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I had a buddy talk about one of his ex's: I'm so miserable without you, its like you are right here next to me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 10:51 PM
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Try the 2,2,5,5 schedule. 2 weeks on/off sounds terrible.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 10:47 PM
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Many of us have been down this road. It doesn't change. It only get worse.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 10:39 PM
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This sounds like what a woman would write. You have a lovely woman who is a good mother to your children. You should be ashamed of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 10:11 PM
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What's done is done. Heal up and get back out there my man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 07:33 PM
1

You need to pull yourself up by your boot straps. You are a man, NO ONE is coming to save you. Get up, get out and get busy living or get busy dying. MOVE IT MARINE!!
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 07:30 PM
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Why in the world are you even talking to this succubus?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 07:24 PM
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I stopped at 5 times. You allowed yourself to stay in this relationship. And I understand how hard it can be to leave. But yes, you were and are being abused. Get out now.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 05:40 PM
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I'd venture to guess that the divorce rate per marriage is still going up.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 04:36 PM
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Time to call the police. If she traveled over state lines, then maybe the FBI can get involved. Oh and go file for divorce, yesterday and lawyer up. Godspeed my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 10:43 PM
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It "might" be considered non-marital if she didn't contribute financially. You "might" have to pay alimony for 2 years though. Pray you don't have any children.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 10:42 PM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 09:41 PM
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I don't think the OP was assuming anything. He saw a difference between the swiss and us, namely, we are fat and the swiss aren't, and asked a question.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 09:15 PM
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And the last name was Mark Sing https://coachmarksing.com/ Yep, there are many generalizations to understand in Attraction/dating/marriage. Some of these generalizations are tough to hear for both men AND women.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 08:59 PM
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I read it and feel sad for YOU bro. And thank you for the well wishes. I hope you do well too my internet friend.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 08:53 PM
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Start dating MORE women. Other women will keep you objective. You will be able to more clearly evaluate what different women bring to your life. The thing about multiple women is that you don't get desperate when one misbehaves. Then you can pick the best looking one out of the women you are with. Now is the time to start listening to man empowering dating podcasts, if you don't know where to start, I suggest Mark Sing.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 08:38 PM
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Welcome! Yes, many of us wonder the same thing. And we also wonder how we DON'T let that happen to us again. If you read about rule #3, you will also see, that there are thousands of people that are like REALLY studying intersexual dynamics. I would say that "obesity" falls under the "attraction" category, and yes, it can cause marital problems. Look up Orion Taraban, Kevin Samuels, Jordan Peterson, Mike Sing to start.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 08:30 PM
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You need someone to watch the kids while you are working/studying/whatever. If that means a nanny, then get one.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 07:17 PM
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This, this, this!! No children, this is a gift!
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:50 PM
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Stop this shit man. Most of us men would KILL for your situation. You have a good woman and good mother of your child. You have been given a blessing and need to cherish it. This reads like the stupid shit women post on the women's divorce subreddit. Go get some therapy from a man.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:29 PM
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Yep, you opened up your marriage and killed it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:25 PM
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She loves the other dude she's with now bro.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:23 PM
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And I'll NIOPE right outta this.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:21 PM
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Ok, we'll give you a pass for being widowed. My advice is to read and listen to all you can about rule number 3 in this subreddit's rules. Its time to start learning about intersexual dynamics and you need to get "your frame" back.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:19 PM
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Is this marriage number 2 for you?
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 05:12 PM
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This is absolutely female behavior. Never say too much about old relationships with women either. They use it against you. Always.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 04:57 PM
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If you don't have kids, consider this a gift. You WILL get over this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 09:41 PM
1

OK then, you do you booboo! As long as it doesn't mess with your head.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 09:35 PM
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What pisses me off is that they could've been normal the whole time?! We could've stayed married, but nope. Sheez....
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 06:43 PM
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If there are no kids involved, you have been given a gift. You will be OK, I promise.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:23 PM
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Good for you bro. I mean it. Now stop sleeping with the EX. That's an order marine.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:19 PM
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Yep, 2 kids. Child support is calculated via state formulas. You can't touch the children in prenups.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 02:29 PM
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It is correct that if you intermingle ANY assets they become community property and hence subject to ass raping upon divorce. All your assets that you have BEFORE marriage are yours as long as you keep them yours. That seems obvious. And I had a prenup good sir that I paid a pretty penny for with legal consultation before I got married, so I have experience with that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 02:24 PM
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Dude, you don't have kids, you WILL recover. You need to start listening to some man empowering podcasts. Relationships where women out earn men are SERIOUSLY troubled.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 02:38 PM
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We feel you bro. Do you not have 50/50 custody? If not, why not?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 02:35 PM
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Many people think a prenup only protects assets you had BEFORE marriage. That's wrong. Your assets that you enter the marriage are already protected, it's for the assets you get AFTER you enter into the marriage is what a prenup protects. Which is the MOST important thing anyways! So much bad information out there!
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 02:30 PM
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NO!!! This is the time to get a prenup!!! A. Don't get married B. If you want to get married, have children via surrogacy so no one can take them from you, and then get a step mom with no rights to your children. C. GET A PRENUP D. DON'T comingle finances, this CAN'T be stressed enough. She can't take your money and put down a retainer on a lawyer on your dime. E. DON'T create community property. I am the only person I've met that ever had one and I do believe it kept her from trying any shenani…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 02:28 PM
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The best offense is a well planned defense: Prenup. That's how I kept the house.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 08:11 PM
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It only gets worse my friend. And having children with a woman like this is worse than hell.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:21 PM
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Absolutely!! All the pretty women living their best life on instagram. The biggest killer of joy is comparison.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:14 PM
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Bwahahahahahahahaha!! Yeah right...
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:13 PM
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Maybe "The Prince"
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:12 PM
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You only have one life to live and your woman should bring you peace. Eject this mess and get on gettin on. Ugh, be strong and move on brother. You have NO CHILDREN! You are blessed!!
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:08 PM
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There are advantages to filing first. And yes, lawyer up. This specific transaction will not come and bite you on the ass, your whole marriage will come bite you in the ass. It's going to hurt, but stay strong friend.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 06:06 PM
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The most useful tips I got from listening to man empowering podcasts. If you don't know where to start, I suggest Mark Sing. Also, read THE RATIONAL MALE by Rollo Tomassi. He is also very useful to listen to as well. This will point you in the correct way. Good luck and GOD SPEED.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 06:04 PM
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Forget women for now. You need to focus on you. You don't have kids, so you WILL recover. Block her ass and move on. You need to find your purpose in life. Consider surrogacy for children and then get a step mom that has ZERO rights to your children and then NO ONE can take them from you. Start listening to MAN empowering podcasts. You will be REBORN.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 06:02 PM
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Words of wisdom
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 04:11 PM
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As rampant as these crazy women are, we men have to take responsibility to not being good husbands as well. But I think MOST men want to make it work with MOST women. But that is not reciprocated as seen by the percentage of divorces that are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 05:41 PM
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I am not a lawyer, but what state are you in? Does she want 50/50? If she has 0% custody, then she has to pay YOU child support. If she wants ANY custody, she will likely, automatically, get 50/50 and since you make more, you will have to pay HER child support. There are online child support and alimony calculators for your state. And unless THE COURT sees her as unfit, she will get 50/50 custody. She would have to agree to give you 100% custody, and unless she's bat shit crazy, most mothers wan…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 05:32 PM
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Yeah, you are about to lose 1/2 of everything and she will get alimony for life. Steel yourself my man, this is going to hurt. But you will be reborn.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 03:09 PM
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Yeah, which state your are in might matter. But, are you ready for this? It's going to hurt. You are about to lose 1/2 of EVERYTHING. After 20 years, she is entitled to alimony for life (or until she marries some other schmuck), you will be paying for child support, you have NO say in how much custody she will have, but it will most likely be 50/50. She is entitled to 1/2 of the value of the house, which you will have to either pay her out or sell the house and split the proceeds. 1/2 of your re…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 02:53 PM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 08:12 PM
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Fuck yeah bro. Go get you some. And date another woman at the same time, I'd actually recommend dating 3 at the same time until YOU want to pick one.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 08:09 PM
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Yep, lawyer up, google divorce laws in your state, get ready for an ass raping. And then you have us. Good luck and God Speed.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 08:06 PM
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Preach brother. Men have been attacked and we are with you. Fuck this shit. There is a song I like, it's called "Fuck this shit, I'm out".
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 06:35 PM
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Niope, nope, nope. I didn't make it past "polyamorous". This is a recipe for disaster. Women always have it easier to get laid. She has you to come home to. Where is your father in all of this? Oh hell no.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 06:32 PM
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Well, I'm not indian nor a lawyer but, here in the US (california specifically), inheritance is NOT community property. Unless, of course, it is comingled purposely, foolishly.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 06:26 PM
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Yeah bro, fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:57 PM
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The trick here is that "she" needs to agree to the arrangement. Good for you for finding what works for you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:55 PM
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How about YOU stay in the house and SHE leaves.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:54 PM
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The red pill is NOT = hold on to grievances. It is a descriptor, it is trying to describe "what is". That's it!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 06:03 PM
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Yep, women want it a little bit more than men, but we both love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 05:57 PM
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Yep, we both do!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 05:53 PM
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Trans dude trying to date other dudes. That's a pretty big elephant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 05:49 PM
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I find that most will default to the mother with communication as well. And it has pissed me off too. After what I read here, sometimes I count myself lucky. My divorce cost me 1/2 my time with my boys and only $1 million dollars.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 05:11 PM
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Bwahahahahahahahaha! Great reply OP
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 05:09 PM
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Don't get married again. Date someone one close by so that you can live in separate residencies. Getting dates and getting laid was never easier. Go get you some king!
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 05:07 PM
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Mating strategy is why, they want to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:06 PM
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A married woman sounds like a headache.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:58 AM
2

Joint the club my man. We all feel like that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 11:07 PM
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Start Listening to man empowering dating podcasts. If you don't know where to start, start with Mark Sing. Search up "frame control" to start. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 11:06 PM
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You want to live with your head in the sand and you are absolutely in the right to do what you want to do is right. You want to ignore the statistics of marriage (subsequent marriages have an even HIGHER divorce rate). We get it. You do you bro. But you won't get a lot of sympathy when your marriages blow up again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 11:04 PM
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Then fucking leave my man. You will have time to gather all the finances later, just don't end up in jail!
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 10:53 PM
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If it's less than 10 years, you can usually get 1/2 of that time as alimony. In your case, you were married 4 years, you get 2 years. Lawyer up. ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 10:15 PM
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I googled it. Time to lawyer up, you may come out smelling like roses in this. AI Overview Yes, infidelity can significantly affect a divorce in Texas. While Texas is primarily a no-fault divorce state, it allows for fault-based divorces. If proven, adultery can directly impact three main aspects of your divorce settlement: [1, 2, 3, 4, 5] Property Division: Texas courts divide community property in a "just and right" manner. If a spouse successfully proves adultery, a judge may award the betray…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 10:15 PM
1

Do you have children with this succubus?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 09:10 PM
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There are states where if one of the spouses cheats, they don't get alimony. But from your comments, it looks like you will be getting alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 09:08 PM
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This is dumb. It's precisely Misandry that makes you cross the street. No one is more misogynist as a purplepill woman. Pig's fart.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:56 PM
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Nothing wrong with you brother. We get it. Its like if she gets together with a richer dude or a dude with a bigger dick. But what you should be feeling is indifference. You aren't with her anymore. You still need to heal from that scar.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 04:03 PM
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If you see 3 men alone walking towards you on the street you cross the street. If they are holding hands with women, you don't cross the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:53 PM
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Just like women help "tame" men, women are helped logically by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:54 PM
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Ha! TRP movement is not about thinking women are bad, we LOVE women! We love them SO MUCH, we are trying to learn about what it is THEY really want. That is TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:21 PM
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Feminism ruined dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:19 PM
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And I also had a 2 year stint with a smoking hot BPD woman that lit up every part of my emotions. I can still remember the intoxication decades later. BPD is the single WORST personality disorder. These people leave a wake of disaster in their WHOLE lives, you want nothing to do with them.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:17 PM
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You story sounds like a heart warming escape from a crazy woman. I think you are lucky friend.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:09 PM
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I'm ALL for vasectomies, but at the request of some succubus? Kiss my ass bitch. Just get the divorce and the vasectomy so that you can creampie 25 yo girls for days.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:04 PM
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Stay the course and get out man. This is a bad one. Be thankful there are no children involved.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:02 PM
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Just don't combine finances and get a prenup. Or, better yet, don't get married. But a good heads up non the less.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:33 PM
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You are getting a gift, there are no kids involved. Run man, this woman is a DISASTER.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:31 PM
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If there are no children involved, then it's warp speed to improvement.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:22 PM
3

Modify the MSA to say that child support is prorated on months you take the kids while she is getting her back blown out by the local NFL team.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:20 PM
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Troof
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:09 PM
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I don't think women aren't happier now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:40 PM
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This best time for dating has the west reproducing at our lowest. As it stands now, we are going to go extinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:35 PM
2

Block and move on. You have been given a gift.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 08:41 PM
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High value men don't move for women. It's the other way around. Yeah this hurts, we feel you brother. But you have been given a gift, you have no children. Now go be the best you, you can be and you will be fine. Start studying intersexual dynamics and female attraction.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 08:39 PM
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Marriage is a bad deal for a man. But we need each other and society has made it that divorce destroys men and families with no consequence to the person who initiates the divorce. It's stupid. Have kids out of a surrogate and get a step mom (don't let her adopt) and no one can take your kids from you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 08:36 PM
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Dayum, simping is real. Tax breaks? Shit, if she is not in your tax bracket, guess who pays for the extra tax?
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 08:34 PM
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Say it with me brother: BITCH!!!! And a shout out to Too Short: BIATCH!!! Do it again and feel the hate.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 08:06 PM
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Try taking some medications to help calm you down. I would suggest propranolol as it will keep your head straight. Many people will take it when they have to do public speaking. If that's not enough, you can switch to a benzodiazipine, but those might make you a little sleepy. And this might be a good place for therapy. If any group of men get it, we do. How about you take some initiative and have celebrations at your place? And fuck that bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 08:01 PM
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Lawyer up and YOU file for divorce today. You can start the paper work right now. You need to separate yourself from this succubus. Unfortunately you have a child so you will have to put up with her for the rest of your life. There are advantages to filing first, not least, it will start in your county. If I remember correctly, you will have to wait until the baby is born for the divorce to be finalized. I'd get a DNA test. If it's yours, you will have the right to 50/50 custody in California an…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 07:37 PM
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OMG, your divorce is manna from heaven, no kids. You will be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 07:27 PM
1

What's the opposite of love? Its not hate, its apathy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 07:24 PM
1

Restraining order
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 05:57 PM
1

If there are no kids involved, I'd leave the damn country. Come take it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 05:48 PM
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Troof
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 05:48 PM
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Straight theft. And the state is the muscle. One of the many reasons marriage is discouraged in the west.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 05:48 PM
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Good for you. Now a cautionary tale. It's very common when you start dating after divorce and don't beat yourself up too much for it. The first time you feel some affection and intimacy, you will be intoxicated. You will realize that you needed some affection for SO LONG. It's great, enjoy it. This will implode. Female psychology just can't deal with the affection that you will want to reciprocate and it will explode in your face. I'm sorry to break it to you, but just read about the first relat…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 03:45 AM
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Start listening to man empowering dating podcasts and HIRE A DATING coach. There is SO MUCH men need to learn about attraction that we just don't know. And for some reason, it's taboo to talk about in the US. If you don't know where to start, Mark Sing, The Whatever podcast and Fresh and Fit. Be yourself, is crap. Being yourself brought you here, you want different outcomes, you need different tactics. After my divorce, I could not believe how much sex I was getting. Probably my biggest actual p…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 03:37 AM
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Where are you hearing about what the ex is saying? Fuck her? So what? Are you following her on Insta or FB? Dude, block.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 03:31 AM
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This and my GOD DAMN prenup. I stroked that prenup EVERY night until the MSA was signed by the judge.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 03:13 AM
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LOL
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 03:10 AM
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Bro....really? Follow legal advice and GTFO are you kidding me?
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 03:07 AM
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Ok, I'll say it. Why didn't you go say good night? Why didn't you tell her you two were going on a date? Why didn't you suggest watching a movie together? I mean I get it if you both hate each other, but because these thoughts were on your mind, it means you care somehow.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 03:04 AM
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3.5 years of alimony at least.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:59 AM
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You need to start studying intersexual dynamics, like YESTERDAY. You need to get your balls back to have a chance at fixing your marriage, and it's worth it. Your kids deserve to see how a man behaves in a relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:53 AM
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Men should have to sit in divorce court for 1/2 a day before and see the paperwork needed for a divorce BEFORE marrying. There should be a "Miranda rights" told to the man before he can marry and there should be a waiting period as well. You have a right to NOT marry this woman, there are MANY other women out there. 1/2 of your wealth can, and will, be taken from you. You will loose, at minimum, 50% of your time with your children. 80% of divorces are initiated by women. Divorce needs ZERO reaso…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:38 AM
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Truth.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:30 AM
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Nope, you are wrong here mountain. The details ABSOLUTELY do matter.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:29 AM
1

