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DiscussionGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 10:37 PM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:53 AM
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DiscussionGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:45 PM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 09:35 AM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:21 PM
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GarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:08 PM
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DebateGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:36 AM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:02 PM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:47 PM
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GarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:57 AM
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GarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 11:34 PM
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GarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:09 AM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:50 AM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:21 PM
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Question For WomenGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:36 AM
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DebateGarfeildHouse/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:05 PM
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Why not? Also, there’s other aspects to being friends with someone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:10 AM
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What’s the difference in being friends with a woman bs being friends with a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:40 AM
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Why only with women, the deep part?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:27 AM
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Why are you friends with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:50 AM
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The same reason people want to be friends with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:20 AM
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That’s because no one wants men to be vulnerable. Then it’s forcing people to do emotional labor
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 03:30 AM
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What about the many people who have opposite sex friends? That seems pretty extreme
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 03:29 AM
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Why are you unwilling to be friends with a man? Why discriminate?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:45 AM
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What’s so bad about a crush?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:45 AM
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But you’ve had a problem with men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:39 AM
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Damn, this is why a lot of men are jealous of women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:33 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:33 AM
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I mean I guess it depends on levels of hitting on someone. Do you have lesbian friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:32 AM
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How’re they different?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:00 AM
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Why
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 12:59 AM
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You’ve never been attracted to a friend but kept it platonic?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 12:58 AM
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You can’t be friends with people attracted to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 12:57 AM
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I’m pretty sure women also want sex
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 09:29 AM
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You don’t think women should get to CHOOSE who they date and have sex with? Creep
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:29 PM
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What about men? Do only the mid ones give it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:28 PM
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I feel like even if you do all the things women do for community and friendship, you’ll still never have it as much since you won’t be as desired
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:01 PM
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No te preocupes, lo siento por mi mal humor
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:22 AM
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As the post says, im fully not talking about sex
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:34 PM
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I mean I’ve been doing all that shit and i still don’t think I’m at woman levels of intimate friendships
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:25 PM
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I feel like even if men do the same work to foster friendships, it’s not reciprocated as well
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:24 PM
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So what can I do?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:14 PM
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I mean the other stuff. Most people I know are bi
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:14 PM
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What’s your source?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:07 PM
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I feel like if your a man and do the community and nurturing stuff, you never get as far as women with that because people won’t reciprocate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:06 PM
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Probably also lesbians, not men dating multiple women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:36 PM
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I nurture relationships but I think I’d be more successful if I was a woman. I think people would reciprocate more
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:25 AM
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Or like, including me. That’s how friendships work I think
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:23 AM
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I don’t know, I only know me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:21 AM
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Why not both men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:20 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:19 AM
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I mean actual loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:46 PM
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I kinda think you can do all the same work as a man but no one cares enough to reciprocate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:40 PM
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Do you genuinely not understand wanting to help poor people? Come on
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:09 AM
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It takes a working brain to vote right wing? The most gullible political group? Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:59 AM
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Idk, seems like a stereotype. I’m also not looking for dating or sex here and I like cats
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:11 AM
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Hold on, that was my response to one comment who had already listed specific things, that’s not my fucking angle
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:34 AM
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???
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:32 AM
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Red pill tends to be pretty MAGA, they aren’t usually voting for Bernie
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:11 AM
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Well feminists just hated how women are treated worldwide, that seems reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:08 AM
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I thought Karens just hated the way corporations treat consumers (reasonable) and take it out on customer service workers. What’s your experience with women who shit on men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:08 AM
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What do you mean? I’m not trying to become more like women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:03 AM
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Mid to late twenties
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 05:12 AM
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I mean, seems disrespectful to your guy friends to love them less and other them and treat them worse and like second class friends because of how they were born. Also, some of my feminist friends are single, and many of my female friends are gay or bi and so am I
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:33 AM
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But I also have moral values that I’d want reflected in friends
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:31 AM
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How’d you get that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:31 AM
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Any idea what age they tend to mellow out?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:30 AM
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Who? MAGA people?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:45 AM
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Think it transfers to DC/Baltimore/Alexandria?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 04:57 AM
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What community?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:23 AM
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Ain’ no lib
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:00 AM
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I just assumed you were being an edgy conservative
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:08 AM
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How you know? Also the language is Spanish, they speak it in a lot of countries other than Venezuela. Why Venezuela?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:25 PM
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That’s fair. Although I know a good number of heavy drinkers who aren’t misogynists
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 12:39 PM
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Most men aren’t on Epstein’s island, so I don’t see the relevance here. I don’t have that kind of money or power
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:36 AM
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I don’t do that, no. Don’t believe in not giving people at least a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 03:45 AM
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¿Qué hice?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 01:24 AM
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She didn’t say any of that, you made it up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:44 PM
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A bit callous, sounds like she’s been through a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:40 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:38 PM
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That’s very kind
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:31 PM
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I meant the sentiment they don’t like. Of course I don’t bring it up. But MOST women ive talked to shit on men as a whole with the implication being that it isn’t all men but they talk about it like it’s all men. This is not one person im thinking of
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:29 PM
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You’re the best friend anyone could ask for ❤️ i know he appreciates you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:26 PM
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If she regularly shows up when invited by men and invites them to things
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:09 PM
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Honestly you are an incredible person. My word. I’m so sorry about your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:54 PM
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In real life, yes. On the internet, I’ve seen more misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:18 PM
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Honestly it’s been most women I know who do this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 05:17 PM
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Have you tried being funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:32 AM
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Good lord, that’s fucked up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:23 AM
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I mean a lot of autistic people say that and there is truth to it, it is something you can work on and that isn’t a bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:23 AM
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It’s less of a risk when you don’t bite holes in the condom
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 04:46 AM
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I’m don’t think I’m a child
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 04:44 AM
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Thank you, you also sound nice. Maybe I’m just lonely though, and honestly, I don’t know a ton of women who aren’t like that, no offense. Like I said, if I told people off for it, I’d only have male friends (and I love my male friends but don’t want only one gender of friends).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 02:19 AM
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Thanks. Why are you surprised that I can maintain friendships lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 02:14 AM
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I mean, even when you already know people, for most of them, it’s one wrong move and you’re a monster
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 02:04 AM
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That’s kind and sorry for being insane. I said I don’t only want male friends in response to you telling me im a pilgrim in enemy territory. I was explaining why I didn’t pull back
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:55 AM
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I didn’t say anything about dating
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:50 AM
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I agree with you. Do you think that’s puts a limit on how much they care about male friends to female friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:50 AM
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Sorry, I’m trying. Like, someone who jokingly says men shouldn’t have rights, or someone who just says they hate men because they’re frustrated by the system or specific men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:46 AM
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Well, im also lonely. Never been in a relationship. Never had sex. So my friends are all I have
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:37 AM
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Is this subreddit only about sex? I thought it was a general discussion about gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:22 AM
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Welp, im sorry people have been shitty to you after they were rejected. I’ve been friends with people I had feelings for (and they knew) and vice versa. It’s even been mutual but we both knew we weren’t compatible, but we were still friends. I think that’s part of being an adult. Also, you seriously don’t think men and women can be friends? That doesn’t seem realistic. I don’t think the whole world is wrong and one Reddit user is right
