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Gotcha my bad
/r/seduction15/08/22 12:21 AM
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Confidence shouldn’t be prioritized because it’s a feeling. You can’t control your feelings I disagree because you need to know what confidence feels like in order to embody it. Bravery helps expose you to what the feeling of confidence is. To OP, ask yourself "Why do I want to be confident?". You most likely want to feel a certain way. You want to feel good about yourself. So confidence is being comfortable with who you are. If you're not comfortable with something about yourself, then you need…
/r/seduction14/08/22 03:52 AM
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Movies is not a good idea for the first few dates. You can't flirt with the girl. You're both just sitting there for 2 hours...
/r/seduction09/08/22 12:23 PM
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None of what I'm saying is meant to be offensive at all; just something I'm pointing out so that you can work on it. Do you think you'll ever see these girls again? If no, then approach. However, it does sound like you lack some social skills to get the results you would want. Ultimately, your negative conception of other people is what's holding you back. If you keep thinking that people are going to be annoyed by you talking to them, then you're more than likely going to subconsciously be anno…
/r/seduction08/08/22 12:25 AM
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i think you're overthinking it That's the whole point of my post brother.
/r/seduction07/08/22 08:02 PM
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Your game is severely affected because you perceive a girl to be too special and too good for you to realistically obtain. Girls feel disconnected and uncomfortable because something is severely logically amiss with your approach and they feel they cannot be authentic. Exactly. Great way of wording it.
/r/seduction07/08/22 06:34 PM
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What's the halo effect?
/r/seduction07/08/22 06:33 PM
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The 2nd video is for girls you already know and I don't really know this girl.
/r/seduction06/08/22 10:53 PM
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I don't go out often, but in my 30 years of living, only two girls have approached me with clear intent. One was a 7 and the other was an 8/9. Also, in case people want to know, I'm 5'6 and I think some of my friends are much more attractive than me (taller too). I think the way I dress has a lot to do with it though. People always say I'm "cool".
/r/seduction06/08/22 10:48 PM
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I was considering that since this is what I typically do, but I'm unsure of the attraction level so I feel like it might come off too strong. I was thinking of letting her know when I'm going out for drinks w/ a group of friends and telling her she's welcome to join.
/r/seduction06/08/22 10:45 PM
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Since we're neighbors, and I'm unsure of the attraction level, I was thinking of letting her know when I'm going out for drinks w/ a group of friends and telling her she's welcome to join.
/r/seduction06/08/22 10:44 PM
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like how insanely important the ending of a conversation is. Can you elaborate?
/r/seduction06/08/22 08:49 PM
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It's all mindset. I've been there and worse; for years. It got really bad for me--lowest point in my life I've ever felt. Literally lost ALL of my confidence to the point where I was just accepting things in my own head like "Oh I'm just an anxious shy guy"--eventually I started to really be that person. It goes both ways though, I started telling myself that I AM a confident person etc. Was on this mindset change for around 6-8 months and one day it just felt like a 180. You can read more about…
/r/seduction03/08/22 01:08 AM
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This is the only post you need to read OP.
/r/seduction03/08/22 01:04 AM
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but I add quite a lot of stories This is actually a good call out. While I don't post any stories (lol), I know it can be used to build attraction if you're going out and having fun etc, then the girl can get a glimpse into your life. Another thing is, although some people might think it's manipulative, if the girl eventually gives you her phone # and she texts you, but you haven't responded BUT you've been updating your stories, she's going to see that she isn't priority and you have other stuf…
/r/seduction31/07/22 12:46 PM
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If your Instagram is on point and you're confident that her seeing your instagram will build attraction, it's the better option. My IG is ass. It has 6 photos and hasn't been updated since 2016. IG is still the better option nowdays. EVERYONE thinks it's less personal. It goes: IG/FB > Snapchat > Phone number.
/r/seduction31/07/22 05:32 AM
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You gotta go with the mindset of having fun and meeting new people (her and her friends). To me, that shit sounds like fun honestly. I would go. She wants to know what her friends think of you. If you can entertain and charm her friends, then you've passed and she'll want you bad. You can get a 1:1 after that. I would try to find 1 other friend who you really trust to go with you (preferably one that is really social), but it's fine if you go alone too. The friend doesn't have to be a guy either…
/r/seduction30/07/22 05:22 PM
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She was likely going to the bathroom to do coke. She may not have been into the kissing and wanted to abruptly leave to get off with her usual f buddy. Coke tends to make people extremely horny.
/r/seduction30/07/22 04:51 PM
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You are uncalibrated, throwing meds in to the mix will just make you even more awkward This. PLEASE trust this advice. To preface, over the past 7 or so years, I started to develop very negative self-talk that was very subtle at first. In the past 3 years, since covid lockdowns started, it grew exponentially to a point where I was feeling at my lowest point in life. I also ended up down the road of finding meds to alleviate anxiety on dates and even tried taking 2 shots before a date--doesn't wo…
/r/seduction30/07/22 03:22 PM
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Mystery's stuff is MAD outdated and was shit to begin with.
/r/seduction29/07/22 02:50 AM
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The fact that you need to ask shows how dumb you are. Also the way you decided to format the post.
/r/seduction28/07/22 02:31 AM
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Not even a spoiler. The man saw it fail in front of him.
/r/seduction28/07/22 01:33 AM
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I think he's questioning your brain power.
/r/seduction28/07/22 01:33 AM
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Are you stupid? You literally saw it first hand and saw it fail hard. What in the world makes you think it's "high risk high reward"?
/r/seduction28/07/22 01:32 AM
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I was wondering “how tf he get this username?” Joined 14 years ago 💀
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:06 AM
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Here's the approach with gamer girls: Find out what video game she plays Play with her Ask her out ??? Profit Helps a lot if you're really good at the game and can carry her.
/r/seduction27/07/22 01:17 AM
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This. OP is so salty cause he got rejected lmfao. Some people are actually busy. Bro thinks everyone has the energy level he has. If she doesn't offer another date, then she just isn't interested; move on, don't be salty.
/r/seduction27/07/22 12:04 AM
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This is what I go with and I've had girls say it to me also. A girl has said this almost word for word to me actually lol.
/r/seduction26/07/22 10:57 AM
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If you have to ask, you should probably focus on yourself. You're also 21! Crazy young man. If I could be 21 again I would 1000% focus on myself and really focus on finding and working towards a career I love and just focus on getting my money up. I always grew up with the mindset of "as long as I make enough, I'll be happy". Boy was I just being naive at the time. I would still throw dating in, but my focus would still be on myself. Honestly, if you can do this for a good 2-3 years you're going…
/r/seduction25/07/22 08:20 PM
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LMFAO. Not sure why you got downvoted.
/r/seduction25/07/22 03:59 AM
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Pretty much, but imo it’s best to not reveal it at all. It’s “safer” and there’s really no need to.
/r/seduction24/07/22 01:06 PM
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learn to open up about your insecurities, and you’ll make connections and get girls Nah bro, you got lucky here. Will not work with a majority of girls.
/r/seduction24/07/22 12:13 PM
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Try your best to be aware that you're being desperate. It serves you no good. Start telling yourself that you're not a desperate person and go do some shit for yourself. Just wait til the day of and send the follow up text to see if you guys are still on. I usually give it at least 6 hours prior to the date time. Honestly, if you don't want to ruin your chances, it sounds like you're at the point where you should probably take a step back. I know for a fact that most guys fuck up through texting…
/r/seduction24/07/22 02:26 AM
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Bingo - They are Avoidant attachers. IMO this isn't why. I've been through the SAME shit multiple times, for years, with many different types of girls. Eventually you figure out what the pattern is. OP, you should never chase. Chasing drives them away (this goes for both guys and girls honestly). Let them ask the question about being "official" etc. Otherwise, just have fun with it. As long as you're enjoying your relationship and time with the girl, no worries. Don't talk about your feelings an…
/r/seduction24/07/22 02:11 AM
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Yeah but I don’t want to come off as desperate yk You say this, but you also said you wanted to text her: “u actually trynna go tomorrow cause I got invited somewhere, but I rather be with you. Just lmk tho”--This sounds desperate to me. Wait til the day of and ask her "Are we still good for <whatever time yall decided>"
/r/seduction24/07/22 02:04 AM
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It's all mindset and inner confidence. Stop comparing yourself to others. Change your thinking pattern and habits and get to a point where you're happy with yourself. If you're not happy with yourself, keep working on it. It doesn't just come all at once. You will gradually get happier and happier as you gradually improve yourself. Happiness will lead to true confidence.
