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| 29 | Eye contact hackI always found it to easy to hold eye contact with hot girls because Then this post isn't for you. People with low-social confidence often have difficulty maintaining eye contact. This is because patterns of eye contact establish dominance. It is one of the earliest evolved aspects of body language used to establish and challenge social hierarchy, still used by lower primates and canines. Changing your body language is much more difficult than changing what you say. Your body naturally fights yo… | /r/seduction | 24/05/16 09:50 AM |
| 7 | Fighting against physiological responses.The way to get past this physiological response is through practice. By taking small, measured steps, you can quell this response. It's a bit like getting comfortable with public speaking. First you practice speaking in front of a small group. Then a larger group. Eventually you are able to speak in front of thousands. But this comes through one thing: practice. Nothing else will change your situation. No amount of reading or logical understanding. No amount of reading about how women are not to… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/14 01:22 AM |
| 2 | How to respond when a girl insults you?Best response: Take your attention away. I had just got back from a weekend trip with my parents and was seeing my girlfriend for the first time. We decided to go out to a movie. It was 15 minutes before the move started. We were sitting i in the theater talking, joking back and forth, etc. I told her about something stupid I did. I got my return ticket for the wrong day and showed up at the train station and had to exchange my ticket. "Oh my god, you're an asshole," she said to me. She had a sm… | /r/seduction | 23/12/13 06:36 PM |
| 6 | The Myth of Early Emotional Investment in DatingYou see a girl with tattoos, go up to her and say hey I think your tattoos are sexy, tell me about that one. Got it. Is this what you say to every girl with a tattoo? Or do you only allow yourself to say this exact thing once ever, because more than once would not be 'natural'? Have you ever said that to more than one girl? What if she doesn't have any tattoos and there's nothing really special about her? Don't tell me--you go direct? See this is the thing here with guys who claim to be 'natural… | /r/seduction | 22/12/13 05:40 AM |
| 8 | The Myth of Early Emotional Investment in DatingWhere do I say anything about getting laid in the post or in my comment? How do you equate consistency with women to only wanting casual relationships? It's fine to emotionally invest in women when they've given you a reason to invest in them but it's foolish to do so beforehand. Do you get emotionally invested in a woman just because she's beautiful? That's the real shallow aspect to this. I wait until I've seen something more. I make her earn my interest before I treat her like she's special. … | /r/seduction | 22/12/13 04:38 AM |
| 2 | The Myth of Early Emotional Investment in DatingMaybe I should have said, "Glared." Initially her reaction was not positive. It wasn't super negative, but she was a bit on guard. | /r/seduction | 22/12/13 12:09 AM |
| 6 | The Myth of Early Emotional Investment in DatingIf you were always able to "be natural and be able to say whatever you want" with women then none of this seduction advice applies to you. Go out and be yourself if it's working with women. But if you're trying to change the way you do things, you're going to need to be consistent. You're going to have to think about the words you're saying because the content of those words has meaning. If you're a great street fighter and you want to get into a ring and box and think you can win, by all means,… | /r/seduction | 22/12/13 12:06 AM |
| -7 | Guy finds out his sorority girlfriend has already had 31 dicks inside her--including three of his frat brothers. r/sex's advice? Man up, it's in the past!I've gotta say, I'm a little bothered by the slut-shaming in this thread and I appreciate that I won't get downvoted to hell before you hear out what I have to say. Most attractive women have had a lot of sex but most of them are too smart to tell you because you'll judge them. Most women are not as puritan as they want you to believe, not in this day and age. If you're dating women in their later 20's, she's most likely slept with at least 20 guys, probably a lot more. But the smart ones don't … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/07/13 04:05 PM |
| 1 | "What Will We Concede To Feminism": UPDATEAs a former gender feminist, I don't disagree that feminism has turned into a delusional cult that tends to censor rather than give voice to free thought. But a lot of things feminism has done in the past are worthwhile: suffrage ending workplace discrimination - women were not allowed in certain fields for a long time reproductive rights - this battle is still ongoing The current state of feminism deserves all the backlash they get. And I heap tons of criticism on gender feminism. But I hesitat… | /r/MensRights | 03/07/13 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Recent pill taker, quick question on hamster excuseI find it confusing that she looked/said things that to me were good signs (e.g. she was always messaging me saying how much she wanted to see me even if we had just seen each other, or how she really liked me and every quirky interesting thing I did, shit like that). I advise guys that even if they think they may be interested in a serious relationship with a woman they meet to still start it off as casual, only seeing the woman once a week, minimizing texting and talking on the phone, etc. Thi… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/13 06:23 PM |
| 4 | Recent pill taker, quick question on hamster excuseThis sub is all about the truth so I won't sugarcoat it for you and say you "dodged a bullet." All signs point to the obvious, what you pointed out already: that you slipped into beta behavior. It is possible to maintain a monogamous relationship where the woman is excited and you can maintain that relationship at any level of seriousness you want (casual, serious/monogamous). The fact that she wanted kids and you didn't does not account for the fact that she said she wasn't feeling butterflies … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/13 01:36 PM |
| 5 | Trying not to start a relationship on a blue pill note, not succeeding (yet).Well, I was gonna s | /r/TheRedPill | 03/07/13 12:19 AM |
| 5 | Seduction Tactics: Women Saying the Exact Opposite of What They MeanThanks, man! I appreciate the feedback. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/07/13 10:37 PM |
| 14 | Trying not to start a relationship on a blue pill note, not succeeding (yet).First, you seem to be onto the fact that you need to start being alpha as soon as possible into a relationship. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. That being said, the only way to learn to be alpha in a relationship is to try it out at some point and you may as well do it now. My advice is to take this relationship and be willing to lose it in order to learn how to be alpha because there is no other way to learn, in fact, that's what alpha is: You are willing to lose this relations… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/07/13 10:13 PM |
| 12 | Showed a female friend this video about how "Girls Don't Make Sense", she responded with "I kinda hate him"The reason she hates this guy is because he's a massive beta. He doesn't know how to emotionally read women. He says women think and think and think, but they don't. They feel and feel and feel. Stop trying to communicate with her on a logical level. If you ask your chick, "Hey, are you okay?" and she says, "Yeah, I'm fine." That bitch is lying. She is not fine. What you're supposed to do is say, "Babe. C'mon... you know you're not fine. What's wrong?" Worst move ever. If your woman is acting li… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/06/13 05:58 PM |
| 0 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??Verbally establishing consent is still a good step, This is so hypocritical. When was the last time you asked a guy for consent? You mean you've never touched a guy's penis? Oh you did, but you didn't ask for consent. Why wasn't that sexual assault? And the last guy you were with, did he ask for permission every step of the way? When you were in bed, did he ask for permission before sucking your tit? No? How about before he penetrated you? Did he say, "Can I penetrate you?" No? Why didn't you ma… | /r/seduction | 22/06/13 08:05 PM |
| 0 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??Okay, excellent. I totally agree with you. The hairstylist has a responsibility to make sure that the person likes the haircut. That's part of it. I totally agree. Okay, then where exactly does it become the responsibility of the person getting the haircut to make sure their voice is heard? What if that person doesn't mention at all the haircut he wants or is too embarrassed to say what he really wants? What if the hairstylist asks him five times, are you SURE you want this haircut and the guy d… | /r/seduction | 22/06/13 03:02 PM |
| -1 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??Asking "do you want to have sex" is not going to suddenly make her not want to have sex. It is better to ask if you're not sure. Explicitly asking for sex changes NOTHING. Her yes doesn't mean anything if her body is saying no. So you may as well not even ask. All I'm saying is to err on the side of caution And I'm saying that erring on the side of caution is a recipe for disaster when it comes to women. Guys who play it safe are the biggest turn off for women. If you want to bore a woman to dea… | /r/seduction | 22/06/13 03:47 AM |
| 0 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??Okay, so I feel like this is a different discussion than whether or not it is sexual assault. So let's address that. I think the question could pertain to almost any type of social dynamic. Let's just say (I'm pulling this example outta my ass) you go to get a haircut. You really know what kind of haircut you want. But the hairdresser convinces you otherwise. She says a different haircut would look really, really awesome. So you go with what she said because she sounds really confident. You get … | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 09:05 PM |
| 0 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??Okay, so what about the last person with whom you went beyond kissing, did you ask them for permission? Here's the last situation I was in. I was lying on a couch with this woman. We hadn't made out yet. But we were in each others arms, almost like an extended hug. I looked deep into her eyes and slowly reach my hand down her pants into her underwear. Within a few minutes we were having sex on the couch. How did I know that she would be into it? I could read her body language. But if she wasn't … | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??If you're the one escalating the situation, you're the one who should be responsible for being sure that all people involved are okay with it. Okay. That's fine. Here's a serious question for you: What do you do when you are getting sexual with a person to make sure they're okay with what's happening? Serious question. You're with a girl (or a guy) at your place and you want to get sexual with them, what do you do before making the move? And I'm asking what you would personally do, not what some… | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 08:19 PM |
| 0 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??Maybe she can leave anytime she wants, but she doesn't know what this guy who keeps forcing kisses on her will do if she tries to leave Ah, now we get to the bottom of the assumption. Your starting point is assuming that every man is a sexual predator and every woman is a victim who doesn't know how to say no. Fuck that. She's a person and so am I. If she doesn't want to be with me, she can say no. She can walk out the door. If I don't let her walk out the door or I continue when she says no, th… | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 08:06 PM |
| 0 | Above the Game, almost stopped by Kickstarter, why so much hate against this project??If the woman is there with me in the apartment after I try to make out with her and she says No, then yes, I am assuming consent and will try to make out with her again in ten minutes unless she says otherwise or leaves. That's not sexual assault. If a woman feels harassed and doesn't speak up and goes along with sex, that's still not sexual assault. It's unfortunate that she doesn't know how to say no, but that isn't the guy's fault if she doesn't say no and goes along with the sex. In no way, … | /r/seduction | 21/06/13 07:57 PM |
| 18 | Listen to Her Actions, not Her WordsA passive aggressive response to your girlfriend flirting with other guys might be if you said to her, "I can tell you don't love me..." She asks why and you say, "I dunno..." And she keeps asking you why until you finally tell her. It's needy and weak. Passive aggressive behavior like this comes from an inability to assert yourself out of fear of conflict. What I'm talking about is the opposite. By pulling away, you're demonstrating to her that you do not need that type of behavior in your life… | /r/seduction | 19/04/13 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Need help how should I have dealt with this shit test."actually do you want to leave in 15 minutes?" "You know what? Gimme 20 minutes. I gotta take care of blah blah blah..." Likewise, if I'm meeting up with a girl and she says, "Can we meet at 8:30 instead of 8?" I'll say, "Let's just make it 9. I gotta take care of some stuff." | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 06:05 PM |
| 5 | Emotions versus Logic: the Biggest Mistake Guys Make with WomenAwesome. Great example. I love it when you can see it from the other side, when a woman does things that work or don't work with you. Ultimately our feelings are the best guide, so if you know what behaviors work with you, you know what works with other people. | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Emotions versus Logic: the Biggest Mistake Guys Make with WomenBy 'flip' I mean flippant. Irreverent. Playful. Fun. Not too intense or trying too hard to build a connection at the start. | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Emotions versus Logic: the Biggest Mistake Guys Make with WomenAnd don't forget to start the kino with caresses on her arm and stuff when appropriate, and stroking your hair and licking your lips, after all, that's the aim of the whole thing, to seduce the woman, not marry her. Yes! Physical contact is mandatory in this process if you ever want there to be a sexual connection. Emotions are a bridge between the brain and the body. Physical contact is a direct connection to her emotions. Your body language should be reflecting what's happening verbally. | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Emotions versus Logic: the Biggest Mistake Guys Make with WomenAwesome. In many ways this is exactly what you're trying to do with her. You're trying to bring her and yourself back to a child-like state. This is why being playful is so important. And during connection, you want to be vulnerable and open as well. | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 12:11 PM |
| 5 | Emotions versus Logic: the Biggest Mistake Guys Make with WomenHe... and advocates a rather one-sided interaction with a girl where you basically play a game while getting as much information from her as you can. Actually it's the opposite. In order to get her to open up, you'll usually have to share first. You'll need to show vulnerability first. Trying to get her to open up before you do is like opening the door to a dark room and saying, "You go first." But pretending not to be interested, playing games, etc.,... this approach will be unnatural to a lot … | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 12:07 PM |
| 0 | Legally blind, feel like I'm at a disadvantage. Would appreciate some advice/suggestions.I wear contacts. But sometimes I wear glasses. The glasses don't have any prescription. They're just for vanity. Women will ask me about it. I take off the glasses and say, "I'm blind without these." I pretend I can't see and that I'm fumbling around trying to to feel for the person in front of me (her) and 'accidentally' touch her breasts. It's a joke but also a reason to get physically playful with her. | /r/seduction | 02/03/13 12:25 AM |
| 11 | How to keep her attractedThat feeling is relationship anxiety. When she doesn't text back after a few hours, it makes you wonder if you said the wrong thing. It makes you second-guess yourself. It makes you want to text her again, or call her up and sort the whole thing out. But that's just your anxiety talking. If you give in to your anxiety, it only gets worse. You want to take action from a position of power, not weakness, or she'll lose attraction. You'll become predictable, boring and safe. You'll get needy and sta… | /r/seduction | 21/02/13 04:39 AM |
| 19 | Be ShamelessHere's what I think it is. Women aren't dumb, they're just blind to their own attraction early on in the game. In other words, they themselves are often not consciously aware that they are attracted to the guy. I wish I could find the study I saw on a TV show a while back. They got men and women and used metrics to measure arousal. I think it was increased blood flow in the penis for men and increased blood flow in the vagina for women, or maybe it was vaginal lubrication. Anyway, they then show… | /r/seduction | 20/02/13 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Be ShamelessIt won Editors' Choice at the largest dating product review site on the internet, Dating Skills Review. http://www.datingskillsreview.com/shes-six-steps-away/ | /r/seduction | 19/02/13 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeIt's pretty hard to shake free of the friend zone in a situation like this, considering she knows you pretty well. Unless you have absolutely nothing else going on, I wouldn't invest more time in this girl. It seems like you're already too invested to date her on a casual level, which is necessary if you haven't hooked up yet. If anything, I would wait a month or two and then re-initiate contact. And do it when you have some other romantic prospects in your life so you're not needy with her. | /r/seduction | 21/01/13 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeHow long did you know her before she friend zoned you? | /r/seduction | 20/01/13 11:58 PM |
