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Well it's the self-esteem issues that cause all the problems that follow, it's best to start fixing the core wounds.
/r/seduction17/07/26 09:41 AM
2

More specifically the time it takes depends on dedication and how much weight you currently carry. Some guys really only need a minor nudge to get out of that comfort zone, others will be knee deep in the shit.
/r/seduction12/07/26 03:06 PM
4

You can like yourself completely right now This is your claim. Which completely ignores reality, if people were able to just flip it around in an instant then everyone would do it already.
/r/seduction12/07/26 02:49 PM
1

How were girls under 29 absent from the metoo era, did they go to another planet?
/r/seduction22/04/26 12:21 PM
4

It's probably more the social standing, since this sort of approach is not done by anyone locally it will probably be taken as very strange. Like most guys thinking they are getting pranked if a woman approaches them, the idea itself is out of place.
/r/seduction17/04/26 06:57 PM
9

If they like you by default inhaling and exhaling is all the effort you need.
/r/seduction15/03/26 09:57 AM
1

Well ego can also carry you through this, but it does have some consequences.
/r/seduction09/03/26 07:21 AM
1

It isn't logic, it is emotion.
/r/seduction09/03/26 07:19 AM
1

Well the operating mechanism behind all this is fear, it is fear that pulls us away from doing something we want, it is a safety mechanism. And usually people are at their most fearful in strange situations, with strangers and especially when we like someone. We get very afraid we will fuck it up, so we start acting all kinds of wonky. Once you get through most of the unknown that fear step aside and you can be yourself again. However for people who by default have fear at the wheel, it can be j…
/r/seduction19/02/26 02:46 PM
1

Validation, it is an endless supply.
/r/seduction11/02/26 04:06 PM
1

Well that is exactly how you give a hustler the script to hustle you. Instead spend time with this person and see where they are going, especially when you are only aiming at marriage, you will be doing this for a long long time.
/r/seduction29/01/26 01:57 PM
50

That is absolutely how that works... if you already know all the moves. Don't need to teach fish how to swim, but you do need to teach the guy that is constantly drowning.
/r/seduction28/01/26 08:01 AM
5

That is the normal way most couples used to meet, just doing things together in real life. None the less the situation will be decide on charm and attraction. You can unload all the groceries in the world, if people don't find you charming that shit ain't going nowhere.
/r/seduction23/01/26 07:33 AM
1

If that is all it takes then how can anyone have issues in dating?
/r/seduction01/10/25 08:17 AM
5

Well you can certainly do that, but do be aware of the consequences. If you attract people with cheese you will have a house full of rats.
/r/seduction25/09/25 07:55 PM
3

You sure can put social skills last, but those can outpace all the other song and dance if you don't.
/r/seduction25/09/25 07:39 PM
2

If you got charm in spades then you can leverage that shit over any fame or fortune. But when you don't got that charm you will need something else for leverage.
/r/seduction23/09/25 03:49 PM
1

There isn't merit, but people who are also clingy and very dependent on others will see it as an upside.
/r/seduction17/09/25 07:21 PM
1

Got to add my overly pedantic opinion on this. It isn't introversion that fucks you, it's the "shyness" which is actually social anxiety. Introversion/extroversion just means you get energized on your own or around people.
/r/seduction17/09/25 07:18 PM
9

Even serial killers have fan clubs, and those clubs aren't full of guys. So long as there is excitement people will ignore just about anything.
/r/seduction17/09/25 06:18 AM
32

Skip the safety thing, people have actually invented themselves a whole new "be a nice guy" piece of horrid advice. People need excitement to just go wild with you, that is the deciding factor.
/r/seduction16/09/25 01:16 PM
19

And now you are her gay best friend, you will for sure hear about all the guys she is dating later.
/r/seduction26/07/25 07:52 PM
2

Well your name does check out. He was doing shit wrong because of the person he is, and people who are like that need help with this shit. A natural swimmer needs no swimming lessons, but the folks who keep drowning do.
/r/seduction19/07/25 01:10 PM
1

Niceness and kindness are absolutely not the same, it's like calling ego confidence. And of course people do because they get smooshed together constantly in peoples vocabulary. Also it is not the bare minimum, this line of thinking it exactly how you get nice people instead of kind people. When you force a kid to behave in all the kind ways you imagine they will very likely just start faking it to avoid repercussions, which in the long term becomes the learned Nice behavior. Which also stunts t…
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:41 AM
2

Very dependent on what the person is dealing with internally, if they got a lot of self deprecation and hate, then being kind to them will make them freak out because it's not their normal.
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:33 AM
7

Yeah many people misunderstand the "nice" mechanic. For most people it kicks in when their parents clobber them over the head for being themselves and the kid learns to just hide their personality away for survival, then replace it with whatever they observe as the acceptable norm.
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:30 AM
0

