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Obvi not. But how many times do elderly people have to tell us to focus on people that matter before the message is received?. Flings and temporary relationships are not people that matter. Doing that until 40 is a waste of time. Many Men don’t have meaningful relationships with their friends either lol. Just 20 years of not mattering to anyone on deep levels. I find it silly. This applies to women to but women tend to see deep relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:21 PM
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I think most people expect men to be single in their 30s actually But it is a bit interesting when a man does all the things to attract women and then start getting options and decide to not actually settle down until closer to 40. That 20 years wasted where a deep or meaningful connection could have been made and now those guys will go for a woman in her 20s but highly likely that relationship will fail or have issues a 40 yo shouldn’t have to deal with lol. It just seems lacking in depth. Not …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:49 PM
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Considering you JUST complained about twisted words and disingenuous debates, I am going to conclude you are too inept for this convo. Stay smart! Good luck out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:11 PM
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The comment thread you responded to is about 25+ not being the prime (which in trp means hitting the wall) I didn’t say you didn’t want to be with 25+ either. I said your argument is exactly why we say you would go lower. Women have fertility as young as like 10. So based on your argument that men look for fertility ….. I also didn’t mention anything about women 30+ having a healthy child. Most of your response has nothing to do with mine. I mentioned youth and vitality which is the proxy for fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:14 PM
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And this is why we say y'all would go lower. Also fertility continues past 25, so no the wall at 25 doesn’t work with that argument. Youth and vitality is more attractive for everyone literally ever. Brad Pitt at 25 is significantly better than him now, regardless of financial resources. So you aren’t wrong. Everyone is hot 18-25. Only some 30+. If a man wants a family, hopefully he can attract what he is looking for. His competition is steep for 18-25. Good luck to him
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:51 AM
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I am inclined to agree however the only difference I can see immediately though is the woman carries and bonds with a child for 9 months and immediately after birth. Her hormones drive her as a parent for well over a year. In that time I find it extremely unlikely she would put her child at risk by dating and sleeping with people. Men however do not take their babies into account when engaging in sexual activities. I assume they just don’t care and are selfish. But to be fair, men also don’t bon…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:06 AM
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Great point! People just go through the motions with a lot of these decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:02 AM
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He is only taking into account young, single, attractive women. Any other woman is virtually invisible or men empathize less with them. Women men want to fuck are the only women with this “privilege” and even then its not because they love and respect woman, they want something from us. They want to extract from us for their own pleasure. Most men genuinely view women as only good for in the house and unneeded elsewhere. Sooo not a privilege. Attractive men by far have the most privilege. Everyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:03 AM
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Also not true. I would never even consider dating a man who didn’t think I had rights, abused me, untreated mental issues, or thought he didn’t need to do anything around the house. I am rather conservative as well. I don’t think men need to know about womens health unless that is his line of work, health. I don’t know much about prostate cancer. The basics is fine. College is so you can make more money and not use your deteriorating body to rely on income. Nothing to do with us. In fact we also…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 07:31 AM
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Having all those things doesn’t fix yellow teeth. Just makes you a decent human being Women have all those beliefs and more and are still more relatively attractive on average. Curious what survey you are referring to and what the questions are. Very hard to measure something like that without leading questions. If you were to ask me I would likely hesitate because men being the leaders BY FAR in all forms of aggressive/violent crimes (and most non violent) would be a consideration. This is prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:33 AM
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You sound like a quitter. And you will continue to get quitter results. You will never perceive anyone as trustworthy worthy because you don’t trust. And the women who are virtuous ie virgins you still regard will skepticism. Everyone will always lose your view of things. Including yourself. You are on a floating rock. Relax. Go fuck someone and fall in love. You are being way too complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:36 PM
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If you observe the actions of men in real life you can see similar patterns. Where loyalty and commitment are just not a forefront priority to many men. They very frequently ruin committed relationships with sexual relationships …. So what does that tell you about the values and priorities? Not narcissistic. Common sense. Sexual intimacy is clearly outside of a relationship or else side chicks wouldn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 10:57 PM
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I would argue most people and most relationships are unhappy. Its really the attitude of each person that matters here. But we are increasingly negative (and with good reason). It is unfortunate. I am curious where you intend to get your meaningful relationships from though. Friends? Family? I think this only works if you can successfully convince all of those people to not center romantic relationships. Otherwise sure side chicks could work, but I sense that will have a high turnover rate? Its …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:54 AM
