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Talk about it in person. But don't put any pressure on her. Let her know that you care about what she wants. And that you want to know what her boundaries and desires are. Approach the conversation with real curiosity about her and her desires. If you sense 'grasping' or 'desire to gratify yourself' come up inside you, silently acknowledge it and let it go. The goal isn't to get something from her or from your relationship with her. But to find out more about her and what she wants. If she isn't…
/r/seduction09/05/26 02:25 PM
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OP should actually escalate.
/r/seduction09/05/26 02:07 PM
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Signal intent clearly. Many men consider it too risky to indicate that they experience desire. We fear rejection. But theres noting really to be afraid of in rejection. The signal doesn't have to be dramatic or serious. In fact, it's best if it is playful. But it should be clear. One thing I do in a playful way - if the conversation is flowing and she says something funny, respond with "That was hilarious. We should make out". Just riff off that. Im not being serious or dramatic - im being funny…
/r/seduction09/05/26 02:05 PM
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Imagine going to a fitness sub and telling people to stay away from the gym.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:37 PM
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I honestly dont think that's a feminism issue. Its a skill issue. As you upskill, you will have more capacity to express your desire in a way that women can take or leave without being offended.
/r/seduction08/05/26 02:04 PM
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Yeah, cold approach is hard. Dudes wouldn't be doing it if meeting women "naturally" through friends worked. Im guessing op is a woman. That would explain the complete lack of comprehension of men's position in dating.
/r/seduction07/05/26 08:16 PM
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No rational human being wants to limit their options. Also, female friends generally suck at helping men get laid. Women's sexual interests are not aligned with men, and this is reflected in how shitty the vast majority of women are at helping men get sex. One exception for this is if the woman is bi and sleeping with the guy. Also, there isnt a contradiction between getting good at cold approach and being good at socializing: Adequacy at cold approach absolutely requires mastery of socializing.…
/r/seduction07/05/26 08:14 PM
7

You are just repeating "just draw ths whole fucking owl". Throwing in a religious proverb doesn't make your nonadvice any more practical.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:50 AM
11

"Just be confident" is shit advice for someone asking for how to become confident. OP and people in his position require actionable insight. Once was a time when this community understood that the basics were useful to know.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:18 AM
1

Meeting women.
/r/seduction02/05/26 05:54 AM
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Fuck the useless assholes who serve up "just be confident". If that advice was in any way useful, no man would ever have trouble with women. We would just hit the Confidence Button and get on with our lives. In real life confidence comes from having a record of success. You need to bootstrap it. Find and read the short, practical book Double Your Dating. It gives a solid perspective on why Just Be Confident and other dogshit advice doesn't work. And it gives actionable advice that works. Women's…
/r/seduction02/05/26 05:27 AM
2

Reps with course correction is how we improve.
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:44 PM
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"In order to meet women, avoid meeting women" is bad advice. We sharpen our social skills with irl interactions. Skills require practice. You dont get better by practicing less.
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:37 PM
10

Continue to offer coffee dates. Continue to offer dates on your terms. Women can freely refuse if they want to filter themselves out. Many women date for the experience of getting validation. Which is fine. Validation is nice. And expensive dinners from attractive men are very validating. But many of these women are solely interested in the experience of the fancy date, and aren't interested in a sexual connection. Those women filter themselves out when your offer is about getting to know each o…
/r/seduction27/04/26 11:21 PM
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Bollocks.
/r/seduction27/04/26 07:48 PM
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She's not interested. She laughed off your invitation. Women like getting attention. You gave her an experience that she enjoyed. And she isnt motivated to do anything about it. So stop messaging her and approach more women.
/r/seduction27/04/26 07:43 PM
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Don't change your seduction game. The way to an ltr is through casual dating. Kust keep sleeping with women until some of them like you enough to consider an ltr.
/r/seduction25/04/26 04:31 AM
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In the marketing material and sales calls, I'm being told that the courses dont require you to become an event organizer. Sartain also said that in the Ice White hosted debate with Dean [somebody] a week or so ago. Im still pretty skeptical of Sartain's framework. But I started walking through step 1 of it and began upgrading my insta. I started getting lots of 'likes', mostly women in my social network. Of course insta likes dont translate to dates. But I can see that theres likely merit in usi…
/r/seduction24/04/26 11:08 PM
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Put it on the table. I find sometimes im just enjoying the conversation, but there's no sexual edge to the interaction. So I just bring it up. "Hey, this is off-topic, but we should make out". Dude's in this sub wont like this for various reasons. But I love it. It prevents you from "working the situation", being manipulative and getting stuck in your head.
/r/seduction23/04/26 10:12 AM
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You aren't scared. You just arent really interested.
/r/seduction21/04/26 03:34 AM
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I doubt that Sartain's costs arent worth it. His entire focus is on building a social circle and either hijacking or running events. In general "social circle game" is good and probably necessary. But you dont need an expensive course to learn it. You can learn it in 10 minutes amf then start working on it. He markets to people who haven't learned anything about seduction and he doesnt teach them the very basics. I think he's well meaning and he's a good marketer. But I dont think he understands…
/r/seduction20/04/26 10:53 AM
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Where in the description is deception recommend?
/r/seduction20/04/26 06:42 AM
2

