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| 3 | Part two: how to win people to your way of thinkingAs a healthcare practitioner - I find a lot of traits of a high quality leader actually matches to the qualities of an effective clinician. A lot of what's in this goldmine of a book relates to "Motivational Interviewing Techniques" - techniques we'd use to motivate a patient to change their behaviour (whether that's overcoming a substance use disorder, smoking cessation, etc) I'll definitely be incorporating some of these to the fullest in my everyday life - thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:55 PM |
| 4 | What do y'all think of coffee dates (for a first date)?absolutely will not go. What is the benefit for me to go on a coffee date? My time is limited as I have many things to attend to, friends to see, family members to take care of. Also, the only time I drink coffee is before noon - my life is on a tight schedule and I must be able to fall asleep by 11pm at night - dates don't usually happen before noon. If he wants to catch my attention and my time, he must be offering a lot more than an awkward interview. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Lazy ass hangout dates are CANCELED. You "hang out" with your girlfriends, you go on DATES with potential suitors.honestly i feel like in uni when you're 18 this might be a bit more excusable but definitely not post-undergrad ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 04:24 AM |
| 2 | Honestly, let’s not pretend like Red Pill strategies don’t work.yup, it has worked on me in the past. But I'm so far from that girl now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 01:52 AM |
| 10 | FDS FAQs Answered! Becky vs. Dreamgirlif i had enough karma i would give this post an award | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:36 PM |
| 8 | the cure to Oneitis: 10 tipsThis post is so healthy and helpful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 12:47 PM |
| 1 | A way to combat fuck boys sliding in your DMsIs this facebook or IG?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 12:44 PM |
| 33 | He wont textThis is my best estimate: We all know that since he's in med school, he's extemely busy with tons of issues to solve and knowledge to memorize This can cause a lot of stress and perhaps even mental health issues This means maybe he doesn't have too much leisure time to go out or hang out as he must dedicate a lot of time to studying So when he's sitting on the toilet or checking his phone when he's not in the hospital or studying, he needs some quick stress reliever by talking to a girl that he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 10:09 PM |
| 13 | How to avoid men who are only into casual sexLet's come up with some good ego-crushing comebacks for this collectively? Some ideas 1. I'm thinking just the right amount, I know exactly what I want and you're the furthest thing from it I simply don't want to come over My life is moving too fast to see where it goes with you. I don't need to see where it goes,i know exactly where you're going and it's right on my ghosted list I dunno... Not very good at this - anyone has any ideas please? I need some EVEN MORE SOUL CRUSHING stuff ahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 09:41 PM |
| 35 | How to avoid men who are only into casual sexKey line they might use if you say "I'm just not about the hookup culture (right now)": Don't think too much, let yourself have some fun I think you're thinking too much, relax a bit We just take it and see where it goes I havent had a gf for 5 yrs, just wanna see how things go Wanna come over? -I.e you say" I have an excel thing for work, don't know how to do it" -him : come over I'll show you how Him: wanna come over? Me: uh.. I dunno Him: the choice is yours, it's completely up to you, I'm fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Be careful who you trust, even salt looks like sugar.Just heard this from Shannon Lester today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 02:57 AM |
| 9 | How to make men like you morecharisma on demand has made my personal life so SO much better. I became a lot more respected and kinda "alpha-female", the person who, when in a circle, everyone's feet are pointed towards (subconsciously), after employing many of these strategies :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 02:53 AM |
| 14 | Men ain’t shita warning sign for us to always maintain our financial independence! men will hold yuor financial dependence on them against you, cheat, and think "she'll never leave me. how could she" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 10:03 PM |
| 5 | Just want to say THANK YOU + something that’s helped me recently.congrats sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 09:09 PM |
| 5 | STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIM!yesss - sticky worthy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 09:02 PM |
| 15 | OLD strategy - wait to level up or not?This is what I did on my last weight loss journey :) Occasionally date the schlubs just to kinda "practice" conversational skills, and your charisma. Become an EXCELLENT conversationalist! Through this, as you improve yourself and as your outer appearance match the queen that you are on the inside, you'll be even more "the-all-around-package" when you meet the type of men you want to date :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 03:46 PM |
