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| 11 | Advanced Degrees? | ADVICE | DunboyCastleInTheSky | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/21 11:56 AM |
| 10 | Who are your favorite artists? | LIFESTYLE | DunboyCastleInTheSky | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 07:00 PM |
| 8 | Where to find cute outfits? | SELF IMPROVEMENT | DunboyCastleInTheSky | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/19 07:26 PM |
| 7 | Ways to help your man make friends? | ADVICE | DunboyCastleInTheSky | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/21 11:55 PM |
| 7 | How long is too long to wait to get married? | DISCUSSION | DunboyCastleInTheSky | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/20 12:44 PM |
| 4 | Is this a red flag? | ADVICE | DunboyCastleInTheSky | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 05:14 PM |
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| 2 | How do I get my bf back?I’m sorry you’re experiencing stand-offish rejection from your boyfriend, but you need to realize he’s rejecting you (unprovoked) and for him to do this after dating you for a year is selfish and the behavior of a psychopath. You’re literally trying to give your all to this man-child and he won’t even acknowledge your existence. I understand wanting closure, but it doesn’t sound like he’ll give it to you. And you absolutely cannot fight for a relationship your partner is actively destroying. Mou… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/02/24 10:09 PM |
| 4 | How did you master The Art Of STFU?It’s taken me a LOT of practice. I basically stopped nagging and started being more pleasant. So like instead of me reminding my husband to do something, I’ll tell him I’m planning to do X,Y, and Z today and ask him if there’s anything else I need to add to my list to help out around the house. He’ll normally give me one or two things and bring up what he’s doing today and ask me the same question. Then I’ll ask if we’re taking care of X today, this weekend, or next week. And instead of bugging … | /r/RedPillWives | 12/01/24 05:52 PM |
| 44 | Cardi B says...And he jokingly exposed that she does clean up around the house. Cooking and cleaning won’t save their marriage though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/24 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever get offended when certain men think they stand a chance with youYes omg I was that way in college and early adulthood. ESPECIALLY when it was clear they weren’t going anywhere in life or held very little value in the dating pool. Now that I’m older and married, I’m thankful that don’t have to worry about it anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/23 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Being feminine in a crisisYou can’t maintain your femininity and be the sole breadwinner of the household. If your goal is marriage and a red pill lifestyle, you need to leave him and find a man who works and is marriage minded. I am so sorry that you’ve wasted almost two years in a feckless relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/23 02:52 PM |
| 50 | Do I marry this man for stability as a single mom?You’re repeating the same behaviors that led to you becoming a single mother. If you continue on this path, you’ll remain a single mother with (likely) more children. Knowing what it takes to be better isn’t enough, you actually have to follow through and have enough self-control and discipline to change. You already know we’re not going to encourage that you continue dating him AND that we are going to encourage you do some type of introspective therapy to figure out why you have the urge to be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/23 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Giving boyfriend your card under the table so it looks like he’s the one payingAbsolutely not when it’s done intentionally in that way. I will admit when my husband and I are out and I happen to have my wallet and for whatever reason he doesn’t, he pays with my card but that’s because we have a joint account so it doesn’t matter. I would’ve never done this with a boyfriend while we have separate accounts. It’s saving face and giving him the appearance of doing something in the relationship when he hasn’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/23 04:38 PM |
| 1 | He said he likes that I'm soft, and it made me feel uncomfortable and scared (?)He told you that you’re soft aka easy to get along with and feminine instead of being problematic or a headache like most women your age and you feel like that’s a bad thing? I think you may still more feminist than you thought. Why would it be bad for a woman to be soft? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/23 04:09 PM |
| 5 | Fearing reaction from my mom after telling her that my boyfriend is ArabThey all say that until it’s time for marriage girl. Maybe you should listen to your mother. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/23 04:53 PM |
| 32 | Will men find it a turn off that I am a quiet home body who doesn’t have many friends?Not if he’s also a homebody. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 07:43 PM |
| 6 | What do you bring to the table?Cooking, cleaning, event planning, the ability to have children, parenting knowledge from teaching/tutoring children, family-oriented, ambitious, outgoing, budgeting/frugality, kindness, and good looks. I honestly didn’t realize I had that to offer my husband but thankfully he noticed it while we dated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/23 04:45 PM |
| 2 | RedPill women who used to be on the “liberal” sides, what made you open your eyes?Realizing I’d either be alone for the rest of my life or have to support a man to keep one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Liberal women have an easier time datingNo they don’t, because they don’t date. They just situationship themselves to death, I know because I was one lmao. And the liberal men they can date they end up not being attracted to. But there are too many men in the world for you to feel this way. Join a youth group at a local church and find men who don’t mind this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/23 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Given that all first world countries will soon have below avg birthrates, what is the end game of modern dating culture?To die childless and alone and once enough of them are gone, the world will possibly return to normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Women, would you rather date an attractive poor man or an unattractive rich man?Unattractive fo sho. I’m sure I’d love to learn his personality and we’d get along well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/23 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Dating for long term relationships past university age is pointlessIf you’re mainly dating low quality women, you need to change your vetting strategy. If you don’t, then your logic and this post makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 02:26 PM |
| 1 | What did y'all think of the Barbie movie?I thought it was a cute movie, but it was entirely too woke with it’s over exaggeration of patriarchy and it’s effects on society, how they tried to make Barbie feel bad for being beautiful and fun because many adults in the real world aren’t, the trans Barbie doesn’t logistically make sense within the movie, and the fat Barbies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/23 03:37 AM |
| 2 | The Red Pill exists because entire generations of men are lied to about what women find attractive in men, and dismissing it as some angry hate group is simply a way to sweep all of these lies under the rugI wouldn’t necessarily say it’s a lie; those are things that high quality women value. If you’re trying to get bitches, then this strategy won’t work. If you’re trying to get married and start a family, it will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Help me find meaningI really don’t think red pill ideology is for you based on what you’re saying. It’s not compatible with how we think and it doesn’t seem like you value yourself or place in life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 02:26 PM |
| 4 | do I look fat/overweight to you?A little overweight, but I wouldn’t call you fat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 02:04 PM |
| 1 | How to keep minor complaints to myself?I normally keep those small things about how I’m feeling to myself and either tell him when we talk at lunch or at/right after dinner. The amount and care, sympathy, and support I receive is worth it. 🥰 | /r/RedPillWives | 07/04/23 05:41 PM |
| 1 | How to gracefully distance yourself from toxic family memberIf it’s for a man you’re planning to date, I’d say your values don’t align and give some normal, non-extreme examples. I’d also say that you still see them occasionally. If it’s a friend, I’d just say their behavior for the past few years has been inexcusable so you don’t see them often. Using popular buzzwords like toxic and abusive signal unflattering things about your family and yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 02:47 PM |
| 1 | body count issue UPDATEI can agree to the hard questions, but her kissing someone he’s friends with and him reacting by calling her a liar and telling her to get the fuck out is extreme. A normal reaction would’ve been saying that he can’t date someone who’s kissed or hooked up with a friend so the relationship’s over. His reaction given the situation is a valid reason to infer that he may be verbally abusive. I can also acknowledge that he may not be abusive and has been painted that way based on OP’s telling of the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 02:43 PM |
| 1 | When they ask what you do for work?I’d start volunteering somewhere like a school and say I’m a small business owner and that I work at an elementary school in my free time. edit: I think the provider talk will happen naturally when y’all have a conversation about what type of husband/wife y’all are looking for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Big sister/ motherly advice24 would be ideal, but if you feel ready around 22/23, go for it. Volunteer, learn to cook and about fitness (CICO), learn about finances, budgeting and retirement, learn about child rearing, establish at least 5 hobbies that you participate in consistently, make a list of places you want to visit and things you want to experience and find friends/family that will travel with you. You should still date seriously like the intention is to become life partners. Your relationship could turn into one… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 02:15 PM |
| -3 | body count issue UPDATEThis man is abusive. There’s not any advice that will keep him from acting shitty. A real hvm would be able to tell from your mannerisms if your body count is low and wouldn’t ask for specifics like this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 02:06 PM |
| 1 | I’m probably being silly, but…Are you both in an official, committed relationship (gf/bf)? Has he talked to you about what he’s looking for in terms of what he’s looking for long term and expressed a desire for marriage and children? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 02:01 PM |
| 0 | Single at 30 - how do I not freak out?I think the best situation that keeps you from freaking out is dating an older man who is also ready to settle down and doesn’t have but wants marriage and children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 09:39 PM |
| 1 | What do you do to keep your brain stimulated?Reading, podcasts, and I’ve just started grad school as well. 😛 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/23 06:40 PM |
| 2 | RP dating coach for women on apps?If you already have a guy you’re talking to, lean in and give it your all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to be a RPW as a single mother?You can apply RPW principles to your fasting life moving forward, but you’re chances of attractive a HVM are slim. You’re competing with every woman aged 18-30 without a child. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Unsure to date or notFind a Swiss man to date. Men don’t care about your finances. They care about whether or not you’ll be a loving partner. That’s something only women care about for the men they date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 11:04 AM |
| 53 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?Don’t watch Andrew Tate, but your pick of men is going to be much smaller than it would be if you didn’t have a child. Aim for men who already have one child as well. You can’t have a normal, traditional relationship because having a child out of wedlock is not what those in traditional relationships do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 10:47 AM |
| 7 | Wall-friendly careersNursing. You could start working with an associates and you could complete the degree within two years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 08:36 PM |
| 4 | Can one become un-damaged?If you acknowledge that you’ve made a mistake and are accountable for your actions, then you can build self-value. Once you’re able to do that, you’ll start making better decisions and live a life where you feel worthy of being loved. Best of luck (and I’m absolutely speaking from experience)! I had the highest body count of my friends and I’m the only one married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/23 12:17 PM |
| 3 | I'm now with a gamer, and I want to find feminine video games I can play solo, or cooperative ones we can play together (non-competitive!)Stardew Valley | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/23 12:57 PM |
| 6 | Where/ how did you find your partner?Tinder 🤣 I’d decided a month before I met him that I wanted to date seriously and foster a real relationship with someone. It was pretty easy to avoid all of the red flags on the app and meet/date decent people. We got engaged at a year and a half, married 3 months later. We go to church every Sunday, closing on a house together this month, and resuming TTC this month as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/23 03:52 PM |
