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STRATEGYjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 01:24 AM
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LEVEL UPjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 11:17 PM
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DATING THEORYjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:14 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?jalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:37 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/19 04:34 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!jalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:07 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:30 PM
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STRATEGYjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 04:00 AM
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DATING THEORYjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:03 PM
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DISCUSSIONjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:13 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:08 AM
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DISCUSSIONjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 10:57 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 09:35 PM
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NAH, SISjalapenopancakes/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 05:42 PM
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“Fuckable” is not the only high value trait for women. If they can’t recognize the signs, they’re PickMes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 12:55 PM
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Good looking and rich (and to a much lesser extent, famous) are positive qualities but they do not make a man high value on their own. He is what men THINK is high value because he is living what men fantasize about in media, porn, movies, games, etc. But he is not. Based on his behavior I reckon that this relationships are incredibly shallow. Sure, you get the status and the money when you’re with him but I bet these women are fucking miserable (and so is he). He can’t stay with any long term (…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 12:14 PM
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Goes to show that rich doesn’t necessarily equal high value. He’s got every red flag for being a horrific husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 12:35 AM
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Oh yes, 44: the year in which a man typically settles.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:30 PM
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Leo isn’t high value. Commitment issues galore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:23 PM
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Lean back. Let him drive and steer the relationship. Don’t put in the work - let him plan and pay for dates and don’t initiate. You’re not interested in being a pen pal or a text buddy - based on what he plans and what he does, you can see if he’s been paying attention to your likes, wants, desires, goals, etc. If he wants someone to drive and steer and mommy him, he won’t respond well to a woman who leans back. But a HVM will adapt quickly and take the lead if you give it to him. Never place we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:45 PM
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Knee length at least
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 12:25 AM
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Nah I think I’ll just go get railed by my husband later and see for myself how his balls don’t magically get underneath my clitoral hood when we’re having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 12:23 AM
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Can you describe what the clit is? I have never had balls slap my clit before. It’s not located where you think it is hun.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 11:51 PM
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Balls hitting my clit if I’m getting hit from behind? R/badwomensanatomy Also yes- we can get pregnant without orgasm. Evolutionarily it isn’t necessary. But I encourage women to dump men who don’t make her orgasm. No more faking it for years :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 10:58 PM
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It’s because a penis is different than a vagina. PIV doesn’t typically hit the clitoris. Oral does. It’s really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 10:51 PM
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Female, streaks of red, purple and pink (but never blue) Smashing the shit out of her vagina doesn’t work. Might feel okay somewhat but I’ve literally never orgasmed from rough PIV. Eye contact!!!!! It’s hot Circular motions with the tongue simultaneous with constant stroking of the vaginal wall (towards the front) is a decent recipe for orgasm. Or you know, you can ask her to give you direction while you’re down there. Some women can’t orgasm with oral. Some (like me) can’t orgasm without it. F…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 10:40 PM
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I think I might already be there. Who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 11:52 PM
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23 is nothing. You’ll have a great degree before your thirties and you’ll be well on your way in a growing career field. I didn’t level up until I was 27 at LEAST. 28 or 29 if we’re being honest. You have time and it’s awesome that you’re working towards that now. Stay single until you meet someone worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:47 PM
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Or hiding her from his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:06 PM
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She is 1000% the side chick to somebody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:02 PM
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Not sure if they’re worse in bed or marriages. Dated one super far left dude in my life and, my god man for someone who was on and on about the working class he sure as fuck didn’t work very much himself 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 09:37 PM
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I think there may be a correlation but in my experience it’s been the exact opposite. Once I shed my super duper far leftist position and moved to center/center right, lost a ton of weight and started accelerating my career, I started getting dates with other attractive center right men. The obnoxiously left men are usually... not great in bed nor attractive or make good partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 07:41 PM
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I no joke expect that this is the cause of the rise of so many “non-binary” but actually straight women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:24 PM
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Barf. Infantile man are literally never sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:00 PM
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met my husband found a new career 3 months after leaving my ex started school again got a certification in my new field no more panic attacks, no more depression saved SO MUCH $$$ started working out and lost 30 lbs found my love of cooking again (he wouldn’t eat anything I cooked - he was a picky eater and preferred nothing but pizza pretty much) my home was, at al times, so much cleaner than before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:08 PM
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Mine did too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:03 PM
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Can’t use money (resources) to force her into staying with him. Can’t control her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:27 PM
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May be an unpopular opinion but: getting the tar beat out of you or getting abused by a man: not a choice overlooking the umpteenth time he showed LV behavior and continuing to believe that if you PickMe enough he’ll change: definitely a choice Would I have been treated as poorly as I was with my ex if I listened to my intuition and left him when I should have? No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 06:01 PM
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She probably picked a styrofoam plate because she knows she’ll be stuck with the goddamned dishes afterwards. Made sense when women couldn’t make money or hold a job but now that we can- what are men useful for? Nothing. Only cook for a man who brings you value. Men who tantrum over plates bring no value to a relationship that a HVW can’t already get for herself on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:52 PM
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Men don’t commit when they know you’re a “keeper”- they commit when they realize they can lose you if they don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:24 PM
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SAME Social media free since December 2019. Immeasurable improvement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:55 PM
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OOF she destroyed him at the end. I hope she doesn’t take him back, ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:35 PM
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He’s in prison now. 10 years for felony DUI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:15 AM
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Assert boundaries. Have some plans a few times that you made and you can’t make it to whatever date/event he has going on. If he loses his mind, love bombing. Business as usual? Healthy interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:36 PM
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Hubster wasn’t on any social media and still isn’t to this day. Not a dealbreaker. Rest easy knowing he’s not chasing insta thots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:15 PM
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Girl my husband does this. Who I see literally all the time. Whenever I go to work I have a text when I arrive that says something super cute or wishes me luck if I’ve got something exciting going on. PickMe culture is so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 07:04 PM
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This as well. It would have been a resounding “what can I do to help you through this”. Doesn’t seem like that was done here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:02 PM
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No worries :) It’s the financial power, the free wife treatment, and the unequal distribution of household labor. It is hard as fuck to extricate yourself from a relationship where you have shared assets and no legal recourse to any of them should things go south. It’s also a way to get sucked into being financially dependent on a man who may or may not ever intend on marrying you. Also - if you’re giving a man sex, housework, meals, whatever without a ring, what is the sense in giving you one? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:50 PM
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She should cut her losses yes, but not because of him refusing to live with her. I guess I’m old school in the sense that I don’t think living together before marriage is the best idea - in this case, she should have reached back out to her folks and not to a man she’s known of for 6 months for help. This would have been an EASY way to get trapped with a man who has financial power over her. When you fall apart, call mom and dad and NOT a boyfriend. The shitty thing to me here was the comment ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:40 PM
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No, definitely not. This guy is a motherfucking moron. “Looks fade” lmao if you do the math in the story this guy is no older than 30-31. I’m assuming she’s near the same age... so she’s now “fading” at 30? Please. He treated a woman like garbage and wasted her time for years and he’s butthurt when she moves on and has options and he doesn’t. Even if you are the most gorgeous woman ever, LVM will STILL half ass their way through relationships and never give the effort you deserve. At least he re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:34 PM
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Women who are picky about back sizes and eye color are the only ones worth the effort? The fuck? No where did he specifically say attractive women. I’m no Stacy but like... I have never once heard of, spoken with, or even saw on social media a woman who rejected a man over this kind of stuff. And if these guys get their panties in a twist over gigastacy picking chat over him because of his back size... I guess he kind of deserved it didn’t he?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 04:53 AM
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My dating life is a graveyard of men whose backs weren’t wide enough and eyes were the wrong color, yes this is how women normally behave.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 04:35 AM
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Found the OP. He’s in his 50s, and he was married to a 21 year old 4 months after the wife he cheated on passed away. I mean, I’m not one to wish death on anybody but I’m just gonna say I hope the 21 year old cheats on him when he’s dying of cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:42 AM
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Is anyone gonna comment here about how the new wife is only 5 years older than his own daughter? Fucking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:35 AM
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Well if we weren’t all in covid lockdowns I’d say that the fastest way to get over a dude is to go on a date with a nicer one, but in this case a new hobby of activity will do. See if you can limit your social media and phone use during the lockdown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:23 AM
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Idk, this might deviate from the FDS norm but I was blunt and honest. “Marriage.” Yes, I scared many off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:20 AM
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Where was this post years ago when I dated this same ass dude?! Where was it?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:16 AM
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Yeah, you did the right thing sis. If he was truly into you, he would have asked for yours instead of making you take the first moves. A man who requires being chased like a woman is not worth a HVW’s time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:29 PM
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I can only hope so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 08:08 PM
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I suspect the more lifelike and more realistic they become, the more men would be enticed to act on their perversions. I can only imagine that the creation of lifelike child sexbots would increase the demand for child porn and children purchased for sex. I’m staunchly against it specifically for this reason - giving men increased access to prostitutes in the EU only increased trafficking, not decreased. I can only imagine that the horrific acts done to women and children would do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 07:59 PM
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Married to one. We work for the same company and we’re both at a conference this week. He escorted me home, bought me drinks, surprised me with a pint of ice cream (blackberry. Like I’ve been craving) back at the hotel, set me up with a networking opportunity and texted me all day telling me how gorgeous I was. Wouldn’t trade him for anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:07 AM
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Did you ask her out at all during that time? She probably lost interest. And what you described isnt breadcrumbing - now if you went on a few dates, she ghosted, and then sent you minimal texts just to keep you from forgetting about her for several weeks or months or even years, THAT’s breadcrumbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:01 PM
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There is no reason not to treat a man wonderfully if he’s HV and has committed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 07:07 PM
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LTRs are not mutually beneficial to women. It’s an easy and frequent way to get sucked into providing all the benefits of a wife with none of the legal and financial securities of marriage. Time and time again, women left with kids, no money and unmarried after their LT boyfriends decided they could do better. I do care about my husbands needs. But my husbands needs do not supersede my own. My husbands needs only became of equal importance to mine when he gave me a ring - before that, mine alway…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 06:48 PM
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Nope - it is very strictly a “secure yourself first, only let men into your life if he brings value” philosophy. There’s two subs now that I think of it - FemaleLevelUp and Vindicta both emphasize improving health, finances, looks, etc for maximum benefit. Vindicta is purely looksmaxxing though - finally learned how to do my damned eyebrows because of them. I tried it the normal modern way for a long time - the success I got was swift and intense when I changed. Modern dating is not a great deal…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 02:11 PM
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By improving herself. There’s another FDS sub for exactly this. Attraction is just as much an attitude and behavior as it is just looks. I’m no Stacy, but a lack of men pursuing me was never, ever an issue. Spend 10 minutes while female on any dating website, and you’re overwhelmed with options to sift through. Having that “I don’t need anyone, impress me and maybe I’ll entertain this” attitude activates some sort of weird behavior in men where they need to prove something. Improving myself and …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 01:54 PM
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No, we encourage open and honest dating with multiple men. There’s no keeping options open - every “option” is open just as long as a woman wants to date him. If he asks if you’re seeing other people, the answer is “yes.” “Well maybe I’ll string this one along for sex later” nope. When we’re done, we’re done. Block and delete and move on. Men specifically do this so he can keep her on the hook to fuck later - there is no going back for low value men for sex nor manipulating men for sex long term…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 11:40 AM
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FDS truly is the best of both the old and new worlds. They were on to something back then. But it's better now - we can own property, work, and achieve financial independence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:06 AM
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It’s shitty low value behavior, and it’s typical of men who are just looking to keep their options for no-strings attached sex as open as possible. Someone tried to breadcrumb me a few years ago and got BIG MAD when I sent him back a picture of my engagement ring. “I thought we had a connection, Blah Blah Blah”. I encourage women to shut down any and all men who do this, and also contact any of the women who he’s blowing up on social media. Cockroaches scatter when light shows 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 02:44 AM
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I can almost guarantee you that your issue is not your height - it’s your attitude. Your post history is uh, kinda off putting my friend. Very few women would want to try to fix that. Signed- a woman who is extremely happily married to a man 3 inches shorter than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 02:36 AM
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Then why the fuck can’t most of you own a set of bedsheets? Eat a vegetable for once? Wash a goddamned dish? It is a sad state of affairs - I felt like I was auditioning to find a child versus a husband when I was ready to marry. I have dated tons of men. Precisely one didn’t live like an animal and was a functional adult. You might do the “heavy lifting” but the other 2/3rds of most men’s days is subsidized by a woman’s free labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 02:30 AM
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Most were deeply insecure when I got to know them and they needed constant ego boosting, support, and keeping after - I didn’t find many that were driven to succeed or provide. There could be some who would make good husbands but my personal experience is that they were worth avoiding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 07:36 PM
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No. Men have to pass the “what if I got hit by a bus” test for marriage. Could he care for a home? Could he take care of his own kids without my help? What if I were sick and injured for a few months.. would he be there? I’d easily say that 90% can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 06:03 PM
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I wouldn’t get involved until I was sure she was being exploited or abused. Then it’s no holding back. If she’s a minor I’d be calling the cops.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 05:55 PM
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I was engaged in 8 months. It felt right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:04 PM
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I would LOVE to. ✋✋✋✋✋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:14 PM
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Telling men what to do all the time is the least sexy thing I can think of. “Obedience”? Please no. Functional, stable, empathetic adult on the other hand? Yes please.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 10:01 PM
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Here’s what my husband does: “Hey babe, take x date off of work.” No more details given. Two or three days before the day he tells me what to pack. Easy. There is nothing more amazing and sexy than a man who needs no help planning things and knows what I like. He knows me SUPER well. All my LTRs past couldnt manage hailing a damned cab, let alone coordinating travel without my help. Every year for my birthday I take the Friday of that week off and something incredible happens. This of course isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 04:29 AM
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You can plan a surprise weekender with air travel for two for about a grand in the US if you play cards right. you don't need to be rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 03:53 AM
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She who loves least has the most power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:54 AM
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Yep, agree, true, and this is because 999 times out of 1000, he’s going to climb on your back and make you carry him across the finish line for him. Spent way too much of my twenties teaching grown ass men how to do some fucking laundry, write resumes, pick up after himself and eat things other than pizza and Mountain Dew. No thanks, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:26 AM
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Bingo. They hold out for the “right one,” even after kids and many years together. Still looking out for options. It’s despicable. Might even propose to the next one. Usually how it goes when he learns that he ain’t all that and that women really aren’t falling all over themselves to entertain him like he thought they would when he fantasizes about being single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:09 AM
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Imagine having kids with someone, build a life together, and then having them turn around and charge you rent while they build equity on a home on their own. What a piece of shit man she’s got. B A I L
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:05 AM
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No ring? No living together, no kids, no commitment. This trial wife run is such a goddamned sham and such a bad deal for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:45 PM
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It appears to be so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 09:16 PM
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Yeah, honestly. It is. As much as we say it’s not, it definitely is. And I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing, particularly in the very beginning of a relationship. Obviously it can get overdone and yes it can stem from insecurity and trust issues if done out of habit. But you waste SO much less time and heartache and money the earlier you do it. I did this in the beginning of every relationship when I was looking to get married. His phone, his social media, every online mention of him eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 06:52 PM
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Negging. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:25 AM
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I have as well. It is SO not sexy if I have to parent a grown adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 09:04 PM
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lmao YEP
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 03:44 AM
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ZERO SHIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:44 AM
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Refuse to fuck them without commitment and see what they do. I’d do even longer than a 3 month with these guys. This will probably be your biggest weapon against older men. If he’s HVM he won’t be phased, if he’s LVM he’s going to freak the fuck out - getting and manipulating young girls feeds their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:12 PM
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Met my husband at work. He brushes snow off of all the cars belonging to everyone in his department at the end of each day. I was newer to the company and everyone at the office just raved over how nice this guy is and how they couldn’t believe he was single. He very clearly came to the office from a gym every day (but didn’t boast about it). He worked hard, was humble, and was just the absolute sweetest. I knew something was up when my car started having no snow on it after work :) :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:58 PM
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My husband’s ex held an (unloaded) gun to his head while he was sleeping and clicked the trigger, racked up his credit cards, isolated him and took nearly all his stuff when he left her. He STILL doesn’t refer to her as a “crazy batshit ex.” I had no idea how bad it was until I asked about her a few months in and he sort of nonchalantly told me some of the completely ridiculous things she would pull. Normally I would hesitate (trust but verify) when men tell these kinds of stories because I’ve f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 12:19 PM
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Lawyer up and get a good one. Good for you, sticking to your guns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:55 AM
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Back off my bullshit and actually eating better this week. Going to the gym again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:18 AM
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Paid his child support and paid his rent. Fixed up his resume for him. Found him a job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:16 AM
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I have trouble finishing my leftovers (nothing against them and I do eat them usually, but I reeeeeeeally like variety in my diet and I don’t like eating the same thing over and over again). It’s probably the single habit my husband despises about me - I am known to cook up a whole new meal to avoid leftover lasagna because I didn’t feel like it. but man, I’m not beyond frozen food. that’s ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:00 AM
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Of course the vast majority haven’t been convicted. But the vast majority make shit husbands and fathers. Of course it wasn’t my intuition that he fell in love with - it’s what let him access me. When I got bad vibes on a date with a man and had the thought to dig into his past online, sometimes I found that they had entire fucking families. Sometimes I found an Instagram full of follows and likes for insta models. It’s what made me dump these fools and safe time for someone who mattered. Listen…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 11:59 PM
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Reducing men’s access to me means they are statistically unlikely to hurt me. It’s just math. Who cares why they do it- only monsters rape and beat. My fears aren’t unreasonable. I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t been groped, followed home, shouted at, assaulted, pump and dumped, etc etc. And if he’s somehow a “nice guy”, then you have to hope and pray that he’s capable of basic adult functioning like holding down a job or being able to keep a home clean- something that is becoming rarer an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 11:46 PM
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It’s an extreme consequence, sure. Getting pump and dumped and used is much more likely and much more likely to happen to the woman versus the man as well. Women have always and will always assume more risk on dates. Our behavior is far more scrutinized and we suffer more consequence should we choose to sleep with, not to sleep with, etc. Men have never had to deal with this in western culture. Must be nice. Sure, assuming men are the devil incarnate may have filtered out a few genuinely decent …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 10:17 PM
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I can’t believe that we have to explain to a founder of a damned dating website that when women take initiative it sets the precedent for the rest of the relationship. It’s how to set up the successful women on your platform who have clearly found out how to get what they want from life with men who need to be poked and prodded along like a child. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:20 PM
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This exact thing happened to me a few times. It took me getting stood up three times to take myself out when I was all dolled up with nowhere to go. Treat yourself! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:45 PM
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Woof this one came at my old self like a freight train. I’ve actually lived through polyamory. Don’t fucking do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:42 PM
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I think it ultimately is up to each woman’s individual figure but leaving enough for his imagination is a must. Sexy but covered is my mo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:46 AM
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I’m three inches taller than my husband ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:43 AM
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Yep. Not quite as ice queen as her, but just a bit ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:31 PM
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Killing a pregnant woman is not the same as an abortion, for fucks sake lmao get a brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 07:25 PM
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You have a much lesser chance of being murdered on the first date than she does. You have the luxury of assuming she’s good without knowing her. Women don’t give men the benefit of the doubt because the benefit of the doubt can kill us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 01:48 PM
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Yep. Any time someone shoots up a class full of first graders you don’t need to ask what sex he is. Murder suicides of entire families? Dudes. War crimes? Dudes. The leading cause of death in pregnant women is homicide, almost always done by the man who impregnated her or another man she knew. It’s not even close who is more morally depraved overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 01:46 PM
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Have hobbies that aren’t sitting at your computer all day. Go find the groups of people who do those things. Professional orgs. Meetup.com. Music festivals and concerts. Trivia night. Karaoke. A fucking book club. Take an art class. Intramural co Ed sports. A fitness group.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 01:16 PM
7

What ever age they are when they realize if they don’t shape up and commit, they lose her OR the age when he hits the wall and realizes he will not be able to easily get another woman, so he settles.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 12:41 PM
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Practice your Devil Wears Prada pursing lips. I’ve gotten companies to do things for us they normally wouldn’t (our meetings are all usually on camera). Look to the side and look disappointed 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 11:30 AM
5

I’m a project manager by trade. If I’m not getting paid to manage a project, I don’t fucking do it 😂❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:44 PM
21

I would say I’m a feminist but rad-leaning at best. I despise liberal feminism, porn, prostitution, and BDSM. My politics are becoming more and more conservative. Feminism honestly is becoming a conservative position itself- the modern progressive parties seem bent on giving women’s rights, bodies and spaces to men. Not long ago, it was the left that was the bastion for critical thinking and nuance but now I’m afraid it’s about to flip. I am never going to glorify the individual decisions of wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:16 AM
31

🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:26 AM
1

Not natural at all at first. Had to actively think about it at first. I had been Ms Bulldozer for years and had to unlearn all of that (yet still keep some for my career). It’s much more natural and habitual now. It’s enjoyable too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:45 PM
1

Masculine. VERY net masculine when I dumped my last LTR before my marriage. Never wore makeup, I didn’t dress all that fashionably, never had my nails done, balked at the idea of homemaking and home cooking and domestic arts, the works. This was shortly after I had my falling out with SJW-woke land and I was very VERY hardcore radical feminist. I still maintain the gender critical aspects, criticism of the sex industry and advocacy of ruthless filtering out men in dating today. If I wasn’t activ…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:35 PM
1

