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I think you should tell her. Your motivation doesn't really matter. She deserves to know her husband to be is a cheater
/r/MenSupportMen25/12/23 06:49 PM
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I'd say it's right to tell his fiance, but he's motivated by a selfish impulse. That's just a pleasant bonus that doing the right thing will also help feel like you get justified revenge
/r/MenSupportMen25/12/23 06:49 PM
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If I squint one eye, I can pretend this isn't any different than a friend getting a woman's number/agree to meet you sometime. But the big difference is that the woman would know she was talking to your friend about meeting you. I agree that the first online conversation isnt usually important, but I think most women would wanna know they're talking to a robot (imagine if this app was for women and it felt like just one more wall between you and a date): so if you don't tell them, you are just l…
/r/MenSupportMen27/06/23 05:40 PM
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Consider that you are socially apt, like just start thinking of all the times you have navigated social situations well. Think of all the professional tact, courtesy in public, and times in casual social conversation you've done what you wanted. Focus on what you've done right and just make it a point to encourage yourself to open up more. I remember often that there isn't a HUD that tracks our life stats for us. You can't know what this 21 yo dudes body count is really like or if he's a good la…
/r/MenSupportMen24/06/23 05:02 PM
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Self rescue is really hard. I honestly thought society would have been a lot cooler than it turned out to be, but I also expected people of around my age (37) to pretty much be in charge about now. Did not see Boomers holding the wheel till they crash us all on the rocks
/r/MenSupportMen19/06/23 01:59 AM
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Shawshank is great. I think of the world as a giant prison: maybe authority will help you or maybe not, maybe you'll get taxed bad and maybe you won't, etc. We can't really escape, but we can find things to enjoy whether we are trapped or not. Might not be epic heroism, but doing their taxes for them for years let Andy set some money aside right?
/r/MenSupportMen17/06/23 04:16 PM
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My cars motor mounts needed to be replaced. Luckily, a new friend agreed to help me with the job, which turned into two evenings worth of work. Saved me $1000 from the shop, though. Still looking for work, hard not to be discouraged but I know once I have a job I'll keep it for years if I can and hopefully not have to look again a long while. Started keto again this week. It's going ok. I had been in the 210 to 220 range, but I slipped back almost to 230. Goal/ideal weight is 185. In theory, if …
/r/MenSupportMen09/06/23 06:17 PM
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Glad you have a good lawyer, and that you're away from someone who was abusing you. Sounds like you're getting a good handle on dealing with emotions. They will definitely fuck you and your life up bad if you just ignore or push past them as long as I did. Keep that going!
/r/MenSupportMen08/06/23 04:05 PM
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I have been out of work (mostly) 2 years and half assedly applying to jobs. Tbh, I figured I would have gotten scooped up by now and that's part of what keeps me down. But I've been having some success with adding journaling and taking control of my diet (was overeating). Working out 2-4 times a week and stretching most every day. But man Ive still been feeling so down sometimes 2 or 3 days in a row. I've been working on some things to post up around my place to help my mindset. Been spending ti…
/r/MenSupportMen07/06/23 06:18 PM
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I like several styles of music, but especially grunge, alt rock, metal, and pop. I'm still so new though. Just starting out on a real set , been limited to practice pad, rock band game, and a digital set
/r/MenSupportMen21/05/23 08:36 PM
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Cleaned out the new junker, hoping it lasts all summer so me and my girl can save a down payment for a new one. Bummer for my old car to be gone, I just gotta salvage it for whatever I can get now. Drum set arrives today, I'm stoked been looking out the window since I got up Got a couple job applications in this week. Hoping one comes through particularly Started journaling this week and Ive noticed my mood and focus is up. Took a couple sit downs writing to make the exercise useful: was just du…
/r/MenSupportMen19/05/23 07:02 PM
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Journaling this morning (which took me a while with many household interruptions) was so worth it! Posted about it separately on this sub. Making that a 5-7x week habit is where I wanna be. It's like writing your own programming and I know it will pay off if I stick to it.