| 6 | What is a good career option for someone wanting to be a SAHM in the future?Teaching will prepare you for raising, caring for, and teaching children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 07:38 PM |
| 20 | Trans movement and the elimination of competition?Not at all. I think the popularity in the trans movement is due to people incorrectly categorizing normal feelings about themselves and their identity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/23 02:03 AM |
| -1 | Am I dating out of my league?I think you’re dating out of your league. The men of comparable age and status to you are looking more so at women younger than you and they’re not too concerned about their finances. You can determine who’s in your league by seeing who is interested in going on dates with you, discussing inclusivity unprovoked, and who mentions marriage unprovoked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 04:28 PM |
| 5 | What are you doing for your man on Valentine’s Day?We’re buying each other chocolate, eating our favorite junk food (Chinese), getting wine, setting up a living room fort and watching movies. 💗 We only do presents for birthdays and our anniversary | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Expensive gift idea?Designer bag or an in country trip to somewhere nice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?Women have a wider array of partners to choose from. If men are orgasming with the majority of their partners and women aren’t, being able to make a woman orgasm is a sexual advantage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:38 PM |
| 10 | Question for all: If you were born as the opposite sex, what would be the advantages and disadvantages for you?I know for certain that if I was a guy, I’d have no bitches. I’d be average height and average body weight. I would not be able to marry a woman who is equally as attractive as my husband. The only minor advantage would be making money earlier in my career because of the amount labor intensive jobs available, but that’s not something I really care about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | BF Meeting Friend He's Slept with BeforeI guess just keep doing what you’re doing and ignore the parade of red flags your BF is waving in your face? If you want a cheating, drug user for a husband and father of your children, you are free to make that decision. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/23 08:15 PM |
| 3 | What was your timeline?I started dating with the intention of marriage at 24. Met my husband at 24. He proposed after a year and a half of dating (we did live together for a year - which I don’t advise doing), married at 26. I’m 27 now and we’ve just started trying for children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Dating History ConversationJust say you’ve had a few boyfriends and leave it at that. I’m 27, married, and have only had one conversation with a boyfriend or my husband about our body counts. My husband brought it up after like a year of marriage and only mentioned it to say he was lucky to have won me over considering how great I look. Mine is more than 3-times yours and I honestly only felt shame about it right before joining red pill. Own it and realize that had you done anything differently, you wouldn’t be who you ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 08:09 PM |
| 1 | What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of?This sounds like a male RP argument. Not really related to RPW. I haven’t seen a male red pill argument that I agree with tbh 🤣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 08:03 PM |
| 24 | Not quite sure what else I can do to prove my worthIt’s weird that you’re telling your body count out the gate. When I was 24, my now husband and I had a clear conversation about what we were looking for in a relationship and expectations without mentioning how many people we’d been with. We briefly talked about our body counts after a year into our marriage. Stop being so honest upfront before a man has decided to invest a relationship with you. You can own that early promiscuity internally without communicating it outwardly. I’ll also mention … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 02:42 PM |
| 2 | What are signs that a woman does not get men?She thinks a man is looking for his “equal” (and even if he was, she’s not that) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 07:29 PM |
| 4 | What do you think of girls paying on the first date?When I dated, if a man offered to split the bill with me on the first date, I wasn’t interested in a second. I paid on the first date with my husband because I matched with him on a dating app and didn’t respond to him for nearly a month. I apologized for not responding to him for so long and he made a joke about me owing him dinner and I was in a good mood, so I did:) he paid for like the next 5 or so after that though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Who are your favorite artists?That’s safe. Her new music kinda scares me though 😣 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 08:51 PM |
| 2 | What is your experience with other people’s responses to weight loss?I gained weight at random times during and after college. The attention I received when I lost it and the quality of men I was able to date afterwards were MUCH HIGHER. The attraction thing is not an exaggeration. At my highest I’ve been 180lbs; I got the most positive attention and romantic interest at 135-145lbs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Advice on raising your kids with good morals in a society dominated by hypersexual cultureGet tied into a good church and make friends so you can stay out of those other social circles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 06:48 PM |
| 2 | What do you do on your weekend?I don’t think you’re being needy or asking for too much by wanting more time with him on the weekends. If you haven’t brought this up to him, do so and see what he says. I’m surprised his friends don’t have wives or girlfriends they bring to hang out together as well. Maybe they can start doing that for the Saturday hangouts? We normally go out and do things together as a couple on the weekends or just sit in and talk/relax. We take up 90% of each others time since we only see each other for a f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | What are your easiest "hacks" for appearing feminine on the daily?I do the bare minimum for when my husband comes home and it works: Earrings, feminine colored clothes, hair down or in a pony tail. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/22 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Dating outside of religion, any success?Think further down the line. Are you fine with an atheist raising your children? If not, stop dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/22 09:23 PM |
| 5 | I will never fit in any society because I don't find the modern lifestyle appealingThis is how I felt as well going into my mid-twenties. If you’re in more conservative parts of the countries, it’s easy to find likeminded people and friends at church or while volunteering. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 04:13 PM |
| 6 | How do you STFU without building any resentment? Seriously, how.I honestly have to ask myself if it’s worth it to complain or start an argument. And I follow that up with asking myself if what I feel like saying would actually lead to the problem getting solved. If I were you, I’d ask for a babysitter or nanny to step in and help on a consistent schedule. Or look into part-time infant daycares. When you go on trips, see if grandparents want to step in and babysit as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/22 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Looking for advice on how to meet like minded friends/partnersChurches typically have social groups and clubs within them for people to make like-minded friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/22 06:57 PM |
| 1 | My husband doesn’t earn enough to support the family I desperately want.My advice is to take a look at your finances and monthly payments/debts. See if y’all could afford it without credit card/car/phone/student loan payments? If so, I’d pay those things off and get started. Best of luck to y’all! edit: I’d also look into him going back to school to increase his earning potential. My husband and I did this and the above. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Feminine careersWhen I was a teacher, I was pretty happy, but they pay was too low. I enjoy working in HR but only for smaller companies. Once I get pregnant, I plan to switch to Accounting/Finance. ☺️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/22 12:14 AM |
| 4 | For the happily married womenThe dating and courting phase were great. He committed on his own and sooner than I expected (2-3 weeks after meeting/dating), he told me he’d know if we should get married after a year of living together. We both initiated conversations about our future and family goals. If he’s interested in you, these things will flow pretty easily. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/22 12:12 AM |
| 1 | i dont know if i wanna go to law school anymoreLet’s start off by realizing they’re not intimidated by you. My experience was that they don’t want to think about fully committing to or start a life with a woman who won’t be able to fully commit to them in the same way. I almost went to law school as well, but decided not to because I didn’t want to work all the time and I wanted to pursue romantic relationships. If I were you, I’d pursue the psych path and continue doing what you already enjoy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/22 12:49 AM |
| 3 | Porn AddictionI enjoyed the same type of content in my younger days. Had to give up porn completely to find fulfillment in sex with another human being. You’ll find happiness when you’re ready to take charge of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/22 01:07 AM |
| 2 | So, ladies, what are your Valentine’s Day plans?We’ll be running a 5K, having a nice, homemade dinner and exchanging presents/candy. 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/22 03:40 PM |
| 4 | I Will Never Be Like You GuysIt’s sounds like you disagree with your mom and project her actions onto our ideology. Nothing your mother’s doing is red pill woman related. Good luck working through your problems and unpacking your situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/22 03:17 PM |
| 3 | Signs he's interested in a relationshipPlanning dates, talking to you frequently, inviting you to see friends and family, and mapping out a concrete (step-by-step) future with you. These are all things my husband did when we were dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/22 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Splitting bills when he makes significantly more?For the first month or two is fine, but he should’ve stepped in to take over paying for dates a while ago. Even if he says you’ll be a SAHM for him in the future, if his actions don’t reflect it, I wouldn’t believe it. Also, if you two breakup, don’t date a man who grew up without a father. They tend to be abusive, feminine, and emotionally immature. (side note that this was my general rule when I dated, you clearly don’t have to follow it) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/22 12:33 PM |
| 6 | I earn a bit of money for engagement and plan to spend it on myselfNah, you’re fine. It’s also normal to disagree about finances and what money should be spent on (doesn’t necessarily mean anyone’s being controlling or that there are red flags). I would maybe mention to him that he has one while you don’t (because he sold it) and that you’ll use it to earn more money which will then go into savings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/22 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Do you have an addictive personality?I think we all have an addicting personality. Self-discipline will go a long way though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/21 10:31 PM |
| 30 | How to surrender / let him lead when it comes to parenting?I’ll be honest, you shouldn’t have married a man who parents a child that way. If he’s letting/encouraging his son to act this way, he’ll encourage it in your child and any ours babies that are had. You can’t make a man parent. When I met my husband, my stepson was a 9 year old wreck. Bad grades, crude jokes, constant disrespect. Luckily, my husband agreed that his son needed a change and we took steps to implement the changes together. You really need to sit down with your husband and talk abou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/21 07:17 AM |
| 8 | We’re Reinstating the Monthly Threads + Monthly Goals and Simple QuestionsMonthly Goals: Goal 1: Put away laundry in a timely manner. I’m going to do this by strictly enforcing Monday as my laundry day and making a rule that all clothes need to be put away by Monday. Goal 2: Exercise 4 times a week I’m halfway there this week. I just need to find something motivating enough to incentivize me to achieve this. Choosing to use an exercise goal, because I’m already eating pretty healthy so if I add in exercise, I know I’ll lose weight. Good luck ladies! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/21 01:35 AM |
| 1 | EyebrowsAt the age of 25, my now husband talked me into getting my eyebrows done. I chose threading because it’s less painful and the difference is ASTOUNDING. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/21 02:56 PM |