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:21 AM
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So why are you willing to befriend bisexual women if they could catch feelings? And what are bisexual people supposed to do? Not have any friends because they could catch feelings for someone hypothetically?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:10 AM
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Then the low bar man “hating” would be what I’m asking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:01 AM
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I have multiple women friends who think this way. I think it’s the general position of women under 50
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:00 AM
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You can’t be friends with someone where one person has feelings for another? In both scenarios, romantic or platonic feelings, I just enjoy spending time with the person
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:59 AM
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You don’t have lesbian friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:58 AM
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What’s the standards difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:55 AM
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Why can’t men and women be friends? I have friends who are women who I’ve known for years
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:54 AM
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It seems like the main position for women under 50 who ive met in real life is that saying “not all men” is a bad thing to say
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:31 PM
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Also, this isn’t a thing with only one of my friends, there are a couple more who do this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:22 PM
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This, to me, is most women under 50 though. Could be wrong. To answer your question, im friends with these people because I like them and they like me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:09 PM
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I lot of women dislike when men say “not all men”. I don’t think it’s just the handful of people I know
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:58 PM
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You seem like a really kind person. Wish more people were like you. Sorry people beat it into that being a woman was bad. I feel like that’s been ingrained in me about being a man
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:50 PM
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This has happened with more than one person. In my (male) experience, the standard take among women is that saying “not all men” is bad
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:48 PM
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Prolly like 3, and a lot of people I’m friends with but I’m not friends with their friends (and vice versa). I tend to hold larger gatherings though, since im a bit of an extrovert, so most of them get to know each other
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:46 PM
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Honestly, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:44 PM
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Interesting. Idk, I see that all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:37 PM
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Yeah but a lot of women specifically vocalize this about being “anti man” or hating “men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:36 PM
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Do they complain specifically about black women treating them poorly?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:34 PM
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Nothing in person? Like, face to face conversation where women talk about “men”?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:32 PM
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That is frustrating. Like, it is horrifying how much shit happens to women from men. But I’m still a not all men guy spiritually, but dont tell people
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:29 PM
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It seems like the majority of women under 30 are like this. Like, most women don’t like when guys say “not all men”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:26 PM
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Eh, part of my personal obsession with friendships in general is that I’ve been single all my life (although im only in my mid twenties) and really want my friendships to mean something. So being excluded as a platonic guy friend hurts
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:25 PM
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To be fair, I imagine the psychology of someone who calls black people the n word is different from a leftist in her 20s. Like, they’re probably going to view those things differently
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:11 PM
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I don’t want to have only male friends
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:09 PM
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I hate girls night because I hate being excluded from things. I just worry about there being a barrier from how close I can get to my friends
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:08 PM
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A lot. Good chunk of my friends
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:04 PM
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I’m also getting this from real life conversations. I haven’t asked anyone this question or challenged it, but I’ve heard women complain a good chunk about men, even sometimes while prefacing it by saying it’s not about me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:03 PM
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I guess because we’re friends and get along with each other. And because I’m, in my opinion, a pretty good person who tries to help people and live a good life, so most people aren’t going to see me as evil
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:02 PM
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What doesn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:00 PM
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That’s a nice thing for you to say about men. And I’m sorry someone called you a slut. So if the position is that complaining about “men” isn’t about good men, which seems to be the position of most women under 50 who aren’t full MAGA, then does that mean that it probably doesn’t factor into how much someone likes or cares about someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:56 PM
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I mean, that seems to be the general position of most women below the age of 50. They complain about “men” in general while having an understanding that there are individual men who aren’t like that but also don’t like when men say “not all men”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:52 PM
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So, im an autistic fella. And what I find difficult is never knowing how people will react to things, and feeling like I can’t read this secret code or read minds to say the right thing. And I have to imagine most people, man or woman, would agree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:50 PM
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What level of women shitting on men have you generally seen? Maybe it’s a generational thing, as Im in my 20s and idk how old you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:48 PM
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So that means they don’t really care about their actual close friends who they consider “the good ones”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:05 PM
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I think so. She invites me to things and shows up when I invite her to things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:04 PM
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You don’t know people who shit on men, but on like, a low level
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:03 PM
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As a man, I appreciate you, I dunno, standing up for men who are only men because of birth
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:53 PM
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I don’t want to, this is my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:46 PM
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Idk, I know people who shit on “men” while befriending people they see as good ones and they don’t say all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:46 PM
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Feel for her I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:42 PM
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What about in a scenario where both are true? Mixed gender friends but they still say things like they’re anti men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:41 PM
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How you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:37 PM
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You don’t think some people are unreasonably sensitive?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:15 PM
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Ok, but why make people walk on eggshells
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:56 PM
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But I want love and human connection
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:24 PM
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Would you not prefer if people were more understanding about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:24 PM
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Fair but it’s frustrating. I’m just tired of being judged, because I wanna be cool
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 10:34 PM
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I don’t have a problem with compatibility, but considering those things were your FIRST REACTION when thinking of someone who hasn’t boned, that’s you judging and making assumptions about one thing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:07 AM
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I don’t like how you draw assumptions about people based on if they’ve had sex or not
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:24 PM
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No, because you judge people who haven’t had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:22 PM
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I talked to a lot of women in high school and college, I just didn’t bang any of them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:18 PM
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Why’s it weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:13 PM
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They do but I’m worried they judge me an I want to be seen as cool in like a high school way
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:08 PM
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But I’m worried about getting lumped in with incels. Hence the red flag concern
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:06 PM
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Oh, I save this for the anonymous internet. But I know my friends know
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:04 PM
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I don’t have negative views of women
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:01 PM
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True, but why assume my goals. I just don’t want to be viewed as a fucking loser
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:59 PM
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I don’t think that’s true, I think birds of a feather…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:57 PM
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I don’t care about getting laid, I just don’t want to be judged for it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:56 PM
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Most women i know have anxiety as well
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:54 PM
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Incels don’t see women as people and think they owe them sex
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:53 PM
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Because this guy is humiliating me, he’s insulting my existence
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:40 PM
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Because you’re judging me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:39 PM
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Most people have anxiety issues, or at least a good chunk of them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:47 PM
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Lack of trying I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:19 PM
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People do. I look good, im funny, im charming. Do you act like this irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:59 PM
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Haven’t gotten around to it? Why you care? I wouldn’t fuck you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:47 PM
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What’s your problem? Why do you enjoy humiliating and shaming people who have done nothing to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:47 PM
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If you’re a computer who doesn’t want to live a life beyond the grind set or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:38 PM
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I’m a person, not a machine with purely efficient goals
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:20 PM
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Man, fuck that horse and her mouth, and you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:13 PM
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What if they just havent get around to it? I think you’re a really bad person who has caused a lot of harm
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:12 PM
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I didn’t really try
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:10 PM
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How you know people think this way? Even most people?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:09 PM
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I hate those people
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:08 PM
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I wouldn’t want a sex worker, I’d worry if they didn’t really want it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:07 PM
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I would honestly be furious if someone judged me for it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:05 PM
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No, I mean why would it be a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:05 PM
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Why is it a red flag for you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 12:12 PM
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Not baseless accusations; it’s who you are deep down
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:21 AM
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You can be extroverted in a not always sexual way
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:20 AM
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Idk, never got around to it I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:20 AM
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Honestly, im probably giving in to whatever troll thing you have, but you’re a bad person. I don’t know your deal, but you have issues with people
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:04 AM
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Maybe they haven’t gotten around to it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:58 AM
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Most of the folks I know who don’t have sex are all those things. Funny, charming, charasmatic
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:57 AM
1

