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You can literally make exactly the same argument about feminists
/r/ExRedPill23/11/24 08:23 AM
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This is stupid and undermines men's issues which are real and equally as valuable as women's issues.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 10:24 PM
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It all comes down to exposing yourself, being vulnerable, being shamed and hurt about it, and then creating an "IDAFG" exterior as a means of self-protection. That's what brought me into RP many years ago. I use to cry and my girlfriend called me a baby and stuff, and then left me and essentially was saying how her new guy's dick was way bigger. That really made me think how much of a turn off it must have been for her to be with someone who was vulnerable. Here I was thinking that I had someone…
/r/ExRedPill17/11/24 02:56 PM
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I'm not fully understanding your question but I'll say what comes to mind. The arrogant approach was a rebellion against what I had before, which was being the nice guy(tm). Because I experienced very viscerally the experience of rejection, putting myself out there by being "nice", and then getting rejected and whatnot. It was like an elastic. Because the opposite of being nice and selfless is being harsh and selfish. It's a simplistic equation. If what you're doing doesn't work, do the opposite…
/r/ExRedPill23/07/24 09:16 AM
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May I ask if you're a man or woman?
/r/ExRedPill22/07/24 04:30 PM
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So you did all that to get sex? Yes, as a matter of fact I did do all that to get sex. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed companionship too. But I was horny and couldn't get sex off my mind, as is very natural especially being a teen. So yes. Hypothetically if we did have sex, I'd still do all the same things and be nice to them. But I wasn't getting any sex, so I felt deprived. Friendzoning you means they do like you - as a friend. For better or worse, it's definitely not always the case that they a…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/24 04:21 PM
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I hate the term polyamorous because it makes the relationship still centered around sex, which is not the point for me. Should we add a defining term like monotrophic and polytrophic for couple's that only eat food together vs allow each other to eat with other people? Imagine someone asked, what kind of relationship do you have? "Oh we have a polytrophic relationship. He/she can go out and eat with people and I'm ok with it." It would be so silly. It just doesn't really matter. Monogomous/polya…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/24 02:49 PM
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0% mask and I have 0% desire to be alpha male or masculine. In fact, if anything I take a bit more pride coming across as beta-ish. That way people aren't intimidated by me. They see me as harmless and unthreatening, which allows people to put less defenses around me, which makes for more genuine connection. I don't really have any insecurities anymore, and I don't need emotional support really because I feel well and happy, but on the very rare occasions that I feel emotionally unwell my girlfr…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/24 02:05 PM
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First of all, I did work out quite a lot and that made a big difference for sure. But I think it essentially came down to being solid in myself - even if it was for pretense. I was really embodying the character of being a captain of a ship, unfazable. In RP there's this thing called "shit tests" which is basically a way of thinking of how girls will kind of 'check' your fazability. Whether they do this intentionally or not isn't the point. The point is just how you're coming off. If you're buil…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/24 09:29 AM
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Because I was sulky emotional. Also she was pretty immature as well.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/24 07:48 AM
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I would classify myself as ex-RP and will share my story. Pre-RP, I actually thought being "nice" to girls was a way to get them to like you. Flatter them, make them feel good about themselves, be there as a shoulder to cry on. But when they'd inevitably friendzone me, I would get mad. I started RP after my first girlfriend of 1.5 years dumped me because I was too emotional. That was kind of a wake up call. I was kind of sulky. I just thought I could be myself and express my emotions, but it was…
/r/ExRedPill21/07/24 02:44 PM
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Although there are undoubtedly certain physical characteristics that have to do with attraction as a general rule of thumb, it's definitely not the only part of the equation. The thing you have to realise is that you're not at a war with reality. It's not like God gave you a short body and you're doomed. What you're actually at war with is your thoughts. You are plagued by insecure thinking, and by giving your time, attention, and energy to these thought patterns, have confined your consciousnes…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/24 10:15 AM
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Well just think of someone nice and sweet for a few minutes and let yourself believe and trust that if this girl is meant for you she'll find a way into your life. Then just do the things you enjoy, and live the kind of life you enjoy. You'll bump into her at some point and you'll know it's her. Don't sweat it.
