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A trust is the way you protect yourself and your house. If you put the house in a trust she cannot claim it. You have to protect yourself first now. That's what I tell my sons. If she had assets then she would want to protect them too...
/r/MensRights01/07/25 04:31 PM
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There's a lot of pawn shops and cash for gold places nearby so I shopped around to find the one that would pay the best prices and got the cash... I had enough time by that point to fully grieve the loss of marriage and I needed the money. I had lost my job, was behind on my mortgage and it just needed to go...
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 12:29 PM
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"The grass only looks greener because: The grass is green where you water it, and maybe you haven't been watering it" I love that... We should own what we CAN fix in a relationship....
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 08:01 PM
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We went through the 18th together then divorced by the end of the year. 5 years of Alimony and child support for 5 kids were a huge challenge. Each year it got easier. First year was a HUGE challenge while still living with her. 6 years later it rolled by and I didn't notice. I had to go look up the records, after the fact, to confirm what day was the anniversary.. so it does get better with time.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 11:14 AM
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Huge Marvel fan. I usually watch these shows with my kids, including my teenage daughters. I was leery about watching She-Hulk and didn't bother to do so when it first came out. I was concerned about the twerking nonsense. I finally watched the first episode alone after a few weeks and dropped it again for a couple more weeks, because it just felt condescending. Finally finished the series when the last episode came out. It was never a priority to watch, just filler when I was bored. I wanted mo…
/r/MensRights25/10/22 03:52 PM
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Don't leave the home, especially if you want to be involved with your kids lives. Selling the house right now is likely a real challenge. It's becoming a buyers market. If you are on good terms with your wife then try and negotiate the divorce with her. My Ex lawyered up immediately after she told me she was done and then I had to get one. Get a support system. Start calling old friends. Tell them what's going on. I used my commute to vent and sort things out with my old friends that lived 100s …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 01:44 PM
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It took me over 6 months before I took my ring off. Another couple years to finally sell it and get the cash for the gold which I needed since I had recently lost my job. Now I don't notice, but it definitely took time to get used to after 18 years...
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/22 12:40 PM
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WV here. Support here is paid on based on your incomes. 50/50 custody will help reduce how much you pay. If you make more than her, then you will still pay some child support.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 10:48 PM
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I'm a Christian. I believed in God and my Ex. Now I just believe in God. Faith for me was a HUGE part of my recovery. You will find peace in God. Your troubles won't end but God does love you and have a plan for your life. Call to him and ask for his help. Psalm 6:6-9 - All night I flood my bed with weeping, drenching it with my tears. My vision is blurred by grief; my eyes are worn out because of all my enemies. Go away, all you who do evil, for the Lord has heard my weeping. The Lord has heard…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 05:00 PM
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Call the number. Get help. The pain is temporary even though it is consuming you right now it will get better. Praying for you
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/22 12:23 PM
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Wrecking the SUV, in a single vehicle accident with no one around, and then demanding I sign papers to buy her a new car the next day (even though she had $50,000)
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 05:59 PM
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You are right. We should be here to encourage each other through the tough times of divorce and then to move on to be better men, to have fulfilling lives and better relationships with quality women. My ex pulled the plug. It was hard for me to let go of the dream and nearly 20 years together. I wanted to keep my commitment to her, our marriage and our kids. I've come to the conclusion it was a mercy killing (of the marriage). She had died inside and was just a shadow of the girl I married. Now …
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/22 11:58 AM
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Speaking of phones. Does she have her own cell phone plan or is she on yours? It didn't even occur to me to look at her phone records until we were weeks into the separation. Seeing how much she was calling her "friend' for support helped me start moving on...
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 06:48 PM
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long term is ~10-15 years especially if they were stay at home mom's...
