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Completely agree with that insight, it's just tough to draw the line. 10th date I would definitely be pissed in that situation, but what about 3rd or 4th or 5th? What if you stop dating others after 2 but then start getting "needy" and blow it by the 3rd/4th/5th? My gut tells me you'll just kind of know based on that double standard u mentioned and how the relationship is progressing, but who knows!
/r/seduction24/09/18 06:16 PM
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Have been there before, feel for you man and this is one thing I've been grappling with lately... The balance between gaming other girls versus focusing/respecting just one. I'll start by saying I'm similar to u in that I prefer to be hanging out/sleeping with multiple girls while on the dating scene. Keeps the confidence up and abundance mentality is huge. But let's say u get 4-5-6 dates in with a girl that you really like and could see yourself dating, but you hadn't any "talk" yet? On one han…
/r/seduction24/09/18 05:13 PM
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I still can't tell if you're serious... You have "PUA" in your username man...
/r/seduction10/06/18 09:51 PM
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Just having a mature discussion with Twerkulator, he had some really good feedback. With all your comments on my thread, I'm starting to think u have a crush on me or something :P
/r/seduction10/06/18 09:37 PM
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No worries man, I appreciate the honest feedback although I come at it from a slightly different perspective. Matching on a dating app means she likes what you look like, not necessarily that she likes you - yet. So I like to have that chat to do two things: first, build some comfort by showing I'm able to hold a normal conversation, and second, to see whether the conversation flows well and that there's a bit of connection (and that she sounds cool). If you ask her out after a few messages and …
/r/seduction10/06/18 09:01 PM
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Damn man, whatever you're dealing with that's causing you to be this harsh and negative, I truly wish you the best with getting through it. As an introvert, I've used this "lame and gay back and forth" to get laid by dozens and dozens of women in just the last few years, but I guess if it's not the way you do it, it can't work at all. If you don't like it, give me some constructive feedback and a downvote. Anyway, on with my day. All the best
/r/seduction10/06/18 08:32 PM
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I want to help guys get better at using dating apps, I truly do. The easiest way for me to do that is to give specific examples and break down exactly what I'm saying and why - and the easiest way to do this is using video with a voice over. Typing all of it out and including screenshots would be a disaster. I totally get that people don't want to be bombarded with ads and shitty content, but if you watch the video you'll see that it's me spending 20 minutes analyzing a real conversation I had w…
/r/seduction10/06/18 07:56 PM
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Do u have the ability to take short breaks during the day? I've had a few coffee dates mid/late afternoon with girls that worked relatively close by
/r/seduction10/06/18 07:35 PM
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Unfortunately for me, I don't even have a product to sell even if I wanted to...
/r/seduction10/06/18 07:27 PM
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Gotta make the most of what's around you. For example, i'm close to an adult arcade, ping pong bar, or even just grabbing ice cream and walking by the water
/r/seduction04/06/18 01:28 PM
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I usually do 1st date coffee/tea, 2nd date drinks/something more exciting, 3rd date home cooked dinner/watch a movie at someones place
/r/seduction04/06/18 02:54 AM
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Before the home cooked dinner date I always do a full cleaning of my bathroom, kitchen/living area and room (cuz I know that's where we'll end up later on). Takes maybe an hour, sends a good message and it's also good motivation to clean my apartment once in a while lol
/r/seduction02/06/18 03:16 PM
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They love it, and the key is to play it off like it's no big deal. Act cool and you'll be naked in no time ;)
/r/seduction02/06/18 04:27 AM
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please do!
/r/seduction02/06/18 03:20 AM
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Great post, I usually save this for the 3rd date. Pro tip: set the table ahead of time (plates+cutlery) and take any piece of paper, cut it into two smaller pieces, fold each one and use both as a place card on each plate with your name on one and hers on the other. I usually write their name with a little smiley face next to it. I've never not had a girl absolutely love the place cards and it takes all of ten seconds
/r/seduction01/06/18 11:33 PM
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Sounds like it went well up until the kiss. Based on what u said, I'd recommend not admitting to a girl (Atleast on a first date) that u haven't kissed many girls. Date goes well, u secured the kiss, just play it cool and act like it's what u expected, wish her a great night and go from there. Girls don't want to hear or even sense that u aren't very experienced (for the most part)
/r/seduction01/06/18 05:17 PM
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Definitely - specifying "high quality" was very important in this case!
/r/seduction10/05/18 04:36 PM
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I actually don't see a big issue with your last text. Was it ideal? Probably not, but I don't think it was that bad to get the "goodnight" part in and considering how well it all went, I don't think that made any difference. Re paying, I disagree with u/bingbomgomg. It's completely ok to let a girl pay for a date, although I don't let it happen on the 1st one. But letting her pay for a 2nd or 3rd is completely fine and means she is investing more of her resources into you - this is a good thing.…
/r/seduction07/05/18 02:23 AM
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I think there are two things to consider: first is live your life the way you normally do, and second, the mystery may actually be more effective than the videos. Let me go deeper. With the first thought, you should behave like you normally would - basically, be yourself. Do you normally post snap videos when you're out at clubs? If so, do it. It's your life. Second, you're considering using the videos for social proof. Fair consideration, but I actually think leaving that stuff out and having i…
/r/seduction28/04/18 02:46 AM
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"High quality women like you. They just do not like a sad, depressed, complaining version of you." That line is absolute gold, and a really great reminder when going through a rough patch. Great read/post!
/r/seduction26/04/18 10:22 PM
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Yup, imagine how much time and energy you would've spent guessing otherwise. It's for the best, good on u man
/r/seduction26/04/18 12:23 AM
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Great to hear man. You'll have your answer soon and your life will move on, either with or without her. Keep me posted!
/r/seduction25/04/18 05:35 AM
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Tell her u don't do the "just friends" thing and hold a strong frame when u say it. That is, unless she means fwb and a fwb situation is something u want. If it is, great, everyone's happy. If you're only looking to date, tell her that. Bottom line, be honest about what u want. A) she will respect u more for it, and b) u will have a better chance at getting what u want and c) if your interests aren't aligned, better to figure it out asap rather than trying to win her over for weeks without any s…
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:52 AM
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Good read, I personally prefer to just start with a very specific ask though. For example, once you've built up some comfort/interest from her, on a Weds or Thurs go with "Are u free Saturday night? I'm thinking drinks around 9pm". Very specific, so she can easily decide on a yes or no. If she's into u, she now knows the exact date/time and should know if she's free or not. Most responses I get are either a direct "ya sure that sounds fun blah blah" or a "that doesn't work, but how about Sunday …