Exactly. It’s two types of energy and if you have too much of one you can’t balance it back out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:18 PM
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It was tough and I’m still a work in progress. And it requires a lot of critical thinking and doubting norms. You kind of have to reject and piss off both camps - I am found frustrating by feminists (even though I do consider myself one to an extent) because I see the value in femininity and its compliment to a masculine partner. At the same time, I have to reject RPW because fully embracing femininity in the public life means that too much of my net worth and assets rely on my relationship with…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:11 PM
9

Femininity isn’t respected in the workplace. There’s no room and no tolerance for the receptive energy, feeling, nurturing and being that is necessary to be feminine. Very strong women realize that in order to grow a career and make the bacon, they have to drop the frills. I’ll be the first to admit that I am a different person at work. Completely different, like a Jekyll and Hyde. I fieldmarshal, I direct, I’m blunt, I get shit done. It takes me an hour or so to take the war paint off and get i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 10:14 PM
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When I was using OLD, I’d say about 50% said something sexual in the first 24 hours. Some were in the first few messages. So after weeding out the guys who couldn’t wait to talk about their peen in the first few moments, then the next challenge was weeding through the guys who expected sex on the first date. I had been negged, teased, even cornered, when I didn’t put out. One time in my twenties I was followed home. I have a very, very tough time believing that men care about other things than s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:24 PM
35

Women only want to fuck Chad and are only interested in men who look a certain way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:53 PM
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Ladies - search Rowan Baxter on reddit. Men are trying to explain away this behavior as CTE. I’ve seen one comment accusing the wife of infidelity. It’s control and ego, ladies. It always is, always was, and always be at the forefront of mass killings and family murders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:45 PM
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Control. It’s the ultimate “I’m taking my ball and going home.” He couldn’t deal with the control issues with the divorce and custody arrangement so he made sure that they wouldn’t be alive to have that power over their own lives. Only killing himself would let them have control. His ego couldn’t probably handle the idea of his ex wife and kids finding happiness. It’s also why men shoot up a class full of first graders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:39 PM
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This is what men do and what men are capable of. They sit in MGTOW and cry about “divorce rape” while men are out here divorce-murdering and taking their kids with them. The lowest of low value men would murder a child if it proved a point or maintained his control. This is why we MUST identify and block and delete low value men. Do NOT have children with low value men. Do NOT date them. Do NOT fuck them. Do NOT try to change them. Remove them from your fucking lives. The risk is not worth it. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:32 PM
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Husband is into it. He doesn’t fight (he did in his early twenties) but he enjoys watching them. He also enjoys teaching me what each of the moves are that they attempt and why they do it- I find it kind of fun and interesting too. No issues, but again you have to keep in mind that it has an appeal to LVM because of the violence. Ask him what he thinks of McGregor (the correct answer is that he’s a fucking POS) and you’ll know if he’s okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:22 PM
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If he’s HV, yes. LV? Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:07 PM
7

YES. I learned the hard way the first time, did it the right way the second. What a difference. Also I feel famous. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:58 PM
9

Oh jeez. Yeah the isolating is not okay. I’m so sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:44 PM
14

He's sometimes too sensitive to my facial expressions or moods. I make faces when I read and he gets worried that something bad happened or I'm sad or upset. When the hubster and I were dating he was constantly afraid that I'd snap, scream, whatever because his ex had some pretty severely untreated mental illness (can confirm, I've met her in person). He gets too anxious before trips because he places a lot of weight on whether or not I liked something he did for me or something he planned. I've…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:41 AM
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I feel like I lucked out - HVM husband is a combat vet. Never have had an issue once. But he actually got treatment and didn't end up in the justice department or police. He administers HR and loves cats, loves cooking and sings in the shower. Every other man in the military tho is exactly as you described in my experience. I almost rejected my husband entirely when he first asked me out (we work together) because I knew he was a vet. But since he was so nice and literally ever older lady in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:31 AM
2

I hope her parents do. Fucking creep. Quit fucking kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 04:21 AM
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When we say that younger women shouldn't date older men, it's fucksticks like this is why. Dude is old enough to be her grandpa. 100 bucks says he's got drives full of kiddy porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 04:18 AM
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I can’t understand the mindset of these men. What the hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:21 AM
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When I was husband hunting there was one other guy I dated who I could tell was HV. There was no chemistry. The next time he called, we talked about it and decided not to waste eachothers time. Simple as that - he will likely be clear of mind enough fo see that you’re not meant for eachother if he is indeed HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:56 AM
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And I didn’t respond to your comment originally, nor did I ask for your commentary on my former weight. Again, why does it matter to you? I was just trying to figure out how fat the sexual conquests of your friend here was and it’s evidently no less than 600 lbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:27 AM
4

So why respond if my former weight and my weight loss doesn’t matter to your perception of me? Seems off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:16 AM
7

I just said that I trimmed lol can you read?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:14 AM
2

I’m 5’11” and 175 today. What does it matter to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:10 AM
3

I trim mine. It takes like 3 minutes. It’s not about reducing my workload, it’s about not looking like a twelve year old for a man’s boner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:03 AM
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Bleached assholes are rare outside of porn, yes, and most women don’t wax down there. Porn popularized this too among younger promiscuous women as well because men are into the prepubescent look.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 01:38 AM
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I was my fattest at 230 lbs and even then my stomach could never touch it. That’s like My 600 Pound Life levels of obese to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 01:34 AM
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Honest to god, are you fucking the Michelin man? Whose stomach goes down that far?? 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 01:14 AM
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If that was his point, then why isn’t he saying it himself? Why does he need you to make it? He is plenty capable of saying that himself. Be bothered I guess. My point is that porn sex and real sex aren’t the same, and he’s trying to argue with multiple women that his gross attempts at porn sex result in orgasms. He’s not saying that there are exceptions, and is only bringing up anecdotes of jackhammering his flavor of the week 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 01:01 AM
0

Yikes 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 12:50 AM
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Okay hun. Sure. All women like porn sex. You’re right. All sex is just like porn hub and it’s perfect acceptable to expect deep throating, cumming on faces, surprise anal, choking and slapping in a relationship. Did that soothe whatever part of your brain desperately needed your version of reality to be true? Condolences to the girlfriend: I’d bet my life savings you are horrendous in the sack.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 12:46 AM
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So you fuck her like she’s a porn actress? Poor thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 12:39 AM
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The likelihood of her faking just to get you to stop is sky high, my friend. Most women aren’t porn actresses, sorry to report sweetie.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 12:33 AM
1

Spend 24 hours while female on dating apps and you’ll see what we mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 12:29 AM
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Orgasms from hard “jackhammer” sex, anal in general, genitals meticulously kept hair free and bleached (much like a young girls would), larger than normal penises, the vocalizations, men lasting a half an hour, anal just “slipping in” or happening by accident, unprotected sex with strangers, sex with relatives, sex between older men and younger women eager to please, huge breasts, orgasming together... Regular sex is to porn sex as high school wrestling is to the WWE. Not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 12:21 AM
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🤡 🤡 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:46 PM
30

Get a job, Adam!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:26 PM
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I wish I didn’t look at her post history. She is GORGEOUS. Like, stunningly pretty. And he looks like a lump that grew on a sofa. What a waste. Dear gods, my heart sunk further. 10 years wasted on a man who can’t pick up his own coffee. And pregnant with his kid. She is in for a rough life of resentment - I hope she has family that can help when times get tough, because there’s no way this dude will come through when she needs him the most. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:56 AM
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Oh good lord. There’s one decent piece of advice out there: “drop the rope.” Let him book his own damn appointments or pick up his own damn drink at Starbucks. For fucks sake. “There’s only room for one baby in your liferaft” - one of those commenters is absolutely savage and I’m surprised it wasn’t an FDSer. Based.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:43 AM
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Queen Dorothy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:41 AM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 04:40 AM
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YEP. You CANNOT attract a specific man using FDS. You can become attractive to loads of men and you can ruthlessly vet and filter until you’ve found one that deserves you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:19 AM
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Sexualized parent-child relationships are a form of grooming and abuse. Where’s mom in all of this? Can she help? I would tell another adult, and have that adult do the majority of the confronting with dad. A school counselor could help too. I bet his computer/phone has some horrific secrets that she doesn’t need to be knowing. Best to have someone else advocating for her and keeping her safe. Ffs men are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 07:25 PM
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Good job. You did the right thing. I don’t think I have ever, in my life, flat out called another man sexy in front of my husband or nah of my LTRs. Even when I was choosy choicing in my early 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:28 PM
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The ones where they come to reddit asking for relationship advice and mentioned that it “accidentally slipped in and he kept going” make me want to fucking vomit. Sis you were RAPED. They can’t just “accidentally slip” into your asshole. Ffs I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:27 PM
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I cackled out loud. No other articles on Verge. HMMMM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:02 PM
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I figured I oughta clarify before PickMErin comes in here and deliberately misconstrues and writes her next think piece on how awful we are about trafficked women 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:59 PM
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The ones that willingly choose sex work and promote it as something that’s normal and healthy, that is. There are plenty that don’t choose (trafficked) or choose it for survival but we can’t criticize that either: we should legalize this apparently. No matter what, you’re right, until we live in a society where it’s normal to purchase men too (it never will), it absolutely enables the mindset in men that they can just wave a few hundreds and get their dick sucked. They EXPECT sex after buying us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:56 PM
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I was gonna say. The point was missed COMPLETELY, and yep, the defense is always “well they don’t support all behaviors of all women” and “they don’t let males participate” and “they’re conservative because they won’t sleep with men on the first date.” I don’t understand this mindset of people who criticize us. From the men, our standards are too high and we’re gold digging feminist bitches when we won’t submit to men, and from the pickmeisha libfems our standards are too high and we’re kink sha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:53 PM
19

Jesus skateboarding Christ men are fucking entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:25 PM
20

What are the chances that little sis is the other woman? “The guys” might be his actual girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:04 PM
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Dump him when he visits for 5 minutes tonight. Problems solved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:02 PM
22

I get it. At my firm, the departments take turns in the winter at providing fun activities and snacks for the whole office. There’s trivia, quizzes with prizes, taco bars, special drinks, the finance team ran around making everyone ice cream sundaes... Guess which dept doesn’t do anything every year? IT. The only male dominated department. I don’t think they’ve ever done ANY appreciation or anything for the rest of the company, even though they’re invited to participate in the activities each ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:38 PM
20

Every day I’m astonished at the world that men live in and the rest of us don’t. Maybe stop listening to top chart pop songs for once in your life? Good god, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:09 PM
8

Aww thanks :) it’s not for awhile (April) :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:55 AM
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Jesus Christ she can’t even have a full day to recover without having to get the kids ready and functional. Men: this might just be why you lose custody. Could you get your kids together in the morning without your wife’s help?? So many can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:28 AM
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You explained this beautifully. I’m also finally fully internalizing why I was so miserable in relationships before. No one else ever listened and showed that he cared except for my husband. I just learned what my birthday plans are and I was able to trace them back to several conversations we had while we were DATING - he picked up on: my favorite junk food is a gourmet hot dog I’m weirdly into baseball I love museums and art I love trains I love wine And I just found out that we’re going to go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:37 PM
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THIS. BINGO. “Why didn’t you ask me to help with the chores?” Also comes to mind. Because we shouldn’t have to fucking plead with dudes to clean up after themselves. YOU LIVE HERE TOO. And even when we explicitly do ask them to take the fucking trash out, you’re goddamned LUCKY if he does it that day. He’ll be cramming everything he can in that bin until it’s falling out on the floor, and he won’t actually take it out until you’re fed up with it and do it yourself, or one week later when he isn’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:26 PM
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No ring, no effort :) Let him treat you. I got my husband nothing (except of course my time and appreciation) our first Valentine’s Day. After we had gotten engaged, THEN the gifts happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:44 PM
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Notice how it’s a girlfriend and not a wife. That, and the history of failed LTRs and no commitments SCREAMS that he can’t commit to a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:19 PM
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One of the nails in the figurative coffin of my last LTR before my marriage was finances. This fuckwad was an accountant too, who couldn’t budget to save his life. He accused me of treating marriage “like a business” and kept insisting that if we loved eachother enough it’d be okay. I think he was looking for financial support: his girlfriend’s family now completely bankrolls him. They bought him a house. I am forever thankful I dumped that mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:27 PM
1

Nope. Never ask men out. Read the sidebar materials.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:33 PM
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I’m 3 inches taller than my husband. Prayers for their insecurity over there, I hope they get over themselves soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:27 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:42 AM
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Second the other poster. His commitment to you is more important and harder to achieve than learning about each other’s living habits. You know what a great way to get to know someone is? Go on a week long vacation with him. Stop over by his house unannounced. Ask his mom about his habits. Don’t fall for the live in girlfriend crap. You caught him when he was taken aback at the thought of proposing: he may have been looking for a live in mommy/fuckable therapist maid and not a wife. Assert the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:40 AM
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I took a chance, ladies. I let him choose. If he’s a HVM, he’s going to notice your style and your looks. I only gave him two hints (I am a huge sapphire fan, and I hate yellow gold)... and my engagement ring is absolutely stunning. It’s perfect and it’s so me. I didn’t have a carat size in mind or any sort of set design.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:21 AM
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ohhhhh my god if this wasn’t my LTR ex before my marriage. OOF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:16 AM
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Trust, but verify. Proceed with caution. He very may well have gotten his shit together. I wholeheartedly believe that men can go from LV to HV... but only on their own. If I met my husband when he was 20 I would have dropped him like a hot rock. He is ex military, used to smoke, surrounded himself with out-of-control people, drank heavily and partied. I had to gut check myself several times too in the beginning, but I’m glad I didn’t let his tumultuous past get the better of me. Now he’s a top …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:10 AM
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“I’m really not turned on at the thought of watching my own children masturbate, thank you.” “Wow, definitely not open minded I see” Men are fucking disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:46 AM
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Monitoring internet and email activity isn’t amoral in the context of a business monitoring (loosely) the activity of its employees. They do this for their protection and risk management oftentimes. Vetting a man that you intend to date long term, share a home and other investments with, marry, and have children with is no different. You’re protecting yourself, you’re protecting your future (or current) kids, and you’re protecting your assets. He’s going to do everything in his power to keep his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:27 AM
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Yay. Absolutely yay. Men will not give up information like pornsickness willingly and you might find that he has an entire damned family, complete with wives asking them to pick up groceries on the way home from work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:12 AM
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I applaud you. You are a rockstar. Good job finding this all out now. Better now then after you’re married. NEVER put up with pornsick men, especially those who chase cam girls, insta “models” and premium snap chatters. You’re dooming yourself to a future dead bedroom if you get hitched to one of these brain dead men. It’ll get better. If you’ve got other options, nows the time to let them distract you. Or go out this week and treat yourself. You did yourself a huge solid and saved yourself from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:04 AM
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My husband and I continue our tradition that he started when we were dating. Our very first Valentine’s Day, he purchased a small weekend getaway, got flowers and a card and took me out to a cute little pub in a little coastal town in Northern Michigan. We hiked up and sledded down the sand dunes along Lake Michigan. It’s still one of the best trips ever, I look forward to it every year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:40 PM
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Never date or marry porn addicts and ESPECIALLY those who chase instagram and snapchat pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:01 PM
64

Oh my god this is incredible. ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:00 PM
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Like literally every other problem with men, they won’t use it or fix it until they can’t get sex without it. They won’t unless women stop taking ours. Which I DO NOT recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:59 PM
5

Where the FUCK is the furniture?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:38 PM
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Men would collectively shape up in days if porn was eradicated and women stopped capitulating to and sleeping with men who exhibit bad behavior. Bring back the sex strikes, I say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:11 PM
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It may take a village to raise a child. But it takes a village to raise a husband, too. And modern society has largely abdicated from the job. "Good husband material doesn't occur naturally, but is instead the product (in part) of socialization, development, and social control," Mr. Regnerus writes. "[I]n the domain of sex and relationships men will act as nobly as women collectively demand." Keep on keeping on collectively demanding better, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:03 PM
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Reasons why we need to protect women’s sports 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:41 PM
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This might be better in r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy. But I’ll bite:) I’m in software project management in a company adjacent to the healthcare industry. We manage employee benefits. What’s my bachelors in? Biology and chemistry. How did I get here? I was working in a bookstore in my early twenties and working on my degree. I decided I needed to get research experience for a potential career in research. I cold emailed laboratory managers, professors, and biotech companies. Straight up was mining li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:22 PM
20

They will take advantage of the nurturing and the gifts and time and support if you give it to him before he’s committed to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:47 AM
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lmao okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 03:32 AM
2

Men who are functional adults and men who look like models are rarely the same people. Men are rarely functional adults at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 01:32 AM
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5 years of mediocre connection and discussion will pale in comparison to 8 intense months of asking the tough questions and truly getting to know a man. Far too often we consider quantity of time to be the indicator of a successful relationship over quality: they’re at least equal, and quality I’d say is more important than just “being” with someone for years and years. Former forever girlfriends have no edge in divorce rates over women who tied the knot quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:05 AM
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They know sooner than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:04 PM
0

I used to think this way, then it happened to me. I was with a man 5 years that I didn’t know as well as my husband. He proposed to me after 8 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:59 PM
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Probably the same ones that MGTOW and RP support when they post similar things. Except they actually kill women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 06:44 PM
1

Men and women are different. The same behaviors performed by women are held to much different standards and affect men much differently than the other way around. Are you blue pill? He only “tolerates” being given the opportunity to direct the relationship completely as long as he is uncommitted. For me, he proposed after 8 months. It’s actually on the contrary. Doormat men need their girlfriends washing their clothes, begging him to stop playing games and cooking him real food for a chance at a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 02:29 PM
5

Which is why you don’t lead, initiate, plan, or do ANYTHING for a man before he’s committed. Men swear that they want low maintenance chicks but they’re always the ones who get dumped for the high maintenance ones. There’s a reason for this. Doesn’t ask you out? Don’t date him. Plays too many video games? Dump. Doesn’t clean his apartment? Dump. Only eats fast food and can’t cook? Dump. Negs? Dump. Pouts when you establish a sexual boundary? Dump. Leaning back and letting him lead provides him a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 02:21 PM
5

Combined with Sami’s emphasis on “feminine energy,” it landed me legitimately the best man I have ever met. Every other LTR doesn’t even come close to comparing. He’s thoughtful, kind, loyal, empathetic, takes care of himself, betters himself constantly, reads, lifts, doesn’t watch porn, doesn’t play video games 4 hours a day, excels in his career, loves kids, and has a broad array of interests he reads about and pursues constantly. I’m obsessed. Putting out wife shit before you’re a wife is how…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:58 PM
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Yeah. It’s a lesser cost than wasting years on a man who will leave you the second you get hurt and can’t put out again. Sexual chemistry is important but it’s far less important than a man’s ability to control his penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 04:44 AM
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We really ought to take pictures of these guys side by side with their first messages and put em in a book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:37 AM
19

Required PickMe reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:27 AM
9

Today in “things I didn’t want to know, but now unfortunately know about how awful men can be” oh NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:21 AM
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Sweetie you’re 24. Don’t let it get to 34 or 44 with this dude. You’re YOUNG. Don’t get caught by the sunk cost fallacy. Idk if this was the sign you’re looking for but the sign is in bright neon and it says “DUMP HIM.” I’ve been there too. I’ve cleaned up after dudes who didn’t deserve it for years. It’s a WASTE. Pick yourself: you deserve so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:16 AM
143

And “she loves him and she wants to make it work.” Even after all that. GIRL. 7 YEARS. NO RING. And all you got is a 20 something year old toddler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:05 AM
15

I feel this. Our natures are so at odds. Play the damn game and win it, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:00 AM
12

Do literally all of you have a problem controlling your penis? If I ever needed confirmation that the bulk majority of men see us as fuckholes and not a relationship and a life partner and someone to build a family with, I guess I have PPD to thank. People blame feminism for the downfall of the family but I REALLY think it’s men and their penises that are the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 03:56 AM
10

Men are asking us to clothe them, feed them, pay for them, fuck them, lift them up, care for them, be their therapist, aaaaaaaall without a ring and any sort of commitment. What is expected of men again? The bar is on the floor. “Good boyfriends” nowadays are men who don’t beat us and who don’t cheat. That’s it. Is that too hard for you? You can easily find a pickme who is eager to take care of your every need for nothing, who you can discard when you find a better one. I see it literally all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:32 AM
4

Most men don’t respect “sexually liberated” women. You can tell by how most liberal men treat their girlfriends (fuckable mommy much?), as well as how men view porn stars and prostitutes. Before I shaped up and did Sami’s program, I slept with one of my LTRs on our first date. I was with him for 4 years. Was it a great relationship? Sometimes. But he cheated more than once and he watched porn all the time and I tolerated it because I was trying to be the cool girl. I even entertained polyamory f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:27 AM
5

You might see it as invalid because you haven’t had fuckboys pursuing you since you were 13. It’s not the number of days that matters - it’s the commitment of the man. And we already know that men don’t respect women who sleep with them too soon. So why would I want to marry someone who doesn’t respect me? It’s a hard and fast rule that weeds out the trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:08 AM
24

WOW. Uses her for insurance, cheats, and wants to run with the $. Divorce and I hope she takes half and child support. She’s more than earned it. Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:58 AM
5

So you can’t go three months without sex... but you wouldn’t cheat? Would you divorce your wife if she became ill?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 12:54 AM
5

Perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 12:34 AM
9

You show it in different ways. Sami Wunders program also REALLY emphasizes the use of “feminine energy” and being your most irresistible. Compliments, telling men how good they make you feel, showing gratitude, smiling, etc. Of course this wouldn’t work for women who didn’t show enthusiasm and appreciation for his gesture.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:37 PM
11