Damn. Just awful. The west has done QUITE a number on marriage. Its made women (and men) that being in a marriage is NOT the MOST important thing a person can do and that it is NOT worth EVERYTHING to keep it together.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:24 AM
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I couldn't care ANY less what the old, fat, hag is up to now as long as my kids are safe when they are with it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:21 AM
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Dude, it's time to start building some boundaries. Are you still married to this succubus?
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:19 AM
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Start listening to man empowering podcasts, start working on yourself, go to the gym and be the best you, you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:16 AM
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Bro.....
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:15 AM
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Sucks man. A woman not having sex with her man is the equivalent to the man not letting the woman have a home. Terrible. Here's the good news: Start listening to man empowering podcasts, and when you are ready, start dating MULTIPLE women and you will have more sex than you ever thought possible.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:14 AM
2

OMG, I think I'm going to go look to satisfy my masochistic tendencies! LOL
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 01:50 AM
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Other than this, sub Reddit, reddit is a feminist cess pool seething with liberal, touchy feely crap. Rule number 3 has to change though. It should say "Easy on the R _ d P_ _ l"
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 01:49 AM
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And, yes, great book.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 01:09 AM
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The Rational Male had some uncomfortable truths and put to paper some things that I'd never heard of before, like "spinning plates". It changed my dating life. The most uncomfortable truth I read was (and I'm paraphrasing): No woman will love me, completely, the way I want to be loved, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 01:03 AM
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You are the classic "Nice Guy". Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy". You have described him to a tee. And you are the cautionary tale of not marrying again and certainly NOT to a single mother.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 06:35 PM
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Its because she doesn't care. She is more important than the family unit. Classic chick move. Be thankful you aren't getting the "silver bullet" divorce. That sounds terrible. But it's terrible and we, more than anyone, understand brother. It will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 06:32 PM
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Don't do a week, do a 5,2,2,5 arrangement. It's been 2.5 years since I kicked her ass outta my house, and it's gotten slightly better. I get so fucking productive on the days I don't have my kids, but I do miss them. I tackle my to do list, hit the gym, get my boat ready for summer, give my model airplanes some love, etc... Why don't you take this time to learn about human sexuality, intersexual dynamics, evolutionary psychology, etc? We humans have NO clue about what attracts each other.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 08:12 PM
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Hear this my friend. You will get hammered and you will likely loose most of your cash and very likely, your house. I don't think, "low-cost" attorneys and (most of) california go together. My divorce cost me $1,000,000. I'm lucky I had it. And I'm still paying for it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 08:00 PM
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The revolution is already happening. It starts, and finishes, inside every man. I'm sorry it took me a divorce to really see it in me.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 07:53 PM
1

ChatGPT it
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 10:27 PM
1

There are two rules to Dating now. Ghosting IS the rule, everything else is an accident. Grow thick ass skin.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 10:19 PM
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Arranged marriages have the least divorce rates. So by any measure, happiness, satisfaction, blah, blah, blah, the family stays TOGETHER.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:11 PM
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Learning about #3 on the rules for this sub Listening to some incredible Man Empowering Podcasts Doing what I want when I want I did struggle with a bit of loneliness at first, but it's never been easier to get women Having sex with many beautiful women Finally start traveling again Not dreading going home Sleeping in my own bed again
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 09:47 PM
0

You're right. Your wife has the right to leave, what sounds to me, a good man who had a duty to his family. I bid you a good night good sir.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 08:23 PM
1

My man, EVERY man thinks this. There must be, at least, a kernel of truth to it. I'm sorry it's happening to you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 08:15 PM
1

Yep, I take longer hours and call. When i'm home, I also put on a movie or something in the back ground to "keep me company." I go to my girlfriends house and do some chores for her, I do ANYTHING that I need to do around my house and my toys. I listen to A LOT of man empowering pod casts and youtube. Richard Cooper, Kevin Samuel, The Whatever podcasts, Andrew Wilson, Jordan Peterson, etc... I think EVERY man needs to understand and study intersexual dynamics. Our commitment is the single most i…
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 08:13 PM
1

Yes, your son needs his dad. More power to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 08:07 PM
2

Take note of how long it takes to get over heartache. Now you will know how long this lasts. For me, most heart ache took about 3 months to get over. This too shall pass. And it's chest day pussy. Hit the gym. Go look at some chicks in yoga pants while pushing heavy weights.
/r/MensRights20/05/26 07:21 PM
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You win.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 07:15 PM
2

I'm not sure if its any consolation, but gay (men) marriages have among the lowest divorce rates. Too bad you couldn't figure it out. Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 06:58 PM
1

This is true. But the 50 yo man can pay for 10 21 yo women to come on his yacht.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:43 PM
1

50 yo men have WAY higher SMV that 50 yo women. Sowy to break it to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:26 PM
1

Hey guess what, work takes time. And with time, comes age. Q.E.D.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:24 PM
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Most men (and def women) have no idea about intersexual dynamics. We are all just trying to learn from failure. That is why the red pill movement is so important. It lets us learn from other people what "is".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:11 PM
1

Brooooooo.....
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 06:06 PM
4

Why do you think divorces are like 80% initiated by women? Women have turned men into what they hate. Its fucking terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 05:43 PM
2

Open your mind my friend. Look for the good among what ever is coming your way. There are a TON of men trying to help other men out there. Just because you don't like the message or you want to tone police, doesn't make it nonsense. Thank GOD for men helping men.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:37 PM
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OMG this. Bro.....
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:35 PM
3

Worried-net posted about the double standard of cheating. The women, who happened to be lesbian and cheating on each other, were praised. If Men cheat, they are vilified. And the cheating rate is like 48% F and 50% M, so it's not too far off sister.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:29 PM
1

This is the way. And we all feel for you brother. How we fall for these crazy bitches is, well, maddening.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:26 PM
1

Yeah dude, GTFO with this. Sexism is REAL. Men have been getting shit on for decades. When we finally say "enough", its misogyny. Sorry bro, no SIMP will go unpunished.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:51 PM
2

Reread what was written. You didn't get it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:47 PM
1

Yep. Men sacrifice their happiness for their families. Women sacrifice their family for their happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:45 PM
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What "same thing"? Her beautiful life with her family with a husband? That's terrible? NO dude, you have gaslit yourself. What does "happy" have ANYTHING to do with a family? Its about duty and commitment and PEACE. Men sacrifice their happiness for their family. Women sacrifice their family for their happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:43 PM
1

This
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:33 PM
2

Ack! LOL
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:32 PM
4

This is mostly true, but owning the fact that you, as a man, are made to smash. And, like, a lot. It's ok to be a sexual being. That's what we were placed on this earth to do.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 03:42 PM
2

You need to try women in other countries where femineity is still valued. If I ever get single again, it's going to be eastern europe for me.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 03:40 PM
6

I had a sex worker hit me with "I'm cheaper than bringing your girlfriend here" when I was in Honolulu. I couldn't argue with the logic. Bangkok is the shit gentlemen.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 03:38 PM
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Start listening to Man empowering dating podcasts and actually do the work. THAT is more important than anything else. Life is a balance. Yes, I make high 6 figures and money is usually not even a worry, and dating was never easier. But dating got easier when I cared less. If you don't know who to listen to I recommend Mark Sing, Rich Cooper and Kevin Samuels as a start.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 03:35 PM
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I agree. And shame is a good thing. If shame causes people to change into better behavior, then how can it be a bad thing. The internet has changed dating. Rich dudes in dubai can now reach women in wichita, kansas. This was never possible before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:42 PM
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This is the same as shaming women for being fat, old, etc... It is what it is. Female hypergamy is part of the "game". Men have to learn how to move in this game.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:32 PM
1

Your relationship sounds like a dream for many of us. I would have killed to have a livable roommate as a wife.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 03:23 PM
1

She's pregnant? You are cooked.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 03:22 PM
2

If there are no kids, you are lucky. Blessed. Get alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 11:49 PM
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Having kids only increases stress and conflict. Can people change? Of course, for the worse. Get the FUCK out now before kids. Don't have kids!
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 11:46 PM
1

Was being a "roomate" even possible? Would she have stayed under the same roof as you?
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 11:39 PM
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The lawyers are salivating over your equity. I'd be getting ready to sell that house. I'd venture that you will get 1/2 of the equity you think you will get. I'm sorry bro. This is going to hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 11:31 PM
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This is called hypergamy. Very will described throughout all intersex dynamic spaces. Women are biologically hard wired to be hypergamous. They need to get the best provider for them and their offspring. Women are the vulnerable sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:12 PM
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That is why there is the redpill community to help open people's eyes. Specifically men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:08 PM
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Primary, all day long. Losing my kids was the worst part. Children that are raised by their fathers fair pretty close to 2 parent households. Children raised by single mothers have some of the worst outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:06 PM
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Both men and women should be worried. Every woman in the US is, on average, having 1.67 children. Guess what, that's below replacement. Take a look at South Korea's birth rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:51 PM
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As much as I hate therapy, there might be a case here. As for dating, start listening to man empowering dating podcasts and date MULTIPLE people at the same time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 05:41 PM
1

Yep. There is a difference in what is expected behavior from men and women. What a woman brings to a relationship is ethereal, while what a man brings is also ethereal, he also brings money, which is easy to quantify. That's why courts can take a man's money but NOTHING of a woman brings to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:31 PM
1

Good for you for trying, if for nothing else, for your children.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 05:24 PM
2

I hear you. I had to put the ex on block the other day.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 07:49 PM
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Yes, lots of sex. "Spinning plates" was the key for me. Dating multiple women and coming from an abundance mindset. There is no "the one", there are many "ones".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:01 PM
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Yes, that is hard. This is going to hurt for a bit longer. You've been married before so you know you will get better. With the children, this woman will be in your life FOREVER. Grey rock and minimal contact from here on out. Lawyer up and be prepared. As you already know, she is now the enemy. You are at war, treat it as such.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 05:55 PM
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The reason the woman starts losing interest IS because the man is already too much emotionally invested. And the OP is correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:03 PM
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Yes, that's right. That is the hand men have been dealt. Men need to learn to work with what we've got. Men have to learn to use what ever advantage they can to secure mating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:00 PM
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You have not children. That miscarriage was a gift from heaven. You are ONLY losing money. You will make MORE. Read about the "The Silver Bullet Divorce". THAT is hell my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:53 PM
1

Why are talking to here about ANYTHING other than the kids? You are shooting yourself in the foot.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:50 PM
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Talk to your children and tell them that YOU want to hear from them and that YOUR calls are blocked, and likely by mom. The truth shall set you free.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:45 PM
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This is the way. You are blessed that you don't have children. This TOO shall pass good friend. Start listening to some man empowering podcasts. I can suggest Mark Sing, Jordan Peterson, Andrew Tate, Kevin Samuels (RIP), Orion Taraban, The Rational Male, The Whatever Podcast, Fresh and Fit, Myron Gaines. Just to start. Take this time to learn the things we should've known about interpersonal relationships before we got into this mess. Learn what makes women tick and what makes men tick so you ca…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:43 PM
1

Sounds like your situation isn't so bad then. Why can't you work it out with the wife?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:37 PM
1

Does she like to go to bars/dinners? When she is leaving the bar, call 911 and report a drunk driver. When she gets her DUI you can have custody of the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:32 PM
3

This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:30 PM
6

Then rely on your lawyer. Many would say you are lucky not having to communicate with the succubus.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:29 PM
11

Take care of your kids and fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 04:28 PM
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What ever you do, don't fucking get married again. EVER. You don't want relationships? Good, focus on yourself. Get a new hobby, learn all you can about your kid's soccer league, plan a vacation with your kids. Women and west have tried to destroy masculinity and marriage. Yes, it's all fucked up, so what, move on, the world needs MEN dammit.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 03:22 PM
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Start listening to man empowering podcasts, take a class at a junior college, take up radio controlled airplanes, start focusing back on yourself. There are billions of women out there, she wasn't, and certainly isn't special. You are special.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 03:19 PM
3

Are there no children? If there aren't, you are blessed. This too shall pass.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:28 PM
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Nope, nope, nope. Hell no. You've already been "pressured" into divorce. A woman in your life is meant to bring you THREE things: Peace Peace Pussy Do you want more kids? If so, I suggest surrogacy. Do not involve any more women in your financial future.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:23 PM
2

dating over 40 sub is a misandrist cesspool of liberal man hating shit show. Askmenforadvice I think may be better.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 01:00 AM
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Child support is bullshit. I support my children when they are with me, not forced away from me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 12:16 AM
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Cry me a river bro. Women don't want you the way you are. Men need to realize that women don't owe you shit. Men MAKE their own success. Start listening to man empowering dating podcasts and start doing the work to BETTER yourself. Men don't get handed shit. There are no handouts, ESPECIALLY, women. You have to WORK to maximize your attractiveness if you want to attract. THAT'S why you have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:09 AM
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It means you have to maximize YOUR attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:59 PM
1

100%. I shouldn't have married the ex.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 11:55 PM
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Looks like there are no kids involved. BELIEVE ME, you are blessed. This too shall pass, I promise.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 03:42 PM
1

Not if she's killing your purpose
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 02:54 PM
3

Frame Control. Many of us men lose it in our marriages for the sake of "keeping the peace". I also made the same mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 07:30 PM
1

If there are no kids, you are blessed.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 07:15 PM
9

I am 100% at fault. I shouldn't have married her ass in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 06:54 PM
5

Since she makes more, she needs to be paying for your Lawyer. And you can come back next year and sue her for increased child support. And she pays for the lawyer then too. Equality is what they wanted, and so they should get.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 06:52 PM
3

Troof bro
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 04:33 AM
4

You’d have to rekindle a fire on me like the Buddhist monks in Vietnam. That would just about do it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 04:33 AM
1

Keep dating other women. It will keep your head straight.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 08:01 PM
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TL:DR But this is the cautionary tale of the first romance after divorce. You get intoxicated by the first amount of intimacy you've had in decades sometimes and you do all the dumb mistakes and get your heart broken as an old ass man.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 03:04 PM
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This is the way. She probably got pumped and dumped and is reaching for you. Nah bro.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 03:01 PM
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You NEED to move on bro. For you. Fuck her, for you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 02:56 PM
1

This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 04:05 PM
5

I asked every person I knew that was divorced about what they regretted about their divorce. 100% response rate was: That they didn't divorce sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 04:02 PM
4

Mine was pretty straight forward, only took 6 months and it cost me $1,000,000
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 03:56 PM
6

If you have no children you are blessed. You will be fine. You will make it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:57 PM
0

Men should absolutely put themselves in situations where they pay for everything. Women should absolutely put themselves in situations where they give everything a man that can pay for everything wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:58 PM
1

You can ask my girlfriends and my ex wife. I have NO problem getting women. I am a high value man (even in the way Kevin Samuels defines high value) and I "think" I've found a high value woman in my current girlfriend. There are TONS of women who want to be with my mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:42 PM
2

The dating scene is a dumpster fire out here. It doesn't sound like you have a high conflict marriage. The grass is greener where you tend to it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 08:21 PM
1

29 years married? And you aren't "happy"? What are you a woman? Before I judge even more, are there any children?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 07:40 PM
1

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Then "the rational male" by Rollo Tomassi.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 06:59 PM
1

Nope. Nope. Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 06:58 PM
3

Sounds like borderline personality disorder. Consider yourself lucky for getting out.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 05:47 PM
1

OH HELL NO. This is some woman shit right here. We men would've KILLED for a cooperative woman. You are out of your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 05:32 PM
1

So she doesn't physically steal them. I'd change the locks on the doors too.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 05:24 PM
2

McDonald's and Wal-Mart are hiring RIGHT NOW. Why worry about CS? Don't tell the ex. Take a class at the Junior College.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:54 PM
1

Learn your lesson already and don't get married again. And you already know you can survive a divorce, you'll survive this one. Start working on yourself and be better. Fuck her and fuck as many women as you can now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:46 PM
5

Get another job and stop vaping. Your kids need their father.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:40 PM
1

Surrogacy for children and then get a step mom. Marriage is bad deal for men.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:23 PM
2

Yes, $495 is just the beginning of the ass raping you are about to get. Yes, Lawyer up. If you make $78k, $3k sounds like too much for child support. There are online calculators. She may try to go for alimony for 1.5 years too. Sorry bro, but get this behind you as soon as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:17 PM
1

Thank your lucky starts you don't have children. Damn lucky.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:07 PM
0

Ok, wait. What the fuck do "feelings" have to do with anything? I will allow the "feels" if there are no kids involved, if there are, fuck your feelings. Fix yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 03:19 PM
1

That "exactly" what In-Cel means. Geez
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:05 PM
1

This. How men get married w/o prenups is crazy to me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 03:04 PM
1

How about escorts? Not kidding.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 03:03 PM
1

Surrogacy for men.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 02:59 PM
1

Every woman looses her mind at menarche bro.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 02:58 PM
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Yep, the mods did not "approve" of my thread that men bring actual, tangible value and not women. That is why divorce courts are only able to "split" the assets that the man paid for. Divorce courts can't "split" what ever it is that women bring to a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 02:56 PM
2

Yes, he is
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 02:54 PM
1

Certainly Might Makes. Right or not, I suppose it's for the victor to interpret. I also think it's funny that you put in the caveat that Frederica finds having to sleep with Cedric as "boring and unfulfilling". What do you think Cedric feels doing all the hard labor around the island for Federica? Its all work. Men have to work and so do women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 02:41 PM
2

