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FIELD REPORTGingerDoughGirl/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 01:28 AM
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I have had glasses since I was eight years old and am blind as a bat without them. I got contacts at age eleven and wear them most of the time. I have noticed this past year my night vision is not what it used to be but that does not impact cleaning...I also always touch surfaces to feel if they are clean. Looks can be deceiving even if my corrected vision is 20/20. I am so on the fence about how to manage grey hair. I think nothing looks more atrocious than a woman with grey roots showing under…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 11:00 PM
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Time Magazine's Science of Marriage issue said that according to the available research getting married between two and four years after beginning dating was ideal. Shorter and longer time spans correlated to higher divorce rates. The proposed explanation was that for people who wait a long time they probably have different ideals about the importance of marriage than those who would be most likely to avoid divorce. My husband and I were dating for about 18 months before we got engaged and were …
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/18 07:25 AM
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Well, I tend to keep my circle of friends tight and small. I am extraverted and so acquire quite a few acquaintances but do not consider most close friends even when they like me. My friends either have similar mindsets and life situations or are very non-judgmental people. I also tend to be quite assertive and direct as a woman. I am friend with women who appreciate that I deal with them directly and will challenge them if I think they are being nonsensical. One of my close friends is a never m…
/r/RedPillWives22/12/18 06:12 PM
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Wowza...picking up men in casinos and AA meetings sounds like a disastrous idea! My fiance used to be into gambling. He had enough control of it that it never financially harmed him but after we had been dating for a while he decided to put himself on the list that says he can not go into the casino. He said he wanted to be more serious at laying solid financial foundations for a life together and even if he didn't often lose, it was a silly waste of money to gamble. We no longer even live in a …
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/18 02:27 PM
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I like nerdy men and don't see those interests as a yellow flag on their own. My fiance has played MTG most of his life. He does it less so now that he is almost 30 but he is still into it. It is true a lot of these nerdy types are awfully insecure and it shows in their passivity and clinginess, but there are also ones out there that are not like that. I would see the personality traits as a negative rather than the interest itself. I don't really have any of those typical nerdy hobbies myself s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 02:00 AM
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That is adorable. I don't have anything as cute to share. However, I recently had discussion with my soon-to-be father in law and his brother about my issues with the implications of the phrase "happy wife, happy life". They were confused and taken aback by my assertion that it is a mentality that dismisses the desires and personhood of the husband when building a life together. It made my fiance smile and say he was so glad he was marrying me. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 10:45 PM
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We had a lady like this at my fiance's last job who liked to meddle. When he was planning to buy an engagement ring she was insistent that if he listened to what I said I wanted, I would refuse to marry him. She showed him for $20k ring and said that he needed to spend at least that much and if I said I was okay with something smaller I was lying. She also told him he just had to do some over the top romantic gesture or I would hold it against him forever. Fortunately, my fiance is smart than th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 01:29 PM
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I enjoy poking my head into their dark corner of the internet from time to time to try and understand their rationale by observing them in their natural online habitat, not sure that I have anything to contribute to a Q and A though. RPW seems like an odd place to post about this forum...
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 12:05 AM
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One of his friends was recently complaining about his wife's outrageous spending habits. He took out a $60k loan in his name to consolidate her credit card debt even though SHE makes six figures just like he does! She has a designer shoe habit (200+ pairs) and is a chronic shopaholic. My fiance said that he never has to deal with these issues because his fiance owns like five pairs of shoes and is practical with money. This was one of the men who said once upon a time my fiance was making a mist…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 11:58 PM
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I love that movie (and that scene specifically). As someone who went to a women's college, built the perfect resume for law school admission and had LSAT scores high enough for at least a partial scholarship, but decided against law school to relocate and support my fiance's career, I relate to it a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 11:59 AM
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Here on RPW we take the stance that hooking up within minutes via Tindr will also leave you stuck with a pool of low quality men willing to commit to you if do it too many times.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 12:19 PM
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I don't really understand this question. Feeling feminine is not dependent on my fiance's actions. If that were the case I would be masculine without him and that's not how it works. Being feminine, which includes feeling feminine, attracted him to me and influenced how he treated me.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 07:20 PM
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Try to keep in mind that she may get more aggressive about pushing this path on you because she may take it as an indictment of her own choices for you to choose something different. Stay glued to your principles anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 04:04 PM
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Well, it sounds like you value looks over real relationship value. This will continue to shoot you in the foot and lead to disappointing relationships because one day the looks will fade on him and if that is all he had going for him that gave you the tingles you will throw him away for a man with real relationship value. Your superficiality is hurting you in the dating market because the pretty boys you can get don't have enough other stuff going for them for you to respect them for more than t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 03:46 PM
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Well...I guess we can see why your mom attracted the kind of low tier man that is abusive because more of those low value men will be accepting of a woman with pseudo prostitution in her job history. Most high value men won't want a woman who was sugar baby and many will assume you did sleep with clients even if you didn't (although you will likely encounter clients hoping they can pay some extra for some sex). If you want your life to follow the same trajectory as your mother's, then take her a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 03:36 PM
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You went on one date. It would be weird if he wasn't still trying to talk to other women. Also, most red blooded men will allude to the desire for sex because they want it. That is normal. That doesn't mean he is going to demand you do it the next time you see him but I would be more concerned if he showed no sexual appetite. My fiance made low key sexual innuendo on our first date. Nothing over the top or crass, but enough to let me know he saw me that way.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 12:58 PM
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The thing is that long term you can't really separate respect and attraction. Right now your attraction to him sounds largely physical. He is handsome therefore you are attracted. For now. But his looks will fade (as will yours) so if you don't have respect for him, he will no longer be attractive. However, a man you hold in high esteem will continue to be attractive to you even if his metabolism slows down in middle age and his hair falls out. That respect will allow you to still be excited by …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 12:36 PM
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I think that because of the way you've written about him. Some women might not have as much of an issue with some of these issues you mentioned, but you clearly do and are low key wishing he could be someone else. When you respect the man you are with you don't spend too much time pining for him to be different because you already respect him. I think if you were already married the advice you might be getting here would be a little different but since you are not even engaged or living together…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 12:56 PM
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Well, I met my fiance when I was 28, so there is that. I have a pretty face, ideal hip to waist ratio, and look a few years younger than I am but I am not thin (nor do I demand that out of a guy). I think a question you may have to examine is if the reality is you can't do all around better, but you will be unfulfilled in this relationship, are there spaces you are willing to compromise on? Like is it more important that he be handsome or that he be self sufficient and socially skilled? What if …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 12:49 PM
