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FundamentalsDilpil01/r/seduction14/05/20 04:43 AM
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I think you got the rough snapshot of how society is progressing but it does no good to dwell on it and over indulge or you're just another male casualty.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/22 07:10 PM
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Bro rememeber not to let this stuff affect your mental health, it isn't worth it. Just live a good life and stay positive, but also be aware, that it.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/22 06:51 PM
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I think being 'loyal' is one thing, but she should be trying to project a good image to you if she respects you. She should want you to stay with her and she should fear that revealing these details might prevent that from happening. It's always hard to know for certain why they might do it. Maybe she's one of those liberal feminist types that's been conditioned to think being sexually promiscuous is fine and won't affect a ltr. Maybe it's a test to get a reaction. Maybe on some level she feels …
/r/TheRedPill26/12/21 03:24 PM
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"they have the ability to fall in love, but no patience for it" That's 100 per cent the perfect way to describe it. They are caught in a cycle of jumping from guy to guy riding the initial wave of emotion and energy but without the fortitude to push through the rough patches that inevitably come with relationships.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/21 06:22 PM
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Good post bro but if you think you need therapy for what you've witnessed, then definetly get therapy. Getting your head in the right place and staying healthy is second to absolutely nothing.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/21 06:08 PM
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Yeah and you gotta flip some burgers.
/r/seduction21/06/21 05:12 AM
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You're a cringe machine mate, keep on churning.
/r/seduction21/06/21 05:07 AM
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Yup and yet somehow people here think it's smart.
/r/seduction21/06/21 01:16 AM
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It's very simple, those girls view you as boring and just a friend at best. They are not interested in you because you didn't excite them on the date. Don't over think this, it's very simple. You have to bring humor, excitement, confidence and flirtation to dates. Girls have to feel emotion and a buzz in the air when they are with you. You have to provide this, they won't do it for you. Any guy can be nice, being nice is easy, but it takes work and balls to become charming and authentic.
/r/seduction11/06/21 06:31 AM
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Undermining someone elses success. Pulling them down rather than boosting them up when they are succeeding. Socially pulling the grenade, i.e. rather than helping others succeed, instead I'm gonna make sure we all fail. Also taking a obvious joke or banter too seriously. Talking over people constantly without adding value to the conversation or constantly raising your voice to ensure you are heard.
/r/seduction06/04/21 05:29 PM
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Sure no worries thanks for the advice, let me wack some cologne under my armpits and we good to go!
/r/seduction24/03/21 03:01 PM
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It was sour af mate
/r/seduction24/03/21 08:28 AM
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Legit curious what you recommend? Other brands of body spray or Anti persperent instead?
/r/seduction24/03/21 08:24 AM
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That part about being macho alpha whatever....wowee that's cringe. He probably saw you and instantly looked away because you are just a stranger to him and he doesn't recognise you as anymore than that. You're the one breaking convention and talking to people while they are trying to complete sets, he's just going about his business. I applaud that you are trying and and taking action, but don't take stuff you read online about alphas holding eye contact or signals from girls too seriously. Inst…
/r/seduction03/03/21 05:51 PM
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OP says his game is good, but I disagree, I dont think it is...at all. Not being needy is good start, but does not mean you have good game. She's making the time to meet and hang out, so she's interested to some degree and there is an element of trust. Sounds to me the dynamic needs to change so there is some romantic interest from both sides. Things are too tame and need to get a bit more spicy. This won't just happen by accident, you'll have to find a way to start escalating things and taking …
/r/seduction27/08/20 04:24 AM
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Wtf did I just read Edit: this should be copy pasta
/r/seduction24/07/20 08:28 AM
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Well you can complain online or you can do something about it. Coming to Reddit looking for some sympathy is weak. Get into the gym and lift a few times a week and buy some protein powder if you need to develop your body. Start putting some money and time into developing a decent style if it's your face that's the problem. Develop a hobby or two that you can post on your social media to show your interesting life. Or you can ignore this and just complain and things won't progress at all. Up to y…
/r/seduction21/07/20 02:36 AM
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Be careful because people here will misinterpret your posts and it could result in them making some bad life choices. What you're talking about isn't friend zone...it's more like acquaintances.
/r/seduction15/07/20 04:22 PM
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There's a mixture of responses here, some of them are really good. The most important thing for you is that you don't make anyone else the centre point of your life. A relationship should be an extension of your life not the main focus. I think chicks are at their happiest when their man is focused primarily on himself rather than them. They want a leader. You are the king first and foremost and she is your queen. That isn't to say you shouldn't have feelings at all, that also won't work in the …
/r/seduction09/06/20 06:46 AM
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When I read things such as "should I amog, dominate, etc" I just cringe... This is a byproduct of men being confused by what masculinity is in the modern day and reading dumb stuff online that confuses them even more. Just be yourself and be fun, enjoy life and the people you hang with. Try to see people as people and not simply a means to look cooler. Bring positive energy to every interaction.
/r/seduction26/05/20 02:21 AM
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Is this post like a copy pasta meme or something? It's like the guy is arguing with himself? The advice on here is always varied...but generally most of it is decent, healthy advice about striving to be the most confident and charasmatic version of yourself.
/r/seduction19/05/20 06:03 AM
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Wait is this the same incel guy as the last poster? Do you jump from account to account? Let me guess - you're one of these 'ugly' men that are having trouble getting laid right, because all women are so 'obsessed' with good looking men? It must be looks right? Just the way of the world I suppose. I guarantee it isn't your terrible personality holding you back though...nah couldn't be that. One thing I'm certain about is that you come from a bad place when it comes to girls and you have some sup…
/r/seduction18/05/20 04:45 PM
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100% hard disagree. Also I have no idea what caused that little tirade at the end...Chelsea shoes and jewelry? Haha. The other poster said most of it, but I'm going to add that charisma is like a muscle, it needs to be worked regularly and developed over time. I don't think it's worth writing anymore though because I'm getting the vibe that you just want to complain and troll.
/r/seduction16/05/20 02:40 AM
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Yeah actually you're right - ok in that case just ask about her day and what her pet name is and what she's having for dinner instead. That'll get her dripping wet. In all seriousness it's going to be difficult to seduce someone if you can't engage in fun banter or at least bring up interesting and relevent conversation. Defying norms and doing things that most guys don't do is what will set you apart from other guys and make her think you're different.
/r/seduction15/05/20 04:18 PM
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Put the focus on your own entertainment and making sure you're having a good time during the interaction. Look around your environment and make commentary about funny or interesting things you notice and share it with them. Challenge yourself to have a conversation that you want to have and interests you, something completely different from the norm, not something that you think interests her. Your passion and enthusiasm for talking about something you notice or something that interests you will…
/r/seduction15/05/20 07:58 AM
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No it isn't sexist and never called anyone brainless.
/r/seduction13/05/20 06:29 PM
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Stop over analysing things and being emotional, that's a girls job. 24 is stupid young. Stop creating problems in your mind. Work on yourself during quarantine, sort your fashion, looks, aesthetic, scent and hygenie until things go back to normal. Get some professional grade snaps with your close mates for your tinder. Make plans for what your gonna do and how/where you will approach and pickup when this pandemic is over. Stick to your plans. Don't make whiney soppy posts on Reddit about your fe…
/r/seduction13/05/20 06:25 PM
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Remember guys - Never ask a fish how to catch it, instead ask other successful fishermen.
/r/seduction13/05/20 06:11 PM
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Typically if it doesn't happen fast, it doesn't happen at all, especially with girls. There are exceptions to this under certain circumstances, if someone is taken for example, but it's rare. I do think Corona is potentially one of those exceptions. It's an unprecedent social situation we've never seen before so it's difficult to know how people will react. I'd say that if they are interacting with your social media, sending you messages first or liking your stuff, that's a good sign.
/r/seduction22/04/20 04:04 PM
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Above all else - don't over think it. Until you've met her in real life and had actual experiences together, she is little more than a stranger to you and shouldn't be dominating your thoughts, emotions or time. This is unhealthy and a bit pathetic. Instead view it as an experiment to see what happens and what works. There will be many experiments in your life, 23 is super young. I know it's a new, exciting experience but view it for what it is. Play it by ear, chat a bit back, maybe flirt a lit…
/r/seduction22/04/20 03:57 PM
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Assertive has its base in confidence. It's when you're clear in your mind what you want, can read the situation in front of you and know the best or most ideal decision to make given the circumstances. Aggression usually comes when someone is frustrated or has lacks choice in how to deal with a matter, so their natural reaction is to get angry. It usually comes from a place of frustration, fear, uncertainty or lack of control over a situation/surroundings. People (and especially girls) instictiv…
/r/seduction22/04/20 08:51 AM
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You try to think of an observational opener. (In a bar - what drink is that? In a clothes store - can I get your opinion on some clothing?) If nothing comes within 3 seconds you simply walk up and say hi, say she looks interesting, say you feel like meeting new people and ask her what she's up to. Start with basic questions, let her talk as much as possible listen to her and react to what she says. Try to leapfrog out from interview questions into more natural, organic conversation wherever poss…
/r/seduction21/04/20 11:16 AM
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Yeah I guess - but my point is why even bother to humor it? What's to gain? That to me says you care what they think after the rejection when they are of no use anymore. It's no biggie either way.
/r/seduction21/04/20 10:58 AM
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What's the reason for making jokes? Are they part of a friendship group and you're trying to keep it civil or something? If you get rejected by a girl you want to date, why care or keep trying to talk? Very unlikely change their mind so why bother worrying about making it into a joke? Don't stroke your ego if it doesn't work out with someone that isn't interested just move on to the next.
/r/seduction21/04/20 05:55 AM
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Dude your comment gave me a good laugh.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/20 05:24 PM
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No. If you watch the show (which you should because it's amazing), people followed this guys orders and the reactor blew up because of it. It's like saying you should totally go talk to people because it will definetly screw up.
/r/seduction01/03/20 01:35 PM
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I don't think it's wise to use a meme from a show based on Chernobyl, one of the biggest catastrophic disasters in human history, for rushing into doing an action. Gives the wrong message, like rushing into action will result in things not working out.
/r/seduction26/02/20 05:34 AM
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Ironically, forming a caricature of himself shows insecurity, which to me is the opposite of true masculinity. Have all the threesomes you want, but writing, boasting and acting in that way is inauthentic and childish.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/20 05:30 AM
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A massive tip is to make sure you're socialising throughout the day, maybe call a friend or talk before or chat to the Uber driver. You want to be in a social mood by the time you're at the venue. If there is a line try and chat up anyone around the moment you step in, just ask something like how long will this take and then launch into a convo. Someone said don't look at your phone, this is important, you must be aware and live in the moment. Try to chat to people the moment you walk in and don…
/r/seduction25/10/19 06:39 PM
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This post adds nothing new.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/19 01:25 PM
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I feel like you've developed thoughts and ideologies through actual trial and error in the field and being creative rather than just reading and spouting constant echo-chamber redpill/pua content, which to me shows that you've actually grown. Good work.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/19 08:30 AM
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It's such a shame, because I'd love to know what he thinks of modern society. We've gone downhill big time since his passing. He would've had so much material to use.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/19 03:51 AM
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Ok dude, you need to work on building your charisma, coming out of your comfort zone, being relateable and infusing your personality into conversations. You must learn to remove your filter and start living in the moment, read into the person, ask them unusual but interesting questions on the spot that haven't been prepared. Charisma is a skill that can be learned and achieved by everyone. I'd highly recommend that you take some improv classes, watching more stand up comedy and start gathering a…
/r/seduction08/08/19 04:02 AM
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You've got to let go of this mind set of 'fastest route to getting laid'. It's trauma energy that won't get you anywhere. You've put girls and sex on such a pedestal that you're going into every interaction trying to achieve something and not enjoying the interaction and conversation itself. Girls will intuitively know when you're doing this. Rather than trying to change or improve for the sake of getting laid, instead look to improve yourself for you and have a bit of self respect. Go into inte…
/r/seduction08/08/19 02:13 AM
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Let me ask you, why should a girl date you? When you approach a girl, what are you bringing to the table to makes the interaction enjoyable? What separates you from the 3 billion other men on this planet? Working on yourself won't result in woman coming straight to you, that's obviously not true. However it will make you a more interesting and confident individual who will do a lot better in your everyday interactions with people generally. It's indirect benefits, but it's extremely important.
/r/seduction07/08/19 05:16 PM
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Dude I don't disagree but from your comments you seem incredibly desperate/negative and that will repel girls. You will just go into a downward spiral, I guarantee it. You need to change your mind set and not just view them purely as sexual objects. You need to approach them with a mind set that you want to give them a fun, joyful experience and take steps to connect with them on an emotional level without expecting anything in return. Look to enjoy the interactions and the approaches and living…
/r/seduction07/08/19 05:07 PM
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It's simple, you're not creating a memorable experience with a girl to a point where she wants to see you again. They need a reason to bother seeing you again. Next time focus on having fun for both yourself and her, creating an adventure, exploring different places, start daring each other and doing silly things together. Create a narrative thats different and exciting that sets you apart. Be masculine and leading but at the same time view her as a human that wants to have fun, not a piece of m…
/r/seduction07/08/19 08:23 AM
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Best case scenario is that you elevate her enough that she wants to hang out right after you two are talking if she doesn't have anything else on. Do whatever is nearby and easy. You're at ground zero, she will say no to any romantic gestures or invitations (unless she's clearly super into you which I doubt). Again don't get too bogged down into these 'date' ideas, worry about that after you're actually hooking up.
/r/seduction05/08/19 06:17 AM
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Uncertainty is completely fine, it's actually great in some cases because ambiguity and mystery is what gets girls attracted. The problem is that guys get too stuck into logical thinking rather than just riding things out and feeling the mood in the air. You're already targetting her and are outcome dependent which is a bad sign, from her perspective youre just some dude who chats to her, how does she benefit from dating you? She's probably chatting with 10 guys because the attention makes her f…
/r/seduction05/08/19 05:59 AM
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Yes! Get therapy for sure if you think it'll help. Try to get a good shrink though because they range greatly in quality. However as someone else also said, the real cure to oneitis is dating and seeing other girls. There are many other compatible girls out there you just need to be a bit patient and meet many people in as many ways as possible. It's important to remain independent and grow individually in a relationship. A good healthy relationship should not define you, it should only be a sec…
/r/seduction05/08/19 05:42 AM
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Do not use the word date! Unless you're already hooking up, keep things vague on purpose. Trust me asking someone on a date that youre not 100% certain is sexually attracted to you will result in a rejection. From what you wrote I'm nearly certain she isn't that keen (yet). Also texting will almost certainly fail. Next time you see her, chat for a bit and get her in a happy mood, lots of laughter and confidence is required (must be in person). Look for indicators that she's enjoying the coversat…
/r/seduction05/08/19 05:23 AM