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Men mean sex when they say this. And they get flack for it because they actually don’t even connect via sex. It’s what allows them to have sex with a variety of women or “spread his seed” lol. Most times when a guy is having sex with a girl he finds attractive he isn’t actually growing closer to the girl because of the sex. I would argue most attractive men don’t even grow closer to a girl for several months into a relationship. Unattractive men do, because they know another chance won’t come fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:35 PM
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Sounds like you don’t care to have a love marriage or relationship, but rather a transactional one. So you should look for that. I am a woman and regularly date girls 18-23 and mostly find them boring. They are not interesting because they haven’t done interesting things or challenged themselves. Same with men 18-23. Its almost as if time, when used wisely, brings wisdom…. Who would have thought. If you want to outsource philosophical convos and deep convos with men, then yes a transactional rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 12:12 PM
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Ohh I see what you meant now. You basically mean consistency and authentically. I imagine the 22yo had sex rather early? Do you think that influenced you at all? And what will you do when she is 25+? Or do you not care about when women peak, but rather who they are/what they are like when you meet them? I have met many men similar to you in their 30s who say they don’t care to date women in their early 20s and rejected me for that reason. Then one actually said I was too old for him even though …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:46 PM
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Isn’t it good if they treat you differently (presumably better) to act pure? You really think thats not the same thing the 21-27 yo do lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:41 AM
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I dated a man twice my age for a couple years, and no. Not the raw attraction men always talk about wanting. He was fit, rich, and well of 6ft. Still had to give myself mental pep talks to be attracted to him. Markers of age (or decaying really) is unattractive to everyone. But men can surpass this with money. I was pretty clear to him I wouldn’t be there if he didn’t have money. He made it clear I wouldn’t be there if I was his age. And yet we liked each other a lot. Easily my best relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:26 PM
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It is a very new regime yes. And like all new regimes it is insecure and unsteady. Once mess up and it could fall into another regime. We are actively legitimizing ourselves just as all new regimes do. Proving why we won while also maintaining our position. And we cannot do it alone. No new regimes can. Only legitimized ones can do that really. This is the way I think of it anyway. Women won the war, with the help of men of course, and now we are trying to maintain it. Silencing anyone who threa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:07 PM
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No, it’s smart. Nipping a problem in in the bud instead of letting it fester. It isn’t working. But better to try than not. Young boys love Reddit. And absorb the thought and feeling of those around them like sponges. How many times does a 17 year old lame gamer boy with bad grades and no work ethic need to see a post about why he is innately superior before he starts to believe it? Very fast. Because he needs to. His brain wants that validation. And will very reluctantly ever let the idea go. E…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 03:30 PM
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Pretty sure this is because in male only spaces violence against women is discussed unnervingly fast. If one was created today, in less than 72 hours there would be a post about how women don’t deserve rights. It is indeed unfortunate that bad apples ruin it for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:18 PM
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I can’t say this example is good. Neither you nor the chad tried particularly hard. She still accepted bread crumbs from you both. Yours was just technically a first. I definitely got my first bouquet of roses from a guy I wasn’t that into, but it made me like him more because of the thoughtfulness. I made sure to give him a fat kiss for them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:53 PM
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I don’t think as many women would sign up for this as you think. Especially not the ones men desire on Only Fans The women who did sign up would still be picky about clientele unless she was impoverished. Then the issue of trafficking would also become a huge issue, where women are forced to do a job they don’t want to. As you said, women are already doing sex work essentially with extra steps. Thats why women ask for money or free dates. The only issue is women don’t always uphold the sex part …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 04:01 PM
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Men feeling loved is hinged on the prerequisite of sex. And men reaffirm this all the time. If a woman stops having sec with her husband, his live for her begins to dry up. Women’s is mostly rooted in financial security. If a man did all of those things but couldn’t provide, her love would dry up. Men definitely do choose their wives based on what they can get out of her. It’s delulu to believe otherwise. Arranged marriages are like the final boss of this concept. But even modern western marriag…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:45 PM
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Men (with options) do this all the time when they date/have sex with a girl but never marry her “You're not viscerally romantically attractive enough to warrant my lifetime commitment, but you make up for it in more mundane ways, such as convenience or usefulness, to the extent that I'm willing to look past you lacking in that department." Until I find someone younger or hotter.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:59 PM