Some will actually want you more when they aren't a priority, but this is a loop of high insecurity, no good things happen on that road.
/r/seduction16/07/25 09:56 AM
1

Then she really doesn't fit your way of doing things, look for someone else.
/r/seduction12/07/25 06:35 AM
1

What in the chatGPT, that wasn't even my question.
/r/seduction04/07/25 02:25 PM
2

Well from this story specifically it must mean women find you incredibly attractive, which is why they crave your attention and also why ignoring them is like catnip.
/r/seduction04/07/25 08:40 AM
3

Well across the population it will seem as random, because some people will respond to very different things from others. OP for example relies on insecure people that he can hook with negging. And the vulnerability play works on "I can fix him" ladies.
/r/seduction04/07/25 06:47 AM
6

Happens naturally if the guy is already doing all the right steps naturally. That guy also isn't on Reddit asking how to do this.
/r/seduction01/07/25 06:18 AM
0

It is a very good thing in seduction, but long term dating might make many women walk away as they will assume you got women lined up around the block. Don't know what specifically you do to inspire it, might just be that you are good looking plus a few mannerisms that you are unaware of. I've been considered a womanizer before while being the most socially anxious mess possible, people just get ideas like that.
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:07 PM
0

So you already know you want to change this, go and do that.
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:57 PM
1

So far there really hasn't been a single guy who could plan a date?
/r/seduction30/06/25 01:38 PM
1

If his instincts were kicking in he wouldn't need to ask, goes for most of the guys asking. If their natural way was getting the job done then they would not have these questions.
/r/seduction30/06/25 05:58 AM
4

And own 3 yachts, it's the bare minimum!
/r/seduction22/06/25 02:17 PM
2

Sadly there is no quick road, there are things we picked up ages ago and they remain in our head as the building blocks of reality. Which is why they can tear us apart down to the core. The best bet is usually therapy, but if that isn't an option you got to explore your core beliefs and where they come from. There are some pretty decent online sources now like HealthyGamer, that get down to how and why we get a bit wonky.
/r/seduction17/06/25 04:29 AM
8

Most of your story circles around depressive and unworthy thought patterns, it's that shit which keeps you down. I would put PUA on hold and handle the mental health.
/r/seduction16/06/25 09:32 AM
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I would call it tipping the scale, you need enough leverage to tip that scale to your advantage. Can be done by just being that fucking hot, but if you ain't you need to put in something extra for leverage. And if you are real damn ugly you better bring something heavy to balance shit out.
/r/seduction12/06/25 01:22 PM
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That would make the most sense for this happening in real life, but then you read some of his other posts and you get the distinct impression he loves writing this "women want me all the time" fanfic.
/r/seduction05/06/25 09:01 PM
1

I can't tell if you are 10 or 15...
/r/seduction05/06/25 08:56 PM
2

Unless your place is a complete shithole that will not decide it. If however you are completely insecure about how your room looks, then you will get into your own head and ruin shit faster then it started.
/r/seduction24/05/25 06:46 PM
1

Yes I also always make the first move, that is if we count all the times I thought about approaching a girl but didn't actually do anything.
/r/seduction20/04/25 05:49 PM
1

The practice is for you to overcome those initial fears, it does not require a win. In fact it would make way worse practice if you didn't get the fails.
/r/seduction19/04/25 02:35 PM
2

There are plenty of people who love an ass kisser, it's the ultimate validation dispenser. Problem is the actual person behind it is usually disregarded.
/r/seduction29/03/25 12:34 PM
7

This is how dudes describe shit. Women make a whole romance novel out of it, even when they just think the guy is hot. Guys will say "she is smoking hot", even when they are madly in love. You imagine your way is the only right way and many guys believe the same for their shit. Women call colors "midnight sunset in palm springs on a mild summers day", we just call it black.
/r/seduction27/03/25 08:01 AM
2

The interest could still be there but the excitement does not get them over whatever other hurdle exists. There could be a BF, another guy asks her out, parents disapprove, work problems,... if the excitement is high all that falls away, but when things mellow out she might have other priorities.
/r/seduction26/03/25 08:13 AM
3

Detach from expectations, not detach from asking them on a date. It is "maybe she will be into it" versus "I NEED TO MAKE THIS WORK".
/r/seduction25/03/25 08:18 AM
1

Excitement, these games hinge on excitement. We get very invested in things that get us excited, but our brain does not keep the hype going for long. With time even the most exciting things get the volume turned down and then it is just ordinary.
/r/seduction25/03/25 08:15 AM
0

True, this is why I never take my shoes off, you gotta keep it moving.
/r/seduction16/02/25 08:06 AM
14