Misandry is the new norm. It's so normal, most people don't even know there is a name for the normal behavior. Terrible really.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:53 PM
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This is asking the world to be different. Don't ask the world to be different, be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:36 PM
2

Women have always been the gatekeepers to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:22 PM
1

Hard times aren't what anyone wants, hence the pressure on men to be strong men = "comphet" for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:20 PM
1

Cedric. Basic economics. I have something you want, you have something I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:15 PM
2

Nice guys finish last.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:12 PM
1

Hard times make strong men. Strong men make good times. Good times make weak men. Weak men bring hard times.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 06:31 PM
2

I triped before the divorce. I say do it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:22 PM
2

Continue to suffer with multiple women at the same time until you find one YOU like. The odds are good but the goods are odd. This is post divorce life.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:20 PM
1

Look, if you can save your marriage, do it. That said, every. single. person. that I asked what they regretted about divorce was that they didn't do it sooner. So there's that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:37 PM
3

When they tell you something, believe them. You will be fucked, but you will be fucked worse the longer you stay.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:29 PM
3

Start listening to man empowering dating pod casts. I suggest Mark Sing. He gives actual advice on what to say, do and move. Try it! You have nothing to lose.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:28 PM
2

You shouldn't have signed that shit.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:25 PM
1

So what.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:24 PM
1

Yay
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:22 PM
2

How many women attack men in this way? How often are the women getting restraining orders? One man understandably looses hit shit verbally and he's an asshole? That said, we are the men, we lead and we keep our cools.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:19 PM
4

Lawyer up. And go to the police too.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:00 PM
11

Preach brother. Go read the women's divorce section and see what we men are fucking dealing with. We are cooked.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:58 PM
5

This. All day long.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:54 PM
3

What a mess indeed. WTF is the dude thinking, he's going to invite you to the BBQ. GTFO with that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:53 PM
3

If there are no kids, you NEED to thank your lucky stars. After its all settled, BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK bro.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:51 PM
6

Listen to all the reality pod casts, MOST women want the top 10% of men. Its the truth brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 07:09 PM
1

So why do men gauge women in their 20's as most attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 07:06 PM
0

So why do women file for divorce 80-90% of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 07:04 PM
5

You'll need to ask a lawyer, but during separation, I believe no community property is formed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 06:03 PM
1

NICE!
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 01:19 AM
3

That I am FUCKING WAY better without a nagging, angry woman who could not see how good her life was with me.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:12 AM
1

Lawyer your dad up bro. But maybe have him sell it to you before anything happens sounds like a good idea to me. If a judge balks, I'd say something to the effect that the home is a family heirloom and hence going to you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:11 AM
2

High value men have always had other women. Hence the terms concubines, harem, etc.... I am FUCKING proud of him for telling her to fuck off.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:09 AM
1

Damn fine reply.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 08:27 PM
1

Divorce is a ZERO out of TEN would recommend. Being disrespected in front of my children is a hard stop and will not be tolerated, She is told ONCE to stop or I stop it. If you need to get laid, don't do it, but if you do, do it discreetly. If he is willing to change his attitude, she HAS to change hers.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 08:25 PM
1

R P isn't incel, quite the opposite in fact. Look into it. If you want different outcomes, you need to try different things.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 08:18 PM
1

Look on the right side of this forum and look at the rules. Look at rule #3 and research what that is about.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 07:28 PM
1

24?! You are a baby! You will be fine. Be grateful there are no children.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 04:32 PM
9

Research rule #3 and have your eyes open. It's never been easier to get laid.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 03:52 PM
1

Con trails from airplanes? Con trails = Condensation trails. As the jets burn their jet fuel, the left over reactants, roughly, are CO2 and H2O. You see the H2O as it condensates at altitude.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 11:10 PM
1

Yes, the trying to control, even now. Go fuck yourself. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 07:11 PM
1

Yep, the pressures of being a man. But if you don't step up and level up, you stay alone. Gotta put in the work bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:03 PM
1

Are you really this dense? WOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:20 PM
1

Great point!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:19 PM
2

Nothing hotter than a woman going to work and making more money than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:15 PM
1

Ok, you can fix the toilet plumbing when it breaks and I'll wash the dishes. You can climb on the roof and I'll vacuum. You can dig up the concrete to fix the leak somewhere underground in the backyard and I'll scrub the toilets. You got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:14 PM
2

This
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:42 PM
3

35?! You are a young man and have a whole long life in front of you! And how could she hurt you financially that much from a 6 month marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:36 PM
9

Bro.....
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:33 PM
4

Grey rock and keeping all texts to an absolute minimum is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 05:27 PM
-4

Education is a feminized, DEI, HR ridden cesspool. Only the hard sciences have been spared, thankfully, because most women don't like them and they can't cut it. Men have to go out into the world and do the hard jobs that women don't want and can't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:41 PM
-1

Yes, trying to feminize them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:38 PM
1

Yep, quotas are insane. You called it out yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:38 PM
1

And fathers are 90% the bigger money maker. So what.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:29 PM
1

This is a message that was lost and finally MEN (who are at the MOST risk of losing financially) are hearing the message. I certainly did not hear this or know this before I got married. But I had the foresight to get a prenup at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:27 PM
6

You nailed it. Exceptions are exceptions and exceptions PROVE the rule. Party girls get guys because they are HOT, generally speaking. A homebody HOT girl is an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:22 PM
6

You are entering dangerous territory and don't know it, so I will warn you. You are going to feel some intimacy and real interest, the first that you have felt in probably years. It will intoxicate you. And this relationship will likely fail because you will do all the SIMP things and push her away. And it will be fun at first, and then it will hurt more than your divorce. Start researching about rule #3 over there on the forum rules to give yourself a chance. Good luck brother! The world needs …
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 03:10 PM
2

Yes, I have felt this too. The destruction of what I envisioned for myself. It is a new problem to conquer and overcome. We are men, we get up and fight.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 03:07 PM
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A generalization is by definition not absolute. It makes room for the exception, by definition. And the exception is THE exception that proves the rule. Here is a generalization: Most people are awake in the daytime. Do you agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:55 PM
1

Dude, a father dies on the hill of the most time with their children.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 03:48 AM
2

You are communicating too much. You are killing yourself. Take a pic of the IRS bill, send it, say "IRS says you owe 1/2". Done. Now, pay your 1/2 and send a copy of your MSA where it says she pays 1/2 and let them go after her. Oh and give the IRS her address and phone number.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 03:26 AM
1

This kinda sounds pretty much RP adjacent
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:07 AM
1

Are generalizations valid?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:59 PM
1

Are generalizations valid? And I'm sure John Hopkins is a pretty respectable source: https://publichealth.jhu.edu/2026/is-the-us-birth-rate-declining
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 12:41 AM
0

My god, what absolute drivel.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:34 PM
1

Go look at the feminist pages and decide for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:28 PM
1

The feminist spaces on REDDIT are the worst. Misandry runs rampant. Reddit is a cesspool of leftists who can take any criticism. Any criticism of women is automatically looked at as misogyny. But it's ok to criticize men ad infinitum without restraint. Terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:27 PM
1

No way in hell would I choose a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:23 PM
1

You, good sir, are a voice of reason. This person doesn't deserve the thoughtful responses you are giving.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:22 PM
1

This is asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:21 PM
1

"What many women see as beneficial to our survival is independence, fair treatment, and the ability to choose our own life path" I get that this is what feminism wants, but it's not working. The birth rates are below replacement, marriage rates are in the trash, divorce rates are through the roof. TRP is trying to make sense of intersexual dynamics. THAT'S IT. Nothing more, nothing less. OP, are generalizations valid?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:18 PM
1

Let me fix it for you, you want men who you aren't attracted to to NOT talk about sexual stuff up front.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:13 PM
1

High value men want women that are fit, feminine and cooperative. We will find them where ever they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:10 PM
1

But, but,,,,but the patriarchy!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:09 PM
6

Good for men. Go slay kings!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:06 PM
1

To what button are you insisting on good sir?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 10:04 PM
1

I never had so much sex and women around me since I discovered it. I'm ANYTHING BUT lonely. I am in control of my future. I control MYSELF. This is the magic.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:59 PM
1

Preach brother.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:58 PM
0

The "anti-blue pill" movement is absolutely NOT about victimization. Its exactly the opposite. It is not toxic and EVERY man should now about it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:57 PM
1

Oh, and you have us brother. Stay strong, the world needs men.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:40 PM
3

Yes. The world doesn't care about men's issues. Look up what rule #3 says about and start reading and listening. You will have your eyes opened and you will be a better man for it. You will see "the game" for what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:40 PM
1

It just showing the hypocrisy. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:35 PM
1

Tell that last part to your kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:29 PM
3

Damn, another "silver bullet" divorce. Read about it in this subreddit my man. God speed and stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 09:27 PM
1

8 months? Try 2 years.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 08:50 PM
1

My good man. This is going to hurt. But I will preface it by saying YOU. WILL. BE. OK. You are going to take a royal financial and emotional beating. Like you will be dollars away from living in your car unless you are a high earner. You will miss your kids when they aren't with you. But you will beam with joy when they come home to you. Do not take an inch below 50/50 custody and I mean not an inch. Die on that singular hill. All else is negotiable and rebuildable. How men enter into marriage t…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 08:48 PM
1

What the fuck man. Where is the 50/50? What state are you in?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 08:44 PM
1

Dayum. A cautionary tale about "staying together for the kids" crap.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 08:42 PM
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Time to go. Consider yourself lucky that you will be able to PERMANENTLY never see this person again.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 08:41 PM
1

This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 08:36 PM
2

TL;DR That nit picking will drive you insane. But get out. It only gets worse and you don't have children.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 08:14 PM
1

There it is. Misandry at it's finest folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 05:37 PM
1

I agree with this sentiment. When I'd go on ANY date, I am taking myself out. If the person I'm with is coming along, good for her. And I'm paying. And I think it's funny that the OP is bringing up the hours spent getting ready and using "expensive" products. How many hours working to buy my Lamborghini do you think it took me? How about my yacht? LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 05:35 PM
2

Take PREP and Acyclivir prophylactically. Bacterial infections are easily curable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 05:02 PM
-2

There shouldn't be a war. We need each other. We have gotten so far away from this and really it's feminism that started it. And we men need to stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 04:02 PM
1

This is called a "shit test". Very well described in TRP community. And you MUST not back down or she will lose respect and attraction for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:53 PM
4

Perfectly clear. Don't use "no contact" for the purpose of reconnecting. Use "no contact" to move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:51 PM
1

Preach brother!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:49 PM
2

Correct. And we need more of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:46 PM
2

You are a woman so you can't understand that men live in a hierarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:07 PM
1

Ok, I'm the prize. Not you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:05 PM
0

I agree that love is a choice. And you have a duty to commit to your choice. So choose wisely. And stick to it to make it work. This is why divorce rate are sky high and marriage rates are at their lowest. This stupid society of ours telling us we don't need each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:04 PM
1

I need to be happy!! Men give up their happiness for their families and women give up their families for their happiness. GTFO
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:02 PM
2

But you NEED your children don't you? Got you! Ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:00 PM
2

This is asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:59 PM
3

Of course hot men are better, they are THE embodiment red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:57 PM
7

Ha! This is funny! “I’m only attracted to hot guys! Fuck those mid guys!”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:47 PM
2

Absolutely! Women are THE worst at telling men what women want. “Be nice” “Be yourself” it’s crap just absolute crap. Now, there “might” be some utility to speaking with women after you’re in a relationship. But short of that, women are the worst at telling you what attracts them to men. You have to see what women do to determine what attraction is. Other men are the best for dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:41 PM
-10

Doesn’t mean they’re not lonely. And it that loneliness usually occurs once society doesn’t have any need for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:23 PM
4

Unfortunately, no man is an island. But yes, there is a reason MGTOW exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:21 PM
-5

What’s missing, and is the terrible part, is that with need, it implies a duty, a commitment to make something work. With wants come whims. What happens if I don’t want someone anymore? Fuck them right? It’s about me, me, me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:12 PM
0

That’s the greatest thing about TRP movement: it’s tried to describe things about intersexual dynamics that just weren’t described before.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:01 PM
5

Men and women want different things by definition as a general rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:57 PM
1

As an ode to the GOAT Kevin Samuels: Men want a feminine, fit and cooperative woman. All those things you say fall under “cooperative”. And yes, men do want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:56 PM
-9

Life will put them in their place. When they “wake up”, “hit the wall” or whatever else it’s called, those disagreeable women will die alone and unwanted. Terrible place for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:44 PM
-15

This gentleman is what the west has sold our women: they don’t need you, they want you. Fucking terrible. Men need women, period. Women need men, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:41 PM
-4

Healthcare is an easy pathway for women. Doctors are still majority men, but that is changing. HR’s have taken over medicine so much, that medicine is all touchy feely now. And nurses take orders from doctors. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:36 PM
-1

Feminism has pushed women to become the men they want so that they don’t need men. Men don’t want that shit. We men are the prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:33 PM
2

Your second point is WAY off. That the way to end up in the F-Zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:00 AM
1

Best way to get laid, become a feminist beta cuck
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:34 PM
2

God bless you son.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:45 PM
1

Yep, the first year after divorce, I discovered the manosphere. What a god send. I've never been laid so much in my life. A specific example was a chick with a Bernie Sanders tatoo, I wanted to show her she still wanted a masculine man. And it worked. She was part of 3 women I was dating at the same time, ie "spinning plates".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:44 PM
1

Just because people do, doesn't mean they should. Certainly childless men should not date single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:37 PM
1

That's what traditional marriage does. There are roles the man plays and there are roles the woman plays.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:15 PM
1

Close to zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:13 PM
1

Troof.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:12 PM
0

What's the value? over 1/2 end up in divorce, the legacy wealth for the children are wasted by the court systems, women are incentivized to leave, no fault divorces... Marriage is a con.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:11 PM
-1

Lesbians have the highest divorce rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:08 PM
1

This is EXACTLEY what the modern divorce laws have done.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:29 PM
1

What about if 1/2 of the drivers caused accidents? Then what do you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:27 PM
2

This, all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:26 PM
1

yep, form a legal contract that is in YOUR favor, not what the state DEEMS is favorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:24 PM
1

Look up durable power of attorney
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:52 PM
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You, dear OP, are red pilled. You speak the truth. As men, you get what you work for. Women are born with their inherent value.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:43 PM
1

Yep. All true. The trick is being "that guy" in as many scenarios as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:50 PM
-1

Men want to get laid. Period. We want to continue to have access to pussy, so we pay for it. We are simps. Some more than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:42 PM
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I wonder if there are any modern day conflicts going on with 50% women fighting.... Nope. Ask the poor bastards in Ukraine and Iran if 50% of them are women. Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:38 PM
1

Insightful. Have you considered debate in your future?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:01 AM
-2

So you agree, abortion IS legal INSIDE the USA. Good, I'm glad we got that cleared up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:00 AM
1

Ofcourse, and men that don't want pregnancies shouldn't have to support them either. Just like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:59 AM
0

GOT DAMN!! DING DING DING! You get it girl. Shit, there maybe hope for society yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:58 AM
1

The law compensates???!!! You mean makes it unfair to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:56 AM
1

Nope, people have to take their BODIES to a job and then money magically appears. There is a step, just before, money magically appears in my universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:55 AM
0

And women HAVE the ONLY choice if their bodies CAN have children. This is THE difference. OMG. Women have it BOTH ways with THEIR BODIES. Men DO NOT.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:54 AM
1

You must not be from the USA. Here judges and dudes with guns (ie the police) will throw a man in jail for not paying support even though he did not choose to want the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:53 AM
-6

A woman has a choice over her own body TO NOT have a child. Women AND men have no choice over whether men CAN NOT have a child. Only a woman can choose if her OWN BODY CAN have a child. Do you see the difference. Women have MORE CHOICE and hence MORE autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:51 AM
0

OMG, people read the argument: I am arguing the NEGATIVE.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:48 AM
-2

Dude, can MOST chicks fight in war?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:47 AM
0

Good, cogent argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:46 AM
1

Do what men have always done, solve the problem of having people raise those kids while we do the brunt of keeping the world working.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:46 AM
5

Has congress ever voted for the draft to start? Have there ever been women in congress when this occurred? Only congress can declare war BTW. I'll wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:43 AM
-3

Is abortion legal inside the UNITED states of america?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:42 AM
2

OMG, I am arguing the NEGATIVE. Women can choose if THEIR OWN BODIES DO NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:41 AM
1

Quite the opposite in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:39 AM
1

Money magically appears in your world?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:38 AM
-2

Conservatives know that conscription IS necessary. And they can point to the discrepancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:37 AM
1

YES!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:36 AM
1

When my body gets thrown in jail for not producing money for child support, my body sure is affected plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:36 AM
0

Correct, had I known about surrogacy, I would've chosen that route and then get a step mom. Easy peezy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:35 AM
3

The mother CHOOSES to have the baby. Not the man. Or The mother CHOOSES to abort the baby. Not the man. Do you see the double standard? Women have more choice than men. Do you get it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:34 AM
-2

"only some places" = it's legal IN the USA QED
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:32 AM
-1

Society as we know it will change. Men want to have sex with women. Not necessarily have children with them. If I could take my ex out of the picture without harming my children I'd do it in a heartbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:31 AM
-5

