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You're supposed to be the life of a party and extremely social while working all the time, having a god like fitness routine to be in shape, and a high paying career just to get a decent date. I have felt as you do, though I am not a visible minority. Strict gender roles hurt everyone in some way. You feel all of this pressure as a man to be stoic, dominant and take the world by the balls. If you don't measure up to these standards you are made to feel like a nobody.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/22 08:29 PM
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Anecdotes aren't good as evidence. Anecdotes are useful for disproving universal statements like "all As like to do thing B" or telling a story which reflects a general rule based on actual data. Other than that, anecdotes are pretty much useless as quantitative evidence and can be tainted by bias. If someone looks at the world through a filter, they may pick scenarios which reflect their worldview or misinterpret what they see.
/r/ExRedPill15/10/22 02:50 PM
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Your assumption about human behavior doesn't hold true unconditionally. For past behavior to be a reliable predictor of future behavior, an individual's behavior and life circumstances must remain unchanged between then and now. They must not have faced any incentives to change at any point within that time. Past behavior is less predictive of future behavior over larger time intervals. The fact is that someone might not want the same thing in their 30's that they wanted when they were 21. Peopl…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/22 08:44 PM
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Your second question has already been answered. In regard to your first question, someone who is RP or RP-adjacent might try to convince you that: The sociopolitical status quo is much more progressive than it actually is. Traditional gender roles are in the best interest of women and feminism has convinced them otherwise. Evolutionary psychology/biology may be used to justify this belief. The gender pay-gap is a myth. The real reason women get paid less than men is because they gravitate toward…
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 07:26 PM
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Being overly stoic.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 04:23 PM
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The stoic part of RP isn’t helpful and may damage some men’s relationships. My mental default is to be stoic; I don’t show vulnerability or let others in. I have observed that this is quite problematic in my relationships.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 03:32 PM
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Read carefully, OP. The author's intention is not to tell men to bottle up their feelings, but to stress the importance of emotional reciprocity. It's to tell men that they can't expect to be heard without listening. In the author's experience, men have a problem with this more than women. The problem I have with it is when my friends (and in my case, they have all been male) have this expectation that I can handle their emotional trauma and baggage without caring to reciprocate emotional suppor…
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 02:29 PM
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Women don't experience online dating the same way men do. I don't think normal women enjoy being harassed by "nice guys," getting "negged" or having unsolicited dick pics sent their way. It's not that I think you are doing this OP, it's because this is the norm for women on there. Also, for every woman who is seeking an LTR online there exist multiple men who will simply lie about wanting one too to get sex. The result is women feeling less safe and becoming less approachable on these apps/sites…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 06:22 PM
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Developing cognitive empathy for others (perspective-taking) and learning to take your own inventory often negates the need to go through these "theories" and try to differentiate between the good and the bad. Guys who get into this would be better off going to therapy or getting some kind of social-skills training. The "good" PUA advice is mostly common sense as it relates to their target audience (i.e. improving your fitness, self-confidence and social skills). PUAs know that a big percentage …
/r/ExRedPill21/09/22 09:24 PM
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It's cliche AF, but be confident (PUA gets this right actually) and be yourself. If you have lots of insecurities that stand in the way of this, you need to work on those. If your social skills are shit and you're shy, awkward, avoidant or uncomfortable in social situations, you need to work on those things. If you are rejection sensitive, you definitely need to work on that. Some self-awareness is needed here. There isn't a one-size-fits-all script or formula that you can use for dating and any…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/22 09:44 PM
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I would argue that if you are using PUA techniques, you are emulating aspects of the dark-triad. People who have antisocial and narcissistic tendencies (like those with the dark-triad) manipulate people using allot of the same "techniques" that PUAs advocate. PUA basically is telling men to act more like psychopaths without explicitly saying it.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 06:55 PM
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This is a good cautionary tale about what can happen when you try to emulate the "dark triad" in your social life (which is essentially what TRP advocates). The traits TRP deems as "alpha" are usually indicative of personality pathology, which is not conducive to healthy long term relationships (of any kind).
