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I highly recommend dumping him, focussing on your mind/body/familyschool/job, then in 2 years dating someone aged 25 with a fully developed brain. Thank me later.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 01:46 PM
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I think it's not that important for SMV, but rather depending on your facial shape (bone structure) and beauty. Clear skin can enhance that, of course....but a young woman's beautiful face with some acne and discolouration will stay beautiful to most.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 12:22 AM
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We need much more info on him to advise you. You have to at least outline the "hells" he has been through a bit, otherwise this sounds sketchy. Also, what does he work with now and how is he planning to better himself career wise in the coming years? Why are you not sure if he hasn't had any girlfriend yet but are writing speculatively... i you have been dating already for half a year? Do you not communicate clearly/are you afraid to ask him? What makes him a man of principles and God?
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 12:09 AM
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Musts for me: shower and deodorant once a day, face cleanse once a day PM (in the morning, only spraying some toner and applying SPF is enough for me), extensive toothcare once a day PM and quick brush once a day AM, shaving armpits/vagene/legs 1x a week (don't care if it's stubbly in between), washing and conditioning hair 1x a week as a minimum for my dry curly hair, tweezing stray chin hairs every other day as to not look raggedy.....tinted lip balm and tinted eyebrow gel daily.... and that's…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 01:00 AM
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Why exactly do you think this belongs here? Being a redpilled woman has nothing to do with being subservient to a dumb macho.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 11:56 PM
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Good for you. It's top priority for me, too, to have a partner that cares about their health and fitness.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 11:09 PM
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Yep, gotta love a good sourdough bread.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 01:07 AM
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Oatmeal for instance is often topped with lots of syrup/honey/agave/etc. and/or fruit. It can be a sugar bomb. Don't know how you prepare yours. The sandwhich bread quality, as well as mayo and turkey quality can differ a lot, too. Again, I don't know what you buy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 01:35 PM
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Can totally imagine that, especially running around several kids :) Nice!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 10:01 AM
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Avoid refined sugars, white bread, hardened fats and frying too much of your food in (edit: heat unstable) oil/fats. Avoid consuming too much sugar throughout the day to keep insulin levels and inflammation low (edit: if you eat a particularly high fiber diet and less fat together with sugar, that mitigates the risk of sugar). Besides that, depending on your diet (edit: are you doing keto for instance, other rules may apply), it is difficult to categorise entire foods as unhealthy. What do you e…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 10:24 AM
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I am skipping breakfast and it is legit. Intermittent fasting is a great low effort way to keep in shape and do something for your health (of course you still need to eat health oriented during your eating window). I have a much better digestion that way, no hunger attacks, and feel more mentally stable.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 10:20 AM
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My advise would be to summon your family and friends, be very shamelessly honest in what levels of support you need, and do everything in your power to get healthy these next 2 years or so and not even think about LTRs and the future and all that. Therapy, medication, reduced workload, whatever is needed& possible. Even unconventional treatments, such as microdosing lsd have helped people to live more joyfully. Do your skincare and teeth religiously for a month and let that be your only daily go…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 12:33 AM
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Yep, I agree with this. I would obviously love to have the resources models have for that extra push of accountability (--> if the personal trainer is standing next to me, observing me and coaching me, I really need to do it). But I am literate enough to have all the info I need to eat in a way that is fitness smart and healthy, as well as exercise regularly (30 dollars a month for the gym including some available group classes) to keep in shape. Gal Gadot does not have an out of this world figu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 10:26 PM
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Why don't you have friends and no social life? You are now financially secure unlike your parents. You have made it, congratulations. Maybe you still suffer from poverty mentality, making you only focus your attention on work? What do you do all day besides working, if you have no friends? One nice thing about a relationship is that you also get to meet your partners friend circle and for it to merge with yours. A quality man would want his woman to be a match in that regard. An abusive man woul…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 10:10 PM
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Try to believe your husband. I don't think any of what he says must be him "just being nice". Personally, I think pregnant women often look much more beautiful than their non pregnant selfs, too! And I could imagine that to many men, there is something very primally beautiful about a pregnant woman (fertility, nurturing). Especially so, if this is your own woman. So believe him. I have never been pregnant, but I follow mum's on Instagram and Youtube and usually the rule is: who is fit and discip…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 12:43 PM
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It's so sad that with seemingly shameful topics, there is this tendency to delete the post. I have seen this so many times here. We are all going through shit, and it would be great if we could keep the discussions open for others to read. It's such a women thing to do, to scrap everything and thus be dishonest about our imperfections :/ . It's not nice to those who answered, imho, either....