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First step in fixing a problem is recognising it, so well done there. What others think is inconsequential to your personal happiness. Popularity and public perception are social constructs that differ from individual to individual and dont directly equate to happiness. You're given one shot at life and it's being wasting caught up in other people's perceptions that you can't accurately read and can't really control a large amount. Focus on enjoying the moment and expressing your individuality, …
/r/seduction04/08/19 05:45 PM
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If you are asking for a biological explanation (not an emotional answer), it's because for girls the brain subconciously is seeking the most ideal male they can possibly achieve for long term mating purposes, raising kids, etc. Whether or not they actively want that is a totally different question, but it affects how they chase and perceive you. Typically at attractive guy who shows just a slight bit of interest fall right in the sweet spot of what is considered to be the best male they can achi…
/r/seduction16/07/19 04:28 AM
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I don't condone everything they have done and I'm not the biggest fan of RSD in general, but to me this reeks of bandwagon #metoo movement mentality. We live in a world where the modern media and politics are emasculating men to the point where fear of pulling the trigger and social anxiety is at an all time high. Say what you want about RSD, but they have always had some golden nuggets in their videos especially for those that don't take everything said too literally and can think independently…
/r/seduction03/07/19 01:54 AM
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I've avoided redpill for a few months now for these exact issues. This sub was at its best when it was focused on understanding female psychopogy and physical improvement. Not circlejerking repetitive awats posts and hyper aggression towards any differing ideology. Ironically, it reminds me of extreme feminists, who are quick to pick a fight with anyone that disagrees with their viewpoints. I hope it returns to its roots.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/19 05:23 AM
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This post is the best advice listed here. OP is improving himself and taking chances - that is good. Looks aren't everything - but what value does he currently provide in his interactions if not looks? Why should a girl date him? It's rare that people in a poor physical state excel in other areas.
/r/seduction05/06/19 02:43 AM
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This might sound strange to you, but that can be interesting as fuck. The key is to explain it in a relatable way to someone that has no idea. Imply it's a little geeky side of you that you don't tell many people about, you use it to unwind after work, you get satisfaction from the completed figure, you try to make it accurate as possible, you mix the colours to make it more accurate, etc. Make it interesting for someone that doesn't know anything about it. Because you revealed your secret, ask …
/r/seduction15/05/19 03:59 AM
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This sub likes to sugar coat things a bit, but if you think you're boring, you probably are boring. Why should girls like you? What do you bring to the table that other guys don't? Especially when it comes to charisma or social abilities, what's your edge that makes you interesting? Think about it from their point of view, why should they choose you over the countless other guys lined up. You can be serious and still be interesting if youre projecting confidence, having a good time and being gen…
/r/seduction13/05/19 04:25 AM
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You're being outcome dependent. You're trying to force the number and bypass a natural interaction. Even if she gives you her number she'll likely flake because you're just some stranger to her. She has no reason to hang out with you. Try to find a way to facilitate a longer convo and actually get to know her. If you can't then you must work with what you have and shoot your shot (which likely won't work) or just move on. Simple as that.
/r/seduction13/05/19 02:24 AM
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It's a social momentum and state of mind issue. You lost your train of positive thought by not being present and thinking too much. You got into your own head. It's hard to give advice for this one but what I would say is that you need to focus on rebuilding that train of social momentum on a night out. Go out for a breather and quickly approach some guys to build your confidence back up. Restart small and go build bigger. All it takes is one good set with any person to get your social momentum …
/r/seduction12/05/19 05:40 PM
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Ok dude first thing just breathe and relax a little...my god youre working yourself up big time. You're going to her formal, you're already golden dude, don't try and see her beforehand just you do you up until then. It's already all happening. If you want to text her for your own laughs or because you need to know info that's fine but don't expect to get anything from her beforehand. When the night comes along, don't build any expectation for anything that might happen. Go in just trying to be …
/r/seduction10/05/19 07:11 PM
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If a girl is hot then she doesn't need a personality to get laid. She can act uninterested and there will be guys out there that will make her laugh. By chance was she getting a free dinner from the date?
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:53 AM
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You made the date boring by talking about her career. Girls don't really just want to talk about that, they want to be entertained. It's your job as a male to the lead interaction and make it interesting not just drill down on safe boring topics that any guy can ask her. You must bring entertainment to provide value so that she see's you of being worthy of her looks. You cannot go in expecting them to assist you in making fun conversation.
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:13 AM
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Sounds to me the problem is that your conversation is pretty bland. You're socially calibrated enough to recognise they're bored or uninterested, but not enough to find a solution. Most of the time this is a result of asking interview style questions (what do you do for work?), talking about irrelevant safe topics, not having them participate and mainly just not giving them an emotional spike. Step outside the box, be a little bit chaotic or controversial, get multiple people involved, make fun …
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:05 AM
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I actually disagree with your mate somewhat. You should talk about her because people love talking about themselves and allows you to relate with common interests, but it's somewhat misguided advice because it's advocating putting her on a pedestal where she can boast about herself whilst you provide nothing to offer. One of the key things is that you're having fun in the conversation and talking without any filter. You must be your unapologetic self and don't feel the need to act differently on…
/r/seduction07/05/19 08:15 AM
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Saying you don't want a partner at the moment is best way there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all.
/r/seduction07/05/19 07:41 AM
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There's so many things really. Be confident with who you are, say what you want to say, don't try to impress people, don't be afraid to take chances and big risks to grow, take the lead to start conversations and approach new people even if they don't do it to you, go out clubbing or to parties solo if you have to, be unapologetic and genuine at all times, don't chase after girls just because they are hot or have a pussy, focus on improving yourself and going out of your comfort zone, lift heavy…
/r/seduction03/05/19 08:15 AM
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Mate you can either: 1. Ignore her and always wonder what if you had approached her or 2. Grow some balls and just strike up a conversation to start with and see where it goes. There's no special secret to starting a conversation. It's better if you can come up with something relevant and natural like a question but if nothing comes up then don't hesitate, just go up and say anything to begin convo. Don't think too highly of her just because she's hot, just have a chat and see what happens, if i…
/r/seduction03/05/19 08:05 AM
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I'm also an Aussie and can relate to what you're saying. I have a feeling we're from the same city actually. However I don't think you're really pursuing avenues and I'm reading a lot of excuses, you say you've tried 'clubs' but no one attends those silly things that people sign up for on opening day. It seems to me you want those natural friendships that occur by accident you don't really have to try for, usually resulting from a group project or something. I think you're lonely because you're …
/r/seduction03/05/19 06:21 AM
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My biggest recommendation is just to throw yourself into interactions and just improvise everything on the spot. Peoples problem these days is that they overthink everything they say and what actually comes out is boring crap. It's a by-product of social media where everyone thinks hard about what they upload online. You might be really surprised what you come up with on the spot when your brain has to. Put yourself into situations where you don't get a chance to think. The best stuff you stay w…
/r/seduction02/05/19 10:38 AM
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Removing the filter is referred to by people as being present in the moment. It's like you're switched on, in tune with what people are saying, feel confident, etc. ​ People refer to different methods such as meditation. These are good and recommended but above all you just have some balls to engage with people whenever possible. ​ Those times where you think in your head 'should i say this' to the person who's bagging your items at the supermarket, just say it. Whatever feels just slightly unco…
/r/seduction02/05/19 08:58 AM
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Well you're cutting the answer off at the pass, because your exaggerating - but that is the answer. ​ You must have other things going on in your life that deserve adequate focus. Therefore if you have other good girls lined up, you won't be going all in on one person and you won't be acting needy. There are other things such as hobbies or career where you can put your focus and attention into. Generally you need to have other areas in your life that require your attention, creating a sense of a…
/r/seduction01/05/19 01:52 AM
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Remove your filter and stop trying to impress people. Anyone can make boring 'nice' small talk. Take big chances and just speak what you really think and feel in the moment, that's why you can chat all day to your mates. You'd be surprised how people can light up when you actually hit them with interesting relevant conversation that might be out of the norm. ​ Being charismatic to me is being free and vulnerable to express what you really think at any time and not being too affected if someone d…
/r/seduction01/05/19 01:44 AM
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I dunno something like "friends ain't gonna cut it for me". Actually mean it too, dont settle for friendship and be willing to have some dignity and walk away if she won't give you more. It's a lot harder to try and get someone reattracted than just finding someone else and starting over. People asking these sorts of questions are usually in scarcity and don't have other decent options lined up so they settle for just being friends.
/r/seduction01/05/19 01:23 AM
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You got friendzoned mate. Be a man and take the lead.
/r/seduction30/04/19 05:32 PM
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Firstly, there's many girls out there, even many many girls as good as her. If it didn't work out, chasing her will not help the situation. Take away her looks that she was born with and what is she to you? Keep putting yourself out there and look for quality women that are the whole package. Secondly, accept you have no control over girls (especially ones you aren't even dating) and you have no right to feel possessive or feelings for them, it's sorta weak behaviour tbh. Focus on what you can c…
/r/seduction29/04/19 04:32 PM
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As a starting point check out models by Mark Manson and no more Mr nice guy by Robert Glover. Take time to understand what these books are trying to teach. One key thing I've learned about not just seduction, but general life, is to not be nice just for the sake of being nice. Being nice is not attractive, it is boring, safe and easy. Anyone can be nice. Instead aim to be genuine and that means removing any form of pc filter that prevents you from sharing what you really think. Don't be afraid t…
/r/seduction29/04/19 03:32 PM
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She said she was dry and it's normal for her but I don't think so dude, I think she wasn't really into it. Girls are emotional creatures and if the sex isn't hot and spicy especially after the second time there's no need for them to hang around. You feel incompetent because you didn't perform sexually and you don't have another option lined up so you think you sorta blew your chance, which you sorta did tbh. I think maybe you're still figuring this stuff out but it's fine you'll get plenty more …
/r/seduction29/04/19 03:12 PM
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I'd go so far to say it's very hard to attract without banter and teasing. The key is to not insult her, which is a different thing entirely.
/r/seduction27/04/19 10:36 AM
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So it took 10 years of hard work to become a substantially different person to attract your female friends who are now past their primes?? Isn't this in itself proving a point? ​ If you are in the friendzone, best thing to do is to simply move on.
/r/seduction23/04/19 03:43 PM
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Excellent post. I feel like perhaps some parts were exaggerated for dramatic effect, but overall I found myself agreeing with every point you made. ​ The point you made about this sub being toxic resonated with me. I've resided that people with negative mindsets often cannot have their mind changed and to an extent I view it as a form of modern evolution. We are no longer fighting to survive like we were 1000's of years ago and reproducing/attraction has instead shifted to a different set of ide…
/r/seduction23/04/19 05:16 AM
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You sound like someone who has read way too much theory online or rsd videos and isnt very socially calibrated. Either that or you're trolling, hard to tell.
/r/seduction20/04/19 07:52 PM
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you don't convey abundance, you just have it, it will convey itself if you have it. Trying to convey it intentionally is try hard and looks desperate, they will know what you're doing.
/r/seduction19/04/19 03:38 AM
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Your mind set is completely wrong. You should be going out to meet people and have a good time. Nothing is more off-putting than a desperate guy who's only out to get laid and girls will sense this they are very intuitive. The moment you put pressure on yourself to get laid and stop having fun, things will fall apart. When you get good at seducing at bars and clubs you'll realise it's more about logistics anyway and when it comes to logistics there is a lot of luck involved and minimal control. …
/r/seduction19/04/19 02:21 AM
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I feel like I see posts like this and people are greatly overthinking game. A fun filled interaction should be full of laughter and fun from both parties. You should be rubbing off on each other in good ways and laughing at each others jokes. Usually a guy will crack more jokes but girls do too and when the joke is genuinely funny you should respond in a genuine way. You're not some try hard dude who's always cracking jokes and never laughing, that's just phony and fake, girls are extremely good…
/r/seduction18/04/19 07:04 PM
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I think the pull/push is interpreted in different ways. One version is that you show attention to a girl then withdraw it and is more suited to a girl that already likes you. The way I like to do it is to make the interaction I have with them really intense/fun regardless of who started it but then once the interaction is over, they don't get any contact at all unless they come to me or some sufficient time has passed for me to go to them. Over time you start to pull back bit by bit and they get…
/r/seduction18/04/19 10:30 AM
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This was hard to read but also hilarious
/r/seduction18/04/19 06:35 AM
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It's funny the pattern. They slowly give up more and more of their core male values trying to please girls, not realising that standing strong, having a back bone, being a man and calling them out on their bs is what girls truely want. Girls think they want control but subconsciously they actually want their man to lead. In my opinion this is what causes a lot of these marriages with weak dudes to fall apart.
/r/seduction18/04/19 01:38 AM
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No - BUT girls are extremely hot and cold. Sometimes if she is only mildly keen on you, you can get a window of opportunity where its fresh and exciting for her and if you miss that window it can be hard to get it back because the intensity is gone, its not fresh and exciting anymore and she's got another guy round the corner that is new.
/r/seduction17/04/19 02:54 PM
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shes using you for fun bro, accept it and be aware of what is going on. you are her emotional tampon whilst she hooks up with other guys. time for you to see new girls and move on.
/r/seduction17/04/19 02:34 PM
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Fashion is extremely subjective and is constantly changing. It's hard to define everything by what you said and there are other subreddits that are better, but here's what I would quickly summarise: You said you were thin. Things always look better with round shoulders, big chest and biceps. Don't be lazy and please hit that gym for lifting. My personal style is usually long shirts with a curved hem, especially at the back. Tight well fitted jeans that taper and narrow out around your calf. I us…
/r/seduction17/04/19 06:41 AM
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I don't think you directly let them know that you're dtf that's risky and word will get around if it fails. You just keep flirting with them and subtly giving them queues whilst teasing them and making heaps of jokes, keep it playful and fun but don't be too nice, you don't want to actually be their friend. Eventually you'll get an opportunity, maybe a party or something like that and that's where you try to ramp it up a bit and go for physical escalation if it's appropriate. It's about being op…
/r/seduction17/04/19 03:40 AM
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Because you don't believe you can get them so you've rationalised to yourself that you don't need them.
/r/seduction17/04/19 03:28 AM
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Amen.
/r/seduction17/04/19 12:27 AM
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I honestly feel like youre missing out on easy benefits. Heres what I would say for your circumstances: You mentioned school - whilst I highly support working out at school and you will see benefits, its quite a bit harder to put on muscle weight until you're into youre into early 20's from my experience. Regardless keep working out and dont be discouraged. Depending on your age, it can be quite normal to eat obscene amounts of food, I'd highly recommend protein supplements to instantly feel ful…
/r/seduction16/04/19 04:22 PM
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The thing is, if you're trying to be in that mind set, then at your core you're not in abundance and don't have the mind set or don't really believe what you're saying. You understand the theory of not caring but you haven't actually stopped caring. You must be confident in yourself and what you bring to the table. When a challenge like that is presented, you should almost want her to go, because you know the guy will fail in comparison and will make you look better. It shouldn't be an act, beca…
/r/seduction16/04/19 05:36 AM
