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Outer Game Doctorpepperpants/r/seduction04/03/25 07:11 PM
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Doctorpepperpants/r/askTRP29/03/15 11:14 PM
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Field ReportDoctorpepperpants/r/seduction02/09/24 10:39 PM
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Doctorpepperpants/r/askTRP01/04/15 12:08 AM
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Been there many times dude. Had a 9 that I really liked start calling me names and disrespecting me on a date. Shook me to the absolute core for a long time. Probably fumbled at least 5 more girls since her too. Just use it as fuel to improve and try different approaches and improve your smv.
/r/seduction05/03/25 02:38 AM
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Less luck, more a result of me brutally getting my heart torn out over and over until I just got fed up haha.
/r/seduction05/03/25 02:26 AM
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Interesting point, I didn't consider the timing. Dates have typically been every week. It sounds like I should back off a little bit to avoid signaling the wrong message.
/r/seduction04/03/25 07:32 PM
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I've certainly fallen into this type of trap. You asked her a question about getting together and now radio silence. You can: A. Follow up and double text, but now you are coming across as needy B. Not respond at all, but now she might disappear out of your life as your text gets buried on her phone. I don't know your specific dynamic obviously, but you may want to consider letting a week or two pass then just ping a funny meme or thought her way. Something that she doesn't necessarily have to r…
/r/seduction08/09/24 05:12 PM
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Admittedly it does come across that way, but I actually did like her a lot. We connected really well up until that point. It just felt like the friend zone was fast approaching and I had to do something to establish my intentions.
/r/seduction07/09/24 04:30 PM
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It's incredible how alcohol can impact people differently. I, for one, get downright inhibited when drunk..slow to react, less witty, more self-concious and tired when drinking. In fact, this is one of the reasns why I believe my last date blew up in my face.
/r/seduction03/09/24 09:44 PM
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Thanks for the reply, this is really helpful. Yeah, I suppose a third date is a small victory, especially since I haven't had any recent dating experience since like 2016. That is a great idea on how to address her gay comment, it combines kino and passing the shit test at the same time. It would have also set the tone for the rest of the night. Even if she would have rejected my advance, I feel like it would have stung less than me not making a move at all. Creating a moment sounds like somethi…
/r/seduction03/09/24 08:06 PM
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Very true indeed. I went into this with this overly confident mindset of: "how could any girl in her right mind not be into me and everything that I have to offer". Probably a decent mental state to have as an introvert, but it was wrong for me to actually assume that this would translate into reality. I agree with not texting her, it just doesn't seem like I could say a single solitary thing that would help my case unless she initiates the conversation first. If somehow I do get another chance …
/r/seduction03/09/24 07:36 PM
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Thanks, yeah I think you're right about her acting out, I could actually see it in her eyes when she said it. Less playful/testing and more confrontational "I want to leave" vibes. I will keep that in mind about agreeing and amplifying the shit tests if I get choked up, that is an easy default if I can't think of anything on the spot.
/r/seduction03/09/24 05:14 PM
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Thanks, this makes a lot of sense. I told myself I wouldn't reach out to this girl unless she initiates anything. In the meantime, I'm going to carry more assertiveness into my next date with a different girl. You make a good point about men blindly tolerating everything a woman throws at us. Some more experienced guys would probably easily turn this negative situation around, let the comments roll off their shoulders and close on this date. I guess I just wasn't prepared, and to be fair, I did …
/r/seduction03/09/24 04:56 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I'm taking your advice and keeping a log of dates that I go on moving forward. I think that having some factual data on areas that worked/didn't work might help me to keep a level head, especially when emotions inevitably get involved. I'm realizing that skipping a simple hug at the beginning can quite easily make or break the entire rest of the date. I suppose that I overlooked this kind of stuff, or just maybe caved under the tension.
/r/seduction03/09/24 04:44 PM
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Thanks for this. The video game analogy helps to put this trial and error process into perspective. It just isn't realistic to assume that somebody can go from the figurative "classroom" straight into a perfectly executed date. Experience is where the real learning takes place so I'm trying to be grateful that I actually got real world data points to address. That being said, I was definitely not prepared for the emotional smackdown that ensued. Still trying to rebuild my confidence again if I'm…
/r/seduction03/09/24 04:39 PM
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Frustration is a good word for it, I'm really upset that I got caught up with inaction. It stings more to not make a move than making a wrong move. At least there is masculine intention with the latter option. Thanks for giving some perspective from the other side of the equation.
/r/seduction03/09/24 01:43 PM
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I was sort of considering something similar myself. I made it past 2 dates without dealing with many blatent shit tests. This may be part of why I wasn't primed and ready to tackle them on this date.
/r/seduction03/09/24 01:37 PM
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My reasoning was that it was a new setting (instead of the beach) which could pave the way for escalation finally. If I'm being honest, casual beach dates were actually way easier and cheaper.
/r/seduction03/09/24 11:13 AM
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This girl really kept her distance and didn't make physical gestures on any of our three dates. She even placed her beach chair oddly far away from mine. Funny you say that about the girl doing the escalating. I went on a date a week ago with a different girl and it was actually her who did all of the kino.There too I had trouble making the first move, but still managed to get a much better outcome due to her taking the initiative. I wrote this experience off as abnormal at first. Either way, it…
/r/seduction03/09/24 03:36 AM
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Yeah she was the only one.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 06:45 PM
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I explained to her how that isn't the behavior I can tolerate in a LTR. She wen't on to say how she wasn't expecting to drive 3 hours away only to be with a bunch of guys and how it made her uncomfortable, yet she is staying for another night.. I'm calling major BS on this one, but I'm admittedly furious so trying to go about this as rationally as possible. Man, she was as close to a red pill chick as I've ever dated. I might have to get "AWALT" tattooed so that I stop forgetting it.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 01:32 AM
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Very interesting and well written
/r/askTRP27/08/17 04:45 PM
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What I have to keep reminding myself is that they control sex, but we control who we give our attention to. In other words, if I'm not getting what I want from a girl, then my time and attention must be focused on something or somebody else. With that said, I think you definitely did the right thing by leaving. If you want to keep trying with her, make sure you always maintain a calm and friendly tone of voice and demeanor when talking to her (she already felt the negative feels when you left, s…
/r/askTRP26/08/17 07:21 AM
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It's your call on whether to keep her around or move on, but sometimes it takes a couple tries. It sounds like she likes you though, so I'd keep trying. I had a similar situation and it turns out that once I focused on making her comfortable by being a little smoother in my actions and outcome independent, she finally let her guard down.
