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Spousal Support / AlimonyGrouchy_Software963/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 12:00 AM
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Dating After DivorceGrouchy_Software963/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 09:51 PM
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Dealing with the Ex / STBXGrouchy_Software963/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 08:48 PM
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What country are you in? About the only way to find a virgin in the usa is to date an 18 year old... and then you have to deal with the issues of dating a teen.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 02:52 AM
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Yeah that was a bumper time the Bezos, Depp, Musk triple play, with a sprinkle of project 2025 rumors... don't read to far into it, the numbers post covid have been steady for a while.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 04:23 AM
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Sorry about your loss. Dude is this the same ex wife that got pregnant by your friend or a different one? But it sounds like you have known for a while she was not wife material. She fucked over bio dad, and will fuxk over your friend who is balls deep in her right now. Live and learn, you don't go looking for diamonds in the dumpster at Wendy's.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 01:04 AM
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Step 1: become disabled, and have your wife support you. But for all honesty you lose half your shit at best... if you have any conflict it will cost you more and your lawyers will take more of the assets....
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 08:23 PM
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You might not want to hear this, but its going to cost you over 10k to get a lawyer to handle that. The dick but free move is report the fire arms as stolen to the police, and tell them they are with the ex.. its a felony and as such the police are obligated to do more than just write a report.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 04:39 AM
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Dude it's common just to have a blanket ban on over night guest... or can force the point that they need to be married BEFORE he can spend the night.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 04:28 AM
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At 80 hours a week it would be difficult for her to get 50/50 in court much less custody. I would avoid signing anything unless it comes up in mediation, but even then you could have both of you prevented from taking the kids around the woman. But yes injunctions around who can see the kids are common enough and enforceable.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 12:58 AM
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Really depends on the judge... but you might be able to use the false accusations as the base for a for cuase divorce of her which would lead to no alimony, and a better asset split. But ask your lawyer how to spin this and what the best deal your going to get.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 03:17 AM
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Ask your sister(s) how common this is and what to do. Also you don't need to let them know exactly but you can ask the hypothetical. But her still talking with an ex bf is a no even in the usa.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 03:10 AM
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FERPA, gives you access to them IF she used a school message system. Now getting them from the school system is a different story, but yes technically you do have legal access.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 01:28 AM
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What country are you in for context?
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 01:25 AM
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The best way to learn how someone will treat you in a break up is look to how they treat thier ex.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 04:57 PM
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Don't negotiate on child support, that is always subject to the review or change by the court... also the judge will allot of time just bump that number to the state guidelines regardless of what was agreed to.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 03:03 AM
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Why plan for the long term? Look the pussy is going to age and you will have to replace at some point... Just keep shut informal and kick her to the curb when done.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 05:12 PM
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"We’re in the process of working out a marital settlement agreement" - just tell her to wait till you are divorced...
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 04:10 PM
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Right, the lawyers burned more than 50% of the joint assets in my case... and almost all of the highly liquid assets(cash and not 401k stock)...
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 07:37 PM
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Unless the order requires you to pay part, it is assumed to be in the child support cost... You could be the nice guy and offer to have the child with your family or take the child for more time, but I would not open your wallet any more than required by the order.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 04:07 PM
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Just run the swipes when you take a shit... all of the apps put the people that swipe on you close to the start of the deck. Move the conversations to text ASAP, and set up the dates in person for the same week as you match.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 01:23 AM
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If you have the final order it will give the date you need to pay by and an amount. They might have fucked it up in which case you owe nothing. But ask your lawyer to confirm it first.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:20 PM
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Dude still trying to break down what your questions are: "Are these texts admissible during the Divor hearing?" Odds are no, most judges are not going to let them in... but they can still sub or depo the girl. Side note without kids and a short marriage time most judges are not going to give two shits. 2."Would this illegally obtained texts potentially help me with the getting a better deal in my favor meaning able to use it as leverage or is it not worth the fight?" No that is called blackmail,…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 03:43 AM
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Don't dig for gold in the trash pile.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 01:27 PM
