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I can't wait to listen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/23 09:01 PM
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I'm gonna be crude and say, Cockholm syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/22 01:31 AM
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I see what kind of posts you're referring to. I've also seen the same "women don't need men anymore, therefore the latter need to step up" narrative on WitchesVsPatriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/22 08:00 PM
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Yes, that's true. What subs would that be? Kinda curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/22 06:51 PM
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I highly agree. I hope this trend continues to solidify in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/22 05:58 PM
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Finally, the world is catching up. I know I wasn't too wrong when last year I observed that there's gonna be a cultural reckoning of some sort considering FDS-like content are everywhere. More and more women are waking up to the double standards they're subjected to or unrecognized toxicity/abuse in the worst cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/22 05:54 PM
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Thank you. I opened the sub today with the intention of looking for FDS movie recommendations. I heard of MBFGW before, but thanks to your post, I'm definitely watching it today. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:38 AM
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There was something off with that TikToker though. His videos were bite-sized, surface-level, not deep explorations on a particular subject almost like he was reading a speech or repeating from memory. It makes that the material was ripped. He never cited any sources, nor did he mention a lot that his experiences informed the message he was delivering unlike other men unpacking their misogyny on the app, like barrettpall and red_sage1 who talk extensively about their past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 06:29 PM
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Honestly, dinner 😅 it’s weird seeing other married couples bicker about what to eat longer than it takes to cook the meal. “Noooo I’m burnt out that, that makes my stomach hurt, I had that for lunch, I’m not in the mooooood for that” and they do this EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. SO glad I can just decide when and what I eat lol I don't get how people who are like this live. Cooking and deciding what to eat can be really make one waste time. That's why meal prep exists or you can have a weekly dinner plan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 10:04 PM
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Are they in a certain age range, or is it across the board?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 12:43 AM
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You've made quite valid points. I also think they're capitalizing on whatever masculinity crisis men are going through. To some extent, I'd say gym culture does the same. What used to be superficial markers for masculinity are irrelevant today. Women can hold their own. It's getting harder and harder to wield power over them, and justify it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 12:33 AM
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Yes, strong in this scenario means willing and able to take a hit with no looming consequences for the men dishing it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:26 AM
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Some women love men more, more than they love themselves too, and often at their own expense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:13 PM
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Men's comfort > women's safety and well-being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 06:14 PM
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That's a common criticism I've heard people make abt him. It is sort of strange. He seemed to have dated mostly mixed/white women like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 08:22 AM
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Don't get me wrong. I love his book, Born a Crime, but I suspect this has something to do with the impression I get that he doesn't seem at peace with the relationship he has with his mother. I'm sure he loves her. Still, when talking about her during book promotions, I'd sense some resentment towards her. Considering the divisive and overall harsh environment in which he was born, I can't blame him nor his mother. He just seems to have a lot of unresolved issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 07:54 AM
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As a side note, I really hope Trevor Noah doesn't prove himself to be an LVM. I've always been weirded out by his dating patterns. He seems to have a type: less successful than him but pretty and approachable girl-next-door arm candy. My intuition tells me he's intimidated by strong and opinionated women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 07:22 AM
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This is what happens when you want a relationship at any cost. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:17 AM
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Also, "living your life" is so vague that I sometimes feels it sounds like cool girl advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 11:32 AM
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Exactly! Red flag number 1. The same type of delusional & toxic mentality Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox were embodying during their proposal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:42 PM
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Can we rename it Red Flag Day cause that's all I've been seeing similarly to OP's story? It's laughable how many people think they're modern-day Romeo and Juliets, while exhibiting signs of trauma bonding, poorly veiled pettiness towards each other and struggle love in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:35 PM
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Their relationship style is to overpower the woman. It's a normalized part of the culture which thrives on that gender-based imbalance. It's even worse if you wish to share a future with them and thinking of creating a family. To create a dysfunctional and toxic Indian household, it is essential to put these dynamics in place. It will dangerously lead down a dark path of endless types of abuse and trauma for the partner and children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:51 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:57 PM
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Oh no. Can you? I thought by copying the link, it wouldn't do that. I'm not sure how to fix it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:24 PM