/r/seduction23/07/22 09:22 PM
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Or not... ? Do you live under a rock?
/r/seduction17/07/22 04:52 AM
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Hinge isnt a hookup app... You think every convo goes like that?
/r/seduction17/07/22 04:47 AM
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why would you avoid hinge?
/r/seduction17/07/22 04:32 AM
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For some girls 100%, but I've never had issues with it. If you make it an issue, then it's going to be an issue. You're going to subconsciously create bad thinking habits around it, which in turn will affect your dating life. Confidence and charm goes a long way.
/r/seduction16/07/22 12:42 PM
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It's all mindset. You need to change your self-talk. Get rid of all negative thoughts as best you can and attach a positive meaning to everything. Just start being the person you want to be. It sounds simple because it is. It's only hard because people subconsciously think "That's too simple it will never work" and then they never put in the effort to even try it. What do you have to lose? Nothing. Start telling yourself that you are whoever you want to be. In this case, it sounds like you want …
/r/seduction16/07/22 12:40 PM
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A lot of childhood trauma stuff. I’ve definitely had BAD limerence in the past, and still struggle with it now. And you called it: diagnosed ADHD, really bad ADHD I can tell we're both similar. I was able to call these things out because I was going through the same shit for years until I recently got things to click (I also have bad ADHD). Try your best to weed out negative comments you have about yourself, even the small stuff like "damn that was dumb of me" (just an example, you know yourself…
/r/seduction14/07/22 11:20 AM
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I'm pretty sure you're experiencing something called limerence. Do some research into it; I believe there are methods to help alleviate it. For me, it helped just knowing why I kept feeling this way about girls that I barely knew. If you have ADHD, you're much more susceptible to it also because of emotional dysregulation. You also should think about the kind of person you want to be. A lot of people say "be yourself", which is true, but you have to be your best self. Think about if you had a da…
/r/seduction14/07/22 11:05 AM
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I'm a strong believer of karma; it might not come back at you in the same form, but it'll come back.
/r/seduction11/07/22 01:00 AM
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People weren't conditioned by social media back in the day. You can't compare the 2 lmao. Social norms change drastically, just like anything else.
/r/seduction11/07/22 12:35 AM
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It didn't make me laugh.
/r/seduction08/07/22 07:34 PM
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Make sure you have a car.
/r/seduction08/07/22 01:33 AM
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"Man dime" 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 In all seriousness, you tried way too hard and she could smell it. Just be normal next time. If it feels cringey, it's probably cringey.
/r/seduction08/07/22 12:53 AM
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You realize you're only going to get girls that also play games, right?
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:17 PM
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Don't let it turn you bitter to the world and yourself. Be positive. You can do it man. Trust me, I've been there.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:29 PM
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How can I delude myself? What if 'deluding' yourself makes you happy and you start getting what you want? Everything I said to you is to get rid of the negative self-talk. Your comment shows how engrained your negative self-talk is. Think about this, what harm is there to attach a positive meaning to everything? Positive things make you feel good. When you feel good, you're less anxious. It takes effort and seems like it won't work because you're coming from such a dark, negative place. I'm spea…
/r/seduction06/07/22 01:45 AM
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You're overthinking it. You just have to have the mindset that the world is what YOU make of it. That includes how you see yourself AND how you see other people. Attach a positive meaning to everything. Get rid of your negative self talk. Start believing that girls like and want you. Once you truly believe all these things, you will naturally and automatically do things to make them true.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:45 AM
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that’s how she replied so that’s how I responded back to her picture Callback humor. You doing good bro
/r/seduction05/07/22 11:12 PM
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You didn't give her anything to reply to. "I know I love too" isn't something that warrants a response. Like I said, pick a time that works for you and see if it works for her.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:13 PM
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Wait what? What kind of interpretation and advice is this? The girl is interested. She said she could do the weekend. Pick a time that works for you and see if it works for her.
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:25 PM
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Oh okay. I was just confused by your question, but I think I understand it now. So you're saying instead of asking about a nearby coffee shop, you would just directly ask them for their number or something right?
/r/seduction03/07/22 01:32 AM
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Can you give an example?
/r/seduction03/07/22 01:12 AM
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Yea if it's someone you don't know at all, she either likes you for how you look and the vibe you give off or she doesn't.
/r/seduction30/06/22 04:46 PM
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All the time. I am starting to believe vibrations/frequencies with humans are a real thing. The person is probably internally very content and happy with themselves, so they're giving off good "vibes" (vibrations). Think about the last time you were around someone down and depressed--the atmosphere gets heavy and you start to feel that heaviness. And when you're around someone who's extremely bubbly, you start to automatically feel happy yourself and probably catch yourself smiling.
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:23 PM
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I've had girls who are interested in me and not interested in me immediately add me to their close friends. I've even had girls who I've just met and are in a relationship add me to close friends. It means nothing. Not something to overthink.
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:19 PM
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If I'm at a bar or club and I see a girl I'm interested in, I just go ahead and say "I think you're cute can I get your number?". Seems to be 50/50 so far haha. Better than not ever taking a shot. If it's not a bar or heavy drinking environment, I'd probably say something similar like "I think you're cute, we should grab a drink sometime and see if we vibe." Obviously, you gotta be pretty confident being this direct.
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:10 PM
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How are people already giving suggestions without first asking this question lmao. We need more context.
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:04 PM
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Oh my bad, I assumed you met girls you're taking out on a date.
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:52 AM
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The thing is the enviroment i'm in it is a bit dangerous to do that I can tell you from experience, if you're doing it right, the environment doesn't matter. Have done this with all types of girls and I've been nervous as fk every time. They always reciprocate.
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:40 AM
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Next time you gotta be like "I love huge cocks! Wish I had one". If she doesn't laugh at that then she's wack.
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:23 PM
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negging is a dating tactic used by men to insult insecure women w backhanded compliments It's being redefined. I know 'negging' originated from Mystery and Neil Strauss.
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:28 PM
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You're negging wrong. Insulting someone with a smile isn't negging lol. Negging is playful, lighthearted teasing. If she doesn't laugh, you're doing it wrong. Negging isn't even "required". If you don't know how to do it, just don't do it. You're not losing out on anything by NOT saying something negative to a person.
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:16 PM
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Speaking of wrong disorders, here's an ongoing thread in ADHD subreddit that actually mentions someone being misdiagnosed with bipolar when she really had ADHD: https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/vjs5ta/comment/idne05h/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/seduction25/06/22 04:34 AM
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You must follow rules 1&2 and then some. Going out solo for most guys is a huge handicap.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:06 PM
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You guys need some new friends haha. You can't prevent people from thinking you want to get laid, but you sure as hell can increase that thinking by going out solo.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:05 PM
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Not to mention that friends tend to cockblock, get too drunk, etc "Friends" Mine are aware enough to not cockblock and don't get blackout drunk. Maybe you need a new circle. If I was out with a group of friends, mix of guys and girls, a random 1 guy approaching us would be weird af lol. If he approached with a another guy friend, that would seem more normal, but probably still wouldnt get the time of day. If he approached with a girl friend, much higher chance we would want to talk to them. Let'…
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:47 PM
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I never said it's an excuse? My point is he should let her know to get it checked out before it gets worse. OP has every reason to leave this situation he's in. I literally said "No person should put up with that."
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:25 PM