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Texas half of the property is going to happen. As for spousal support you are going to need to show that you have zero way to support yourself, and that is no fault and/or she is at fault... Honestly you are going to need a good lawyer, start making phone calls...
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 02:51 AM
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This is it ask once document a no. Have the lawyer ask, they will document a no... then have the judge order it
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 05:47 PM
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If you ask is done.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 02:44 AM
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Yeap without kids it is a great plan tbh...
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 07:12 PM
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Yeah, they are nice till they are not... I went on a work trip 3 weeks to go on site for a client(massive contract with large bonus), shit was cool the whole time I was gone like kid on phone every day etc, when I got home the locks to the house were changed and her and the kid where gone.... kicker is I had that house since before the marriage...
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 07:11 PM
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You might get it waived, you have already been supporting her for half the length of the marriage and it was a short marriage to start with.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 12:57 AM
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You need to show that things have changed since the last order and it's best for the child... Dude, i know it's not fair that you get no support for the kids, but courts don't like to give men child support... Personally I would not stir the pot, going back to court is a lot both emotionally and financially, just be happy in your current spot with custody.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 02:19 AM
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Yikes, I am assuming she is the higher earner and is tryung to avoid paying you support? But yeah let the lawyer deal with discovery the financial docs will come out in court soon enough, Judges really don't live it when people hide papers
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 06:36 PM
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Sorry, the strugle is real trust me. Look at the postive of you don't have kids you can pick up and move to better places, or if you do have kids now is a time to find a hobby with a local club... you like guns, join the gun club, you like sports go to a sports bar, you like games go to the local game shop. Spend time with what you enjoy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 02:22 AM
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If you don't have kids be happy it's done. Also you might just want to move your stuff into storage early if you are moving back in with family for a short time... things can't go missing or get broken if they are not there.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 07:34 PM
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You wife is getting plowed by some dude as I write this... Yes, the split is going to suck, but its not getting better the longer you wait(think about how much more complex this shit is going to be if she ends up pregnant and the dude leaves?). Take advantage of the fact it's not going to be a fight and start the healing.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 03:44 AM
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That type of thing you just need to let the lawyer know and the judge can order you released.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 03:26 AM
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Private or federal loans? For federal you are on the loans you cosigned for till she pays them or one of you dies... private you might be able to get off after she gets a job and makes payments, etc. Sorry you are in this situation, but also they can garnish your check if she defualts etc... You might have lanague put into the decree that orders her to make all payments on time, or have her post a bound for six months worth of payments ( assuming there is enough cash in the marriage). Now if you…
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 03:13 AM
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Not in that part of the world, but if they case is not contested, has zero kids under 18, and no real assets, and alimony is not an issue, then it seems like a good idea to save some cash.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 08:59 PM
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What ever you decide in the MSA is good with the mediator, they are not the ones trying to stop the deal... its the lawyers you have got to watch out for.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 03:21 AM
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Depends on the state... But you need to have a lawyer draft it, and your partner also needs to have a lawyer to review it... Please make sure that you also have her lawyer sign off on it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 04:24 PM
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You have a right to be concerned and concern is normal. Her sending the pdf reports the next day is enough for most judges to go along with, you are pushing a bit hard at this point to get the reports sent directly to yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 06:55 PM
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Depends on the context, if the photos had my kid or a close friend that died I keep them, otherwise gone... Side note also clean the nudes out of your phone etc, pornhub has better shit on it, and nothing will throw a kink in a new relationship like scrolling through your photos and someone other girls pussy poping up.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 10:08 PM
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When you pick up your child, hand the watch back to the mother... Give here your own iwatch or something else to use when she is with you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 06:01 PM
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It's common for everyone in a contested split.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 05:53 PM
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Don't sell anything till the Court orders you to sell. You can move most of the guns into a storage unit... Just be honest in Court paperwork or when asked under oath... But you don't need to be proactive in telling her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 03:17 PM
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All that crap just list as misc household goods, unless the item is worth real money to you just hit a general grouping and move on. For example If I was to inventory the room I am in now: macbook s/n xxxxxx 700USD dell monitor s/n xxxx 200 USD desk ikea 100 usd sofa black unkown brand 250 USD misc office goods/furnishings under 300 USD No judge/lawer wants the messy details like bic pin 50% full 13 cents notbook 80 used 2 USD power strip no brand listed 5 USD etc
