Sedditors, what single personal improvement has improved your seduction the most? I'll start.

OG_Brolaf · 2012-02-21T15:53:15+00:00

Eye contact. Everyone would tell me that I had really pretty blue eyes, but I would never look at anybody for longer than .5 seconds...

ColonelKurtzPhD · 2012-02-21T16:53:14+00:00

I have 2:

*Realizing what is now my motto: Make her comfortable in her own attraction.

People underestimate how much animal attraction there is between men and women. As long as you make her feel safe and comfortable with her own feelings about her attraction to you, the more she will feel like acting on them.

*The power of silence: Let her talk. The one talking is the one being validated!

motherducker · 2012-02-21T17:46:58+00:00

I would have to say taking up jiu jitsu. It's gotten me in shape, and in turned raised my testosterone and confidence.

Also, getting out of a 2.5 year relationship that had turned me into a punk bitch.

24rubikscube · 2012-02-21T18:16:39+00:00

Just going out. Everyone wants to learn PUA through the safety of their laptops so their egos never experience rejection or failures, even though rejection and failures is a gigantic part of learning PUA.

A week infield taught me what months of what PUA books/videos taught me. Then again I have a very positive, healthy mindset and good self-esteem, so I was able to learn this stuff very fast.

2012-02-21T16:46:17+00:00

Slow down, be loud.

glassuser · 2012-02-21T16:24:50+00:00

Losing a hundred pounds returned a lot of confidence. And, you know, it was all in my head any way. See, I gained the weight from improper diet management after a major injury. When my knee acts up again, I feel that lack of confidence come right back, even though I'm fairly trim and damn good looking. And, as you men know now, the way people usually treat you is based on the way you perceive yourself and how you act on that.

Karismatic · 2012-02-21T16:48:46+00:00

Passion. Having passion for at least a single thing gave me no only something to talk about but courage as well. When you have passion; you have conviction.

helpmeifyoucan · 2012-02-21T15:27:59+00:00

Being dumped by my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years, after that I approached girls with the intention of having sex with them.

liminal_spaces · 2012-02-21T22:32:50+00:00

POSTURE. Seriously - straighten your back and tilt your chin up just a little bit, and breathe with strength. It's been the best confidence booster so far, and has definitely helped me get over AA.

uneekfreek · 2012-02-22T00:17:06+00:00

I STOPPED FAPPING!! Seriously, this is the biggest factor in my new self confidence.

2012-02-21T19:03:09+00:00

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Fudgeworth · 2012-02-21T18:34:41+00:00

One would be how I set up first dates. I don't bother with dinner dates or movie dates. Movie dates are rather pointless and dinner dates are a waste of money.

For a first date I like to meet up with the girl at one of the bars near my place. I get the first round and if she is a decent person she will offer to get the second round. If we're having fun, I suggest that we bounce back to my place at some point.

bottlebob32 · 2012-02-21T18:36:36+00:00

Realising that I'm fucking awesome after a break up.

2012-02-21T21:10:45+00:00

Going in with the mentality that she has to impress you, not the other way around.

Thatsrugged · 2012-02-21T23:58:47+00:00

Not worrying about bringing friends along or about what they think when I go out with the intention to sarge. I used to be ruled by what others thought of me and it gave me huge self-confidence problems.

hasioker · 2012-02-21T15:16:43+00:00

For me - thing that changed a lot was ... reading books. Not only about seduction but all related topics like Sperm Wars, Red Queen or Comedy Writing Secrets. That gave me a lot of interesting topics to talk about. I find it way more challenging to pick up educated girls - like doing their PhD - than regular party sluts. But thats my personal taste :) Of course - only reading books- won't make you event avarage PUA. This shit isn't simple as clifton wrote :) But for me - that was my biggest personal improvement

gabriot · 2012-02-21T20:53:01+00:00

Becoming an atheist. Once I realized that this life is not something to take for granted and just coast by on, I started doing every action with the intent of experiencing life as close to as how I'd ideally want to experience it. In the process I have become somewhat of an outcome dependant person, but I'm fine with that because I revel in the moments where I did not meet a goal that I set for myself, and learn from them and keep improving, never settling for anything less than exactly what I want.

adamcognac · 2012-02-21T19:01:51+00:00

Getting in shape. I think more than physically, the positives manifest themselves through better posture and body language, and more confidence.