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I am not sure but I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s because the women don’t view them as husband material. For a variety of reasons, likely ones he could fix. Like I said men are the gatekeepers of commitment. But that doesn’t mean the woman doesn’t have to choose also. Picking a husband is hard too. Good fathers are not nearly as easy to find as bad fathers are unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:46 AM
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It was in my answer. Older men want commitment. Younger (attractive) men want to play the field. Even the younger not attractive ones still try to play the field lmao. It is not that we find older men to be significantly more attractive or anything. Definitely not. Men in their late 20s are beautiful specimens. Older men aren’t bad but there is no competition. Physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:26 AM
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Usually if I see this its because older women doubt the man will be loyal to her and there could be consequences to his actions like another child out of wedlock. And as a sahw you have no way to get out of it unless you divorce and have no marketable job skills. So the sahw just has to put up with it. Its basically a he is calling alllllll the shots, and you just have to put up with it. Because what are you going to do…. Leave? Really? If he want to cheat, he can, wants to do no chores, he can,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:13 PM
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We do. But unfortunately men are the gatekeepers to commitment so we just have to put up with it. I don’t actually like older men tbh. I don’t like their wrinkles or their sign of aging. But I exclusively date them because they are looking to be committed unlike a lot of younger men. However, I have to overlook a lot of stupid crap because men lack accountability until their 30s. Older men love to use the “i was young” get out of jail free card. But women are vilified for doing the same thing. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:06 PM
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Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free applies to nearly all relationships. In vice versa, anytime I meet a man who was married and now swears he doesn’t want to do it again, has a kid, took his clearly toxic ex on an expensive vacation, treats woman badly because he is jaded, or has ever dated a woman in her 30s…. One of the first thoughts to myself is… why should I even have sex with or commit to a man who has such low standards/bad judgment? Or oh ill just date him in my 30s then.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:55 PM
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He clearly doesn’t believe this. A lot of red pill don’t and won’t. So, you will probably get a lot of comments like this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:10 AM
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I hope you find her! And I hope you are her ideal man as well
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:18 AM
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Not entirely true. After a certain amount of money the life satisfaction results are the same. Only very very strong willed women will marry an 80 year old for money .
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:15 AM
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If those are the only two options for average men then… the future is bleak indeed. Idk what to tell you. Women don’t masturbate to average looks, unless she already likes you. At that point ig you have to decide what matters more: her monagamy or her having your kids. Its a bleak scenario. Idk what the right answer for you is either. If it helps… I have already accepted that when I am 50, my husband will lust on 21 year olds…. Or younger if I am really unlucky… Really not looking forward to tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:11 AM
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Of course. Women are attracted to handsome men even when married, just less likely to throw marriage away for a pointless thrill. Everybody likes beautiful people. Just look at kpop or Jacob Elordi. Lol For Purely sexual, decent looking is way more preferred than average. So long as he has health/youth cues like good teeth or smells good. Not overly hairy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:55 AM
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Yes. Decent looking is only for sex. It’s not going to help raise our children. Anything that makes child rearing easier, is more valuable to me. Ie women value attraction a lot, its a blatant lie to say otherwise, but not to the same degree as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:47 AM
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As long as he isn’t fat/overweight, id choose average.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:38 AM
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🤷🏽‍♀️ perhaps. But that would imply these men aren’t naturally masculine. I doubt the masculine men in the past or in non western countries feel the desire to talk to their feminine wives about red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:30 PM
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Thats fine. Im not against rp for him or for me. I just don’t want to talk about with him. I am not his friend or his homie. And rp is a topic best suited for locker rooms. Not in a relationship. Just as I would never say to him “men are biologically driven to provide , so I expect you to provide! You are a loser if you don’t provide!” Rather I just understand the rp concept, so when he says he is working late/hard, I understand why. But we don’t have to TALK about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:17 PM
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I know. Thats my point. I dont care that they are red pilled. I just don’t want to be the person they talk about these concept with. Like, I want help on how to stop them from seeing me as someone to talk about it with. I think there are tons of rp guys out there who don’t talk to their gf about it. And I want to be that gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:11 PM