/r/seduction25/04/18 03:43 AM
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Great post and very well said. I was honestly thinking about this on my way to the office today...the fact that some guys report on what works for them, and it really does, but how it is totally not how I operate nor would it come across as genuine/sincere if I did. There are the basic principles for success (build your confidence, etc.) and ways to do that, but when it comes to the implementation of "game", it really comes down to figuring out who you are, what you're looking for and how to get…
/r/seduction17/04/18 06:32 PM
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I wouldn't call this bad execution... U found out the girl has sex with multiple partners without protection and decided against it. That's just u making a responsible choice. Don't beat yourself up over this scenario, u probably made the right choice for u in the long run and will have other opportunities
/r/seduction15/04/18 02:30 PM
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Oh man, please don't use those lines ever again haha. You need to escalate things on your terms, unless she's just all over u the second u get her home. There are a million ways to do this, but I'll cover 2 because I have some stuff to get to. If u know it's going to happen, which u should because she just came back to your place, i prefer to close my door, stare her down while she's just standing there (this may sound creepy but it works - stare at her for just a few seconds really deeply with …
/r/seduction15/04/18 02:25 PM
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Gotcha, awesome man
/r/seduction14/04/18 09:13 PM
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Love it...whats the conversion rate on the kiss? Not my style to go for it that early but if it ain't broke, don't fix it!
/r/seduction14/04/18 07:12 PM
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Good read and even better performance man, sounds like u stayed on point throughout a long night, through multiple venues and with plenty of competition. Seems like your head is in the right place and couldn't agree more with your last paragraph on social momentum. Keep it up!
/r/seduction14/04/18 06:41 PM
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Take it all as a learning experience. It sounds like u have the tools, u just need more reps and to put them all together. Spend some time at a quieter bar/club and work on your approaches there, especially if you're a good communicator. And ya wait for those IOI's on the dance floor to up your conversions - if they're making eye contact/smiling, assume attraction every time. you'll be wrong sometimes, but at least you'll go home knowing u gave every chance a good shot. Lastly, note some of thes…
/r/seduction14/04/18 06:34 PM
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Two recommendations for turning side-by-side dancing into one-on-one dancing: First is to strike up a conversation, usually with an observational comment like "this dance floor is packed!" or " hey how's your night going?". Or u can go with the classic "hey, my name's X, what's yours?". This will get them facing u, u can throw a few comments back and forth then start moving closer together and either continue talking or escalate into dancing or both. Second, the hand or upper waist grab. This is…
/r/seduction14/04/18 05:14 PM
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Gonna start by saying take everything I recommend with a grain of salt because I am by no means a good dancer, but I have done quite well picking up on the dance floor. First, good on you for going out there alone. It's only your second time so don't beat yourself up, just think about the experience and lessons u can take from this and keep building. Second, and I'm assuming this is one of your typical clubs with loud music and a dance floor, I think dancing should be used more as a tool to pick…
/r/seduction14/04/18 05:06 PM
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Man good on you for putting yourself out there and testing some strategies. Honestly, if this was your first time going to a bar and approaching and you did 5 of them, consider that a win. Ok on to some feedback. Like many have said in here, you're going from 0 to 100 way too fast. First, realize u aren't going to be perfect right away, and second, keep in mind u are trying these strategies out and will adapt them as you learn. I'm going to cover each approach individually here. 1st approach: he…
/r/seduction14/04/18 02:40 PM
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This may not be the answer you're looking for, but take your buddy out for a beer or two and really pick his brain on how he does what he does with all the dirty details. I'm sure if you're honest about your situation like you have been here, he'd respect the fact that you're being vulnerable and coming to him for help...or he'll think you're crazy. Either way, sounds like a good source of info right next door.
/r/seduction12/04/18 11:51 PM
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Not all email lists are shady, I've definitely signed up to my fair share if the free ticket item looks valuable and you trust the source. You can also unsubscribe from the emails soon after. That being said, most of the free stuff gives you just enough to peak your interest and lead into their sale pitch. But really up to you, some can be worth it
/r/seduction09/04/18 03:26 PM
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So they can follow up with email campaigns, usually leading to a product they're trying to sell
/r/seduction09/04/18 12:42 PM
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This really depends on a few things: If you're still in a committed relationship and want to stay in it, then stop messaging her. Period. End of story. If you're not happy with your current situation, then maybe you need to end the relationship and explore her as a more serious opportunity. Either way, you are too into this girl so even if you were single, this could explain her hot and cold behaviour - she senses some of that "Driving me crazy" so you need to tone it down
/r/seduction08/04/18 06:42 PM
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First question: don't snap back any more than they need to know you're a real person to get on the date. A good way to get out of the snap exchange is if they send a good snap, respond with a message - either in the snapchat chat or with a text. If you don't want to play the snap back and forth game (which you shouldn't), then just don't. Second question - send her a text, you have nothing to lose. If she's interested she'll respond, if she doesn't, no biggie. Open with a casual hello type messa…
/r/seduction08/04/18 06:37 PM
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Start by approaching/talking to random people you are more comfortable with - people in elevators, coffee barista, grocery store checkout person, etc. Just have casual, no-pressure convos like those and you'll slowly feel more confident talking to randoms. Then continue building to more women, including ones you find attractive
/r/seduction08/04/18 06:33 PM
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The factors could have very well played a role, but you'll never know. So don't beat yourself up about it. In terms of improvements, I'd suggest being more outcome independent. You tried, you played it right and made a move and it didn't work out. Recover mentally and move on - think of the opportunities you may have missed if you didn't get so caught up in the "freaking model" she was making out with :P Just sayin
/r/seduction08/04/18 04:30 PM
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Great date, great analysis, great read. One question/suggestion would be when you said "I'd go for a kiss right now", did you? Or was the first kiss once you got to the car? Looks like you really have your shit together, another comment is that you should expect all your dates to go great - so have a plan in place for when they do. In this scenario, you were having a great time with multiple location switches, which is awesome, so the default next step should be to invite her over (which you ult…
