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Stay positive, and take care of yourself. I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis at 19, battled it for 12 years, lost that fight and had my colon and rectum removed - and now at 42, without the major organ, am in the best shape of my life. As others have said, there are treatments about it and you would be surprised at the healing power of positive thinking. Yes, there will be hard times and days when you don’t want to get out of bed, that’s life. Push through and be better on the other side, w…
/r/askMRP20/09/22 02:26 AM
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U are right - my squats were not half reps but not ass to grass, that’s why I don’t mind the deload. I do paused squats now and get well below parallel. I don’t get what you mean that a man should be able to hold 315 lbs? That’s a bit of a generalization right - I mean capacity is against body weight and I don’t think 90% of the men here can DL 315, shit even a lot of the guys at the gym can’t either. Over the years I have added accessory work including arms and come up with my own program but I…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 02:20 PM
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Thanks for the comment - I had tons of success with 5x5 - I am very disciplined and worked my way up from the bar only to SQ 300 DL 305 OHP 135 BP 215 and ROWS 205 - these were all 5x5 numbers, I’ve never done a 1 RM. I went to the gym yesterday and did almost no rest periods and worked in super sets - felt spent when I left the gym so it was a good start to the new program.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 01:51 PM
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Yes you are doing it wrong Going to Hawaii to hit on girls and Instagram whore ur self out?! WTF is that, are you a grow man or a horny teenage girl?! The breaking free activity is to separate yourself from all of that and get to understand who u are and be content with ur self, not try to bang every hole that moves. The laziness of ur wife is a reflection of u as a captain - you want her to be more involved in ur kids lives, why didn’t u step up and watch them, introduce some dread, and she’ll …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 01:47 PM
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Ah gotcha, I thought you meant actual podcasts - good info, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 08:41 PM
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What are the RP podcasts?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 08:08 PM
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I don’t understand what ur post has to do with my second point, not trying to get into an internet argument - I sincerely have no idea what your talking about or how that relates to what I said.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 08:06 PM
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From the things she says to you before you have sex, it’s has nothing to do with you - and by that I mean, she doesn’t even notice ur improvements. I say that bc she is just having sex with you when she’s horny, nothing more nothing less. What may have changed is ur attitude towards OI and not feeling as butthurt when rejected. Once every 7-10 days is terrible - that’s still duty sex and just enough of a drip to keep ur bitching in check. The fact of the matter is, ur still not attractive - now …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 07:55 PM
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I’ve been away for a bit but time to get back in 100% - so here is the first of my weekly OYS FITNESS I took a break from the gym for 2 months (last month of my wife’s pregnancy and a month after my daughter was born) and started back at the gym 4 weeks ago. My lifts suffered significantly as I deloaded and am working my way back up. I’m using it as a means to improve my form and have watched/read info on rep speeds and counts to achieve my fitness goals more efficiently. SQ 225 OHP 105 BP 190 R…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 07:08 PM
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One - this post/format reads like a mad scientist trying to convey his thoughts (think the professor in Back to the Future) lol. I could barely get through the whole post. Two - I think this post really leaves a big part out, sure u can lead and manage by mysteriously not being around and popping into the office once every few weeks or whatever you were saying but I think that is completely ass backwards and impossible unless it’s ur own company. The big missing piece is at some point you had to…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:53 PM
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Once you really develop OI and decide you don’t want to settle for bad sex, u can start, if she’s not into it, stop until she gets the message that mediocre sex isn’t going to cut it. You are not there yet, actually you have a long way to go, I second the opinions of caveman and I can tell you from experience that’s a hard thing for a reformed nice guy to do. I used to watch my wife during sex and react to her winces and frown faces, etc when something didn’t feel good for her. What helped me wa…
/r/askMRP26/02/19 03:55 PM
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I agree with this whole heartedly - if u look over and your wife looks gorgeous or sexy or whatever, tell her. If she doesn’t, don’t say anything because you need to compliment her or reward good behavior. Women can tell a genuine compliment from a feigned one (I mean, we call can). As u start to own ur shit and exude your true value, you don’t have to think about all these elaborate ‘equations’ and things will just be natural. Sometimes with RP, I think we tend to lose the bigger picture which …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 05:38 PM
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This is great advice, we have been and only took a sexual hiatus for 6 weeks post birth. We’re back to around 5x week now but I know a few of the times it’s for my benefit - but as we all know, you can’t negotiate desire so I’m hitting the gym harder, bettering myself and enjoying every moment with my family.