Yes, you definitely have no idea about this sub.
/r/seduction20/04/26 06:02 AM
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"That method" Which method are you talking about? You appear to have misconceptions of what this sub is about.
/r/seduction20/04/26 05:13 AM
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Why would you care if everyone is watching? Doing an approach while everyone is watching just makes it more fun for everyone.
/r/seduction15/04/26 12:18 PM
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Have fun! Id be interested in your field report too!
/r/seduction15/04/26 05:34 AM
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This is the way. If its a speed-dating format, then the opportunities for guys are very very slim. Eligible women dont need to do speed dating. Attractive Eligible women are capable of meeting men through social circles or dialling one up via apps. So in general they have either decided: they arent interested in actually dating, but they want male attention. they havent found the ideal marriage candidate, and speed-dating might put one in front of them. But if a woman cant meet either a dating d…
/r/seduction15/04/26 05:15 AM
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Don't bother. If you arent getting dates consistently within the first month of signing on to an app, you generally wont get more than one or two dates a year. Learn how to meet people in real life.
/r/seduction14/04/26 05:51 AM
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Its a good rule that can be bent or broken when you understand why it exists. Attraction evaporates when women sense you are pursuing from desperation or lack of choice. Seeking without attachment is not unattractive.
/r/seduction14/04/26 02:00 AM
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ime most girls rate themselves highly as wings and absolutely suck at it.
/r/seduction13/04/26 11:35 PM
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Sex.
/r/seduction13/04/26 10:52 PM
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If have romantic ambitions at all, you are already playing the game. Your choice is whether or not to play it consciously. There are no other options.
/r/seduction13/04/26 01:40 AM
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Yes.
/r/seduction12/04/26 11:19 PM
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In today's world relationships start with sex. "What works" is 100% reliant on that reality, whether you like it or not. Dont hate the game. It is what it is. If you want a solid, monogamous ltr the best start is getting lots dates with different women and initiating sexual relationships with them. When you are dating, say, three good women at the same time, eventually at least one of them will want to hold on to you and have the ambition to build a life with you. "But that's not me" you say. I …
/r/seduction12/04/26 10:06 PM
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David Deangelo describes exactly why this happens in Double Your Dating. Like I said brfore: find and read that book. It's short and very practical.
/r/seduction12/04/26 09:51 PM
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Lol. Completely wrong sub.
/r/seduction12/04/26 09:49 PM
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Bro, just accept it and accept yourself. Fitness and grooming can do wonders, but they have a ceiling. So accept your body on its own terms. You can still compete on personality, and there's a much higher ceiling there. So do what this sub was intended to help men with: learn the social skills pertinent to sex and dating. There's infinite room for growth there.
/r/seduction12/04/26 09:37 PM
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imho social networking is useless without developing solid cold approach experience. This is related to the fact that social skills related to networking and social skills related to sex are aligned but not perfectly overlapping.
/r/seduction12/04/26 05:58 AM
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Yeah, seeimg this pattern is a sign that your game development is going successfully. In terms of handling it, i dont know if theres a single masterful way. Responding to this weirdness is more a reflection of who you are than anything else. The best place to start is just accepting it without judgment. It'll just happen. No need to judge a woman for doing it. I used to simply express my gratitude for her requesting an ltr while restating my boundaries. But I didnt do that often, because as I me…
/r/seduction12/04/26 02:46 AM
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Good question. An extreme example of showing intent from the start: a guy approaches a woman he's never met before and says "I like you. Tell me if you are single". If he is warm, friendly, (maybe) socially calibrated and has no concern for rejection, then he is demonstrating qualities that are attractive due to deep biological causes. The best explanation ive come across is in the book Double Your Dating. Find and read this short, practical book. You dont have to be this extreme. Although pract…
/r/seduction12/04/26 02:18 AM
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You are demonstrating qualities that are good for friendship and companionship. That is good and will help your dating life. Add the qualities of a male sexual selector (sorry, I cant think of a better, shorter descriptor). These qualities primarily consist of "leadership in the human mating dance". For example, making your intentions clear from the start of a mew connection, detachment from outcome, lack of sexual shame. These qualities time and practice to cultivate if they arent already autom…
/r/seduction12/04/26 02:05 AM
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You don't necessarily need to get professional coaching immediately. There are lots of free resources available. You just have to take time separating the good frameworks from the bad, and experimenting with an open mind.
/r/seduction12/04/26 12:07 AM
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Could be a skill issue. Opening strangers cold is it's own skillset. When you learn the dynamics underlying the skillset, you become more able to assess your own performance. Honing this skillset takes time and work. And it doesn't guarantee success. But it does reduce your failure rate. It's also a pretty controversial area though. Many people consider approach skills as sleazy when they consider them in the abstract, while they simultaneously require people to have them. (ie, "just be confiden…
/r/seduction11/04/26 11:45 PM
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I didn't say "be a kinder more thoughtful person". You intuitively observe that that wont necessarily help. And you are correct to observe that. Being a nice or good person doesnt necessarily help men succeed with women. There's a difference between empathy and 'niceness'. The best thing you can do right now is to take a breath, read my big comment on what you need, close you browser and just reflect on what ive written.
/r/seduction11/04/26 09:59 PM
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Thats why I emphasized you. You are not a natural. And in the future when you are a wiser person, when you look closely at those 'horrible people' flirting, you will notice that they are giving value in the moment. At some level they have a sensitivity to what the women they are with need. And they are providing it. You dont have to believe any of this. But if you ever improve then you will look back and see that its all true. Im just offering you a shortcut that will save you years of waated ti…
/r/seduction11/04/26 09:52 PM
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You are objectively incorrect. Your headline says "I cant get women". There's an ironic subconscious double-meaning there. You cant expect to have success in dating unless you try to respond to what other people, including women, need. Your post and comments show that you are hyperfocused on your needs and wants, amd unconcerned about the needs and wants of others. Here is the critical key that you need and that you cannot move forward without. Pay attention or stay forever single: People are se…
/r/seduction11/04/26 09:40 PM
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You are proving my point. You now have an opportunity to reflect on your compartment here. If you decide to take that opportunity, then there's a possibility that you can extend your reflection into personal growth that will help your outcomes with women. Will you take thos opportunity?
/r/seduction11/04/26 09:24 PM
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You have an empathy problem. Anyone incapable of using paragraphs is signaling that they lack sensitivity to the needs of others.
/r/seduction11/04/26 09:19 PM
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That's just how it works. It seems really weird, but it women generally arent honest with themselves anout how they play the dating game. Not all women, of course. But in general its true. Women will initiate casual flings. If you turn out to be a worthy man, they'll want to keep you. And they'll just assume that you always wanted an ltr from the start. They will edit their own memory of how the relationship began, and any initial boundary-setting. Generally guys should accept this. It's just tg…
/r/seduction11/04/26 05:32 PM
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Theres nothing to "get". She changed her mind. It really is that simple. Your next move is to simply accept and move on.
/r/seduction10/04/26 07:09 PM
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You are either: not listening to the right dating coaches completely misunderstanding them. You clearly have misunderstood the entire point of approaching as well. The aim isnt to play a pure numbers game: the aim is to *improve and refine your skills until the numbers become favorable. Approaching isnt about getting the girl (well, not entirely anyway). Its about honing your skillset. Re-reading your post, I can see that you are stuck in a needy, loser mindset. Not judging you for that. But you…
/r/seduction09/04/26 05:53 AM
1