| 1 | What are some "feminine" careers?Nurse, veterinarian, teacher, administrative work, finance/accounting, and counseling/social work. I don’t think it’d be off-putting but I do think men gravitate to women in stereotypical female careers because it shows a sense of caring for others. If you can still reflect this in a stereotypical male job or through volunteering, you’ll be fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/21 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Engaged and married women, how did you get aligned on timeline for marriage?My husband and I organically talked about having children and home ownership, to the point of picking out baby names before marrying. He suggested we live together for a year before marrying and I agreed. As we got closer to a year, I felt like a live-in girlfriend and told him we couldn’t continue living together without being engaged, but we could live separately and stay a couple. He told me his plan was to propose before our lease ended and to trust him. It was hard to wait and it was a very… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/21 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on living together before marriage?Based on your read through of my post, I honestly wouldn’t choose to move in with him again before planning out marriage or advise anyone to do so. It honestly didn’t bother me until ~6 months in. I was doing ~85-90% of the laundry, cooking, and kitchen cleaning. I felt like I was his wife even though I wasn’t and this presented challenges. What he said about marriage was sparked by the failure of his parent’s relationship (happened after we moved in together). I told him I felt it would be immo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/21 12:31 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on living together before marriage?Have you both talked about and set a timeline for marriage? If not, I wouldn’t do the move because it could be a major waste of your time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/21 11:03 AM |
| 2 | Are there hobbies you wouldn't want a man to have?Baking or anything like sewing/knitting would be a huge turn off for me. Playing video games is a form of stress relief and entertainment, not every hobby needs to be productive. I feel bad for the guy you mentioned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/21 04:14 PM |
| 9 | Is there any appropriate way to gently suggest to your man to start working on his figure and appearance?Leave it alone and don’t bring it up again; it sounds like you’re becoming bitchy. If he was concerned about it or thought it was a problem, he’d do something about it. Realize that the diet/exercise regimen you’re on were choices that you made and that you can’t make choices for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/21 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Please tell me if I am fat or not.Go by your BMI and how you feel about your body. For me, 150lbs is in a safe BMI range for my height. I don’t like how I feel or look at that weight (even though I’m still healthy) so I stay under that number. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/21 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Do me and partner’s SMV match?His SMV is higher. There are plenty of men with average incomes who are providers. He could easily date a younger woman who’s not expecting more than dates that are paid for, trips every now and then, and affection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/21 04:07 PM |
| 10 | Did I have sex too soon?I’m also a 26F who got married this year, here are some observations: He’s treating you like a low value woman by taking you to the pub and to his house afterwards on a first date. He did this to get you to lower your inhibitions and have sex with him. He gave off awkward sexual vibes on the first date and you still continued to go to his house after dates. Not a good move sis. If he was serious about marriage and having kids with you, he wouldn’t have done the first two things. He’s 36…..if he’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/21 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Healthy eating and portions when cooking for a manYou could find out his TDEE based on his height and weight, then plan a dinner that keeps him within range. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/21 11:55 AM |
| 2 | First Date? Tinder?We went out to dinner on our first two dates! I wouldn’t even give them the time of day if they can’t recommend a dinner date themselves. Don’t waste your time trying to teach a man how to court you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 12:39 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend has an engagement ring but hasn't proposedHe’s not proposing because it’s rocky. A proposal won’t fix a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 11:32 AM |
| 11 | First Date? Tinder?Other apps like Bumble, Hinge, Christian Mingle, or Match.com would give you a better selection of men to choose from. I did meet my husband on Tinder though. I agree with the recommendation to go to dinner instead of drinks. They’re most likely inviting you to drinks in the hope that you’ll lower your inhibitions as you drink and they may get lucky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 11:28 AM |
| 20 | Please help, my ex is mad at me because I slept with someone else when we weren’t together?You don’t see all of these red flags he’s waving in your face? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/21 04:41 PM |
| 12 | Female relationships in the workplaceThe aggression typically comes from feelings or superiority and jealousy. Cultural fit is an important piece to your job. If you don’t fit culturally with your team and feel like you’re being undervalued and bullied, you should find a new company. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/21 04:39 PM |
| 16 | How can i be a redpill woman if my job is in the sex/p0rn field?You honestly can’t as a sex worker. You may be able to go back to school, earn a degree, and then pursue a redpill lifestyle though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/21 11:39 AM |
| 2 | How to handle your boyfriend following women on Instagram?I brought it up when I noticed. I think the conversation started off with “You’re following a lot of people on Instagram. I noticed most of them are women?” Because most of the ones he followed were women, I asked if he knew them as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/21 11:36 AM |
| 5 | How to handle your boyfriend following women on Instagram?That’s so messed up and I’m sorry that happened to you! He showed me the process as he deleted his! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/21 03:17 AM |
| 3 | How to handle your boyfriend following women on Instagram?I honestly just wanted him to get rid of all of the local women he was following. There were like a handful of Olympic models that he’d followed that I really didn’t care about at all lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/21 03:16 AM |
| 53 | How to handle your boyfriend following women on Instagram?You should bring it up to him. How he responds and handles the situation will determine if this is a red flag. About a year after my current husband and I began dating, I noticed he followed a few hundred people with only about a hundred followers. When I looked through his following list, it was 99% women. Both models and local women. It was obvious to me (and he confirmed) that the profile was made when he was single and looking for women. I told him I had an issue with the amount of local wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/21 10:02 PM |
| 3 | I feel as if I’m starting from the bottom - how do I build up my skills?YouTube and friends/family who’ll let you practice on them will improve your cooking skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/21 09:48 AM |
| 2 | When did you start dating? When do you think is the best time to start dating?I think every woman should start dating as a teenager so they’re not taken advantage of as adults and know what green and red flags to look for. I started dating guys at 14 and got married this year at 26. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/21 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe that consuming “blue pill” media influenced you to mimic the behavior you saw there?It definitely did when I was 16-23. At the tail end of 22, I realized I didn’t like the behaviors I was exhibiting, but I didn’t change too much until I started following/listening to red-pilled media at 24. I wanted to exhibit those behaviors SJW & sexually care-free because it was glorified in the media I consumed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/21 08:25 PM |
| 6 | Do you recommend living with your boyfriend or fiancée before getting married ?I did and towards the end of the lease I was incredibly stressed out about when he was going to propose and if I’d end up as a forever girlfriend. I don’t recommend anyone go that route who has a timeline for a proposal. Luckily he proposed at 1.5 off dating and set the day for a little less than 3 months afterwards. He also understood that I wasn’t willing to live with him for another year without a ring. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/21 07:55 PM |
| 4 | How do I date a guy who seems a bit too interested in sex and not really romantic?You can ensure you’re not caught up in only having sex, by waiting to have sex with the men you’re dating. Wait until he’s been romantic nonsexually multiple times. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 11:02 AM |
| 7 | Tomboy dressI think you should start with more fitting jeans and T-shirts that aren’t feminine colors and then work your way up to rompers and dresses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 10:59 AM |
| 3 | I feel that my parents destroyed a lot of my valueLearn the talk and walk the walk of whoever you’re trying to be. With enough practice, you’ll get there. After that, move away to a new area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/21 09:44 PM |
| 1 | The Suzanne Venker Show?The whole being feminine and letting your man be masculine thing. I’ve also brought up some of her shared parenting techniques and my fiancé agrees with them. A lot of her tips on how men work and think are helpful too. Laura Doyle and the surrendered wife helped a lot too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/21 10:59 AM |
| 3 | The Suzanne Venker Show?Started listening to her last year. She helped me get my ring lmaoooo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/21 01:54 AM |
| 22 | Are depth and passion synonymous with drama?You’re right, he sounds like a great, normal guy. It’s normal for him to want to do things as a couple (including hanging out with friends). Please do not waste his time. If you find him and the sex boring, y’all aren’t compatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/21 11:00 AM |
| 4 | What do you ladies think of being a stepmother? Would you date a man with a child from a previous relationship? Why or why not?Yes although I don’t recommend it for most. I will be a stepmother in ~2 months. His family adopted his children and we only see one of them (who adores me) once or twice a week. BM is completely out of the picture. He’s also not tied to staying within the area due to school. Those reasons made it an easy decision for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/21 11:32 AM |
| 2 | Ways to help your man make friends?My fiancé is also more introverted than extroverted (in my opinion). How did you acquire the friends you currently have? He literally has 0 friends. We’re getting married this year and he has no one to ask to be groomsmen or even a best man. That’s why he finally asked me to help him. He is also in the process of implementing a plan to gain friends, so hopefully that’ll take care of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/21 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Ways to help your man make friends?Haha this is a great idea as well! Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/21 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Ways to help your man make friends?Great idea, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/21 11:16 AM |
| – | I am not a RedPILL woman but this is a question for you guysI don’t think Meg Thee Stallion expresses her sexuality in a healthy way. Rapping about sex that much is fake, because I’m sure she has more interesting facets of her personality. Her label and the industry are making her a sex object because that’s what sells and she doesn’t care because she’s making money. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/21 11:57 PM |
| 2 | Any young mums up for a chat?It’s going very well at the moment. I’m buying him new books he wants to read as he finishes the old ones and he keeps asking to go to the beach, so I’ve promised that his father and I will take him next month if his 4th Quarter grades are good. His grandmother has custody and lives ~an hour away, so we see him once or twice a week. She’s currently upset because stepson wants to call me mom now that I’m engaged to dad. Some of the organizations in my area that are women oriented: Junior League a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/21 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Any young mums up for a chat?I’m transitioning into becoming a step-mom (but if he wants to call me mom, I’ll gladly accept the title) and don’t mind chatting. I have mom friends from volunteering and joining women based organizations in my city. With a 2 year and 4-month old, I say try to get a babysitter so that you can go out and meet others! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/21 12:10 PM |
| 15 | How do I find a good man/act appropriately around them? (deadbeat dad related)Hey! I’m 26 and didn’t start seriously dating until I was ~23 as well thanks to the red pill. My parents were around but very hands off when it came to dating or gave me horrible advice (based on their own experiences, they weren’t trying to sabotage me or anything). What I did was find red pill podcasts, YouTubers, and books recommended by others here and in the sidebar. I applied the advice given through those avenues and am now engaged after ~1.5 of dating and we’re planning to marry this yea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/21 10:56 AM |
