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Haha, didn't mean to be a total downer, like I said. Just food for thought, I guess.
/r/seduction23/10/12 05:07 AM
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Last guy I saw doing stuff like this, he committed suicide. Not to be a total downer, but maybe just being real with him and friending him would have done some good.
/r/seduction21/10/12 05:34 PM
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Good kino, man. Simple, yet effective.
/r/seduction12/09/12 12:56 AM
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I'm never that opposed to having extra people come along on the first date. But her reasoning is off, in my opinion. Dating ≠ a relationship. It just seems like she's not that into you to begin with. But if you want a relationship, and she doesn't, then I don't understand what the problem is. You asserted yourself and were selective about who you date. I applaud you for that.
/r/seduction10/09/12 04:12 AM
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He went on a walk.
/r/seduction10/09/12 03:13 AM
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I agree, but it probably wasn't as egregious as you think. I think it just takes the right tone to pull off talking about sex out of the blue. She seemed to be giving off some good signs at the end.
/r/seduction10/09/12 03:11 AM
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Just wanted to give you some tools to help overcome her shyness when the time comes. I can say, however, that there is a short window that you have with most women in which to have sex before she loses attraction and never sleeps with you, especially if you succumb to her turning you down a few times. If you don't believe me, and you really want to wait, why don't you experiment and hold off on trying to sleep with this one for 2 weeks, without telling her your intentions.
/r/seduction09/09/12 11:28 PM
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Not necessarily true, but it helps.
/r/seduction09/09/12 08:32 PM
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I've made the same mistake before. Trust me, I know. :P
/r/seduction09/09/12 08:30 PM
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Solid stuff in here. Wish I was in a frat in college, lucky bastard! Remember with the shy girl two steps forward, one step back when you're working for the f-close. Also, read up on the freeze out, which involves becoming icy cold when she gives LMR, such as turning on the lights and saying 'I get turned off when I hear no.' Also, there's cavemanning, which involves picking her up and throwing her on the bed and following through with lots of passion, getting her caught up in it all.
/r/seduction09/09/12 08:24 PM
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Honestly, you picked great date locations, had mini-dates, and escalated. You did everything else right. You just got too excited and didn't leave much for the bedroom. You can't be too physically available because you run the risk of freaking her out. Also, I think you sort of gave up some of your sexual power by only agreeing to do light kissing. Just calm down next time, and don't be too aggressive with the kino unless you plan to go all the way, or plan to take it away and leave her wanting …
/r/seduction09/09/12 08:11 PM
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I agree only in the sense that the comfort would have acted as a buffer for all of the kino he used. I think he could have saved some of the kino for when it was logistically possible to go all the way.
/r/seduction09/09/12 08:07 PM
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Well, she told you she's normally not into that kind of thing. It sounds like you got a little too excited and clingy with your kino. This is a much better mistake to make than not doing any kino, but you have to calibrate in both directions, depending on the girl and the context. From what I've read, you probably came off very attached to her, even though from what I'm reading, you don't seem to have too much one-itis. She probably wasn't looking for more than a fuck, so getting attached to her…
/r/seduction09/09/12 08:06 PM
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/r/gainit, /r/fitness, /r/advancedFitness
/r/seduction09/09/12 03:10 PM
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Even BETTER McLovin' has a suit jacket on that kind of doesn't fit around the shoulders, and it makes him look younger, lol.
/r/seduction09/09/12 03:06 PM
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Sounds like you still have AA to get over, consider doing some drills, lots of cold approaches with the intention of ejecting. You definitely have one-itis for this HB8, and your instincts are wrong about how to attract her. You want her to see you dancing and talking to other girls, you want her to see you demonstrating higher value and social proof. Dancing is very important and a very useful context and tool to isolate girls and initiate lots of kino, so it's good that you're overcoming the a…
/r/seduction09/09/12 03:00 PM
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I knew I should have gone to UCB. :P
/r/seduction09/09/12 02:43 PM
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Agreed, even further, haha.
/r/seduction09/09/12 01:20 AM
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Thanks for reading. It's just lots of practice and ignoring what my friends think, haha. I was trying out all this RSD stuff, I was more into indirect game before, and it's pretty powerful. The venue was pretty perfect for it too, because the streets were closed off to car traffic and everyone was pouring into them, lots of movement and momentum.
/r/seduction09/09/12 01:19 AM
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My friends never help when they try to hook me up with somebody. NEVER!
/r/seduction08/09/12 09:14 PM
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Sounds like you've got the right idea. :)
/r/seduction08/09/12 09:08 PM
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The high volume meant I had to lean in closer to her while we chatted. Sometimes when I would lean in to say something into her ear, I put my hand on her back Nice instinct, but normally it's advised against to lean in. Try pulling her to you next time.
/r/seduction08/09/12 08:35 PM
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Yea, I meant discussing things with his doctor if he's having trouble with his libido by taking the medication, not so much the Concerta comment.
/r/seduction08/09/12 08:22 PM
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I am planning on go out to the same club but this time alone and just talk with random girls This is the best thing you can do for yourself, especially if it's so close to your house! Have some sort of incentive to bring the girls back to your place, like a bottle of wine, or a vinyl collection, or something interesting. I really really suck at starting conversations, but then after that I can talk pretty much about anything, so could you give me an advice? If you go in with confidence, you can …
/r/seduction08/09/12 07:51 PM
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I've been on ADHD meds for the last 5 years Tell your doc you're having low horniness, he'll switch it out for one that makes your dick work. Also, if you're taking Concerta, I hear the effects wear off after 10-12 hours, so you should be back to 100% horniness after that. Most important.
/r/seduction08/09/12 07:41 PM
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I figured this was a bare minimum even for logistics.