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:56 AM
-3

Seems like more women disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:46 AM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:46 AM
0

I dunno, lack of trying
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:45 AM
5

Yes, I think you make wild assumptions about people, jump to conclusions. If you genuinely thought this was true, I don’t think you would have phrased it in a performatively cruel way
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:44 AM
1

I know some who are. Maybe you’re wrong about people
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:42 AM
0

How do you know there’s a consequence or what it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:26 AM
5

Like, this is an incredibly cruel thing to say
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:25 AM
1

You said virgins aren’t funny, charming, charismatic, extroverted and don’t have beautiful eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:25 AM
2

I’d desire me if I was a separate person
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:12 AM
1

Like, why do you want people to feel shame over it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:08 AM
1

Maybe. Maybe they think I’m worse for it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:03 AM
2

No one asks, but I think my friends know, sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:02 AM
2

I don’t tell people obviously, and people dont press me on it. Just wanted to know what people think. My friends who have known me for long enough know because I never talk about it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:59 AM
4

lol, thanks. I don’t really watch porn. Sorry to make this about me, what’s with the women making it a big deal in the comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:53 AM
1

No, I mean what is your problem with virgins or me or whatever? I was asking because it seemed like a double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:45 AM
2

Why would it be a yellow flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:40 AM
1

I don’t think I’d answer that question honestly. Don’t think she’d need to know. Not then at least
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:39 AM
1

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:38 AM
3

???
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:38 AM
-1

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:36 AM
1

Why would or could it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:36 AM
5

She didn’t say anything bad
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:35 AM
0

Why would it be a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:33 AM
1

What is your problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:30 AM
0

But not a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:17 AM
0

Could be, depends
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:05 AM
5

I guess I asked, but it’s frustrating you think I can’t be all those things and be a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:04 AM
0

I dont think that’s true
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:35 AM
4

What makes you think this is true?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:34 AM
3

Who argues that?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:33 AM
4

The two paths of orthodox Christianity/Islam
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:59 AM
6

🤐
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:58 AM
2

Who’s that a quote from?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:57 AM
6

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:56 AM
3

I mean, there’s a reason this is anonymous on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:55 AM
3

Why is it a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:50 AM
6

Anonymous Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:49 AM
3

Are you fully heterosexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:49 AM
1

Ya know what, that’s a good point
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:48 AM
1