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 03:48 PM
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This is what's considered "fair." It was used as leverage by her to get a little more ... Thankfully it was over in five years which was Dec 2021. I'm finally getting to pay off my credit cards and other debt.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 03:47 PM
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Do you have a lawyer and did they say that was typical for Alimoney. Seems excessive to me. You cannot assume anything unless it is written into your agreement... I live in WV. I was married for 17 years. I made 120k and she could have got $1000 for Alimony for LIFE or least that was what my lawyer said was a potential outcome from the court.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 04:31 PM
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I was at this place 5.5 years ago with my ex. Shocked at how things fell apart. Wanting to make it work. Mourning the loss. Wondering if she had someone else. It was a long first year but there is relief and a future for you. I rebuilt my friend network sharing with them my day to day vents and losses. I joined a divorcecare group that really helped me to start understanding my situation. They're a christian divorce group. You meet weekly and work through a workbook and videos to start sorting o…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/22 03:29 PM
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Nor my Ex. I made a minor mistake with the schedule and suddenly I'm manipulating monster. Even when I'm just trying to help her with getting the kids to appointments...
/r/MensRights07/12/21 08:28 PM
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RPT = Red Pill Theory, Based on red pill vs blue pill from matrix. Red pill accepts the reality of how men and women actually behave and respond to eachother. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2zckqu/updated_glossary_of_terms_and_acronyms/
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 07:26 PM
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I don't have much to go on from your description but seperation can bring changes and improvements to a relationship. She may have asked you to leave and now realizes she misses you. You may be acting more masculine now that you've separated and she's attracted to that. You could check out redpill RPT and see that you were more passive before and now you are actually pushing her buttons in a good way. I don't see kids in equation but if there are, then maybe you should consider counseling for a …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 01:22 PM
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Christian Father of five here. Divorce sucks but it happens to everyone including Christians. You should not lose your job unless they have an ultra conservative view of the verse “Let deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well” (I Timothy 3:11). You can do your best for you, your family and your marriage and still have a spouse quit. There are few protections for men now that we have no fault divorce. I pray your church falls on the side of grace and wo…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/21 05:32 PM
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The unknown of court is hugely stressful. You will get through this. Your lawyer can state that 2 hours is logistically too far away. We had a limit of one hour and even that was a huge drag on the kids with an exchange twice a week. Now that it's only 15 minutes they're much happier. Argue for 50/50 custody and keep the kids within 30 minutes of you if possible. Take notes so you have something to focus on. Have an outline of what you want and make sure your lawyer asks for those things...
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/21 12:42 AM
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Yep. Do the costume fun for the kids. If you 've negotiated a good deal then keep things quiet. Getting a good deal with low drama is good for you and the kids too
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/21 06:39 PM
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Send the counselor an email just documenting that you followed their advice and then ask them a follow up question or clarification on the advice. If they respond, you can give that to the court showing why you did what you did...
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 07:24 PM
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I pay for my kids based on a state formula. In general, the child support the amount seems legit. All medical is typical for the dad but you could get split some expenses on the child care costs. You will want to get the tax write off and 51% custody or she could be making medical decisions that will cost you a LOT. If you can document some of the losses from the prior years then you might be able to keep some extra assets when it comes to the 50/50 split of property, but that's time and money t…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/21 06:42 PM
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My ex flushed 18 years for a maybe (Maybe she could date this greek guy). I was angry, hurt and frustrated too. It's been 5 years now. She's dating because I hear the kids say his name. Year one and two that would have bothered me A LOT. I got into a divorcecare group and talked things out with friends and family. Now her stuff is just noise. I have to deal with her for 4 more years and then I'm free as the last kid finishes high school...
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/21 05:17 PM
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You can find a way but your blinded by the fear/anxiety of the unknown. Start a list with simple tasks. Get through the day and check off a few things done each day. Add to the list each day and keep checking things off. Talk to close friends and family to vent and get ideas. This will help some of the fog clear... She has an income which will reduce the Alimony/child Support monthly costs from the divorce. If she makes more than you, then you may even get support...
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/21 11:52 AM
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40% of that monthly payment is spousal support because we were married for almost two decades. You should be able to aviod that entirely. So you have no child support and almost no spousal support for a 5 year marriage. Is that 70K savings? (edits to fix spelling)
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 06:10 PM
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Clarification. 25% of my income per month for 5 years per the agreement. Not 25% of my income since we got married...