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My encounters with hormonal birth control were brief. I tried a few different kinds of pills and the mirena. Artificial hormones like that make me insane...just so emotionally unstable and easily enraged on top of doing weird things to my cycle. It never affected my sex drive or caused weight gain, just made me unbearable to deal with. We used the fertility awareness method for a while but my fiance opted to get a vasectomy so we don't have to worry about it anymore. I think the negative side ef…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 11:42 AM
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I don't think it sounds like he is a bad guy but maybe just a bad fit for you. I personally do not feel comfortable dating men who drink a lot and very regularly. Mild autism isn't a dealbreaker to me because I get along so well with people on the spectrum, but the intelligence thing would irk me. My fiance would also probably score lower than me on an IQ test but there is no way he would score less than 115. I am an intellectual snob when it comes to dating and won't even try to pretend that I'…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 02:37 AM
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Before I was with my fiance I did not seek out orbiters but I chose to keep them around. After getting serious with him I released them from orbit and actively discourage new ones from coming around by purposely avoiding close male friendships and male dominant spaces. The thing about orbiters is they are easy to collect and it takes self discipline to turn down their attention and gifts. Demonstrating that self discipline made my now fiance see me as wife material. I also know that because of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 04:12 AM
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Yup. What I've read about the sigma male and this description here makes me think of Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec. For me, it is hot at first but not a persona that I can respect long term because it conflicts so much with my own approach to managing social interactions. Like with some of the scenarios you described, I crave the guy that is going to be like "Pull it together girl and slap on a smile because we have a show to put on." That kind of attitude helps me feel more protected, and ther…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 04:17 AM
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I did a little more reading on this today. I think I have dated a couple sigma guys in the past and had a hard time staying attracted. I am an extravert and pretty conscious of social appearances and hierarchies. The rebellious attitude of the sigma and his disdain for convention can be exhausting to me over the long term. I would classify my fiance as a greater beta maybe...has a lot of those alpha traits, including the extraversion to get leadership positions and material success, and some ris…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 08:52 PM
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Can you explain the difference and why sigma is better?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 03:31 PM
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I asked my fiance about this because he says I have made the idea of sex with other people pretty lackluster and am the best he's had. He told me the reason for this is mostly my enthusiasm and shamelessness when it comes to sex. I love having sex with him and I'm not coy about it. I don't wrestle with feeling dirty after doing things other blue pill women might find degrading (i.e. giving head without wanting it in return or being choked during sex). He told me the visual appeal is higher for m…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 01:53 PM
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I have always been under the impression that sexual peak in these terms is just referring to maximum sex drive not attractiveness, which makes this whole article superfluous...
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 01:34 PM
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We do some of that rough play too. Not all of this time, but often enough. Sometimes I will come out of the master bath to find him waiting to pounce. He might pin me to the wall by my neck or grab my hair and order me to my knees. Or, he might just roughly throw me on the bed and spread my legs. It makes me giggle nervously and get really turned on...I think if it was everytime then it wouldn't be so exciting. He does it with enough regularity for it to not totally catch me off guard but not to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 01:28 PM
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I have never been in a polygamous marriage and don't know how well the information I have would apply to Indian culture, however... My best friend growing up was Muslim and had parents from Egypt. Islam allows a man to have up to four wives, which for my little American brain was baffling. The father only had one wife but he explained to me that it was allowed to make sure a man did not need to divorce his wife if something came up that did not allow her to completely fulfill her wifely duties s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 12:44 PM
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My fiance is a math guy. That is forever known as pi day in these parts. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 07:03 PM
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I do have to wonder...if you believe your boyfriend is truly attracted to your body now, why do you need reinforcement from the internet strangers here? This is the last place on the internet you will get any sympathy for not being thin and they may even try to convince you even more that your boyfriend couldn't possibly really find you attractive because you are not thin enough (or if he does he is clearly a low value beta male...read the sidebar for some doses of that too). RPW is seriously th…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 08:53 PM
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Having dated multiple men without their own car and license, it became a deal breaker for me for a guy not to have a license at minimum but preferably his own car. I got my license at sixteen and have always had my own car. My fiance drives a clunker compared to my car but he has one. It meshes poorly with tendencies towards hypergamy to date a guy who can not at least match my level of life skills. I have also met multiple people who end up postponing a drivers test or failing it multiple times…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 04:26 AM
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My mom made a ton of mistakes and was toxic in a lot of ways but she did make some good impressions. She stressed the importance of women embracing their feminine role as wives and mothers. She had a disdain for feminism and tried to shelter me from the modern feminist attitudes of being a "strong independent women who don't need no man". She also taught me to not accept mediocrity. If I was going to do something, she said don't waste my time only doing it halfway. She frequently counseled me ab…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/18 06:01 PM
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When he requests something from you in front of friends (for example, "Can you grab me a water?"), smile sweetly and take care of it. Most men in relationships these days do not have women who will be compliant even in small things so this can leave a big impression on people who witness it. If other female friends are complaining about their significant others, only say positive things about your guy no matter how much the others are complaining. It is subtle stuff like this that sets an exampl…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/18 02:45 PM
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A summary was offered of what you sound like based on the words you wrote. If these statements are not true then your description of your situation would include things about yourself that challenges the dominance of these traits. It is pretty blue pill thinking to completely disregard what someone says because the reality check hurt your feelings. And submissive is not the same as lazy. A woman can be submissive and still be able to take care of herself. Many women here have careers and degrees…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 01:14 PM
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I think sometimes guys seems to respect less attractive women more simply because they process their interactions more similarly to how they would with guys since there is not much attraction there. They do not feel a pull to hit on them because they do not see them sexually, which makes it easier to treat her like one of the guys. It is also true that really beautiful people do not grow up having to work as hard on their personality and it shows a lot sometimes. Not necessarily just with lack o…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 01:30 PM
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This comment made me crack up. It is so true. I was hotter at 18 but I make better wife material now because teenagers are just unbearable. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:33 AM
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I thought the dynamic was alpha fucks, betabux? Thirty days from now I am marrying a guy who makes good money and is generous but sensible with it. (I will never have direct, unfettered access to his money and he handles all of the finances.) He is tender and kind with me, but also firm with his boundaries. He is not too conventionally attractive but he isn't tragic. He has average facial structure, perfect smile, and is built like a lineman (very tall, very heavy, very strong)...he was a varsit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 08:53 AM
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I am three years older than my fiance. I had a hard line rule most of my life that I do not date younger men or frat boys, and certainly not someone who is both of those things. Then I met my fiance...he is greying so it is easy to forget he is younger than me. He is also so mature and put together in so many ways that it felt like dating someone who was middle aged with their life together. He teases me about being old because he is in his 20s and I am in my 30s, but it's just teasing. We live …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 08:23 AM