/r/MenSupportMen17/05/23 07:40 PM
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I have been and will again be in this spiral thinking, and everything you said is true. If you hate the attitude/need, maybe you can find it in yourself for yourself? One, if your parents wanna give a copy away, they are proud. Two, your dad may be emotionally locked up and an attaboy is all he can spare without emotionally losing it himself. Three, even an abusive relationship teaches you a lot. You know so many things to watch for, practices and energy you don't want, behaviors you don't wanna…
/r/MenSupportMen17/05/23 07:39 PM
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Many nasty unaliving thoughts this morning. Back hurts, both cars are heaps, I need work, and now I'm gonna have to schedule a surgery that'll put me on my back a week and mostly useless a week or two longer after that. Trying to stay optimistic about my choices here but ouch
/r/MenSupportMen16/05/23 04:39 PM
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I'm ok. My car is dying, but I've got a backup beater and now I'm very motivated to find work lol Also, I have a drum set coming by next Monday. Got 0% financing in it so it's only $30 a month until I pay it off. I'll be so glad to finally have a setup again
/r/MenSupportMen15/05/23 03:28 AM
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Alright I might just try it. I hit a shop today and they suggested it was too far gone, but if that's the case what could it hurt?
/r/MenSupportMen12/05/23 11:58 PM
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I think you're likely to have a better relationship with parents once you go and come back. Your leaving is triggering a lot for them too, though that doesn't excuse toxicity. It is really hard to pick up and go somewhere else. Lots of folks you meet at school will be in similar situations, and I found people really loosened up at college vs high school. I hope you enjoy your summer before going away for now. Tried yoga videos on YouTube? That's usually a gentle way to get me going before a gym …
/r/MenSupportMen11/05/23 03:59 PM
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Limited to rock band right now, played Push, Good Things Fall Apart, Save Yourself, Open Water and a few others. but I did clear space for a set in the garage last weekend. Gonna look at sets this weekend. I haven't lived anywhere I could have a drum set for a very long time, so I'm looking forward to having one set up again
/r/MenSupportMen11/05/23 03:54 PM
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Everytime I brush my teeth, I repeat that I'm saving $700 on fillings. It helps me Just walking outside in the neighborhood or to a park is super helpful to ready for meditation. Decent exercise too
/r/MenSupportMen11/05/23 03:49 PM
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Thanks, I'm chipping away at least.
/r/MenSupportMen11/05/23 03:56 AM
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Finally noticing some results from a few weeks of weight lifting. Didn't get the jobs I interviewed for last week, but I was told of other positions coming open and to continue applying. Mental health yesterday was in the garbage: I'm still just really hurt from years of exclusion and not fitting in well. I am new to my town and still havent made any friends I think it's getting to me. Today was better than yesterday though, got some chores done and some drumming time in.
/r/MenSupportMen11/05/23 01:13 AM
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I'd say learning martial arts and fighting is great. Just be sure it's a gym that encourages safety, control, good sportsmanship, etc. You can go into a.gym where instructors pretty much let anything go. Or you can go into gyms that don't want wrenched joints, broken noses, or severe head injuries. It's not about eliminating all risk, it's about minimizing the stupid ones for sure. Try different styles and find one that brings out what you want in yourself.
/r/MenSupportMen08/05/23 04:05 PM
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Seriously, OP, consider a place with a good long term thinking mindset: guys wear sparring helmets, mouth guards, gloves, if you're doing moderate contact or sparring. Risking serious head injury and permanent brain/personality damage for big UFC paychecks is debatably worth it: risking them for street cred and wearing a cook gym Tshirt doesn't seem worth it. But a great gym could be great for a lot of reasons, aside from health and confidence. Might make some new friends too
/r/MenSupportMen07/05/23 10:35 PM
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I haven't messed with the upgrade, so I'm not sure. Many articles online about folks' using it for job search or freelancing, I'd start there. I used it by asking it to write me a CL and resume based on a job description. Then pasted the JD in and had AI spit me out a draft. At that point, you can ask it to continue drafting, with advice, "I didn't get a masters degree. My title was X." That kind of thing. Or just copy whatever it gave you into Word and start editing by hand. That's usually enou…
/r/MenSupportMen30/04/23 06:27 PM
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I hope you get some relief from your health issues soon. I've used chatgpt or another ai to help me bang out resumes and cover letters for jobs. If you haven't tried yet that may help you.
/r/MenSupportMen30/04/23 02:37 AM
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Im glad you have an option and some help getting there. Good luck!