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True! Ugh its really easy to adopt this language. But I do want to take a break from these spaces. After i figure out this problem
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:02 PM
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In truth, most men who are rich and over 6 foot are now familiar with at least 5 or so red pilled topics. These are the men I like to date. Its actually way way more prevalent than I thought before. They just aren’t loud about it publicly. I think men talk about these things in forums, video games, locker rooms, gyms, etc and its almost hard for them not to be. Idk. Idk how its so so many. Ik non rp tall and rich men exist but I haven’t found one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:01 PM
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25f… probably black pilled What to do when men you date keep red pilling you or talking about red pill topics? They don’t know that I know about these spaces and concepts. But they always keep bringing it up. I feel like it forces me out of my feminine, mindset and put me in a more masculine role, as if I am their friend/homie. I want to be nurturing and nice and peaceful. But when then topics come up I immediately feel like I can’t be those things. Hard to be soft when the topic is “women have …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:51 PM
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What to do when men you date keep red pilling you or talking about red pill topics? They don’t know that I know about these spaces and concepts. But they always keep bringing it up. I feel like it forces me out of my feminine, soft girl mindset and put me in a more masculine role, as if I am their friend/homie. I want to be nurturing and nice and peaceful. But when then topics come up I immediately feel like I can’t be those things. Hard to be soft when the topic is “women have no accountability…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:41 PM
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I honestly just realized I might have lurked on this sub too long to have children. in more ways that one, this sub has confirmed a man is only as loyal as his options. And I just refuse to be a single mom. So I either have kids with a man who will cheat on me and I just suffer through it because he pays the mortgage ….lol or don’t have them. Those seem to be my options. I would like to start a family with a man who has a good income and is attractive. But apparently these men either want to wif…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 03:10 AM
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Fair! Maybe baby trapped isn’t the right word. Im not really sure what is. But he definitely was implying that since she has his kids = she can’t leave now. I just didn’t like it is all. Its not the end of the world. I can’t pinpoint exactly why other than it came from a place ego/pride rather than a place of love/commitment. The way he said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:14 AM
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Sleeping with and having a mans kids is pretty different. There’s a large gap between those two decisions. I am sure they will be fine. I didn’t say anything to him. I am just saying that in the moment I had a thought/feeling I’ve never had. A new fear I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:09 AM
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Im not agreeing or disagreeing with the post. Just sharing an experience I had lately.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:04 AM
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It wasn’t the level of depth and seriousness that he was referring to. He was referring to her as if she was finally “conquered” by him. Almost like he was implying she would have no other man to turn to because she now has his kid. Like she could never leave him now. It just made me sad. And this post made me remember. It just feels like another dream/fantasy of mine is a lie. Of love, marriage, family. Red pill/purple pill is a really …. Just sad pill to take. Tbh. I kind of miss seeing men wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:01 AM
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I commented on another comment but no I don’t think that’s what they meant. It felt sleazy the way they said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:54 AM
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It’s possible that js what they meant. But the smirk on their face just made me queasy. It was probably the first time I ever considered the fact that people do baby trap each other, both ways. In the situation, it read to me like he was proud he was able to get a woman to have his kids. And not just any woman, attractive/young/ a good woman. Which many men would struggle to achieve getting a woman like her to really tie her life to his. There was something just….pride/ego/boastful that rubbed m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:52 AM
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I have now met two men, high net worth individuals, who both expressed that a woman isn’t “locked in” until she has his kids. It has definitely changed the way I view motherhood. Unfortunately, even in a beautiful instance of creating life, there are still men who want to baby trap women. Not because they want to be fathers. But because a married man with a beautiful wife and kids is a status symbol. I just wanted to share this because I am still pretty sad about it. Their wives have no idea the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 10:28 PM
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To clarify, I have not. Though as I get older I feel the expectation to growing a bit more. Which inspired my post. I think it is really stupid to do as a woman because of pair bonding. I suspect 85% of situationships could have been avoided if women didn’t sleep with the guy in question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:43 PM
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Very curious, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 01:44 AM
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Thank you for your thoughtful answer! This is very helpful and you are definitely echoing what I have heard. I struggle to put myself in those spaces because going alone can be intimidating. But I think I have to start. I feel like golf and cars is a pretty solo hobby is it not? Though I do want to get better at it!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:24 PM
