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| 14 | Feelings of loneliness is realAside from being literally isolated at the moment due to covid, I have been feeling this as well!! It’s tough to find people who think the way I do about dating. I’m always having to defend my choices to turn men away who don’t meet my standards, and I’ve had to drop a lot of friends in the last few years in addition to having a very sparse dating life. Ultimately though it’s been worth my peace, and I’ve been able to build stronger relationships with people who feel similarly. I try to focus on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 03:42 AM |
| 4 | A guy brought up porn half a minute after matchingI just reported him right after that and I think he was banned lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:24 PM |
| 76 | A guy brought up porn half a minute after matchingI matched with someone on OLD a few months ago and asked what his favorite movie was, as he mentioned movies in his bio. His FIRST response to this was to send me a pornhub LINK. These men have no shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:35 PM |
| 9 | As a psychologist, I think something we need to do is stop using men’s mental health as an excuse for their asshole/disrespectful behaviorIt honestly is the most disrespectful thing to blame all your shitty behaviors on mental illness. Even people who do have issues and hurt others, if they care about the person they hurt, they will own up to their mistakes, apologize, and do what they can to continue to show respect even while being aware they messed up. There truly are options for solutions, but people who excuse their behavior in the name of having mental illnesses are ultimately just weaponizing them as a way to manipulate oth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:25 PM |
| 20 | As a psychologist, I think something we need to do is stop using men’s mental health as an excuse for their asshole/disrespectful behaviorAs someone with more than one mental illness, I cannot stand when people blame their shitty behavior on it. It’s so upsetting to see not only because it’s just an excuse, but they’re also discounting all the people who have mental illnesses who do NOT do shitty things to their partners because of them. Is it harder to do things with a mental illness? Yes. Do I do stupid and self-destructive things because of it? Yes. Am I hurting and disrespecting others because of it? Absolutely not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:09 PM |
| 448 | People in the comments are debating whether or not this is a good thing 🤡Just some thoughts: the fact that this man is congratulating himself as if it’s some sort of enlightening revolutionary act to recognize a person as a person just shows me that nothing has actually changed in his mind as he’s still centering himself!! And people congratulating him and saying “no he actually held women higher than men like goddesses” they don’t realize that it’s STILL dehumanizing women. Expecting women to be anything other than human is the basis for ALL misogyny. thinking a wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:33 AM |
| 114 | 19-Year-Old Billie Eilish On Starting To Watch Porn At 11, And How It Damaged HerAs someone who is of her generation and was exposed to porn at 8, this HITS so hard. It completely shaped and damaged my view of what I was supposed to look like and how I was supposed to act during sex. Porn is a performance, and I realized that for the first few years I was having sex, I was performing it rather than experiencing it. Porn is not blameless in this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:27 AM |
| 570 | The audactiy knows no bounds.Why was my first thought “at least he’s asking for someone close to his age” 😭 the bar is so low | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 03:37 AM |
| 7 | This is some of the vitriol that our podcast hosts recieve. Be very careful when talking about FDS. These men live and walk among us.This is exactly why we need this subreddit. They justify their violence by making up stories about how terrible women are. This is the definition of misogyny and existing in a misogynistic society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 12:04 AM |
| 1 | What are some flaws that you would be willing to accept in a potential partner (LTR)?Someone who is not on time for most things. I am ALWAYS late so it honestly would make me feel better lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/21 12:00 AM |
| 8 | Women are powerfulThank you for posting I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 04:11 PM |
| 5 | How did you overcome self-doubt?Glad it could help!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 07:21 PM |
| 45 | How did you overcome self-doubt?I used to think I couldn’t trust myself because I had ended up in very bad and traumatic situations, but what I realized is that I was manipulated into doubting myself at those times, and trusting myself is what would’ve saved me. It will always be hard to completely trust myself fully, but I work on it more and more every day. I am patient with myself and kind to myself, and these actions have made a world of a difference. I started by trusting myself with small things or by following a gut fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:28 PM |