Cos if I play that game, im just another nerd trying to impress her. Its predictable, boring and supplicating. Women dont want to be approached by Just Another Guy. Pretty much every woman of average attractiveness has been surrounded by Just Another Guy trying to impress her since puberty. Its so boring that it's sickening. You dont have to hide who you are. But it can take some practice to bring out your emotionally relatability. Youll fuck up and get rejections while honing that skill. But th…
/r/seduction08/04/26 09:14 AM
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Sure. Im naturally a thoughtful, intellectual person who lives in a world of ideas. I like to be in intriguing conversations about art, literature, philosophy or whatever. If women get a whiff of that in the first couple of hours of conversation, they'll write you off completely. Even if she is a liberal arts PhD specializing in Germanic thought as echoed in Arthurian myth or someshit. Save it for the third or fourth date. To be noticed at all in the first minute, you have to make women feel som…
/r/seduction08/04/26 06:42 AM
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It takes a lot of practice. Hours of practice over weeks. In a nutshell: project your voice. Even when you think you ate projecting you are being quiet. Hooking requires emotional content, not intellectual content. Be emotionally engaging in the first 5 seconds to 5 minutes. Dont chase. Choose your moments of engagement and disengagement. Use artificial time constraints to keep the pressure off. Create momentum and keep building it: start talking to random people the moment you enter the club. G…
/r/seduction07/04/26 08:52 PM
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Stop being manipulative. Just be honest and accept the consequences. The whole point of learning seduction is to become better, more attractive men. Not to just lean on techniques. You want to control her and control the situation. Thats understandable. But its a waste of time and energy for you and her both. Accept her for what she is. Accept the situation for what it is. Have a compassionate, honest conversation about what you want: the end of the relationship. And accept with grace her honest…
/r/seduction06/04/26 07:36 PM
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Progressive desensitization. Warm up by just talking to everyone. Also, go out three nights with the goal of getting 10 rejections a night. Approach directly. Rack up the rejections.
/r/seduction05/04/26 11:41 PM
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Apply your own advice. Try to teach the commenter what Google is.
/r/seduction03/04/26 10:05 PM
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1) yes. So learn the basics before polluting the sub.
/r/seduction03/04/26 09:50 PM
-1

If you arent interested in learning the basics,why are you even here?
/r/seduction03/04/26 09:48 PM
-1

"Knowimg the basics is dumb" is not the flex you think it is.
/r/seduction03/04/26 09:45 PM
-2

I cant imagine commenting in a gym subreddit before learning what weights are.
/r/seduction03/04/26 09:42 PM
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Please learn the basics before commenting in this sub.
/r/seduction03/04/26 08:52 PM
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The field is king. Nothing else really matters.
/r/seduction03/04/26 08:39 PM
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Tbf, most of the commentors on this sub dont know the basics of it either. But what youve missed is this: We all know that carriage and presence is attractive, and that mere techniques and routine lack power without them. But we also know that men cannot decide to communicate attractiveness. There is no "on" button for charisma. Charisma must be cultivated. Developing an attractive presence takes work over years. And it cant be done without the training wheels routines and techniques. Charisma n…
/r/seduction02/04/26 05:23 AM
5

Once again, someone walrus's in before bothering to learn the basics
/r/seduction02/04/26 04:42 AM
0