/r/askMRP22/02/19 03:31 PM
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Well said, I’m coming to the same conclusion
/r/askMRP22/02/19 03:28 PM
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Excellent point - I really like this thinking and will throw this in the bag for later use.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 08:01 PM
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Nope, my wife is a working mom and was back at work as soon as she could - I feel like we split the tasks 50/50 and do not feel like I'm being taken advantage of at all. My initial question came from a misunderstanding of the material, everyone has given me great clarity. Thanks
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:07 PM
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That's the plan, gym daycare is at least 6 months so we have a few months before that. In response to the latter half of ur post, as others have mentioned, I was thinking about being at home all wrong - I enjoy the time at home and with my wife (now, not prior to RP) and thought I had to be away for whatever reason but understand that was incorrect thinking - thanks!
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:05 PM
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This is great, my wife and I take our daughter for a 3-5 mile walk daily with our dogs (even in the winter lol), it's a great time to bind as a family.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:03 PM
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Thanks for the response, I'll keep it in mind when my daughter is older or we reach that main event
/r/askMRP15/02/19 07:48 PM
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Agreed - in my case she's already back at work
/r/askMRP15/02/19 07:28 PM
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It's the men who have changed - I feel like even two generations ago, men weren't changing diapers and all that. I think of those world war vets, they weren't doing it...like cotton hill (if you watch king of the hill).
/r/askMRP15/02/19 03:23 PM
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This is gold, I really appreciate the comment!
/r/askMRP15/02/19 03:15 PM
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Yes, still fit, going to the gym and lifting - I am attractive and follow rules 1 and 2. Women hitting on me, don't know, never been good at spotting that lol. I like the comment about becoming the manservant, I do a lot around the house but what confuses me is that I do those things for me and to keep a neat, orderly home - eat good food and not rely on my wife. I prob do more than my wife - but she's not laying on the couch while I'm working (I give her tasks if she does that, which is rare) S…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 03:13 PM
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At first I thought no, I'm in charge but after doing some introspection, there definitely bigger picture items that I need to take control of - thank you for the perspective.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 03:07 PM
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Thank you for that post - I read it some time ago but it was a good refresher. I do take my daughter away when I get home, I have my wife pump and have her to go to yoga or the gym or do whatever she needs for an hour or two each night. I strive to be an engaged dad - I do the diaper changes and get her ready for day care in the mornings. I can't wait until she's older so I can start taking her out :)
/r/askMRP15/02/19 03:02 PM
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There's no playbook - and I understand what your saying. I used those phrases for lack of any other way of conveying that comfort was upped and I catered more to my wife's needs. I do not, however, agree with you that you don't change your demeanor at certain times - sometimes you have to up the comfort and do things that are viewed as generally negative on this forum but it's necessary. If by your statement your saying that RP is all encompassing and it's ur insight that guides you to make thos…
/r/askMRP14/02/19 08:59 PM
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Great advise, I have been deferring to her a bit more because of the baby, but it's time to become more assertive and start leading again - although Bc she's breastfeeding and pumping, she can dictate the baby's schedule since it's hard for me to know. Diet is back on for sure - and thankfully the workout routine is back to normal (aside from the missed here or there Bc of my daughter not feeling well)
/r/askMRP14/02/19 08:50 PM
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That's a really interesting perspective and I appreciate your comment. I love spending time at home, and with my wife and now with my daughter. I am not changing my behavior at all, and there's not anything I would rather be doing when I'm at home (except maybe not going to the gym so late lol) but like you by the time I wrap up my days responsibilities, I have about an hour and that's in my job gym days - gym days I'm in the temple grinding until about midnight and back up at 5am. I just though…
/r/askMRP14/02/19 08:46 PM
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Thanks for the response, I've read BPP book several times and actually watch his YouTube as refreshers now and then. I don't think this was a 'celebration' no sex deal for her - the baby was low and the last two months, you could feel her head if u reached in with ur fingers so I don't think it's a situation like the BPP talks about - besides that she was very willing to give blow jobs and hand jobs - hell we even dry humped one night and laughed about it like we were in middle school. After my …
/r/askMRP14/02/19 08:32 PM
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My wife is pregnant after having tried for a year, and having to abort a baby - my advice from what I've gathered here mirrors the above, this is about her for 9 months. Extra comfort and if ur going through dread stages, stop wherever you are, don't go to the next steps Bc from what I've read it usually doesn't go well. Sex can be hit or miss now, she's going to be tired a lot - so it's not really an excuse, she's growing a baby, so just be cool with it and roll with the punches. Hormones are g…
/r/askMRP17/10/18 06:36 PM
