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| 5 | Boundaries, limits, standards. Set them.Still give but set a precedent on what you’re capable and stop after that. If you’re in a relationship this is where men recognize ‘this is half, now it’s up to me to help’ men keep score too, but if you keep giving they assume your limit is higher. This worked for me at home and chores. I stopped asking as mich and I also stopped DOING as much. Now we both work equally to keep the house clean and take care of the pets. 8 months of arguing... gone in like 2.5 weeks of setting my limits. (And tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/19 03:10 AM |
| 11 | You got me 😂... sadly I’m one of those people who can’t get myself off (probably sexual-trauma related?) either way, I did teach my partner what I like and after much trial and error he’s able to not mash my clit aggressively and gets me off superbly. It’s not 100% of the time cuz sometimes I mentally block my own orgasms :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 09:45 PM |
| 5 | You got me 😂Accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 09:42 PM |
| 11 | Tis the season!Makes sense, the extra info helps wrap my head around it a bit more. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 06:26 PM |
| 35 | Tis the season!I think it’s fine to have them because it’s a great time to meet family and make sure everyone likes your partner and you do well at family functions, which are usually high stress moments. Maybe no newbie bf’s but 6+ months? (6 months is where I start to consider it a relationship) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:51 PM |
| 38 | Tis the season!I mean... at 20yrs that’s excessive to cut someone out of a pic. Especially since he is your dad 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:48 PM |
| 7 | Tis the season!And then there’s my man getting upset that when he paid for half the cost of the family photos for his mom and his sis was all ‘uuuggh we can’t All attange the schedule for her’ AFTER I messaged her and told her I got vacation time approved so that we could take the pics THAT weekend. She legit bitched at my partner for hours. I was like why? I got the time off.. also. It turns out the season (fall) was her choice and not their moms so they waited a legit year from the time the gift was bought a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:46 PM |
| 5 | Inaction is an action; and we know it.Yep waiting for the door and seeing what they do and how they behave around that can tell you what kinda guy he is sometimes. My ex one time was walking with me into the dollar store. He was ahead of me by two steps. Suddenly as we approached the door he side steps and falls back, leaving me to open the door. Now I don’t normally mind opening my own door. But that side step really caught me off guard and was a rude action to take. It also really set the tone for the last two months before we bro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:39 PM |
| 9 | Statements for Women to Start Saying to MenInaction is an action For anyone who ever wants to point out a man isn’t following through with something. Not doing something is as much a choice as it is to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 01:30 AM |
| 11 | And WE are the crazy ones!Simply put yourself at a standard of getting intent out of men versus attention. Do you want dates? Don’t settle for less, don’t ask for them, cut lazy men out who show they have no intention of taking you out. If they don’t wanna take you out... well. I have a meme I shared on my fb that I have open to the public and it’s been shared numerous times by strangers “no action, is an action.” This sub has a pretty good guideline to help you manifest your dating desires and get the tangible results y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 01:22 AM |
| 1 | “I’m not like other men...”Hahaha I like this response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 11:38 PM |
| 16 | And WE are the crazy ones!She doesn’t care about the attention so much as the intention. Attention is so empty when there’s no true emotion behind it. It’s when women open their eyes and stop begging for attention that they start picking men WITH INTENTION who won’t waste their time. Any woman who would use a man for that stuff isn’t doing it for the feelings and knows better than to take it to heart because she never had good intentions either. Edit: spelling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on only counting men who've given you an orgasm toward your n-countYa well I couldn’t remember names otherwise and I would lose count cuz I didn’t care so when I got to an unspecified number I just started up the list while I could remember some names and then I was curious to record how many times not just a name and I realized I was at least habitual enough to fuck one dude more than once. Meant I had some quality sex. I nixed sex off my list that was pure awful; dude didn’t do any work, dick was toooo small, or I didn’t get off. And as my list shows, I mostl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:59 PM |
| 10 | Pick me logic through the roofAs I work in group homes... you’re absolutely right. And I hear those children sob to me on why their mother has to be with someone who won’t even wait at the store for 5 mins while we were heading there to meet up and the mom was only in town for a day. Legit saw him drive away. She sobbed her face off. Not the only family but this dude gives no fucks about family relationships. And while this kid wasn’t sexually abused he did man handle her arm at one point and kick her outta the apartment (to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 10:50 PM |