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 06:07 PM
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If you are saving $700+ a month then you can afford a lawyer. It is well worth it for the peace of mind. I don't understand why you think you will owe her $70k+. That's fear talking. Is that a lump sum payout? Do some research on the divorce law in your state. Hopefully it's not California... My divorce cost me under 4k with a lawyer. My ex did not work but income was attributed to her as if she did. That was the base line for what I owed her in spousal and child support. I don't know if you hav…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 06:24 PM
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Getting 50/50 with kids is huge! Getting an agreement up front is also very good! You dodged her trying to get legal fees too. Get a lawyer to look it over again just in case...
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/21 04:40 PM
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My ex still has my last name. I treated her with kindness, respect and helped her achieve her dreams, and then she flushed it b/c she wanted something better. Now after 5 years, she still has my name and my legacy continues. Think of her as an adult child that's alienated from you. You can still take pride in what you are accomplishing through her... assuming she's actually trying to do better...
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 10:43 AM
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It's an almost daily choice to focus on the good. You have to prune away the pessimistic thoughts. I had to choose not be angry, when I saw 2 young people clearly in love and not be jealous or embittered. I didn't know how I could make it 5 years without a partner/lover in life but here I am by the grace of God. I'm 5 years out from the, "I'm not happy" conversation with my-exwife, and 4.5 to legally divorced. Married 18 years and 5 kids. My life has been about rebuilding, keeping my job and car…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/21 05:33 PM
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PS - child support is based on income so you may also be at risk of her taking you back to court for that income this year...
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 07:10 PM
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If you're in a major urban area then I would sell. There's a mass exodus in California and other blue states/cities which I'm sure will eventually end. I'm also hearing this is a seller's market BUT it could flip to a buyer's market soon. Talk to a real estate agent and get advice from some pros and not just us random's here on reddit...
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 07:09 PM
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Your tatics will end up harming you, not her. You will likely end up with a state agency collecting for her. If you get to pay her directly, then I would be thankful. You still have some control of the situation. I understand the frustration, but moving on from her will help a WHOLE lot more. Never give her or the state a reason to bother you. Stand tall. I've been paying for almost 5 years and I have 7 to go and the frustration and anger will subside. Work out and focus on your kids...
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/21 03:25 PM
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Merry Christmas Bro. Keep loving on those kids and looking ahead to better times. The ex died with the divorce and has been replaced by a pod person. She is NOT the same person you married. Seeing her may remind you of some good times but your plan to be civil when it comes to the kids is a healthy plan.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/20 11:05 PM
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YOU WILL RISK losing the kids. She CAN argue abandonment. AT minimum, get the agreement to co-parent at 50/50 in writing and consult a lawyer for free (initally) to review the agreement and verify if moving out is ok...
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/20 03:50 PM
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I was a blue pill virgin at 28/M when I married a 23/ F. We had faith in common and I accepted that she was changed. The marriage lasted 18 yrs. It's a matter of numbers and chance of improving that a marriage will last. So when I start dating again I'll still be looking for a woman that was in a committed relationship. I accept that she will likely be divorced like me but I want her to have that as the only sexual relationship...
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 02:08 PM
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As a dude, this brings REAL value to a relationship. It means you are less likely to leave a REAL relationship. My ex had multiple partners while I was a virgin when we married. I was committed but eventually she was not because of her prior multiple pair bondings. Replacing me was just easier to accept in her mind because of her higher "n" count from her youth. *Edit for n count sounding more neutral
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 10:44 AM
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My teenage daughter has similar issues. Her mom's gene's are part of it with dark hair and lots of it. Hormone balance is a bigger factor. She misses cycles and has too much testorone in general. It's mild and could be regulated with birth control -but- she chooses not to take BC since she'd rather not deal with her cycle
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/20 12:18 PM
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The music will return and the chair and other similar images will be your muse. It will get better...