/r/seduction06/09/12 01:57 PM
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Things went bad after you started negging her. You aren't supposed to neg 6's. Also, disqualifiers are supposed to be false disqualifiers. She gave a thoughtful response to what she wants to do with her future and you punished her for it, when you should have given her value for it. Then your transition to your phone number line was very forced and unnatural. You have to be careful when you ask for numbers on Okc because they'll just stop writing you instead of saying 'I'm not comfortable enough…
/r/seduction06/09/12 06:00 AM
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It's a difficult thing, because when you bring up a random, or 'interesting', question from completely out of context, it comes off as try hard and disingenuous. Stop using texting for conversation, and start using it for logistics.
/r/seduction06/09/12 05:42 AM
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Sounds like you have a lot of problems to work through, I'd sincerely suggest reading up on CBT and getting some yourself. Also, next time could you use a carriage return every 4-5 sentences? It hurt my eyes reading your post.
/r/seduction06/09/12 05:36 AM
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A record collection An album she needs to listen to A video/board game she needs to play A special mixed drink that you have the fixings for Something you built or put together, like a wine bar A pet A talent, like juggling or guitar A garden A pool/table A view The list goes on and on, just be creative. Having hobbies and an active life helps fill your personal space with interesting things, more evidence to work on inner game.
/r/seduction06/09/12 03:49 AM
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I have friends who are the same way. I just tell them I don't expect them to buy me a drink, and if they buy me a drink, I'm not going to buy them a drink in return. Feel free to verbalize that you're trying to cut back, and hopefully people will respect that.
/r/seduction04/09/12 08:12 AM
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This belongs in askseddit. She's clearly into you. There's a whole paragraph of evidence, right there. I'll cut you some slack because you're 16, but it's obvious. Honestly, she probably did show some signs and you just didn't pick up on them. Ask her out, kino, isolate, escalate. Next date should not be dinner or movie, but something engaging with lots of opportunity for eye contact, talkng, and kino.
/r/seduction04/09/12 07:14 AM
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It sounds like she's just lazy or doesn't want to date! Haha. Hype up a movie, or show, or stand-up special to her and offer to watch it at her place, bring a 6-pack or some wine. Build comfort, escalate.
/r/seduction04/09/12 07:01 AM
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Link worked for me. I'm starting to experience that indeed seduction could be 80-90% eye contact.
/r/seduction04/09/12 06:45 AM
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The opposite of attracting. No kino. No eye contact. I've never done it, but in retrospect, honesty seems like the best approach for the situations I've been in. Just assert yourself in no uncertain terms that you're not interested.
/r/seduction04/09/12 06:36 AM
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Down voted, only because I think this belongs in askseddit. Open everybody, making friends and building your social network is the goal. Float around, don't linger too long in a set, eject, come back, eject. Get numbers from everybody, not just HB's. Take advantage of the fact that this event is meant for this kind of thing.
/r/seduction04/09/12 06:11 AM
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1 drink per hour is a good rate. The positive effects of alcohol, to me, are only useful in the slightly buzzed stage. One thing you might try is getting drunk only off of drinks that other people buy for you. I don't mean asking for a drink, no mooching. Rather, there have been a few nights I've gotten totally wasted from just being fun and sociable enough that people offer me drinks unsolicited. Maybe give that a shot.
/r/seduction04/09/12 06:04 AM
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Damn, dude. I would have totally SLC Punk'd your friend. It sounds like you need to be more selective with the girls you end up with. Take things slower, and work on transitioning into a LTR, which you might find little help here for. Also, you might have some intimacy/trust issues to work through, as well as depression, so therapy might be useful for you. If you're in school and it's free, I'd check it out.
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:05 AM
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Not having a phone sometimes helps a ton, it changes your whole attitude. Keeps you focused. It seems like the girls probably cooled off a bit because they were in the back seat all alone. It might have been better to let the other guys find another ride, maybe not.
/r/seduction04/09/12 03:50 AM
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It sounds like you were the alpha of the group that night. ;) How long have you been sarging and what got you to where you are today?
/r/seduction04/09/12 03:44 AM
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I think you should forget about this concept and work a different approach altogether, because it seems like you don't get it too well.
/r/seduction04/09/12 03:37 AM
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I'm just being really stupid and paranoid You are. You're obsessing about every little thing. You know you need to calm down, so do it. Me: "Did you leave tonight without saying goodbye to me!" You're already coming off needy here, everything else just made it worse. She's probably already freaked out. Make some plans for Friday night, something really fun that you're either going to do by yourself or with some friends. On Friday, you're going to tell her your plans, and that she should tag alon…
/r/seduction04/09/12 03:34 AM
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Oh, it's just weird you used the back of your hand. I thought it might be some kooky Mystery palm-reading technique or something, ha.
/r/seduction03/09/12 08:36 PM
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I haven't heard about the MM kino. Where'd you put the back of your hand?
/r/seduction02/09/12 04:47 PM
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Don't kick them out! Make them your sous chef. :P Show them how to chop and how to handle a frying pan. So much kino missed out on!
/r/seduction02/09/12 03:56 PM
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Agreed. It depends on the context. OP's opening is definitely for when you're in a club.
/r/seduction02/09/12 03:52 PM
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shot+OJ+kiss
/r/seduction02/09/12 03:49 PM
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Good question. That's why numbers shouldn't be the goal, just a means to an end. If you build enough attraction, and use the number wisely, it can readily turn into a date. I think what you're referring to is the attitude that most people go out to bars with, that they're not necessarily interested in meeting someone to start dating, rather they're looking for a SNL. That's the difference between day and night game, I guess.