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Thanks buddy, I forgot that I have listened to David Deida but I'll def give rationale male a listen, I've read it twice but I feel like it's the prime material to refresh
/r/askMRP21/05/18 08:48 PM
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Where are all the audiobooks, I've read through them all and need another read through but I've only found NNMNG on audible
/r/askMRP18/05/18 03:29 PM
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I could only make it halfway through the post when I just couldn't take it anymore - have you done ANY of the fuckin sidebar. Every one of ur responses is begging for someone to spoon feed you your magical answer that's going to keep ur princess in ur arms and magically make her respect you. It doesn't work like that, RP isn't a set of canned responses that dictate if X then Y. You have to develop ur own frame and be able to keep that shit solid. Reading between the lines, it sounds like ur her …
/r/askMRP02/02/18 06:52 PM
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Hahhahaa best response not the board
/r/askMRP02/02/18 06:46 PM
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I think gettingmymojoback gave u the best response, you do you. For some, this is a huge boundary, if that's you and it seems like it is, set it and don't leave any room for discussion. Have ur shit in order and make sure u know ur WISNIFG because she will call you a little bitch for it. For some people it's not a boundary. I'm a little surprised at some of the comments here calling people out for being cucks and whatnot for NGAF. A few things: 1 - you can't stop orbiters, that's what they do, t…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 06:41 PM
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I find my wife does this too of sorts. If I do things that she doesn't want to do (initiate too often, getting nude pics, etc) she'll ask several times, what's wrong, are you ok, etc. Now keep in mind, my mood doesn't change from before or after the interaction so my theory on it is that it is her dealing with her guilt and trying to rationalize her hamster. Now granted, I've been at this for going on two years so we're in different places, but it seems to me she knows what is expected of her an…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 06:27 PM
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I love that response; I'm stealing that one for sure
/r/askMRP02/02/18 06:19 PM
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There's a lot of madness going on with new guys demanding respect that they have not yet earned. You can't proclaim, I shan't be spoken to that way and then go do whatever was asked of u without another word, that's sending mixed signals. These don't sound amazingly bad, granted the tone doesn't convey over text but I think you need to man up, everyone works, everyone has long days but that doesn't mean she's ur servant. She ur FO and u should be looking out for her well being - being a SAHM mom…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 06:15 PM
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I've personally mentioned it to a few people. Some have gotten very into fixing themselves and becoming better men, some stare at me like I'm insane and talk shit (white knighting). In the end, don't invest too much time into it, you can mention it and they have to put in the work, you can't force it. Remember when BP is all they know, they see it as an insult that everything they know if untrue and they're completely wrong, some deny it to coddle themselves in their BP world, some don't want to…
/r/askMRP31/01/18 06:22 PM
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In the basic reading, the material tells us that men do what had to be done, it's as simple as that. I cook dinner because I like to eat healthy, I clean up our home because I don't like messes, I'll clean the garage, mow the lawn, get groceries, wash dishes, all that bc I'm a man and I get shit done. I don't stand around waiting for a cookie and if she doesn't notice something, I never point it out. If she does, it's always a sure, ain't no thang response. Not a OMG it was such a pain, etc etc.…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 02:44 PM
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The way of the superior male says men grow through challenge and being challenged - women grow through nurturing and encouragement - so what's that say, I think get back to the side bar. I came here about a year ago, they were as rough on me as they are on you, the difference is owning ur shit is taking a real look at yourself. Not a single comment that anyone made was off the mark, trust me, it's hard to hear but there is truth and constructive feedback in the comments everyone provides, even i…
/r/askMRP22/08/17 08:52 PM
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Thank you for the comment Prof, it is very enlightening as always, I don't know about being a veteran, I'm still learning quite a bit. I appreciate your words bc they do help to put my head in the right perspective and helps me to build my frame more, it's something that I'm working on quite a bit
/r/askMRP31/07/17 03:13 PM
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Thank you for this, I've read Way of the Superior Man but apparently need a re-read, it's a lot of info in that book but good stuff
/r/askMRP31/07/17 03:10 PM
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Thanks for the examples, I can see how even though they're just words, they can serve as a great sign of affection, love the Archer reference btw -
/r/askMRP26/07/17 12:50 PM
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I appreciate the comment, and to be honest, I've never broken down my finances this way, we make more than we spend and save about 8 - 10K a month, not including 401K. We're currently saving to build a custom designed home and that's the long term goal now, along with trying to have a baby, it's all the planning I've done. You're comment made me think further out and I'll try to come up with a blueprint of the next 10, at least something rough that'll serve as a outline. I am just about wrapped …
/r/askMRP26/07/17 12:49 PM
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That is definitely it - good luck to you guys!
