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Just because OPs STBX is a SAHM doesn’t mean that OP wasn’t cleaning, cooking, and nannying. My ex wife was SAHM and pulled a fair share of the weight… but so did I… never once did I sit down and watch tv or relax when my work day was over or on the weekends, to be fair she didn’t do much relaxing either But I think that should be taken into account not the silly law of 50/50 If OP didn’t pull his fair share when his workday was over shame on him, his ex wife is in the divorced women sub complai…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 10:15 AM
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To reiterate I already have a separation agreement that was drafted by attorneys… it cost me 10,000$ Not trying to pay another 10 The rest is just paperwork All the negotiations have already happened
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 01:26 PM
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Yes, splitting equity in home and assets ( which will most likely be a bloodbath … not looking forward to that)
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/22 12:32 PM
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I didn’t realize that remarriage leads to suspension of child support?
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 09:24 AM
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Well 3400 of her 5300 goes to the mortgage of the house we own together for the next 2.5 years, then there’s utilities, car, and of course feeding the kids We are in NY so the cost of living is crazy here
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 01:09 AM
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But you probably have a full time job My ex works 1.5 days a week and brings home 700$ She wouldn’t have survived with child support ( and some alimony)
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 12:59 AM
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Our ex wives of course!!!
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:51 PM
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2.5 years
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:27 PM
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My take home per month is 10600 So not really winning
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:21 PM
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⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:09 PM
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⭐️⭐️⭐️
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:09 PM
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No reason to get philosophical and I agree and understand that This was supposed to be a fun challenge The guy who’s paying 7 k CS and 1600 alimony got me beat so far
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 01:27 PM
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You get the platinum ⭐️
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 01:15 PM
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Same, I choose to mediate and get legal advice from my lawyer instead of going to court because I didn’t want to pay 35k to lawyers which instead over time will go to my kids My lawyer said based on my salary I couldn’t been paying up to 6600$
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 12:57 PM
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2 kids, 7 years
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 12:40 PM
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If they say money can’t buy happiness… they’ve never been divorced!!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 02:02 PM
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Need help on this please!… so now I’m not being invited to my own kids birthday… did I make the wrong decision saying I won’t pay??!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/22 10:15 AM
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2 issues with this post: 1- your in your 20s, take your time… from the paragraph your don’t even have a serious girlfriend you are considering marrying… when you find her then post about it 2- the whole comment about entitled people with no respect or manners… you seem like an angry guy some people don’t live by your life “ code” Respect is viewed different among different people… your statement sounds extremely disrespectful
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 06:09 PM
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Always tell your wife you love her even when your mad at her. Ask how can I help as much as possible. Continue to go on great dates together even when you have kids, plan and come up with some good ones… don’t go to the same restaurant every 2 weeks. Keep a list of their likes and dislikes and important things about them ( whatever you do don’t show them the list). Read about how to be a good lover… from how to kiss, how to touch, how to f***. That’s my advice… oh yah… don’t marry a crazy person…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 08:19 AM
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Your schedule makes no sense to me! Who has the kids Sunday at 1159 or Thursday at 1201 AM? What does your schedule mean
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 09:55 PM
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My agreement… which isn’t signed because of the schedule issue has her “rent” the home while I’m paying her maintaince for the next 2 years When my payments are through the agreement has us sell the home
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 07:30 PM
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She feelers better for the kids not to have them go back and forth as much as my schedule But that’s at my expense both from a time with kids and from a weekend night to myself perspective
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 07:01 PM
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Right, doesn’t make sense to me I want the kids to stay in the school district so my son can be with his friends But now she’s using my kindness against me
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 07:00 PM
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I don’t care about child support I want to see the kids as much as possible I am paying a real lot of money on support
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:54 PM
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No, she feels that the house I am letting them live in ( instead of selling) that I as the majority breadwinner… by 20 times her yearly salary, is the house the kids should sleep in more often But I worked really hard to keep the new house clean, put a home cooked meal on the table and give them as much love and affection They have two homes now
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:52 PM
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My kids are 2.5 and 6.5 which makes it difficult to have days that I work or for her to have days that she works
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:48 PM
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Doesn’t work she works Saturdays
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:47 PM
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Tuesday through Friday with mom every week under both schedules
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:37 PM
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So under her schedule I get no weekend nights to myself and also lose my Tuesday mornings and 1 Sunday night with the kids
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:35 PM
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Disagree How often does one go to the dentist… I’ve gone once in 5 years Go get some!
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 11:20 AM
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I appreciate this answer, I was thinking the same … but I know if we do get serious I will be thinking to myself I missed out on variety
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 07:26 PM
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Seeing a therapist, that said my divorce was mutual we both had issues But good point to work on those issues
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 07:05 PM
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No the 2nd girl was dtf and I chose not to pursue because I was so into the 1st girl
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 06:52 PM
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Everyone should be in Therapy Constantly working on your self is really important
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 05:30 PM
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50/50 was the most important thing for me Take all my money But don’t you dare take my kids I can see from your post that you don’t feel that way
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 09:52 PM
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Do you have kids, if so the real question is what is best for your children. If you and your STBX are yelling and screaming at each other every night then divorce is, if you are a couple that’s able to “ keep up with jones” especially around your kids and pretend to be a loving family then you may want to swallow your happiness in favor of your kids happiness If you don’t have kids it’s a money question Would you rather be better off financially or broke but happy For me , me and my STBX were ye…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 03:02 PM
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You should give her a taste of her own medicine If she laughs it off then have a serious conversation with her about how the talk about divorce hurts your feelings and you will no longer stand for it If she doesn’t laugh it off, we’ll be ready to sign papers
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 11:05 AM
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Our divorce so far has been civil Anything can happen but I’m hoping things stay Civil. I plan on honoring all items from our agreement so I’m hoping she honors them as well… I’m thinking it’s not great ( especially financially) but better then having the kids go through leaving there school and friends and activities and moving into two new places
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 02:19 PM
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We are doing this for the next 2.5 years while I pay maintenance. It’s the best option for the kids but puts a lot of financial pressure on the parents. In my case I’m the single earner so it’s painful. If you can afford it and don’t completely hate your ex then do it for a couple years ( like this maintenance payment idea). You don’t want to pull your kids away from all the friends they’ve made and teachers they love Sorry to be devils advocate here For me in 2.5 years we are going to check our…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 10:13 AM
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