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I think being fit/bulky with good fashion is actually a bit of a compulsory pre-requisite to doing good game. Most guys that are average to ugly don't realise that they can EASILY compensate for it with working out and fashion. I think that's why fat/skinny guys complaining about looks bothers me so much, of course it's gonna be hard if youre obese or a twig figure, but an average face can absolutely 100% be compensated for with lifting/fashion. The other thing bout working out is that it's actu…
/r/seduction16/04/19 04:03 AM
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Try not use the word cute during the entire interaction. Opening with a remark telling her you're talking to her purely because she is good looking is not a very good opener to me personally, although others may disagree. Try to be a bit clever and more socially savey, open with something situationally, say you need help with something that can start the interaction, if you're in a clothes store ask what she thinks of an item you're looking at, that can lead into a conversation about fashion, et…
/r/seduction15/04/19 05:23 PM
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Wait so you're hanging out with her and you've mutually agreed that you're dating exclusively? That's what a girlfriend is and 90% of the time it happens after sex. I don't think I've ever heard anyone have a girlfriend they haven't kissed before, unless you're like 15? You seem quick to point out several tines you are experienced at this, I'm not so sure tbh... It's not hard to initiate physical escalation. Start slow, maybe holding her hand or arm over her shoulder when walking along. Make jok…
/r/seduction15/04/19 05:12 PM
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Dude listen to me. MOVE ON! Stop thinking this nonsense and go meet some other girls. This is becoming pathetic.
/r/seduction15/04/19 04:29 PM
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I've been to Budapest and tbh the place is quite overhyped for partying. I found that the ratios are really off in a lot of the hostels, bit of a sausage fest and every guy there has got the same thing on his mind. The girls there know this and make you really work for it. I had some success there but it was tough I gotta admit. I actually found the other party capital, Prague, a bit better although it's been a while since I've been there, still can be a bit of a sausage fest. Split is quite goo…
/r/seduction15/04/19 03:01 PM
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As a man, you should be looking for opportunities to approach new girls, start up a conversation, show them your worth and begin seducing them. Create an abundance mentality at all times. However you should never be groveling to them or going out of your way to chase them, especially online. If you've done your job in the real world, that should be enough to get the ball rolling.
/r/seduction15/04/19 02:42 PM
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Sounds like you did fine, however outside the club I don't think there was any need to refuel the fire. Inside you were standing your ground but outside you were unnecessarily trying to start it. Who knows maybe one of them had a weapon and was feeling super insecure.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/19 04:14 PM
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I don't think youre not intilligent and I don't know your circumstances but overthinking to me is a symptom of someone who isn't getting decent results in the real world. Stop writing this stuff and get out there are start socialising and being active.
/r/seduction08/04/19 11:23 PM
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Your post cut off prematurely. There's s lot of theory to this post and to me that screams overthinking. The most important thing is that you become the best form of yourself. You're not putting on an act, that won't work. Instead you become a version of yourself that radiates confidence, happiness and satisfaction. That is the best way to be attractive, as people will want you to be part of their life.
/r/seduction08/04/19 05:20 PM
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Look dude, you can sit around and think as much as you want, I'm certain it's your personality that's the problem from the way you talk. It seems like you aren't really here to listen though, just complain, so best of luck to you.
/r/seduction08/04/19 05:08 PM
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Imo this is try hard and responsive, it's not making fun of the situation. Try "I've also dated many bad boys'
/r/seduction08/04/19 04:46 PM
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It's a super broad question with many answers but I'd say: Be constantly socialising with everyone, either gender, even strangers and make sure you're leading the conversation and having fun at all times. The cashier, waiters, bartenders, some old granny crossing the street, the butcher, whatever doesn't matter. When you talk to a girl you like it won't seem like such a big deal because you're used to it. You said you tried social groups and clubs but keep trying, everything you can. Be relentle…
/r/seduction08/04/19 04:29 PM
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Wow dude you got some stuff going on. Look you'll get your girl, but I think you need to take a step back and sort yourself out a bit first. Outbursts like that show real insecurity and you won't get anything until you're happy first. Girls won't make you happy trust me. Start working on yourself, hobbies, gym and sports. Join a few social groups and make some mates. People think it's all about looks, looks help but they won't get you laid. You aren't great looking but you aren't that bad either…
/r/seduction08/04/19 04:19 PM
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Wow dude...way to over think it. Maybe she's wearing eyeliner for the guy she's about to go fuck after your shift? Maybe she's just trying something new with her makeup? Who knows... How about you stay focused on elevating her feelings and making sure she has a great fun time around you. Every now and then drop a slight flirt in there and see how you go. When the time is appropriate ask if she wants to hang out sometime, if not then back off.
/r/seduction08/04/19 03:45 PM
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Above all just learn in the real world above all else. You can watch all the rsd videos you want on YouTube, but it means nothing without constantly practicing it. Too many people spend time just watching videos but not implementing.
/r/seduction08/04/19 03:40 PM
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You shouldn't resort to this unless youve completely stopped masterbating 100%, you're stress free and sober.
/r/seduction08/04/19 02:56 PM
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In 100 years we will all be dead and literally no one will ever know anything you ever did. To be honest most girls would probably forget the following day. Get over yourself, stop thinking you matter and rise to the challenge. ...or keep making excuses and go nowhere.
/r/seduction08/04/19 02:54 PM
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I'd say it should be a 50/50. You might have to put in a little bit more at the start. The trick is to meet up in real life asap and seduce her that way. You can only go so far online.
/r/seduction08/04/19 11:25 AM
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Listen dude if she's seeing another guy it's absolutely none of your business really and if you start getting jealous about it then you're getting overly attached and will most likely result in you messing up your chance and getting hurt. Forget if she's seeing and hooking up with other people, she probably is and it is not important. Instead focus on you and her. Keep cracking the jokes and make her laugh as much as possible. Make sure everytime she hangs with you she has the time of her life. …
/r/seduction08/04/19 06:02 AM
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Look dude, view it from her perspective. You're a stranger, she probably gets asked out all the time, so why should she choose to go on a date with you of all people? What are you selling? You need to have something, anything, that elevates you above the pack of dudes she could find instantly on tinder. If you're not a Greek god in terms of looks, you're going to have to give her something else to like. There's a thousand ways to seduce girls, but generally you want to get to know her a bit, tea…
/r/seduction08/04/19 05:50 AM
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General rule of thumb, don't make other people set you up, it shows a lack of confidence that you're getting someone else to do your dirty work. If you have a female mate, the best thing you and her can do is to get real flirty with each other whilst you also flirt with the girl you're into. Thats a way better setup because hypergamy and all that, it'll make the girl like you more naturally. It just looks better you're not playing like kindigarden kids asking each other to set you up with a date…
/r/seduction08/04/19 03:52 AM
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I feel like you've been watching a few too many pickup videos without developing you're social skills and calibration to go along with it. For some people following checklists helps, but no pickup is ever the same. Also numbers are meaningless without her liking you enough to hang out again. Primarily you want to be approaching girls and building chemistry and sexual tension. Once you've done that it's about figuring out logistics and seeing if it's actually possible to get her home that night. …
/r/seduction08/04/19 01:28 AM
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Might want to seduce her first a bit bro, not many girls will just say yes straight off the bat.
/r/seduction08/04/19 01:07 AM
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No. But usually looks and confidence go hand in hand. Anyone who thinks they're ugly have a defeatist attitude and don't realise that looks are usually least if their worries because their personality stinks.
/r/seduction07/04/19 06:22 PM
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Wow dude just chill a bit you're 21 you're pretty much a baby haha. Just take a deep breath and think to yourself why does this stuff even matter? You think sex with stranger is the be all and end all? It's actually pretty average you're usually tired and drunk af, it's late, you both smell terrible, you can't sleep after at all, the whole thing is awkward and you'll have low libido cause of the alchaol and lack of sleep. Firstly stop comparing yourself to your mates, I've got a mate just hittin…
/r/seduction07/04/19 05:19 PM
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I find one of the hardest things are logistics. Seduction is actually the easy part, getting her out of the club in a way she won't be judged, feels safe and is also attracted to you is the hard part and I'll admit it doesn't happen to me or people I know that often, there are just so many little things that can pop up. You essentially have two options when you find a girl you like with bad logistics (which is often), you can either keep going trying to find one with good logistics or try play h…
/r/seduction06/04/19 03:25 AM
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Haha like what else is op expecting??
/r/seduction05/04/19 06:48 AM
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What butt hurt idiots are getting annoyed when a girl says this? Would you rather she said 'im single but you're super weird and pushy and fairly ugly'. Just be cool about it, like literally what else can you do. If she digs you she might introduce you to her mate. You've only got things to lose by getting annoyed at something like that.
/r/seduction05/04/19 06:46 AM
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I think it's a balance. Go out and enjoy your day, do some things and the moment that you see an opportunity to interact, grow the balls and take the risk and do it. However in my eyes the people that go out just looking to pick up is just as sad as the people who go out and don't take any risks at all.
/r/seduction05/04/19 04:31 AM
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I could write a novel but I feel like this question has been answered so many times before. Firstly I'd say stop looking to just pick up girls. Stop putting expectation upon yourself looking for a certain result. Go out and enjoy your day and have fun, if you find a girl on the way to share that fun with or you're feeling a bit wild, go approach her and chat. I wished I lived in NYC dude. The world is a great place to live in, time to make the most of it. Stop sitting around thinking woe is me w…
/r/seduction05/04/19 02:58 AM
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Many good responses on here already so I won't repeat what's already been said. However one thing to add, it's on you to take action and change your circumstances. You can't get anything from life just coasting through and not taking chances. You sound very passive but yet have expectations that things are going to magically happen to you and work out. You must start engaging more and make opportunities for yourself.
/r/seduction05/04/19 02:50 AM
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Good work on actually changing your processes, listening and taking action!
/r/seduction05/04/19 02:45 AM
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Number is probably best, because there are connotations attached with getting someone's number, it's implying a date. Most people here are ripping on instagram and I sorta disagree, it has its place to show her you live an active lifestyle, but number is more direct less nonsense approach.
/r/seduction05/04/19 02:43 AM
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One thing I'd add to minus one, getting in a good frame of mind for the club happens way before the club. If I'm going out for a big night, I start being social the moment I wake up that day chatting with as many people as possible. By the time you get to the club you have so much social momentum that's everything just happens naturally. You don't have to try and turn it on because you've been doing it all day long.
/r/seduction05/04/19 01:51 AM
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I don't think it's inherently bad in small doses during dry spells. However it can effectively sedate you libido and it reduces your hunger to go get a girl. In this way it is bad, because you need that hunger as motivation to make things happen.
/r/seduction05/04/19 01:44 AM
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Look, you're jumping right ahead to asking girls out without giving context and background which is actually the important stuff. If the girl likes you it doesn't really matter how you ask, she'll say yes or give you a counter offer. The question then becomes, what are you doing to the girls beforehand to seduce them to liking you before you ask them out? That's the important question. In focusing on how you ask a girl out you're missing the bigger picture. However presuming you have adequately …
/r/seduction04/04/19 03:19 PM
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I also like getting rewards without doing the work but unfortunately the world doesn't opperate like that.
/r/seduction04/04/19 08:10 AM
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I don't think it mattered too much and didn't change the outcome in this instance. Being too honest and open about things that aren't her business early on is giving away some of the mystery of who you are though. She has to work for things as much as you have to work for them.
/r/seduction04/04/19 06:38 AM
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I think it's more than just a real world goal though, he defaulted to boring interview style questions rather than adding fun, banter and interest to the convo. I don't know how to define it but it's just a friendly conversation with no sexual intent at all behind it. He's waiting for her to give him something rather than leading the way.
/r/seduction04/04/19 05:56 AM
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One thing dude, when they ask about other girls don't ever give a serious answer. Say something dumb like 500 and you've had like 20 threesomes and you fell in love with every single one of them or some bs, maybe say you're a virgin because of Jesus our lord and saviour with a big smile on your face, doesn't matter as long as it's a joke.
/r/seduction03/04/19 04:48 PM
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Maybe ask if you can use her charger if your phone is low and try to strike up a convo. Ask What ya listening to.
/r/seduction03/04/19 04:41 PM
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Do you have a question you need help with? Help with a word for an essay? Asks what she studies maybe she can help. Are you new in campus and need directions? Anything, nothings going to be perfect. One word of warning if she has both earplugs in maybe just let her chill.
/r/seduction03/04/19 04:39 PM
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Ok so the first thing most people will say - you shouldn't need someone else to make you happy and it's key to being successful with girls. You must be living a fulfilling happy life first before looking for others. I'm not sure of your circumstances, how you got into debt, but that's where you need to start. 70 hours is insane amounts of time dude. Can you switch to a less stressful job? Is it law or medicine? Regardless you need to find a solution to your debt and career before turning your at…
/r/seduction03/04/19 04:32 PM
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The problem might be that you're trying to be engaging out of the blue on social media. Of course it's hard to click with them and get interesting convos flowing, you're sending messages on a screen to a stranger. I'm not saying it can't be done, but it misses all those nice nuances you get when talking in real life. I think it's a problem with the younger generation (myself included), because it's very easy to do, there's no face to face rejection and there's not much shame if it doesn't work o…
/r/seduction03/04/19 04:12 PM
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Seddit is a place to trade knowledge and learn, not to vent. If you need that get a life coach or a dating coach or even a therapist. If you can't be bothered to change your circumstances then why should other people do it for you.
/r/seduction03/04/19 04:57 AM
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It's not about the size of the boat....but the motion of the ocean.
/r/seduction02/04/19 08:49 AM
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Did she give you her number for project purposes or because she actually digs you. You say you made it obvious and 'spat some game' but I'm not so sure. Sounds to me like purposes for approaching her might be a bit murky from her point of view. If you actually intend to do the project with her I'd be very cautious. Maybe after your first project meeting ask if she would be interested hanging out or grabbing a drink after, but if she doesn't jump at it do not push too hard and let it go permanent…
/r/seduction02/04/19 08:47 AM
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Are you asking for their contact details or are they giving them to you? Numbers and a name in a phone don't mean much at all, especially if they felt forced to give them to you to be nice and later changed their mind. The interaction before you give them your number is the important part, they have to want to see you again, it had to be a meaningful encounter that she wants to follow up on. Generally if you left a good impression the time I think is of little consequence as long as its within a…
/r/seduction02/04/19 08:38 AM
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Generally if you have to "shoot your shot" they won't say yes. Did you ask her in person? You should've tried to chat to her a bit more in person if you could and make her laugh and feel a bit of sexual tension, bit of fun and a bit of teasing. Whilst asking girls out can involve a little bit of risk, generally it shouldn't be a big gamble if you've done your due diligence first.
/r/seduction02/04/19 08:33 AM
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You seem to really like your theory don't you? How about this - get out there and see if women actually judge your job after you actually make them laugh and show your personality as well. Come and complain when you actually have some tangible evidence rather than just your inner thoughts and feelings that you got from reading things online. Draw your own conclusions rather than getting upset by a RP troll.
/r/seduction02/04/19 06:31 AM
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It seems that no matter how many times it's said, seemingly neverending people come on seddit with a terrible defeated and stubborn mindset. Theyre severely lacking confidence, abundance and happiness. Ongoing oneitis posts over analysing unimportant details, misguided posts complaining that looks are all that matters, users unwilling to really man up and jump head first into conversation with a stranger or truely try to improve themselves instead blaming it on anxiety, users refusing to listen …