/r/askMRP25/07/17 06:25 PM
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Thank you for the kind words - I am truly amazed how much things have changed over this past year, from being absolutely miserable to sincerely enjoying my life and being the best in "everything" that I have been my whole life. I've read it a few times and it's definitely true, MRP doesn't fix the relationship, it fixes the man. Unfortunately, we lost the baby a little past the fifth month but I appreciate the advice, as we're trying again and the info everyone here has provided is invaluable. I…
/r/askMRP25/07/17 05:29 PM
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So I'm not being defensive, I just wanted to clarify the things I mentioned there that you quoted are things I normally do (scheduling our weekends, etc) so I get that you're saying I'm in her frame, and I acknowledge that, I'm still working on my frame. I'm definitely not saying mission accomplished, MRP is ongoing and there is no endpoint. From my understanding, I am suspending moving up BPPs dread levels at about level 5-6. I'm still working on my body, actively upgrading my wardrobe, even gr…
/r/askMRP25/07/17 05:07 PM
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I just wanted to say, if you enjoy it, enjoy the fuck out of it - own it and be the fuckin man at it. Personally, I wouldn't step anywhere near LARPING, but I'm a huge nerd too and I def know there are some fuckin freaks at these places - and if you're into nerdy girls, some are super sexy. Don't be ashamed of ur hobbies, but be the man who owns it.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 09:01 PM
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It's been said plenty but I'll add, she's fucking him. Dont act like it doesn't bother you bc it does and your positing and DEERING of the comments show that. Clearly it's a boundary that she's crossing but it's not entirely her fault because you haven't set that boundary. Another poster said it best and most simply - married women don't spend the night at other men's houses overnight. You're new on your journey so it would be hard to say you forbid it and leave it at that, I doubt ur frame is i…
/r/askMRP17/06/17 02:49 PM
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So this - spot on
/r/askMRP17/06/17 02:41 PM
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My wife pulled the same thing, if you check out my post history - and I asked the same question. AWALT right, the comments the guys made are universal, and I got the "I don't like big guys' and 'don't get too big' but like others have said, pick her up and throw her on the bed, she'll forget that quick. When we got married, she wouldn't let me carry her over the threshold, I think she didn't think I could lift her up - fast forward a year and i picked her up at the door and carried her three fli…
/r/askMRP17/06/17 02:34 PM
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Seems like you have a ridiculous case of oneitis - you say the right things, she's not mine etc. but you don't really believe it. You need to get back to the material and really let it soak in, and then go out and talk to other women and develop some abundance mentality. Tell her have a good time and go do something awesome yourself, you're not with her 24/7 and if a woman has the intention to cheat, she will, simple as that. I also rock climb and I have no idea what 'special connection' your ta…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 06:25 PM
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She's not yours, it's just your turn Unless you find yourself a virgin, you're always getting someone's leftovers lol.
/r/askMRP21/03/17 07:25 PM
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Thank you for the response, I will try to just ignore it, it'll be hard for sure but I will give it a go. I can easily STFU and NGAF when she's pissy but I'm not a stone cold jerk so it'll be tough when she has tears streaming down her face.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 01:41 PM
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My wife keeps shitty comfort testing - I hate to see her cry and treat it as a comfort test but after about the 4th time (and it's usually when I do things for myself instead of her) - enough is enough - what's the best way to handle shitty comfort tests?
/r/askMRP27/01/17 10:07 PM
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Yes, he's quite religious and even mentioned that the only way he would leave (or vice versa) is if he cheats or loses his faith, it seems it's something that they've discussed.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 02:37 AM
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Exactly, that's what I told him, I know we fake it til we make it but I feel like woman can definitely tell when you're faking it over a long period - hence the noob gains. I feel like it's fine to fake it but there's no reason to try and justify your view with me, I mean, I don't care what you're relationship is, I'm glad you're doing better and I'm just teaching you RP and hoping you learn from the mistakes myself and several others have made. (You as in he)
/r/askMRP18/01/17 02:33 AM
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Hahha never heard that, it's a good one!
