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My husband prepped me and told me that he was not a morning person and was an asshole in the mornings and that he did not do well being woken up and often sounded possessed when woken by a person. These are both true and now I just dont talk to him in the first hour after he wakes unless it is important and if he goes out of his way to be an ass in the morning I call him out. And I avoid waking him directly. Cause he sounds like a grizzly bear!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 09:45 AM
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It really does sound like he was in the mostly asleep state and that is a very vulnerable place biologically. The fight or flight is so much easier to trigger when someone is just about to sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 09:33 AM
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Do some research into how even a small lack of sleep effects a person's mood and attitude. I know when I or my husband are falling asleep and something wakes us, we both tend to feel a disproportionate amount of anger. Never like a physical anger but emotional anger for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 09:26 AM
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The only reason I know about the emotional impact of BC is because my planned parenthood-esque doctor, when I was 20, connected the dots between migraines and hormonal BC. She then also told me the other side effects which you have described. Once I knew I went non hormonal, copper only IUD which helped show the canyons in my previous relationship. I stayed with copper until my now husband and I wanted to have a child. Two weeks after she was born I had a total tube removal. Won't let hormonal B…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 04:10 AM
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/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 09:04 AM
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Please feel free to ask questions! I am up late tonight and would love to help out while I have the time.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 11:11 AM
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Is this your first? I have heard that being a nut job is par for the course and I for sure was during mine! The caveat though (for me) was that we had just bought a house and a shitty old house at that so we were renovating and most of that work was on my pregnant self so I was a ball of RAGE. (Though it turns out renovation just makes me ragey. I try to have grace but when I get the "Well pick whatever you want for dinner, no that that" treatment but for my KITCHEN?? Whooo boy that's some blood…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 10:40 AM
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Vacuums, snap closure glass dishes, good mops, oh my! But, to be real. My washer and dryer are as old as the house (1979) which means they fuck my clothes UP. We planned on just a washer and line drying our clothes but we found a package deal of $1000 for an HE set! $800 less than we expected! And my stove is only 15 years old but the two big burners died on me which is kinda bad when you have a bottomless pit of a husband like I do. Replacing the coils would be half of what a new stove would be…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 10:10 AM
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Do you guys have "set" work hours? If your husband has a set time that he works, I would suggest you view that time as his time. Once he is off work then yes, expect him to at least spend time with baby! My situ is a bit different. STAHM yes, but husband works a full 40 away from home at one of the most dangerous domestic jobs. I have him Fri, Sat, Sun. But I also make sure he knows it's HIS TIME to spend with our daughter, not just me. I also expect time on the weekends to work on my own projec…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/22 09:44 AM
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Married for almost 3 years, together almost 7. We go off the "Together but separate" model. We are both nerdy gamers, most of the time we are playing different games and watching different shows, but we are within three feet of each other and check in multiple times a night, usually by making faces at each other. We have been renovating our house and spend a lot of time planning and building. When we can we go to a restaurant but with a toddler we have been hesitant. However we took baby girl to…
/r/RedPillWives21/03/22 08:09 AM
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We might be! The kitchen was supposed to be last year but I put it off. I pulled the trigger this year cause, honestly, if you could see the kitchen we have now you would understand. It's dark, cumbersome, and had too much space to entertain my hoarding habits.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 08:08 AM
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So sorry, i thought I answered you before now! We met in 2016 on OKCupid, where I tippsily went to shoot my shot with a man I thought was outta my league. 6 years, a marriage, house, and baby later, apparently I think to low of myself!
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 08:06 AM
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They offer being great lawn mowers! Super important now that our mower died sadly. However we will likely be getting some milk goats soon. My husband has a friend who is a farmer with goats that would help us get our own stock started.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 07:55 AM
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With just one, motherhood is pretty great. She has had a stomach bug the last few days and she has been very clingy and cranky to the point that washing dishes offends her. I am glad we only have one!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 04:13 PM
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Yes, heat it for a few minutes, never go over medium heat, then add your oil, THEN after the oil sizzles add your food.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 04:11 PM
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Me too but she is A lil over a year so we gotta wait until she can talk to know lol
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 03:59 PM
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Lol. only cause I birthed her grand child and she knows she has to act right to keep access to the bebe. Otherwise she thinks I am a fat, American Pig. I give leniency cause she and my father in law are so wonderful to my daughter but the SECOND they start putting shitty things in her head they are losing access.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 03:21 PM
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You sound like my husband, minus the jungle. He likes things to be precise and VERY clean cause he grew up in such an unstable environment. Even super cheap laminate is a god send for him. (Me too TBH. I grew up op the blank under flooring so any floor is really dope. We are a great match lol.)
