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Listen, you might be a little young to get into the game. I'm 21 and I only look at this stuff on occasion because getting involved with this stuff screwed me over for a while. You seem like you're in it for the intellectual trip though, so... I've got a simple mantra. *People talk about what they think about. * Whenever you've got somebody on their train of thought, they'll talk about stuff they've been mulling over in their head. That's only natural. Their work, the drama in their lives, ect. …
/r/seduction13/02/12 07:10 AM
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Having braces would be awesome. It'd be a great conversation starter
/r/seduction08/01/12 12:23 AM
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One note... Make sure you have a guy friend, hopefully somebody outside the social group, to be able to talk to about this. It really helps to get shit off your chest to discuss what's bothering you.
/r/seduction19/11/11 10:27 PM
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Never talk about the girl negatively. If anybody asks, say, "It was a good experience, I wish the best for her." Don't bother with the details. If you must, just be positive about it. If somebody is sketch with you because of hearsay, tell them, "Listen, I don't know what you've been told about me, but I hope you're real enough to know me for who I am." Give them a respectful smile. Some people will choose sides. Some people will be reasonable. Always be real with everybody, including your ex.
/r/seduction19/11/11 10:24 PM
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I've got no clue what you're asking.
/r/seduction15/11/11 04:36 AM
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Why? Is there something else you'd like to do instead of be with those people?
/r/seduction15/11/11 04:34 AM
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Her daddy probably loves her too.
/r/seduction15/11/11 04:32 AM
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Take-aways only work when a girl -wants- your attention. If you're in a relationship with a girl, there isn't that initial passion or the desire for resolution. That goes away once she is confident that you will answer her every time she calls you. When you pull proper take-away, it's because there is uncertainty in the relationship. You have no obligation to entertain her because she's just some girl you're hanging out with. She has no obligation to you either. But once you're in a relationship…
/r/seduction15/11/11 04:24 AM
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I guess that's why it's important to be unaffected by everything with low self-esteem girls. TD often talks about how it's just a validation game until you've closed. You can't really validate anything a low self-esteem girl does because she'll become bored with somebody who can't provide a fill the hollow of her self-perception. If you give her a cookie, she won't see you as a peg on her belt to accomplish. On the corollary, girls with high self-esteem indulge in a wider range of emotions, so t…
/r/seduction15/11/11 04:12 AM
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Might be good to think of it as, "Treat everybody as a bro, or be escalating." Given you're straight, you stop males you know from being anything but fun sources of mutual DGAF entertainment. Same with girls. Only, if you decide to escalate with a guy or a girl, then become that sexual beast.
/r/seduction13/11/11 12:15 PM
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Just for funsies I read a small bit of Jacques Casanova's autobiography. He seems to romance a woman with very little push-pull, but he definitely seems aware that the drama originates from the circumstances. For example, he draws on the dry culture of chastity he lived in at the time as a means of providing woman an outlet for her sexuality. The act of rebellion is drama in itself. I'm tempted to agree with Mystery that a breadth of emotions is most important. It just doesn't seem to complete t…
/r/seduction28/10/11 02:42 AM
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That's a huge theft of power on her part. She's not giving you what's understood to be a pretty important service ('specially if she's not sharing her enjoyment). Maybe if you just laugh, say, "Are you serious?" the way you would to anybody doing something intentionally rude. Then, "I'm raiding your fridge for a beer and sandwich." Change the topic so you're not being butthurt about it.
/r/seduction23/10/11 10:46 AM
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Added note that, after all, when we get one-itis, we focus specifically on that girl, and no other girls matter. A big red wall for practicing, since our game is off. But damn, I got to say the days after getting rejected, my motivation is at an all time high, so better to speed up the process so we can actually improve.
/r/seduction04/10/11 08:05 AM
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I'm gonna get downvoted, but honestly, I don't think she's going to get comfortable with one night stands any more quickly than a noob pua gets over his AA. She's got to work on her immediate emotional needs, which might actually be connecting with a guy she sleeps with. Maybe her preferences will transform over time. Listen, you desire a certain kind of guy, but you might not get them each night. You realize that you might need to put some effort into getting them to chase you, which is good be…
/r/seduction28/09/11 07:15 AM
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Lemee clear up some confusion. You don't have to talk about anything. It's all just practice. Ask about what they're looking at in the supermarket. Ask if they know what time it is. Ask them if anybody told them they're cute today, then tell them that somebody ought to get on it. What you talk about doesn't matter until you learn the material. It's human relations 101.
