25 years married, 3 kids, late teens. We had a good life despite what she now thinks and is trying to tell the children.

I paid for absolutely everything and was generous throughout our marriage. We had many holidays every year and access to my parents beautiful villa in Mexico (which oddly she hated 🤷‍♂️).

She was never happy, she was entitled, she “only drove Range Rovers”. She has an extensive jewellery collection and a $30k handbag collection, not listed on her affidavit. For a woman with no cash whatsoever this is unacceptable. If she was honestly declaring one could overlook it.

She turned her family against me. I was taken for granted, spoken over in front of my children, told not to discipline my children, I wasn’t allowed hang a picture on the wall or leave my coat on the back of a chair. She resented me being in the home, told me she was sick seeing in the house. The house I paid for.

The bedroom was barren, she never initiated, I received breadcrumbs in return. This is a weird dynamic and one I now fully understand.

Her filing is extreme, she obviously despises me, she brought in a minor mental health issue of mine from 2 decades ago where I took anti depressants for a few years. I continued working throughout this period and advanced my career. She now maintains she’s the sole emotional support for the children despite me being an equal and fully engaged parent.

She maintains I coercively controlled her, that I left her penniless. To her defence in her filing she hasn’t got a penny. Why not? Not a cent to her name despite working for 30 years while I paid everything. She has a huge loan from her family, for what I don’t know.

She now wants everything, for me to sign the house over and all its contents. Whatever the split is she”ll do very well from it, I overfunded my pension. She chose not to, the equity in the house I provided, not her.

She’s also trying to alienate the children against me because I want a fair split. It’s being positioned as me throwing them out of the house.

She wanted the divorce and refused counselling. Ok then, tell the court things have broken down, agree a split and move on.

My lawyer tells me the judge won’t like what’s she’s written, they tell me they’re going to dig into her finances, call out what’s not included in the affidavit and rip apart the family loan. For all her legal posturing over the last year with written threats and accusations her advisors have sent her down the river. They have advised her badly and written the filing the way she wanted.

If anything this process will show me what she’s been doing with her money while living off me.

How I will be ever able to look at this woman again I’ll never know?