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This is true to an extent. But I still don’t that committed relationships and marriages are going anywhere. HVM getting married is definitely on the decline though. But even they will want kids and a family someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:59 PM
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I disagree. Everyone wants a serious commitment someday. Otherwise you just wasted your life. Unless you invented something or won a noble peace price. ie unless you are .0001% human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:55 PM
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When I say lie/pretend I mean in reference to settling down. Like its not technically a lie because ultimate most men want to settle down and have a family. But they do tend to lie about how quickly they are looking or ready for that. They are technically looking for marriage but not really if there are 5 women on his roster. Its not that these guys push or throw a tantrum about sex by third date. Its that they will disqualify you as a wife after three date’s because they assume you don’t really…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:53 PM
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I agree, as a woman. I actually filter guys out who tell me they dated women with mental health issues long term, depending on the situation. Especially when they then cite her mental health as one of the reasons for the break up. Obviously there is nuance here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:53 PM
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Heavy on the text and monopoly part. I had to learn this too, so I am patient, but after one date we should not be chatting every single day. A check in is fine! Send good morning sure but you are not entitled to my time, energy, and attention just because we had one date. Keep it short and sweet for the first month and focus on in person to actually chat. Recently had a guy list out 10 different dates he wanted to go on with me and we only went on two dates. It immediately irritated me, even th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 06:58 PM
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My exes brother was a hall of fame NBA player. Who dated many beautiful household names in modeling, acting, and beauty industries. Names we would all recognize. But he settled down with a pretty, but more average, sweet school teacher. Yes, men do this too. If they are hot enough. They settle down with attractive woman but not necessarily a baddie/model when they are finally ready for a real connection. Men on this sub are just upset that they can’t do this as easily. I am am upset that no man …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:26 PM
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Ah love this. Happy for you both. I aspire for my husband to say similar things about me. My post may not seem like it, as I was rather irritated at the time, but I do my best to embody similar qualities as her. Last questions, how intentional were you in dating her? Like right off the bat were you serious? Or were you a bit casual? I ask because often times the men I date don’t really move the relationship along unless I ask/guide them to commitment. I think they are like this because they have…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:09 PM
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Ah yes I forgot to elaborate. I am what they call a lifelong learner ig. I like to dive into topics that interest me. Recently it was taoism and poetry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:21 PM
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Funnily enough I used to be that way: living my life for me and not to attract men. I loved it. I did my best character development from it. But for some reason, I am now always afraid or anxious I won’t get married to the man I always dreamt of. And there is so much talk about hitting the wall at 25,30 etc that I can’t help but feel rushed. Thank you for this response!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:18 PM
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Oh you are a perfect man for this! As I would ideally love someone like you in terms of the qualities you listed. How old was your wife when you met and where? Can you share more about your wife and what drew you to her? All of my partners (who, frankly, were chads) always said they loved my peaceful feminine personality. However, this isn’t enough clearly or I would be married by now. Do you think her looks was a very very large factor in why you chose her? And why choose marriage/monogamy at a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:11 PM
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It’s not that I want that. It’s that it sounds like women who day way more irresponsible, downright stupid, things can still get the same men as me/that I desire. Which shocked me as I have been trying to be a “good girl” however women who are hoes with shopping debt and nothing interesting to say are just as viable for a partner, according to what I read before. I am just shocked ig at how simple and little standards men have. I am not sure how to compete anymore. I thought being responsible ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:05 PM
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This is good to know! I value this as well and genuinely can’t imagine not having it in my marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:59 PM
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Interesting. I think men do still have those standards though, just not as loud about them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:57 PM
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He isn’t ugly just a bit gay in appearance. I settle on looks as I have accepted men just aren’t … handsome without rose colored glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:52 PM
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I agree with the first part. Cosmetic surgeries are near undetectable now. People are now millionaires for beauty they don’t actually have. But i love the response bernouttheday provided. Very helpful and good perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:48 PM