/r/seduction27/09/11 01:21 AM
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Dude, if some chick came up to you and started joking around, being funny, you wouldn't give a single fuck. It's not creepy bro, unless you haven't had practice. It's where I'm at too.
/r/seduction27/09/11 01:18 AM
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TALK TO EVERYBODY
/r/seduction27/09/11 01:15 AM
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Huh. Okay.
/r/seduction25/09/11 01:23 AM
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Try out a conversational thread that has to do with risqué topics. "I just saw a girl the other day crying at the mall. I was a little uncomfortable, wondering if she was okay or if I should go comfort her, but suddenly she yells at some guy twenty feet away saying, 'You never want to sleep with me!' What a boyfriend!" It might not move the interaction forward as quickly as innuendo, but it'll help acclimate you to talking about unconventional topics.
/r/seduction22/09/11 08:04 AM
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Keep doing, dude. Nobody gives a shit how that one person acted that one time, especially if they see that this person's now got a great personality. (You know, the kind that comes from persistence).
/r/seduction22/09/11 07:57 AM
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Have you tried them?
/r/seduction22/09/11 07:55 AM
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It's easy to picture when a man ignores a neg from a girl, but think about it this way... What if you're playful with a woman, teasing her and calling her names, and then she suddenly dons her stern cap and says, "Listen, I'm not going to sleep with you." And then you respond, "Hah, you look like a cute little hamster when you put your serious face on!" The answer you give her is in line with your internal state. She can't affect you because you're non reactive, even though you're still push-pul…
/r/seduction22/09/11 07:48 AM
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You shouldn't be anybody but who you would like to be. It sounds cliche, but dear god, there is nothing more attractive than a woman who understands what it means to pursue her feelings and her passions. That being said, learning social dynamics is a big thing for the actual attraction part, and what you learn along the way can really improve confidence and charisma. As a woman, even if you're not the top shelf, you still have crazy more opportunities for personal growth and the 'speak to everyb…
/r/seduction22/09/11 07:40 AM
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Yeah, pretty much. For example, if you say, "Man, I just had the most ROUGH day today," and make a playfully downcast expression, "I'm so sad. You've got to be upbeat for me, okay?" and look her in the eyes expectantly. You're setting up a dynamic by giving her an opportunity to fulfill the expectation you've set. This is something girls who are always approached do all the time. They say things like, "Oh, I'm so sorry I fell on you!" (even though they just bumped into you) "I could have broken …
/r/seduction21/09/11 05:51 AM
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Once you have your first initial meeting, you can switch the conversation for any reason; "I was thinking recently about this one time..." Don't have 'routines' or 'stacks'. Just read around here, listen to stories people tell about themselves when they're out. There are themes that make these stories interesting (mostly emotional expression), and figure out some event in your life that has that possibility for being interesting. Honestly, nothing matters but getting the practice in. Have a hook…
/r/seduction21/09/11 05:38 AM
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Also note that this is an example of push-pull. If an average looking woman comes up to you, stares you straight in the eye and tells you you're sexy... then continues to stare... It gets a little awkward. Now imagine if another woman says to you, "You're turning me on... I can't be around you if you keep this up!" Now it's getting real hot in here.
/r/seduction21/09/11 03:43 AM
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Imagine being in a relationship with a woman... she tells you, "I've never been with a man that's gotten me to cum." Are you going to be discouraged? Doubt it. Most men would stand tall and proud, beat their chests, and try really hard to make her cum.
/r/seduction21/09/11 03:39 AM
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"My god, are you always this bubbly? (pause) It's really sexy... It's really a shame that I'm gay!"
/r/seduction21/09/11 03:38 AM
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This wont be popular advice. Tell her you want to be in a relationship with her. It'll blind you from reality for a while, if you and her are exclusive... But maybe it's what you need right now in your life.