/r/askMRP17/01/17 11:59 PM
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Excellent read - thanks for that, I'll be sure to pass it along. This will stay with me for sure - Whatever you cannot say No to is your master and makes you its slave.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 09:49 PM
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Thanks for the comment, I don't think he grasps that principle yet that that is his strongest tool, and without truly internalizing Abundance Mentality and not having oneitis, he'll become the angry drunk captain once again. And yes, you are right, it doesn't matter for him, you can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink. I posted this more for my (and other newbies) benefit.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 09:10 PM
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Thanks for the comment, I agree 100% It seems to me that he has taken some RP principles and seen some noob gains and feels validated. I warned him of noob gains and the impending shit storm, but he feels he's got the tools to bat them away and will be fine going forward regardless of the shit test that comes. Although, when I mentioned that his special snowflake is not so special, he said my marriage is nothing compared to his and I (and RP folks) don't understand true commitment. My response w…
/r/askMRP17/01/17 09:08 PM
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Excellent read, thanks for posting that - it's helped clarify a few things about STFU, much appreciated!
/r/askMRP12/01/17 06:26 PM
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Thanks so much for the comprehensive list, I appreciate it - I mostly liked number 9 and will try to keep that in mind! Thankfully, I have 7 nieces and nephews that I was pretty active in raising so I'm not starting from scratch. I know it'll be completely different since it's my own baby, but I'll keep ur words in mind, be cool, don't stress, be smart and don't be a retard! Edit: that graphic, yikes!!
/r/askMRP03/01/17 05:41 PM
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Perfect, I'm going to get through all 4 - thanks!
/r/askMRP03/01/17 05:39 PM
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Thanks for the suggestions, guess I'll put that re-read of the sidebar on hold and get to these first - solid plan?
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:50 PM
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Thanks so much for the code, that helps, and I'll look him up!
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:49 PM
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Good advice, I've read a lot of his stuff on MRP but will look up his blog - thanks!
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:30 PM
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Do 50 pull ups a day (various grips) Become proficient at free climbing outdoors Get my squats up to 3 big boy plates and dead lift at 2x body weight 330
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:06 PM
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I've been doing hot yoga for 2 years now, one class is with weights - I don't see anything faggy about it, it a tough class, keeps ur body loose and relaxed for lifting and u get to flirt with attractive girls, win-win-win.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 03:40 PM
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I do, someone here posted when I asked a similar question that the key is 'when everything else is done' so that leaves me with little game time but I really do enjoy it so I get it in when I can. I will say though, sometimes after everything is done, my wife comes home from work, and I put the controller down within minutes. I think to ignore her for the game would be low value but like others have said, enjoy what you do and own it. PS - I've been trying to finish gears of war 4 for several we…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 07:17 PM
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Thanks for this, I am about 3 months in and thought I was going slow enough, following BPPs one month per stage but I may be going to quick - she cried all night Friday saying she depends on me too much and doesn't want to do that and I'm trying to create distance and she doesn't know who I am anymore, I've been different, etc etc. I treated it as a comfort test and comforted her but I don't know if that was the right. I tried to be stoic but it really did hurt me to see her cry, she's quite str…
/r/askMRP30/10/16 12:49 PM
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I loved that post and thanks for this - my hobby used to be video games but I cut that out a while ago - ur post just reminded me to own my hobby, nothing wrong with being passionate about something and playing a few games when everything else is taken care of!
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:09 PM
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Sounds like u need a better gym and a set of headphones - my gym doesn't smell and I play my own music, problem solved, just sayin.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 05:48 PM
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I'm new but I'll chime in to say that I thought something similar when I started. I already worked out 6-7 times a week, hiked, biked, yoga, running and some classes here and there. The guys all said u have to lift, and lift heavy - and I didn't understand why, if I was in shape I was in shape. 2.5 months later, I get it 100%. One member made a good point on my original post and said, do you notice someone who hikes and bikes walk into a room? Now, do you notice someone who lifts heavy walk in, …
/r/askMRP26/10/16 05:14 PM
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Damn man, Dick Tracy in the house, impressive
/r/askMRP26/10/16 12:55 PM
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Thank you for this - I will plan some things that I want to do for the next week or two. This weekend is too late, I already made plans and told her about it, ugh.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 12:38 PM
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Yes, thank you for explaining, that makes a lot of sense now
/r/askMRP25/10/16 06:26 PM
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I still don't get it and now I sound like an idiot too, great
/r/askMRP25/10/16 06:19 PM
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This is great on both fronts - I'm going to be more direct about sex and see how that goes. I definitely own my shit around the house, potentially more than I should and we don't have kids. You and Cholomite hit the nail on the head, I'm too concerned with her feelings in my decisions to spend my time, that's gotta stop.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 06:10 PM
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I don't understand what this is referring to?