Take however many you can carry
/r/seduction14/02/25 08:42 AM
5

The two things can look exactly the same until you really get down to the reason why people are doing things. Everyone will claim it's the goodness of their heart, but few really do that.
/r/seduction06/02/25 03:40 PM
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And you also only half ass read it, the dude got through the gauntlet of wanting dates and now is on his "guru" time. This does not make one person better then the other, it is a matter of where they are and what they now feel like doing.
/r/seduction06/02/25 03:37 PM
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Well what people call love most of the time is "want", so women are far more wanted, but you already know your conditions behind those feelings. To really find some unconditional love you really got to look far and wide.
/r/MenSupportMen02/02/25 07:04 PM
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I can't really tell from the story what makes you doubt the child is yours, but those certainly are some nasty people you got involved with. If you feel this is something you simply must know then go for it, no peace will come if you keep stressing over it for decades longer.
/r/MenSupportMen04/01/25 08:43 AM
3

Why do they need to reply at all?
/r/MenSupportMen02/01/25 06:44 PM
7

Idk man, I think we need to get some bears involved, they can probably help.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/11/24 08:43 PM
2

When people got a head full of nasty they will gladly watch the world burn and blame it on everyone else. Do not wait for these people to realize anything, their nasty is steering the boat straight down a waterfall, and they like it this way.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/11/24 08:21 AM
5

How dare you ruin nature by being there, and being a man!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/11/24 08:09 AM
11

To a natural swimmer swimming lessons are a scam, but to mofos drowning all the time that shit is kind of important.
/r/seduction26/10/24 03:12 PM
1

Well people keep thinking that genuine always means good, some people are genuinely bad.
/r/MenSupportMen01/10/24 07:13 AM
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Alright, pardon my french, but you both sound kind of floppy. I guess that is why you get along so well, but also why you will keep having these weird ass issues. I advise practicing some assertion. Next time someone throws wild accusations at you immediately hit them with "wtf does that mean?", instead of looking through endless logs to glean some vague way you might have offended somebody. Ask people to explain themselves, don't work from your own assumptions. That leads to a clearer picture o…
/r/MenSupportMen23/09/24 08:17 PM
1

Well in part at least a book called No More Mr Nice Guy goes through this, although it's from the nice guy perspective. I.e. you aren't comfortable asking for what you want, so you bullshit around the subject for ages and in the end get very upset because you didn't get the thing you never did ask for.
/r/MenSupportMen15/09/24 02:50 PM
6

If you presume asking for a number is being a predator then you got a whole uphill battle to get through, and it's with your own beliefs.
/r/seduction09/09/24 10:46 AM
3

Have you checked any ADHD videos? Sounds like it might be in that ballpark.
/r/MenSupportMen07/09/24 08:21 PM
2

It might surprise you how much gold digging is out there, even on the simple level of buying drinks. And as a wise man once said "If you attract people with cheese, you end up with a house full of rats."
/r/MenSupportMen03/09/24 07:48 PM
3

What would make you high value?
/r/MenSupportMen02/09/24 08:03 PM
2

Pretty sure you should be looking at your local church get-togethers, find some people who are looking for the same things.
/r/MenSupportMen30/08/24 07:06 AM
1

Can you go down the list again and write out what you might want to improve on those points.
/r/MenSupportMen21/08/24 07:19 AM
4

Are you actually 5 years old, because that is the sort of shit my niece would say.
/r/seduction21/08/24 07:17 AM
2

Stationary items, like houses, trees, mountains? What are we talking about?
/r/MenSupportMen17/08/24 06:54 AM
0

Are you the 10/10 man in question?
/r/MenSupportMen11/08/24 11:14 AM
1

So long as you are human emotions are part of this deal, we can ignore them but they have a way of messing with us just the same. What do you reckon a more masculine version of you would look like?
/r/MenSupportMen31/07/24 07:57 PM
1

Well masculinity is a hard one to nail down. What sort of things would you say you aren't doing enough of?
/r/MenSupportMen31/07/24 01:51 PM
1

Well what do you think needs fixing?
/r/MenSupportMen31/07/24 06:49 AM
1

Depends on how you learn to navigate the shitty situations. Some people turn overly nice to try and earn love, others take not being liked as a default and just resort to playing rough, as in "if I'm accused of a crime I might as well do it". That is the general rule, but for the individual the real question is, what are you like?
/r/MenSupportMen30/07/24 07:16 AM
46

You write her and be honest, that you fucking suck at this. Then give it another shot.
/r/seduction16/07/24 07:39 PM
11