| 3 | ShoesDepending on how tall you are, you won’t need to do that. My feet are the same size as yours and I haven’t had a man notice. Just date men who are ~5’10” and up and their feet will be much bigger so it won’t be noticeable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/21 08:15 AM |
| 1 | weird, or am I overreacting?This guy is hurling a multitude of red flags at you and you’re dodging every single one of them. You shouldn’t have taken the conversation off Tinder once he ignored your question about what he’s looking for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/21 11:37 AM |
| 1 | WOC, what are your tips for dating white men?Biggest Red Flag: off comments about your skin tone or race. You’ll know if you’re getting one who’s dating you because of your race or who you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/21 11:33 AM |
| 1 | My 4 year relationship is ending and I'm 26.I find it hard to believe you both are deeply in love but you’re not enjoying sex with him. Maybe try different positions or lubricants or toys of some sort? No engagement in sight is a red flag though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Clothing for an early twenties girl?SHEIN, Target, Forever 21, and thrift stores have been my staples for the past 6 years (I’m 26 btw). | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Men who flirt, how do you act? When in relationshipI’m a confrontational person aka I like sconfrontation...... so I love the attention but if it’s a random guy in public, I tend to say thanks or give a short reply, say thank you, and end the conversation. If it’s someone much older I’ll entertain and be more friendly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/21 03:23 AM |
| 15 | Stop falling for the “I’m too busy” excuse used by men when you bring up commitmentAgreed! Men love using that excuse for women they don’t care to date. That and “I’m not looking for a relationship right now.” Those were my boyfriend’s top excuses for women before he met me. 🤦🏽♀️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/21 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Is it a warning sign for a man to be into anime?I think it’s fine as long as he isn’t obsessed with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/21 01:48 PM |
| 5 | Birthday During CovidWhen my boyfriend turned 30 a few months ago, we drove out to the country, hiked, camped, and went out to breweries/restaurants that were still open. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/21 01:47 PM |
| 1 | At what weight do get the most attention?140 aka when I’m fit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/20 12:56 PM |
| 2 | How to get closer with my mother in law?Help her with any household tasks you see her doing. Encourage y’all to eat dinner as a family and talk together then. Try to do something fun with her on the weekend (with or without future husband). | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 03:25 PM |
| 2 | SOS. Entertaining for 14 people this weekend.Pasta, Xmas feast food, or something charcuterie style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/20 10:26 PM |
| 3 | Pick me girls. What do we think ladies?I feel like most women want to do whatever they want free of consequence and whoever disagrees is a pick me. This stuff really only matter for young women, like 16 to 23 though. I feel like I agree with most of what “Pick Me’s” say but I mind my own business, so I wouldn’t be in any of those videos. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/20 02:36 PM |
| 4 | Living with a partner and splitting expenses 50/50.I don’t advise dating someone for years, living with them, and not being married. My boyfriend and I split things as equally as possible. Our expectation is that as he grows his career and makes more, he’ll pay for more and more things until I can stay home and raise babies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/20 02:38 PM |
| 4 | [Advice] Ghosts of ex-boyfriends past…Never engage in small talk if you’re not interested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/20 03:51 PM |
| 3 | Mommy Issues in MenOne of my rules when I dated was not to date men who were raised by single mothers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/20 12:10 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?Thankful that my boyfriend loves the two dishes I practiced this weekend. The goal is to share them with his family for Thanksgiving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/20 05:39 PM |
| 0 | What‘s your thoughts on first dates in bars?Bar dates are for hookups. Start with coffee. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/20 05:35 PM |
| 3 | How to cheer up fiancé when he’s overwhelmed?While you want him to associate you with his happiness, you shouldn’t be the only source of it. He needs to find ways to destress after work. When my boyfriend comes home after work, we hug and kiss as soon as he comes through the door and I ask him how his day went. Then I follow up with asking him to tell me more. If it’s a short synopsis and he’s not enthused, I leave him alone. If he’s going into longer stories, I take the time to listen and ask questions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/20 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts/suggestions on how to recover from bad past and still find HVM/alphaYou’re harping on your past too much. It’s good that you’re learning from it and realize what you did wasn’t your ideal behavior. If you start dating with the goal of marriage and refrain from getting sexual before talking about marriage and children then you’ll be fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/20 12:13 PM |
| 9 | 33F with a kid, still desirable?All men are open to marriage with women they love. It’s only prison if they don’t want to be with you. He will not change his mind about this and if you want to get married, maybe you should re-evaluate your dating choices. If you don’t know if he’s your boyfriend, then he’s not. Bars are not a good place to meet men who want to date you. If I were you, I’d find some type of dating site that’ll let you meet men who are single fathers. Or even ask your friends and family if they know any single f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/20 12:06 PM |
| -2 | So what if you've had a lot of partners?As a woman with a high body count, I agree that a lot of this is true. However, I don’t agree with the less desirability aspect. I might be the exception to that though and not the rule. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/20 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Please help!Don’t invest too much and since he’s not ready to date you exclusively, go out and date other people as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/20 12:52 PM |
| 3 | What makes a man who is looking for marriage have a long term relationship with a woman he doesn't plan on marrying?I feel like a lot of these men aren’t looking for marriage until they meet the right person. Things that keep men from marrying are him thinking can’t do better or being too comfortable with the situation. And then he meets a woman who he wants to spend the rest of his life with and he’s open about it. I honestly think all men are open to relationships and marriage as long as it’s with the right person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/20 12:49 PM |
| 1 | What do you think is a normal # of dates / length of time to date someone before becoming an exclusive relationship?It depends. My boyfriend and I went on 4-5 dates over the span of 2 weeks and then he asked me to be his girlfriend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/20 12:49 PM |
| 3 | I think my boyfriend eats too ,I am worried for his health what should I do pls?A little bit of both. His diet sounds awful but you’re definitely nagging him. Either stop trying to control his diet and let him do his thing or come up with a creative way to get him to change. If you stop, he’ll eventually learn it on his own. Or get creative. Say you want to bulk up or that a coworker does and ask him where you should look online for information/what resources you should refer. It might get him to do some research and see that he’s wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/20 12:43 PM |
| 5 | I'm so young and so stressed.I completely understand your sentiments, I didn’t necessarily have a bad home life but I grew up impoverished. I had the same goal but my family didn’t have any connections so it was hard to meet men who I could enjoy that dream with. Some of the obvious places I overlooked when I was in high school: churches, Christian organizations, work opportunities (secretary/receptionist/etc) & volunteer organizations. I understand having a career is a hard feat, but I urge you to find at least a few thing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/20 12:39 PM |
| 2 | He got weird after our second dateIf you’ve made it clear that’s not what you want and he’s ignoring it, he doesn’t respect you. If you’d like to continue dating a man who’ll keep up the sexual advances, ask for a third date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | What extent would you go to improve your looks smv?My parents and G_d blessed me with good genes. So far I’ll get my eyebrows done, get a perm, & stay in shape. That’s it though. 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/20 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Guys like that I work in childcare. It's about time I start embracing that.Agreed! We are so awesome. 😎 I also have experience in childcare and my boyfriend loves it. He’s also seen me interact with kids and thinks I’ll be a great mom some day. 😍 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/20 11:28 AM |
| 5 | Is this a red flag?Agreed. Thank you for the advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag?Thank you for this comment. I attributed his reflections to how he feels about marriage instead of just talking more about it with him instead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag?My positive marriage couples are family that doesn’t live close or the parents of the people I grew up with. I’ve moved from my hometown. There aren’t any local examples I have but I’m making friends and sooner or later I’ll come across some positive examples. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 10:15 PM |
| 8 | Is this a red flag?The negative feelings about marriage, that weren’t there in the beginning, and the fact that I don’t want to buy a house with someone I’m not married to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Can I have your thoughts on us, 29F and 32M of 9 years togetherYes. At that point you’re just a convenience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/20 02:58 PM |
| 1 | I don’t believe in living together until being engaged. My friends think I’m crazy.I live with my boyfriend and I don’t think you’re crazy or wrong. We were both seeing each other 5-6 days each week and with our leases ending together we moved in. Personally, waiting until there’s an engagement is a better idea. I think our relationship would be better if we had waited. Now there’s a looming uncertainty for me and it makes me nervous at times. This was my first time moving in with someone though. Hopefully it’ll be my last but if not, I’ll go down your path and wait for an eng… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/20 12:21 PM |
| 9 | PornThat’s fine but when he has that stuff on his social media, that’s when it becomes a problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/20 12:13 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when you realize that you are a Femcel?Aren’t you 15? Finish going through puberty first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/20 12:17 PM |
| 2 | Many people that are dating don't do this even if it should be mandatory!You’re barking up the wrong tree with this analysis. Marriage symbolizes a lifelong commitment. There are privileges that go along with having that life time commitment such as combining finances and childbearing. If I have a man who’s taking care of me like that for the meantime, I’ll think he’s husband material. Almost all of us are planning on having children, so a lot of what you’re saying doesn’t apply to us. Lastly, people are allowed to have different opinions. If that’s what you choose t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/20 12:03 PM |
| 4 | Is family an enforced concept.Families existed before religion. How is it an enforced concept when there’s a biological reason for family? What’s the alternative to having a family?? Just groups of friends?... | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/20 11:36 AM |
| 3 | A simple way to dateHopefully that’s not the only thing you’re looking for.... | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/20 11:34 AM |
| 4 | Does this man exist or am I just looking for a unicorn?I live in the South so these are my observations. I’m not going to say it doesn’t exist but it’s really rare to find someone who’s agnostic and liberal who is also masculine and wants to be a provider. I think being liberal and wanting to be a provider clash more often than not, because so many liberal men are feminist or feel like they’re equal partners with their girlfriends. I think your best bet to find men like that is in NY or out in Cali. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/20 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Am I dealing with a manipulative player?He’s mentally unstable if he’s getting upset that you’re not replying and then mentioning (as a threat) that he’s fucking his neighbors at will. Run far, far away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/20 12:10 PM |
| 1 | What are some socially savvy ways to get men to call instead of text you? (Penpal Bro Avoidance 2020)“Can you call me @ 8?” “What time are you free for a phone call?” It’s really that simple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/20 12:04 PM |
