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Fudgeworth/r/seduction26/01/12 04:03 PM
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There are pros and cons. I find that when I go out solo I have to talk with people I don't know. When I go out with a friend or a group of friends it's comfortable to talk with them all night which kind of defeats the purpose of going out to meet women. I think it's important to find the right venue to go to alone. Some are better than others for being alone in. I like venues with multiple areas so that I can keep moving around. Will that affect my chances? Your chances are 0 if you stay at home…
/r/seduction21/07/18 12:37 AM
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Whenever there is conflicting advice, my recommendation would be to try being mysterious with one woman and try being vulnerable with another. I was vulnerable with my last girlfriend. A couple bad things happened in a short period to me and I told her about them. She ended up saying that I had a lot of 'blonde moments' recently. She owned a house and asked me if I was going to buy one. I told her I had too much uncertainty and didn't want to tie myself down for at least 5 years so I wasn't look…
/r/seduction05/04/18 12:49 AM
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When I first started out I placed way too much importance on learning the right things to say. As if some magical combination of words was all it took. 10 years and a couple girlfriends later I place more importance on becoming a guy who is attractive and not awkward around women.
/r/seduction28/03/18 05:10 AM
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When I first started learning this 10 years ago I thought I just had to learn how to say the right things to women. Nowadays I have a girlfriend but still check out this subreddit from time to time. My philosophy has switched from words to improving all areas of my life and putting myself in situations where I could get to know women.
/r/seduction08/03/18 12:58 AM
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Improving your looks should improve your dating life. Before the start of last summer I lost 40 pounds. Not only did it make my body look better but it made my face look better. It went from pudgy to defined. My results with women improved significantly. The whole looks discussion seems counterproductive. It's like people are looking for a way to be lazy and not improve the way they look. At the end of the day, only results matter. If you're not getting results you need to make some changes.
/r/seduction07/03/18 05:16 AM
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I'm much older than you but was in your situation once. My philosophy nowadays is that if I go up to a girl I'm either gonna vibe with her or I'm not. That's not so much dependent on what I say as it is who I am and who she is. Also, if she's not really into it I'll just leave and talk to someone who is.
/r/seduction11/08/17 10:54 PM
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I've worked with some black women who didn't know how to act in a professional environment: One sang at her desk. When I asked her to stop an older black woman asked me point blank "do you like black people?" One got everyone to give her a couple bucks to buy lottery tickets as a group on Friday. That was the last day she showed up at work. Another one quit on Friday during lunch without telling anyone. It was a nice day out and I think that played a part. Another one said that the keyboard tray…
/r/PussyPassDenied04/05/17 01:50 AM
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I just bunch up some toilet paper in order to put the seat up or down.
/r/MensRights26/04/17 05:41 AM
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Offering a girl a drink as your opening move usually not the right move. I don't know why she kept looking at you, just thought I'd throw this out there.
/r/seduction25/02/17 06:25 AM
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My mindset is that if you're not getting results, might as well try different things and see what happens. Last year I made a real effort to improve my body and saw a big increase in interest from women.
/r/seduction22/02/17 06:01 AM
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I know some fat guys who can pick up too. The one is a party animal. I think he goes out at least 4 times a week. He seems to know everyone. He told my one friend that the reason he gets girls is because he doesn't give a fuck about rejection. He will hit on 50 girls just to get that one "yes". This guys friend is the other fat guy I know. He's as extroverted as it comes and is the life of the party. He makes you feel good when you're around him.
/r/seduction21/02/17 02:13 AM
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If you wait for women to approach you, you're going to be single for a long time. One reason why girls don't approach is that they don't need to. Any attractive woman will already have guys approaching her. If you had attractive women always approaching you, what incentive would you have to approach?
/r/seduction29/01/17 12:45 AM
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This reminds me of a couple weeks ago when I was at a small crowded dance club. I was drunk at that point and a guy was talking with a couple girls near me. He came over and asked if "I could stand over there" as he pointed about 7 feet away from the girls. I wasn't sure if the girl asked him to do that and I didn't want to get in an altercation (it's my favorite bar), so I walked away. I could have easily told him to fuck off since I didn't feel threatened by him but it wasn't worth it.
/r/seduction26/01/17 03:12 PM
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I always had awesome results at high end events on New Year's Eve. Those are events where there are open bars and girls are all in dresses. I think those are good because everyone is getting fucked up and lots of people want to kiss someone at midnight. People spent good money on tickets and want something to show for it. Lots of single people have the resolution of meeting someone or had that the prior year. What better time to meet someone than at the event they think. In terms of going out so…
/r/seduction31/12/16 01:43 AM
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You can tell yourself "I am the prize" but if you're a fucking slob sitting in you're parents basement it's not going to do any good. You need to improve your life. For me that meant a good career, place in a trendy nightlife area, nice car, nice clothes, money in the bank, a decent body after a year of diet and exercise.
/r/seduction29/12/16 01:50 PM
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Don't go alone, seriously, don't be that guy. I disagree. If you stay at home you have 0% chance. If you go out alone you at least have some chance.