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 06:50 PM
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No, its entertainment... Not like you are fucking them.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 04:42 PM
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Texas is a no fault state, and no alimony for most people(since you are working odds are you will not get it). Also no judge or court is going to care about an emotional affair(it is not covered in the law), they would only care about sex(and more to the point you spending money from the marriage on it). 50/50 for cash and property.... If you have kids that is the major wild card. You should call up a local lawyer most of them will do a free consult...
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 03:11 PM
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open a new bank account at a different bank and have your new cash go there, it is a very easy paper trail for a court to follow... Also don't move other money from the old account over.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 02:11 PM
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She is 18, the docs are hers... I would keep a copy of them if she loses them, but she can start making her own choices both good and bad.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 02:08 PM
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Talk to a tax lawyer... But yes it can be mitigated
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 08:43 PM
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It took me about a year to find a stable footing, but I have friends that are 5 years post split and in a downward spiral(mainly due to drinking etc)... For me the big thing was finding something that I could not do in the marriage and that I can do now(travel), but everyone needs to find their own path.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 06:48 PM
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Sorry about your friend... On the flip side, at least he did not go through the stress of a break before his passing. I had a close buddy that died of a slip in the bath tube at 45 two weeks after breaking up with his wife, he still would have been alive had he been living with the girl and she had called 911(I am sure she would have left the house to go shopping, but that is another story)... You never know when its your time, you can't waste it being unhappy.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 09:18 PM
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I know the law in Mexico, says you can provide food, housing etc... But my friends have told me that the Courts order cash... It's a really interesting question that you have brought up.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 12:19 AM
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Dude is not going to get custody with a SAHM... he is going to get the standard order... Also, the conditions can be treated, and his income might rebound.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 03:58 PM
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Call a lawyer its going to very by state...
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 02:28 PM
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spousal support is not intended to be fair, its the law in some areas... Look up the laws for your state, and just use the formula.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 01:36 PM
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I just checked and shit Thailand is interesting, for kids born outside of wedlock... What other countries are like that?
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 01:16 PM
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Does she have a lot of single friends that you find cute and is she willing to introduce you? If the friendship works out in your favor nothing wrong with that. But it sounds like she is trying to make you an orbiter... If she really is toxic you just need to run. How far outside of divorce are you?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 03:20 PM
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Also, the only one where you get paid when you want to quit.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 06:11 PM
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OFW is shit and cost a lot of money if you still have a while to go... Just take the order about custody and enter it into chatgpt, then ask it for a solution to bulk enter the dates.... at one time gCal would take bulk entry of sheets but I don't know if it still does.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:07 PM
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Most of them had a max term of 7 years, plus you got free food and housing.... Seems like a better deal if you ask me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:04 PM
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No, she is still getting CS... independent means you earn your own money, she still has a while to go before she hits it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:03 PM
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standard possession order https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/child-support/families-and-parenting/parenting-time-overview/parenting-time-schedule/50-miles-apart-or-less
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 09:52 PM
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Alimony is not going to happen in Texas.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 07:53 PM
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Call around most lawyers but not all will do a free consult, and they think of it as their job interview. Contested is going to cost you 20k+ if you have assets or kids. Most of the time expect a 50/50 split with assests, debts, etc. Kids expect the SPO...
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 05:54 PM
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Ok that might pan out to spend time on..
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 02:37 PM
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It should be listed as a deduction for other taxes paid...
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 02:36 PM
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Pull a few months worth of bank statements to look and see if the deposit totals match the pay stubs, some people have been known to split a check after a raise... Also, if you filed joint tax returns double check the math on them... The excise tax would have been listed on your return. You don't get her to pay half of it, that shit is gone man, you are going to have your lawyer spend 4 hours of time to look into it, and deal with it, when you are going to recover 3.5k total... I get that 1.5k i…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 04:20 AM
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Going out is healthy, making new friends is healthy. I was at the very same spot as you are now, trust me it is the worst of the process. Just waiting to get everything finished, and it being dragged out.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 12:03 AM