| 1 | Dating for marriage while not fully having a career figured out?Men really don’t care about that. Their standards are not the same as ours. Support yourself intellectually? That’s made up and definitely not something Muslim men care about. You can establish yourself while you date and marry. They’re not mutually exclusive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/20 12:02 PM |
| 3 | “Don’t build with a man”I think if he’s a good man and you stick with him, you’ll have nothing to worry about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/20 11:58 AM |
| 1 | How much time do you spend with your significant other? When does it start to feel like you’re being neglected and/or your needs aren’t being met?When we first started dating, we saw each other a few times a week and on the weekends. We texted throughout the day and talked on the phone every night. 10 months later, we live together so we talk everyday and spend at least 6 days of the week together. edit: I only feel neglected when he comes home and talks for 5 minutes and then starts studying. And even then, it’d have to happen two days in a row to make me feel bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/20 12:00 PM |
| 83 | What is your advice to a femcel?I think you’re on the right path by improving your looks. I don’t the the top 20% of women are the only ones being chased. I know plenty of below average females with great partners who are married and engaged. The idea is that once you become more feminine and adopt a different attitude towards dating, you’ll have an increase in viable suitors. Being non-religious makes it harder but not impossible. I’m also non-religious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/20 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Ideal length of relationship before engagementMy ideal timeline is a year. And if we aren’t engaged by 2 years, we need to part ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/20 02:25 PM |
| 3 | "friend" not so friendly after knowing my viewsIt hasn’t happened to me, but I’m afraid it will. I have female friends who struggle to get a male partner and when they ask for advice or tell me about a situation, I respond in a courteous, inbetween red pill type of way. I’m certain the only reason they haven’t hung me out to dry is because they hold some conservative views as well (along with their families). If I were you, I’d unfriend her and try again with others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/20 09:01 PM |
| 2 | How do you stay hopeful about dating when hearing story after story of cheating, emotional abuse, violence, stealthing, pathological lying, and porn addiction among many things experienced by women, as a woman?The same way I heard about people not graduating from high school and college because it was too hard, yet did both. The same way I heard stories about people trapped in poverty yet got out. Just because it’s happening to some peoppe, doesn’t mean it’ll happen to me. edit: Also I don’t put up with mistreatment and watch for the signs of craziness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/20 11:17 AM |
| 1 | One bikini photo?It’s going to seem somewhat suggestive regardless of what you’re doing in the picture. Be ready to get some weird messages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/20 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Why is attraction sometimes so self-destructive?I think it’s like a survival of the fittest sign social intelligence/maturity. Like a clear cut situation that you’ll keep finding yourself in if you don’t learn from it. Dude 1 sounds like my boyfriend. Dude 2 sounds like my college exes/entanglements. I think that we as women hit a point of maturity where a loving, stable partner becomes the fun and Dude 1 becomes your only option for a partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 04:48 PM |
| 3 | How to curb the singlehood depression+self worth issuesI felt the same way when I was single. I just had to make my life more about me and my hobbies and interests for a while. And then I continued to do so while dating. Work on yourself and then go on a few dates (safely of course). | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially?I was constantly dating different forms of your first group of guys throughout college and for the first few years after. Will never date one again. The games, rudeness, and immorality aren’t worth the trouble. Current boyfriend fits into the second group listed and he’s wonderful. He’s ambitious and because of that and me, he’s gone from a good career to a great one and will be able to provide financially when we start having children. This is important because we both agree that I should stay … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/20 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Turning 26 soonI think that if you go to college, you should also work part time. Considering your age, man are going to expect you to have a job. Also, depending on what you’re studying, a part time job may not be necessary. So what are you going to study? Your current job relies on looks? What is it?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Is RedPill Women Pro-LGBT?I feel like most of us don’t care what others do with their lives. That being said, I think an LGBT dating sub would greatly serve you better. Definitely feel free to take and use any advice that applies to you, but the dynamics we aim for in our relationships aren’t common in LGBT relationships. Our advice is geared towards helping women date men and helping wives provide a happy atmosphere for them and their husbands. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend seemed like a mature, intelligent guy but he's actually a huge man-childI watch it with my boyfriend and his dad on Taco Tuesday’s 😅. This week’s just happened to get moved to tonight. 🌮 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/20 08:46 PM |
| 38 | My boyfriend seemed like a mature, intelligent guy but he's actually a huge man-childTake this as a lesson learned. Vet properly instead of fucking on the first date. Reading a book and watching Jeopardy are low standards for vetting mature, intelligent people. And it sounds like he wasn’t even reading.... Please stop dating this man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/20 04:26 PM |
| 6 | Could you date a man who is not romantic?Not a chance! That’s a make it or break it because I love to give gifts. My boyfriend gives me flowers, plans or makes dinners, & gives me thoughtful gifts. I absolutely love it and I think it’s a great way to show that we care for one another. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/20 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's okay, for you, to be friends with your ex, while you're in a relationship with another man?Not a chance. I wouldn’t want my partner to do that so I won’t. Honestly, things have ended on bad terms with the majority of my exes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 06:14 PM |
| 0 | Q4A: At a time like this, would you rather raise a daughter or a son?Daughter. I think they’d be more manageable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 06:13 PM |
| 10 | Traveling brags in women's dating profilesIt’s a sign of status and it shows that you’re adventurous. It’s hard to afford a passport, take time off from a job, and also pay for an entire trip on your own when you’re young. Definitely an accomplishment. Most of them want someone who’s similar or is at least interested in traveling. While it may not mean anything to you, your opinion doesn’t represent the entire opinion of your gender. My boyfriend thinks it’s cool that I’ve traveled and we plan on doing it together soon enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 06:12 PM |
| 2 | How do men experience emotional intimacy/connection in relationships?Holding each other, holding hands, running my fingers through his hair while he lays on me, and massaging earlobes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/20 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Bf of 4 months hesitant to go on 2-night trip with meDon’t do all of the planning on your own. He needs to help plan to show he’s actually invested. It sounds like this is a cover up for another reason. Maybe he’s just not that into you? If he won’t plan this out with you, I’m interested to know if he’s talked about yalls future at all? Have you met his family or friends and vice versa (if not in person than virtually). 4 months sounds suspiciously close to when COVID started. Maybe he’s just looking for someone to be less lonely with during these… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/20 03:54 PM |
| 17 | Not sure how I feel about himIt sounds like you’re either not ready for a real relationship or that you prefer to date men who play games. A nice successful man went on a first date with you and connected with you and enjoys your company and spending time with you....you don’t want him to continue showing a clear interest in you? What exactly are you looking for in a man? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 04:13 PM |
| 1 | How to transition from friends to LTRCompletely agree! Sex will NOT help you get a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/20 01:42 PM |
| 1 | How common are alpha widows and how can one make sure they don't get roped into a relationship with one?I think they’re more common in women who went to college and bounced around between different situationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/20 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Another Post About HeightBelieve what you want 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/20 07:18 AM |
| 2 | Another Post About Height5’ 6.5” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/20 07:16 AM |
| 2 | Another Post About HeightWhen I was dating, I preferred as close to 6 feet as possible. I did go on a date with a guy who was 5’7” though and it was awesome. We stopped seeing beach other because he wasn’t interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/20 08:26 PM |
| 8 | Bf doesn’t want me at his bday party.I promise you that you can love someone else who will treat you better. You deserve better and he isn’t willing to give it to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 03:37 PM |
| 3 | what does the exclusivity conversation sound like?Dating for a few months is too long for me. I personally have an 8 week maximum before we part ways. If 2 months isn’t enough time for us to get to know each other before getting into a committed relationship, then we don’t need to date. The conversation happened naturally for me and my current boyfriend. We were out shopping in public and he jokingly said something about me hopefully keeping him around and I replied “haha we’ll see” and then he got serious and asked me to be in a relationship w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 03:35 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider to be an appropriate amount of time to wait before kissing a guy?Whenever you’re both comfortable enough to do it. My current boyfriend and I kissed on our second date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/20 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Were you ever "The Cool Girl"?This was definitely me in high school. I also had plenty of female friends but I was notorious for hanging out with 3 of my male best friends. Once I got to college, I hung out with girls mostly. My limited dating experience lead to me (correctly) avoiding most guys as friends out of mistrust. I honestly still do this. I find it hard to tell if guys are being flirtatious because all men are nice to me, so I just gravitate towards female friends so there’s no confusion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/20 02:21 PM |
| 15 | How can we better appreciate our men for their hard work (dating)?Considering he’s just your boyfriend, I wouldn’t be cleaning his home weekly. Everything else sounds lovely though. I love that you help him with errands and meals! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/20 05:02 PM |
| 12 | How can we better appreciate our men for their hard work (dating)?1) Cooking lunches and/or dinner. Example: I made sesame chicken for my boyfriend last night because he had to pull a 12 hour shift alternating between working with his hands and being in an office. We also watched his favorite show. I’m making our lunches next week because he’ll be working late then. I live with my boyfriend so I try to make things as relaxing as possible when he comes home because work is stressful. Before we lived together, I’d show up with food and whatnot at his place or in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/20 05:00 PM |
| 1 | A woman does not have to date men with no options to get guaranteed loyalty and commitmentI think you’re right about women being able to get loyalty and commitment from men with options. I think you’re wrong about them being low value. It seems like a lot of women are pulling for rich, handsome men to girlfriend and wife them up to the point where they ignore a lot of normal, nice looking men with good paying jobs. It is easier to get commitment and loyalty from a guy who’s very attractive and poor or from a guy who’s rich and unattractive though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/20 02:05 PM |
| 40 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?I skimmed the video, but here are my takeaways: She’s right about patience. Patience is very importance in dating for both women and men. She’s right about not being emotionally desperate. It will disqualify you from the majority of sensible partners. She’s not right about playing hard to get. Two adults who are dating should act like adults. You know what you want and you make clear what you have to offer. Dating isn’t a game of cat and mouse. Either you’re interested or you’re not. Your partne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 05:47 PM |