/r/askTRP26/08/17 06:58 AM
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I'd say she is the hottest plate right now, I even went into it knowing that she was not relationship material because there were some red flags. Ironically the other two are actually well raised with strong father figures and never had any red flags. Man it is crazy how emotion can override logic even in situations like this. I'm thinking the best bet is to spend less time with her and more time with the girls who don't take it for granted.
/r/askTRP01/08/17 06:48 PM
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I'll definitely check the article out later, thanks again. Yeah I have dealt with some serious oneitis before discovering trp, like most guys, but am completely thrown off by how I am still experiencing those same feelings in my gut by a plate especially when I'm spinning two other girls. You have a good point, I'm going to try to do my best to view her for what she is.
/r/askTRP01/08/17 06:15 PM
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Thanks for the advice. All of them are once per week, except this one girl who I've been seeing for 4 months who I've spend sat and sun together. That might be my mistake right there. What threw me off recently is that she cut our time short, which is equivalent to me cutting sex short with her.
/r/askTRP01/08/17 04:36 PM
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Really appreciate the input. Those are certainly questions that I've been trying to figure out the last couple of days. You're correct, when we are hanging out, it is amazing, I'm actually starting to get comfort tests from her rather than shit tests, and she has expressed to me how she wants to only be with me. What is throwing me off is how her phone is constantly blowing up with other dudes asking to hang out. We're both into photography so I have an instagram and noticed her posting pics wit…
/r/askTRP01/08/17 04:15 PM
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Thanks for the input, I've never tried that. Usually I go into it with the mindset that I'm the greatest dude she's ever been with just to maintain my frame and her interest level, but I never really considered honestly communicating with her so that I can see her for what she is.
/r/askTRP01/08/17 01:12 PM
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The Beige Phillip show with Dante Nero. Dante was Patrice's co-host during the Black Phillip days.
/r/askTRP15/05/17 05:16 AM
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Thanks a lot for the advice, it makes a lot of sense. She wrote me couple long texts apologizing / thanking me for everything but I finally snapped out of it and decided to just block her number. She already kept me awake all night twice, which got into my school and gym schedule (unacceptable). Not going to lie, I'm furious because she is the first girl since I've discovered TRP to abuse my time like that, but at least it was a learning experience. I should have kicked her out a lot sooner once…
/r/askTRP06/05/17 08:58 PM
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N count is the number of guys that she has slept with before you.
/r/askTRP06/05/17 04:10 PM
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Swingers
/r/askTRP01/05/17 04:15 AM
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One of the most essential mindsets to have.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/16 11:33 AM
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There are three things that you should keep in mind: Girls are free to do whatever they want regardless of their relationship status. Trying to directly control them won't work and only makes them branch swing even faster. If she stayed home with you instead of going out this one time, next time she may just lie to you and go behind your back in order to avoid the confrontation. The key here is subtle dread game all the time, if you're chasing and not attracting, it's a good indication that you'…
/r/askTRP26/07/16 10:03 PM
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I like that one. I responded with something similar and she sent this back "hahaha good one let me know when you're done." I suppose it didn't work, looks like the lesson is that I need to work on building the initial attraction a little more before trying to escalate. Thanks for the input.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 10:30 PM
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Hate to sound generic, but lifting. Women notice, plus I have way more mental confidence when approaching.
/r/askTRP23/06/16 10:05 PM
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IMO: (assuming proper diet, sleep and workout program) I noticed an improvement in myself starting with week one. Other people (friends I saw once per week etc..) started to notice a difference in me after month one. I had started exceeding my initial weight goals after month two and started to plateau around the end of month three. At this point, I had to re-evaluated my workout plan and started focusing more on lowering my reps while increasing weight. Since then I change up my routine each mo…
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:04 PM
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The Beige Phillip show and the old Black Phillip Show (google it)
/r/askTRP26/01/16 04:19 PM
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Hold your nose and try speak. Now try doing the same thing only this time hold your nose closed, breathe deeply, and focus on starting your words from deep within your stomach (be deliberate and try using some stomach muscles when speaking). If you can get yourself to sound better, try doing the same thing without holding your nose.
/r/askTRP19/01/16 06:26 PM
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Thanks for posting. It's very difficult to get straight-forward information like this from other sites.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/15 03:01 PM
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Makes sense. I guess my thinking was geared more towards her impression of the situation which, as you said, you can't control.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 09:45 PM
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I agree with this, but even if you ignore the text and work on yourself etc.., How do you avoid coming across as jealous if you don't reply?
/r/askTRP23/12/15 09:22 PM
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Stories like this make me anxious and sick because they give me flashbacks to bits and pieces of my life before discovering TRP. Not necessarily a bad thing, it keeps me focused on why the TRP principles are the only way to live by now.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 09:28 PM
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There are so many of these on tinder now.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/15 06:16 PM
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Hard Next. Not a shit test, possible trickle truth.
/r/askTRP21/12/15 04:43 PM
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The only real cure is time man. There is no way around it, but you can speed up the recovery process dramatically. You're already lifting which is awesome, make sure you continue eating healthy too (which decreases cortisol levels). Reconnecting with friends can also help take your mind off things. A lot of people say to go out and fuck 5 bitches, which may help you, but for me, it just messed with my head too much right after the breakup because I couldn't stop comparing everyone to my ex for s…
/r/askTRP15/12/15 06:07 PM
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Congratulations dude never stop.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/15 05:33 PM
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Sometimes these things need to be said. Thanks for posting.
/r/askTRP25/11/15 02:47 AM
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Never ask, tell them a specific time and place after quickly assessing any possible conflicts that she might have (at class at that time/out of state) etc..