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/20 06:13 PM
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My ex had similarly large breasts with headaches and sore shoulders. The issue you may not be considering is function after reduction. If you want to have children, then you may impare milk production for your child. How your body reacts to post pregnancy may also be another thing to consider. There could be shrinkage after pregnancy. We also had 5 kids first and then reduction. After the reduction there was a huge ego boost for her too which eventually led her to "monkey branch" but that's anot…
/r/RPChristians12/05/20 04:20 PM
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I sold mine at a pawnshop which are wide spread here in KY, WV and OH. Called around until I found which would pay the best scrap value for 10k gold. They would tell me the penny weight and I had to look up conversions. I ended doing ok and the cash came in handy. I sold almost 3 years after the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/20 08:34 PM
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Ask for 100% and then negotiate down to equal 50/50. You're an equal parent. The system starts with you seeing them every other weekend or 75/25. She'll want that just to get more money.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/20 06:22 PM
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Depending on your circmumstances, you may also find one that can help you pro bono... When I had to go back to court, I got free help from a lawyer at my church including a court appearance.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/20 02:50 PM
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So you're trusting her attorney? They will extract as much as possible, well beyond what is fair. Use some of that money and get your own attorney. I'm your age and went through this in 2016. I called friends and interviewed 2 or 3. I borrowed against my 401k to pay the initial fee and got out for $3750 total.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/20 02:48 PM
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18 years married. 2 decades of relationship. She decided she was done. That was 4 years ago. The first year is the hardest, as a friend told me, because you are going to go through so many experiences for the first time alone like Holidays and social gatherings. It will get better with time. Be thankful that there was a clear break. I did not have that luxury so it took me longer to process it. I could find no evidence of cheating just her wanting someone new, which again hurt me more. Thankfull…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 10:42 AM
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I'll add we have 5 kids. We lived together for 5 months from the time she told me she wanted a divorce. She filed 6 weeks later and she moved out 3 months later.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/20 04:41 PM
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I went through this with my ex. Had a house with a mortgage, vehicle loans and ~20k in debt so a similar situation. All assets and debts are 50/50. Start documenting how much you are spending to maintain the house and all related bills. The clock starts when someone files. By documenting how much I was spending on her, it worked out to be ~10k in bills that I was able to take a credit for that on the assets. I was able to keep the house because she could not afford the payments and related utili…
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/20 04:37 PM
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I cried in the shower. I cried on drives. You mourn this loss. This is normal grieving. Sounds like it was a relatively short marriage (mine was 18)and no kids so you should bounce back in time. Give your self at LEAST a year before dating. Alimony/child support, work, job loss, and responsibilities with 5 kids made dating difficult. It's been almost 4 years and the kids are growing up. I might be able to afford and have the time for dating this summer...
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/20 02:22 PM
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Background. My XW told me she wanted out May 2016 . Divorce was final Jan 2017. 5 kids. Married 18 years. Started dating in 1996. So 20 years of relationship was flushed. What killed me emotionally during 2016 and 2017 was that she quit us for a MAYBE. I could never find a guy and as far as I know there's no guy in her life now. RECOVERY. 1st year was a lot like you're describing. I was reading MGTOW and just MAD at her. 2nd year got better and I was past all the first holidays feelings without …
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/20 06:46 PM
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Well said. This is good advice. We should build some bullet points for the side bar along these lines...
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/20 03:37 PM
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Usually the first consult is free so get the FREE advice that you can to make your first decisions before you cut a check for a retainer. Try to have a quick summary of your situation ready like on a resume. This will help you gather your thoughts and identify several key questions. You'll also want to see how well you relate to them and if seem like they'll work with you...
