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Action Op.HDThoreauaway/r/MensRights06/01/15 01:25 AM
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... the other was written by a woman who actually served time in prison.
/r/PussyPass22/06/14 08:04 AM
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And what the fuck is your point? Aww..poor women, they did crime but we shouldn't punish them? Nope. Or do you think they are innocent or are you saying they are special little snowflakes that deserve to be let go. Those are both quite the straw men. But neither was my point. You suggested, sarcastically, that we ought to get rid of women's prisons. I responded, factually, that there are more women in prison, in the US, at least, than ever. In this country, yes, I do believe we are incarcerating…
/r/PussyPass22/06/14 08:02 AM
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But what's the point of your sarcasm? You're not actually responding to the fact that there are more than eight times as many women in prison today as there were in 1980. Your sarcastic reply is totally unrelated.
/r/PussyPass22/06/14 12:36 AM
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People, she's a troll. Perhaps more accurately, she's a heel (albeit outside a wrestling context). She knows this will get attention and infamy, which is good for her career. That's why she's being so ridiculous. And this sub is enthusiastically helping her.
/r/PussyPass22/06/14 12:34 AM
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Yes, that does seem like an important detail, doesn't it? :) Fixed -- thanks.
/r/PussyPass22/06/14 12:24 AM
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The school is punishing these guys when the police said that no crime was committed. The school shouldn't have the right to do that The school is a private institution and can do whatever the hell it wants when it comes to managing their student body.* They absolutely should have the right to do that, because private membership-based institutions should not need to get permission from the government to respond to the misconduct of their members. [EDIT: I was wrong about the university being priv…
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 10:43 PM
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In addition to the three statutory rape felonies she's accused of, she is also accused of "promoting sexual performance of a child," which is Florida's child pornography statute (a felony).
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 10:23 PM
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... because the number of women in state and federal prisons has increased 757% since 1980?
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 10:21 PM
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Yes, there are plenty.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 10:13 PM
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If she was a man the article would say "rape" all over it. The word rape isn't in the charge in Florida, so no, it wouldn't. For example, here's an article from a few days ago about two Florida men having sex with a 14-year-old girl; the word "rape" doesn't appear anywhere in the article. Furthermore, did she get charged for making child porn? Doesn't look like it. Yes. That's what "promoting sexual performance of a child" is in Florida.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:55 PM
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Yes. "Promoting sexual performance of a child" is the technical term for the crime of making child porn in Florida. It is a Class 2 felony (up to 15 years in prison), and the article says she is being tried for it.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:51 PM
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Some headlines are misleading, but this one is flat-out wrong. The entire reason she was acquitted was that the jury concluded she was not trying to cut the cop's throat. Were they right? :: shrug :: I wasn't in the court room and didn't hear the evidence. But their finding was that she didn't mean to do it.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:46 PM
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I take it "Woman Convicted of Prison for Perjury Gets Out of Prison Faster than Man Convicted of Murder" wasn't exciting enough a headline?
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:42 PM
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(psssst -- you're being trolled.)
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:38 PM
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Study: Judges with daughters are more likely to rule in favor of women Except that's not what the article says. It says that judges with daughters are more likely to rule in favor of increased rights for women in civil cases, not in favor of women in general, and specifically not in criminal cases. That's a huge difference.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:37 PM
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Florida law also requires that they register as sex offenders of convicted.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:27 PM
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She's being charged with lewd and lascivious battery of a minor, which, under Florida law, is the technical name of the crime she committed (and which, under Florida state law, is categorized as a form of sexual battery). If convicted, she will be sentenced to between 34.5 months (minimum by law) and 15 years for each count. What blows your fucking mind about this?
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:26 PM
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She was locked up. She was released on bail. She's being tried for four second-degree felonies, and if convicted, will almost certainly spend years in prison and be a registered sex offender upon release.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:18 PM
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I'm missing the "pussy pass" part of this. She committed statutory rape of three girls, and is being charged with three counts of statutory rape. She recorded and distributed the performance of a sex act with a minor, and is being charged with promoting the sexual performance of a child. These are all felonies. For the first three, there's a 34.5-month minimum sentence per charge, with a maximum sentence of 15 years. I'm guessing the judge will not allow them to be served concurrently, so she'll…
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 09:17 PM
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Especially when I didn't mean them all! I don't think it would be fucked up if you had etc., etc. Thanks for catching that.