| 14 | “Promising Young Woman”Oh no that’s ok! I appreciate the response. :) I wish I could’ve watched the movie, but I broke down within 5 minutes and had to turn it off. Hopefully I’ll be able to watch it someday! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:02 PM |
| 43 | “Promising Young Woman”Ahhh I wish I could do this but PTSD sadly does not allow me to watch that movie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 01:45 PM |
| 1 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!I would love to see a podcast about red flags to watch out for in abusive men. Hearing Lundy Bancroft interviewed would be a dream come truuuueee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 06:38 AM |
| 42 | 🤨Men will jerk off to cartoon images of women with body and face proportions that will never actually exist, and then they’ll complain about makeup on a woman 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 12:42 AM |
| 9 | I usually don't like this meme format but I had to do this 😂Literally, my first bf had ED at 18.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 08:40 AM |
| 2 | You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception)Right bc the only thing women offer is sex. Good to know where you stand on your blatant objectification and disrespect of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/21 08:50 PM |
| 152 | We absolutely are being bullied into having zero standardsOmg and then when we DO speak up about it we are gasit and told we’re “expecting too much”. We can never win with these scrotes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 08:47 PM |
| 15 | This is the best analysis of the “pickme” that I’ve seen in the wildThank you! I will check it out for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:22 AM |
| 56 | All men are 100% lying when they say they don't notice if a woman pays them attentionAhh it’s totally okay haha. I was a massive pickme until the end of my most recent relationship and that happened last summer. I don’t blame my past self for the situations I ended up in, as I thought I was doing what was best, but I was super naive and had been taken advantage of sooo many times. Glad I know better now and definitely won’t be with someone as “unaware” as him ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 11:06 PM |
| 46 | All men are 100% lying when they say they don't notice if a woman pays them attentionI was literally 18 and it was my first relationship I had no idea what a healthy relationship looked like and was already being abused without knowing it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 10:58 PM |
| 122 | All men are 100% lying when they say they don't notice if a woman pays them attentionI had a roommate who very obviously had a crush on one of my exes. I would bring it up around him jokingly and every time I did, he would deny that there were any feelings there. Fast forward over a year later to the night we broke up, he decided it was a good time to tell me he always knew about her crush on him and had actually wished we had a threesome with her. This same ex has continually hacked into my social media for the three years we've been broken up. Please take this post to heart it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Online dating programs you to settleI literally deleted my OLD apps halfway through reading your post because SAME. Thank you for this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 09:53 AM |
| 15 | Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.I’m literally tearing up this community is so great and I love this so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 07:38 AM |
| 99 | In case you're still wondering if men view us as actual humans. They do not.Whenever they talk about women being "replaced," they forget that our lives don't revolve around being their partners. They can move on to sex dolls, and I will happily continue my life doing whatever I damn please. People who think women can be replaced with sex dolls aren't going to add anything to women’s lives anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Are all women disgusted whenever a man opens up or is vulnerable? Like subconsciously?I’m sorry that happened to you, but I 100% guarantee that she probably had some sort of attachment issue that prevented her from accepting vulnerability from others. I, 23F, personally really appreciate and take great care of partners who decide to be vulnerable with me. I’ve had personal issues where I’ve opened up and been vulnerable with ex-boyfriends and have been taken advantage of by them afterwards, but it hasn’t and won’t stop me from continuing to be vulnerable with those I love and tru… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/21 08:51 PM |
| 8 | Do you think that cheating is different between the genders?This is called financial abuse | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 07:44 PM |
| 1 | How much do women actually care about money?This is pretty much a good way to summarize how straight cis women feel about money in a relationship. Marilyn Monroe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 06:38 AM |
| 342 | Maybe he’s trying to do her a favor by kicking himself out of her life so she can move on to better things...She posted a second video with her boyfriend and one of his friends. The friend noticed her before her boyfriend did, and the boyfriend only noticed once his friend stopped | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 09:35 AM |