/r/MenSupportMen30/04/23 02:36 AM
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I found some compound lifts that are common in CrossFit and added some of those too. Or if the Smith/power racks are all taken, I just do bear complex or something. Diet is and has been my trip up. Gonna restart keto next week it's been the best option for me. Little tougher to keep up when my gf eating habits are different, but hopefully I'll make it work
/r/MenSupportMen27/04/23 08:22 PM
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Yeah often those conversations don't go well at first, or at all if the family is super dysfunctional. OP could be in a position where they depend somehow on them too, I dunno. But if you can't ask, then thinking about distance or boundaries is good, bc they're mentally hurting OP. I hope he figures a way through or out
/r/MenSupportMen27/04/23 07:11 PM
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Man, there are no easy answers there. Have you told them how it makes you feel? Or asked them why you have to do what your siblings and nephew have done? "I am proud of my siblings/nephew too, but I also want to go my own way. Can we agree comparison is the thief of joy and try to move on here?" Failing that, can you look for ways to distance yourself without cutting your family off?
/r/MenSupportMen27/04/23 05:31 PM
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Yeah. The company actually had me interview for a different position yesterday and finance team is next week. Finance position has 6 direct reports too, and I just kinda feel like someone who already works there should be getting this job. I always hated carpet baggers who come in and have to figure out how things work in order to "manage" you lol
/r/MenSupportMen27/04/23 05:28 PM
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Right on! Been doing some uphill climbing or stairs. Then 5x5 weights. How about you?
/r/MenSupportMen27/04/23 05:26 PM
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Remember they may be thinking the very same thing of you. You said you're feeling more confident and attractive, they can see that. Remember that you're dating to find out if you actually like them. Not just think they're hot, but like the. If you take someone out and don't feel good about it just say thanks and you don't see meeting again.
/r/MenSupportMen26/04/23 02:14 AM
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I need to prep for a job interview or just bow out. This one leans heavier on fiscal nuance than my last job, not sure if I want it except the money of course.
/r/MenSupportMen25/04/23 08:15 PM
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In Alaska, they call it a "barrier crime matrix" you may wanna Google around in your own for something like that in your state. Depending on years since the issue and what you've done since, you may still be able to find some employers who will waive your background, some states have a legal pro rss to do so (with employer consent). See if there are reentry programs in your area and call them. They may have info or at least an idea what to look for
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 08:02 PM
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Fuck that meditation (great when first up or if you're stuck in your day, 5 min) https://youtu.be/92i5m3tV5XY Evening meditation (sounds like the Childlike Empress reading to you, 5 min) https://youtu.be/8YDSnNYxaqg Look up yoga with Adrienne or yoga with Kassandra on YouTube. Probably hundreds of free ones, plus there's other yogis online that upload free. I just do that bc I don't have cash for classes either, but it's nice because I'm not self conscious like I may feel in a room full of mostl…
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 06:03 PM
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I think you covered all the bases!
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 04:42 PM
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Is that universal in every state? Or just your locality? I know different US states have different rules of what prior convictions/background flags are barred and for how long they are barred. Glad you know you can at least use your education somehow, but I'm sorry to hear you're being barred
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 04:37 PM
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I'll tell you, I felt pressured to jump into some of that in college and it didn't make me happier, and I had some serious interpersonal problems/beef with some folks once we were all drunk/whatever. I got to leaning on drink and I'm still having trouble finding the balance. I would put in some effort to find alternatives, like trivia night where people are having a couple beers vs clubbing and bottle service. Or since you mentioned interest in other hobbies, just spend that beer money on an OK …
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 04:33 PM
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You'll meet other people you feel the same about. But if you're still feeling like you haven't accomplished things for yourself you want, you may not be ready for that person. You know the kind of person you wanna be, and you're the one responsible and accountable for it. If you're already being that person, you'll find more options for dating too. You can also be unhappy that you didn't get with this person you developed feelings for. Just try and imagine them being proud of you as a friend and…
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 04:24 PM
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I've found a combo of uphill walking/stairs, 5x5 weights (popular program that covers all bases for a noob), and yoga, is working for me. Diet is the next step, I have successfully used keto before I just gotta stay with it when I get to the maintaining part. There's lots of apps for bodyweight exercises too. What did you have in mind?