| 2 | “Why I Need to Call Some Men Creepy”: some ideas on how not to come off creepy when approaching women.The main reason guys come off as creepy is because they're socially uncalibrated, not because they are asserting male privilege or some shit like that. And in learning to become socially calibrated, they will inevitably creep some more women out. Playing to not lose isn't the same thing as playing to win. Your primary goal shouldn't be to not creep women out, to not offend anyone or to be as apologetic as possible. You want to minimize making women feel unsafe, but the result of any initiative i… | /r/seduction | 18/01/13 04:42 PM |
| 15 | So many dudes are screwing up Qualification: How NOT to Qualify + How to Qualify for realThis is 100% on. Great post. | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 06:40 PM |
| 3 | How NOT to be weird when hanging out with other community guysRelentlessly gaming your hot girlfriends when you bring them around | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Does STUTTER = KISS OF DEATH; a.k.a. Dating Coach Wrote Me Off Because of StutterI think for the most part, "fixing yourself" before you get better socially is bullshit. Most issues come from isolation and lack of social momentum. I think there are a few instances where if you are severely depressed or suffer from generalized anxiety (not socially-triggered anxiety) that you should take care of yourself first and figure it out. Improving yourself socially is enough of a roller-coaster ride of ups and downs without the added weight of depression or generalized anxiety. If you… | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 07:31 AM |
| 10 | Does STUTTER = KISS OF DEATH; a.k.a. Dating Coach Wrote Me Off Because of StutterI've coached guys who were paraplegic, who had missing limbs, facial disfiguration, super short guys, etc. Those guys are not the worst. Those guys can actually get success. The worst guys are the ones with serious mental issues. The ones with depression or a ton of anxiety that infects their lives and kills their mood outside of even approaching and meeting women. Your disability is more of a physical disability (even though it is mental in origin). My advice would be to call it out early in th… | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Do the Rules Change Once You Start To Like the Girl?The game has only just begun. The most emotionally stable relationships are the ones where the woman is into the man slightly more than the man is into the woman. This is because dominance in men is attractive to women and dominance in women is not that attractive to men. In order to maintain the relationship in this manner, you have one single valuable bargaining chip: your attention. The amount of times you initiate interactions, the amount of time you spend with her, the amount of interest yo… | /r/seduction | 13/01/13 05:30 PM |
| 1 | [NYTimes] Darwin Was Wrong About DatingThis is the underlying statement in the entire article which the author constantly implies but never explicitly states: claims about sex differences are still politically inflammatory Anyone who claims there are no innate differences between men and women and that all differences are cultural are willfully blind to abounding evidence to the contrary. Evolutionary psychologists aren't just making shit up. Their studies rely on 1) Ethology (animal behavior studies). If you throw a male and female … | /r/seduction | 13/01/13 05:15 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with jealousy?Yes! 100%. If you let your kids walk all over you, they will. And that's your fault, not their's. | /r/seduction | 04/01/13 04:56 PM |
| 7 | Is there a way to reverse the effects of oneitis with a girl I'm currently interested in?In order to get better at managing relationships, you need to learn to... manage relationships. I know this sounds tautological, but what I'm trying to say is that you can't get better at this stuff by self-reflection, therapy, and even trying to date multiple women. Yes, continuing to date other women will help emotionally stabilize you, but you need to learn how to pull away from her when she's not giving you what you want. You need to learn to make her wonder about whether she has you. You ne… | /r/seduction | 04/01/13 04:54 PM |
| 5 | How do you guys deal with jealousy?How do you create that air of "I've got 10 other girls waiting for me" without talking about how you have 10 other girls waiting for you? To outright say that seems dickish and not in my character. Yeah, definitely don't talk about other girls around her. You have one huge, gigantic bargaining chip when you're with a girl: your attention. You train her, teach her, and show her what is acceptable and unacceptable by taking away your attention when she misbehaves. For example, if she takes out her… | /r/seduction | 04/01/13 05:33 AM |
| 13 | How do you guys deal with jealousy?This girl should be scared to death that you will walk out on her. You are far too tolerant of bullshit from her. If a girl told me that some other guy was coming over, I would drop her so fast it wouldn't be funny. You should have zero tolerance for bullshit like that. This is about not letting her get away with bullshit. While she's with you, she should not be texting much with other people. If she does, she should be keeping it super short and apologizing profusely. If she does a lot of texti… | /r/seduction | 03/01/13 05:22 PM |
| 10 | Let's take a break from theory! What's the funniest thing that has happened to you while out sarging?Why do you consider that a dismal failure? It worked. She probably thought you were just busting on her. I would take this as a lesson that you can be a lot more playful and negative with women. They like the harsh stuff. | /r/seduction | 31/12/12 08:51 PM |
| 118 | Let's take a break from theory! What's the funniest thing that has happened to you while out sarging?I was in Barnes and Noble, Union Square, New York City with my wing. I see a cute girl. I walk over to her and say Hi. She's really friendly with me. After about two sentences of talking, she says, "You wanna get out of here?" I don't skip a beat and I say sure. I walk over to the escalator with her. I walk past my friend with a little smirk on my face thinking, jesus, I'm da man. I can't believe how fast this is happening. We're going down the escalator toward the first floor and she says, "Is … | /r/seduction | 31/12/12 08:46 PM |
| 2 | The sweet talker- Why does no PUA material discuss/emulate this classic player personality.First of all, this is an excellent question. There are a lot of comments here about this approach being unethical. Without addressing that, I don't think ethics is the reason why the larger community avoids this type of approach. If you look at what 'works' with women, without a doubt, you will see the exception to the general PUA rules: a guy is persistent with a woman, throws caution to the wind, professes his love to her day-in day-out, showers her with compliments and eventually he wins her … | /r/seduction | 28/12/12 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeStraight up? She's probably fucking another dude and doesn't want to "complicate" the relationship. There's a guy out there who she likes more and likes to fuck, but she still likes your attention and affections. You can't keep giving her affection like this without sex. I would pull away, mess with her some, or even disappear completely. The fact that she's not giving you sex means you're not demonstrating attraction enough by insisting on what you want. If you tolerate behavior like this, you'… | /r/seduction | 28/12/12 04:33 PM |
| 5 | how do I walk like an alpha?The main thing that people forget when thinking about posture is relaxing your shoulders. One good way to do this is to raise up and tense your shoulders as high as possible and then let them drop down as far as possible. The second way to make sure you have good posture is to raise your head as high as possible when you walk. You shouldn't be looking up per se (although a slight tilt upward is good) but the top of your head should be up as high as possible. You also want to lean back a little b… | /r/seduction | 28/12/12 03:21 AM |
| 2 | What do you do if you're not funny?It's not about being funny, it's about being edgy and sexual. Wrapping edginess and sexuality into humor makes it a lot more palatable to women. And you don't need to be hilarious. Telling jokes doesn't make her want you. I've known professional comedians who couldn't get laid. Instead of focusing on being funny, focus on being fun. Learn how to role-play. You can take an improv class to learn the basic rules, like Yes And (agree and amplify) and other ways to play along with her. The best way t… | /r/seduction | 27/12/12 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeThis is one of the many drawbacks of hooking up with girls in class, where you work, in your building, etc. You don't have the luxury of simply disappearing. You can, however, do some other things, like talk with other women in class and spend less time around this girl. Check out some of the suggestions in this article, Advanced Tactics to Turn Back the Tide. There's some stuff you can do there when you can't take the strongest step of disappearing. | /r/seduction | 27/12/12 07:08 AM |
| 44 | Challenging my limiting belief. I am a 23 year old man with a facial deformity. Confident I can still be as good as the naturals, though.All in all, women are much more forgiving than men when it comes to physicality. Many studies have shown this. However, some women will indeed reject you on the basis of looks alone, as is the case with all of us. The hardest part for guys with more severe physical limitations is realizing that it is indeed their behavior that is causing women to reject them. Not that your physical limitations won't affect your success, but it is much easier to write off failure as, "She rejected me because I'm … | /r/seduction | 26/12/12 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really Likeyou can still talk, touch and indicate a sexual being attitude without having sex That's exactly what I'm saying in the post. It doesn't have to be sexual intercourse if you're not into that. It can be other stuff as well. But it needs to push the sexuality forward. | /r/seduction | 26/12/12 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeI still wouldn't change your game with this girl. You don't want to change your game with her based on any of her 'issues.' There's no excuse that should make you slow down. If she wants to put on the brakes, it's fine. But don't ever handle her with kid gloves. Your mind will come up with excuses why you should do it, and it's just an excuse to not escalate. Now, the question of whether you want to get involved with a girl coming out of a long relationship, that's a different story. You may not… | /r/seduction | 26/12/12 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeYeah, there are other problems than this when a guy meets a girl he really likes. Sometimes a guy doesn't challenge a girl enough, keep her guessing, keep her intrigued. He rolls over and gets needy after sex or does other things to bore her. Check out this article, Advanced Tactics to Turn Back the Tide, for some tips of how to keep her guessing early on in the relationship. | /r/seduction | 26/12/12 11:19 AM |
| 3 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeYou kept your game 'straight' through the relationship and look what happened. She left you and got with another guy. Now you want back in and you feel motivated to do the same thing, to be sincere and nice. Think that will work? It won't. She already fucked you over because you were too nice. She's bored with you. Sure, you had sex with her quick, but you didn't keep her guessing about where things were going with the relationship. You didn't give her a challenge. Your problem has nothing to do… | /r/seduction | 26/12/12 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeYup, that works. Shoot her a text every other day. Make it fun and flirty. You can throw in a bit of seriousness after the flirty text, like mention what you were up to that day. I would keep it short though, to 2 or 3 texts, and let her text last. | /r/seduction | 26/12/12 11:08 AM |
| 17 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeMost guys are really bad at reading signals. And the shy guys are even worse. This means that in some ways girls are in an even worse position because a girl getting rejection initiating sex can be even worse. At least a guy doesn't have to feel bad about being a 'slut.' Getting too sexual too quick with a guy can also leave him with a feeling that you're more into it for the sex and not a relationship. My advice is to send him subtle signals, but send them as loud as possible. When he's talking… | /r/seduction | 25/12/12 06:29 PM |
| 17 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeThis is great. There are two important things to notice about this: First, things were always escalating. You were inviting her out. Things were progressing slowly physically, but they were progressing. Second, you weren't becoming good friends with her before you got sexual with her. Yes, you did see her a number of times, but it wasn't like she was telling you about her love life, taking you shopping, treating you like a girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 25/12/12 05:30 PM |
| 26 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeThere are a lot of things you can do to take the relationship more sexual. You can start with sexual banter, like cocky funny. "Let's get a drink. I won't wear anything too sexy in case you have trouble controlling yourself." You can add sexual talk. "Where's the craziest place you ever had sex?" "What kind of underwear are you wearing right now?" You can start to physically escalate. First start with friendly physical contact such as a tapping her forearm with the back of your hand during conve… | /r/seduction | 25/12/12 04:59 PM |
| 14 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeThere's nothing wrong with being friends with women. That's a great thing. And you can even be friends with a woman if you make the move and she isn't into it. The problem with a lot of guys, and the mistake I used to make, is not making the move and being friends with her while planning to make the move later. | /r/seduction | 25/12/12 04:55 PM |
| 24 | Where Guys Go Wrong when They Meet a Girl They Really LikeIf you've already built up a friendship without getting sexual, you can disappear for a while. When you come back after a reset, typically a month or two, there's less pressure to continue as friends and you can start to escalate at that point. The problem when you're friends is that you are afraid of losing that, afraid of creeping out a friend. If you take the friendship away for a while, it's easy to pull the trigger and make the move without worrying about upsetting anything. | /r/seduction | 25/12/12 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Winter depression, staying social and pickup?Full Spectrum Solutions. I like the BlueMax desk lamps. | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Winter depression, staying social and pickup?New York City, the one and only | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Winter depression, staying social and pickup?What you have is called Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.). I highly recommend a full-spectrum lamp to use for light therapy. I am a huge skeptic and detest pseudoscience, but light therapy is not pseudoscience. Numerous clinical studies have proven its effectiveness. Light therapy has changed my life and stopped the cyclical depression I used to get. I can't recommend it enough. | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 01:08 PM |
| 7 | getting back into the game after being in a relationshipOne of the biggest things about getting back into the game is realizing how much rejection/non-success is involved in this. We as human beings are designed to remember the successes and forget the failures. When you're doing well in this game, you talk with ten women and maybe get only one or two solid dates. That's not bad. But when you look back over your 'career' of approaching, you don't remember those 8 or 9 non-successes. You only remember the dates, the sex, the relationships. So when you… | /r/seduction | 14/11/12 10:58 PM |
| 1 | As someone who is very natural in person but very unnatural with texting, what is the simplest way I can keep a girl interested until we see each other in person and I can show my true colors?Your first message should not put yourself out there too much. If you say, "How are you?" or say something else meaningful, and she doesn't respond, you're put in a bad position. Making yourself vulnerable comes across as needy. Instead, you are better off saying something light and flirty and seeing if she responds. Once she responds, you can go a little deeper if you want, or you can just ask her to meet up. | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 04:48 PM |
| 1 | As someone who is very natural in person but very unnatural with texting, what is the simplest way I can keep a girl interested until we see each other in person and I can show my true colors?Weird, there seems to be something wrong with Reddit. I've commented but the post doesn't appear. Also, it says 5 comments, but there are only 3 appearing as far as I can see. | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 04:45 PM |
| 1 | As someone who is very natural in person but very unnatural with texting, what is the simplest way I can keep a girl interested until we see each other in person and I can show my true colors?Keep it vague and short. "Everyone wants a piece of me!" Then tell her where you're meeting up. Talking to a girl for hours and hours before you hang out can make her lose attraction because it seems like you have nothing to do. Instead, you want to come across as a busy guy with an exciting life. Keep it brief and aloof. Get to know her in person where things can get sexual. | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 02:52 PM |
| 10 | As someone who is very natural in person but very unnatural with texting, what is the simplest way I can keep a girl interested until we see each other in person and I can show my true colors?Text as little as possible. Keep it as short as possible. Use this formula: First ping. Send her something a bit flirty or at least non-needy. Go for a random non-sequitur. "Mondays suck! Can't a brother get a break?" After she responds, ask her out as soon as possible. "Thursday. 8 pm. Crocodile lounge. Wear something cute." Don't have conversations over text. Ask as few questions as possible over text. Keep it mysterious. Do everything in person. If you got as much attraction in person as you … | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 07:28 AM |
