to make your own life better. We often have our weaknesses too and our own LV ways and it really pays off to change them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:55 AM |
| 5 | FDS themed fanfics?Which fandoms have HV couples? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:27 PM |
| 16 | FDS themed fanfics?The most FDS like I've read is a modern setting GOT story, where Sansa Stark was a jurist and got flowers from a man who wasn't her boyfriend in a (semi?) professional setting. Then her boyfriend (I don't remember who) came and came and gave her some gift or something to be better than the other man. So 2 men making a good impression on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:13 PM |
| 44 | Evolution biology: avoid LVM, they will drag you downThey also talk about the mating market and the biologist(!) asks how do people decide who to mate with if not with some market theory. The host says quickly "pheromones", but the biologist just lets the information pass. So they really don't know (care) about a crucial biological factor of women's mate selection. Stupid men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:54 PM |
| 9 | Thoughts on the queer community being saturated with kink and poly?How to avoid: Find lesbian/bisexual (not queer) communities formed around specific interest you share. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 07:12 AM |
| 4 | FDS organizations?List in the end of this page: https://womensdeclaration.com/en/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 12:28 PM |
| 3 | Bisexual queens - what does FDS mean for you?I'd like to see a good analysis. I have just started to see the problems not so long ago (just before covid) and I'm still working on my boundaries and seeing the red flags. Most of my friends/acquaintances are from those circles. I'm working on editing my friends group HV way (many people work in the same field so no burning bridges at least not yet). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:37 AM |
| 41 | Bisexual queens - what does FDS mean for you?I have stronger sexual desire for women. I've been a terrible pickme towards them wile being queen towards men. FDS has changed my views. It has made increased my self awareness and other awareness. I have stopped idolizing women. I hold them the same standards as men now. I've started to see red flags/signs of LV among queer culture: A lot cluster B personality disorder behavior which I'm gonna avoid from now on instead of "understanding". Some specific red flags inside the community: Misleadin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:54 AM |
| 7 | FDS approved TV-shows?Sweet Magnolias (Netflix) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:38 AM |
| 4 | FDS approved TV-shows?Same genre: The Bletchley Circle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:37 AM |
| 1 | What's FDS opinion on Anna Bey?Very enlightening. Thank you. I dig a bit more and found a whole archive: https://tattle.life/tags/anna-bey/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:10 AM |
| 2 | What's FDS opinion on Anna Bey?She's selling a fantasy but at the same time she's teaching women it's okay to have boundaries and standards. I like her videos as entertainment but I don't find the aesthetics of her videos very classy. Her lips look cheap and the environments in her videos feel like a too small stage in a theater. Not very professional or believable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Filter questionsPlease make a detailed post how you get high quality men that wait for sex and please you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 07:08 PM |
| 52 | I told him off!Good for you, sis! Excellent. I'm very proud of you. Behavior like this teaches men that their bad actions have consequences FOR THEM which is the only thing that makes them stop. Thank you for your action. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 07:03 AM |
| 70 | “What do you bring to the table?” is a question men use as a set up to devalue women—it is never sincereAnything that resembles negging even remotely. -> Block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:55 PM |
| 9 | Dating in ScandinaviaGreetings from Finland! The best way to find a HV partner here (and get HV treatment) is through HV friend circles, so that you know each other some way before the HV date. Formal (HV) date is not for getting to know each other, but showing a serious interest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 01:30 PM |
| 5 | Share your standards!I love this list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 11:28 AM |
| 52 | "Men don't like women who..." is a complete lie. The more of a "man hater" I've become, the more men seem to chase me. It's actually very bizarre.This explains all my friendships with males? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 07:53 AM |
| 8 | Spotting Red Flags: Maternal EnmeshmentHV content. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:29 PM |
| 35 | Any experiences with red flags in dating women?I just made a general high value list: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mv9mh4/high_value_basics_selfawareness_selfreliance/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:20 PM |
| 2 | An important way scrotes trap you and how to overcome it.Thank you. This is very important and helpful, handbook material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 01:49 PM |
| 2 | High value basics: Self-Awareness, Self-Reliance, Awareness of Your EnvironmentSocial self-reliance. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:29 AM |
| 14 | Are there any specific and subtle questions you can ask male acquaintances to vet them?I see how they take "no" for an answer for any situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:56 AM |
| 7 | This is my year!Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 06:39 AM |
| 9 | Society's promotion of young adult novels/ romance movies created a lovesick generationNot just romantic comedies but all Hollywood/American entertainment is focused on centering males (male feelings, aspirations) and women's lives roll around them. If woman has a goal, it is being with a man (WandaVision, WW1984). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:30 AM |