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Please don’t make blanket statements like this. You are making a blanket statement. I have ADHD and have for the past year been educating myself on the disorder in it's entirety. Please educate yourself.
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:24 PM
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It’s hard to explain. But yes to your first sentence. Unless you have either of the disorders, you wouldn’t understand why it’s almost impossible to “learn from your mistakes”. It’s a neurological disorder that makes it nearly impossible when it goes untreated. A good example of something that plagues a lot of ADHD people is the fact they cannot get themselves to clean their room even though the mess really bothers them. It’s not just “feeling bad”, but it’s heavily reflected on by the person wh…
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:58 AM
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Well I don't want to make assumptions, that's why I'm asking OP. If she does ever feel bad and realize it's not the way to behave, but can't seem to help it, she might have a disorder such as being bipolar or ADHD.
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:40 AM
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No man should put up with that. No person should put up with that. I use to be that immature child. For OPs gf, does she ever feel bad or embarrassed for how she acts?
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:18 AM
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What does xanax do for you?
/r/seduction22/06/22 12:04 AM
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Brag about him being a complete moron? "My coworker showed me her shaven pussy and told me to rub it, but she wasn't being serious"
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:20 AM
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wanted to see if I could even do it Definitely wasn't trying to sell you short on this. This is huge, so great job seriously.
/r/seduction19/06/22 06:41 PM
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I was nervous and went up and told her I thought she was cute and asked for her number This typically only works if you follow rules 1&2 and the environment is right (eg night time at a bar/club). Otherwise, you need to have some rapport beforehand.
/r/seduction19/06/22 04:24 PM
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Reading your post and how curious you are in the comments, I pray you don't get so curious that you catch some sort of STD. The fact that you questioned "was I wrong for using a condom on a girl I barely know" is just mindblowing to me.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:33 PM
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You know, this is actually a really good idea. Super simple and you're more than likely not going to see these people again. Still "hard" though because nerves and approach anxiety and all. Also, I can't imagine most girls being reciprocating on the spot in front of her friends unless you follow rules 1&2.
/r/seduction02/06/22 02:38 AM
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How you live?
/r/seduction02/06/22 02:36 AM
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Listen and definitely don't say anything that goes against her stance. She's looking for empathy from you, the one person she should be able to get it from. So if you don't have anything to say that backs her up, just listen.
/r/seduction01/06/22 06:59 PM
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I live in Malaysia Oh you rich rich. I believe there are dating apps catered to the extremely wealthy, especially for eastern countries. I don't know what they are called though because I'm no where near that echelon of wealth. I'm sure there are people on there just like yourself that are only looking for casual.
/r/seduction30/05/22 11:37 PM
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Should've said something sarcastic like "Yea I'm pretty desperate to learn about the Socratic method haha. You attend here, what are you desperate for?" <-- That's kinda lame also tbh, but you get the point. It's better to just take everything as a joke and make it playful in the dating scene. Seriously, EVERYTHING. If a girl doesn't like the playfulness, then she sucks.
/r/seduction28/05/22 04:28 AM
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Another good method is to have a mantra, basically a word you repeat over and over during the mediation, no specific pace or anything. The mantra should ideally be a word with no meaning to you. If you find you're mind is wandering in thought, go back to repeating the mantra. You can lookup "meditation mantras" for ideas. Meditation is the one thing I try to get everyone I know to do because it really is life changing IF you're doing it correctly. Don't expect instant results either; it needs to…
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:11 AM
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can you translate it for me
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:49 AM
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Didn't even know this was a thing. Looks like there are some exercises you can do to fix it though--why not put in the effort to clear up this insecurity? Make it easier for your confidence in the long run.
/r/seduction22/05/22 02:33 AM
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A lot of pain before he dies I'm guessing
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:26 AM
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warm Cup of coffee What if they like iced coffee?
/r/seduction21/05/22 11:23 PM
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Are you a good looking guy? 6' or higher?
/r/seduction18/05/22 07:06 PM
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I'm 31, Asian, was skinny, and smaller than average height. When I was skinny, I could get a girl and when I got jacked, I could also get girls. My game was average, but I was still able to get a bunch of dates and was in 3 serious relationships. ALL the girls I dated were hot. I want to say my dating life was still very subpar compared to the "average" person. My whole life up until about 28 or 29, I was only focused on chasing girls and trying to get a girlfriend. Once I turned 29 and was tryi…
/r/seduction16/05/22 09:48 PM
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I don't understand this sub and the replies in this thread. OP, you're telling me if you have a picture of yourself with a hot girl, you don't think that would make your dating profile look better? Also, why does it matter who the guy is? Irrelevant. I always think I'm not doing great in the dating world, but then realize threads like this exist.
/r/seduction30/04/22 05:56 PM
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The most serious relationship I've been in, I asked her to give me head one time randomly and she thought it was kinda weird, but did it anyway. I've heard that if you tell the girl she's really good at it, even if she's bad, she'll enjoy doing it more AND she'll try to do better each time haha.
/r/seduction28/04/22 03:40 AM
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How many people are you messaging to get banned lmao.
/r/seduction24/04/22 06:51 PM
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"Well I had a good time with you, so let me know when you're available again. If you're not interested, thats okay too." I actually dont see any reason to include that last part. Just a "Well I had a good time with you, so let me know when you're available again." is good enough because you'll know if she's interested or not if she texts you back or not lol. If you add that last sentence, it just makes you look a bit insecure--doesn't help you in any way.
/r/seduction15/04/22 06:46 PM
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No good morning or good nights username checks out.
/r/seduction15/04/22 06:38 PM
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you seriously are just some robot that lacks any calibration The fact that he has a reason for each line is pretty robotic too like IF THEN statements lol. To OP, like the comment above me said, this is coming off too robotic and I imagine it probably feels forced in real life.
/r/seduction12/04/22 01:34 AM
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Being tall is less of an issue nowadays I've noticed. Just gotta be good looking bare minimum and appear confident with yourself.
/r/seduction22/03/22 02:56 AM
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Girlschase What is this? Some sort of self marketing?
/r/seduction22/03/22 02:54 AM
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Humble brag
/r/seduction09/01/22 06:52 PM
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You glossed over an important question: why did you ask to go to her place? If you still live at home with your parents, at age 33 it’s going to be pretty tough to pull any sort of girl.
/r/seduction25/12/21 10:28 AM
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Man look up “oneitis”. Also, the constant text without waiting for her reply screams stage 5 clinger. You scared her off. You’re also WAY too serious. You texted her asking to sit down to have a chat, and you said you want to talk about religion. Lol what? The big question is why would you ask to go over to her place? Not saying you should have said this instead, but why not invite her to your place? You also should look up some stuff on pick-up. You generally shouldn’t be asking people directly…
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:25 AM
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Bro what? Is that line supposed to impress someone lol. Move on. You’re a 33 year old man, but after reading your post I’m thinking you’re lying about your age.
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:13 AM
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How do you know it’s a new bf and not just a friend or her brother/cousin? Besides that, you should try to get your mental health better before pursuing a serious relationship. It’ll be better for you because bad mental health can ruin your relationships. And when that happens, your mental health just gets worse.
/r/seduction22/12/21 03:43 AM
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You’re mad young and doing what i wish i did. focus on yourself. get that bread man.
/r/seduction15/12/21 06:39 PM
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That’s actually a great idea… I never facetime people really, but i feel like i could get use to it. I just feel like I always look WAY different on camera for some reason (in an uglier way and i’m not even ugly)
/r/seduction13/12/21 03:54 PM
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I’m not OP, but my issue with planning so far out is that I’m a terrible texter. I just don’t like texting unless I really get to know a person. I’m starting to realize that nowadays texting is almost mandatory; not for everyone, but most people. If you don’t text enough then they say you lack communication.
/r/seduction13/12/21 03:38 PM
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I think so. I just don’t do it. Almost all girls nowadays know what negging is too. So it’s immediately a turn off.
/r/seduction09/12/21 01:27 PM
1