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My fiance falls into that second class. He actually dumped his virgin girlfriend in college because she was too boring. His next girlfriend was not a virgin but pretty inexperienced. He dreaded sex with her because she was so uptight and dull. He told me he got to a point of avoiding it with her and it became a chore. Girl after her was plated for a whole year. He also had a variety of one night stands between these ladies. He said sex was decent but he wasn't willing to commit to any of them. I…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 08:10 AM
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I am personally repulsed by man whores. I would not deem a guy who had fifty partners the kind of man I would want to seriously entertain dating. The kind of women who line up as groupies are generally considered pretty low hanging fruit too and I do not have much respect for those kind of women either. Self control is an attractive trait in a man and discretion even when choice is available is a demonstration of that. It is something that distinguishes a man as potential marriage material in my…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 08:00 AM
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I can't imagine my fiance yelling at me for accidentally spilling something and I know that if I got mad at him for a simple mistake like that our marriage would be off to a bad start. He also does not yell at me more because I cry. He generally does not believe in raising his voice to women because it triggers an instinctual fear for their life (he is a big guy). Every so often we have women come through here in relationships that sound truly awful and they hope that if they erase themselves en…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/18 06:38 PM
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I have seen a marriage work fine when the wife earned three times as much as the guy, but he had to pick up the slack by covering a lot of the typically feminine jobs. He worked from home so could be with the baby more while she was a lawyer frequently away on business trips. He would be responsible for a lot of the home care, cleaning, and maintenance jobs. He also had to take care of cooking dinner every night. It worked for them and she showed him respect and deference but I think a lot of me…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 04:13 PM
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My fiance did not say "I love you" until we had been in each other's lives for about eight months. I told him I loved him before he told me. He did not say it back. He said he has disdain for how easily people throw around the phrase. He is not the type of man to say it to a woman unless he thought she was worth spending the rest of his life with. I could not understand why it was such a big deal to say it and got my feelings hurt a lot in that time because of not understanding his stance. I had…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 08:18 PM
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Sounds like you may be experiencing a shame reaction to the sex, hence the aversion to the guy and general sense of feeling bad afterwards. If that is the case, you will need to do some soul searching about where your heart lies in terms of morality with timing of sex (like do you need more connection or even higher commitment to have shame free sex) because TRP isn't here to help with that part of things. In terms of the sex not being amazing the first time, a lot of people experience that. I c…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/18 12:42 AM
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Actually, nowadays I think a lot of men do expect to be able to withhold financial support and commitment just like many women feel entitled to withhold sex and respect. The new form of trophy wife doesn't need a man's financial support; just look at some of the OPs favorite comments. Disregarding the importance of these things and the way they relate to each other is problematic though in gender relations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/18 10:35 PM
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My fiance is 6'5" and it has been a serious fantasy for him to encounter a woman tall enough to look him right in the eyes. If he saw you just passing by in a mall, there would be no force on this earth strong enough to stop him from turning his head to take in the sight. Some guys are not attracted to a taller woman, some guys really like tall women, and some guys don't care that much either way. Find one from the second two groups. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 03:10 PM
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My fiance is an important and busy guy with his own friends, hobbies, and successful career. My love language is quality time and since he determined he wanted to keep me, he wants me to feel loved. So, even before we moved in together we saw each other three evenings a week and had phone conversations before bed on half of the other nights. Even now, he calls be before bed for like half an hour if he is out of town for a trip. And when at home, he decided the last hour or two of the night befor…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 08:08 PM
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My fiance is an important and busy guy with his own friends, hobbies, and successful career. My love language is quality time and since he determined he wanted to keep me, he wants me to feel loved. So, even before we moved in together we saw each other three evenings a week and had phone conversations before bed on half of the other nights. Even now, he calls be before bed for like half an hour if he is out of town for a trip. And when at home, he decided the last hour or two of the night befor…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 08:07 PM
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My fiance is an important and busy guy with his own friends, hobbies, and successful career. My love language is quality time and since he determined he wanted to keep me, he wants me to feel loved. So, even before we moved in together we saw each other three evenings a week and had phone conversations before bed on other nights. Even now, he calls be before bed for like half an hour before bed if he is out of town for a trip. If a woman is important enough to a man and he knows quality time is …
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 07:57 PM
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My fiance is an important and busy guy with his own friends, hobbies, and successful career. My love language is quality time and since he determined he wanted to keep me, he wants me to feel loved. So, even before we moved in together we saw each other three evenings a week and had phone conversations before bed on other nights. Even now, he calls be before bed for like half an hour before bed if he is out of town for a trip. If a woman is important enough to a man and he knows quality time is …
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 07:56 PM
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I appear younger than my partner but I am three years older than him. My appearance made him want to sleep with me. My ability to inspire the desire to protect and guide is what made him fall in love with me. But, my ability to demonstrate that I was an adult who could be a competent partner in navigating life is why he decided to marry me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 06:06 AM
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This is what I do pretty much every time we go out. It works well!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 12:11 AM
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Also thought to add...how does he react to my tears? My fiance is pretty much the only person on this planet who gets to see me vulnerable enough to shed tears. He knows that I hold frame like a boss in almost all of my social interactions in real life, and with him I remove that mask and show the full vulnerability underneath, which includes tears no one else sees. This is special to him and he often encourages me to stop trying to act so tough and just let it out. He wants to be a protector an…
/r/RedPillWives19/10/18 12:42 PM
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I feel like here is where red pill barely makes sense for women. We are supposed to be the more emotional sex but crying seems to be viewed as so manipulative and awful. So, women are manipulative for having feelings and showing them? Even though being emotional is a feminine trait and red pill women are supposed to be feminine? It's like the real message is that women are supposed to look feminine but pretend to hold frame like a man at all times. I'm not buying into this premise. Men who want …
/r/RedPillWives19/10/18 12:16 PM
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If she seems more unstable than she used to be, it is possible she is going through menopausal hormone changes and it is messing with her mood. It is also possible though that reading RPW has helped you to recognize some of this toxic behavior when you might not have seen it as clearly before. Also, sometimes grandparents get really intense about insisting they know best for the grandbaby. It's like anything not done their way is an indictment of their own parenting style and they take it person…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 03:15 PM
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I was raised mostly by my grandparents. They hold to traditional gender roles pretty well but my grandmother is such a control freak and a nag when it comes to interacting with children, clothing choices, or anything to do with how the home looks. She has never stayed with us and my fiance says she will never be able to live with us when she is older because of this demeanor of hers. She tries to tell me about the various ways I should nag my fiance and get him to do things. In a lot of ways, sh…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 01:09 PM
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One thing I learned is that my fiance responds extremely negatively to me being angry. What I have found through introspection is that often times anger isn't even the emotion I am feeling. I am usually hurt before I am angry but have been conditioned by society that anger is a stronger emotion and you shouldn't let people know they hurt you. So, I have had to learn how to stop the emotion train at the emotion the anger is covering up. This often results in processing the emotion to be showing v…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 01:42 PM