| 29 | Proposal for a sticky: a non negotiable list of dealbreakers in husbands, fans, dates, boyfriends, etcYupppp! Ladies let's keep our head held high and remember all the work we've put into ourselves to become who we are: whether in our diet and exercise, strict self care, education, career success, and charisma - don't let some random ass stranger take away your pride from all your accomplishments by a single phrase or word. Always always remember: if he needs to resort to negging to attract you, he is insecure and knows he could not get your attention any other way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 02:19 PM |
| 12 | Proposal for a sticky: a non negotiable list of dealbreakers in husbands, fans, dates, boyfriends, etc:') this. After having experienced this myself in the past I will see through my rose colored glasses and say - never again, moid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 02:16 PM |
| 9 | Strive to be the best version of yourself ♥️The only times I've been depressed as hell was - when I ate whatever I want whenever I want - woke up later than 9am - did not clean my room - let friends down when made plans already with them - messy bag, messy spaces When I got rid of those habits, I've been the happiest I've ever been :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 02:12 PM |
| 118 | Proposal for a sticky: a non negotiable list of dealbreakers in husbands, fans, dates, boyfriends, etc"all my exes were crazy psychos" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 04:51 AM |
| 50 | My date: Goldie Hawn & Kate Hudson are MONSTERS! Oddest negging and "the wall" nonsense.WTFFFFF is even going on As soon as he said the "what does your mom looks like", I feel like I woulda just wanted to LEAVE...holyy the lack of self/social-awareness and basic manner in this guy absolutely BLOWS my mind. I'm SO sorry you had to put up with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 12:46 AM |
| 22 | Lazy ass hangout dates are CANCELED. You "hang out" with your girlfriends, you go on DATES with potential suitors.Him: "if you're in town some day and wanna grab a boba, hmu" Me: *blocked* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 12:09 AM |
| 6 | If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:Perhaps you haven't leveled up to the point where this the principles of this sub can be maximized and fully used by you yet. But here's the thing --> you can! I'm going to copy & paste something from another user that might be useful for you before these principles work :) /u/NecessaryCook Can you think of the last time you felt really great about yourself? Try to recapture that time in your life. If you are on OLD, delete it all ASAP. You need to spend the next 90 days focusing on you. Begin f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 04:20 PM |
| 7 | How can you have confidence in yourself when there’s nothing to be confident about?omg this deserves a separate post & pinned! (y) Edit: Might I also add, gym membership & personal trainer? - Exercise is proven by science to enhance mood, get rid of mild-moderate depression symptoms --> will make you look and feel amazing - Aim for BMI: 20-21 or under - you will be shocked what a difference this makes to your overall confidence. The more confident you are --> the more you go out --> the more you're able to gain social skills --> become charismatic --> have people absolutely gr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 02:18 AM |
| 11 | Has your perception of your brothers or close male friends changed after applying the FDS mindset?Yes. some of my male friends are digusting and i've actually started dissociating. The ones that are worth keeping, i'm going to be less tolerant of their misogynistic comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 01:03 AM |
| 10 | Do NOT date...THIS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 11:58 PM |
| 3 | HelpI would start at the gym! Exercise is as effective as antidepressants for mild-moderate depression (Edit: not diagnosing you for depression; just wanted to state a cool fact about the effectiveness of such a seemingly "simple" task). Not only will this increase your mood, it'll increase your confidence --> you'll want to go out more --> you'll gain more social skills --> even more confident --> people will gravitate towards you All while your appearance will start to improve :)! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 09:32 PM |
| 85 | Do NOT date...Can we also start a thread about "which professions TO date"? hahah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 09:25 PM |
| 21 | Do NOT date...military guys spend a lot of time with "THE BOYS" --> this is a danger territory for conversations degrading women or having misogynistic group-think | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 09:24 PM |
| 38 | Do NOT date...OMG I was looking for this comment! A lot of STEM-nerd / softdev / coders think they're allllll that ... but they're really just using negging strategies and psychological manipulation to DEMEAN and TRICK women who are wayyyy out of their league into having a smidge of interest in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 09:23 PM |
| 18 | FemaleDatingStrategy in SpanishYes! Please spread the FDS ideology to all HVW out there We are saying "no more" to the BS that men have put us through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 06:46 PM |
| 15 | If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:Okay, I see there's some controversy here regarding this post, let me put some more things into perspective (Experienced FDS-ladies, please correct me or add to the conversation if any of this is wrong; anyone else - please feel free to debate this, i'd like to see how everyone thinks): If you see your self as and a HVW and are in fact a HVW, all of what I said in the original post applies to you. - You do have many suitors at once - there are multiple men chasing after you - men know that unles… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 06:28 PM |