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 03:17 PM
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In our apartment we had gas, similar but not really. Here we have electric so we gotta use what we have. TBH I preferred the open flame. HOWEVER I do not envy doing laundry by hand. We use cloth diapers but I spray em into the toilet and then drop em in the washer. Laundry happens multiple times a day but we are on well water so I am okay with that. It's shit water anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:59 PM
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Trust me, I have saved these assholes from the grill many times in the last year. I am too attached. Which is why I also shot down the idea of buying a spring cow cause yes they are cheap or even free but I would have to bottle feed the calf and at that point, as a mom on multiple fronts, NO ONE is eating that cow! That'd be my baby!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:55 PM
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We thankfully got them well corralled before then. But if they break out and eat my very first garden attempt, they be fair game.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:52 PM
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We are in the endless blue sky of Montana! Hubby actually found and bought the goats cause he didn't want to mow but they have done a SHIT job so we are gonna get a couple Does to join our wethers so we have a reason for goats, which is feta! He does love goats milk feta. (He would have eaten them already if I weren't so damn attached) ​ Yeah technically we had ceramic but it was so scuffed and then hubby and baby have gotten recurrent gastroenteritis that I put my foot down.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:51 PM
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IF we spend a lot of time in the kitchen, we are THRILLED with upgrades! Like, I am staring down the barrel of extensive tile work to reno my kitchen and BOY HOWDY I will do it happily to know my kitchen will be how I want it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:45 PM
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It IS but also I am kinda attached to my boys so I, personally, could not Vindaloo them.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:26 PM
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Oh man, my mother is a shit cook but my mother in law came from the pre-iron curtain fall mother land and her recipes are BOMB. Sauerkraut, canning, ketchup, spaghetti sauce, chicken julienne, walnut cookies, and like gardening in general? She is the go to even if I can only understand half of what she says, Watching her cook is enough. She taught me to actually cook onions with 5 words and that was just about life changing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:24 PM
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Basically just listening to the masters (Mother in law) and the almighty google. Plus keeping an open mind to new ideas and techniques. AND NEVER cooking anything my mother cooked. Tuna noodle casserole and non cooked onions have NO place in my house. However "crappy" Mexican food is welcome sans Cilantro.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:11 PM
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In a week! We bought through Costco so the delightful new gadgets are a week out. But he knows of the lag and had his expectations set to accommodate. All that might sound silly to an outsider but he gets home late so even if I have meat thawed he might get dinner late if I don't have two big burners. I swear he may be more excited than I am!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 02:02 PM
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Or a very versatile palette! I swear my man is a trash can lol. The last burner went out a week ago so we haven't been TOO strapped but like I can't cook for my husband on the teeny burners. The man has two hollow thighs and a 2 gallon stomach.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 01:52 PM
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There is a lot of context too. Two years ago this man bought me a homestead on 5 acres so I for sure want to make sure all of our dollars streeeeeetch to make sure we can finish the house! My girl here is a 1979 manufactured home on a bomb proof basement, I made sure the areas I use most were renovated last cause I can deal with a lil and make a lot. The benefits of being a red pill woman. I can make a multi course meal on a half dead stove!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 01:44 PM
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I don't know! But using steel scrubbers will "ruin the factory finish" but will get them clean. I have been using the steel scrubbers on my own wedding gift of a set of $2,000 knives and those babies are still sharp and shiny! (My mother in law told one family of our friends to get us ONE knife from that set and they bought the whole damn set. They have gotten many MANY thanks and hugs.) Basically the only way to fuck up stainless is to put it past medium heat or to throw it under water right af…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 01:39 PM
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He is so fantastic to me! He would give me whatever I want, without looking at tags but I do the budget and keep things frugal. Gonna brag here, I got a set of gourmet pots and pans for $400 off, and found us a stove, washer and dryer, for way cheaper than we were expecting to spend! I researched and looked at reviews and I am pretty secure in what I found! I am our limiter despite his penchant for giving me what the fuck ever I want. He is indulgent to a fault! ​ Edit to say that this purchase …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 01:09 PM
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So Teflon flakes off into food and is yucky but you can season stainless steel and it becomes non stick. Basically Teflon lasts for 1-5 years but a good set of stainless can last generations! Goats are NOT better than lambs unless you are looking for an organic lawnmower and then goats eat thistles and other large weeds. We got 4, not able to breed male goats for $50 because they can't breed but damn, they are amazing lawnmowers! ​ However they are little and tender so TECHNICALLY they would als…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 10:46 AM
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He is so good to me! I could ask him for champagne and caviar every night and he would tell me yes (but I do the budgeting so I know when to throttle. Also I am so not a seafood fan.) The BIG thing here is that not only did I find 3 appliances cheaper than the just two I was originally wanting, they were cheaper with the extended warranty. So if they die in the next 5 years, someone else has to come fix them! Which is great cause I am the mechanic in the family! So I have 5 years of it being som…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 07:15 AM
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Who knew a set of stainless steel after a life of teflon would make such a difference??? I pride myself in making good meals but I was at an amateur level with my previous pans! This man bought me an entire house and 5 acres and told me I can do whatever I want with it, he loves me completely every single day despite my flaws and some days I just feel like I am going to combust. He even drove two hours one way to get me some goats! GOATS! That right there is love. And my clothes no longer being …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 06:56 AM
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Money is transitory. When I met my husband he made $11 an hour and I made $15. A few years in, he made me a stay at home girlfriend (He wanted a home cooked meal more than the extra money.) and now, 2 and a half years into marriage we have bought and renovated a house on 5 acres on his income alone. I haven't made a penny since 2019 when I did delivery for some extra spending money for like 2 months. We have a veritable petting zoo and a child and don't hurt for money. If I pushed him away becau…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 06:37 AM
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I've used a lot of that book but disregarded that portion. I have a business and finance degree, I do our taxes each year and have since the first year. I do our budgeting and make sure everything is paid, I did everything we needed to buy our house and all my husband had to do was sign the paperwork. He absolutely loves not having to deal with the money, it's not his strong suit but I enjoy it. There is nothing wrong with being the budgeter of the family.