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 04:20 PM
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I'm sorry you need the help, but I'm glad you're receiving it. I hope that transition is smooth and you find yourself in a good place to be
/r/MenSupportMen24/04/23 04:18 PM
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Man I'm 37 and the years of school bullying and exclusion still get to me. Now, I just try to imagine the exact same kids trying to push me around and it makes it easier to deal with. Thanks for sharing your experience and advice
/r/MenSupportMen22/04/23 04:59 PM
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I'm really glad you're working on your place. It's tedious, but I find it makes me feel better. I've also worked on accepting that im just not a "better home and garden" level housekeeper: I don't wanna live in filth or like a hoarder, but clutter is OK if I'm OK with it. Saw a Ted talk where a shrink was stating that "cleaning is morally neutral behavior" and it really helped me cut some shame/self resentment out. This is an article about it https://www.goodgoodgood.co/articles/kc-davis-struggl…
/r/MenSupportMen22/04/23 04:53 PM
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Not certain where you are. In cities I've lived in US, some rental agreements/places get booked really fast and some stay available longer. But even if you meet them, like the place, have then deposit and first month rent ready, it may be a couple days to get in bc the company wants to do a credit or background check maybe. I worked as a case manager and helped some folks who had serious medical issues get into group homes. Some were very easy to get into but offered little service or assistance…
/r/MenSupportMen22/04/23 04:50 PM
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Waffling means not making a decision, but waffles are also forbidden carb foods while on keto, so it was an unintended pun and it made me laugh. Depending on group home, and what residence requirements they hold, you may find it takes longer than typical apartment or rental agreements.
/r/MenSupportMen22/04/23 06:44 AM
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Good luck on your search. If you haven't already, try using chatgpt to help you draft your resume/cover letters. I've found editing their drafts is much easier than starting from scratch
/r/MenSupportMen22/04/23 06:42 AM
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A job I took an exam for in February contacted me to schedule an interview next week! I've got a first appointment with a therapist next week. Been a long day today, but should hopefully be headed home soon. I'll make a quick 60 tomorrow and then I've got time to relax. Also a DnD game to play with my girlfriend and some friends this Sunday, so the week is looking up
/r/MenSupportMen21/04/23 03:43 AM
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Thanks for saying how the trudging and small steps will matter. I need to hear that, incremental isn't my strong suit. I'm glad you're doing things to take care of yourself. Your thought process is well considered, I think youre being smart. Good luck!
/r/MenSupportMen21/04/23 03:41 AM
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Write this down someone you can read it again. Try giving 75% of what you were doing. Or schedule 4 hours of gaming a week (if I play I usually like a big chunk vs 1 match) and just call it part of your self care routine. If you actually know and talk to people while you're playing, it's social too. Don't forget to enjoy the minigoals and steps along the way. If you're trying to get a particular bod or fitness level, still gotta enjoy the pump you're at. Definitely keep one of your wildest dream…
/r/MenSupportMen20/04/23 04:52 PM
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Make sure you aren't the one holding yourself to this standard. Make sure you aren't just replaying quotes in your head from parents/teachers/exes. Remember that big media is 99% propaganda and you wouldn't want their approval if you met them. I'm struggling with these limits, too, but I do at least mentally understand the above. Just trying to incorporate a good sense of self. You're the only person who can decide whether you're living up to whatever code or ethics you choose to live by. If you…
/r/MenSupportMen20/04/23 04:48 PM
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I need to internalize this. And also, "most of the things you want are hidden behind things you don't want to do"
/r/MenSupportMen20/04/23 04:40 PM
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Got an appointment to start therapy next week. Found a part time job I can apply for that doesn't care if you smoke weed. Anger has been really hard to deal with since Friday. I am trying to get over how indifferent most people are to most people. But I understand my anger doesn't make anyone think there's a problem that needs to be solved, they just don't wanna be around me when I'm angry. I still think I'm correct and the problems I'm mad about need fixing, but I'm trying to make peace with th…
/r/MenSupportMen20/04/23 04:38 PM
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I left a toxic relationship, everyone could see it was and was waiting for me to bail. I still talk with her because I still care and want her to be happy, but I did a lot of homework and was lucky to meet my current girlfriend at an event. Sometimes toxic people seem to be doing fine because they're taking what they want and it's still working. Pick something you've been wanting to do, and if doing that right now isn't realistic, work back to what is. I'm not a drummer yet, I need to plug away …
/r/MenSupportMen20/04/23 04:31 PM
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I did connect with a couple therapists, so I'm gonna meet a few and start there. Thanks for suggestions
/r/MenSupportMen20/04/23 04:25 PM
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