I see guys who do the exact opposite of the dating advice given here and have tremendous success with women. Exactly, people online tell you their perfect diet they should be eating... but they don't say what they really crave. And they especially will not tell on themselves what happens on those lonely nights when they crave a rawdog experience. Well they will tell you the next day on twitter how men only want sex, not how they ended up on that train.
/r/MenSupportMen01/07/24 04:30 PM
18

Let me guess, he is now responsible for everyone else's drinking habits?
/r/seduction01/07/24 11:06 AM
2

When the feelings are long gone people will look at what they can get out of you as compensation, to keep the relationship going despite not feeling it. And apparently you don't have enough stuff to keep her around after her excitement is gone. It is wise to consider if you want a relationship that needs to be bought and paid for.
/r/MenSupportMen30/06/24 04:56 AM
12

Somehow you live in 1974?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/24 06:36 AM
3

Well since it bothers you, the way to deal with it would be to say no. This the sort of person who will go hot and cold on you periodically, and more then likely you aren't the only one playing. Great for fuckboy types, but you will be torn up every time.
/r/seduction09/06/24 10:43 AM
7

Good, also make sure to just be yourself :D
/r/seduction03/06/24 07:48 AM
-1

It's a wound you carry my dude, something around being worthless? So every time those words are said or hinted at it hits you right in the pain point, and as a result you respond like a wounded animal. It's a good idea to look into it further, to heal some damage and lessen the burden you carry.
/r/MenSupportMen02/06/24 01:49 PM
1

I won't vent to my kids because I want them to be happy. This is to an extent a great, so they don't have to carry their dads burdens. But then they also might hit the hard days, and now they also don't have someone they can confide in because everyone else seems to be doing great all the time. So in the end you pass on the torch of not having people to open up with.
/r/MenSupportMen02/06/24 01:24 PM
8

Sounds reasonable. But do understand that your friend can do what he does because he is a "10". Women are completely different around guys like that.
/r/seduction02/06/24 10:33 AM
2

Can't force anyone to introspect, but the mirror should very much be held up and pointed out every time people get nasty.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/05/24 06:51 AM
86

Well your teaching OP is flopping all over the place, I seriously have no idea what I just read. Can you put it together in a concise manner?
/r/seduction16/05/24 06:52 AM
1

How long were you two there?
/r/seduction05/05/24 11:27 AM
1

Yeah it sounds like OP has expectations of rapid fire responses that are the core issue. Some people just take their time, it is their way.
/r/seduction29/04/24 02:15 PM
11

Getting shot?
/r/seduction28/04/24 09:49 AM
7

That is the most usual answer. However if OP is all he claims to be then he could be running into the golden BF conundrum. Where he registers as such a good catch that women freak out, he is too good for them. They will gladly mess around with an fboy for a bit, because they are quickly replaceable, but not so with the guy they want to impress.
/r/seduction27/04/24 09:00 PM
1

True, in a generic AI response sort of way, that really doesn't help one way or another.
/r/seduction20/04/24 08:39 PM
6

But in my experience, mainly with 30-something and 40-something-year-old women, they often don't even realize that they are putting in less effort than you. And in my experience women are acutely aware of the dynamic long before the guy ever notices, obviously they will not be telling you about it, but their gal palls will for sure know exactly what's going on.
/r/seduction20/04/24 04:59 AM
2

The advice is "live in your imagination"? My dude, that is what all the dudes struggling are doing already.
/r/seduction18/04/24 01:44 PM
2

If you are waiting for a big green flag to make sure when they are into you, then start developing the understanding that most women have no intention of ever giving you signs like that, to them that is way too forward. Or worse they expect you to read minds, it's a whole shit show. So if an interaction is going well, just ask.
/r/seduction15/04/24 01:49 PM
1

Go for it and see how she does, that should clarify if she can be trusted with stuff like this. And yes many women will be in it to sabotage your shit.
/r/seduction15/04/24 01:40 PM
2

It does happen, but it is with very specific guys, this is simply not something the average dude will get to experience.
/r/seduction15/04/24 01:29 PM
36

This is like a male feminist automaton response. Actual real humans touch each other all the time, without filling out any consent forms even.
/r/seduction14/04/24 04:23 PM
17

With that you are scratching off the "nice" label and replacing it with "good", but selling the same old BS mold that people need to fit into to please someone... Which is exactly where all the problems come from, people being put into molds and pretending to be someone they never were.
/r/seduction10/04/24 08:17 PM
3

It's not that I'm annoyed with her at all Well that is very odd, I sure as hell would be. Not sure there are really that many people that would take kindly to their partner just openly fantasizing about being with someone else.
/r/MenSupportMen05/04/24 07:50 PM
9