/r/askMRP25/10/16 06:07 PM
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This is great, I feel like I've read this response to other people and agreed with it, now I'm in that boat and you're absolutely right - I started with making this an improvement plan for me, and somewhere along the way it's shifted...bigtime - I have been worried about her and her feelings and forget a crucial piece, I'm not responsible for her feelings. I'm going to do my own thing now, no more altering my gym schedule to accommodate her stuff and making inconvenient plans - I'll do me. It's …
/r/askMRP25/10/16 06:07 PM
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Thanks buddy, I appreciate that - I think I'm coming close to a plateau on squats, it's getting a little heavy, but I only failed once so far at 200 at 5/5/5/5/4 - I pushed so hard for that last one too!! Ah well, failure is a part of the game :-)
/r/askMRP25/10/16 05:22 PM
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Hahhaha hilarious post, thanks for that! Ya, I've been lifting since I swallowed the pill - I was quite active before but cut three days of other activities and do SL 5x5 for the last few months. I'm 160lbs and at 200 squats, 105 OHP, 225 DL, and 150 Bench, don't remember my rows. I notice a huge difference when I look in the mirror - my wife does too and has commented on it - hell the other day when we had sex, she wouldn't stop rubbing my arms and shoulders and tracing my muscle paths with her…
/r/askMRP25/10/16 05:11 PM
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Thank you for the perspective, I'll keep that in mind for next time. It's difficult at this stage to know when to provide more support and when to be aloof. I'll keep the oak comment in mind - that helps!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 11:30 AM
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Thank you for the feedback. I don't think it's option 3 bc she's very into the relationship - I mean, we both are and the reason I swallowed the red pill is bc I wasn't happy with the frequency and passion in our sex lives (which has improved since unplugging). I admit that I am fortunate that she doesn't shit test too often - although as life would have it, the day after I posted this, she gave me a mega shit test, seemingly out of nowhere. Heading to dinner Friday night and she she seems pissy…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 04:26 AM
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So I've been unplugged for a month now and am viciously devouring the sidebar materials and trying to kill it at the iron temple. I feel like this month has been life transformative for me - being a career beta and nice guy forced me to sometimes be someone i wasn't to 'do the right thing'. I'm very thankful for the guys here (and the DB brigand that PM'd me about this place) because I always knew deep down something was wrong but couldn't put my finger on it. So my story, newly married this sum…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 01:12 PM
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What is ur natural you? Is it a serious guy, a fun guy? A man who is always cracking jokes and smiling. I think the way to appear not butt hurt is to be ur natural self - if ur usually not that smiling happy guy, then she'll see u acting and know she got to u - just be urself, that's how u DGAF.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 12:21 PM
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Carry on as if nothing happened - start each day fresh
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:48 PM
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The basic question that you're asking is showing that you were butt hurt at the hard no - a lesson I got when I started not so long ago, was initiate hard, always, if it's a hard no, DNGAF and keep being awesome sauce. You just started, you should be at dread levels 1 and 2 - it's not until much later (dread level 4 if I remember right) that you condition her sexual denials with lack of attention. To do so now will just look like you're butt hurt. So, initiate hard, then start the next day from …
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:25 PM
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Thank you for this comment, it does add some complexity to it but is certainly worth noting. Yes, you are right, I'm not in a place to purposely fail a shit test, I want all the checkmarks on my side for a while - once that buffer builds up, then I can do a little thing here or there to make me happy even if it fails a shit test, a little beta now and then.
/r/askMRP20/09/16 12:52 PM
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I must be lost somewhere - she says she wants a divorce and then says we need to hurry up and have kids. You live with your parents, so I assume money is an issue, but you want to have a child?!? They're not cheap and def will not save your marriage, just add more stress to an already fragile (maybe shattered) situation. Sounds to me like you have some oneitis and she is still not giving it up (which confuses me since she wants to have a kid). I agree with the other poster, have sex with someone…
/r/askMRP20/09/16 12:43 PM
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Maybe....I am quite hairy
/r/askMRP19/09/16 06:36 PM
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Agreed, it was very reasonable
/r/askMRP19/09/16 06:35 PM
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Thanks for the perspective, yes there are no covert expectations at all - I like to make her happy too and it was pretty minor, sometimes I'm just overthinking things. Still trying to internalize all the info
/r/askMRP19/09/16 06:35 PM
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For some reason, this quote reminded me of this, lol. http://youtu.be/Oo9buo9Mtos
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 02:47 PM
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Nope, I would get whatever I wanted myself and usually do, seldom do I ask her for anything - maybe a water now and then if she's in the kitchen and I'm busy doing something in another room that I can't put down.