| 4 | Pick me logic through the roof100th upvote Cuz YEEESSS I appreciate the bodies, not objectify. In my head ‘that’s a nice bum, she obviously worked hard for that #goals’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 10:44 PM |
| 8 | Pick me logic through the roofMy ex wanted to see other women (while also having no sex drive with me????) and said he had too much social anxiety and needed my help (I like open relationships and I have specific rules around them... but he legit failed all my boundaries.... we broke up). My current man I have everything and more. It’s safe to have that relationship cuz our hearts belong at home. 🤷🏻♀️ when you know you know. And I’ve tried to find an open relationship with my ideals for years and the men just don’t fit, you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 10:42 PM |
| -4 | Pick me logic through the roofI have a healthy mix of both but considering I follow ethical non-monogamy and I am into kink... it’s really not the same. I think it’s okay to appreciate a sexy body but I don’t think it’s healthy to be ogling anyone disrespectfully in the presence of your partner (or towards the person being ogled). Additionally not being a raging bitch about it either. Have some class and pull him aside and keep it simple do the I feel statements “I feel disrespected when you ogle other women, it’s okay to ap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 10:36 PM |
| 1 | So over that. Moved on, levelled up.It’s the hype-up before the story. I get it. Oh ya? snaps fingers which ex this time? A prelude to the symphony! Edit: Also it really did. I am short and have small lungs. I’m the height of a 9yr old on average. Like when the boys still haven’t surpassed the girls yet. My sister bong is t he same design but has a taller spout and also an extended base... there’s a whole extra triangular area below the circular bowl.. so it’s 3x the size and while the water portion cancels itself out... the tall … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 09:27 PM |
| 10 | A typical male "4" that claims he is a "7" or "8". Commence Vomiting....139 days ago in the dating in your 30’s sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 08:23 PM |
| 12 | A typical male "4" that claims he is a "7" or "8". Commence Vomiting....Isn’t there no statute of limitations on child support? There was a story I read where a husband fled to Canada and returned once his kids finished university. He was like retired by that time and the wife took him to court. Ended up owing 50k. Schooling counts towards child support up until 25 in most instances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 08:22 PM |
| 9 | Thoughts on only counting men who've given you an orgasm toward your n-countI did it for my own records because I wanted to remember. Only my current partner knows my number and his is like triple so 🤷🏻♀️ I have a locked note on my phone where I keep a list and I put broken heart emojis by the ex bf’s (because I could not count how much sex I had with them). I also kept track of how many times I slept with most of them. I have like 4 one night stands (most of those are more recent so in my 9yrs of fucking, that wasn’t a habit of mine to do one nighters, I roped men int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 08:06 PM |
| 2 | So over that. Moved on, levelled up.I feel like if she let you finish it woulda been glaringly obvious which douchebag and which trait you’d be getting at. My ex’s all have specific qualities that were the breaking points. I don’t count relationships under 6 months, those are chapters and lessons 😂 but I’ve had 3 under 6 months and all three had suuuuper toxic traits. One was jealousy, one was lack of commitment and really just using me like a gas station he could dip his stick in.. ugh, and the last one. Well, he’d talk his face … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 08:00 PM |
| 36 | Thoughts on only counting men who've given you an orgasm toward your n-countI have a body count and an orgasm count. I actually have completely nixed 4 people from my count because it was trash and how could that be sex? It wasn’t even sex... my orgasm count based on individuals is like... a third. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husbandYou’re welcome. :) My ex was a bit of an addict. And a momma’s boy, legit this whole subreddits nightmare. I gave myself a double whammy of ‘what not to do’ all cuz I valued ‘companionship’ after being lonely for 3.5yrs... it wasn’t worth it. I shoulda just stayed friends and not let that fucked be a bf. It was a great companionship but I shouldn’t have shacked up for the 9 months that occurred. Oof. I like to equate him to a baby. Stayed in my womb and gone after 9 months. It was ironic cuz he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husbandAh well. You’re not his last relationship and you can make that clear by not being his landlord or the roommate who tells him what to do. Set boundaries/house rules and that’s your fair share. If he wants to do less, then maybe the rent needs to be evaluated cuz you’re putting in more house effort. Lol. 🤷🏻♀️ People change and sometimes it doesn’t work out. Sorry you’re in those situations. I know alcoholism or any substance abuse can really tarnish something that could be shiny and wonderful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:49 PM |
| 1 | He is somebody’s son! Now fix his plate and wash his dirty clothes like mommy did. UghhhhTaking it from a woman with similar thoughts. He’s not your husband. He’s your PARTNER. Or, He’s your glorified roommate if it helps draw that line easier. You both do your fair share around the house, maybe it’s sharing the animal care like dog walks, pet baths, litter boxes. You pick up after YOURSELVES not each other. Treat him like your partner. Not your incapable husband. Men start to pick up that you don’t think they’re capable and they’ll just give up because they don’t feel respected tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:28 PM |