/r/askTRP11/11/15 05:58 AM
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"Aint no pussy on a pedestal" - drake
/r/askTRP29/10/15 12:09 PM
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Pre-Red Pill, I used to have a girl who displayed similar behaviors (eg. talking to other dudes at a party in front of me, split personality when drunk, boring in bed etc..). I tried talking to her about it (mistake), bargaining with her by telling her I would do things like communicate more (HUGE mistake), and some dread game (which she didn't respond to at all). The only thing that I didn't try at the time was improving myself by lifting and sorting out my career goals. Who knows, self-improve…
/r/askTRP16/10/15 08:17 PM
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This may not necessarily be what you are asking , but post-close texts from the girl saying things like "last night was fun" or "we should do it again sometime" are good because they can be used as a defense against false rape allegations etc. I always encourage the girl to text me when she gets home etc.. and they usually will say something like "I had fun" etc.. After that initial text, feel free to start limiting your responses (no capital letters, shorten words, don't respond immediately) - …
/r/askTRP09/10/15 08:26 PM
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Oh nice, I didn't realize she played in the band.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 04:24 AM
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Agreed. A lot of guys find it to TRP after some shit like what you mentioned happens to them. For everybody else, it is crucial that they understand the reality of the situation first and be proactive about it so that they can avoid predictable negative outcomes based on their behavior (have a quicker learning curve).
/r/askTRP29/09/15 11:04 PM
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Damn this hit close to home for me hahah
/r/askTRP29/09/15 08:54 PM
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Ride the upward momentum to work on yourself and become a stronger man.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/15 02:01 AM
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Things are crazy now, some 5-6s have the audacity to call you gay if you aren't in the mood / not attracted to them etc.. It's a product of the betas constantly drooling over them and over-inflating their ego.
/r/askTRP23/09/15 06:53 PM
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I remember reading something in the book of pook that might apply here: he was explaining the way people treat you as you bulk up, essentially after he got to a certain weight, he noticed that the girls with lesser smv started to avoid him. Maybe they know their chances are near impossible, so they default to scorning you.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 10:33 PM
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I did the same thing before I knew about TRP. I tried everything except improving myself. Moving forward, I think that any future relationship needs to have soft dread 24/7, with shit and comfort tests being differentiated between and crushed immediately.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/15 05:00 PM
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I think it was a mistake to confront her and not dump her. Now she knows she can get away with that shit and will loose attraction toward you.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 03:43 AM
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Definitely, I've actually never dialed myself back until I found trp. It's funny, everybody always tells you to be yourself and communicate a lot with your gf, but what happens is you end up investing way too much in her. It's way more important to get her to invest in you because you are the gatekeeper of commitment rather than the reverse. I have a girl now who I've been practicing gaming, but she has been giving me a lot of resistance when trying to escalate. I have been taking longer to resp…
/r/askTRP19/08/15 10:15 PM
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Well I'm probably not the right person to answer this, but so far, I've found that personal improvement (career, lifting, hobbies) to be the most helpful tool for dealing with unhealthy emotional attachment. Also, other girls help a lot once you've established your personal goals. Trp has really transformed my life once I finally put 100% into it, I'm just trying to be extra cautious when dealing with my past because I don't want to dig myself back into that place by mistake.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 10:02 PM
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You're right, she's just another random person at this point, no need to overthink it. Also I'm in a way better position than when she left plus her new dude is the definition of BP so I shouldn't even be second guessing my ability to remain disconnected from her emotionally. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 05:28 PM
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That makes sense. I've been taking major steps on improving myself over the past couple months and am finally starting to get preoccupied with some new girls. I'm not really angry at her anymore, but your post reminds me of the b/s that I went through and to remain ruthless.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 04:54 PM
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Soft next + dread game. Don't give away your time to somebody who doesn't respect it.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 03:37 AM
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Double the time it takes her to reply for your next message. Never send more than two constitutive messages. Also, stop using caps and punctuation marks (minimum investment, you're too busy to bother with that).
/r/askTRP19/08/15 03:34 AM
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Wow thanks for such a detailed response. I don't know if you're familiar with RSD on youtube, but your FR reminds me of a RSDtyler video I saw a while back where Owen was teaching one of his students PUA game. The student went up to a girl and basically asked if she was a stripper and got rejected. Owen then approached the same girl, started a conversation, and when the topic of work came up, he smoothly asked her if she was a stripper (which seemed to be well-received this time by the girl). It…
/r/askTRP18/08/15 09:22 PM
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Out of curiosity, could you describe the proper context needed to pull this off? Lets say you already lift, dress well, and are clean-cut. Do you approach and immediately go for this as an opener, or do you establish comfort / kino first?
/r/askTRP18/08/15 07:28 PM
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It varies, for me it's about 1 month (mainly because it gets exhausting and I just can't stay on top of everything) but I've had one who has been on and off for 4 months now (soft nexted her a couple times). I think it depends a lot on your frame, tolerance for BS, and ability to manage your time without burning out. Definitely a constant learning experience.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 07:23 PM
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Set up a tinder profile pretending you're a girl on the scale of 3-5 and watch how many matches you get. Guys who are 7-8s will be begging for a number within minutes.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/15 06:17 PM
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Moving in is alright, BUT you must not become predictable (easier said than done). The moment you relax and start falling into a routine is the moment she looses 'tingles' for you.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:24 PM
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I hate to be that person, but in addition to the other comments, lifting does wonders for my mental confidence at work. Maybe you already lift, in that case, ignore this, but if you don't, the difference is night and day.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 02:58 PM
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I get what you are saying, but I always thought that showing emotion for negative and positive events = loss of frame = loss of attraction.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 09:22 PM
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Yeah, the more I think about it, the better that option sounds, I just don't want to come across as angry or anything because I'm way past that phase. I guess I would just have to keep the conversation short and to-the-point like texting a plate. Thanks for the input man.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 05:15 PM
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I don't know man, rape is a very serious issue that is on the mind of every girl when she goes out / meets new people. It's important not to write her off as lying immediately, but lets looks at the facts: 1. We don't know whether she actually got treated at a hospital 2. She isn't going to the police 3. Rape is probably one of the most traumatic things that a person can experience, the fact that she is able to go on another trip so quickly after this indicates that there isn't any post traumati…
/r/askTRP30/07/15 03:04 PM
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Do you know for a fact that she went to the hospital?