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That movie made me cry when Karen Straughn was talking about the "save our girls" movement in response to the girls being kidnapped but emphasizing how no one cared about all the boys killed before these girls were taken hostage. Both of our jaws hit the floor when that bit clicked.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 12:54 PM
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I relate to this comment so much.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 12:24 PM
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Here is a random anecdote from the other day. I was leaving the salon and heading to my car around the same time as another woman. We were about the same dress size but that is about where the similarity ends. She had short hair and was wearing skin tight jeans, sneakers, tight t-shirt, not much make-up. I was wearing a knee length dress, light make up, and long curled hair. A couple of guys walked past us and one guy craned his head around to look at her butt. Compared to this other woman my pr…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 12:18 PM
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I am grateful for the beautiful new home we just moved into and for our wedding being just two months away. I am grateful that our month apart during the moving process is over and it makes me so happy to be able to see him again everyday! I recently learned that my body can not handle gluten, which is so sad and requiring a major dietary overhaul, but I am grateful to finally know how to make my various tummy issues go away. I am also excited about my second wedding dress fitting this weekend a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 06:14 AM
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I am the same way. A tiny handful of ladies I have known for a very long time. My best friend is the same girl I was best friends with in kindergarten. A large quantity of friends just can't make up for that kind of quality!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 06:07 AM
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Girl...I just looked at your post history..is this the same guy you posted about a couple weeks ago where basically everyone here told you to leave him because he was not captain material or truly red pill? Even the men were saying that! You are walking yourself into a world of pain here and I know you don't feel good about yourself after this experience. Listen to good advice the first time around. Don't ignore it, get into even more toxic situations, and then wonder why this relationship isn't…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 10:42 PM
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My last relationship I did not trust him with finances at all. He was not a good financial planner and ultimately not captain material. It felt like a huge risk to let my fiance manage the finances...but, he is good with money and truly is better at it than me. He does not abuse the power and I know he will make sure to take care of business. I gave him info and passwords to access to all of my accounts for him to keep tabs on, but he makes me pay my bills myself each month and set a reminder em…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 09:06 PM
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My fiance and I watched The Red Pill, the Cassie Jaye film, together and a lot of the additional interviews. It provoked a lot of great discussion about feminism and gender dynamics without the how to guide of the red pill forums. He said he took a peek in the forums before and said it's not for him. I don't say much to him about my involvement on these forums because I figure I can also try to follow the first rule of fight club like the guys do, but he knows I am in here. I wouldn't like needi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 08:48 PM
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This would be a dealbreaker for me. A captain is capable of keeping his word even if it is difficult. A man worth submitting to can keep his word even if he regrets having made the promise and if he needs to back out of an agreement can have an adult discussion about it. He had an adult discussion, agreed to something that he didn't want, and then did what he wanted anyways. Regardless of what you said in the moment, that is a deal breaker for me. I do not date men who are cool with lying to me …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:39 PM
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What happens though if he loses his hair as he ages like many men do?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 01:14 AM
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When I was in college I said I would never date a frat boy. I met my fiance a few years after he was out of college. Turned out he had been an officer in his fraternity for four years. I still have mixed feelings about the frat boy thing, but I decided he didn't overly embody the things I disliked about that culture.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 01:12 AM
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When it comes to dating and last minute cancellations, I do not provide much wiggle room. Life happens but if his life is so busy or dramatic that things keep popping up on a consistent basis, that is a sign he isn't really in a position for a real relationship and that he isn't that into you. You spazzing out and being abusive just really drove that home for him but I think he was already halfway there before then. Move on and try to do things differently next time around. This ship has sailed.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:47 PM
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History of drug and alcohol abuse. (My fiance has never smoked a cigarette or tried a hard drug and his drinking habits mostly surrounded the fraternity parties in college.) Temper problems. Getting angry is a normal human emotion but I won't be with a guy who handles his anger by cursing, yelling, name calling, breaking things, or being in any other ways threatening. (My fiance can hold frame like a boss in this department and doesn't believe in raising his voice to women.) Lack of education, w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:58 PM
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He is tender with me. Tonight, I was feeling so homesick. We already have a plan in place for me to go visit friends and family once a month, but it feels overwhelming to think about starting over in so many ways. I love that his ambition has led us to this place because it is beautiful and there is not much to complain about. I love his drive and charisma that allowed this opportunity to happen. But, it is expected for moving to be challenging. There really is nothing to be done about that but …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 08:31 AM
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It is a community rule not to reveal your real identity. We are not supposed to post looking to meet up with people in real life and are discouraged from revealing our identity even in private messages. I understand the desire to want to know like minded women in real life, but because of the controversial nature of the red pill, anonymity tends to be regarded as the wisest policy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 11:34 PM
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Not sure how a man consensually having sex with a woman is her tricking him. Banking on a woman being able to overcome her biological programming enough to have an abortion is a silly think to bank on if you are red pilled, especially when protecting abortion rights has been the foremost cause of feminism. If a woman is by nature supposed to want to be a mother and nurturing, how is it trickery then for her to not want to abort her child? Choosing to have sex with a creature whose biological dri…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:30 PM
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The only way this would be important is if you are from a culture where your husband can divorce you if there isn't blood on the sheets after the wedding night. If you are in the West, this wouldn't apply so I am not so sure that there is any real benefit to this surgery from a social stand point.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:19 PM
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That is pretty hard to control for as the manosphere is pretty big on emphasizing. Once you have sex with a woman, you have no control over what happens with your sperm. Condoms aren't 100% and you can't force a woman to get an abortion. Pumping and dumping will always carry the risk of creating more single mothers.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:08 PM
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The sentiment comes from the notion that a woman who has unresolved issues surrounding her relationship with her father may unintentionally carry those over into relationships with other men in their lives. As a woman vetting, I looked at what kind of relationship did this guy have with his family. You wouldn't want to date a man who hates his mother either. It goes both ways. You can not control how your parents acted. I have a pretty broken childhood too. However, I can control the light I see…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 03:26 PM
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If I am not hungry, I say that. If I can't eat something, I say that. There is nothing wrong with having boundaries about the kind of food you can eat. Most people aren't going to be overly butt hurt about turning down free food they were giving away unless they either went totally out of their way to make it specifically for you or have their own emotional issues with food equating to love. My fiance is a big guy whose caloric needs far exceed my own even if he is on a weight loss plan. He unde…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 09:01 PM
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Are you saying that a fat woman who tries to wear nice looking and enjoyable clothes will look worse than if she wears sweat pants and no make up? Even if you personally think fat people are all hideous that doesn't make any logical sense...