/r/seduction30/12/10 11:19 PM
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If, after pursuing meaningless sex for so long, you discover, on your path to attaining it constantly and consistently, that you have no need for it, or even lose your desire for it... Is it even a bad thing? If, after pursuing money for so long, you discover, on your path to attaining it constantly and consistently, that you have no need for it, or even lose your desire for it. What's the difference? What the commenter Toot7 is quoting is saying is that his attitude is keeping him back, not his…
/r/seduction30/12/10 10:40 AM
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You've got an interesting personality
/r/seduction25/12/10 10:13 AM
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That's probably good. Thinking about the last time I've dropped a hint to make a girl jealous, that's because I liked her. It's an example of her qualifying herself to you. :)
/r/seduction25/12/10 10:12 AM
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I'm keyboard jockeying here: What is it that the girl wants to accomplish by telling you this story? I can think of a couple of things: 1) She's in demand, and she feels better about herself by DHVing herself (qualifying). 2) She's shit testing you because she feels an instinctual need to compare you to losers to see how you respond. 3) They're expressing their ASD. They've got to do this as a sort of DHV in their subconscious so you know that they're not a slut (slut = low value). Ie. They're r…
/r/seduction24/12/10 12:51 PM
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This is where, by the way, you can DHV yourself. Pre-canned story about yourself. Or improvise it. Or try practicing both. Nothing wrong with getting good at both direct and indirect.
/r/seduction24/12/10 12:45 PM
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There's rarely ever a need to justify a conversational topic. PUA: "That's an interesting choice in coffee." HB: "Oh... thanks...?" PUA: "You must think you're James Bond... Could I get a coffee with a shot of rum, mixed with tequila... shaken, not stirred?" HB: lol PUA: "When I was younger, I used to..." And after a 2 minute story, nobody fckin gives a sht why you even started the conversational thread. Try it, seriously. Derail a conversation. In any event, nobody wonders what your point was b…
/r/seduction24/12/10 12:43 PM
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Any IoI is a pull. Try SoI's, they're the easiest IoI to give.
/r/seduction24/12/10 12:37 PM
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I've got no experience to back this up but TD alluded to this in a post he wrote on 'Being Genuine.' Give a routine early on in your interaction with the girl about how you've done SOMETHING (anything, doesn't even have to be sexual) with a FB or a FwB. Include that terminology in your story. If a girl was telling you a story about a casual relationship she had, you get the point: she does that shit. If she says, "Yeah, "I'm really looking for a lay," then the point really hammers home. Don't sa…
/r/seduction24/12/10 12:32 PM
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If you can control the set, then you decide whether or not to smoke, not them.
/r/seduction22/12/10 08:01 AM
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If you want to escalate, this depends entirely on the girl. She seems like she is motivated to be wild because of the prospect of a good lay, not necessarily because she's 'in love' with you, since you don't see her act interested while sober. She isn't invested in you emotionally, so it's not likely you'll make her fall in love with you at this point in the relationship. The best thing to do is to NOT CARE whether or not she'll be in a relationship with you: You'll get another girl who will be …
/r/seduction22/12/10 07:47 AM
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Alcohol is her excuse to be wild; check out the entree for ASD to the right. She feels like a slut sleeping with you while she's sober. So she uses alcohol as a psychological trick. Meanwhile she has told you... she doesn't want a relationship. She wants an easy outlet for her sexual desires, and you happen to be it. You're her FB. Enjoy it.
/r/seduction22/12/10 07:40 AM
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Mystery suggests... Smile when you approach. Of course; you aren't there to scare them away. Quit smiling after you're hooked. You're not try hard.
/r/seduction18/12/10 10:20 AM
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NLP is either high level stuff, or just bunk. Focus on being positive and observant; Napolean didn't need NLP to be good at practicing his expressions, body language, to draw crowds. If you eventually find NLP to be helpful, go for it. But it may not be time efficient to focus on it.
/r/seduction16/12/10 04:09 AM
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I'm under the impression that height is a pure social-value thing. Height is, in our society, an indicator of value, but not of value itself. Try demonstrating higher value than her. I don't have the personal experience to back me up, but if you could get back to me, let me know.
/r/seduction14/12/10 09:26 AM
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Most of the classic PUAs weren't so attractive (Look at Neil Strauss goddamnit; he looks like a bald lawn gnome). Most of the others agree that looks don't mean shit. If you practice enough, you get good enough so you can overcome any obstacles, including limiting self belief and lower initial attraction.
/r/seduction11/12/10 11:11 AM
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http://www.seductiontuition.com/tyler-durden/genuine.html
/r/seduction11/12/10 11:06 AM
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Why are you telling us this? There is no question in your post; you're telling us what's up with your life, using an opinion opener as an excuse to brag to us.
/r/seduction25/11/10 10:01 AM
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