/r/seduction08/04/18 04:22 PM
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Not trying to sound rude because I want to help you 100%, but your focus is all wrong here man. Take one month and focus on you - stop worrying what "women want", or what you think they want, stop thinking about an "imagined minimum bar", stop thinking about everyone elses achievements, stop giving a fuck about which women would like a guy who "can't pull his weight". I challenge you to spend one month (or heck, just start with 2 weeks) making yourself better in whatever way makes YOU the happie…
/r/seduction08/04/18 02:55 PM
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Then I explain that I'm in my 30s and can't pull my weight in life, and yet I still get suggestions to approach anyway. I think the concept makes some sense--trying can't hurt--the problem is the reality of it. How am I going to go from meeting some chick to getting a date and getting some action--all of these steps--with the kind of life and disability I have? Does anyone look at the odds? This is what really stuck out to me - there is some awesome advice in this thread already, but I'll add my…
/r/seduction07/04/18 03:09 PM
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oops, haha forgot to check username. But really appreciate it!
/r/seduction31/03/18 05:19 PM
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Yup, sometimes you gotta hear it from someone else to make it more "real". all the best good sir!
/r/seduction31/03/18 04:07 PM
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Long story short, treat 9s/10s THE EXACT SAME and you will be fine. Think of it like this: almost every other guy is just as intimidated as you are by these 9s and 10s, so guess what? They generally don't get approached as much and when they do, the approaches aren't that great because of how nervous a lot of the guys are. What does this mean? It's actually easier to approach them because guys tend to try and overdue it with them. If you use your normal, confident approaches just like you would …
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:57 PM
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She just might not be comfortable having sex with you right away. Don't look at it as a bad thing, she clearly wants to keep hanging out. One strategy could be that the next time you hang out, switch things up and pull back a bit. Keep the kissing to a minimum and don't make any moves towards sex. It will throw her for a loop, like "why isn't he trying to sleep with me? Does he not like me as much?" Remember to use push/pull at the right times, that shit works. Best of luck
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:51 PM
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If it's any consolation, I'm 27 and still overthink things all the damn time. I recognized it YEARS ago, have done quite well for myself in the female department and yet still find myself overthinking tons of meaningless details. What's helped the most so far? Meditation. I try to do it for 15-20 minutes every day or two and it helps a lot. I still overthink things (and probably will for a while), but I recognize it quicker now and don't let it ruin my day. Also, building confidence. The more co…
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:46 PM
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My pleasure, looks like u have a great head on your shoulders so either you'll turn this one around, or there's always other fish in the pond. Best of luck
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:14 PM
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No worries, best of luck
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:12 PM
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Oh man... I know it isn't ideal but u gotta reduce that number. 4-5 times a week is crazy, especially at the very beginning, so it's no surprise u caught the feels. Good on u for recognizing though
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:11 PM
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Out of the multiple serious relationships, only one could be considered a "party girl" and it happened to be the shortest lol. She was notably self conscious about her looks and was the least trusting in me (despite me being faithful the whole time). That being said, spend more time with her before fully pegging her into a category, no point rushing into anything especially if she's a good time
/r/seduction31/03/18 03:02 AM
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How many times a week for these 2 months? For first few months, I'd suggest no more than once, maybe twice a week. Otherwise things can move really quick whereas u wanna try and keep your cool. This sounds like it still has some life to it though. Slow it down a bit (suggest a date once a week), don't be as quick to respond and if u haven't discussed being exclusive or anything like that, keep chatting up other girls and going on dates. Gotta reduce those feels!
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:33 AM
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My first thought was if she was making out with u within 30 minutes and slept with u on the first date, there's no way her count is 1-3...but what do I know. This is totally up to u man, u don't have to get exclusive after 1-2 dates. So similar to the other post, I'd suggest u keep hanging out with her if u enjoy it, keep dating around and if u think (after getting to know her better) she's a quality girl to date, then make that decision then. No need to drop all other girls and go all in after …
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:28 AM
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Gonna be brutally honest here (u asked for it :p), u were way too passive, didn't escalate or push a date quick enough and use a few too many smiley faces. First tip: don't start off guessing whether she is or isn't interested - assume she is and act accordingly. Assume she wants to go on a date with you. Use texting to build some more rapport but mainly to set up that date. If it doesn't happen or she isn't interested, it will be clear very quickly, which is what u want. Remember, you're better…
/r/seduction31/03/18 02:14 AM
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Take 2 days off from messaging her and start chatting with other girls/get other girls numbers if you don't have any others on the go right now. You're too into it and girls have a 6th sense about that stuff. Go out with the guys, or hit up a park/mall, or download an app and start swiping.
/r/seduction29/03/18 01:53 PM
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"I can be very self-conscious and insecure at times though. Peppered with anxiety" This is what stood out to me - I don't think your problem is that you don't know how to flirt, it's that you lack confidence. It isn't "being flirty" that draws a guy in the most, necessarily. If you are confident and easy to talk to, a guy will be drawn to that whether or not you're being flirty. And consider this: as a female, you don't have to do as much chasing (in most cases - this is just the reality of the …
/r/seduction29/03/18 01:50 PM
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agreed there's a difference, it's just the only relatable scenario i could think of. and ya, at that point if you play the flirty card well it should be able to keep the mood going in the right way
/r/seduction20/03/18 04:14 AM
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this is absolutely enough to tell that she wants you - ask her out and/or her number asap!
/r/seduction19/03/18 11:59 PM
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I haven't had the "you must think I'm a slut" line, but have had the "i'm not going to sleep with you tonight" line many many times. I think there's a bit of a difference, but because the latter is the only one I can relate to, I'll let you know the 2 ways I've dealt with it and you can decide whether it may or may not be worth using. First way is with sarcasm/flirting, the good ol "who said i wanted to sleep with u?" or "i'm still not sure about u either". these have to be said in the right jok…
/r/seduction19/03/18 11:56 PM