Hm. Maybe just apologize haha and say you were trying to be funny and it came out wrong. Not too much you can do to recover. Just remove negging for the future.
/r/seduction09/12/21 01:20 PM
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Yes. Unless you’ve been talking to her for a while and you guys are acquaintances. Like you’ve been working together for a year or have been in class together for a semester. Talking to her a couple of times doesn’t count. Instagram is pretty personal for people nowadays. It’s creepy. Don’t do it. Ask yourself, how does following her help you?
/r/seduction09/12/21 05:01 AM
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Depends on the person, but in theory, probably around 27-33. If you played your life correctly, you have some experience, you got your life figured out (health and finances), and around this age, most people know what they want from a partner.
/r/seduction09/12/21 01:36 AM
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How is that not helpful? 9/10 people replying is telling you “don’t neg”. You really need a detailed explanation? Think about the concept of negging. Really think about it. How is that supposed to attract anyone?
/r/seduction09/12/21 01:04 AM
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You put the person down so they feel insecure. I honestly have no idea why Mystery thought this is actually a good strategy. Why would anyone want to be around someone that makes them feel insecure lol. Mystery’s point of negging is so that you’re showing the girl that you don’t overvalue her (big LOL) and she has to prove to you that she’s worth it. I think…. never really understood it because it’s a stupid concept.
/r/seduction09/12/21 01:01 AM
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Is it 2007 again? Don’t neg.
/r/seduction09/12/21 01:00 AM
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6’+ Jokes aside, being funny is #1. They be laughing so hard their eyes are closed and can’t see how ugly you actually are.
/r/seduction14/10/21 05:45 AM
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People are saying your standards are too high—what? Those are very basic standards. Some people have some low ass standards. Especially on the height point, you only gave a 1 inch buffer. I know friends that won’t date a girl unless she’s significantly shorter.
/r/seduction13/10/21 05:53 AM
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Don’t go clubbing to pick up girls. Go clubbing to have fun with your friends. That’s the only time i’ve had success with girls at a club. They see you having fun, they will approach you. If they don’t approach you, you still had fun.
/r/seduction22/07/21 12:50 PM
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Isn't "make up" just a way to manipulate someone? "Game" is how confident you are with the gender you're trying to attract. It's been given a bad connotation because of how people started to view it as "fake it til you make it". You can be your genuine self and spit that ill game. No manipulation needed.
/r/seduction21/07/21 10:02 PM
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You should always be working on yourself imo. Getting back into the dating scene is part of it. It’s a matter of prioritizing yourself first and don’t take getting back into the scene so seriously. Think of it as practice so that you get better at dating and you start to feel confident about it.
/r/seduction21/07/21 10:46 AM
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He’s also 5’11 sooo
/r/seduction20/07/21 11:11 PM
1