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 06:09 PM
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I have a hard time imagining any woman would willingly want to settle for me instead of someone far superior to me. Keep in mind that what one finds "superior" in a mate (or anything really) is highly subjective. There is no trait or combination of traits that is preferred universally. Sure, some people are more broadly appealing than others, but ultimately there's no objective criteria for attractiveness.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/22 09:25 AM
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Reality is different from the way they are perceiving it. One thing you have to understand is that terpers view reality through a filter. When they get away from their communities and go out into the real world, they often observe things that contradict TRP. However, rather than question their beliefs, they reinterpret what they see to fit RP "logic." This is what is known as doctrine over person, and it occurs when observable reality and lived experience are subordinated to an ideology (see her…
/r/ExRedPill07/06/22 02:36 AM
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This.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/22 12:17 AM
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Many terpers believe that, in relationships, power cannot be shared and that you are either the dominant one or the submissive one. They engage in very black and white thinking. They think if you show weaknesses to women, they will try to weaponize those weaknesses take your power. You are not a partner to them, you are an adversary in a zero-sum game. This paranoid, power-struggle mentality leaves no room for "love, connection and bond." When they pick their partners, they seek to maximize the …
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 08:24 PM
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Look what happened in communist Romania under Nicolae Ceaușescu when contraception was banned. It was a disaster for Romanian society, just horrible. Maybe 10,000 women died from botched abortions and lots of unwanted kids ended up getting abused or thrown in state-run orphanages. I suppose that commie hellscape seems appealing to you? First you need to understand why you have these feelings. Are you jealous because you are not having sex? Is that why you like seeing sex punished? Do you lack em…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 10:25 PM
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There's some looks that are less widely appreciated, but ultimately there is always someone out there who is going to find you attractive. For example, some conventionally good looking people (who meet the societal standards for beauty) are "chubby chasers" or are into "dad bods."
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 09:46 PM
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That type of guy does exist and they are basically next-level nice guys. They are fake "friends" with ulterior motives who only stay in a girl's orbit and remain "friends" in hope that one day they will be more than that. Some of them have obsessional traits and turn into stalkers, others get bored and move onto a new target. I have a female relative who is surrounded by these types and doesn't seem aware of it. However, most of the time when TRPers and MGTOWs call other men "beta orbiters" it i…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 09:33 PM
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Yup, I've been that idiot before. I overlooked allot of serious red-flags to date a hot girl and ended up in a mentally abusive relationship. I feel like some of these guys who get into TRP had similar things happen to them, only they started generalizing about all women based on those negative experiences. They start seeing gendered relations as a zero-sum game where they feel that unless they take power from women, their power is going to be taken away. It seems like they go into relationships…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 05:41 PM
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Men will do this too. Women don't have a monopoly on manipulative behavior.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 04:40 PM
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Do you want an echo chamber or do you want honest opinions? It seems like you just want others to confirm your worldview and to have them tell you that your preferences are "normal." Why do you need this kind of reassurance from others? Are you insecure with yourself? If your preferences don't entail harm to others, then there is nothing wrong with them. Whether they make you "normal" or an outlier is irrelevant.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/22 03:52 AM
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My great grandfather was a small-statured Ashkenazi Jewish man who married a nearly 6' tall blonde. If he felt emasculated by women being taller than him, I wouldn't be here.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/22 02:25 AM
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As a man, I really don't get that feeling, I just don't. I had a crush on a girl who had a few inches on me one time. It's not that I have a preference for taller women, it's just that it's not something that matters to me personally. I don't feel emasculated by women (or anybody for that matter) being taller, more successful, stronger, etc. Maybe I am an outlier but IDK. So be it. I also don't think it's rational to base what is "right" or "wrong" on what is natural or what is normal. I think t…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/22 01:43 AM
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I'm not going to say I think you are a sexist. Some of this is just a matter of preference and I can't judge you for that. For me, I know that I am secure in my masculinity. There is no way anyone can ever take my masculinity away from me; I KNOW that I am a man. I don't feel threatened by women being taller than me or smarter than me.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/22 12:59 AM
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I can't say how common it is, but I've had several girls I know over the last few years (who participate in hookup culture) who described being choked without their consent. Some of them have had this happen multiple times.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 04:38 AM
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It is irrational. Women really don't care about size as much as men think they do. Some of this is based on the flawed idea that women are hypergamous and always looking for something "bigger" and "better." Also, I don't know what you think is normal, but 7.5"-8" is actually unusually large (see here).