| 14 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?I completely agree with that last sentence especially! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Who do you think is more likely to cheat, the guy you invested in as a young woman or the guy who you picked up at the finish line?The guy I invested in when I was younger. My current boyfriend is such a sweetheart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/20 11:47 AM |
| 4 | How to be "fun" when you're together 24/7My boyfriend thinks that my normal self is fun. He works during the day while I mostly work at home. When we’re together, I recommend things we’d both enjoy. When we’re apart, i do things to surprise him. For together stuff, we both enjoy hiking so I researched hiking places around us and recommended some new places that we’ve started going to. We both like going to his family’s lake house so I recommended grilling out there and bought sparklers/fireworks pack for Memorial Day. You really just h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/20 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Should I Pursue This?Don’t pursue it. Find a local boyfriend who has lots of promise and the means to make a relationship work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/20 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Female Role Models?I love Kate and Megan. Kate is the better ROME model though. 😍 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/20 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Female Role Models?She’s definitely my role model. 🤩 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/20 01:17 PM |
| 3 | Pessimistic thought of the day: People say they prefer to have sex with someone they feel attached to, but what happens is that they feel attached to any sexy person in their surroundingsAs a woman, I don’t think this is true. I don’t feel attached to a sexy person just because they’re sexy. I’ve had sex with some sexy people before and it was below average (to no fault of their own). With my current boyfriend, I thought he was sooooo sexy. First time we had sex, it was awful but it got much better as we got to know each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/20 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Women. Knowing what you know and what we discuss here, if you were a man , would you get married?I would still get married but at a later age. And under the same conditions: heavy vetting for someone I’m compatible with and share the same goals and values as. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/20 10:16 AM |
| 8 | Hello ladies should I do this?Not a good idea. Men know they can have sex with women. They don’t need a reminder. That being said, context is a big part of this. If this is for a dating profile, you’ll be viewed as easy and men won’t take you seriously. You don’t want to publicly post pictures where any man can see you in a sexual way. If it was for a husband, that’d be fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 08:17 PM |
| 1 | How much easier do you think life is for good looking people? (in dating, social situations and career/making money)Much easier for them. Good looking people are seen as more trustworthy, friendlier, and hardworking. That comes with many advantages in the working world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/20 01:51 PM |
| 5 | Is there a problem with the marriage and birth rate dropping so low?I think the marriage rate could be a negative indicator. I think it might lead to a higher rate of depression. I think lower marriage rates are a result of the deterioration of gender roles due to new age progressive movements. Also now that people are more independent, there’s less of an insensitive to marry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, it’s time to take our own advice...Say it louder for the people in the back 🗣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: How would you feel if a man rejected/broke off a friendship with you because you weren't interested in a sexual relationship with him despite having actual chemistry?I think both of those can be true depending on circumstance. Men disappear after sex for a number of reasons. Like if they aren’t interested in a relationship with you in the first place, if sex is had too soon after meeting, and if they were but you said or did something that changed their mind. I agree with the second one too. Maybe you’re really busy with school or a graduate degree and don’t want to take the time to date. Maybe you need a FWB to pass the time while you look for your next rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/20 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Should I go for a PhD?I think you should go for the Pharmacy PhD. While you will be busy, you can still date seriously and end up married within that timeline but it will take work. I think a lot of people conclude that it’s either one or the other when in truth both can be accomplished with some extra work. :) Best of luck to you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/20 03:37 PM |
| 2 | 70% of top 1% male earners have stay-at-home spousesI think it’s just that type of women attracts those men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/20 02:14 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: How would you feel if a man rejected/broke off a friendship with you because you weren't interested in a sexual relationship with him despite having actual chemistry?I’d be annoyed. Based on personal experience, I’m going to assume that she just sees that chemistry that you feel as friend chemistry. Like that you guys get along very well and make great friends. I had some guy friends who felt the same way in college. Just because you’re good friends with someone doesn’t mean you guys have to fuck or should be in a romantic relationship. What you did was justified because those guys who don’t do that end up being orbiters who are pissed off that they’re “stuc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/20 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Embarrassed to work out since I’m obeseIf you’re embarrassed about working out outside, YouTube has PLENTY of free home workout videos. Or even start with something small like taking a walk everyday. While exercising makes you feel good. CICO (calories in vs calories out) plays a huge role too. When I was overweight, I joined r/loseit and doing the challenges and following their advice has kept me from being overweight ever since. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/20 03:00 PM |
| 1 | What do you consider yourself?There are Stacies on here? Wonder why. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | SMV Race Tier ListWhite men. I’m a Black woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/20 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Am I racist because I dont want The Little Mermaid to be Black in the reboot?Second point is invalid. There was originally a white girl casted for Ariel. She dropped out. I personally think something’s only whitewashed or the opposite when it’s historically inaccurate. If it’s a fictional tale then all bets are off the table. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/20 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what have you done to earn the favor of an average overweight dude, making 50k a year, and talks about sports and food 90% of the time?He was a missionary and I explained that I wasn’t a Christian and had no plans to become one (I was a Christian at one point and convinced myself and my family to step away from it). His religion was a big part of his identity so we stopped dating. Before the religious part, we vibed together pretty well. I now have a lovely boyfriend though who doesn’t hold religion to be a big part of his identity though. Everything happens for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | What would you do if you received zero sexual interest from men?Fly in a young guy from a third world country to be my husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/20 02:20 PM |
| 1 | There isn’t one woman on PPD who rates higher than a 3My personality is definitely at 3 at the most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/20 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, what have you done to earn the favor of an average overweight dude, making 50k a year, and talks about sports and food 90% of the time?Being nice, helpful, and attractive. Was literally in this situation last year except he was an engineer so he made more and he talked about Christianity and sports (he was a Christian). If I was a Christian, I would’ve been set for life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/20 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Q4 Women: If Your Boyfriend asked you about your sex life with your past Lovers what would You Say?Don’t think my boyfriend would ask about my n-count. If he asked what I’ve done in bed, I’ll answer truthfully. I don’t rank sex the way he does. My response would be him though, because of our connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/20 01:29 AM |
| 2 | colored men are way more obsessed with white girls than the reverseNo one mentioned black women sir. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 05:35 PM |
| 6 | colored men are way more obsessed with white girls than the reverseWhite women who are looksmatched to them won’t seriously date or marry them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 05:30 PM |
| -2 | White men here Randomly Announcing Their Racial Preferences Like I Give A Fuck, Come Get The SmokeThis whole post is just sad sis. Your life is really that miserable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 05:19 PM |
| 2 | People of color: what have your dating experiences been like?Yikes. What’s you’re age and background? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 03:43 PM |
| 3 | People of color: what have your dating experiences been like?Jealous that you’ve dated Asian men. I think they’re fine af but all I get are white men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 03:42 PM |
| 1 | People of color: what have your dating experiences been like?They normally don’t know when something controversial happens.....my family doesn’t either. They don’t keep up with the news like that. Didn’t realize you were a black man....I don’t think there’s anything wrong with black men. There were several that I liked in college and in adulthood and they either ignored me and focused on trying to date white women or were just trying to smash. There were plenty of white men who wanted to take me out on dates so I went where I‘m wanted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:37 PM |
| 2 | People of color: what have your dating experiences been like?You’re very misguided. We’re not seeking them out. If we’re at the bottom of the social food chain, why would someone at the top “take our shit” when they have plenty of top social food chain options? Black men “not taking my shit” was definitely not the reason I haven’t dated one since high school. If he’s jacking off to hentai wouldn’t it make more sense for him to seek out Asian women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:14 PM |
| 2 | People of color: what have your dating experiences been like?There’s no proof that your inference is accurate and it’s not obvious. Dating a white person is not the equivalent of turning my back on my culture. Why can’t Black men can stand up for themselves? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:06 PM |
| 4 | People of color: what have your dating experiences been like?That may be true, but it’s not my experience. Dated one “tough” guy in high school. The rest were normal black guys. I do like anime and rock music though. It’s not that I got tired of anything, they just didn’t approach me. I didn’t grow up in the hood but I did grow up impoverished. Pulled myself out of it with help and advice from my family. Not going to lie, you sound like you’ve been slighted in the past lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Validating women, good, bad or ugly?There are many ways to make your intentions clear without validating her appearance. You can flat out say that you like her, that you want her to be your girlfriend, or that you see a future with her. Compliment her looks vaguely and occasionally, by saying things “you look nice” or call her “smart/funny/pretty” until she’s your girlfriend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Validating women, good, bad or ugly?Wait until you’ve been in a relationship for a little while. You validate her too much beforehand and she’ll think she’s better than you so why settle? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Women: Would you date a Former Gay who was just Gay in Prison?not a chance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4W Choose One: a tall dude, dude with a big dick, or a dude who is a Titan of cunnilingusTall dude. I don’t even fuck with oral like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Is it a good idea to tell a girl im dating or a girl im in a LTR with that i own a house outright ?For LTR, tell them when you both decide you want to move in together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 11:43 AM |
| 3 | Validating women, good, bad or ugly?My boyfriend only validates me in real life, not on social media. I love it but that’s only because I love him. He wasn’t praising me at nearly the same level when we first started dating or got into a relationship. If a woman truly likes/loves you, then your opinion of her becomes the only one that matters. I honestly feel like I crave his approval. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 11:40 AM |
| 3 | People of color: what have your dating experiences been like?In high school, I only dated black guys. From college on, it’s really only been white, conservative men who have taken an interest in me. After college, I did go on dates with a Hispanic guy and a Puerto Rican guy though. Any problems I’ve had with guys haven’t been about race (thankfully). Black/25F | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 11:31 AM |