/r/seduction02/09/12 03:47 PM
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Maybe she wanted to get her drink on with her friends instead of dancing immediately, especially if she isn't a dancer. I get the feeling you pressed it too much, instead of microcalibrating. Perhaps she just wasn't comfortable enough with you before you isolated her. I don't know why you left the venue when you had a big group of people to hang out with and work from, especially with all of that momentum from the party. If I were in your shoes, I would have struck up some conversations with oth…
/r/seduction01/09/12 05:49 PM
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Bravo. I like that words pretty much had no meaning right before you kissed. You can pretty much say anything and go in for it with great success.
/r/seduction31/08/12 04:41 AM
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Maybe it's your body telling you something about this girl. Just make sure it's something that you really want to do (with her in particular), if not, it's better to be selective. Otherwise, maybe it was something you ate.
/r/seduction30/08/12 02:42 PM
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"It's because when I was a baby my mother dipped me in a barrel of honey."
/r/seduction17/06/12 08:28 PM
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She was a redhead, dude. A REDHEAD! It's pretty much done. Great white buffalo gone, kemosabe. It fucking sucks.
/r/seduction14/06/12 07:47 PM
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Willing to get dirty, nice one. I think you're texting too much, first. Less is more. She hasn't been biting because you haven't been casting a line. Either drop some hints about shared interests, state some things that you're up to in the near future that you know she'll like, maybe she'll suggest joining you. How about: 'i'm going out again this week, gotta bust a move again.' or 'blah blah don't you love parasailing? blah blah blah speaking of parasailing, i'm going this weekend!' If she does…
/r/seduction14/06/12 04:17 AM
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Get off of facebook.
/r/seduction16/08/11 03:15 PM
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I'll say okc game is pretty much my only game. I'm avoiding going out too much, and I only really hit my favorite bar once a week, and I don't game too much then. Here are the things you all should know about okc: Get A-list for a couple reasons: Enhanced search features will help you find the 'easy prey,' if that's what you're in to. I'm attracted to sexual girls, obviously, so kinkiness as a search option is great. I'm currently in bed with two of the kinkiest girls in my town, lol. Also, you …
/r/seduction06/08/11 07:15 PM
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Quit. It's a crutch. If you see somebody smoking, start a conversation by saying: 'Hey, I quit a couple years ago and it was the best decision of my life.' Make this true. Nicotine, not just cigarette smoke, causes myriad heart and health problems. Addiction to nicotine and weed reflects a weakness within you, an expression of a lack of control of yourself and life. Also, there's nothing wrong with getting a breath of fresh air, instead of smoking a cigarette. This is not 'awkward,' it's alpha a…
/r/seduction05/08/11 04:22 AM
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Ouch. From professional and personal experience, it's a great idea to control your mood/bipolar disorder by sticking with your medication and avoiding any drug/alcohol use. Drama is a drug, too. I deleted my facebook profile, maybe you might do the same.
/r/seduction09/05/11 06:23 PM
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Been on seddit too long. Reading the title, I thought to myself... "But fabioisonfire can dance?!"
/r/seduction09/05/11 06:12 PM
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Sounds like you did a great job, imho. I'd bet she was on her period. It happens. SOP for me is freezing her out or caveman it up. It seems like you got a little clingy, but it also seems like you had a level head. Edit: Oh also, I'd think there was some ASD, too, considering you got so physical in the club and around her friends.
/r/seduction18/04/11 04:28 AM
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Good question. I was watching Transformers with a HB and she asked 'Do you think she's hot?' She was referring to Megan Fox. I was stumped, but I did say she was too skinny and that was it. I'd still bang her in a heart beat.
/r/seduction17/04/11 08:03 AM
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At least you have an apartment, dude. It doesn't matter one bit. If you want, you can close like crazy.
/r/seduction17/04/11 08:00 AM
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Fish in a barrel.
/r/seduction17/04/11 07:54 AM
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Nice. I use seddit as my journal, it's great!
/r/seduction17/04/11 07:44 AM
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Forget the hair comment, I'm using this line now. Hilarious.
/r/seduction17/04/11 07:35 AM
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I can't help it. I'm just too fucking funny.
/r/seduction17/04/11 07:15 AM
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I always have a great time with bartenders, but I always keep them in the friend-zone because they're almost always taken/hit on incessantly. I treat them more like business partners, lol. I'll try this line because it's innocent enough.
/r/seduction17/04/11 07:10 AM
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Why didn't it go passed shirt off? Maybe we can help if you give more detail.
/r/seduction17/04/11 06:50 AM
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Billiards is awesome. LOSER MCLOSINGTONS is fucking hilarious. He should have fucked her, indeed.
/r/seduction17/04/11 06:48 AM
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When in field, real PUAs don't worry about technique, they worry about logistics. Wow, that's a real gem of an insight.
/r/seduction06/04/11 01:09 AM
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I need more context to understand what this quote means.
/r/seduction03/04/11 03:10 PM
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At least I know where my money is going, instead of war and corporate tax benefits. :-P
/r/seduction03/04/11 02:13 PM
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Nope.
/r/seduction03/04/11 02:12 PM
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The work is not already done for you on Okc. Most guys don't have any luck on it. It's an art in and of itself, and really the goal is to get to real life interactions ASAP, where seduction is x1000 easier. You've also just gotta play the numbers, and realize not every message is going to get a reply. Be willing to cast a line, and be patient. No bite? No problem.
/r/seduction03/04/11 02:11 PM
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Step out of your comfort zone in all directions. Get your life/mind/body together. Even if bad luck hits you, as it has me repeatedly, you'll still have a great life.
/r/seduction03/04/11 02:08 PM
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My sarcasm detector is failing, but I can say this is what I meant.