/r/RedPillWives19/07/21 05:06 AM
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Well, her rough calculation was that she had one or two guys every weekend when she wasn't in a relationship, sometimes when she was.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 09:14 PM
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She is my mother's from her first marriage. I didn't even meet her until she moved into our house pregnant at 19 with her first.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 07:43 PM
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I've made the calls. I live like 500 miles away so I can't step in physically. They are on the West Coast and I live over in Montana. He is going to be going to school physically next school year so fingers crossed that they step in.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 02:40 PM
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Well the first dad has no idea he even has a kid, my sister never told him because he was a drug dealer and she didn't want to share custody with him. The second ones dad, I dunno, not to bash too hard but he was always really weird. He hit on me when I was like 15 and he was pushing 30. He is the kind of person that thinks a single share of a certain meme stock is gonna lift him from poverty. The third one I'm pretty sure cheated on his girlfriend with my sister and his girlfriend was also preg…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 02:25 PM
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That's my working theory as well. He got held back from going to kindergarten as he wasn't potty trained yet. I have begged my mom to get him early intervention but my sister won't give her the legal power to do so.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 02:17 PM
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Sad to say I've been with 9, not proud, her last drunken confession had her over 200. Yes my husband knows my body count, he isnt bothered though as he is in the 150s.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 07:00 AM
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Yes and no. My parents are basically raising all three, I did a stint myself of being night nanny and more to the first one. I dropped out of high school to devote more time to her. The second ones dad is trying but he got kicked out of his wife's house for cheating and can only see the second kid once a month. The third one has very serious delays that no one seems to want to get him treatment for which makes my heart hurt. He is a good kid but at 5 almost 6 his speech is nearly unintelligible …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 05:42 AM
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I feel bad for them too. Her first born probably won't find her dad until she is over 18, the last one his dad does and doesn't know, like she told him he was in the running and then when he freaked out cause apparently he was in a new relationship my sister just didn't tell him he was the last possibility. All kids deserve access to both parents and dads get especially shafted.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 05:31 AM
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Tell me about it. My sister has three kids from three different men, two of which the fathers don't know exist. She complains constantly about how men just want to fuck her and leave. Like, the dots connect for me. She is 33 almost 34 with this nonsense and coming to me for advice cause I am married and had my child after my husband and I got married. She doesn't like it very much when I tell her I met and started dating my husband when I was 22 without children and a low body count. I don’t hav…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 04:46 AM
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I am so glad to hear that! I feel my advice still stands. Disappointment is hard as a whole but if you can deconstruct the feeling, it does get easier. Husband aside, being able to articulate, to yourself, why you feel one way or another is incredibly helpful.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 08:02 AM
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I thought it was clear as well but thought you needed advice on other situations involving him.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 07:57 AM
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Disappointment is a very normal human emotion. However, you can temper it to be more, eloquent, quiet, demure, whatever word you prefer. Once you are feeling those disappointment moments, try to take a step back and understand your own feelings. Once you have, make it clear to your husband "I am not upset at you, I am just disappointed that we didn't get to share this *lovely experience* like I thought we would." Often times biting your tongue is a good strategy for ANYONE. We are hormonal, reac…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 07:44 AM
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It's tough out there, I'm thankful every day that I don’t have to wade through Tinder.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 11:22 PM
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I appreciate their relationship for being my foundation to base my own ideals on. My dad and I also have a fantastic relationship which seems to be more rare, I chalk it up to our many fishing trips together honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 11:03 PM
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You're spot on. My mom and dad have been together for 30 years through many different trials, always showed open affection and endearment to each other, taught me how important communication is, and how important loyalty is. My mom was and is a housewife. I met my husband when I was 22 going on 23, I'll be 28 in a few months. I am also a housewife and stay at home mom. We have a very strong bond and have a great back and forth communication and we show each other love everyday through bits of PD…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 10:27 PM
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Videogames are such a great way to bond. My husband and I chatted for a month before our first date, during that time he got me into one of his favorite games. We played that together and got to know each other through it. We built a rapport and a sense of teamwork before we ever saw each other in person. I feel like it helped us have a solid friendship that lead to more.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 12:54 AM
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Nurturing and Mothering come down to a simple difference I have found. Nurturing is simply the care of a persons wellbeing. Mothering is taking on a role of teaching. Example: Nurturing could be making and serving dinner with a smile, Mothering is reminding your man to wash his hands and change his clothes before dinner.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/20 12:28 AM
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Perfect example right there! The high quality men we want sometimes need a bit of a clearer signal as this world is no longer cold approach friendly. My husband had been using the dating site we met on for over two years, he could count on one hand the number of messages he got from women out of the blue and only one woman sent him anything other than a "hey" or "hiiii" message and that would be me. My husband is a tall, dark, foreign man with rather delightful muscles and a sweet disposition, h…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 12:23 AM