/r/seduction02/04/19 05:05 AM
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Responsible for what? You do not own someone regardless of if you are in a relationship with them. A relationship is simply a pact between 2 people that they won't be involved with other people physically or emotionally, it's up to them if they want to keep their word. You have zero obligation in other people's relationships especially if you don't even know the dude. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. Going by your thought process, it's wrong to sleep with a woman on the day she is about…
/r/seduction01/04/19 06:12 PM
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What I should've said was that it's entirely upon her, not on anyone else, especially if you don't know her partner.
/r/seduction01/04/19 05:09 PM
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This is certainly a devisive post but I think it's a bit more nuanced and probably doesn't really belong in seduction, it is more of an ethics conversation. With that being said I agree, but only in part. It is definitely scummy to specifically target girls in relationships, especially if you know the bf personally. It can be quite disrespectful in certain circumstances. However it takes two to tango and someone else's relationship isn't really any of your concern. If she cheats with you, that's…
/r/seduction01/04/19 04:56 PM
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Let me guess......tinder?
/r/seduction01/04/19 08:27 AM
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A bit of LMR is one thing but this is the sort of girl where you could get charges if you're not careful. I recommend avoid but if you do go for it make sure you get very clear consent, written even.
/r/seduction01/04/19 05:05 AM
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That is just the way of the world but remember that tinder is a new invention and people have been doing it without tinder essentially forever. Tinder is a great tool but I think there's something to be said for getting out there and meeting people, it's more meaningful and cuts the bs and honestly it's not really that hard and I think gets better results.
/r/seduction31/03/19 03:45 PM
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Well the answer is to meet girls in real life and form a connection so they want to see you again. If you're going to use tinder, you have to notably stand out from the pack in some way be it looks or humor.
/r/seduction31/03/19 06:03 AM
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Texting is just used as a means to meet up in real life. Should only be cracking a quick joke then trying to meet out, not writing shakespeare.
/r/seduction31/03/19 03:01 AM
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One important thing to note, straight up cold approach not disguised with an observational opener or without some reason to initiate conversation is indeed creepy! Approaching a girl at a supermarket usually isn't going to end well at all. Even she doesn't straight out reject you, it's hard to keep the conversation flowing. Even if your lucky enough to get a number, you've set yourself as the creepy guy who approaches girls for no reason. You generally can't create enough rapport in the breifly …
/r/seduction28/03/19 09:18 AM
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Sounds to me like youre making excuses. Wingmen don't do anything for you, they may just help when you need a distraction or if you need to even up the numbers in groups, but blaming things on the wingman is poor form. It's not hard to find temporary wingmen when your out anyway. Going out solo is great and really puts the onus on you to have fun and make opportunities, not rely on others and make excuses. Girls definitely don't have that opinion if you're bringing a good fun attitude, it's just…
/r/seduction28/03/19 05:37 AM
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Being successful with women these days won't rely on some magic answer you'll get from Reddit. You either go ahead and do it or be like the other plebs who don't. It's the modern form of evolution and not everyone is going to succeed.
/r/seduction28/03/19 05:31 AM
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Stop paying so much attention to RSD and think for yourself a bit mate. Make your own decisions based upon what you've learned. RSD is good on a conceptual level but I promise you above everything Tyler wants you to think for yourself not be a sheep.
/r/seduction27/03/19 07:21 AM
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If you can learn to find growth through failure, then no interaction becomes unsuccessful.
/r/seduction27/03/19 06:19 AM
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I know this all makes sense theoretically but from practical experience, looks and attitude don't really tend to correlate once you start chatting. Some are nasty and some aren't. Sometimes you click and sometimes you dont. I had difficulty pulling average girls and ease pulling hot ones.
/r/seduction24/03/19 05:38 PM
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I like the post on a whole, many points that address the whiney behaviour often seen on this reddit. You seem like a no nonsense sort of guy and I think that is sorely needed in today's world. The one part I'm a bit unsure about is choosing a number over social media. To me, something like Instagram is perfect because it gives heaps of discussion points and shows that you're living an active lifestyle. I take note that phones are ruining us to some extent, but it doesn't take too much time to up…
/r/seduction24/03/19 04:16 PM
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The key thing you said that resonated to me was to be opportunistic. People might read what you wrote, act too relaxed and then use that as an excuse for not taking action. I do agree that being focused on getting laid or even just hooking up is a bad metric to measure how well you went on a night, because quite often it's completely out of your control. Sometimes you can be super lucky in the right spot, get laid, but in all honestly you didn't work for it, it was just right place at the right …
/r/seduction23/03/19 03:04 PM
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Without a doubt Matthew hussey would be the equivalent to me. However the content is obviously different as girls face slightly different issues, but with the same fundamentals. He discusses attracting the right sorts of guys, dealing with rejection, moving on from relationships, creating attraction and desire, etc. From a guys point of view he gives good healthy advice. A lot of them time he actually does a good job of rationalising a guys point of view, but putting it forward in a way that's d…
/r/seduction20/03/19 08:02 AM
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My opinion, avoid it. There are many girls out there, you should have more options. There is a reason people say don't shit where you eat. Just trust me. With that being said just talk to her for fun and experience. If you are going out later use her as a warm up for going out or for practice. If by some chance you guys get comfortable enough to hang outside of work then maybe consider it but definitely don't have expectation of that happening and don't actively pursue it or try to make it happe…
/r/seduction20/03/19 06:19 AM
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I don't necessarily disagree, but the more you hook up in casual encounters, you realise LMR is actually common. It's unusual to not run into LMR on anything other than a relationship or regular FWB. It's not necessarily blatant either, it can be small subtle things too, like she's ok hooking up on the couch but not in the bedroom, because she knows for a fact once it gets to the bedroom what happens there. If you come up with some clever idea to somehow relocate to the bedroom for purposes that…
/r/seduction19/03/19 08:31 AM
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Spot on. Getting the number or social media should simply be the next logical step because you're clicking with them. There is no 'trick' to getting contact details.
/r/seduction18/03/19 04:39 PM
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Sounds like LMR to me. There's heaps of online stuff about this. Girls will often pretend they don't want to do something when they do because society shames them. It's about seducing and escalating real slowly and gradually whilst building comfort. Just back up, do some shit like say you're tired...let's spoon, put some music on and then try to slowly work your way up. This is very different to a hard no, you'll know when you get this and it means stop big time and leave it for another date. Di…
/r/seduction18/03/19 04:32 PM
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You know your situation better than I do, but by abundance I mean more an abundance of options with girls. Not necessarily girls you're straight up sleeping with, but more sorta hanging out with, dating, flirting, seeing where things go, potential options, etc. A social abundance is also good don't get me wrong it'll lead to opportunities meeting people. You gotta not just be friends with girls but also flirt with them regularly. Keep things on edge, high sexual tension, play with the boundaries…
/r/seduction18/03/19 07:38 AM
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She probably left you because it seems like you're in scarcity with women. You were probably a bit needy and too invested with her. Girls like honesty, etc, but they also like guys that do their own thing, are independent, could easily pick up other girls if you broke up, charismatic etc. Time to start meeting people through social organisations and approaching people in bars and clubs. A new partner isn't going walk into your life you're going to have to make it happen. Must be proactive, take …
/r/seduction18/03/19 06:44 AM
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Just say something dumb like she's perfect milf material or that youd rather she was older but she'll have to do. It's just a classic shit test and if you're not smart or ballsy enough to come up with something on the spot then you're not good enough to be with her.
/r/seduction18/03/19 06:36 AM
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Literally anything that is so ridiculous it obviously isn't true, because it's actually funny and show youre more socially aware. Go into detail about how cool the colours of the fish are, say she can witness feeding time, doing tricks, whatever it's all bs and part of the joke. Girls are a lot more socially intellgient than guys, she'll know what you want.
/r/seduction18/03/19 05:43 AM
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Do you want to come check out my stamp collection? Do you want to come check out my japanese fighting fish? Do you want to come over and check out my custom coffee table?
/r/seduction18/03/19 04:53 AM
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I don't think it mattered either way. I don't think the way you asked really had a final impact on the result.
/r/seduction18/03/19 04:49 AM
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I don't use tinder much but I think dinner is something that's quite intimate and generally a bad idea for a first date. I reckon they might be flaking because they want something more casual. Try hitting bars for drinks instead you might get a more positive response
/r/seduction15/03/19 06:00 AM
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Tinder is a bit of a lazy way to meet people with a low success rate. Many girls are just there for validation, and they won't try to hard because you're just some random guy on the internet amongst many in their eyes. I don't think it's necessary to avoid tinder per se, it can produce results but you should be out meeting girls face to face. Whether that's through approaching girls in bars or meeting them through social groups, you need to find ways of meeting and approaching girls. That way th…
/r/seduction15/03/19 12:15 AM
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Those terms, do you say them in real life? You say you use memes in convos, that would be online right. How much do you converse with these girls in real life? Your post is extremely vague. I use those terms all the time and I love a meme or two. I guarantee its not those things driving girls away. It's probably because you didn't generate enough excitement or fun when you chat to them in person or they don't really care enough to begin with. Maybe youre chasing too hard when they aren't interes…
/r/seduction14/03/19 08:59 AM
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Their videos are very good, definitely recommend watching, but I think it's important to watch them through the lens that RSD is a multimillion dollar company focused on making profit.
/r/seduction14/03/19 07:06 AM
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Sounds like youre a super nice, polite, awkwardly social dude. Pretty much a cocktail of things that won't get you far with girls. You hope if you treat a girl really nicely and check in on her, she might give you a shot. Go do some reading now before posting anymore. Check out no more Mr nice guy by Robert Glover and models by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:51 AM
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You probably haven't had that much success and find it boring instigating the same interview style questions over and over again. Trick is to break out of these conversations as quick as possible. No one really cares what you do for a job, talk about something in the moment that interests you. You'll enjoy the interaction a lot more. Usually it's up to the guy to do this, not the girl.
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:45 AM
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Yup, befriend the whole group but be flirty in your interactions with her. If you hard approach her she will knock you back because she cares about what her friends think.
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:37 AM
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Alright well at least you acknowledge it and that's the first step to fixing a problem. I'd recommend the standard reading that everyone on here states like Models by Mark Manson. Mainly though I'd just say don't play it safe as much. Obviously be aware of sexual harassment in the workplace and consequences associated with it, but look to take more risks, don't be so polite, push more boundaries, don't engage in boring conversation, man up a bit more and try to meet people whenever possible.
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:29 AM
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You say you have no issues building chemistry or interactions with girls. I'm gonna take a punt and say that you actually aren't doing this at all. You might be having some light friendly chats and conversation, but I'd bet anything that you aren't building chemistry. The reason I say this is because if you were actually doing this, you would've been on a date by now I'm certain of it. There's plenty of material out there, but I'd say to start with generally not to be safe or boring run of the m…
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:16 AM
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That's something you need to sort out bro. People are here to give you advice not to give you a hug and tell you everything is gonna be cool. Time to ante up and improve yourself. Best way to get better at something is by working on it. Time to start chatting to girls at every opportunity and working on your social skills.
/r/seduction14/03/19 03:44 AM
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hook up with new girls.
/r/seduction10/03/19 06:54 AM
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Don't get too wrapped up in what the media or girls say. It's just like that Gillette ad. The whole political correctness thing is really screwing everything up tbh. The reason I say this is that you'll use it as an excuse to not approach when approach anxiety hits. With that being said, there needs to be a bit of social calibration to an approach, at least be smart and try to give the illusion that your chatting to them for a reason. That's why I don't like guys walking up and just saying a gir…
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:22 AM
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Maybe a minor point but I'd give it a bit more time than that, if you put the pressure on last second and she's not expecting it and hasn't got ready she will likely flake
/r/seduction07/03/19 04:44 PM
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She's straight up using you.
/r/seduction07/03/19 04:38 PM
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Dude you sound a bit dramatic. Either you are exagerating or you're doing some super funky uncalibrated things. Maybe just try chatting up dudes at the right time, shoot some shit and see if you can become friends with them.
/r/seduction07/03/19 04:35 PM
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I also find that the more you get through it, the next time you try to do the same thing you remember how you pushed through it the first time. You realise how easy it is and how the rewards come when you take the leap.
/r/seduction07/03/19 04:31 PM
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Many good answers here especially meditation. I'd say try to put things in perspective. Things that matter so much to you will likely be forgotten about very quickly. In the scheme of things, most things you do will go unnoticed and be forgotten about by most others. Everyone's caught up in their own world, not realising that most other people don't truly notice things that bother them.
/r/seduction06/03/19 03:44 AM
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The point still stands you're letting them determine your frame of mind.
/r/seduction05/03/19 01:51 AM
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Too hard imo unless she wants to bail on the friend which is very unlikely.
/r/seduction04/03/19 05:35 PM
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I think your mindset is wrong. You shouldn't need girls to bring you out of depression. You must find happiness in your life and fix your problems first. Sounds like your skills in seduction is fine, but you shouldn't be relying on other to make you happy. How about this - stop cold approach for a bit. Try to find some good friends you like or join a sports team, music, whatever. Try out something else for a while. Come back to it when you feel self fulfilled. You might end up meeting a girl you…
/r/seduction04/03/19 05:31 PM
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Start trying to make connections with people, not using them for sexual pleasure. Remove the sexual element and get to know them as people. Talk and engage with them, regardless of gender. Try to make connections and see them again.
/r/seduction01/03/19 07:16 AM
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The more hungup you get on being lonely and depressed, the more lonely and depressed you will become. Sort yourself and your addicition out and become happy with yourself before trying to enter a relationship. You shouldn't be looking to them to bring meaning, you must find happiness and meaning in yourself and then invite them into that life.
/r/seduction01/03/19 07:06 AM
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Ok so to me it sounds like you're super conscious about your physical appearance. You don't believe you look good and are easily insulted by minor comments. Realistically, guys only have control over a certain portion of their physical appearance. They can control their physique through lifting, style through fashion and general maintenance through grooming. You can't control anything else and it's silly to get hung up on stuff that cannot be controlled. If you are excelling at all these, I thin…
/r/seduction01/03/19 06:35 AM
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Make fun of them. Ask something like "so is this the shit that you talk about when the boys aren't around" and follow up with "so fill me in on the goss then, I need help catching up". They would've 100% talked to you. Need to build your confidence. Act interested and use it to improve your social skills and confidence around chicks. You likely won't game any of them in that sort of environment anyway so just use it as social practice.
/r/seduction01/03/19 06:20 AM
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Sounds like you were natural until you went for the number and then that part wasnt natural or rushed and resulted in that reaction. If you were in a situation where you were given more time to hang and ask for the number naturally without pressure she would've done it I'm certain. Sometimes girls are keen but the situation isn't optimal so things don't work out. It's all part of it. Good progress but don't dwell, onto the next one.
/r/seduction01/03/19 06:16 AM