/r/RedPillWives04/11/18 02:19 AM
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Youth counts as appeal if you are also physically beautiful. It does not, if you are bland looking in "plain cheap v necks and black jeans" without charme or anything going for yourself. You can absolutely coast by and actually very far on youth coupled with striking looks, though, but that is a small group of women.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 01:56 AM
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I somehow don't believe that this post is not a joke. Sorry. OP, are you developmentally challenged in a any way? Did your parents coddle you (emotionally and or financially)? Have you been traumatised in any way (e.g. social ostracism/bullying or family trauma), resulting in living in a fantasy world and dissociating, rather than living and exploring? All these are genuine questions. You sound super naive. Look around at how 30 year old women look these days: no, they do not all of a sudden sta…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 01:51 AM
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Do you know Mari Kondo's "The life changing magic of tidying up"? It's a great read and really changed my attitude towards cleaning, organization and homemaking. I really appreciate her feminine approach of being gentle towards your possessions and really valuing them with great care. At the same time, she is also super rational and no bullshit about how do declutter stuff in a way that it stays neat.
/r/RedPillWives04/11/18 12:28 AM
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Do you masturbate, tho? Or also no interest in that? How long are you together? Have you been like this before?
/r/RedPillWives02/11/18 08:18 PM
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Lol you are right, I know.....but I am also aware of the fact that you unfortunately cannot control your kids (then already grownups) to that extent.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 12:31 PM
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I shared this advice/quote here before, but I love it so much: Highschool is for meeting your bridesmaids, not your groom. It's brilliant advise imho. I hate young girls getting too high on love and too invested in romantic love, before their brains have actually fully developed. It's cringy, it too often has codependent tendencies...and it happens a lot of times. It's much better to focus on friendship and interests, developing oneself, rather than playing wifey from 16-23 (in worse cases even …
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 12:29 AM
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My partner is a bit shorter than me....it's not an issue for either of us. Doesn't make me less feminine or him less masculine. It's all about his frame.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 01:59 PM
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Textbook behaviour of an abusive person. Doesn't really want you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 08:03 PM
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He is going a step toward you because he knows he has to. If he introduces you to his family, he knows that move will pull a bit on your heartstrings. He sounds like a huge loser honestly. What does he do professionally and how old is he?
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 06:52 PM
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Reading his messages gives me a headache. He sounds lazy and apologetic in an annoying way. A guy either wants you or not. I would stop sending cute pics and also stop messaging. This coming from a non-passive aggressive and needy place. He's not that into you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 11:44 AM
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That's amazing your insurance covers WEEKLY accupuncture! I am kind of jealous :p . May I ask, which country you are from and if you have medical issues, or if this is something for anyone in your insurance? My mum also got massages etc. covered, but only because he has some circulatory 'issues'.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 11:35 AM
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Why am I being downvoted if I may ask? These are genuine and relevant questions and concerns. There are many women, who are fooling themselves into a tough career lifestyle not mainly for themselves, but for family/peer/societal pressures. I think it's valid to ask, where that drive comes from. If it's genuine passion and superhuman ability, it's great. But most "normal" women would not manage that 80-100 a week workload in a healthy way. That is a fact and that is all.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 01:05 AM
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Super! If you are upfront about your goals and won't let yourself be strung along by someone not willing to commit, and have many dates, I see no reason for you not to find a suitable partner within your wanted timeframe. I like the analytical nature of your post. I wish more women would think ahead like that....I totally got strung along by a partner that was not marriage material in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 11:18 PM
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Yes you need to find someone similar. Maybe write that into your tinder/dating app bio to weed out those that are not high achievers. Maybe a dating app for academics/professionals?
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 11:07 PM
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That is great news then. Should be a doable task, to squeeze 2 children into your timeline, even with fertility problems (for example one at 33, one at 35...or even later). You will also have the money to do the needed treatments, should issues arise. I would date around a lot now if I were you. I don't agree with this mentality of "wanting to prevent having baggage". You need plenty of exposure to find someone to bond with you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 11:01 PM
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Are your parents demanding of you to be something big or have your parents been very demanding (I have an African immigrant dad and know that pressure)? Is your identity and self worth tied up a lot with that career goal of being a surgeon or comparing yourself with your medical peers? I don't think having a passion for any field justifies working up to 400h a months in it and wasting the best childrearing years. To me, that is insanity. You need to be attractive also in your energy. What is the…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 10:43 PM
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Is it possible to work as a surgeon part time? I don't know the industry.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 10:42 PM
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Why would you rather not practice at all then?