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:45 PM
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Nope. Not even once. Morality aside, I can't say that I would see much of a benefit to doing so.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:41 PM
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That vacuum tip is pure brilliance!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 04:34 PM
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Here is how I strike the balance. I live with my fiance (marriage is in two months) so we have to see each other in down times. He wears a shirt and tie to work during the day. Sometimes he keeps it on for a little while after getting home because he knows I think it is so hot and then he changes into basketball shorts and a tshirt when dinner is served so nothing gets on the formal attire. I wear a nice dress and do light make up even on days I am not going out. In the evening when my fiance is…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:54 PM
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I might be an oddball, but it really turns me on. I do not get sexual pleasure from it per se, but I get really horny from doing it. I hate swallowing though and no matter how hard I try I can't get over it. I have even thrown up before after trying to swallow. My fiance asked me to stop trying and just let him spray it on my face and boobs, or stop giving head before he cums and let him finish inside of me. It makes it a process we can both enjoy. One thing I am trying to get over (with limited…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 12:34 AM
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LOTRO is the only video game I really play. I love the lore and the graphics are nice. I play a beorning and sometimes just like to go all bear and let out frustration grinding. Seems like a decent outlet to help me be more pleasant and feminine. Sometimes I will also pick up a game with my fiance for a while. We both went old school and played Might and Magic 6 through to the end and he got me into this game called Slay the Spire for a while. He likes it when I play video games sometimes becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 07:13 PM
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Girls doing this also makes it so much more attractive for men to avoid commitment. There is a decreasing need for commitment for men when silly girls act like this. Feminism calls it empowering but is decreasing our overall value in men's lives by pushing women to embrace these styles of sexual relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 04:19 PM
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Honestly, my wardrobe has more teal in it than any other color. My fiance's favorite color is bright orange. It is part of why he has such an attraction to gingers. I am a warm autumn and can wear orange pretty well, but I told him that wearing orange with copper hair was going to be a bit of a visual disaster, so he should pick which he prefers. I now go every four weeks to keep my hair copper colored and then wear whatever color dresses that I like. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 02:34 PM
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OP is using more of a gestalt technique and this comment talks more about cognitive behavioral type approaches. Both can be highly effective depending on the person. I never tried the gestalt visualization stuff until a professor made the class do it as part of a unit in a theories of counseling class. It surprised me how helpful it was because I typically lean more on the logic oriented CBT approach.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 07:42 AM
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I haven't gotten the sense that these things are directly in conflict with RPW however traditional conservatives will be the ones more drawn to these philosophies. I consider myself politically liberal on a lot of issues and super conservative on others. I like light BDSM, am open and comfortable with having a threesome with another woman (because I am not straight), and have enjoyed quite a few nights out drinking and being inappropriate with my fiance. I also have two tattoos on my back. Howev…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 05:53 AM
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This is not how sister wives are supposed to work. He cheated on you, plain and simple, based on this post. Now he wants you to let him impregnate you and this women he cheated on you with. I don't know how this doesn't raise a million red flags for drama, financial instability, and relational instability.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 05:41 AM
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I dress quite feminine most of the time. It is rare for me to wear something truly casual. I am the only girl my fiance has known that has such a strong preference for feminine clothes and he says I am often the best dressed girl in the room. He thought when he first met me I was just doing it to impress him but it is just who I am and what I enjoy wearing. There will be men who check you out, flirt, and generally not care that their wives or girlfriends are right there and some will stare even …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 05:36 AM
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This is a wonderful post! Congratulations on the little one on the way! It sounds like you guys are off to a fantastic start!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 04:49 PM
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I like this summary a lot. :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 05:31 AM
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I'm not an endorsed contributor or anything but based on all the different comments I have read here, multiple women on the forums didn't meet their significant other until they were close to or at "the wall". Your sexual issues will probably cause you more problems on the dating market than your age and past relationship. Pregnancy after age 35 has more risks and the older you get the more miscarriages you will likely have to deal with during the conception process but it is becoming pretty com…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/18 08:09 PM
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I know this relationship has since demised...I truly hope one day you can come back to these old posts you have made and see the wonderful advice ladies here gave about watching out for red flags before you try dating again. This was a big one. I would never marry a man who threatened to call off the wedding if I did not quit my dream job. In fact, I would not make myself vulnerable before any man who emotionally blackmailed me with threatening to leave when he didn't get his way. Since we made …
/r/RedPillWives25/09/18 03:59 PM
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How unbelievably devastating! Based on your post history, there is so much complexity to the situation you guys had between sexual issues, his own temper issues, etc. Maybe nun mode would be good for a while to get some distance from the relationship and get a more objective perspective on how it all went down. And, depending on the state, you may have some legal recourse if it's considered a common law marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 03:34 PM
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When my sister was pregnant she worked on getting her daycare license. She would watch one or two kids in her home so she could stay home with her babies. It didn't pay a lot but it did help take some of the financial pressure off her husband while always having kids available to socialize her own little ones. If you can stay on top of the housework, enjoy being around kids, and your husband doesn't mind, it can be a great arrangement.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 03:05 PM
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I didn't ask him to take me back nor did I expect him to. I communicated that I would like that but it wasn't a request or ultimatum. I went into the conversation already mentally seeing it as saying goodbye. As for earning my trust back, in the coming weeks he had me watch as he deleted his online dating profiles and I did the same. I never felt like he lost my trust as a person worth respecting and loving. I never stopped admiring him. I am not usually the kind of girl to wait around in a situ…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 12:50 AM
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I have some personal experience here in my current relationship. I got downgraded from LTR to plate around three months into my relationship with my now fiance. It crushed me and I had the same level of pining going on that you are experiencing. It was miserable and pre-RP. I had without realizing it shit tested too hard and made him question my potential as LTR material. I was so madly in love with him and since he still wanted me in his life, I allowed myself to be plated for three months. It …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 09:40 PM
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I was clarifying because not everywhere has accurate sex ed and in a culture where "my body, my choice" is a huge refrain, she may not assume it needs to be discussed with him. My fiance was raised in a conservative part of the country where sex ed was made of abstinence only pep rallies. He had no idea about how the female reproductive cycle actually worked and thought the chance of pregnancy is the same every time you have sex. I was not implying she would try to trap him into a baby, but clar…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 04:19 PM
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Don't ditch the birth control without discussing it first. He needs to be able to have informed consent about having sex with you. There are only a few days out of every month you can get pregnant. Frequency makes it more likely of those times will fall during your fertile window but it only takes once a month at the ideal time to make a baby. I don't take hormonal birth control because I do not like how it impacts my body and that was something my fiance knew up front. (He ultimately got a vase…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 03:12 PM
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I like the look of long flowy skirts and dresses with a pouch or ring sling. It can give off that beautiful earth mother type vibe. There are some etsy shops that make gorgeous slings that you can easily incorporate into outfits. Go you for the new baby not equating to living in yoga pants!