/r/askTRP30/07/15 02:10 PM
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For one meal you can try frozen pre-cooked chicken (microwave it for like 3 or 4 minutes), microwaveable rice, and frozen vegetables
/r/TheRedPill28/07/15 07:46 PM
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Are you me OP? A lot of your situation was word for word what I went through back in March. Honestly man, I'm still hurting a little bit, but life has improved drastically for me since the breakup, and it's going to be the same for you as long as you power through it. It's crazy how easily we can place our entire focus on another person while at the same time sacrificing our own quality of life (at least before you fully swallow the pill) After my breakup, I found myself without a single friend …
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 03:24 AM
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Shit / Comfort tests are actually a good thing, it means that she's interested. if she stops with all that b/s, you loose an important tool that can be used to gauge the health of the relationship. Try to embrace the mind games, we're at an advantage if we're able to recognize and disarm all the shit that they say - she won't even know why she likes you once you start getting good at this. edit: don't fight the nature of other people, it's pointless. The key is to evolve and become somebody of v…
/r/askTRP17/07/15 02:00 PM
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Man, this whole time I've been focusing on TRP in terms of relationships etc. I've neglected applying it to everything else going on in the world.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/15 02:20 AM
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A vey good debate, but it killed me that the facts and logic presented seemed to go unaddressed by both the host and the feminist. You cannot use feelings as a rebuttal, on top of that, interupting sombody about to make a point is completley disrespectful. If you want to change the way society works, you better damn well be submerged into the facts rather than the groupthink of a certain group.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/15 09:29 PM
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Ham Egg Cheese on a Bagel with a Banana and Protein shake. Somtimes I throw in some hashbrowns or fruit for instant energy. It usually takes me about 20 minutes to cook/clean everything in the morning.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 07:07 PM
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She was trading hats with one of her friends, I said I liked the red one on her.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/15 11:58 AM
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The amount of validation these 4-6s are getting is out of control. I cold approached a 4 just warming up yesterday (I wasn't being a douche or anything) and she actually yelled "fuck off" to me - are you kidding? I've approached 9s at the bar before and have never had one of those model chicks ever disrespect me like that if they weren't interested. I'm not mad or anything, but the entitlement some girls have is repulsive.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/15 01:23 AM
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I feel for the dude, chances are he's a really good guy, just hasn't ever questioned his view of reality like many of the people here prior to unplugging. It's difficult not to feel angry at that chick - the takeaway is that AWALT so proceed accordingly.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/15 05:46 PM
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I get what you're saying and you have a valid point, but I don't think that males and females are the same in that sense. A female going on vacation without her man (depending on the location, group of friends etc.) is indicative of at least some sort of cheating, much like if a man goes on vacation and has sex with a random girl outside of his relationship. The thing that differentiates the genders is that the man will go back to his girlfriend while the girlfriend won't go back to her man (unl…
/r/askTRP09/07/15 10:16 PM
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I think that scenario could go either way. On one hand, family members are still suceptable to societal and evolutionary influence (e.g. unconsciously wanting to keep you close by in order to secure resources as we once needed to do in the distant past) (many large families still live like this today), but on the other hand, I think a family also wants to see their spouses / brothers / sisters etc..succeed in life. The real question here is what does it mean to succeed? - Well this varies from p…
/r/askTRP09/07/15 07:17 PM
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My guess is that this is similar to the "dad bod" phenominon - the girl wants to limit the guys options in order to gain control by encouraging him to maintain or lower his currnet SMV. All this does is drive her away though. I've had a LTR tell me not to go across the country for a vacation with some friends or we would break up..I did it anyway (three consecutie years in a row) following that conversation. Sure there were tears and comfort tests, but I maintained frame and she never brought it…
/r/askTRP09/07/15 04:42 PM
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In my opinion: 80% of the cars people have are invisible to women, all they can see is the color (they can also decipher whether it's a truck or car of you press them for an answer). 10% of cars stand out because the interior is disgusting (eg. Trash in the floor, smells like a locker room etc..) and the last 10% of cars stand out because they are flashy and represent money (typical known-names like Ferrari, Lamborghini, although Bmw and Mercedes have seemed to sneak into this category for some …
/r/TheRedPill04/07/15 10:04 PM
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Thanks for the post man. I wish I knew about Patrice before he passed away, that dude spit straight TRP medicine. It's been mentioned here already but Dante Nero is really good and Bill Burr and Christian McQueen are great too
/r/TheRedPill02/07/15 05:00 PM
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Shit dude.... Great post. Thats all I have to say.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 06:53 PM
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Not hating or anything as there is certainly some useful information here, but if you're thinking of tracking your girl, I would say: don't do it. I've been at the level of getting an exe's texts sent to my email, had access to all pictures and had all of her login credentials for every social media site. Long story short, it's a dead end and will drive you completely mad. It is a waste of your valuable time that could be spent any number of productive ways making yourself a better dude. Sure, w…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 10:56 PM
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I thought I was past the anger phase, but the reading the comments on that post make me absolutely furious.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/15 07:15 PM
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I read an Arnold quote on TRP recently which has really shifted my perspective on a lot of the people I used to surround myself with, especially after spending some of my Friday night at the gym: "It is important to have fun in life, of course. But when you're out there partying, horsing around, someone out there at the same time is working hard. Someone is getting smarter and someone is winning. Just remember that."