/r/seduction11/11/16 05:20 AM
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Group fitness classes (Zumba, yoga, salsa, etc.) If I can be the only guy in a class of 20 women and dance like a retard in front a mirror in a fully lit room, it makes all other social situations seem insignificant. It gets me in shape If I'm ever at a club, I'll say "don't make me bust out my Zumba moves". That usually gets a laugh or sparks interest. While most other guys stand there or maybe nod their head, I can do other moves at the club. I run into girls from class at night and even hooke…
/r/seduction30/09/16 11:37 PM
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It's a form of peacocking, but I don't look like a complete weirdo like Mystery. The thing about Mystery is that he was dressing that way in LA, where you have rock stars and other people who wear outlandish stuff. If you wore what he wore out to a club in Iowa you'd look ridiculous. A lot of the stuff in those early seduction books needs to be tweaked to your surroundings and the type of girl you're going after. I like classier girls and I'll bet that if I wore stuff that was too over the top t…
/r/seduction30/09/16 11:30 PM
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I was kind of forced to go out solo when 2 of my 3 drinking buddies moved to other states and the remaining friend got a girlfriend. I go out solo all the time now and get better results with women now than I did when I went out with them. Last weekend I ended up meeting 2 girls who were out solo themselves. The first one was sitting alone at a classier bar. I just sat next to her and soon we were talking. It was like a first date without the nervousness because there were no expectations. The 2…
/r/seduction23/09/16 03:38 AM
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I live in Buffalo. The thing that helps me is that I look much younger. I was at a college night at a bar and this girl asked me how old I was. I was thinking that she knew I was too old to be there. I asked her how old she thought I was and she said 24. Other girls think I'm around 26.
/r/seduction21/09/16 04:37 AM
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1-US 2-Depends on the girl. I've encountered some that are rude and others who are friendly. 3 - Varies from chubby to attractive. I don't usually get the hottest girls in the place although I have been getting higher quality lately. 4 - The 21 year old was in a big group. The 30 year and 49 year old were out in groups of 2.
/r/seduction21/09/16 02:37 AM
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I'm 34. Last week I had a 21 year old, a 30 year old, and a 49 year old interested in me. Met them all out at night. Went on dates with the 21 and 30 year old. The 49 year old looked surprisingly good for her age and wanted to go to the beach with me the next day. I think I'm close to the top of my game right now. I have a nice apartment in the trendy neighborhood of my city. My body is good shape since I spent the last year cutting weight and then adding muscle. I can go out solo usually end up…
/r/seduction20/09/16 04:10 AM
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I can relate, 2 of my 3 friends who I used to go out with moved to different states. I've found that going out solo is easier if you can get a good buzz going. Going out solo near sober is still uncomfortable for me. I moved down to the nightlife area of my city a couple months ago so I can walk or take public transport places. I'm about to go out solo tonight to a 90s dance party. The good thing about going out solo is that you can decide where you want to go, it's not a compromise. My friends …
/r/seduction17/09/16 12:54 AM
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In my experience, going out with a group of dudes at night is not good for meeting women. I used to do that with my friends. We'd usually pregame at someones apartment and then show up late drunk to wherever. With a large group the tendency is to talk with your friends all night. Also, large groups of dudes are intimidating. Think about how intimidating a large group of girls in a circle is. That being said, I'd still go out with your buddies, I would just do it maybe one night a week or once in…
/r/seduction08/09/16 11:17 PM
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I go out solo, I'm out solo right now actually. Most of my friends moved away. I have more success solo than I did when I would go out with 3 friends. A wing could be good though. I was out with an Austalian dude that I met on Couchsurfing and I was able to bring that up to women. We were out with these 2 girls and he was talking with the one while I danced with her friend. I'd say solo or with a wing is better than going out in a group of dudes.
/r/seduction08/09/16 01:55 AM
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If it's working keep doing it. One of my buddies is real good at online dating and his last 4 girlfriends have been attractive. Another one of my friends needs some common ground to meet women. His ex girlfriend and him worked at the same company. He met his wife because his friend was dating her friend. My thing is nightlife. I do pretty well at night and suck at online dating.
/r/seduction08/09/16 01:26 AM
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If you're opening sets and your friends are swooping in and hindering you in any way, I'd consider going out alone or maybe one other guy. Years ago I was out with 2 friends and I went up to these 2 blondes. My friends came up to us. My friend ended up marrying one of them. I actually think my friends kind of hindered me a bit. They always wanted to go out on Friday nights. We'd play cards and bullshit at my place and then go out late when it's mostly dudes out. We'd usually just talk with each …
/r/seduction03/09/16 05:42 AM
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My success definitely improved once I lost 30 pounds and got bigger biceps/triceps and cut forearms. I was out solo last night just on a patio and got this one chicks phone number with hardly any effort. Just got back from a date with her. I met this one 21 year old at a different bar and exchanged numbers. She texted me right away. We're gonna get drinks on Tuesday. The second thing that helped my game was moving near a popular nightlife neighborhood. I can walk instead of drive so I don't have…
/r/seduction03/09/16 05:30 AM
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I was thinking about this the other day. People can be nice to you, indifferent, or mean. A nice guys reaction to all 3 is to be nice. That makes no fucking sense to be nice to someone who is mean to you. You could even argue that if someone is indifferent to you, you should be indifferent to them. I guess what I'm getting at is that "being nice" all the time in all situations can be a sign of something that is not right.