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Been through #2 as well, and after reading how you described it, couldn't help but notice the similarities between that and the book "challenger sale" which is about improving your technique as a salesman to close more deals. Not sure if anyone here has read it but thought it was worth the mention, especially the similarities between handling those kinds of discussions with the opposite sex and sales in business
/r/seduction06/03/18 10:15 PM
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I think it's good and bad - on one hand, yes women are getting so much attention and maybe that leads to some laziness. But on the other, it's easier to stand out as a "quality guy" from the crowd if you're not just another guy with a lame pickup line, selfies on your profile and are actually willing to approach in person.
/r/seduction06/03/18 10:06 PM
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Not sure if I agree with this - because of social media/apps, it's now easier than ever to get dates. Especially for women. So I'd argue it's easier for girls to date, have sex, etc. then ever. This is good if you want those things, but as mentioned in other comments, can also skew their mentalities/self worth and make it hard to commit. This in turn skews guys chances who aren't near the top of the totem pole. From guys, I do think it's more of "the rich get richer" and it takes more effort for…
/r/seduction06/03/18 06:59 PM
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Ya, you should definitely cut down/cut off contact here. I think a big element is the distance, which often goes overlooked. This is a girl you barely ever see, so when you don't here from her, you think the worst - she's out partying, talking to guys, etc. In reality, she's just another girl like the ones you're talking to in your city. Sure, she's probably doing some partying/dating/etc., but she also has bad days, family events, nights in and gets frustrated with guys too. The danger of relyi…
/r/seduction15/02/18 03:51 PM
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Sounds like you need more time, but I'm also curious to hear about what you've been doing for the last 3 weeks? As important as time is what you're doing in that time - are u at least being somewhat productive, working out etc. Or just wallowing in pity all day? You're allowed to wallow for a bit but it gets to a point where you need to get active. Also, have you considered a vacation/trip to get away from all the reminders of her? If interested, I wrote a blog post on the 3.5 steps to getting o…
/r/seduction28/10/17 01:50 PM
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Dance floor game is helpful but not absolutely necessary. What I'd recommend is looking up some basic dance floor moves online just so you can feel at least a little comfortable when you're there, but any time you start dancing with a girl or she suggests it, go for a few minutes, use the standard stuff you've learned, then lead her AWAY from the dance floor. Not only does leading her anywhere benefit you, but you're also avoiding the dance floor, which you're not your most confident in anyway. …
/r/seduction27/10/17 02:30 PM
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Glad you liked it. Definitely agree with point #1, breakups get "easier" once you've been through a few. While breakups after a LTR are still difficult emotionally, I find that knowing what the whole breakup process feels like is help in and of itself. With #2, I see where you're coming from and agree that there can be a friendship moving forward. As you mentioned, it's important to cut them out of the question until you're in a position to have a healthy friendship with them. What I meant by mi…
/r/seduction06/10/17 04:10 PM
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Man, you just need to ask her out. Simple as that. "Do you wanna go for drinks one night?" or a coffee or whatever. Letting this continue on for weeks is nuts, ask and you will have your answer!
/r/seduction04/10/17 01:51 PM
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haha fair, Tinder is the place to experiment. Just keep in mind once you say that, she'll probably respond with something like "oh ya? and what's that?" to which you'll have to respond to...best of luck ;)
/r/seduction03/10/17 03:13 AM
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a) I find it hilarious that you set yourself up for this without thinking out the second half haha b) depends, are you looking to go on some dates and maybe get something serious, or want a ONS or FWB? c) if something more casual or a ONS, I'd go with something like "I left out what I want to do after the crappy movie ends" d) if you're trying to date the girl, I'd figure a way out of this that isn't sexual, otherwise you might scare her away.
/r/seduction03/10/17 03:09 AM
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Ya it definitely wasn't forceful, more of a greeting which led into the convo that ensued
/r/seduction02/10/17 07:03 PM
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Exactly. Sure, you may not ever see them again, but getting their number does two things: first, it shows them that you're willing to follow up and/or see them again, and second, you never know where you or her will end up in a few weeks/months/years. I just moved to a new city yesterday and set up drinks with a girl I haven't seen in over 2 years because we slept together one night when she was visiting a completely different city and we kept in touch (rarely, but still)
/r/seduction02/10/17 05:08 PM
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hectic few days as I move but will get to it soon!
/r/seduction02/10/17 02:59 PM
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That's fair, although in the last few years I've started getting numbers of girls I'm very attracted to anyway. you never know wht could happen down the road if one of you is travelling to the others home town
/r/seduction01/10/17 05:34 PM
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Great advice that I experienced last night in a slightly different capacity. Was with 2 other guy friends at a bar and there were these 2 girl friends of one of the guys that wouldn't leave us alone - despite us clearly not being very interested. A group of 3 girls was making its way by, and I made eye contact with the last girl. She could tell right away I was in a tough spot and I mouthed "save me" - although she was so on-point about the situation that I don't even think she needed me to say …
/r/seduction01/10/17 05:33 PM
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I had two primary thoughts when reading this. First, it sounds like you're doing a great job and if things are going that well, it just comes down to making the move (kissing her) at the right time and place. As you do it more, you'll know when that good timing is. Second, you don't have to make out with every girl, and/or you can move them away from the party to a more private area. You said you gamed 5 girls pretty well, did you get their numbers? If so, set up a date and make a move then. If …
/r/seduction30/09/17 10:11 PM
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Much appreciated!
/r/seduction29/09/17 06:15 PM
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I think you're over-thinking this a bit, and you don't have to approach in just one place. If you see a cute girl on campus, go approach (just don't do it to every girl, as you mentioned). If you're shopping and see a girl you want to talk to, do it. Implement it as a part of your every day life and it will feel more natural
/r/seduction29/09/17 05:54 PM
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Seeing someone every day, especially at the beginning, is unrealistic and will chase a lot of girls away unless they're dying for a relationship asap. Don't expect that. A good solution to this is have many girls "on the go" at once, so you can still be spending your time with girls multiple times a week. It will also create an abundance mentality and you won't be so hung up on one girl. My guess is you're probably coming across as desperate to a lot of these girls, which they can sense (6th sen…
/r/seduction29/09/17 02:06 PM
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Keep the texting/messaging very brief, mostly just to setting up dates and light flirting. The less you talk about outside of a date, the more you'l have to discuss when you're together. Also as mentioned, go to places where you're actively doing something so you don't have to rely on conversation as much. Mini putting, movie, shopping mall, etc.
/r/seduction29/09/17 02:03 PM
12