| 1 | Would you ever accept a marriage whereby you got everything that comes with it: The proposal, the engagement, the wedding, the honey moon, the public declaration of love and commitment, etc. - but it’s not a marriage under the law and has no legal ramifications should you “divorce”?I want the legality of marriage. Take away the legal ramifications of divorce if you want though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/20 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Is branch-swinging more likely to be intentional or unintentional?I’m going with unintentional. As a woman, I dated guys I liked who were secure and never intentionally traded up. The relationship just went it’s course and I learned from those mistakes and ended up vetting more compatible guys after the fact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Body countThat’s pretty low tbh. Especially if she was getting down in her early twenties and is dating in her late twenties. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/20 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Is online dating becoming way too common?I’m African American and I think I’m very attractive. I looked and dressed nice when I went out but if I’m with an attractive white female friend when I go out, I won’t get attention from any race. And this is regardless of if the guy is average or hot. Those are the majority of my friends here so I had to date online to find someone. Dating online, I had no shortage of dates and I’m currently in a happy relationship with the love of my life who I met online. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 04:51 PM |
| 4 | Are most people who can only imagine fucking young girls (18-24) around the same age bracket?My boyfriend was 29 when he asked me (24) to be his girlfriend. Now he’s a few months from 30 and I’m 25. He really just went where he was wanted and to someone who appreciated him and treated him right. He was definitely open to women in your age range and finds them attractive as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How Many of You Want To Marry and What Does Marriage Mean To You?I want to marry. Marriage to me means continuing the strong foundation your relationship has. It means a new level of loyalty, more privileges, and friendship. It also means doing your best to build each other up and encourage each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Is online dating becoming way too common?Maybe not way too common but definitely common. I personally am not one to date or have relations with friends incase the outcome is negative. And honestly being a minority with attractive, single non-minority female friends, most men ignore me when I’m out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/20 12:14 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Fish with rice and brussel sprouts were requested for tonight. ☺️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 04:29 PM |
| 2 | How Did You Get Into Cooking?My mom and grandmother refused to teach me how to cook although I asked multiple times. The response was to get me a rice cooker and tell me to cook everything in there. About two years ago, I got fed up with that and ended up watching a YouTube video of someone cooking chicken, then I practiced. Then I watched and mirrored someone making rice. Moved on to beef and recently fish. Did the same with pancakes. I’m to the point now where I can just follow a recipe and cook. My boyfriend thinks I’m o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Balancing supporting husband and getting my needs met - Help!Do video calls with friends for the social interaction and go help him out in the garden and talk to him while he helps. Or adopt some outdoor activity that’s near him so y’all can interact. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Men commonly find sundresses and flowy skirts and dresses to be attractiveAgreed! My boyfriend loves it when I wear dresses around him. I normally only do it when we’re going on a date somewhere where I need to look nice or when he looks nice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 01:16 PM |
| 7 | My SO does not want to be married at allDepends on you. For me it’s doing laundry, cooking him lunch regularly, spending all my time with him, and buying him lots of little things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 01:31 PM |
| 1 | For those of you who dont/rarely deny your captain sex - do you have a routine for keeping things fresh down there on a budget?I shave every 3 days. I don’t shave completely just trim. The only place I completely shave down there is where the hair intersects my thighs. I use Summer’s Eve every time I shower too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 01:54 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, have you told your SOs that you that you read RPW/consume this media?How, why or why not?Did not tell him about RPW or any of the traditional dating advice that I’ve been consuming or implementing. He does enjoy all of the benefits from it though. He’s said multiple times that he likes how much I care about him, loves the different things I do for him, and that I make him feel like a man/special. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 01:48 PM |
| 4 | Q4Women: Why does a woman who has sex a lot of men 'not matter', yet women are turned off if they find out those men had sex with a lot of other men?It’s not perceived as masculine for a man to have sex with men. Mostly about wanting a partner of the same sexuality who is purporting gender norms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Are men upset about not being able to get relationships or causal sex?They’re talking about casual sex. 🤦🏿♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 01:54 AM |
| 7 | New to sub so please be gentle. I turned 25 and I am one of those people that basically did everything opposite the red pill and I fear it’s too late!Don’t listen to that hateful comment judging you. While you did some things you should be ashamed of when you were younger, it seems like you’ve accepted responsibility and are seeking to make a positive change which is the most important thing. Welcome to the sub! I’m out running errands and will add recommendations later! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/20 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Does this sub consist of mostly Christian women?Not a Christian by a long shot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 08:59 PM |
| 6 | What are your online dating experiences?Your success with online dating depends on your approach and what you put up with. I met my current boyfriend on tinder. Didn’t bother with the men on their who were being sexual. Didn’t bother with the men who didn’t know what they were looking for. Didn’t bother with the men who weren’t ambitious. As long as you avoid the types of men you don’t want and don’t harp on “oh maybe he’ll get better later on” or “maybe he’s different” or “our connection is so strong that he wants me now” then you’ll… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Why does it matter if a woman “sleeps around in her 20s” and marries in her 30s?Very true. Women get judged by everyone while guys are celebrated but that’s because it’s harder for guys to get laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/20 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Why does it matter if a woman “sleeps around in her 20s” and marries in her 30s?Well they don’t want to fuck and marry the bois so the homies body count is irrelevant. Doesn’t have an STD is a basic requirement for a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/20 05:46 PM |
| 4 | What are some unwritten rules you follow in your home for the sake of your SO?I agree with her but we all agree it’s at the discretion of the woman. If you’re not up for it every time the by all means you’re free to say no. I’ve never felt like I didn’t want to have sex with my boyfriend. If I’m not turned on and he is, there are plenty of ways for him to turn me on. In the span of six months, I’ve only said no once or twice and it was because we were running late somewhere. No one likes to feel rejected when trying to get intimate with a partner, regardless of the reason… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 02:30 PM |
| 1 | So how are you and your man holding up during these tough times?My boyfriend and I have gotten closer. We see each other all the time and have to get creative about activities with one another. The most positive thing to come out of this situation is that he’s gotten more comfortable sharing his feelings with me. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:56 AM |
| 4 | Men being "intimidated" by women and refusing to date them is exactly the same as a company refusing to hire someone because they're overqualified.Men aren’t intimidated by women. They just don’t like their attitude and usually it’s because the woman is too masculine and not feminine enough. I make more than my boyfriend but I’m feminine and positive so we don’t have a problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 01:26 PM |
| 14 | I asked him what he wantedGoing to ask my boyfriend about this later tonight. 💖 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/20 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Since we're all (hopefully!) staying indoors, what kinds of things should a feminine woman post on her social media?I’ll post anything I’m crafting or making. Cool indoor activities like painting. When we go my boyfriend’s family lake house I’ll post pics of the water. My boyfriend and I like to stay healthy so whenever we go hiking (we still count that as social distancing) I’ll take pictures and post those. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 02:45 PM |
| 6 | How long did you wait to sleep with your SO?I felt like he was kinda crazy but it all seemed really genuine. Our second date lasted ~5 hours. It started out as us playing trivia at a restaurant and ended with us sitting out in a car and talking. What I’ve gathered about his past dating experiences and his life in general is that his family and past girlfriends didn’t/don’t listen to him or care about him the same way I do. I guess he could tell I listened/cared about him from the way our first two dates went and he thought about locking i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/20 11:40 AM |
| 4 | How long did you wait to sleep with your SO?2 weeks and a few days. It was our 4th date. 3 days later, on our 5th date, he brought up us being a couple. I will say that he told me he was interested in marrying me and having children/a family with me on the second and third dates. We’ve been together 23 weeks or almost 6 months. Moving in together this summer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/20 02:47 PM |
| 13 | Despite each of our issues, how many of you are willing to admit that you would HATE to be the opposite gender?I couldn’t be a man and have to date. My ego wouldn’t be able to take it and being expected to get a job and take care of my family. Or even not being expected to share my feelings. One reason my boyfriend loves me so much is because I care about him and listen to his problems and either just listen and validate them or try to help him find a solution. He feels like no one else cares about him, including aunts, uncles, and parents. My family is the opposite way with me. I think it’d be similar t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/20 04:33 PM |
| 3 | How many of you admit to being shallow?I’m pretty shallow. To the point where I snatched up an older, fine ass, blue eyed man with an okay job (and ambition with great future job prospects). He’s also the nicest man I’ve ever dated though. Our personalities mesh extremely well but honestly if he was ugly, I wouldn’t bother talking to him. Even as a friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/20 09:09 PM |
| 6 | If a man continuously sleeps with a girl below his league, she’s not stupid for believing he might want more than sex.Exactly. The mental gymnastics of accepting being a hoe for a high value man instead of spending time with and being adored by a lower valued (not even low valued) man is too much for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/20 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Men aren’t angry because they realized women want Chad. They’re angry because they realized they aren’t Chad.What’s wrong with not wanting to be the “best?” Women are the same way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 10:01 PM |
| 0 | When men date younger womenJealousy. My last two boyfriends and current boyfriends are ~30. I’ve heard similar reasons for not dating women their age: they’ve aged poorly, aren’t active, have children, rude, obsessed with finances, and are quickly looking to marry and have children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/20 10:05 AM |
| 4 | When men date younger womenHit the nail on the head | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/20 09:57 AM |
| 7 | I [28F] am in the dating phase with this guy [30M], but he is pressuring me to move into a relationship…It doesn’t take 6-7 months to vet a partner. He’s going to feel like you’re not interested in a relationship with him and most likely move on. You should’ve vetted him in the first 3 months (especially since you’re seeing him every week). While relationships are our goal here, you aren’t stuck in a relationship. If you agree now and then in 3 months don’t think he’s passed your vetting, you are free to leave. Same amount of time is spent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 11:35 PM |
| 2 | When you first meet up with a guy as a blind date or online match, what do you do to greet?I just do a friendly wave. If they try to hug, I’ll hug back. I met my current boyfriend through online dating and we waved and then hugged at the end of our first date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 11:29 PM |