/r/seduction27/08/16 02:32 AM
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I just moved down the street from my nightlife district. I'm actually starting to prefer going out alone versus going out with 3 of my buddies. When I go out alone I am kind of forced to talk to people I don't know instead of standing around talking with my friends all night. I was out with one of my friends last Saturday and kind of wished he wasn't there at one point. I ran into a guy from work and we were talking and dancing with these 2 girls. My friend, who has a girlfriend, was kind of the…
/r/seduction23/08/16 03:25 AM
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This is the best post I've seen on nightclubs I think nightclubs are highly visual environments, since the sound is so loud you can't really talk to get to know someone. By visual, I mean appearance based. As a guy I try and look my best, which means working out every week. I also try and wear bright colors figuring that most other dudes will be wearing black shirts. Movement is also important in night clubs. You need to be able to get out on the dance floor. One way I got over that fear was to …
/r/seduction16/08/16 01:29 AM
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I think a moderate amount is key. You don't want most of your photos to be "player photos" but you also don't want to be alone or with groups of dudes in all your photos. It's kind of funny. I had hooked up with this one girl and added her to Facebook. She has been kind of a flake the last two times we've ran into each other at the bar. I posted a photo of me and a hotter girl and the flake girl liked the photo on Facebook.
/r/seduction15/08/16 08:38 PM
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One thought I had recently is that there have been girls I was attracted to while I've been out that were attracted to me too. Because I didn't initiate I never found out which ones though.
/r/seduction30/10/15 10:50 PM
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If you want a girl who is into guys like that then go ahead. There are definitely some hot girls out there who want rich guys. The problem is that you're not rich, you're just driving around in a rich man's car. As soon as they find out they're going to peace out.
/r/seduction21/10/15 04:10 AM
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It means you're a provider and not a lover in their eyes.
/r/seduction21/10/15 04:06 AM
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I think in a loud environment long conversations aren't going to happen. You should focus on making a statement with what you are wearing, the way you move around as you walk and dance, eye contact, stuff like that. If your personality is funny, instead of trying to tell a joke you could do a funny dance move. Both convey your humorous nature, the latter is more easily communicated in a loud environment.
/r/seduction21/10/15 03:47 AM
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After 2 of my 3 friends who I used to go out with moved to other states a couple of months ago, I was forced to go out alone. No one has asked me if I was alone. I think that going out alone or with one wingman are the best options. When you go out with 3 or more, there is always someone to talk to in the group and that gives you less incentive to talk with other people. If you go out alone I'd recommend finding venue with multiple areas within it. That way you can move from area to area. Anothe…
/r/seduction17/10/15 05:54 AM
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Think about it in terms of why you're better than a college aged man: You have a job and steady paycheck You have your own place You know about more events in your area than just a keg party You have a car (some college students don't) You have 10 more years of stories to tell You've had more relationships and know how to treat a woman You have life experiences rather than just textbook knowledge
/r/seduction15/10/15 12:51 AM
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People think that there are 2 options, being a nice guy and being an asshole. I don't think that is the case. Another option is being what I would call a good guy. Good guys can get respectable women. What is the difference between a nice guy and a good guy? I think when people say nice guy they are referring to being fake nice. Nice guys don't want to upset women so they agree with everything they say even though they might disagree with them. This leads to very vanilla interactions. Girls love…
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:25 AM
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I've actually fluctuated from being extroverted to introverted at different times in my life. A couple of months ago when 2 of my 3 close friends moved to different states I was kind of forced to put myself out there in order to meet new people. I think the main thing that has benefited me was my decision to initiate conversations. So many people wait for others to initiate and when you have 2 people like that together no one initiates. When you don't initiate you're missing out on conversations…
/r/seduction08/10/15 03:50 AM
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The lesson that I would take from this is that girls operate on their own schedule and have their own agenda. They aren't acting in accordance with what you want. So many guys drag their feet and operate under the assumption that the girl will be single until they muster up the guts to do something. Any worthwhile girl has multiple guys that are interested in her.
/r/seduction08/10/15 03:37 AM
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If you're friends with pretty girls on Facebook you'll see that they are told they are pretty all the time when they post photos of themselves.
/r/seduction07/10/15 04:17 AM
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The Game was published in 2005. Models was published in 2011. The Game wasn't really a how to manual. It was a rock journalist submerging himself in this new community. The book was meant to be entertaining, which I thought it was. I think some of the ideas in that book were unrefined, peacocking for example. Wearing ridiculous shit will get you noticed and might make it easier for people to spark up a conversation with you but I'm sure that lots of girls would automatically disqualify a guy bec…
/r/seduction07/10/15 04:13 AM
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For the past couple of weeks I've decided to be more outgoing. It is actually quite easy. You just have to decide that you will be the one to initiate with people. I work for a large company with lots of people my age. When I see them out, even though I've never talked with some, I'll say "Hey, a couple of CompanyName guys". I just started in a new department at work. Today in the meeting room I was the second one there. I could have easily sat there but instead I greeted the guy who came in bef…