Favorites are "Hey I'm G-Dalf, what's your name?" or "It's rude to stare and not come introduce yourself you know". Second one is more situational, first one can be used anywhere and everywhere
/r/seduction29/09/17 02:01 PM
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I think it's a combo of a lot of women being more attracted to "older, more mature" men and being more confident and experienced. Even at 26, I am a lot more confident than I was in my early twenties, and you also develop more of a DNGAF attitude. women are attracted to both of those qualities. Also, as you get older, you achieve more and tend to have a higher social status - for example, maybe you're a doctor or successful entrepreneur or whatever. Much more impressive than being an undergrad.
/r/seduction29/09/17 01:59 PM
1

Nice man, good on you for getting out there. What's most important is to learn from what you did well or can improve on, and use that for the next time. You're right, doing it more will only help with comfort and confidence!
/r/seduction27/09/17 09:07 PM
2

Good luck brother, report back
/r/seduction26/09/17 09:12 PM
2

It's a combo of finding the right girl who's open to a fwb situation, and being someone she is comfortable in that situation with. So not only does she also have to be looking for a fwb situation as well, she has to a) enjoy it (the sex) and b) enjoy (and trust) you. That's why I'm advising you to make things feel more natural and less forced with this girl. Even if she likes sex and doesn't want anything serious, she may not feel comfortable if she feels like you're just in it for the sex and s…
/r/seduction25/09/17 08:19 PM
2

For sure, you just have to be honest about it. Also, don't be so upset about the process. Sure it's one extra step to go through before getting the kill, but I've had a ton of awesome sex and casual relationships with girls who wouldn't sleep with me the first time we met. Waiting that extra step will likely be worth it in the long run
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:51 PM
2

No problem, best of luck. and do your best to make the transition back to your place as natural as possible, don't want it feeling forced or she'll see through it (although she probably is okay with it either way lol)
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:26 PM
2

Man, I feel your pain. But sadly, you need to accept that this isn't the last time a scenario like this will happen. We've all been there, and it doesn't make logical sense, but some women will refuse to sleep with you (or blow you) on the first date. Sounds like you did a good job of escalating, but it's not worth getting frustrated about because there isn't much more you could have done. Based on what she was saying, you should be good to go next time at her place, so be excited about that and…
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:12 PM
2

Unfortunately, sometimes you have to jump through a hoop or two in situations like these. Some girls won't come right over because it's too slutty to just go over and bang, but if they meet you for a drink, or coffee, or walk in the park, then go over and bang it's all good. I would recommend either suggesting something to do at your place that isn't something sexual like skinny dipping, such as to watch a movie or cook dinner, or sucking it up and going for drinks or a coffee or something. Heck…
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:02 PM
2

Ask her out and/or for her number if you don't have it already. She's the only one who knows the answer so have to make a move to find out
/r/seduction25/09/17 06:39 PM
16

I think you're over-thinking this a bit. It sounds like every aspect of your life is going great, why not just be happy with that? Most of us are raised with the belief that you need to go to school, get a good job then settle down with a family. But that's not everyones ideal life, or some people might not want that right away. That's the kicker - you may just not be ready to find someone serious "right now". So don't rush it, enjoy your life and you'll figure out something more serious when th…
/r/seduction22/09/17 05:02 PM
3

8-9 hours a day? That's completely insane man, you need to drastically reduce it. Also hearing you say "it's so hard to find anything interesting to do without her" is a major concern. You need to start building your own life away from her: hit the gym, play sports, find a good group of guy friends, start new hobbies, anything. If you continue the way things are, eventually one of you will want to move on and it will come crumbling down. Trust me, you need to work on your life away from girls an…
/r/seduction21/09/17 06:00 PM
1