/r/seduction03/04/11 02:04 PM
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I'd like to hear more from you. I've studied ASD's including Asperger's and your input is fascinating. What you're describing are the evolutionary reproductive mechanisms human women employ. As mammals, women are meant to bond and care for their very powerless young, placing the task of support, defense, and so forth, on the man. This is at odds, however, with the selectivity side of things. Men who are more genetically viable, are more likely to float around and spread their seed, because their…
/r/seduction02/04/11 05:39 PM
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NO! I love being free and able to talk to whoever I want. There aren't any negative vibes from my friends, or second guesses being thrown around. I am in control and I have FUN. I don't have to lie about having and meeting friends. In fact, I'd assume most people would respect a person for going out on their own. If you're having trouble in one venue, bounce to another. Build up momentum. At first it's awkward because you're just out of practice, but if you've had 10 or 15 conversations at 3 or …
/r/seduction02/04/11 04:10 PM
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I am going to tease girls about this for the rest of my damn life.
/r/seduction23/03/11 06:06 AM
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Hey, this is good practice either way. I'd prefer to have things requiring a calculated and weighed approach. That way I'd know I'm getting better. Keep it up!
/r/seduction18/03/11 04:02 AM
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Ask people next time. That's a big part of spontaneity and being a leader.
/r/seduction25/02/11 07:27 PM
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Girls like confident, but sensitive guys. I predict your attitude and body language covered the confidence, and your break up covered the sensitive part. Did you mention your break up to these girls? It sounds like you did and they were just swooning over your emotionality. Hey, that's great and I'm sure it's uplifting, but I don't think you should use it to define your personality and social interactions. That's my opinion, though, so take it with a grain of salt. If you didn't milk the break u…
/r/seduction25/02/11 06:53 PM
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Cognitive psych is more of an information-processing approach to understanding various cognitive functions, like language or vision. Cognitive neuroscience is the subfield that involves bridging the gap between cognitive theories and their physiological, neuronal, representations. Social cognitive neuroscience would be the most relevant to understanding social dynamics at such a level of abstraction. This seems to be what you're interested in. Unfortunately, my understanding of this subject is p…
/r/seduction25/02/11 06:29 PM
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It's all about calibration and interpretation. Obviously, if some girl catches your eye on accident and she looks away because she isn't interested, you can tell. If you're maintaining strong eye contact with a girl, and you get a blush or smile out of her, you're golden. Just go out and stare down some girls, approach them, even ask them how they feel about eye contact like that.
/r/seduction24/02/11 04:33 PM
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Good stuff. What do you mean by attraction routine? What's one of yours?
/r/seduction24/02/11 04:29 PM
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Dude! A shitty beer can be a total bring down. I learned the best way to deal is to just chug it, get it over with, and definitely not complain about it. Also, friends who hide in the corner are also a bring down, and I normally just leave 'em, like you did! Don't feel bad about approaching through a bunch of tables. Sometimes I prefer those kinds of approaches because it's more difficult! Just power through, confident, move shit out of your way even! You totally blew those shit tests! That's wh…
/r/seduction24/02/11 04:27 PM
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Sorry, poor choice of words. What I mean to say is that when you maintain strong eye contact, things can feel awkward, but you should power through it. In terms of dominance, the less dominant person is more likely to break eye contact. Smile, and wait for her to break away. Either she breaks contact, or you hold contact for a really unreasonable amount of time. At either point, you should approach.
/r/seduction24/02/11 03:34 PM
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LoL, I met a girl who never had pumpkin pie. Bitch crazy! Sounds like you were really haphazard with it all, hence the LMR on date 2. Date 1 should have had multiple locations, somewhere to escalate. Some guys suggest having a go-to date plan, so definitely work on it. Good start, though! Keep it up.
/r/seduction24/02/11 03:28 PM
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I've heard different accounts on eye contact, so it seems to depend on the type of game you are playing. From what I'm reading, you need to work on your confidence. Fit the part by having strong eye contact. If things get awkward, just smile. When she supplicates and breaks eye contact, approach! It's that easy. Also, don't worry so much about looks, you're in control of your weight and that's all that matters!
/r/seduction24/02/11 03:20 PM
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Haha, actually, I've already had sex in a classroom. On the floor, in the middle of it. A professor may have heard us, too. The reason why I didn't want to in the classroom is that I wanted to go all night and really get the sensual/intimate part behind it all. Plus the couch was too small and carpet burn sucks. I will keep your rule of thumb in mind, though.
/r/seduction24/02/11 03:11 PM
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What a bitch, the guy sucker punched you and RAN?! Sounds like he's done it before, lol. I'll have to keep in mind your 'Fuck my game' rule. My problem is I'm happy to get into a fight with somebody, but it never actually turns into anything.
/r/seduction22/02/11 05:04 PM
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I see what you mean. Like I said to VectorBoy, I was pretty cocky/asshole on okc (maybe too much, but she was a bitch for sure), but that was to get through the shield. Once she complied I toned it down a whole lot and took her on an emotional roller coaster. But I agree, still way too available, but I felt cool about it all because at the time I was spinning plates.
/r/seduction21/02/11 04:21 PM
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Like I said, I was really cocky/asshole in the okc messages I sent her. In fact, she called me an asshole, lol. I was pretty much rewarding her in the beginning for dropping the shield and giving me her number. You're allowed to be nice and emotionally available, as long as it's under YOUR terms.
/r/seduction21/02/11 04:12 PM
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What's a pervasive characteristic that you notice in your students? Are they generally just too anxious to approach? Are they too self-conscious? Do they need to work on inner game? Too creepy? In other words, if you had to change one thing about every frustrated guy, what would it be?
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:45 AM
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Thanks for humbling Seddit's cyberspace with your insight, Nick! I'll keep this question short and sweet: What is the most salient personality trait you run into with the AFC's who join your classes?