The most I ever got up to was 4. It is HARD. I’m sure it’s blown up in the face of many an FDSer. I didn’t lie about going on dates with other men (there’s no discussion of commitment) and many dropped off at that discovery. But, from the very beginning, I had discussions with every man that I was in it for marriage - they all knew this going in, and I slept with none of them. From a scheduling standpoint it was nuts. High stress. And since I was only available by phone, I had phone calls every …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:33 PM
5

I’m not sure what isn’t sexually attractive about a man who treats you super well and cares about himself. My husband lifts every day, is SUPER funny, smart, caring, and he’s so so so wonderful. I’m obsessed. I’ve done and lived these strategies when I was looking for a husband and I have to say, no dead bedrooms here. The woman has all the power in FDS and is encouraged not to continue dating men who aren’t attractive to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:26 PM
7

He seems to think so :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:18 PM
10

Men who can’t control their dicks do not make good husbands and fathers. Yes, that means that extremely high SMP men are more likely to be shit fathers and cheaters - they have a horde of PickMes dropping their pants, and men are generally encouraged and not discouraged to sleep with everything with a pulse. But they are the ones that make single moms. Not the men who FDS selects for. An extremely high SMP man may be able to control his penis and may actually be a good person, but it is unlikely…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:13 PM
8

There is much more to a woman than sex. Men have to know that and appreciate that, and those who only see us as a fuckhole cheat. 3 months weeds the cheaters out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:03 PM
11

And we don’t want men who aren’t serious. Problem solved. If he wants me to be his wife, he has to treat me like a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:59 PM
19

Three months is a very short term investment into a lifetime relationship. If he can’t do 3 he can’t do a pregnancy or a medical event, and will cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:55 PM
12

Yep that’s her. In a lot of ways it’s even more extreme. no sex until a ring rotational date 5-6 men at a time until one proposes no gifts to the man, no gestures like cooking him dinner or serving him no texting beyond a few short messages on the app, phone calls only no planning dates, no initiating dates FDS pushes for all of this save for the texting v phone calls bit on their sidebar. They get a lot of crossover from gender critical and pinkpill: so the main difference is that on a Sami for…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:50 PM
5

Not on reddit. Sami Wunder did. It’s the exact same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:25 PM
19

Why is “men having a spine” associated with being untrustworthy, unfunny cheaters who can’t take care of themselves? You guys tell on yourselves pretty often.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:24 PM
22

lol what is low reward about loyal, trustworthy, kind, funny, respectful, employed, stable men with drive and lots of executive function and the ability to take care of himself? that’s legit who FDS selects for.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:16 PM
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FDS is high risk high reward. Low probability of finding a man, but the trade off is that he’s going to be awesome. RPW will definitely land you a man but it’s a higher probability that he’s going to be shitty and lead to divorce. Every time a woman lowers standards and serves men before she’s married to him, the higher likelihood that she’ll attract men who need mommies and not wives. Best strategy for me is FDS by far, but that’s admittedly because it worked for me. Even if my marriage hadn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:07 PM
20

There was an awesome video posted here not too long ago that had some VERY good advice that was along these lines: Encourage your cousin to start discussing marriage, but don’t include him in the picture. Say you’re walking through the store and you see something you like: “when I get married, wow I’d love to decorate with these!” Talk about marriage to other men in front of your boyfriend. Perhaps his brother, or a friend of his. “You’re so nice, you’re going to make a great husband someday.” P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:50 PM
49

Oof. I hope she’s looking forward to her life of dragging him along for the ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:42 PM
65

oh jesus. ladies - BIRTH CONTROL. better safe than sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:48 AM
19

Prison, secret child, jobless, cheating, and she STILL stuck around for 14 years. What the HELL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:01 PM
4

Can confirm. When I demanded nothing less than high standards (I am definitely “high maintenance”), suddenly my dates got better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:18 PM
10

Probably another good set of work clothes - he likes looking good and I think he’s getting a little bored with some of his options. I got him a nice watch last year. I’m also thinking about loading up his Audible account again - he’s a huge audiobook guy and he always seeks to be running out of new titles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:27 PM
15

I don’t need to worry about a thing :). He’s already planned and booked everything. I just need to worry about a card and a small gift for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:21 PM
8

My ex. 100%. He was married young while in the army and had a child. I was 23 and he was 29 and divorced when we met. I was with him for 4 years and he only talked about proposing to me after I dumped him. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:50 AM
55

I used to unplug the router when my ex boyfriend went to the bathroom because he'd spend like 45 goddamned minutes in there at a time in the morning. He hated using data on his phone, and I needed to get ready for work :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:22 AM
21

Mine. She had an idea of what to look for but she was (and still horribly is) very PickMe. I learned what not to do by watching what happened to her, and experiencing the consequences of some of my past pickme behaviors as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:30 PM
43

I was gonna say: none of that is pickme behavior. Bravo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:29 PM
20

From 2000 feet too (I’ll see myself off, going to hell)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:43 AM
64

It turns out that the key to getting men to feel actual feelings apparently happens to be killing their sports heroes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:41 AM
58

u/morbidmommy11 girl please please PLEASE give your mother power of attorney and stay away from them both. the leading cause of death for pregnant women in the US isn’t childbirth- it’s homicide. they don’t care about your health or your comfort or your safety and they’re preparing for your death, making you take goddamned videos for the child after your death, and packing up all your things. I would honest to god have the cops at the hospital if I were you. FIL should never be alone with you or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:40 AM
25

This was a trip. She’s a legend, and she’s way to good for him. Holy hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:55 AM
101

This is the only way to change men. The singular, only way. Let him fail. Let him feel the full consequence of his behavior. Conveniently forget commitments he has. Let the kids run wild. Let him forget his moms birthday. Let him forget about a car repair. Let him go to work in smelly clothes. Be prepared to let him get fired from his career and if dropping your end of the bargain isn’t enough to kick his ass into gear, be prepared to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:54 AM
3

Plenty would and have cancelled me. My ex couldn’t forgive me for “treating marriage like a business transaction” when I gave my ultimatum and left. I’m more conservative and FDS than ever before, and also the happiest and most in love that I’ve ever been in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:52 AM
2

It works for some but having lived with a man for years as his girlfriend, and also having refused to live with a man ever again until I was married... I learned the hard way why cohabitation before marriage sucks. I learned my lesson, never did it again, and refusing to live with my husband before we were married was ultimately the right move and it worked swimmingly. Cohabitation a one way ticket to forever girlfriendville. I can’t recommend it. I got sucked into being fuckable mommy for too d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:39 AM
1

Watch them describe women who refuse to be plated, and get mad about these exact same women on other posts for having standards 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:27 AM
0

I was on a dating app. For dates. Shocking. When I stopped responding to serial texters, they usually wanted to know what happened. And when I told them, they were none too pleased. Indecisiveness and having to lead men is not a turn on for me and I’m not sorry that you get triggered over my personal choice to weed men I don’t like out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:23 AM
0

I’m was on a dating app. It is pretty fair to assume that when I was using a dating app I wanted -gasp- dates. It’s novel, I know. Mind blowing even. I even put it on my profile that I was interested in dating. When I stopped chasing men and initiating, I got better dates (and eventually a marriage). Is it fair? Probably not. But life isn’t fair and I’m not in the business of chasing wishy washy indecisive shy guys nor am I interested in teaching men how to take opportunities. I deliberately sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:00 AM
0

Yes how dare I expect a man to put a minute of his time into scheduling a date. I am such a child, it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:55 PM
0

Or we can just stop responding and spare us the trouble of men who are all talk and no action. Lack of initiative and indecisiveness is such a turn off. If I have to beg for a man to pick a time, place, and date (this takes 60 seconds at worst), I know I’m going to have to be begging for literally everything else in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:43 PM
2

I expect that a man be interested enough to pick a time, place, and date. Chemistry is better assessed in person. This is bare minimum effort on a man’s part. I also usually let them know that I don’t prefer texting, and then if the date goes well afterwards I let him know that I prefer phone calls. But I am admittedly weird in that regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:36 PM
0

Marriage doesn’t cure bad men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:58 PM
2

This, combined with the expectation for women to lift up, support, change him and ride-and-die for their men no matter what leads to single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 01:01 PM
20

Usually fell into one of two camps: crazy aggressive and pushing for sex, or couldn’t plan a date to save his life. Texting and texting and texting and texting without the guy ever making a move is such a turn off to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:31 AM
16

Girl I love it but holy shit your inbox gives me anxiety 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:00 AM
3

It’s great and it exists. Yes Already found it We do sometimes but we are aware that most men are incapable of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 12:12 AM
36

Just enjoy it and have a great time. Let him treat you, because you deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:50 PM
12

They want pornstar virgins. I’m serious. Most men have such a madonna-whore complex that they are incapable of seeing women as anything other than chaste providers or sluts. Nothing in between. Men expect you to take care of them before marriage now. It’s ridiculous. I spent four years of my life mothering a man child who never even bothered to propose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:40 PM
2

I LOVED Saul. He was probably my favorite character on that whole show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:36 PM
1

Exactly why my husband is going part time instead of full SAH.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 10:18 PM
31

Nope. It’s ALL about the woman. They know. They know right away too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:43 PM
0

For me it was really fucking important. Men who aren’t authentic don’t really seem to have any solid interests or ideas - I found that they seemed to match whatever I was into at the time. It didn’t make for a very exciting relationship at the time. My ex was kind of a chameleon and would pick up friends and interests as he drifted along: extremely passive and he’d behave in ways to be accepted by a certain friend group. It was strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 02:26 AM
9

Alcoholic mother, father killed himself when I was 11. Went full throttle Pickmeisha because I thought it’d get me love. Therapy and fucking up enough times got me better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:17 AM
127

Thirty eight years old and chasing high schoolers. I bet he looks like an ogre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:48 AM
17

Married one ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:19 AM
61

IRL. I’ve met all just by chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:50 AM
22

Pro choice men aren’t good either. MEN aren’t good. Pro life and pro choice men are uniquely awful in different ways. She has no such guarantee that he’ll pay. I know several single mothers at my company, in my personal life, and elsewhere and they are DONE. Most can barely get their exes to pay. Some see no money. Multiple jobs, no sleep, and paycheck to paycheck living. They can’t escape it. Is this the appropriate punishment for a woman who chose to have sex with her shit ass fiancé (who will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:14 PM
26

On the contrary. She was taken advantage of at a young age (a teen) by a grown man. Forcing her to birth this kid, should it be against her will, is the quickest way to end her career, potential, and life. She’ll forever have ties to a man who jokes about assaulting her and her baby. Statistically she is now much more at risk for poverty. I don’t think she should have to pay the ultimate price because of her naivety with a man who was clearly out to use her. Abortion is horrible but so are the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:56 PM
25

None whatsoever. My husband and I are discussing having kids (ah!) and you know what, funny enough, he has never joked about forcing me to have an abortion or building stairs so he can throw me down them. Rather, he says he’s excited to see me in a new wardrobe and pick out colors and toys and furniture for the baby’s room. If I came to him and told him I was pregnant, I think he would probably cry out of happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:46 PM
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Elsewhere in the OP, she mentions they’ve been together for two years. LADIES. THIS IS THE TYPE OF MAN WHO CHASES TEENAGERS IN HIS THIRTIES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:39 PM
41

I think you can obtain it at any age, but more HVM are older BECAUSE there’s more time to figure it and themselves out. That being said, don’t limit yourself to dating older men because oftentimes, the older men going for younger women are extremely low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:29 PM
21

Right. She has a GREAT situation right now to get the absolute most out of a divorce. All she needs to do is lean back, prepare for exit, build independence and force his hand. The longer he provides for her remotely the better her case is for alimony. And I’d totally cheat. At least date. But that’s just me. Dating builds confidence and will help her keep the “need to get him back” vibes at bay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:18 PM
9

I need eye bleach after that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:12 PM
13

I was wondering that too. There has to be. She may as well take advantage. Free rent is nice in this economy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:07 PM
74

Hey I mean, if this dumbass is gonna keep paying all her bills, sis may as well keep that up, go to school, get a job, and start rotational dating on his dime. If I were her I’d keep up the act, but gain financial independence on the side while he’s being a twit. But I’m not the most moral so idk 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:06 PM
2

Most everything listed on that list that she presented regarding who gets left off of the relationship escalator THRIVES and NEEDS pickme behaviors to work in actuality. I experienced polyamory and kink. Never again my friend. FDS is sort of relationship escalation. I would describe it more as meeting a man who sweeps you away and carries you up the stairs versus standing on a escalator, watching a woman get carried up the stairs and desperately wanting your man to show the same initiative. A lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:03 PM
1

“You’re generalizing” And yet you go on to generalize about men. Why ask the question if you know the answer isn’t provable and she can lie so easy? That’s why I seriously do not recommend any woman pursue relationships with men who are hung up on this question. There’s so many ways to find out if a woman is promiscuous or not: asking her questions that sow the seeds of insecurity in you and treating her like a suspect is a sure fire way to get wife material to run. I was asked this twice and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:17 AM
2

LMAO oh my god, I wish this were the truth. Men are broken. I’ve dated a lot more than you: I have stories for days and every petty reason you’d ever need.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:09 AM
1

No, it puts you squarely in “she’s a slut” or “she’s lying about being a slut.” Men who have to ask the question don’t believe the answer. It’s not worth a woman’s time convincing a man to behave like an adult: she should spend her time on men who don’t need validation and convincing because of their insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:06 AM
1

You’re going to treat her like she has a high n count no matter if she has one or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:03 AM
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No, it puts well meaning women into positions where they’re sluts or lying about being sluts, no matter the “slut status”, because a man who would ask this doesn’t have the security to believe anything a woman says. And besides, even if she was the perfect madonna prude he supposedly wanted, he wouldn’t like her because she wouldn’t be into weird pornsick sex. Pornstar virgins 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 01:44 AM
1

I’d get up and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:30 PM
13

Nope. Most men who love sex hate women. It’s super evident even on PPD. Perhaps it should state that to be more specific. They love how we make their penis feel, not the actual person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:23 PM
0

A moment of silence for our fallen sisters. Sucks 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:38 PM
1

omg you are the best troll. are you posting these screenshots somewhere? I need to follow you. You’re brilliant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:04 PM
1

HAHAHAHAHAHA oh my god what. The vagina grows “huge”... have you had sex before??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:00 PM
1

lol there is no way you’re not a troll at this point. well played.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:55 PM
2

LMAO oh honey no. R/badwomensanatomy It only tells you she hasn’t had kids. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325890.php#childbirth
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:53 PM
1

She’s probably lying. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:43 PM
1

Your system sucks. You are putting women in a Madonna-whore dichotomy, and every woman who is potentially a great partner is going to be treated with suspicion by you. No woman is going to put up with you if you need to know how many, if any, cocks she’s touched. Because no matter what she says, if that number is low, you are never going to believe her and if that number is higher than some arbitrary level of comfort for you, you’ll pump and dump. And she knows that. And women deserve better - m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:41 PM
4

Yes. Yes and no. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:37 PM
1

So why do it if women are either liars or hoes? Have you perhaps considered that the reason that you can’t find wife material is that women who are wife material, want men who are secure? I think you’re lying. I don’t think you have a single woman in the long game right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:34 PM
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Men are twofaced and want pornstar virgins. The N is supposed to be low but you’re supposed to put out on the first date. Women can’t win, so we choose to lose in the safest way possible. I LOVE sex, but men who love sex don’t love women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:31 PM
0

Why is a man’s self respect dependent on the number of cocks that have been inside a woman? What’s he gonna do, write it down? Keep a tally? It isn’t like you can get a 100% correct answer. I always insist women dump men who ask this because they don’t have internal loci of control. She’s gonna spend a lot of time building men up and fixing and placating instead of having an adult relationship. Refusing to have sex with men for 3+ months of dating is also an effective strategy for these types as…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:18 PM
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This is why you dump men who ask. Men who need to know this are insecure as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:13 PM
36

The trans widow thread on mumsnet is horrifying too. I think in a support group, one of the women said that 11 out of 20 attendees said their husbands transitioned either during the wife’s pregnancy or very near to postpartum. Incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:55 PM
15

This is next on my list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:51 PM
70

Abandon ship as soon as they toe the gender special party line. Want to gouge your eyes out? Go over to r/mypartneristrans, search “pregnant” or “newborn,” and watch how many of these transcrotes decided to transition when their wives were pregnant or just give birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:48 PM
37

I agree with most everything said here. Befriend her and watch what he does. If he freaks out, he’s got something to hide. Treat this with caution. Make absolutely sure that this isn’t a situation where she’s the one he wants and he’s just waiting for her to give in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:43 PM
2

Because it’s difficult to not run into married men looking to cheat while being female on tinder. Some even say it right on their profiles. I remember a few when I was trying online dating and they’re time-wasters at best, completely gross pigs at worst. I feel the temptation EVERY time after a negative interaction with married men to spill the beans to the wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 12:08 PM
5

It’s very similar to FDS strategies, except she posts more on utilizing feminine or receptive energy. I might have to do an ama or a post on it sometime. There’s a lot that I learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:35 PM
36

You can’t make him do anything. Get rid of that urge to create and do and change everything - when you’re with him, it’s time to have fun, be in the moment and receive. Be your most fun, attractive, alluring, and carefree self. Just enjoy him :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:33 PM
70

Nah, he’s looking for a woman to raise him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:30 PM
37

All you need to do is show up unannounced once to his place. What’s the state of his home? If it’s a neck beard nest complete with piss bottles, you have your answer. Going on a week long vacation with him is also a great test. I would much rather establish his commitment to me and be absolutely sure that he’s wanting marriage (while having to know slightly less about his habits) than possibly risk getting into a forever girlfriend scenario. I didn’t intend to wait this long but the difference i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:27 PM
98

So fucking empowering, am I right? Getting used by an industry built by men, for male entertainment and for men’s financial profit, all the while giving what $ is left after all that to some fucking lowlife male so he can buy more video games and probably whack it off to women who aren’t her. How many ways can one placate men, I wonder? Sex positive feminism is a goddamned curse. NOTHING about porn, about “sex work”, and about shitty ass men who sit around all day and watch porn and buy sex is h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:19 PM
20

If there is no transfer of power, IT’S NOT EMPOWERING. 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:37 PM
23

Sami Wunder is awesome. This works. It’s how I got my ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:00 AM
87

God I couldn’t imagine being with someone like this. For reference my husband (we were dating at the time) drove me an hour and half to my testing center to sit for the GRE, and picked me up later with flowers, balloons, and a card when I walked out after I had finished. I had just about cried. Then he took me to get some chicken wings because I had mentioned how tasty they sounded on the drive up. It is incredible to feel supported when you accomplish a goal. Don’t give jealous men like this th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:20 PM
3

This was AMAZING. I choked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:18 AM
14

I personally didn’t get one. If our assets were more mismatched when we were about to be married I probably would have (and I usually recommend them) but I didn’t see a major advantage in my personal situation. I am also, personally, superstitious about prenups. I’m one of those people who believes that you envision something, you can find a way to make it happen and I found myself visualizing a relationship with the love of my life going sour. Wasn’t a great feeling, and I still to this day can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:51 AM
2

“Be picky: you’re not picking a husband, you’re picking the father of your kids.” Which... the criteria changes dramatically when you think about it that way. In a great way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:34 AM
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My strategy is for the bold. In the first few messages I’d let the guy know I don’t prefer texting, I prefer calls. I’d stop responding around the 5th or 6th text. Men who don’t call don’t get a date. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:27 AM
12

Great addition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:24 AM
3

Wonderful advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:21 AM
20

Especially the money bit. I’m kind of ruthless when it comes to finances and I didn’t tell my husband fully about my net worth until I had a ring. He knew I had money, I never had trouble paying for anything, and he knew that I had very little debt but I was deliberately mysterious about it and left out some pretty key details. And shortly after the engagement, THEN I sat him down with my portfolio, my investments, my whatever, and I told him how I was thinking of arranging everything once we we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:08 AM
8

This is gonna sound really cliche but do some group classes or events at your gym. The one I belong to has trainers and small group classes and there’s plenty of activities, events, etc full of active single dudes. A bunch of them are shit but I have had the pleasure of talking with quite a few nice, active guys there. Leave your headphones out/off and look around near a guy that you’d like to talk to. Make eye contact and smile: and there you go. I weeded out sedentary dudes when I was dating b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:00 AM
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Sexual history Mental illness Physical illness Past abuse from other men Finances (don’t give him hints about your net worth, particularly if you have investments. Be financially stable, and appear stable on the outside)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 12:51 AM
47

This analogy is so apt. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:29 PM
38

That felt like reading the thoughts that I used to have back in pickme land. It’s powerful and painful, but not at all the right mindset to have to move forward as a woman. The men have made their beds. Now they must lie in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:14 PM
8

I did it and it worked really damned well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:27 PM
35

Oh my god what is she DOING! He’s 31 and can’t manage his finances or fucking shower. It’s BEEN time to let him go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:28 PM
9

That’s gonna be a no from me dawg Polyamory people are weeeeeird
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 04:19 AM
93