/r/RedPillWives23/09/18 08:01 PM
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Thank you for the kind words and encouragement!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 05:57 PM
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My fiance told me on the first date he assumed his life trajectory would leave him married and raising kids by his mid thirties. He had just turned 26 and was not ready for marriage yet, but he still knew it was something likely in the cards for him one day. This guy is low key telling you he would pump and dump you with his words and actions. Don't fall for it just because he is hot.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 04:33 PM
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You can do this! My fiance moved three weeks ago to another state for a new job. He had to start there before closing on the house. We have lived together for the last year. There are ways we could have finagled things to move together at the same time but financially it didn't make sense for me to move before we could move into the new house. I miss him tons but I know this was the move that was best for our financial wellbeing. When it is all done next week I know he will be able to look back …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 04:26 PM
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This comment made me laugh because it is true! It made me love him even more because it showed me how thoughtful and level headed he is about major life decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 04:22 PM
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I have been slipping with self care all over the place. We are in the middle of a big move and he left three weeks ago to start his new job. When he came to visit last week he commented that circles under my eyes looked like I got in a fight with someone and he was concerned I wasn't taking good enough care of myself in his absence. I also lost weight twice as fast for those weeks as I am supposed to be, although I did make some tweaks this last week and slowed it down to the goal range. I am le…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 04:17 PM
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It is not uncommon for women we interact with to end up getting this slightly dreamy look like you see in r/girlsmirin. It is not the same thing as a woman drooling with lust and I think it is sweet. You know, it is more like a little girl with a crush demeanor that he inspires than a "I want to drop my panties" leer. Typically it makes me smile and beam with pride that he chose me. It inspires me that he can draw out softness in random women. Even when women have outright flirted, I don't feel …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 03:41 PM
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Prior to engagement being on the table, my fiance had me print off my credit report to review. If my credit was bad and I had what he considered to be too much debt, he would not have entertained the idea of marrying me. He presented me with his credit report at the same time in the name of fairness. He has his financial life in order and would not want to marry someone whose financial management skills were disastrous. However, in the context of our relationship he manages all of the money. He …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 03:21 PM
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They really did. My department head frequently complained that people don't value dressing nicely anymore and I remember one time at a lecture by a guest speaker she walked up to a girl I was talking to (who was wearing sweats and a t-shirt), gave me a look over and proceeded to scold the girl for not representing the university well with her choice of attire. The poor girl was humiliated and I had never been more grateful for my general preference for dressier attire. I had faculty and students…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 04:03 AM
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Different guys have different preferences about this stuff. My fiance has an intense preference for redheads to the point where he has me go every four weeks to get my hair touched up to keep it looking like I am a natural redhead (I have a warm autumn skin tone and freckles so a warm ginger hue works). But, I've met guys who were bananas for blondes or brunettes. My fiance also has a preference for tall, curvy women but my own father had an intense preference for petite women who were no taller…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 11:18 PM
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There is a difference between average face and ugly face. If you have a conventionally attractive body and dress in a fashionable, feminine way then an average face should not be much of a hindrance. It is true that having an extremely beautiful face buys a little more generosity in terms of SOME men being willing to accept more body fat, but I don't think it would be accurate to say that men would unilaterally choose the pretty face. That is certainly not what I have seen typically play out in …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 03:36 PM
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I am an extremely cynical girl who firmly did not believe in love and related romantic notions. Then I met a guy whose level of cynicism rivaled my own and we somehow convinced each other to believe in love. (I think pheromones are pretty powerful things.) We both believe that if we stop making a conscious effort in our relationship that feeling could easily change to something else like resentment or bitterness. We also believe that odds are one day all of these happy, fuzzy feelings won't be a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 05:23 AM
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We are great at communication and talking through things. Sexual compatibility is a big strength in our relationship and I feel that our approach to managing finances is both more peaceful and well controlled than any of the other couples we know in real life. We are also genuinely happy in our relationship, which I think is a huge strength that not a lot of couples around us have.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 03:17 AM
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I was under the impression that SMV refers to appearance and everything else like education, character, and income falls under RMV. Although, I agree that the non-physical traits significantly influence attraction. For me specifically, the non-physical stuff outweighs the physical. A guy with a six pack but an uninspiring character is not going to make me horny for him. My fiance once admitted it took him a week to work up the courage to message me on the dating website because based on looks he…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 09:32 PM
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My fiance said it matters that I went to the right school and came from the right kind of family background that his family would respect. I think if his family didn't approve of me it would have been a complete deal breaker. The social circle piece is easier to overlook because his family adores me. And, part of why his family likes us as a match is they approve of my family. His parents grilled me about my education, family history, and my parents careers during our first conversation. My fian…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 07:59 PM
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Previous advice in comments about how to specifically respond was great so I am not going to repeat it. However, I want to share personal experience with these two specific issues to maybe offer a different way for you to look at it. My fiance despises the zoo. And the aquarium, which he has named "water zoo". We have never been to the zoo together as a result and it's not an activity I typically suggest with him. I, of course, am welcome to go to the zoo whenever I want and he even offered to b…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:45 PM
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I will say that I let him kiss me on the second date and had sex with him on the third date. I was dating my last partner for seven months before we had sex but for some reason I just really, really wanted to have sex with my now fiance early on...it legitimately confused me but I just went with it. It was way before discovering RPW and I almost got alpha widowed at one point early on due to some bad shit testing, but fortunately it worked out okay for me. He's not afraid to set boundaries and t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:10 AM
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I wore dresses to class. I was typically the only one but the other girls would often compliment me. I believe being the rare student who dressed nice for class everyday played a role in why so many leadership roles just fell in my lap at college.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:56 PM
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I am 5'9". He didn't have much luck with girls in college aside from a few blow jobs so he thinks he is pretty unattractive...he was in a fraternity and said he was the only one who was still a virgin at the end of college. He said that at the end of his senior year three girls told him they had wanted to sleep with him but they thought he wasn't interested because he didn't make a move. He said he had his head buried so deep in math books he was oblivious. However, he said now that he is furthe…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:52 PM
