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The thing is that I am not worried about complete strangers, I am worried about my own family, friends and colleagues. Everyone is highly educated and status oriented. I have 2 high education degrees myself, speak 3 languages, have worked for years in top corporations and have an extensive international experience. On the other hand he was born in a little village and lacks all these life experiences, eventhough he strives to learn about many different topics and get better. However, even in the…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 07:35 PM
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I dont consider myself a victim, I know that my actions influenced the outcome and caused the situation I am now. I have been more than 4 years in therapy, still I cannot let go of the fantasy of the life I think I deserved..I see women all around me achieving exactly the life I wanted and I am stuck in a limbo. I cant help but finding it really depressing
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 11:34 AM
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You are totally right I have immense regrets about not having worked on myself and on my relationship enough when it was the right time for it. Unfortunately I just learnt the lesson way too late. ​ I also feel as an horrible person for describing him like that and I know it is totally unfair for him. I know I should cut him lose if I am not proud of him being my couple, I just do not want to lose him , I appreciate him a lot
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 10:24 PM
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I am not sure about it...My ex promised me marriage and we even put names to our kids one year before the breakup. I do not know if he strang me along on purpose for his own selfish reasons or he just had doubts and panicked at the end when I started to hint that I wanted to settle and start a family.. ​ The issue is that with my current boyfriend I feel all those positive things when it is just the two of us, but I am feeling kind of ashamed of presenting him as my couple in my social circles s…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 10:12 PM
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I am so afraid of that, he wants to introduce me to his people and I just want to keep the relationship between the 2 of us, like if I was not proud of him or something...Really unfair for him and I feel horrible about it
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 10:06 PM
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About the market value, that is what I though as well, but I see constantly in my Social Media women around my age, with similar looks, education and status that went through breakups and now start relationships with men having those traits that I am longing for. So I can see that it is definitely not impossible, it just does not seem to happen for me, I do not know why. ​ I still see myself having a family with a partner with whom I would love to share my life with. I am just not sure if my boy…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 10:03 PM
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in some aspects yes, in some others no...he is actually great in bed and we have an amazing sexual compatibility. but in a way i see him as a sweet teddy bear, he induces some nurturing instincts in me, even a bit motherly.. but regarding looks, education, status, life experiences...he is below my standards
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 09:40 PM
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Thanks for your advice! I do not possibly know how could I vet someone for marriage without cohabitating first. My exfiance pretended to be a completely different man during dating and hid a lot of his toxicity and terrible behaviours until he proposed and I decided to move together with him. If I would have married him without seeing him 24/7 for months first I would have a big problem now. I believe this man is genunienly interested in pursuing me long term. He has mentioned his wish to be mar…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 07:34 AM
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By the way we know each other for 3 months and we speak every day, sometime for hours, he wants to introduce me soon to his friends and family... is it really that early?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 05:45 PM
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The thing is that we are living in different countries at the moment, so the only way to spend time together is visiting each other and staying in each other places. He really cannot afford to be paying for a hotel while staying here, he already invested quite some money into buying two pairs of plane tickets. That is already an indicative that he is quite interested in me, isn´t it? Otherwise why wouldn´t he just choose to date locally instead? And I also find it quite important to see how he i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 05:25 PM
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That is why I am so surprised to be so attracted to a man more submissive, agreeable, sweet, soothing, caring...This is what Redpill defines as classically feminine traits, but the fact that he is able to embrace them makes me only respect him more! I am definitely afraid of becoming contemptous of him in the long run though.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 11:43 AM
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It is a term I used for clarifying the readers in a reddit group how would he be classified in the male social hierarchy, which is a scale widely known on the internet. It describes the reality of him not being at the top of this scale or having the considered alpha characteristics: dominating, charismatic, ambitious, etc. This is the plain truth. I wanted the most honest opinion from redpillers on my particular situation, and I think many people understand what is meant by beta male very well, …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 10:23 AM
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this is extremely clarifying, thanks a lot! from what you describe we share a lot of characteristics. after my relationship disasters i thought my personality was the problem and in order to be in a loving relationship with a man i should try to downplay my masculine qualities, but i really dont't want to! it feels like killing my own essence. at the beginning i was not sure i could feel a sexual attraction for him (i was very close to frienzone him) but once i decided to give him a chance the i…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 09:16 AM
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why? i dont think decribing a man as beta is in anyway offending. if you look for the meaning, the expression just describes a more submissive, complacient, less confrontational and passive man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 08:47 AM
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why narcissism?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 09:31 PM
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im not sure! we were a very good couple for 6 years, he seemed to be a great man and then came the change..i cant still figure out what happened
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:48 PM
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my first boyfriend only started to act like that after 6 years living together, it was like he was a completely different person and i was shocked to see his dark side! with the previous one things went quite fast and i definitely ignored some red flags. How can I apply the RPW differences between men and woman into my current relationship in which I am more dominant than him?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:45 PM
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exactly that is why i could not follow him, he started to treat me badly few months after he broke up with me...moved to his country by himself, and then tried to convince me to follow and marry him in there. i was terrified and shocked by the whole thing
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:41 PM
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he seems to have them but i dont know him that well yet. we did not get to a point in which he had to call me out on anything or set boundaries with me, difficult to know since we are living in different countries at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:36 PM
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great advice, thank you! he wantd to go faster than i would like to though, he wants to be exclussive, already introduce me to his family, etc. i am constantly pressing the breaks, but with 36 is not that i have all the time in the world...