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Well you can complain and whine about it or you can accept it for what it is and accept how the world works. Reacting about it in any negative manner will make her think you're a chode. The silver lining to the situation is that most guys don't really know how to flirt and show girls a good fun time. They are instead thirsty and desperate and blow up their phones. It's not that hard to stand out in 2019.
/r/seduction01/03/19 05:30 AM
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Make as many excuses as you want.
/r/seduction28/02/19 10:39 AM
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Firstly, just chill out a bit, a desperate guy never gets laid, but good on you for choosing to take action and do something about it. I did a big post recently about this and I'm not going to rewrite it, you can have a look through my post history, but I'll try to summarise. Essentially a lot of guys want to go from being introverted gamer to pickup superstar overnight and put extreme amounts of pressure on themselves to do so. Instead try practicing socialising in baby steps with not just girl…
/r/seduction28/02/19 09:13 AM
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What are you bringing to the table? Money defs won't get you laid on its own, trust me. What it does do is make it a lot easier to provide fun and excitement to the girls which can give an edge. For example having a car makes logistics easier, inviting her over to take a dip in the pool is a good way to spend an afternoon, having a nice pad in the city makes it easy to do predrinks or after party if you head out. All of this stuff is great, but it only provides a setting, you must still be a fun…
/r/seduction28/02/19 04:45 AM
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Simple as this. You can't control her so why let her dictate your happiness.
/r/seduction28/02/19 01:21 AM
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Don't stare if you don't know them. You can maintain eye contact when you're conversing. It's common sense bro don't take online theory too literally.
/r/seduction27/02/19 04:55 PM
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This thread blew up big time with advice and opinions. To keep it simple here's what I would say: Good work on getting into a sports committee, you've opened a good social avenue for pursuing girls and friendships. You can't be envious of someone when you're not willing putting in the same effort. Don't make excuses, start taking action. Your friend is willing to give you what you need on a silver platter and you won't take it? He's offering you his hand to bring you up to the level. If he has t…
/r/seduction25/02/19 08:09 AM
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Firstly the guys are jealous that you're getting the attention. You can say lots of things, but it can be hard if there is a mob mentality and rumors are spinning. Even if the girl likes you, she might be nervous about accepting anything because she doesn't want to be in the spot light and her friends might judge and gossip. Make sure you aren't targeting any one girl otherwise rumors will start and she will hear. You'll be sabotaged before you approach. Instead try and approach a few girls and …
/r/seduction21/02/19 03:43 AM
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DW about texting, I'm talking about real life approaching matey. Texting is totally different you can follow up with a message at any time. It's a protracted conversation. Obviously a simple hey won't illicit a response in real life or by texting as you haven't triggered any emotional conversation.
/r/seduction20/02/19 02:04 PM
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Well you take yourself a bit too seriously then mate. Good luck all the same.
/r/seduction20/02/19 11:40 AM
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Yes you are a predetor pedophille and it's time to retire and buy a rocking chair and wait your time out.
/r/seduction20/02/19 09:35 AM
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Wtf you talking about... Obviously don't say something stupid like that. Just say something dumb and funny like that you're a dude and therefore always horny, so tinder did a good job in making the match and you should meet up.
/r/seduction20/02/19 09:33 AM
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Just curious, have you actually trialed it to a point where you could say with certainty that you get better results waiting for some witty opener? Have you actually thoroughly field tested it or just dismissing it?
/r/seduction20/02/19 09:24 AM
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It's great advice and I'm talking from experience. A lot of guys place too much emphasis on a witty opener, which is quite unimportant in the scheme of things. Once you get talking no one remembers the opener. Guys wait for a witty comment to come and in most cases it doesn't so they choose not to approach or they've lost momentum by the time they come up with something. More often than not something funny and relevent will come out in shock because you are in-the-moment. It won't always work bu…
/r/seduction20/02/19 09:20 AM
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How do you know that they are troll accounts out of curiosity?
/r/seduction20/02/19 09:10 AM
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He's saying be flirty but be careful in environments where you are stuck with the person if it goes sour. It's not like a nightclub where you can be blasé and overt about your intentions. You're handling the flirting in a more safe manner.
/r/seduction20/02/19 04:22 AM
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Start with conversation. Doesn't matter if other people are around you should be able to talk 1 on 1 at the right time people should give you space and talk amongst themselves and even if they don't who cares. You say you're good at conversation, but are you good at flirtatious conversation that elicits emotion? That's the starting point. Don't start physical, start emotional otherwise it's creepy. It can be subtle but also needs to be a pushing barriers. Hard to give specific examples but try t…
/r/seduction20/02/19 03:41 AM
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'you're too young for me...' 'oh really how old are you?' '28' 'oh well you're also a little too young for me, but I'm gonna make an exception in this case because you seem interesting.' Also throw a cheeky smile in there.
/r/seduction19/02/19 07:43 AM
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I don't think it's referring to approaching, it's referring to 'chasing' which is quite different.
/r/seduction18/02/19 05:07 PM
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Is the friendship equal? Does she try just as hard as you do with the friendship and make things easy? Does she bail easy or is very flakey? Does she honestly have your best interests at heart? Does she respect you and ask you similar questions to what you ask? Does she want to bring you along with her friends to hang out as much as you ask her to hang out? Does she act like your other mates act? Would you be giving her the time of day if she was some nerdy dude? I think many guys know the answe…
/r/seduction18/02/19 04:56 PM
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Your options are to 1. react to the situation, go up and try to muscle him out 2. Not chase and instead have fun elsewhere and enjoy your night. To me it's obvious which of those options is more attractive to a girl. They are very socially intelligent, they know what is going on. Whilst I agree that getting girls requires action and intuition, sometimes the most powerful move is to not chase. Otherwise you're being reactive, desperate and putting her on a pedestal. Nothing looks more desperate t…
/r/seduction18/02/19 07:35 AM
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A lot of your facts don't really disprove the myths per se... I think the 80/20 model, more than anything just explains an idea of how society operates and would be silly to take it too literally. It implies that there are select few males who understand how to sleep with girls and have the physical attributes to back it up, with the girls preferring to share these males. I think realistically the model is greatly exagerated and what it would actually look like is a bell curve with a high early …
/r/seduction18/02/19 06:55 AM
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I'm confused as to who is upvoting this thread because imo it contains some very misguided advice that could cause guys a lot of pain in not moving on. If you are friendzoned you must honestly ask yourself if you will be happy being mates with a girl who you have feelings for that will will be seeing, sleeping with and dating other people who you will probably meet. You must also try and find out if she wants to be friends with you and doesn't have alternative intentions. Girls enjoy attention, …
/r/seduction18/02/19 06:08 AM
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Most conversations start out fairly vanilla, usually open with some general questions to probe who the person is and what they are like, but try to diverge away from this as soon as possible. You really want to get away from routine questions people have been asked 100 times before and instead be in the moment, speak your mind. Don't have conversation for conversation sake. Use your social intuition to direct the conversation to make it fun. Theres no real guide for this because conversation is …
/r/seduction15/02/19 06:22 AM
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Ok dude - really important point, make sure to start going above and beyond with everyone you talk to, not just hitting on hot girls. Many guys try to go from straight out introvert to just cold approach and truth be told you need to warm up to it a bit or it will absolutely come off as creepy. ​ I know you feel like you have a time limit but forget this imposed college timeframe, you'll have plenty of opportunity across your life. What you need to do is start talking to lots of people whenever …
/r/seduction14/02/19 11:41 AM
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Ok, I understand full well what you're talking about, I've seen it myself. It's something that you're going to have to get comfortable with one way or another because as far as I'm aware there are no remedies outside of surgery (which is a serious commitment). ​ You might be surprised with many girls and their ability to accept the physical version of you. We live in a very materialistic and shallow world but there are many decent girls out there, some who are probably gone through things simila…
/r/seduction14/02/19 11:21 AM
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Attention to the friends is a massive one. Once you got her hooked you don't need to keep making her like you, it's about sorting out all the 'other' things such as friends, logistics, competition, etc. Seduction is just getting your foot in the door it won't result in getting laid.
/r/seduction14/02/19 05:39 AM
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You need to fix your mentality and your self esteem a bit dude, very low vibration energy, although good to see you hitting the gym. There are a lot of very good fun girls out there, I assure you, and nothing is better than meeting one and having good chemistry with them. Yes it's true not all of them will like you, but it's all part of life. You shouldn't be trying to make them like you either. You should just be casually meeting lots of girls and seeing which ones that you like and suit you. Y…
/r/seduction14/02/19 05:29 AM
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Someone said talk to everyone, defs great advice. Become a social person with everyone and the girls will come too. However straight up cold approach day game I think is a bit large risk with little reward situation. Not that it cannot ever provide results and I'll admit it's good for confidence, but I think that it's hard to create good rapport with a girl randomly during the day and so most of the numbers you'll collect will go no where. Solo night game is better as there is more activity, ene…
/r/seduction13/02/19 02:57 PM
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You have oneitis, she's using ya. Stop thinking about her and start seeing other girls. If she wants to meet up just do it and don't be weird about it who cares who she's seeing or what she's doing it's no one's business. You need other stuff going on in your life.
/r/seduction13/02/19 12:06 PM
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This is the answer you need right here. Few girls will openly say they want sex. Just sorta play along and be aloof. You don't need to give her direct answers and she doesn't even necessarily want a relationship. Just sort of acknowledge it but don't give a direct answer and play push pull like this poster indicated.
/r/seduction13/02/19 08:27 AM
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Gold haha.
/r/seduction13/02/19 08:12 AM
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Just say she's being way to forward in saying that, it wasn't even on your mind and she's already jumping to conclusions (with an emoji, jokes can be hard to tell by text). Tell her to clean up her mind a bit and you're looking forward to seeing her at coffee.
/r/seduction13/02/19 06:22 AM
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Maybe = no.
/r/seduction12/02/19 01:39 AM
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Thinking of game as 'talk talk talk' is a bit overly simplistic. If anything I think it is more about being risky, living in the moment and above all having fun. If you can have fun in playing the game, even the thrill of getting blown out doesn't really phase you. I'd advise you to see it in this light and don't be outcome dependent on getting laid and not comparing yourself to others. ​ To answer your question, it's pretty obvious. Trying to get laid on a night out does rely on emotional spike…
/r/seduction11/02/19 04:58 PM
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She doesn't care mate, or maybe she typed it in wrong. Either way onto the next one buddy.
/r/seduction11/02/19 07:26 AM
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I think the best way to phrase it is by asking: is the joke based around self pity or is it fun and humorous? Is it something that you are hurt by or is it something that you personally find funny and take it on your stride? Is the joke a natural part of the conversation or are you going out of your way to display your insecurities and fears? All this provides context if the joke is appropriate or not. If you are unsure about this sort of thing, don't do it.
/r/seduction11/02/19 07:15 AM
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You've read theory. You know what theory and dating coaches say? They say to stop reading theory and get out there!! You've got all this time to read but not enough time to man up and do something about it. You're beating around the bush with your post. You know what you must do. You must start heading out and approaching as many girls as you can. Dont put pressure on yourself to achieve unreasonable standards, but start doing more than reading.... It doesn't have to be 4 hours a night. Twice a …
/r/seduction11/02/19 06:34 AM
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Probably not. Valentine's Day is generally a bad day to be hitting on girls or asking them out on dates unless you're already in a close intimate relationship with them. It's really a couple's day. I can't picture girls saying "hey Suzie it's valentine's and im single and lonely let's go get laid!". They'll more like be sitting at home together watching crazy stupid love or some crap. Not to say there won't be girls that won't be up for it, but it's probably no different to a regular night.
/r/seduction11/02/19 06:06 AM
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I only just skimmed your post. From my experience, if the ambience or feeling isn't right, don't force a kiss. Go with the feeling that you are getting at that point in time. Girls are emotional and often feel what you feel. Don't start going logical mode ie. 'if I don't kiss her it's a failed date blah blah' On another note I once had a similar date with a beautiful polish girl ended with me kissing her on the cheek when I promised myself I'd go for a pash. The next date we went the whole way, …
/r/seduction11/02/19 05:51 AM
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I've heard worse.
/r/seduction11/02/19 02:20 AM
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Exactly, change the mindset from "how do I sleep with this woman?" to "do I want to sleep with this woman?" That's how girls are thinking about men constantly, you're being vetted by them for compatibility. Don't just chase their looks above all else.
/r/seduction11/02/19 02:16 AM
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This is hard to answer, because essentially what you're asking is, how do I have sex with hot girls whilst completely avoiding the social element that creates sexual interest and gives the girl a reason to hook up with you. One honest answer to your question is get escorts, but I know that's not an answer you will happily accept. Let me ask you a question - why should a girl hook up with you? What are you bringing to the table that other guys aren't? Most hot girls will have pretty easy access t…
/r/seduction10/02/19 09:49 AM
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Misguided mindset.
/r/seduction09/02/19 03:06 AM
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If you work out and lift regularly, groom, have good fashion and hygiene, that is all that is necessary to get in the 'door'. The majority of men can actually get in with the majority of girls if they tick these boxes. Once you have these down, it becomes about charisma, confidence, social conditioning, personality, etc. These are much more important factors than looks once conversation starts. Some guys are misguided on here, overrate looks and believe because they aren't good looking that this…
/r/seduction09/02/19 03:01 AM
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I didn't read anything but the title. Buddy or mate doesn't mean anything, I've called girls those names before that I've been attracted to and vice versa, but I'm gonna ago out on a limb and guess that because you're asking all of this and over thinking it, she probably only views you as a friend.
/r/seduction08/02/19 05:33 AM
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Reading this question gave me cancer.
/r/seduction08/02/19 05:29 AM
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I dunno if it's s year ago who's he to say that. I believe in bro code and all but your mate should move on who cares. Is he truly trustworthy? You don't think he would if the situation was reversed? Maybe I'm a pessimist but I'd say you'll regret it.
/r/seduction08/02/19 05:26 AM
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Not that you're wrong but it will become a meme at some point haha.
/r/seduction08/02/19 04:20 AM
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This is becoming some copy pasta
/r/seduction08/02/19 04:16 AM
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Girls that like you won't make it too hard. She might end up flaking. Not saying it's a no go, but just preparing your expectations and you seem a bit fixated for someone you just hit it off with breifly at a party. Make sure next time she sees you, whenever that is, you're in a good fun state and having a good time with everyone. Flirt with some other girls and her too.
/r/seduction08/02/19 03:35 AM
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Def's not lip that's obvious and annoying. Monobrowe area is the way to go.
/r/seduction08/02/19 02:55 AM
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She doesn't care bro she's just feigning interest. Girls will rarely flat out reject they don't like the confrontation and they thrive from validation.
/r/seduction08/02/19 02:53 AM
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I won't lie and say that looks don't matter, but I do think they can be compensated for with fashion, physique and grooming as you say. All this is only a small piece of the puzzle compared to things like confidence, social skills, social calibration and personality. Attraction is created through interesting and flirtatious interactions. I consider myself a good looking guy, but girls are interested in me because of more than that. You have to bring something to the interaction that is exciting,…
/r/seduction07/02/19 04:25 AM
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There's a lot of advice I could give, but at its core you need to get out there and start meeting a lot of people. Optons won't come to you if you live a passive life, you need to be the one making things happen and putting yourself out there. Develop social skills, find friends and sporting communities, go out and approach strangers, start having fun, taking risks and living in the moment. I feel like people on this Reddit want to go from complete passive introvert to pussy magnet by reading on…
/r/seduction07/02/19 03:59 AM
5