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My fiance probably has the lowest SMV of my previous partners but I love him in a way I've never felt before and we have an awesome sex life. I think part of it though is that he is the only guy I have ever dated who made me feel small. I am almost as tall as the average US guy but my fiance is eight inches taller. He also has a good handle on expressing dominant personality traits with me. I respect his ability to lead, which I can't say for any of the other guys I dated in my life. I think at …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 09:52 PM
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My fiance's entire friend circle are men around age 30 in STEM careers making six figures. They told him he was making a mistake marrying a woman with a lower education level and significantly less income potential than him. I went to a top ten women's college (with scholarships) but I just have a bachelors and work in child related helping professions that will never pay even a third of what my fiance makes. My fiance does not care and he admires the work I have done and what it says about my c…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 04:38 AM
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My fiance is not the hottest guy I could pull for a relationship but his relationship market value is off the charts. Realistically his SMV is probably only like a 3 or 4. For me though, I don't need the visual stimulation to be happy and sexually attracted. I need all the other things that are harder to find in a guy than a flat stomach...intense ambition, leadership qualities, a man almost everybody in my life who meets respects or wishes they could have. I focus on his positive physical attri…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 03:05 PM
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I am honestly more conservative than my fiance. He was raised in a socially conservative and pretty red pill family who also happen to be rabid Democrats. I am registered as a Democrat but my fiance says I'm really just a closet Republican. He isn't the artsy hipster type because I could never seriously submit to that type of guy...some girls might but they aren't my type. My fiance was a math major and works in IT. Nerd all the way and I loooove it!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 05:30 AM
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My fiance is quite overweight. I have lost 65lbs in the time we have been together and he has gained fifteen. He feels crappy enough about it without me telling him all about how he needs to change. I've been quietly doing my thing, cooking meals at home and packing lunches for him, and just backed off otherwise. I know a lot about nutrition from working with dietitians and taking lots of nutrition classes so if he asks me forinformation, I have tons and provide it. He has decided to join the we…
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 04:30 AM
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We close on a house in an area with frequent hurricanes in about two weeks. (They just got hit with a bad one near there but fortunately our house was fine!) I told my fiance that I will plan to have a fully stocked hurricane prep cabinet so we don't have to deal with the madness each time a storm hits.
/r/RedPillWives17/09/18 02:42 PM
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I know this is probably going to be OPs least favorite comment but you are so on the money here. I say this both as a person who majored in psychology and did work to heal my own mental health issues. Mental illness may explain a tendency towards certain behaviors but far too often people suffering with it use it as a crutch to justify treating people poorly. This is especially the case with personality disorders (and even more so with cluster Bs). This aspect of red pill philosophy of demanding…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 01:55 PM
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In my relationship, I make it a top priority to not reject him for sex. I have an extremely high libido and even if I am not actively in the mood, it takes only a few minutes to flip the switch. The way I see it, if I am going to risk hurting his self esteem by rejecting him I had better have a valid reason like being really sick. However, it goes both ways. Having a healthy sex life is also super important to him so he won't reject me either if I initiate unless he is really sick. If either one…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 01:45 PM
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I would personally respond with the stance that part of the dialogue of feminism is that women are sentient beings with the full mental capacity to form opinions and make their own choices. That being the case, isn't it anti feminist to tell her own daughter she is too foolish to think for herself? Probably would not make a lasting mark but I would say it at least once before taking on the avoid almost all conversations that aren't small talk stance.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 05:37 PM
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The latter half of this recommendation is so simple yet brilliant. I must put this to use with certain contentious people.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 05:33 PM
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I must say that I love the honesty of this community. When we love someone it is easy to want believe they deserve the world but that often isn't reality. However, even if your sister was a red pill dream girl and she was sure she was in love with this guy you have little power to actually sway her. Criticizing someone's relationship often doesn't result in them dumping the person as much as just distancing themselves from the naysayer. This particular situation though I really don't know how mu…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 05:27 PM
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I wouldn't be wondering if I should attend a work dinner unless I was explicitly asked by my fiance to be there. CalvinRichland had a great bit of insight. If he isn't giving you a direct answer it is likely because he knows telling you no directly will cause issues, which is indicative of some things you may need to work on. This is his career and therefore not something I would think I had a place to make a decision about. I generally don't assume I should get invited to anything work related.…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:12 PM
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I really need to work on this too. I am struggling to find the balance between being direct enough to not frustrate him (or me) but not being pushy. It is probably one of the aspects of RPW I am having the hardest time integrating properly.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/18 06:07 PM
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This response is excellent advice and a very thoughtful, accurate assessment.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:03 PM
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Some people in this world will never be happy without an open relationship. It is gaining popularity quickly in the US and becoming a lot less taboo. For some people it works, but for most I have seen it be a total drama fest. I had a guy I was with want the same thing from me when I was in my early 20s. We ended up breaking up not terribly long after because it wasn't an arrangement I wanted and he has cheated on every girlfriend since because of "needing variety". This was a boy I had known si…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 05:50 PM
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My take on the tone here is that a lot of the women here do have dominant streaks and it takes effort to keep them in check in our relationships. A lot of people are not interested in putting that same level of softness into their interactions with people who are not their partner (especially not anonymous ones on the internet) and I think in some ways this forum with the arrogant responses almost serves as a therapeutic outlet for some.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:46 AM
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It depends on the man and their own standard of too slutty. For some men a woman with an N count of more than zero is automatically disqualified. Other men may be fine with a higher count, but the higher your count the smaller the pool of men that will find it okay. My N count is within the range my fiance finds acceptable. Even if I was perfect in every other way I still think it would be difficult for him to make peace with my count being higher than what he considered reasonable. I think pret…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:24 AM
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Nobody is better than you at everything unless you truly are among the most dumb and incompetent humans on the planet. Since you managed to write this post in the first place I am going to assume that statement doesn't apply to you. So, you need to do some serious soul searching to determine what strengths you are bringing to the relationship. My fiance makes way more money, is more educated, stronger, taller, has more accolades and a resume that makes my impressive resume look kind of weak. He …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:04 AM
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Just a random update. He got the all clear and turns out neither one of us is neurotic in this way. So, yay! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 03:54 AM
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"I'm trying to build him up and be sort of a secretary rather than his mom. . ." This! I try to think of myself as his personal assistant and household manager that gets to have fun sexy times with him and be loved too. It definitely encourages a different style of approaching issues.