I despise constant texts I do too, but I don't think you need to text constantly to flirt.
/r/seduction19/07/21 06:45 PM
2

perfect opportunity to say, I'm better in person I do say this, but after a couple months of dating, they're probably just expecting a little bit more.
/r/seduction19/07/21 06:44 PM
2

I always try to go for a kiss. It usually happens at the end of the date, but if the opportunity presents itself where you guys are isolated and you're feeling it, go for it. It's always going to be nerve racking btw lol so good luck with that.
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:53 AM
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Like other people said, don’t do it. There are too many reasons to list, but one important reason is because you come off as desperate AND beta. Like you haven’t shown any interest this entire time then all of a sudden you tell her you wanna be more than friends. Never works man (speaking from experience of my own and my friends). Stay as friends and go find romance somewhere else. The only time I’ve seen it somewhat work is when the guy is very attractive and is very obvious that he gets a lot …
/r/seduction13/07/21 12:35 PM
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I’ll be honest, your text game needs work. Don’t try to flirt over text unless she starts flirting first. Text for logistics only. She’s clearly not interested and the stuff you said was kinda cringey—reminds me of stuff hot girls get in their DMs from random nerdy looking guys. It just seemed wayyy too forced.
/r/seduction13/07/21 12:31 PM
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At what point did you mention there’s no beach around you? The guy gave you a solid advice, how tf is he supposed to know where you live? Maybe you can find how to socialize properly in the middle of nowhere too
/r/seduction13/07/21 12:24 PM
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If neither of you have already said you had a good time, start with that. “I had a good time hanging out with you. <that place she mentioned> next week?” Ideally, you would want to try to plant the idea during the date, but you don’t necessarily need to plan it during the date like most people recommend. I feel like asking during the date or when it ends puts the girl on the spot, making her feel anxious. You don’t want people to feel anxious ever.
/r/seduction09/07/21 02:44 PM
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Your girl friends don’t think objectively; trust me on that. What they say is different from what they would actually want. At some point you need to step out of that comfort zone or else you’re gonna keep losing girls like this. Use this as a lesson for next time. Mentally prepare yourself now. Whenever you first meet the girl, always go for a hug. This will make kino a lot easier moving forward.
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:23 PM
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It begs the question...What are you looking for here? They're looking for confirmation bias. They only wanna hear what they wanna hear. It's ridiculous. People really don't know how to look at advice objectively. There have been so many posts I've seen in the past week where advice is given and the OP argues back... People really need to let go of their ego or comfort zone or whatever it is. Why post here if you're not even going to consider the advice people are telling you.
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:16 PM
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So that was 2 dates? You gotta give her a few days man. Also, don't choose a date that YOU won't enjoy. You gotta go somewhere you will personally have fun, so that way if the girl sucks, you still had fun. Also, you gotta kiss her on the 1st date, if not, then definitely the 2nd date. The fact that you only hugged her on both dates is probably a huge turn-off. Shows a lack of confidence. Since you ended it with "just let me know", don't text her. Move on with your life. Setup a date with anothe…
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:06 PM
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You’re missing the point. If they’re interested they will move their schedule around to see you. You being openly free to any day she chooses also makes you look like you got nothing better to do. Or just keep doing what you’re doing and see if that 90% failure rate comes down.
/r/seduction08/07/21 08:32 PM
1