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The chase should be mutual honestly. You may have to ignore your pride and initiate first contact if there is someone who you want to have pursue you. Being the first initiator is how I got my Captains attention. He was so used to picking people that to BE picked intrigued him like no other. From there his interest was sparked so heavily that he chased me, we have a wonderful and open communication that started before we ever met in person where we each laid out what exactly we were looking for …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 12:14 AM
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Well, a lot of LLCs are based out of Wyoming due to certain tax laws. Wyoming is also a low population density so I would imagine that is attractive. Even if you are rich it is still a better choice to buy massive numbers of acres in a less developed state than say California where I am not sure you even CAN buy huge amounts of undeveloped land anymore. My husband and I moved to Montana two years ago because Boise was getting too crowded and expensive. We got a house on 5 acres on the outskirts …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 07:06 AM
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Where did you get the impression from that OP is with him for money? She obviously cares for her boyfriend so why the condescension here?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 11:13 AM
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I met my husband through OKCupid! The compatibility questions are really nice. We've been married a year this Sunday and are expecting a baby in about six months. I had bad luck with online dating because my picker is not always great but something about him just reached out to me. I had actually seen his profile for two years but thought he was out of my league.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/20 09:47 AM
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I have found that I get horrible ingrowns on my pubis mons if I shave that. However my captain and I have come to a compromise. He does prefer bald and I do too but again waxing is expensive so I make sure my lower area is clean and it doesn't get ingrowns for some reason like the top does and I avoid shaving the area that does get irritated. I do still keep the hair short by shaving with the direction of the hair. Alternatively if you have a higher constitution than I do you can get home waxing…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 05:18 PM
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Money. Once I have it I am getting this baby shaved down to align with the rest of my nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 12:10 PM
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Yep, it goes somewhat above the rest of my noseline. Now it does match my husbands nose as he has broken his bridge a fair amount too but still. I get mistaken for a Jewish woman a fair amount. THAT is not a racist remark that is just what I have experienced and I live very far away from central United States cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 12:09 PM
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Okay actually it does have a smol hook at the end. Seriously considering a nose job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 12:03 PM
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In my case I broke it six times so the bridge is deformed and kinda sticks out? I can breathe just fine but I have a distinct bump that 100% did not used to be there. So at least my kids wont get it. EDIT: No it is not quite hooked like an eagle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:50 AM
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Okay damn ugly? Yeah I suppose they do. I wouldn't date me for my face and I am bi! I got that parrot schnoz. Broke my nose too many times lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:46 AM
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Idk I think I am pretty ugly but married to a 9/10 so I am biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:43 AM
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Yes and no. Vet for libido, and then keep the libido by keeping the respect. You can always regain the respect but if ya girl or guy is a starfish from day one that is harder to solve.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:42 AM
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No. Libido comes from respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:40 AM
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Idk I feel like a creepy approach is creepy. I worked for a call center, bad enough. I had one supervisor that had all the girls creaming themselves. I will admit he was a very handsome man. Well he took a shine to a few girls on the floor, including me. He used to come to my station, rub my shoulders, "fix" my hair, and whisper "encouragement" in my ear while I was on the phone with customers. He would tighten my pony tail and then lean down and whisper "isn't that better?" No it is not, don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:37 AM
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Libido is tightly tied to attraction in my experience. Trust me you can be horny as fuck but if you have no respect for your partner you will be a nun and or monk.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:30 AM
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Lol nope definitely a married woman here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:28 AM
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I'm sorry? I thought I answered the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 11:25 AM
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From personal experience a man who does want sex on the first date isn't a bad thing. My husband and I didn't have sex on the first date but that was because of previous engagements (aunt flo) however he still made me cum and I still made him cum. We were fuck buddies for twoish months before we became official though we had both fallen in love about a month before then. We were both reserved about making the commitment. The catalyst was him going to another state for a month. Before he left we …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 10:33 AM
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My desire for children manifested AFTER I met my husband and we agreed on the goal. There is NO shame in not having kids at all. But if you truly desire them then it will become a sticking point and could ruin your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 03:25 AM
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I forgot until I tried to book a massage! But the whole weekend is couples ONLY.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 02:49 AM
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Oh yeah I got super lucky, I honestly feel like I got a one in a billion partner! He is amazing. Didn't even bat an eye at my unorthodox wedding dress!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 05:20 AM