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A lot of TikTok content is super insightful regarding feminism, gender dynamics, and abuse in relationships. I was stunned once I got a handle on the algorith. I never thought it'd be easy spotting FDS-like content in the wild. I wonder if it's the influence of Gen Z or just a cultural reckoning moment about to unfurl. We'll see what FDSers who live in first world countries have to report. Ain't nothing happening like that where I live. Women as early as their 20s love playing a submissive, dome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:02 PM
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Link to the article referred to: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/13/opinion/toxic-masculinity.amp.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 06:53 PM
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That would explain why, yes. Like the girl in the video said, they view vulnerability as transactional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 06:49 PM
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Well, how can they not wise up? The pandemic has underlined men's depraved nature and evilness. Higher cases of dv, suicide being prevalent in women as a group due to being forced to be in close quarters with them. The private sphere became a total hellscape since it demanded of women to juggle work and increasing domestic labour, half of the latter being men's shirked responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:30 AM
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Real heroes 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:01 PM
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Also, if they claim to be strong enough to fight off beasts, surely it shouldn't be such a feat to handle chores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 05:31 PM
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Fair enough. Still, his behaviour typifies male entitlement, and that's valuable enough to witness and identify for FDS purposes. 🙂 I read his Emma poems pre-FDS days, and found him insufferable. I couldn't quite articulate extensively why back then. I was also only 18 and inexperienced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:00 PM
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Really? I mean, I liked some of his poems, but the LVM way he treated his wife, Emma and "repented" about it in his poetry is disappointing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:53 AM
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Looool. He deserves the All Too Well recent backlash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:30 AM
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Oversharing with a stranger is a common tactic of people who want to build fake intimacy. By emphasizing you're the only person he told his past, he's conferring a special status onto you and the false bond you now have. Usually this will come in handy when they'll trip up towards you as their next victim to manipulate and not be held accountable. Like they took this huge emotional risk to be vulnerable with you, so now you have to be indulgent and forgive almost anything. Also, by admitting his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:53 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:34 AM
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I did that once. I ended getting groped and sexually harassed. I don't recommend. It's usually an indicator of abuse down the line. By engaging with men like that, even if only for the sake of discussion, what you are seen as is being permissive. They'll believe there's at the very least a chance to override your boundaries, or convince you what's misogynist is actually not. Be careful. Stay safe out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 04:07 PM
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They're burning all the witches even if you're aren't one So light me up (light me up)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 11:32 AM
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They made this forum sound like witches Tale as old as time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:56 PM
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He also is into Jordan Peterson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 03:30 AM
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Hahahah. This reminds me of: Two Trucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 08:46 PM
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Great advice 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 09:26 PM
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Yeah. The logic still doesn't hold up. I guess this is why it's conveniently left out in favour of the other bullshit which is more "palatable" because they're seemingly solution-oriented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 07:27 PM
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Thank you for putting things in perspective. This is perfectly articulated. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:02 PM
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I've seen quite a few male coaches on IG who have accounts dedicated to what you're referring. I find it really bizarre that they put a disclaimer that every human being, male or female, have varying degrees of femininity and masculinity. However, ALL their content is geared towards women resting in their feminine so that men can finally experience the opportunity to be masculine. The underlying logic supposedly here is that women at the present moment can do it all or rather take up the burden …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 12:56 PM
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But...aren't men ViSuaL cReAtuREs???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:51 AM
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Yeaah, either way that kind of pushiness from the guy does not bode well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:35 AM
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He was not the first guy I had personally known who hates Taylor Swift. Aside from releasing great music, I'm planning to use her henceforth in vetting men. After all, the kind of casual misogyny thrown at that poor girl is unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:20 AM
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Honestly, in that asshole's mind, there is probably some justifiable correlation between the two. He was heavily into conspiracy theories. The true common element here is his bigotry against two historically oppressed groups of people, women and Jews.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:17 AM
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We live in a small country in the middle of practically nowhere but the influences of other developed countries are very much present due to various factors. Unfortunately, that guy was a country bumpkin who thought of himself as "intellectual" but could never recognize misinformation and conspiracy theories he got from external sources as propaganda. Basically, he believed the Holocaust could be justified since "Jews rule the world". 🤮 Needless to say, he'd also partake in other stellar mental …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 04:14 AM