I am a single dad, no wannabe here. And I have a vasectomy so lots of child making practice going on here. Just like I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:30 AM
0

Yes, I do believe your original response was lazy. I carefully crafted my argument: Women can choose if their bodies DO NOT have children. Men AND women have no choice if men's bodies CAN NOT have children. .
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:29 AM
-6

What current laws around abortion have I ignored? Abortion is legal in the good ole US of A.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:24 AM
0

I am corrected good sir. And to be fair, that statement was sarcasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:23 AM
2

You got me. I totally thought men could get pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:21 AM
6

Nor any woman should be able to send young men into war.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:21 AM
-2

Very much so. When external uteruses are invented, women (and society) will be cooked, over, finito.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:20 AM
1

So why can women choose to end a pregnancy and men cannot?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:19 AM
1

Oh man, when that happens, women will be cooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:16 AM
-1

You have accountability with whom you have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:02 AM
5

What about the women's claim to free sex? She can abort ad infinitum. The mother can say the child has the right to get flushed down the drain at planned parenthood. And then turn around and have all the free sex she wants. Men can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:00 AM
1

In what universe does this make sense? Men cannot carry fetuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:56 AM
0

Its as asinine as your comment, so take it as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:54 AM
1

If the mother doesn't want to support her child, she chooses to abort. What choice does a father have if he doesn't want to support the child?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:46 AM
1

With your reasoning, "pill poppers" should be into beastiality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:45 AM
-1

Who has the choice to abort or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:44 AM
1

Wait, WHAT?! Are these men raping these women? The women are choosing to have sex with men ALSO!! Women have the choice AFTER THE FACT of sexual intercourse. MEN DO NOT. Both sexes have a choice to have sex. PERIOD. Only women have CHOICE after sex. MEN. DO. NOT. My god, can't these "FAIRNESS FOR ALL" people see this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:43 AM
5

No one is saying that abortion shouldn't be an option for a woman. Its the fact that men don't have a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:39 AM
1

100000000000% correct about being responsible where you drop off your semen. The DIFFERENCE is that women get a "window" per se to be irresponsible where they choose to let semen enter. They have time to think about getting an abortion where a man gets no such time to be irresponsible. All this under current law. But men and women are 100% the same, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:16 AM
1

He gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:11 AM
1

And dumber
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:08 AM
2

Or given up for adoption.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:08 AM
1

Nothing wrong w/o having the option to stop a pregnancy as long as women don't have the option to stop men from supporting the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:07 AM
1

Both men AND women have to do something to survive and pay bills. Women who pay child support CHOSE with THEIR BODIES to have the child. Men, and ONLY MEN, WITHOUT CHOICE, HAVE to use THEIR BODIES to make money to pay child support or MEN'S BODIES have to go jail. See?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:00 AM
0

All women in the USA have bodily autonomy. Men are forced to pay for child support with out choice and forced into military conscription without choice. There's a couple of ways it worse for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:34 AM
-5

Because the women choose with THEIR OWN BODIES to have the child. OMG, can't people see the hypocrisy here?!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:26 PM
-5

When the baby is born, the man's BODY is forced to produce money or his BODY goes to jail. See that now? THE. MAN'S. BODY. Is forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:23 PM
-1

Over the man's body. OMG are you playing dense?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:18 PM
-6

You are right, it's worse for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:17 PM
-2

Dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:16 PM
-1

Wrong, men go to jail if they don't pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:08 PM
-1

If a man doesn't want the baby, but the mother does, the father should have the right to not have anything to do with the child. Period. Now that's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:07 PM
2

That piece of paper would never hold up in court.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:07 PM
-4

But you get a say over men's bodies? The hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:04 PM
-4

But men should be forced to be fathers because we don’t squeeze a baby out of our buttholes?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 10:31 PM
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Good comeback. You got me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:00 PM
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He's not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:58 PM
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MEN. DON'T. OWE. WOMEN. PROTECTION. NOR. PROVISION. PERIOD.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:56 PM
7

It probably wasn't men down voting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:29 PM
1

Cult? Is Andrew Tate the Jesus of TRP? If you really are a trans woman, you are the exception. Trans people are a very small percentage of the population. There is so much non normal thinking/behavior I doubt anyone could try to describe generalities in the trans population. Generalizations are valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:36 PM
0

TRP is a descriptor at it's heart. It is trying to show "what is". Both success and failure are attempted to be described by it. THAT'S IT.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:45 PM
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BASED
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:43 AM
1

Niope.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:40 PM
1

Then you haven't met many men. I have absolutely decided on whom to be attracted to before. Yes, there have been times I can look at a woman and be really attracted to them, but then they turn out to be feminist or who knows what and I'm out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:38 PM
1

Men are more than paychecks Mr. WhiteKnight. Women NEED men. And Men NEED women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:06 PM
1

Ugh.... you almost had me... It's all about her, her, her, her, her, her, her, her GTFOOH with that. Men and women aren't happier, but they are CERTAINLY divorcing more. Big L for society.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:05 PM
5

Yep, you are correct. But what else are men to do, roll over and let women stomp all over them? We men study, learn, adapt and apply. We learn from mistakes we've made. And we move forward with conviction and resolve. At least that's what a man that wants success does. Yes, society has told our women to "not need men" to learn to provide for yourself...it is a terrible message we've given to both men AND women. And we should go back. And I like that phrase "be irreplaceable".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 09:04 PM
2

It only gets worse my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 08:58 PM
5

Count yourself VERY VERY lucky.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 08:55 PM
7

This. But it's the part in your third question: "How do I wish the men I want to fuck would treat me? How does one become the man she wants to fuck FIRST? There in lies the crux.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:53 PM
2

Whole heartedly agree. And I'm quoting Mark Sing here... Women thrive on emotion not logic. She will remember what you make her feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:49 PM
1

Can't see because of work internet. But to interact with you in good faith... Being Social: Shower, get some new clothes and cologne, smile and introduce yourself to everyone. Say hello, make small talk. Those are some specific examples
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:46 PM
2

By specifics, I mean "generally speaking". I can start with one very specific e.g., "get off your couch and go out into the real world". If a man can't understand that, he's cooked, generally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:05 PM
2

Sigh.... Dismissiveness from a woman. How quaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:59 PM
2

This is a debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:54 PM
3

Because right around the 2000's, the internet came together and men started noticing that there were places they could share information and other men started noticing this success and started asking questions, and then these other men started using techniques and so on and so on. The "pick up artist" movement started. And the PUA started the red pill thing and then Rollo Tomasi, Andrew Tate, etc...... And here we are. That's how
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:38 PM
4

Define and give specific examples of 1. Social 2. Funny 3. Charming. See, these seem like specific examples but it is more of the "be confident" and "be yourself" BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:31 PM
4

We can listen to men that have that success. I can name many. I can say I've had A LOT of success in the past. But that also means I've had A LOT of rejections. But boy has my success improved AFTER listening AND actually TRYING what those same men suggest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:24 PM
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Men want to work in specifics. We want to know what actually works, not some nebulous descriptor of what works, like "be yourself". Red pill is trying to describe what actually "is", not what "ought" to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:14 PM
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And this is why we have a problem between men and women in the west. All of a sudden an "average" man is no longer good enough for an "average" woman. A man maximizes himself to provide for a family. A woman maximizes herself to NOT need a man. Terrible turn for the women, and hence, men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 06:12 PM
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Its because A LOT of those 80-95% of men don't know where to go FOR help. If you as a woman for advise, it usually skips the VERY first and most important part of a relationship: attraction. The advise we men get from women IS what makes us believe it's bullshit, because women tell us to "be confident" and "be yourself". It is bullshit. The men who are "naturals" at getting women don't give a rats as about the rest of us. Men have studied attraction. We men want the success that OTHER MEN have. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 04:36 PM
0

This man. Look, you will get all sorts of sympathy for men around here, but there has to be more. Why doesn't your wife want your family around? If she can't give you a REAL tangible answer, that might be very telling. But if her answer is that your family and her fight all the time, or your family is super critical all the time, etc.... you might have something to work with.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 04:04 PM
-1

So then the employer has to foot the medical bill? And yes, that's why those social systems exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:59 AM
-2

So get a job that supports you. The world doesn't owe anyone support.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:41 AM
0

Isn't that just sick leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:34 AM
-5

Men and women are the same right? So equal rights, right? If a woman gets time off, men get time off. This is so asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:57 AM
1

What about all the other things women get? See? Paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:55 AM
2

I would love to have a database of "why" people divorce. We could learn so much from that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 01:54 AM
8

That's why they congratulate each other when some thing so terrible like divorce happens to them.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 01:53 AM
2

This is the way. Just don't get a motion filed against you. Start listening to some man empowering podcasts. Get your boundaries back.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 01:46 AM
1

Mother's fault for not going after it. Its free to go after child support. See? Paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:30 AM
1

They get a roof, electricity, water, flushing toilets, the father's cash... See? Paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:28 AM
1

You get have your own new family You get to have someone love you unconditionally You get to have someone who will take care of you You get to experience what selflessness is etc...etc...etc....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:26 PM
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So many ladies (esp on reddit) are so delusional. Men and women compliment each other and we need each other. We need to stop telling each other that we don't need each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:22 PM
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if a reply was a downvote, here's my downvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:12 PM
1

This is the most asinine dumb as shit posted on the interwebs I've seen in a while. Yes, men need to improve to their maximum potential, but THE NUMBER ONE reason a woman is place on this earth is to make more humans. I hope you never have an audience with young women, Jesus Fucking Christ and MoMohammad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:09 PM
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And I also want to downvote my own response, because "fuck the ex-wife". Fuck the ex right up to the damn line before it hurts my children.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 11:02 PM
1

Can he be homeless?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:17 PM
1

Niope.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:58 PM
1

Shit man, do what ever keeps you sane, sober and able to keep putting one foot in front of the other.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:55 PM
2

Damn! A happy man! That's awesome. We all hope you didn't get the usual divorce dollars shake down cruise that most of us got. Now go enjoy your life!
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:50 PM
1

Got-dam son! You at least had the wherewithal to get a prenup AND keep your finances separated. Bingo! Now get the fuck out. All this said, if there are children, you may need to reconsider.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:48 PM
2

GTFO. Another marriage is a disaster. Those dudes that say the second or sixth time is the secret, are the exception that prove the rule.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:40 PM
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DONT FUCKING GET MARRIED AGAIN. DO NOT INVOLVE THE STATE IN YOUR AFFAIRS AGAIN. Read that 1 million more times. Yes, have a ceremony, but DON'T sign anything. If your state has a common law marriage stipulation, GET A FUCKING PRENUP. Do not make community property, keep each other's retirements out of it and don't have any more children. Second and third and more marriages have astronomical divorce rates, as if >50% isn't already high for first divorces. You are a man, use your BIGGER head.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:38 PM
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Although this response seems like the most reasonable, the actual MOST reasonable response is that she pays "her portion" of the fair. If the dad makes 80k/year and she makes 20k/year, then she pays 20% of the fair. THAT'S fair.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 03:34 PM
1

Even our fathers were too feminized to really tell us how the world worked when it came to intersex dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 10:15 PM
1

#based
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 08:00 PM
2

I like that "Power"! KS was the GOAT
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 07:53 PM
0

For women, getting laid is EASY. Easy to get things are not desirable. That's why there is no respect for that sort of thing. For men to get laid, it is hard and hence why there is more respect given. Sure we men are jealous that its so easy to get laid, its innate in HUMANS that we want things to be easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 04:47 PM
1

WTF is this....
/r/TheRedPillStories12/02/26 11:49 PM
1

Maximize your worth.
/r/TheRedPillStories12/02/26 11:44 PM
0

Are you ready for it? This relationship is going to hurt more than your divorce. But you will be ok. This is the first time you have felt intimacy and connection in decades it sounds. Of course it's intoxicating. You will make all the mistakes a man "in lust" makes and you will lose her. You will start learning about intersex dynamics and you will be a better man. Start listening to man empowering podcasts. Stat.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 11:37 PM
3

Filed sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:56 PM
-1

27?! Listen to man empowering podcasts this instant. Look up Jordan Peterson, Rich Cooper, Rollo Tomasi, The Whatever podcast (Especially with Andrew Wilson, Mark Sing. Listen to ALL of this. Work on yourself and maximize YOUR worth.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:31 PM
6

You must.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:23 PM
2

The mistake was the first time. FIFY
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:21 PM
1

Or an airplane hanger
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:18 PM
4

This is the way. We are men, we are steadfast. This is the text book way women commit violence: through words. It's their only way.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:18 PM
3

Best sex of her life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:16 PM
3

TL:DR I had to stop at the "wanting kids". It CAN NOT be stressed enough that having children with this person will be the WORST decision of your life. Those children will be hurt by the inevitable divorce and children don't reduce stress, they amplify it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 10:15 PM
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Be strong brother. This too will pass. If there are no children, this will pass REAL quick.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 09:57 PM
4

Your friend is using his tools to extract what he wants. Are all the hot insta models not also doing the same? Getting men to pay for their trips to dubai? Women's peak "worth" in the sexual market place (the most important marketplace for men) is when they are young and fertile.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:00 PM
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This. Right here. I was permabanned from datingoverforty for trying to give ACTUAL advice to men. Not just the "be confident", "be yourself" crap that we men have been told by an ever increasing Gynocentric world. Women want all the "nice guy" traits (that DON'T work btw) in men they already are attracted to. Men that know HOW to attract are the ones we should be listening to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 09:22 PM
0

Visual as in more "judgey", as well they should be. Just as I'd venture to say most men are more "horny".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 09:15 PM
0

The red pill is DEFINITELY NOT misogynist. We LOVE women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:54 AM
5

Having committed the "original sin" of men myself (Simping that is), I am WAY more likely to simp for a hot chick than for an ugly one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:50 AM
2

The "heart" of the matter is not "jobs", its about pretty women needing to put "effort" in life. "Ugly" women have more of an idea what men have to do get by and ahead in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:46 AM
1

True
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:43 AM
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"modern values" = feminism = Man hating = sexual liberation NO thanks. 30 y/o all day FTW
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:44 PM
3

Blue pill= what should be Red pill= what is That is a very succinct understanding of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:37 PM
1

Slavery are the SIMPs. And I've been guilty of simping too. And I disagree, sex is VERY important to men. It certainly is to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:30 PM
3

And this may be the very reason it's so hard to change: the legal system is monetarily incentivized to bleed dry families. It is literally their bread and butter.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 11:04 PM
1

I agree, not only has MRA not accomplished anything, it's gotten worse. The central mantra about no one caring about men's rights is, unfortunately, true.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 10:52 PM
1

I'm not sure how old you are, but I've had enough heartache that I know I will be ok after heartache my friend, and so will you. Bro-hug.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 10:41 PM
2

Do it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 10:22 PM
1

Google "mens rights activist"
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 09:10 PM
4

Finish your divorce first. Everyone is losing in a divorce, and I mean EVERYONE. I was surprised how little time it took from hating women to wanting to get nekid with one again. You haven't felt intimacy and attention in FOREVER. The first time you feel it, it will intoxicate you and you will do all the mistakes that will make it fail and it will hurt. Start listening to man empowering pod casts. I suggest starting with Mark Sing. Goggle "what is opposite of the blue pill" and start listening/r…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 09:06 PM
2

Be careful when you do have sex and feel intimacy for the first time now after divorce. You haven't felt those things since forever and it will intoxicate you. Start listening to man empowering dating podcasts. If you don't know where to start, I recommend Mark Sing.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 04:06 PM
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Once is DEF enough. I found myself, while in the throngs of love making, wanting to be part of something bigger than me (like a family unit) again, but marriage again? Involving the state again? Endangering my estate again? Niope. Nagga bro. Naggahappen.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 04:01 PM
1

If there are no kids involved, you are a blessed man. Take your money and move on happily is my response.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 03:57 PM
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More men find MORE women attractive. Most women find the minority of men attractive. Let that sink in for a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:39 PM
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Boom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:37 PM
1

How about getting Laid in my 40’s and now 50’s has never been easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:38 PM
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Wholeheartedly agree
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:25 PM
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Alimony PROMOTES divorce. The divorce rates are astronomical. There are ZERO reasons to sign a state prenup=marriage. Surrogacy and getting a non marriage step mom is the new way forward for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:22 PM
-1

If a man don’t pay child support, his body is put in jail. Men don’t have a say in if their children get to come into this world or not, but a man’s body has no choice but to support the child. By law. I’ll stop there for now. Hmmm, which laws on whose body sounds worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:17 PM
-1

A benevolent patriarchy at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:07 PM
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Preach
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 03:53 PM
2

Are generalizations valid?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:09 PM
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This guy gets it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:07 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:06 PM
1

You right pookie
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 10:51 PM
2

Here is the sad/difficult/painful part: All women shit test. And shit tests come in different forms. Once men know this, men can move with knowledge and act accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:42 PM
15

This guy gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:40 PM
1

OMG my man. I wish I knew in my 20's what I know now at 50. There is SO much about men/women attraction out there. Attraction is real (like we all know) and trying to be rigorous with studying it AND (most importantly) using what you learn IRL is paramount for outcomes. Some tips for the younger guys: Attraction can not be negotiated with Date multiple people at the same time No woman will love you like you REALLY want to be loved There is SO much more. If I get single again, shoot I might do it…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:35 PM
3