| 0 | He is somebody’s son! Now fix his plate and wash his dirty clothes like mommy did. UghhhhMy ex mic drop 🎤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:11 PM |
| 5 | Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husbandYou’re supposed to grow and evolve with each other and if the other person is evolving and you aren’t? I’m not sure what that says about you cuz I’m not going to drop an assumption. But nothing in this world is stagnant. Change is what the world thrives on and it’s disheartening to see you give up on someone because they move evolved themselves. It doesn’t mean they’re evolving to leave you, but on some level there are things you can always work on or achieve in your personal development and in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husbandI met my current man two weeks after the tragic investment into ‘companionship’ I had with the mommas boy I dated. Couldn’t let him slip in the sea of ugly fishes with ill intentions he was a sight for sore eyes, a gentleman who opened his truck door for me (and still does), and while not the fastest in the west, he does self improve (especially if he sees what he has done is hurting me or our relationship). I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t keep me as a GF forever cuz there has been talk of family in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 04:37 PM |
| 3 | Pro tip: it’s usually AFTER you’ve moved on/cut him offLegit tho. This could even go for women that are equally as terrible... if people don’t want to change, they will forever have issues. It’s the people willing to do self improvement that you need to keep your eyes open for. However it’s better to meet a man who’s not at his early stage and also 100% don’t take care of things he can otherwise you’re basically telling him ‘I don’t actually believe you’re capable’. Do not shoulder the responsibility of house wife before marriage (at all) especially… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 04:17 PM |
| 13 | "Friends with benefits" benefit men only.No, I just think cuz he’s 75 (yesterday) and gramma has been gone for 4 yrs.. and he’s had bad knees that he just doesn’t bend down to do that cleaning as often as it should be done. My gramma was a no-nonsense kinda lady and grampa helped with everything except the cooking cuz he legit sucked at that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 02:10 AM |
| 12 | "Friends with benefits" benefit men only.Exactly. That’s the same as putting a dude in the friend zone and him not taking the hint and continuing to try and talk you into more. Respect the boundary and appreciate it for what it is or move on if you can’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 10:49 PM |
| -18 | "Friends with benefits" benefit men only.I had a FWB for 4 yrs who did that. He is like 20yrs my senior tho and he wanted more than FWB 😂 I think we’re still on/off but 🤷🏻♀️ I’ve got my man I’m satisfied with and while the side FWB amplifies the sex at home I don’t need it or the feelings attached from him. (Open relationship that mostly operates as closed right now because I don’t have any high value fuck buddied who would make me see stars). 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 10:47 PM |
| 23 | "Friends with benefits" benefit men only.I know this totally isn’t fair cuz he’s super old and can’t bend down and gramma died a few years back... but omg. I went into the bathroom At my grandpas and pee was legit ... even IN the tub. I walked into the bathroom and got hit by the smell of old pee. gag so I cleaned it up. The walls, the seat, the floor, the side of the tub, the ledge in the tub and I swiped inside out of curiosity and was shocked there was dried pee just inside the tub too 😩 poor grandpa and his bad knees but omg, most … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 10:43 PM |
| 4 | Next level savage. When you’re already in the relationship and need to remind him of your standards you started with 😂100% I love my man and he’s HV but he definitely slips into that 30% effort category, especially when he’s stressed about money. Which has been for like a fucking year... so. Ugh. It’s a MOOOOOD. He works a side job, gets money. Stress gone puts in effort. And I’m left frustrated at the lack of consistency because the only way he can manage his stress about money is to make money, he has NO OTHER stress outlet 😩 it drives me bananas asking him not to affect our life cuz he has no other way to ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 01:17 AM |
| 13 | Next level savage. When you’re already in the relationship and need to remind him of your standards you started with 😂Lol. Thanks mods for changing the flair, even tho I had it set at Mood for life. Queen Sh*t seems accurate too 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 07:13 AM |
| 4 | There's two kinds of men (Please take note)Yass. I have this relationship with my father. I doubt I’ll ever have it with my mother. The irony is she wanted my love so much she was over controlling, and gave conditional love; up to and including “love me first and I’ll love you”. (For the record I’m adopted, so all this fucking STUNG and the one time she started to connect with me in earnest was when I disowned my biological mother for being toxic... that ALSO stung that she got over her shit BECAUSE I disowned the other woman she worried… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 07:10 AM |
| 5 | There's two kinds of men (Please take note)I mean as long as you don’t behave like your kids are friends it should be fine. I think the defining fact that you’re an adult and want them to grow up healthy with food boundaries is important. I’ve known too many parents that try to be friends with their kids in a FRIEND friend way and it ends up lacking the important structure the kids need in their lives. But I won’t assume anything about you and your kids, just stating being friends can be a tricky thing to do when they’re adolescents. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 07:01 AM |