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:33 PM
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I find his personality and our emotional connection amazing! But he is very tight economically due to his lack of ambition, he is a conformist in that sense and he is unmotivated to work...definitely not a leader. Can a man like this be a good husband in the long run ?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:29 PM
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That is precisely my question, am I making a mistake falling for my boyfriends kindness, care, sweetness, etc when I clearly see that he lacks some masculine traits? This is what I really need now after going through a lot of mistreatment, to be treated really really well and be put on a pedestal, but in the long run, am I going to regret having to be carrying much more weight economically, decission wise and so on? Will I resent him because of this or is love, emotional connection, care, etc fr…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:23 PM
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I really appreciate your comment, it is very clarifying! The acute cPTSD episode after his abandoment was indeed one of the most horrible experiences in my life, I literally wanted to die every day for 4 months. As far as I know I did not have horrible traumas as a kid and my family was pretty loving, eventhough I went through sexual abuse after drinking too much one night just before meeting my ex. However, I still cannot understand how could I develop cPTSD from the breakup, eventhough I was a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 07:11 PM
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You are right, what happened during the months before and during the break up caused me to develop depression and cPTSD. I consider myself feminine in the way I look, dress and speak, and I am working hard on being less opinionated, but it just feels horrible to have to bite my tongue. It is true that I value status and love to compete to be the best I can in many areas, and some hormonal tests showed that I have high testosterone. Maybe I am just not femine enough eventhough I try hard with loo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 05:22 PM
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Well...from what he has told me he feels very very happy with me and I am trying to be the best partner possible! He really inspires me to be my best version eventhough he is not the prototype of an alpha man. He adores me, he is caring, sweet like a teddy bear, we connect very profoundly, etc . he is bringing my femininity more than ever. How is this possible if he is not displaying that many masculine traits? Will this relationship will be a problem for my future since he lacks masculinity and…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 05:02 PM
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This is an amazing point! Thank you :) TBH, after the first breakup, which was very traumatic and kept me in depression for months, I have been very afraid of abandonment and feel like broken goods. My first boyfriend was the man I wanted to marry and have children with (true love, good looking, great career, educated, amazing compatibility, good values...). I grew a lot with him and somehow he needed to break up with me to do the growing himself, but I still wonder why he left me in such a crue…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 04:39 PM
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About what can I do for him: he has told me that he didn't feel like being in a relationship for 2 years until he met me, so I guess he is happy with what I am offering, or what do you mean exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 04:14 PM
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The thing is that, at the beginning of both relationships, they did not seem to be like that at all, they loved bombed me pretty intensely! My first boyfriend changed completely after 6 years and the most recent one right after proposing and moving together. I wonder if there is something in my character (maybe too dominant, argumentative or controlling) that triggers these reactions in some men, but I don't think that justifies any abuse... My issue with my current boyfriend is not that he is m…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 04:03 PM
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Thank you for your honest opinion! I really do not think of myself as the perfect woman, quite far from it, I have many flaws! But I have been working a lot on self-improvement and I do not want to underplay my abilities, intelligence or personality not to hurt a man's ego. I have tried it and it feels like acting, totally fake! But I can still dress, act and speak in a very feminine way. I truly care a lot about my new boyfriend, I love his personality and humor and I recognize all his good tra…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 01:52 PM
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thanks for the tips! i live in europe, any websites were i could find good deals and inspiration?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 06:59 PM
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I am starting to question this idea that empowered women are miserable... I actually feel pretty good when I am being valued for my intelligence and abilities at work, and not planning on quitting any time soon. I felt much more miserable cooking and cleaning after a guy that did not deserve me to quit my career and independence, if I would have done it it would have been a huge mistake. It is actually possible to find a good balance between empowerment and femininity both at and outside work. O…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 06:51 PM
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Thanks! Thats exactly what I did, hiring a cleaning and cook only sometimes in the weekend. My egg count is unfourtunatelt very very low, I could enter menopause very soon.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 02:25 PM
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my logic tells me the same, but im paralyzed by fear and my biological instinct to want to be pregnant asap!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 06:10 PM
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This was spot on, thank you! I will look into maybe doing a Big 5 personality test with him, so he may get more concious about his traits and tries to hopefully improve them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 06:07 PM
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This comment is gold, a real eye opener. You are so right and did the right thing by stablishing boundaries before taking further steps with your partner, he now respects you and values you. I am sure this was setting the right foundation for a happy loving relationship. My desperation made me skip important steps in properly vetting in both relationships. I was so vulnerable when I met this two men that I took very important steps with them in a short period of time. I guess that caused them no…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 05:55 PM
