Pretty simple except that women are almost mandated to massage men's egos because it's more important that they collectively think of themselves as "good people".

Zurflu · 2022-03-21T18:06:39+00:00

It's not ALL snakes, either, but most people are going to avoid getting close enough to find out.

2340000 · 2022-03-21T18:26:17+00:00

It's redundant and honestly a headache asking, "but which ones?" It completely minimizes the lived experiences of women.

Why should we concoct multiple rebuttals (therefore undergoing extra intellectual labor) so male violence makes sense to men?🤔 It's a ploy. Men know themselves, their friends, their fathers, their siblings enough to understand we're telling the truth. But, playing stupid allows them to deny that they're violent and part of the problem.

askmeabouttheforest · 2022-03-21T20:03:58+00:00

Interesting thing about good/bad people: the worst people you'll ever meet are those who will insist forever they're good people. The best people you'll ever meet are those who say they try to be good.

So when men go on and on about how nothing they say or do really means what it means because they're good people regardless, well, that's worth exactly nothing.

katiekat0214 · 2022-03-21T20:05:02+00:00

I wasn't raised to be "nice" or super polite and I'm glad for that. I just don't massage men's egos, never have, don't even know how to. I've actively told men, I'm not your therapist, go pay for that yourself. I am in no state to take on your burdens; I have my own!

throwaway-fds · 2022-03-21T18:57:50+00:00

Women should stop arguing with men, or trying to justify themselves to them. It's not that they don't know, they don't care to. Stop arguing with males, stop giving them the time of day. I stopped arguing with men a year ago, and they get so pissed off because they want to waste your time and watch you jump through hoops to justify your trauma.

frostedgemstone · 2022-03-21T20:53:44+00:00

The not all men thing is extremely sus coming from them because why do men not want their gfs/wives/daughters going out late at night or being around areas where there will be a lot of males? When a man says he’s different he may as well have marked an X on himself to be extra wary of him

Sallou9 · 2022-03-21T20:43:47+00:00

A caveat most women dont want to say incase in triggers dudes, but damn I say it everytime because its.important and im tired of sweeping it under the rug:

Not all men. But A LOT of them. Like A LOT.

(A minority can still be a lot. Even only 5% is still 100s of millions.)

WinterMagician22 · 2022-03-21T21:18:35+00:00

Exactly. Like we don’t know which Skittle in the bag was poisoned, but I’m not taking a chance on any of them.

AyemHerself · 2022-03-22T02:27:22+00:00

Not all raccoons have rabies, but people avoid them all the same.

TriggeredQuilt · 2022-03-21T23:28:09+00:00

Not which men, MOST men don’t call out misogyny or their predatory friends so it might as well be all men.

Asizella · 2022-03-22T00:48:03+00:00

Also, how tedious would it be to have to type out or say "men (but not all men!)" every single time you wanted to discuss women's issues? I feel like that's pretty well implied. # notallmen seems like deliberate derailment. Similar to # alllivesmatter. Like, yeah, they do, sure, kinda thought that was implied, but that's not what we're talking about right now.

kycake · 2022-03-22T01:19:39+00:00

i’m so tired of seeing these exact posts, like women saying these exact words, again and again. like do y’all really think males don’t know why women are wary of men? or outright scared of them? even shitty fathers will worry if their daughter has to walk home alone at night, or take public transport at night, or even uber by herself, and they get very worried when their daughter goes on dates especially if they don’t know the guy at all, hmm why’s that? because males already know what men do to women. men themselves say “all men” when it come to their daughters. so maybe we as women should stop trying to “explain” to men how hard we have it, cause they 100% already know.

Title	Pretty simple except that women are almost mandated to massage men's egos because it's more important that they collectively think of themselves as "good people".
Author	DoversBlue
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Comments	29
Date	March 21, 2022 4:41 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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