| 4 | Text Game Tips with an ExampleYeah? How exactly do you 'earn' a great girl? Doing her laundry? Buying her dinner? Listening to her problems? Have some self-respect. Attraction isn't earned. It'd be great if the world works that way, but it doesn't. It's only in the movies where that works. A guy hangs out with a girl for a long time as her friend and then one day she realizes he's 'the one.' In real life, that guy is used as her emotional tampon. He wakes up one day and realizes she's out meeting, fucking, dating and loving … | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 07:21 AM |
| 3 | Text Game Tips with an ExampleTo say dates lead to sex is not correct. Dates can lead to sex, but not if you tell the girl you're going to do her nails and talk to her about her boyfriend. | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 05:01 AM |
| 8 | Text Game Tips with an ExampleYou're lying to yourself if you think you're hanging out with this girl to be her friend. You're not. Maybe there is more than just sex, but without the sex, you're just friends. (And likely not even really friends.) | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 02:24 AM |
| 1 | Text Game Tips with an ExampleDate ≠ Sex. | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 12:14 AM |
| 5 | Text Game Tips with an ExampleI would still try to game her if she suggested we be friends Right. And to me, not going on a date unless she expresses sexual interest is part of me seducing her. In other words, if she says that we are only friends, that means I have A LOT of gaming to do, and I do it by letting her know that I'm only going on a date if there's some sexuality from her. I'm letting her know that making a new friend isn't worth my time. That's part of how I seduce women. | /r/seduction | 12/11/12 10:37 PM |
| 122 | Text Game Tips with an ExampleI would not want to go on a date with a girl who 1) showed little interest/attraction on the first date and 2) told me that she only wants to hang out as friends Do you really need to go on a date with a girl that badly that you'd settle for a girl who has already put you in friend zone? I don't want to spend an evening with a girl who's not into me. If she wasn't into me when we first met, there is little chance of turning that around. I try to do the opposite with my dates. I amp it up over te… | /r/seduction | 12/11/12 06:35 PM |
| 8 | Not Being Outcome Dependent with Women: How Most People Get It Wrong and What You Can Do InsteadNo worries. The reason I ask about how you define 'noticeable results,' is that you want to set goals based on measurable, physical activities rather than feelings. Yes, this will help you to feel better, less dependent on outcome, less needy, etc. But for long-term improvement, you should set your goals based on something like, interact with 3 women today instead of feeling a certain way. This is because no matter how much you improve, you will always challenge yourself in some way and thus fee… | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 10:17 PM |
| 5 | Not Being Outcome Dependent with Women: How Most People Get It Wrong and What You Can Do InsteadThat's one way to start. How do you define 'noticeable results'? | /r/seduction | 09/11/12 09:54 PM |
| 20 | To ask or not to ask? verbally asking consent for ALL forms of physical contact, good idea or no?There is no way you can explicitly ask for consent before getting physical with a woman. "Can I hold your hand?" "Can I kiss you?" "Can I touch your breasts?" etc. It doesn't work. Why doesn't this work? Here's why it doesn't work: Even if she says yes, that does not mean you have consent. Let's say you ask her, "Can we have sex?" She says yes. This doesn't mean that you can go ahead and dive on top of her and have sex with her no matter what. Even if you proceed slowly, she may change her mind.… | /r/seduction | 29/10/12 06:21 PM |
| 2 | So today Ive decided that I'm going to stop being a pussy and just start talking to girls, here is the plan. Any tips?Thanks, man. You can find more stuff I've written at ApproachAnxiety.com. | /r/seduction | 23/10/12 04:04 AM |
| 123 | So today Ive decided that I'm going to stop being a pussy and just start talking to girls, here is the plan. Any tips?Forget all this "just be yourself" and "just relax" bullshit because none of it applies here. That's like skydiving for the first time and someone telling you, "just do what comes naturally." Flailing like a maniac and screaming like a little girl is what comes 'naturally.' It's good you have a plan, even though your plan sucks. And it's good you're motivated. But being too motivated can be a problem here. I'll tell you why. Here's what's going to happen. You're going to go out with your friend.… | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 04:25 PM |
| 7 | I’d Rather Die on My Feet Than Live on My KneesWhat does "won" even mean? My goal was to fuck with her so that she either dropped off or started showing a ton of interest. My goal was met. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 11:30 PM |
| 23 | I’d Rather Die on My Feet Than Live on My KneesThere are two answers to this question. If you're not yet comfortable closing every woman, or have any fear doing it, then yes, you should be closing every set. Just to do it. You should do that until you have no fear closing at all. But once you're completely comfortable with it, you may want to change your game plan. If the woman is not giving you much interest, why disrespect yourself like that? Don't give her the pleasure of seeing you ask. If you're getting negative feedback from her, then … | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:14 PM |
| 2 | My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)No, you don't do that stuff. You go out once a week, if that. Go out regularly. Then get into conversations regularly. This is the first step to building up your confidence and your sexiness. Getting into friendly conversations with women isn't everything in terms of becoming sexy. But you can't get any more sexy without it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 08:59 PM |
| 3 | I’d Rather Die on My Feet Than Live on My KneesWell, here's the whole story with this girl. Met this one online. Online dates tend to be flakier than the ones I meet in real life. She had already rescheduled with me one time, so there was very little chance I would meet up with this girl again. She’s said that she’s open to rescheduling. I don’t respond at all that night. The next day at 1 pm I respond. Me: Depends. Are you gonna show up in jeans or a skirt Her: Ha! I don’t own jeans actually… Me: A skirt… How short? Her: Sorry I don’t wear … | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 08:52 PM |
| 5 | My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)If you were out shopping at Sears for a new drill and a sexy girl started talking with you, would you say, "Can't talk. I'm shopping for a drill"? You wouldn't. And neither will she. You are a sexy guy. But you can't just tell yourself that. You have to show yourself that by taking small, consistent actions out in the world. Start off by simply going to places where there might be attractive women. Go to malls, supermarkets, parks, public transportation, etc. Get comfortable going out for a half… | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 08:47 PM |
| 12 | How would you reply to this?Really... You strike me as a Myspace kinda girl. | /r/seduction | 16/10/12 03:15 AM |
| -5 | So how do you guys deal with Alpha Females?If someone buys milk for you and leaves it out on the counter, you should put it in the refrigerator yourself or ask nicely instead of bossing them around. I don't respond to people who give me orders. You do? Relationships aren't about being rational. They're about feelings. Saying "What's it worth to you?" is flirting. It's having fun. You're not being a dick. The girl is laughing when I do it. It's called teasing. If you've got a better example of flirting, let's hear it. | /r/seduction | 13/10/12 04:34 AM |
| -3 | So how do you guys deal with Alpha Females?Sorry, you're right. We would both be happier if I let her boss me around. Got it. | /r/seduction | 13/10/12 04:01 AM |
| 15 | So how do you guys deal with Alpha Females?You can't let her get away with it. Even though she acts like she wants to take the lead and be in charge, if you let her do that, she'll lose attraction for you. My last girlfriend was gorgeous and also rather high up on the corporate ladder. She had 200 employees underneath her. She was used to be dominant, to being the boss, to being in control. But when she was with me, things were different. I never let her get away with it. And she loved me for it. Firstly, I would never let her get away w… | /r/seduction | 12/10/12 12:34 PM |
| 2 | When you are seducing a woman what gets better results: Do you try to make her feel better about herself or do you try and play on her insecurities a little?A girl who gets compliments and men sucking up to her all day won't feel great about some dude she's with complimenting her like this all the time. Most guys wouldn't feel great about compliments like this. If you never get it, yeah, it feels great. But if you got it all the time, particularly from someone you're with, after a while you would think, "Shut the fuck up." Once in a while I'll find myself complimenting a woman like this. In that case I push her away afterward. "I just really like yo… | /r/seduction | 10/10/12 08:31 AM |
| 7 | When you are seducing a woman what gets better results: Do you try to make her feel better about herself or do you try and play on her insecurities a little?That's fine to talk a little bit about what she does and connect about that. But having a "nice" conversation will not necessarily lead to a date or more. That's where the rubber meets the road. It's not all about just "enjoying" the conversation. You want to make her a little bit uncomfortable. You want to have some tension caused by your dominance and her wondering whether you like her or not. Most guys when they first learn how to meet women can't even get into a comfortable conversation. So … | /r/seduction | 10/10/12 01:30 AM |
| 13 | When you are seducing a woman what gets better results: Do you try to make her feel better about herself or do you try and play on her insecurities a little?You want to be very careful about where and when you give attractive women validation. Most guys when they get in front of an attractive woman tend to over-validate. Him: "What do you do?" Her: "I work in finance." Him: "Awesome!" No, it's not fucking awesome. Would you say that to some random guy you met? No. You wouldn't. When she tells me shit about herself, no matter how cool, I'll say something like, "Alright..." When a guy gives women tons of compliments, particularly on their physical loo… | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 09:59 PM |
| 33 | When you are seducing a woman what gets better results: Do you try to make her feel better about herself or do you try and play on her insecurities a little?Girls are themselves their own harshest critics, particularly very attractive women. If you are constantly buttering them up, not only do they stop believing you, but they lose attraction for you. They don't feel like you're a challenge and they lose respect for you. When I'm with a girl, if she says something negative about herself, I don't disagree with her. If she says, "I feel fat," I don't say, "You're not fat." If she's looking for a response from me, I'll throw a question her way. "Why wo… | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 08:26 PM |
| -2 | Is it just me or when people hate on PUAs it's only on neggingNegger, please! Don't gotta to spit that game. | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 12:15 AM |
| 22 | I've attached my self-worth to my appearance.. how do I change that?Most men have little experience interacting with a lot of women they don't know. They haven't tested out enough different ways of interacting with women. And so they assume that women are just like men, only with different bodies and attracted to different bodies. They mirror their own attraction mechanism--which is highly based on visual input--and assume that women judge the same way. They don't. Do women base their attraction partially on appearance? Absolutely. But for men, looks are 90% of … | /r/seduction | 08/10/12 03:40 PM |
| 1 | My permanent smile is hurting my game. Advice?I used to do this a lot. Particularly when I first opened a woman, I would smile way too much. But it wasn't a genuine, friendly, comfortable smile, it was an awkward, uncomfortable smile. Basically, my facial muscles were tensed up way too much. What worked for me is to practice relaxing my face when I spoke with women. I relaxed it to the point where I wasn't smiling and would only smile at an appropriate point, like where she said something funny or we had a laugh between us. | /r/seduction | 07/10/12 05:26 AM |
| 3 | Is approach anxiety associated with regular anxiety?Generalized anxiety is different than approach anxiety, but people who experience one are more likely to experience the other. Generalized anxiety is when you start to feel anxiety for no particularly reason at all. You're in your kitchen fixing a sandwich and you start to feel anxiety. What usually accompanies that feeling are negative thoughts. Your mind looks for thoughts to attach to that negative feeling. You may start to think about something in your life that unsettles you. "I wonder if m… | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 11:16 PM |
| 2 | What are your top "Alpha Principles"?In this post on the approach forum, a guy was getting fast response time from a girl, but then really slow response time (like a day) when he asked her to hang out. That means she's not prioritizing you. You also want to be careful not to text back too fast if she's responding really slowly. You're usually safe taking however long she took to text you back to return a text to her. You may want to wait even longer if she's being noncompliant. But you would never text something like, "Why did it t… | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 10:39 PM |
| 3 | What are your top "Alpha Principles"?"You seem like a nice girl. We should find you a nice guy. That guy over there is perfect for you. C'mon, I'll introduce you..." | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Don't Focus on Meeting Women, They tell MeSo you're saying that no matter how much 'value' I post, you're going to downvote it because I sell my book instead of giving it away for free, even though I regularly post tons of free content. Got it. | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Don't Focus on Meeting Women, They tell MeNofap is excellent. Very useful. | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 06:32 PM |
| 4 | Don't Focus on Meeting Women, They tell MeTry reading some of the posts I've contributed to this subreddit and the comments I've posted before making baseless accusations. | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 05:02 PM |
| 8 | What are your top "Alpha Principles"?The most important alpha principle is to know when to show interest and when to back away. For example, a guy will text a girl, and if he doesn't get a response, will call her later that day or the next day. The same thing happens in a bar. He'll be talking with a girl and she gets distracted by her friends or something else in the room. That's your cue for you to stop focusing on her and set your attention elsewhere. You don't show interest in a girl when she's not showing interest in you. This… | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Let's talk Happy Hour - Any differences between Happy Hour game and day/night game? Experiences? Suggestions?I love going out to upscale lounges here in New York City during happy hour, typically from 6-9PM on weekdays. There's a lot of great advantages to going during this time. It's not as crowded and loud as night game (like 10 PM onward). There are maybe 30% the amount of people. So you don't have to push your way through crowds. You'll typically find small groups of girls. And it's usually two girls--a girl there with her girlfriend. They'll be chatting and sharing a drink. There is rarely anyone … | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 04:53 PM |
| 1 | What the hell is happening. I need some serious advice.Don't ever ask a girl about your relationship. Make a move. Get sexual with her and see how she responds. There's your answer. If you do this, you will never be in friend zone with a girl. It won't be possible. She'll either get with you or be pushed away. | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 11:36 AM |
| 2 | What do you do with women who want to pick from a buffet of date options?On my first 'date' with a girl, I always do something low key where we can simply talk and connect, like a drink or coffee at a cafe or in the park. That way we can get to know each other a little better. There's no way she should say no to such a date unless she isn't into me. In fact, I purposely make these dates 'boring.' I'm not going to try to lure her out on a date with me going water skiing around the statue of liberty. I don't want to do that with her. It's not about the activity. It's a… | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Need some advice taking the next stepI start all my relationships casually, like in the link above. So I don't change my "dating" based on whether I want a serious relationship. Whether I want it to be serious will depend on what happens after seeing her for a few weeks. If I want it to be more serious, I start to see her more often. If I want it to be less serious, I don't. You don't have to go on any "dates." You could grab a cup of tea and sit in the park with her. See 10 Rules for the Perfect First Date In terms of when to call… | /r/seduction | 04/10/12 03:34 AM |
| 3 | Need some advice taking the next stepFast forward 2 weeks. We have been hanging out every other day. Okay, you met her and two weeks later, you've been hanging out every other day? That's a lot. And it's fast, just in terms of how often you're seeing each other. Yes, she may be into it, but that will also make a person wonder whether they are moving too fast and make her wonder why you are willing to spend so much time with someone you hardly know. It can come across as needy. I recommend that every relationship start off as casual… | /r/seduction | 03/10/12 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Girl starts to talk about another guy, what do I do in this type of situation?I would say something like, "Yeah, that would work for you," and maybe banter/joke with her, say something like, "We need to get you laid." | /r/seduction | 03/10/12 01:47 PM |