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It's nice to see nonetheless that he is being blasted everywhere on various social media for this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 10:49 PM
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This is why very religious men, of any belief system — including those dogmatic atheists infesting the web — are automatic dealbreakers for me, point blank period end of story. It's like you can predict their incoming grossness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 10:47 PM
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Biggest learning from my English Lit. classes in secondary school!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:22 AM
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Hating on Taylor Swift and justifying the Holocaust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:09 AM
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Hey there. If maintaining a relationship with them is important to you (and you can't/don't want to cut them off), learn to put boundaries with them. Maybe you can try avoiding discussing your dating life with them since their advice is crappy. You can even go as far as lying to them and say that you're taking a break, if they're the pestering kind. Secondly, try working on surrounding yourself with people who have your best interests at heart and reach out to them to confide your frustrations w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:37 PM
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If any of you fit this role, be very mindful of how religion and spirituality can enforce that type of behaviour, and basically promote women's boundaries to be eroded. Personally, I internalized how there's a higher purpose to suffering. There's none, actually. It's unfortunate to go through bad shit. Finding a silver lining is a personal choice that nobody, not even God or a higher power should make you feel obligated to do. Instead of critically evaluating the source of my problems and removi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:06 AM
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Right? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 03:52 AM
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I also experienced the same during phases where my depression showed in very physical ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:57 AM
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You're right. The implications aren't the same. Like Margaret Atwood said "men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:59 PM
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Thanks for your kind words. I feel for you too.❤ I'm seeking therapy too for the same reasons and further trauma I accumulated during the pandemic. I'm gonna switch therapists as the current's one is not working for me. It truly is bad out there for SA women. I hope you have the support you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:26 PM
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Same. I never felt like I had the permission before to let myself be loved, if I'm gonna be honest. I spent my late teens hyperfocusing on my appearance to compensate for my feelings of ugliness my mother instilled in me by criticizing me being brown-skinned, wearing glasses, loving to read books. My extended family kind of solidified my low self esteem by treating my personality as funny/quirky, and described me as a square peg in a round hole. It's like no matter how much I shapeshifted, it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:13 PM
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It's sad that I can relate and have similar experiences to back you up. Even as young girls, you're expected to provide free, manual labour. An aunt of mine was stunned while we were spending a vacation at a privately rented villa with no help available that we were quite few cousin sisters hanging out, and it never occurred to us to pick up the broom and clean. That same bitch invited me over in the guise of spending my school holidays at her place, and instead made me carry her heavy shopping …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:00 PM
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Because South Asian culture is steeped in abuse. If luck's not on your side, you can even get physically abused. From my personal observations, women are ok with having a boring & average partner as opposed to an attractive and passionate one because we confuse love with abuse due to our mothers being abused by our fathers. As a result, these women must have likely been in toxic and sexually inappropriate relationships previously, and resolve to be in the type of partnership you mentioned. Not a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:47 PM
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I'm the same. I can't wait for the day I find someoe like your husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 07:56 AM
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Some LVM who get rejected and dumped over and over just might eventually turn inward and try to be better men so that they can have access to women without having to pay them (lol). One can only hope. Actually, I've seen men like that. My personal observation is that they overcompensate. A LOT. They do stuff you'd expect HVMs to do, but in their case, the manner in which they show that they're good partners and the extent of their actions is borderline caricaturish and comical. It's like they ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:49 PM
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I watched that video when it came out. You're not the ony one who had the same thoughts. The entire thing was so heartfelt. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:56 AM
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Kinda did the same this morning with an interfering neighbour. Proud of myself 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:57 AM
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Also, they get to pick and choose from their menu of depravity but women can't ask for basic stuff they deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:37 AM
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This is excellent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:53 PM
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I had a similar issue with a guy who was texting me. That manbaby whined because I refused to text him back during work hours and claimed that I didn't care about him, what if something bad happened to him. I'll specify that he also was supposed to working at that time. On top of that, his workplace is within an office. That scrote was acting like his job was Superman saving the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:43 PM
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Cops are a remnant of men who do not know how to exist in 2021 as a secure human being with feminine/masculine attributes. They are basically cavemen who are drawn to hypermasculinity to cover up their inadequacies and inability to learn, transform and grow. Such a turn-off. I've never understood women who are attracted to them. To me, aside from being more likely violent, they strike me as being impotent in some way, like I'd never feel safe with somebody lacks emotional intelligence and higher…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:06 PM