| 20 | There's two kinds of men (Please take note)Agreed! This is why I believe kids are not FIRST to your relationship with yourself and your partner. It boils down to being a role model. If you put your kids first they won’t see the importance about caring about themselves... and that’s unfortunately what most people struggle with. Plus after that, when the kids are gone you’re left with a stranger of a spouse because you forgot to care about each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Felt like this belongs here!This sadly, is still true yes. But I have a lot of my own repairing to do and it wasn’t just us, but my whole life that needed a bit of restructuring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Felt like this belongs here!Hmmm, ya. At that point I’d ask if they want solutions or you to listen. They obviously enjoy solving some problems with your help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 05:25 AM |
| 7 | Felt like this belongs here!Right? I really wish they would continue the look and smell good part. :( my man has a bit of a belly atm.. likes to have his shirt off a lot and I’m like, I miss your abs... now you’ve built a gut... I really hope he is just bulking before doing that ‘cutting’ part of body building cuz 😩 I miss those abs so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:34 PM |
| 4 | Felt like this belongs here!You’re welcome. I’ve done a lot of research on healthy communication because my partner and I were miscommunicating constantly and we started to lose some respect for each other so we agreed we needed to work on it and it improves daily. I got the term meta-talks from a podcast called Multiamory. So instead of just launching into your problems (which a fellow woman could recognize as the need to vent) Meta-communication is to say ‘hey this is how I communicate so that when I say this, this is wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:29 PM |
| 8 | Felt like this belongs here!There have been an adequate amount of times where my bf asks how my day is, then when I start talking he interrupts and starts offering solutions to problems I wasn’t expressing. My goal, was to tell him my day and my feelings about it. When I want his help with a problem I may have to tell him what the problem is before he has enough context, this is wildly different than me simply saying ‘my day was so and so and this thing happened that was frustrating... next topic I then had a bath where I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:14 PM |
| 32 | Felt like this belongs here!I’d completely cross out the solving my problems half of the sentence. That’s my impulse. Men don’t want us solving theirs with the same principle in mind; unless we ask we don’t want them to solve ours either. Sometimes we need them to listen while we let off steam and we don’t need them to figure out how to fix what we’re venting about when we just need an empathetic ear. They get upset when we try to fix things they’re doing, and we get upset when they try to fix things when we just want an e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Felt like this belongs here!Joke aside: I agree. And addressing the memes content My impulse is to draw on it and cross that half of the sentence out. There is a difference of expectations when we want our men to listen. Sometimes we need them to listen for support, and sometimes we need a problem solved. Not all talking-sessions are geared with a goal for our men to fix. This is something that women naturally do for each other; listen without intent to solve each other’s problems but rather show empathy. It’s a communicat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 08:30 PM |
| 9 | FactsThis needs to be a top comment. A mission statement for women towards men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:06 PM |
| 3 | I’m only thankful I learned my lesson and levelled up my attitude and my standards.That’s good. I honestly wish I could say that for 90% of my ex’s but only my first one is a gem. And it was the same reason as yours. So I set him free (it hurt), but he found the love of his life and married her 2yrs later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:00 PM |
| 9 | When you’re in a limiting relationship you remain limited.Simple answer: yes, because bigger fish will be stunted and die before growing full size. It’ll grow to the tank size normally then likely die for lack of nutrients and oxygen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 01:25 AM |
| 4 | Stop putting everyone before yourself. Friends/family can take care of themselves. If you’re a tea pot and you neglect to fill yourself up, how could you ever pour tea for others? Remember to fill your own pot up and steep your tea of self care and self love. Invest in yourself first, before others.Very true. You can’t help others if you die first. Even do your own face mask before a babies is what the airlines tell you to do! I like a few tea analogies. One being about consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Know your worth and don’t accept crumbsI’m glad you’ve unveiled his tactics and seen the lies he cast to keep you blind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 07:29 PM |