| 2 | Taking ChancesI agree with this. I would add that you should set up simple goals for yourself. For the first year, I kept this as simple as possible. I would walk up to a girl sitting somewhere and say, "Hi. I was walking by and just wanted to comes say hi. My name's Eric." I made it my goal to initiate one of these approaches every day and reached my goal when I said it, regardless of whether she was receptive or not. You can get a lot out of setting yourself up with very simple goals like this. But you shou… | /r/seduction | 03/10/12 12:45 PM |
| 2 | When to call it a day?So I text the next morning. No reply. Call her later to set something up, get her voicemail. Why would you call her later after she didn't respond to a text? She got the text. She's a girl, not a monkey. If you were into a girl and she texted you, would you simply not respond? You wouldn't. But when you're into a girl, you find yourself making up a thousand excuses why she would do this. She's busy. She's forgetful and forgot to return the text. She's shy. She wants a guy who will be persistent.… | /r/seduction | 03/10/12 12:33 PM |
| 69 | Girl starts to talk about another guy, what do I do in this type of situation?It does have a psychological effect. It makes you more attractive. They wonder why you aren't into them and they start to chase. They see you as a challenge. This generally only works on more attractive women, because the unnattractive ones will think, hey, he's not into me. Oh well. But the attractive ones are used to having every guy into them. Guys hit on them all the time. So when a guy comes along who isn't into them, it's intriguing. | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls tend to lie to protect men's feelings?Yeah, I agree. It can also be that she wants to keep her options open. | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 05:12 PM |
| 121 | Girl starts to talk about another guy, what do I do in this type of situation?You should disqualify yourself at this point. To disqualify yourself means to say something that implies you aren't a suitor ("I'm terrible in bed!"). For really attractive women, that makes them wonder why you aren't qualifying yourself instead ("I'm really great in bed!"). A great way to disqualify yourself is to say something like, "We should find you a guy who..." In this situation, a good response would have been: "Yeah, we should totally find you a tall, dark and handsome guy. Someone who'… | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 04:32 PM |
| 42 | Why do girls tend to lie to protect men's feelings?Women instinctively lie when they reject men because they don't want to deal with a bad response. If they said, "I'm not into you," when you ask them out instead of, "I'm busy next week," the guy might freak out and even get violent with her. She doesn't want to deal with the blow back of a guy being an asshole to her. So she makes up an excuse. From my experience, this is so ingrained in them, that I think they truly believe their own lies. I've had girls cancel dates on me and been so apologet… | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 10:32 AM |
| 16 | How do you make small talk with strangers?Well, if you try this in the real world with a really attractive girl you don't know, this is what usually happens: You: "How are you? Them: "Oh I'm good, and you?" You: "I can't complain. Why's today good? Something exciting happen? (Say this with a small genuine smile) Them: "Just the usually. Heading to work." This leads to a very typical boring conversation she's had 20 times a day with every guy that tries to talk with her. Next, they'll ask, "So, what do you do?" Do you know how much this … | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 10:28 PM |
| 14 | How do you make small talk with strangers?While this may works sometimes, you're relying on her to bring something interesting to the discussion. It may happen once in a while, but it won't consistently happen. You're better off bringing something yourself to the conversation. Why not answer the question, "Something exciting happen?" yourself? What have you done lately that's fun? What's the last thing you went out and did with your friends? Talk about that. Have something ready to go. In that case, the conversation will look more like … | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 08:45 PM |
| 8 | I'm dating a guy and I'm very aware of specific seduction techniques he is using. Is it something that can't be turned off once learnt?I like it when a girl has game. I like it when she knows how to keep me guessing. "Game" is the negotiation that allows us to get slowly closer without one or the other giving away too much power away and losing attraction. Game is about keeping attraction alive, not tricking the other person. Over-awareness of the game can be a problem if you are losing attraction for him because his moves are predictable and/or robotic. Or you feel like he's keeping you at a distance by playing games. But it d… | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 02:21 PM |
| 1 | I think i overstayed my welcome, but it wasn't "obvious".Nope. As I said before, the longer you keep talking with her without getting sexual, the more likely this will end up in friend zone. You need to make the move if you're into this girl. She knows you're into her. The longer you wait, the more of a pussy you seem, the more she loses attraction for you. Your fear of being 'obnoxious' is a fear of rejection. You're worried about being 'that guy' who is sexual and confident. You can test the waters to see if she's into it. Next time you hang out wit… | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 11:43 AM |
| 1 | I think i overstayed my welcome, but it wasn't "obvious".Okay, missed the part where you said you've known her for a while. How did you know her for a while and still meet her last night? Still, a girl having you over to her place to watch a movie is usually a sign that she's into it. | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 12:33 AM |
| 5 | I think i overstayed my welcome, but it wasn't "obvious".You say she didn't send you any clear signals, but she invited you over to watch a movie. That's a clear sign that she wants to hook up. There really is no clearer way for her to say it than, "Come over and fuck me." It's possible she was stand-offish once you got there. I've had that happen before. But you should still be able to work through that. You probably need to work on your sexual escalation skills and have a game plan for situations like this. You should know what to do. And if she tur… | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 11:28 PM |
| 34 | What Do You Whisper to Girls While Dancing On a Loud Dance floor?I whisper into her ear, "Will you touch my vagina...?" and she's like, "What!?" and I'm like, "That's what you're supposed to say." - Zach Galifianakis | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 05:08 PM |
| 27 | Sarcasm and foreign girls.Dude, that's rough. Tough lesson to learn. While her English may have been poor, in this situation, what you said wasn't really funny because it was actually the truth. She was trying to get in your pants. What she said was actually funny because obviously she didn't just want to see what your house looked like. Probably a better response would have been, "How do you like the tour so far?" Or, "Are you sure you can handle the full tour?" Or, "Have you seen the bedroom yet?" And yes, you can bant… | /r/seduction | 29/09/12 02:13 PM |
| 18 | So as a gay man, I'm terrified of making a move for fear that i'm going to offend someone.I was in the park a while ago and a gay guy used a pickup line on me that was awesome. If I were gay, I would totally use it all the time. I was in central park with a girl. We heard a ruckus and went to go check out what it was. They were having a 1.5 mile underwear fun-run. It was a charity event. All the participants were running a race in their underwear. There were dudes in tighty-whiteys. And fat moms with their kids. All in underwear. We were standing with a whole bunch of people along a … | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 07:00 PM |
| 1 | engaging in hobbies/fun activities will NOT help you get girlsThe person with an active social life who doesn't take any initiative, will have deeper and more meaningful relationships but a hell of a lot less of them. The person who does not have an interesting life but takes a lot of initiative will have a lot more opportunities to make new friends and lovers, but may have trouble keeping them in his life. | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 03:49 AM |
| 2 | engaging in hobbies/fun activities will NOT help you get girlsHaving an interesting life in and of itself isn't always enough to attract people into it. You still need to be able to create friendships and attract lovers without it. It's a separate skill. Having interests is sort of like the lubricant that makes it easier. If you aren't attracting friends into your life even though you're doing activities, I would look at how you are interacting with people. Are you taking initiative with others at these events? If so, how are they responding? How are you c… | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 03:46 AM |
| 1 | engaging in hobbies/fun activities will NOT help you get girlsI was the original poster of the Get a Life Guide and I agree with you 100%. Having an interesting and active life is different from having the ability to take social initiative. Becoming better at each of these is a very different process. No matter how many events you go to, if you are unable to take social initiative with women you see at those events, it won't have a lot of effect on your dating life. In fact, if you go to events regularly, and start to see people regularly, it starts to be … | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 02:46 AM |
| 6 | Is there anything specific I should do when I'm certain she's seeing other dudes?Yeah, you want to get her to be the one to ask for a relationship. I talk about how to do that here. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 03:24 PM |
| 21 | Is there anything specific I should do when I'm certain she's seeing other dudes?One of my basic assumptions of relationships is this: Until we're exclusive I assume she's seeing two other guys who have less game than I do. This assumption is important because when I start to get jealous or wonder whether she's dating other guys, it doesn't bother me because I already assume she is. The second part to this is important as well. I assume I have a lot better game than them (and I probably do). This means that I don't need to be jealous, but I do need to stay at the top of my g… | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Get a Life: A How-to GuideTime Out London. Also google 'London Events'. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:26 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone ever feel drained by the game? [Discussion] On the tough emotional cost of game.1) Have a routine. This advice goes contrary to what a lot of people espouse here on Seddit. But what you say is true. You do have a real amount of energy. One thing that makes this easier for me is that I have a set way of interacting with women at the beginning. I have two openers that I use. I have specific stories that I tell. I qualify them almost always the same way. This means that I waste less energy trying to think of what to say for each woman. Because, like you said, most interactions… | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Are there any resources for females who don't 'get it'I read Why Men Love Bitches. The advice was pretty solid. I hear the Rules is good too, although at this point it's a little old-school. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 06:15 PM |
| -4 | SRS style courtship. I'm interested to know what people around here think. Is this guy onto something?(FYI, I didn't downvote you. I think this is an interesting discussion.) not acknowledging the fact that it apparently negatively affected her life. I don't think he's in a position to judge whether it negatively affected her life. If she willingly hooked up with some guy and regrets it, that may be the case, but her communication with him about hooking up with other guys is not honest communication, as long as they are more than friends. When it comes to sex and relationships, words are not hon… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 04:10 PM |
| 1 | [Relationship] Hey Seddit, I need help with a current relationship, details inside.That's kinda what you want. That's a good thing. That means she's focusing on you now. Just tell her you've been really busy with stuff. The words you exchange with her are actually less important than the action you take. You pulling away from her will make her start to think about you more and yearn after you. And if it doesn't, then you didn't really have anything with her anyway. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 11:47 AM |
| -10 | SRS style courtship. I'm interested to know what people around here think. Is this guy onto something?Is it negative to describe an entrepreneur as wanting to make money? Is it negative to describe a lion as wanting to kill prey? This is human nature, and this is the way people act. The reasons this guy are giving for the way this girl is acting do not hold water. He's twisting logic into a pretzel so she can remain the angel. This is the exact definition of putting her on a pedestal. If a girl doesn't want to have sex with you, there's no good 'reason' for it. If she says she's feeling sick thr… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 10:22 AM |
| 1 | [Relationship] Hey Seddit, I need help with a current relationship, details inside.It's not too late if she's still with you. She could have one foot out the door and you'd be surprised at how fast she starts to turn around when she wonders if she still has you. But you have to be consistent. Don't be a whiny bitch around her. Don't keep sending her signals that you're super into her. The power of these techniques is that she doesn't know if you really are into her or not. When she starts to pull away, don't come running with I-love-you's. Let her come to you. Let her bring up… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 03:28 AM |
| 3 | How do I step my apartment game up?I'm all about the minimalism. Get a few great pieces of artwork and put one on each wall. This site, Society 6, has some cool, alternative prints. Also, a paint job will do wonders. Get some dull blue/red/yellow and paint the walls. Leave the trim white for a artsy/homey feel. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Having morality issues about inviting freshman to a party (23M)I'm going to have issues when a freshman asks what year I am or how old I am. Dude. My wing is 49 and sometimes dates 19 year-olds. I've dated 19-year-olds and I'm 39. Younger women love older men. They're looking for an adventure. If they want to do it, it's perfectly legal. They can make that choice for themselves. Don't make it for them. I'm going to have issues when a freshman asks what year I am or how old I am. "I'm way too old for you. But we can still be friends." Credit for that also go… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 03:19 AM |
| 1 | [Relationship] Hey Seddit, I need help with a current relationship, details inside.No, no, no. Having "a talk" with her is the worst thing you can do. You need to fuck with her back. Make her wonder whether you are into her. Keep her guessing. That gets her juices flowing. She wants to feel that. She wants to feel like you're leading her on a journey where she doesn't know the outcome. By sitting her down and talking with her, you are making things even more predictable and boring for her. If this girl cheated before, she's the type to run around unless you game her good. Canc… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 02:54 AM |
| 2 | please help an xx out.He told you he was breaking up with you as a bluff. He did that so you would stop him and say you want him. Obviously you don't feel anything for him so you should probably end it. The longer it goes on, the deeper it gets for him. He's already madly in love with you. Sit him down and have the talk with him. Tell him that you don't feel like things are "going to the next level," that you like him as a friend and the sex is great but you don't feel that way about him. You'll have to stop seeing h… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 02:51 AM |
| 1 | [Relationship] Hey Seddit, I need help with a current relationship, details inside.You're asking for specific advice about how to handle your current situation, yet you haven't given specifics about the kind of stuff she is doing. How do you know you are more into her than she is into you? Here are some specific tactics you can use when it seems like you are too much more into her than she is into you: http://approachanxiety.com/2009/08/advanced-tactics-to-turn-back-the-tide/ These all revolve around a willingness to pull away, to make her long for you. When your car starts to… | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 02:44 AM |
| -4 | SRS style courtship. I'm interested to know what people around here think. Is this guy onto something?That sounds like a heart-warming scenario where the poster (clusterhug) got to be the nice guy and everybody won in the end. But the truth is probably a little closer to this: She met someone else, some guy that she really likes alot more than clusterhug. The new guy is her primary interest and is banging her and maybe even treating her like crap. She's using clusterhug as an emotional fall-back to feel better about herself and get stability within her primary relationship. But she doesn't want … | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 12:02 AM |
| 1 | I've been letting her call me but yesterday she asked me to return the favor. Should I?Are you hanging out or having sex with this girl? That's important information here. In general, once I'm seeing a woman regularly, I let her invite me out twice as much as I invite her out. She generally takes more initiative than me in most aspects. She touches me more often. She looks at me A LOT more than I look at her. She faces me while I face away. She calls and texts more often than I call and text. But I do take some initiative with her. If you take no initiative at all with her, she'll… | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 09:23 PM |