/r/ExRedPill22/06/24 10:35 PM
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Think of the kind of girl you would like and brainwash yourself into thinking she exists, that's it's just a matter of a coincidence until she pops into your life. Live your life and find happiness in yourself to the point where you don't mind being without a girlfriend Experience random moment of meeting a girl like the one you thought of, and the wonder in hindsight the sheer coincidence of it all and just be appreciative of that
/r/ExRedPill22/06/24 10:29 PM
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Maybe not explicitly, but a lot of things associated with misogyny are.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/24 02:06 PM
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Just as men tend to be attracted to feminine traits, women tend to be attracted to masculine traits. Arrogance in that sort is an attractive quality. It's actually a primal leadership quality. But this kind of attraction is purely limbic IMO. It's not really the kind of attraction that persists for years and flowers into a relationship full of love, companionship, and understanding.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/24 01:52 PM
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The old "too much money, my pockets are too heavy!" Just try to focus your mind on being grateful for what you have already. What you're perceiving in him is a lack of gratitude for his fortune and you can easily remedy that in yourself by finding things to feel grateful for.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/24 12:31 PM
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It's a lot deeper than that. You can be self-oriented but still be insecure, and that end up being a mask for your insecurities. Dealing with underlying insecurities helps you to live a healthier life with happier relationships.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/24 05:37 PM
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It's good to focus on yourself, as you say, but at the same time, even if I'm focusing on myself, I need to ask what kind of attitude I'm coming at it with. If I still feel in some way lacking in myself, e.g. not good looking enough, not wealthy enough, etc, those thought patterns are destroying my happiness. Then working on oneself becomes a neurotic drive that is simply never enough. It's like making your own mind fight itself. It makes sense in the moment, but when you step outside that way o…
/r/TheRedPill19/01/24 06:02 PM
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We evolved together actually, we both started out generally insecure. I decided for myself, and at some point she decided for herself. Can I clarify what I'm saying in some way that will make it more relevant?
/r/TheRedPill19/01/24 05:57 PM
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Yes but the question is whether those conversations based on insecurities... In other words, do they take the form, "do you promise not to do ____ and I will promise not to do ____" ? And then the relationship is basically two people agreeing to fill the other's void of insecurities. If that's the basis for a relationship, there will inevitably be conflict. So yes, communication is important. But what are you communicating is the question. My "approach" to dating simply made sense as my insecuri…
/r/TheRedPill19/01/24 01:06 PM
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The thing is, then you're still making her the arbiter of your pain and happiness. If you don't want to trust, your mind will invent reasons not to trust. The particulars don't really matter, you always find what you're looking for. If you're looking to see her as someone who doesn't care about you, you'll find exactly that. And if you count all the loving things she does for you, her thoughtfulness, you'll find that too. It all comes back to you. Just because she may not be perfect in your eyes…
/r/TheRedPill19/01/24 12:48 PM
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I think a lot of this stuff has to do with how deep down you feel the love she gave you can't be real. So you are afraid of losing it, because it's out of balance with the universe. You think once she finds out who you are she won't love you. And so you act the part of someone horrible, because that's who you think you are. You do hurtful things as a way of showing her who you are and testing to see whether she still loves you after knowing you. Just learn from this. Gratitude attracts love. All…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/24 12:15 PM
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"Somebody should have told me" by Jack Pransky
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 12:07 PM
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Your mood is only a reflection of the quality of thoughts you're giving your attention to at any given moment. It's not girls rejecting you that brings your mood down, it's the thoughts that follow from it. About what it means about you, and the stories you tell yourself. All beings respond to your energy. Your energy is your mood. If you have a low mood, nobody will want to be around you. You can see it this way: the women aren't rejecting you, they're rejecting the mood you're offering them. I…
/r/TheRedPill24/12/22 12:08 PM
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Relax, let the universe work it's magic. Find happiness in the present moment through appreciation for what you already have.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/22 01:24 AM
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The way I see it... Whatever you believe you'll see evidence for. That's just a fact of the mind. If in your mind you hold conflict, you'll see everything around you in conflict and overlook anything that portrays inter-connectedness. Your mind will fill in the details and make it look really real. Like adding VR to an idea. If you hold a thought of unity, you'll see everything working together and overlook anything in conflict. I can tell you stories that would blow your mind. Times for example…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/22 11:00 PM
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During my redpill period, I was dating a girl. Besides the insecurities, our relationship was decent. We got on. I was mainly dating her for the pleasure of sex, though. Not exclusively, but it was this primal drive that was kind of what everything else revolved around. This one time, I bought her a chocolate bar. It's not the only time I gave her something. But when I gave her this chocolate bar, she smiled with delight. And then I felt a feeling come over me. A kind of deep joy and happiness. …
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 03:35 PM
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In my experience, that's what I thought and sought for many years before I realised what I was actually searching for was love itself. Trying to fill an inner lack with fleeting satisfaction never worked. It was always some future state of attainment in some form. Some kind of gratification that never even lasted more than an instant. I didn't believe in it either, until I realised it was actually what I was looking for. Now it's undeniably obvious - and I'm happy.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 01:41 PM
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I think there is some truth to how evolution has moulded our behaviour in certain different ways as a general trend. However in my opinion the crux of the post-redpill understanding isn't that the above isn't the case, rather it's about an appreciation for a deeper spiritual aspect to people. People are much more than genetic creatures living in bodies, slaves to desires. We have the capacity for some amazing creativity and to express and appreciate beauty - something deeper and beyond these sup…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 11:04 PM
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First off you realise they're only thoughts, so that's good. It's not her problem, it's yours. Your own thoughts, your own perceptions. That's great that you recognise that. The only thing you're up against is fear. Fear is a feeling that destroys your natural state of peace and happiness. The fear is what is destroying you. And the fear is happening because you're contriving mentally things that feel very unwell. Why are you doing that? What do you have to gain? You can think anything. Choose i…
/r/ExRedPill27/10/22 08:14 PM
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Don't organise your life so much. You'll drive yourself mad. Let things happen spontaneously.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/22 08:39 AM
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Great! Yourself?