I think the hardest "truth" that hit me from The Rational Male, was that no woman will EVER be able to love me like I want to be loved. That hit different and took me a long time to admit. But has made me be more free and made me know that only I can love myself the way I need to be loved. There is no external validation coming to save me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:24 PM
3

I believe this is called "shit testing" in the red pill community. It is inherent. You have to learn how to deal with it as a man, ie frame control. I suppose vetting can be different things and hence different types of red flag. E.g., "are you gay, you look gay" vs "What do you do for a living?". Quite different, run from the first one, engage the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 08:20 PM
2

And guess what, those women “get picked”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 05:17 PM
3

Good God, what in the actual kentucky fleshlight fuck knuckles is going on in homie's mind.....
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 07:56 PM
1

Try to see if you two can just divorce w/o using lawyers. Seems like you two hate each other enough to just want to get the hell away from each other. No matter how you slice it, you are out 100's of thousands likely.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 07:54 PM
4

Why don't you just start having sex with other people then?
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 07:51 PM
0

Dumb, this dude is a convicted SAer.
/r/MensRights09/01/26 05:42 PM
2

Bwahahahahahahahahaha!! I can't even say "this is ghey", but this is gay. LOL
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 05:35 PM
1

And use surrogacy to have children so she can't take them from you.
/r/MensRights08/01/26 01:55 AM
1

Freaking GENIUS on her part. Idiot, that male friend though. If I could've had my own children (as a man) I would've. No one can take them away from me then.
/r/MensRights08/01/26 01:15 AM
4

This is excellent. Lets see how a judge handles this.
/r/MensRights08/01/26 01:03 AM
7

This is asinine. Arranged marriages have the least amount of DV and divorce.
/r/MensRights08/01/26 01:02 AM
59

These accounts are downright terrifying.
/r/MensRights08/01/26 12:51 AM
49

Reverse this scenario and would be blatant misogyny. Just another example of why we hate men and love bears. This is disgusting and she should face the death penalty.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 10:22 PM
1

A small amount percentage wise.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:51 PM
1

False. False, entirely. MOST men are kind and generous with women.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:50 PM
2

I agree with you with your dating life. There is no creature on earth that is coddled like the black single mother, black single women are a close second. Have you listened to any Kevin Samuel? He is the dating GOAT.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:48 PM
1

But so over represented online.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:44 PM
3

And male homosexual marriages have the lowest divorce rates. Dudes are on to something.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:32 PM
1

Simping should come with jail time. I hate it when I catch myself simping.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:32 PM
1

I would suggest to use chivalry to a man's advantage. Use it KNOWINGLY.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:30 PM
1

Welcome to the red pill my good man. Masculinity has been on attack for almost 200 years now. Men's psychopathy can ultimately be expressed in physical violence because we are stronger. Women's psychopathy is ultimately expressed vocally (reputation shaming, yelling, etc..) because they can't really beat men up. These are generalizations of course. And generalizations are valid. The key here is to realize and study this but NOT getting jaded, angry and definitely NOT suicidal. Learn how to use t…
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:28 PM
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And that is exactly what feminists want. Though they say "we are equal", misandry runs rampant. I didn't even know what that term meant until after my divorce.
/r/MensRights07/01/26 08:21 PM
1

This!
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 08:08 PM
8

Its pretty common for men to lose their social circle with divorce. So much is tied up in hanging around with all the kids, but after divorce, all the mom's don't want their dad to hang with a single guy.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 08:06 PM
0

start listening to man empowering podcasts. If you don't know where to start I suggest Mark Sing and Jordan Peterson. The world needs men so get up and get to it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 03:46 PM
3

Prepare for the worst and hope for the best outcome. I would get all my divorce ducks in a row now ASAP. If there are kids involved, divorce is THE WORST. Everyone loses. Counseling doesn't help. It can only be hoped that YOU will change, not them. I spent 10's of thousands of dollars on that shit, it doesn't work.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 03:26 PM
1

FUCK
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 03:21 PM
6

Women sacrifice their families for their happiness. Men sacrifice their happiness for their families. It is not fair, but it is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 03:18 PM
8

I've heard of the Silver bullet divorce, but you are getting the silver bullet break up. It's time to get a police record and a paper trail so if she does try to cry abuse, you have some recourse. I would stop all contact and have a self recording device on you at all times around that crazy woman. You are lucky you aren't married. Even if you live in a state that makes one party recording illegal, transcripts aren't. Good luck brother.
/r/MensRights06/01/26 09:42 PM
4

Agreed on the whole "women give the worst (dating) advice" thing. Women only talk about what they want and like in a man only AFTER they have found him attractive. Its that first part "finding him attractive" to start with is what they have NO idea about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 09:30 PM
2

Hang in there bro. Read this forum for all the tidbits it can get you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 12:39 AM
2

Pretty close here, I'll give you that. What does the man bring to a marriage? That is easy to split up. What is it that a woman brings to a marriage? Why is THAT not split up?
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 12:28 AM
1

Who "in their right minds" venture with an over 50% failure rate?! We idiot men do! That's who! Marriage is a bad deal. Especially for men.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:29 PM
2

You don't have to sign the state Pre-nup (that's the marriage certificate BTW) to call her your wife.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:25 PM
3

I also had a prenup. And I do REALLY think it helped. I also made some other CRUCIALLY important steps like NEVER comingle assets. She never had access to my money to hire a lawyer. The REAL kicker is my divorce still cost me about 1 million dollars. Its the dad's love for my children. Fucking her is fucking my children. And there will be none of that for my children. I can't even wish that the ex die in a terrible accident because that would hurt my children. I don't want my children hurt. Marr…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:20 PM
3

See? Both of your mentalities are what's wrong with the world and the hellscape that is modern dating. Men 100% need women. Women 100% need men. Society can't exist without EITHER of them. That said, we can each do different things. The one thing that no man can do is birth a child through a vagina. The one thing that no woman can do is produce sperm. Other than that, there are subsets of both men and women can each do. Some equally as well and some NOT equally as well. We all need to stop seein…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:39 PM
0

Men built the world. Men maintain the world. And if you don't think there is still violence in the world, you've taken a few too many pulls from that bong sis.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:32 PM
1

Men and women are different, the most notably and blaringly apparent difference is that men have penis' and women have vaginas. A next very apparent difference is that "most" men are attracted to women and vice versa. So can there be more things that are different that men and women are attracted to. I think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:23 PM
3

She is better at hiding than you are at finding. She is crying in the arms of another man about what a narcissist you are. Baton down the hatches, your winter is approaching. Go start lawyer shopping ASAP. We are all sorry this is happening to you, of all the people in the world, we get you bro. Big reddit hug your way.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 07:07 PM
2

And this fear of rejection is you, rejecting yourself. He has techniques on how to work through this fear of rejection. Like actual techniques. Start small, ask an old man where he found that coffee at the supermarket and then say thank you and leave, for example. You do that a bunch of times and get comfortable speaking with people. And you keep moving up! If you want different outcomes, you need to try something different.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 03:57 PM
2

Frame control, actual advice on how to start a conversation with women, date ideas, how to reply to different type of comments that women will say to you, etc.... He is the only dating coach, that I've found, that gives you actual content. Not the generic, "be confident", "go to the gym", "get rich", etc.... His lines on how to actually start a conversation on the apps is GENIOUS. I got TONS of dates out of it. How to build attraction over texting has worked wonders for me too. I could go on and…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 03:45 PM
1

Pimping ain't easy. Being a gigachad has it's own problems. It's like hearing how hard life is for attractive women. Dubai vs Monaco vs Abu Dhabi? And attractive women have a life that no other creature has on planet earth. They often get what they want, get flown all over the world, eat at fancy restaurants, etc... Imagine how that would mess anyone up? No accountability because there will just be more from someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 12:36 AM
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"but when women are forced to actually have to deal with women in a non-platonic way, they're worse at it than men." There, fixed it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:03 PM
1

This is the exception that proves the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:50 PM
1

Surrogacy and hire a full time nanny. It's cheaper than divorce and no one can take your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 08:20 PM
2

Preach brother. I'd add to start listening to man empowering podcasts. If you don't know where to start, try Mark Sing.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 07:58 PM
3

Are there children involved? If not you are VERY lucky.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 07:36 PM
1

Talk to a lawyer before leaving. Leaving may seriously jeopardize child custody arrangements. Start doing what your lawyer recommends ASAP. How so many people don't get prenups is amazing to me.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 07:34 PM
4

She is making sure she looks good enough for the guy she's cheating on you with. Does that make you feel better? That explains that behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 07:32 PM
2

Do you make more than her?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 07:28 PM
2

Absolutely. 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:07 PM
3

Your are leaving out A LOT of details, but number one is, are there kids involved?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 06:04 PM
4

Ah man, this is told over and over in this sub. The number one regret of probably MOST men in here? That they didn't divorce sooner. Good luck brother, there is more pain in your future no matter which path you choose.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 05:59 PM
2

Start putting money in places that she can't get to. Talk to a lawyer to see how you can prepare for a divorce if she files.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 05:24 PM
2

This.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 05:16 PM
1

That's because 5 in 6 things that Tate talks about makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 08:46 PM
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Preach brother. Ask the people (not just the women) in the middle east who makes the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 07:26 PM
0

That explains it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:34 PM
4

Marriage is a bad deal for men, period. Children should be sought through surrogacy until the marriage laws change.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 09:34 PM
4

BPD is the worst personality disorder. There is ONLY wreckage and destruction in its wake. Unfortunately, you have kids with this disaster. Encourage her to leave the country and you can get 100% custody and start healing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 09:32 PM
0

Signs that indicate fertility IS biology bro. Or didn't you get the memo?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:28 PM
-1

The only rule IS inconsistency. There have been lots of people interested in attraction between the sexes. There are broad general attributes woman are attracted to and broad general attributes that men are attracted to. These are biological facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:25 PM
7

Goddamn this is some fucking excellent advise if you can pull this off.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 06:09 PM
9

If there are no kids involved, you are blessed my man. You WILL get better.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:32 PM
2

Never.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 04:53 AM
1

How can this be an actual question.....
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:41 AM
1

Drop the "cruelly" and you got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:32 AM
1

Preach brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:30 AM
9

This. This right here. This is what is killing relationships in the west. We need each other and "we" have forgotten that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:27 AM
1

File for bankruptcy. What is "the smith osler"? Fuck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 03:53 AM
2

1000% correct. HE has all the reason in the world to fix it. SHE has ALL the reason in the world to not. She will get 1/2 of all the assets and all the free cash in Alimony and Child support. What reason does she have to "fix it"? Its bullshit man.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 03:51 AM
2

Fucking feminism. That's how. Fucking terrible. I can't imagine anything less than 50/50. I tell everyone that hasn't married yet, or doesn't have kids, get a surrogate and get YOUR kids that no one can take away. Yes, the laws have fucked men enough.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 03:43 AM
1

Therapy doesn't work. I spent tens of thousands.... Just no bro. Even if you resign yourself to intimacy like the VAST majority of us here, she will EVENTUALLY fuck you. In divorce court. Just file already. There are advantages to file first.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 02:57 AM
3

The way I try to think of a way of not hating that fucking bitch is to think how much it would hurt my children if something happened to her. I cannot have my children hurting, so chin up it will be for me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 02:55 AM
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Big hugs bro. Hang in there. Your children NEED you. If for no other reason, think about the shit the ex is going to talk about you if you unalive yourself. Fuck that. Start listening to man empowering podcasts, like NOW. If you don't know where to start, start with Jordan Peterson. When you are ready to listen to dating podcasts, start with Mark Sing. The world needs MEN. Come back here and we'll listen.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 02:50 AM
1

No no No!! Do not move out! Talk to a lawyer before you do this. FILE NOW! Start keeping your finances separate, now. Lawyer up bro!
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 02:44 AM
2

Yes, we understand brother. I had to threaten to call the police as well. If she makes more than you, get alimony and child support. Let the law fuck the woman this time, for once. I have found it surprisingly easy to NOT talk shit about the ex in front of the kids. I also have boys. I am 2 years out and fuck me if I didn't wish I'd done it sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 02:42 AM
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Remember people change after marriage: for the worse. Kiss your ever loving stars that you didn't have children. Good god man! You are lucky! Now don't EVER get married again. If you want children, look into surrogacy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 02:40 AM
9

Nope. Women do it WAY more.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 02:39 AM
3

Be thankful that there were no kids involved and you never have to see this succubus again. The rest of us are pretty much stuck with the EX in our orbits for the rest of our lives because of kids. Ugh.. Now, don't get married again. If you want kids get a surrogate to have them for you. Get your support group to help you raise the kids in order. Getting a step mom is WAY easier.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 07:01 PM
1

Fyfel is a chick
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 03:43 PM
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2nd divorce rates are higher. You'd be insane to get married again. That said, people change: for the worse. Learn from your first marriage brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 08:35 PM
3

I wanted a stable secure and happy-enough lifelong marriage. But if I have to settle for some new piece of ass every couple of years with a bunch of lays in between, well, I'll make the most of it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 06:00 PM
1

Look up Mark Sing. He's got some good stuff to listen to.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 04:38 PM
4

I would only disagree with the last part of this response. The SF bay area is ground zero of feminism woman empowerment simp bullshit. Move out of california, like the south and find a nice, quiet and cooperative woman.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 04:19 PM
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Remember, people change. But only for the worse. This behavior will get 10000000000000% worse with children. Ask EVERY man what they regret about their divorce: that it didn't happen sooner. GTFO already, you are VERY lucky you don't have children with this dumpster fire.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 04:18 PM
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Don't beat yourself up. Now you know what women think like. Now, man up and don't give a fuck about that cheating lying whore. Go live your best life. That is the only real revenge.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 04:16 PM
1

Get out of this scarcity mindset bro. There are over 3.5 billion, that's right BILLION, that is 3.5 thousand MILLION women out there. Start listening to man empowering dating podcasts. If you don't know where to go, I recommend Mark Sing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 10:44 PM
1

Start listening to Man Empowering dating podcasts, if you don't know where to start, I suggests Mark Sing. He has actual, practical advice. Not the usual "have confidence", "be a man" BS. Good luck brother. The world needs men.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 10:41 PM
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If you don't know where to go, I suggest starting with Mark Sing, Jordan Peterson and you can google "what is the opposite of the blue pill" and look into that for some help. Men and masculinity have been on attack in the west. The world NEEDS men. Take control of your life and file first, there are advantages.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 06:57 PM
2

Start listening to man empowering podcasts.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 06:31 PM
2

Lawyer up and good luck my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 06:28 PM
2

Marriage with the threat of divorce is a bad deal for men all over the world. Maybe only the muslim countries got that right. Well, germany will be turning muslim soon right? I'm sorry this happened to you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 06:21 PM
1

Go for alimony. Do it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 06:22 PM
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I stopped at the first sentence. Brother, she will hold the child over you in EVERY way. Get the fuck out NOW!! There should be NO QUESTION about someone you want to have kids with.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 08:30 PM
1

Repeal the 19th amendment I say!!
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 08:27 PM
2

I'm pissed I had to find out AFTER divorce that marriage was THE SINGLE MOST important decision of my life. Marriage is a scam. Get your kids through surrogacy and then find a step mom. Then NO ONE can take your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 08:25 PM
1

I was MOST definitely NOT in love. I stayed for my children. When she finally crossed the boundary, off to the courthouse I went. NEVER again.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 08:22 PM
1

Feminism and independent women shit is how we got into THIS mess. Its an abject lie told to young women. Its why the red pill space even exists. We men are sick of being told we all suck.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 08:20 PM
6

Yeah, I can hear it, "he pushed me in to the arms (and on to a dick) of another man" bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 03:20 PM
2

Start listening to man empowering podcasts.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 07:09 PM
1

Never, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 06:53 PM
1

Really bro? Ultimatums end in war. I will not have war in my personal life as much as I can avoid it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 06:32 PM
1

Wrong subreddit. Go to the women.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:55 PM
2

No and she can kiss your ass and mine.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:54 PM
3

Holy shit bro. Crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:53 PM
1

In Ca lifetime can start after 10 years. Fuck. Marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:52 PM
1

Damn bro.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:47 PM
2

In short, yes. You will feel joy times 1 billion when you send her ass to ignore.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:45 PM
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You are undergoing what is known around here as a "silver bullet divorce". I'm sorry brother. Men have survived this barrage and so will you. Be strong and we are here. There is lots of good advice around here.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:22 PM
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Do you really have to ask man? This is a disaster. Get divorced and get the fuck out. OMG.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:18 PM
1

"Shall I hand you your passport now or at the airport?"
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:02 PM
3

There are so many damaged people out here (you are one of them it seems) that if you find someone worth investing in, I feel, that you'd be crazy to let them go. I'd say try something different to get different results.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 03:26 PM
1

Only birthing couples get to vote is one idea that comes to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:15 AM
1

If all she is doing not cleaning enough for you, then it's time to either do them yourself or hire someone else to do it. If she is disrespecting you and will not stop, then you are cooked and have to GTFO. You will get fucked financially and you will lose your children 50/50 minimum.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 12:41 AM
1

Sorry brother, I have no advice. If there are no kids involved, just pack up and leave he goddamn country. If you have kids, you have to suck it up for your children.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 12:38 AM
0