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Its a thin line, dating while separated(and yes lots of people do it)... If you are going to do it just keep it lowkey(and even more lowkey if you have kids). It can take years to get the split done if you have assets or kids(and I think you have assets). Also, while dating during the split can seem to make life better(well it did for me) at the time, the quailty of what you date during a drawn out divorce is not the best(trust me on that I was madly in love with the first girl that I dated, she…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 06:14 PM
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It is a gift from martial assets, like the same as taking someone to dinner... If there is an AP(and yes that might not be the prefered term, but you are still married at this point). Using joint money on that person, a judge can order that taken out of a 50/50 split and given to the incent party. To answer your question: why is it different? Having friends outside of your spouse even if they are toxic to your marriage is normal, healthy and not adultery...
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 05:15 PM
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Yes the Court can force and only the Court can force a sell. She could sue you outside of the divorce to force a sale too, but if the ball is rolling on the split no sane lawyer is going to let her do that. Only thing that I would watch out for is don't take female friends to it(or male friends if you swing that way), since she can claim that your behavoir lost her rental income.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 03:53 PM
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you hit my red flag cap at single mother...
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 05:59 PM
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only solution is to fill the void with cock and food...
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 04:28 PM
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Cut out the joint bank account.... It is done, she is 'finding' herself... You have every right to look at where money from your joint account is going. Also, it is hard to run up a 25-50 usd charge at starbucks without two people ordering... I am sorry you are going through this but its time to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 06:07 PM
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If it is going to be high conflict you need to jump, but a family law attorney is going to cost more. If you are in a zero asset/ no kid situation you need to stay
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 04:52 PM
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Gift them to the ex... let her deal with tossing them.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 03:54 PM
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Don't sleep with her anymore and file asap.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:19 PM
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"So I have some needs that are not being met, I think that it's time we talked about ending thing" You need to preplan with a lawyer BEFORE you talk to the wife.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 02:03 AM
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Still working on that one, same age range... I had a few friends from work that were on the fringes of the circle and I have since become closer to them. Honestly the biggest problem at the start was being sober enough to care about anything. I tired moving to a new city and that seemed to help, plus just getting out and doing things can make an impact, also I learned how to just talk to people, strange thing is now most of my friends are also divorced and have a higher income...
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 03:07 PM
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Dude he is railing your wife ... If you want to be tunnel buddies with this dude then forgive her, but understand that she is going to come home from time to time with this dude dripping out of her, or move the fuck on.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 10:25 PM
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Ignore it and move on, you will deal with endless request for money that you do not owe till the kid turns 18....
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 06:02 PM
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Nashville? honestly I would sale the property with tenants in place then split the cash... Great that you have cash to look at a buyout, but you are going to streach yourself thin keeping the property up if you lose the tenants. But 800/month is not worth the risk in this market...
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 12:23 AM
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She can roll the windows down or drive the kids yourself... But no judge is going to deny her time for a none working ac in a car.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 06:38 PM
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Texas. Cash on hand split 50/50, 401k gains and adds split 50/50, house sold in split 50/50, we kept the cars we used hers was new mine was about 3 years old, no support for the ex and at the time I made about 120k/yr more, married 8 years with one kid. I spent about 210k in legal on my part and a bit more on hers from her family. Honestly the big winner was the lawyers in the whole thing and the ex still does not see that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 03:13 PM
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hold the door open and let her walk... then shut it with legal papers...
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 11:06 PM
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My amount of savings in the first five years after the split was larger than the 8 years we spent married. Honestly, it was very much a case of what was hers was hers and what was mine was hers, my housing, spending on clothes, food, and cars(no new car every two years) all went down. Then you mix in that the time spent supporting us as a couple went into my job, and education.... Honestly, while I miss somethings about being a couple, I am way better off being solo.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 05:18 PM
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Keep the cash under your mattress till its done... Maybe you like getting your nails done, or eating out more...
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 05:53 PM
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It's something, honestly I have not, but I don't most my local beyond a state level...
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 12:27 AM
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https://oklahoma.gov/okdhs/services/child-support-services/computation.html So, 1400 for CS is too high... call a lawyer before you get fucked by the ex.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 09:35 PM