/r/ExRedPill29/08/22 05:36 PM
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I think it's important for you to concern yourself with your own life and your own happiness, and let him be as he wants to be
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 12:58 PM
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Ah yes I can totally relate. After my first relationship, I left feeling that I was too needy and clingy. That's when I got really into the red pill stuff and the next couple relationships over the next few years were the opposite. I was very tough, "I don't feel anything". In all relationships I was miserable and insecure, though. In first I spoke about it openly, in the second I suppressed it. I feel like it's really nice to have someone you can trust enough to talk about your feelings. So bet…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 03:29 PM
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How people see you is a reflection of how you see yourself. Our judgments are like little projectors that go out and find justification in outside events. They will always find evidence. Our mind can weave meaning out of nothing, and the power of thought always makes it feel very real to us in the moment. The good thing about thought is that it can change in the blink of an eye. Have you ever noticed that you don't always believe this about yourself? I bet sometimes you feel pretty good about yo…
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 06:36 PM
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Well said. Really well said.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/21 11:04 AM
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I wouldn't say that's necessarily the case. The issue is that looking within - truly, not haphazardly - is generally the last place we look after we've exhausted every other option. It's not like the truth leaves for a while until we cross some piranha-infested rivers. It's just that we don't really bother to look for it until we cross those rivers and realize that we haven't really moved at all inwardly. But we don't have to cross any rivers. Every single human being on the planet in this momen…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/21 08:38 AM
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Yes, it's just thought coming in and ruining the moment 😂 The 'I' always exists in some sort of lack. It's whole existence is this feeling of incompleteness - obviously because it is fundamentally divided from everything else... so when there is an experience of wholeness and beauty (which is any time the 'I' isn't around), there is a tendency for the 'I' to come in and try to "grab" it. An image of a butterfly comes to mind. Where, it lands, and it's quite beautiful, and then you want to captur…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/21 09:03 AM
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I prefer to start fresh every time I talk to anyone instead of referencing past knowledge. Everybody has a different idea of what the "ego" is... whereas, if I talk about how through time and conditioning, thought has developed a center which stores memory and projects the past onto the present - that which we refer to in conversation as "I" or "me" - it only takes a couple of sentences, and I don't need to connect it to any kind of past knowledge which then may lead to some misinterpretation. W…
/r/TheRedPill18/06/21 03:21 PM
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That makes perfect sense. Let's see what we can uncover together. One recognises the insanity of thought, of "I", and sees that it creates absolute havoc in the psyche. Yet, in order to live in the world, one needs to function. It seems as though one cannot function without the "I". How can one live in the world without "I", and not be a vegetable? Let's start with the conversation. Here's what occurs to me: do you need a thinker in order to have a conversation. Can there be a response without a…
/r/TheRedPill18/06/21 10:35 AM
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What are results? Sex? Pleasure? Money? Or peace of mind, genuine love, beauty, appreciation for every moment of life, freedom, happiness? I suppose the ladder isn't tangible, so to most, it isn't real. But if one really looks inside for the very reason why they want "results", they'll find that it's because there is a promise in there that when results happen, they will feel better inwardly. That their torment will end for a moment, that they will have some sense of wholeness. I understand the …
/r/TheRedPill18/06/21 09:30 AM
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That's a great question, and it really gives us an opportunity to explore the root of fear. Where does malevolency originate from in oneself? Is it an outcome of a mind that is tortured? Living in fear and inner conflict? Unfulfilled and therefore seeking pleasure, even at the expense of others? When a human being is in harmony inwardly, is there a sense of malevolence? When a human being is at peace inwardly, can there be malevolence? Or does malevolence only arise when there is inner conflict?…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/21 01:09 PM
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Is intelligence something you become? Is it accumulative? Or is intelligence a natural outpouring of the mind when it is in total harmony with itself? When there is no inner conflict? Have you ever seen kids that never learned anything except the language, yet they were so clever, wise, and insightful. How is it that this cleverness comes about? Is it not from a mind that is in total harmony? That is sensitive? And, are these goals, these future accomplishments, are they not generated and projec…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/21 09:50 AM
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I question whether what I'm saying is the same thing. Neo-Advaita is non-duality. I've explored a little bit into non-duality recently and I can say with certainty that, although non-duality is interesting, it's not what I'm talking about. Neo-Advaita is "I am consciousness so nothing matters" ... What I'm talking about is to look at the chaos, the misery, the loneliness that thought has made, to see how deep it goes, to see the torment it puts us through, and to end it so that one can live utte…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/21 09:42 AM
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This is the ultimate question, isn't it? This is where it all comes down to. Thought has come up against a wall. Thought sees that it is the source of all misery, and then says, "How do I get rid of me?" In asking that question it is aware that the very troublemaker is asking the question, and so it recognizes a paradox, an impossible wall. Time is thought. Thought is a movement in time, as we discussed. It is conditioned from the past. It is mechanical, and it creates division, inner conflict, …
/r/TheRedPill16/06/21 10:19 PM
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Well having spent a huge portion of my life in TRP I wanted to share what I wish somebody told me. Would have saved me years of wasted time being utterly insecure, lonely, and miserable inside.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/21 09:04 PM
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No philosophy, just insights from a quiet mind. Though, after having one really huge paradigm shift, I found myself reading a lot of philosophies and resonating with them. Never really looked into stoicism that part. What I know of it though, very limited, is that it enforces structure on the mind. Any time "I" enforces the structure, spontaneity is repressed, and inner conflict follows... then the whole cycle of seeking pleasure begins.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/21 09:02 PM
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Everything I've accomplished in life left me feeling utterly lonely. Accolades won't fill the void of a mind that is tortured by thought on a daily basis.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/21 09:01 PM
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Sometimes it helps to have someone bring out that deeper knowing to the surface... a reminder!