Gym is pretty much the worst place to approach. Don't approach in a gym unless you are invited to.
/r/seduction01/04/26 08:25 PM
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Give yourself big ups for getting that far. And move on. You cant mindread. You cannot know her motivations. You gave her a hot, magical experience in the moment. And you cannot know why she didn't want a repeat. Get out and do it a hundred more times and you will build your intuition. Eventually your intuition will tell you what the woman you are sharing energy with needs to move further. Your intuition won't always be right. But it will become more accurate as your experience builds up.
/r/seduction31/03/26 01:25 AM
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Impossible to even guessing what's going on without much much more detail.
/r/seduction29/03/26 10:06 AM
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A big part of it is bring prepared yourself. What are your own boundaries like? What is your emotional integrity like? Is your sense of integrity solid? Sure, you have to have criteria for your ideal partner. But the more solid you are in yourself, the less likely that you can be taken advantage of. People generally intuit the character strength of relationship candidates and choose accordingly. The better your emotional foundation are, the less friction you will experience in long-term relation…
/r/seduction24/03/26 07:37 AM
1

Not much. For the vast majority of men, apps are fine as a passtime. If you are arent getting dates in the real world, you are less likely to get dates online. Ultimately its a crap investment. You are much better off investing in real-world pickup skills.
/r/seduction23/03/26 06:54 AM
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Just Be Confident posters should be banned from the sub.
/r/seduction23/03/26 04:39 AM
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No cheat code. But recently youve found joy in being overt. You can also find joy in being self-expressed in earnest, honest conversation. Be straight up with her. "I think you are super cool. I love your presence and your energy. You are genuinely something special and I honestly feel very lucky to get to hang out with you. But we arent looking for the same thing. If you want something serious, then I'll support you in achieving that. But im not at that point in my life where I want that myself…
/r/seduction18/03/26 09:16 PM
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Most posters on this sub don't know shit about game.
/r/seduction17/03/26 04:01 AM
1

Dance teacher.
/r/seduction13/03/26 06:13 PM
1

Now... in terms of your exact situation: I think its fine to put your cards on the table. Youve got a strong rapport with this woman. You are in a good position to be open about your desire and give her an invitation. It sounds like you have both rapport and trust. Being open about your desire with her isnt a surrender. You shouldn't think that it makes you vulnerable like a wounded animal showing its belly. Its better to think about things in terms of "making offers" rather than "showing vulner…
/r/seduction13/03/26 05:46 AM
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Short answer: No. Long answer: No, with strong qualifications. Qualification: "I like you" can mean affection along a spectrum. One one end of the spectrum you have "I like you like I like the warmth of a summers day. It's presence gives me delight. I shall enjoy it for what it is and in the moment of its presence. I shall experience this joy without restraint. I shall enjoy this warmth on its own terms, accepting it for what it is. Once it has passed I am unlikely to think of it again. I may ch…
/r/seduction13/03/26 05:33 AM
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Do your homework and get some experience before commenting.
/r/seduction13/03/26 03:49 AM
1

Ask them. I dont understand why you haven't thought of the most obvious solution to the simplest nonproblem in the world.
/r/seduction13/03/26 02:38 AM
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If you think about it, certainly not necessarily. Its a vague statement that can be faithfully interpreted to mean the exact opposite of the interpretation that you hold for it.
/r/seduction12/03/26 05:05 AM
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I agree. And your rearticulation is also perfectly compatible with the idea that "someone for everyone" is false or meaningless. I guess its a matter of how the aphorism os interpreted.
/r/seduction12/03/26 04:36 AM
0

That observation is not incompatible with the sentiment that "someone for everyone" is either meaningless or untrue.
/r/seduction12/03/26 04:19 AM
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You'll learn eventually.
/r/seduction12/03/26 03:25 AM
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nope
/r/seduction10/03/26 07:19 PM
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Why not? Being direct clears a lot of noise out a man's head. When we are direct we dont have to be strategic or manipulative. We can just on with the business of getting to know you. The vibe of "creepiness" can be emitted from a guy who makes an introduction, but then geys locked in his head trying to figure out how to ask for a date in an appropriate way. Being direct unlocks authenticity. And it let's you know why we are there. No manipulation. No dishonesty. It saves everyone time and energ…
/r/seduction10/03/26 01:56 AM
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Emgage the group. Also make use of false time constraints.
/r/seduction09/03/26 09:23 AM
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Very common in the western world. Just dont get attached early.
/r/seduction09/03/26 02:27 AM
1

Upskill at cold approaching.
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:41 AM
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Why are you posting in this subreddit when your experience has no relevance to this domain, and you haven't taken any effort to learn the basics? You might as well have posted this in a sub dedicated to motorbike maintenance.
/r/seduction08/03/26 10:19 PM
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No. Women enjoy being desired by men. Being honest will help you succeed with women. Being dishonest just adds lag time to your responses that is (rightfully) read as an impediment to wit. Sorry to say it, but you bear the bitterness of a man who wants to blame women and the game instead of simply upskilling.
/r/seduction04/03/26 05:51 PM
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Honestly, I think at least 70% of commentors here have no idea that this domain has a basis in expertise and not just feelz. I keep saying: reddit needs a seduction sub that requires users to get a grip on the basics before commenting.
/r/seduction03/03/26 10:46 PM
1