| 3 | TV shows with strong woman energy?Anne with an E. The main character is a strong girl with a lot of imagination and psychological wisdom. Her foster mother is an old queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:51 PM |
| 5 | TV shows with strong woman energy?The Bletchley Circle is this genre, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:49 PM |
| 4 | TV shows with strong woman energy?Not just you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:48 PM |
| 5 | Alternative perspective on FDS: We are the "second wave" of #MeTooIt's not just the second wave, its the second step, the elevated version. FDS takes back the power to us women. #metoo is about male power and how they're using it against us. FDS is using our (female) powers like understanding (vetting) and intuition (seeing red flags early, reacting to them) and avoiding conflict (=block and delete) to keep us safe and sane and in a good path in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 09:15 AM |
| 1 | I came across an interesting troll today who said that all of our lesbian and bisexual members are fake accounts. Said they are all new accounts and implied all are created by the FDS mods. So please ladies make your presents known in this poll.r/LesbianDatingStrategy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 12:10 PM |
| 1 | I came across an interesting troll today who said that all of our lesbian and bisexual members are fake accounts. Said they are all new accounts and implied all are created by the FDS mods. So please ladies make your presents known in this poll.Why should we care what trolls say? But since we're here, some of you might be interested in r/LesbianDatingStrategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 12:09 PM |
| 64 | How has FDS affected your live otherwise than dating?This sub reminds me daily that I can have and prioritize my own needs, values and goals. I'm more critical about social interactions. Do my friends give back the same energy I give? How they treat other people? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:58 AM |
| 10 | Applying standards to friendshipsI used to be huge social pick me. I used to have quantity over quality what comes to friendships. But now I'm navigating towards smaller amount but better, deeper friendships. It's been quite sad to see how low quality some of my friendships have been. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 09:06 AM |
| 5 | Female Dating Strategy is not heteronormativeI just woke up and wrote a post about dating in a LGBT+ community. It was such lovely surprise to see this post on top and so many other WLW women here. I think I must continue on the topic. How to date women romantically or having just friendship in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 08:53 AM |
| 51 | Violence Against Women In Media Is EXHAUSTINGI think vetting our entertainment is as important as vetting our company. Why should we use our precious time cultivating our minds with stories dragging us down? The male gaze is real and it produces low value entertainment for women even if the stories would be of interesting topic or brought value to men. Nowadays I just quit watching after the second red flag (violence against or overly sexualization of women). Why not first? I'm still learning there always be another after one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 09:14 PM |
| 14 | Avoid marrying a LVM: scientific proof that your career depends on itA Low Value Male, a man who brings low value to your life, thus to be avoided. Please read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:34 AM |
| 5 | FDS Show Recommendations?Content warning: violence against women (and children), sexual harassment/rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:59 PM |
| 4 | FDS Show Recommendations?In Atlantic Crossing Märtha is a HVW, men around her are not so HV. She has problems with her husband Olav but he'll level up in the end. President Roosevelt is a fuckboi. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt9348700/ In La Otra Mirada (Different View) women help each other and level up. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7905548/ And so they do in Netflix's Sweet Magnolias https://www.imdb.com/title/tt9077540. Self Made is a total badass queen level up story. (Neflix) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt8771910 In … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:56 PM |
| 11 | Am I Being UnreasonableYou are not being unreasonable. What I'm seeing here is a man trying to fool a woman as her second "wife" in a country where you can have only one legal spouse at a time. So the woman must know that if the man doesn't divorce his wife first, she can not have the legal status of a wife. I'm from another European country where polygamy is a crime, too. But I think it means only an attempt to legally marry twice, to fool the authorities. If they're not trying to get the religious marriage legalized… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 11:14 AM |
| 3 | Pure Queen Energy in Finland's national competition for Eurovision 2021. She's one of the most successful artists in Estonia now competing in her second home country.Her show on stage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LHH0DvaTKSI | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 11:42 AM |
| 15 | Women please take note!Men are teaching each other how to have avoidant attachment style. How to be NVM. How not to get emotionally involved. They lose in life with this attitude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:00 AM |
| 2 | What is LVM?More fictional LVM examples: males of the Marvel Universe: Tony Stark has zero consideration of Pepper's well-being and gets in conflict with everyone, Stephen Strange keeps a weird situationship, Black Panther messes his girlfriends job because he wants her to see him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Which age you believe is ideal for a straight girl to start dating?I had my firs boyfriend at the age of 15 (right before turning 16) with a boy same age as me. It was really nice and sweet, we kissed and did things clothes on. I think it's good to practice being in a relationship without any pressure to develop it. Then when you're more mature and ready for a "real" relationship, you know yourself (both emotionally and sexually) a bit more already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 01:55 PM |