/r/TheRedPill14/06/21 12:25 PM
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It's my pleasure to share! Consider me an unlimited resource. All emotions come from thought in-the-moment, whether we realize it or not. There is a point where this is seen as such an obvious and simple fact it's fascinating how it could ever have been missed, how any emotional reaction could have actually been mis-attributed to a seemingly outside situation. So yes, it applies to anxiety, depression, insecurity, anger, and the rest. All emotional reactions are reactions to thought passing thro…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/21 10:22 PM
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Yes, totally get where you're coming from. Two things come to mind. If you've ever been in a position where the mind was not 'caught up' in anything. For example, many experience this in the shower... the mind can be in "neutral" in a sense. There this experience of good ideas flowing. Popping out of nothing. If you've ever wondered where good ideas come from, they have a tendency to come out of nowhere. Where do they come from? Let's for the sake do a simple inference and say that is a kind of …
/r/TheRedPill13/06/21 04:39 PM
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"Thoughts are fighting thoughts" - this right here is the source of all neuroticism. We don't realize we are living in a world of thought. And so thought fights itself, believing it is dealing with the world. I will say though that one of my big realizations happened when I saw that thought creates feeling. Feeling does not create thought. I have done a lot of 1 on 1 with people and have seen depressed people suddenly light up, in an instant, simply by seeing this. 'Physiology' has a tendency to…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/21 01:37 PM
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You're not seeing anything as it is, you're seeing it as you think it is. It's what you think that is creating how you feel in every moment.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/21 01:31 PM
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The natural trajectory of a thought is to leave your mind. Thought has a flow to it, kind of like a river. Thoughts come in and out automatically. So we don't really have control over what comes in, and so there's no need to beat ourselves up for thinking negative thoughts. We need to understand what makes thoughts 'stick' and fester. If we see that it's our own attention that keeps the thought active, without which the thought would dissolve, then we don't really need to do anything about it at…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/21 01:29 PM
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Well I definitely had an enormous ego during my TRP days, so whatever attention seeking and showing off anyone ever did, I'm right there with them lol. After I had this moment of realization that I am transcribing, about a year later, my friend showed me Mooji and I felt what he spoke was resonant with what I saw as true. I would be happy to elaborate more, but I want to understand your question a little bit better. Are you asking about how these kinds of insights relate to TRP in my experience?…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/21 12:42 AM
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Thanks - it's my pleasure! One of the very profound implications of that is that we're not living in the feeling of the world and our circumstances. We're living in the feeling of the thought that happens to be passing through the mind at any given moment - whether we realize it or not. And the nature of thought, being inherently 'nothing', substanceless, and ethereal, means it can totally change from one moment to the next. Our state of mind can change in the snap of a finger. Through self-obse…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/21 12:31 AM
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Oh thanks! And yeah feel free to message me whenever any time. Happy to share insights
/r/TheRedPill11/06/21 12:27 AM
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The quote is an echo of the truth that it's pointing to. That feeling of resonance you feel while reading it is the deeper wisdom in you being stirred. It comes out with a feeling of resonance. Don't remember the quote. Don't remember the words. Look to the ineffable truth it's pointing to. You intuitively know the truth to which that quote is pointing to. You already know it. Allow that knowing to stir within yourself with an empty mind - through a FEELING. It's like you're dreaming and someone…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/21 09:30 AM
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The whole notion of the red pill, philosophically, sits on the idea of seeing something for what it is instead of what you think it is. But bitterness gets in the way of seeing. Bitterness means our perception is clouded by thought. We can't see anything when the mind is consumed by bitterness, just like you can't see the bottom of the lake when the water is murky. It's like tunnel vision. We can only truly see when the mind is clear and in 'tune'. And we can feel when it's in tune. It's like a …
/r/ExRedPill01/04/21 09:18 AM
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As someone who's been through a similar story, not as extreme, and ended up in the military and all that... Imagine for a second there's no tomorrow. That there will never be a moment where you finally "prove them wrong". By that I mean, imagine today is every day. Ask yourself the question: is this how you want to feel? Do you want to be angry? Are you okay with living today on repeat forever? To me, anger feels better than isolation or rejection... but it doesn't feel as good as genuine happin…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/21 09:02 AM