You consider walking away spiteful?
/r/seduction24/03/24 01:50 PM
2

As far as mental health goes I'd say people in general have no clue, so they just repeat memes about mental health they read online. I guess there is parity in people talking about general life advice when they clearly experience none of the hardships you have, so they just parrot some shit that kind of sounds like some shit you are suppose to say. Got to admit I've done that no shortage of times, feels like you should pitch in with something helpful but you don't really have anything good on ha…
/r/MenSupportMen24/03/24 08:27 AM
1

Sounds like the boss has set the stage and now people play along to keep their paycheck. And I'm guessing all the workers who were brave enough to speak out got removed, so all that is left are those who will keep quiet.
/r/MenSupportMen21/01/24 10:22 AM
1

And I doubt I'm the only one that basically feels like they have really died years ago. Oh man if only, if you died you would be free. But this is a state of perpetual torture, essentially shrinking down to a bare minimum where you can still cling on to life but never do much living. And very oddly the best fix is dying, hopefully not in physical form. I mean letting this life that is stuck in a tiny hole die out, all the ideas of why you deserve to be in that hole to die out, all the people who…
/r/MenSupportMen21/01/24 10:14 AM
5

What would you say is the correct answer to those questions?
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 08:32 PM
1

But Im still insecure that she will be bored and leave for someone "alpha" and hotter. Well there are two distinct pieces to this puzzle. First is her choice, she gets to make that, you only get to make your choice. And even ladies who date an alpha chad can easily go pick another one when bored, this is not a guarantee for anything. Just in general humans come with no warranty, got to wait for them robo girlfriends for that one. The second piece however is the real critical part for your experi…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 08:28 PM
4

What also frustrates me is that everyone criticizes him behind is back, but when face to face is all smiles and laughs. That is humanity in a nutshell right there. Question is, should we keep relying on polite dishonesty, or is there a better way?
/r/MenSupportMen25/12/23 10:02 AM
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Well you will be frustrated searching for a perfect answer to a messy situation. In the moment we can at best stop the harm that is currently being done. But fixing those bullies... that is a much larger question and undertaking. As for what I would do, in that moment I would probably dish out some punishment because I personally lean toward angry responses. And what I have learned from my childhood and bullying, when our monkey brains get a direct pain response for their actions they will conse…
/r/MenSupportMen10/12/23 01:28 PM
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You have come to the crossroads where you need to be your own person and your parents want someone else. This is the moment where we decide to grow or fit into someone else's box. I would start by honestly talking to your parents about the direction you want to live in and how their wants are counter productive to your fulfilling life. Can't promise you a great outcome, but clearing the air is always a better choice then silent suffering.
/r/MenSupportMen18/10/23 08:20 AM
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You might consider yourself an ahole in this because you are very likely a people pleaser, and not serving the people around you will feel all kinds of wrong. This is also how you get yourself in all kinds of troubling relationships, people see you will take on any weight they put on you so they start to do it more and more. And since it's easier for someone else to carry our shit, we will keep taking that road, because it has become the easier way to do things. If you want the people around you…
/r/MenSupportMen08/10/23 09:26 AM
2

Lube and less pressure should slowly get you closer to the physical experience of vaginal sex. Of course there is not just that, you had 14 years or so training your brain to find climax in a specific way that is completely different from your new way. It will take time to adapt, luckily our patterns aren't set in stone, but they also don't have an on/off switch.
/r/MenSupportMen01/10/23 10:51 AM
3

The language model was fine-tuned with Red Pill ideology at its core to project the image of a high-value man and appeal at women's subconscious value system. I hope you understand this makes you ripe for internet crucifixion. Now is it unethical to hustle a hustlers market... well you certainly aren't making this better. But taking a shit on a pile of shit also doesn't make much of a difference, just don't expect people to like what you are doing.
/r/MenSupportMen27/06/23 04:44 PM
4

This does work, but for a very small percentage of guys. The majority would be waiting themselves right into the grave with that approach.
/r/MenSupportMen01/06/23 08:10 PM
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Makes sense that it would have some real world effect. But then you also need to consider that there is a special type of person who frequents those pages, the type that is only temporarily holding the crazy at bay.
/r/MenSupportMen22/05/23 02:00 PM
8

Why are you tryin to make this conversation work?
/r/MenSupportMen15/05/23 02:14 PM
5

Donald, is that you?
/r/seduction01/05/23 08:19 AM
2

Sadly that is the type of family you have, more then likely this is their learned behavior from their own parents. Similar shit goes down with my folks, they only ever lived in an environment full of criticism, so squeezing out praise is like passing kidney stones for them.
/r/MenSupportMen28/04/23 03:06 PM
39

Walmart vest gets you all the ladies or what?
/r/seduction25/04/23 07:53 AM
0

If you poke a bear you will likely get bitten, if you don't want to be bitten then don't poke.
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 04:40 PM
1