/r/PussyPass21/06/14 08:35 PM
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Eesh. That's too bad. How often does she get drunk? It does sound like she's got some deeper unresolved issues that are coming out when she drinks, though what those are is impossible to say without knowing her. It sounds like you're on the precipice of an emotionally abusive relationship. Ask yourself, if alcohol weren't involved, would you put up with this kind of abuse? If not, why does alcohol make a difference? You can set up ultimata, you can tell her that you're not going to go out with h…
/r/askTRP20/06/14 01:21 AM
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Beating addiction is really, really tough, and I wish you the best of luck during your recovery. It sounds like you're moving in the right direction. Absolutely do not assume that she has started looking elsewhere for sex. You have no reason to think that, it sounds like. Have you talked to her about your addiction and recovery recently? Does she know you've been sober for a week? Have you told her your plan for recovery? (Do you have one?) Are there things she can do to help you recover? Are th…
/r/askTRP20/06/14 01:09 AM
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One freelancer to another: don't get pushed around by your own ego. You're a freelancer. It doesn't matter if she sneaks into the bathroom after you and takes credits for your poops. Her ass is on the line for this project, and so all glory falls to her. You've already shot yourself in the foot by taking on any more work than the job you were being paid for. If you're a freelancing editor, why are you doing pre-shoot creative work? You should have said, from the get-go, "get me your footage and …
/r/askTRP20/06/14 12:59 AM
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You'll be fine. People make mistakes in the workplace all the time. The three most important things that will keep your ass out of the fire, now and forever, are: *You take full responsibility for your mistake. *You work to find a solution. *You inform the people impacted by your error before the problem gets worse, or after a solution has been found. It sounds like you've done all those things. When your boss gets back, explain the error you made, explain the solution you found, apologize, and …
/r/askTRP20/06/14 12:50 AM
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The more important question is, is this what you're looking for in a relationship? (It sounds, from your posting here, that the answer is no.) I, personally, could not be in a relationship with someone like that. I like to be with women who have opinions, and self-motivation, and challenge me to push myself by pushing themselves. I personally would "nope" out of your situation after one, maybe two dates. But, again, to each his own. How old is she, how old are you, and what kind of relationship …
/r/askTRP20/06/14 12:42 AM
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I would actively try not to put energy into it either way. I think this is one of those times where "the greatest revenge is a life well-lived." Especially early on, I'd certainly think a man should talk to his close friends about why he broke up, because they're not going to be able to be supportive if they don't know what happened. But don't go spreading it around, don't worry about ruining her reputation, and don't worry what other people are going to say. Anybody worth having in your life wo…
/r/askTRP20/06/14 12:33 AM
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No. Some women are simply more into sex than others (just like men). Different people have different relationships with sex. With that said, good sex is an important ingredient in an awesome intimate relationship. Have an open, honest, positive conversation with your SO about sex -- what she enjoys, what she wants to try, what turns her on (and, of course, talk about those same things with her). Even if you've done so in the past, revisiting that topic can be very good for your sex life.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:45 PM
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That's ridiculous. There are so many things that go into human sexuality and attraction, but even on a basic level, she could be tired, or depressed, or feel unattractive, or not be attracted to him, or not enjoy the sex they're having (boring, painful, repetitive, she never orgasms). That's just a few of the reasons why someone might not be all that interested in sex, and there are plenty more.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:43 PM
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That's terrible advice for someone asking about sex in a long-term relationship, as OP did. Sometimes people are just plain not in the mood to have sex. The idea that someone owes you sex because you feel like having it is pretty absurd anyway, but in an actual, healthy long-term relationship, that's a non-starter.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:41 PM
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It sounds like she has a crush on you. Don't waste too many brain cells trying to analyze her or the situation. Ask her out, have a beer, make out, take it from there.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:36 PM
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Why? There are plenty of men who are insecure and controlling who would make shitty intimate partners.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:33 PM
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I know that 'love' is just a chemical reaction and I will never get oneitis. Logically it seems impossible to love. I'm not being cold I'm just being realistic. Every emotion -- hell, every sensation -- is a chemical reaction. If you're gonna write off one for being "just a chemical reaction," you have to write off all of them, and that sounds like a pretty dull way to live. It's definitely not impossible to love. One-itis isn't when you love someone and are emotionally monogamous, it's when you…
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:31 PM
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Feeling bad because you broke up with someone doesn't mean you're weak, it just means you're human. Don't beat yourself up too much for being bummed out about that. I agree with others here: take up a hobby that results in self-improvement and socialization, like a team sport or other group activity. Meet people, learn a new skill, and get in better shape. That'll get you out of that negative head space faster than anything else.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:26 PM
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Before I give my opinion, I'd strongly advise you take your question over to r/survivorsofabuse. They're going to be able to help you out a lot more than this sub may be able to. Your father taught you through his actions that your relationship is about a dynamic of dominance. The first thing you need to do is reject that view. Tell him how you feel. Find a way to get it off your chest. Don't get mad, and don't demand anything from him like an apology, but just be emotionally honest. He may not …
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:21 PM
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It really depends on the context, but yes, I would get her to pay for one of the tickets -- otherwise it seems like you're trying to buy sex with concert tickets. On the other hand, don't be surprised or disappointed if she has no interest in hooking up with you. Be prepared to go the concert and have fun, and if something happens, something happens.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:17 PM
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Jesus Christ, if that becomes normal in a relationship, get out of it. That sounds awful, and like straight-up emotional abuse. Fuck amused mastery -- skip over immediately to hasty departure.