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Ask yourself where your experience of life comes from. Are you observing the facts of reality or do you see what you think? Have you noticed that seemingly throughout every phase of your life you thought you were seeing reality? Yet we are always so certain that "now I truly see it for what it is". We don't see reality. We just see thought. Our eyes aren't windows into the world. Our eyes take what we think and paste it into the world. What we see is the processed image of sensory data + whateve…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/21 08:27 AM
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For me, it was a simple realization that the thoughts that accompany the philosophy were emotionally painful. I had held on to the notion that I'd rather face reality and be depressed than be ignorant of it and be happy, but when I realized how much of what I consider "reality" is merely my thinking projected outward, looking for evidence to self-validate what I already believe... You can't see your own thoughts because when you're in them they look like reality. And then the world just looked n…
/r/ExRedPill28/03/21 06:00 PM
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Start hanging out with new people
/r/ExRedPill27/12/20 06:37 PM
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You're getting that opinion from a very specific and select demographic. Many people don't care how many people you've slept with. While it's true that a high n-count for some can be a turn off, it's by no means something that you should let control your life in any way whatsoever. It's just not worth it. Don't give it another thought. If the difference between someone being your significant other or not is the difference between how many people you slept with in the past, they shouldn't be your…
/r/ExRedPill20/12/20 10:10 PM
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I can relate, I was there too. Just remember what you want is a FEELING. And how you feel is only to do with the kind of thinking that's happening in your mind at any given moment. When beautiful people are around and showing you love, you tend to have beautiful thoughts. It's the beautiful thoughts that give you a beautiful experience. Don't wait for someone to show up. Fill your mind with beautiful thoughts and good feelings here and now and your life transforms from the inside out.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/20 11:00 PM
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Quiet your mind. Look for a nice feeling. You'll find it every time.
/r/ExRedPill15/12/20 11:36 AM
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That's called being in love. You fall in love the moment you connect truly connect with anyone. In that moment, all of your thinking falls away and there's a beautiful feeling. But you don't need to find the person to find the feeling again. I bet sometimes you feel that feeling for other things, maybe observing the beauty of nature for example - I don't know but I'm sure you don't have to look very far to find examples? If you let your mind quiet at any point you'll find that feeling inside you…
/r/ExRedPill15/12/20 11:32 AM
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TRP can be empowering. Not all of it is detrimental. It can take someone from feeling like a victim and remind them of their power. But! It's how we apply that power that determines our experience. We can apply this power to any kind of idea and that idea will appear true. It will evoke a feeling inside us. The mind is like a big projector, and we use thought to channel this power. The more we think ideas and the more we act on them, the more real they seem to be. If it's happiness you want, you…
/r/ExRedPill15/12/20 09:18 AM
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Well said
/r/ExRedPill14/12/20 10:52 PM
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Yeah, well I see where you're coming from. You don't want impressionable boys who are in a vulnerable situation to latch onto to something that could potential lead them down a painful path.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/20 01:01 PM
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I don't think you watched the video, did you catch what he said at the time I specified?
/r/ExRedPill13/12/20 08:04 PM
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Not having an agenda is the most beautiful thing. If you want to connect with someone, do it for the joy of connecting with another human being. Let that lead to wherever it leads. Just be present with someone else and you'll find all that you're seeking for in that moment.
/r/ExRedPill13/12/20 07:47 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVVFx3issHg (Especially 1:05)
/r/ExRedPill13/12/20 07:40 PM
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Why do you post a comment asking for people's experiences of redpillers changing their minds, then someone shares their personal experience on how they changed their mind, you argue with them? It doesn't make sense to me. I am no different than any redpiller. I'm not inherently any different. The worst redpiller you can find is me. You're asking a question because the way you're doing things isn't working. Why are you defending what you're doing if it's not working?
/r/ExRedPill13/12/20 03:09 PM
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Beautiful
/r/ExRedPill13/12/20 12:43 PM
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I can't speak for changing other people's ideas. I can speak to a human being who's mind is temporarily in the illusion of red pill ideas and totally understand where they're coming from because I've been there. I have no need to change them. I just know that they are going through something for their own reasons and share what has been helpful to me. This applies to all human beings who believe in anything that causes them pain. I speak only from my own experience of changing my own ideas. My o…
/r/ExRedPill13/12/20 12:42 PM
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If you think that being blunt in that way is helpful to people, I think you need to consider the possibility that you are operating from more of a redpill mentality than you'd like to believe.