If you want to win a medal it takes effort, if you are ok sitting on the sidelines and watch then you got it easy.
/r/seduction30/03/23 07:20 PM
7

Legal dispute would be one option for the predicament, but the stories I've heard around this topic put men at a clear disadvantage. Another thing to consider are other countries, where you might find more sanity.
/r/MenSupportMen21/03/23 09:02 AM
2

The topics discussed are unlikely relevant at all, kid has all kinds of anger up his ass and he needs some sort of lightning rod. And you got set up to be that lightning rod. You do need to put your foot down and establish that shit won't fly, but by stopping it in it's tracks not entering a shouting match, because that just plays into the anger more. One part of this will be the gray rock method, where you simply do not acknowledge peoples abuse, as if it doesn't exist. This makes the abuse gam…
/r/MenSupportMen21/03/23 08:37 AM
3

This probably has to do with how you feel about programming, how it might affect you if you fail again and people mock you for it. Sadly programming circles are rife with nasty elitism (and plenty of unaware autism). No matter how good you are, someone will tell you that you aren't a real programmer because you aren't writing machine code itself. So part of the road ahead is considering that people like to dump their bucket of nasty on your plate. The other part is, how does it feel to get calle…
/r/MenSupportMen19/03/23 08:38 PM
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It's worth sitting with that idea an considering, why is it ok for others, but somehow bad for you?
/r/MenSupportMen01/03/23 08:45 AM
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I've been milling this over for years and the old man in the sky deciding for us just doesn't fit. To my mind that is the human interpretation we are bound to make, as it's closer to our understanding. The God of everything I reckon is the fabric of it all, it creates, it destroys, it has opportunity. And we are struck by luck/misfortune because of the rules it operates on, not because someone really hates us in particular. In the same way nature decides which plant will grow and which wither, i…
/r/MenSupportMen28/02/23 10:07 AM
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If this happened to a friend of yours, would you think of him as a liability?
/r/MenSupportMen28/02/23 09:25 AM
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I hope you sit down with him one day and share all of this, because that is what most people need, not a sympathy brigade, but a real raw conversation.
/r/MenSupportMen28/02/23 09:24 AM
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Don't know what cultural norms are in place where you live, so that can mean a great number of things. But I would start paying attention to her childish nature, to what extent might that impede her life/development. Start asking about more of who she is and how she experiences life, because odds are that you are presuming the best in her and didn't yet make time to figure out who you are dealing with.
/r/MenSupportMen21/02/23 08:23 AM
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My man you were taken advantage of, she knew how to get things her way so she did it. That is a self serving person right there, your part in the relationship didn't fit into her equation. And with that she uncovered what most of us experience, a deep internal lack. (probably also her reason for needing more partners) The road to fixing this is not easy or fast, but one thing is for sure, external fixes are like chewing gum when you are hungry. Initially feels like you got something to eat, but …
/r/MenSupportMen17/02/23 08:26 AM
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Well one critical part for me was having a physical way to express my pent up anger, talking and journaling does it's part but the physical side was key. It helps me to consider the angry side of me like a rowdy dog that doesn't get play time, so he gets ever more antsy/pissed by that, and in polite society you don't normally get to express that side. Activities that help in that exercise for me are running, jumping and wood splitting. But not as a calm jog, we are talking full on angry mode, ge…
/r/MenSupportMen10/02/23 08:41 AM
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I can't seem to rid myself of the craving and void I feel. It's much less of a sexual craving, and much more of an emotional craving. Congratulations, you uncovered your humanity. And unless you can turn into a robot this will not go away. And yes in the redpill logic this is weak beta shit... I hope you can start to understand why that line of thinking takes you to dark places. As does your friend btw, a guy who will insult you and specifically go after girls you are interested in. Do not put y…
/r/MenSupportMen24/01/23 01:51 PM
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Your GF and boss picked someone they like, question remains, do you like this person? This question is usually the source to most of our problems, that the person sitting there just doesn't seem right in some way.
/r/MenSupportMen24/01/23 01:37 PM
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But I still feel responsible to some extent for the regret or negative feelings she must have. You do not have control over other peoples feelings, hell you have little control over you own. You both did everything right and everything wrong, as in you both got drunk and messy, and after that there are regrets. Now you like to blame yourself for the mess and she like to blame you too, one thing is for certain you two should not be involved further.
/r/MenSupportMen09/01/23 09:24 AM
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Yeah, first part is putting down the whip, and then you can slowly see the good that really comes from you. Also why affirmations feel like BS if we just try to force it from the start.
/r/MenSupportMen08/01/23 01:38 PM
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It's the usual parent problem, to them you were a baby for 18 years and now they don't intend to let you go. Got to spend time sitting and talking to them, making clear that if you can't have your own life one day you will simply leave and not want to see them again. No shortage of families end up exactly like that because parents can't put aside the parent identity.
/r/MenSupportMen30/12/22 07:21 PM