| 29 | LVM be likeThis scene had so much potential until she considered taking him back at the end. I feel like SNL has overall been very sexist this season tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 06:40 AM |
| 34 | WHERE’S THE LIE?I wonder what they’re “protecting” women from 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:26 AM |
| 83 | Woke Queen. The comments are gold.When men say shit like "whAt aBoUT MEn" it's the exact same thing as saying "All lives matter" when talking about black lives matter. People fucking K N O W that men have issues. People KNOW all lives matter. It just completely dismisses the point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:33 PM |
| 14 | Never settle for less. Know your worth.Ah, I think I misunderstood then. I just got the impression that the post was implying the man would change if the woman stopped doing all that stuff for him rather than just leaving. I guess it’s just a matter of interpretation because no outcome is actually stated on the post. I guess we’re on the same page then! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 06:42 PM |
| 48 | Never settle for less. Know your worth.I like the sentiment, but there’s no guarantee that a man will “change” if the woman suddenly stops doing all that for him. Many times, women WILL stop and then get abused into doing those things again. If a man treats a woman like shit after she bends over backwards to please him, that’s a problem with the man. The answer here is ALWAYS to leave and block as soon as you can when people don’t appreciate you or see your worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 06:16 PM |
| 58 | BrilliantUnfortunately, I did this all throughout high school and was treated and labeled as an “air head” by the people around me, and it was pretty much impossible for people to take me seriously. We can never win I suppose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 05:52 PM |
| 6 | know your worthr/ContagiousLaughter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:56 PM |
| 1 | October 2020 TheRealFemaleDatingStrategy.com Website Q&A Thread! Ask your website questions here!Hi there! I’ve been a member of this sub for a couple of months now, but my flair is still at “throwaway account.” Does anyone know how to get the next level of flair? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:17 AM |
| 3 | Men find new ways to astound and disappointment me every single dayIs dog biscuiting going to be the new breadcrumbing now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 02:31 AM |
| 53 | So many things wrong with this 🤦♀️“Real humor doesn’t have victims!” Literally such a good quote I’m going to use it thank you. Reminds me of that April fools spongebob episode and makes me wonder why people still haven’t learned | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 02:16 AM |
| 25 | Money Doesn’t Cure Depravity: CEO Charged With Child ProstitutionIf anything, having money enables child prostitution for some people. Having power + resources makes these people far less likely to spend time in prison, so they do whatever the hell they want | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 02:11 AM |
| 40 | Entitled scrotesCalling Kobe a cheater is SO misleading. That “incident” of cheating was a rape ugh I am so sick of this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:24 PM |
| 79 | “To be honest, I just want to f*ck this girl to prove to myself I can, and move on with my life. I’m determined to make this happen” - Ugly scrote wants help manipulating a “9/10” woman 🙄r/menwritingwomen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 09:33 PM |
| 61 | Yikes.For a lot of people, it’s an act of normalization in addition to enabling. When we see these things modeled to us all the time through porn, we can become desensitized and start to think these things are normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:33 PM |
| 33 | Petition to make this the sub’s iconMidsommar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:57 AM |
| 24 | And this is exactly why I don’t date. He NEEDS to objectify women before during and after work???? lol to ‘he said it’s like I’m calling him a perv’ UHHH CAUSE HE IS ONEI’m positive this man thinks of HIMSELF as a perv somewhere in that hollow skull of his, and he’s just projecting this onto his girlfriend to gaslight her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:23 PM |
| 1 | The Ultimate Pick-me: SzaIf you like the sound of R&B but are tired of the pickmes, “I like it like that” by Pip Millet is an AMAZING song that’s about loving herself and keeping her standards despite criticism from LVM. I’m not too sure about her other music, but I’ve low-key been playing that song on repeat for weeks now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:54 PM |
| 1 | How can I level up as someone with severe depression and PTSD?Thank you so so much to everyone who commented here. You have all been extremely helpful, and it is so nice knowing that there are people who care enough to take the time and respond. All your suggestions have been taken to heart, and I definitely had a better day today because of every response here. I love this community so much thank you all <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 05:40 AM |