/r/ExRedPill12/12/20 11:11 PM
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You really have to understand where they are coming from instead of attacking their ideas. People believe in redpill stuff because they feel vulnerable and are afraid of being hurt. Nobody wants to let their heart open because they don't want to be hurt. Remember behind every RPer is a human being who is afraid, insecure, and feels unloved and unwhole. Whenever any amount of vulnerability shows up they shun it and suppress it. Imagine if every time you smiled people said your smile was ugly. Wou…
/r/ExRedPill12/12/20 10:32 PM
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Don't think of anything that hurts you. When you feel emotional pain, it's because you're thinking something painful. Just stop <3 in the absence of painful thoughts, there is peace of mind.
/r/ExRedPill11/12/20 03:06 PM
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It's just an idea. Stop thinking about it and you'll stop seeing it everywhere.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/20 11:07 PM
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It's absolutely true that there are certain characteristics that evoke more 'sexual' feelings for women and men. This is just normal. To you, there are hot girls and ugly girls I'm sure. Same works both ways. But it's also not the 'only' thing. Some people judge others solely based on how attractive they are, others judge other attributes. It's a factor, but depending on who, not the only one. Some don't even care about conventional physical attractiveness whatsoever. There are “within the first…
/r/ExRedPill05/12/20 10:59 PM
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What you're experiencing isn't what's actually happening but just what you think is happening. It doesn't matter if you're *right* in the traditional, what matters is that you get your peace of mind back. It seems as though what she has done has taken away your peace of mind, but it is only your own thinking that has done that, and by continuing to feed your mental energy into those quality of thoughts, you prolong the experience of inner conflict. When you feel upset, realize it's just thought.…
/r/ExRedPill04/12/20 11:45 PM
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Life has a way of revealing to you what you already believe. Few of us are able to acknowledge the convincing nature of our own mind. Isn't it funny how everyone is sure they are the sane ones, perceiving reality for what it is, yet at the same time believing everyone else is seeing it wrong? We live in a thought-created reality. What you choose to see in the world is reflected back to you. The thoughts if they take you away from your innate state of peace. The reason you wrote this post because…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/20 11:13 AM
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When you're upset and jealous it's important to be non-judgmental about it. It's normal to have reactions, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, or something you need to fix. As someone who used to suffer from crippling jealousy, I'll share with you what I've learned that has completely cured me of jealousy. I used to think my mind worked like a camera. In that, I would observe a situation or circumstance, and that circumstance would cause me pain or jealousy. Because of this, I ofte…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 12:14 PM
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It's all about where we see fulfillment coming from. If fulfillment comes from sex and relationships, it only makes sense to put all our energy into that. Everybody has a different reality in their minds on what constitutes fulfillment. Not everyone is so focussed on sex. Some people are into money, some feel fulfilled from helping others, others from expressing artistic talent. When I was in my insecure redpill (even pre-redpill and post-redpill to some extent), the only thing I could think of …
/r/ExRedPill10/11/20 03:18 PM
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Well that's a good point, and I think that really comes down to what we really want in life right? I mean, when I was in my redpill phase, it was because I felt girls were not giving me any attention. I felt invisible. And so I wanted attention from girls, I wanted to feel wanted. It's assumed that the goal of the redpill (in my opinion) is to reach a point where you can have regular sex without the need for relationships (because relationships are fake!). Now when we change the goal to just bei…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/20 02:57 PM
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Why's that?
/r/ExRedPill04/11/20 01:42 PM
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I'm don't think redpilly anymore but I've had similar experiences to this and I wouldn't be surprised at all if it was true - not saying it is. It's not that redpill doesn't "work" - you can get laid by being a confident asshole. There's no doubt about it. There is some instinctual stuff going on there, but that doesn't mean you'll be a happy person. It's just empty and meaningless. You're faking your way through life, compensating for insecurities.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/20 12:56 PM
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He's just trying to help others not experience what he experienced, I can relate. He just doesn't understand happiness quite yet
/r/ExRedPill03/11/20 02:31 PM
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Imagine there are two types of thoughts that can come into your mind. One is a judgmental kind. It feels unpleasant. Pretty much all red pill thoughts are judgmental thoughts. The other has a more fun, joyful, peaceful feeling. A thought can only exist in your mind while you're actively focussing on it, otherwise it goes away on its own. So when you feel a judgmental thought come up (what if she cheats, all women are xyz), simply let it pass. Don't jump into it even though it seems and feels rea…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 12:27 AM
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It's important for you to look within yourself and really address the root of your insecurities. You know enough to understand this is much broader than just about women. If you are insecure, you are insecure and many aspects of your life. The root of insecurity is in thought. You choose how you want to think about doesn't-matter-what. Those thoughts feel very real to you while you think them. Don't play with thoughts that make you feel negative. That won't take you anywhere. Instead, allow spac…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/20 10:00 PM
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It all comes down to insecurity. One underlying insecurity can drive you to act and do tons of things. The moment that underlying insecurity is addressed, everything else falls away like autumn leaves. I used to think change happened in a slow manner, that is, a lot of conscious work changing thought patterns and practicing different behaviours. The really profound change, as I've come to see in myself and in my clients (I help people with this kinda stuff for a living), comes from a realization…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/20 02:07 AM
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You're not too far gone, I promise. Read this very slowly and carefully. See if you can see something new. Your desire for wellbeing, clarity of mind, and peace is what will restore it back to you. So it's great that your opening yourself into that direction. These elements (mental clarity, wellbeing) are your natural state, 'before' the contamination of all the experiences and stuff you picked up throughout your life. The neat thing about this peaceful 'natural' state is that it doesn't leave y…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 04:00 PM
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Physical attraction is physical attraction, true. There are many examples of people who are not 'physically attractive' though that have amazing relationships. One of my friends is pretty obese, pizza-face (in his late 20s) and he's been dating the same gorgeous girl for about 10 years. He's an AMAZING artist, talented and funny. The way she looks at him, he might as well be 'chad'. There are many aspects that people find attractive. I actually met a girl once who admitted to me she had a fetish…
/r/ExRedPill18/08/20 04:02 PM
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That sense you feel stems from an underlying belief in loss. Everything I wrote still applies. Read it slowly.