Ok, well I misunderstood my friend. Therapy for yourself IS entirely different. You want to see change and so YOU will put in the work. I've had a little therapy for myself in the past, it was useful. It took a couple of tries with different providers to find one I liked.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 12:33 AM
1

The advice at the end is the most solid: if she is unhappy about alot of things, she will be unhappy with you too.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 12:27 AM
2

Number one regret of divorce: Not doing it sooner. In this case, sprint, don't run to the county court and file. And DON'T get married again. Period.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:42 PM
4

It looks like a heaping pile of stinking dog shit. It doesn't work. You have to want to change. And they don't want to change, they want to change you. Its a bunch of psycho-babble bullshit of "oh, that sounds difficult for you" and "use I feel" statements. If she cheats, it's over for you bro. She needs to know if she cheats, she loses her whole built up life because you, are gone. This is the mentality she has to have.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:37 PM
2

This. Right here. Letting my first glimpse of intimacy and touch from another woman post divorce crush me when she stopped it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:33 PM
3

Not only this, but people get WORSE in marriage. So accepting them as they are IS the bare minimum and is the starting point.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:29 PM
2

Yeah, I wish there was a divorced dad's group nearby.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:26 PM
1

Surrogacy and step mom it up for the future boys. Then NO ONE can take your children.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:22 PM
1

Hear, Hear!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:20 PM
6

Dayum. This hit different.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 11:14 PM
1

Absolutely. We need each other. Period. Both MEN and women are valuable. Mission critical infact.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:03 PM
1

The ladies are making a good point I think. Look at Jeff Besos and that aborted abortion he married and you kinda are talking about who women date. But to the OP's point, the data is clear men find more women attractive than the other way around. Hypergamy is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 10:45 PM
2

Huh? GTFO with that bro.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 08:59 PM
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50/50 custody default No child support and no alimony are easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:57 PM
0

Nope, completely agree. Men have millions upon millions upon millions of sperm, etc.... The working word is "can".... Women in their sixties "can't". Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:50 PM
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Quite wrong my friend. This is the ideology that created the whole independent woman concept that is ruining the west. Look at the growing number of women that are childless and sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:44 PM
4

That's why men can still easily have kids in their 60's. Cool story bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:20 PM
-9

Vote for non feminism infused laws. Vote for law change in family court.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:13 PM
1

Men are waking up and not marrying and knocking up the crazy women. Good for the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:11 PM
-6

Name ONE example of misogamy that you have personally experienced please.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:10 PM
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Preach brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:08 PM
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Dude, don't get married. And certainly NOT again! If a woman really loves you she will stay with you married or not. Bitches that give ultimatums, show them the door. Quickly. Enjoy that well deserved beer. Now have another one for me.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 08:03 PM
5

That's bullshit from that woman
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:56 PM
1

You were dating younger girls while you were married? And there is more garbage that you spew, WTF bro. You reaped, now sow bro. This shows that man can be as messed up as the women sometimes...dang....
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:52 PM
1

And "happy wife, happy life" will end you up in divorce court bro. Appeasement never works. I needed to know that in my marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:46 PM
1

Name a single "show" that has been geared toward a male audience? And you are right BTW. The only movie I can think of is "What is a woman?"
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:45 PM
2

Look into the rules of his subreddit and look up what the #3 rule is. Google that and start reading. There is A LOT of truth there. Man empowerment is needed. Masculinity has been on attack here in the west. Men, as you, are starting to, are opening there eyes to the mistreatment of them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:42 PM
1

This is where a little "Andrew Tateness" should come in to play. Imagine what he would do if his wife cheated on him, short of hitting her.... Live like that in your relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:39 PM
2

Go to the courthouse and file today. Use Chat GPT to help you with any paperwork. It's not that hard actually. Then go talk to a lawyer. There is no easy way to say it, but you ARE fucked. Through and through. But take solace that you are NOT the first, nor the last. And we are still here. Pull through brother. You will be better.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:22 PM
1

All the wives do that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:19 PM
2

I hope you at least got your dick sucked bro.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 07:18 PM
2

FUCK!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 06:50 PM
2

Now don't get married again. I hope you learned your lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 06:42 PM
2

This is a woman
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 06:41 PM
2

This bro. Divorce SUX for everyone. Work on your marriage. Many of us would KILL to be in your shoes with our Ex's.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 06:35 PM
7

The Law is skewed to fuck the man. I am sorry you are going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 06:31 PM
3

Crazy!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 06:21 PM
11

Upon retrospection, I realized that I wanted a family so bad, that I overlooked small flaws that a man should NEVER overlook before getting married. Now, I kick them to the curb without a blink with ANY flaw. Got me a good one so far.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 04:22 PM
1

Nebro please. NIEEEXXT!
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 05:30 PM
7

Excellent! Men empowerment for the win.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 02:39 PM
0

Men care PLENTY to what happens to their kids in the even of a divorce. We could give 2 shits what happens to the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 07:46 PM
1

Because men don't really care what women do for a living. And it can cause resentment in both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 07:43 PM
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Yep, nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 07:06 PM
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Gawd, I couldn't imagine having a wife like this! It would be awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 07:05 PM
1

Yes, agreed. The way to bring children into the world now is through surrogacy until these damn laws get changed.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 05:53 PM
3

no man should marry, ever. Fixed it for you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 04:35 PM
2

I did it, but I also had a prenup as a back up.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 04:21 PM
5

I got married.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 03:45 PM
3

I'd say use the hate to move on. She is already sliding on someone else's dick bro. She is dead. If no kids, you are even MORE lucky.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 03:44 PM
4

Damn, this hit hard.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 03:41 PM
5

Consider yourself lucky. At least you aren't being yelled at in front of the kid, she isn't being ridden like the town bicycle, she doesn't have a drug problem, etc, etc, etc... Perspective my dear Watson.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 03:37 PM
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Wat da fuch are you talking about bro? You aren't supposed to drink the bong water.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 03:18 PM
3

You wrote that wrong: " that women should be forced to be monogamous (marriage)." ...that men should be forced to be monogamous......
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:41 AM
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I would argue that the Red Pill is not misogynistic, its about man empowerment. Most red pill men don't hate women, we love women. We hate what feminism has done to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 12:55 AM
1

Update: she just finished banging another dude and now feels better.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 12:45 AM
1

Hit the bars and the apps. You'll be playing hide the salami in no time. Or jump on an airplane and go to where it is legal to just pay to play.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 12:33 AM
2

This sounds like so many here, myself included.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 12:20 AM
1

Typical liberal modern feminist BS. It sounds "pretty" but it has removed the VERY real fact that a man and a woman come together to make something bigger than any individual in the relationship. Your happiness is secondary to the wellbeing of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:10 PM
2

Less people getting married, hence less divorces in total.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:51 PM
1

You need to fight for 50/50 bro. FOR REALS.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:40 PM
1

I think too strong political beliefs are turn offs for both sexes. But yeah, modern liberalism is a big problem.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:30 PM
1

In retrospect, maybe sitting down at family law court and see some lawyers in action and then go to some local lunch places and see if any lawyers are having lunch with the judges....hmmm Well, I'm never getting married again, so that is a moot point for me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:22 PM
1

What are these bitches thinking? Nothing, that's what. Fuck, and women have been like this forever. But all this modernity crap has entitled these crazy bitches.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:06 PM
1

Bravo sir.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:05 PM
0

Huh? Why in the fucking world would you even respond to that?
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:04 PM
2

"Don't marry a woman chaps...." There, fixed it for you. ;-)
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:03 PM
1

Long ass texts about communication. Like she thinks I owe her ANYTHING more than the absolute bare fucking minimum. The bitch thinks we can be friends. We weren't friends when we were married, WTF does she think we will be now? Crazy town I tell ya!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 10:00 PM
1

Nope, you can't take my kids away from me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:58 PM
1

It took me about 3 months to start wondering about new pussy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:57 PM
1

It sounds like you don't have anything she can contest over. Go to the courthouse RIGHT NOW and file. Get a friend to serve her ass and GET THE FUCK OUT of your apartment and get your own. Change bank accounts for your paycheck and leave bro. Do it now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:56 PM
1

Huh? Why do you care who she is seeing? As long as your kids aren't exposed to that succubus?
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:53 PM
1

You are a military man, look up Terrance Popp redonkulas
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:52 PM
1

Lots of sex on off weekends. I get to do cool shit with my new lady on off weekends and days. I would drop a chick in a drop of the hat with even a hint of a red flag. I would date 3 women at the same time until I found this one who seems to have some sticking power. And now we can help each other with our children. At this same point in this relationship with my Ex, red flags were already there, but I wanted my family so bad by then. Marriage is a disaster in the west.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:25 PM
2

Yes, we men have to do the majority of "work" in creating those two humans. Good point.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:19 PM
2

Dude, you have no kids. You are blessed. Did you buy a house with her? If you did, you are cooked until the divorce is done. If you didn't buy a house GTFO of there before YOU get smacked with domestic violence charge.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:16 PM
4

You will pay child support for the next 16 years. I doubt any significant alimony. And file RIGHT NOW!!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 09:11 PM
9

Um, a lot, like, A LOT of men have this happen while they are still married!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 08:07 PM
1

Nothing wrong at all. That's why I am 6'4", hit the gym, make high six figures, have a boat on Lake Tahoe, drive a Lamborghini, etc..... I want what I want and get it. You do you booboo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:54 PM
1

Absolutely. Men should absolutely have sugar momma's and then divorce them and take half. Lets have the women taste a little bit of the bitter pill we men have had to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:48 PM
1

Nah, I'd say just legalize prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:39 PM
9

Hinge and Bumble. And I paid for everything and sent "roses" all the time. You have to pay to play. And I found it SUPER easy to get laid. Now, cautionary tale, that first "connection" post divorce will be intoxicating. You haven't had real intimacy in YEARS. Again, it will be intoxicating. And it will hurt you more than your divorce when it ends. Start listening to man empowering dating podcasts, I suggest Mark Sing. Now go get em tiger!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 07:29 PM
1

This is the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:51 PM
1

Redpill started by this VERY premise: how men can get the results they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:41 PM
1

Sounds reasonable to me my friend. I guess all I got is, good luck and fuck em all.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 04:30 PM
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Very aptly stated. Men need to see that only themselves can save them. Self validation HAS to be enough. Make yourself the best version of yourself and learn to get what YOU want, independent of women. And believe it or not, they will come.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:06 PM
1

Well, if you have cash to pay a lawyer, then I suppose you need to keep lawyering up. Marriage is bullshit in the west. I'm sorry this is happening to you my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 04:02 PM
1

How long were you married? It sounds like you're fucked bro. I hear chatgpt can help with some legal stuff. And I'm pretty sure you can't go to jail for not paying alimony. Child support I think they can put you in jail, which is bullshit. . Are there pro bono divorce lawyers? If there are no kids involved, I'd probably leave the country.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:53 PM
2

No contact is the only way to go. Absolutely and without a doubt is the best way to get over some one.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:47 PM
2

Damn, this hit different bro. Really puts it in perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:33 PM
1

I thought NY was default 50/50? And she kidnapped your daughter and left the country?! Shit man. Reading this stuff makes me more “un-blue”-pilled all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:15 PM
1

This! Finish the deed. Because there is a line of dudes finishing in her. Be strong brother. Do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT get less than 50/50 time with your daughter. Move closer. Your daughter NEEDS her father bro.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:10 PM
5

I feel this brother. I’m about 1.5 years out and it does get a little better. But yes, the 50% of the time when you are 100% childcare responsible, can be tough.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:07 PM
2

Bwahahahahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 02:50 PM
14

I fucking love this place.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 02:46 PM
1

Like other posters posted. Just get this done. Go to the courthouse and do it today.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 07:16 PM
2

Don't EVER get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 07:09 PM
2

Keep working on you. Heartache WILL get better, it will take a little time, but you will be back. Bigger, Badder, Stronger.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 07:09 PM
1

Normal bro. You will just have to get out there and make new friends.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 06:23 PM
10

You can't write in infidelity in a prenup, it will get thrown out by the judge. Let me rephrase that, it will be MORE likely to be thrown out by the judge. Don't involve the state if you want to get married again. Just have some ceremony and don't involve the state. Make sure you don't live in a common law marriage state either, or just moving in with them will fuck you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 06:07 PM
1

I don't see why you want a divorce other than "because"? This is the part that I think is bullshit. You can still kiss her goodbye? Then you still have a chance bro. Didn't you take some vows and shit? I wouldn't have kids at this point, because from reading this, YOU are fucked up man. And you can read my post history, I'm no fan of putting up with shit, but when a man commits, he commits.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 06:03 PM
1

Start listening to man empowering podcasts, RIGHT NOW. Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, Andrew Wilson, Pearl Davis, etc... Your feed will take you down even more man empowering avenues. We men need to hear it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:45 PM
5

She is literally your enemy now. You are at war, literally, for everything you've brought to your family. Treat it as such.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:40 PM
2

This, the world needs men brother. Your children need you, and I mean really, really need you. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:40 PM
2

This. Right here. I know it didn't help me to hear it at first, but it rings true now: you are not the first man to get divorced, many have gone before you and you will be fine. Better than fine. Now don't do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:38 PM
4

Never heard of such hogshit. Oh, and therapy doesn't work. You might as well burn the money, you can get a little warmth off of that.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:35 PM
1

Frankly, fuck your wife. Read that again. One more time. Now get ready to get FUCKED by your state. Men should never have been pressured into marriage in the first place, but here we are. Depending on how old your children are, this will vary on emotional pain, but you are about to spend the most money you've ever spent (assuming no prenup, right?) on YOUR PEACE. WORTH IT. Go get it brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:34 PM
1

And ask for legal fees BECAUSE it was made up. Fucking unreal.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:28 PM
24

Yeah man, WTF are you doing. GTF away from ANY contact. Why in the world would you do that? It's bad for you. Get on the road to healing brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:25 PM
3

Read, a lot. Listen to man empowering podcasts. Look up Rollo Tomassi, Pearl Davis, Kevin Samuels, Jordan Peterson, etc....
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:24 PM
5

Why don't you see this as a strength vs an obstacle. You are whole and complete yourself, you don't need or want the validation of a woman. Take this time and DO YOU bro!! Enjoy your life without ANYONE tying you down.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:21 PM
1

I don't like 'em and if a chick has a bunch of tatoos, I'm out. You can have them!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:17 PM
1

Age= any age of a woman would work Appearance= looks like a woman, probably hot And she thinks "men are the problem". We need to warm our boys about getting married. The west has destroyed marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:16 PM
1

Grats bro!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:13 PM
1

oh HELL no
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:13 PM
2

Hell no.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 03:48 PM
8

That is why the term "nice guys finish last" is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:27 PM
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One debater tried to peg him as a christian nationalist and Charlie fully refuted it. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DOeQk16CIIG/?hl=en
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:25 PM
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Charlie Kirk was not a christian nationalist and he was most definitely NOT redpill. He had some (very few I'd say) redpill overlaps, but not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 08:17 PM
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Andrew Wilson, Hannah Pearl, Fresh and Fit, aWhatever....those come to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 08:10 PM
5

There is a reason height is the NUMBER 1 cut off on the stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:02 PM
3

Is this a real question? Men and women have wanted and needed each other since we crawled out of the evolutionary pond scum.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 10:51 PM
4

You don't have to get married again to have a committed, long term relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 07:31 PM
3

Don't get married again, the divorce rates are higher the second time around. Why aren't you fighting for your kids?
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 07:28 PM
1

You need to check your frame of this situation. It's more like "pfffff....this stupid bitch thought she could do better, so I told her stupid ass to go do better" Good riddance.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 05:44 PM
1

I can't agree with this statement: "That I deserve happiness, and that I likely wont ever feel fulfilled with her" Men sacrifice their happiness for their family, women sacrifice their happiness for their family. I'm not saying "man up", but when "We argued a bit and I did what I always do, apologize for my behaviour and we eventually went to bed" Dude, you needed to "man up". WTF did YOU do that you needed to apologize? You needed to apologize that you were attracted and wanted to have sex with…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 05:40 PM
1

To quote the 40 year old virgin: "what has felt right to you hasn't worked dawg, you gotta try some wrong dawg"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 11:07 PM
0

Women > men It’s BS
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:15 AM
1

Take your son and keep him safe. That is what your son deserves.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 02:13 PM
2

The first man that starts an instagram story about surrogacy under the very real premise if never having to lose the children in divorce will start a big movement id bet. Logistics would be something to think about but men have ALWAYS been the best at solving problems! I wish I knew about surrogacy, I might have seriously considered it! I have no problem finding women to date me. Marriage after surrogacy might make more sense. Get a step mom and if she decides to blow up the family, she can’t ta…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 02:09 PM
20

Look at states like Ca. They have default 50/50 and divorce rates haven’t nose dived. We are still fooked as men. Surrogacy for children and don’t get married
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 12:44 AM
-1

How about turning off the electricity, water, garbage, etc… And then have another apartment with all of that for your children.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 12:42 AM
2

I think this is why this subreddit is damn well therapeutic for us men. Very, very few other subreddits are as man empowering. Its a fucking disaster of the west that support for men comes AFTER a devastating blow like divorce. Sad really.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 04:08 PM
1

Do you want children?
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:44 PM
5