One of the fundamentals of this field of expertise: Attraction can be generated through expression of social skills. Approaching itself can contribute to attraction, because it demonstrates courage. When the approach is skillful, the chances of attraction being generated are even higher.
/r/seduction03/03/26 09:09 PM
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The anger and rage handicaps you in the game. It also indicates deeper issues which also handicap you.
/r/seduction03/03/26 07:35 PM
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I did mention skill improvement.
/r/seduction03/03/26 07:55 AM
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Its hit-or-miss... But your hit rate increases as your skill level improves.
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:33 AM
1

Define "working".
/r/seduction03/03/26 03:02 AM
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Yeah, its nobody's "fault". Its just the way things are. No point getting mad about it. Acknowledge the territory and play accordingly.
/r/seduction03/03/26 02:28 AM
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What is the "it" you are referring to? It's nobody's fault that women dont have to approach. Thats just the way the game is. Railing against it instead of learning to be a better player is a waste of energy.
/r/seduction03/03/26 12:47 AM
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Being anxious and awkward will mot stop men from talking to you. You are doing something subtle to repel connections. You might even be doing it by proxy: have you chosen female friends who laud your beauty while they repel male suitors? That's a common one. If you honestly want male companionship then your best next step is to own your results. Take full responsibility for them. "I am getting the outcome that I want" That will help unlock a path to the results that you claim to want.
/r/seduction02/03/26 09:58 PM
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If those are the choices then Im going with "giving off a bad vibe". But it's much more likely that men are trying to connect with you, but you are blanking them out of your consciousness. If you are genuinely attractive but you aren't connecting with men then at some level you are sabotaging yourself while wiping away evidence of that sabotage from your awareness.
/r/seduction02/03/26 08:51 PM
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Reddit needs an actual seduction sub, where dudes who dont know shit but comment as if they do get booted. It's fine having different opinions. But it's not fine having clueless fucks posing as if they know shit thst they dont. One of the top comments says "I've never heard this before and you should never do it". Idiots.
/r/seduction02/03/26 08:15 PM
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Once again, a lot of commentors here are proving that they dont know shit about seduction but are happy to offer advice on it anyway. It means that you don't put her on a pedestal. Tease and gently mock her for mutual amusement. The frame is "I love you but find you slightly annoying".
/r/seduction02/03/26 08:12 PM
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Living in abundance does that. Youd be exactly the same if you were surrounded by an ocean of attractive, interesting flirt partners. You cant get attached to outcome - even when you feel like youve made progress with a woman. Beautiful women live in deep abundance when it comes to love, friendship and sex. You are just the tenth attractive man this month to have offered excitement.
/r/seduction01/03/26 11:33 PM
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If a different cultural way of flirting "ruined your confidence", you should look at your approach to game. If your game is purely technical and not built on solid inner game, you have room for improvement in terms of inner growth. Game should be a vehicle for developing the kind of confidence that carries over between social contexts.
/r/seduction27/02/26 07:53 PM
1

What is your age? I'm middle-aged but I've been having mad adventures with women in their 20's over the last couple of months. And from your description of your average week, youve got a personality that is a lot more rounded than mine.
/r/seduction26/02/26 04:33 AM
1

Make meeting women your new hobby. Learn the skill of cold approach pickup. Unfortunately reddit and even this sub are terrible for learning this skillset. But it is a learnable skill. The thing to bear in mind is this: As you improve in the skillset, your hit rate will go from dogshit to merely mediocre. But consistent practice, including course correction, instills behaviors and mindsets that women find naturally attractive. So you become more attractive as your "deep inner game" improves. The…
/r/seduction26/02/26 03:58 AM
0

Well, it sounds like you arent prepared to make adjustments to your patterns that would help you upskill. That's fine. But you can stop asking for advice.
/r/seduction26/02/26 03:42 AM
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By going outside? I dont mean to sound facetious, but unless you are living in a rural area, encountering attractive women should be common. Are there shopping centers, bars or clubs near you?
/r/seduction26/02/26 03:33 AM
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Rookie numbers. You need to get the rejection rate up. Also, stop taking rejections personally: they arent a reflection on you. The aim of approaching isnt to establish relationships. The aim is to train your brain that rejections dont matter.
/r/seduction26/02/26 03:13 AM
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Yeah, i wouldn't try a long or particularly deep conversation, for sure. I try to keep it simple while trying to build rapport. Personally I dont recall trying to escalate just with dance. I can see it working for some guys, but I dont think i can generate that kind of energy in myself.
/r/seduction24/02/26 08:56 PM
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Have you honestly never talked to someone in a club?
/r/seduction24/02/26 08:38 PM
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Did you respond to op's request with what he asked for? Or did you link to a YouTube video instead? He's being pretty clear and specific.
/r/seduction04/01/26 07:49 AM
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This, but across all age groups on all apps.
/r/seduction03/01/26 10:37 PM
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Ive found a huge amount of value in his public youtube videos. It's worth spending time with them. His communication style and insights are well worth contemplating.
/r/seduction03/01/26 01:51 AM
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This is the third crack-fuelled brainvomit post youve made today. Nothing youve posted is practical.
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:33 AM
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This brainvomit will not help anyone get laid
/r/seduction28/12/25 06:05 AM
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Volume. You can get lots of experience generating state, opening, transitioning, managing emotions and diving. All of this in a high-pressure environment. You train your nervous system to not hesitate, to learn subtle cues, to run off self-amusement The experience is very very valuable and transferable to other environments.
/r/seduction27/12/25 06:09 AM
1