That’s genuinely awful, im sorry and I hate it. I didn’t make it, I’d destroy it if I could, but I guess I don’t volunteer or run for office, so fine. But I don’t see what that system has to do with me. I have a dick, balls and a Y chromosome and that’s why I’m a man. I’m sorry men have treated you the way they have, but you don’t know me or the people I know. You don’t know my values or how I treat women. You only know superficial biological factors
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 12:20 AM
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I mean, im just against calling all men rapists and murderers and bigots, which is what happens when you say the word “men” because that world means all men definitionally. I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people not to think that way
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 12:05 AM
1

I dunno, maybe making it all men makes it sounds more personal. Nobody really gives a shit about the personalities of fandoms, and that’s something people have the power to change
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 09:32 PM
1

But I don’t think most people are able to, on a deep down level, separate when someone says “superficial group you’re part of is evil” from what is assumed about them. Men, women, non-binary people, I just don’t think it’s something the human brain can do well
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:58 PM
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I mean, im sorry that’s your experience but you’re provably wrong and can’t read minds. You don’t know my core values or who I am because I have a dick. I also have brown hair but you can’t base who I am based on that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 07:05 PM
1

Ok, well I dislike doing that with either gender. It’s WORSE and much more common for people to do that with women, but I don’t like either? This subreddit is bad
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 07:03 PM
1

I would still say it’s hard to separate the two
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:54 AM
2

First, this is extremely kind and understanding. I’m an autistic guy, so could be part of the problem for me as well
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:49 AM
1

Cant argue there, and again, I meet the qualifications of you having empathy, so no skin off my back
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:48 AM
1

Ok, but this is an incel subreddit, of course they won’t respect women. You’re assuming i don’t respect women because I was born with a dick and balls and a Y chromosome
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:46 AM
1

I didn’t mention dating or sex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:13 AM
1

I mean, that’s assuming all men are one guy who think the same. You don’t think it’s possible to be a lonely man who is both TRYING to make friends and also respects women? It’s like you assume that every man who is lonely is also a red pill guy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:11 AM
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I mean, those responses happen at the same time, with the empathy one being a larger feeling. But also, if you say men are rapists and murderers and bigots, that’s going to get that reaction, I don’t think it’s realistic to not have that reaction
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:08 AM
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Acknowledging that there are people who don’t fall into statistical averages because that’s how judging billions of people works
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:55 PM
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I mean, I just think most people would have that reaction to being lumped in with rapists and murderers and bigots because of their gender. And I think you can still empathize with women WHILE having those feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:38 PM
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Also, your response pretends like “men” in general is one guy who acts the same way and have made the same decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:26 PM
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I was just wondering. I have, I would say a lot of empathy. You can also be a non-cunty man and do all those things and still be lonely and excluded. I wonder if it’s because I’m a man and more paths would be open to me SOCIALLY and not in any other way if I were a woman. This seemed like the best subreddit to ask this anonymous question
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:25 PM
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In my experience, it’s when women don’t say “this man” or “some men” or “shitty men”, etc. like, it might be an annoying caveat, but the response of saying that you aren’t inherently evil because you were born with specific chromosomes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:21 PM
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Ok, so yeah, those guys are unsympathetic, I can’t argue there, and I’m also really sorry about your experiences, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. And I appreciate that you do have empathy for some men because of the patriarchy (which kind of contradicts your “no” answer), but why not on loneliness. As a lonely guy, I’d empathize with anyone who is lonely unless they’re not a good person
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:20 PM
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I mean, that’s good for me, but kind of dehumanizing towards other guys
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 09:34 PM
1

I mean, forcing a woman to carry an embryo/fetus in her body and then forcing a baby out of one’s vagina if they don’t want to is pretty clearly a violation
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 09:22 PM
1

Ok, but it feels like a weird thing to bring up when talking about violating women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 09:13 PM
1

I mean respect to them, cant be easy, but why are they as a group get empathy but not men or women as a whole
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 09:12 PM
1

Is WOC women of color?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:40 PM
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True. I understand men saying “not all men” tbh. Like yeah, if you’re lumped in with bad people because you were born with Y chromosome, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to say something, but it probably depends on why the woman is saying it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:37 PM
1

I guess, why do you feel empathy for women as a whole but not men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:33 PM
1

No definitely, people need friends and community, it doesn’t work with only a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:23 PM
1

Those people are frustrating
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:23 PM
1

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:22 PM
2

Cringe. Try embracing humanity and community instead
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:22 PM
1

Ok, not wanting to pay child support if you tell them you’d rather they abort it is one thing, but there’s no VIOLATION of one’s own body
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:19 PM
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I mean, how would this be unique to men, assuming you maybe had empathy for women as a whole or humanity?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:17 PM
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Because they’re human. I wouldn’t expect empathy for incels, but other guys who you maybe share a connection with because they’re also human
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:16 PM
1

This is a really good answer, I like it. If I may ask, how do men expect women to sacrifice safety for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:14 PM
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I guess. I just don’t like my gender limiting who I can be close with
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:12 PM
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For what it’s worth, I like mice and won’t let my roommate kill the one in our apartment
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:10 PM
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That is awful and I’m sorry. But do you feel empathy for men who aren’t like that? That’s more what I meant by this post
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:10 PM
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Heard a lot about him, didn’t know about his childhood. Do you feel empathy for men in the same way people feel empathy for strangers under the understanding that they’re also people?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:08 PM
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I more mean you don’t have useful insight to this question
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:07 PM
1

I want that with male and female friends not just one gender tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:04 PM
1

Ok but men cant get pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:04 PM
1

It describes a specific feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:43 AM
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Yeah, but having humanity is also a choice and you have free will
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:42 AM
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Ok, this may sound odd, but was help is women having platonic male friends as well as female. Most women probably already do this, im a man and im friends with both men and women, most people I know are like that, but it does go a long way. But also, I don’t want to make it seem like women owe men anything
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:38 AM
3

Cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:36 AM
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Troll
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:34 AM
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Just because you don’t have a sense of humanity doesn’t mean everyone is like that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:33 AM
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That’s very kind of him. I don’t know, I don’t want an all female sisterhood or an all male brotherhood, I just want people to care in a similar way
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:16 AM
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I don’t feel bad about liking other people and wanting good for them. I don’t know what your problem is
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:15 AM
3

You do seem like a misogynist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:14 AM
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True. Sorry for assuming. I took what most women have said they don’t like about being a woman, at least on the internet, and said it was hard to compare to men’s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 07:03 AM
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Yeah that’s fair, but don’t most women have period cramps?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 06:56 AM
1

I’ve heard the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 06:54 AM
4

That would be a weird thing to make up. No motivation to do so
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 05:37 AM
1

What men don’t like empathy from?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:36 AM
1

Do you generally consider yourself as a sociopath?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:34 AM
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Ok, guess I take issue with generally liking people more because they were born male or female
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:34 AM
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I don’t have empathy for those guys either
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:19 AM
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So? I’m a man, I don’t care more about men. They’re people
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:18 AM
1

You don’t think women deserve better than physical and sexual abuse? Or forced pregnancies?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:18 AM
1

What is a CS prof?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:10 AM
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No, I wouldn’t expect you to empathize with men who think women owe them sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:08 AM
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How did you personally build sisterhood? Also, I really appreciate your response
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:30 AM
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I try to understand anyone I can. Even though I have my limits on what I can relate to, I’d be sad to know people viewed me as less close because they didn’t think I would understand them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:55 AM
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Why do you care about women more than men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:49 AM
1

How you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:41 AM
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Thanks. What makes you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:41 AM
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Well, im jealous of y’all’s sisterhood, I’d want to be part of that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:40 AM
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I meant loneliness in terms of friendship, not just dating
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:11 AM
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Read her mind then. I was hoping to see what she has to say, which is why I posted any of this
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:04 AM
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Ok, I asked her why. You don’t know her answer. You seem like you could be all of those things
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:59 AM
1

How’s that compare to women for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:58 AM
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I don’t think I’m an MRA guy. What do you think about the loneliness and the people seeing you as a monster?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:57 AM
2

Do men need to have close personal friendships with other men or can it be with any genders? Just noticed your wording
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:44 AM
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I didn’t make this post for guys like you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:41 AM
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No, those guys are annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:39 AM
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Why do men cause their own loneliness? Do women cause theirs? What about men who aren’t misogynistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:37 AM
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I’m a man, so I can empathize with issues that I personally struggle with, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:26 AM
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Again, im not going to ask anyone I know about this, because I don’t want people to know I think this way. It could have lasting consequences
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:24 AM
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Thanks. I’ve seen a lot of women say they’d assume the guy was a misogynist or bitter or something, and it’s worrying that this one part of me could be a trap
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:22 AM
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I don’t interact with too many femcels on the internet, but I don’t think I’d blame all women on the actions of femcels or any group of women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:21 AM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:19 AM
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That’s incredibly kind. I can only speak for myself, not men in general, not your bf, but I think a lot of men want to be seen as not men. Like, treated by women the way they treat each other. Or maybe that’s just me. I don’t know how possible that is safety wise, I just don’t like being on the outside and feel it’s because of my gender
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:18 AM
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That makes sense. Does the red pill stuff make you less empathetic to the other guys who don’t do that shit? Also, sorry you have to deal with any of that. I can empathize with that, for what it’s worth
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:11 AM
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Ok, I just wanted to know how many women did empathize with men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:08 AM
1

I appreciate your answer
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:04 AM
1

I’m sorry to hear that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:03 AM
0

Why? And can I ask your perspective?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:03 AM
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I mean, this isn’t the type of thing most people i know talk about. It’s pretty taboo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:01 AM
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I’m a guy, and I’d want to be the shoulder to cry on, and I’d want emotional support from my friends. This would apply to male friends, female friends and non-binary friends. But you locking them into different emotional categories for who gets to feel supported is hurtful
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:39 AM
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It’s wanting to know a guy’s personality before dating him. Because a lot of dating requires liking someone’s personality
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:29 AM
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Everyone deserves better, that’s the entire point of progress and helping people. Women deserve to not get raped and beaten and murdered by partners or dates. Women deserve to be able to decide if they’re pregnant or not. Women deserve the benefits of being a man, as if want that for anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:26 AM
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All women? What’s your sample size? I’ve noticed many people with hotter partners
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:16 AM
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Didn’t think they would. I don’t only view women in the context of sex, they’re people
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:21 PM
0

According to what?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:19 PM
0

What’s your take on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:56 AM
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Tf did I do?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:46 AM
1

YOU have low standards. And that’s FINE. But I don’t think that’s representative of other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 10:13 PM
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According to you. I don’t think “hoeflation” is the truth, probably a sign that you need help
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:19 PM
1

What is Blanton’s radical honesty?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:08 PM
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That’s not a good way to look at women. I don’t know if it is widely known, maybe just in your head
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:05 PM
-1

Correct me if I’m wrong, but is it generally the case that women care less about looks than men? So I would imagine that if you’re ugly (I generally don’t think most people are ugly and going to the gym helps most people), it’s harder to find a relationship with a guy, whereas when dating women, it’s usually easier to get a spark based on personality. This is a generalization, and I’m a man and only one man at that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:04 PM
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I meant more in other regards, everyone can date based on looks if they want
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:48 AM
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Idk if this means anything but this response was somewhat of a wake-up call
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:52 PM
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???
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:43 PM
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Also, I didn’t say there was a reason it would be acceptable to do that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:57 AM
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Nah, I mean this is a good answer, people responding explained it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:56 AM
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If you don’t mind my asking, it seems like women could probably also use someone like yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:28 AM
2