Idiot.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:43 PM
4

Vasectomy and prenup or just the ceremony and make sure you aren’t in a common law state. Or shoot, just get an 18 year old Swedish nanny every year.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:40 PM
4

Hell yeah. Surrogacy all day. I wish I knew that even existed. Get a step mom after and a prenup. Then no one can take your kids and make you pay for it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:39 PM
17

Neither was mine, I just thought I could “make it work”. I’m an IDIOT!
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 07:38 PM
3

This is the way. I’d say start the separation process. Talk to a lawyer. Have ChatGPT write up a “marriage settlement agreement”, get on your PC and write up a custody agreement. And don’t do it in a mopey way either. It’s terrible but your wife is moving on, by squeezing, you are pushing her away.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 11:36 PM
3

Why the damn downvote. This guy may have a point.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 11:30 PM
2

If you are in a 50/50 state, like Ca, the de facto custody arrangement is 50/50. Google custody laws in your state.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 11:28 PM
7

I’d be willing to bet, if he transfers the money to another account in full transparency, stops direct deposits and starts to the new one, all while telling her (and her lawyer if she has one) exactly what is happening and that you are fully willing and able to cooperate with any judge orders, I think he’d be fine. But I’m no lawyer. And THANK God, my dumb ex didn’t have ANY access to my money. Holy shit.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 11:19 PM
1

I try to laugh at myself for simping sometimes, it can help. The things we do for these stupid bitches, and the MORE stuff we do when they are the mothers of our children. They really are dumb.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 03:46 PM
2

Not advisable, but understandable. Stay strong brothers.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 03:44 PM
7

Everyone here brother. Free at last, thank God almighty, free at last.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 03:40 PM
3

This. And prepare for war.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 12:59 PM
3

You can use chat gpt to write up a marriage settlement agreement. It sounds like you might get lucky with this divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 05:25 PM
1

Good look brother!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 11:03 PM
1

So it sounds like pick ups should be ok, there are babysitters that will come in the mornings, you’ll just have to work to find them.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 11:01 PM
1

You will need a babysitter if you don’t want to take vacation in this case right? So that means you want to work right? Tell her she needs to split the cost of a babysitter that week.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 10:40 PM
10

Omg, I just went over there and read like two posts/threads…. Terrible, terrible, terrible!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 10:29 PM
1

Have her split the child care while you are at work.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 10:25 PM
20

Ugh, modern marriage is a terrible deal for men
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 10:24 PM
2

Yes, I’m sure many can relate. You have no kids and no home together. I would advise you to also stop commingling funds. Like now. If you are thinking about divorce, you can bet she has been thinking about it longer. Make so she can’t use your own funds to hire a lawyer. Now, that said, you don’t want to be part of us miserable bastards out here either. There are no children involved so you WILL suffer less. A good woman is VERY difficult to find, so, in essence, we men only have ourselves to re…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:23 PM
3

What this guy said. And next time read “a tactical guide to women” and let’s all stop doing this stupid shit
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:53 AM
1

Damn, this hit hard.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:48 AM
10

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 04:38 AM
8

Dude, if this isn’t the end, it sounds like the beginning. Lawyer up bro and prepare for war. If I were a betting man, your lawyer will give you the same advice: file first. Stop intermingling your finances like now. Good luck. You are going to need it. Shoot, we all need it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 08:22 PM
2

Jabba Da Hut
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 04:54 PM
1

Read “No More Mr. Nice Guy” also “Love Must Be Tough” You are in a bad spot my friend. You have tried appeasement and that never works. Especially with women.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 03:48 PM
3

This. You are being sued for as much as they can take. It is war. Treat it as such.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 06:24 PM
2

Yep, divorce laws need to change. I advise every unmarried man I come across that marriage is not the only pathway to a family.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 06:23 PM
4

Good question. For as much as my ex got, I’d divorce me too.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 01:42 PM
5

Block and use court approved app communication ONLY. Terrible bro. I’m sorry this happened to you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 05:38 AM
2

You don’t need to marry to have children. As a matter of fact, I recommend to a man in your position (where I was a decade ago) to SERIOUSLY consider surrogacy. You will NEVER lose your children. Get your support network in order and hire a live in nanny. You will have NO problem attracting a step mom that will have NO power to take your children away but can still be a feminine presence for your children. If you marry, prenup. This is the way until the family law courts are overturned.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 06:36 PM
1

I would settle in a New York second to having a peaceful roommate spouse mother of my children situation. Unless you guys are at each other’s throats, I recommend stay. This side of divorce is a kick in the nuts. Trust us.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 06:25 PM
1

You should start separating finances, hire a lawyer and file first. There are advantages to filing first. And DONT leave your house.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 06:09 PM
1

Hard. Truth. Follow this guy’s advice, like yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 06:05 PM
2

This this this!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:59 PM
6

What in the Alabama fuck knuckles…. My friend, I feel for you. Lawyer up and eject Goose!
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:58 PM
4

This is the way. It seems insurmountable at the start. I’m almost 2 years out and am starting to catch my groove. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:55 PM
3

Hear hear
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:51 PM
3

This is the way. If you get married again, this is unadvised, get a solid prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 05:47 PM
5

This. You will win your peace and self reliance, but it will take no less than half of everything you own and have invested in. Stay strong my brother.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 05:36 AM
3

Dude, stop talking this low life woman!! Delete her number, her emails, EVERYTHING!! This is the way. This is a blessing, I promise!! You are SO lucky you don’t have children!!
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 02:47 PM
1

I’m pretty sure 10 yrs married is the “you are fucked” cut off here in Ca. She may very well indeed be able to get 1/2 of fucking everything. F bombs included because bombs going off is exactly what is going to happen in your divorce. And it will be worth it in the end. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 02:45 PM
18

WTF did I just read. Shiza this country is FUCKED. I couldn’t make past the 3rd paragraph either.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 11:06 PM
1

I pulled out of my 401k. Yeah, I got raped. But NO one gets out with out getting raped. Especially men.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:50 PM
2

Are there any kids? Change the locks.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:29 PM
6

Many, if not most, have been right there with you. The first time you feel intimacy for YEARS is intoxicating. It will consume you and hurt more than your divorce in many ways. You are normal my friend. And you will heal. Start listening to man empowering dating podcasts. I suggest Mark Sing. Start reading and learning about human attraction. You will now learn all the things that you wished you knew in your 20’s Female attraction is weird and can be fun to play with.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:23 PM
3

Marriage was 8 yrs 8 months. I was over the marriage years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:18 PM
6

Yep, after reading all these comments, feminism is doing all the women in. And we are getting destroyed in its wake
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:15 PM
10

Men sacrifice our happiness for our families. Women sacrifice their families for their happiness. Terrible.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 03:53 PM
4

You need to lawyer up. Full stop. Do NOT pass go, YOU will be paying more than $200. We don't know your specifics and most of us aren't lawyers. We area great resources but terrible legal council. This will cost you money, a lot of money. There is no way around that. Do you know what EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. answered when I asked them your very question? They all wish they would have done it sooner. So do it. NOW.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 12:21 AM
3

Your therapist can kiss my ass. Do it with kindness FOR YOURSELF. Take care of yourself now FIRST, she is putting herself FIRST now, so should you. And don't be around that energy. Keep all communication strictly down to necessary ONLY. This will be the only way you can heal, or at least, have a chance of healing.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 12:17 AM
2

Your lawyer works for you. You get them to do what YOU want. I wire transfer from my bank account.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:31 PM
1

"Nice Guy"-itis is a relationship killer for sure. God on you bro for reaching out. I wish there was a local men's support group to join.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:29 PM
1

Dayum, this sucks man.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:23 PM
3

Don't listen to this dude. I'll grant him the benefit of the doubt that your post came off as maybe robotic. But in THIS time, cold hard pragmatism HAS to win the day or we men get railroaded.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:22 PM
1

This, this, this. NONE of us that have survived this shit are SIMPS. If we were before, this trial by fire forges aware, strong men.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:15 PM
1

You will only be in trouble with child support if SHE reports it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:12 PM
2

Rejoice that you are done making terrible memories with this person.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:09 PM
1

This CAN'T be real....
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:08 PM
1

Do you even have to talk to her? Do you have kids with this succubus?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:07 PM
2

START the divorce RIGHT NOW. Stop waiting and get on with it brother. It won't start getting better until you stop this bleeding.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:06 PM
4

Child support needs to go away. I support my kids, WHEN THEY ARE WITH ME. She should have to support the kids when they are with her. Child support is stupid, its a form of alimony. Period.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:02 PM
3

Hang in there OP. I am about year and a half after I kicked her out and almost a year after MSA was signed. I am still getting used to carrying a WHOLE household by myself. I am doing "OK" and I would also like to get back into my hobbies, but there is no FRIGGIN time! I've got a new girlfriend (ukrainian!) and I still have a dollar in my pocket, so there is hope. Hang in there brother. I wish we all lived closer so we could do a support group.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:01 PM
1

Hang in there OP. I am about year and a half after she left and almost a year after MSA was signed. I am still getting used to carrying a WHOLE household by myself. I am doing "OK" and I would also like to get back into my hobbies, but there is no FRIGGIN time! I've got a new girlfriend (ukrainian!) and I still have a dollar in my pocket, so there is hope. Hang in there brother. I wish we all lived closer so we could do a support group.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 11:00 PM
4

Sorry bro, bored and depressed?! Make it work with your wife! The ONLY way to EVEN consider divorce is if she out earns you at work. You will be taken to the cleaners. You will lose 50% minimum.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 09:47 PM
2

The courts will give her 50% of everything. That's is where you will start and get less from there.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 09:44 PM
9

I stood by the bench the whole time my boys are at sports games. I can get involved and cheer them on. I don’t go by the bleachers. Fuck her fat ass and her fat ass boyfriend
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 12:54 AM
10

You need to stop being a doormat and start being a trigger puller. Go talk to a lawyer and file now. Don’t even tell her, just do it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 11:24 PM
2

If she leaves the house, you can claim abandonment and maybe get more custody, thus reducing your child support payments. Time is of the essence. Since when did a baby make life easier? It won’t get easier, you will be fucked. But somehow, we are out here making it. You will too.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 12:17 AM
4

This. You might be able to get the marriage annulled. Do it now, be a trigger puller and get your life back NOW!! Do it my man!! Imagine when she sliding on everyone’s dick and you might not even know if your children are yours! THAT is a true, living nightmare.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 12:11 AM
2

I would say DO NOT move out. From reading here, most lawyers have given this advice. And I would try to go amicable, it will save you money and move faster. Record everything
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 11:59 PM
3

Until I had some desire to date. Took me about 6 months.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 04:08 PM
3

Divorce is worse, and this is the main reason: you get to keep the other side of the family. Her family would continue to help you and be friendly to you. You’d have twice the support.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 09:50 PM
1

Shit man, I think about kicking an old man down the stairs, I just don’t do it. I have had all sorts of bad thoughts. I just don’t do it. I wish lots of people died, like Hitler, among many. I’ve wished my own ex had died sometimes. The only, and I mean ONLY, thing that brings me back from that hate is that my children would be in pain. And I will endure all of hell’s wrath for their wellbeing.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 09:48 PM
1

I agree. But there are "general" rules that apply to "most" women.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 08:09 PM
1

Hard disagree. Are relationships something that every man just inherently "knows" deep down? Like almost every other part of life, there are things to be learned and things to be put into practice, why should relationships be different?
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 05:00 PM
1

I sit corrected then! But how can you "gift" some something tax free when it was taxed before it became a gift? Tax free asset transfer during a divorce, that's not tax free, that's losing your shit. Can only a "joint family trust" avoid estate taxes? The foreign citizenship capital gain work around sounds feasible. Capital gains exemption in WA?! Nice! The "strategic divorce" is super tricky, that precludes a cooperative woman upon divorce, WAY too risky IMHO.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 12:28 AM
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Look up his "frame control" pod casts. You will see how he tries to categorize and define very difficult themes of attraction. And then give you literal techniques to use to maximize attraction.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 12:23 AM
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I literally used one of his texting techniques to build attraction on a few chicks and HOLY SHIT did it work! I have learned so much and I feel like I need to join his masterclass and I still might. I have a hot girlfriend right now and I try to use his techniques to help temper my relationship with this woman. I think he really is a gift to MEN. And masculinity has been on attack on the west and we need men helping men.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:58 PM
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Dang man, you are better than me for carrying on. I would've left right after the "doesn't cook,...." tirade. I would've chuckled and said, "this is not going to work out, lets call it a night". If she would've been upset at all, I would just leave her right there.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:54 PM
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Name me one "considerable" tax benefit to getting married. And by considerable, I mean more than $100k (shoot, even $50k) per year. You can't write off the entirety of property taxes or your mortgage on your primary residence and you've always been able to write off all your taxes and mortgage on a rental property.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:26 PM
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We all agree with you. Marriage has been destroyed by my beloved country. There is ZERO point in involving the state in your private affairs. Especially the most important one, marriage. If you want kids, hire a surrogate, its cheaper than a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:23 PM
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Mark Sing. The Unapologetic Man Podcast. He gives hands on, practical advice. Not just "be confident", "approach her", yada yada, but real responses like what to do when you see a hot girl with a fat friend that is cockblocking. Like literally what to say: "you remind me of my cousin, is your name Linda?" Go, right now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:20 PM
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Aint this the truth brother.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:11 PM
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I believe you. Wholeheartedly. Men will ALWAYS (meaning the VAST majority of the time) will get lambasted because WE are the ones that bring the majorithy ONLY thing that can get split up: Money and assets. What does a woman bring to a marriage? Yeah, it can't be split in court. Let that sink in.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:02 PM
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Lots of good advice here that I can discern. IF she were to come after you, make sure you put in that the loser pays ALL legal fees of the winner. I had this provision in my pre-nup, if the prenup gets challenged, the loser pays the winner's legal fees. I think it caused her ass pause when considering challenging it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 10:53 PM
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I'm all for man empowerment, but what does this have to do with divorce? Like others say, it might be time to lawyer up and start getting ready for the split and how to minimize the impending damage? Post nuptial?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 10:47 PM
2

I want to hear how you GTFO of their?! Did you laugh about it?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 10:45 PM
2

Mods please ban
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 10:40 PM
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Have this conversation with your lawyer. What men are saying here sounds very reasonable to me. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it. THAT'S IT. Does the court expect you to get a 3rd job and you just don't sleep and you live at work? Sell the house and cars, she needs to suffer consequences too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 10:36 PM
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You can hire a surrogate and have children. They are cheaper than divorces and NO ONE can take your children from you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 10:30 PM
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Start listening to Man empowering podcasts. You need a masculine boost, stat. If you don’t know where to start, I suggest Mark Sing. He is usually a dating coach, but his stuff on masculinity is incredible. I also suggest Jordan Peterson. Take your masculinity back and your life back. Go look at some great butts in yoga pants in the gym while getting more fit yourself. Most women cheat because we became “too nice”. Fuck that.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 05:34 PM
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This is so fucked up man. I think I remember you writing that and you were like in front of a police station in like another state to prove your alibi. You were guilty until proven innocent.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 09:01 PM
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Shit yes my man. Just today I actually met 2 divorced men for the first time since my divorce. I might have met other men before, but frankly, I didn’t need support like that back then. I got both of their phone numbers and started a men’s text group. I can’t believe one of those guys got remarried! But hey, we need to still help each other.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:55 PM
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Yes, leave and get your life back. Go to church and praise whatever deity is there that you don’t have children.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:46 PM
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And don’t get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:43 PM
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Holy shit this OP. I would’ve KILLED to have had a cooperative woman as the mother of my children. This guys says it nicely. But let me try to be a little more “unsubtle”. Are you out of your fucking mind? You have peace at home. Every. Single. One. Of. Us. Would do ANYTHING for that. Your children are safe and well and see TWO people making a home actually work. Boo-fucking-hoo. You don’t feel “in love”. Dude, life isn’t all about you. It’s not even MOSTLY about you now. Your children’s wellbei…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:38 PM
1