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The outfit I wear that my husband likes the most is my ripped jeans, a tee shirt, one of his leather jackets, and my black converse with rainbow laces. I do also have a set of metal as hell Michael Kors heels I like to wear but they are ankle breakers! We feel that pressure as women from an early age. I was 22 when I met my husband and something in him lit that feeling up for me. I felt like he made me feel like a woman where as before I felt like a rather large teenager. Make sure you find a ma…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 01:38 AM
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Honestly? I was a lot like you and I get it. For most of the time I was a teenager until the DD's hit I was super androgynous. I hated the idea of "becoming a woman" and certainly didn't want to submit to a man. When my husband and I met I dressed like a man, I had a mohawk, big ass gauges in my ears, and a general attitude of "like it or lump it". My husband has never once tried to change that. But something about being around him softened me up and I just started to become feminine in ways I w…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 01:14 AM
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N-count hasn't ever been a deal breaker for me. I have been with a man who was a virgin and now I am married to a man who we have estimated is at an N-count of up over 150. It doesn't bother me in the slightest that he has a past, just means he has had a fair bit of practice which is always appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 03:48 PM
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Oof, this is some hard perspective I needed in my life thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 10:33 AM
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Well for me I appreciate that my husband has had his own rough patches in life because he can understand mine. We had similar childhood problems and trials, and similar relationship issues in the past. This lets us both feel we are understood, on the same playing field, and that our goals to avoid those hardships in the future are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 09:02 PM
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Or any of those things yes! GPU and CPU is just my realm of knowledge, I don't mean to generalize.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:54 PM
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Awww from an outside standpoint that sounds so cute! But from my personal standpoint singing to my husband sounds like a nightmare! I come from a family of singers and can't carry a tune in a bucket. I will be turning all baby monitors off before I sing to any children that's for sure!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 12:54 PM
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Yup it is weird. There really should be like computer component commercials. The way to his heart? Upgrade his GPU or CPU. Still less expensive than these bullshit diamonds.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 12:34 PM
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The cognitive dissonance is fascinating. Almost.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/02/20 11:57 AM
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I appreciate that as well. I try to stay objective within my relationship and understand that my perspective isn't for everyone but I don't think men making under six figures should be tossed out with the slop. Nor should anyone be seen as a project. I see my husband as my partner and I hope to share a similar perspective to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 11:55 AM
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Nope. I made more money than my husband when we got together. He lived in a house share with his mother. He played copious amounts of video games. At the same time I didn't see him as a "project" I saw that I liked this person and I was happy to see how things go. Now? We have moved to a new state, he made me a stay at home wife (at his behest and my enjoyment), he still loves to game and play league with the boys, and we are buying a home with just his income. Living in an apartment, having a n…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 11:46 AM
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It started before we had a "definition". We were exclusive but not in a relationship and we were just being cutesy. I ended up getting tongue tied and didn't know what to call him so I just said "you're my...well you!" And he said it was the sweetest endearment he had ever heard and it just stuck!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 03:33 PM
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This community has been instrumental for me, I feel, being able to get to this wonderful point! I like to try to give back with happy stories. I am afraid my advice giving needs polishing though lol.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 02:43 PM
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Yes he is! I have never said before "Oh I would like some poetry" or anything like that because I know how hard that shit is to write you know? I avoided classes in college around if they would require poetry writing. Honestly I am blown away at his talent, and he was saying over and over how he "knew it was cheesy" but I made sure to reassure him that I found it to be nothing short of grand and that I would treasure it. I have a journal that I have been writing down our stories in. This is goin…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 09:55 AM
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He really is the sweetest and I look forward to being with him again in 20 days!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 09:18 AM
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I don't see a reason why not? The YOU in my statement doesn't actually need to be a specific person. I have just found people like to feel needed and wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 12:50 PM
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I feel like it is highly subjective as with most things. Pedantic? Maybe. If you think of it as a gift, it becomes transactional. Honestly I think most people would be happier if they thought of sex as a need. Doesn't have to be "I need sex" perhaps just "I need YOU".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 11:22 AM
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It is so true! Having the house clean and a meal made or at least planned for the night has been so good for my husbands mental health and I could not keep up with that while also working. We would both get home so tired. Now my husband comes home and the first thing he does is "say hi" which is usually a bear hug cuddle at the door with lots of kisses!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 05:41 PM
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So tempting!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 04:26 PM
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That sounds exactly like what one of my cousins had to deal with. She and her husband ended up topping out their budget AND having to basically demo the inside of the house. The West market seems to be the worst for this and it is spreading so fast. This house would have been snapped up in a hot minute but the seller can't move for another two plus months AND he is super stubborn on any sort of concession. Gone are the days of negotiation it seems. I am crossing my fingers for a bigger market th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 03:53 PM