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Love Chelsea for her realness 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 03:14 PM
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Looooooooool. Check this out at 09.48. It's very clear who's benefiting from this relationship. If the mother of Justin Bieber can finally fall asleep in peace because he has a wife, what does that make Hailey? His babysitter??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:17 PM
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Exactly! If you (man or woman) have done the personal work of knowing oneself, your triggers and how to manage them as well as the ways you can slip into codependency, you're much more ready to build and maintain a healthy relationship as two interdependent people. Goddd, this is so dumb. Would anybody censor that shit already as misinformation? This is the exactly the type of wrong and misleading messaging that I would previously fall for since it's so ambient in media, culture and the general …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:08 PM
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"That is the sentence you should lead with" ??????? Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:02 PM
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He's acting as if hot cakes are being handed out and he has the full right to line up for some!! Talk about having no shame or self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:08 AM
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Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:56 PM
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Wait, is that true? Hilarious, nonetheless. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:21 AM
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Spoiler! Men specialize in ruining and contaminating whatever category of human being they may belong to. They just don't live up to who they should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:17 AM
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Just checked and her account says suspended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:04 AM
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What a garden variety, fucking loser. I hope his relationship ends in the worst shitshow ever. The OP deserves at the very least to see what she dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:58 AM
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Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:09 AM
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Performing emotional labour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:28 AM
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More like retards lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:37 PM
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Good for you. You do you. I'm pretty sure you'll live a more humane and dignified life than them. Servitude = love. What a bunch of losers. Growing alongside them, I truly can no longer feel any empathy for them. Maybe it's a bit mean-spirited, but I can't wait for the day things fall flat on their face. At the same time, this type of brown pickme I've had to grow up with, were prone to using their fake, ugly, slavelike relationshit to act haughty and pretend they were better than single people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:36 PM
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Gail Dines even says that the human mind has defense against the eloquence of the word, but the human mind has no defense against the glamour of the image. We see the image and our brain interprets it as truth, even if we consciously are aware of its falsehood. This is so dangerous. I don't know much about her work, but what she's saying is really interesting. From my own experience as someone was very much into reading from a really young age, I remember even then thinking at the level of a chi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:07 AM
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A match made in heaven! Brown pickmes are a creature of their own. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:38 AM
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I was thinking the same thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:37 AM
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Thanks for elaborating on that and for the recommendation. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:37 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:47 AM
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Wait a minute... We were all meant to be such in that place because society... I'm so ashamed now of prizing myself on being empathetic. Turns out it meant getting the short end of the stick most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:40 AM
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Ohhh, that's interesting. I thought it came from Greek philosophers. All the sources, mostly website and blog articles, I've seen till now have been couched in a masculine way or seemed to be targeted at men for aspiring to the highest ideal of masculinity. Are there any sources that you've personally found useful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:36 AM
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Sounds like my dream man 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:33 AM
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This is also why these losers think that they deserve more inspite of being less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:28 AM
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Drugs, maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:12 AM
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I wished that'd been the case for me too. I discovered it at 24-25. A lot would have made sense, and it would have avoided me feeling lost, guilty and disheartened over things not under my control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:07 PM
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What a classic asshole. I'm sorry that you went through what must have been a harsh time with him. Good riddance, but what a shame someone agreed to marry him. I had a really bad feeling that the Nice Guy™️ in my situation might have been abusive as well behind closed doors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:55 PM
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Ummm, now that I think about it, it's kind of the same. She'll call out other men who are more aggressively misogynistic, but Nice Guy won't get the same treatment. This is so fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:26 PM
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Lol, it never as much occurred to him that she could be a fully sentient being with an existence of her own. Thank you for your comments. This is what I live for. I thank the gods everyday for this sub. A lot of thoughts and observations that I would have as a child and teenager learning about how the world works were either stifled or withheld because these truths were too harsh to let out in the open. I'm glad that this space exists to undo all the self-gaslighting that I performed unconscious…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:41 PM