/r/askMRP19/09/16 01:53 PM
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Thanks for that clarification, the tone is very important and I recall, now that you pointed it, from the video. The tone was pleasant and polite, definitely not an order. I don't remember if she said please or not, but she said something towards 'honey, can you bring me some Cheerios' (she eats them out the box for a little snack)
/r/askMRP19/09/16 01:38 PM
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Well said, we're all here trying to improve, this white knight spends the time to try and demoralize and berate everyone, for some unknown and mysterious reason ...someone needs some hobbies other than lurking on a sub to attack strangers that have no bearing on his life, which by the virtue of this post, has to be quite boring. Edited to add that everyone here sees the positive results of their actions, your words have no impact, like a child fussing at their parents.
/r/askMRP19/09/16 01:00 PM
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lol this was to OP, I just wanted to piggyback ur comment. To clarify, if she's currently cheating, obviously dump her stupid whore ass and get something better. If she cheated in the past (what I meant) and isn't currently cheating, then up ur SMV and make urself irresistible, lest the past repeat itself.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 02:15 PM
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This was my take on it - from everything that I've learned in MRP over the last month, you are doing it all wrong. Rule 1 - be attractive Rule 2 - don't be unattractive All this snooping and the odd convos have to be quite unattractive. Besides, I thought that you are supposed to be about you, not her, whether something is/was going on you're totally in ur frame - like others have said, up ur SMV, and attract her back. Go chat up some girls too (don't cheat obvi) but it'll make you feel better k…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:06 PM
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This is an amazing idea - I second it
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:00 PM
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Awesome buddy, glad you got it all turned around and keep it up. I just wanted to point something out to the new guys (I'm pretty new myself) but just so there's not someone out there scratching their head I cook everyday too and clean up quite a bit - I don't see it as beta behavior though because there are no covert contracts involved. I do it because a part of it to me is leading my household (we both work full time) and on top of that, as a senior member of the board explained when I was con…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 12:57 PM
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Ah, so that is what a troll is - I remember reading this guys original post and thinking it could be a joke but this solidifies it. Kind of sad also, because the guys were def trying to be supportive and help out. I don't understand who in the world has the time and energy to do this, I mean what is the gain here?!? Obviously this is life changing and helpful to people - I haven't felt better in years, my wife would def say the exact same thing. She's not getting played or manipulated, I am the …
/r/askMRP12/09/16 10:01 PM
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Thanks for the article, that was insightful!
/r/askMRP12/09/16 06:56 PM
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Your wife is a reflection of your performance. That statement hits hard, I'm going to remember that one because you're absolutely right. I may have not fully understood ur original comment, I can certainly agree with you here - I will try and let's my actions inspire her to follow and lead by action and not words.
/r/askMRP12/09/16 06:28 PM
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Thanks for the advice and differentiating RP from MRP advice - I wouldn't just next her, because she's still attractive and like you mentioned, vows. It was just a curious thing that happened this weekend - I was so infatuated with her, even after we got married (it potentially could have gotten worse) but now it's exactly like you said, she's off her pedestal - and life is just kind of.....different now. I also wanted to just add to your point, it's not men vs her in mind mind - she's my partne…
/r/askMRP12/09/16 06:25 PM
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Nope, we're actually pretty healthy and fit, I just started lifting to gain mass and am doing double workouts some days - I do try to motivate her to hit the gym with me sometimes, but she says she's tired. 5'10" 163 - when I started, everyone said I was too thin and needed to lift heavy - lifting wasn't a part of my workout routine then and I've put on 3 lbs of muscle this month so I'm working on it.
/r/askMRP12/09/16 06:15 PM
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Whoops, just found how to search on mobile - thanks for the tip!