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 10:33 PM
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I honestly think it should be more common to be upfront when one is searching for a partner and have friends scout :) Good luck with that. I would be turned off if I was a man, to enter a relationship with you or have children with you under those circumstances. 80-100 hours a week for the next 6 years and not calculated in the time to get to and from work and to decompress after...is there any time left for you, him, romance? It's a no from me, and I don't know how a woman can be a decent partn…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 10:26 PM
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How many hours do you work + are occupied with studying/work related stuff each day? How time consuming is the training you will be in the next 6 years? I would ask friends to think of suitable dating candidates in their group of acquaintances for you and also actively pursue dating apps. Do you want to continue working full time with 2 children, how will life as a surgeon look like?
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 10:07 PM
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It's a turnoff you are asking for that sum at all, after all the luxuries she already afforded you. You will be easily able to save that yourself over the years being married to somebody that wealthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 12:43 AM
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Shiiit....that sucks for your mum!
/r/RedPillWives08/10/18 08:50 PM
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Of course, am aware of that :). It doesn't help me to focus on the extremes, though.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/18 08:49 PM
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Ugh, that sounds rough for you friend. Can't do anything about unfortunate genetics. I would not mind going down the surgery route in case I will be wrecked like her after pregnancies. Luckily, c sections are often avoidable and stretch marks fade and can be lasered to some extent.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/18 04:59 PM
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Hell no. He is not respectful or open about this at all, but sneakily imposing something on you, that you did not sign up for. I also don't know who told you that having 2 moms is ideal? This is not a well accepted way of living in most Western countries and your family& that child will likely run into issues with "regular" people. It's especially not great for baby if it feels that mum is not enthusiastic about that setup, but harbors resentment. It's such a naive way of thinking that a baby sh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 03:41 PM
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Great for you :)! I can't stand people that are with partners they need to complain about to their buddies.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 03:30 PM
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Nooo don't worry, this is absolutely inspiration, too! Thanks for sharing :D
/r/RedPillWives28/09/18 10:01 AM
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Yes please :)
/r/RedPillWives27/09/18 08:24 PM
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Sorry you are going through this. I have dealt with depression myself and would probably quit, before putting myself through several more years of something I hate and that causes/caused my depression. To me, in hindsight, I would have preferred to quit my own studies rather then pushing through it, because I was left with anhedonia when I was done. The people I know that quit are doing better. One woman I know from uni quit after a year, met a great high value guy and had a child (at age 24) an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 03:48 PM
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Mhh, I get where you are coming from! An ugly guy can do a lot with charm, athleticism or status, a girl/woman not so much.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 11:26 PM
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Can you get psychotherapy covered via your insurance? The way your dad was primed you for violent boyfriends. Before going into any new relationship, it is important to work on not being somebody that violent guys see as prey. He does not have his shit together and you deserve better. If there were kids involved and you were old, maybe one could think about going the extra mile and entertaining the idea of therapy....but not in this case.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 05:06 PM
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That is very true lol. But the parents are health conscious, active, smart people and they don't live in the US. I think he will be pretty fine weight wise. Maybe he will be bald...but that doesn't make a man ugly imho if the bone structure is fine etc. (my partner is bald :D ). But of course, there is never a guarantee for anything. He might become disfigured or what do I know.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 08:46 PM
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Besides what has been said here: reduce your sugar intake (also from "good" sources such as fruit), look into intermittent fasting.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 11:07 PM
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That coated tongue with the piercing...the heavy eyeliner and nude lips...that fried hair....the necklace....how can you look SO trashy?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/09/18 10:05 PM
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Very important points, thanks for mentioning. I will make sure my kids will do sports and model that behaviour. Mouth breathing is something I will also watch out for...I have seen the fucked up effects in my own family.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 09:56 PM
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Very important points, thanks for mentioning. I will make sure my kids will do sports and model that behaviour. Mouth breathing is something I will also watch out for...I have seen the fucked up effects in my own family.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 09:55 PM
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Wow, that's rough. Gal is the older one, so that rule applies here, again.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 11:38 AM
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I cannot guess the answers other women will have to this question, no. As you can see, the responses are very mixed.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 09:10 PM
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Is your sister the first child of your parents, or the first female child of your parents? I heard the theory, that firsts can be much prettier than the remaining children, especially if there is a small age gap in between, as mum's get vitamin/mineral wise depleted with every pregnancy. Nutrition seems to play a big role in beauty, very fascinating....does your LTR have siblings?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 05:32 PM
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There you have it. It's a lot of work to convince yourself you are worthy, after dealing with rejection in the formative years. I had braces for 5 years as a teen, acne and a weird body shape...even when I became attractive I did not see or feel it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 05:26 PM