Funny meme but you shouldn't have to pretend to not care if you have other good options.
/r/seduction07/02/19 02:28 AM
27

Just peddling off your first point, I think girls get a lot of offers, but what they really crave is the attention of a guy they actually like. Everything else is just noise to them. In this way, why it seems they have a lot of options, to them it isn't really options that they care about. Girls aren't attracted physically as much as men and aren't as focused on sex. Therefore if you can create a connection with them or have chemistry that can be hard to come by, they will view you in much highe…
/r/seduction06/02/19 04:55 PM
2

This is a good summary. Negging should only be used on bratty girls. Push pull should be used playfully with all girls.
/r/seduction06/02/19 07:49 AM
3

The trick is to excel in the initial interaction. A girl giving you a number means nothing these days. She has to have a fun and enjoyable initial experience to want to see you again. Then no matter how you phrase is she'll make it easy for you and you're not sitting there wondering if a slight wording change will make a difference.
/r/seduction06/02/19 07:08 AM
7

Anything at all. Trick is to throw yourself out there and see what bs comes out if your mouth. Dude what are you drinking, man your shoes are so pointy are you a witch, that chick is so drunk I bet you a drink she gets thrown out in next 30 mins, dude you look like my cousin are we related, I thought this place was a gay club but it seems getting more hetro than ever, are you french sac re bleu, ciao Bella, do you have recoomendations for places I can go tonight blah blah blah. Don't wait for th…
/r/seduction06/02/19 06:51 AM
1