| 14 | Popped up in my feed today- Unable to put up with LV nonsense, more like!Yes!! Here is another data set that talks about worldwide statistics as well as focusing a lot on issues that people in western countries don’t have to deal with as much, such as female genital mutilation and violence against women in middle eastern countries. There is also info on Australia, USA, the EU, etc. https://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/facts-and-figures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:26 PM |
| 72 | Popped up in my feed today- Unable to put up with LV nonsense, more like!https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mind-games/201909/the-number-women-murdered-partner-is-rising https://apps.who.int/iris/bitstream/handle/10665/77421/WHO_RHR_12.38_eng.pdf?sequence=1 https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2020/feb/20/over-half-of-uk-women-killed-by-men-die-hands-current-ex-partner There is definitely more than this too, but here are some good articles/research I found on the subject! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 05:56 PM |
| 10 | Outfits I’d Wear To Steal Your Girl and y’all I can’t- 😂🤣😏Holy cow I did not know any of this!! Thank you for letting me know. I only have experience with some of her earlier videos and quite a few of her more recent videos. I haven’t seen everything so I guess my judgments come from a different place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 3 | How can I level up as someone with severe depression and PTSD?I actually have not even heard of emdr but I will look into it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 05:31 PM |
| 14 | Outfits I’d Wear To Steal Your Girl and y’all I can’t- 😂🤣😏This queen has a YouTube channel called BestDressed and it’s also fire!!! You can see how much she’s grown since the beginning of her videos, and her fashion advice is on POINT. Definitely recommend 👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 04:49 AM |
| 29 | Women actually have legitimate reasons to be angry and resentful towards men. Most conflict between men and women nowadays boils down to men's desire to control, exploit, and abuse women; and women's desire to not be controlled, exploited, and abused. These two perspectives are not "equally as bad"This is one of the best posts I’ve seen on this subreddit or any subreddit for that matter. Thank you so much for this, Queen!! 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:58 AM |
| 2 | I'm just focusing on myself!Beach, boobs, and vodka sounds like a good year to me idk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:17 AM |
| 8 | LVM only concerned with his wife’s exercise routine when it affects his physical attraction to her. The comments support the heck out of him (as if I’m shocked).Edit: his *DEPRESSED wife’s exercise routine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:53 PM |
| 7 | LVM only concerned with his wife’s exercise routine when it affects his physical attraction to her. The comments support the heck out of him (as if I’m shocked).I also got the feeling that she is depressed!! It is so obvious she is showing signs of it, but of course he only cares about her freaking body weight and ability to have sex with him how he likes it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:38 PM |
| 7 | LVM only concerned with his wife’s exercise routine when it affects his physical attraction to her. The comments support the heck out of him (as if I’m shocked).It’s perfectly fine to want a partner who exercises if that’s what you’re about, but I think my issue with this is that this woman was never into exercising, and he never seemed to care until she gained a bit of weight. I don’t feel like the health argument can be made here because even when she was thinner, she wasn’t exercising, but all of a sudden, he wants her to exercise. It’s not like she became obese or anything, and with marriage, people have to expect that their partner’s looks will cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:34 PM |
| 4 | Advice on breaking up with someone emotionally manipulative?As someone who’s currently going through a breakup with a very emotionally manipulative person, the best thing I’ve done is block him completely and be true to my boundaries. I told him I didn’t want to talk to him ever again, and I am sticking to it. Since we’ve broken up he’s sent me numerous gifts and long letters trying to “apologize,” and there has been nothing more rewarding than simply blocking him and keeping zero contact with him. It’s been really really hard, if I’m going to be honest,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:27 AM |
| 2 | When you rise above your conditioningWhich sub is this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Saw these as I was helping my mom clean out her office. Aside from making me chuckle, they hella reminded me of FDS and all you wonderful ladiesYes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Saw these as I was helping my mom clean out her office. Aside from making me chuckle, they hella reminded me of FDS and all you wonderful ladiesShe actually isn’t the one who bought them unfortunately so she doesn’t know 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:41 AM |
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