She suspects him of shit. I don’t think I’ve ever given a care in the world about who talks to my husband because that man is absolutely infatuated with me.... this sort of shit crosses your mind for good reason. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:28 AM
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Yes. Don’t disclose. They can and will use it against you and use it to invalidate anything you say. You’re basically giving them permission to pull the “but it’s your ANXIETY” card every time you ask him to pull his own weight or knock off a shitty behavior. It’s a super easy way for them to guilt trip and manipulate. Until he’s shown a lot of commitment AND if he’s directly asked, don’t show your hand. If it’s not affecting you now, no need to disclose. None of his business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:06 AM
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You CAN have these discussions up front. I did with my husband. I did with multiple men I dated as well - some were looking for the same things but we didn’t pursue a relationship as we didn’t click during the first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:48 AM
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I stopped reading at 35F and 37M BOYFRIEND living together. What is she DOING? He is dragging her down and if she ever wants marriage and a family, it is not happening with this guy and she has nearly run out of time. Unbelievable to be mothering a 37 year old, lifting him up, supporting him for literally nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:59 PM
29

I KNOW LEAVE HIM. HOLY SHIT. Don’t read her comments it gets worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:36 PM
50

Sis he didn’t get you a Christmas gift last year either girl what are you doin get OUT before you’re married. Jeez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:12 PM
73

As a former pickmeisha in my early twenties, YEP. So glad I found my dignity and changed my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:54 PM
61

I’m honestly shocked she has a ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:39 PM
11

This man absolutely beats women. 100%. If he doesn’t do it today, it’s coming. That is some serious mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:00 PM
12

My high value husband has full sleeves. I don’t have a single tattoo. I guess it really depends on the person. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:04 AM
18

PPD was just fellating the other day over why women were suspicious about large age gaps. WOW I WONDER FUCKING WHY. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:57 PM
3

Jeeeeeeezus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:47 PM
5

Spat out my coffee. Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:01 PM
1

You’re welcome. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:41 AM
4

Why is this wrong but 30 year old men sleeping with high schoolers right, then? Fucking kids is wrong, always. You should be against this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:15 AM
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If he’s making you feel like shit, he is not worth your time. Unmatch, move on so that another man can make you feel the way you deserve. If you have to wonder if he’s into you, he isn’t into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:27 AM
5

I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:07 AM
19

Oh wow. Just read the OP on relationship advice - YIKES. Congrats on leaving him. That was a very smart decision: other commenters seemed to have suspicions that he might be gay or bisexual. I think it could be that, or he could be VERY porn addicted. It’s quite possibly both. Regardless, he’s gone. Don’t let him back in. Right now, practice your boundaries. I wouldn’t date for awhile and just “date” yourself. Let yourself heal, work on school, career advancement, and if you need to, seek some p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:04 AM
23

Best of luck. You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:54 AM
1

Thanks boo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:45 AM
3

Yep. Put bacon in with the jalapeños too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:43 AM
9

No I want a functional employable adult? Lol why is this so hard?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:34 AM
1

Why are you pretending your concern is about women when you’re in MGTOW all day lmao that’s cute
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:31 AM
8

Yep. Maturity is attractive. Chasing teenagers is something juveniles do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:26 AM
18

yep
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:24 AM
13

lol but they will someday! naivety is a hell of a drug. also yes I am an old hag, thanks for noticing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:22 AM
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It’s very easy to tell by their behavior and how they talk about sex. This has nothing to do with porn actresses, and that is an entirely different discussion to be had.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:20 AM
6

Physically attractive maybe. Actually attractive and mature and not creepy? None.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:19 AM
2

😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:14 AM
2

I’m failing to see where I told young women what to do with their lives but I don’t know, maybe I can’t read too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 12:08 AM
1

You’re not wrong but I wish you were. Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:47 PM
4

TBH just after seeing this message I hope he keeps her away from you. Very stable, this man is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:38 PM
15

Yes. The Venn diagram of “older men who make adult decisions” and “older men who date high schoolers” is two circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:21 PM
6

And it’s gross. And further proof that many men can’t think without their dicks interfering. 30 year old men should probably be able to go through life without trying to bone inexperienced teenagers and maybe, idk, work on their career or read a book or something but alas.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:18 PM
1

LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:11 PM
15

Are you seriously saying that high schoolers have the same ability to make good decisions as 30 year old men do? Where are they supposed to learn about men like this and what are they supposed to do when they get hit on by creeps when there’s literal forums of men out there debating the morality of fucking barely-adults? We’re taught all this shit like “oh age is just a number” and “give him a chance” and “older guys are more mature” only to find out that they’re just looking to stick their dick…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:47 PM
4

Maybe you should question the motive for fucking inexperienced teenagers first before filling out the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:32 PM
5

What on earth do a 40 year old and a 20 year old have in common that they could build a relationship on? Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:27 PM
20

Because I knew and briefly dated some. Some didn’t drive. Some didn’t have jobs. Some very visibly didn’t shower much. Some worked retail into their 30s. I was 18, not blind. But of course I was stupid and “nice” and decided to give a few of them a “chance.” Heeeeeeell no. They’re creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:23 PM
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100%. Going after seniors in high school is a sign of social maladjustment. That’s why we tell those girls to run.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:22 PM
2

ew
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:15 PM
1

Why DO 30 year old men want to fuck 18 year olds anyway? Can they even give a good reason other than porn? I can’t imagine dating an 18 year old male. I have ZERO things in common. So gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:08 PM
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Is it technically illegal? No. Is it shady ass behavior to date someone with minimal adult experiences and time to figure the damn world out? Fuck yes. Every single 30+ year old man who tried to bang me at 18-19 had a porn addiction, was socially worthless and couldn’t date women his own age. Not a single one had his life together in retrospect. They want to use inexperienced girls who look like amateur teen porn actresses and throw them away when they’re done.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 09:52 PM
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It’s usually within 24 hours of the first. Anything longer, he ain’t interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:46 PM
12

If you have to ask “what are we” he’s not the one, sis. It is never appropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:06 PM
8

My husband mentioned kids and marriage 3 days after our first date. Three. Days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:00 PM
30

It is mind blowing, I agree. It’s even better when it continues into marriage. My husband called me at work yesterday and told me to make sure that I put in PTO for the day before my birthday weekend. In 3 months. Because he just paid for tickets and travel to something that will be a surprise. It’s AMAZING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:48 PM
5

Hitachi. Trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:39 PM
85

Madonna whore dichotomy. Find a man who doesn’t think like a fucking animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:37 PM
6

Met at 27, married at 29.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:17 AM
9

lmao my shitty ex was an accountant, it’s not the best career babes. hubster is an account manager. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:49 AM
4

lmao I buy him a surprise vacation every year for his birthday and sometimes he cooks for me, I cook for him, lots of times we do it together. I love him tons and could never possibly fathom hitting him. He doesn’t hate trump or like him. He finds him fascinating actually, and he likes to read about populist movements (he’s a huge history buff). It’s kind of like we’re two people who love eachother a lot. It’s crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 06:30 AM
5

I have a husband, we fuck a lot, and we are functional adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 06:23 AM
3

Oh wow I could have gone my whole life without knowing this oh nooooooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 06:15 AM
3

People with individual goals and ideas. Women aren’t a monolith. Some will definitely say that it’s best and empowering to ride every dick in town and sell nudes, and others will say that if you’re not serving your husband you’re worthless. Some like myself see both of those fates as shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 06:12 AM
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Oh you mean the ones who cry about saving the unborn while trying desperately to get his mistress to an abortion clinic? Leftist men suck just as bad, probably worse than conservative men but conservative men still have issues in relationships. Hypocrisy is a huge one. The difference between leftist and conservative men in dating is pretty much the same as their views on property: the left wants women to be sexually available to all comers, and the right wants personal, fuckable housemaids. Both…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 05:54 AM
8

Traditional relationships don’t typically involve cheating on three wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 05:38 AM
7

He gets a long life, good health, a steady career, a devoted partner and teammate, financial health and stability, a family, kids if he wants them, a partner to travel and see the world with, etc etc. Support, compassion, a partner in crime, and tons of love. I am an FDSer for life, and I am also completely star struck and absolutely smitten by my husband. Pretty much obsessed. I don’t know how most men in marriages that started by FDS like tactics are treated, but mine suffers through life with…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 04:57 AM
2

Yep. I don’t want to live in a world pre second wave feminism for a number of reasons but dating.. they actually had that one right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 01:51 AM
7

The combination of the sexual revolution and the mass influx of women into the workforce (and men not taking up domestic skills to counterbalance this) made this strategy taboo. Not living together, not sleeping together, no hookup culture, men paying for dates, and not “going steady” was the norm all the way up until the 60s in the US. Many places outside of the west to this day, dating styles similar to FDS is still very much the norm. The incentives for men to excel and succeed and be functio…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 01:41 AM
21

Two worst shitty male drivers: Any type of car, but rides your bumper and weaves in and out of traffic blindly while texting Old ratty truck, driving 10 mph under the speed limit in the left lane, fiddling with a goddamned cigarette during rush hour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 12:34 AM
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I personally highly recommend living on your own or with female roommates until BOTH of these things happen: you have a ring there’s a date for your wedding This is to prevent becoming the forever girlfriend. Living with a man provides ample opportunity to start taking care of him like a wife would: don’t let him get this treatment without commitment to you. It is hard to extricate yourself out of a cohabitation situation gone sour with a dead end boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 12:29 AM
7

Dated a guy for 4 years, realized I was his mommy and fuckable house maid, realized he had no potential and I kept forgiving him, so I found Sami Wunder (it’s the same thing as FDS, just packaged more nicely). Dumped him, rotational dated half my town, never paid for shit, stopped doling out favors, stopped being nice for no reason, and ended up married to the man of my dreams. Single to engaged in less than 2 years, with no “girlfriend phase.” Sans memes and lots of man hating, what they’re say…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 12:19 AM
14

Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:35 PM
31

Leave him in 2019.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:11 PM
122

100%. Broken men use pickmeishas’ free labor to get better. They don’t love them: as soon as he’s gotten what he wanted, he has no use for her anymore, even if she invested 15 years of her life into him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:27 PM
20

I think we might need to put something like this on the sidebar: if you have to say no more than once, leave. Like physically get up, end the date, go home, and cut him off. I understand that it sounds kind of victim blamey but we need to start doing this for our own safety. Expecting men to behave like humans is too much for them: treat them like animals who have no impulse control at this point until proven otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:13 PM
8

I gotta say, man at least he’s honest about what he wants lol. I laughed the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:10 AM
4

No, it’s right to be cautious here. They haven’t gotten that trust just yet. I do love me a man who can cook though: this would be my weakness in dating if I were still single. All my exes were imbeciles in the kitchen before the hubster and he has officially ruined me for all other men. He cooks better food than my mother. Once we established trust and once we started being comfortable in eachothers apartments, nearly all of our dates turned into “hey I read about this neat thing on NYT cooking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:58 AM
2

Could be either. My husband brought me food he made at work before ever cooking for me in private. We had talked about making orzo with veggies and feta cheese and it appeared on my desk a few days later. The first time he cooked for me was in my own home too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:43 AM
3

YEP. My husband was not on social media or dating apps when I met him. It was straight up luck that I met him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:54 PM
6

I’m so sorry :(. This has to hurt. Find someone who loves you like you deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:41 PM
11

I did this before with my ex just before I met my now-husband. I gave no ultimatum, I just left. I suggest you do the same. I said something like the following: A simple “it’s clear to me that your future doesn’t include me, and I am choosing to not waste my time anymore.” He might say ok and let you go, he might start backpedaling like crazy, or he might do what my ex did and say “ok bye” but lose his mind two weeks later and start sending you flowers and apology emails. Remain strong through i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:35 PM
10

Cut your losses. An “I don’t know” after over a year of dating is a “no.” Men KNOW. They know who they’re going to marry within days, sometimes hours of meeting her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:20 PM
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“All he thought about is getting a job and that’s where the planning ended.” In man speak, this means that he’s thought about his future and she wasn’t in it. Run sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:56 AM
9

oof. this is painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:45 AM
3

Until men start behaving like men and not animals and we can truly justify treating them as if they had good intentions, this is the safest and most successful option for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:46 PM
1

You make a six figure salary and yet you can’t justify a 30$ meal on a woman who is risking assault to meet you? Great husband material 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:44 PM
1

If men had this concern I wouldn’t have gotten raped, or had dick pics sent to me, or the hundreds of “wyd” messages sent to me, or a nude from when I was 20 passed around... the list goes on. If they care about that, they have no compassion for what the fuck we go through to date them. But I’d like to err on the side of “men might actually be human” for once and maybe they just don’t care about risks the same way we do. I guess even doctors will expose themselves to shitty men for a McChicken. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:24 PM
4

You’re selecting for a doormat. Someone who you can manipulate and treat poorly with no consequence. Do you also expect her to expose herself to potential STDs, rape, pregnancy, or sexual abuse for.... nothing? The only kind of woman who will salivate over cheapskates are women with no self esteem. She’ll do it for other men who aren’t you, too. Which I mean, is great if you can keep that self esteem low: but sometimes they find that self esteem mid relationship and then they come for their alim…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:03 PM
9

All of the poor decisions and failures in the beginning of most FDSers dating life started when they put out for fuckers who won't pay for a 30$ meal. Way to simultaneously encourage and discourage the same exact thing. FDS is about having standards, achieving financial independence, and, you guessed it, finding men who value that. I followed most modern dating advice: give him chance, be nice, be sweet, pay for half, whatever, and it ended me up with total fucking wastes of humanity. Less than …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:36 PM
9

Women have a higher risk on dates than men. Businesses don't go in 50/50 when one party assumes all the risk - the party with the least amount of risk puts in the most amount of $. This isn't hard. I'm not gonna put out for dude or possibly get raped or killed over a McChicken. It also is the single most effective way to weed out plate spinners. The more suspicious he is, the farther up the booze shelf I order so it ensures that he never takes me out again.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:16 PM
3

Neither have I. Everything is made up and the numbers don’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:56 PM
239

This is 100% correct. Porn stars bleach with hydroquinone down there to achieve that look. They get expensive laser treatments too to lighten the skin. If a guy complains, he’s pornsick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:54 PM
0

Go visit r/vindicta
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:25 AM
10

Not a problem. All the best to you. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:23 AM
57

Girl, you lost me at the part where he took pictures of nudes and his cock getting sucked on the old phone that he had. What the fuck??? That would have been the end for me. Then you go on to describe some pretty asinine behavior (like shoving your face on his dick.. wtfffffff) beyond his weird obsession with pussy he got like 10 years ago. You’re not overreacting and yes, you’re wasting time. Some of this behavior isn’t just LV... it’s downright abusive. I recommend leaving. Works gonna be awkw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:12 AM
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Hopefully not too much time on tinder leading to living together in 2 months to having his kids and then wondering where your 20s and 30s went shacked up with a guy who’s chasing Instagram thots and cheating on you with his coworker. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:04 AM
12

I could measure myself, go to the store, and use those measurements to get clothes that fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 03:29 AM
40

Here’s what I did when I fucked up when I was single: I got my best friend to come to my house. THAT friend: the one who calls you out on your bullshit. I confessed all, and I told her all of the stupid things I did. And then we both learned from it. We picked apart where it went wrong and where I should have known to let it go. We learned where not to go wrong next time. And then we drank and watched shitty Netflix shows. I’d usually be fine by the next day and ready for more dates. You’re gonn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:30 AM
9

Red. Too much nonexistent hope and “potential” for men in blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 05:32 PM
15

Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:29 PM
3

I think we’re encouraged to act and behave a certain way: we’re told that being kind, altruistic, nurturing, etc etc will guarantee that you will be treated well and that you’ll have a happy life. You’re supposed to be forgiving. You’re supposed to be sweet and supportive. I’ve found that it’s the exact opposite. Being a bitch means you’ll be happy. You kind of have to be a bitch to get any sort of respect. Kindness and forgiveness gets taken advantage of. Ice queens don’t. You’ll never become e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 05:27 PM
83

Messages You Can Smell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:27 PM
22

“Doesn’t text you for days” This is not the behavior of a man who likes you. He’s holding out for someone who he thinks is better. Not worth your time. Don’t pander to this fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:26 PM
135

Oof. “Breadcrumbing my workouts” you came at me hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:35 AM
47

“Fair and progressive” in today’s day and age means “for men’s benefit”. Don’t fall for the liberal feminism siren song, my friend. Same chains, different master.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:27 PM
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Yep. Time to start reaching out. Building that support network and building financial independence is critical. Your network can help you get there. You’re not married: he can’t do shit with a checking account in your name and they’re free usually to open. Any cash you happen to have, sock it away. It’s also a candidates market right now for jobs: people are HURTING for skilled labor in the US, especially in areas like the Midwest US. Now would be a wonderful time to look into a certification or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:14 PM
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It’s never too late. Start by taking inventory. What do you have? What opportunities can you see? Is there a trusted family member you can move in with, borrow money from temporarily, etc to get you out in the immediate future? Start shaking branches: who can you ask for help, who will show up on moving day, who can give you that extra push in the HR department to get that nice job with benefits, who can give you the coaching you need to get back to school? Literally make a list of all of the he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:59 PM
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Because the risk for women is different than men. Would any business venture agree in a 50/50 investment when one party assumes all the risk? Absolutely the fuck they would not. Women’s risk in dating is pregnancy, STDs, rape, abuse, and death. Men do not assume, or have a greatly reduced chance of assuming those risks. In order for an equal power distribution and equal risk, he needs to have some skin in the game: $$$ is the single easiest way to do this. Not going Dutch also discourages plate …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:22 PM
1

Going Dutch is bad because the risk involved in dating is MUCH higher for the woman. It’s her body, her reputation, her health, and in extreme circumstances her life on the line. Men are not at same risk of pregnancy, rape, and death and they won’t be slapped with a tarnished reputation should they sleep with the woman. In the business world, no two intelligent business would EVER agree to a 50/50 investment if one party assumes all risk and the other party does not. Men should have to have some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:16 PM
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It is so hard to take the plunge but it was so worth it in the end. My entire life changed. It took me a full year to “set the stage” for my transformation: breaking up, moving out, quitting my job, getting a new one, going to school, etc etc and a full year after that to really start reaping the benefits. I love my new Iife. Wouldn’t trade it for the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:42 PM
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YEP. I started dating my husband at the end of January a few years ago. He had purchased a ring in MAY. He proposed in August that same year. They won’t string you along if they know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:33 PM
18

Reasons why I left liberal feminism number billion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:19 PM
24

QUEEN. I did the same. Told him that I’m not in the mood to wait around for him to decide what he wants. Single to engaged in 8 months 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:10 PM
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100%. “I don’t know” means you don’t matter. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 03:08 PM
32

I hate to be this person but if we had a more socialist style of government or a command economy run by men, you know they’d just subsidize and encourage sex work too. Sex work is a failure of men: who else could be so depraved that they buy and sell other women for men’s profit? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 04:00 AM
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Ah. Well that’s a good attitude to have then. :) Use the dates as practice then (unless you have more exciting options/dates). Dating is a skill. Have some fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:44 PM
25

How do you stop freaking out? Go on a date with a different man. I’m serious. Take this guy up on his offers, have fun, but distract yourself with a few others so you don’t get attached.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:37 PM
54

I lost two of my best friends this past year (over things unrelated to dating and men). I found that my attitude towards myself and towards my future when I went from Pickmeisha to Ice Queen cause a TON of people to deflect away. I no longer doled out emotional support, advice, and comfort for free and I no longer shut my mouth and smiled when I disagreed. I had the strength to shut down a lot of friendships that weren’t working for me. I spent a lot more time reading and socializing with just a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:33 PM
56

A ring (and a date) is the only thing that means anything, ladies. If he’s bringing you home to the parents for the third Christmas in a row and there’s no ring, change up the scrotation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:25 PM
46

💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:31 PM
158

A quick search on the term “uggos” in FDS yielded no results. Fake 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:27 PM
8

Hence why I tend to find myself more attracted to conservative men. I’ve always been treated better on dates and in relationships with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:40 PM
11

True! Scum is everywhere. But they’re far less likely to think that women are their sex toys for them and their mates (left), or just their personal sex toy (right). Centrist positions nowadays require men to actually think and they’re less likely to gravitate to pro sex work pickmeisha or RPW or religious pickmeisha. The only HVM I’ve ever come across also were the only men who weren’t afraid to disagree with the status quo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:26 PM
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“Sex positivity” has done nothing for women and has done everything for men. Not to get all political but this is the danger of dating leftist men. This attitude is pervasive. Ladies, you’re so much better off with intellectual centrist types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:16 PM
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I had to hit rock bottom, and I think it is the only way for many women since PickMeisha is SO embedded in most cultures. I’ve written about this elsewhere on FDS but I hit rock bottom on a fucking flight. LaGuardia to DTW to be specific: I was a weeping mess. Straight up hysterical sobs at the gate. It was embarrassing. I had the absolute worst business trip of my life (my CEO was a piece of shit and took advantage of me) and I realized on the flight home from NYC, that I didn’t even want to go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:08 PM
6

Holy shit. You are AMAZING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:44 PM
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👏 👏 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:40 PM
4

No kidding! I’m so happy. I would have avoided so much pain if I got my shit together sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:39 PM
3

I am so impressed that you found this at 19. It took me until I was 27 to get the memo. ❤️🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:38 PM
59

Queen move: next time you go in there, call it out. “So do I Venmo this one to you later as well?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:35 PM
56

Forgetting “wyd”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:34 AM
2

Hi! Aww ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:43 PM
6

!! I loved this. How wonderful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 12:44 PM
2

This is excellent advice. Where is the tradition to stay up until 6?? Wow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 12:36 PM
2

This is wonderful :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 12:34 PM
4

Married at 29, I am in my early 30s. 4ish years. We met when I was 27.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:25 AM
15