You're over thinking it big time and now she's using you for validation. Crack a joke or two, have some brief convo then ask if she wants a drink. If she says anything other than a hard yes, move on.
/r/seduction06/02/19 06:38 AM
2

Difference of opinion then, let op decide how he wants to play it. I agree with the part on girls mindset and agenda. If shes at that stage where she wants a ltr and has found an adequate candidate, she will make it clear and make things easy, which isn't op's case.
/r/seduction05/02/19 03:05 PM
1

If she's clearly ready and wanting - yes ok proceed with the sex but likewise I wouldn't push for it either if a ltr is the ultimate aim. Let it breathe would be my advice. There comes a point where to be in a ltr it needs to be verbally stated. It can be done in a variety of tactful ways but it does need to be stated and defined after you've built adequate rapport with the girl.
/r/seduction05/02/19 02:45 PM
1

You've got the ability to date girls and sleep with them, but it seems like it's more of a friend's with benefits scenario and then you end up falling for them. For the more ltr scenarios, my recommendation is to not sleep with them as fast, try to slow the process down, more fun memorble dates, more quality time, events and memories. I'm not saying to go full on beta romantic, but just try to make it more meaningful than average. Really wait a while before having sex if possible and when the ti…
/r/seduction05/02/19 02:35 PM
4

Shes got a lot of hormones going on with these letters and what not, she's a bit all over the place. I'm betting you two are young given this behaviour and the prom scenario. Either way stop making it a big deal and just be direct with her. Girls can be emotional but guys should be straight, confident and secure in themselves. You don't have much to lose and if she says no take someone else. Easy.
/r/seduction05/02/19 02:22 PM
2

Either they were cheating, they ended up dating someone else or they saw something on your social media that turned them off. It's possible she was single then caught up with a ex and they got back together. Probably has nothing to do with you I wouldn't worry too much about it.
/r/seduction05/02/19 11:30 AM
5

You go over and talk to them.
/r/seduction05/02/19 11:26 AM
3

It's all in your head. Girls respect a guy that gets a no and then moves on confidently. Happens all the time. Unless you went too far and that's what caused the shame?
/r/seduction05/02/19 10:04 AM
2

Really hard to know from your description but you must be doing something pretty off to get those reactions. Might be worth getting a dating coach as someone else said. My best guess is that you're pushing too hard to either get dates or get something from the girls. The fact you went on a date and she went in the other direction tells me you pushed something or made it awkward somehow. If a date didn't work out they should still be cool to say hi. Are you acting needy or desperate at all? Would…
/r/seduction05/02/19 10:00 AM
2

Sounds like you're making excuses to me mate.
/r/seduction05/02/19 09:41 AM
3

Asking out on valentine's is a bad idea. That day is really reserved for romantic couples. Also dinner was a bad idea. Something more relaxed, casual and quick woulda been a better idea. She might be playing you. I think you've made your intentions clear so time to wait. Try meet some other girls in the mean time.
/r/seduction05/02/19 09:30 AM
10

Stop using tinder as a crutch, it is weak and lazy mindset. Time to meet girls in the real world, bars, clubs, cold approach, sports communities, festivals, gigs, travelling, whatever, they are everywhere! Use your personality for attraction rather than some pics and a bio that no one cares about. I think it's ok to have tinder on the side, but don't rely on it!
/r/seduction05/02/19 01:37 AM
3

Be careful she might only view you as a friend. Letting your feelings out without developing a connection will likely result in rejection. You will get friend zoned. You need to flirt with her a bit and see how she responds. Joke with her and don't be so serious. Have some fun and games, mess with her a bit, keep it light and fun. If it seems right, see if you can hang out with her and go from there.
/r/seduction03/02/19 04:14 PM
15

You need to find a new community. Maybe start some kickboxing or bjj classes? You good at any sports? This is the best way to make friends quickly.
/r/seduction03/02/19 04:09 PM
6

Maybe I'm wrong on this one - but I don't quite believe this one. You didn't see her write things on the receipt? If it's true then it is a cool story.
/r/seduction03/02/19 06:10 AM
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It's simple. You're putting them on a pedestal. Stop thinking of them as sex machines and start thinking of them as normal people, which is what they are. They eat, poo and snore like everyone else no matter how hot they are. Joke with them like you joke with your friends. Tease them, mock them, laugh with them, tell them they are silly. Stop trying to impress them.
/r/seduction01/02/19 08:15 AM
1

Really important part to this was congruent with your personality. Still be yourself, it's very important
/r/seduction22/01/19 04:11 AM
3

Also it's the small successes that urge you on. You get blown out by 20 girls but then last minute hookup with a hotty gives you that ray of hope that drives you forward into more blowouts. There is success to be had sooner or later for the bold.
/r/seduction22/01/19 04:07 AM
5

You're over analyzing. Crossing arms alone doesn't mean anything. It's the whole demeanor that someone is giving off through multiple body actions, not one thing specifically.
/r/seduction20/01/19 07:43 AM
1

Yeah dude wind it back a bit.
/r/seduction16/01/19 08:54 AM
2

Exactly. Asking for a relationship is just a girls way of justifying what she is doing. Just naturally escalate on her and go with the flow.
/r/seduction16/01/19 08:44 AM
1

She probably doesn't even remember you. You're Defs overthinking it. Either forget it or just say something throw away that you think up in 10 seconds cause you barely know her so why out so much thought into it.
/r/seduction16/01/19 08:42 AM
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Being a leader/confident are attractive male characteristics. Striking up and generating a fun conversation with a random girl at a bar is a confident male characteristic. Asking for a date over Facebook messenger a 3rd time after a girl flaked you twice is needy. There is a difference. One is you giving fun and providing value to the girl, the other is that you wanting something from her. I believe being true alpha is being the best, most outgoing form of your own personality, not some silly ba…
/r/seduction16/01/19 08:32 AM
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I agree but also disagree. I think it's good as long as it's not used as a crutch. You shouldn't be saying things online that you wouldn't say in real life or creating a persona that can't be replicated in real life. But to compliment dates 'out of hours' then I totally agree.
/r/seduction16/01/19 06:11 AM
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Relationship it can be either way depending on the relationship itself. FWB depends how much she likes you, how comfortable she is, how many times you've hooked up before and how horney she is. Girls you don't know well in a club or bar environment almost never initiate unless you're really good looking and even then they might just open but you'll have to do the heavy lifting.
/r/seduction14/01/19 03:29 AM
7

Wtf haha. Just wear a condom... And don't mess with girls who are blantly over slutty.
/r/seduction12/01/19 11:31 AM
1

I think 28 is this magical age where you come into your own. You know what you like and you stop caring about what other think. It's so funny because I see 18 year old guys out and something about them is really weak, it's hard to describe, like they haven't figure out their personality.
/r/seduction12/01/19 11:29 AM
1

Those 3 things are key for sure. There is an over saturation of information on this but for sure those 3 are paramount.
/r/seduction12/01/19 03:21 AM
2

To be honest if he needs to cockblock you then it's not a good relationship between them and likely not going to last. I wouldn't make any major moves, just treat her how you'd treat any girl you might be interested in and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction11/01/19 08:22 AM
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That's definitely part of it, but on a more big picture, it's not overthinking interactions with girls. If you talk to a girl and create a slight platonic relationship with her, it's keeping in mind that's all it is. Many guys on here create oneitis by dwelling on a girl and her interactions, whereas to her she just thinks of it as a platonic friendship, not really on her mind. As a different example, going out and getting blown out by a girl in a club really isn't a big deal, she probably won't…
/r/seduction10/01/19 03:42 AM
7

I think completely not caring isn't good, but instead it's caring an appropriate amount for the situation and not getting fixated on something that shouldn't be a big deal, thereby making it a big deal.
/r/seduction09/01/19 08:27 AM
0

Going by your first post, it's completely plausible that as a man you have a girlfriend and meet a new high quality girl that you wish to date, not just sleep with. I've been in this situation multiple times and given it serious consideration. On the inverse, it's also plausible (although not common) that a girl wants to sleep around for fun, yet still stay in some form of a relationship for comfort, especially at a young age when they are discovering their sexuality.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/19 12:45 PM
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That's not something that happens exclusively with girls. That is always a threat to a long term relationship regardless of the gender. Starting off with the right basis for a relationship, choosing the right sort of girl with the right priorities, whilst still developing and maintaining oneself is the best way to go the distance for any relationship.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/19 09:23 AM
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I gotta admit I only skimmed the post. But the whole turn mantra really is theory only spouted by guys still in an angry stage of their life or had some bad experiences with incompatible girls. Same with awalt phrase to a certain extent, or at least I think it is used in the wrong context often. If you're providing value to a girls life whilst constantly bettering yourself and being your own person, there's no reason why she won't stay by your side indefinitely.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/19 07:15 AM
1

I've also had it backfire. When you make girls compete too much they just bounce on and will easily pick up a chad. Anyone who disagrees just hasn't had the experience happen to them. They like it when you have social proof but they won't go out of their way to fight for you. Despite typically modern redpill theory, dread game is not a good idea especially to girls you don't know well. It's better to be a bit gentle, keep the vibes fun, show clear intention and make logistics easy. Dreading real…
/r/TheRedPill08/01/19 07:03 AM
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Maybe this post isn't value-adding, but who cares if girls are more promiscuous or not. It's no secret girls like good sex just as much, perhaps even more than men, but are looking for good opportunities to have it, as opposed to men who will jump at almost any opportunity to get in the sack. They hold themselves to modern society values, which shames them for being promiscuous, although I do think this is changing. We seem to be repeating ourselves over and over on this subreddit. What we reall…
/r/TheRedPill08/01/19 05:26 AM
1

100% oneitis, move on. Very hard to suddenly get romantic after 4 years.
/r/seduction04/01/19 10:35 AM
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Be careful with the compliment part. I tend to only use compliments straight off the bat when there is no other method of starting a convo. I think a compliment should be used in the interaction but only after you've built some form of rapport or chemistry, otherwise it can come off very phony.
/r/seduction04/01/19 08:51 AM
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Girls will rarely initiate interactions, it's up to you to 'lead' by opening the interaction. I would very rarely open an interaction by saying a girl is cute, that implies that I'm talking to her on the pretenense that she's cute and that's what I'm there for, you immediately starting at a disadvantage.
/r/seduction04/01/19 08:20 AM
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Probably best post of the month on this subreddit. Rarely do I see something so extensive yet succinct that I completely agree with on every point. To the posters saying it's too long or too many rules, it isn't, it's explaining a mind set in a logical step by step manner. You shouldn't be sitting there trying to memorise this stuff or taking it too literally, it should instead be built into you. These sorts of posts calibrate awareness and you should find yourself reading through and nodding yo…
/r/seduction04/01/19 08:09 AM
1

Nothing ventured, nothing gained! Good motto to remember.
/r/seduction04/01/19 05:48 AM
1

To me it sounds like he's just going desperation mode on every girl he meets, there is a reason they are backing off. He needs to regroup, figure himself out and come from a new angle with renewed confidence. To me it sounds like he's swimming in desperation which becomes a vicious cycle because it further drives girls away.
/r/seduction03/01/19 06:18 AM
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Start with improving your social interactions with everyone you talk to. Build your charisma. Forget what you have or haven't done physically. Learn how to make jokes to make people laugh but be firm and confident in who you are. Most young people are still figuring out who they are. Don't be nice to people just for the sake of bring nice, but instead be genuine and be yourself. People get very hung up on being a virgin or not having kissed, focusing on this actually makes the problems worse as …
/r/seduction03/01/19 03:09 AM
1

I dunno wtf people here are saying...don't pay! However it sorta depends who invited who. If she signaled she wants to go it's a mutual thing then don't pay.
/r/seduction03/01/19 02:20 AM
0

Oneitis mate. Time to date some more girls.
/r/seduction03/01/19 02:05 AM
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Dude you sound creepy desperate, that will drive girls away. Work on yourself and become happy with who you are first. Girls should not define who you are that is needy behaviour.
/r/seduction03/01/19 02:00 AM
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And be president.
/r/seduction02/01/19 05:21 PM
2