| 4 | Know your worth and don’t accept crumbsStockholm syndrome. When you get feelings for your abusive mental captors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Had a discussion with a HVM about male patriarchy and how society is starting to open its eyes that patriarchy is a joke and a trap, additionally while feminism is good, it’s extreme versions have taught men they can scrape by and call their laziness in relationships support of feminism. 🎤Like-minded people attract other likeminded people. Unpopular activity for this sub: but we met at a kink party so more things in common. It was amazing to meet other service industry people there who care about humans and how they impact them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 05:46 PM |
| 4 | Had a discussion with a HVM about male patriarchy and how society is starting to open its eyes that patriarchy is a joke and a trap, additionally while feminism is good, it’s extreme versions have taught men they can scrape by and call their laziness in relationships support of feminism. 🎤Came here to say this. It’s like when you pick the short dick... I mean stick, and he’s an amazing man but my god, not sexually compatible. I’ve had to end budding relationships that were perfect in paper but otherwise fell flat. So sad. I wanted to love them. But my satisfaction is important to me when most men are not satisfying. I just want big dick without the big dick energy. 🤣 and I am lucky I found that (he’s got big dick energy but it’s more of a higher self confidence than a narcissisti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Know your worth and don’t accept crumbsI get the breaks... I had a toxic bio mother in my life that helped me break the family cycle yet when I wanted and continued to want her in my life and to move forward with happiness she dwelled in the past and tried to break me down - so I disowned her and I’m still okay with that decision 4 yrs later because she is KNOWN to do this to anyone in our family repetitively. She’s grown, but not mentally. Trauma sucks but it’s no excuse to wallow forever in it without trying to create positivity. W… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 05:29 PM |
| 6 | Know your worth and don’t accept crumbsTo state the obvious, yes it’s not a mood swing it’s ABSOLUTELY a calculated crumb tossed your way to keep you hooked. I didn’t write it, anyone who knows a narcissist wouldn’t use the term mood swings. I think it’s simply meant to highlight the ridiculousness of it? Changing your moods on a whim to get what you want? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Know your worth and don’t accept crumbsI agree that you attract what you attract like energies. I also believe you will never meet people with the energies you want unless you make personal changes. I’ve done that and over the last 7yrs I have lost friends, met better and generally better men. I have amazing friends now, an amazing partner. Life is good. Even work his garnered better relationships. Working in a people field really highlights your personal vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 04:46 PM |
| 10 | Had a discussion with a HVM about male patriarchy and how society is starting to open its eyes that patriarchy is a joke and a trap, additionally while feminism is good, it’s extreme versions have taught men they can scrape by and call their laziness in relationships support of feminism. 🎤He works as a probation officer and I will quote him with two statements he made during this particular short chat. We also have bonded over the service industry type of response to people (I work in group homes) so there’s a decent overlap with toxic traits where we both encourage people to make better choices and help them see what that looks like in its various forms. “Most of my job is trying to undo like 20+ years of toxic masculinity in my clients” And “I act as an ally basically by doing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 08:16 AM |
| 1 | I love red pill, but...Aboriginal means to have been inhabiting a land long before others. So ‘aboriginal to Canada’ explicitly implies First Nations as would be the same for USA. As for the term First Nations, the politically correct name has fluctuated over time. Natives, aboriginal, First Nations. The latter two are the current recognized ones as far as I’m aware. Source: also from Canada. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/19 05:52 AM |
| 4 | Graceful and poised as the Queens you are. Look at yourself and your values, accept the past and instead of slumming it in the ditches with rage and indignation, rise above it. Move on up in life! Level up! (I need like 3 flairs for this post 😂)If you wanted to talk to him, do it gracefully and leave it at that. Like ‘this isn’t working, bai’ lol.. only offer critique if they ask and keep it direct and simple. What I find helps with rage is to either write a letter so I never ‘send it’; it helps me evaluate my feelings and let go of all that negative energy, alternately if you don’t like writing use your notes in your phone. I have a few I look back on? Rage at improper treatment by my mom (she’ll never apologize but it felt good to le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 04:31 AM |
| 8 | I’m only thankful I learned my lesson and levelled up my attitude and my standards.I mean. I only had one truly good ex. We just weren’t compatible and I wasn’t ready to marry him. So I set him free. He married someone who looks similar to myself 2 yrs after we split :) they’re still together and I’m thankful I let him go to find the one. He was a HVM, took care of me, treated me with utmost respect and adored me. He was amazing. And he really set a good standard for men in my life, I just sucked at identifying or keeping good ones or frankly I didn’t know where to look after … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 03:57 AM |