You don't have to be a good person for your outward demonstrations of personality to be in alignment with who you truly are.
/r/seduction26/12/25 06:42 PM
5

Alignment between you words, and your actions, intentions and emotions. Do you mean what you say? Are you the kind of person that are explicitly or implicitly claiming to be? Women are very good at detecting this. Women have evolved to be particularly good at sensing this, because their survival and the survival of their children depends on it. Sex involves the real risk of death. So when you approach a woman, a part of her mind begins to test whether sex with you will cost her or her potential …
/r/seduction26/12/25 01:25 PM
8

An abundance mindset (Ok, in dating not all men have this. But this gets refined and built up with in-field experience) Capacity for leadership Courage Congruence Women will subconsciously test demonstrations of these traits. Knowing that these tests will occur, men can improve their capacity to pass these tests. Merely having these traits isnt enough to be attractive. Demonstrating them is a skill that can be learned.
/r/seduction26/12/25 01:12 PM
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Not every woman i wanted, of course. But my level of success massively, massively improved. Ive had experiences that I never dreamed Id have, and had relationships with women that I once consumed out of my league. My love life, social life and growth as a person has been deeply enhanced by my decision to learn seduction.
/r/seduction26/12/25 10:51 AM
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If I had to describe the basics off the top of my head, they'd go something like this: Popular dating advice is not grounded in reality, snd likely never will be. Attraction is not a choice. in general women are attracted to certain character traits in men. Physical attributes matter less than you think. Going from meeting a woman to sleeping with her requires the cultivation of a set of social skills if you don't already have them. This pertains purely to sex, and not relationships. But in this…
/r/seduction26/12/25 10:46 AM
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Thats why I got into the game. I slept with a woman because I was lonely. Immediately afterward I didn't want to be around her, so I asked her to leave. She was upset. I felt horrible. I felt disgusted that id treated someone like that. I knew that something had to change. Discovering the game made me excited about being able to take positive action. Being able to have choice. Not being subject to mere circumstance. After that point, I knew that my outcomes in romance were largely a function of …
/r/seduction26/12/25 09:35 AM
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MM provides a framework for men who are stuck, and need better advice than "just be confident" or "just be yourself". MM and similar frameworks arent needed by guys who dont need them. But if you look across reddit, there are still zillions of men who are stuck and who get bombarded with advice that is devoid of insight and practicality. There are still men who dont know how to cold approach women, or get stuck with what to say. Or get stuck developing gratefulness in this particular domain of s…
/r/seduction26/12/25 06:58 AM
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Great question. I wish I could find a good 101 on that. If I absolutely had to write it, it might cover this kinda stuff: Find and read a copy of David Deangelo's 'Double Your Dating'. It covers the theoretical basics quickly and lightly. And it gives practical advice that can be used immediately. Read The Game. It covers Mystery Method. MM might seem a bit odd and dated. It was created for a particular culture. But it gives a very good idea of why traditional dating advice doesnt work, and desc…
/r/seduction25/12/25 10:29 PM
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You dont have to compete on physique. You are obviously physically adequate and young. When you get older, youll look back and realize that these were superpowers that you never knew you had. There will always be dudes more jacked than you. Dont sweat it. By learning seduction skills, you are competing on social skills, not physique. And by learning, you'll be a much better player than most jacked dudes. Obviously physique matters. But it matters much less than most people think. Keep up the soc…
/r/seduction25/12/25 08:35 PM
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Dont bother. I mean, we have the rest of the year to work on improving our skills. NYE is for just having fun. Shit can happen, because we've been practicing year-round. Working on both our character and charisma. If that bears fruit on nye, then fine. But nye is time for festivity, frolics and reflection. It's a great time to let go of your ambitions and just have fun.
/r/seduction24/12/25 04:20 AM
2

This stuff have me a channel for being romantic. Theres nothing more depressing than seeking romance and having no way to get or keep a woman's attention. Frankly I think its bizarre to see a contradiction between romance and learning seduction. Im one of the most romantic mofo's out here. I love romantic sentiment. I love being an absolute gushing simp when the moment is right. Learning game helped me to give myself permission to express romantic sentiment. Sure, ya gotta grind. But even there …
/r/seduction24/12/25 12:11 AM
2

Shoot her an invitation and move on. The scarcity mindset turns vaginas cold.
/r/seduction23/12/25 06:45 AM
1

If she cannot ask for what you want while in and environment full of people who want to gove it to you, then you never really wanted it. If you cant see that, then you are a simpleton.
/r/seduction22/12/25 04:39 PM
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Yeah. First take some time away from the problem. You are in emotional pain, and you cant learn solutions while inside that pain. Its like trying to learn how to drive while your hands and feet are on fire. So take care of the most immediate problem first. Take a week out in nature. Go solo camping. There are things you can do after that, but that is Step Zero. Nothing will help until after you first get some distance between who you are and the emotional distress you are experiencing.
/r/seduction22/12/25 04:37 PM
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Yeah, you definitely need to work on your inner game.
/r/seduction22/12/25 04:26 PM
5

Dunno about Mystery, but 20 years of marketing a.d running a business has left Owen with pretty strong skills in marketing.
/r/seduction21/12/25 01:41 AM
14