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I can relate to that. In the group I mentioned, this female friend of mine with whom I was discussing love languages is very vocal about feminism. And yet, she often rolls her eyes, laughs offs, chides him sometimes but in a light way. I don't know if she consciously makes excuses for him, or she thinks if by calling a spade, a spade, that will make her come across as judgemental, or maybe she's fully aware and is rather choosing her own battles. We interact in a work setting, after all. Persona…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:34 PM
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Podcast-wise, there's one called A Single Serving Podcast which focuses on how to live a full life without a partner. I find that it's useful whether you're in a relationship or not. It's hosted by a woman, so her perspective might be particularly helpful in unpacking the stigma of female singlehood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 12:10 PM
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Yeah, you're right, I guess. I used to have a crush on that guy, mainly physical attraction, but to be honest, things he would casually say would ring a warning bell in my head even when he was in a relationship with a previous partner, and hence me not really looking to date him despite an instant attraction. As time went by, he would continue to share stuff about himself which further validated that niggling feeling I had. Stuff about him having a porn addiction in the past, and that interferi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:19 AM
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I agree! That's a very good point. I ended up accidentally discovering that, maybe that's useful advice for all of us. By the way, about the male acquaintance in question, the guy's gonna get married soon. As a side note, he's also a Nice Guy™.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:47 AM
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The 'physical touch' thing doesn't lie dormant in wait for a moist vagina to appear. It's always there. They could also exhibit "normal" behaviour associated with that love language with everyone else, but when it comes to a significant other, they inevitably get sexual. I wouldn't be surprised if that's the case for a lot of them. We do live in a patriarchal world where women give sex and men take it from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:15 AM
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So it's not a love language, it's just more bullshit. I don't even believe those men have read that book or whatever it is. They just learned this "love language" stuff from the internet and from pick up artist forums. This is exactly the gist of a conversation I had with a friend recently! Lo and behold, a few minutes after that, a male acquaintance shows up to join the conversation and adds that his love language is physical touch. It's very revealing enough that in the past, he shared that he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:11 AM
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Not far from the truth, it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:43 AM
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Alsoo, how about this feminist parody of Blurred Lines? 😼😼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:43 PM
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Hahahaha. I live in a town known for being a tourist destination. I would call the summer when there'd be an influx of all kinds of tourists pre-covid, but especially men looking to get laid, "International Fuckboy Season".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:22 AM
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Disgusting! I'm tired of women's trauma being passed of as empowering, as opposed to what? When you go through bad stuff, you have no choice. Either you get over it, or you fall back in life. 🙄 But of course, women will not receive compassion, pity at best maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:40 AM
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😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:04 PM
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Not to justify the above, but Indian wedding customs are generally very discriminatory towards women at the same time. I flat out laughed in the face of someone who told me she cried at other people's wedding ceremonies because they're sooo romantic. This is altogether another level of sadomasochistic delusion to label entering servitude as romance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:24 PM
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Every institution of society seems to be function in such a way that women go through humbling down experiences, and men completely capitalize on that. We, as women, are taught, and cornered into self-abandonment on multiple levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:16 AM
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This type of pickme is quite the character. I had two cousin sisters just like that. Just as some insight maybe, both started out as young teenagers labelling themselves as tomboys. Always wanting to be one of the boys, proritizing hanging out with them over girls. I can't think of anything more desperate, pathetic and shameful. At the same time, their mothers, in their own right, indulged in a lot of women-hating and slut-shaming. Basically, they modeled a limited view of how a woman can exist …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:49 AM
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With or without a man, sounds like an FDS success, regardless.🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:24 AM
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Having confidence doesn't mean you act like you have confidence and is not an end goal in itself. Confidence is a symptom of a greater, complete sense of self. This makes so much sense. Thank you for articulating these thoughts that I probably couldn't have, myself. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:15 AM
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I barely have any male friends due to their overall grossness and depravity...but how does one avoid acquaintances like male coworkers? There are only two guys in my office of mostly women but both regularly get on my nerves. The first one is my boss who is a tyrannical manbaby projecting his irritability and frustration all the time, and the second one is the sensitive, emotionally codependent guy who craves attention, a bit like what's described in the book, Why He Does That by Lundy Bancroft …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:10 AM
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Society is delusional on what makes a good man, or rather allows for bad ones to be bred. In my workplace, I rolled my eyes hard when my boss referred to a co-worker as a gentleman while the latter harassed atleast 2 women and had inappropriate relationships with two others. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:52 PM
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Amen 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:49 AM
2