It’s probably better to specify a day that you’re free. If they aren’t free they will let you know and suggest another day.
/r/seduction08/07/21 08:03 PM
1

You literally said “there is always coffee”. She followed up on your offer.
/r/seduction08/07/21 05:07 PM
2

It technically is a date, but bro you gotta own up to be the one asking her out. “Have I been pulled into a coffee date” sounds so weak haha. Girls don’t just pull you into a date. You ask them out, they say yes/no. You’re gonna have to feel out whether you make a move or not. Good luck.
/r/seduction08/07/21 03:47 PM
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If it’s you and the guy and the girl, it’s not a date. YOU aren’t even sure if it’s a date, then don’t make a move. Next time you need to be a man about it and ask her out properly (whether it’s her or some other girl in the future)
/r/seduction08/07/21 02:13 PM
4

Check out r/tressless for hair loss. Rogaine rarely causes regrowth, but it helps slow down the balding process. It’s worth it. Look into finasteride also.
/r/seduction08/07/21 02:09 PM
1

Raise your eyebrows. Seriously. Makes you look less intimidating and aggressive.
/r/seduction08/07/21 10:25 AM
3

Insane wall of text with no format, but why would don’t you just setup another date…?
/r/seduction07/07/21 10:29 PM
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Why? If you’re so fun to be around, you don’t need texting… if you wanna show you’re not sitting around on your phone then wouldn’t NOT texting be the most obvious approach here? You’re setting yourself up for failure man. This is like saying the wheel is too fucking round and works too well, let’s make it square. Stop playing games bro. Text for logistics only.
/r/seduction07/07/21 02:05 AM
1