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What state? that is not a huge income gap some states won't give the ex a dime for alimony, I will also tell you that when my order was signed my income was at about the same level as yours but the CS was close to 2k for one child.... Call a lawyer and look at the formula, Courts don't care about fair they care about the law.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 09:30 PM
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Let your kid make their own choices, as far as you are concerned just move on, and be done.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 08:05 PM
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LoL don't worry she is riding over dick as we speak....
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:34 PM
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He is not left with enough money for that...
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 04:01 PM
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Lawyer time... Depending on the state the new house might be 50% his... But assuming that there are no kids, and no money, it will be a cheap ordeal.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 05:57 AM
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Yeah, she has been after/with the dude for at least six months then... If they are withholding sex they are getting it from someone else...
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 02:58 AM
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This makes more sense... Take a step back and don't say anything, you know she is building for an exit and you need to also... Side note you need to stop fucking her if you have not already done so, the last thing you need is for her to end up pregnant... If you need an easy out just fake ED, even if it means you rubbing one out in the bathroom...
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 01:54 AM
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Just a bad question and so many objections... The wonderful smart ass response is object list the last time you had a Pepsi and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:09 AM
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My friend, I had to produce over 8k pages(after objections, etc) for the first item on the RFP... It was so much and we had such a large paper trail that both of the lawyers agreed to trade the docs via dropbox....
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:05 AM
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She will lose her dependent status when it is done... She can apply for a number of other visas depending on her country of origin and/or job... But if the papers are already filed then let the lawyers take care of it... Also if you have had a child in the USA, she can get a green card from them, but if you don't have kids you need to stop sleeping with her.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:01 AM
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Lock down your social media... What do you care if you get a few likes from random people on the internet? How does that improve your life?
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 03:14 PM
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Since you don't have kids, have you thought about just brushing over it? Don't mention it, but if you are asked be honest and say ' I got married young, and we grew appart'
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 02:44 PM
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Not that high to be honest... it depends on the amount of time you are with the mediator... good ones bill at over 500 usd/hr
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 10:19 PM
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Join a social club, think like toast masters, elks, rotary, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 07:06 PM
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No such thing as a martial debt in Texas... Look it up. Side note most judges in any state will call loans from family a gift.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 03:53 PM
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Answer only the question being asked...
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 03:30 PM
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She spent money she did not have? That sounds like a her problem.... You are not responable for her mistakes
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 06:56 PM
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within 10-15% of your current ammount... Side note a lot of jewerly stores sell gold/silver coins value of the metal... They will let you buy with a credit card(maybe you want to get your wife a gift and just lost it while boating)...
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 05:22 PM
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If you are dating a girl that is over 40 the chances of her getting pregnant AND being able to carry the child to term are even lower than what you have posted... It's not worth the vasectomy TBH... But if you are pulling girls that have yet to hit the wall, you need to do it if you dont want kids.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 02:06 PM
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6 months spousal support is not going to happen. Also the differance between your incomes is small and she has enough to support herself. Do yourself a favor call a local attorney, most of them will do a free consult, also you need to stop sleeping with the girl you don't want her to end up pregnant.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 08:42 PM
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You can pull it online if they did not have kids in my state(but it cost a buck a page), if they had kids you can view the number of fillings and get the lawyer name etc, but you would have to go to the Court to view the pages... Look I had my dick in crazy for a number of years and it fucked with a lot in my life(and right after the break up I was with a few girls that honestly were worse than my ex), now I do due diligance before I take someone any places besides a hotel/airbnb... I have my ki…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 09:35 PM
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Yes, in my state, I went to the courthouse I knew the year of the split... gave the clerk my DL, and she handed me about 10k pages worth of records, honestly I did not even need to make it all of the way through to know that the girl had lied, and was in a high conflict mess.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 09:21 PM
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Pull the Court records. You know her last name and when it happended? TBH last time I dated someone who had 100% 'though no fault of there own' she was fighting a major battle for it, it was someting that was 100% in her control with aligations of domestic and sexual abuse on her part.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 07:00 PM
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Only four dates? honestly open yourself up and explore, with her lack of free time she with still be there is you want her when you are done.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:52 PM
6