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Thanks. Trying to make sure to provide a stable marriage/household for future children.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/18 04:50 PM
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The power of being beautiful. Just wow.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/18 04:33 PM
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That's great. I never understood why there should be a problem in men using flashlights and the like. My female friends (around 25-30 years old, rather feminist) think similarly. My partner is really not interested, though. I think if he gets one, it will probably be me gifting it for curiosity ;) . Don't know how old you are or were you come from, but I don't see this as an issue anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:22 PM
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I always think cases like these are really fascinating. Seems to be a lot of luck involved, yeah.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:17 PM
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I come from a non traditional, unstable household with divorced, parents and no discipline. I put my morals together myself based on the things I felt were lacking in my upbringing. My father is a very refined, academic man, though, so I knew he was judging...even though he was not guiding or present.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/18 03:59 PM
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Yes, the latter would be deal breakers. Not interested in fucking up the health of an unborn child if it can be avoided.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:55 PM
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Bruce's genes are really strong, but not in a good way. Even with his new wife.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:54 PM
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I am a woman. I still don't understand how a fat&scruffy looking woman with several children and 2 (!) partners can have the self esteem to put herself on an app like this. This is absolutely delusional. Women are showered with dick, I agree, but the one's that are no beauty queens usually know and behave accordingly imho.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/18 03:49 PM
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I really wonder were these people get their self esteem from?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/18 03:34 PM
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Ahhhh, okay! I heard about this in terms of overall health. Would make sense, that it would be because of beauty, too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:20 PM
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"With that said I do think a huge amount of attraction (maybe even the vast majority of it) is based in wanting certain genes for one's offspring. This goes for beauty as well as intelligence, charisma, athleticism, etc." -I don't get this part, can you explain?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:13 PM
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P.s. My father also was an immigrant, sending money home....and that was extremely difficult for my mother to deal with (having two small children). The relatives usually don't stop asking and have no perspective of the hustle of their relative in Europe. It's super stressful for the guy that wants to naturally provide. Stuff like this destroys men and thus marriages. I would absolutely not go into a relationship like this as a 20 year old educated woman in my prime years. You can do much better…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 02:47 PM
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You are 20, together since 4 months, in love for the first time and have rose coloured glasses on. The economy is shit in Italy, even people with PhD often cannot find a proper job. If you wanna go back and be a housewife, you definitely need a man with a better education and future for himself. If at least his family was well off, it would not matter so much, that he is only working in a fast food joint, because you could get support for your children etc. From a redpill perspective, I don't se…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 02:39 PM
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Nah, you can really already see it in the bone structure and overall facial symmetry with this kid. The mother is the same type: beautiful since birth. No awkward teen phase even. Just surprisingly good genetics. It's definitely also how she got the confidence to get that high quality man (not just in the looks department).
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:40 PM
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That is very true of course! Forgot to write that a beautiful partner of course does not guarantee things. From my observation of beautiful people, though, one parent is/was usually beautiful or at least has "striking"/"strong" features, such as high cheekbones/good facial bone structure. But of course, also ugly or average parents can make beautiful children. In the case of my friend, both her and her partner are beautiful people :p.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:33 PM
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How have you improved? What are your physical and non-physical "flaws" that in your eyes decrease your SMV? Do you have daddy issues or have been unwanted in school by guys? Sometimes that really messes with women and they undervalue themselves as only plate material. Honestly, with the right willpower and a nice enough face....you can usually get a high SMV guy (if you are not old). It's mostly in the head in my observation. Or lack of willpower combined with denial (e.g. concerning weight and …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:33 PM
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You need to RELAX. Dear god. Red Pill Theory is good and practical, but you sound depressed and too much in your head about an old relationship. Forgive yourself. Sometimes losing something good helps us grow and focus on what we want. You are in the prime of your life and you can have another wonderful relationship with a great guy and you thinking straight this time. At least with a next relationship you will not have that voice in your head at age 40 "Did I squander my youth, staying with the…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:24 PM
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I have the feeling you misunderstood what I said. What I mean with "deserve": she needs to behave as if she deserves what she has, which in my opinion she has (as explained by LooksSafeFromFarAway by her having chosen her- for whatever qualities that is). I am not saying that she deserves a high quality man MORE than another similarly attractive etc. woman. It's the same in university or at the job: you gotta decide to behave as if you belong there and deserve what you have based on the qualitie…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 10:30 PM
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P.S: Just because he is rich and affords you certain luxuries....don't overwork yourself. That is poverty mentality in my opinion. You upgraded, but you need to believe that you deserve that lifestyle and stay realistic with your abilities :) .