/r/ExRedPill17/08/20 03:04 PM
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Jealousy is a strong pull from the ego, and it can be a huge basis for suffering and drive your behavior in life to a strong degree. Here is an invitation to let it go once and for all. Take note that your thinking is creating your feeling, nothing else. The reason why you're feeling upset is because you're entertaining upsetting thinking. If you feel jealous, it's because of the thinking you're entertaining in-the-moment. You're basically always making yourself feel a certain way using thought.…
/r/ExRedPill16/08/20 04:34 PM
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Grab the book... "Relationship Handbook" by George Pranksy Read it cover to cover
/r/ExRedPill01/08/20 07:23 PM
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For what sort of thing exactly?
/r/ExRedPill29/07/20 08:26 PM
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Same thing I would say to a guy: your life, your choice! That's not to say I reflect the opinions of all people. But if you look across the spectrum of all opinions of our culture, you'll find variance in all aspects. Some girls judge guys for a thing, some guys judge girls for it, and everything in between. What you see happening in your experience of looking outwardly to how people judge one another is no more than your own beliefs bouncing back at you. Have you noticed that when you change yo…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/20 07:39 PM
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It all comes down to your perspective. This exact thing happens to men and women. You see what you want to see.
/r/ExRedPill29/07/20 07:23 PM
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My story through RP has basically moved from 'emotions are important' to 'fuck emotions'. There's actually another way. It's not that we don't want emotions, it's that we don't want emotional pain. And we think that pushing away emotions somehow defends us from pain. On the other hand, happiness is a real thing, and it's something you can experience more-or-less throughout your whole life if you understand where it comes from. But you need to understand where emotions come from, and most of us l…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/20 07:43 PM
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Have fun
/r/ExRedPill22/07/20 09:54 PM
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Just be as transparent as you can possibly be. Don't follow any script. Just be true
/r/ExRedPill20/07/20 06:40 PM
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Friend, First of all I appreciate you posting here and I'm a little disappointed in some of the other replies. You don't have to choose red pill or blue pill. Yes, there are many valuable tidbits of wisdom spread out in red pill. Of course, taking accountability is one. But there's another way. Think about your definitions of fail and succeed for a second. Isn't success to have a beautiful, happy, and fulfilling relationship with someone? It's not about how it ends, but rather, how it is. The re…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/20 03:55 PM
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First thing you need to do is truly understand the meaning behind forgiveness. Forgiveness is about so much more than what we think it is in our society. So much. Forgiveness is the path to freedom, light-heartedness, and happiness. It's the single road that brings you from dreams of guilt to the realization of pure love in your heart. So you're on a good path, and you're asking the right questions. Let me do the best I can to help you understand forgiveness. Let's understand guilt first. How gu…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/20 04:36 AM
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You can find a lot of information under 'Health Realization', which is the name for what I explain in the psychological field. Dr. George Pransky, and (late) Dr. Roger Mills are the two main professional psychologists that spearheaded this understanding. The understanding itself actually came from an experience a 9th-grade educated welder had back in 1973 called Syd Banks. These two psychologists have their own stories because they at first thought what Syd was talking about was total bullshit, …
/r/ExRedPill11/07/20 05:13 PM
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I currently am having some sessions with a man who has been diagnosed schizoaffective 7 years ago. He's worked with psychologists and psychiatrists since then, but only to cope. They assumed that he would be living with this illness for the rest of his life. He would experience being attacked, his body being ripped and pulled apart, and demons coming to take his soul. After I spoke with him, explored the nature of thought, consciousness, and the energy of life, and he had his first insight into …
/r/ExRedPill10/07/20 07:43 PM
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Prior to the 1860s, doctors didn't wash their hands before attending to patients, and the doctor that proposed medical professionals should wash their hands before handling patients was so mocked by his peers that he suffered from a nervous breakdown. Mercury was once considered safe and used as a disinfectant. During the 30s, doctors were saying the use of cigarettes was healthy. Here is a whole list of more: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superseded_theories_in_science It's a good thing to be a…
/r/ExRedPill10/07/20 07:25 PM
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You are very much capable of experiencing love and happiness. I am 100% sure and I would bet my life on it if I could. You just, for whatever reason, think you can't. And that line of thinking feels very real to you at this moment. I know these words might seem too far out and not real, but you don't need to believe it, the moment you see it you won't be able to un-see it. Just listen. Whether you like it or not, you are a spiritual being having a human experience. That 'spiritualness' of your t…
/r/ExRedPill09/07/20 03:42 PM
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It's not an addendum because it goes in a completely different direction, but you would know that if you actually read what I wrote. How can you have any kind of constructive conversation with someone who only reads half of your post and then fills the rest with assumptions and judgments? Also, I didn't say more 14-year-olds are wiser than adults, I said I've seen 14-year-olds that are wiser than adults.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/20 03:13 PM
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Thank you :) we all have a good soul, some more buried than others. Trust me, if you saw me on the street 4-5 years ago, you wouldn't think I had a good soul ...