| 5 | On Dating and Seducing Chinese girls.There are certain things you can do differently with different women. However, you really don't want to change your escalation game-plan based on the woman. You never want to go slower just because a girl seems "nicer" or prude or conservative. A woman will sleep with a man based on her perception of his sexual experience. The same woman will make one guy wait six weeks and sleep with another guy on the first date. My former mentor, Lance Mason, used to give a great analogy about this. It's like… | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Too much outcome independence driving her away?We talk about where we think this is going and she always says she doesn't see us getting serious. We talk about where we think this is going? You mean you talk about it. Stop talking about the relationship. Stop bringing it up. Let her bring it up. Contrary to what you stated, you are not acting with outcome independence if you every talk about the relationship with her. Not to say that you never should, but you certainly should talking about it after two weeks. This idea that she is looking fo… | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 12:46 PM |
| 65 | Best response to: Why don't you have a girlfriend?This is a shit test. She's trying to get you to qualify yourself to her. Don't jump through that hoop. Disqualify yourself to her. "I'm terrible in bed and have a really tiny penis." "I'm the worst lover in the world." etc. There is no 'reason' why a guy or girl doesn't have a girlfriend. This is a ridiculous question. Everyone is single at some point in their life. If you answer the question in a straightforward way, you are showing that you want to win her over, when it is she who should be tr… | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 12:40 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with flakes?I don't get that very often when I ask them out in person. If she's giving me a lot of positive signals or we have a fun and snappy interaction with banter back and forth, I'll probably take the number. But if she's a bit distant and says "maybe," I probably won't take the number. I don't really need another number in my phone that flakes. Not worth the hassle. | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 12:34 PM |
| 17 | How do I respond to "You should go get some!" or "You don't look like you get laid"Agree and amplify. Whatever she says to you, you agree with her and then exaggerate it to the point where it's impossible and obviously a joke. "You don't look like you get laid" I know, right? I've tried humping the leg of every woman in here and they keep batting me away yelling "Down boy!" "You should go get some!" I should! I heard they were giving some out earlier and I missed my chance. I'm definitely gonna be at the front of the line next time! | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 01:43 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with flakes?One way to reduce flakes is to offer a specific time to hang out when you meet them. At the end of the conversation, say, "Thursday night. There's this great bar called XXX. You would love it. Let's grab a drink at 8." If she's not into you, she'll say she's busy. This is good information for you. You don't want a phone number that will flake. Now you know whatever you did wasn't working, and you know you have to change some things. But you find that out right at the end of the interaction, inst… | /r/seduction | 20/09/12 04:41 PM |
| 12 | Do you visit certain venues on a regular basis (bars, clubs, day game)? Or do you just sarge as opportunities come up (concerts, parties)? Asking especially for the post-college crowd here.I teach guys how to get past approach anxiety and the very first step in this is getting out regularly and consistently to practice. I recommend guys simply go out to day game places like supermarkets, malls, parks, public transportation, and practice for 45 minutes every day. If you prefer bars or live in a low-population area, you can also go to happy hour venues and bars. Particularly when starting out, it is imperative that you take initiative to go out regularly and make this happen rather … | /r/seduction | 20/09/12 04:29 PM |
| 7 | Moving exclusively to online game.Online is a fantastic way to meet women. You can get great results. With enough work, you can improve your online game by leaps and bounds. You can get better at dating. The only drawback is that it's difficult to improve your confidence around women if you do online dating exclusively. I did online dating for a few years before I got into pickup and what I found is that I could once in a while snag a super hottie, but when I got in front of them on a date, I was inhibited. What that meant is th… | /r/seduction | 20/09/12 04:19 PM |
| 1 | I found this article, which might address one of the underlying causes of failing to attract the opposite sexHey man, it's a struggle, no doubt. But keep going. The fact that you are struggling with all this stuff means that you are improving. There are many guys out there who no longer put themselves out there. They no longer test themselves. They know they won't approach and try their hand with women, so they don't feel those feelings anymore. Keep working at it. Soon, you won't recognize yourself anymore and it will be the best thing you've ever done for yourself. | /r/seduction | 20/09/12 10:01 AM |
| 1 | [FR] from a woman's perspective. Some decent game, but for god's sake, pick one!!Thanks man. If you click on the art, it takes you to their blog. | /r/seduction | 20/09/12 09:59 AM |
| 1 | When to hugYou can do a hug almost any time. The most important place to do it is when you're leaving. I also like to announce a hug, so she knows where it's coming from. I sit down on a bench next to a girl in the park. I start talking with her. After a ten minute conversation, I tell her I have to leave. I exchange contact info with her. Then I stand up. But before I walk off, I say, "Stand up. Give me a hug." Sometimes she has things in her lap, like a book and an ipod that she has to shuffle around bef… | /r/seduction | 20/09/12 09:51 AM |
| 5 | 50 things you can tell yourself to not care about what others think of youI was coaching a client to help him get past approach anxiety. I asked him to tell me what he thought about when he was going to approach a woman. "I feel insecure because I don't have a college education," he said. "She might be educated and reject me because of that." "The guys I know who are the best with women," I told him, "don't have a college education." "Does that make you feel better?" I asked him. "It does," he said. "Well, you're still going to get approach anxiety." You can't simply … | /r/seduction | 19/09/12 10:24 PM |
| 4 | I found this article, which might address one of the underlying causes of failing to attract the opposite sexThe look of sheer desperation across Dean's face… DEAN: I don't know what to do, I don't know what else to do. Tell me what to do, tell me what to do. CINDY: I don't know what to do. DEAN : Tell me how I should be. CINDY: I don't know. DEAN: Just tell me, I'll do it, I'll do it. CINDY: I don't know what to say, I'm so sorry, I don't know what to do anymore. DEAN : Just tell me and I'll do it. This is one of the best examples of a guy in one-itis and no game. The woman has lost attraction for him… | /r/seduction | 19/09/12 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Airport Game? What do you guys think?Here's a write-up of the last time I hooked up on a plane flight. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/o4e9k/fr_hookup_on_plane_flight/ If she lives in another state that you may be traveling to, or you live in a place where people like to travel to (like I live in NYC), then it may be worth it to keep in touch. Another option is to hookup with her there at the airport or on the plane. | /r/seduction | 16/09/12 01:55 PM |
| 5 | [FR] from a woman's perspective. Some decent game, but for god's sake, pick one!!No doubt that this guy could have improved his game, because obviously you, the supposedly more attractive woman, was into him and he didn't realize it. But how do you know you were giving off the right signals? Why should you be the only girl he talks with at the wedding? Did you consider that maybe the other girl was more fun or took some initiative with him? It's not always about looks for guys. Who knows what signals you were sending to him, but if you were giving off shitty signals, playing… | /r/seduction | 14/09/12 03:54 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Very unsuccessful night, need critiqueIt took balls to walk up to her and do that. Asking a girl for her number right when you walk up to her is usually not a successful way to do it. She figures if you can't hold a conversation with her in person, why would it be good on the phone. You really want to have some kind of conversation with her in person first. This girl was into you. She wanted to have a conversation with you. But she would feel low-value giving it to a guy whom she didn't even have a conversation with. Then you guys t… | /r/seduction | 14/09/12 12:36 PM |
| 1 | I want to hold your hand. (Kino help, please!)Yes, you can just grab her hand when walking with her. She likely won't say no. You can also do it as you're crossing an intersection as if she's a kid and you're holding out your hand for her safety. Walk a few feet ahead and put your hand back for her to go with you. Again, with the kiss you can also just go for it. If you want to do it with talking, you could say, "How good a kisser are you from one to ten?" If she says a high number, say, "Yeah?" and then go for the kiss. Triangulation is al… | /r/seduction | 14/09/12 12:31 PM |
| 1 | [FR] kinda, looking for some explanationCoffee would be fine. I like to have a first date where we can sit and talk and get to know each other. Since it seems you've already done a lot of this, you could opt for a more fun second date, like a museum, park, bowling, pool, or whatever other fun activity you like to do. I like to keep these dates within striking distance of my place so I can bring her back there toward the end. | /r/seduction | 14/09/12 12:26 PM |
| 2 | Quick question about this girl I've been talking too...If you don't make a move to escalate the interaction within a certain period of time, a girl will lose attraction for you. In this case, escalating the interaction would mean asking her to hang out with you. Should I just ask her what the deal is and tell her that I like her? You never want to "have a talk" with a girl or tell her you like her. Her words are worthless compared to her actions. Instead, you want to make the move and see if she goes along with it. Invite her to hang out with you. T… | /r/seduction | 13/09/12 01:18 PM |
| 10 | After making small talk with a girl, HOW do you take that to the next stepTransitioning into personal conversation is one of the most challenging steps for guys, aside from initiating conversation in the first place. It can feel like you're intruding on their personal space. The best thing to get past this is to have something set to say and practice it every single time. After a while, it starts to become habit. One way to make this easier and smoother is to make statements instead of asking questions. I often use something like, "I get the feeling you do something c… | /r/seduction | 13/09/12 01:11 PM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAHey man, I listed a few things here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/x3swf/im_eric_disco_i_help_nice_guys_get_past_their/c5ixuem | /r/seduction | 02/08/12 02:17 AM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAIn order to get better with women, you need to practice this. It's like any other physical activity, say basketball. You take a lot of shots at the basket. Some miss, some go in. After a while, you get really good. You get into situations every day that are very similar. You could probably list off ten of them here. Maybe you see a girl shopping at the grocery store. You see a girl walking through the park, etc. You don't know these women. You don't know anything about them. You may get some vag… | /r/seduction | 27/07/12 11:01 AM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThe forum is a great place to ask questions. This is one of my favorite posts: The Most Dangerous Word in Existence. There are over 300 articles on the site, all free to read. | /r/seduction | 26/07/12 07:50 PM |
| 5 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThe book comes with over ten hours of audio which includes three hours if in-field audio of me interacting with women. In a few years, the book may be available as paperback in bookstores, but for now it's only available through the site. I offer a full 60-day refund to anyone who asks for it. | /r/seduction | 26/07/12 01:13 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI understand this and think you have some good points. In the past, I've gotten into relationships mostly based on sexual attraction. As a guy, I realized objectively that this person was not a match for me (not creative enough, not intellectually stimulating, not political enough, etc.) but I still hooked up with her. I had the idea in my mind that I could just keep it casual or sexual. But I end up getting emotionally involved just by virtue of seeing her enough times. Then I'm emotionally att… | /r/seduction | 26/07/12 01:09 PM |
| 0 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMANope. I have never encountered this problem. I have had a few students who spoke naturally loudly, and they were the ones who generated the most attraction from women at the start. I mean, I believe you when you say that it's a problem for you, but I haven't seen it first hand. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 07:32 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAInteresting. I'll check it out more. r/nofap seems like a good thing. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 07:09 PM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMANo, don't bring up the picture at all. Tell her you want your money back and that you need some time to get past things with her. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 06:29 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI currently don't do workshops. I don't think guys can get past their approach anxiety from doing workshops. Instead I work with guys one-on-one. We meet for six two-hour sessions, usually spaced a week or two apart. Half the time we spend out interacting with women. You can get more info here: The Six Step Method Mentoring Program. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:04 PM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMACheck out Robbie Kramer. [Innerconfidence.com](Innerconfidence.com). He's really good and works out of LA. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:01 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAWhen you say she isn't taking you seriously, do you mean she continues to laugh and joke with you? If that's the case, it may be that you are bantering and joking with her too much. After a certain point, if you wait too long to get personal, she may have written off the interaction as just fun on your part. In that case you may want to try to get personal earlier. If you mean that she doesn't take you seriously as a human being, in other words, her attention is wandering and she isn't intereste… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:00 PM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAJust befriend her friend and the boyfriend. Don't be afraid to compliment them and get to know them. You don't need to play any games there. If you can win them over, she'll be that much more into you. I would not factor in that girls are super conservative. I really don't know the situation there, but you want to play your own game. If you normally start to get sexual with a girl on the first date, you want to do that no matter who you're with. A girl will go along with you if you feel comforta… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:43 PM |
| 6 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAOh man, that's rough. Getting dumped is tough but then having to see that is like a punch in the gut. Yeah, cut this off. Tell her you need some time to process your feelings. I would even unfriend her on facebook so that you don't get tempted to see shit like that. The further away you can get from her, the better. And believe me, she won't be happy when you don't speak with her. She may even try to get back with you. I wrote an article a while back about this. The Cure for One-itis: Disappear. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:37 PM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAIn order to have more personal conversation with the girl I like, I'll sit down next to her. Or if she's standing, I turn my body off to the side so that it's just me and her talking. I don't go to many big, loud clubs, more lounges and bars, so there's usually a place to sit next to her. When I do go to bars, I'm also usually with my wing, so he helps with that. If you don't have your wing, you usually have to engage the whole group at first but you can start to focus in on the girl you like af… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:53 PM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAOkay, the download link is fixed. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:38 PM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAYour body reacts to certain situations with a muscle memory. When you tie your shoe, you don't think about it. It's likely you can't even explain how to tie your shoe without visualizing it in your mind. But you do it every single day without thinking about it. The same things happen in social situations. When you meet someone new, 95% of your response is automatic. You don't think about what to do. You act a certain way you've learned all your life. And it's very difficult to break that. It's g… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:24 PM |