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Will it be awkward since you two haven't established a talking habit? For sure. But is helping a fellow soul worth walking through the awkwardness?
/r/MenSupportMen29/12/22 09:10 AM
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Can I ask where that idea comes from?
/r/MenSupportMen05/12/22 10:03 PM
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I just don't know how to prove I'm not an R word. You don't, these people aren't looking for proof they are looking for a target, someone they can put all their nasty shit towards. And odds are pretty high that your success in life is what makes them feel insecure around you, so they try extra hard to prove themselves valuable. ​ The way they talk about women is pretty objectifying and despicable. Yet women still date them and have sex with them, they brag about sleeping with girls who have bfs.…
/r/MenSupportMen05/12/22 09:53 PM
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Yeah, people keep picking the "best option", but we can only see folks from the outside. The real stuff we need to know is happening on the inside.
/r/MenSupportMen30/11/22 07:15 PM
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Try finding groups with hobbies you like, that should be a smooth enough entry point.
/r/MenSupportMen13/11/22 02:29 PM
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What is it?
/r/MenSupportMen08/11/22 02:16 PM
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Practice gratitude for sure, especially recommend the Buddhist approach. But OP what you describe is self flagellation, beating yourself over the head because someone else out there has it worse... this does not really set you on a good path.
/r/seduction02/11/22 08:30 AM
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Just stay the hell away from them. There are no major crimes happening in my area, but when something gruesome does come along it's always down to jealousy.
/r/seduction02/11/22 08:26 AM
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Well that depends on what "winning" is to you. Most women steer toward the expressive and impulsive guys, the ones that talk to them same as they do with their granny are usually not a big hit.
/r/seduction27/10/22 05:58 PM
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I would not go near her again... That is a whole ass bag of crazy, and that part of killing herself does not come out of nowhere, she is dealing with some serious stuff.
/r/MenSupportMen15/10/22 06:51 PM
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First and foremost, make sure there actually is a pregnancy going on. Guys get scammed like this all the time, especially when women are unstable.
/r/MenSupportMen03/10/22 06:07 PM
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It is the current lighting rod for everything deemed "bad", if you are pissed off at something you can always blame men and patriarchy, no one will ask what is really going on with you. Of course people also don't ask how it affects people who are constantly shit on.
/r/MenSupportMen02/10/22 10:18 AM
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Loyal? Sure, until they get ass, that is the extent of loyalty you will see in players/bad boys. And I've yet to see one who gives a flying fuck if they are being rude, usually it's whatever floats their boat in the moment.
/r/seduction29/09/22 02:28 PM
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Asking to fuck right off the bat also works... eventually, just got to get through enough people.
/r/seduction25/09/22 03:03 PM
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There is this fucked up line of thinking women go down, that is if you haven't made a move fast enough they feel rejected and then get pissed about it. I know no shortage of guys who just got randomly attacked at parties/bars because some random woman was "sending signals" which they had no idea about, and the women felt scorned just by not being approached at the right time. I get a strong feeling the actual pivot point was your hesitance, which made her feel unwanted and then she returned that…
/r/MenSupportMen20/09/22 07:13 AM
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This might be an odd consideration but try a Buddhist temple, those guys are there to talk and guide people. And I say this specifically because it's sounds awfully similar to the story of Buddha, he was king, he had all the goods anyone could get in his time, wife, kids, friends who loved him. But when he woke up in the morning things were off, something was missing, and all the fanciest gifts never fixed it.
/r/MenSupportMen10/09/22 05:20 PM
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Well we kind of are terrible, but also aren't. It's like a river, it brings great things with it, but also takes up land, erodes the ground, floods and kills those who aren't careful. So is it all good or all bad?
/r/MenSupportMen10/09/22 05:13 PM
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Well you got to talk about what happens around this block. Is it a particular situation? Are there specific emotions coming up?
/r/seduction08/09/22 04:03 PM
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You want no filters and then outline many many filters to make conversations good... These two things don't seem to go together.
/r/seduction08/09/22 03:59 PM
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Well this is the key piece of context to his "advice". And there is a big gap between people who can get in the water and swim from the start and people who really can't make that work. So if you aren't a natural talent you need technique until you get a better feel for how it works.
/r/seduction06/09/22 06:47 AM
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For basic social skill practice, absolutely. However building attraction and talking to your grandpa ain't the same thing, unless grandpa decides to make a move...
/r/seduction06/09/22 06:38 AM
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I can't see the correlation, can you elaborate on your thought process?
/r/seduction06/09/22 06:32 AM
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I really can't read you mind on that one. Can you go into some of the things that run through your head when it happens? Fears, worries, what sorts of things do you feel?
/r/MenSupportMen05/09/22 06:56 PM
