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Hear hear! Thanks man!
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:28 PM
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Where are you located? In USA California for example - inheritance is exempt from community property - check your state or jurisdiction for this. Your wife may be entitled to the gains, but the baseline inheritance hopefully not. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 12:16 AM
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I think a lot of it comes down to developing good habits, that become part of you. Regardless if you feel like it or not. Just f-ing do it. Go to gym or lift at home, crank out 100 push ups in a session, morning walks, intermittent fasting, keeping your mouth closed from food etc.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 10:33 PM
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Gold!
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 02:33 AM
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One mantra that helps me a lot: “The best revenge is living well.” Easier said than done I know, but slowly we get stronger - day by day. Good luck man
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 11:38 PM
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Yeah she stepped out starting last December, then told me end of month then the classic: “love you, not in love with you”. I knew it was over then, we limped along for a bit and reconciled for about 6 weeks mid Feb through March, but I knew it was done. I have been waiting to get this tentative Marriage Settlement agreement from her attorney for a couple months it seems. Finally received last week. So now I am getting legal consul on the terms. I just haven’t had much to work with yet.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 04:09 PM
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Hi, the deferred sale would be about 7.5 years - until kids are 18. I know, that’s a crazy long time. I’m getting consultations from two separate firms this week on this and child/spousal support numbers her attorney mucked up. Easier thing to do is just sell. She said last night I’m screwing the kids over if that happens. I told her, then come up with the money to buy me out or takeover loan. Not really my problem. She wants it both ways it seems. Kids and I will be fine
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 03:58 PM
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Keep swimming man - hang in there. Remember - you can always laugh again. It will get better. "If you're going through hell, keep going"
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 09:05 PM
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Yeah the move out date is part of the agreement. Financially, Im giving her equity in the house - when it sells after deferral, and she wont touch my 401k, pension or small business. Ill still have ~$150K in equity in house at future sale.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:25 AM
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I like the approach. Going to see what other attorneys tell me at consultations next week. Thanks man!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:18 AM
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100%. CA defaults to 50/50, but yes I hear you. Need to have an agreed plan. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:18 AM
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Right on man thanks for that. We get along ok - no history of violence or anything. But she is moody and suffers some slight depression - so its not pleasant being around her at all. Plus she just goes out and parties with her "friends" and spends nights randomly around at her APs or god knows where. I am currently way over 50% custody living here. I told her it will be a wake up call when I move it...
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:17 AM
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Agree 100%.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:14 AM
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Yeah I know. I have been going back and forth on it. Its tough with two kids that have been in the home since birth. I know kids are more resilient. But its tough. Im going to talk to two more attorneys next week to get their fresh eye takes on it - see if Im being a fool here. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:14 AM
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Yeah 50/50 is default custody in CA; I am ok on financials too - shes not touching my 401k or pension or small business. I need to get my attorney to run the support numbers to confirm what the right $$ is in child support and spousal support. I got her down to 8 years on support - CA is tough. Long term marriages >10 years (which mine is) can go way beyond that amount.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:12 AM
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Appreciate you man, agree on all accounts thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 12:10 AM
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The CA child support calculator has spousal support built in too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 02:51 AM
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Similar boat in mid flight here in CA. You can run the CA Child Support calculator online for free. Plug in your income and hers, chose Santa Clara county at the bottom - most liberal for spouses (so worst case scenario for you). I’m married for 12.75 years, got her to 8.5 years on alimony at ~$1,170. She’s not touching 401K or pension. Those are coming out of my house equity. I’m in for the long game. Retirement accounts are compounding and will be few $M when want to retire. I make around $200…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 02:50 AM
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I would just take a 401K loan for the $ and pay it back over three years through paycheck deductions. No penalty. Easy win on your part.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:01 PM
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What was your final agreement? I’m wrestling with a similar situation now in CA. Kids are 10, tentative defer sale until they are 18 and graduate - in a little less than 8 years. She would live in house, while I pay mortgage, then we sell. I know it’s not ideal whatsoever, but easier for kids. Probably about $500K in house equity now. Thanks everyone
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 07:39 AM
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Fundamentally, ask yourself: 1) Do you have a teammate?; 2) Is this someone who champions your success? 3) Do you see yourself content/satisfied/fulfilled with this person in who they are and how they approach their life? Good luck man!