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We haven't closed on a house and yet I FEEL this huge sense of relief already. I just can't sing my husbands praises enough. I want to shout it at the top of my lungs how happy I am but that is impractical so I will brag about him here to other women who will understand.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 03:40 PM
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I know the pain. In the state my husband and I lived in, we both moved there in 2009-2010 when we were teenagers houses were just dirt cheap. I mean 50k for a nice stone and brick home inside the city. Now? The same house is 300-400k. It is hard right now and the only reason this is working is because of meticulous research into the area and mortgages and knowing we have to move fast because the same thing is happening in our new state. In just a YEAR I watched house prices rise and the market g…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 03:31 PM
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I am so excited I almost can't stand it! It is an old house but what I see is a blank slate to make my OWN. I crave that stability so much. and I want that for my kid.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 03:22 PM
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Threat or Thread cause that is two separate things?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:53 PM
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How often do you honestly think about giving a partner a no strings attached blow job for the hell of it? Same concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:36 PM
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Same but I have the memory of a goldfish. I remember the vague instances of my handful of partners but nothing terribly specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 01:36 PM
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Hey ladies! When is a good time? Babies wise. I am not in good shape so I feel like I don't deserve to be a mother. On one hand my partner and I are on the same ambiguous page. If I say yes and disable my birth control he is fine, if I keep it he is fine too. When I am in my feels I want a baby SO BAD, but then within 24 hours I don't want one. Any advice?
/r/RedPillWives23/11/19 03:00 PM
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I personally loathe that comic. My mother used to do that, expect mind reading and if it didn't happen then she grew quite irate. Growing up I knew I didn't wan't to do that, it never made her happy nor my father. I myself am a rather anxious individual and I think far too many steps ahead. I know this is my burden to bear. I happily take on the "Emotional Labor" in my relationship. But I also don't feel like mental load or labor really exists. If I do it but my husband doesn't think of it then …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 10:12 AM
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I think we have the same husband! When he and I met I, unironically, was a 3/10 and my husband a 9/10. I have asked him why me? He said he saw the personality underneath and I was the best woman he had ever met. I am improving myself to be near his level someday. Though I do know I am a rare story, and I am very grateful for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 09:33 AM
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Not all men. My husband is a high value man and despite us meeting when I looked the worst he still ended up wifeing me up. Sure I may be an anomaly but it isn't IMPOSSIBLE.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 09:24 AM
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Yep I accidentally did this. Met my husband at my objective worst looking. He liked me anyway. As time progressed I have polished myself up to be more on his level. I am not where I want to be yet but I do know that come pregnancy and wrinkles he is still gonna like me. Still gonna try though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 09:15 AM
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I will never stray in my relationship. I say this with conviction because I am already committed to walking away before ever doing such a thing. Early on when my husband and I were dating we had a long discussion on relationship happiness. We both have said time and again that if we are unhappy we will open that line of communication and work through it or end the relationship and that is what we have done. Is it hard? Holy shit yes and it's painful but it's made us stronger and better people fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 04:13 AM
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Actually I will probably have a sheep or two! I'm slightly averse to goats. Maybe an alpaca. I enjoy using raw wool to make yarn. It's so soft!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 07:53 PM
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Thanks! I've got time to learn thankfully. I'm not getting one until after I've built her a cozy little house and done lots and lots of research too! Horses are still great but I think I'll stick to riding other people's horses. Where I live there's lots of ranches that do horse riding and what not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 07:00 PM
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Oh yes I agree! I'm going to go meet all the yearlings and spend time with them before I bring one home with me. That way I know she will feel comfortable and welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 06:13 PM
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Right I completely agree. This is something that couples need to be aware of and TALK ABOUT for fucks sakes. Be aware that you will both go through tough times and prepare to weather that storm. If you do then you will know of the wax and wane.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 06:30 AM
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Have you seen the highland ones? They are so fluffy and very companionable. This would not be for meat just for milk and cuddles.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 06:25 AM
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I myself am the lucky one! He is such a wonderful human being, and he deserves the absolute best out of the world. I love him to pieces. My mom always told me that when you are young and looking for love don't focus on money, focus on compatibility and love. Money comes and goes but finding someone to weather the good and bad times is the best life can get. I see a lot of posts in other subs about "how to find a good man" that boil down to "how to find a complacent wallet" and it's very worry so…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 12:54 AM
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I am sorry to hear that. I spent 6 years with a man who had dreams of becoming a history professor and I supported him through most of his degree. Then he decided he wasn't going to move out of his home City to use his degree because it was too scary which fine that's understandable but he also didn't want to use his degree for anything else. I still stayed because I was 20 and stupid. I left him just after my 23rd birthday after years of him wanting to explore other women and stay together ("po…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 09:45 PM