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:39 AM
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ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction14/02/11 03:45 AM
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You sound pretty Beta, man. Only Beta's take flakes personally. You need to realize that girls do this all the time, and when you send messages like that, you're just creating drama that she wants. In my book, if she's playing you like this, you've been boring up to this point and haven't been taking her on an emotional roller coaster of love. She stood you up? No Big Deal. You have a thousand girls to replace her. I'm all for not tolerating shit, but where are your manners? Recall the message, …
/r/seduction12/02/11 04:40 PM
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Agreed. Martial arts has made me a kino king. Nothing gets you more comfortable with other people's bodies than grappling with one for a few hours.
/r/seduction12/02/11 05:49 AM
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Agreed. State in a pill, really.
/r/seduction12/02/11 05:47 AM
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No, theoretically, the opposite. SSRI's block serotonin reuptake. This causes serotonin to persist in the synapse and presumably increases it's effect on your nerves.
/r/seduction12/02/11 05:45 AM
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If you've got specific questions, put it in the title and we can have a discussion. This is a good question. My interpretation of playing aloof is to attract girls. You're personifying the abundance and life of the party attitudes. Girls respond to this and start giving you IOI's, wanting your attention because it's in high demand. Then you reward IOI's with positive behaviors, such as kino. If they start ignoring you or talking to other guys, start talking to other girls, walk away, become aloo…
/r/seduction10/02/11 03:15 AM
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Fight Club is practically everyone's favorite movie. Just like everyone's likely to pick 7 between 1 and 10. It sounds like you're just seeing how everyone's personality starts to normalize the more and more observations you make. Basic statistics. You're also starting to notice components that persist throughout society. When you learn these things, you can predict them. Social science 101. If you want variety, go to another country or talk to foreigners. I surmise you'll still notice universal…
/r/seduction07/02/11 08:52 PM
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Should have escalated kino more and kissed when you said goodbye, you did just go on a date. She wasn't feeling it, probably because you weren't feeling it. I wouldn't have texted that neg. Texting normally works against you in that respect, thus your urge to include an emoticon.
/r/seduction07/02/11 08:42 PM
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(how do you handle shy girls) when it came to physical stuff. She didn't really resist, but she didn't really reciprocate or initiate anything either. Please someone answer this, I've handled some cold girls with tons of verbal IOI's but no kino responses, they're totally enigmatic to me. she tried to go all tongue at first, which threw me off, and then she kept pulling away, just some really quick, light kisses Sounds like she was pretty anxious, and a little frozen from it all, and once you ki…
/r/seduction07/02/11 05:59 AM
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This really belongs in relationship advice subreddit, but I'll have at it. This is kind of like a shit test, blow it and she won't respect you. Do what you feel comfortable doing, and what you think is right. This situation should be characterized in a one-itis reference frame. The difference is you've chosen to go down the LTR path, you've set your boundaries and you know what you want. It's up to you to waiver, but it shouldn't be to make her feel better. It should be for the good of both of y…
/r/seduction07/02/11 05:48 AM
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This. Bitches love smoke rings.
/r/seduction07/02/11 04:27 AM
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Interesting discussion on mystery. You definitely don't want to give anything away that you haven't explicitly decided to give away. It sucks in the case of a living space, because your whole life is laid out for all to see. If it were up to me, I would have made my room off limits, or at least not made it a public viewing event, lol. If by chance somebody comes across a revealing item that reflects my hobbies or personality, I OWN it, pun mildly intended. OP came across as having something to h…
/r/seduction07/02/11 04:25 AM
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I buy the gayest looking air freshner LOL. Nag champa is an awesome incense you can buy in bulk online.
/r/seduction07/02/11 04:10 AM
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Agreed, but sometimes they can be counter-productive if they don't know how to properly support you. I'd much rather be alone than be around a person who brings me down and just feeds a self-deprecating cycle. The best wingman would just open for you, talk you up, occupy the obstacles, and still give you first pick!
/r/seduction07/02/11 04:06 AM
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I've found that it's a vicious cycle when it comes to succumbing to AA. You think too much about whether it's the right time, and if you'll fuck up, or whatever. Then the desire to approach fades, and you start mentally kicking yourself for not approaching. Then your lowered state makes you think you definitely will blow the set, or whatever, and eventually you get to the point where reversing the AA is near impossible. If by that point the target isn't gone, you'll have given in to the AA.
/r/seduction07/02/11 04:04 AM
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I recently tried only doing things that I didn't spend longer than a few seconds analyzing. That gives me no chance to feel anxious or over think things, and motivates me to pounce because I don't want to lose the opportunity to myself. This is probably best used in target-rich environments, where you can afford to move around and let some sets go, if you have to. It gets me out of my head and into the moment.
/r/seduction07/02/11 03:59 AM
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Again, congrats. I open random people, high-five, clap my hands, jump around, raise my voice, and sing to get into an energetic state. Work your mind up, too, with mantras or triggers, like good memories of times you've been in state, and such. That's at the clubs, though, and I've found it's much harder to work in a low-energy environment, because you first have to match the energy around you and slowly escalate it. I've found the easiest solution for building momentum to a fun and awesome time…
/r/seduction07/02/11 03:48 AM
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Solid. Fucking a girl on E is definitely a treat. Ditch this girl, though, she was dishonest to you and her boyfriend. For the good of mankind, let her know she fucked up, and use your attraction for good.