/r/seduction05/10/15 11:20 PM
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2 of my 3 friends who I would go out with at night moved to different states recently so I've been forced to be more outgoing recently. I came to the realization most people that are out at night want to talk to new people, otherwise they would have stayed at home or had dinner parties with their friends. I've been taking a more natural approach to talking when out. If I'm at a bar on Saturday night I'll ask someone how their night or weekend is going. I'll ask them if they went anywhere else be…
/r/seduction04/10/15 03:34 PM
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WHY WOULDN'T SHE TELL ME WHAT WAS WRONG WITH ME SO I COULD IMPROVE THAT? Earlier in your post you mentioned that she said you didn't have chemistry. So it isn't that there is something wrong with you, it's just that she didn't feel attraction in person. It happens. That's part of why I stopped doing online dating. As a guy it can be a lot of effort to even get the girl to meet up only to find out that you're not attracted her.
/r/seduction04/10/15 07:40 AM
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So you see, there is literally nothing I can do. It sounds like you're hiding behind bad logistics as a reason not to approach. Could it actually be that you're too scared to approach her? Have you considered being late to your following class or skipping it altogether? As far as switching seats go, there is only the possibility she will think it is weird. Who gives a shit if other people think it is weird. While you're debating your next move I guarantee there are at least 5 other guys who like…
/r/seduction03/10/15 10:58 PM
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I think it's important to find a place you enjoy going to. There are lots of bars/clubs in my city. I've become a regular at this one place and go there Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. Last night I ordered a drink there and the bartender said I could just ask for my usual instead of telling him what I wanted. The other bartenders shake my hand and ask how I've been. I like that bar because they have 2 different DJs, one in the front and one in the back room. If I'm not feeling the music or peopl…
/r/seduction03/10/15 09:54 PM
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I am not sure what to do about it. You need to cut that piece of shit out of your life. Why would you continue to hang out with this person? Learn how to go out alone if you have to.
/r/seduction03/10/15 06:21 AM
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I started doing the same thing recently because 2 of my friends who I used to go out with moved to different states. I think it's important to find a place that you enjoy where you are comfortable going to alone. The place I go to has multiple rooms with a DJ in the front and a DJ in the back. It has 4 bar areas. I'll post up in one spot and if there aren't any girls near me or I'm not feeling it I'll go to another area. The place is small so people are forced to be near each other. Since I've b…
/r/seduction02/10/15 05:36 AM
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I've been doing this too. I haven't been doing it consciously though, I think the more confident I am the more it naturally happens. The funny thing is when I looked woman in the hallway and she didn't break eye contact with me so we looked at each other until we passed.
/r/seduction02/10/15 05:27 AM
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This one bachelorette with a veil on asked me to buy her a shot. I said "Why would I buy you a drink you're taken. If you have any pretty single friends I'll get them one". She then introduced me to one of her pretty single friends who was 21. I got her a shot and later on in the night I talked with her outside some more and added her on Facebook.
/r/seduction02/10/15 12:59 AM
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Not much. Do you ever go out in Buffalo on Friday or Saturday nights? I go out and could use a wing. A couple of my friends moved to other states recently.
/r/seduction01/10/15 03:48 AM
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Buffalo
/r/seduction01/10/15 01:35 AM
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New York
/r/seduction01/10/15 01:35 AM
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A big part of confidence for me is looking good. On Saturday night, if I've done 4 workouts that week then I'm going to like the way I look in a tight shirt and dark jeans. If I've gotten a haircut recently, I'm freshly shaved, I've splashed on cologne, then I know a couple of girls are going to look at me and smile.
/r/seduction30/09/15 04:10 AM
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When it comes to dancing at clubs there are basically 5 types of guys: The guy who doesn't dance but just stands there and looks around The guy who bobs his head up and down The beginner who moves his feet a little bit, moves his arms, moves side to side The drunk guy who dances wildly The expert who looks like he practices. I usually alternate between beginner and head bobbing but I'd like to be an expert. I'm going to take some dance classes. The one bar I went to over the weekend had a circle…
/r/seduction28/09/15 03:55 AM
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I was talking with a girl a while back, can't remember the specifics, but it was about why she preferred a guy over her dildo. "A dildo isn't going to pull my hair and slap my ass".
/r/seduction28/09/15 03:22 AM
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Did they not have rings on? That's the first thing I check.
/r/seduction20/09/15 01:18 PM
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I just got back from a solo night out. I flirted with a hot 21/f and she added me on facebook. She was out with a bachelorette party. I'm going to see if she wants to go to a concert tomorrow. You should definitely go out alone. If you stay home you have a 0% chance of anything happening. If you go out you at least have a chance. I'd recommend finding a club that you feel comfortable being alone in. The one I go to is kind of small and people are forced to be near each other and interact. There …
/r/seduction20/09/15 06:48 AM
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I was thinking about this yesterday. Girls choose who to date based on guys that they are talking with. If you're not talking with a girl you aren't even on her radar.
/r/seduction19/09/15 06:23 PM