/r/ExRedPill08/07/20 07:00 PM
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Thanks for your psychoanalysis of my 'problem' without knowing anything about my story. I'll have you know I had a long-term relationship before coming into TRP. And that relationship was just like any other considered 'normal' by today's standards: happiness, love, insecurity, anger, and jealousy tossed like a salad. Age does not buy you wisdom, by the way. You can be scornful at any age, it's a human emotion. Your life experience does not suddenly become valid when you a hit certain number of …
/r/ExRedPill08/07/20 04:03 PM
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I stopped desiring for sex because I realized where happiness actually came from. Until then, I felt like there was always more to 'get out of my system'. There may be some differences between you and I. But underneath all our differences we are the same. We both use the formless energy of thought to see creation. Whatever thoughts we have look and feel real to us, and make our 'personal reality'. We are both have an unbreakable spiritual connection where we can tap into happiness and a deeper w…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/20 03:05 PM
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If you have the mindset of looking to what you don't have and what everyone else does have, you'll keep that mindset no matter what you end up having. You'll always be seeing a lack in your own situation and abundance in other people's. People think that's only 50% true, but it's 100%. Look at disabled people who consider themselves blessed to have lost the use of their legs. Why? Because it forces them to look elsewhere for happiness. They became happier after losing something they thought they…
/r/ExRedPill07/07/20 05:13 AM
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Depends what you mean by 'works'. Redpill sure didn't make me happy. If getting laid is your goal, RedPill ideas are a helpful thing to learn. Just like if accumulating money is your goal, it's helpful to learn about sales and the stock market. Some of the things that I learned from Redpill changed my perspective and that probably got me laid, sure. but I didn't feel how I thought it would feel. I didn't feel any different. I was still insecure, unhappy, and dissatisfied with life. I just was a …
/r/ExRedPill06/07/20 09:12 PM
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I used to think spiritual stuff was a load of BS - especially when I was redpill haha. I always thought it was stupid to believe in things without evidence, but at the same time, I also had a curiosity in me. Eventually, it was the curiosity that brought me to a moment where I tapped into a level of consciousness where I realized what these mystics were pointing to. In that moment it was clear that the 'curiosity' was my spiritual self guiding me towards self-realization. I know you might not ne…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/20 06:33 PM
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Since I 'uncovered' this understanding, I do help/have helped a lot of people wake up to it through coaching :) thank you for your encouragement so I continue to do so. It's always nice to hear people who appreciate me sharing this stuff.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/20 06:27 PM
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Hey! I'm stoked my post resonated with you :) I know how you feel. The world thinks 'work' solves feeling problems. If we feel bad, we need to 'work' our way out of it. Either we do that physically, or we work mentally, or we work on our career. We think work brings us places. And we also think if we stop working, we regress into depression or unhappiness. It's difficult for many people to understand that they can be happy (satisfied and content!) without having to 'work' towards it. It's free. …
/r/ExRedPill06/07/20 06:22 PM
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It sucks, I know. Don't take your beat-yourself-up-thoughts too seriously, bud. I've been there, there's so much deeper connection you can have. It's just life, it shifts and changes. New forms, new people, everything is changing. Just embrace newness. There's space now for something different to come into your life.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/20 08:07 PM
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Well it does suck to be the screen for the projection of her insecurities. People like to control things because they're afraid of losing control, fundamentally not trusting. All these are attempts to make you into something just stem from insecurities in herself. It's actually not about you in any way. It's not about how much you're holding your frame or whatever. It's just about her not feeling safe in herself and projecting her dis-ease onto you.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/20 04:19 PM
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Understanding that how you feel is 100% a product of the content of your thinking in the moment. The thoughts that cross through your mind are like a film strip of the movie of your life. If you think a jealous-feeling thought, the reason you feel jealous in that moment is because of the thought you are entertaining in your own mind in that very moment. You can't choose what thoughts come into your mind, but you can choose to let thoughts that don't feel good pass back into the nothingness, beca…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 09:59 PM
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