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CourtCowboy8040/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 02:34 AM
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Need SupportCowboy8040/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 06:17 PM
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Need SupportCowboy8040/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 02:28 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement! I’m seeing a therapist. Two years ago she tried convincing me that I was also bipolar. I knew she wasn’t helping herself and I did the best I could. It was never enough though.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 11:06 AM
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Thanks my man that’s what I’ve been told. Some have also said since the marriage was short I should recover sooner than I realize.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 10:15 PM
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That’s what I try to tell myself. Anyone who truly loves you wouldn’t do this to me. If she wanted to be married and have the family she had it and it wasn’t enough. In her mind the issues we had were unsolvable and she has shown me who the truly is.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:19 PM
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How were the first few months for you?? I’m 45 days into separation and I feel like I’m in absolute hell. I should be signing papers next week and should be final in the next month. I’m 29 and didn’t really do anything to deserve this divorce. I was also only married for 10 months to a woman who has major insecurities and bipolar depression. I’m being told I dodged a major bullet with her I’m just struggling to remember the bad times and that I really wasn’t happy either.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 06:00 PM
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Married for only 10 months before she filed. Suffered her second miscarriage 7 months into being married. Became very depressed and emotionally distant. She has bipolar depression and drinks heavily, which was a big problem for me. I asked for counseling after we lost the baby, shot down. Asked for counseling when she dropped the D bomb on me, shot down. Divorce should be finalized sometime next month.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 06:33 PM
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My biological parents never married, Mom eventually married and divorced. Dad is on his 3rd marriage. Grandmother is on her 3rd “times the charm marriage.” So I clearly came from a long line of divorce. My STBX wife’s parents are married but don’t seem happy. Her dad is a pastor so has a reputation to uphold. I’m a little over a month into separation, she filed for divorce after only being married for 10 months. No abuse or infidelity. Lost a baby in May and 2 months later she is done. She knew …
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 07:57 PM
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You’re not alone brother. I’m just over a month into separation. She filed for divorce 10 days into separation. There was no infidelity or abuse on either part. Only married 10 months. This is HELL on my heart and mind. All the emotions of grief, guilt, shame, confusion, loneliness. I’m seeing a counselor and in a divorce care group. Nothing is truly helping right now but I just gotta keep pushing. As do you, don’t let this define you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 04:37 PM
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My STBX was developing a serious drinking problem. Anytime I voiced that I needed this to change I was called “emotionally abusive”. This was me plainly stating my need and it was ignored. I felt disrespected clearly she didn’t care.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 08:20 PM
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Currently reading “Unfu*k Yourself” 30 minutes before bed each night. Never realized how complacent I became in that relationship. This divorce hurts like hell right now but truly is the kick in the ass I need in life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:15 AM
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Incredible response, thank you kind sir! I have some time to decide but this was really helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:02 AM
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6 weeks and both on dating apps already? I’m only 5 weeks into separation but should be finalized in the next month. My plan right now is to take the one year healing approach before I even consider dating again. I’d really like to meet someone in person rather than on an app. She walked out on me and regardless of what she does I’m in control of myself. I know it would hurt me to see her on an app this soon so why even do that to myself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 09:16 PM
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Thank you! Going to do a little more research and maybe weigh some other options before I make a firm commitment General business was something I was also considering.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:39 PM
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I’m new to this page and early into the divorce process (1month) and my wife filed. You are not alone and I empathize with you my brother. I’m a 29 yr male and this is not easy on us. Trauma of multiple miscarriages was the catalyst for my wife to walkout on me. 2 months after the second loss she was done with our marriage. From what I’ve been told 25% of marriages end as the result of major trauma which is what you two experienced. Not an excuse just the way life works I guess. I pray to my sav…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 06:10 PM
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She had a “perfect” older sister who she’d never live up to no matter what. Beautiful family 3 kids. Most of her friends were married with kids. Except her best friend who was a terrible influence on her and my marriage. Single and miserable in her own life, she wanted my STBX to join in on the misery. Oh well good luck to y’all, I’m moving on with or wothout you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 01:48 PM
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Thank you so much for this reply and it’s spot on. We went through a traumatic event and she unfortunately didn’t want to be married to me after that. When we told her parents we lost the baby they had fear in their eyes and now I know why. At one time she loved me but more than that she loved the idea of being a mother. For her it was transactional. Biggest learning lesson in my life but I’m only 29 so better now than later.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 01:14 PM
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This is exactly what I want to do you took the words out of my mouth.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 12:35 PM
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Yeah that’s what everyone I know has told me. She was searching for a way out and in her twisted mind it was justified.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 12:31 PM
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She already filed for divorce and moved very quickly so I believe it’s over for good. She refused anytime of counseling for us or herself. Her father is a pastor of a large church…. I am already seeing a therapist and also joined a local divorce recovery group. I’m taking it pretty hard. You are spot on and thanks a lot for the reply!