Combining forces...sounds like a dumb plotline in a bad movie about making a pact with the devil. Laame 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:41 AM
56

This seems like a great read. Thanks for the rec. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:52 AM
9

TBH, I was born in the 90s and I never understood the appeal of the romantic plotlines of earlier Disney movies. It seemed a bit odd to me that peope could fall in love without even having a proper conversation, let alone knowing each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:15 AM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:06 AM
2

I've never seen any version of Disney's Bluebeard, but how do you make the premise itself, i.e., confining and trapping a person wholesome? Isn't it fucked from the beginning? Either way, I'd be curious to know how they managed to achieve that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:56 AM
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Financially irresponsible men are such a turn-off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:32 PM
10

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:46 PM
19

Sadly, I felt the same thing, too. I feel really bad for his wife. 😕 My dislike for him, because he's also a bad actor, is intensifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:42 PM
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The new upcoming trend could be posturing as a faux woke man, struggling to get things right. Yesterday, I saw an episode of the Man Enough podcast by Justin Baldoni. He invited his wife to talk about the difficulties men have to be equal partners in the home. The poor woman seemed soul-tired even though both were on the same page concerning their views on how hard it was to "do the work" for men to be better partners. I have a feeling she won't be able to keep up with him in the long run, and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:12 PM
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I don't have either. But it certainly made me observant of other male relatives, a lot of whom demand to be the patriarch, or have some position of authority over women in their lives. Ironically, the amount of work, effort, attention could never match up to the contribution of the same women. The latter would slog their life away professionally, raising kids, paying for big expenses, taking care of the home and and still receive a lower level of recognition. This is teaching me not to be a work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:41 PM
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Seems like mostly religion and tribalism-like belief systems could account for brainwashing of this type. I once saw this BBC interview of a Russian woman claiming she was ok with being beaten by her husband then expressing some sort of cognitive dissonance, saying women are vindicative creatures who remember when harm is being done to them, at which point, the husband interferes and orders her to not get into it too much. I guess this interaction could demonstrate the weird dynamics at play in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:17 PM
6

This is so fundamentally wrong and outright dehumanizing. So sad and regressive that in 2021 people harbour beliefs which hearken back to the dark ages, even at their own expense!! Truly baffling 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:45 PM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:12 PM
9

Can you and u/Partypuppers suggest some good ones? I've mostly come across gross ones, where the gender dynamics skew towards rapey, or the chemistry just isn't there. However, there's a new one I discovered a few days ago called Glass Ceilings. It's about a career-driven HVW. I've yet to see whether the male love interest is going to "break" her, or support her in reaching her dreams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:56 PM
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That's a little too well summed up. 😳 But I'm grateful for this sub. I'm only in my 20s and so have lived through only a few of those experiences. Thank you, really. Younger women won't have to go through what you did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:56 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:04 PM
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Who know's what he's like in his real life? If he's an actual HVM or not. Like other people mentioned here, he's very cognizant of what being a male means in today's patriarchal society. He's been bullied for being gay, but surprisingly doesn't seem to hate women. From what I've witnessed, guys who are, try to take it out on women as a form of revenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 09:26 AM
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From his work and what little he's revealed about himself, he seems like a decent man/person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:55 AM
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Is LEO's law enforcement officers? For a second, I thought you were maybe talking about leo men 😂 I agree though, cops, all in all, are super misogynistic. Recently, I had an incident where a cop in my family circle tried to hit me, when reporting him, I was told by other cops that I provoked him by swearing at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:23 PM
1

I've stopped at episode 4, couldn't take more. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:12 AM
2