Mystery and Owen are still teaching. A friend of mine went out with Mystery a couple of weeks ago and was pretty amazed to see MM still work. Turns out that people are still social animals, still sensitive to social proof, still mammals and still like sex. The old classic sex (is a few years ago really "old"?) should simply be read for what it is: It illustrated principles of attraction and desire that remain relevant... because humans are human. It gave frameworks that are very flexible for mak…
/r/seduction21/12/25 12:27 AM
1

Ambition for a high body count reflects the same thing as a low body count: Scarcity mindset. At the end of the day what matters is emotional and spiritual satisfaction. Get good at game to enhance the quality of your life. To have good women in your life. To have options. Nobody cares about notches. They dont matter to anyone. And you arent impressing anyone.
/r/seduction21/12/25 12:13 AM
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Try these words: "I want to hook up". Push those words out of your mouth in the direction of the person that you want to hook up with. If you can't do that, its because you dont actually want to hook up.
/r/seduction20/12/25 07:39 AM
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I can tell you are frustrated. But chill. Success in the game requires adequate emotional self-regulation.
/r/seduction20/12/25 02:31 AM
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I assumed you were talking about irl. The same principles apply. But your success rate will be drastically lower on apps. If you are unclear on the language im using, then learn the basics and get in-field.
/r/seduction20/12/25 01:49 AM
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Dont sweat it. That's the nature of the game. Focus on building connection before getting the number. Numbers/socials dont mean shit. They are a good metric for success when you are learning, because they demonstrate basic social competence. But reasonably attractive women have lots of options. One more good experience with an attractive man is just background noise to them. You have to become exceptional. So build your capacity to provide an exceptional experience. This means being able deepeni…
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:24 PM
1

You are incoherent. Grief on your own. Stop trying to suck other people down with you.
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:53 PM
1

Learning social skills might seem cringe. But making the effort takes you further in life than not learning.
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:34 PM
1

Assuming you arent a complete unhygienic, completely socially incompetent mess: learn the very basics. This maybe takes about half a days worth of reading and watching a couple of videos. apply the basics in field course-correct your field performance in reference to the basic theory It's that simple. Peer support and coaching is valuable but unnecessary. You can learn on your own. Time spent discussing theory online is time wasted. The irony is that most guys who commit to learning never get th…
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:32 PM
13

Skill issue. Stop griefing and put some energy into upskilling. (You probably wont though, cos about 40% of people on this subbwould rather publicly ragecry than consider leveling up)
/r/seduction18/12/25 03:44 PM
1

Give up trying to mindread. Its a waste of energy.
/r/seduction18/12/25 01:03 AM
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K, ive alreasy mocked the existing commentors for giving shit advice. If this sub was actually focused on learning seduction, every one of the commentors so far would be downvoted to hell and then banned. Now Ill try and and answer the question: OP: very few men are naturally good at seduction. But almost everyone else can learn it. It has two components: mindset and skills. The two feed back into each other: as you practice the skills, your mindset becomes better optimized for seduction. As you…
/r/seduction16/12/25 11:20 PM
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Stop trying to mindread. If she isn't responding, dont chase. Shift your attention and efforts to different girls.
/r/seduction16/12/25 10:59 PM
4

So many comments and yet so far not a single tidbit of practical advice. This sub is shit. Someone should start a subreddit about actually learning seduction.
/r/seduction16/12/25 10:45 PM
1

If you'd zero success at daygame in two years you need to either get a coach or give up trying to meet women entirely.
/r/seduction13/12/25 03:02 AM
6

Youve lost frame already. Now you are just a source of entertainment. Offer a cafe date or a walk in a park. Which you should have done off the bat. If shes genuinely interested, she'll happily attend. Stop spending money on dates. Dont pay for meals or drinks until maybe you are sleeping with your dates.
/r/seduction12/12/25 11:52 PM
1

You need to spend more time in field. Ruminating on this isnt going to helpful. Any more energy spent on figuring this out by thinking and talking is a waste of your time at best.
/r/seduction12/12/25 11:48 PM
6

Think back to a time when you where in a mixed social environment and you could spot the absolute loser. You could tell he had nothing of value to offer you. But you could also tell that he was desperate to be liked and to talk to someone. And you could tell that he was scanning you for an entry. Im not saying that you are a loser. But beautiful women get attention from many very interesting, very socially competent, very popular guys. If you got huge amounts of attention every day from beautifu…
/r/seduction12/12/25 11:09 PM
5

Value sensitivity in a value-rich environment.
/r/seduction12/12/25 10:54 PM
2

Yeah, if you are timid then do it. This will help you break out of your head. You dont need to worry if she finds you attractive before putting the offer on the table. The fact that you are opening up that discussion is itself an attractive thing. And honestly youve got nothing to lose. No, this has has never grossed out a woman that im already in conversation with. Thats because ive never been creepy or needy about it. Its just an offer that I can take or leave... ... bit also its just really e…
/r/seduction12/12/25 01:41 AM
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For getting the girl back home? In my own experience? Thinking back, then yes I think it has. But theres a bunch of factors at play. So if I could get an exact ratio, then that wouldn't tell us if one strategy is better than another. Like, I dont really think that there's a way to A/B test this. If your measure of 'success' is 'getting out of your head' then my success rate is 100%. And being out of my head gets me into the state for pulling. So as a learning tool I think that being this direct …
/r/seduction12/12/25 01:09 AM
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Im not knocking pimpstyle, but honestly if you arent sure what to say then just be direct. "I like you. Lets go to my place and get naked". When you say things like that, the conversation gets very real very quickly. It gets you out of your head and into a very real conversation about what the both of you want. Most of the time I cant be bothered with offering plausible deniability. And my expectation of most women is that they dont need it. What they need is a kind of leadership that makes deni…
/r/seduction12/12/25 12:16 AM
5