If it's been a few days, check in on how things are going, any exciting plans coming up and sprinkle in some funny shit and/or teasing where u can.
/r/seduction20/09/17 09:11 PM
3

Ya, especially if you intend on seeing her again, you need to stay in touch. This doesn't mean texting her every day, but once in a while to at least keep your name in her head in between dates.
/r/seduction20/09/17 08:28 PM
2

Text is 100% acceptable, and she's clearly into you to begin with. Best of luck
/r/seduction20/09/17 06:32 PM
2

Go to events for those hobbies, where you're more likely to meet people/girls who are also into them. Even if there aren't girls at the "fpv drone racing event", you may meet guys who know single girls that aren't party girls, or develop a more fitting social circle. You need to switch up who you're hanging out with to fit your style a little more
/r/seduction20/09/17 02:21 PM
1

You should move on. She's being very flakey and as mentioned below, her "exam" might be bullshit. Either way, you shouldn't put your life on hold for a girl who can't commit to you. Move on, start gaming other girls and if she's interested, she'll make it clear in the future. After two months the word love shouldn't even come up anyway
/r/seduction20/09/17 02:06 PM
1

Depends - if you're looking for something romantic with them, move on. Either they're telling the truth and you don't have to waste your time, or they're shit testing you and will come back when they see that they haven't phased you
/r/seduction20/09/17 02:03 PM
3

Are you an interesting person? Are you passionate about your program/hobbies/sports/etc? Step one is lead an interesting life, because it will come across in your conversations/actions. Step two is develop some confidence, because I'm guessing some of your confusion and lack of confidence is being conveyed to girls you talk to and they can sense that shit. Do affirmations and read up on other ways to build confidence, there are tons of articles online. Work on those two to start
/r/seduction20/09/17 02:02 PM
2

Might be worth one more shot, depending on how the convo goes. I'd ask her to join if she wants to come alone, but if she doesn't and/or suggests bringing other people, tell her you're not interested and move on
/r/seduction20/09/17 01:51 PM
2

Sounds kosher to me, but it's mostly about your own morals. If you're not lying to or misleading them and can sleep at night then keep having fun
/r/seduction19/09/17 12:37 PM
2

Find a more social group of people who like doing what you do. Your flatmates are more tame, so it seems like you need to find a different crowd. Keep an eye out for groups of people who go out more, or people you see consistently at bars/clubs, or make friends in your classes and see what they're up to on the weekends. You're 3 days in, plenty of time to figure everything out
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:53 AM
2

Start with situations where you'll be more comfortable and slowly improve from there. For example, think of an indirect opener like "hey, could you point me in the direction of the library please?" and use it on a guy or two. This way it's just an honest question and the guy isn't gonna think you're trying to pick him up. Once you've done that a few times, start using it on girls, or think of other lines that could fit. Come off as casual as you can and you'll eventually become more comfortable …
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:49 AM
1

Ghost them. If they message you and you want to respond then go ahead, but generally speaking, and some people might disagree with this, if you want to really improve your game and get with lots of girls, you shouldn't have the time to have girl friends. Why? Because you're too busy focusing on business/work/school, your hobbies, exercising/sports, hanging out with your guy friends and hitting on girls who have bang potential. If you're doing all of those things, you shouldn't have time for much…
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:45 AM
2

Still depends - do you call them names (babe, etc.), do a lot of hand holding, introduce them to friends/family? That kind of stuff may be leading them on a bit, but again, if exclusivity hasn't come up then I'd say you don't really owe them anything
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:42 AM
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I think this would be awesome. I suggest we do a field report Sunday or Monday, because those are right after the more "popular" nights out (Friday/Saturday). Otherwise I think those are all great ideas
/r/seduction18/09/17 11:01 PM
2

You need to hold that exact same mindset at all times. When you're messaging multiple girls, you're investing less in each one because you have the mentality of abundance - lots of options in terms of women. All you need to do is carry that on at all times. No matter where you are or what you're doing, you have multiple women at your disposable, even if it's just through messaging. That mentality will be conveyed in real life just as easily. One tip is to do some affirmations and reminders to yo…
/r/seduction18/09/17 10:57 PM
2

The most technical way of looking at it is if you've discussed monogamy and both parties understand it is a monogamous relationship, then you would be cheating if you slept with other women. Considering you haven't talked about it, I would say you're okay. That being said, you may want to steer clear of acting overly "boyfriendy" with one/many of them and/or leading them to believe they're heading toward a monogamous relationship, unless you're planning on it with one of them
/r/seduction18/09/17 10:52 PM
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I think you make a good point, and I also think that both what you and the OP said can be combined to really send the ultimate message: that women do have more options than men, you need to limit your "mistakes", but that at the end of the day, mistakes are only what people make them out to be and a confident, social guy can out-maneuver traditional "mistakes". We aren't all perfect, and even guys with great game can do things that a girl might not be thrilled about. But like you said, if you ar…
/r/seduction18/09/17 10:49 PM
2

Exactly. Something quick like "what? I have no idea what you're talking about" and then go radio silent for a few weeks at least. Let her mind make of it what she will, and you will be better off for it in the long run
/r/seduction18/09/17 10:34 PM
2

Either do what u/spinplates said above, or because you left the card blank, pretend it wasn't you and then stop responding to her. If no one else knows, you'll get away with it no problem
/r/seduction18/09/17 10:15 PM
1