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 04:09 AM
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I believe the process just continues on. Your spouse doesn’t have to respond in CA (initially), but they will eventually. The info is on the self help court website. Good luck man
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 02:02 AM
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Go to California courts and start downloading the forms. I recommend buying/subscribing to Adobe, so you can neatly complete the forms. 1) initial filing fee is SoCal is $435, fyi. 2)After filing, you need to get a third party (relative, friend, neighbor etc) to serve your spouse papers. 3) Gather your financials and provide to spouse within 60 days of filing; if spouse provided a response to your filing, they have 60 days from the date they received your financials to provide their financials t…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 11:16 PM
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Great approach and outcome! Yeah working through the long-term spousal support possibility here in CA...thank you, I will talk with lawyer about pulling recent awards. I assume they have access in CA about that too.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 08:32 PM
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Solid! About how much of your net income is going to child support and spousal support combined? I’m in the negotiation stage here in CA…thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 06:16 PM
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Good to know, thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 12:56 AM
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Hong Kong
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 12:54 AM
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FFS. Go for a drive - give yourself an adventure. Maybe you need to try the best burger in the State next door? Get out of your comfort zone. If you need an injection, watch 5 mins of Goggins YouTube. You got this man. Crank, suffer, excel!
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 02:54 AM
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I know you don’t want to hear this, but it’s done pal. Your #1 now. If you have kids together, you and the kids are #1 now. Screw her. Get things lined up and file. Go into your garage or outside, crank out 30 pulls ups, and run with intent and purpose throughout the neighborhood for 2 mins -like you’re the goddamn owner of the Earth… Come back and you walk on water - untouchable. Good luck man!
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 01:15 AM
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All the rings, jewelry, purses etc. are sunk costs that you purchased when you got on the ride man. The ride is ending, those things are gone.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 09:23 AM
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Dude, I encourage you to take direction. Go file yourself. You will feel so good walking out of that courthouse knowing the process is in motion and you’ll soon be able to move on. Only you hold the reigns to your life.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 01:41 PM
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100% in this currently with STBXW. I have twin boys and I do a lot of outdoor exciting activities, go karts, beach fires, hikes etc. My STBXW has told the boys she wants to do cool stuff with them, but in reality she can’t really compete. It’s just the nature of it. She took them along with her as she did errands the other day and made them sit and wait for her to get nails done. Boys said it was terrible and they were in nail salon for 1.5 hrs… Not trying to compete at all with her, but having …
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 11:26 PM
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It’s tough, and they always try to get a rise out of you, but try your best and not react. Just simple responses. I’ve found that body language is a good way to show you don’t care either. Any time my STBX is talking to me, I lean against something or put my arm casually off to the side, being relaxed. Subtle clues that get under their skin, that they’re not going to affect you. Ha “Water off a ducks back” is what I always say to myself
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 09:14 PM
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How well they get along with their fathers.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 12:26 AM
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“The best revenge is living well”
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 08:49 PM
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You got this pal, be true to yourself!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 03:20 AM
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Yeah man good luck. I keep telling myself: “I can always make more money, I can’t make more time.” Good on you to get the process rolling and crank through all this. We’re brothers in the same boat.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 01:02 AM
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Just f-ing do it man, make it happen!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 12:11 AM
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Thanks pal, really appreciate the information! I’m disclosing financials shortly and then meeting with STBX and her attorney in mid August to see their proposal. Will consult a lawyer on the review and agreement. STBX lawyer initially said long-term alimony would be half length of marriage, so like 6.5 years. Not sure if I should try to negotiate that down more, as it seems decent from what I am reading others have been required of. Thanks again, I’ll post update at some point.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 03:54 PM