/r/askMRP12/09/16 06:13 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, I picked up SGM again to finish reading through it - also got Evernote and will be rereading everything and taking notes this time around for a daily read list as suggested by another member!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 03:41 PM
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FoundMRP 4 weeks ago, first OYS post LIFTING Didn't miss a workout in the last 4 weeks. I'm doing SL 5x5 and I work out with the wife 3-4 days a week doing yoga, running and taking long 5+ mile walks. Last night I told her I gotta bounce to get my workout it and she gave me a little shit test saying we worked out in the morning (hard sculpt class) and walked 15 miles in the afternoon and it's so late now (10:15pm) - kissed her on the forehead and said can't miss my workouts and bounced. Now gran…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 01:24 PM
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Love the flywheel analogy - that's exactly what it feels like!!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 04:20 PM
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I can't link cause I'm on mobile - it's in the Rationale Male articles - there's a specific post on it - good luck, I'm pulling for u
/r/askMRP09/09/16 03:43 PM
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Read up on oneitis, once I digested that, man I couldn't care less if my wife left or not, yes I love her dearly - but as below said, there are tons of vaginas out there - many that will please you better than your wife. Also, read up on sunk cost fallacy and escalation of commitment - not MRP terms but based on your comment they certainly apply. I'm only 4 weeks in and the advice to lift may sound odd, but trust everyone when they say it, it is empowering and will make you feel like a man - the…
/r/askMRP09/09/16 12:30 PM
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Seconded, this level of insane is well beyond your current skill level to handle - I'm not on the dump her bandwagon but I do agree with telling her you'll speak to her when she speaks to you like an adult. Otherwise, leave for a while - solid advice that I've received is be an awesome person who's time is worth something, and if she wants a bit of your time, she has to earn it - or else she can yell at the walls (prepare for WW3 when you get back tho, that would be a good time to be happy, OI, …
/r/askMRP09/09/16 12:20 PM
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Read NMMNG, but will go in for a Reread - I do a lot around the house but there are no covert contracts, I do them because I like to keep the house clean to my standards and I cook because I like good food and can make nutritious meals that way. I thought there was something wrong bc I do so much but I don't do it to be rewarded, I do it bc it's my responsibility to myself. My biggest takeaway from NMMNG was to be my own person, do my own activities and hang out with my guy friends (all of which…
/r/askMRP08/09/16 03:02 PM
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Squat in your squats, love it!!!
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:59 PM
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This is great - thank you, I'll get Evernote, I didn't want to write it out on paper but this will make it easy for sure - and I love the idea of the daily read!
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:57 PM
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I read five love languages a little while ago, before unplugging. I will say it is a good book, and will help you know how to recognize and speak to ur woman's love language. However, as the others pointed out, it can be a dangerous beta tool. If you're confident in ur alpha behaviors and need to sprinkle a little beta on it - it'll help to know how to reward positive behavior for sure. I.E. - if you're woman doesn't care about receiving gifts but does care about acts of service, buying her some…
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:56 PM
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Thank you for the response, this certainly wasn't a complaint - I was just asking for any tips that would help. I love to get the perspective of those with experience in anything that I do, no point making the same mistakes others have, easier to learn from their experience to not make those mistakes...or in some cases make ur learning (training) process more efficient. I'm getting that it never ends for sure - thanks!
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:52 PM
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Thanks for the responses - the basic gist of it is to go slow and improve incrementally - RP is a lifestyle change, not a multiple choice exam, I appreciate the comments
/r/askMRP07/09/16 08:25 PM
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This is next on it list, I'm going to start (and maybe finish) it this week!
/r/askMRP07/09/16 04:45 PM
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This is excellent advise - I'm going to hold on to this. I won't lie and say that I'm doing it all for me right now, it is to have her respect me more and get nasty in bed - but slowly....slowly - I am really starting to take a IDGAF attitude about her shit test and being rejected. I go to lift because it's awesome, she gives me shit and I bounce anyways and don't think about it at all, just enjoy the gym. I'm working on attractive behaviors and it feels so good to be positive and happy again - …
/r/askMRP07/09/16 04:44 PM
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Hahha, damn that would be one way to do it - maybe more of a Memento thing?!
/r/askMRP07/09/16 04:39 PM
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This sounds much worse than just the sex. My situation is bad and I found MRP two weeks ago and have been making strides, although it wasn't nearly as bad as you have it. Personally, from reading your story, your wife doesn't respect you. If my wife didn't greet me when I came home, I would not stand for it, you need to call her out. In my culture, that is a big sign of disrespect to not greet (we actually have to stand up) someone when they come in, not doing that is beyond absurd to me. It see…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 12:48 PM
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I like this advice, I see this coming too!!!
/r/askMRP19/08/16 04:57 PM
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Excellent article, I especially liked the second one. It helps explain frame in a way that can understand - not so much about control as it is about unwavering dedication to ur best interest bc you genuinely believe that your super awesome. Thanks!
/r/askMRP19/08/16 04:17 PM
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Changed my username - previous had identifying info in it...and I'm going to tell my brother about MRP, cause he's miserable and beta as fuck - he may not swallow but I'll have done my job as a brother. I know ur not supposed to talk about this with others but it can help him, tremendously and I know if he doesn't swallow, he won't say anything about it to anyone - I feel very Morpheus.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 01:41 PM
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