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/20 05:57 PM
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I guess it comes down to in who's name is the loan in and who's on the deed. If she's on neither then the next question is what's best for you and the kids strategically. A pause for now may be wise as suggested above before changing the locks. If she's not on them and she gives you good reason to fear for your or the kids safety then that would be the time to change the locks.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/20 05:17 PM
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My ex wanted out after 18 years and 5 kids. She also said no to joint counseling. Start spending as much time with the kids as you can right now. Don't leave the house. Consider changing the locks. Do get a separate bank account and change your direct deposit to go there IMMEDIATELY. I know you care for her now. I did too but she's told you she wants out and she's not the same person you married anymore. you want to deny what's going on. I could never prove my was cheating, but she definitely wa…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/20 03:02 PM
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I lost my job too. I was unemployed for 3 months (and the new job paid 20% less). AFAIK tell the state you have no money to make payments and have the Alimony and Child Support moved to the 19th month and so forth until you find work again. Go to the clerk of the court and start asking questions. I did not know that was an option in my state and I ended up making things worse by taking her back to court to get what I could have negotiated for free.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/20 06:12 PM
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My ex told me she wanted out in May of 2016. We had 5 kids and I was not leaving them and, as I found out, you don't move out of the marital home unless you are forced to. Living with her was bearable BUT very painful. You're already in a better place just by not living with her. It helped me to realize this was not the person I married. She was a pod person from the invasion of the body snatchers movie. A replica. I experienced that same sadness and loss. Unlike you, it felt worse that she left…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/20 07:57 PM
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Some of your worst times on earth can be amazingly close times with God. My unexpected divorce left me feeling a lot like you describe, but now 3.5 years out I see God was working through it and working grace and his peace into my life. God provides. My ex could have been barren due to endomitriosis, instead we were blessed with 5 kids. My 4th chid almost died at birth and then he barely spoke as he grew.. By the time he was four, he only had 50 words and most of the time he sounded like the adu…
/r/RPChristians17/01/20 11:11 PM
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If you already agreed to 50/50, then you have established a pattern and you can argue that it not be changed. You are in the midst of a storm. Write what is your fear and start brainstorming the solutions. Do it here if you have to so you have a plan outlined for a lawyer if you need one.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/20 07:33 PM
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My ex wanted 2/3 of my take home pay with Alimony and Child support at the temporary hearing. She got 1/3 by the time we got to final. YOu may not have to pay alimony depending on your state law and both of you already in a relationship. Child support should be set by a chart in your state. You can calculate it out. And it should be set based on your income minus hers. (You can get a minimum income attributed to her to lower your effective income for the calculation.) You should track all that y…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/20 05:59 PM
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She went aftr my unemployment too, so instead of $400 a week I only got $200. What was my Ex like. I liken it to pod people from invasion of the body snatchers. There's a person I see every week that I get my kids from BUT she's not the person I knew for nearly 2 decades. She CHOSE this nonsense.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/20 05:19 PM
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When I lost my job about a year ago, I was able to negotiate to add what I could not afford to the end of term for Alimony. Alimony ended after 60 months, so I could tack the missing amount on the 61st month and so on. It seemed like a huge turdball at the time but it bought me time, streched my budget and allowed me to keep my house and scrape by. Once I got my old job back, 8 months later, by God's grace I ended up owing all of $200. So you should be able to restructure the agreement based on …
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/20 01:18 PM
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if you do Keto and no bun then go for it!
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/20 05:57 PM
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Donutsssss - said in the Homer Simpson voice. The Krispy Kreme glazed is dietary kryptonite but wow soooooo good.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/20 05:56 PM
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Just document what you have agreed to and send it to her in an email. Aim for 50/50 custody. Do not voluntary give up time with your child or agree to 25% custody. If you can get the forms for your state and separate without getting a lawyer AND the agreement is favorable to you then go for it. Consider taking what you write up to a lawyer for a Free consultation to protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/19 12:54 PM
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I added this to my "Christmas" movie list last year! I also like Christmas Story, Christmas Vacation, Home Alone, and Arthur Christmas (with my kids)
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/19 08:59 PM
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Peace Bro. It sucks giant donkey turds that she's so wasteful and careless while we just get by. Reform is needed since men are used and discarded like this by our legal systems. They should have some documentation for how support is spent ON THE CHILDREN just like the unemployed have to show that they sought work before collecting benefits.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/19 03:42 PM
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I agree. Your money is your money whether it comes from your bank or HSA. I just track it and my ex and I manage it via an email. She has no idea nor inclination to track what is owed to whom. I document the basis in my email for expenses and how much she owes me or I owe her then we just paypal it to eachother.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/19 07:34 PM
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You can ask for a copy of her last 2 paystubs. She has to keep this info current just like you do andsubmitted as part of your income statement. The childsupport is just a matter of looking it up on a table. They can do it in court or just after court. Just make sure it's addressed at court if it's not done prior. If you make the request and she ignores it then it will not reflect well of her in court...
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/19 05:52 PM
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I understand that his kid is 6. I also have to deal with the issue of them seeing things they wish they didn't because I cannot be there for them at their mom's. I'm pointing to my kids not being self aware enough to discern that for another 5-6 years. His Ex needs to step up and filter the content on youtube via the kids function.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/19 04:38 PM
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Your kid needs time to grow up and understand how what he watches will mess with his sleep. My kids that are 10 and 12 figured that out and are aware that scary stuff can mess with their sleep. My ex and I have had to teach them how to pray and find things to distract them like relaxing music to settle down and go to sleep. Hopefully you can work with your ex on this. You both want what's best for the child...