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Lately I've been wearing brighter shirts when I go out at night. Most guys at the bar or club near me wear black or dark shirts. Also I've noticed that girls go out earlier in the night while guys pregame and then go out later. So I've been going out earlier. Guys tend to go out in groups and then just stand in a circle and talk with each other. Every time I see a group of guys I kind of hope they keep walking to another bar but I know they aren't really competition.
/r/seduction19/09/15 06:21 PM
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You should want to look good for your own benefit first and foremost. Why wouldn't you want to look your best? If you want the question answered as it relates to women, get in shape and then compare the way women look to you at that point versus the looks(or lack thereof) you are getting now. It seems like by asking this question you're looking for an excuse to be lazy and not get in shape.
/r/seduction16/09/15 02:47 AM
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A couple of my good friends moved to different cities recently so I've been trying to meet new people. One thing I started doing was sitting at a bar that serves food and eating dinner there. There was a guy sitting near me and he struck up a conversation. Turns out he works for the same company I do. After dinner I stayed there and had a drink and we talked for a good hour. I'm going to stay in contact and see if he wants to go to a happy hour this week. I also went to a music festival last wee…
/r/seduction15/09/15 01:59 AM
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Looks matter. The good thing is that you can change most aspects of the way you look by getting in shape, dressing differently, fixing your skin by going to a dermatologist, etc. You can't really change your face unless you want to spend thousands on plastic surgery. If that is your problem you can still work on all other aspects of your game. I've seen plenty of pretty girls getting married to guys who look significantly worse than they do. Those guys took the chance and asked the girl out thou…
/r/seduction14/09/15 04:44 AM
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This weekend I'm experimenting with a 3rd option, not fapping on the weekend. I figure that it should give me more incentive to go out and meet women. If I went the NoFap route, I'd probably fail at some point and then just go back to my normal habits.
/r/seduction12/09/15 05:32 PM
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The other day I was thinking about how lots of guys don't hit on women when they are out. They have some sort of internal block that prevents them from doing so. I used to be out at a bar and would see guys who I thought were better than me in some way. I realized that a lot of those guys don't approach women. So basically it didn't matter if they were more jacked than me or dressed better, they were observers, not participants. I also noticed on Facebook lots of wedding photos of really hot wom…
/r/seduction23/07/15 05:19 AM
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another part of me is afraid of screwing up the dynamics of our social group After you graduate high school this year your social group will naturally get "screwed up" anyways. People will go away to college, you'll meet new people, you'll realize that some of your friends from high school aren't worth hanging out with anymore. maybe I should hold off Maybe she will meet a different guy as her boyfriend next week. The time to act is now.
/r/seduction25/05/15 03:53 AM
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I originally got into online dating thinking it would be an easier way to meet women. It turns out it is quite the opposite. I'll spend a lot of time browsing profiles, sending messages back and forth, all before we even meet up. All that effort only to discover I'm not attracted to the person I'm on the date with.
/r/seduction21/01/15 06:17 AM
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I disagree with the "limiting a girl to two dates unless she does something sexual within that time frame" rule. My last girlfriend and I didn't really hook up until the 4th or 5th date. After that she turned out to be a sex fiend.
/r/seduction06/08/14 05:25 AM
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I want to look good for my own sake, not just to get women. Every day I look in the mirror and when I like what I see it makes me feel good. Looking good is usually the product of doing the right things (regular exercise, proper diet, etc.)
/r/seduction21/02/14 05:26 AM
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I'd say if you are getting them in bed on your first encounter you are doing something right. I know one method discussed is to simply stop the hookup once they say they don't want to do it (stop kissing, stop touching, everything). I've never tried that method. I'd be more likely to try again on future encounters.
/r/seduction10/02/14 01:00 AM
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Smile and make eye contact when you pass by pretty girls Bring a Gatsby themed prop. Have balls. You won't see many of these people in 2 years, so take a chance on that girl you've always liked. If you're feeling a connection during a slow dance and think she wants to, kiss her.
/r/seduction08/02/14 07:42 PM
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Unintentionally this is how I met the girl I have been seeing for the past month and a half. She was walking by me at the bar and our eyes met. A couple of minutes later she passed again and I introduced myself. As I went to shake her hand her drink spilled all over the sleeve of my jacket. She left and I turned to my buddies and exclaimed how I had blew it. A few seconds later she returned with some napkins. She went back to her friends and I went over and talked with her a little later that ni…
/r/seduction25/01/14 03:40 AM
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Sometimes your current state of being isn't working. By state I mean everything about you: your body, where you live, the people in your life, what you do with your spare time, etc. If the way you're living isn't yielding results "just be yourself" is bad in the sense that it encourages the status quo. Sometimes you need to make changes and change yourself. What you change is up to you. I like to experiment by refraining from doing things and trying new things as well.
/r/seduction08/07/13 05:41 AM
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When an opportunity presents itself, you need to hop on it fast, before someone else does. I had some women interested in me, but I delayed pursuit and lost those opportunities.
/r/seduction11/09/12 03:19 AM
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I don't think about this debate anymore because I try and look good for myself first and foremost. Looking good to me is usually the product of doing the right things consistently like eating well and exercising. When I do those things I look good and I feel good.
/r/seduction24/08/12 02:38 AM
11

