FillYouToTheBrim Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Looking for a mentor/friend This. I actually went to undergrad with Charlie, and he was awkward and unconfident at 18, too. That he’s now a charisma expert and YouTube personality who’s probably a millionaire at 32 is astounding, and shows it’s not too late to learn.	/r/seduction	25/12/19 01:20 AM
3	Being honest yet challenging? You need to make yourself be interesting enough and have high enough standards that being honest IS being challenging. You’re evaluating her to see if you’ll even work well together rather than just chasing some tail. You’re fun and engaging because that’s how you actually are, not because you’re trying to run game on her. This is all part of inner game- and it works so well because it’s really tough to fake (generally only sociopaths can do it), and most men don’t have the inner confidence and …	/r/seduction	22/12/19 03:25 AM
16	[deleted by user] You’re probably sending out relationship signals. If you act like a boyfriend who cares about their feels (daily communication, talk about deep or vulnerable topics, gifts, etc.) they’re going to expect a boyfriend who cares about their feels. If all you want is a hookup buddy, you honestly need to be more of a dick to set her expectations. Don’t pretend it’s something it’s not, and they’ll get the message.	/r/seduction	21/12/19 01:17 PM
4	Got denied for a kiss, feel great! This guy’s getting downvoted because he is sort of bragging, but he makes an important point. My response here is only for the moment you’ve escalated enough and she’s ready to kiss. You should absolutely have done the open/premise/evaluation before this since a kiss is in and of itself a kind of close. All of those steps need to have gone well enough for you to try to close at all, though they could go by super quick (within a few seconds even) if everything’s going your way. And if they go wel…	/r/seduction	21/12/19 12:56 PM
–	Got denied for a kiss, feel great! The hair comment could be anything really. The overall gist of that post was to show that you can gradually escalate and test her reaction at each step, managing the risk of rejection when you go in for a kiss. And if she has actual dry hair, a soft tease or push pull about her dry hair can also absolutely work here if your body language is clearly going in for the kiss. Example: “Did you know that your hair’s so dry? You’re lucky I like you.” But it’s also a real risk- if it’s something she’s i…	/r/seduction	21/12/19 12:46 PM
11	Got denied for a kiss, feel great! I like the chin addition. That’s a really nice physical compliance check.	/r/seduction	20/12/19 10:22 PM
–	Got denied for a kiss, feel great! Escalation to the kiss that’s always worked for me- I spend the moments leading up to it alternating eye contact and looking at her lips, then I reach up and touch her hair, making a comment about it like, “Your hair’s so soft.” And then I go in. If at any point she looks away or pulls back, that’s a sign to abort because she’s uncomfortable. It’s a more gradual telegraphing of the kiss before actually committing. If I really want to build anticipation, especially if I have to go soon, I’ll do e…	/r/seduction	20/12/19 09:37 PM
–	Do you agree that it is a good idea to have an obnoxious woman walk all over you? The basis of that advice is this- if you’re truly confident, you don’t care about the haters. You don’t need to be emotionally reactive to it because you just legit don’t care. Feeling the need to “set them straight” means you care about the opinion of total strangers and haters, which isn’t at all healthy or confident. If they’re insulting or trying to put you in a disempowered frame- You shouldn’t accept that, but one of the best ways to deal is simply to ignore them. If you can’t (say she’s a…	/r/seduction	19/12/19 08:54 PM
1	Am I inferior to other men who don't struggle with talking to women? Gym helps with appearance, which mainly helps with openers or online dating profile pics. There’s a whole mess of other stuff before it gets to the close that’s just as important, if not moreso since you can open strong without a great appearance.	/r/seduction	19/12/19 12:34 PM
1	5'5 Asian, can I really do it? I’m 5’ 6” Asian and yes, it’s completely possible once you get inner confidence and are fun to be around. It’s funny/sad because you start to get comments like “You’re the first Asian/shorter guy I’ve ever been attracted to.” Hell, even men look at me differently. There was a coworker who started 4 months ago, we see each other every day. We were talking about height randomly yesterday, and he was shocked to realize I was only 5’ 6” because I’m such a boss 😂. Tl, dr; the bias you run into is rea…	/r/seduction	19/12/19 12:27 PM
5	How to Banter? I used to tease women like I teased my little bratty sister or my guy friends, basically by putting them in a low value frame. It works for a little bit, especially on hot women who are used to guys kissing their ass, but it can make them feel down and insecure if it goes on too long. Much better is teasing by putting yourself in a high value frame and playfully exaggerating. Example frames: You’re helping her out. Helping her improve/change/get what she wants. You’re bringing excitement to her …	/r/seduction	19/12/19 12:09 PM