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Thank you for the details. Never heard of brown adipose before. I definitely prioritize health and fit over short term trends. Though they are tempting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:45 PM
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I know that happens because I have met girls like that. But they really aren’t the majority. They are just the loudest. And they are usually very easy to point out once you meet them. Majority of women are not sleeping with a stranger no matter how symmetrical their face is. And absolutely require a guy to take them on a date first. A date is literally just the pathway from stranger to acquaintance then acquaintance to friend/lover. Anyone, man or woman, willing to sleep with someone who is stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:24 AM
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I think you and many others really overestimate how many sleep with a guy on the first or even second date. I think you are right, we know if we WOULD sleep with someone. But doesn’t mean we will asap. Same way you meet a girl and know you would date her. But doesn’t mean you just hand it over.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:26 AM
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Wdym? What reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:17 PM
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This!! I think the reason women say this because you aren’t really rewarded for being a “good girl.” You still aren’t guaranteed a good man, a provider, that you won’t be cheated on, that the man you like will be committed to you. That you won’t be a single mom. Whether you were a hoe or not, your results can still be very similar to a hoes. Sometimes hoes have BETTER partners, because they were will to have sex with as many guys as it took until they found one. Whereas if you don’t do that and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 12:03 AM
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That’s fair. But there’s a good chance no woman will want to start a family with a good amount of men out there. So if he already is in the relationship and it is good/working, then he probably should stay. It would take some radical honesty and transparency with himself though about his realistic options Historical data actually shows not that many men were fathers as we once thought due to affairs and stuff. So historically ig most men wasted their time and energy. But this doesn’t include ste…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 04:54 AM
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This is basically just evolution. Not wanting to pass on non optimal genes. It makes a lot of sense actually! I think if the man is having sex but no kids, he is still winning.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 04:01 AM
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While I want to agree, hvm these days don’t want to marry. Nor do they have to. Or they have very specific timeframes they are willing to settle down. I have successfully been gf to several. But marriage is a lot because time is also a big factor. Gf/bf are non sense titles that men use to get what they want for longer with little real commitment. Hvm know this and I haven’t really found a way around it. But that’s a different topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:50 PM
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I chuckled at the last part. I am a woman, asking because most of the men I date, I would say are in my league. I have dated a couple rich men but one was 40+ and the other close to 40 so their age balanced it out. All 6’3+, fit, smart. Yes so many men say women are delusional about our own leagues. So just curious if I am aiming too high. …. I am not going to stop dating these men. But I will work harder to be worth their time!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 11:57 AM
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I honestly don’t think women care all that much about faces so long as he has just average features
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 11:47 AM
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Also you finding her saying she would never pay uncouth is correct… but only because you want her to lie to you and chose to be honest. Same way a man shouldn’t outright say he bought his gf a gift and so he expects a wild night in bed… he has to lie about the outcome he is hoping for. If she said she would pay for things but in turn she only wanted to have sex for a few minutes before pushing you off before you finished because she was satisfied , would that be okay? Considering the stats on ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:17 PM
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Before you listen to a bunch of single men online you should instead think about the value she brings to the relationship and if its worth it to you or not. I’ve never paid for any of my bfs, no dates, never so much as offered. (I have bought thoughtful presents or if I cook ill pay for the food sometimes.) And this was okay because I always make sure I am a net positive in people lives around me rather than a net negative. And I bring fun and pleasure to my relationship. I don’t expect the men …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:11 PM
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Sounds like you need to reevaluate your appearance and improve it. Date women slightly below you and offer really really nice first date options on your profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:51 AM
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Love the detail! Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:53 PM
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I agree with this approach actually. However, this approach is also scary to me because I hear so much talk online about how a successful man will want variety in his 30s and how these men would leave his wife for a younger woman if they have the chance. I have actually met several men that did this recently. When a man goes from below average to above average, he starts to want to have sex with many women, doesn’t want commitment, or doesn’t want a family as his immediate priority. So it seems …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:09 AM
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I can’t tell if you are being sarcastic with the lip filer comment but this makes sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:30 AM
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