| 12 | Submission is a giftLoved this! Thanks for posting. 💕 | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 11:22 PM |
| 3 | How soon do you think is too soon to spend the night in a new relationship?I’d wait a month and a half after officially dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/20 12:17 AM |
| 3 | How soon do you think is too soon to spend the night in a new relationship?How long did it take to become relationship official? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Do not fall for the lie of having fun now and settling later while you in your twenties or be involved in meaningless relationships.I’m already seriously partnered and hoping it will be for life (same age as you) but I love what you’re saying. Feels extra empowering! 💖 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 11:30 PM |
| 3 | How soon do you think is too soon to spend the night in a new relationship?Are y’all committed? If so, I say wait like a month and a half to two months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Dreams and goals you have outside the relationshipTwo professional certifications which are related to different professions and piano playing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/20 11:28 PM |
| 1 | How long should the dating phase lasI couldn’t date without commitment for more than a month. I’d lose interest. // | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Wasted teenage years + not magical enoughThere’s nothing wrong with you. You sound like a normal teenager. Now that you’ve had this experience, you’ve learned about a very huge red flag when dating: If a guy doesn’t want to commit or be in a relationship (saying he feels trapped or being in an on/off ordeal) WALK AWAY. When he told you he was running away, you should’ve thought: this isn’t the boy for me. I don’t need such a troubled person in my life. Value yourself enough to not settle for shitty partners. Furthermore, don’t torture … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 06:41 AM |
| 1 | valentines dayHe’s making our favorite dish for dinner, then we’re going to drink wine, eat chocolate, watch TV, and talk. I got him a key to my apartment and bought some lingerie he asked me for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 06:22 AM |
| 3 | Finding like-minded women IRLI’m a slightly religious public school teacher with a lot of nonreligious friends. If either one of y’all lives in the south, hit me up! 💕 | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/20 01:06 PM |
| 8 | This guy dodged a bullet because she was chasing Tyrone and he was “not Tyrone enough for me”I can’t believe he even asked for a second date. Like what was he thinking? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/01/20 08:48 PM |
| 5 | [31F] "My friends are getting married and I'm sitting home alone, drinking an entire bottle of wine to myself."If you want a date/relationship with a guy and all he’s interested in is sex (specifically anal) from you, why even entertain the thought? Like the “even if I did want that” message should’ve never happened and sounds VERY insinuating on her part. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/01/20 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Damaged goods Carol realizes she craves love and a stable life. Just not enough to stop fucking her FWBs and posting nudes on reddit.Can’t relate but I completely agree with you. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 20 | Break up with a RP man - how to handle the healing process and redefine my value?Bankruptcy and multiple failed businesses is a huge red flag Cheating is an even bigger one. If he’s having a history of doing things that show a lack of ambition, self-control, or sensitivity then you shouldn’t give him any of your time. I’m clearly not Bluepilled but work with an overwhelming amount of people who are and I would NEVER say or do anything insensitive enough to offend them because I know we have different ideologies, I’m smart enough to know what’s important, and I value my job. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Sugar babyMaybe you should fill it? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/01/20 12:46 AM |
| 2 | Black RPWs, how do you style your hair?I straighten mine or just wear it natural. I do French braids on my straightened hair a lot for the waves I get when I take it out. I will confess that my hair is more 2C/3A-ish and not an afro. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, how did Christmas go?I had an amazing Christmas. Not going to go into what I got but I got everything I asked for and all in all he spent ~$210 on my gifts. We spent the night dancing and cuddled up to a fire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 05:02 PM |
| 1 | I have no idea how to cook anything more than pasta and I need help startingThank you for everything you do. Looking at his channel now. I’m about to blow my boyfriend tf away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/19 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Cross post I posted “Ask Men” asking for tips on how to get back in the dating game. A kind man dm’d me to suggest to ask you guys. All tips & advice are/is appreciated.It could completely be the area you’re in (I have no clue where you live), but here are some of my observations based on your comments to your original post. I will say that I’m an African American woman living in the south who does not find a shortage of men to date. I am dating a really nice white guy who I hope will be my future husband. It sounds like you’re not white. If you’re a POC and trying to date high quality men of different races, you have to be skinnyish and in shape. Especially gi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/19 09:06 PM |
| 15 | This year's final installment of REAL OR FAKE.Real because of the correct placement of the apostrophe in y’all. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 28/12/19 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Is motherhood a goal?I think motherhood is a goal and it can be a priority but I don’t think it should be your only goal. Usually stay-at-home mom’s have like a niche or passion that they pursue. If you love children so much, I think you should try to get involved with a nonprofit that works with kids or even work in education. And it’s something you could continue to do into motherhood. Also, a woman without a job is a red flag. Maybe pick something you like that’s high paying to employ you long enough to find a hu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/19 12:16 AM |
| 2 | What's your easy, go-to dinner?Chicken Alfredo or Marinara Chicken Pasta. I’m trying to lose a few pounds though so I’ve been making lentils with rice and grilled cheese with soup a lot lately. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Brothers! Look what we're missing: "...nationally, severe obesity will likely be the most common BMI category for women, non-Hispanic black adults and those with annual incomes below $50,000 per year."They do so expect more mixed race babies in the future. | /r/MGTOW | 21/12/19 06:28 PM |
| 2 | That’s right men... cheesesteak jalapeño poppers....Love this. Will have to make it soon. | /r/MGTOW | 08/12/19 05:14 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?Thankful for the way this year has turned out and for my boyfriend who has been so receptive to my feelings and is really big on communication. Started the year in a “relationship” with a guy who took 3 months to start an exclusive relationship and 6 months to claim me as his girlfriend. He was awful at communicating (both in frequency and in tone). Now I’m ending the year with a great man who asked me to be his girlfriend after 3 weeks and cannot get enough of me. We see and speak to each other… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/19 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Where to find cute outfits?I’ll look into that. I’m 24. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/19 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Thoughtful but slightly expensive first gift for my (24m) boyfriend (27m)$80 wouldn’t be an expensive gift. I say go for it. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for two months and I got him a (lightly) used Fitbit that came out this year. He loves it and it signifies that I care about him and his interests. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/19 07:34 PM |
| 1 | What do you ladies do on a Friday/Saturday night when your man is out?Do something with my female friends like go out to a friendly bar, have a game night, paint night, or movie night. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/19 11:58 AM |
| 1 | 29 year old single mom reality TV star is ready to settle down, breaks down in interview. (Link in comments)I’m taking notes 🤓📝 | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/11/19 11:13 PM |
| 5 | A man who loves you will do anything to make you happyThanks for helping me heal a little from my last relationship. 💕 My ex tried to use me as an emotional punching bag and I immediately dipped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 10:33 PM |
| 1 | RPW friendly career ideas?I think it really depends on your interests. Almost any career can be made RPW friendly. I’m currently a teacher but I’m trying to switch to the legal field and either work with families, tax law, international law, or (most likely) at a nonprofit I really love. Regardless of what I choose, I’ll still be a RPW:) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/19 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Virginity: Save it or give it up?I personally wouldn’t have sex with men I don’t see a future with. I think you’d enjoy it more if you waited until you were in college and lost it to a guy you trusted and didn’t have an expiration date on the relationship with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/19 06:10 PM |
| 7 | Carol followed her tingles until the wheels of the cc fell off. Now she's desperate for Chad to give her a sign that she isn't just a plate.Yeah but that one side is enough to keep her invested. I feel like they’re FWB and she’s just being delusional. No way he’s inviting her to meet friends or family given how he acts. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 04/08/19 03:35 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on "pretty privilege" and aging?I was a woman like that and it's really just naivete. I was so trusting and positive about humankind because strangers on the street would help me if I was in need and both guys and girls at my high school and college were super friendly and inviting in their social circles. It wasn't until my guy friends started telling me they thought I was attractive (at the end of high school) and when I saw how my friends treated uglier women that I made the connection. Pretty privilege definitely dwindles … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/19 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Lena Dunham, feminist slut champion of the liberal west figures out being post wall with nothing to offer except sex is a frustrating position to be in. Dunham noted how “people transform once sex is introduced.” It took you 15 years of carousel riding to figure that out!? Yikes, sweety.I’m actually really curious as to what a “Lena Dunham thirst trap” looks like. Also, why would she be surprised that the man who DM’d her after posting that was only interested in hitting and quitting it? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/08/19 03:06 AM |
| 9 | "I [23F] have always had intense, toxic relationships mostly built around sex. Finally in a healthy relationship with a smart funny and super nice guy that actually likes me and I don't feel like I like him as much as I should... feels boring in comparison." Your diagnosis: Trashed pair-bondingHow can someone be that emotionally damaged that young? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/08/19 03:00 AM |
| 3 | So bitter and entitledShe also loves to laugh though. /s | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/03/19 08:42 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?I'm not pregnant but that's what I've been feeling like eating for the past two weeks. Trying to save my monies though! 😩 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/19 07:48 PM |
| 1 | From one of those Asian girls who only dates white guysWhy would she put her check list on Tinder 🤔 | /r/MGTOW | 09/03/19 12:50 PM |
| 13 | How most single moms and carousel riders end up on our sub.I would like to personally thank this sub for making me (early 20s F) re-think my dating/sexual choices. There's no better teacher or real life motivator than seeing the future results of poor choices every other day. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 24/02/19 11:31 PM |
| 2 | When she changes her profile from "My pussy need some dick."It’s 70% of black women have kids out of wedlock. It’s a cultural thing. Slaves couldn’t marry so the black community is less concerned with the institution of marriage. Common for mom and dad to be together for decades without actually marrying. Not a good thing but it happens. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/01/19 01:03 AM |
| 16 | Amy Horton just published another article today! She gives advice to single women. Do not settle for anyone but your magical soulmate. It is worth the wait, be patient.That’s fucking wildddd | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 17/01/19 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Advice on dating moreWhich online dating sites/apps would you recommend? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/19 11:39 PM |
| 1 | "Look at me, then look at you and ask yourself are you a minimum 8/10? If not, don't bother" LMAOAre we just going to ignore the fact that one of her ethnicities is listed as 'Gemini'? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 16/11/18 01:17 AM |
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