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Wait, we are talking about erectile disfunction? Is there a reason saying this even on your anonymous account gives you trouble?
/r/MenSupportMen05/09/22 01:38 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/seduction05/09/22 04:59 AM
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Then I trust your expertise with your generation, but if people can't talk to each other outside their designated cubicle shit will get real bleak in the future.
/r/seduction04/09/22 07:24 PM
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And you decided what everyone feels before ever talking to them. I wonder why that is?
/r/seduction04/09/22 06:53 PM
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Well this is the standard internet dwellers dilemma, everything and everyone outside is too scary, so don't do anything...
/r/seduction04/09/22 06:28 PM
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Pre-requisite for that is knowing signals, which a novice will not know, this is a thing of experience.
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:39 PM
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Shame, guilt and fear. There is still a huge stigma around sex and modern life hasn't really moved that far from it. People just replaced the Christian girl ideal with a Disney princess ideal. So they need to keep on a public mask to fit the social demand. And that is why it's the guys "job" to establish an easy road to sex no one else will hear about. Also why you might get accused of horrible things when her reputation is at stake.
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:34 PM
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Even when the advice is good people first want to be heard and understood. Which is why it's mostly better to only listen to a friends rant and have no follow up solutions, just ask if they can tell you more about it. This is shit even therapists get wrong, because they want to help right away, but the person isn't ready to take those steps. Meeting people where they are at is essential.
/r/MenSupportMen29/08/22 01:44 PM
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Wow the comments got wild on this one, seems you really struck a nerve with people lacking empathy.
/r/seduction28/08/22 07:19 AM
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Well he wasn't giving himself, he was trying to trade services. And hell lot's of people do this in dating, but when you are just giving service for free people will take that sample and leave. That direction is fucked, but if you intend to play it at least have a price tag.
/r/seduction25/08/22 04:46 PM
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There were studies about this and 70% men and women find asking for stuff kills the mood. Sadly all the logical robot rules for consent are horribly mismatched with human behavior, yes it would be great to have everything clear as day, but humans only extremely rarely make anything clear.
/r/seduction25/08/22 06:52 AM
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I though it was cold approach because you have no connection with the person...
/r/seduction21/08/22 10:56 AM
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You don't prevent fear, you walk forward despite fear, this is called courage. With practice you get more courage. Also if you let your mind run circles with the fear it will eventually invent enough "logical" reasons for you to walk away.
/r/seduction21/08/22 10:33 AM
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It adds to your attraction for sure, but it doesn't mean all the work is done.
/r/seduction21/08/22 10:30 AM
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The most successful guys I've seen never even been in the same ballpark as anything gentlemanly. I'm sure for women that works perfectly, but guys got a different road to walk.
/r/seduction15/08/22 07:06 AM
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Well it's easy, you get into the water, splash around for a moment,... now you know how to swim :D
/r/seduction15/08/22 06:45 AM
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I think confidence is a default emerging property of wanting to explore and enjoy things, which we quickly muddy up with fears and anxieties. So "building confidence" is really cleaning out the dirt.
/r/seduction13/08/22 03:55 PM
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very wholesome approach to women What does that look like to you?
/r/seduction13/08/22 10:28 AM
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Dread game? "I am the law" sort of deal?
/r/seduction12/08/22 01:54 PM
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You can always keep talking to her for more social practice. And it doesn't seem like she is into you do it's nothing to loose really.
/r/seduction10/08/22 01:16 PM
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Are you ashamed of your wants and needs?
/r/seduction07/08/22 02:25 PM
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To really see what she wants go out with her and let things play out, also tell her you aren't amused by the hot/cold interactions so far. I am guessing she is just generally confused on what she wants, when she gets lonely you are probably a quick boost to make her feel wanted, and when she is suppose to show up it's anxiety time, so she runs.
/r/seduction07/08/22 01:41 PM
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On the emotional side at least I got a video that is very enlightening: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tr3D_6sFoiI Now for some just brute forcing many rejections might be the main way though it, but understanding your processing is also very helpful when you go out into the wild.
/r/seduction07/08/22 12:54 PM
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Grow a big dick instead, obviously :D
/r/seduction07/08/22 12:38 PM
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If you are good looking, all you have to do is walk up to a girl, introduce yourself and talk to her. Be kind, polite and genuine - SHE will do the rest of the work. This is only a handful of women, most will wait for the guy to carry the bulk. Otherwise good advice, but you got to talk about the whole spectrum of people out there and not set wonky expectations.
/r/seduction07/08/22 12:35 PM
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