| 40 | I personally feel so ashamed that I ever judged Madonna for trying to dress or act 'young' for her age - and it's men that are so OUTRAGED and try to shame women that they can't be themselves past a certain age. If anyone can pull it off, it's Madonna.Frankly speaking, age takes its toll when you stop caring about your health. Exercise and skincare are legitimately important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Graceful and poised as the Queens you are. Look at yourself and your values, accept the past and instead of slumming it in the ditches with rage and indignation, rise above it. Move on up in life! Level up! (I need like 3 flairs for this post 😂)You’re welcome ❤️😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Pushed into oral sex.. and then the Internet traumatized me furtherYes it is. Part of it is accepting it’s the past. Some more is standing up for your beliefs and standards. The rest is time and figuring out how to avoid getting triggered and not take the emotional bait. The FDS principles are like a wall structured to deter the intent of men’s words - to break you down. Once you see it as them attempting moves like that, the personal grief turns to pity for men that they have to stoop so low personally to trick women into lowering their self esteem and their s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 06:04 PM |
| 9 | FDS GUIDE. Non-mainstream opinions and strategies held by this sub.Fuck being silent. Silence has never served me. Speaking up has gotten me out of traumatic situations. Speaking up has earned me respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:47 AM |
| 7 | You could have just said I looked nice if you wanted my attention, but please proceed with the negging and see where that gets you.Maybe my nails look good and I paid good money for them so I want to flaunt them. Also. Weird flex, block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 10:30 PM |
| 4 | How to train WomenPM it next time. Lesson learned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 10:21 PM |
| 19 | After finding this sub, I realize I’m not an outcast for not wanting herpesFun fact: herpes can be genetically be passed down through females and not men. Men contract it, but women can possibly have it dormant from birth. I got my cold sore from my mom at 9 :/ been plagued with it since. Things to prevent it; Moisturized lips, low stress, take some Lysine supplements near cold season and with weather changes that dry your skin up and physically stress your body.👌 fairly avoidable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Pushed into oral sex.. and then the Internet traumatized me furtherOkay this is hella off track but run with it and call it a parallel story. Me: defended myself against my parental units power struggles over useless things they used to assert a sense of control Me: being cornered doing dishes while she yells at me. Her: she wants an answer Me: I have no answer and I’m just DONE fighting here You: Start drawing your parallel with the blow job Me: clench my jaw and just give up fighting for myself, I remain silent so I can have peace at home and stop power strug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 09:48 PM |
| 5 | Came across this gem today. My age-range setting is 23-27, not “aging like grade c dairy products”I look 28. I am 28. Woohoo. It I’m 29 next month so even better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 09:31 PM |
| 7 | FDS GUIDE. Non-mainstream opinions and strategies held by this sub.Thank you for being a part of this amazing subreddit and helping women stand up for equality in the way it was meant to be from combining valuable old school methods that men themselves respect and romanticize and modern social advancements which support women following their dreams. Not many people know how to treat women, they’re viewed as something ‘extra’ in this world to create babies and since the modern age there’s a lot of stretching and bending the world needs to do to accommodate the f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 09:27 PM |
| 16 | FDS GUIDE. Non-mainstream opinions and strategies held by this sub.I do the kink/BDSM thing (and it’s apparent in my comment history) but honestly it has no impact on my views and standards in a relationship. I’m like 98% with this list and adore this sub and everything it stands for. My partner is a high value man and I will preach to any woman out there the benefits that high value men bring to a relationship and I can say, god daaaammmmn it’s amazing being in a healthy relationship! I am not into pressuring others to agree with my lifestyle, there are 100% d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 08:35 PM |
| 5 | Reminder that hot and ugly dudes end up treating you the same wayAgreed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 07:52 PM |
| 10 | Reminder that hot and ugly dudes end up treating you the same wayI had a fuck date with a sherif (ironically my coffee table used to be his like 4yrs who kinda deal). He laid on the bed. Same thing minus the squats. Like. It was an impressive dick, but if they don’t move it, it just.... it HURTS! It needs to move? Be fluid. If I wanted to fuck a big cock like that that’s hard, I woulda just plunked a suction cupped dildo down and fucked myself with it minus the human attached 😂 I have sex to... have sex! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 07:48 PM |
| 14 | Reminder that hot and ugly dudes end up treating you the same wayYe... I kinda blew my bf’s mind when I fucked back and kinda had to teach him how to fuck WITH me instead of just fucking me. Apparently when a man has a big dick, women starfish more? It’s a thing tho. Mutual movement is so much better than mindless big dick jack hammering me with no sense of ... SENSATION and how good that sensation feels when you rub the right spots in a female. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Woman (30) "hangs out" with dude (30) at his house doing "couch dates". She rewards his lazy courtship with sex and then "gets annoyed" that he's not taking her out. DAILY REMINDER TO GHOST LOW-EFFORT DATERS, and Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from these men!!It’s been suggested for those trying to find high value men but still don’t mind engaging with a trusted LVM But yes, a nickname I have is Savage sassy pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 11:16 PM |