Another tip is to save those posts you find. You’ll want to go back and review them. It’s a ton of information and you don’t wanna just pick out one thing that sounds good to you. But also you don’t need to follow things to a T. Good luck man
/r/seduction07/07/21 01:41 AM
1

Working out helps for sure, but it sounds like you got other stuff in your life you need to take care of also. Are you known as a person who dresses well? If not then look into it. How’s your posture? A lot of your issues is just your own confidence. Get out there, but continue to work on yourself. Realize that you’re going to fail a few times and don’t let it bring you back down. Your first priority is yourself.
/r/seduction07/07/21 12:05 AM
3

Don’t respond. Move on. She asks again, ignore. Know your worth.
/r/seduction07/07/21 12:02 AM
2

Check out the top posts in this subreddit instead (assuming you know how to filter for top posts) I’d start with top for the week, month, year, then all time. That way you get the most recent and relevant information. The all-time top posts are kinda meme-ish, but the information applies. None of it matters if you don’t get out there an apply it though, which is the hardest part.
/r/seduction06/07/21 11:58 PM
3

YouTube “how to have a conversation” or something and watch the videos til 1 resonates with your personality. After that it’s just practice. Stop watching porn and stop jerking off too.
/r/seduction06/07/21 05:51 PM
2

Ask her to leave with you What if your place is a 30min drive? Is that too long
/r/seduction06/07/21 02:37 PM
1

First of all, they’ll need to be 21+ to go to a bar. Second of all, wtf?
/r/seduction06/07/21 02:59 AM
4

Sounds like you're young and you're in the friendzone. Stay as FRIENDS and move on. Nothing romantic is going to happen between you two. I'm speaking from my own experience and experiences from a lot of my friends.
/r/seduction06/07/21 01:46 AM
3

It's much harder to see things for how it really is when your mind is lost in a haze. You made this postbecause you couldn't think clearly on your own. The next time you make a post about a specific girl, just remember you're not thinking straight and you're thinking with your emotions only (bad). I actually encourage these posts because fellow redditors have saved my ass so many times on things I was overthinking. Definitely don't rely only on reddit though lol. Reflect on this and figure out h…
/r/seduction06/07/21 12:42 AM
1

To elaborate, it makes you seem busy (even if you're not lol) and it helps YOU so that you don't come off too strong or clingy. It also helps you by making you seem a little bit mysterious, eg if she's into you, she might be thinking "why hasn't he texted me yet", so when she finally gets a text from you, she's gonna be happy. From there it's a lot easier to secure the date.
/r/seduction06/07/21 12:35 AM
1

Now do u have other options? There's always other options...
/r/seduction06/07/21 12:03 AM
1

Wow the “maybe yes” applies so much to a recent girl I just moved on from. This is a great post man.
/r/seduction05/07/21 11:53 PM
4

You should only text for logistics (setting up a date) when you’re this early in a relationship
/r/seduction05/07/21 11:46 PM
3

People slip up. Being too clingy is common even for the best of us. You just gotta realize she's not worth all the mental capital you're spending thinking about her and how to fix things. I made a thread recently about a similar issue, but the only difference is that I wasn't trying to get her back. The reason it's hard for you to let go is because you have some sort of idealization about this girl that is just a fantasy in your head. You need to think about it logically, if someone isn't recipr…
/r/seduction05/07/21 11:35 PM
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Move on. Too much clingy behavior especially with the letter… It’s easy for me to say, but I know what you’re going through. You really just need to tell yourself the truth, which is 1) she doesn’t want you 2) you were overly clingy with all the “reaching out” If a girl is interested or wants to talk to you, she will reach out.
/r/seduction05/07/21 10:22 PM
2

She thinks you only want to have sex with her. If she only wanted to have sex, she would have done it that first time meeting you. She probably feels bad about herself now tbh for just showing up to your place like that and it's not something she normally does. I text her few days later and said I wanted to see her before I go out of town for the weekend Did you mention anything about "let's grab some dinner/drink"? Without an actual plan mentioned, the text implies you're still just trying to s…
/r/seduction05/07/21 05:04 AM
4

Why wouldn't it be normal? It's a harmless hug. I can't speak for other countries, but it's normal in the US. I have hugged every girl I've ever been on a first date with. When I got into a serious relationship with 2 of them, they mentioned that the hug on the first date was impressionable and a "good move" on my part. You gonna shake her hand instead? lol. The fact that you asked if it's normal, you're either not from the U.S. or you just have a lot to learn.
/r/seduction05/07/21 04:58 AM
2

So technically that was our first time hanging out. That's definitely why there was resistance. MOST girls I know, don't really go for sex until at least the 3rd or 4th date.
/r/seduction05/07/21 04:55 AM
2

How many dates have you been on? Sounds like it was the first time you met her. Some girls just set rules for themselves, so that they don't feel awful about it later. She probably doesn't put-out that quickly. Gotta wine and dine her a few times.
/r/seduction05/07/21 04:22 AM
2

My friends get tables but it kinda kills the whole point as you can’t have conversations there so you are more basically a “seated wallflower” That's interesting. The reason I prefer tables is because it allows you to have conversations with people, granted the table isn't in the the middle of the venue right next to the dance floor. Having a table can be used as a "quieter" place to talk. And just an FYI, I still don't dance haha. If a girl wants to dance with me, I'll humor her for a little bi…
/r/seduction05/07/21 12:47 AM
2