/r/seduction06/02/11 12:35 PM
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I'm back with my friends, and I've done such a good job being the life of the party with my group, one of the black girls, HB7, is into me. My good friend says HB7 wants to dance with me. It gets awkward, because I wasn't interested and everybody was talking about it. I saved her the embarrassment and grabbed her by the hand and bolted to the floor like a boss. I pushed other HB's out the way and jived the FUCK out of this girl. The techno music was actually perfect. I always kept contact, holdi…
/r/seduction05/02/11 09:24 PM
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I see you've touched up on Flawless Natural? Just about to write my FR, I had the same issues with state. Also, I actually went out with the intent of keeping a buzz by drinking 1-2 drinks an hour, making sure I didn't overdo it and fuck up my game. Plus I had to drive. Good call, and a lot of girls just love that I'm drinking water most of the time. I actually only got so drunk 'cause I kept getting free shots. Maybe a good mentality is to only drink free booze? 8-D I actually got tons of IOI's…
/r/seduction05/02/11 08:53 AM
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Awesome FR, dude! The tickling was perfect, that set sounds lame! Haha. Man, I wish I still smoked, so easy to open people with smoking related openers. Also, thanks for insight into the gay disqualifier, I'll try it one of these days. Was the brunette intentionally trying to CB you up until the point she asked you to leave? Will use horse girl opener, worth remembering at least one routine. You've got a great wingwoman recruiter mentality, that should be a go-to for every girl I friend zone, th…
/r/seduction04/02/11 04:02 AM
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LoL, awesome. I thought of a move you should try out. There's always an issue with restaurants, where you don't get kino in because you sit across from her. Start off sitting across from her, and build a rapport, get things fun and comfortable. Now after ordering, but before you get your food, go to the bathroom and come back quickly, but sit next to her without a thought! Then you can share dishes, push/pull her, kino all the way!!!! Try it out, if you want!
/r/seduction04/02/11 02:57 AM
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Awesome diagrams, hahahahahah. You've got great spatial awareness. I've been ignoring this, and it's so simple, I should attend to it more. I need more push/pull, too! GAHHHHH! Also, I imagine with this angel terminology, you at some point referred to HB-A as the devil, right? I was waiting for that part. :-D
/r/seduction04/02/11 02:34 AM
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Great great great work. It's a totally great feeling when you know you're connecting with a girl, and, more importantly, that you're taking all of the right steps to build that connection. That feeling of knowing is definitely communicated--we are communication MACHINES. Our emotions and thoughts leak out of us, like an energy that fills the space around us. If you want your thoughts and emotions to work for you, you -have- to control them, then nature will take its course. You're in control! Ke…
/r/seduction04/02/11 02:11 AM
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Have the meal practically ready to go if you're doing a cooking dinner date. There are other things, like appetizers (strawberries and chocolate, anyone?) or salad you could work on while the entree is finishing. OR, if you're doing a full on cooking date, go to the store with her before hand and pick out everything you'd need. Fresh. Fuck yea, ping pong! Teach her how to serve and swing, there's totally plenty of kino in that. Pencil grip, ftw! Fucking flawless Rock Band gaming! Smelling and ki…
/r/seduction04/02/11 01:51 AM
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SOLLIDDDDDDDD!
/r/seduction02/02/11 04:11 AM
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I'm actually seeing some holes in your game. The gym #close involved you qualifying yourself as 'not a creep,' all the while talking them up. My intuition tells me, deep down, they were giggling because you just stroked their egos. Good job with the kino and kissing, though it seems you built up too much comfort with DHV and stories, I suspect, and not enough attraction. More creative kino and physical push/pull would be good, my guess. Also, she made you qualify yourself after asking to head to…
/r/seduction02/02/11 04:04 AM
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Alongside this comment, it's a good idea to read OKCupid's analyses they've published on all their juicy data. They give you a great idea as to what's attractive and what isn't. Mostly, I can say, though, that women have widely varied tastes in looks, whereas most guys can generally come to a consensus. You have no idea the power that your mentality has over your posture and face-valued appearance to people. For instance, one study I came across had convicted rapists/attackers analyze videos of …
/r/seduction31/01/11 04:00 PM
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tl;dw?
/r/seduction31/01/11 03:55 PM
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Half-year rule, quite a hilarious line. I'm stealing it. Coffee date is totally a good call. You're on the right track having mini-dates, but the movie was a bad call. Needs to be a place to talk and interact. The date is for both of you to 'try each other on,' and build comfort and attraction. You can't do that staring at a screen. It's not uncalled for to see girls your age on first dates with their friends, especially if you meet them from the internet. They have to test the waters and you co…
/r/seduction31/01/11 04:20 AM
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Fucking awesome. You've uncovered a very important point: Cooperation is part of our evolutionary blueprint, too. I think it's understated so much these days. Having/being a good wingperson can be a very fruitful enterprise. What'd your buddy think of you stealing his girl for the night?
/r/seduction31/01/11 03:28 AM
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Loled at the guy carrying his GF's purse, must've been a funny moment. I'd be interested to hear an update on these numbers in your next FR. Awesome energy and awesome FR, keep it up!
/r/seduction31/01/11 12:55 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I definitely agree with the notion to make the #-close as part of the conversation, and not really the end or 'close' of the interaction. I've just tried to keep collecting numbers out of my mind, so as not to focus on results, but on progressing forward. I'm just waiting for the point when I've built up so much attraction that they give me their numbers, without me asking. Initiative is definitely important, though. I don't like giving my phone out, because it's kind of b…
/r/seduction31/01/11 12:03 AM
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Thanks! Just one of my friends tried AMOGing, but he's like a brother to me, so I put up with his shit. I know for sure that he's actually just an insecure guy and he needs social validation to deal with large amounts of psychological/physiological anxiety. The way he handles it, though, is maladaptive and something to be said, but I'm trying to lead by example. Since I know him so well, I don't take his shit seriously and eventually he came around that day.
/r/seduction30/01/11 11:54 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement. The great thing about meeting new friends in places you like going, is that you automatically have something you're interested in, same with women. Aside from night life activities, I go to open mikes and live music often, and I'm just as sociable there. Music's a big part of my life, so it's easy to relate to people in such settings. I'm actually applying the abundance mentality to friends, as well. I just try to make plans, and if they don't make an effort, I don'…
/r/seduction30/01/11 11:45 PM
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Thanks, man. I did have a great time. As for my friend, I do value our relationship because we've known each other for 10 years now. We're like family, so it's easy for me to put up with his shit. He's normally not that bad, but I think he was just caught off guard by my newfound awesomeness and he felt threatened. I'm taking it as a good sign, really. Other friends have mentioned my outgoing attitude, and it's good to have the social response, positive or negative, because then I know I'm chang…
/r/seduction30/01/11 11:32 PM
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Wish I had more upvotes for this.