| 6 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAShe responded "aww, we're such good friends though now". Mind you we were SPOONING at the time. Mix signal city. Yes, perfect. You sent her mixed signals and now she's sending them back. That's fine. You should just keep sexually escalating. Ask her what feels better, nibbles on the ear or kisses on the neck and do each one to show her. If her body is saying yes, like this woman was, then keep escalating. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:17 PM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAGetting a girl's number in a sober scenario is not that much different. It just feels harder because you're more inhibited. I like to set up a date rather than just go for the number. I usually start with, "Do you ever come out to Williamsburg?" That's the part of town I live in. "Let's grab a drink next week. Wednesday. But you have to promise not hit on me." And then when she says yes, I hand her my phone and have her put her number in. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:11 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMATyler is awesome. Was into his products back in the day and learned a lot from him. I haven't checked out RSD's newer natural game stuff so I can't comment on it. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:06 PM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAAsking her out right away may work for some guys, particularly if you're good-looking or have amazing body language. But I generally don't do that. Firstly, it can come across as unattractive. It shows that you're willing to invest an hour or two with this woman whom you know NOTHING about. You're telling her that she has a pass with you simply because she's attractive. No way. Not for me, honey. After I start talking with her, I'm going to find out a bit more about her as a person to make sure … | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:04 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMARoosh talks about some great stuff. I read his first book, Bang and it had some great ideas in it. Haven't checked out his newer stuff. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:52 PM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMANever had a threesome. Not my thing. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:51 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI wrote an article about this a while back, The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six Weeks. I think it can be a super useful way to motivate yourself, to get you more excited about sex, and to make you inject sex into relationships. If you're already with women, it can enhance your sexual experiences. The biggest downside is that you do have sex for the first time with a new girl, you may come too quickly. It can also increase you general daily stress and make you feel frustrated. M… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:49 PM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAFirstly, I like to make sure I'm sitting next to her, like on a couch, rather than across from her, like at a table. Escalating at a table is difficult. I start off by doing friendly touching. Here's an easy one, "Cool rings." Take her by the hand and look at her rings. If she's not wearing rings, you could say, "Are you a hard work?" and then take her hand and feel for calluses."No calluses, huh? Maybe on your fingertips from all the typing?" And feel her fingertips. Or, you can just hold her h… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:42 PM |
| 7 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAExactly. And the more time passes, the more feelings you have for her. If you haven't made the move yet, it becomes harder and harder because there's too much on the line. You become too inhibited. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:33 PM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI haven't listened to their stuff lately. Actually coached Jordan and AJ in a workshop years and years ago. Have done some interviews with them in the past. Still friends with them. Was actually just speaking with AJ about doing an interview sometime soon. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 06:56 AM |
| 10 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAWe've all fucked up. All of us have been there. I've lost more opportunities than I can count. I would always get into shitty situations with the girls I really liked and end up with the ones who were mediocre to me. I still lose more girls in an average week than a guy does in a year. That's because I put myself out there. I pull in way more than the average guy, but I also drop the ball too. The thing is that I do so much of it that it doesn't effect me much anymore. I laugh at it. And I don't… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 06:46 AM |
| 14 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAYeah. Rather than philosophical, you want things that might have emotional content, ones that you'd like to share with someone. For example: I've got some friends coming into town, where's a good place to bring them? Do women like cologne? How did your parents meet? What's the worst date you've ever been on? Ever been arrested? What's the nicest thing you've ever done for a guy? | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 06:35 AM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMACheck out this response here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/x3swf/im_eric_disco_i_help_nice_guys_get_past_their/c5ixuem | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 06:31 AM |
| 4 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAGood looking and successful guys don't necessarily have it easier when it comes to approach anxiety. I've coached millionaires who couldn't approach women. I've coached some guys who were gorgeous. This isn't a logical thing that you can think away. It's more like an instinctive response. In fact, being successful can make it harder because it's maybe been a while since you were at ground level. You have to be willing to go back to kindegarten and suck at this just like everyone else. If you've … | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 06:23 AM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAWow, interesting question. Ways I would suggest you can convince yourself it's real: See if you can meet a wing who can do some of this stuff. Even if he's not that great, just seeing it can be great. Get a coach to take you out for at least one session. Again, your coach doesn't have to be the best guy in the world, just someone who can demo a few approaches. Watch videos on the internet. Listen to audio. Read field reports. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 06:03 AM |
| 15 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI think one of the biggest mistakes guys make is trying to have a new and interesting conversation with every woman that they meet. They try to start off the conversation in a brand new way every time. And this is supposed to work based on what--something she's wearing or doing or the situation at hand? Look at it this way. Have you ever had an interesting conversation with a woman? If so, than you can have an interesting conversation with every woman. Part of that is about keeping what works an… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:52 AM |
| 7 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThanks. My first name is Eric. Disco is a pseudonym. I took that from the Pet Shop Boys song Disco Potential. "Baby says all she wants is disco potential." | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:44 AM |
| 17 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThey size you up sooner than that. They size you up as you're walking over to them. They notice your body language. They notice what you're wearing. They notice how you position yourself near them and if you give them too much eye contact before speaking with them. Right when you speak with her, she sizes you up based on the loudness of your voice. That's one of the biggest things. And then she notices how comfortable you are speaking with her. Is your face relaxed? Are you speaking slowly inste… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:32 AM |
| 7 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMABeing obsessed with her is directly proportional to not making the move to get sexual. And making the move to get sexual is directly proportional to not becoming obsessed with her. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:21 AM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAWhenever you get sexual with a girl, there is a risk that she won't be into it. In fact, even if she likes you, she may reject your advances at first if she's not ready. Part of getting good with sexual escalation is learning to handle the rejections and turn-downs. If you go for a kiss and she isn't into it, the best thing to do is to be totally non-reactive. Act like nothing happened. And then try again in a little while. Or you could joke it off. If you go for the kiss and she pulls away, you… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:13 AM |
| 5 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI think my response to this question may answer yours: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/x3swf/im_eric_disco_i_help_nice_guys_get_past_their/c5ixyid | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:05 AM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThe transition from night time to day time and vice versa can be a bit awkward at first, but the main component to that is simply feeling comfortable in the environment. You can use most of the same style of opener. Bars tend to be a little more social and you don't need as much of a 'reason' to open her. So during the day, if you're being indirect, you need some sort of opening question to get her into conversation with you. So I would start with some simple directions and once you're comfortab… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 05:02 AM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAi feel as if i for the most part act myself when around woman, simply because i don't give enough fucks to be someone else. But, possibly am I being myself too much? Should I pull a "Hitch" and only reveal 10% of my mass and reveal the other 90% slowly over time? The problem with "just being yourself" isn't that you reveal too much of yourself, it's that you lack consistency. When you have a more set structure of things to say, you start to see what really works with women. Even the best guys in… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 04:35 AM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAPhysical attractiveness does matter. If you look like Brad Pitt, you'll easily getter more women and more attractive women than if you look like Paul Giamatti. But there are a few things to take into consideration here. Firstly, physical attractiveness does not matter as much as guys think it does. Guys place a higher importance on physical attractiveness than women do. And so guys project that onto themselves. Take a look at male versus female rock stars. A butt-ugly male rock star will still g… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 04:29 AM |
| 6 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThis is what positioning looks like. I'm standing next to three different women. http://www.shessixstepsaway.com/files/web-middle.jpg http://www.shessixstepsaway.com/files/web-right.jpg http://www.shessixstepsaway.com/files/web-left.jpg | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:46 AM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI like his stuff. I remember listening to him back in the day, talking about how when you're more choosy, you actually get more women, not less. His reframing of himself as the prize is also great. A lot of "game" is about getting the woman to think that she's the one trying to win you over rather than you winning her over. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:42 AM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAWeird coincidence. That's exactly what I look like: http://images.wikia.com/simpsons/images/d/d0/SimpDiscoStuGallery.png | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:35 AM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThe artwork on the site is from other artists. If you click on the artwork, it links to the artists' sites. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:31 AM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAYup. I've gotten into several long term relationships. Most of my students are geared toward long term relationships. In my book, one of the case studies was a guy who had never had a girlfriend. He eventually met his first girlfriend on a subway train in the city. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 03:29 AM |
| 1 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThe next step is getting personal. You want to find out more about each other. This can be where she's from, what she does for a living, what she does for fun, etc. Particularly if you're still getting comfortable with this, don't try to be clever. Stick to the basics. So for example, you can say, "What do you do?" Talk about what she does for a while and then turn the conversation back to you. "Okay, guess what I do." You don't want to hammer her with too many questions in a row or talk too muc… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:59 AM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThis is one of the biggest things for guys in a city like New York. They see so many gorgeous women every day that they feel like they should talk to all of them. Yes, it's possible to talk with any woman, anywhere. But to set yourself up for that is a recipe for failure. Every time you see a gorgeous girl, you'll feel like a failure because you didn't take action. No matter how good you are, there's no way you could approach all the women you're attracted to. I know some of the best guys in the… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:48 AM |
| 6 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAHaving something memorized to say can make the whole process easier. Eventually you get into some conversations with people. And you can re-use those conversations to "jump start" conversations with new women. If you are going to practice approaching new women every day, you can't be expected to come up with brilliant conversations simply based on what she looks like or the fact that she's riding the train. Yeah, if she's got a yoga mat or is drawing in a book, then you have something talk about… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:41 AM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThanks for the feedback! In this comment I talk about how to walk up so that you're in her field of vision. You can also tap her on the arm from behind. Here's how you do this. You usually need to walk a little bit faster than normal to catch up with her. When you catch up to her, you're going to give her a tap on the arm and say "Hey!" at the same time. I like to visualize that I already know the girl, that I've had a two-hour conversation with her the night before and I just happened to see he… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:36 AM |
| 2 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAFirst of all, approaching girls walking on a crowded street is one of the toughest things to do. Approaching girls walking in general is pretty hard. If you have little experience approaching, I would first start with easier tasks, like women standing or women sitting. When you're comfortable with that, start to challenge yourself in harder situations. When you do start approaching walking women, first see if you can stop them and simply ask for directions. When she's walking toward you, you usu… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:31 AM |
| 3 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAI used to advocate one approach a day. It was super hard for me to do, but I did it over and over. It got easier, only because I was used to the nervousness, but it never got fun. I was always still really inhibited and scared when I did it. I eventually started coaching guys. And I had guys who came to me who couldn't even do one approach. So what do I do with them? I decided to break down "the approach" into smaller digestible parts that they could practice over and over. When I started practi… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:27 AM |
| 8 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThere are a number of things you can do to make things sexual. I am an advocate of having something sexual to say in conversation in order to make sure that you get sexual with women. The more times you say it, the more comfortable you get with this. A good way to start is with sexual banter, also known as cocky funny. For example, if a girl asks me where I'm from, I'll tell her I'm from New Jersey and then say, "You're not gonna try to hit on me now that you know I'm from Jersey, are you? Why d… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:18 AM |
| 14 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAAwesome, thanks for the feedback. I wrote an entire book filled with exercises on building self-confidence. Can you be more specific about what type of self-confidence you're looking for? There are a number of things you can do on a daily basis that will challenge you and build that social confidence muscle and a lot of it depends on what level you're at and what you're already comfortable with. Some things to start off: Simply go out on a daily basis to places that make you a bit uncomfortable.… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 02:10 AM |
| 16 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThe problem is that you didn't get sexual with her. When a guy doesn't get sexual with a woman soon enough, he puts himself in a very bad position. The longer he goes without hooking up with her, the worse a position he's in. He becomes disempowered. And she senses this. She wants you to escalate with her. She expects you to make the first move. And when you don't, she loses respect for you. She loses attraction for you. Your solution here is plain and simple. Learn to escalate faster. I start t… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:57 AM |
| 9 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThe main thing that guys miss is positioning. Naturals don't think about what they're going to say to women. They act. And they act immediately. This allows them to tap into their natural animalistic desire. Right when they see the woman, they start taking action with their body. I did a lot of work with Cory Skyy, an excellent natural. I pieced this together from our many interviews. Here's what he does right when he sees a woman: I position myself properly. If I see an attractive woman at the … | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:48 AM |
| 5 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAMystery is fantastic. He's the godfather of a lot of this stuff. In his day, he pioneered more than anybody. I've learned a lot from him. Neil Strauss's the Game made his work digestible, so I've always liked Neil as well. In terms of my favorite? Wow, that's really hard. I've learned so much from a lot of people. I've learned a ton from my wing Hurricane Lee. I've learned a ton from good friend Glenn P. But I've also learned a lot from working with John Keegan, Lance Mason, Brad P, Cory Skyy. I… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:42 AM |
| 4 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAAwesome man. I will try to get that back up today or tomorrow. Thanks for the feedback. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:36 AM |