The problem here is that your becoming "friends" in the first place. With a few exceptions, any time you start talking to or hanging out with a girl that you are attracted to, it should be to flirt and ultimately hook up with her. Make it clear early on with your actions and words, go on dates and use physical (Consensual) contact. The second they say friendship, stop and move on. Once they think of you as a friend, odds are your chances of hooking up are slim and you're better off improving wit…
/r/seduction18/09/17 10:12 PM
1

My pleasure, let us know how it goes
/r/seduction17/09/17 12:04 AM
1

My ideal week, while working full time and not doing crazy hours, would include 1-2 dates (at night), one big night out (usually Saturday nights), 1-2 sports (I usually play in at least one men's league so once per week), and maybe another night more casual with friends. The rest is up to you depending on how much you like going out or how introverted you are. I prefer to keep at least 1-2 nghts per week to myself. there's no hard rule, it's your life!
/r/seduction16/09/17 11:56 PM
2

If you're attractive, confident and interesting to talk to, I'd want to pursue you in almost any setting. Just be yourself, introduce yourself to new people and don't be shy if things are going well to suggest grabbing a drink or coffee with them sometime to "talk more about X". Some guys might be hesitant to go for a number in that type of setting, so give them a little hint to help out
/r/seduction16/09/17 11:52 PM
1

This sounds like a confidence thing. I was very similar (focused on sports and computer games until university), but was always tall and grew out of the acne and put on some muscle. You need to work on your mindset to have it match your body. Personally, it took a while for my World of Warcraft playing, acne prone self to realize that I was now a tall, attractive, high value male (heck even if you aren't, you should learn to act that way). Once I did and acted accordingly (confident, NOT cocky),…
/r/seduction16/09/17 10:01 PM
2

Awesome, lemme know how it goes
/r/seduction16/09/17 09:49 PM
2

If I'm looking for something serious with the girl, I usually (75+% of the time) either message them after/the next morning, and/or tell them to let me know that they got home safely. It just always felt like the right thing to do and worked well, so I never stopped. And it shows them you are probably good dating material. That being said, different things work for different people. When it comes to longer convos over text, I try to keep it to a minimum until at least a date or two goes by, that…
/r/seduction16/09/17 09:47 PM
1

How many dates did you go on? Don't want to bust your bubble here, but the way she broke it off made it sound like she wasn't interested. I'd would focus on improving your game, getting out to more social events and meeting someone new. That being said, I don't know how your dates went so maybe she would be down for something casual, but only you have enough info to know that
/r/seduction16/09/17 09:38 PM
9

That's a great ability to have man, I'm jealous. What you should do is once they've come to dance with you or you've pulled them over (which you should do if you've been eye-fucked a few times), take her by the hand and pull her off the dance floor to either a private area to chat, or to grab a drink at the bar. There may be the odd girl that you can just grind hardcore with and slowly escalate to making out, but most it's prob best to switch locations and start building comfort off the dance fl…
/r/seduction16/09/17 09:31 PM
1

You did a decent number of approaches and it sounds like you've done some good analysis - good on you. Here's the most important part: learn from it. Think through a few of those approaches from start to finish, try and remember how/when things went sour, and adapt. Were you too loud? No problem, next time you'll keep your voice down a bit, but continue to speak confidently. Were you too childish? Next time, use an opener or first topic of conversation that's a little more mature. learn and adap…
/r/seduction16/09/17 09:27 PM
1

Love this, and prep just like it can be done for so many other scenarios too. Eg. have a line or two for when you wanna ask a girl to come over, or to move to a different location, etc. You'll be way more comfortable knowing you have these "tools" in your toolbox
/r/seduction14/09/17 05:05 PM
2

Do it. Don't think, don't let the discomfort settle in, just go do it. Go ask that friend to hang out, even say "I'm going to kiss you" and the second you walk in or she does, kiss her. The more you do it, the more comfortable and natural it'll be for you. You won't get over the fear by talking it out or writing about it, I dare you to go kiss that friend asap. Note: make sure it's consensual and don't be rough or forceful about it, but it sounds like if you made a move she wouldn't back away.
/r/seduction14/09/17 04:57 PM
8

It's a balance of who do I like more, who do I have the best chance of sleeping with (if I'm not already, or if I have with one but not another), and who is closest (#lazy). For example, tonight I have to be downtown for an event and i don't live downtown, so I have plans to meet up with a FWB who lives downtown. Not only do I know I'm gonna sleep with her, but my event is a 10 minute walk from her place. Easy choice.
/r/seduction14/09/17 04:54 PM
11

Over thinking it haha, treat it like any other date. It's just about logistics. I would say walk, because it allows you to have an extra drink or two if you want and gives her an excuse to come over ("do you want to come for another drink at my place? sure I'll take a ride"). Or she may even offer you a ride home after, which could lead to a goodnight kiss. Or you may go your separate ways after the bar and have a nice stroll home by yourself to think about what you did well or what you can impr…
/r/seduction14/09/17 04:51 PM
4

Any time I have a good first date, I like to at least mention wanting a second one within the next day or two to make your intentions clear (ie. that you enjoyed the date and want to see her again). You don't have to set it in stone right that second, but float the idea and you'll quickly see how she feels about it. If there wasn't much kino on the first date (which is fine, it happens), make sure the second date is more conducive to it. Sounds like the first date went well, but maybe you were h…
/r/seduction14/09/17 04:48 PM
2

Just ask her for drinks, ignore everything else. Seems like she is shit-testing you over text, but if things went well in person, just suggest drinks Friday and see what she says. Don't waste too much time in back and forth over text
/r/seduction14/09/17 02:47 PM
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This is the answer, hit the nail on the head. No one should have enough time or put in this much effort to analyzing memes and social activity of someone else. You need to create a busy and enjoyable life for yourself, not be looking at others. Is your scheduled filled with cool things? Do you exercise at least 2 times a week? Are you talking to multiple girls? Are you working on a side hustle? If your answer is no to most/any of those, then start doing them asap
/r/seduction14/09/17 02:41 PM
2