Right?! I was nearly having a breakdown and then it finally occurred to me that i didn’t have to do it. Backyard party sounds awesome :) I’m not against huge weddings by any means and hey, if your dream is to have 500 people and Swarovski chandeliers by all means, you go girl, but that ain’t it for me. I just wanted my man and my sanity and a great vacation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:22 AM
4

Thank you! It was worth it. Highly recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:18 AM
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Every single woman, without exception, who I have ever met who has been married that long has this quality about her. My aunt and my grandmother were the same way: they never tolerated crap from anyone and they both married HVM. I had first brushed off this style of dating, commitment, and behavior as something that old religious people did that didn’t work. I tried it my way for awhile and all it brought me was LVM/parasites who made me miserable. It didn’t even take me two years after finding …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:16 AM
15

So proud of you. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:18 AM
14

If I could platinum this comment I would. Perfect advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:05 PM
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Sweetie- it does not matter how long you have been with someone. That is what is called the “sunk cost fallacy.” Previously investing 10 years into someone doesn’t justify continuing to invest 5, 10, 15 years into someone who brings you no value. The costs don’t justify the investment - you are NOT A BAD PERSON if you “give up” when he has clearly given up on you. My advice is this: please think about what your ideal life is. Write it down. Get as specific as you want. Who are you with? What is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:32 PM
5

Good. We are better off alone without men who get off to rape on tape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:02 PM
12

Thots, dick pics and porn, respectively. There is almost no meaningful use of either to HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:58 PM
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-Excessive video games - I personally appreciate some games and I see the point. Many are like art. The problem is that many men depend on them for escapism. Porn use Doesn’t read or consume media for learning’s sake Unemployed Underemployed Doesn’t travel Liberal “feminist” - pro prostitution, pro trans, pro BDSM ,pro porn, pro women’s subjugation basically Can’t cook Can’t do laundry Doesn’t clean Doesn’t work out Doesn’t like sports (hockey is HUGE to me, and I need a man who appreciates it) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:46 PM
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I don’t know where you are, but propositioning minors in my state is illegal. Want to ruin a life? 🤔😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:24 PM
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Right??? That was the first think I said. Why’s he planning all these dates for three weeks if he hates her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:22 PM
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If he was HVM and interested, you wouldn’t have to ask yourself this question. If it’s not a “hell yes, wow he must really like me,” it’s probably a no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:18 PM
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Fuck yes girl, I wish I had your wisdom at your age. If I were to tell my 21 year old self something, it would be to stop worrying about what men thought. Use this time to focus on yourself and your success: it sounds like you’re already well on your way. Go to school, work hard, cultivate interests. Read about what interests you. Make friends who inspire you. And whatever you do, don’t let a fucking man derail any of this. And: more practically, lift weights, I’m srs. It’ll make you feel like a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:41 PM
7

I yelled. Omg 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 10:02 PM
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Ohhhhh my god no. 2 I’m dead
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 10:01 PM
6

Put him in the rotation and see how well he handles knowing that other men are giving you flowers and dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 08:05 PM
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It wasn’t this extravagant or expensive by any means, but my ex was “purchased” by a pickmeisha like this merely a week after I dumped him. She bought him furniture, food, clothes, let him live rent free, took him on vacations, etc. Men don’t respect PickMeisha, even when she has money: when I was rotational dating shortly after my breakup, he dumped her, gave back all the gifts, and completely left her just for the chance to be with me again (I dumped him because he didn’t put a ring on it) I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 07:47 PM
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Two steps: Your self worth has to be established completely outside of him. He cannot devalue your worth as a person if you are secure outside of your relationship with him. So what if he cheats? Then you dump him spectacularly and move on. Establish yourself, your income, your career and your life without reliance on him. Even in marriage, always have a plan B. This way, no matter what he does, you and your dignity will both be okay. Having both of these solidly in place will keep your insecuri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 07:35 PM
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Taco Bell is for 2am munchies with your best friends, NOT for dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:59 PM
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I think there is a way to speak in order to get a response from men- but you have to specifically highlight how what he’s doing is making you feel like shit. Then you pair it with an action: reducing or increasing your presence and affection. I’ve found that switching from speaking directly (“I hate it when you do this”, “I don’t like it when you do this,” “why haven’t you done this already?”) to speaking in ways which highlight how his actions affect me (“When you do this, you make me feel horr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:32 PM
16

Incredible post OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:05 PM
93

Wash your towels more than once a year. Sometimes they smell like wet mildewey towel after every shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 11:55 AM
5

You working your boring ass 9-5 pales in comparison to getting sold to a 65 year old HIV+ man at a bus stop in Cleveland at gunpoint when you’re 14 years old and you fucking know it. Men buy and sell women to other men for profit. They have for thousands of years, and it’s shaped nearly every culture on earth. This is different than pressing a few keys or hitting a few nails and then going home for a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 04:00 AM
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Wow are you saying that you have to be attracted to the people that pay you for sex? I’m sure prostitutes don’t want to take it up the ass either but, yet, here we are. If it’s such a great career move to take it up the ass from people you loathe, why the fuck aren’t you spreading them and collecting those bills, friend? Men really be like this
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:57 AM
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Your reality must be different from the rest of ours. Either that, or you’re deliberately feigning utter stupidity to keep missing the point. I know why you aren’t encouraging chad to sell himself: it’s because you fucks can’t stand the thought of men using you like you use us.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:29 AM
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Financial coercion isn’t consent https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a36162/male-prostitute-ama-reddit/ 1000 a week, and he even gets female clients. Why aren’t more men doing this. I mean, come on, you get PAID to have SEX. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:24 AM
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Nah sis If it isn’t a hell yes, it’s a no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 03:20 AM
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Oh my god he really went there. I can’t How many women do you think are attracted to the men who buy them for sex 😂😭
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:16 AM
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Probably the same reason why men pay for for porn. It’s astonishing to me watching grown ass men completely miss the point. Women in prostitution and porn is a saturated market too, my friend, but we only seem to be encouraging women to go into “sex work”. I wonder why 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:12 AM
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Why don’t more women do this?? I dOnT uNdErStANd
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 02:02 AM
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There is a perfect business opportunity out there for you. All you need is some good Vaseline, some condoms and some self marketing skills and you too can become a man’s play toy. He might even pay for your things! Why don’t more men do this? Again: gay sex has a demand. There is an entire industry revolving around men who buy other sex for men- why not do this? 🤷‍♀️😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 02:00 AM
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It’s amazing how quickly they get it when we suggest that they lube up and spread em for some rich gay man. Men really be like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:54 AM
12

You don’t need to get hard. All you need is lube too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:48 AM
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Lots of men are willing to pay to have sex with men, and see them jerk off on camera. It’s an entire industry. Again: why don’t men do it? There’s a demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:47 AM
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You have yet to explain why it’s stupid. If it’s so great and lucrative, why aren’t men vying at the opportunity to sell themselves to rich gay men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:11 AM
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False. So many rich gay and bisexual men. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:10 AM
10

Please explain to me why it’s so stupid. Curiosity is killing me. Why shouldn’t men become prostitutes?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:07 AM
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Why, is it below you or something? Why aren’t we encouraging young men to take it in the ass for cash? It’s lucrative!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 10:18 PM
35

Why don’t men do it, if it’s such a great fucking profession.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 10:01 PM
7

I wonder if this asshole posted his girlfriends picture without her consent. If so, $$$ for non consensual porn sis, win that lawsuit and cash that money girl. Anyway, I think it’s just exacerbating an already difficult situation. Dating was messed up to begin with, this has only made the interactions more frequent, faster, and worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:44 PM
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One of the sexiest things my husband ever did while we were dating was ask me if I was free on a certain date or time, and then say “okay, great, I’m picking you up at x time and I’m treating you to something special.” I would think about that date ALL WEEK. Sometimes it was drinks, tapas, and a show, sometimes it was a sushi place I mentioned offhand, sometimes it was a sporting event. One time it was an entire weekend trip! He still does this too. I absolutely love it 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:36 PM
1

100% to the curb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 02:07 PM
1

Why should I give it up for everyone who asks?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:02 PM
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They will wait for the right woman, they will pay for everything for the right woman. Desperation doesn’t attract HVWs and she will pass them over, and desperation means weakness. I thought it was a load of shit too until it happened to me, and several others over on FDS. Men absolutely do behave a certain way and you can position yourself and behave in ways which attracts a certain type of man. I did it myself: he is the single most amazing man I’ve ever known, and I am so thankful that I wisen…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:12 PM
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I can see why it didn’t work out if you valued yourself purely on sex. Women lose attraction to men like that, and are much more attracted to men who bring other things to the table. Did she feel like she had to mother you? Regardless: thanks for the well wishes, I’ll try to remember them between all the times my husband surprises me with flowers and thoughtful gifts and all this marital sex I’m supposedly not having. FDS works. I followed something similar years ago to a tee and it ended with m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:57 PM
3

I am married. Good luck on “dating over thirty”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:46 PM
2

Men who are valued for sex have no use or value beyond their cocks. They’re often fragile and depend on sexual validation from women - once thats gone, he is of little use. As soon as looks fade and the hair starts falling out, all of the pickmes who threw themselves at him are now stuck with kids and absent fathers. There is nothing more worthless than an absent father with a venereal disease or three. The way you separate out fuckboys is you order the filet mignon. Make plate spinning EXPENSIV…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:44 PM
3

OP needs some fucking therapy if not a troll. Gods....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 09:56 PM
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HVM don’t sleep around like whores and doesn’t live a life enslaved to his dick. You’re thinking of HSV men. There is nothing high value about a fuckboy with game- every college campus is crawling with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:41 PM
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Welcome to your new life, sis. You just took the hard first step. Now: take care of yourself, heal, make that $, treat your body and your mind well and prepare for that day when HVM comes. You got this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 06:21 PM
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This guy is also exhibiting some HV behavior as well. I think he’s shy and might give the benefit of the doubt too much, but if he were LV he’d see a perfect opportunity to pump and dump. When HV men come into contact with PickMeisha, this is what they think of her, ladies. Don’t be her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:56 PM
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She’s initiating contact, she’s hitting on him, and she’s talking about her sexual history on social media. A Pickmeisha if I’ve ever seen one. He doesn’t owe her contact if he’s not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:45 PM
3

Good men don’t behave like that, lmao don’t kid yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:35 PM
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I don’t know how to explain to men that when women are serious about marriage, they can and will date and marry below their income and education level. I married my husband before he received his bachelors (I was close to finished with my MBA) and I made a good 20k more than he did at the time. BUT: he showed significant investment in me regardless of his financial situation. He made enough to live comfortably and had tons of ambition. What higher value women won’t do is date below their standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:24 PM
16

He stops trying and goes and fucks someone else and gives her herpes instead. Men just looking to get their dicks wet won’t wait 3 months. That’s the point. Men with better priorities can and will be wait, and will be way less likely to have chlamydia.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:05 PM
6

This is absolutely the reason why I stress rotational dating to my FDSers - straight from the horses mouth, he wants women to believe that he’s her only hope. The only way to deal with men like this is to rack that bill up and keep dating. No where here did he say he was investing a significant commitment of time: texting is not time. “Busy lives” is keyword for “busy fucking women who aren’t you.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:56 PM
8

hoooooo my god xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 11:50 PM
7

I love this quote. So sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 11:48 PM
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Then FDS does not apply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:21 PM
5

I see that they tend to believe the outcome events are outside of their control vs inside of it and that their individual selves have no outcome on how their lives will play out. In your OP, every outcome of your life was done to you (rejection by women). You blamed your environment for how you ended up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 11:01 PM
3

Rejection, and also an external locus of control.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:54 PM
44

16 years? No ring? That should have been the first, second, third, and fourth red flag. Then, this shit on top of it? Imagine wasting the entirety of your twenties on exclusivity this guy. What the fuck. Sunk cost fallacy: shit that you’ve invested in for sixteen years is still shit. Dump himmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:31 PM
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Yes, it’s a relationship with multiple partners and tons of communication, none of which that are inherently valuable to women. Even closed poly relationships spread the woman’s bargaining power quite thin. Compromises and giving up power is not what FDS is about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:16 PM
13

All dating eachother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:39 PM
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Whilst frantically wiping his computer of child porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 05:01 AM
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Thankfully most men don't stop seeing women as human until the age of 16 or so: she's still young enough. Hope the shitstain goes to jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:57 AM
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Holy fuck. No words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:49 AM
1

Yikes. Pursuing relationships at work is dangerous for that exact reason. And it most certainly isn't me: the other guy who pursued me at work ended up marrying me. We both still work for the same company.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:43 AM
1

I would say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:27 AM
3

Yep! There was a programmer at my work who is very talented, kind, conscientious, and just a genuinely nice guy. Everyone commented on how nice he was. Would I date him? Nope. He checked all my other boxes for sure, but he, not once, made a move or indicated any interest in me. I heard through the grapevine that he was interested and his awkward interactions with me certainly hinted that he was attracted to me: I was flattered enough, but relationships in which I had to pursue the man never ende…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:24 AM
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Hey, I figured that my past GIANT mistakes could be used for the betterment of FDS. I'm just glad that I wisened up in time before kids were involved. I wouldn't trade my new life for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:16 AM
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FDS is not just a strategy, but a mindset. The first step is to realize your value and visualize what you deserve: where do you see yourself in life in 5 years? 10 years? Actually write it down. Then, identify one thing today that you can do to get there. Take a break from men for a bit and pick up a new interest or hobby. Try new things. Travel somewhere where you haven't been before. Take care of your body like the temple it is. Establish and practice healthy boundaries, enforce these in other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 03:34 AM
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Never saw one myself. I saw plenty of "V"s with two men and a woman, but the men never dated. As far as its intersections go with the LGBTBBQ community, gay men and lesbians were few and far between. I can think of one or two gay men and precisely zero lesbians. There were loads of transgender people, who mostly fell into the MtF "lesbian" (ie. attracted to females) category or nonbinary/pansexual/bisexual women (ie. almost always attracted to males). It is definitely not in a woman's best inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 03:24 AM
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Oof. Yep. Nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:38 AM
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Thanks! Be very skeptical my friend ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:00 AM
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This is exactly it. The other type of polyamorous male is the spineless unambiguous shy guy type who I suspect was dragged into it by a pickmeisha. He’s the type that’s totally fine sharing his girlfriend with 3 other dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 01:59 AM
35

“No drama”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 01:57 AM
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.... I just realized that my husband is the only man I’ve ever dated who has a sister. Huh! Maybe there’s something to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 09:23 PM
11

Let him treat you and let him prove that he’s worth your time. Enjoy yourself :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:54 PM
62

I feel personally attacked. Hooooooo my GOD. 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:37 PM
44

I need to print this and put it up on a few of my friends mirrors. DAMN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:30 PM
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I did choose to date them, yes. I dated many average men. Why does correctly asserting that most men use porn, and that most men have unrealistic sex expectations somehow indicate that I’m not responsible for choosing to date subpar men? You make no sense. When I wisened up, applied FDS, and married a very unusual, very high quality man in my late twenties, I fully accepted my poor choices and made better ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 07:32 PM
3

So most men don’t use porn? I thought it was “pervasive” was it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 06:47 PM
1

I did. Better men are very very very few and far between
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 06:30 PM
25

I found my female friends through organized, recreational team sports. Many of the women in my hockey league are over 40. If you’re in remotely decent sized city, you’ll find something. Women’s book clubs or craft clubs are good too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:10 PM
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So, so so refreshing. Finding a man like this after so many LVM for so long was a breath of fresh air. I was finally being listened to and someone actually paid attention to my interests. Husband knows that I am super into ice hockey and have been for my entire life. He planned and executed a trip to go visit the hall of fame in Toronto: I was flabbergasted. He also knows I’m into antiquing and finding strange old things - every time we travel anywhere he looks up where the best antique stores a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:07 PM
3

Coming from someone who has slept with probably a lot more men than you have, most men do not understand that it is not an act.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 06:03 PM
2

And this is why we say that men are sick. Steady access and exposure to porn since childhood absolutely has something to do with how depraved and sick men are today. I didn’t know how bad it was until I slept with someone who didn’t have a porn addiction: it feels so amazing to not be choked or treated like a blow up doll for once. I can’t believe that we’re at a point where kids are exposed to hardcore porn at age 11, and it’s normal.. And we wonder why their attitudes towards women are so bad …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 05:56 PM
6

Former forever girlfriend here - except I made the majority of the money and handled the bulk of the domestic workload. If she wants marriage, yes it is a problem. I had gotten in a relationship with ex-forever boyfriend in my early twenties and the sunk cost fallacy, “oh maybe he’ll change,” “maybe we’ll marry someday” and wishful thinking kept me locked in. He was a nice guy, loyal, sort of funny and responsible. Every time we talked about marriage he was always “I think maybe someday?” even i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 02:19 PM
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I’m surprised no one has seemed to comment on this, but she was easily able to delineate who was paying what bill: why the fuck weren’t they paying bills as a family? I’m all for providing enough to sustain myself but, seriously, this “he pays for this “ and “she pays for this” has to fucking stop when you’re married. You have a family. You are a unit. Why are their finances separate?? This is so strange to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:16 AM
8

Oh gods how embarrassing! My ex LTR was picky (but not this bad). Wouldn’t touch an onion. Ever. It’s like... the vegetable that makes food taste good. None of my recipes with onions (which was damned near 70% of them) could withstand the change. He also wouldn’t touch most vegetables.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:39 PM
0

I’m 5’11” and my husband is 5’8” and I weigh slightly more than him 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:30 PM
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Keep up the elusiveness, keep up the chase. I am married and I STILL stick to the strategies despite being completely faithful and devoted to my husband. I refused to move in with my husband until he had a ring and a date. I still expect the same effort, dates, kindness, empathy, etc that I expected before we were married (only now I cook for him, shop for him, have sex all the time, etc... NEVER do wife stuff until you’re a wife). Now that he has me... he has to work to keep me. Continue to wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:20 PM
15

And this is why we don’t trust men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 06:37 PM
7

When I was dating I set the tone early. I expected most of our communication and getting to know one another would be done in person or by phone. I’d let them know this within the first few text exchanges. Easy way to weed out low effort men very early :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:16 AM
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They do, and yes, self awareness is huge. Empathy too. You just kind of have to look :) I think the biggest indicator for me was observing how he treated others. Universally, he was kind to women, to kids, to animals, to literally everyone at my office, and he respected service workers, always said “thank you”, always showed gratitude, and even though I later found out that his mother was actually pretty awful to him, he NEVER spoke ill of her and still won’t to this day. He maintains healthy bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:10 AM
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Depends on how his relationships were ending and who the women were. If he was acting like a child and wanting her to be his mommy (say, he was a trash heap disorganized man before he moved in with a woman who cared for him), I’d let him know that it’s time for his balls to drop and man up. If he was abusive, I’d cut the relationship. If she was abusive, I would suggest therapy. Sometimes men are attracted to manic pixie dream girls and if he was one of them, I would tell him to get his ass in f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 02:55 AM
11

Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 02:42 AM
22

Yes, they exist. I have met very few. I managed to marry one. He was completely off of social media and online dating, never watched porn, worked out all the time listening to podcasts, hunted and fished, and was generally very quiet around most people. He was by no means extroverted, and he was very subtle. But when he wanted something, he fucking went for it: he was very smart, driven, ambitious, and humble. I’ve never met anyone remotely like him in my life. I met him IRL: my department was b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 02:32 AM
1

If they’re in relationships, a lot of the sunk cost fallacy applies if the guy is genuinely bad to her. She’ll make any and all excuses for her man’s subpar behavior. A lot of them end in miserable LTRs for 10 years putting out wife shit for a man who is never going to propose to her. In dating, this is the girl who texts you back after 10 seconds, acts clingy, asks “what are we??”, pushes commitment too soon, has sex on the first date to lock a man down, and enforces little to no boundaries wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 02:12 AM
1

I’m sure some of them are “into” it but any girl into degradation is going to have issues that’s going to cost you a lot of alimony in the future. It’s a low value behavior to please men. I know MANY women like this and not a single one of them is stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 02:04 AM
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Dump him if he eats like a child too. Picky eaters are for the birds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 01:57 AM
2

PickMes gonna PickMe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 01:56 AM
3

Absolutely obsessed with my husband. I manage to not think about him at work but when I’m grocery shopping or running errands I always find myself picking up little greeting cards for him or a shirt I know he’d like. He’s incredible. I had settled once in an LTR and there’s definitely a huge difference between loving someone and settling for them. I didn’t settle for the husband... SO glad I woke up and dumped ex-LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 01:54 AM
8

Better things are coming. After I broke it off with my long term going nowhere boyfriend, I was engaged to the man of my dreams 18 months later. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 10:15 PM
5

I was actually in a polyamorous relationship for awhile and lived the horrors of it with my last ex before my husband....anyone want me to make a separate post? I think it’s worth talking about why it fucking sucks as a dating strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:40 PM
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They’ll text and text and text and text and never ask you out. HVW don’t need this passive ass behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:07 PM
1

You wouldn’t know what effort is if it lobbed your cock off and threw it to a dog. 🤷‍♀️😘
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 05:28 PM
7

In life - women. Ugly women have it tough in job interviews. It costs more to be presentable. In dating - men. I think women are pickier than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:29 PM
2

lmao mad?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:17 PM
2

Thanks! The ability to get myself to orgasm, for women in the past to get me to orgasm, and my husband to get me to orgasm definitely indicated that my vagina and clitoris is the problem and not the limp dicked pornsick men. I can’t believe how smart you are. So glad a man is here to tell me that all men are just so GREAT at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:58 PM
1