Unless the guy died or is in jail, I would double check things... But both of those are major yellow flags to say the least.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:51 PM
4

Did you ex give the kids x-mas gifts to give to you? What is your relationship like at this point? There is a point to playing the 20 USD send a gift game but only if your ex is playing it too...
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:19 PM
1

At this point if you are preplaning assume she is too... Honestly, most of these that I have seen happen are the result of one party having the other over a barrel, and it being a hail mary to avoid the split.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:11 PM
2

Then it is over. If you want to pay for half of college that is up to you, if you want to set conditions with which you will pay for half that is up to you. To put your mind at rest I was paying into a 529 for my child until the split, then I stopped since I needed the cash to pay for child support, I pointed out to my child that fact and she understands that she needs to take out loans for college or get the cash from her mother, the only thing that I cover is airfare for her to visit me at thi…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 06:34 PM
2

No assets and no kids? Get a lawyer it will be cheap if there is nothing besides a judge signing off on it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 02:32 AM
1

Be honest if it comes up, if you are over 35 years old it is more common than you think.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 05:26 PM
0

If you want to get good sleep just do the following: Stop drinking achool. Start going to the gym. Have a regular sleep/wake cycle.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 05:09 PM
1

Debts for legal fees go unpaid all the time... But you need to find a lawyer you can trust and figure this out... While reddit is a great sounding board and place to vent, you have need legal advise. I wish you the best, and hope everything turns out well.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 10:23 PM
1

Just take them yourself... during your parenting time you have the right to religious teachings of your choice with your childern(federal issue), provided you have not wavied that right in a Court order and honesty even if you did I don't think many judges would enforce that wavier... You can have them baptized, you could tell them to warship how ever you want during your parenting time. Honesty what is happening does not raise to the level of parental alienation unless it cuases your childern t…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 09:49 PM
7

Call a lawyer today... you should not be paying anything, 7 months is not shit, and most judges will take that stance... Also, stop sleeping with her, the last thing you ned is for her to end up pregnant.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 11:05 PM
3

No, you are never going to get an honest answer... Why waste your time and put a dent into a shit relationship...
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 08:43 PM
1

Do you have an order to prevent you from it? Honesty you can't remove without an order to remove her OR when you hit open enrolment...
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 04:50 AM
1

If the company does not have assests close it out and start a new one even if you are still doing the same thing... To your ex it is going to look like cash on the table, even all it might be is a name if a few dollars going to the local goverment...
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 01:32 AM
10

This really needs to be talked about more, it happens a lot, and lots of people think they are alone in it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 01:30 AM
1

You have never been in for contempt. The first line in my state is " You are ordered to show cause as to why you should not be held in contempt".... You have a duty to show cause to hold your ex.... Simply saying that "I think that my ex might have" is not enough in my state.... But I am a random stranger on the internet and not YOUR attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:24 AM
5

Yesterday, your ex has already been fucked by half your state...
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 11:53 PM
3

If they are in the USA mail your ex a letter to the last known address and write "Return Service Requested". The USPS will mail it back to you IF she filed a forwarding address with the USPS.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 11:52 PM
2

No real good way without seeing her tax returns... Follow the order, then let the lawyers figure it out is the IRS comes...
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 11:50 PM
4

Hired a female the first round, she was good and made me look good in Court. Hired a male for the mod we did on custody(it was a different judge and the guy practiced law with him for years)... Honestly unless the lawyer is friends with the judge you should look at a female lawyer, the pussy pass is real, and they can get away with asking more questions about sex(if that is an issue in your case).
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 03:38 AM
4

Crying and stress are normal. To put it in prospective, my ex and me ended up making out in the driveway at our home after our stuff was out, we went to the back yard since we did not want to be alone with the other person, she ended up blowing me, then we went inside the house with zero furniture, and spent the night on the floor without anything.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:39 AM
1

Just Google 'Ontario meal prep services' and you get like a dozen places that will do it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:35 AM
6

We had sex a few times during a blood bath legal battle(400k joint cost). It lasted for like a day each time. Trust me don't do it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:33 AM
10

Yes, but the damage was done... Honestly, it was a hot mess while it was happening and about a year after we had a young child... But life is better I make more money(and keep more of it now), my sex life has gone from maybe one a week, to porn star level. I date two wonderful women that keep me well grounded and happy. I could not ask for more in life. Also, I get a bit of sick satisfaction from knowing and seeing that the ex is not happy regardless of what is happening...
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:24 AM
5

Bumble and Facebook dating have been rock stars... Tinder is good for a fast blowjob if you can take an ok photo, and don't mind crazy... Honestly, rural dating sucks, list your location as the city, or try to be in town more. I was rural right after the split, and my matches sucked... Moved into town, and honestly it has been a massive improvement. If you are looking for someone that is also looking for something fast and not heavy on the commitment look for girls that are going through a break…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:19 AM
8