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 11:51 AM
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You cannot work 13 h shifts in a high stress environment, on top of that be in charge over others doing their job correctly at work, and come home energetically and bubbly. Even when you are 20 this is not realistic. As long as you are not snappy or pissed when you get home but just want it quiet, there is no issue here. I would make it very clear what you deal with at work and that you are reacting normally. He will understand. The other days you can be your normal energetic self. Yes, and get …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 11:47 AM
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Oh wow, sorry about this situation. Is he "lazy"/"depressed" in other areas of life? You should ask him exactly what you asked here and let him know how important it is for you to have a healthy, active sex life and to feel wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 10:53 AM
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Mhh, my partner's penis also has a strong curve, but its more hurtful for me. Well, what about only doing the position that works for him plus oral sex? He needs to want to be a dad, otherwise it might ruin the marriage. If he could promise you that you start actively trying in 2 years from now...how would that be for you? p.s. : is he ever really horny? (or is he giving you slightly asexual vibes?)
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 12:07 AM
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Forgive yourself for sleeping with someone else when you were apart. After being cheated on 3 times and separated....it's does not speak of terrible character. Some people can't be monogamous. I honestly don't think your man is made for a monogamous relationship. What does he say?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 11:58 PM
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Is he fat/super unfit/has a disability (arthritis or something?). Are you fat? Because usually at age 27 you should find a few positions that are comfy. Do you talk about the wish for a baby a lot? Could be he is turned off by that/afraid. I understand that at 27 and only 2 years in the relationship and newly married, he feels like there is plenty of time to enjoy before children. Sounds sane, I would want the same as a guy I guess. He could also have performance anxiety because he went into the…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 11:50 PM
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Do you know why you are pessimistic and moody? For instance, are your hormones in check (thyroid levels)? Is your weight in check and you are satisfied with your looks? Do you have traumas you need to work on from your childhood for instance? Are you surrounding yourself with people that are pessimistic or gossipy? Are you satisfied with your education and career? I honestly never see people having a poor attitude, who are satisfied with or worked on aforementioned things. So before you have tho…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 12:00 PM
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Yes I think that is true :) Or, even if you cannot make the relationship with your dad work, you need to work on progressing what has happened (through whatever works for you: therapy, books, audio books, journalling) and then making the active choice of being done with the past. I see "daddy issues" in nearly all my friend's issues with dating...same for mine. There is often this inner child that feels undeserving of love, leading to all sorts of drama and issues. Even if things are good.
/r/RedPillWives21/08/18 08:33 PM
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Good for you, congrats on finding such a great partner :) I don't have kids, but good to see what is possible.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 08:22 PM
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Damn, people can be fucked. Can you try to talk in private to a female university peer -without the possibility to be creepshamed by others- about a study topic...just as a challenge? To get used to talking? And the to not beat yourself up on how poorly you did? You need to train this. You are so young, there is so much time and possibilities, you eventually will get better. Are you good at any subject? If I were in your position, I would probably nerd myself into it in such a way that my skills…
/r/askTRP21/08/18 02:20 PM
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I totally agree with you, but I also think looking for a 42-45 year old who has his shit together insofar as that he can hold down a full time employment is not grasping for the stars haha. I think at 30, with decent looks, this is more than doable. It's her mindset that is keeping her back.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 02:14 PM
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Oh wow, that is impressive to hear! Are you particularly beautiful or used to always be beautiful (and therefore have that "I deserve" spirit going on), if I may ask? I never see these things happening in real life, or I never see the second husband willing to raise another man's children as being a "quality" man with a good job, but usually rather beta.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 02:12 PM
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How old are you? Do you talk to your female classmates casually or not at all? Do you have a male friend in uni? How effective is the lifting? How about then kissing a single mother for the fun of it, to get that experience? Good to start with something and young mothers are not necessarily old hags because they had a child lol (looking at my friends who already had children).