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congratulations for your marriage and family! I somehow thought I would not date under my age, I was afraid to meet guys that were not ready to commit and settle as quickly as I wanted to. But happy that it worked out for you! The fertility problem is clearly mine, his results look perfect for his age.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 05:08 PM
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You are right, I am really afraid of all the possible legal problems I may face if I decide to separate after having kids. He is very excited about the idea of being a dad and I don't think he would give up on them. Knowing his character I may be facing a very rough battle for custody, possibly stopping me from living this country, even though this country really favors the mother in terms of custody. I am also afraid that his verbal violence could scalate into physical, eventhough he swears he …
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 05:04 PM
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I totally agree with you... Engaging into that behaviour when I was younger it was somehow encouraged by my environment (not my family, which was very traditional). The most valuable and respected girl in certain groups would be the one that could get to attract and have sex with as many hot guys as possible, something that it actually decreases your value as a prospective long term partner when you are a woman. And at that time we had no social media, I cannot imagine how horrible it is for you…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 02:38 PM
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Well...I am shocked because despite my past I changed and I invested 7 years of my youth in the man I thought would be the father of my kids. We literally had picked names for our kids 2 months before he broke up with me. I know I should have brought the topic up way before (maybe after 2 or 3 years of living together), but that was my mistake, focusing into stablishing my career instead of asking him what was his timeline for marriage and kids. He just kept picturing a "future" that never happe…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 06:22 AM
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beautiful advice, thank you! i hope i can find the strengh to leave if things continue to be this ugly. unfourtunately with 37 it wont be able to be a biological mother according to my medical results
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 08:28 PM
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actually during my online dating i discarded alphas and focused on men interested in LTRs. i would say my fiance is closer to a beta (more like a wannabe alpha), and that is totally ok for me, but he turned out to have omega traits (poor hygiene, bunch eating, burping around the house, videogame marathons, dirty dishes and empty bottles all around the house, being late for work and appointments) and he has verbally abusive tendencies
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 08:25 PM
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i totally agree with you and will regret it always. but i wonder if i deserved such an horrible abandonment and ultimatum instead of trying to work things out after a 7 year relationship. he never communicated his concerns clearly to me
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 08:17 PM
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I wrote "so far" because I want to believe I will be able to love like that again in my life... I don't want to live a sad life constantly thinking of "the one who got away" and how I will live a loveless rest of my life due to my mistakes. He really is the love of my life and I would give everything to go back in time and do things diferently. Sadly after all the damage and inmense betrayal I was not able to be with him again without breaking down mentally, I suffered from severe cPTSD from his…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 08:03 PM
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after 40 things get more and more complicated and you may have to turn to ovodonation or embryodonation in ivf, all the best for your friend! basically my relationship has turned toxic and even verbally abusive since my fiance started to act like an immature man child and i stopped acting according to redpill values (since i could not deal with the frustration of him not measuring up to minimum standards)
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 06:07 PM
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The idea of spending a lifetime of misery like your family member really terrifies me, but I am also afraid of meeting worse and worse men the older I get. Thanks for your encouraging words, but I literally do not have the time to look for a new man to start a family with. I feel like I am damaged goods since I may start perimenopause in few months according to my medical results. I was shocked by these news, but I really may have few months to be a biological mother and my only alternative to c…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 05:16 PM
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im so sorry about your experience while growing up. i hope i am not being too direct with this question, but overall, are you happy that you were born and have you being able to find happiness in your life? i am having the big dilemma of having kids with this man who, despite all the flaws i described, is also highly intelligent and talented in several areas, or instead doing it alone, with the support of my family, which are adorable and cant wait for me to have a baby. i cant tell which can be…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 03:32 PM
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Thanks a lot! I really appreciate your answer, and you reminded me that he can actually support me emotionally when I need to (when he is not having one of his explosive episodes). That is one of his positive traits, but I dont know if that is enough to sustain a marriage long term, since he does not cover my needs in many other areas. I wish you were totally right in the kids department, but in my case I received a medical diagnosis in which they calculate it can be a matter of months if I want…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 03:08 PM
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I am very happy for you that you found your true love! Can I ask you how old were you when you decided to divorce? And how old were you when you met your current husband? I dont know if you had or are planning to have kids, but for me this is a priority and I may have very little time to be a mother
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 03:00 PM
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this is a very good question and thanks for making me think! im having a hard time being happy in my personal life at the moment, this relationship is taking a toll on my wellbeing. at my work i feel happy, valued, it lights up my brain and gives me a lot of purpose, but at the same time it takes all my energy and its getting harder as the years pass by. the 2 years i was single i was actually happier in my private life, meeting up with friends, taking up hobbies, travelling...but i felt lonely …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 02:57 PM
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