engaging in hobbies/fun activities will NOT help you get girls

extr3mest · 2012-09-26T03:47:22+00:00

In my opinion these are the kinda things that can make an immense difference once you bridge a certain gap. These won't make up for a lack of fundamentals, but can help you significantly once you are there. Also if your enjoying them then why does it matter?

EricDisco · 2012-09-26T02:46:05+00:00

I was the original poster of the Get a Life Guide and I agree with you 100%. Having an interesting and active life is different from having the ability to take social initiative. Becoming better at each of these is a very different process. No matter how many events you go to, if you are unable to take social initiative with women you see at those events, it won't have a lot of effect on your dating life.

In fact, if you go to events regularly, and start to see people regularly, it starts to be more of a social circle situation at these events. Social circles seem like an ideal place to improve your social skills because there is less tension with people you're acquainted with. However, these situations turn out to be prohibitive because there is a lot more at risk. Think about 'approaching' someone at work or at school. If you fuck it up, you're likely to see them again over and over again.

This is why I teach guys to go out regularly to mundane places such as stores, malls, parks, public transport, bars, etc., and practice getting past their social inhibitions. You're better off practicing this with complete strangers and getting comfortable with the process of talking to strangers. Once you get comfortable with talking to complete strangers, taking initiative when you go out to events becomes so much easier.

paulgualtieri · 2012-09-26T03:18:00+00:00

How have you not met girls in yoga? I hear those classes are like 100% chicks. I've thought of taking them for that very reason, to supplement my bar/club game. Plus I hear it's great for you.

angethedude · 2012-09-26T03:31:16+00:00

Reading this gave me the impression that you did these things to try and be more attractive and not because you genuinely wanted to do them.

Who cares if you haven't improved with women? Are you enjoying yourself? Do these hobbies make you happy? Do you feel like a better person?

Title	engaging in hobbies/fun activities will NOT help you get girls
Author	ajax_1982
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	September 26, 2012 1:59 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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