/r/askTRP21/08/18 02:00 PM
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Can you speak your mind freely with the therapist? Do you feel any improvement by being there?
/r/askTRP21/08/18 01:53 PM
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As someone wit Asperger and lack of social skills and an aura of frustration&depression around him, attractive young women will not see you as attractive/dating material. You need to be realistic and stop feeling bitter about the world. Just because you are in university and not in high school anymore, does not mean that things change and you will all of a sudden not seem weird to others if you have been weird until now. As a woman, I absolutely think that with the right mindset, you will have s…
/r/askTRP21/08/18 01:34 PM
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Thank for sharing. Do you still feel a sense of guilt about your last relationship, or does what happened with your ex make you panicky about the future? In my opinion, I read a lot of thought and reflection and that is good, but can also be too much. I hope you have forgiven yourself and left your ex on good terms...if not, that you can have a friendly talk again to apologise and thank for the time spent. That always helped me in the past at least (because I tend to ruminate about mistakes made…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/18 12:19 PM
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OP, you still have some years left. It's not healthy to bite your tongue all the time, some things just need to be talked about. If he fucked up his good position due to negligience...why should you bite your tongue? You are 30. With a good lifestyle, most people still pass as 25 at that stage. Hell, the 60 year old mother of my best friend is in better physical shape than most 30 year olds (lifts regularly, can do handstands etc.). If you let yourself go in any way, now is the time to fix that.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 11:49 AM
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That is really tough advise but it resonates with my feelings about this post, too. If OP doesn't look bad or is out of shape, it is absolutely not too late too find a good guy at 30. Especially not, if looking at guys who are around 12 years older like OP's husband.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 11:12 AM
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How long was your last relationship and how long are you single? How did you change and grown (please give some examples) and what tools did you use to do so? I think it is easier to give you a response with a bit more background info :)
/r/RedPillWives20/08/18 09:11 PM
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Come on...she is obviously gorgeous before, during and after pregnancy. It is the only way she could pull that new man (also naturally handsome looking) so fast after giving birth. Only a beautiful woman can do something like that.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/18 10:07 PM
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Really refreshing perspective. I am not a mother, but I guess if we would hear more uplifting stories, it would prime us to see things more positively. I have an issue though: this article is written by an extremely financially privileged individual, the daughter of former world bank chief economist Kaushik Basu. Of course, everything is less of a sacrifice, when you are set like that. Mothers talk about sacrifice, because being a mother in many countries is often a huge sacrifice (needing to go…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/18 11:22 AM
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I hope by the time I have a daughter, I can model her the behaviours that I wish her to have. I already know from my own childhood/teens that advise and "wisdom" doesn't really work most of the time. I mainly wish my mum would have modelled self care, being athletic, having enough self respect and self love to not be with shitty men, and how to be responsible with money. Among many other things.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 09:47 PM
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I will advise my future daughter/s to not be too invested in relationships from 15 (or when they start "dating") to -let's say- 20 years old. I want them to not forget everything else around them...and to not waste their teenage years on being too wifey-ish. They will have plenty of time for that later in life. I see that happen with young girls a lot and I think it's problematic. I saw a quote the other day that went similar to this: "use your teens to find your bridesmaids, not your groom." :D…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 09:41 PM
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I have watched a few videos with her and her sister...and they are always of litttle value. Such a shame, because I would love to hear their in depth insights (e.g. on dating as a traditional young woman).
/r/RedPillWives12/08/18 11:39 PM
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I don't get those percentages at all. How can skin, eyes, hair and teeth be of such little importance? Together with facial structure and body shape, those are the things that make a woman naturally beautiful (barely looking at superficial things, of course).