This.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:29 PM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:26 PM
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I think that we men have been feminized so much here in the west that our women lose their attraction for us and then, well, we get divorced. Masculinity is being attacked and our marriages, families and children are paying for it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:19 PM
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I think you may have a point. My ex didn’t believe my compliments/gifts/showers of affection either. The harder I tried, the more she didn’t believe it. Eventually I just stopped trying and then she got more and more angry and resentful. Except, I AM a fucking 10 goddamnit, and I don’t need any validation from anyone. And so are all of you my brothers.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 07:48 PM
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No, there is no fixing it. Mine tried something similar too. And this is why Men should be VERY nebulous when speaking of previous relationships, difficulties, etc.. It can and will be used against you. Men need Miranda rights before ANY relationship. Fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 06:59 PM
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Get 50/50 year round. Children need their fathers. Period.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 06:57 PM
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For sure this. AND you can ignore. Like the penguins from that cartoon say: “wave and smile boys, wave and smile”. And you can do this brother. Be strong for your little girl.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 06:55 PM
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Where did you go? I’d think about Asia, Thailand or Vietnam.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 12:41 PM
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One of the most cogent, poignant and august pieces of writing that’s EVER been written here on Reddit is THIS.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 08:17 PM
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What he said:
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 04:59 AM
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Here’s the fucking truth dude: You fucked up. Eat it and move on. You are not marriage material and so what. Don’t ever get married again. Ever. Read that again.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 04:58 AM
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Good luck! It sounds like you will get off WAY easier than all of us.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 04:56 AM
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I'd like to agree, sanctimoniously, that the ex "deserves" it too, but she did not choose peace. She chose war, strife and an overall disagreeable disposition. And this shitty attitude also took my kids 1/2 the time now. I have cognitive dissonance because I want to say "fuck her", but my two boys are with her 1/2 the time, so how about this, this is actually a time I can say "fuck her, 1/2 the time"? And yes, my house may get lonely 1/2 the time, and overwhelmingly busy the other 1/2, but there…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 05:21 PM
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Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 01:06 AM
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This, this, this. Marriage is a man fucker. There is no way around it. She fucks another dude, you also get fucked. Stop letting yourself get fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 03:42 PM
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What are you trying to prove here? Are you in a state where infidelity gets her no alimony? Other than that last sentence. Stop looking. Stop caring as fast as you can. She’s fucking another dude. Well, now she’s someone else’s problem. Lawyer up and file first.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 03:38 PM
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I wish I could help more. Here’s a suggestion though, have you guys listened to some man empowering podcasts? I like Mark Sing. He tries to make concrete definitions of very difficult things to pin down: specifically, human attraction. Get prenups gentlemen. I had one and I still had to pay 1 million dollars.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 03:33 PM
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Just read here ad infinitum and your eyes will pop out if your head.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 03:24 PM
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One very kind Reddit poster turned me on to “The Rational Male”. It’s a MUST read for EVERY man. I had some fucking eye opening, gut wrenching revelations. Things I need to teach my two boys as they come of age, so they don’t get fucked in the ass by the divorce circle jerk. And my divorce “only” cost me about $1,000,000. Yep, it’s too late for us suckers, but you better BET your ass I’ll be using these techniques moving forward. As a matter of fact, I’m using them with an incredible woman I fou…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 02:49 AM
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Pick yourself up and be strong for your children. Get a job at McDonald’s if you have to.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 06:04 PM
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Start listening to man empowering podcasts. It’s a terrible truth, the more you care and chase, the more they run away, into the arms of another man that treats them like shit. It’s a game as old as time.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 12:35 PM
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This is the way. And we all feel for you OP. This is a band of brothers.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 12:28 PM
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This. Let’s hear it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 07:11 PM
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Fuck! What a story! (I am cussing a lot today…hmm…🤣)
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 07:08 PM
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It’s like you asking us to choose life vs death. Live brother! The world needs men!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 07:05 PM
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This. So. Fucking. This.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 07:01 PM
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Do you own the home outright? Who will pay for the house if it’s not paid off yet. If it were me, I’d take my kids and get the fuck out. I’d stop paying the mortgage and my credit would get obliterated. I’ve survived worse.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 06:58 PM
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Hell. Yeah. Good for fathers everywhere. God curse to miserable cold hell what my beautiful country has done to the institution of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 06:53 PM
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Stay strong brother. But why the fuck are you in any type of communication with that succubus? People that blow up their own marriages are surprised when life sucks? Good for you my man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 05:03 PM
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Boot this fucking bitch. And yes, I said bitch. You need to find yourself a man. Divorce is the single biggest financial hit I’ve ever experienced, second only to my home. There are strategies to help, but that lawyer you picked is fucking terrible. In short, be prepared to lose half of everything. EVERYTHING.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 04:59 PM
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Saying goodbye to my kids is gut wrenching every week. I did absolutely everything I could to make it work so I could be in a situation where I was around my kids 100% of the time, but the damn succubus made that impossible. I chose peace for my children and I. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 05:02 PM
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Oh hell no
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 03:42 PM
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Oh my god, so much this. File TODAY. Go get a lawyer and start that path to healing. We are all getting/got fucked, in these goddamn divorces we didn’t want but were forced to get. I am lonely, more broke, but I have peace when my children are with me now. And that is priceless.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 01:50 PM
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What this guy says. The system is hella skewed toward women, but all you can do is be your best self. Unfortunately, you will have to lawyer up, big time. Ugh. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 01:46 PM
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TL:DR No matter what she does, YOU are in control of what you do. Chasing her pushes her away. She has shown you who she is, believe her. There are advantages to filing for divorce first. Lawyer up and put this shit show behind you. It seems like there are no kids involved, if that is true, consider that a tremendous blessing. Be strong brother, stop this abuse and get the fuck out. The world needs men.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 01:37 PM
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I’d say change the locks of your house. Can a court get involved with this situation? She blew up her marriage, she can wallow in her circumstances. She can go make for her next newest boy toy. I’d say if she wants to stop by and make the kids dinner, she needs to ask you FIRST. And then you can decide what you want.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 01:31 PM
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I would add that you should NOT just bring up the fact that you are banging other chicks. Don’t lie, but be nebulous. Here’s an example: Her: Are you dating/fucking/banging other women You: I am speaking with other women, yes. I am looking for my girlfriend. End of story, no more elaboration needed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 08:47 PM
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Be strong brother. You will be reborn. I’m learning every day and it’s been over a year.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 09:44 PM
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Holy shit, I was going to say the same thing. Mushrooms are to be respected for their healing power. They will kick your transendential ass. But they can heal.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/25 12:55 AM
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Hang in there brother. Unfortunately, “trust the process” is not an option here. We men get screwed pretty much any way we slice it. You may have to drag her ass back to court as she starts making more and get some alimony. Good luck and stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 03:23 PM
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Cold. Hard. Truth. Although all of us are happy that you received some emotional support in a time of need, this woman has shown her colors. This moment of weakness (on your part) has her seeing the power she has(had) over you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 03:17 PM
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The best revenge is a life, well lived.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 03:12 PM
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This answer IS blaming disney and shit. And it’s true.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 10:19 PM
1

This. You choose love.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 10:16 PM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 10:15 PM
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Be thankful that there are no children mixed up in your mess. You are 31, you will find another. I PROMISE brother. Move past this bullshit and be reborn. Listen to man empowering podcasts and start feeling better now. The world needs men!
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:46 PM
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How about different drugs? Marijuana? I would even venture to say psychedelics. The truth of the matter is, you have to be OK just yourself. I also discovered that I was “self medicating” with alcohol in my marriage and its aftermath. I still catch myself doing it. All. The. Time. This helps me think about why I’m self medicating and I can reflect on that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:41 PM
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I would say lawyer up, like FUCKING now. If she likes going to bars, follow her to a bar sometime and then call 911 when she is driving home and describe an erratic driving vehicle with her license plate. It’s time to sweep the leg Johnny.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:36 PM
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My crazy ass woman of an ex was actively seeking me to fight with infront of the children, I was sleeping in my upstairs bedroom suite and the crazy bitch would come find me to start fights with me. If she doesn’t actively try to make your life terrible, you have a roommate that helps you raise your kids. I would’ve happily settled for that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:31 PM
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Ok, as much as I hate what the west (especially my beloved country of USA) has done to the institution of marriage, why the EFF haven’t you tried working it out with the mother of your children? You won’t find another woman who loves your children like her. Get a post nuptial agreement. And I’m divorced and it cost me around 1 million dollars.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:27 PM
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Shit man. Kids are the ONLY reason to even somewhat contemplate marriage. If you aren’t ready for kids why did you even THINK about marriage, much less go through with it. Divorce with kids is a WHOLE new level of hurt. Like FOREVER hurt. GTFO and let her go find the next sucker.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:23 PM
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You bet your arse you block that succubuss
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 07:59 PM
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Imagine if women could have this kind of insight, then it might’ve been possible to save some of our marriages.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 05:57 PM
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That’s a good over all technique. She used everything against you when you were married, she’ll only get better AFTER the divorce right?!!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 04:54 AM
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Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 04:53 AM
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Divorce is worse than death. You lose 1/2 of the family. It is par for the divorce course. Is say, fuck em.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 01:43 PM
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Be strong bro. Start listening to Man empowering podcasts. You can start doing this today and start feeling better now. You are not the first nor are you alone in this. Be strong my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 06:49 PM
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You need to start taking care of yourself my man. You need to be the best you, you can be to make anything happen successfully in life. Whether she’s around or not, you need to do you boo.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 06:47 PM
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Start listening to some men empowering podcasts. Like pronto. If you don’t know where to start, I recommend Mark Sing. He is a dating coach, but he has a lot to say about man empowerment.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 09:51 PM
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Older single, childless women are the unhappiest of the bunch. It’s a good thing to spread the word too, for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/25 08:14 PM
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You are a cautionary tale my friend. Good luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/25 03:59 PM
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This is a man empowering subreddit. The OP is sharing some knowledge and I bet most people here don’t read a lot of mainstream crap. Great insight OP and I whole fucking heartedly agree with you. I am just starting to think about what this means for me as I’ve met a nice divorced woman with young kids. Here’s the kicker, like me, her ex filed for divorce. He was sleeping with other women and wanted to pursue a relationship with one of those women. And like her, I didn’t want to blow up my marria…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/25 03:55 PM
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This is a good question OP. We have been so used to working hard and getting results, especially with something so important as our marriage and family. It’s baffling and hurtful that we could not make it work and our children suffer so much for it too. I don’t have any answers as I’m in the same boat, but maybe the best answer I can give is that I chose poorly. No one told me that the person I chose to marry would be THE most important decision I would make in my life. And I did not give my shi…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 12:55 PM
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Preach brother.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 04:48 PM
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This. So much fucking this. And start getting ready for your divorce. Start squirreling away cash into a new account and for gods sake lawyer up!
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 06:13 PM
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I think the reason is, that we poor miserable bastards didn’t know THE most important rule of commitment: Whom we choose to give our commitment to, is THE single. Most. Important. Decision. We will make. THE. MOST. More important than choosing a career, whether to have children, where to live…etc, etc. My dumb ass included. That decision needs THAT type of gravitas.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 03:07 AM
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Not true my friend. Find a surrogate and have your children. They are cheaper than divorce and NO ONE can take your child away from you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 03:04 AM
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Don’t feel guilty bro. You are fighting a war now with a mortal enemy. You have to keep your cards to your chest. At. All. Times.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 01:39 AM
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They fuck us real good in the end though.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 01:35 AM
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Brother, learn your lesson and STOP all interactions. There is only pain there for you. It WILL get better. Start listening to man empowering podcasts, like yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 01:14 AM
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Ok, you asked for advice, so here goes. Start listening to Man Empowering podcasts. Like right now. If you don’t know where to start, start with Mark Sing. You will feel almost instantly better. You are a fucking champion, go become the best version of yourself, now.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:27 PM
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You wanted to become Captain Save a Hoe. You gave in to your Mr. Nice Guy persona. Nice guys not only finish last, they get kicked in the teeth.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:25 PM
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Why didn’t she get a job then? Did the man put a gun to her head and say she couldn’t work?
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:23 PM
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Winter is coming my man. Lawyer up. Poste haste!
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:13 PM
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God for you brother. Start listening to man empowering podcasts. I suggest Mark Sing. Learn how to never get into another situation where a woman will cheat on you again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 11:39 PM
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Dude, get out!
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 10:30 PM
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You better get it sir.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 10:24 PM
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Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 10:16 PM
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Gawd, I feel so lucky. I was relieved that it was not me that started introducing weird new people in the lives of my children. And I couldn't care less that she was dating. I just think "gross".
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/25 08:52 PM
2

OMG this. Prenup son.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 10:03 PM
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Yessir, divorce is worse than death. It will take time. Time will heal. Start listening to man empowering podcasts, lift some fucking weights, get exhausted, become the best you. Find that fucking champion in you that knows your ex is an IDIOT for choosing her stupid path.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 07:13 PM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 03:41 PM
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I, for one, am glad that you found what worked for you. I got my ass handed to me in the first connection I created after my divorce. This was the first time I received some affection and intimacy and I was drunk on it. That hurt me more than my divorce. Loneliness is real and is a killer for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:43 PM
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Hang in there my man. I like to listen to dating podcasts and pretty much anything "manosphere". We are not misogynists, we love women, we need MORE man empowering content out in the universe. It seems that anything that is meant to empower a man is labeled as "misogony", its not.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 04:37 PM
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I'm not even going to read the thread, just the title. Ugh, hell no.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 08:42 PM
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You need to get 50/50 custody. I don't know what state you are in, but this is necessary. And Andrew Tate was on to something when he told depressed men to go get their 6 packs and then re-evaluate how they felt after that. 100% success rate. I am doing that now. Just the other day, after the first time hooking up with this woman, she was stroking my body and telling me how beautiful it was and if I was working on it......it was fucking cool. I don't need external validation, but it did feel goo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 06:32 PM
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The first relationship fucking hurts. It’s the first time you get affection and intimacy in years likely. And it fucking hypnotizes you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 09:59 PM
2

OMG this. Women talk a lot of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 09:53 PM
2

Wat?! A vasectomy has had me creampieing WAY sooner than I would’ve with out one.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 08:44 PM
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These are dying signs friend. You can try listening to some dating coaches, even some of the red pill stuff. See if you can get the “frame” back.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 08:41 PM
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Lawyer up friend.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 08:34 PM
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Indeed he does.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 08:34 PM
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Hang in there gentlemen. It will get better. We’ve been heartbroken before. You will be reborn. I declare I will get my 6 pack for the first time ever. And dammit am I getting there. It’s mostly diet anyways. As crazy as Andrew Tate is, he did mention that when men reached out to him saying they wanted to kill themselves, he would advise them to go to the gym and get their 6 pack. And then re-evaluate. He said, every. Single. One. Got better and thanked him.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 08:29 PM
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Do it!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 04:41 PM
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Getting laid is NOT the hard part. As a matter of fact, I find getting laid now, waaaayyy easier. It's finding someone you WANT to have sex with is the hard part.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/24 05:50 PM
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Its never too late. Take the bull by the horns and be reborn brother. The world needs more MEN.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 04:20 PM
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Much of these themes come from the feminization of the west post the industrial revolution. The NMMNG book totally points this out. And it's obvious after it was pointed out to me. Before men had to leave the home to work in factories, boys were with their fathers, brothers, male cousins uncles toiling in the fields together. After the industrial revolution, boys were left at home to be raised by women, educated by women and thus seek the approval of women. There is nothing wrong wanting approva…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:20 PM
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I FEEL you OP. My heartache was from the first connection post divorce. She just broke my damn heart. So...get ready for that shit show. The whole trite saying of "just work on you", sounds dumb and nebulous. But I have found that life has FORCED me into taking care of myself, so I can be the best dad to my two boys whom I HAVE to raise to be upstanding young men. And the more I read about the "redpill", the more it makes sense. Sigh....
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 05:08 PM
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I haven't had a hard time finding sex, I have a hard time finding someone I want to have sex with. The first woman I had a connection with post divorce/separation ruined me. I am still recovering. Before I met her, all I wanted was to have a rolodex of chicks I was gonna bang. Oh well.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 06:42 PM
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In california, she doesn't have to sign anything to get a divorce. Just do it already.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 06:38 PM
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Yessir. I hear you. I feel you. I am faking it, till I make it. I believe the good marine corps use that line in abundance. I am trying to live the fake, to make it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 03:38 PM
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This guy just won the internet for the year. Knowledge just got dropped here folks. Sobering.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 11:02 PM
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2024 has been a square kick in the nutz. Repeatedly. I'm downing propranolol (to help with anxiety) multiple times a day. I can't fvcking believe what a turn my life took. I was supposed to be in my beautiful home with my wife and kids, but alas, the universe has something else for me. Thankfully, I made it out OK financially in the divorce. I kept my house and Lamborghini. I am trying to "let go and let God". I'm back to praying daily.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:31 PM
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How can a marriage survive polyamory? I don't understand any of that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 04:48 PM
3

The shit we do for affection. The struggle is real.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 02:58 PM
4

Shit. I just went through the ultimate gas lighting with a chick I was dating post divorce. I was "in", all "in". I knew what I was doing and saying was genuine. Being told that I was love bombing and potentially narcissist was very painful to hear. When you have sincere feelings and the other person makes you feel like you being fake while being genuine is the ultimate gaslighting. Keep running brother and be reborn.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 02:52 PM
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Why do women make our lives so hard. Even when we genuinely want them and like them. Run man.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 02:47 PM
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I met a few on hinge. But goddamnit we all have some baggage.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 05:21 AM
1

On the divorce papers I remember reading that assets CAN be sold for the payment of lawyers and other legal fees.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 05:13 PM
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Really, only you can answer that question. Did she cross a line in the sand with you? If so, then yep, get out. Your boundaries MUST be enforced. If I was guilty of all the thoughts and intentions I've had with women I've met over the years, then I'd be hung and quartered. Especially the last 2 years of my sexless marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 03:39 AM
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Its all about the facts. No fluff. WHATSOEVER. The only "extra" I text will be a "thanks" or if its super helpful "thank you". If you don't have kids with your enemy, why engage in any capacity?
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 02:50 AM
9

Run. As fast as you can. No kids = divorce Christmas
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 10:06 PM
6

Thrive in your new rebirth. Think about what brought you to leave. Think about how much it cost you to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 07:57 PM
6

Happy birthday bro. You will be reborn.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 07:54 PM
1

All of this
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 11:37 PM
1

You need to look up Terrence Popp. And like STAT!
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 07:09 PM
1

Only you can know when it’s time to leave. It won’t hurt to talk to a lawyer and see what you’ve got coming if you choose that route. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 05:21 PM
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