Guy or girl, everyone knows what you're trying to do.
/r/seduction05/07/21 12:08 AM
1

You waited pretty long to set up a first date and didn’t escalate a lot so make sure you have a sexual vibe the next date. Always try to get the most kino out of the way on the first date. It makes it THAT much easier moving forward. Also, if you DON'T get in enough kino on the first date, it makes it THAT much harder on the 2nd date.
/r/seduction05/07/21 12:03 AM
2

What is the point of this again? You wanna know if she's interested, go talk to her. What's the point of playing these weird, creepy games? Let's say you confirmed she's checking you out, you still need to approach. This is some dumb ego shit, just so you can give yourself confirmation that someone is interested in you, based off of nothing.
/r/seduction05/07/21 12:00 AM
1

That's kinda weird....lol. Unless you guys are 12.
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:53 PM
1

whisper something into her ear, it can be anything really. omelette du fromage~
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:51 PM
1

It's part of the game. You have to play it to some extent. Girls put on make up to attract people, guys put on game. The key is to develop a game that's congruent with your own personality. This shit takes YEARS to develop, but keep that in mind. If the change is beneficial to you, but will also impress someone as a bonus, what's the problem? I see this shit all the time. I will suggest to a friend to maybe buy some new clothes so that it's easier to attract girls. They will argue back saying "t…
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:48 PM
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The first thing you should do always when meeting a girl for the first time on a date is give her a hug. Barrier broken. Then just do light touches on her arm or hand when you're making a point about something you're talking about. You can even "unintentionally" walk into a her bit when you guys are walking. If you like this girl, by the end of the date, you should kiss her. Bam! All the kino taken care of on day 1 and she's going to be MUCH more comfortable with you moving forward (assuming she…
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:41 PM
2

It is freakin hard to go out drinking, socializing or clubbing and change my mindset so how did some of you changed your mindset so basically “having fun” for that sake? I use to be the same way as you when I was 21-26 or so. I HATED going to the club and never found it fun. Me and my friends recently started going out again and now I really do just go out to have fun with my friends. If your priority is "I'm gonna hit on some girls", you're probably gonna fail. As for making the club fun, that'…
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:35 PM
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Why would you assume she wants to take it slow? That’s literally you shooting yourself into your own foot Came here to say this. Be honest with yourself; you bitched out. If you want to go for a kiss, go for the kiss man. If you enjoyed the date, you should always text her the next day saying that you had a good time--this opens it up to her to let you know she had a good time also (meaning she's interested) or she'll say SOMETHING to make it clear she's not interested.
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:27 PM
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People always seem to lose sight of what’s important. If you’re already connected via IG and talking through that, just use that. Some people find numbers to be very personal and they don’t wanna just give it out to a stranger they just met. I met a girl and she asked me for my IG. We’ve been talking through that and she eventually asked me for my number. Getting a girls number has turned into some weird display of a trophy on this sub. I don’t understand it. I have a friend who got 2 numbers in…
/r/seduction04/07/21 11:18 PM
4

The fact that she complimented your shirt means she was expressing some sort of interest. It’s too late for this specific situation, but You could’ve said something like “thanks I got it from xyz” or SOMETHING about the shirt then you could follow up with “im <insert your name> nice to meet you”. You really need to get into the mindset of treating them as a friend and not someone you’re trying to fuck/date/whatever. That easily messes with your nerves and your ability to socialize normally with …
/r/seduction04/07/21 10:47 PM
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One year is a long time man. Start hitting the gym, dress better, anything else to better yourself. Start reading more on how to fix these behaviors you find make you insecure and reading about “game” in general.
/r/seduction01/07/21 04:54 PM
1

Yes it will. Don’t believe the people who say it won’t if you’re already unattractive. You named everything I tell all my friends to do. You’re going to look good and it’ll make you feel good which will make you more confident. That feeling of confidence will show. Just make sure you get the new clothes right; that’s gonna be the hardest part. Find a friend that you KNOW people compliment them for how they dress and ask them for advice or even to pick out a couple of new outfits for you. Edit: w…
/r/seduction01/07/21 03:22 PM
1

Beliefs change and they only change when people try. So like I said im actually curious, how do you approach it? If it’s incongruent with me, im not just gonna try it on a whim haha. And I already figured it had to be for a certain personality.
/r/seduction22/06/21 07:45 PM
1

What are you talking about lol. It sounds like they offered to you also. Why are you so offended and so secretive about your method? You just whip your dick out and wave it around their face?
/r/seduction22/06/21 04:11 PM
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I asked you a serious question and you gave me a sarcastic answer, so it sounds like you haven't had success. Nice one, very helpful. I've never heard of any of my friends ASKING a girl they haven't even hooked up with yet for a BJ. All the BJs I've gotten have been offered. You got some magical solution, people wanna hear it.
/r/seduction22/06/21 03:34 PM
4

Raise your eyebrows.
/r/seduction22/06/21 01:56 PM
1

How do you even bring that up? Serious question. Seems kinda rude to just ask the girl for a bj lol.
/r/seduction22/06/21 01:53 PM
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