| 11 | If this isn’t the goddamn truth 😂😭True story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:37 PM |
| 18 | No, I will not meet you at your house.👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:37 PM |
| 12 | Woman (30) "hangs out" with dude (30) at his house doing "couch dates". She rewards his lazy courtship with sex and then "gets annoyed" that he's not taking her out. DAILY REMINDER TO GHOST LOW-EFFORT DATERS, and Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from these men!!Or if he’s still good at fucking.... keep him as your fuck buddy and genuinely date HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:34 PM |
| 5 | The Oxytocin MythMy refractory period is “I’m too sensitive and need a small break before being brought back up to the same level of stimulation”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:20 PM |
| 3 | I didn’t want to go this route but I think I’m starting to really dislike and look down on most men. Don’t want to feel this way.The philosophy of “I wouldn’t touch that with a 10ft pole” applies. Recognize they have faults and it’s not for you to fix them. Save your energy for yourself and your own self improvement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 07:50 PM |
| 1 | I didn’t want to go this route but I think I’m starting to really dislike and look down on most men. Don’t want to feel this way.It’s natural to also feel those feelings when healing from past traumas. You realize what happened, you heal from it, you learn why not to do and how to achieve better results by doing better things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 07:48 PM |
| 10 | I didn’t want to go this route but I think I’m starting to really dislike and look down on most men. Don’t want to feel this way.However we are not, as far as I’m aware in this subreddit... supposed to say ‘but not AAAALLLL men’ because it defeats the basic message being given. Of course not all men, that is exactly why we are helping women recognize HIGH value men and how to keep our standards up FOR THEM because we are WORTH having a man who respects women and treats us as high value as we deserve to be treated in this day and age of advancement. It’s hard for sure, but like anything worth accomplishing in life, self-st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Accurate SnapBackEach to their own. I’ve definitely seen a variety of responses. You can’t change incel men and I wouldn’t waste energy on it. But occasionally a SnapBack is worth it before the block button finalizes it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 09:10 PM |
| 3 | It's not always relationship baggageThank you :) Edit: my visual thought was spaghetti that needed to be recompartmented. Like taking uncooked sticks out, now you’ve learned this new thing about yourself (cooked spaghetti) and it’s exploding into your brain superseding everything else or getting confused and projecting into other areas of your brain or life where it doesn’t belong, so you untangle it’s all and put it in a box lovingly understand it’s purpose and respect everything you’ve learned about it while unraveling their mes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Accurate SnapBackIgnoring is just as powerful. I would read and decide from there. If it feels like your energy is draining or you get too fired up and spiteful He’s not worth it. But if he plays into your palms, then I guess you better deliver a stinging slap back for all the misery he’s costed you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Accurate SnapBackAgreed!! It always ends for a reason. There’s a few random men who friends with was okay, they just weren’t compatible. The rest who were awful can legit take a trip to Azkaban 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 06:33 PM |
| 7 | Words to live by, sistersYaaassss 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 10:17 PM |
| 7 | It's not always relationship baggageI work with kids and try not to do the ‘bad parenting’ I’ve hella had to reparent myself. I’ve drastically changed Over the last 5 yrs. right now I’m at the complication portion of it and it’s starting to click instead of ‘ya ya I’ve heard it before but that’s not helping me right now’. It’s helping me now that I’ve dealt with so much other parenting trauma, worked on myself, worked on not blaming my parents (oh she’s still blame worthy but I don’t HATE her for it anymore, I’ve passively accepte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 08:40 PM |
| 7 | It's not always relationship baggageAs a person who is reparenting themselves to have proper social and political boundaries... that statement of a few stings and the BIG one fits. Cuz I’ve had a few stings throughout the years and I had a bug sting recently that kind of sealed the deal for personal progress. It feels like the big picture was finally laid out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 07:24 PM |
| 9 | Always choose a female gynecologist/psychiatrist/doctor10000% I’ve had student doctors sit in and my doctor requests to talk about my file (happens every time there’s a student doctor so I consent) and he always tries to dismiss the hormonal imbalance I experienced called Mirena Blues (varying degrees of severity) mine lasted 3 weeks and I was horribly depressed. Every time I bring it up I wanna cry at how bad I felt. I pulled out my IUD thinking it was a tampon and then had the wildest hormonal roller coaster with severe lows. He said it doesn’t ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 11:56 PM |