| 3 | If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:I am gonna follow your posts from now on! Very insightful stuff here /u/bearded_dragonlady ! You put into words the ideas I have but can't find the right ways to articulate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 06:11 PM |
| 6 | If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:good point ladies! I'm curious if there are any more experienced FDS ladies that can shed some light about how to apply FDS principles in light of this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 03:31 PM |
| 39 | If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:EVEN if you're making more money, here's why: You think men will be asking for Bella Hadid to pay half? No, he would be insecure that Bella Hadid is making so much, and even MORE so trying to pay to show her that he's not a weak-link. He would in fact INSIST to pay because he's embarrassed about looking cheap in front of B.H. You think he's ever ask Bella Hadid to "meet him half way"? No, he'd take an airplane to get the privilege of even spending one hour with her. You think he'd ever make Bell… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 02:48 PM |
| 13 | "I hate when guys are hot/cold with me. Why do they always do this to women?!?" Because you LET THEM. IGNORE, BLOCK, DELETE any man who leaves you guessing where you stand. An "unclear" answer is an answer. No answer is also an answer. IGNORE. BLOCK. DELETE. GHOSTsame! So many of my girlfriends are heartbroken lately. Then I let them tell me the TRUTH about how their bf or their "lets just see where this goes"-friend treats them...and I automatically send them here. Hoping to open their eyes and that they spread this sub to their friends as well :) Good work Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 02:38 PM |
| 5 | Advice. I want to look my best.I would read about intermittent fasting & OMAD It does wonders and is much easier to stick to than other diets Check out some Korean skincare routines too for antiaging always wear sunscreen to prevent aging skin! wear more skirts / dresses than pants :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 02:20 PM |
| 5 | Make him pay for your time.LOOOOOL this is great sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 02:05 PM |
| 16 | How do I let the man know I would like him to pay for the date he asked me on?But in your case, if he's already saying stuff like "Let's go somewhere cheaper" after you've already pulled the "Sounds expensive" strategy ... he sounds like he isn't going to pay and just sounds like a dud in general DITch this man asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 02:04 PM |
| 22 | How do I let the man know I would like him to pay for the date he asked me on?I would usually say something like Stategy 1:- If he says "lets go to x bar"I might carry the convo a bit, and then say "So you want to take me to x bar?"- Or closer to the date, I'll say "So where are you taking me?" Strategy 2:- It he says "you wanna meet up for food?- I'll say "You want to take me to dinner?" Or, when the bill comes, do not even reach for your wallet. It's a first date..it is should be expected that he pays- When the bill comes, it's always a little bit awkward- If you even s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 02:01 PM |
| 27 | "I hate when guys are hot/cold with me. Why do they always do this to women?!?" Because you LET THEM. IGNORE, BLOCK, DELETE any man who leaves you guessing where you stand. An "unclear" answer is an answer. No answer is also an answer. IGNORE. BLOCK. DELETE. GHOSTwe as a whole gender need to do this more often we as a gender need to spread the FDS philosophy we need to let them know they can't get away with this BS anymore. the more women are not willing to put up with this, the less likely men are gonna pull bs like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 01:56 PM |
| 11 | What is FDS's stance on prenups, and could you elaborate with logics why?Your mother is the woman we should all aim to be. thank you for such an inspiring story! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 09:52 PM |
| 14 | The fertility mythMost of my male friends are having receding hairlines hahah and they're only in their mid 20s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 09:22 PM |
| 5 | What is FDS's stance on prenups, and could you elaborate with logics why?Thank you so much! This is very eye opening | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 09:21 PM |
| 9 | If you want to learn the truth about men's relationship desires, look at gay men.god..eye opening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 08:30 PM |
| 19 | Never let him "talk you into" sex.this is wonderful and shold be a separate post! both u ladies are amazing for these tips | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Dating my boyfriend for 9 months - not unhappy, but not ecstatic either. Is it ok to date others?I think you should break up first, then see other people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 12:38 AM |
| 5 | With husbands like this, who needs enemies (or husbands). Heartbreaking read, may be triggering.heartbreaking... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 12:36 AM |