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 08:06 PM
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That is so crazy it's almost funny. I'm reletivley new to lifting and already feel limited by the dumbell and barbell weights that they offer, luckiliy I only did a day pass like you. I've found that the only people willing to give tips on technique and spot you are the same people that everybody thinks are trying to intimidate them when in reality they're some of the nicest people I've met.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 04:42 PM
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Has anyone seen the signs at planet fitness latley?! They actually 'banned' a whole group of workouts. The place is completley bat-shit crazy.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 03:23 PM
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One of the hardest stepping stones for me was realizing that this can quite literally be any woman.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 03:04 AM
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Complete disrespect on her part, but that's what they all do. 1. Don't be blatantly rude or anything but stop giving her your time. She crossed the line, SHE is in fact the one who is replaceable. 2. It is crucial that you kick up your dread game starting right this second. Disappear, go to the gym, hang out with some friends, disappear for the night but most importantly, improve your value. I'm tempted to say just hard next her, but I've been in this situation a couple times and it is manageabl…
/r/askTRP22/06/15 12:02 PM
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Posts like this one make me feel grateful to have found TRP when I did.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 01:09 AM
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Some of my friends have this anxiety about going to the gym and being judged by the people there - FWIW, I've found nothing but positive encouragement once I started realizing that I don't pay attention to other people just like they don't pay attention to me. If anything, I've actually started using other people's discipline at the gym as my motivation on days where I wasn't feeling 100%. It's only been around 2 months of lifting heavy (5x5s) but now I know why the standard red pill advice for …
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 03:10 AM
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Thanks for the reminder on this, not only is this mentality critical in every relationship (ie. avoiding oneitis), but it also has the added benefit of shifting your mindset to one of abundance and independence when you're out practicing pick-up, somehow girls notice this.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/15 03:43 PM
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Sounds familiar, I forgot to mention she's doing the burp thing too now. Yeah I was kind of trying to play it off by ignoring it etc. and soft nexting like any shit test, but you have a point. I'll try straight up telling her how I feel and see where it leads, that way I'll at least give it a chance before cutting her off. Thanks dude
/r/askTRP05/06/15 12:13 AM
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Thanks for the reminder on this. Definitely true, getting got sucks, but it's part of becoming a better dude.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 12:26 AM
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For whatever it's worth man, you made a good choice. 1. You stuck to your guns which is what you have to do as a man of value and 2. You avoided a headache down the road (as Dante Nero says "if you feel a tingle you're about to get kicked in the balls"). I've been in this exact situation, with the same conversation about how I would leave if she spoke to her ex. Guess what, same scenario as you, they "barely spoke" etc.. long story short, I went back on my word and kept her (I broke up then basi…
/r/askTRP26/05/15 03:02 AM
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This is a great post. Additionally, lifting has the ability to transform your mindset from one of negativity, anger, or dwelling on saddens to one of enthusiasm and peace. Meditation is great, but personally, lifting is so helpful for my mental health, the aesthetic benefits seem to be a mere side effect in comparison.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/15 02:51 AM
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Yeah so this post hit close to home. My ex started this weird rock collection thing (probably spent about $1000 on crystals for their "energy") but couldn't seem to explain to me how they worked. I think another commenter nailed it with the external loci of control mindset. The weird part is that she burnt sage in our apartment to clear the energy too, wtf, I didn't even question it at the time, she wasn't even a hippie or anything.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/15 11:27 PM
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My advice: don't do it. Even if the chick is cool (i.e.fine with a ONS) and assuming that you both can handle the awkward day at work after hooking up, human resources and other co-workers can eventually find out. This doesn't seem like a big deal, but once you break professionalism, co-workers don't act with the same respect towards you. Money comes first.
/r/askTRP24/05/15 03:21 AM
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Came here to say this. I don't know op's specific situation, but speaking from experience, the relationship ended a while ago in her mind. More specifically, it lost the masculine-feminine polarity which is going to ultimately cause her to cheat given enough time.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 02:30 AM
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HARD NEXT NOW. Do not get sucked into this BS man it's only going to destroy you mentally. Make yourself a better dude for yourself, forget about her, find a better girl.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 04:34 PM
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While not paying for a girl's drink is a good default mindset to have for people new to TRP dating. Once you start getting more advanced in reading women's true intentions, paying for a one or two of her drinks casually like it's not a thing really adds to the power dynamic in my opinion (ESPECIALLY if she is prepared to buy her own drinks). To me, it's like a balancing act: on one hand I'm an upfront dude and have no problem throwing down an extra $5-15 for good conversation and possibly pullin…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/15 07:46 PM
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This post hit way too close to home, 14 out of 18 thank god it's ended now, dodged a bullet.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 08:46 PM
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I told her that her behavior didn't indicate to that she had any respect towards me anymore (referencing this incident among many others). I was admitidley pretty hot headed at the time but did my best not to let emotion come through in my voice. She basically just left then and there without saying much, and went to a bar with 2 mutual guy friends (awalt). The way this reads, it sounds like I was being beta as shit at the time which isn't necessarily 100% true - I had other girls, was dread-gam…
/r/askTRP11/05/15 07:51 PM
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I used to enjoy the effects of alcohol at parties.. Now that I'm making improvments physically and mentally, I find that I have much more confidence and don't really feel as nervous approaching girls. I find that anything more than 3 drinks decreases my mental clarity and puts me at a disadvantage while doing approaches and also fogs my brain during sex. I usually sip a good beer, but make sure that I'm always sharp.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 03:53 PM
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Appreciate the response man, you nailed it, she was a LTR and it promptly ended about a week after this happened. What made me think about it was the contrast I noticed after chilling with a plate who was glued by my side throughout the night. I'm trying to get some perspective about this experience if it were to happen again though. I probably should have been able to see the signs way before this even happened.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 03:35 PM
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I watcehd a Julien Blanc video on this. He explained it like this: once a girl cheats with you, her reticular activating system (RAD) will shift, in other words, her unconcious behaviors will change in the relationship and will ultimatley lead to a downward spiral, most likley a breakup. If I were you, I would just let it happen naturally and maybe try to distance yourself from the situation with as little drama as possible.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 03:23 PM
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I've watched this video 3 times over the past week and a half. Like Tyler, I had a LTR and truley beleieved that I could walk away at any second since I had a roster of other girls who I would be pursuing on the side - this was NOT the case after things ended. The point of this video is: most people get heartbroken at some point in their lives, you can have an abundant mindset and internalize TRP, but for some people, the only way that you learn is through personal experience. Once you're in a r…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 01:04 PM
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So what dude, congrats on successfully escalating, it'll only be easier for you now. Take care of what you need to now that it's over, but make sure to pat yourself on the back. Also, like you, I found that escalating is way easier if you just stop talking and make moves. Watching a movie is great for reading her reactions to kino though, especially a new girl.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 11:26 AM
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Thank you for the links. I don't try to ignore my own shortcomings in my past relationship but the more I read articles like these, the more similarities I draw to my ex. Maybe it shouldn't, but it makes me feel a little bit relieved to at least hear that other people went through dealing with that shit.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 09:47 PM
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I've been to four, after well over $1000, all I've gotten out of it was an appreciation for meditation. I remember one session this therapist charged me $150 to literally stare into my ex's eyes for 55 minutes. In my opinion, therapy is for women, men need a male role model.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 12:00 PM
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The Chritian McQueen show - Although for some reason I cannot find it anymore (if anybody has any info on this I would appreciate it).