| 8 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMAThanks man, appreciate the feedback. You feeling approach anxiety because you don't go out as often is not just a mindset thing. If a runner wasn't making progress because he only ran once a week, you wouldn't tell him it's his mindset. The mind is a muscle. You're way better off practicing a little bit every day, for a half hour or 45 minutes, rather than doing ten times as much just on the weekends. And this is key to how I balance my life. I do a little bit every day. I pace myself. Instead o… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:35 AM |
| 33 | I’m Eric Disco. I help nice guys get past their fear of approaching women. AMABody language is hugely important. There are so many areas that guys can improve on including positioning, eye contact, physical contact, relaxed face, etc. But the most important thing is this: From my experience coaching shy guys to get past their fear, by far the biggest issue I see is that they don't speak loudly enough when they start talking with a woman. Speaking loudly is the biggest difference between a positive and a negative reaction from a woman. About 95% of the guys I coach will sp… | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 01:24 AM |
| 5 | guys approach me, i repel them after 5 minutes, repeat x50...sigh help me sedditI talk to a lot of women. Sometimes they lose interest in me but just as often I lose interest in them for some reason. Here's the reasons why I lose interest in them, listed by when they are likely to come up in the interaction after I start talking with her. She's not as cute as I thought from afar. Sometimes you start talking with a girl you thought was cute from afar and once you're talking with her, you realize she's not that cute. (Other times it's the other way round, she's cuter than you… | /r/seduction | 10/07/12 10:59 PM |
| 5 | [FR] Girl Sunning in Park, Lying on Her StomachYou can make your intentions obvious without bringing up sex. Okay, so how do you choose to make your intentions obvious? Or they think you're trying too hard and are turned off. That's what you risk when you bring up sex. But that risk is worth it rather than ending up in friend zone. | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 09:43 PM |
| 6 | [FR] Girl Sunning in Park, Lying on Her StomachNo offense taken. I always like a good discussion. I think bringing up sex the first time you meet a girl is pretty corny. Not being afraid to talk about inappropriate topics isn't an attractive quality. It's just a quality. I'm not there to make friends with her when I first meet her. She needs to know that from the start. I've gone into plenty of interactions with women in the past being careful, not taking chances and being as nice as possible. Those are the ones that flake. When you're domin… | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 09:15 PM |
| 3 | "She's Six Steps Away" by Eric Disco, opinions?To go along with the book, I went out and recorded over 3 hours of audio of me interacting with women. It gives you an idea of exactly what to say and do at each step. Plus, there are hour-long audio interviews with gurus at each step of the process (Brad P, Glenn P, Lance Mason, Cory Skyy, etc) Most people would sell something like that for a lot more. Maybe in a year or two I'll work with a publishing company to put it in bookstores where it will be 10-15 bucks. But it won't be with those bonu… | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 08:16 PM |
| 13 | [FR] Girl Sunning in Park, Lying on Her StomachI usually wear a recorder when I go out. That helps when it comes to remembering all the details. | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 07:10 PM |
| 57 | [FR] Girl Sunning in Park, Lying on Her StomachThanks. I'll take that as a compliment. | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 07:09 PM |
| 16 | [FR] Girl Sunning in Park, Lying on Her StomachActually exchanged e-mails. | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Major AA at clubs due to fear of rejection *in front of friends*. What do I do?I like to "warm-up" before I meet up with my friends. Ask a few women for directions. Compliment a few people. That way when you meet up with your friends, you aren't totally cold. | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 05:07 PM |
| 3 | What do you say to # close?My favorite way to close is this. I give her a specific day and time to hang out. "Thursday. 8 pm. There's this place on the lower east side called Winebar. Let's grab a drink." Since it's a bit of a pull to ask her out for a drink, I usually throw in some push right afterward. "But you have to promise not to get me drunk and take advantage of me." This is the reason I offer a specific time instead of just saying, "Let's grab a drink next week." It gives her a chance to say No. I want her to say… | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 05:04 PM |
| 7 | "She's Six Steps Away" by Eric Disco, opinions?Eric Disco totally sucks. Don't listen to a word he says! ;) | /r/seduction | 08/06/12 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Success Can Hurt You as Much as FailureHmmm... I read the linked article and I don't see where it says you should stop thinking or feeling something. I don't advocate trying to actively change your thoughts or feelings. Saying, "I'm fucking awesome," is more of a reminder to yourself that you did something really good: you took action. To be honest, I don't totally understand the jist of the article about peak experience. I do agree that you have ups and downs, days when you feel more and less confident. It's good to acknowledge that… | /r/seduction | 15/05/12 08:00 PM |
| 3 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.Awesome, man. You're a rock star. Nice work. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 01:36 AM |
| 3 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.Neither snow nor rain nor dark of night shall keep this man from his appointed masturbation. That's dedication. | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 08:39 PM |
| 3 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.I am 39. I was being a bit facetious when I said I was old. I certainly can't do things like I did when I was younger, like... stay up past midnight. I wish I were joking. But I still do meet and date younger women, some as young as 18 and 19, although that's not my target age range. | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 08:24 PM |
| 1 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.Awesome. Now... I have to get my ass back out there and start running again. Eric | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 07:12 PM |
| 3 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.When your routine becomes a compulsion that controls your life, then the routine becomes something that is no longer routine but controls you. Whether or not we want our habits to control us, they do. It's about which habits you choose to enforce. If it's a habit you don't want or a bad habit such as being too compulsively clean, then the ability to change it determines how much control you have. If it is a positive habit, then the ability to maintain it is what determines your control. You don'… | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 07:08 PM |
| 17 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.Great discussion. A habit is something your muscles have become used to doing and in essence you're not doing it, your body is. This is exaclty how I want approaching to be. When I see that gorgeous woman, I don't want to think about I'm doing. I just want to feel my own attraction and take action. When you catch a ball, you're not thinking about catching the ball. A professional pitcher doesn't think about how to move his body when he pitches. It's all muscle memory. His body is doing it. He's … | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 05:43 PM |
| 12 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.Thanks, man. I appreciate the feedback. | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 03:50 PM |
| 29 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.Start small with something you can do every single day. The biggest problem I see with guys is that they start out trying to do too much. Most guys have a ton of approach anxiety. So to go out and approach even one woman every single day takes a monumental amount of effort. I know, I used to try to do this every day. Instead, start with something that you know you can do ever single day. Go out and just walk around. Go exploring for new places to meet women. Get out every single day and do this … | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 03:01 PM |
| 18 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is a pathological aspect of something very good in people. You are your habits. If you don't have consistency, what do you have? The key is using your ocd tendencies to work for you instead of ways that harm you. I get up every morning at 6 AM and write for two hours. This is a good habit. I go out every day and talk with women. A few years ago I would have given my right arm to be able to go out and talk to new somebody new every day. It's important to me and somet… | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 02:57 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Talked to a Girl in the Park: Being Direct and SexualHa ha. Yeah. I did get the hug. Guess I didn't make that clear. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 01:11 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Talked to a Girl in the Park: Being Direct and SexualThanks man. I'm located in New York. 39. My blog is approachanxiety.com. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 01:00 AM |
| 3 | How to Move a Date to Your Place (Or Hers)Here's a trick I've used when you want to go back to her place: I met a girl in L.A. (I live in New York) We were out at a bar having drinks. I tell her we're going to another bar. We walk by a liquor store. I ask if she's ever had absinth. She says No. We go in and pick up a bottle of absinth. Now that we have a bottle of liquor, it's a great excuse to go back to her place and drink it. You can even do this stupid thing where you get a spoonful of sugar, pour the absinth over it and light it on… | /r/seduction | 01/03/12 11:16 AM |
| 5 | i'm approaching yet another year of life without any experience with women.There's nothing wrong with you. You can get laid and get a girlfriend. I've worked with guys who were virgins and who had never had girlfriends and some of them were much older than you. They successfully hooked up and had girlfriends. There's a lot of pressure from society to have a woman. Friends will ask about your relationships and women in your life because it's something to talk about. You just have to improve at your own pace. Some suggestions: Don't read too much stuff. You will be overw… | /r/seduction | 28/02/12 05:34 PM |
| 6 | When I'm solo, I'm much better at opening. When I'm with my buddies, I drop state and get AA. Any advice?Sometimes when I get together with my friends I approach less. If I'm with guys who don't approach at all, my tendency is to just hang out with them rather than meet new women. If I'm with guys who are really good with women or really alpha, they sometimes challenge me to do great things. Other times, if I feel intimidated, I take less initiative. And, like you, we may end up talking 'shop' -- talking about pickup too much rather than doing it. Two things I've found that help me. The first is th… | /r/seduction | 28/02/12 05:24 PM |
| 12 | My cocky-funny is coming off as more cocky...?The key is exaggeration. If you say, "Every girl in here wants me," it comes off as cocky. But if you say, "Why do women keep grabbing my ass?" it is funny because women typically don't grab a guy's ass. | /r/seduction | 27/02/12 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Weed.I enjoy getting high, but not when I'm gonna pick up. Yeah. I get anti-social when high. I start thinking too much. A drink or two is perfect. Beyond that, I start to get sloppy. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 03:48 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you are being stared down by an AMOG?I've heard suggestions to stare at a point on in the center of their forehead. It is unsettling, for some reason. Interesting. Every time I talk with Brad P, he does this. I'd love to know where this comes from. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 03:40 PM |
| 4 | What's the best way to get past when she says "just because we're going to your place doesn't mean I'm gonna sleep with you tonight""Are you trying to use reverse psychology on me? Nice try. We're not sleeping together tonight." | /r/seduction | 22/02/12 01:47 PM |
| 5 | Do You Start The 'What Are We' Talk?If you don't want anything serious with her, don't get into a serious discussion about your relationship. Simply by having 'the talk' you are communicating your intentions at something more serious. If she wants something more serious from you, and you're okay with things the way they are, it's her responsibility to bring it up. Let's look at it the other way. Let's say she doesn't want something serious. Let's say she's okay with things the way they are. Then you explicitly say, "I don't want a… | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Not to whore myself for attention, but what about those of us with legitimate mental illness?Don't wear your illness (or any other weakness) on your sleeve. If it comes out, then own it. But if she doesn't know about it, don't reveal it. Keep your illness to yourself. In other words, if it's depression, then don't come to her in order to feel good. If you have to retreat at times to deal with your illness, then do so. The time away will only make you more attractive. Mental illness hinders game big time. If you're depressed, it saps your energy to interact with people. If you have anxie… | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 07:40 PM |
| 6 | I'm a keyboard jockey, I want to change this, what should I do in the next couple of weeks?If you look at social confidence as a muscle, this would be way too much. It's like trying to go out and run 14 miles on your first day of track practice. If you have trouble getting yourself to do even one approach, setting yourself up to do six on the first day will make it even less likely you'll get started. Instead, start slowly. Go out and interact with one person every day. Don't set yourself up to do 'an approach.' Instead, ask three people for directions. Or one, if you can't do three. … | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 12:30 PM |
| 2 | What's wrong with me?Firstly, there's nothing wrong with you. When you're into a girl, you'll feel a little off balance. And since you haven't been on a date in a while, you are investing a lot into this. You want to limit the amount of contact you have with her. When texting and calling, let her take initiative as much as you do. For the first few weeks, only see her once a week. In terms of dealing with your feelings, I like to use affirmations. This article talks about that in detail. You took a risk. You put you… | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Reposting this ! Any comments will be very helpful.If they are attracted and comfortable talking with you and you sense they're willing to escalate, the next step is to transition into personal conversation. You want to get them to talk about themselves. You can simply ask them a question about themselves. "Where are you guys from?" Or you can use a statement to get them to talk about themselves. "I get the feeling you're not from around here. I'm gonna say L.A." | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 12:13 PM |
| 8 | Be more dominant.Love it. Whenever possible, I phrase questions as statements. "Can you meet for a drink later this week?" versus "I can meet for a drink later this week." The second is much more dominant. | /r/seduction | 14/02/12 02:07 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Hookup on Plane FlightMet up at a bar in town and had a few drinks. It's actually a bit of a sticky situation (no pun intended) when you meet up after what happened on the plane. I played it cool at first, casually talking with her and building up the physical connection again. We played some pool. I joked around with her, busting on her and getting more physical. After two drinks I said we should to go another bar. Walking around, I came up with an excuse to stop by her place, which was close by. We played some more… | /r/seduction | 09/01/12 02:05 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Hookup on Plane FlightResponded here. | /r/seduction | 06/01/12 11:29 AM |
| 4 | [FR] Hookup on Plane FlightI know right? Fuck 9/11. It ruined things for us all. | /r/seduction | 06/01/12 04:30 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Hookup on Plane FlightWe did end up meeting on Thursday. Wasn't sure whether it was going to happen. One of the important things is ending the interaction at the right time so you leave her wanting more. You are unable to end the interaction yourself on a flight. By the end of the flight we were both pretty worn out. So if she had flaked, I wouldn't have been surprised. | /r/seduction | 06/01/12 04:29 AM |
| 11 | [FR] Hookup on Plane FlightYou can talk to them about philosophy, history and literature. But you want to make sure it has emotional content. How does philosophy effect people? What were your real-life experiences with history? Let me give you an example. I've worked in information technology for years. Does any girl really care about the inner workings of computers or routers? No. Her eyes start to droop the moment I go there. But I might say something like this: People are so afraid of computers. My mother is always cal… | /r/seduction | 06/01/12 04:25 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Hookup on Plane FlightWhen it comes to being sexual it's not as much about being clever or intelligent, it's more about being playful and dominant. Most of the stuff I say to women isn't fit for prime time TV. | /r/seduction | 06/01/12 04:19 AM |
| 8 | [FR] Hookup on Plane FlightThank you, sir. Indifference and composure is a big part of it. Even though she was really hot, I truly did not care if we hooked up. But it's easier said than done to simply not care. I talk to a lot of really hot girls, so I'm fairly calm around them now. | /r/seduction | 05/01/12 09:57 PM |
| 1 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksDo you consider yourself handsome? I'm probably about a 6 or a 7. I was never in my life approached by a woman until recently. I have really good fashion though, and that counts for a lot with women. Also, what works for you during the day (subways and book-stores): Hi? I noticed you and wanted to say hi? Just curious as to where you start out. The focus of my coaching is helping guys past approach anxiety. I teach indirect opening first. An example would be asking for a book recommendation or f… | /r/seduction | 16/12/11 07:46 PM |