| 19 | Living with family?You're very HV. Don't settle for less for a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 09:10 AM |
| 5 | Why Guys Dump Girls They DigMen can fake pairing without really pair bonding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:17 AM |
| 5 | FDS as a WLWAs a butch leaning bisexual who's been interested in butches and femmes: it's not about the styles/roles, it's about your attitude! People treat you badly if you treat yourself like you're cheap/too easy/let them. IME it's been more difficult with women because I've had less guards on around them. I've grown up with boys, I know their tricks, I can keep my boundaries and I know my value and how to see the difference between those who bring value and those who don't. But I've been a terrible pick… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 09:16 PM |
| 4 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?I see this as the main difference: secure attachment style means your mind (and guts) know the difference between people who can be trusted and people who can't. Avoidant people avoid everybody for not being hurt (because they "know" nobody can be trusted). Secure people also know that even if they get hurt, they will recover so they can let some (good enough) people in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 02:03 PM |
| 25 | From another thread. And the scrotes are butthurt 😂. I don’t support playing games but when SO many men flat out LIE about what there looking for on OLD, this is what women are resorting to... smhThis can be done with two accounts. Have a "test account" (with a picture not matching with your main account) to match with the same guys and test how they react if you tell free and easy sex available. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 10:23 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else struggle to make other lady friends? 🥺Your being supportive may be interpreted as coming too close (too soon). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:41 PM |
| 18 | Dude im vetting didn't social distance for NYE. Do I cancel Date?I agree. Not a person you can trust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 10:45 PM |
| 5 | Thank you FDS, I did itWow. Congratulations, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:55 AM |
| 41 | My marriage is coming to an end and I told my husband something today that I wish I knew years ago.Good for you letting that go. Nobody sees us just the way we do, but sometimes it's difficult to understand and accept when there's a big lack of understanding with supposedly close person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:38 AM |
| 47 | That's still not that bad, my ex has a collection of beer bottles and rotting takeout leftovers in his room... 🤢Minimalism can be done the way it looks good and is good to your health, too. This is not the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 10:17 AM |
| 18 | i talked with a male friend about women doing the first love and trust me, watch what they do not whay they sayThis is so true. Conscious versus unconscious mind. Consciously they love women showing their interest but unconsciously it makes them value the woman less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 08:12 AM |
| 8 | Todays men on OLD wan’t Penpals?!How is the covid situation in your country? Is it safe to meet people, go out etc? If not, what is the HV way to get to know each other? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 05:56 PM |
| 34 | These are the signs of a high value, healthy relationshipHandbook material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 09:36 AM |
| 2 | The Mating Dance: Why a Man Needs to Be Masculine & Reclaiming the Feminine EnergyThis should be in the Handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Men and women are both hypergamous but in different ways. Women marry up for wealth, power and social status while men marry up for looks.Negging like that won't take you to a fulfilling relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Men and women are both hypergamous but in different ways. Women marry up for wealth, power and social status while men marry up for looks.Women in general have higher social status (measured as psychological benefits social life brings) than men. We have more friends and we take keep in touch with relatives more. We take care of each other. So men have less to offer us in the social field than they think they have. Wise men learn form women. Because of better social and life skills in general, young women earn more than young men. Money is not what interests women in men. Sexual pleasure would be something straight men could give … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/20 06:37 PM |
| 6 | Friends, #KickHimOut2020 was blazing success. Lets start the discussion for the theme of 2021Notwasting2021 feels the most motivating. It's likely gonna be a very special year with covid still on, but the theme reminds us to make the best out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 11:32 AM |
| 1 | How I never had a bad first date! (Except one)Handbook material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:21 PM |
| 2 | How to Avoid Getting Pavlov'ed via TechnologyOh yes, high quality and Handbook stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 08:33 AM |
| 21 | Subtle negs- watch out for themIf I meet a man who negs I turn him down with "I need a man with a better self-esteem." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:32 AM |
| 9 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?I say no to alcohol, drugs and smoking. If it's a problem with somebody, I avoid them from then on. I think the issue is a good test if understand and accept your boundaries or not. "Why is it a problem for you that I don't drink?" is something you can say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 01:49 PM |
| 3 | Thanks, from a widowI'm (childfree) 40+ and not into dating either. I love this sub for the female-centric attitude and focusing on strategy, not being "fair" or kind of other libfem stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 06:27 AM |
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