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/19 03:04 PM
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Isn't there youtube kids? Ask her to set it up or offer to help for the sake of your child. If that doesn't work then ask him to bring it to you when you see him and make those changes yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/19 02:57 PM
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Document what is going on, create a parenting plan to address these issues, and submit it to the court for approval.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 05:49 PM
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I went through divorce in WV 3 years ago. My ex may have been cheating on me but I had no proof and it would have cost me $1000s to find out. I accepted the irreconcillable differences proposal from her on the counsel of my lawyer and moved on to getting more time with my kids. Her adultery may help you eliminate spousal support. if your lucky, and your lawyer should be able to help you with that based on the evidence that you have. PM me if you want more advice on what the process is like. I al…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/19 05:22 PM
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My ex wasn't a drunk but we did homeschool. Track EVERYTHING that you're spending. Basically when it comes to the asset split this goes into the equation. I paid 1000s of dollars in bills. What you've paid so far should mean you get to keep more of the remaining assets. You can get through this. Do you have a few close friends or even some old friends that you can call and talk to? This will really help you
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/19 01:58 PM
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Most of my local friends and social life left with the ex when she filed. We had 5 kids and I hated the now quiet nights when they were gone, but you will get through it over time. I found my best support on the phone reaching out to old friends. Please start talking. Reach out to old friends and just rotate through them on a weekly basis. I called friends every night of my 90+ minute drive. They were my therapy session. I got busy with church. I attended a divorecare class. And I prayed a lot. …
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/19 12:39 PM
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We were married for 17 years, so alimony could have been required for life, which is total BS. We settled on 5 years but I should have started at 3 and arrived at 4 years. I was a classic nice guy with a strong conflict avoidance demeanor and I was only beginning to learn to fight with her for me and my kids sake. Every gain lead to more issues. Between child support for 5 kids and the agreed to Alimony, she now gets about 1/3 of my take home pay (instead if 2/3). I initially got the kids at 43/…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/19 01:44 PM
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My ex made similar demands. She wanted 2/3 of my take home pay. I was a VERY involved father but she wanted 75% custody. She wanted me to pay all the expenses while she kept $50000 from her mom's life insurance for herself. She got a lawyer and wanted me to pay all the related fees. She got a tummy tuck but wanted me to pay for a new vehicle after she wrecked our Suburban. She wanted to control the narrative that she was some poor victim lying to her friends and accusing me vile things. And the …
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 12:10 PM
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No, I would not remarry without a prenup but an intranup would be better. If I have a house, then she better have one too (that I like). One house can be kept on the side and rented out, then asset splits at the end won't matter, you just go back to your premarried state. If you have a plan during the relationship then you'll also have the frame of mind that you can walk away from it which ironically will make you more attractive in the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/19 10:49 AM
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Thank you for posting this. I need to make hardware improvements a priority NOW. I lift 3x a week but it's barely maintenance and defintely not a challenge. (It's just my sons 100# weight set and some free weights) I also thought joining a gym was outside my budget and too far from home. Both were true, but I was not looking to solve the situation either. My ignorance of how cheap a membership is nowadays was literally fixed yesterday (I'm use to old school (200+ to join + 40 a month). A friend …
/r/RPChristians10/10/19 01:21 PM
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I'll add this. I was this guy and it contributed to killing our marriage. https://www.suzannevenker.com/feminism/the-overly-accommodating-male/ We had 5 kids and I would work and then help with dinnertime chores and getting the kids to bed. I would essentially pull a double shift and then take the kids out to the store or mall and movies to give her breaks. I felt selfish and guilty just to spend a little time on me. Sex was about once a week. Foreplay started with her talking and the normal bac…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/19 12:34 PM
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Get counseling for you first, and work on being the best man you can be (for your well being. This is not for her). If you're not already in good shape, then start lifting and losing weight. This will build your own self respect. Do all of this for you. Look at redpill or TRP for the ideas that build attraction in your relationship. I had my ex leave me 3 years ago. It's cost me a lot. You can work on things before you leave but you need to realize it could cost you half of everything you have n…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/19 09:20 PM
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I could never prove there was someone else. I think it was just the grass-is-greener and she hoped for someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/19 05:40 PM
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It's a huge shock to lose your bride and former best friend, especially when you have kids. My ex left after 18 years of marriage and 2 decades of relationship. We have 5 kids. I was a wreck, too. It took me a long time to adjust and accept there is no "us" now. It will be a broken time for you. BUT you will recover. You have a mourning/grief period to go through. There will be anger and eventually acceptance. You have a year of firsts of not doing things together and then things will eventually…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/19 02:25 PM
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Prayerful discernment is key. At 28, I settled for a woman with a moderate n-count and as I eventually discovered daddy issues. 17 years later, she left 5 kids and a good marriage. Keep your faith. There's a faithful man out there for you. If he turns out to be divorced, what would your standard be? I would suggest an n-count for him of 1.