Awesoke, sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and to be honest, you need to forgive yourself and focus on moving forward. We've all had overly drunken nights where shit hits the fan, if the worst thing you've done in a while is be a little too aggressive verbally, then chalk that up to being a confident guy with a few too many in him, don't make the same mistake and focus on improving for next time. Simple as that! Fingers crossed for u on this one but my bet is she'll want to meet…
/r/seduction13/09/17 10:58 PM
2

this is most likely not enough information for us to go off of, so I'll give more general advice. Make the convo about them, seem genuinely interested but don't get too intrusive. I'm assuming that maybe the questions you are asking may be too personal, and make sure your eye contact is casual and confident. Take yourself through the last conversation you had with someone and maybe spell it out in some detail here so we can help you out a bit more, and watch some tv shows/movies of confident, in…
/r/seduction13/09/17 07:30 PM
4

I agree in a sense, but don't think you need to move on just yet. In regards to your initial questions, if/how you apologize really depends on the situation, so I'll give my advice catered to yours. Should you apologize? Yes, especially since you said you felt like a dick and you sound like a good person. Hopefully it was sincere and it sounds like it was, especially since she laughed it off. Good on you. Here's the key (imo): when you do something stupid, you don't have much control over whethe…
/r/seduction13/09/17 07:20 PM
1

Awesome, thanks. I guess I should have mentioned I don't actually want to fight anyone haha, but I will look into a used bag for sure
/r/seduction07/09/17 05:56 PM
1

Sounds like your off to a good start, especially with the pre-drinks at your place. One great recommendation I read about is to host dinner parties, invite a few friends, and have them invite some of their (high quality) friends. You can do pot lucks or make the dinner yourself (if you're on a budget it can be as simple as a whole chicken+cheap sides), the important parts are that you're meeting new people, you're breaking bread together and hopefully hanging out/going out together after to buil…
/r/seduction07/09/17 02:19 PM
2

That's awesome man, well done. Going off topic a bit here, but as a guy who primarily works out at home, what's the best recommendation you have for getting into boxing? I've always wanted to incorporate it into my workouts/exercise routine, but am not a fan of going to gyms and not sure I want to buy a full-on punching bag for my house. Cheers
/r/seduction07/09/17 02:16 PM
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I really think a lot of the rules are overplayed...how long to wait when to text back, topics to/not to bring up, etc. They are all guidelines. Will following a bunch of them help you on your quest to puss? Sure, they probably help. But from my experience, if you're a fun, passionate, confident guy then the rules don't matter as much. You can respond to girls 5 minutes after and they will continue to respond if what you are saying/talking about is meaningful. You can go through a full first date…
/r/seduction06/09/17 02:59 AM
1

That's the beauty of getting experience...now u have three real world shit tests that you can prepare for for next time.
/r/seduction05/09/17 04:13 AM
1

As the other people said, it comes down to either adding dates into your free time, or including them in your already scheduled stuff. As someone who's done the corporate life, have you tried lunch or coffee dates during the day? For example, if you work in the downtown area, can you invite them for lunch? Or eat lunch at your desk and use your "lunch break" to meet them for an afternoon coffee? Those are two ways I tried to fit dates in
/r/seduction05/09/17 01:01 AM
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I think you're looking at it backwards...being inexperienced is a great reason to get a FWb and not a girlfriend. You want to be experienced before you start dating someone long term, and a FWB is the perfect scenario to learn/practice. Be honest and find a cool girl who doesn't need the emotional side. It's much quicker to learn with a fwb than to learn through random ONS's, each of which might be different in their wants/needs
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:55 AM
3

Awesome man, I too struggle with establishing kino early on when sitting across from the girl at a table...still trying to figure that out. Keep it up
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:53 AM
1

Did quite well for a first date man, I'd suggest going on more for that experience, and coming up with a confident answer to the question "have you ever been in a relationship before?". Because it's going to come up in the future, and if you have a good answer and say it confidently, it can actually help you with women. Best of luck
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:48 AM
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great post/read. i really think that the capitalized "always look and feel your best" is the key, as almost everything else stems from that. def going to look into your book recommendations
/r/seduction03/09/17 10:12 PM
13

Step 0 - lead an exciting enough life that you have stories worth telling. Go experience life and the stories will come more naturally
/r/seduction03/09/17 03:36 AM
3

Similar to what a lot of other responses have been, go in calm, cool and collected. Be confident, ask her how she's doing, and after a little catch up, ask her what she's looking for. As soon as there is any sign or opportunity to make a move, do it! I can guarantee you that she wants something physical to happen just as much as you do, so make it happen. Good luck!
/r/seduction10/04/17 08:48 PM
1

Not a fun situation, especially if you have good intentions. I've been there, and the most effective way to get what you want is to, unlike what some people are saying here, stop the games. Have a serious conversation with her (you don't have to sit her down with a straight face or anything like that, just bring it up over a beer or whenever), and explain that you are enjoying the casual fun you guys are having but you are looking for more than just neck kissing. If she wants to keep hanging out…
/r/seduction31/03/17 07:39 PM
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Same to you, feel free to pm with any other questions/comments
/r/seduction03/12/16 09:32 PM
2

My first serious relationship was 3 years long, and she ended it completely out of the blue. It wrecked me. Doesn't matter how long yours was, there's always something special about the first. But what's most important to realize is that there will be plenty of other girls and experiences for you going forward. Don't look back on what you had negatively, take the positives from it and learn from the experience. Heck, the fact that you ended it in a friendly way is awesome because most pguys in y…
/r/seduction03/12/16 03:26 PM
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