Adding on to this guy, what you did wasn't a mistake so much, but it's more that girls are emotional creatures and you must strike whilst the iron is hot. They got a lot of guys chasing they ain't got time for any dude. They don't act well to desperation and coming back 2 months later looks desperate, she likely moved on to other things. It's fine to drop a message but it she ain't reciprocating much just pass it or you'll make it worse. Maybe you'll bump into her in a few months when you feelin…
/r/seduction02/01/19 05:17 PM
0

Work on basic social skills and being able to talk to everyone not just girls. Start slow like chatting to waiters or asking a girl for directions and build up slowly. It's really not scary once you get used to it. Eventually head out solo and try to make friends at a bar or club.
/r/seduction02/01/19 05:04 PM
3

Interesting what you said about the crew and better to fly solo than with people who bring you down. I'll remember that.
/r/seduction02/01/19 04:58 PM
2

Move on to the next one bro.
/r/seduction02/01/19 03:09 PM
0

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/r/seduction02/01/19 12:50 PM
1

Do you have her personal contact details? She seems interested - why don't you ask if she wants to hangout just you two sometime? He might be a orbiter and is trying to cockblock you, but doesnt stand a chance himself. ​ Hard to know if you made the right choice, you probably should've, but why not just hang out 1 on 1 if its going that well?
/r/seduction02/01/19 11:43 AM
0

The first thing I would ask is how much you are cold approaching outside of using dating aps. I am not against dating aps per se, but I think they can create bad habits and too many guys are using them as a crutch where they get too used to chatting online rather than manning up and conversing in the real world. ​ Next I would ask for an honest assessment of your social skills. You say you love to banter and have a lot of hobbies which is great. Do you reckon you can chat up any person (not just…
/r/seduction02/01/19 11:11 AM
2

Agreed.
/r/seduction02/01/19 10:35 AM
1

You can't control other people and what they think or do. You can influence it somewhat but you can't control it. So don't let yourself get hung up on what others think or do. Focus on what you like and who you are, that is something that you can totally control.
/r/seduction02/01/19 09:30 AM
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This is exactly it, they are all in on their looks to make it through life , making them shallow underneith. It's funny because their looks filters a lot of guys but then the shallow personality filters even more combined with their over the top expectations. I think the looks result in a lot of admirers, Instagram followers, but they find it difficult to match up with meaningful relationships.
/r/seduction02/01/19 08:56 AM
0

We are going off the topic of confidence quite a bit but I think this is where it helps to have hobbies, knowledge and be an interesting rounded person. All girls are interested in somethings, you just need to find the right triggers and do the work for them a bit. Most girls won't care about muay Thai for example especially if they arent interested in you initially. However if you find something they do like chatting about, anything, you can turn that into a convo. For example the other night o…
/r/seduction02/01/19 08:23 AM
2

Perfect. Could you explain to me what is so great about muay Thai,for example mastering a certain move or combination for execution in a tournament and that feeling when you pull it off. Can you link that to other sports or hobbies. The best social interactions are the ones when you are conversing with someone or exchanging information about things you love through your own experiences. It should be a back and forth exchange of experiences, emotions and feelings. It should not be boasting like d…
/r/seduction02/01/19 08:02 AM
2

Dancing, grinding and even making out will rarely get you laid especially if she is with friends. I'm not saying it's impossible but it's not the best road to success. Once it's time for their friends to go they'll say good night after having fun and that is it. What you need to do is to try and isolate them and build up rapore through flirting and escalate from there. Joke about their dance moves and try to get personal. You can transition back and forwards from dance floor to chats in a quiet …
/r/seduction02/01/19 07:51 AM
1

It's good to open to everyone for social momentum but I would be careful about winging any random dude sitting on his own for an entire night. Some people, despite having good intentions, can be positive energy drains. It's hard enough picking up solo let alone doing the leg work for two people. With that being said - if he brings good vibes, of course keep him around.
/r/seduction02/01/19 07:37 AM
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Sounds good man, I have a feeling if you stayed then you would've outstayed your welcome and fizzeled off even though it seemed good at the time. It was actually the better move leaving on a high note, sets you up for next time.
/r/seduction02/01/19 07:32 AM
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Dont be too nice up front. Sounds like you're getting friendzoned
/r/seduction02/01/19 07:29 AM
0

Just say that the two of you better not meet...because you'll steal him away from her!
/r/seduction02/01/19 07:26 AM
1

Isn't it pretty simple? You become successful at things. It can be anything! What makes you who you are? What's interesting about you? I love playing guitar and do YouTube videos, I play beach and hard court volleyball, I love music especially indie and metal, I love big nights out and music festivals, I closely follow UFC with a good friend of mine who I regularly go to the gym with and discover new restaurants, etc etc etc. About any of these topics I can discuss with anyone and make it intere…
/r/seduction02/01/19 07:24 AM
1

Simple solution to oneitis is to date and see other girls. Very simple.
/r/seduction01/01/19 07:37 AM
2

Go see and date other girls, you've got oneitis. Not only will it make you lose focus on her, it may also be the only chance of reeling her back.
/r/seduction26/12/18 03:39 AM
8

Good guy = Comfortable and confident in ones self, has morals and beliefs they stand behind, generally trustworthy. Nice guy = Only acts nice because it is easy and they don't know better, white knight, hopes acting this way will get them laid, orbiter, not sexual at all.
/r/seduction26/12/18 03:37 AM
3

Don't think about how to end a conversation, just let it finish when you're bored talking to her. Pretty simple really. Yes you should be texting sparingly, but don't purposely cut the conversation short if it is actually an interesting conversation. I think the rule is more about matching her level of commitment, don't continue to invest when she's not investing back. But then once/if you hit a good enough level to get her out, do that asap rather than wasting more time texting. I feel like peo…
/r/seduction25/12/18 05:54 PM
3

I dunno man seems odd - why would she make a big deal out of having friends there to begin with. If she doesn't flake, just do what's natural and don't go in expecting a certain outcome. Build attraction, flirt and gradually escalate.
/r/seduction25/12/18 05:37 PM
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You shouldn't have sent that text, it's like your openly admiting you pussy'd out - not attractive at all. If you don't escalate on a date, you need to take the frame that its because you're going slow and steady or because you're vetting her. I'd say admiting it has set you back. The fact you want to go on a second date shows intent enough. I'd set up the shisha if you actually fancy going with a few mates and her but if that's not your plan I say move on to some others, there might still be a …
/r/seduction25/12/18 04:58 PM
2

I bet you're using tinder for these dates.
/r/seduction25/12/18 04:12 PM
1

Your mind frame is pathetic so you're becoming pathetic as a result. Forget losing your virginity and kissing, you've got to solidify and become comfortable and confident with who you are, otherwise its all going to become a vicious cycle of feeling sorry for yourself and girls not liking you as a result. Start basic, find things that make you happy. Hobbies, sports, weight lifting. Avoid antisocial activities if possible. Gaming is fine but shouldn't define who you are. You should be an interes…
/r/seduction24/12/18 05:32 PM
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I don't daygame unless a really good opportunity presents itself and I'm in state, maybe with a good wing. My nightgame is very good and I love going out on my own trying different things. It's a very rewarding experience when it works, you feel like you did it yourself whilst learning a lot. I don't go out much only once or twice a week which is low by PUA standards but very happy with how I am progressing. ​ Tinder I think is a really bad modern clutch and I think pulling high quality girls fr…
/r/seduction18/12/18 04:42 PM
2

Take the Todd and RSD videos with a grain of salt. Take in the idea but DO NOT take them too literally. It will hurt your game! After watching a few you'll start to see contradictory statements and gross exaggerations by differing instructors. They are good but only conceptually and to get you thinking. ​ You really need to go out and draw your own conclusions on the world. Approach some Swedish girls, strike up conversations and determine for yourself what works.
/r/seduction18/12/18 04:34 PM
1

Be yourself bro and be confident. If she doesnt like you for who you are, then why should you waste your time with her? ​ Also if possible, maybe look to line up some other dates with other girls in the interim. Having a abundance mentality will always help on any given date and take the pressure off.
/r/seduction18/12/18 04:26 PM
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You're not her babysitter nor are you really required to do anything. If it's getting to a point where she might injure herself physically maybe intervene, but socially you should do nothing unless she's told you otherwise when she was sober. She must take responsibility for her actions.
/r/seduction09/12/18 03:59 PM
7

Generally, the more control you exert over girls the more likely they are to cheat. They should know the consequences for their actions. The moment you start reacting, you're actually push them to the other guy. ​ A girl should know that if she does anything then you'll leave.
/r/seduction09/12/18 11:27 AM
3

Really nice little compilation of fundamentals here.
/r/seduction08/12/18 04:05 AM
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Why are you thinking about a girl from weeks ago? Seems like you don't have much else going on. ​ I'd say skip this one mate, you should have other options now, and if you don't, then time to go find some and cold approaching.
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:15 PM
4

Blaming lack of pickup on ethnicity is simply an excuse. I tend to find that most asians/indians complaining about lack of pickup isn't because of their race, but their method of pickup, which I attribute to their cultures. ​
/r/seduction07/12/18 02:13 PM
3

Tell her you're good looking and stupid but you're going to try anyway.
/r/seduction06/12/18 08:04 AM
1

Maybe an unpopular opinion but I somewhat disagree with working on yourself is the primary method to pickup. There may be some indirect benefits to do with confidence,more discussion points, more life experience, but I wouldn't say it's the most important thing for pickup. Take1fortheteam did bring up a key point. You should have the view that you're interesting enough that they should be chasing you and they're missing out of they aren't. Girls should be disposable to you or they can sense your…
/r/seduction06/12/18 06:17 AM
5

Probably some of the best indirect pickup advice I've seen on here in this video. Enjoy yourself and self amuse. Girls and people in general love someone who is comfortable with themselves through self compassion.
/r/seduction05/12/18 05:03 AM
3

I like to escalate slowly. Start with a dirty joke or a tease. Playing never have I ever on the phone or something is a good way to start the flirt. Then progress to arm over shoulder or around waist, see how she responds. Bit by bit so when it comes time for the kiss it's a small step not a massive leap.
/r/seduction05/12/18 05:00 AM
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See other girls and update your social media to be active with people. Give her plenty of space, no contact and get into the mindset that you're moving on. She's probably found someone else so just accept that in your head. If after 3 to 4 weeks she hasn't replied you can try Hail Mary casual last txt. Either way get ready to move on stop dwelling and creating oneitis.
/r/seduction05/12/18 04:57 AM
1

She's not keen, find some new girls.
/r/seduction05/12/18 04:51 AM
1

Don't use tinder for 10s, go approach.
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:26 AM
2

I think day game shouldn't be your main focus of going about your day, instead it should be something that you activate when a half decent opportunity arises. Perfect example is if you're messing around with your buddies at the beach and some girls walk by. I think hunting girls down and striking up convo is not the way to do day game and will result in limited success. One good thing about it though is that it improves night game because approaches during the day in a low energy environment is …
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:25 AM
0

Alchaol is always good and loosens everyone up.
/r/seduction04/12/18 05:41 AM
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If you're struggling with social anxiety with chatting websites I imagine you will really struggle with girls in the real world. I'd say focus on losing the social anxiety. Baby steps. Start small like trying to strike up a quick conversation with a waiter or check out girl at the supermarket. Try cracking a joke. Realise no one cares as much as you think.
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:51 AM
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There is a lot of fish in the sea. If you ever lose a girl, I guarantee there is a better version out there and probably not as hard to reach as one might think.
/r/seduction29/11/18 05:02 AM
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You answered your own question in a way. You shouldn't be needy if you have a good social life with abundance, you're just their having fun. The girl is inconsequential.
/r/seduction29/11/18 04:54 AM
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This guys got it. Be upfront, funny, don't do boring logical interview talk. Don't be afraid to offend and above all be interesting. If you can get to a point where you are both being straight up honest with each other whilst having a lot of fun and laughs, escalate phyaically and go for a kiss. Even if she backs off it's fine maybe even have a second go after bringing back the energy. Try and get dates outside of dating apps too through cold approaches. I find dating apps bad in that it's a laz…
/r/seduction29/11/18 04:51 AM
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I agree, was just interested. Pretermined lines do not work.
/r/seduction28/11/18 03:19 AM
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What was the comment that made her giggle?
/r/seduction27/11/18 10:54 AM
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To me you sound desperate for relationship with your interactions for girls. They can sense this and they distance themselves. Relationships should be a natural thing you fall into not something you seek and force. Also looks and job isn't nearly as important as game and abundance. Don't rely on these is a clutch. Are you going out and meeting as many people as you can? Do you have hobbies or sports where you constantly meet new people? Abundance will result in a permanent girl. Seems strange yo…
/r/seduction26/11/18 05:45 AM
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This sub is going downhill fast.
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