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Right thanks for that! Hey on the FL-150, do you recall if you put taxable gross or total gross monthly income? There is a difference of ~$500/paycheck for medical/dental/401K (pre tax) benefits that is not taxable and doesn’t show up on W-2 under Box 1 wages, earnings. So for example, let’s say my W-2 it states earnings in Box 1 are at $200K, but my total gross for year on last stub is ~$213K. I want to just list what would be on Box 1. Appreciate it!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 11:29 PM
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I’m in CA too. I thought after “Date of Separation” has been established (I have served STBX and she and lawyer have responded in agreement) that finances are separate and status quo of any joint living expenses to remain until final dissolution. Shouldn’t I be able to spend how I want after date of separation? I need to take a break away too…Appreciate any other info you may share thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 09:43 PM
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Yeah agreed, I can run lean on it. But for my kids, I need to have a decent setup. Agree on household furnishings, let her have most of this, easier that way for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:05 PM
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Right on pal. Yeah I’ll just grind out purchasing new or used items at new place. Will take some time though…but maybe better in long run, I won’t have to compromise on what I want ha
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:07 AM
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Good idea, will do on some items for sure
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 07:37 PM
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Yeah agreed, but we’re talking about a fully furnished 3 bedroom house with pool and outdoor patio furniture (couches, tables and 9 patio chairs), garage has a beverage fridge, freezer, washer dryer etc. New couch and tv purchased in March ‘24. Sounds like I am technically entitled to half, but if I take some of it, will just impact my boys at this house. I’ll nibble on what I can and not make too much a fuss, but she’s getting a deal on this stuff that I’ve procured over the years (yes I paid f…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 07:37 PM
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Good approach, appreciate the response. I think I may take a few items (patio chairs, etc.) but the bulk will stay in the house. It’s just funny, cause all this stuff has a value albeit used. But still. Seems her half of house and furnishings gets her quite a bit more than my half.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 06:30 PM
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Ha! If it was just me man, I would. But with two boys I will be raising 50% of time, I need to make a comfortable home for them.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 06:07 PM
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“The best revenge is living well”
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 07:01 PM
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Right on agreed, thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 05:08 AM
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Agreed, thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 11:25 PM
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Agreed, appreciate it thanks! Trying to get some money together…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 11:24 PM
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Right on thanks for the update. So you added up the debt and the equity in home and she made up the difference? Can you provide ballpark numbers as an example. I’m in a similar situation now in CA. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 07:04 PM
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Hi, what was the outcome?
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 06:39 PM
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Thank you sir, great comment and advice! She cannot currently afford the mortgage of $3K as it is now for the family home. I’m thinking we would have to sell this house…split the proceeds - get her the majority of the equity in exchange for my 401K/pension, …just stinks for the kids sake. OR she sells her Mom’s house for $800K, pays off the mortgage outright $395K, and I agree to pay her back for half that amount ($197.5K) overtime. Not sure that makes sense. But it gives her this house with kid…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 09:32 AM
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Hi there, there is only $20k left on her mom’s house at a variable rate and is currently about $480/mo, she uses the remaining money to cover property taxes and $600 of the $2500 to pay for kids school. The rest is hers for living and what not. Yeah thinking it through. Not sure if a mediator would have an idea? Want to try and limit attorney involvement as we are both strapped on cash at the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 04:11 AM
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Yeah…hoping to come to some sort of agreement separately with her. Maybe I’m nuts, but hoping we can work it out without court order.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 03:19 AM
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Yeah understood. Trying to be positive about it. I don’t really care about the house. She can have it. Just no money for me to be paying mortgage on marital home and having to live elsewhere. I think we just sell home and split. I’ll pay alimony and child support for the next ~ 8 years as required/agreed to.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 03:03 AM
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