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 08:27 PM
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This is the answer that I was most aftaid of hearing..Im a month in right now and getting impatient with my progress. I guess I better get used to this feeling and keep making myself a better person in the meantime since I'm in it for the long haul.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 06:12 PM
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Seeing Tyler on that video really caught me off guard, I never thought it could happen to him for some reason. I'm in a very similar place, even though i broke it off with my ex much more recently than OP. Lifting, meditation and hobbies really help to keep myself centered and working towards strengthening my core value system, but it is still not enough for some reason. I'm a much better dude right now than I've ever been during my LTR, but I am still thinking about this girl at least once or t…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 12:36 AM
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Edit (didn't read properly) well I'm only aware of rsdbrad and rsdjulien. I'd also be interested in any other rp channels.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 10:09 PM
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This is exactly true. Once you start doing things for yourself and go through all the stages, eventually, at some point, you're going to want to go out and try finding a girl (even if you're not trying to spin plates necessarily). The RSD guys are great at giving a how-to guide on pick up, and showing you how to have fun with it while developing your own personal game. Personally, they helped me tremendously with getting "in state" as they call it.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 10:01 PM
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I really like the RSD community (RSDTyler on youtube) becasuse they merge the philosophy that you must always value yourself above all else, while giving great pick up advise (especially regarding loosing ego, maintaining frame, being the best version of yourself, and maintaining abundance).
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 08:02 PM
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I'm half way through this book at the moment. So far, it's absolute TRP gold. Deida does a good job explaining the process of finding your true purpose and frame in life.
/r/askTRP30/04/15 07:00 PM
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There is no meaning in life. That doesn't mean there is not a point to it though. The purpose of life it to live the best that you can.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 03:18 PM
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Refreshing write-up with some good inner-monologue tools, looking forward to a part 2 man!
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 07:11 PM
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Painful but completely accurate advise that works. It fucking sucks making your mind let go of somebody who was a huge part of your life , but it's all that has saved me from self-destruction after a similar situation and start working myself again.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 12:37 AM
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Drinking is really fun and everything, but I'm actually getting much better results with my plates by just drinking two or three beers lately. The thing is, frame control drops with each drink (at least for me personally), so it's much easier to find a balance between drinking enough to feel good approaching and not drinking enough to drop frame. In your situation though, you have to 1. never apologize to a woman (always be direct and don't second guess yourself) 2. stop texting drunk even if yo…
/r/askTRP25/04/15 09:07 PM
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Not to mention the ever increasing risk of having a child with birth defects as the woman gets older. Down syndrome risk: At age 20, 1 in 1,441..At age 25, 1 in 1,383..At age 30, 1 in 959..At age 35, 1 in 338..At age 40, 1 in 84..At age 45, 1 in 32..At age 50, 1 in 44. (Morris, JK; Mutton, DE; Alberman, E (2002). "Revised estimates of the maternal age specific live birth prevalence of Down's syndrome.".Journal of medical screening 9 (1): 2–6.)
/r/TheRedPill25/04/15 01:50 PM
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Cut all contact man. You're a genuinely nice guy, but you're setting yourself up to be absolutely crushed if not by this girl then by the next one. The fact that you're at least asking the question is a good sign though. Put yourself first, your time is more important and it should be spent on your own progress.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 06:30 AM
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Yup, I know how that goes. Quick story: It was a weird conversation, but essentially my ex called me after she found out I was dating again and insisted on talking at me about how she needed to be friends first with a guy, make sure he has the same values as her, make sure that he gets along with her friends and get to know his personality before hooking up because she wasn't like the "skanks" I was with...Guess what I heard from a mutual friend.. That very same night, she met a dude, got drunk …
/r/askTRP25/04/15 05:51 AM
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Good job man, I agree with the other comments on how you could have improved this situation (go in, greet her like a stranger, maintain frame and if/when she approaches you make sure you let her know you're interested without coming across as needy) but fact of the matter is 1. you avoided being friendzoned 2. you recognized the oneitis 3. you then improved yourself for your own benefit 4. you atempted to maintain frame. You are much farther ahead of many other dudes so be sure to keep doing wha…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 08:48 PM
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It's my belief that you should avoid having conversations with a girl about you wanting a LTR, this should be somthing that the girl pushes for after you give her "tingles" / show an abundant mindset / show that you are always improving for yourself etc.. She may have lost a little bit of desire at this early stage because she transitioned from wanting to lock you down to the mindset of thinking that she was better than you. In my opinion, girls need to feel that they are with sombody better tha…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 02:19 PM
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True, thanks for the reply man. Its funny, it's almost like the inner beta in me is trying one last time to to go back to oneitis/scarcity mode, I guess the only thing I can do is control it while im in a concious state.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 04:12 PM
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Awalt. These girls are all nothing more than low-grade plates, but once I started imagining a LTR going to one of these places, I couldn't even watch more than a minute, I felt sick.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 12:07 PM
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For what it is worth.. As sombody who has tried this two times with the same ex, it isn't worth the time, effort and emotional pain. I found that no matter what, the relationship dynamic always defaulted back to the same patterns and it ultimatley just made us both go numb towards each other given enough time. If you are really good with self-improvement, abundance and outcome independence then I say try it and sieze the opportunity, but just realize that generally speaking, women don't have the…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 06:19 PM
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As Dante Nero would say, you don't need to eat an entire cake to know that the eggs that they made it with were bad. This chick doesn't even sound like plate material. Focus on yourself and make sure you never step into sombody else's frame. It's tough to put it into action, I know, but no contact is the best thing you can do, stop torturing yourself.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 01:30 PM
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I might be wrong in my thinking here, but if I ever change my mind and decide I want to 'spend the rest of my life' with sombody, I would have to establish some basic groundwork which would include no bachalorette parties, nightclubs with the girls, etc.. I don't necessarily think that jealousy is at play as much as a concern for mutual respect and loyalty.Women are very much influenced by emotion which is only natural, but they should also be held accountable for their actions which means all b…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/15 05:23 PM
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This is probably a weak area for me at the moment. I'm in the process of building a new friend base in my area (joined a car club, have a drinking buddy who has some red pill qualities etc) but no real meaningful social contact as of right now.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 12:54 AM
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A little late but thanks for this post dude, I needed it today.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 09:20 PM
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Keep on progressing man and make sure you keep doing it for yourself!