| 3 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksWhen I said that I come in buckets, I was talking about the amount, not that women are buckets. As in, I come in gallons. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:33 PM |
| 22 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksI meet a lot of women during the day: on subway trains, bookstores, supermarkets, parks in the summer. During the day I meet women who are anywhere from 18 to early 30's. I don't do nightgame. I hate super loud bars. I won't scream to talk with a woman. And I hate having to push through crowds. But what I do like is happy hour game. From 6-10 pm at bars you can meet a lot of great women. They tend to be a little more professional, in their late 20's, early 30's. The environment is a lot more chi… | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 02:31 AM |
| 2 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksWell, it wasn't quite a different result prior to four weeks with a dramatic change at four weeks. I meant that it took a couple of weeks before I noticed the sex improving. It's been like that for a few weeks now and it's the best sex I've had in years. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 02:09 AM |
| 13 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksAwesome. Didn't know that existed. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 01:06 AM |
| 4 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksSorry, double-post so I deleted one. I tend to date women more long term. I don't do as much bar game as meet women during the day so it's not generally a same day hook-up. Usually short or long-term non-exclusive relationships. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:51 AM |
| 7 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksThanks, man. Appreciate the feedback. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:47 AM |
| 4 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksNo, I'm not indiscriminate. That ends up wasting a lot of time. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:44 AM |
| 2 | The Effects of Quitting Porn and Masturbation for Six WeeksI have no desire to post stuff like that. You can believe whatever you want. | /r/seduction | 15/12/11 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Question to older redditors - Did your tastes in women/men change with age?Absolutely. I am 38. When I was younger I used to be attracted to super skinny women, ones that had the body of a 12 year old boy. Now I'm attracted to much curvier women. Part of it is that I've had experience with a lot more women. After I got with more curvy women (like with a nice hip-to-waist ratio) I started to get into that more. Part of it is that I'm just able to get with those women now when I wasn't before. I was probably self-handicapping in my choice of women. In terms of their ages… | /r/seduction | 30/09/11 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Best way to leave when you've been shot down by a girl, or group of?When it comes to nurturing your confidence, the way you exit interactions is almost as important as the way you enter them. If you can exit interactions with confidence, you will feel better walking away, and that will make you feel better about your next interaction. When I give a compliment to a woman on the street, 9 out of 10 times she responds positively. I'll say I love her shoes. And she smiles and says thanks. I will confidently and loudly say, "You're welcome." But sometimes she doesn't… | /r/seduction | 08/09/11 07:37 PM |
| 1 | The Cure for One-itis: DisappearThat works too. | /r/seduction | 06/08/11 05:57 PM |
| 1 | The Cure for One-itis: DisappearYes, it's a huge risk. And that's what makes it so powerful. I know, you really do not want to take that risk. And that's what makes you subservient to her. You can't walk away. And she knows that. That makes you inhibited around her. So what other choice do you have? | /r/seduction | 06/08/11 03:14 PM |
| 1 | The Cure for One-itis: DisappearIf she really wants to fuck all the time, that's not the worst situation. You can usually leverage that into a relationship. I would recommend two things: 1) Don't make it less sexual. But do amp up the connection and rapport. Get her to open up to you. But this alone won't cut it. You also want to... 2) Fuck with her in other small ways. Get her off balance. Pull away when she least expects it. Use some of these tactics. Also check out how to make her your girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 06/08/11 03:12 PM |
| 3 | The Cure for One-itis: DisappearIf you've already done the disappearing act once or twice and are still falling into the same pattern, then this woman is treachery for you. You have too much submissiveness and defeat associated with her. Stop trying to climb that same miserable mountain. You broke your back every time you tried before. There is too much defeat and despair on this path. Find a new mountain to climb. | /r/seduction | 06/08/11 03:06 PM |
| 1 | The Cure for One-itis: DisappearYou are still emotionally involved with someone who hasn't been with you for six years. Is that really love? The romantic in me would love to believe that you could have a two-year-long relationship with someone, end it amicably, and years later still be in love with her in a healthy way. My experience says that there are probably some outstanding factors here. Who ended the relationship? How painfully did it end? How many women have you been with since? New relationships tend to dampen the pain… | /r/seduction | 06/08/11 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Its called Etsy. Girls fucking love it.A flower is cliche but inexpensive jewlry isn't? Look, your initial post isn't bad. I didn't downvote you. Instead of doing something cliche, get her something more original. I agree. Get her something funny or something that she personally would be really into. But when you do something nice for her, it still comes at a cost, however small. | /r/seduction | 05/08/11 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Its called Etsy. Girls fucking love it.So how is buying her a flower different than buying her something off of Etsy? | /r/seduction | 05/08/11 03:27 PM |
| 0 | Its called Etsy. Girls fucking love it.Gifts and selfless kindness have a cost that goes far beyond money. Giving a girl a gift is like telling a girl "I like you" or "I love you." Girls think they like it. They think it means something. But it usually only serves to make them more secure in the relationship. The net effect is that this tends to lower their feelings toward you. It makes her focus on you less. I am rarely "nice" to women I'm seeing. Once in a while I am nice. But when I do it, I do it for myself and know that the net … | /r/seduction | 05/08/11 03:15 PM |
| 5 | So I'm reading The Game, and I'm confused about one key PUA concept...Even with direct game, you are making it clear to her that you are attracted to her, but that you still aren't sure about her as a person. You open strong and confidently show sexual interest, but then let her know that she still needs to show you that she's an interesting person, or you're going to walk away. You are demonstrating to her that you could do this with any woman, that she struck your fancy, but that she still has work to do to win you over. | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 07:02 PM |
| 16 | So I'm reading The Game, and I'm confused about one key PUA concept...You must eventually show interest in her, but doing it too early will turn her off. Mystery summed up your goal when opening women: active disinterest. When you initiate an interaction with a very attractive woman, she will assume you are interested in her. You can minimize this by being believably indirect, but the most attractive women will still assume you are interested. That's why when you initiate the interaction, you want to demonstrate disinterest by disqualifying yourself to her, usuall… | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 06:52 PM |
| 6 | Fun Sexual Escalation Role PlayThere's something to be said about building up the sexual tension and silently going in for the kiss or whatever other sexual escalation you want to do. Simply making the move. That works. It can be intense and powerful. However, it can sometimes be too much tension. In many cases, it can help to use excuses to touch her. Starting from when I first meet her, I am using excuses to touch her. I give her a tap on the arm to get her attention. Perfect excuse to initiate physical contact. I give her … | /r/seduction | 09/07/11 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Fun Sexual Escalation Role PlayIt was actually used in public. I was sitting next to her on a couch, as I like to do on first dates. She responded very positively. | /r/seduction | 09/07/11 06:25 PM |
| 1 | [FR] What is wrong with this daygame routine?My pleasure. By the way, I think that it's fine to use "canned material." Ideally you want to be creative, spontaneous and work with what she gives you. Using pre-scripted material can stifle the spontaneity and fun, depending on how you use it. However, if you want to learn from what you're doing, you're going to want to have consistency. If you do something wildly different every time you talk to a woman, it can be difficult to improve. And it's also difficult for other people to help you out,… | /r/seduction | 07/07/11 08:28 PM |
| 5 | [FR] What is wrong with this daygame routine?Does this mean you basically need to ask her a question about herself, let her answer and then convert something she said into a story to generate the feeling of rapport? Not really. The feeling that she's connected with you will come when you find out something special about her and appreciate that. You are correct that asking too many questions is a problem. That's why you need to intersperse your questions with statements about her and about yourself. This is too many questions in a row: You:… | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 08:39 PM |
| 1 | [FR] What is wrong with this daygame routine?When you initially talk to her, you're demonstrating confidence. Sometimes simply initiating an interaction is enough and she's interested in you. Other times it's not. That's why you want to use things like banter and flirting, "I'm totally making you my tour guide!" During the day, once she smiles, you can assume she's attracted to you. At that point, you can transition into rapport, "I noticed an accent..." Once you're in rapport, the idea is to get to know her as a person, to find out some p… | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 06:09 PM |
| 2 | [FR] What is wrong with this daygame routine?The tattoo opinion is good as an opening but it's not really rapport building. The idea with rapport is that you want to find out something unique about her as a person and appreciate that. Her giving her opinion on your friend's tattoo probably won't accomplish that unless she happens to share something about herself. When you asked about her accent, that would have been a good time to transition into rapport. Once she tells you: "I'm from so and so" or "I actually grew up around here," that's … | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 05:15 PM |
| 2 | She's not looking for anything serious, but I am. Is it worth it?Just because she says she isn't looking for anything serious doesn't mean that she isn't looking for anything serious. You acted like her boyfriend too soon. That made her feel crowded. That's why she said she's not looking for anything serious. Let her take initiative with you at least as much as you take initiative with her. Make sure she invites you out a little more than you invite her out. If she isn't, don't invite her out. Wait for her to do it. Make sure she takes initiative to call or t… | /r/seduction | 24/06/11 12:53 AM |
| 2 | The BEST possible text you can send when she flakes (doesn't reply to you asking her out)While this may sound far-fetched, I actually sent a very similar text to a girl a few days ago. This was my version. I sent it about an hour before our supposed date because I hadn't heard back from her. This is lame to do this last minute but I'm gonna have to cancel for tonight. Something came up with one of my friends. I'll make it up to you, promise. Eric It got a good response. One of the things I like about it is that "something came up with one of my friends" could mean anything. Maybe on… | /r/seduction | 28/05/11 02:00 AM |
| 7 | NYCers--- Can you teach me how to be a wingwoman?A wingwoman can be awesome. The difference between a wingwoman and a wingman is that the woman can go into a conversation right as the guy opens, where as a wingman usually wants to hang back for about 30 seconds or a minute. The woman going in with the guy works well because everyone's guard is down. They perceive your friend as less of a threat because it doesn't seem like he's hitting on anyone because he's already with a woman. Here's what not to do: I had a girl friend who said she wanted t… | /r/seduction | 12/03/11 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Where's the thin line between white knighting and being nice?Perhaps you have your terms confused, but white knighting is jumping in and sticking up for someone out of niceness. It's pretty much the same thing as being nice. If she's talking about never having been kissed before, she's showing interest and making herself a bit vulnerable. I would treat it like she's saying she's never tried ice-cream before. "Wow, really? You would love it." I probably wouldn't bust on her at that point. You want to be very careful not to give girls compliments just becau… | /r/seduction | 23/02/11 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Paying for drinks on a first dateI usually start off with "I'll get this round, you get the next 5." I actually came up with that a few years ago. Most girls, if they're into you, will go round for round. Some girls are stalwart about not paying for drinks. If that's the case, I would be very hesitant to keep buying drinks for her unless he obviously doesn't have the money. Paying for a girl almost always works against you. | /r/seduction | 07/02/11 07:10 PM |
| 3 | How do "normal" people pick up women?We talk about naturals, guys who can go up to women who are technically out of their league and game them. But I think most guys are naturals once they're in a situation where they can display their confidence. Put any guy in a situation where he feels he can get slightly better than the girl he's with, and all of a sudden, he has game. He starts acting a bit aloof. He's not needy. He keeps the girl slightly at bay. In other words, we all have game inside us. We're all alpha in the right situati… | /r/seduction | 03/02/11 05:01 PM |
| 3 | I'm a 20 year old dude with braces, do I stand a chance at all?I'm 38 and have had braces for the last two years. I get laid all the time. There are a lot of different physical situations that you may feel insecure about. Some are more noticeable and severe than others. These may include, being short, bald, fat, or other situations like missing a limb, or being in a wheelchair or having severe facial disfiguration. I've successfully coached guys with all of the above. Firstly keep in mind that the main issue here is how you feel about your situation. I can … | /r/seduction | 03/02/11 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Need more info on good negs.It is the same Eric Disco from Pickup 101, although I'm no longer with the company. I have my own private coaching program geared specifically to help guys past approach anxiety. Of course, I have my site ApproachAnxiety.com as well. Lance is a brilliant guy. We're still on great terms. I know what you mean about playing it safe, and he can be a little goofy. But I've learned more from him than anyone else about women and relationships. He definitely knows what he's doing. | /r/seduction | 01/02/11 08:45 PM |
| 13 | Need more info on good negs.Playful teasing is super effective, but I see negs as a bit different than that. Negs can border on playful teasing, but the most effective negs are delivered with some seriousness. I noticed that with some super attractive women, when I started to talk to them, they automatically assumed I was hitting on them, before I did anything. I could simply ask them for directions, and the bitch shield was already up. That's because almost everyone treats these women differently than normal. There was a … | /r/seduction | 01/02/11 01:40 PM |
| 14 | Who thinks we need a compilation of Wingman game?Here's some stuff that I've developed myself. Normally, if your friend opens some girls and they're into him, you can just come in and use rapport. No routines or game necessary. "So how do you guys know each other" will suffice. Your friend was the cool, confident guy and they're attracted if everything went well. They'll like you as well. But if it looks like your friend is having a little trouble, if the girls aren't 100% hooked or it seems like he's losing their attention, you can come in an… | /r/seduction | 31/01/11 08:32 PM |
| 3 | How to keep your facebook profile attractive.I've never had a girl press the issue after I've said that I don't really use Facebook too much. If she did, I would probably bust on her. "Look at you, a Facebook nerd! That's so cute." Then change the topic to something else. | /r/seduction | 31/01/11 07:54 PM |
| 4 | How do you spin plates on Valentine's Day?It pays to manage expectations a few weeks ahead of time so that they're not left wondering when and if you're going to ask them out. Tell them you're going to: Leave town. You're having dinner with Mom. It's a yearly tradition. Pro-actively set up a dinner date a day before or after Valentine's day. In the weeks leading up to it, pro-actively talk about how much you hate Valetine's day, how it's a sell-out holiday, etc. | /r/seduction | 31/01/11 05:33 PM |
| 34 | How to keep your facebook profile attractive.From my experience, Facebook is a deathzone. I actively avoid friending girls I've met or am interested in. If a girl tries to friend me, I usually tell her I don’t use Facebook too much. It's fine to get a girl's e-mail, but Facebook almost always works against you. There are just too many pitfalls even if you have a carefully groomed profile. Here's why. Facebook is a validation engine. It’s built so that whenever you post pictures, your friends can “like” them and comment on them. That’s vali… | /r/seduction | 31/01/11 05:23 PM |
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