Oh yes, it was definitely my vagina that was the problem. You’re so right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:49 PM
3

Yes, sex with him. I thought I might have hated all sex, but then my husband happened 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 07:11 PM
3

Because it is how you get a relationship nowadays. Women (most, not all) have to give sex to get what they want. I hated sex but I did it so he was happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:32 PM
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Even my LTRs were shit. The only casual sex I ever had was when I was heauxing around at age 20. That did the bulk majority of damage to my N count. I did it more because I was lonely. Bad sex, while it’s still bad, at least made me feel like I wasn’t alone temporarily. Then I moved exclusively to LTRs: I faked orgasms every time throughout both of my major LTRs because every time I did try to assert that, hey, this hurts/sucks/etc, both boyfriends took it as a personal attack and sulked for day…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:25 PM
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Oh women definitely know what they are: it isn’t “tell me how to do this in five minutes or less” either. The cost to explain in the middle of fucking how bad you suck is greater than the benefit of the orgasm. If you suspiciously make every woman you fuck “cum” in five mins... she’s faking bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:53 PM
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You kind of have to fuck a guy if you want to cum, or at least have him perform oral. They were all bad. All but one: SUSPICIOUSLY the only one who wasn’t porn addicted. What you see in porn does not translate well to real life, I assure you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:50 PM
8

It is easier to fake an orgasm than to explain exactly how he needs to move his tongue and fingers for 20 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:42 PM
8

From someone who has faked multiple orgasms to boost a man’s ego before, are you entirely sure it wasn’t for show?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:39 PM
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lmao this is why you’re bad at sex. You can’t make it faster my friend. My N count is rather high. 1 man has ever made me cum. I faked orgasms to end bad sex all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:37 PM
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Because we rarely ever cum, and men are in large TERRIBLE at sex. For the whole pair bonding damaging thing to work, you gotta have orgasms with multiple men. Sexual frustration is not exactly causing bonding to multiple men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:21 PM
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I’m attracted to emotionally intelligent people first and foremost, and I prefer my men masculine. Women, I can go either way. With transgender people: it’s kinda the same reason why I wouldn’t date a devout religious person... it’s not gonna work unless I convert. I have to believe in gender ideology, and continue to believe it as it rapidly changes for that relationship to work. I can’t sit there and not question something for that long: it isn’t me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 12:38 PM
3

I worked for an LGBT org in a Midwest city for a bit on a volunteer basis: so more than 50 less than 100. It contributed a LOT to me rejecting the concept of gender identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 12:34 PM
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I was paying his rent and buying his groceries for awhile shortly before I made him move in with me because he couldn’t afford to live on his own. Yes I had self esteem issues. He was 6 years older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 12:31 PM
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Yeah I can be attracted to both sexes, but that doesn’t mean I’m attracted to literally everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:29 AM
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If it were just regular people living their lives it’d be fine but now we’re living in a time where “living their lives” means that PCOS isn’t a woman’s issue, women are getting their skulls broken in sports by natal males, and you HAVE to be okay with men changing in women’s locker rooms lest you be a bigot (what if she’s a trans woman?). If you say that transwomen are male, you can lose your job, friends, livelihood, etc. I miss the days when people clearly understood the difference between se…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:27 AM
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Female Bisexual Thirties Nope While I’m sure there’s some great trans people out there, the ones I’ve had the pleasure of knowing had no personalities or interests outside of being trans, all believed in sex stereotypes (girls are feminine boys are masculine) to the point it’s unhealthy, and were all pretty substantially mentally ill in one way or another. So much trouble for very little reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:16 AM
1

How much you wanna bet they’re white?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:34 AM
5

Wasted too much time on men who were just using me for my money, sex and mommying. Sunk cost fallacy: I stayed loyal to useless men for years. I hated the dating scene until I radically switched up how I behaved during dating. Then I married at 29 after 1 year of knowing eachother.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 11:04 PM
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Points if you don’t like sushi and don’t work out? What??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:47 PM
3

Ooh! Didn’t know the term. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:45 PM
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“Split the tolls” should have been where she said no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:17 PM
7

Homeboy got a better offer with a woman who was putting out more sex and ego boosting for less. That’s why they ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:51 PM
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Replace dog with kid and a lot of single fathers act this way too. Source: I did a lot of free babysitting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:12 AM
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A ring and a date for the wedding too. Sometimes the ring is just to get a housemaid too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:11 AM
3

lmfao. I’m in software dev, you loon. The men are a fucking mess. Even the ones with good jobs. And if you aren’t addicted to fapping and mmos, why the fuck can’t you tear yourselves away from it for one goddamned second and lift a weight for once in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 08:38 PM
3

The bar is on the floor for men. I’ve probably dated FAR more men than you and very few are organized, responsible, functional adults. Most are addicted to porn and video games and dont understand how to manage themselves, whether it be time management or emotional regulation. It’s fucking sad: dating was a hellscape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 07:34 PM
1

Not a lot, unfortunately. In my case, my husband was married once before and I met him shortly after he was divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 10:44 PM
22

Totally up to OP. There’s risk involved if she tells. If I were her, I would in this situation. They’re not married: this is her reason not to take the plunge. Third option is screenshots in the mail 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:40 PM
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Yes, but for completely different reasons. Younger women haven’t been burned yet, and they’re WAY more likely to believe that men can change in a relationship. They’re easy to convince that the way they’re getting treated is normal, and way less likely to think “well I wonder why this guy hasn’t gotten hitched yet.” I dated 30+ year olds when I was in my early twenties and precisely none of them had their lives together. Older women know better and avoid the immature, low value men who go for wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 06:48 PM
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Never date or marry low value men like this. Ever. Holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 04:36 PM
9

I REMEMBER YOUR ORIGINAL POST YAYYYYYYYYYY SO HAPPY FOR YOU ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:10 AM
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Yeah no. Admittedly, I had to look up what this means. I never did this with my husband. Not once. I never had to ask how he felt about me. He just showed me (all the time, obnoxiously, and he took up all my time). If you have to sit there wondering whether or not he feels something for you, he’s already won and you’re prime for plate spinning, ghosting and breadcrumbing. Take your power back: go on a date with that other guy blowing up your inbox and let HIM “DTR.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:03 AM
1

There is no way to know if the woman you’ve been whacking off to was trafficked or forced into it. Absolutely no way. Amateur or no. I can’t think of a single orgasm that is important enough that you need a sex slave to achieve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 05:50 AM
1

No idea, neither of us care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 05:45 AM
1

traveled abroad alone
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 01:36 AM
8

This is the type of man who asks for first dates at his or your home, ladies. Always say no. And if he won’t take no for an answer, ghost. I feel so sorry for her. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 02:14 PM
11

Early 30s. Way nicer to look at when they’re comfortable in their own skin and have eased off the makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:53 AM
7

YEP. “Nice” guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:42 AM
3

I wish my ex boyfriends fit into this assessment. So many adult men need mommies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:36 AM
8

Exactly. That’s why the n-count comment is fucking stupid. Men will fuck anything from virgins to porn stars to animals to shower drains. Again, this is why it’s so ridiculous to me that they whine about wanting a virtuous woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:26 AM
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AHH This hit a little too close to home. I was Cool Girl who got with single dad once. Step 6 is that she realizes that she can do better and dumps him after he hits the wall. From experience, ya kno.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:23 AM
3

Yep! Something they can use to get off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:18 AM
2

Why do you all watch porn then if you don’t find high n’s attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:17 AM
7

No. I am getting it. You either have to be a whore or act like a whore for a man to be attracted to a woman. That’s why it’s ridiculous when men are pining for madonnas when almost all they want is a fuckhole.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:14 AM
4

And then she’s a tease, and we all know how much men like teases.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:06 AM
2

Yes. I’m a millennial and I met my husband irl. Most of my female friends met their husbands or boyfriends IRL too. I met mine because of my job, but others I know met through mutual friends, activities, meeting at a friends party, etc. It’s the most low key and comfortable way to meet someone imo. There’s no expectation to drop your pants for someone you met at a grocery store like there is for for OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 10:58 PM
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Nope. Not even close. Today’s men have Madonna-whore complexes and pornsick limp dicks. They’re attracted to overtly sexual women almost exclusively, and yet cannot respect them BECAUSE of their sexual nature. Husband hunting was one of the hardest and most unpleasant things I ever did (until I met my husband... then it was super fun). Even when I would flatly say that I did not want sex, many became overbearing and nasty when I didn’t put out after a drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 10:50 PM
25

Cut the cord and get with a man who makes you feel like a queen. Date multiple men. Rotate them. They should be vying for your attention. You shouldn’t have to beg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 10:13 PM
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It’s male nature. They always want what they can’t have. When a woman won’t just give a man what he wants (sex, care, ego stroking, empathy, etc) and notices that she’s not just giving it all out to any and all takers, some men will see this as a challenge. They might start taking you out, start stepping up their game... it activated some sort of competition behavior in my experience. I was taken on trips, taken shopping, fancy dinners, etc etc. After they puff up and try to win you over, some w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:11 AM
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I did this. It WORKS. I broke up with my live in ex bf of four years. I employed FDS strategies (I was introduced to this concept not by FDS, but by Sami Wunder) weeks later. 16 months later I was engaged to my now husband. People thought I was fucking crazy but were stunned when i did exactly what I said I was going to do, and the strategy worked as I said it would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 12:49 AM
1

Yes. He is solely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 12:00 AM
46

I hope you wore their sacks like Christmas ornaments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:05 AM
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Don’t knock the anglerfish tho. She’s hideously gorgeous and absorbs male angler fish into her body and essentially fuses their, uh, fish testes to her skin. She can use them to fertilize her eggs whenever she wants. https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/57800/horrors-anglerfish-mating She can have like 6 or so parasitic males fused to her body. All of their organs atrophy and the sperm remains. Fish queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:04 AM
27

Semen what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:45 AM
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Walking was the best decision I ever made. Yes: tons of signs. I was miserable for one thing, but my ex never talked about our future together. He never planned ahead in general for one thing, but there was never any thought towards the future. Everything was only ever in the moment. His tune changed REALLY quick when I left. I didn’t take him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:43 AM
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I’m a foodie and I bake a LOT and this behavior is non negotiable for me. Thankfully my husband is just as good at cooking as I am. :) and he might even be more adventurous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:21 AM
11

My god. Holy FUCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 05:07 AM
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If he has no reason to commit, he’ll probably give an “oh idk, I’m happy but I want to wait and see” sort of lame answer. Men don’t react to this kind of question with action. He’s still probably thinking he’s solidly got OP locked down with no commitment on his part: if he didn’t, he’d also be discussing marriage. He has to feel like he’s going to lose her in order for any action to take place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:52 AM
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I take it from your OP that you saw the video posted earlier today. If you haven’t, check it out. Discussing marriage, but leaving him out of the discussion by saying “my wedding”, “when I get married,” is a great way to begin. My other piece of advice is this: I did this very same thing that you are about to do now. I dropped hints, I pushed, I followed every piece of advice I could and I eventually gave an ultimatum. As a result I got married, quickly... to a man who wasn’t who I had originall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:46 AM
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Fantastic! The only thing I would add: if you get to that “ultimatum” stage that she describes, be prepared to walk. Never get to that point and say those words to the man without being fully planned and prepared to leave. I did with my ex boyfriend: he wasn’t ready for marriage, even after four years together. It was SO HARD to leave, but I stuck to my guns. If you follow the advice here, be prepared for a different outcome. This is advice on how to find a husband, and NOT how to get a specific…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:47 PM
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Benefit of the doubt is the monster that will make you stick by a low value man because he’s “nice” or he has potential. It’s what we give men for barely meeting your standards in some ways but crashing right through them in others. Don’t hope. Hope is not a strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:17 PM
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It’s a manipulative attempt to get you to question if your own experiences actually happened, or if your response to an event was appropriate. You ever have a fight with a guy and he says that certain things happened and were said, but you know for a fact that wasn’t true? But then you begin to question your own memory? Or, when someone says that you’re crazy for reacting emotionally in response to abuse, and then they begin to normalize the abuse? Both examples are examples of gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:01 PM
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Give it a shot and get to know him. Sometimes it just takes getting to know someone more intimately to REALLY be into someone. It’s the difference between “He’s cute and sweet but I’m just not feeling it” to “I need this person in my life so bad and I’m struggling to keep my pants on”. Hubby didn’t get hotter between those two attitudes of mine, he just opened up more and I got hooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:55 PM
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Same goes for the “forever girlfriends” who willingly dote on their men and wait for them to grow up and put a ring on it for a decade. If he liked you that much, he would have proposed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:51 PM
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A few weeks in, but I said no. We never really had a bf/gf stage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 12:46 PM
11

100% spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:57 PM
18

A queen. Bless you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:49 PM
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All the more power to her. No ring, no commitment. She can do as she pleases. She’s not forcing these men to throw themselves at her. Her attitude towards men can be pretty beneficial while husband hunting. Don’t get too attached, have fun, do what you want, and behave in way that only HV men pursue long term. Until that guy comes along, I say take them for granted :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:47 PM
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I was offered multiple all expense paid trips, shopping sprees etc while husband hunting and rotational dating. I rejected all of them, save for the one trip that was very tastefully planned and centered around a comment I had made off hand at a dinner date. I stated that a certain place in Northern MI was one of the most beautiful places on earth and he drove me there, we stayed nearby, and he planned a wonderful dinner. It truly is effort over money. A man who would purchase a new wardrobe for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:40 PM
22

lmao mentally preparing to be with a guy like this reminds me distinctly of the time I drank too much southern comfort and puked in my friends backyard. mentally preparing myself to be with a guy like this feels like being locked in a room with a tv playing nothing but Teletubbies for eternity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:28 PM
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I have never once seen a single group of men so completely lacking in self awareness in my life. They’re even less self aware than incels and TRP. Like... your actions and behavior influence a LOT of how you are treated and I don’t think as a group, they can grasp the concept that they are completely exhausting, boring, whiny and annoying. Why the fuck would a HV woman go out of her way to get laid by a man who has literally nothing positive to say, ever. A dude who whines and complains constant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:16 PM
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No. She should wait until the man has made a commitment and shown exclusivity, at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:43 AM
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WOW. I could pinpoint each spot in my relationship with my ex. Incredible, this is so true. When you start hoping, I guess we need to start packing our bags. So glad I’ve never once had a thought about my husband “well I hope he gets better”. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:36 AM
9

Yes, red flag. He’s probably a porn user too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:27 AM
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If he was 35, yes. 25, he’s at the beginning of a career in an expensive area. Tread carefully but I wouldn’t write him off just yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:12 AM
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Fair enough re: timing. Yeah. That was a seriously low value behavior on his part. Good on you for seeing it. You’re not an item on a takeout menu he can just order for delivery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 02:18 AM
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If you haven’t met him after two MONTHS of talking, next him sis. Honestly two weeks is too long. Men who text and text and text and never meet are plate spinning: he is cultivating you as a backup. If he’s not asking you out to meet within a week (OLD, not applicable IRL social situations) he ain’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 02:13 AM
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lmao he knows he can’t compete with women 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:07 AM
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Y E P If you ever hear him brag about his “feminism,” say “sex work is work” or if he’s on about “ethical porn,” dump his ass. Ladies, it may seem like finding a man out there who isn’t completely limpdick and pornsick is impossible but I swear, they exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:07 AM
3

If you lived in SW Michigan I’d be asking if we dated the same dude because DAMN. He mooches off grandma too but she isn’t in Vegas. Holy fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:20 AM
4

Dude he vaped so much the shit would collect on the windows. Not even kidding. He was also living rent free for a bit too with me. Car AND my tiny one bedroom. Un-freakin-believable. At 30+ years old and my formerly dumb ass just accepted it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:13 AM
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lmao when I bought my new-to-me one I traded my old one and he was ticked I didn’t give it to him. And lo and behold, our relationship started falling apart. Imagine that. I didn’t let him drive the new one either. He was, uh, not careful with his fucking vape juice and I was not going to have my new car smell like Apple Jacks fart all the fucking time. my husband had a Toyota Yaris when I met him. it worked. He picked me up for a date in it and was apologizing all over himself for the state of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:05 AM
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I expect this from early to middle 20 somethings but COME ON. 30s? My dumb ass dated a man 6 years older than me who had no working car for the entirety of our 4 year relationship. He will use your car constantly if you date a guy with no car in an area where you need one. He might not even buy gas. I NEVER had my car when I needed it, it seemed. I even started walking to work so he could use it (press F for me, ladies). Some places you absolutely need one and for fucks sake, you can get a decen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:56 AM
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I think it’ll help, sure. You can only infer so much about a man’s behavior through his profile and pictures alone though. He may seem great at first, and then he’ll be asking you for nudes by message no 3. Just be uber picky, have rock solid boundaries, and take breaks when you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:40 AM
13

Take all of the worst things about men, and have real life examples happen to you at warp speed. You’re going to have men trying to get in your pants, push your boundaries, piss you off, OVER and OVER and OVER again. It was more exhausting to me than job-hunting. It was that sinking pit stomach feeling every time a boundary was pressed and feeling guilty for saying no. But... constantly, because through OLD you’ll meet a ton more men than in normal daily interactions. I had periods where I neede…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:32 AM
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So glad we can still use scrotes. RIP “moid” F
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:24 AM
19

How dare you give a woman dating advice that actually works lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:23 AM
11

Most of them are a hellscape. If you can meet potential dates IRL, do it. Find MeetUps or join a recreational sports league, or a church if that’s your thing. Online dating was hell and it’s only getting worse. I had to disconnect to keep my sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:22 AM
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What the entire fuck was that thread. He RAPED HER. I have had a lot of sex (and a lot of it was with men who didn’t know what they were doing) and a full dick in my unsuspecting ass was something that never happened to me. Ever. “Accidental anal” is only a thing in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 02:22 PM
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They’re no worse or no better than any other kind of man. Because men frequently do not possess the emotional intelligence to effectively manage and deal with loss and trauma, male veterans are more susceptible to all of the behavior issues that men have... because they’re more susceptible to experiencing loss and trauma. It sounds to me like you experienced abuse and he was a vet. You okay sis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 01:57 PM
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If it would help you find peace and closure, do it. Also: he may be doing the same thing again to an underage girl now. They may not be able to do anything about your abuse but you might tip them off to discover something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 01:49 PM
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Great advice. Feeling your anger is one thing, but stewing in it and acting on it is another. You’ll be happier and healthier in the long run if you just treat them like kids and leave them alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 01:45 PM
16

moid nature 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 04:54 AM
12

Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 04:48 AM
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This is 100% in line with my experiences. I faked a LOT of orgasms so the dude would stop, back when I was single. It was just uncomfortable and he, of course, was trying to be gentlemanly and get me off first but... they never know what they’re doing. Post FDS enlightenment, I stopped having sex nearly all together and when I finally had sex with my now husband, he went down on me for ~30 minutes. I realized then that I actually had never experienced an orgasm that was induced by another partne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 03:56 AM
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This was so many of my previous “relationships.” Never put out until he commits, and quit doing wife shit when you’re not a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 03:34 AM
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Excellent work my friend. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:21 AM
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My rule when I was looking for a husband was to never put out unless he showed commitment. Commitment is defined differently for every woman, but for me it was when there was significant investment (both time and money, not just one or the other) from him into me exclusively. It wasn’t a “wait six months and see” sort of thing, it was a “I am going to hold off until I know it’s ME that he wants and not a quick lay.” Sex SHOULD be something that can be freely enjoyed by both parties, that should …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 12:54 AM
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“Why are you so upset about this?” I know exactly why you’re upset about this and I want to make you feel like you’re crazy and overreacting so you will tolerate this behavior of mine that you clearly don’t approve of moving forward.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 12:32 AM
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“I don’t know why she keeps texting me!” “I’m breadcrumbing her along so if I decide she’s the better offer, she’ll be readily available.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 12:30 AM
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“All my exes are psychos” “I have never had enough emotional maturity to sustain a relationship and do not expect any sort of conflict management skills from me: I will suck every bit of patience, kindness, and empathy from you and I will leave you high and dry when you need me the most”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 12:26 AM
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Yes. I have been with this man too before and it was a never ending battle. My two step hard and fast rule for getting rid of lazy dudes: Stop doing his laundry, his meals, his dishes, etc. Stop picking up after him. Stop packing his lunch. Pick up nothing he misplaced, wash nothing he soiled. Look after only yourself. When his life falls into disarray in approximately two weeks and he either blames you or says nothing, dump him. If he blames you for not being mommy, he’s not the man for you. If…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 12:17 AM
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1000% this. The sooner we quit putting out for crumbs of affection and the sooner we collectively raise our standards, the sooner men will get their shit together. Most men truly will only work when sex is a reward. They don’t give a shit about providing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:28 PM
14

27 years old. My goodness. Pornsick men are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:44 AM
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YEP. Constantly. I used it when I was in sales. It’s killer. It’s a lot of the same: you have something they want and they have something you want, and you need to be persuading that conversation into the best arrangement for your company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:41 AM
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Free bleed everywhere. Sit on everything he owns: everything red is yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:24 AM
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I just got back from a run and some weightlifting. :) Working on my career Graduate school Keeping on top of my finances, groceries, eating out kept to a minimum and drinking kept to a minimum Reading books with viewpoints that challenge my own The self care doesn’t end when you get married, ladies. Keep it up, keep being high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 12:17 AM
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If they don’t make you feel good, let them go. You’re under no obligation to give them any of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 04:11 AM
3