/r/RedPillWives13/09/18 03:27 AM
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You're welcome! 😊
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 03:24 AM
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I think it is fine when adults define on their own terms together what constitutes cheating vs not and it is okay if that definition differs from couple to couple as long as everyone is happy with it. I have yet to meet anyone though who is happy with outright cheating and I have certainly never seen anyone on RPW ever say women should accept it out of a partner. This community has a pretty hard line stance on being with men who treat you well and serial cheaters don't qualify.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 10:07 PM
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I have a couple of thoughts on this. He isn't comparing you to them and he isn't talking about how hot they are or how he would like to have sex with them. He is commenting on non sexual personality traits. Why would it make you insecure for him to say someone else was nice and sweet if you know you are also nice and sweet to him? My fiance has female coworkers that are friendly or chat with him. He has definitely described multiple ones as nice and sweet. It makes me happy his female coworkers …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 10:00 PM
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I also have overcome childhood trauma. I saw a trauma expert for a long time and working through those issues with a specialist is what helped me make myself into a high enough value partner to attract a good man. I am engaged to a wonderful, successful, loving man. We just bought our first house and will be having an amazing wedding in December. I believe I am getting my happily ever after but it wouldn't have happened without healing myself first.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 06:19 AM
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My fiance didn't do gifts and such until well after we were serious. He did not want to shower me with his hard earned money and set that as the base expectation for the relationship. Even though he made way more than me we frequently split costs of dates in the beginning. It was almost a year before he relaxed and the financial generosity set in...now I get to be spoiled with gifts, trips, jewelry, etc. as it reasonably fits into his budget. Once he believed I was not with him just for his reso…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 06:15 AM
1

My best luck was starting to use Jamberry wraps. They are pricier than nail polish but cheaper than a manicure. It takes a while to put them on but they last two to three weeks. I put them on when I am super stressed to stop myself from biting.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 06:07 AM
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My fiance did the exact same thing about his middle name when we first started dating and I didn't get it. I just shut up and let it go. I found out what it was later. My sense of humor is quite different than his. Mine is wry and subtle, his is banter and sarcasm that can sometimes rub me the wrong way (especially if I don't realize he was joking). It took time for us to learn to better cater our jokes to the other and avoid miscommunications but we rarely have the kind of issues we had about t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 06:05 AM
2

It takes me twenty minutes to do light make up and curl my hair. It takes a minute to put on a dress. Pack your lunch the night before and preplan your breakfast. Lay out your outfit and make a mental note of what you plan to do with your hair the night before. It doesn't take that much time to execute once you have your direction. You just have to have the discipline to plan.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 05:58 AM
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Are you even 100% sure they are actually divorced? In a lot of places you have to be separated to be able to legally divorce. Why would they move back in together after breaking up unless there is something else going on? Your low standards are going to set you up for a world of pain.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 05:56 AM
1

Does this group even have any power? What can they do except try to bait us into posting or keeping up bannable posts?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 05:51 AM
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My fiance says for just sleeping with a woman education or career has little to do with whether or not he would have sex with her. However, he would never have a relationship with a woman who didn't go to college and major in a field he respects. He also would not have seriously dated me if I didn't have a job that was interesting and something of which his family and social circle would approve. He has two degrees and a high paying white collar job with a fair amount of status in it for him. It…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 05:46 AM
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Drinking at parties at 16 is a great pathway to cause you to stumble into making decisions that can permanently lower your value as a partner. It is not a far jump from too much alcohol meaning making out with someone to not having your wits about you enough to have the sense to turn down sex with someone. Alcohol impairs judgment badly. I teach my son not to approach or fraternize with women who get drunk and party. I doubt you permanently marred your reputation with this encounter but you are …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 04:16 PM
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Mine doesn't read the red pill reddits either...or at least if he does he follows the first rule of fight club really well. I read them though daily to keep my own stuff in check to help keep our relationship thriving from my end. :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 08:08 AM
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I honestly feel like the principles of RPW helps keep that Disney feeling love alive...it is ironic because we are told it is a blue pill feeling but as a woman, I have found it is living the red pill approach that feeds it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 06:16 AM
1

I am Catholic but I do not think I have internalized sex is for procreation thing. He never wanted his own kids but grew up with intense family pressure to have them. He got snipped without reproducing. I am keeping my fingers crossed neither one of us has baggage about this we didn't see before...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 04:55 PM
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This quote, "We’re used to being on our own and aren’t afraid of it,” says single mom Dina Strada." Somehow this doesn't sound like a positive argument. It sounds like a woman who will be quick to remind you of this when you fight, which easily become emotional manipulation.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/18 02:53 PM
1

My fiance said if I die first he is probably going MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 03:51 AM
1

Can you explain more? My fiance is waiting on the results from his post vasectomy sperm count.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/18 11:55 PM
1

"One of the things I do with most women, is once we start to get a little physical, I tell them straight up that if I ever make them uncomfortable or do something they dont like, tell me right away and I'll stop. I think this is very important if you're bringing the chick to your place, because you have to remember, you're a grown ass dude and these women might hardly know you. I wait for the right opportunity to say this though, I make sure it doesn't seem awkward when I throw it out." This rev…
/r/askTRP17/08/18 05:51 AM
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