About 18 months since I got the famous „not-in-love“-line, 15 since I moved out and a couple months pre-divorce (20 yrs relationship of which 11 martied and 3 kids)

After the initial rollercoaster, I felt better for a time, but now I seem to be a bit stuck and outlook‘s depressed. Guess that‘s the depression stage of the process.

Really getting scared a bit as I don‘t seem to be able to shake a kind of bitterness. No interest in dating, coz, what for?

We have three kids and while I crave connection my outlook on the whole relationship thing became quite negative.

To those who‘ve been there, how did you overcome that pessimism? (I once was a thoroughly optimistic person)