So I'm [F27] in the middle of a huge self improvement phase. I've checked out the sidebar, read some of the required books, and they've really helped me solidify my motivation and bolster my confidence.

I'm a very educated, strong woman who knows what I want out of OLD. The problem is that I'm plus sized. I work out 3-4 times a week and watch my calorie intake, but when you easily have about 80 pounds to lose to get to a healthy BMI, it just isn't going to happen overnight.

Again, not saying that plus sized is in any way bad, but the type of guys I want to date and who have similar workout motivations as me aren't interested in me. Right now I'm attracting older guys in their mid-thirties who are kind of schlubby, and it's just not good.

Any advice or thoughts on what I should do? I know looks aren't everything, but with OLD they seem to be way more important.