It's not too late. That's life man. You make mistakes and learn from them.
/r/seduction10/08/12 02:07 AM
18

One girl said all the girls think you're a creep. May or may not be true. I'd consider creepy behavior at work to be: staring excessively at girls, saying inappropriate things, making girls uncomfortable, etc.
/r/seduction10/08/12 01:53 AM
2

I was in my mechanics waiting area last week when a guy brought in his Honda Accord with 250,000 miles on it.
/r/seduction26/07/12 01:08 AM
1

People should "have their shit together" for their own sake. Same goes whenever I see the "do looks matter" debate. I want to look good, because I like looking good.
/r/seduction18/07/12 02:32 AM
5

Yeah, at some point I realized that rather than spend hours reading shit, I could be out talking to women, at the gym, or doing something else worthwhile. I'll still check out r/seduction once in a while, but I take it all with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction29/06/12 02:43 AM
3

Ross Jeffries. He looks like a middle aged version of Screech Powers, who focuses on the linguistic aspect of pickup.
/r/seduction29/06/12 02:37 AM
1

While he probably is talking about something, the fact that he doesn't say what it is leads you to be curious. You think that they have all this secret knowledge and that leads people to shell out money for their convention.
/r/seduction15/06/12 01:16 AM
3

If you want to see her again, I think the next day is good. I usually send a text telling her what a great time I had.
/r/seduction20/05/12 01:47 AM
1

i know texting is bad but im not confident enough yet to ring Nothing wrong with texting. Keeps conversations to the point. I think you waited too long to text your current girl. She probably figured you just used her for a pump and dump and thought of reasons why you weren't right for her.
/r/seduction20/05/12 01:38 AM
1

Ask her if she wants to meet at the pub for a drink. When you're there mention some activity that you usually do at your place (I mention playing specific card games). Once you find something she is interested in, suggest that you can bounce to you place to partake in that activity. When you get to your place put on the moves.
/r/seduction18/05/12 03:09 AM
6