| 2 | The fool-proof way of making more connections, meeting more women, and meeting likeminded people. This is impossible to mess up.My town has a restaurant that weekly hosts local talent. You could look for something like that. | /r/seduction | 22/10/19 10:08 PM |
| -1 | Evidence #865654667 that this sub is definitely on the right track 🙌💯It sounds awful cuz I have been bitter about this for awhile, but the battle seems to be won and understood currently. It wasn’t so much that he tried to leave it a few times, it’s that he tried to argue and justify leaving things for two days or more and asked me to believe he would clean it up when I said it shouldn’t be left there period. I would make comments like ‘we’re not in the dormitories at university, clean up, this is a home’. I got it threw his skull and the max dishes he ever leave… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Evidence #865654667 that this sub is definitely on the right track 🙌💯Welcome. My bf didn’t wanna lock the door when coming home. To the point he admitted checking locks after I was asleep. He tried to dissect WHY I wanted the door locked but never once kept it a habit. He’d leave and get chips for example and leave the door unlocked. He’d leave it unlocked until 2am. He sometimes use to rush into bed with ALL the house lights on and the door unlocked. Btw, I unfailingly lock the door... I saw this article posted on another thread. Now, I’ll be honest. I have stra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 02:30 AM |
| 12 | Evidence #865654667 that this sub is definitely on the right track 🙌💯I said it wasn’t acceptable and walked out. The next time I was over everything was spotless and he kept it that way. Then he moved in with me (like 6 months later, enough to witness I took care of my home like a boss) and wanted me to compromise about leaving dishes out for two nights or putting things away properly... there was an article posted in another thread that I shared with my bf. Even tho I plainly told him exactly what that did, he finally understood how much it bothered and hurt me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/19 11:09 PM |
| 10 | Evidence #865654667 that this sub is definitely on the right track 🙌💯My bf opened doors and stuff on our first date and shocked me. He’s so handsome and gentleman like and then I had an amazing evening. I stated I wanted to seriously date him because I didn’t want this one to slip through my fingers with ambiguous dating. We finally fucked after 3 weeks but honestly we shoulda waited longer he was doing a new job that was more mentally exhausting and the sex sucked because of that for awhile. HE had energy, but his brain wasn’t connected to it. Anyways. First dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/19 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Delete/Block TacticI had a guy message me on 5 different platforms and when I finally politely turned him down he RAGED and said the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard I’ll try harder he essentially could not take the social cue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/19 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Delete/Block TacticTrue story. I have proof on my phone still. He was also the only guy who asked WHY I stopped talking to him so I did give a reason. In the end he said he was smarter than me had some fancy law degree and I needed mental help. All cuz I said he was disrespecting me, being rude, and I wasn’t going to be a part of it. I gave him a second chance and he was a no-show. I never wanted to in the first place. We watched Amy’s comedy and his comments about it showed a ton of red flags and also highlighted… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/19 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.Awesome post. Hammered the nail on the head! Sexual tips on point. I also 100% agree on your 3 dates strategy, I absolutely love the ‘invite her to something you’ve got going on’ it’s way less pressure to join a group of people and socialize than it is to make yourself shine on a one-on-one first date. It makes her see who you surround yourself with and it’s great! (I let my friends crash my first date, we played pool then skipped over to my place and had a bonfire it was very enjoyable and rela… | /r/seduction | 29/09/19 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.This would be interesting to read. So yes! | /r/seduction | 29/09/19 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.Motion of the ocean maybe? G-spot? Use wiggling come hither motions.. and as OP said above, match her rhythm. | /r/seduction | 29/09/19 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.It’s only boring if they don’t pay attention to the body cues he mentions. My bf loves oral but got many months he was trying to be soooo technical about it. He started paying attention to my body and oh boy, my orgasms can even start within 5 minutes. Before he’d go down for an hour and I’d be bored. Oral isn’t good if it’s not teasing the button. As long as they treat it like a wave push/pull you can really go a long time with it and as OP mentioned, really have a giant orgasms to finish the n… | /r/seduction | 29/09/19 08:32 PM |
| 32 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.Yesss it makes women feel less valued if you always make the end goal of every interaction sex. Then you gotta keep this up in your relationships too otherwise that fizzle of attraction becomes bland and like you aren’t wanting to remain intimate, you don’t make her WANT that intimacy because by that time you’ve stopped feeding into her desires. All those moments are like adding kindling to a fire. A few twigs here and there, blow on it, then when the kindling gets hot enough you throw on a few … | /r/seduction | 29/09/19 08:18 PM |
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