Set a schedule for self care and religiously stick to it. Make sure you’re spending time on yourself every day: feed yourself well, read fun and interesting things, play sports (with other women if you can!), lift weights, and limit your time perusing the masses on OLD. It can get addictive swiping and chatting away and you can lose whole hours wasting time on OLD. Limit your dates to a few a week, and don’t get attached. Keep swiping, keep dating, and treat yourself like a queen. I met my husba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 03:30 AM
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Welp I guess I have until the 20th to perfect my moid memes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 03:03 AM
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Her husband is probably buying sex. I wonder if anyone has asked her about large ATM withdrawals too near the time of the hotel charges. The woman or women he’s cheating on her with don’t have a reliable place to fuck (hence the hotels)... she’s cheating too or she’s a prostitute. Either is inexcusable. She needs to get tested and she needs to leave. ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 12:50 PM
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This behavior drove me bonkers when I was single. There’s only ever two kinds of dudes who do this: the ones who want sex in like the first hour of meeting someone, or the ones who will text and text and text and text and will never ask you out and expect you to make all the arrangements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 12:44 PM
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“No drama” means “I’m going to stare at you like I’m trying to find the deeper meaning in a Rorschach test when you experience any uncomfortable emotions near me and you will never receive any comfort or any patience when you need it the most in a relationship with me.” Most of my exes did exactly that. Yesterday I started crying (because I was overwhelmed at work, getting sick with a cold, and my period started) and the hubby fixed me an iced coffee, held me, massaged my head and told me that I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 12:42 PM
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Never date a man who wants a slutty therapist or a slutty mommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 12:24 PM
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Those men who did all of those great things also had women doing the laundry and the dishes. Someone was taking care of them and eased the burden. Do we really think Einstein participated in the housework?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 03:21 PM
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Lmao what is the point of this? Yes. French horn for the longest but also trumpet, trombone, mellophone, and baritone. I play the piano marginally well too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 11:50 PM
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Not by much. She placed a much bigger emphasis on being feminine than what’s described here. But the principles are similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 10:27 PM
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I’m in project management and business analysis. Part time MBA student as well. I am married, and my husband and I share traveling, camping, hiking, and cooking together. On my own, I enjoy ice hockey, weightlifting , reading, baking, crocheting, blackjack, and tasting wines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 02:25 AM
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That’s great. But you have no qualities that will make her stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:17 AM
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Decently fun decently cute men can be found literally anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:17 AM
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If you’re not willing to make an investment, why are you fucking surprised that she cheats and leaves? I have been on dates with doctors, lawyers, a head of a state political organization, engineers, and more than enough men that make WAY more $ than I do (about 90k). Men who make that much are plentiful. You are not exceptional. What makes you LTR material other than being apparently a fucking cheapskate and thinking that you’re entitled to women’s time and sex for a well drink? Fuck that. You’…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:28 PM
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Don’t be surprised when she leaves you for Chad then. No investment, no return. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:19 PM
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That’s great that you pride yourself on being a low value dildo. That’s all they use you for.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:16 PM
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I don’t. It’s how you get desperate women with low self esteem. You all whine and carry on about women who sleep with everything that moves but then you don’t look at your choices like a business transaction. If you’re investing nothing, why the fuck do you expect ANYTHING in return? Honestly I hope these women you knock up and catch crabs from birth your kids and steal your money. Return on their investment, I say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:14 PM
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Please do continue to weed yourself out the criteria for women who actually want lasting relationships then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:12 PM
2

It’s super fulfilling and wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:11 PM
2

Yeah no. Women with low self esteem fall for that shit, but even the good looking fuckboys can pay for my filet mignon and not get their dick wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:09 PM
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Or to not be a fucking shithead. Again, the $$ went up the more suspicious he was. My husband’s first dinner date with me was relatively inexpensive. Showing some sort of respect and ability to commit (whether it be by money or time) is how you get quality women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:04 PM
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Oh but they’ll sure pay a pretty penny for a few top shelf cocktails that I’d sip and never finish.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:00 PM
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So don’t be surprised when you keep getting garbage ones who cheat and have chlamydia?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:59 PM
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My time is valuable and if a sucker wants to take me out and then I discover he’s suspicious as shit, I may as well get paid for my time wasted. This strategy was GOLD for me when I was looking to marry and it effectively weeded out fuckboys right and left.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:56 PM
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Obvious plate spinners would ALWAYS be stuck with the $100 tab from me at the end of the night. The more suspicious he is, the more extravagant the order. If he’s gonna spin em, make it fucking expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:52 PM
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I feel like this is true for early 20 somethings maybe? This mindset is super foreign to me. I can’t even remember the last time I got dressed up for anything that I didn’t do with my husband. I go to women’s festivals, I run a reading group with all women, all my work friends are women that I hang out with outside my 9-5 and I play women’s hockey for fun. Like... I deliberately go where men don’t. I interact with the ones that I have to at work (some are nice, don’t get me wrong, but they’re no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:49 PM
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Higher than I’d like (>20) but it was legitimately all between the ages of 21 and 23. I was not in a good mental state and I used sex to cope. Since then, my ex and my husband. So, perhaps I was one but not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:51 AM
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But for violent crime? lmao naw bro
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 12:41 AM
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OP is 16 years old and posts in incel forums. This explains SO much.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 12:21 AM
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lmaoooooo you gay
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 12:19 AM
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I’d love to see the one for men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 11:55 PM
1

It’s selfishness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:54 PM
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But it doesn’t fit their confirmation bias so we have to revise history so only the men had the dangerous jobs, remember?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:42 PM
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“Raped” in scare quotes lmao. I bet it’s only “violence” when it happens to men in prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 04:40 PM
1

Man I wish we could turn you into cannon fodder.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:28 PM
3

I guess getting raped at 13 is not a big deal 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:09 PM
2

Truly the quicker picker upper.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 03:23 AM
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That feeling when no waifu? Then BE the waifu!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 03:18 AM
3

Quit sticking it in the vacuum hose and maybe it won’t throb so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 03:16 AM
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Blease take advantage and go your own way already. I mean, are you looking for our permission or something? Why haven’t you done it? Goodbye! Be a man and stick to your promises!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 03:12 AM
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If you want MGTOW to cease to exist, fix the damn current system that incentivizes MGTOW. Otherwise it IS going to keep growing. Don't threaten me with a good time. I love it when the trash takes itself out. Butthurt women like OP and yourself can't let go of MGTOW because it directly threatens the stability of women in general. Oh yes, I weep at the lost opportunities to be waifu to an incredibly stable man who yelps about girl power delusions on ye olde interwebs. Whatever will my stability an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:25 AM
3

Nothing gets my mop dampened more than a man and his carefully curated bathroom floor pube collection.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:12 AM
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The weed made me flip “guy” and “fridge” around and I got so excited to type “quit being such a fridgephobe” but then I realized the err in my ways. Sigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:00 AM
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Oh good I love a silent type. Complains less when I bewitch him, force him to marry me and then steal his money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:49 AM
1

Stop kinkshaming me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:38 AM
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Oh yeah I’m sure that’s what he uses the holes for. Silly me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:27 AM
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Mr. (No Shave) November. I forgot what a good neck rug does to me in the nethers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:24 AM
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I really just want to be seen and appreciated for what I am: a gold digging chubby chasing whore. The perfect validation for me is a MGTOW. Something about the cheeto dust, mediocre IT career, dad bod and decent alimony payments really floods the proverbial basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:15 AM
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I’m a femoid and can confirm, fucking a MGTOW into marital submission, divorcing him, and stealing all his money is on my bucket list. I’m out ta getcha, it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:10 AM
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I laughed a little too hard at this. I have never witnessed a group of men so dead set on living a life without women that were simultaneously SO TRANSFIXED by women at the same time. It’s all they fucking talk about. I’m excited for the day they finally go their own way but I’m not holding my breath, I mean, it’s men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 01:05 AM
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It’s sad how it’s become so normalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 10:30 PM
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TRP does have some things right, one being human sexual nature. All of the strategies here that we promote deliberately exploit male sexual behavior. A great example of this is one of the sidebar posts about “mate guarding.” RPW does it too, to an extent, but the major difference between us and them is our locus of control. We are internally focused, believing that we have the power and the control to change our situation and RPW is external, meaning that they have no control over what happens t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 11:51 AM
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Sis you’ve been holding out for this fool since JULY? Just say your time is valuable and he seems intent on wasting it by texting and texting and texting. Move on. He’ll step up if he wants to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 02:36 AM
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In my experience as a manager, both men and women are equally sensitive to my criticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 06:17 PM
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The post was about OP believing that women can’t handle criticism. I offered an example when my male employee couldn’t handle criticism. Apparently this is some sort of super selfish remark on my part and I somehow don’t acknowledge that people outside of myself exist. Is that actually what you’re trying to argue? Or are you a moid who doesn’t know what “solipsistic” means? Learn to read and try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 06:03 PM
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Yeah he couldn’t handle the criticism so he went to HR and whined about it 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:54 PM
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Is it harsh tones or is it men behaving badly? I will (and have) ruin the future career prospects of men who use the workplace as “boys club.” Men who gossip in my department about team members get one warning, and then the axe. Same as female employees. I can’t stand it when men behave like fucking animals and get paid for it. Constructively criticizing women’s work is one thing. Sometimes I’ve noticed (even in my own company) that women are held to a higher standard: men who put out shoddy wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:36 PM
8

As middle management myself, this has been my experience too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:29 PM
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I’m a manager and I was once blasted by male upper management for being too hard on a male employee. He was making an excessive number of personal calls. I told him that his performance in the workplace seems to be inversely proportionate to the amount of calls he made to his girlfriend. I was pretty rude about it. He went to HR, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:28 PM
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My schedule is pretty rigid but that’s only because I’m a pretty schedule oriented person. My cleaning really only takes ~4 hours at MOST. Usually about 2. Once the habit is established, my place generally stays in a state where if I had that opportunity to do something for a whole weekend on a whim, I could go do it. I’d pick back up later on. For me, it was a LONG process. You can’t just wake up and start doing this. I built mine on habits and schedules: I started with cleaning my place top to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/19 04:59 PM
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He acted like a child and he embarrassed me and himself in front of not only my friends, but the public. I do not regret leaving him. Otherwise I wouldn’t have met my husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 03:43 PM
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I think that would be fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 03:03 AM
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How far is it? If he stands you up, treat yourself. When I was single, my philosophy was to always trust the guy on his word until he showed me I couldn’t. I would go. Yes, I got stood up a few times: but, I never gave him the opportunity for a second chance. It’s an effective way to weed out low value men: let him fuck up, this is an opportunity to see if he will. Don’t save it for him. He’s a grown man who set a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:56 AM
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If there is no time, date, and place, there is no date. Take yourself out somewhere nice and enjoy. No sense in waiting around for a noncommittal man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:43 AM
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TRUE All but one were unremarkable or just downright awful. It’s like they’ve never heard of the clitoris.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:23 AM
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I was under the assumption that you weren’t together and that you were going to wait? I wouldn’t wait tbh. Continue dating others and let him be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 01:24 AM
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Never fall in love with POTENTIAL. If he wants you, he has to meet your standards. Don’t lower yourself for him. If he wants it, he will dig himself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 01:17 AM
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“I appreciate your enthusiasm for me but I’m afraid that we’d be wasting eachothers time. I wish you the best.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 01:15 AM
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I am married. I would always recommend not disclosing sexual history until marriage is on the table, and ONLY if it’s medically necessary. I do not recommend marrying men who are hung up on this or even ask about it. Anecdotal evidence makes you look silly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 01:06 AM
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So are the women of the 80s different than the women of today? What changed I wonder. Seems to me that there are more factors than just N count. Otherwise, wouldn’t you expect your broad generalization to hold true? Also; take a look at the source you linked at first. What are the p values in that chart, and can you tell me if those findings are statistically significant? (Hint: uh oh) 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 12:54 AM
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The researcher has something to say about conclusions made on these studies. https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability/ Not that cut and dry. For a long time, women with two sexual partners had the highest divorce rates, even over women who had ten or more. And besides: none of you want commitment anymore anyway: why do you care about her N count if you’re just gonna sit there and take her for everything she’s worth and never comm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 12:47 AM
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I did eventually, yes, but not until he was showing lots of commitment. 8 months from first date to ring. I knew him for about 3 months prior to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/19 11:09 AM
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... this is my life. Highly recommend 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/19 05:28 AM
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Hey, you’re doing great sis. This seems super promising. The only thing I have to say is to be prepared to walk if he doesn’t meet your timeline. Men don’t joke about marriage and proposals and moving in together unless they’ve been thinking it for quite some while. My husband proposed to me about 5 months after he started cracking jokes about having children with me. Another good indicator is that he’ll start being unusually thrifty: my husband had my ring for two months before he actually prop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/19 05:24 AM
5