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 02:28 AM
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In some cases this can indicate a serious sexual or personality pathology (sexual sadism, dark triad traits, etc.) but I think most of the time it's because they lack experience and proper sex education and use porn as a teacher. Allot of guys see extreme things in porn and just assume that it is normal, expected and they don't have to ask permission. They don't take the risks seriously enough. There has been a significant decline in the receipt of sex education in the USA since the mid-90s. You…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 12:21 AM
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Right. RP content often goes hand-in-hand with "conservative enlightenment" or incorporates some New Agey elements. The "Law of Attraction" also tells people that when something bad happens to them, they are a co-creator of that event and that they are at least partly to blame. If anyone is telling you these things, even if they aren't explicitly RP, it's best stay away. Personal responsibility is a good thing, but shaming/victim-blaming isn't.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/22 10:44 PM
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Sure there are. Not everyone has the same "type" and not all women are only attracted to "normal" guys. There is nothing wrong with being "goofy" or "odd," what matters is that you are comfortable in your own skin and take good care of yourself. Nobody wants a partner who is insecure, neurotic, doesn't like themselves, etc. Start by changing things that are within your power to change. I know it's cliche AF, but start forming some fitness goals and hit the gym. Don't use movies as a template.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/22 10:00 PM
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It's not gender exclusive, but think probabilistically. These circumstances are more likely to be a reality for a woman than for a man. If you've found yourself in one of these situations, I'm sorry that happened to you. In general though, men don't deal with these problems as much as women do.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 09:01 PM
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You're right and I think that's a big part of what fuels these attitudes and causes them to develop.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 05:42 PM
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I think the odds of making it past that selection process are significantly higher than TRPers and BPers believe though, enough to warrant being more optimistic. A major reason allot of guys aren't making it past is their attitude. Being full of resentment towards women and having a negative attitude lowers your chances.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 04:58 PM
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It sounds like you, personally, are having a hard time. Men as a whole, though, do not have it harder than women in society. I'm not trying to invalidate what you are feeling, but our insecurities as men are also not reflective of reality most of the time. These kinds of insecurities (small tits, small dicks, etc) all stem from having unsustainable, comparison-based self-esteem (derived externally) and being pressured to conform to unrealistic standards. Women have more of these kinds of pressur…
/r/ExRedPill26/05/22 04:23 PM
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TRP itself has undeniable cult-like characteristics. If you've read the 1961 study 'Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism' by Robert Jay Lifton on Chinese communist brainwashing techniques - which are often used by cults - you will see that TRP meets at least some of the eight criteria for "thought reform" (thought-terminating cliches, the sacred science, loading the language, etc). TBP is based on the same worldview as TRP, only it is more like a death cult. As you pointed out, it has a…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 09:07 AM
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I think many grandiose narcissists naturally fit the RP suit, even if they don't consider themselves RP'ers. Additionally, many of the traits RP'ers seek to emulate are consistent with overt/grandiose narcissism. Even if narcissists don't make up the majority of RP'ers, they are probably still significantly more common in RP circles than in the general public. There are also probably allot of closet/covert narcissists into TRP who aspire to be more like the grandiose narcissists. TRP definitely …
/r/ExRedPill23/09/21 08:56 AM
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Clearly this doesn't excuse what she did, but I think she wanted to get back at him for something he said/did. He still might not even know what that was exactly. He has no filter and occasionally says hurtful things to people on accident. If she was a toxic person, he could have easily missed the red flags and found himself in over his head (he doesn't read people well). I think it scarred him pretty deeply.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/21 05:08 AM
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I hope so too. I understand why he has these problems, I just wish he could see that his experiences don't generalize to all women.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/21 03:11 AM
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One of my friends who is into TRP has mild Aspergers and an extensive trauma history involving women. His dad is a deadbeat POS who wasn't in his life and his mom was both neglectful and abusive (she used to smoke meth when we were younger). I think he may have been molested by some of the people his mom brought around. I also think he was the product of an unplanned pregnancy which is why his mother treated him as a burden, so he has some unresolved "mommy issues." While he seems to be of norma…
/r/ExRedPill23/09/21 02:25 AM
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