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May I suggest that you find a place to get out of your head and this situation: Go hiking in the nature you find peaceful. Try fishing, in the early morning or during dusk. Go camping in a tent. Take a drive or a long bike ride. Find joy in something that gives you a chance to just breathe and be in the moment. Break the fight or flight response that your body is stuck in at the moment. You are going to be okay! You are loveable just the way you are and your kids need you! You are perfect being …
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 04:34 AM
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Had to look that one up LOL
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 05:50 PM
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What is the more besides all of the qualities that ensure love: safety, trust, integrity, honor, compassion, empathy, values, etc
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 08:48 PM
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Not talking about divorce at the moment, because that exemplifies all the ways and reasons we all sabotage this basic need.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 08:44 PM
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Please go to therapy with your kids...
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 04:01 PM
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I am trying not to do that, but like the other guys said: if you want something in life you fight for it. Right or wrong that is where I am at. I value our commitment and our history together. But, I am at a very fine line between healthy and unhealthy and have been pushed into a corner this week. If my wife no longer can say out loud that she loves me and explain what she loves about me, then I have some real issues that I am going to try to work on. Specifically, why would you love someone tha…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 10:33 AM
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Well said brother! I said it a different way on another post, but 100% agree. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/149b4cl/looking_for_wisdomencouragement/jo4eehf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 03:05 PM
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I too have been going through this for the last couple of months and have too reached a place of peace but did it a little differently and thought I would share this link from another post that I got some good responses back on: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/149b4cl/looking_for_wisdomencouragement/jo4eehf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 02:52 PM
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I am not on the other side of divorce, but have currently going through it for the last (30 years) 2 months. I too did not believe in divorce, but 2 things I have figured out in the last 2 months: "crazy finds crazy" and "broken finds broken". Now we are all a little crazy and broken, but I have come to realize that I chose a partner to teach me the things I needed to learn. What made the concept of divorce for me so difficult was that I think I couldn't understand a lot things about how we got …
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 04:50 PM
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Married 30 years as well and that is a large investment. My mother-in-law who was married over 50 years shared a great story with me. She said, in her day, divorce was not really an option or that she would have divorced her husband many times... She said that love is not like the movies where there is always frolicking and passionate love though. But she did say that the payoff is in your golden years when you have someone that knows you as a young man, your successes, your famil experiences, a…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 07:19 AM
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From your post I believe you believe what you are doing is not working and that is a great place to be, because you know something is wrong. Alcohol and Meth literally change the brain... Might I suggest getting some professional help to first get off the drugs you are on and maybe even get on some antidepressants as you work through the reasons you need to numb so much pain.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 06:52 AM
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Actually I don't plan on getting married ever again...I believe to committing to a woman if you want to have babies with them, but our legal system with divorce definitely needs to be updated with men's rights. I think this post relates most regarding your statement "understanding them". I see a very one sided view of women on this site. I believe like all people that we all different and cannot only be classified in one particular way. Finding healthy people in this world is a challenge.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 04:47 PM
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Had to look that one up...I am good with that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 03:39 PM
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I can't believe how much this site is helping me. I also can't believe there are other men going through the same thing that I have kept a secret for years. I wonder if we are the select few or if there are more... I think I can sum up what I have been feeling probably for most of my life, because it hurts when I say it out loud: "I am unloveable". Now before you all write me that I am crazy for feeling that way, I already know that logically but emotionally that is how I feel. As you all stated…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 04:28 PM
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Okay, I am not the just bail guy... A few weeks into retirement? Who doesn't have a hard time with that? Routines have been broken! She like you is probably scared at the fact it's just you and her now... 40 years of probably kids, vacations, pets, and challenges...you both know each other better than any other person alive. Shit, tell her your scared, tell her you lost something that gave you purpose, tell her your scared that your intruding on your space but need your best friend. 40 years was…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:59 AM
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I get it...It all comes down to achieving self-worth. I know I am worthy of more, even though it's now going to cost me a fortune.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 08:15 PM
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Thank you! I am a first timer posting my feelings/pain for all the world to see, but all of you guys have helped to make me feel better. Don't feel like I can trust a women or immediate family at the moment, so pleasantly surprised. I too love boating and plan to become part of one of the local boat clubs. Thanks again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 08:08 PM
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Fight for your kids, by fighting for your marriage. If you still want to have sex with her then you still probably have feelings for her. The fact that you are both still so passionate, makes me think there are still feelings there; which is so much better than a dead marriage. If the marriage can be saved, while the kids are young, my two cents would be to try to save it. You can always get divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 03:59 PM
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Thanks for reaching out...I think I just needed to put it out there and see what I received back. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to a complete stranger in need. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 03:06 PM
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