Well alternatively you could say "Blorgle fooled gargle; blort globlargleborb bdotglub". But your chances of getting the number are lower. Seriously though: you are in the seduction sub. Fundamental mindset for competence in this area includes getting comfortable with taking risks and becoming inured to rejection and it's consequences. If you want something then ask for it. If she's not interested, then shrug it off and move on.
/r/seduction07/12/25 07:55 PM
10

It happens enough to be expected. But more often you can expect polite disinterest. You cant be judgemental about this. Women need rapid, efficient filters. It's good for them. Over time the 'mean girl response' becomes emotionally meaningless to you: it's just another disinterest response, so you just move on. That's part of the point of getting volume in cold approach: you tune your nervous system to become robust... which carries the stacked benefit of being an attractive quality. So rack up …
/r/seduction06/12/25 09:57 PM
3

aaaaaand another post that adds absolutely nothing of practical value.
/r/seduction29/11/25 05:33 AM
1

What exactly do you think the material and the coaches tell you to do exactly? Neither you nor op know shit about this area of skill building.
/r/seduction29/11/25 01:29 AM
14

"You dont need to put effort into learning a skill. Just be good at it" You dont know shit about learning.
/r/seduction28/11/25 05:52 PM
7

Find a copy of Double Your Dating and read it. Its perfect for you. It explains your position and how to improve it, with immediately practical advice.
/r/seduction27/11/25 09:55 PM
7

Humbly accept the compliment.
/r/seduction27/11/25 01:25 AM
2

Yeah man, I feel ya. Im in the same boat. This is something im working on as well. Ultimately we both just have to find a way to break through the AA and just do it. Momentum will follow action.
/r/seduction27/11/25 01:20 AM
3

At the start, approaching isnt about "getting the girl". The aim is to refine your composition. Personally ive found that guts who practice approaching consistently dont master it... ... but thats because they get just good enough to get dates. And then end up in relationships before they get to mastery in approaching. And I think thats fine. But anyway: dont focus too much on the women yoh are approaching. Focus on improving your frame and technique during and after the approach. Approaching is…
/r/seduction27/11/25 01:10 AM
1

Have the women there stopped being attracted to men?
/r/seduction25/11/25 02:54 AM
1

Yes
/r/seduction18/11/25 08:38 AM
1

Touch grass please.
/r/seduction16/11/25 11:08 PM
0

Chill bro. I am helping her.
/r/seduction16/11/25 10:58 PM
2

Read the first rule. Rule 1. You would have encountered it if you had spent 2 seconds learning about this sub. 2 seconds.
/r/seduction16/11/25 10:37 PM
2

Do you go to fly-fishing subs to ask questions about bodybuilding?
/r/seduction16/11/25 10:04 PM
1

Read the wiki. This is the wrong sub for your question.
/r/seduction16/11/25 09:41 PM
1

What course-correction do you think will be effective?
/r/seduction16/11/25 12:02 AM
1

If you arent interested in sex, then why waste your time on this sub?
/r/seduction15/11/25 08:06 AM
2

Grief is your best friend and a powerful teacher. If you have access to nature, spend a few days alone camping or hiking. Let your grief hold your body. You cant be totally present in the game while holding unmetabolized grief.
/r/seduction15/11/25 07:58 AM
1

I dont disbelieve that life has been hard to you. Ive been through some real shit too. Debilitating, crippling shit that Im still clawing my way back from. But no matter who you are, you have the capacity to claw back agency - inch by inch if you have to. If you decide to give up on yourself - well that's your choice. I'll never care about it. Nobody else will either. But I promise you that at least most of your struggle is not with external circumstance, but with your mind. Learn what 'learned …
/r/seduction15/11/25 01:44 AM
2

Field reports should be in a more private forum. But they are genuinely valuable for guys starting from zero. Writing them consolidates lessons. Reading them helps beginners and creates space for feedback. Reading your own old ones back can show your progress in mindset. I can def see how they read as cringy. But so many men start from having zero clue and they need to make a study of what they are doing right and wrong. And they need feedback.
/r/seduction14/11/25 08:41 PM
1

You are demonstrating my point. You are so deeply hypnotized by self-victimisation that you have decided to consciously commit to it. You deserve better. I hope that one day you decide to take your own agency seriously.
/r/seduction14/11/25 07:48 PM
14

Unironically agree. Us dudes can massively upgrade our game by burning out the victim complex, accepting the game on its own terms and stepping up to it.
/r/seduction14/11/25 06:39 PM
3

"I cant quite see a way to approach right now" is the voice of your built-in self-sabotage mechanism. If you want success in love: dont focus overly on the particular woman. Focus on destroying the part of yourself that prevents you from meeting women. To do this: don't wait for the perfect moment. Just approach whenever, however clumsy you might feel. Then approach more women imperfectly. Keep approaching women until youve bludgeoned your approach anxiety out of existence.
/r/seduction14/11/25 06:45 AM
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