| 1 | How do you fend off dating fatigue?I can relate to this so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Friendly Reminder Not to Take Dating Advice from Men.I don't get it what is a RPW anyways? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 07:57 PM |
| 9 | Men Think Equality is Paying Half on Dates and Getting to Punch Us In The Face.the fact that we would give them the time of day when we're chosing between 10 different invitations...they should feel lucky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Men Think Equality is Paying Half on Dates and Getting to Punch Us In The Face.THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 02:57 PM |
| 14 | FDS now the SCARIEST Subreddit! And JUST in Time for HALLOWEEN TeeHee! 👻🙈LOL as if any of these disgusting incels would ever even have the CHANCE of ending up on a date with any of the FDS ladies??? WHO ARE They kidding LOOOOL the fact that these moids display this type of naivety is making me laugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 02:57 AM |
| 9 | Maintain your hobbies throughout a relationship.Thank you for this reminder sis And don't allow him to make you feel like you can't be you again! It's never too late to return to the fabulous queen that you are now that you got rid of the biggest toxicity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 02:53 AM |
| 3 | Single Queens only - if you are 27 or older, what is your living situation?grad school so roommates for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 10:40 PM |
| 3 | You go to dates to pick the right man for you, not to be pickedappreciate you! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 10:10 PM |
| 9 | Rant: Stop making excuses for dusty ass losersYES sis omg preach! I feel the emotions and frustrations behind this post 100%. All truths. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 03:10 AM |
| 23 | Just realized some guys I thought we were my friends "negged" me and destroyed my mental healthI've heard so many of my hot high value female friends who are maybe "less experienced with dating", or even the experienced ones say "I didn't even find him attractive! he was not my type! somehow he kept playing these mind games with me and now that I am getting a bit attached, he's withdrawing and being cold" can't even count on my fingers how many times I've heard this. I wish there was a way more women knew about negging and how not to fall into this trap! I wish there was a way this sub co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 02:45 AM |
| 17 | Just realized some guys I thought we were my friends "negged" me and destroyed my mental healthTHIS. I swear it's because they think you're a challenge! They're probably all thinking "she thinks she's so hot isn't she? she thinks she's so confident and above me isn't she?" (when we've just been nothing but kind, and treated them with dignity as a friend dose) and trying to see how far they can go by pushing boundaries and attempting to destroy our self esteems I'd say they were mostly fresh out of college! ...and yet to be behaving so childishly ... quite disappointing. They were the type… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 11:59 PM |
| 15 | I'm sick of being seen as a means to an end or being written off as "crazy" for asserting myself.To those kind of men who says those things - when has that ACTUALLY Worked??? Are there actually girls out there with SO little self respect that she'll respond positively to "wanna make babies without actually making babies?" I'm /actually/ curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 08:57 PM |
| 10 | I'm sick of being seen as a means to an end or being written off as "crazy" for asserting myself.yessss !can totally see thur his bs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 08:56 PM |
| 11 | I'm sick of being seen as a means to an end or being written off as "crazy" for asserting myself.trash. they are absolute trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 08:56 PM |
| 2 | A reminder that if he thought you were valuable, he would treat you with value. Either he doesn't respect you or doesn't have his shit together. Remember, he'd find the money to take a supermodel on a date, he just doesn't think you're worth it. He's wrong. Boy bye.HAHA YESSS U TELL HIM SIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 06:59 PM |
| 2 | A reminder that if he thought you were valuable, he would treat you with value. Either he doesn't respect you or doesn't have his shit together. Remember, he'd find the money to take a supermodel on a date, he just doesn't think you're worth it. He's wrong. Boy bye.omg thank YOU! i'm gonna say this next time. Its easy to come up with how i feel about coffee dates, but difficult to put it into words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Men’s sickened, shocked reactions to this sub are EXACTLY women’s reactions to TRPyesss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 06:55 PM |
| 11 | Thank you for your wisdom. I am sorry.thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Look Hotter If You Want To Get a Boyfriendunpopular amongst GP but completely agreed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 06:46 PM |
| 4 | From ‘pick me’ to desirable woman. My ex wants me back and it feels amazing to say nou go sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Daily reminder THAT men have a harder time dating than women. They get fewer matches, fewer responses, and fewer dates. Never let a moid make you feel like they're irreplaceable. They're a penny a dozenmen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 07:41 PM |
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