I'm currently watching Jane The Virgin (S1) for the first time. It's an eyeopener how much religion (Christianity/Catholicism, not sure which this is here) reinforces poor decision-making in women, and how pick-me behaviour could be a by-product of that. All in favour of being a saint and doing "the right thing". Where there's a saint (portrayed by Jane and her grandmother who taught her well), there's always a whore somewhere portrayed by Jane's mother who is hypersexual and irresponsible in ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:56 PM
2

Aquarian guys are notoriously heartless, though. Aquarians can generally be detached and emotionally unaware, but apparently guys even more so. They deny themselves the chance to feel emotions as a result of holding sexist beliefs (emotional men=weak men), and end up weaponizing detachment to the extent of becoming cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:20 PM
4

We live in a sad, sad world! 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:20 AM
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I'm also from an Indian background. A lot of the sexism and misogyny in the society is perpetuated within families. Just Friday, I was told my relatives that my sister has more value than me because she has a husband with a car and hence can help more than I can with my ailing mother. This comes from the same relatives whose son used to evetease women. The perception is that this flawed thinking only comes from uneducated, rural and poor people. We don't even live in India and these people are w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:45 AM
2

Glad you cleared that up. Indeed, they are both LVM and should be avoided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:54 AM
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An actual quote by Gavin Becker, who wrote a book called, The Gift of Fear to help people identify potential abusers, that I live by: "We must teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:21 PM
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I can't imagine. But the headlines sometimes are scary, I must say as well as some very gross, rapey posts I've seen by Indian men on hot pics of Indian female celebrities on reddit. Hold on, girl and best of luck in your plans to get out of there. 💪🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:29 PM
1

Bruh I don't even live in India 😂 Just part of the Indian diaspora and someone who's ancestors have left India since the 1800s, We now live in 2020, and it's still that bad, smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:54 PM
2

Seems to be this way with all Desis worldwide who are uniting to keep Indian women down. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:50 PM
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Hahahaha 😂 In all seriousness, the archetype of the witch is one of the most self-empowering and badass ones assigned to women. Can't even complain abt that. 😌😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:36 AM
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Basically having a beggar's mentality, or otherwise you're just a chudail(witch, for any non-Indian redditors). 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 06:17 PM
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You're most welcome. I'd be really happy for you if any of my advice works in your favour 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:55 PM
11

From having been on the other side of the equation, I' d say make amends by showing sincere remorse. Apologize for not knowing better at the time. If they decide to rekindle the friendship, all the better for you. 🙂 It would also help if you show interest by being proactive in being friends again(after the other party has agreed). Make plans to hang out, and don't be flaky. Good luck 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:09 PM
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The worst thing is you get double the hate for calling it out. Every time I've personally made so much as a simple remark that it's unfair, I get pushback to the point I have to put distance me and family members, and in the process, cut back on love and support that I should be receiving. It gets really hard finding alternatives to a support system(whether that be friends or other people), especially when the whole society is like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:00 PM
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The misogyny in Indian culture is horrendous, and this is by a culture which worships goddesses but treats actual women like slaves. Hyprocrisy at its height. 😶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:41 AM
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A lot of women drop their other female friends once they partner up. Does someone have tips on having long-lasting female friendships worth investing in? A bit like you'd be picky in choosing which guy is worth going out with and with whom a healthy connection can be built??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:34 AM
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Hilarious!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:32 PM
5

Agree. Trust should be earned, incrementally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:21 PM
3

He IS. I absolutely hated his spendthrift ways, and actually looked up to Tiana as a character for being an earnest and honest person saving up to fulfil her dreams. Frankly speaking, this is the one of the worst case of the opposite attracts trope I've seen in movies 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:49 PM
1

I remember thinking the same abt Prince Naveen as a teen and being vocal about it with cousin sisters with whom I watched the movie. I only got side-eyed by them. Like how did I dare expect better from her love interest, atleast she found "love". 🤦🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:44 PM
2

Or using their own daughter/wife as a pass to justify abusing women, like what AOC has recently experienced with a fellow congressman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:32 PM
51

True. Indian culture enforces "goodness" in indian women which often means being kind, pleasant, domestic and peaceful above anything else. Standing up for yourself equals to being arrogant, mean-spirited and quarrelsome, unfortunately. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:28 PM
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