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Forget about trying to address these issues. Just get out.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 08:36 AM
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Amen
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 08:35 AM
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Crap advice.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 09:22 PM
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Agree, I feel so sorry for my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 09:13 PM
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Yes it’s without question a strain, I’m with an amazing supportive woman who’s a widow with young adult children. We recently went on vacation together and it was great, total escapism, now I’m back to the frontline trenches, dealing with legal fees, my difficult ex and the children she’s trying to alienate from me. Its hard but for me better than being on my own.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 10:13 AM
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If you’re happy with the split, no need to lawyer up. No in my case I wouldn’t be paying her costs, she can take them from her part of the estate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 07:59 AM
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You have failed to answer the man’s question with your little lecture?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 07:58 AM
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I’m not in IL, not even in the US tbh. But I want to chime in. My ex has played this card, it backfired, here’s a few nuggets from my experience. Lawyer up like yesterday, cut down on ALL communications. Keep it to WhatsApp, don’t get pulled down rabbit holes. “No” is a full sentence. Keep messages court safe and limit to 10 word reply’s. No rambling reply’s or tit for tat arguments over text. Those days of debating stuff with her are over. Get a routine, library, tennis, gym, office, walks, mee…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 06:33 AM
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No right answer. It’s not two years, it’s not three years, it’s whatever feels good. Some of us here have been in a dead bedroom for a decade and are in our 50’s or 60’s. We don’t have 3 years to recalibrate. In my own case my ex was planning her exit for at least two years. During this time she was caustic. She tried to play the silver bullet and it backfired. Nearly three decades was enough of my life to have lost with this clown, I needed to move on quickly. I’m still cohabitating a year and …
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 07:11 PM
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My wife will never respect any man unless he bankrolls her and has an ability to put up with absolute nonsense. He also must not value integrity or intelligent conversation. I picked a loser based on looks.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 09:40 PM
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Knight in Shining Armour, what nonsense. My MIL indoctrinated her Disney princess with this crap. It’s now deep rooted stuff, she’ll always resent you even if you get past this impasse. Advice, Lawyer up, file first.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 04:06 PM
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I’m in your shoes, I wanted a mediated agreement, she wants warfare. In her filing there’s so much crazy stuff about me that I really can’t believe it. All baseless untrue manufactured nonsense. She totally over states everything including her role within our family. I’m here in my home hunkering down for a long difficult fight. Not going anywhere until we thrash out something reasonable or it’s put in front of a judge. My advice, she’s being horrible to you anyway, what difference does it make …
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 06:24 AM
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Should be a sticky
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 04:41 AM
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Use OneNote for documenting daily. It timestamps. Just say nothing to her and stay out of her way. No is a full sentence. No long messages either. Keep each response to under 10 words. Wait a few hours before replying, reply like it’s being read by the judge. Sleep with your bedroom door locked. Remove alcohol and guns from the home.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 06:42 PM
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She’s telling her mother lies, that’s why her mother feels justified in taking you on. That’s why your wife stands idly by. Lawyer up and bail under the best terms. It won’t improve.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 06:02 PM
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Advice, shut things down, limit interactions and comms. No is a full sentence. Don’t engage. Sail a steady ship.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 07:11 AM
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Yep, you need to keep them for the kids. I’ve kept all my family photos in an iCloud folder for the kids to look back on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 01:49 PM
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Here in Spain at the moment, Costa Del Sol, the amount of Americans here is remarkable.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 09:07 AM
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My experience of my late teen children is that they don’t care who did what, nor do they want to get into discussions about it. Somewhat annoying given their mother blew it up but putting my views to them would likely work against me, they just don’t want to know 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 06:34 AM
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Get over your ex. Of course you’ll love someone again.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 12:30 PM
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My wife was abusive early on, used to blame me on her behaviour. 100% red flag. 3 years isn’t long, her entitlement will be minimal. Get out now, don’t have a kid with this woman by accident. You probably won’t take my advice though.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 11:56 PM
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We need to vent now and again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 01:00 PM
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I’ve been acutely aware that this was in the offing. For this reason I’ve said absolutely nothing to her other than by message. I had Claude analyse every single WhatsApp, Text and email to her since inception it couldn’t find a single abusive or controlling message from me to her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 01:00 PM
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Thanks 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 08:31 AM
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Yes fully agree, the eternal pursuit of happiness they’ll never find.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 08:31 AM
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19, 21 and 16
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 08:51 AM
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I agree, she probably has a subconscious deep dislike of me anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 03:22 PM
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Thank you, the question was not about the money or trying to hide it, it was about the way my wife has treated me when the chips were down and my next steps.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 03:13 PM
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Maybe rich in The Sudan or some backwater town in India.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 01:27 PM
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Read my post again, I never suggested keeping it from her and there is no mechanism to do this anyway. The question here is whether I can remain married after being kicked to the kerb by her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 12:10 PM
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Yes understood re common property. However I have made many good investments in other areas like property and pensions. She never saved anything, lived on credit and there was no talking to her. Your response isn’t an accurate reflection of the situation.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 09:51 AM
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Sorry I edited my post, my question relates to her potentially wanting to reconcile now I have made the situation good. Should I press on?
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 06:47 AM
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Your comment makes zero sense in the context of the post you are responding to. He’s talking about women refusing sex after they achieve their aims. You’re talking about him turning off the supply. Duh 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 03:48 PM
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Was just sitting here with my Narc STBX who momentarily forgot she was supposed to be horrible to me. For about an hour she was chatty and pleasant, then she remembered who she / I was and sat with a face on her for half an hour before disappearing up to her room. Your story doesn’t surprise, they’re a certain type, not conscientious or caring. All they have time for is themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 10:22 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 10:08 PM
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Wife wants me out, she’s was very aggressive about it. She first wanted me to go and live with my 80 year old parents. She saw a lawyer recently and oddly she’s calmed down on this front. Most likely because the solicitor told her I’m entitled to remain. I am going to delay this divorce and stay for 20 years if I can. I have no desire to meet other women and have enough going on with my job, travelling and sports so I don’t have to look at her face too often. We also have a very large house of w…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 01:31 PM
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I have this situation, I did say I wanted a divorce months ago in an outburst which I very quickly rescinded on. She’s trying to convince me the only reason she wants a divorce is because of this incident and because she feels I really want one. Deny, deny, deny wanting a divorce. The only thing that seems to throw my wife off is when I tell her that she will have to tell the teenage children she wasn’t a divorce and not me. It’s all part of her narrative creation and pulling together the thread…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/25 04:27 PM
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That’s rough man.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 04:25 PM
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