I like to tune out once in a while. After reading the various seduction books and blogs, my head was jumbled. I was analyzing every movement, every word during a conversation. The results I got during that time were pitiful. After that I focused on improving myself and situation. I placed more emphasis on experimenting and seeing what works rather than just taking someones word for it.
/r/seduction15/05/12 02:38 AM
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i have a friend who used to be very anti social Sounds like he's still anti social. People in other comments mention not hanging out with him, which is an option, but you could also call him out on his bad behavior. Tell him what he's doing is wrong and if you have some other friends who noticed this have them mention it too.
/r/seduction03/05/12 03:53 AM
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I'm against buying a girl a drink as an opening move or as a way to get her to like you. I don't buy those dumb girls drinks who blatantly ask for one. The last time I bought a girl a drink was on New Years. We had been dancing and kissing and the bar area was really crowded, so I bought her one. The looks thing isn't really relevant because I want to look good for my own sake. I like looking good (in shape, neat clothing, good skin).
/r/seduction02/05/12 02:21 AM
6

Could have tried bouncing her to another party, to get a bite to eat, or back to your place.
/r/seduction29/04/12 07:41 PM
3

Title says "I'm trying to get you laid tonight." Post says "I'm trying to get laid tonight." Which one was it?
/r/seduction15/04/12 07:34 PM
2

I like reading Sinn's blog, even though he can be over analytical at times. I also like Roosh's blog.
/r/seduction20/03/12 07:40 PM
1

Seems to me like they will make fun of you when you fail, but as soon as you're making a couple of pretty girls laugh, those scumbags walk up and demand an introduction. My friends have done this too. They don't really do this anymore, since we're all older and realize you're not going to hit it off with every girl you talk to.
/r/seduction15/03/12 04:12 AM
12

Are we really having a thread on the merits of saying "Hi" to women?
/r/seduction08/03/12 01:28 AM
2

Talk to her/him!! Just inspired me to message this hot blonde on facebook I have some mutual friends with.
/r/seduction03/03/12 12:56 AM
1

I don't propose dinner dates for girls I've met online anymore. If I ask a girl on a date I offer to pay for her and with online dating, you're never sure what you're gonna get. She might look worse than the photos on her profile.
/r/seduction02/03/12 06:48 PM
1

What are your thoughts on clothing? I'm more of a solid or striped shirt kind of guy, but I have some wacky shirts as well (flaming eagle tee, Frankenstein tee). I was thinking of wearing some wacky shirts to my Zumba class as an ice breaker.
/r/seduction29/02/12 03:26 AM
4

“ A little bit later the bar is closing and I ask her how she is getting home. She tells me that AFC is going to give her a ride, to which I reply, “No, he doesn’t have to. I’ll drive you.” I like how the The_Merkon didn't accept that the AFC was going to drive her. Some of the best nights I've had recently were when I was more assertive.
/r/seduction25/02/12 11:39 PM
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One would be how I set up first dates. I don't bother with dinner dates or movie dates. Movie dates are rather pointless and dinner dates are a waste of money. For a first date I like to meet up with the girl at one of the bars near my place. I get the first round and if she is a decent person she will offer to get the second round. If we're having fun, I suggest that we bounce back to my place at some point.
/r/seduction21/02/12 06:34 PM
2

Getting an apartment near the main nightlife areas of my city was the biggest thing. I used to live in the suburbs with my parents and when I was out it would cause me not to pursue women to the fullest. When I go out now, I don't have to worry about driving, I can just walk, take a bus, or take a cab. It is easier to get a girl to bounce home at the end of the night.
/r/seduction20/02/12 06:10 AM
1

I think people don't get results because they place too much importance on learning seduction through reading about it. Reading about it is interesting and can lead to improvement, but ultimately you want to see how women respond to you in the real world. I started getting the best results when I got an apartment within walking distance of the main nightlife area in my city. I think looking good is important too. After 3 months of consistently working out I was looking better and met my girlfrie…
/r/seduction09/02/12 07:35 AM
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I am not going to base my relations to all women on the opinion of one woman.
/r/seduction27/01/12 04:36 AM
1

I like reading Roosh's material. He has a ton of blog posts and I like his style of humor.
/r/seduction27/01/12 12:13 AM
0

There's always more pussy around the corner.
/r/seduction26/01/12 06:48 AM
0

Ever been around people who buy lottery tickets and they talk about what they would buy if they won? In their heads they are multimillionaires, in reality they are peasants. You want to make the fantasy in your head a reality? Good luck.
/r/seduction19/01/12 04:22 AM
4

The way AFC nice guys relate to women is the way most people relate to their bosses. Most people answer yes to their bosses and even if the boss pisses them off, they hide that anger. AFCs are the same way. AFCs think that if they cater to a woman's wishes, she will like him. On the other end of the spectrum you have assholes. Assholes usually say whatever is on their mind, even when those things might hurt another's feelings. The balance is being real with what you're feeling and your desires. …
/r/seduction19/01/12 02:55 AM
1