2012-02-21T23:12:15+00:00

Having sex. Showed me it wasn't some magical special thing but jsut a fun activity. I got a lot less needy and felt less pressured. After that things just seem to go a lot more smoothly.

bcktth · 2012-02-21T18:40:56+00:00

Appear the way you want to be appeared as.

This applies to both the inside and out. If I want to be viewed as someone who takes care of himself, has a lot to offer, and is a creative individual than wearing cargo shorts and a ratty tee while not going out for a 5 mile run isn't going to cut it.

You'll be amazed by this change alone in the way you feel and what good fortune will follow through.

speedstix · 2012-02-22T00:49:23+00:00

Randomly making small talk to anyone if im waiting around somewhere, line ups, the bus, anywhere really. Helped me break the ice easier with women too.

moehawk · 2012-02-21T14:37:30+00:00

I realized that you don't need to adapt to the game, but you need to adapt the game to you. Most of the stuff I read about canned material or PUA techniques didn't seem right. I'm terrible at cold approach, but that's how I am, I don't really care about day game, direct game, because the girls I want to date are kinda hipsterish and rather smart, and canned material, magic tricks and muscles shouldn't even matter.

The thing is I'm a natural, and have had around ten partners before I even knew about the game, and I thought books such as "Unlimited Power" could help me build a strong inner game, but as I read it I could only think "that's not who I want to be".

I have read multiple fields reports, archives, books, blogs about pick-up, body language, and I decided only to pick what's best for me and apply it to my game. I have only gamed 3 girls since, but I have around 100% success, so I guess it worked for me.

sambo_22 · 2012-02-21T21:53:22+00:00

I've had girls telling me how I have so much confidence. Last year I was in High School, and lemme tell you it feels good man.

Wavedasher · 2012-02-21T22:37:51+00:00

working out. improving my body greatly improved my self image.

buddychristatwork · 2012-02-21T23:10:48+00:00

so far, in recent history, r/nofap and reading No More Mr. Nice Guy have helped me immensely. I just have so much more energy and space in my life.

drumdance · 2012-02-21T23:58:58+00:00

Opening, period. Especially if I'm not feeling it. I've had so many nice surprises come from just saying hello.

Murrayskull · 2012-02-22T09:52:14+00:00

ATM? Realize that iv done something that almost nobody in my age did. in nepal i climbed over a col wich is 5'800 high in a fucking snowstorm... It was Hell...

WerkinAndDerpin · 2012-02-22T18:01:11+00:00

To OP:

What exactly did you do for your nutrition? I sorta just eat a shitload of whatever I feel like at random times and kinda want something more structured/healthy. There's just so much material online telling you to eat this way or that it's confusing.

lookiamapollo · 2012-02-28T00:59:07+00:00

Loving and accepting myself.

leSmoothOperator · 2012-02-21T16:29:23+00:00

Working out. Oh my god it makes a massive difference. I was at a party recently and began doing pull ups off a door frame while the party was winding down. I was led into a back room shortly after where people literally began tearing my clothes off.

smart_alec · 2012-02-22T18:37:21+00:00

Nutrition for sure.

2012-02-23T16:14:29+00:00

Working out. I do CrossFit 6 times a week with Olympic Lifting sessions before a CrossFit workout about 4 times a week. It has made me stronger, more confident, and also much more attractive.

Night-watcher · 2012-02-21T21:36:32+00:00

Breaking out of a long term relationship (5yrs). She was like my only thing and I was clingy to her. After I broke up, my mentality grew up a lot. Now, I don't trust any women, and I just look at them as a sexual material.

FAPSLOCK · 2012-02-21T17:57:07+00:00

Rohypnol -- rape drug

2012-02-24T00:04:12+00:00

Appearance stuff. Working out, wearing clothes that fit.

Shit like that makes girls, at the very least, be not embarassed to be seen talking to you or standing next to you.

I get blown out when I get myself blown out, but I don't get blown out in the first 10 seconds on appearance, and that goes a LOOOONG way.

DivineIntervention · 2012-02-21T13:04:55+00:00

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Title	Sedditors, what single personal improvement has improved your seduction the most? I'll start.
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Date	February 21, 2012 12:05 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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