Do you have family who can help? When I pulled the plug and left my last LTR, I called my mom and she loaned me 6 grand to pay off my portion of the rent entirely. I paid her back, and it was the best gift she ever gave me. You can’t get what you want if you’re wasting your time with a man who treats you like shit. Get help and get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/19 04:03 AM
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Wow which one of those affects the current relationship I wonder. Apart from STDs obv, sexual history has no bearing except for very insecure men’s ego on the relationship. Massive debt and serial killer tendencies are a huge red flag. Apples and freight trains, cupcake. Go your own way already, jeez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/19 03:35 AM
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Lmao I did this inadvertently when I left my LTR when I got pinkpilled without really knowing it. I wanted marriage, he didn’t (or didn’t at the time, lmao) I was sick of waiting and close to my 30s and told him we weren’t exclusive anymore and made him reinterview for his own job. He didn’t get it, hah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 11:13 PM
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What hot projection is this. I have literally never once thought this way when I was dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 11:10 PM
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Imagine being so insecure that even at 6’4” and 220, you have to keylog. You would lose your absolute mind if she did the same to you, hypocrite. Grow a pair and stay away from women until you see a therapist for your mommy issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 10:50 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 09:00 PM
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It depends on the type of RP man. One who is aware of human sexual selection and acknowledges it and its role in society? Sure. I married one of those. The typical RP man who feels entitled to my time, labor, resources, entire sexual history, expects me to be sexually pure but will hurt me or belittle me if I don’t put out, all within the first three dates? Most RP men view women as a tool to use for gratification and get mad when that tool has thoughts and feelings and humanity. No thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 08:39 PM
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I see the manlets have arrived. Knowing the complete sexual history of a woman is not an entitlement. It’s not a carfax report. Women are not things that you own. If a woman’s sexual history makes you feel inferior, grow a spine and get better at sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 05:38 PM
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.... I need a copy of this play. For research purposes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/19 02:28 PM
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Amen. Welcome to the Good Place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 11:22 PM
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Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu It’s horrifying when they behave like that in front of kids. I’m glad he’s your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 11:14 PM
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Highly recommend. You can also tell a lot based on the male-female interaction ratio. Take a look at his pictures: if it’s full of thirst traps and his behavior is suspicious? Next him. Wholesome comments from his family or friends? It can tell you a lot. It’ll also tell you how seriously he takes himself as a person, as well as how he takes his career into consideration. Middle finger pictures, excessive drunkenness... you name it, I’ve seen it. It is a great tool for women to use to see if he’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 10:34 PM
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I checked them thoroughly when I was single. I found that two were looking to cheat on wives, and one had a child he didn’t mention in the first three dates. I never did a true background check but I’d always check the sex offender registry, any criminal record I could find, and I’d find his social media if I could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 10:18 PM
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Moids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 06:31 PM
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He probably looks like a lump of ground beef himself. Send his reaction to his mom on social media if you can find her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 06:23 PM
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LOTS fell through that trap. Only three that I dated agreed to it. It’s a numbers game, just keep dating and setting boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 06:20 PM
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Toxic = not wanting to parent adults I guess. Fuckboys gonna fuckboy, and the single most effective way to deter fuckboy behavior is to make it hurt financially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 04:17 PM
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More like preserving our independence. Making them pay weeds the men who want wives from the men who need mommies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 01:32 PM
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Moids be here downvoting, a nerve has been struck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 05:04 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 04:20 AM
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They also have usually had a woman prop them up, and they lost her. A woman who worshipped the ground he walked on and he saw her as clingy and low value. Don’t date this guy, and for fucks sake DON’T BE HER. I can’t tell you how powerful your dating will become if you guard your time, manage expectations, and stroke his ego but only at the right moments. Focus on how you feel, and if he made you feel good, nothing strokes a male ego more than telling him how he’s affected you. “You know, I abso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 04:13 AM
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Y E S. This is how I would get them to call. I’d allow for a quick text or two and then nail them with a “you know, I’m not a great texter and I feel like I can get to know a man much better anyway on the phone. I think that I’d really like to hear your voice” and then stop responding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 04:05 AM
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I did this and it got me a ring. It was also the single most powerful tool I had in vetting men and attracting my husband. Here’s what I did: I behaved in a receptive way. I allowed myself to be pampered, taken care of, etc. BUT, I always showed gratitude and poise when men gave me resources. I never put myself down (“you’re so sweet, I don’t deserve this!” but instead always put an emphasis on how his actions made me feel (“oh you’re so sweet, you make me feel so wonderful!”). I would push subt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 03:53 AM
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That’s so hard for me to answer objectively :). I think he’s HOT AF. 12/10. The truth: about the same, likely. We both work out and take care of ourselves. He goes to the gym slightly more often than I do (he lifts 7x a week, sometimes multiple in a day) and I’m there lifting usually 5-6x a week. I’m taller than him by about 3 inches. He’s ginger, freckled, just slightly balding, and has just the sweetest expression and softest eyes. Keeps his hair super short, sometimes he shaves it completely.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 03:25 AM
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My friends quite literally told me I was insane when I told them I was going to do it. I got the idea from Sami Wunder. It gets a ring on your finger FAST. I totally can add one. It is such a powerful move, I can’t recommend it enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 02:53 AM
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That’s the whole point my dude. The bar is sky high and I set the bar so only the men I want succeed. Marriage is about equality, trust, commitment, love, and equal partnership. Dating is about finding that person: men aren’t owed shit and most all are looking to pump and dump. Women can’t treat men like equals in dating to get equal treatment: we get taken for all we’re worth if we’re too nice. My husband went all out for me. I have dated scores and scores and kissed a zoo full of toads. I know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 02:47 AM
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One of my strategies was to get all dolled up and plant myself at a happy hour when I knew that there were major professional conferences at the downtown hotels. I had them on a google calendar at one point! I usually dress nice for work: Id just fix my hair a bit and loosen up my look, then scope out a hotel bar. I’d stay for 2 drinks maximum (sip slow), and never past 7:30pm. I’d sit at the hotel bar but always position my body so I could look more inviting. I’d put my phone away and just sort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 02:24 AM
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About two-three months. I waited for a few signs. In the beginning I set expectations clear that I wasn’t dating to mess around, I was dating to find marriage. He proceeded in dating me after he knew this. Asked me to be his girlfriend. I said no, but I said it with the caveat that I wasn’t interested in having an LTR; I wanted a husband, remember? He still proceeded to date me. Paid for a WONDERFUL trip for my birthday. Absolutely stunning: he took notes and clearly knew what I liked, what I wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 02:11 AM
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I was 28 when he proposed, for reference. I knew it was about to get vastly harder to find a good husband if I got sucked into another failed LTR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 01:40 AM
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YES. Take more than meals. While I was in “nun mode” and hardcore husband/relationship hunting, I was taken out to restaurants, NHL games, festivals, I had a vacation paid for, shopping trips on their dimes, a designer purse, you name it I probably got it. I live in a city with a medical school, a law school, and two major international pharmaceutical and medical instrument companies: all I had to do was pony up for a membership at the nice gym nearest to them, lift weights 6x a week and smile a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 01:33 AM
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Thank you! It was the right decision. I also knew him before we started dating, so it wasn’t like I was just getting to know him those eight months. I was always so skeptical of women who said they “just knew” but I had been on scores of dates with all kinds of men and he was the one that I had the hardest time keeping out of my mind. I wanted to break my own rules SO bad, just let him girlfriend-zone me and be done with it but I held strong. We’ve been married awhile now and it still feels as e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 12:46 AM
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Honestly fuck dumping him at this point, I think this guys gene pool needs a bit of chlorine. Never put out wife shit until you’re a goddamned wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 12:17 AM
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Several months. About four. I never lied about it and I made it very clear that we were not exclusive. He wasn’t okay with it at first but I wouldn’t budge. He then started planning things that he knew I would love at almost every spare moment I had. I didn’t get a lot of dates in with other men towards the end of those. We were engaged after eight months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 12:09 AM
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Yep. I’ve found that the ones obsessed with their pasts are the most likely to be possessive, controlling and obsessive over her future actions. If I was ever asked or if I ever heard men talk about N counts seriously, I’d write them off as future partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 02:11 PM
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Your ideas follow TRP to a tee, it’s not original. TRP explains a lot about male and female nature, but it’s not black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 03:36 AM
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Lmao what proportion? 50/50? We duked it out when we had to work together before he asked me out (it was so cute, he kept sending me pictures of his cat doing strange things on the company instant messaging system before asking me out for a drink) because that’s just what you do when you’re managing project expectations sometimes but otherwise, he’s just so easy to be with. I also find him super hot. It’s the smell. Something about the pheromones man, I don’t know. He’s also damned muscular (we …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 03:27 AM
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His last text to me was “you’re doing so amazing and I’m so proud of you” after I texted him about a demo I gave today that went well. He says this stuff all the time. Like I don’t know what to tell you. I am completely mad over him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 03:13 AM
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lmao not everything is explainable by the red pill, my dude. my husband is confident but also very aware and conscious about what I need and how I’m feeling. he literally compliments me every day. I have a whole shoebox full of greeting cards he’s given me “just cuz” and he’ll drop by my department (we work for the same company, different depts) and puts sticky notes and little pieces of chocolate on my desk. yeah he’ll disagree with me, sure, just as I will with him. we’re both managers (he’s o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 01:26 AM
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I make 20k more per year than he does. I don’t know if he qualifies as an alpha to you guys or not, so I don’t know. And yeah, I would if he was sexually attractive and intelligent. I make more than enough just on my own 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 01:08 AM
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honestly, yeah. double the points if he shaved all his hair. My husband is shorter than me by 3-4 inches and he sometimes buzzes his whole head and it’s honestly pretty hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 12:57 AM
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Well I guess I have five things then lmao that’s hot too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:57 PM
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SAME
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:33 PM
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Four things: His smell (biggest deal maker or breaker for me) Smile Shape of his chest. Legs and butt. Especially what his butt looks like in jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:32 PM
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He very well may be. And yes, he’s beefy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 01:27 PM
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Thank you. Fair enough! I guess status and money have never really been an issue to me since I have always had access to both on my own. Looks... for me it all stems from “healthy” and “hygienic.” Does he taken care of his teeth, shower, groom, smell nice, and does he look like he takes care of himself? Other than that... yeah I’m not super picky. My husband is not conventionally attractive to most women: he’s shorter than me by about 3-4 inches and ginger. But Gods is he amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 01:51 PM
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^ nailed it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 01:05 PM
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A culmination of things that overwhelmed me badly causing an emotional meltdown in the middle of a flight from New York to Detroit. When I landed it was pretty much open sobbing, sitting on the floor at DTW. I was in a dead end relationship and a dead end job, and I hated where I lived. I was on my way home from an absolutely horrible business trip (even though I had closed deals and hit goals, it was never enough for my boss), and I was at my wits end. My mental health was garbage. I think I br…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 12:42 PM
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Hah! I figured out the locus of control “trick” during my sales job as well. You have to develop it otherwise I can’t imagine what your mental health would be like if you took sales personally and externally. For as bad a rep as salespeople get, being one improved my life in ways I’ll never be able to fully quantify: its gift that just keeps on giving. I could never do it forever but I always encourage people to try it for a little while because it will really beat an internal locus, self esteem…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 11:59 AM
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Not here to change your view because you are 100% right. The single most important thing women can do is this exact same thing. I can actually pinpoint the day that my locus of control shifted: my life changed immediately for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 11:40 AM
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This comment absolutely nailed it. This is what women must navigate to find a man to marry. I have gone on SO MANY dates where it became painfully obvious that the man wanted to treat me like some kind of sex dispenser: dates and flowers and attention go in and sex comes out. And the sad thing is that women aren’t really taught how to see this shit behavior anymore: I certainly had to figure it out for myself. We get caught up in the romance bit of it, excited that he sees us as a person and not…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 11:16 AM
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Many, surprisingly enough. Keep in mind, the perspective here is from a woman who wanted a husband, not casual sex. Men here generally tend to focus mainly on the “receiving casual sex” aspect of dating. The criteria for success for what I was looking for is vastly different and reprioritized from what I would be looking for if I wanted something casual. As said above, women will often settle for the first man who shows confidence when pursuing her, and will stay in a dead end relationship in ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 10:45 AM
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Yes! My best friend is like this. She’s super smart and charismatic and is completely self sufficient and gorgeous, is an incredible singer but she just dates absolute human garbage. Then she gets caught up in the sunk cost fallacy: well I’ve been with him this long buuuut I don’t want it to be all for nothing. She thought I was insane when I told her what I was gonna do. “You’re gonna make them call you on the phone if they ever want to see you??” It turns out, there are millennial men who will…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 02:58 AM
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Absolutely. It made all the difference for me. It certainly made for a boring dating life for awhile when I made the commitment to myself in the beginning. I realize now that I had inadvertently gone into “nun mode” without ever having really heard of TRP or understood it. I was just out of a bad LTR and I wanted the next one to be the last one (again, never having heard of TRP I got afraid of The Wall). I had a set of rules I followed and the men sorted themselves out. I never texted, I would o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 02:45 AM
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I spend my whole day outwardly expending my energy and managing shit between my home, my work, my hobbies, gym time, running time, my volunteerism, and my friends, and by bulldozing over dating I end up attracting men who need maintenance or men who need mommies instead of wives. I attracted higher quality men once I stopped pursuing. I appreciate thoughtfulness, ambition and drive, and my leaning back and behaving in such a way that only the type of men I wanted could be successful, I ended up …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 09:54 PM
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I hate a lot of men. One beat me, two raped me, many catcall me as I walk to work, many have touched me inappropriately in public places, many have shouted over me at work, and I’ve known and dated so many that just don’t have their shit together. I know SO MANY women at 30+ years old with beautiful apartments or homes and successful careers who are genuinely incredible people who are stuck in dead end relationships with 30+ y/o men who still have mattresses on the floor, soiled bedsheets, two w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 06:15 PM
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No, I don’t care if he got paid more money to fuck a man than he did to fuck a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 01:01 AM
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I would imagine that at least one part of the male anatomy has something to do with female actors having to have their ass stitched back together in the ER. The whole industry is exploitative and honestly I’m not willing to take that chance hoping he’s a “nice” one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 12:37 AM
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Nope. Lots of the women in porn pass out, take drugs to cope, don’t give consent for certain sex acts, get coerced into the industry, etc. I couldn’t be with a man who knowingly participated in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 12:19 AM
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Regardless of the “gender binary” there’s still only two sexes. If I have a daughter I’d really love for her to go to a single sex school. I went to public school and it was hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 03:29 PM
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Exactly this. I don’t consider myself a RPW but I sure used a lot of their pointers when I decided I was done with the plate spinning and hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 12:51 AM
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I lose respect for the man mostly. If he can’t make up his mind after that long, jeez. The woman I feel sad for: many times she desperately wants the proposal and it never happens. Women with lower self esteem get trapped in going-nowhere relationships. I was almost one of them. It’s totally fine if both parties agree to that arrangement clearly but I’ve found that most of the times, that isn’t the case. As a former “forever girlfriend,” it’s equal parts clear communication and refusing to settl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 12:45 AM
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Work. 27 and 29, engaged a year later and married shortly after that. We still work there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 02:47 AM
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Passiveness. I didn’t realize just how bad it was until years in. He was totally content with no long term goals or plans, ordering takeout every day because he never thought to go to the grocery store ahead of time, never traveling because he couldn’t manage travel plans, and just kind of drifting from job to job. Also jealousy. He got jealous of my successes and whenever I did something great at work, I would have to downplay it and fluff up his ego so he felt better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 02:43 AM
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Casual sex and ONS aren’t “careers.” I personally find little value in them both but given that it’s done without coercion or force, I have no issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 10:33 AM
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I am also anti-pornography and the sex industry in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 11:40 PM
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How on earth could the business be meaningfully OSHA compliant when pregnancy and STIs are a routine workplace hazard. Not to mention my earlier posts where it drives up sex trafficking demand. Regulation would also introduce title 9 stuff, at least in the US. Are we also prepared to disallow johns to pick the race and age of his prostitute, much like we do with any other service? It would be an absolute nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 11:36 PM
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Sewer workers aren’t at increased risk for STIs, PTSD, rape, and unwanted pregnancy, and neither are therapists. Neither are therapists. Sewer workers and therapists aren’t also considered to be of high value at the age of 13 and inexperience, and there is no international market to take unwilling people and turn them into sewer workers and therapists. Apples and freight trains.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 11:18 PM
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lmao even the John on the thread gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 11:06 PM
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The thing is: I am fully aware that you can never be rid of prostitution. It has always occurred and I don’t see people trying not to sell other people for sex anytime in the near or distant future. The Nordic model drives down demand. That’s the whole entire point. When legalization occurs, demand increases for prostitutes (see NZ and Netherlands), but they literally cannot get enough women to willfully sign up for this kind of “work.” So they traffick them. Legalization ends with more rape and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 11:03 PM
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Sigh. Can’t escape you guys here, even on reddit. Anything that remotely criticizes the sex industry gets you labeled as “sex worker exclusionary.” Male pantsfeels always come first I spose.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:53 PM
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It might come as a complete and total shock to you, but there are multiple kinds of feminism and your sex positive trans positive sjw types are very much at odds with me. Imagine that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:40 PM
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No, never. Drives up demand, increases trafficking (see increase in sex trafficking in the Netherlands despite legality) and the only way women really end up doing that job is if there are literally no other options. Watch the interview with Mia Khalifa: hers is a milder version of what happens in the sex industry. Nordic model or bust. Decriminalize for the prostitutes, imprison pimps and johns.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:25 PM
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Most of my experiences were with older men who were fucking messes. There’s a reason they were going for younger, and it was because women my senior were smart and not putting up with their behavior. My ex was 6 years older than me and honestly a barnacle had better manners and empathy. I didn’t realize this until I hit 27 years old, when I finally wisened up and left him. Although, I only found older men attractive when I was 20-24 (and stupid). Once I hit 27-30, men my age were much more attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 01:27 AM
4

What is oddly specific about men who are functioning adults, funny, are proactive and love to travel? Is my husband the only one?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 10:55 PM
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Exactly. Jeez. I am into: men who have their goddamned shit together, can laugh, can have a fun time, has some goddamned executive function, and loves to travel I married: a man who has his goddamned shit together, laughs and is super funny, can have a fun time, has executive function, loves to travel and BONUS he can cook and he isn’t married to video games. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 10:14 PM
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I think it’s a little bit of column A, little bit of column B for most successful marriages. You bring up Melania... does she seem legitimately happy? She brushes her husbands hand away publicly: who knows how she behaves privately. She reads to me as someone being used or someone who is just along for the ride, and reads as completely miserable. Without at least some love, I don’t think that marriages can be successful and happy. On the other hand, love isn’t the only ingredient for a successfu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 09:28 PM
1

I’m ENTJ and husband is INTP. I don’t know a whole ton about mbti but I do know that my worst relationship was with a moody ISTJ. We thought completely differently from one another, it felt.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 05:10 PM
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but this never happens, remember??
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 05:44 PM
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It’s EXHAUSTING. Tons of bad behavior. I did OLD for about a year when I was looking to find a husband and I have stories for days. Men who: licked my face at the end of a date (okay that was only one guy one time but I’m scarred for life) texted me nonstop after meeting for the first time and got pissed when I didn’t get back to them away had an incredible time with, a kiss goodbye, one or two texts the next day and then I’d get ghosted ghosted me straight away when I didn’t put out, but then w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 11:24 PM
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Yeah until the statists force women to be prostitutes. The happy hooker thing is a farce. Ease of access to purchased sex only drives up demand and men have proven time and time again that they’ll traffick as many women as they need to meet that demand even in places where prostitution is legal. The right wants ownership of women to be private and the left wants it to be public: conservative women (correctly) assessed that it’s safer for their well being to submit to one man instead of many. Dev…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 10:02 PM
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I’m not sure honestly if a greater number of people would be satisfied under one or the other but what I can say is that socialism or any kind of statist government absolutely terrifies me because I’m super certain that the left would take its “sex work is work” way too far. Sex could be plentiful but connection would be scarce.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 09:52 PM
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lmao none of the immediate offenders strike me this way at all. they’re all... greasy? weird 30 somethings going through a crisis?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:50 PM
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How ugly af, unsuccessful men who have the IQ of a pound of warm ground beef can be polyamorous and have two girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:30 PM
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lmao no I married an emotionally stable, mature, successful, funny, charismatic neat freak who just so happens to take care of himself, go to the gym, cook stellar meals with me and be amazing in bed 🤷‍♀️ I raised my standards when it counted and lo and behold, I got everything I wanted in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 09:41 PM
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All my exes were betas and I married an alpha, but I can totally see where you got the idea. Touche.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 09:07 PM
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I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone in my life. Only insecure people do that imo. The best dick is a vibrator.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 08:26 PM
1

This.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 08:09 PM
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If he didn’t have a job, was messy, was emotionally unstable, lived with mom, was emotionally stunted, was unhealthy, could never I initiate conversation, never initiated dates, or was afraid of commitment, I’d shelve him. I was going on 3 dates a week at one point with multiple men (not sleeping with, mind you) and very few ticked the boxes. I cared a lot less when I was casually dating but when I got fed up and wanted to get married, I got very picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 07:59 PM
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It’s pretty easy to deduce that he has no idea what the hell he’s doing because he’s literally asking reddit if he should be sexually harassing women when he first meets them: I sincerely doubt that anyone who approached women with charisma and interest would be on here asking this question. And yeah, he’s going to get ghosted still. It’s part of dating now. I’m not speaking on behalf of women everywhere, but on behalf of a singular woman who got so fed up with men who texted and texted and text…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 12:58 PM
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He has PLENTY of time to do something. I don’t know why men expect women to follow up after they’ve small-talked with her when she probably gets small-talked all day at school or her work. Not standing out among the crowd while trying to woo her with endless “wyd” or “sup” messages... yeah it’s not great. If a man approached me (when I was single) with a “polite conversation” and asked me for my number, depending on how unstable I thought he was I might give him the number just to end the conver…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 10:34 AM
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Emotionally mature and intelligent. Adept at conflict resolution. Takes care of himself and takes care of others. Have tons of hobbies and interests that span beyond drinking and partying. Knows how to deal productively with rejection in all aspects of life: from careers to schools to relationships. Funny, strong, and charismatic. Completely dependable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:55 AM
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lmao my husband got my number because he owned a cat, showed interest in my cat, and asked if we could trade pictures. show interest in what she does. if you don’t know, ask her. sexual harassment just gets you booted to the door, friendo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:44 AM
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Almost all except arguably gay porn. Yep. The industry is rife with racism and exploitation and there is no telling if a woman actually consented to the acts in the film or if she was coerced, pressured, or took drugs to cope. The vast majority of porn makers are men who use women for men’s pleasure, for men’s profit. Until this dynamic changes, yes it is a misogynist industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:39 AM
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I’m not a TRPer but a rad-leaning feminist. For those who aren’t aware of the divisions in feminism, I’m in the one that everyone regardless of political compass hates (the anti porn anti hookup culture type). Without actually reading TRP resources and judging by behavior alone, people usually call the red pill toxic almost exclusively due to the members’ individual behavior. Lots of gendered slurs, anger, fragility, explosiveness, and entitlement. I observe a lot of the subs now and I see simil…
/r/askTRP26/08/19 01:49 AM
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Individually in the first few hours? Men. Long term when survival skills are critical? Women. Zombie apocalypses ain’t all about guns and brawn. I know very few men who can cook, let alone grow their own food.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 10:49 PM
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Nope. And the tiny majority of men who are: SUPER suspect. If you can’t approach a woman without harassing, touching, or assaulting her, GOOD that you don’t approach women anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 10:20 PM
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This post watered my crops and cleared my skin. It was damned difficult seeing aaaaaaall these posts while knowing what the stats actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 11:01 AM
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lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 10:41 AM
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You need some sources like OP provided, friendo. You can be on about logical fallacies all day and pretend to be wise and smart but if you don’t back up what you say, no one will believe you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 10:37 AM
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Men also buy and sell girls for sex. Protection, my ass. Subjugation is more like it. Statistics aren’t hate rhetoric.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 10:33 AM
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For me, the divide is not at dating/LTR but between anything (dating, LTR) and marriage. I never expected men to bankroll my life (especially since I have made significantly more money than all but one man I’ve ever been on a date with) but I DO expect them to make themselves worth my time. My husband paid for everything before we got married unless it was specifically a gift from me to him (there were many gifts, however, at least one or two a month and they were larger ticket items like weeken…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 01:48 AM
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My mom too. My dad died and she’s been on her own ever since. No interest in men, doesn’t talk about them, doesn’t care for them anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 11:35 PM
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Unless he was super super super fucked up and smelled bad and didn’t take care of himself, I’d agree to a date. Looks can change and men can clean up nice if they try.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 11:26 PM
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lmao I took my now-husband home on our first date to legitimately watch Drunk History because we were giggling about it during dinner. I set a boundary, told him it wasn’t gonna happen because I wasn’t comfortable yet and lo and behold boundaries were 100% respected. that’s actually one of the (many) telling things that showed me he was different from other men and that I had a keeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 10:52 PM
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We work in the same building and have slightly different hours: I get there before and leave before he does. I left a cute card on his desk. I’m cooking up some ribs tonight for him too :) I DID just purchase and plan a weekend trip for his birthday coming up but he doesn’t know about that yet, so I don’t think it counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 02:36 PM
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That can’t be environmentally friendly. Could you at least properly dispose of your man husks after you’ve extracted them? My goodness, we ladies don’t have our manners anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 11:20 PM
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Skepticism is the first step 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 09:47 PM
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Optimistic women end up with helpless manbabies for husbands too. lmao but he has POTENTIAL. naw.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 09:43 PM
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lmao how?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 02:38 AM
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Back when I was single, I would outright refuse to engage with men who looked like/were the typical “Chad.” I wish more men would take this advice. I am by no means a 10 or whatever your weird shallow measurement is to most men, but I’m totally a 10 to my husband. As he is to me: I would say that he is not the demographic (5’8, ginger, freckles, and very toned but not shredded) that MOST women are attracted to, but I am completely gone for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 10:56 PM
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Joe Rogan is great! Good example.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 10:37 PM
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Terry Crews Strength, honesty, respect, overwhelming positivity and optimism, takes care of himself, uses his position to help and protect others. His masculinity lifts others up around him versus tearing them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 10:33 PM
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Are you having a stroke?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 11:58 PM
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The bar was on the damned floor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 11:55 AM
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This hits home. I was in an LTR with an ex who would have probably lived in filth if it wasn’t for the women who took care of him. In hindsight I should have probably recognized the pattern but I saw “potential” (ladies, never fall for his damned “potential” you always get disappointed). He was also “nice” meaning that he would get flowers for my birthday and not abuse me. Didn’t do much else beyond that. We both worked full time but I was the only one doing the work at home. He would literally …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 11:08 AM
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Oh okay I think I get it. So if I knit my husband a sweater and we have sex, he’s the prostitute?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 12:31 PM
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So when prostitutes take drugs as payment, that is... not prostitution?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 12:16 PM
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lol this presumes that I’ve never had a one night stand before. how else do you think I found out how shitty they are? a woman can only fake so many orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 12:14 PM
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Can a man pay a woman in sex for her domestic services?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:59 AM
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No, it still is repulsive. Those kind of men end up hurting you. But then again, I have never understood the point of a hookup: men are, as a group, terrible at sex anyway and I found out very early that I can get better sexual satisfaction from a vibrator and not have to worry about whatever venereal disease he has, AND my heart won’t get broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:57 AM
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They both are performing work. Is he prostituting himself out so she can clean up, cook him food, and raise his kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:50 AM
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I absolutely wouldn’t have considered my husband when I was that young as he was doing carefree and sometimes dangerous things. Likewise, I wasn’t stable and I hadn’t yet dealt with a lot of trauma before my mid 20s. When we met in our late 20s, things were much different. I wasn’t sleeping with anyone in my teens, but if I slept with and married, say, the few in my early 20s, I would most certainly have had a short, miserable marriage. A man’s quality and value really isn’t considered when you’…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:39 AM
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I guess it is if you view the wife as a product, possession, or just a thing that dispenses sex. Many men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:23 AM
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Completely put off by the lifestyle. If you’re making that kind of money, why aren’t dumping that into investments or start-ups? Those kind of people who brag about monthly vacations and extravagant parties are some of the most painful people to listen to in my industry. They’re all the same. Don’t get me wrong: I like nice things but I like things in moderation. My husband and I travel frequently but we also like saving and investing. Some of the best trips we’ve ever had were out the back of o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 02:31 PM
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So glad I married someone with the best qualities of both of these guys... eek. My first reaction to say is neither, but if I absolutely had to pick one I’d say chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 02:15 PM
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I am turned off by men who are too “nice,” yeah. Mostly because in my experience the ones who are rolling out the red carpet are expecting sex in return and I don’t want to owe anyone anything. “Nice guys” are oftentimes manipulative and as soon as you don’t put out, they quickly become not-so-nice. At least the assholes are honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 02:05 PM
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No, and please leave your conspiracy theories at the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 08:06 PM
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No, because males are not systemically exploited in porn for men’s pleasure, by men, for men’s profit. They can be abused, certainly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 08:05 PM
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If you’re not mature enough to have this conversation, I will stop responding.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 07:58 PM
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It’s not “super crazy hyper militant” feminism, but rather feminism which “grasps at the root.” Radical feminists understand that the root of female oppression is due to their sex, and not “gender”, and understand that historically it was due to our capability to give birth. It’s different in that it rejects gender and gender roles completely, is critical of “sex work” and pornography, and analyzes female oppression from a class perspective as opposed to an individual one. Regular, liberal femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 07:48 PM
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Full disclosure, I’m a far more rad-leaning feminist than I am a liberal feminist. I also have the added excitement of being critical of leftist, socialist, and communist styles of government: interpret that how you will. Based solely on the definition above, my marriage is more modern than traditional. I make more than he does, I am more formally educated (my MBA to his BS), and I am the more traditionally career-oriented one. We make decisions in tandem, we care for our home equally (I do laun…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 01:49 AM
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