Wait, do you let people dm you on Reddit for free? Like, you’re obviously a compassionate person so you clearly like doing that, but I figured it was part of your job?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:06 AM
2

That’s so kind, it shows a lot of obvious strength in your character
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:53 AM
2

Why’d you end up doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:09 AM
2

What’s your line of work?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:54 AM
2

Oh, thanks. That’s very kind. Thought the question of this post was kinda creepy, but it helped me learn. In general, im impressed with your resilience
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:51 AM
1

Real quick sorry, is that sarcasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:50 AM
1

I feel like the locked door changes things
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:49 AM
2

Ok, if you give someone plenty of opportunities to say no and they kept saying yes, and you aren’t pressuring someone, it seems like the person who didn’t want to have sex not only made a decision but also made a decision with more information than the party that did want the sex. If someone lies to me and tells me they want sex when they don’t, it’s not my fault that they made that decision. And this is when the coercion, manipulation and pressuring is not happening
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:46 AM
1

But if I’m not worried about the person hurting me if I don’t give in, it would still seem like I have a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:28 AM
2

I don’t prey on people, but sometimes I approach people and make conversation and flirt
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:24 AM
2

Same for how to get the consent by frequently asking to make sure they’re cool with it, but if you’re constantly checking in with them, doesn’t that still run into the problem of yes not always meaning yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:23 AM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:21 AM
3

I mean, im going to keep going to gay bars because I like the atmosphere and the company, but Jesus Christ, that is awful. It seems like maybe the bar could be doing more safety wise
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:20 AM
1

There’s hopefully some understanding that women should enjoy sex (as in they should also be enjoying it, not that they owe anyone liking sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:19 AM
1

I mean in the last regards, im not very good with social cues or body language
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:18 AM
2

I’m less interested in laws than i am in reality, as laws are made by people, often disingenuous ones
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:16 AM
3

That’s a better way of putting things. Is it possible there are better bars than this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:15 AM
1

Oh, I was saying how it removes choice, which is what I imagine would make it rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:11 AM
1

I meant that having “sex” with someone despite them not consenting is inherently violent because it is a violation of
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:09 AM
1

If you want the real answers, I’d be scared the condom or dildo would come back with shit on it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:05 AM
2

Fuckin’ ay. Glad you at least live your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:02 AM
2

Avg is average and not advantage, correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:01 AM
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Oh, I don’t usually care that much about legal definitions since they are often divorced from reality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:00 AM
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I mean, rape inherently violent, but yeah. Wouldn’t having “sex” with the guy be worse than the mental torture of him pressuring?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:59 PM
1

Yeah, you’re right, that would probably be rape
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:58 PM
1

I’m so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:57 PM
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I’m glad you got away, that seems like it would be better than being raped and am I wrong in saying it made the difference? You’re right though, and my assumption in this post is wrong. There is an implied threat when someone keeps pressuring
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:56 PM
1

I think people probably wanted to not be raped
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:53 PM
2

My thoughts were that it would be not coercive to just “ask”, but I understand now that there is an implied threat that comes with it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:53 PM
1

Most definitely, and my initial assumption was that it wasn’t rape but was disgusting behavior. After reading more responses, i think I get why it is rape, though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:51 PM
1

Free will, bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:50 PM
2

I’m really sorry to hear that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:50 PM
2

Yell to leave me the fuck alone. That’s pretty clearly rape, so I appreciate you illuminating me on it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:49 PM
1

The locked door is definitely a threat because it’s removing the choice to leave. Am I wrong in saying that the reason it’s rape is that because there are so many incidents of men killing or injuring women when they say no, then it’s rape because the man is presumably aware of this and is using it to coerce a yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:48 PM
1

What’s the heteronormative avg?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:45 PM
1

There are 8 billion people, so probably, but probably not that many
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:44 PM
1

But you’re disregarding her boundaries and showing you don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:31 PM
1

Probably going to delete the post soon since it’s kinda scummy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:22 PM
1

Why would you ask 5 minutes later if she said no?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:21 PM
2

Stay up all night, sit on the couch. Sleep on the couch if I have to. In regards to what he’s saying about his feelings, I’d tell him that I don’t want to have sex and that it didn’t have anything to do with him, but that him not taking no for an answer made me worried because it showed he didn’t respect my bodily autonomy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:21 PM
2

Because there’s a clear threat
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:13 PM
1

I probably wouldn’t be super concerned with his feelings, since he’s trying to have sex with me when I don’t want to, and if I have work in a few hours, I think I’d rather be sleep deprived than raped. That’s my answer though, im not trying to be disrespectful
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:12 PM
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Oh, the behavior is unacceptable and disgusting regardless, and, to be honest, you answered my question on why that’s considered rape and why the choice of the survivor is removed, so thank you for that. Apologies this is the way I did that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:10 PM
2

Well, the man was the one who didn’t care whether or not the woman wanted sex, so it seems his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:07 PM
1

People want what they want, but humans have free will
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:52 PM
1

Of course the latter factors would make it rape, because they are threatening consequences if “sex” isn’t given
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:51 PM
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Sounds like a way you cope with your own weaknesses. I don’t care who you have sex with or date, and if you communicate that, you’re leagues ahead of most scumbags. My problem is that the more people that think like you do, the worse the world would be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:50 PM
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I would start the process of breaking up with him. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t respect my autonomy. If necessary, I’d crash on someone’s couch
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:48 PM
2

Well harassment is different than rape
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:45 PM
3