I don't think my ex has ever left the "Trough of Disillusionment" part of it...
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 08:48 PM
1

Get an annulment, and walk... live and learn.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 08:47 PM
5

Don't nothing good will come of it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 08:52 PM
5

Does she earn more money? Did she start sleeping with someone else? So many reasons that it could be. Most likely reason is that her lawyer gives no fucks, it is not going to be a fight, it does not sound like you have major money, etc. Her lawyer odds are spent all of 25 min talking with her on the phone to draft the response.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 01:39 AM
3

Passports(USA based) for minors take both parents present at the interview by law to avoid this type of thing... Also a lot of places with not let minors enter without both parents. However there are times this might not apply IF they child is eligible for a non-USA passport then each country will have different rules. But they need to lawyer up international flight risk is a very real thing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 01:57 AM
2

No, you can just order a replacement card with just the birth cert(no need for the number). Also, if you have then just be a good guy and give them to the ex, this is the type of small fights judges don't want to deal with.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 01:32 AM
2

How are they getting the report copies?
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 12:13 AM
3

Only two reasons to change your lawyer: 1. You don't trust your lawyer(this includes following their advise, trusting their skills, they make promises they don't deliver). 2. You can't afford your current lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 11:13 PM
1

Such a minor income difference and 75k is enough to support yourself. Odds are no, but I have seen stranger things happen.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 01:15 AM
2

Stop drinking, and start working out.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 06:17 PM
6

Sounds like it's going to be a mess...Good luck and hang in there. Also if you want to mess with her point out that the settlement amount will need to go down to reflect the cost you will have for a maid, cook, and sometimes to take care of other things...
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 03:09 AM
6

No. Just don't work extra, take a step back and enjoy life for a bit... Also you might push your wife to earn more. Side note, start pulling extra money out when you go to the ATM, or getting cash back on debt card purchases... An extra few grand in cash for an emergency can be a game changer.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 05:16 AM
2

He switched to the other team?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 04:03 AM
1

High conflict it's worth it trust me. I have known people that have blown 250k in legal fees over a court battle for a school.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 06:47 AM
1

You need to file a cross action, she did not return the gum you gave your child... I don't let me kids being anything from the mother's place because we always had things like this happen. I literally take a picture of what my kid is wearing and they go back in that exact same outfit. Stone people will fight over any and everything
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 06:39 AM
2

It's a shit show for sure. Just remember it is a chance to remake your life as you want it. I enjoy things now that I could have never done while with the ex, my sex life is better, I travel when and where I want, I do what I want, and as long as I send in my check, I am free. ​ Don't look at what you have lost, look at it as a chance to get what you always wanted in life.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 05:34 PM
12

Take your lawyers advise... But it sounds like with the amount of assets you have you could easily burn them in the split. But she is being crazy you can't get blood out of a stone. Personally if her opinions are she gets it all, or it gets burned I would just burn it all. Working together to save things is only important if you get something from saving them. Also your lawyer could stall the case out so that your child turns 18 before the shit is done, then child support is off the table.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 06:10 PM
3

yeah like 40k plus...
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 10:28 PM
1

That is wait a year before a relationship. What you get fresh post-split is all trash, you are still not stable from the break and the girls you bring around are trash. No one is saying you can't have fun, but limit it to people who don't know your last name nor have a good phone number, also limit it to one-night stands, have some fun, but wait to find something that will last more than a week.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 08:31 PM
2

Our family wizard does all of that... but honestly you might just want to look at a call recorder.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 05:17 PM
2

Subtract the fees, unless she is an agent herself, it's fair... If you have no interest in trying to stay in the house yourself. I would just take the lower of the two prices the agent listed and walk, you get cash in hand, she gets a home that needs upkeep... just remember that if you or her get a lawyer involved you can throw another 20k out the window.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 03:47 AM
2

Yes, you can always say no to a shit deal walk if it looks bad.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 08:00 AM
1

Save your job search records, and even apply for low paying jobs in the same sector... They can go back as a party tries to take it. But judges don't do this commonly in practice since most of those cases go to the appeals court. Also why would you be working a low paid job for five years during your marriage? The argument the other side would have to make is that you have been playing a five year long game over a few bucks.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 07:55 AM
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