Why is it the guy's responsibility for the woman's feelings after she chose to have a one night stand? If the woman doesn't want to feel like a slut after a one night stand, she shouldn't have one night stands.
/r/seduction17/01/12 09:44 PM
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Or you could stop being a pussy and talk to girls you want to fuck.
/r/seduction17/01/12 08:32 PM
16

We never set out to pick up guys, we had no plans to approach anyone, so the guys approaching us basically had our undivided attention and beat out all the others just by making that move. That's why doing the approaches is stressed so much.
/r/seduction16/01/12 05:31 PM
2

Like most people here, I started out by reading the books, blog posts, and watching the videos. As a result I would get stuck in my head too much and would analyze things that didn't need to be analyzed (her leg is pointing that way, what does that mean?). Now I focus on the fundamentals, like looking good (regular exercise and neat clothing). I also moved out of my parents house to an area where I can get to the nightlife areas by walking, bus, or taxi. I take a more natural approach to convers…
/r/seduction03/01/12 04:33 AM
4

There are a number of lessons from that show. They put a lot of focus on looking good, by going to the gym and tanning salon, and wearing trendy clothes. They also make themselves the center of attention with the camera crew and exaggerated dance moves. At the end of the night they try to pull girls back to their place.
/r/seduction26/12/11 08:28 PM
2

I started out by reading The Game and The Mystery Method. The fact that I could learn to be better with women was mind blowing. I started to read a lot of psychology books as well. My goal switched from meeting women to learning how to meet women. I think it's important to realize that the end goal is being with actual women (dating, relationships, one nighters, whatever).
/r/seduction24/12/11 09:45 PM
1

First you need to get her back to your place. I usually plan dates close to where I live, so it's an easy transition. I suggest that we go back to my place to play cards, watch Netflix, or have a drink.
/r/seduction15/12/11 04:54 PM
1

OKCupid sucks. I used it for a couple of years and went on a few dates with lower quality girls. I switched to PlentyOfFish and started getting results. I think the key to online dating is having good photos and a call to action in your profile. I have a photo of me in front of the Eiffel Tower, one of me between two blonde girls, and a third where I am dressed up at a wedding. I have the call to action as my first sentence, where I say that if the girl likes what she sees, she should message me…
/r/seduction14/12/11 04:38 AM
1

Sign up at an online dating site. If your problem is conversation consider going on as many dates as possible, even if you are not attracted to them, just to get practice talking to people.
/r/seduction14/12/11 03:55 AM
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I'm not a fan of dinner dates for first dates, nothing good has ever come of them for me. I prefer meeting at a bar with tables for a few drinks. I get the first round and then if the girl is worth a damn she will offer to get the second round. If the conversation is lacking and no attraction it is easy to end the date. If we are hitting it off, I will try to get her back to my place.
/r/seduction12/12/11 04:43 AM
2

It takes a while to get good at it. When I first started it I was like a kid at a candy shop. I would look at the hot chicks profiles and spam them with the same message. My response rate was bad. Then you realize that the male to female ratio is about 2 to 1 and girls get massive amounts of messages. Most of the messages are lame though like "hey" or "sup". At this point I started reading the profiles and crafting personalized messages. The response rate was a bit higher. After that I decided t…
/r/seduction17/11/11 04:42 AM
117

Reminds me of something the dad from shitmydadsays "That woman was sexy...Out of your league? Son. Let women figure out why they won't screw you, don't do it for them."
/r/seduction26/10/11 03:47 AM
4

The guy was a dick for saying that to your date. He's also bad for business as I assume he has soured you on the place. That being said, if live music is one of the reasons you go there, and the band is halfway decent, you could have tossed them a buck or two.
/r/seduction25/10/11 03:09 PM
2

Good point about not going out in a big group. Usually when I go out in a group, the focus is on drinking and socializing with friends, not talking to women. I have also had success going out alone. If I'm with a group, at some point I'll break off and do my own thing.
/r/seduction19/10/11 07:44 PM
2

After reading the various game material, I have found that I could get further by trusting my own intuition and trying things out myself.
/r/seduction19/10/11 03:28 AM
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Excellent post. Love your idea to post less text, more audio and pictures.
/r/seduction14/10/11 05:50 AM
2

First things first, get your room ready. Clean it, wash your sheets, get a playlist set up, stuff like that. The amount of attention you give her depends on a few things : if you invited her, who she comes with, how well she is fitting in, if other guys are hitting on her. At some point you need some alone time. You might have her come to your room to watch a funny video you found or to see your fishtank, whatever.
/r/seduction11/10/11 06:20 PM
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