/r/TheRedPill17/04/15 08:33 PM
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Hey man, I need to thank you for this post, it is a huge asset to r/trp in my opinion, and is the type of thing that keeps me disciplined and moving forward in life. I'm at the beginning phase of where you were a year ago, and shit, it sounds corny as hell but I actually got goosebumps half way through your post because of some of the similarities I saw. Keep on moving forward brother! Also, RSD Tyler is the man I just discovered the RSD community.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/15 04:20 PM
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I wish I could take my own advise sometimes, if I could, I would tell myself exactly what you said. The fact that she mentioned hooking up means that she would given the right dude / situation, it's almost like a form of plausible deniability. Loyalty is almost non-existent for any girl especially a 2-month plate so act accordingly. I think the best bet would be to work on abundance mentality while she's gone, find another plate, forget about her, and re-evaluate your feelings once she returns. …
/r/askTRP16/04/15 07:15 PM
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Thanks for posting this. It was inspirational as hell and I can personally vouch for everything that you said. Reliance on another person completely may not be the quickest, but it is certainly the most reliable way to ensure that your life falls apart at some point in the future. Self-reliance is a trait that enables healthy and stable mental health, allows you to grow without being held back, and is actually attracts plates.
/r/askTRP16/04/15 06:58 PM
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This is an excellent point and I completely agree with you, writing is a huge self-actualization tool (much like like meditation). I have actually been through half of one of those college-ruled notebooks already. I started, oddly enough, after I got a really nice fountain pen and had nothing to write about. Eventually all of these negative emotions started getting vented onto the paper, and it actually felt good. I hope I can eventually get to your level and have those major realizations. What …
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 02:35 PM
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Don't think of it in terms of sex frequency. Sure that's a factor but the biggest indicator to me was an understated sense of indifference coming from her. Love or hate mean you have her, indifference means it's over.
/r/askTRP16/04/15 12:57 AM
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Here is the exact quote from "the book of pook" (https://bookofpook.neocities.org/#ch-0), if you haven't read it I highly recommend it, it is one of the many life changing books that trp recommends: *""The difference is simple,” said the Pook. “The first young man is facing TOWARDS infancy. The second young man is facing AWAY from infancy. The first one wishes to climb back into the womb; the second one wants to fly from it. The first wishes a cushioned place in the world while the second one le…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 12:29 AM
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Hahahah that is great I'll remember this.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 11:48 PM
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Emotionally: Lost girlfriend of 5 years (too naive to realize I had oneitis until it was too late) which made me literally puke my guts out for 3 days straight, didn't eat, didn't sleep, didn't even cry too much because it was such a shock to the system. Friends and family couldn't help me and only made things more painful. Mentally: I abandoned all hobbies and intellectual stimulation during those 5 years which left me unable to even identify my own self after she left (I identified myself as a…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/15 10:11 PM
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It came through the grapevine that my ex of 5 years is fucking another dude. How do I feel? Not so good about it. The only way is no contact. I've been pretty good with no contact until one of our mutual friends let me in on this shit, then I lost a little bit of composure. This may not be the right advice but in my opinion, unless you like stagnating and feeling regret and betrayal, you have to exile these people out of your life and focus on physical, mental and emotional growth for yourself. …
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:25 PM
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Thanks, you're right, eventually it's in their nature to want a relationship or god forbid I somehow slip into oneitis again, I would literally have to quit my job.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:17 PM
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Somthing similar happened to me. Painfully as hell I get it man. Indecisiveness drives them away though, it's only when you stop caring that they come back, and by that time you wouldn't want them anyway. Sounds like oneitis, fix it now before you stop progressing. Also, taking a break WILL only hurt you, especially when she inevitably branch swings.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:10 PM
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In the Book of Pook, the author said something that resonated with me (not the exact quote because I am on my mobile): In life, you are either aiming yourself backwards towards the warm memories of childhood or you are moving forward away from childhood without a pillow to cushion you when you inevitably fail. The point here is to face forward, know you will fail, and keep rebuilding, it is the only way to progress, there is no easy way, the best thing that you can do is be self-aware of this be…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/15 09:26 PM
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This makes complete sense. We've obviously talked about these instances together multiple times and she described it as being uncomfortable in her own body and in her confidence around me and when she drank, she felt like she got a release from all the tension and didn't ever feel like she was blackout (even though she will be unable to stand). I've been doing some brief reading on borderline personality disorder and most of the symptoms are extremely similar to her behaviors.
/r/askTRP10/04/15 08:57 PM
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Hey, thanks for the reply. Yeah, like you, I think it is really important for me to learn the root of this behavior so that I can at least have the tools to help somebody like this in the future, or at least reinforce my current mindset that I should avoid a romantic relationship with this type of individual at all costs. I do know that she has a very close family who didn't discipline her growing up and as a result she made some really poor decisions in high school with drugs, dieting, and car …
/r/askTRP10/04/15 06:53 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Yeah, as far as I know this girl wasn't taking anything at all, but perhaps that may have been a possible cause in and of itself. She did slap and bite me at one point though after I was trying to be understanding and affectionate towards her in public - I think I was going to hug her (of course the BB White Knights loved this). Yeah man, talk about a major red flag in the future though, she had really low libido too, it wouldn't be surprising if I found out she was on an a…
/r/askTRP10/04/15 06:21 PM
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I kind of went through a phase of thinking where I blamed drinking, even just a few casual drinks at the bar, but I feel as if it isn't THE reason for this behavior. I agree with you that drinking isn't really the best thing in the world but in moderation it is a fun and bonding experience between two healthy people as long as it is in moderation. I am really convinced that alcohol and maybe my behavior towards her may have been a factor in bringing out an underlying disorder maybe?