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I feel like finding someone with a transparent and matching libido is key. Yes all men want pussy, it feels great and you feel great after due to the chemicals released during sex. This shouldn't be a bad thing but even in my own experience as a woman working with other women I've heard a metric fuck load of bitching about "men just want sex. My husband is such a horn dog!" Yeah, duh. Maybe, just maybe Christine your husband finds you attractive and wants to fuck you. Shocker I know. /S. Mismatc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 09:32 PM
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From personal experience investing in a man has been the way to go. When I met my husband he was making $11 an hour in a rather expensive cost of living area. Now three years later he is making $31 an hour with a union job and we've moved to a much lower cost of living area. This spring we will be able to buy a house with several acres of land just outside the town for under $300k. But when we met I didn't see him as an investment I just saw him as a person I enjoyed spending time with and was d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:37 PM
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Nope. I am a housewife who only has a job for fun and extra money for buying a house. I have never felt like being a woman was a burden. I have seen the struggles of men, I would rather be cat called occasionally than do what men do. The cat calling goes away but the shit men take lasts FOREVER.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 07:42 AM
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Shallow or not for me it's the face and body. The only man I have met that turned me on before he ever touched me or met me is my husband. He sent a precursor typical shirtless bro photo before our date and ya girl is like every other woman who falls for a six pack, big biceps, tall, dark hair and eyes, and a pretty face. He has a very pronounced bone structure, a very strong jaw and jawline, well built eyebrow structure and his eyes, the lucky son of a bitch have the longest natural lashes I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 01:59 PM
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Wow, that was a wild ride. Yeesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 02:12 AM
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I do but she is a single mom of three. We are world's apart from one another.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/09/19 10:46 PM
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I've never understood the height thing. I've had a partner taller than me, shorter than me, and my height. It made literally no difference.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/09/19 10:45 PM
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Yes but she is a single mother of 3. We are world apart.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/09/19 10:40 PM
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Shit like this makes me SUPER glad I met my husband when I was 22 and found the female red pill not long after. I can't even imagine what life would be like if I rode the CC. MUST be 6'3" but she has kids? My dude. You must want to stay single. I am tallish (5'8") for a woman and I am still quite happily short to my 5'11" husband. What kind of volley ball playing runway walking shit are you on??? Over 6' I could see maybe but the obsession with height here is just beyond the pale. EDIT: Help me …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/09/19 04:14 PM
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My sister definitely. By the age of 20 she had an N count in the triple digits. She is now 30 and still going along the same path. 3 kids, 3 different fathers, 2 of whom are unknown. We were raised in different households and as such have led very different lives. She came to live with us when she was 19 and I spent 3 years watching her go through men, drugs, and lots of partying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:23 PM
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I am married to one does that count? When I met my husband he was the typical one night stand only super arrogant kind of guy. We met at a time that we both wanted to find a FWB situation which was a first for us both. He had previously been single for 8 years by choice. The reality of it is that underneath the arrogance and womanizing he is actually a very kind, caring, and devoted man. He is still arrogant though, that hasn't gone anywhere. I am very secure in the knowledge that he loves me an…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 08:06 PM
2

I grew up calling my father daddy. My mom calls him dad or daddy when talking about him to me though more often now grandpa cause my sister's kids are around. I can't hear that word and NOT think of my actual father. There are plenty of ways to show submission without delving into DDLG even if it isn't some sort of weird Freudian thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 06:52 PM
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I wish more women understood this I really do. I come from a family of young and also single mothers on my maternal and my paternal side. I decided, not because of any religious affinity but from learning from my elders, to keep children to a married relationship only no matter the cost. This is the woman's job to vet a man for such a pursuit. (I say no matter the cost but my N count is super low and always with BC that I've never had a scare.) I am now 26 and without children. But I also have a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/08/19 04:52 PM
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Some women will find their attraction to other men diminish or disappear all together when they are in love. Women often look at life through only their own lens so yes this could come as a shock to some who weren't aware that loss of attraction to others isn't the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 07:19 AM
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It can vary greatly I would say. Some may find it suspicious and some may find it to be a comfort. During the dating and vetting phase my husband and I discussed children and the number of men out there raising a bastard unknowingly. I made it clear to him that I would like to get a paternity test in the event that we had children for his own serenity. It just seems prudent in this day and age especially when I grew up in a family full of half siblings. Only one set of my cousins have the same f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 07:55 PM
1

Being 15 is hard. I remember acting and feeling boyish no matter how hard I tried and that lasted until I was 22. It's not an overnight process to grow into feminity and womanhood, you just have to give yourself a break. You are on a good track and things will start to fall into place in your head.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 11:20 PM