/r/seduction30/01/11 10:54 PM
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Damn, I'm glad I don't get such a strong physiological response like you do. Adrenaline is good, though. You should use it to pump yourself and get focused, it's all about your cognitive appraisal of the situation. My voice shakes and cracks often, because I'm a tenor, always have been. I just power through that shit. I read once on here that doing some sort of physical exercise, like jumping jacks or shadow boxing, helped people with AA. That might help control your physiological issues, then m…
/r/seduction30/01/11 10:31 PM
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Good job, man! Your opener was really alright, but it's not a good idea to project a boring attitude. Something like "I feel like talking," would be super a-okay. There's nothing wrong with asking questions, just try to avoid yes/no ones, and work in information that you just found out. Ease off with the texting. Use them only to create mystery and project an awesome lifestyle. There are some good guides on here for that. You're right about texting her immediately, though. Good FR, though. Keep …
/r/seduction16/01/11 02:36 PM
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Hilarious. I thought it was pretty clever, maybe not so much now.
/r/seduction16/01/11 02:23 PM
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Hahaha, the FML was for the awful hang over I had. All in all, good night, imo. Good point, though!
/r/seduction16/01/11 06:59 AM
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Thanks for insight into kino. It's just worked so well in the past, but it was nice keeping things tasteful. Holding hands and locking arms was pretty awesome, honestly. Next time, I just won't drink so much, so I won't piss so much. It's quite a bad habit I need to break out of. Plus, my standards and technique pretty much go out the window. Sigh.
/r/seduction16/01/11 06:33 AM
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IDWIW. :-P
/r/seduction16/01/11 06:30 AM
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The HB7 finishes her cigarette, while I've built some attraction and kino'd well. She mentions her bf a million times, only because his uncle owns the Rays and I'm from Tampa. She calls me adorable, and wants me to meet her friends. Hmm, okay. We get back in and we're semi-isolated momentarily, I seize the day and grab her and pull her close. So so so so so so close to a kiss, but I can feel her boyfriend in her, she resists. I was actually impressed with her devotion, despite all the attraction…
/r/seduction16/01/11 05:37 AM
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Get their numbers. Get the numbers of your friends you really want to keep in touch with. I just thought, maybe your last status update can be, "Hey all, I'm leaving facebook, too busy. Private message or comment me your number so we can stay in touch." Along those lines, so value can't be perceived from how many people comment.
/r/seduction11/01/11 01:32 AM
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I imagine this guy just copy pasta'd all that. Like I'm going to do, haha.
/r/seduction11/01/11 01:27 AM
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Been there, done that. It beckons for me occasionally, and I've succumb a couple times and reactivated. Then everybody gives me a mightier-than-thou attitude about it, and I deactivate again. I deactivated it for about a year, and when I came back to it, I realized how stupid it was. It does help with names, birthdays, and contact, but the positives don't outweigh the negatives. Now, I'm FB free. Do it. PS: I noticed from all the interviews of the actors and whoever who did The Social Network, n…
/r/seduction11/01/11 01:18 AM
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She calls you 'dude' and 'man' because thats the kind of girl you'd attract, you lazy hippy. You're friendzoned because you never spent time with her, not because she calls you 'dude' or 'man,' you lazy hippy. Might as well just forget about seducing her, you lazy fucking hippy.
/r/seduction10/01/11 10:46 PM
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Presumably, open everybody. Ideally, open your target last. I see a lot of guys on here who just go straight for the girls, and that makes sense from a numbers perspective. I personally like the idea of indirect pickup, by becoming so attractive by being the life of the party, that girls open you. I also conceptualize socializing as a muscle to be warmed up before really exercising it. So, by the time you make it to your targets, you're nice and warmed up from talking to everybody.
/r/seduction10/01/11 10:31 PM
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Miami is indeed a strange city. One thing you might try with false disqualifiers is not to focus on things that HB's can't change, i.e. height, race, tit size, etc. I haven't tried it out, but intuitively it makes sense, because if you say something about their personality or body language, they will try to express it more to you. Whereas if you say you have no interest in Spanish girls, they might think 'Well, too bad,' or 'He's in the wrong town.' Feel free to try it out. Also, was that make o…
/r/seduction10/01/11 09:20 PM
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It's my new theme song, ahhaha.
/r/seduction10/01/11 04:10 PM
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Yea, I'm starting to realize the need to start closing, and stop showing disinterest. For a while I haven't been getting numbers or asking names, I've just been walking away. Now my AA is practically gone, my conversations flow easily, and there are plenty of potential closes available. I'm just slowly building my foundation, and the rest is following naturally. Baby steps.
/r/seduction10/01/11 04:10 PM
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This is hilarious. Will try this two ways: the normal way, and the super creepy ice cream stare down way I imagined it.
/r/seduction10/01/11 05:08 AM
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Sounds like you did everything right, my man. Kino always helps. I think museums are great first dates, especially if you can find a dark room like at MoMA or the Natural History museum in NYC, to get a little privacy. Personally, I never have a problem talking about the art, it's so stimulating. One question: Did you pay for her ticket/meal?