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 01:31 PM
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No. It is not adultery to remarry for both parties. It is adultery for the one that left the marriage covenant and remarries. It is NOT for the one that had no choice in the matter. After a period of waiting for potential reconciliation and the abandoned spouse sees no evidence of repentance, they are free to remarry. See I Cor 7 26-28
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 12:56 PM
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Prior to my divorce, I listened to Christian radio and prayed on my drive in to work. My divorce drove me to my knees. I NEEDED God's help. I started reading several books to deal with the situation. One of the first books was The Battle Plan for Prayer. It helped me define what to pray for and why. Even though I was a believer from a young age, I still needed a simple how to, to better exercise my faith. I also started journaling every day in the morning. This journal pointed to the fact that I…
/r/RPChristians23/02/19 12:09 PM
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Praying for you. I just got hired and will start work soon. I pray that my work will bring honor to God
/r/RPChristians08/02/19 03:21 PM
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Where do you see the cheating process listed above and men falling for porn? Same?
/r/RPChristians24/09/18 04:48 PM
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My ex had a mid-life crisis after her mom died. She wanted more than she had with me and thought the life insurance money would be enough to get her through any emergencies for the next few years. She wrecked her suburban in a single vehicle accident within weeks of a tummy tuck and filing for divorce. That emergency fund was dry by the time the divorce was final. Not a good plan...
/r/MGTOW20/07/18 02:46 PM
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Pregnancy brain, post partum depression, and a new child will all mess with a woman's brain. Hopefully, she'll realize you need to be a priority. Lift, research redpill, and get your life in order so you can be a good dad for your child. You cannot fix her but you can minimize the damage she could do to you if you end up heading for a divorce.
/r/MGTOW17/07/18 03:40 PM
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Funny, but pointless for me to change the password with 5 kids at their mom's house during the week. Xbox and laptop come with the kids to my house and she'd likely get bounced anyway with 6 users.
/r/MGTOW11/04/18 01:19 PM
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I use Bible Hub and then review multiple commentaries by verse. It helps to dispel a lot of my simple thinking that did not handle the truth correctly. https://biblehub.com/commentaries/proverbs/14-1.htm
/r/RPChristians30/03/18 01:55 PM
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I am a 48yo divorced male with 5 kids. I've researched TRP but I'm not going to use plates for sex. I will eventually use this strategy for future LTR selection. I need to get in shape, work on my life plan, get beyond the giant alimony/child support hole in my budget (so I can afford to date), and let my kids get a little older because they're my priority. I also need to make a better life mate choice this time. I missed several red flags on my first marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/18 03:46 PM
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Yep. My ex and I both lost weight and then she hit her midlife crisis at 41 and decided she could do better than me. Sucks. I'll be MGTOW for a few years, so I can take care of me and the kids. I plan on jumping back in my 50s and looking for a mid40s female that's hopefully past all this nonsense...
/r/MGTOW04/10/17 12:24 PM
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Yep. I can testify. They lose weight, gain confidence, and decide they really don't need their husband. So is there a 2nd wall in the early 40s? Or just mid-life crisis...
/r/MGTOW04/10/17 12:19 PM
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