Well no, this is untrue, and in a way that claims women lie about rape for attention. It has nothing to do with women Gaining things from sex, because in these scenarios, the women in question clearly don’t want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:45 PM
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Ok, this is shitty, because you’re right, and that absolutely makes sense, and that does have an implication of a threat. But if the person would resort to throwing hands and physically holding someone down, why are they still “asking” wouldn’t this person have relied on strength at that point? From my perspective, which again is from ignorance, it would appear like they are “waiting” for the other party to agree
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:42 PM
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Well, I definitely don’t want to be willfully ignorant, and that makes sense, those are good points in how choice is removed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:33 PM
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If it’s my apartment, call the police and tell them someone is refusing to leave. If it isn’t my apartment, I would leave. I’d rather be sleep deprived than sexually assaulted. If you want the real answer, that might be it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:32 PM
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Yes, but I don’t see how there isn’t still a choice to say yes or no
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:30 PM
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I mean, I guess that makes sense. I just think human beings have a responsibility to be good people, and you described yourself as selfish, and I think that, as an adjective, should be seen as shameful
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:30 PM
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The 3rd one seems more black and white, but I still don’t understand how the person cant just say no. After a certain point, could they not either leave or call the police if the other person is refusing to leave
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:28 PM
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Once. I’m not defending the perp, their behavior is unacceptable and immoral. But it still seems like if the person is at least WAITING for someone to cave, it sounds like saying no is still an option, or at least preferable to being raped
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:26 PM
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I understand the threat part, but at that point, why not run?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:24 PM
2

That also sounds like an incident where I could say no
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:22 PM
1

I mean, at that point, why not run?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:21 PM
1

Is it only in terms of sex and relationships you feel you’re ok to be a scumbag about?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:20 PM
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I don’t see how the person being pressured cant just say no
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:05 PM
1

Do you have any moral values at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:00 PM
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They say it again. Is this a scenario where someone keeps having “sex” with someone WHILE they are saying no or are they WAITING for the other person to cave
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:59 PM
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Because she didn’t want to have sex, he knew that, and kept pressuring. But it seems like it would be short of rape because she could have said no
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:58 PM
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That one’s clearer. That’s definitely rape, there’s physical intimidation, pretty horrific. I guess what I was wondering would be if it was more they were sitting next to you or stand in near you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:56 PM
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Yes, but that seems like it would make it a guy being a bad person to get sex rather than rape, if the woman still agreed to it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:54 PM
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So, is it that because of statistics and examples of women being hurt for refusing a guy once they’re alone, that the move is to better play it safe than risk it getting into physical assault as well as sexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:53 PM
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I can’t really say for certain, because it hasn’t happened to me, but I don’t think I would continue saying no. I don’t think women are making it up for attention, definitely not, and I am trying to understand, because obviously anyone who experienced it would be the expert. And I appreciate you wanting to understand my perspective, because that’s also my goal. I guess I don’t, because i haven’t been in that scenario, understand how there is a presence of a threat or coercion. Again, im sorry th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:49 PM
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Is that because of some past trauma?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:43 PM
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Ok, I’m not seeing the connection between brandishing a weapon and asking with no weapon.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:29 PM
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Ok, I’m not seeing the connection between brandishing a weapon and asking with no weapon.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:28 PM
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I mean, in the scenario you described, the person seems like they could still say no. I’m probably wrong, but I wanna know why
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:26 PM
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That my “friend” was a bad person. I would tell them off and cease ties. But I also don’t see how it would be rape
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:24 PM
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So, from my likely ignorant perspective, it seems like the person could just say no. I don’t see how that is coercion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:23 PM
2

To be completely honest, not really. But it’s definitely traumatic and completely unacceptable, and I am actually sorry it happened
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:22 PM
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Ok, but couldn’t someone just not have sex with the person doing the asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:21 PM
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I’m less interested in the law and more interested in reality
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:20 PM
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Ok, so how does that apply to a scenario that doesn’t involve a clear indicator of physical violence?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:19 PM
2

Ok, I’m trying to understand why it is rape, since, SEEMINGLY, the victim could say no, and I don’t see any threat of repercussions
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:17 PM
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I don’t see the connection between an instance where there is a threat compared to an incident where, as far as I see it, there is no threat
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:16 PM
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I don’t see the connection. If someone has a knife to my throat, they’re threatening to kill me and I die if I don’t comply. I don’t see what the threat is if a guy keeps asking over and over. Not DEFENDING that behavior, but I don’t understand how it would remove choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:57 PM
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How is that a choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:55 PM
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Well verbal coercion isn’t consent. My confusion, I guess, is how asking over and over is coercion, because, from MY limited perspective it seems like one can still choose
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:54 PM
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So, is it like the implication that someone might attack you if you say no?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:53 PM
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Ok, but I, and I want to know why im wrong, but still don’t see how that would remove choice. If there’s money involved or threatening someone’s job safety or withholding something for sex, I get it, but how do people not have the choice to say no
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:50 PM
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Ok, but that’s an actual threat of violence, there’s no choice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:44 PM
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Neither of those situations seem grey to me, they’re pretty black and white. Choice is removed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:44 PM
1

I’m sorry that happened
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:42 PM
0

How come he’s expected to be the provider but not you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:07 PM
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That’s why having free will is such a great and important part of being human
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:34 AM
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No way people lacing that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:00 AM
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Does smoking weed help?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:53 AM
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It’s a question
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:51 AM
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LITERALLY 1984
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:49 AM
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You from outside the states?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 10:37 PM
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Holy fuck, im so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 10:35 PM
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I don’t think most women hang around mostly women, but maybe that’s just where I’m from
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 10:34 PM
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I would figure having a weapon would make being near male strangers less threatening
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 10:32 PM
1

How you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:27 PM
1

Why would you be embarrassed to be a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:27 PM
1

Damn, I was hoping it was a way to let women enjoy the public in the same way us guys do
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:17 PM
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Oh my, yeah, that’s fucking awful. I’m so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:16 AM
1

Why? Out of curiosity
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:15 AM
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Sorry about your roommate, and sorry you had to deal with that back then
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:42 AM
1

Nice. Does it affect how you feel safety wise in a self defense way
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:41 AM
1