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:50 AM
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Thank you for all your insight and empathy. I hope that by taking care of myself emotionally and physically that this too shall pass.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 09:56 PM
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Does forgiveness become easier to do in time? I’m still in a very raw and fresh point.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 09:35 PM
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It seems that my STBX wife was holding a points system against me. Anytime I did something to upset her or she disapproved of I lost a point. She knew how to get the tears flowing because I’d then compromise and forgive to easily. That’s unhealthy in a marriage and unfair to your spouse. I felt down right disrespected in the final months. I asked for simple things of her that she had total control of changing, but she did not want to change. She wanted to be enabled to do as she pleased regardle…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 09:08 PM
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We were only married 10 months. I don’t think our relationship had the strongest foundation to overcome major trauma of losing a baby it seems.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 05:16 PM
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I’m right there with you brother. I’m 29 and was only married 10 months. Lost a baby and two months later she filed for divorce. We’ve been separated one month tomorrow. I’m also a decent looking guy and in good shape so that helps, I guess? Doesn’t feel like it matters right now. I’m seeing a counselor and also attending a divorce recovery group tonight to see if that helps any. I’m trying to lean on my faith as much as possible. Also simply praying and expressing gratitude that I’m still alive…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 06:59 PM
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Single friends are the worst. Misery loves company and my STBX best friend was hopeless. I guess mine would rather have single girl time over being a wife. Her best friend wouldn’t hold her accountable like I did.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 11:08 PM
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I feel this. My wife of only 10 months suddenly filed for divorce 2 months after she miscarried with our child. She’s diagnosed with bipolar depression and went off the deep end so fast.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 02:25 PM
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I was never threatened with divorce until it happened. I was married 10 months and 10 days into separation she filed. What brings me clarity is that I didn’t quit on my marriage, she did. No infidelity and no abuse. Simply did not want to be married to me anymore. Do not make her issues your issues. Take care of yourself. It is gut wrenching but divorce is not the end of YOUR life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 01:03 AM
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This is me!! Taking the time post divorce to achieve that handicap I want
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 08:45 PM
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Comments like this help bring clarity. Thanks brother!
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 01:03 AM
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Her father is a pastor of a large church and he also officiated our marriage. I can’t imagine the smear campaign that’s going on behind my back in order to save face. I have not seen her since date of separation and she blocked my number 5 days from then. It is truly absurd what is going on.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 09:49 PM
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I could not live like that anymore and before the separation I internally asked myself “Is this really what life is?”. I’m very aware of human psychology and physiology. I knew that the things she was doing was unproductive in her life and my marriage. She had a strong husband to lead her. However, you can bring a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 06:41 PM
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Better days are ahead. You are still alive for a reason and a purpose. No pressure, No diamonds!
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 06:32 PM
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Everything is in motion and should have papers from her attorney this week. Onwards and upwards. Thanks for the response!
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 06:14 PM
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Luckily we were married for only 10 months and had not acquired any assets together. I added her to my banking when we married. Two days after separation I pulled half our savings and I disabled her card. She filed and I told her attorney to start working on no-contest and I’ll sign asap. Should have the papers this week. Big girl decisions come with big consequences. Many men have told me I dodged a bullet and I’m starting to see that. Thanks for the response, it helps a lot!
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 06:13 PM
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You will prevail and be a better man in the future. Take the time to prepare yourself for the next opportunity in your life. I live by a creed that I learned at 14 years old. “I will prepare. I will work. I will be committed. I will be accountable.” Keep the faith and stay the course, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 11:54 PM
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Elaborate for me, tell me the situation you’re in.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 08:23 AM
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Needed this today! I’m one month into separation and the divorce is filed. Not my choice but trying to see this as a new opportunity in life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 06:58 PM
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My STBX wife has bipolar depression and is on the verge of alcoholism. My constant plea for her to get help with the mental and the drinking is in her eyes “verbal abuse”.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 06:01 PM
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Same boat as you are currently in. Been separated for 3 weeks today, was served divorce papers last week. I’ll be seeing a therapist this week for the second time. I immediately got into therapy because I knew it was over. She has bipolar depression and quits everything she does I just thought our vows meant more. Married only 10 months, together 3 yrs. STBX wife had her second miscarriage in May and now doesn’t want to be married essentially. Wanted motherhood more than marriage. It’s hell righ…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:30 AM
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Going though a similar things right now. 3 weeks into separation and STBX wife has filed papers. She has major mental health issues and only wants to medicate for it. From what I’m being told, you can’t save someone from their inner demons. They have to be willing to fight for their self and for your relationship. I thought I was strong enough to pull her out but instead all she has done is walkout in our marriage. I’m 29 so at a similar age to you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 02:54 PM
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I understand and feel your pain. My STBX just filed for divorce two months after her second miscarriage. The first one was not with me. I’m 3 weeks into separation and I’m starting to feel that she married me for a child. I wasn’t sure I wanted children but I wanted to make her happy so I gave in. Don’t compromise your wants and needs for her. Today more and more women are not wanting children so the right woman is out there for you. Strength & Honor, brother
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 10:20 PM
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Thank you! I was a good husband and still am a great man. Taking the time to focus on my family and friends now
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 05:31 PM
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I have that exact feeling of “what could have been”. I was married less than a year and I’m only 3 weeks into separation (she has filed for divorce). My STBX threw in the towel too early but I have to tell myself I can’t fight for the both of us. We will all get through this and be better on the other side. Strength & Honor
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 12:23 PM
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I know I’ll come out on the other side a better man but it burns being pulled through the fire. I plan on taking the next year to regain my own identity and figure out what I want in life.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 12:12 PM
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Luckily the divorce process will be pretty smooth. With such a short marriage we had not yet acquired any assets together. For me it is simply the emotional pain. I have to leave my old identity behind as a husband and now focus on me. I’m only 29 and have a lot of life left in me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 12:09 PM
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