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Honestly I suggest embracing your nose. This comes from someone who has a stereotypical large nose with a bump in the bridge. My captain does not mind in the slightest. We actual have a similar nose structure and joke that our kids are going to be mad at us. Your nose is not nearly as relevant as a sweet disposition and a kind heart.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 06:42 AM
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Honestly it helped me be a gentler and less fearful person in my relationship. I no longer feel the need to control everything around me, I am a much more efficient communicator. As for my husband his original drive to do well for himself has morphed into a deep satisfaction of taking care of me and our home by allowing me to stay home. He knows I will never take for granted what he does and he knows I never expect anything of him, just appreciate it. The man works HARD. He has one of the most d…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 07:56 PM
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I used to have a whole routine for my hair with all kinds of products and special shampoos and tonics and it was honestly a lot. Then I started to dye my hair and realized it was getting really unhealthy. So I decided to just stop. No more chemical products at all. Once a week or so I will wash with baking soda and then washing that out. Then I rinse with apple cider vinegar. My hair color has returned to normal, my hair has become thick and shiny again, and now has this beautiful natural wave i…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 07:31 PM
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Every morning I get up before my husband no matter when he has to be awake which can be super early sometimes. I blearily stumble into the kitchen to make his coffee, make lunch, pack his cooler with drinks and snacks, and gather the stuff he needs to get out the door in one spot. It lets him sleep in a little longer and I can give him a kiss and a hug good-bye plus that sweet forehead kiss I get every morning too!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 07:13 PM
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Call the Midwife? I think I have heard of it but that might be my next series I watch, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:58 PM
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I agree. I was raised in a traditional Christian household and my mother instilled a respect for religion in me even though she knew I was moving away from the faith. She is the reason I think that I so easily transitioned into this life. I have always loved the culture of the sweet church ladies though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:44 PM
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I agree it can be somewhat difficult. I have lost friends because I don't feel I need to be playing the field and I actually enjoy staying home. Being a "house nearly wife" has been so freeing. I have found the closest other women who think like I do tend to be in the religious sector which I have no issue with but they are wary of me because I am non-religious.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:31 PM
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He may have seen the name on my screen at some point. I don't hide that I take in this media but I also don't talk about it a whole lot. This place is where I come to recenter myself if I am having a rough day being gracious.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:20 PM
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I wish I knew haha. If we didn't share a trash can I wouldn't get so annoyed about it but it's like living in a tiny community but some of the community isn't doing what they should. But we move in about two months so it won't be an issue anymore after that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:12 PM
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Men will often rise to the occasion simply based on how their partner acts. I have not introduced my Fiance to red pill concepts but he has discovered them on his own just from how I have changed myself. I low key think he has found and read some of this subreddit. Recently he started to offhandedly refer to me as the "co-pilot" or "first mate". My arm chair in front of my computer has been dubbed the "co-pilots chair" and his "the captains seat". If you simply begin to live by the concepts here…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:08 PM
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One thing I used to do before I fully embraced home making and RPW was the trash. It was the chore I had asked my Fiance to do and I would just let it sit there and wait. If it didn't get taken I would put it by the door. If it still didn't get taken I would get "in a mood" and snark at my Fiance that he didn't take the trash. He would of course get defensive because he had just worked an 8, 10, 12 hour shift at a manual job and the poor man just wanted to sit down. I became much happier and pea…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 03:56 PM
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Well we are trying to save so expensive lingerie is out (damn) but I am going to get him a gift card to his favorite game, make him a really nice dinner, keep his drinks full, and of course have a lot of fun lingerie or no! I have sized down out of my previous collection sadly.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 09:31 PM
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One big thing is that I put an emphasis on gaming time. He and I are both avid gamers. He practically drooled when I outlined the hardware in my self built PC. We spend a lot of time together but apart in different fantasy worlds. ​ Somewhat in the RP sphere I suppose is that I am also literally our "home maker" and our "thinking years ahead and planning" person. ​ Home maker meaning that I am curating a plan and doing the leg work for the home I am having designed for us, finding the land, and …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 09:05 PM
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Something I do when my partner has to be away for work usually for a month at a time is I send him one of my scarves with his favorite perfume on it and a small love note. I know it doesn't sound like much but it is something tangible that smells like you that he will probably adore. It's been a year since I did that last and he still has the note I sent him in his desk drawer. He still smiles when I wear that particular scarf around him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 10:33 PM
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Oof yeah you got me there with foot rubs haha. It absolutely feels way better to cook and offer the scalp massages than to receive them. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy 😄.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 07:36 PM
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The mods here do a fantastic job of keeping the community on track, thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 07:34 PM
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I'm not sure what this said but none the less thank you for coming to my defense. I've read so many of your lovely posts and I feel honored you took the time to comment on mine. Thank you again!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 07:33 PM
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