/r/seduction10/01/11 04:57 AM
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One quick tip that helped me was to always analyze what the topic of conversation is. If it's something I can't relate to or talk about at all, I try to change the subject to what I'm familiar with. Homefield advantage. Obviously, you must master the art of the segue for this to not come off as tryhard. Also, sit in between girl A and another girl. Kino A as much as possible, then quickly change to light kino with the other girl, arm touching, etc. Try being creative with the kino, because table…
/r/seduction09/01/11 11:28 PM
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Though I see the merit of this, an issue I have is I end up seeming disinterested in everyone. I never close because I don't pursue, escalate, and isolate. In principle, if OP wants to build the alpha mentality, then not dating these girls is one way to do it, but the question is: What's the point of being alpha, if you don't use it?
/r/seduction09/01/11 11:18 PM
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I agree, maybe he can just use a coy smirk, instead?
/r/seduction09/01/11 11:12 PM
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I agree with Monkey, man. You aren't building any attraction, you're getting way to comfortable with her. You're talking about ex's together. You're totally friend zoned. I honestly don't have advice for you, except to push kino and false disqualifiers. Get her alone, start being more up front about your feelings and attraction. You've got a good rapport, you just need to turn the convo towards you and her. Probably, though, best for you to forget about her and find another girl to make her jeal…
/r/seduction09/01/11 10:43 PM
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You're basically implying there is no merit in improving your social skills. I personally failed social skills in elementary school. Though, I agree with your condemnation of canned pickup material, more insightful PUA's recognize the need to be genuine, while simultaneously breaking through social boundaries and crippling anxiety. We're not acting. PU is meant to allow strong, honorable, decent, humorous, generous, sociable, moderate, fair, open, courageous, industrious men LIKE ME to show our …
/r/seduction09/01/11 10:20 PM
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Nice. I'm happy to hear that the directness worked for you. I'm having a dry spell myself, and I need to get all of these AFC pheromones off me. Next time I'm out, I'm pulling this kind of shit.
/r/seduction09/01/11 09:49 PM
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Crossing guard.
/r/seduction09/01/11 01:03 AM
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Be the life of the party. Know everybody's names and information about them. Use it. Like fcdnl said, don't pay too much attention to this girl, too soon. Show her you can be awesome on your own, but make sure you keep escalating kino with her. If the date went well, the kino should take you to where you want to go.
/r/seduction08/01/11 08:03 PM
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Honestly, I spent all night showing supreme disinterest in most girls, just being unavailable to them, waiting for them to really come to me. Trying not to give off the desperate AFC energy. As for the HB's, I figured my group would be going to this other bar, and we'd meet them there, and I'd be able to get the HB8's number there, as I was more interested in her. Instead, we went back to my friend's apartment, way too far away to interest the HB's without any real attraction built. I'm telling …
/r/seduction08/01/11 07:56 PM
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Spot on. IMO, it was OP's eating that did him in. Eat earlier with some coffee. Also, bounce more especially if you're biking, exercise is great to wake you up and I think a good sweat produces pheromones girls pick up (no source on that). Getting back in state is hard for me when I'm alone, so talk to some guys and get a group going, or bring some friends with you.
/r/seduction08/01/11 05:20 PM
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I always thought it was interesting when I did martial arts, that women were so much more technical. It's interesting to see you are the same way, but that may just be your personality. Wygant is my favorite PUA today because he puts a lot of effort into understanding how women game. It'd be great to know what you've read so far. As for your FR, I'd be interested to know the details of how you summoned the HB9 over playfully. Also, how did you k-close him? All in all, good work and it seems like…
/r/seduction08/01/11 05:11 PM
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If you're tired of waiting, go do something. Go to the mall by yourself, open sets, fall flat on your face, make some friends, read up. Any guy at your age with the moxy to try PUA will pull pussy in no time, flat. My basic philosophy is to read until I can't help but go out and try new things. Get out of the house and into social situations.
/r/seduction07/01/11 09:18 PM
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If he was the one to get your number, he probably will call. Unless he's a rAFC, you were just practice, and thinks he didn't attract you well enough, hahahaha.
/r/seduction07/01/11 06:36 PM
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Here's some good advice.
/r/seduction07/01/11 06:13 PM
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Tofu's right, most of the advice in this thread is shit. Agreed with okc about moving her. I DON'T UNDERSTAND, I spend all night trying to get girls to my place, and the OP is on the verge of kicking her to the curb. You've got an awesome chance in the morning to be alone with her and build attraction and comfort. You can also neg the shit out of her, 'Aww, look how hung over you are...' or 'Do you sneak into guy's beds often? You slipped right passed me, like a ninja.' So much wasted opportunit…
/r/seduction07/01/11 06:10 PM
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Agreed. Also, I'm a frugal man, saving for retirement. If I were you, I'd save my money, and buy my own booze to bring the HB's back to. In the mean time, just moderate.
/r/seduction07/01/11 05:52 PM
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Sounds like you need a new wingman, or that he needs better winging skills. If he's going to be selfish and uncooperative, you do the same and find another worthy friend to fly with.
/r/seduction07/01/11 05:45 PM
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A girl sitting on my lap obviously flirting with me, but I froze for fear of rejection. That's so counterintuitive. You can't get more obvious than that, man. Of course she wouldn't reject you. I wish I had girls sitting in my lap like you do. If you want my advice, forget about her and keep working on attraction with all the different girls you've got access to, as a young, unemployed, high school student. With some luck, her perceived value of you will rise and you can rebuild attraction again…
/r/seduction07/01/11 05:10 PM
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Yep, I know. Didn't know until very last minute. I'm happy to gain an environment to work in with her for social proof, considering I'm from out of town. Nothing wrong with making an impression for when she's single, and befriending her, either. On a side note, I kind of got serious about PUA after my last girl cheated on me. I'm not interested in being the guy girls cheat with.
/r/seduction07/01/11 04:56 PM
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Haha, yeah! Writing goals on yourself for the night is awesome. If girls are attentive enough, they'll ask you what it means, and you can come up with whatever you like.
/r/seduction07/01/11 04:46 PM
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