How far does a knife or pepper spray go?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:18 AM
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Damn. This is why I’m pro guns. I also want the government to be scared to fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:17 AM
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Damn, sorry. I didn’t mean it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:13 AM
1

You live outside the US?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:11 AM
1

What about a knife?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:11 AM
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Could you get a hand free for a second? I dunno, to like the waste or coat pocket? I don’t know how fast or slow it takes to turn the safety off and cock it, but most rapists probably don’t have guns, but I could be wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:09 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:06 AM
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I’m trying to remember the office space context. Wouldn’t having a gun let women feel safer in public
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:49 AM
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I understand the statistics, but I’m wondering how guns make it less safe for the carrier. You have a gun
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:48 AM
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I’m really sorry to hear that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:46 AM
2

The gun question was mainly about women feeling unsafe alone or walking around at night, interacting with strangers, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:46 AM
1

I think I might be missing something
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:44 AM
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So, I understand abusers are manipulative and hide their abuse traits, but are there not warning signs that happen before they murder you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:43 AM
1

True. I’m also trying to see why this statement would be ignorant: I see women vent about not being able to walk alone at night or make eye contact with men because men are so much physically larger (usually). So I figured, if it were me, I’d get a gun
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:41 AM
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Real. Same, but I don’t have much of a need like women and trans folks. It’s a dumb fantasy that I could protect others with it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:38 AM
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Damn, that sucks. I love dogs. The strays in India, the only place I’ve seen a lot of them, were wildly friendly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:37 AM
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Does that impact how you feel safety wise, in relation to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:33 AM
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Are you packing?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:32 AM
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So, this is my ignorance, and I’m trying to eliminate that. But why would you be in a relationship with someone violent? If it’s because the other option is homelessness, I get that, and that’s a huge reason I’m anti capitalist or at least want a system that guarantees no one has to deal with this. But if not, why not break up with the guy and then keep the gun for protection?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:32 AM
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Does that impact how you feel about being near male strangers in public, or walking alone at night?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:24 AM
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Most women in the US don’t concealed carry, and I’m wondering why. I also figure that it’s not that simple, otherwise most women would, so trying to see why not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:22 AM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:59 AM
1

Where do you live where dogs are that much of a threat?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:58 AM
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Shit man, that’s awful. Can I ask how long that lasts for?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 03:34 AM
1

You don’t think you can find a non-sexist partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 01:50 AM
1

Could that not be worked out between you and your partner? Fuck society
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 12:00 AM
1

Fuck man, I’m sorry. Does weed help?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:39 PM
1

RESPECT
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:39 PM
1

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:39 PM
1

Does it not help with cramps?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 10:27 PM
1

Do you think that’s more of. Societal thing? Or are you talking about pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 10:26 PM
1

Can I ask why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 08:37 PM
1

Does birth control help with periods?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 08:36 PM
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That sucks, I’m so sorry. If I may ask, to what extent can birth control lessen menstruation
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 08:34 PM
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you are right. but people don't like when you do that. It's clingy and needy and desperate
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:29 PM
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idk, spiraling. Ik this isn't a mental health subbreddit though. seemed like the right tag in my head
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:28 PM
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I spend a lot of time alone. I have a remote job. sometimes when I'm just hanging out with my roommate, I still feel alone. I feel better with friends around
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:18 PM
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why? and do women experience it the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:16 PM
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that's super fair. Do you think men can be accepted as close friends by women and non-binary people the same way women can be?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:03 PM
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OK. you don't think men have that group bias? also, I've noticed most people don't set or enforce boundaries or say when something bothers them, men or women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:36 PM
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why do you think meant won't tell you that but women will?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:58 PM
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who? and why can't you repair friendships with women? can women repair friendships with each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:29 AM
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why won't hanging out with men help me practice for what's actually expected of me in the world? I'm kinda lost on what you mean by that, but also thank you for your response
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:28 AM
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you think the same is true for men but not women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:04 AM
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I appreciate it. thanks south for goin' through 'em all, for real. I think you hit the nail on the head for all of em
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:03 AM
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idk, it's an insane rant. I feel like women are harder to read and I never know how a woman is going to react. or at least that's more the case with women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:10 AM
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But do you think they're harder to read or more complicated? If what you're saying is the case (it very well could be), you'd have to walk around eggshells more with men, since they care about cohesion less. I've found the opposite to be true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:09 AM
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A few things with different people. One was when I didn't kick someone out of a club who sexually harassed my friend because I knew that could have gotten my club in trouble, and my friend could have just gone to title IX to get an active report, which would allow me to kick the person out. The harassment was also limited to romantically pursuing the person after rejection, which is bad, but isn't groping or lewd comments. They acted like I kicked THEM (the victim) out when they chose to leave a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 12:52 AM
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how do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 12:25 AM
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why is it harder than with men. seems unfair
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 12:14 AM
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idk if they are mean, I just don't know how to read people. I responded to the other comment here with specifics
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:54 PM
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Be a better listener, don't use the word "cunt", don't double down when someone calls you out on something edgy (I got defensive). I'm more worried about my relationships with these people. But in the letter my friend from the first example wrote to me before blocking me, a lot of the info was total bullshit. Like, contradictory. And in the one where I defended my friend (that was my takeaway from the bot kicking someone out of the club story), i was picking a side and standing up for someone. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:33 PM
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A few things with different people. One was when I didn't kick someone out of a club who sexually harassed my friend because I knew that could have gotten my club in trouble, and my friend could have just gone to title IX to get an active report, which would allow me to kick the person out. The harassment was also limited to romantically pursuing the person after rejection, which is bad, but isn't groping or lewd comments. They acted like I kicked THEM (the victim) out when they chose to leave a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:23 PM
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what about communicating with autistic men vs autistic women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:47 PM
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