/r/askTRP10/04/15 05:22 PM
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Yeah, I started the relationship out BP as fuck, only discovered TRP maybe a year ago and I guess and I was too afraid to cut her loose. Luckily, now I would never put myself through that shit again. You have a point though, how do I know she never acted that way around other people? I don't, she told me that she didn't so I believed her. Its insane because this girl was honestly so solid in many other aspects of her life, I guess I didn't think it was a problem or some BS like that.
/r/askTRP10/04/15 03:25 PM
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Thanks for response man. Do you think that I could be the reason for triggering these possible BPD episodes? I know that she would go out with friends and get blackout drunk but never have these horrible meltdowns unless I was present (and I assure you I was never abusive or even rude to this chick, I wasn't even applying dread-game etc at this point).
/r/askTRP10/04/15 03:02 PM
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That makes sense - self improvement is something I've completely lost track of over the past couple years. I guess this is nothing I don't already know but my belief structure has always been Relationship / Providing > Self-Improvement. I guess my world is being flipped around right now, at least it will be in the right direction this time.
/r/askTRP09/04/15 05:40 PM
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Pretty much what everyone else said - search "RSD Tyler" on youtube I remember him having a bunch of great videos on this topic among many others.
/r/askTRP09/04/15 05:31 PM
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Just wanted to thank you for such a well-written and cited post. I broke up with a 5 year ltr about a 2 weeks ago which devastated me - this is helping me regain some traction and see the light at the end of the tunnel after the anger phase passes.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/15 05:51 PM
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It's funny because that has been on my mind all day yesterday and today, it's probably the closest I'll come to pulling a threesome off with relatively little effort. The problem here is that I'm barely able to fight back this god damn oneitis for her still. I know it sounds like I can't be serious, but I'm hesitating because I'm afraid it is going to destroy me mentally - I'm literally exhibiting signs of withdrawal still like a drug addict. I guess my question here is do you think that the lon…
/r/askTRP04/04/15 01:36 AM
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Thanks a lot for the response man, yeah I figured it would be a little bit strange, but I figured it can only really be a positive experience for me even if she isn't into it. Also, It's really reassuring to hear that other people have been through the same situation especially the awkward first date thing for some reason.
/r/askTRP01/04/15 09:06 PM
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If you don't already, listen to the "beige phillip podcast" with dante nero. He had some good advise about "laying the bricks" aka talking to 5 chicks each day without any expectations.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 11:40 PM
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No. In my honest opinion and from personal experience, this is not acceptable behavior. I remember reading something on TRP along the lines of this: Do you remember going out to a party in high school but asking your parents/guardian etc.. for permission to go out "yeah I'm just going to play some video games" when in fact you were going to an underage kegger? Even if it isn't her intent on cheating, she is literally asking your permission to take the burdon of her actions off her shoulders and …
/r/askTRP30/03/15 11:27 PM
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These are excellent points. We are much more prone to have similar behaviors as the group of people who we surround ourselves with. I wish I could find the link, but there was a study where people who surrounded themselves with successful people had a better chance of being successful themselves, I think the same thing applies to unacceptable behavior in a relationship.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 11:15 PM
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This was encouraging as shit man. I took your advise and cold approached 2 girls and got a number today grocery shopping. It wasn't easy, in fact it sucked holding frame but hey, I'm home now and I'm not wallowing in my own emotions. Money is tight right now as my rent literally doubled now that she's gone, but I scheduled overtime on Saturday which will allow me to allocate the rest of the weekend to pickup at bars etc - getting excited to bring home a chick for once.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 10:43 PM
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That's exactly the issue at hand for me right now, no appetite and as a result it's getting hard to power through lifting and all that. Blending some fruits etc up is an awesome suggestion I didn't think of.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 02:39 PM
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Thanks brother you're absolutely right, even if she came back, those same reasons for breaking it off aren't just going to disappear and the energy put into that would be wasted.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 02:28 PM
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You're right, time for me to take responsibility. I needed it straight thanks
/r/askTRP30/03/15 01:51 PM
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Thanks for the reply, yeah I went for a walk last night and felt like a new person after a half hour outside. You have a good point too, I'm obviously not at the level of building another relationship yet but at least I know where I need to focus more energy reinforcing my outcome independence. It's encouraging to realize that I still have the tools, yeah they're dusty as hell but they're waiting on me to use them.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 01:29 PM
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I'm actually on the east coast - I left Denver about 2 weeks ago to come back home! Really appreciate the support though man, you and this community are the only reason I'm able to pull through this shit and move forward every day.Hey, if you ever find yourself yo the PA/ny/nj area first round is on me.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 01:14 PM
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Thanks man it's definitely good to hear that the actual feeling of oneitis will pass and I'll grow to forget about it. All I know is that I've overlooked all TRP reading material on oneitis since I didn't think it applied to me, I've got some studying to do now so I don't let this happen in the future.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 11:09 AM
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This has been helping me tremendously. I've still lost all frame, but I'm also not cowering in the corner looking through Facebook pictures. I literally have to acknowledge and let go of this feeling like every 15 seconds but it leaves me with a clear rational mind immediately.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 11:01 AM
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True, the crazy part was I almost asked her to marry me before I discovered TRP (close call). I guess what I'm dealing with now could be way worse, at least I'm not paying for divorce rape and there are no kids / house involved.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 10:48 AM
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This makes a lot of sense, it's almost like I'm in love with the idea of this girl being perfect for me, but like you said, there are a million other people who can take on her role and it wouldn't really make that much of a difference.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 10:43 AM
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Great read thanks for that. I think based on this chicks past behavior I dodged a mortar shell
/r/askTRP30/03/15 02:15 AM
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Thanks for that reminder - it is exactly the mindset that I've been living by this past year. This oneitis thing got past me for some reason but that just means it's time to man up and deal.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 01:46 AM
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I'm 26, been with this one since I was 20 and only started applying some trp principles to my life during the last year.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 01:33 AM
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Thanks for the advise. Yeah this was about a day ago although I made the decision to breakup about a week prior in my mind but I felt sick to my stomach and kind of froze up when it came to actually doing it.
/r/askTRP30/03/15 01:25 AM
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Beige Phillips. Also subscribe to "the cult of black Phillip" on YouTube
/r/askTRP09/02/15 12:59 AM
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