/r/RedPillWives12/08/18 11:35 PM
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Hehe good to hear ;) I think it's great that you are trying to make it right for everyone, but please be cautious of not overworking yourself or being too perfectionistic. This "insecure" mommy people pleaser energy might be what some men abuse or get used to (I am not bashing your man, I am just saying it is very important that you don't just do everything, but that you don't hide how difficult it is WHAT you are already doing so he can help or you find solutions such as that you get a housecle…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 06:18 PM
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he is a fool for saying that. you are working full time (night shifts!) with a 7 month old baby. what more does he expect from you?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 03:40 PM
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No, it's not unwelcome at all. Thanks for your input. However, I think, that he and most guys would assume most women would think that way from their experience, no? A man with a shitty family, in a shit job and no university degree is not attractive to most women for those qualities. I think it's better to not be in denial about it and work on it. That doesn't change my love, tho.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 11:08 AM
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Makes sense. I come from a single mom household with 2 more sisters and all my male friends are not married and without children...in many ways I have a blind spot when it comes to those men's issues. So thx for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 12:33 AM
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omg that absolutely fucked up :(
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 12:19 AM
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You mean it could have negative effects on kids in a non-married relationship? Don't get that first sentence. :D About the bridal salon....I can only imagine. I get second hand stress when I hear people just talking about all that marriage preparation work. It's obscene to me a lot of times.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 11:24 PM
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I honestly rarely look at it that way. Thx for pointing that out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 11:21 PM
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This is what I am going to do, yes. Personal carer, maybe in a nursing home, get work credit make contacts, ace the language...and have an easier way getting into nursing. I think I am in a midlife crisis about having expected to be at a different point in life now and about doing the wrong study choice for the economic situation. I have a certain entitlement due to having a university degree, too :/ I honestly thought I would be in a different place in life, now...and I am begrudging my upbring…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 10:35 PM
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Yes you are right. I started to to do consciously work with giving to others even though I feel like I have not much to give (and not judging myself for that it's not enough) and also after reading about it, to visualise happiness for other's achievements and abundance, to take away the twinges of envy. I am now at the point where pregnancies of friends don't phase me and I am not cynical about it anymore, which is relieving. I would not be able to have a child exactly NOW anyway. It sucks to be…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 10:26 PM
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Thank you :) . It was a shock to question those beliefs, to say the least.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 10:13 PM
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I had a passion I wanted to pursue with a good friend and we thought had potential, that's why we started that business. My degree is quite useless here and I lack job experience in that field, economy is bad and locals are preferred over foreigners for the relevant jobs in my field. I am currently in the process of perfecting my language skills and getting certificates for language proficiency needed for certain jobs. My focus has been on the business, but as it won't sustain me, I gotta really…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 08:13 PM
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Correct lol very important you say. In that sense, our goals are very short term in getting our individual financial situation better in 2018. He can apply for social security in the summer, which he doesn't want to apply for, but that is when he feels safe enough to hunt for a new job. We are both late bloomers in the job department :/ find it difficult to plan farther into the future atm. I am thinking about learning to become a nurse and ditching my business efforts, which would take years, b…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 08:07 PM
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I would be okay with not marrying, if that comes from a "pure" choice from both partners and is not due to fear of commitment. For me, marriage is a celebration and a statement of commitment, but it is not needed. If people manage a healthy relationship for decades unmarried, I don't respect or value the married relationship that lasts the same time any longer. Coming from divorced parents, marriage has become unattractive to me. Many women delude themselves by thinking it will make the relation…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 07:01 PM
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Thanks for your input :) I already see how we both benefitted from being in a relationship. We were able to rent a nice apartment closer to his work by pooling our money and his quality of life is much better now and mine, too. The bachelor lifestyle was quite shabby on him and I think he carries himself better now. I talked about my life goals with him and we match well. He shares the wish for children and he -like me- would like to own a house one day. He is good at building things and very sm…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 06:51 PM
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Thank you for your response! I am very patient and not the nagging type, but the internal chatter and resentfulness is more directed towards ME and that is draining. I don't feel like there is much time and that I should come up with a plan soon and be really focussed on the children goal rather than letting that slip like many women do (he wants children, too, also 3). Then again, maybe it is possible to live a good life with little material wealth? I am surrounded by wealthy people and I am gr…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 06:30 PM
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I probably used the term trade incorrectly. I mean his training. He is not a plumber, carpenter etc. His expertise is systems administrator/website/graphic design. Partly self taught. Something that is not in high demand but he does on the side a bit...but he does not have that much job experience in it, due to his main job taking most of the time. We are both 28. I am also a migrant here, am from a more wealthy/respected European country and have a Masters degree (social sciences related and ac…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 06:11 PM
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