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:14 PM
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I don't have time to find other girls. I'm in my last semester at school, I have a full time internship and I still hit the gym everyday. I'm going from 6 am till 12 or 1 in the morning. And weekends aren't much better because I have to work for my family. It should change in a few months but for now, it's really difficult to have a social life. I'm not wanting a relationship with her because I can't trust her right now. I'm just trying to have fun right now more than anything else Tell her thes…
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:11 PM
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Before I respond to your actual question: I know it was great for her too b/c I barely fit inside her. Make sure you actually talk to her about whether this is comfortable for her. If you have a large penis compared to her vagina, she may not enjoy this as much as you assume. Now: it sounds like you've developed feelings for her. The very fact that you're putting so much analysis into this tells me that you're thinking about her a ton. Ask yourself whether you want to be in a monogamous relation…
/r/askTRP19/06/14 08:06 PM
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Almost all people have some degree of narcissism. If you're talking about clinical-level, DSM-5-diagnosable narcissism, then no, all women are absolutely not narcissists. I would strongly recommend that you spend time in sub-reddits set up for the children of people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder like r/raisedbynarcissists. The issues you and your sister are dealing with will be much better understood there than here, and they will be much better equipped to answer any questions you have…
/r/askTRP19/06/14 07:58 PM
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It's very possible to lean too much on the evolutionary/biological explanations for these things. Certainly they play a factor in sexual attraction, but human sexuality is immensely complex, and we don't understand it all yet by a long shot. What we do know is that it's not so rational as simply finding an "alpha" capable of procreating with and then turning off your sexual attraction to others. She probably feels some degree of easy emotional intimacy with this woman, enjoys spending time with …
/r/askTRP19/06/14 07:50 PM
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What she does should not affect whether and how you respect relationships you are in. If you think she is cheating on you, break up with her, but if you are not a cheater, don't cheat. Also, nothing has happened, at least not yet -- there's no need for an escalated reaction here. It sounds like she's fishing for permission to hook up with this woman, which you are unsurprisingly unwilling to give. The next time she brings this woman up, simply tell her that you don't want to hear about her being…
/r/askTRP19/06/14 07:44 PM
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She's clearly in to you. If she's actually 16, then it is legal to sleep with her in the state of Washington. If she's a 15-year-old lying to you, you can be convicted of statutory rape, go to jail, and be branded a sex criminal for the rest of your life. Chatting online is always easier than talking person. Read a transcript of a chat log next time -- you go hours and say practically nothing, and you can edit everything before say it. My gut says you should stop hanging out with this kid.
/r/askTRP14/06/14 08:47 PM
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It sounds like you had a really sweet relationship that simply ran its course, and because you two haven't been with anyone else, went a few years longer than it should have. It's a good sign that you want her back. It means that you are capable of deeply bonding with someone. Keep that. It's healthy and an important part of lasting, mutually positive relationships. Now, it's also probably a bad idea to take her back. If you could question the value of your relationship enough to break up with h…
/r/askTRP14/06/14 07:20 PM
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bye
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 08:06 PM
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I don't know how that's an answer to whether it would be racist to Hispanics to study the black prison population and argue that they are over-incarcerated, or vice versa. One more try! And then, seriously, I'm done. You haven't explained why it's unfair to focus on one group when other groups have problems, and you haven't answered the one question I've asked you to answer. Instead, you're saying that the author's hook should conform to the article, which doesn't make any sense, as a hook is so…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 07:53 PM
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Wow. What more do you need to answer my question?
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 07:43 PM
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Answer however you'd like; I ask only that it be your genuine response. Your stance in this discussion seems to be that talking about the plight of women in prison is inherently sexist because it talks about the challenges of one group but not another. I'm asking whether -- assuming I've accurately described your position -- you think the same logic holds when talking about two ethnic groups. You didn't answer my question, but posed a similar one back to me, and I replied by saying that, no, I d…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 07:31 PM
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I'm happy to discuss that further, but I'd really like an answer to my question. Is it racist to talk about the incarceration of blacks without talking about the incarceration of Hispanics?
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 07:18 PM
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I'm still waiting for an answer to mine, but while I wait, sure, I'll answer yours: If you had statistics about the white prison population, and could demonstrate statistically that you think the current levels of incarceration of white people are too high, no, I don't think that'd be racist. I would wonder what your motive was for focusing on white people specifically, but I wouldn't assume you were being racist. (The article's author is clearly focusing on women so she can use Orange is the Ne…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 06:56 PM
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I'm presuming you're directing your comment at the article's author. As I've said elsewhere, it's pretty clear she simply used Orange is the New Black as a hook to increase readership. Her first priority is clicks, not reform, and a cultural hook helps her accomplish that.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 06:49 PM
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Spite-downvoting? No, I have downvoted a couple of your posts, but I've actually upvoted a couple, too. If I have a spiteful admirer, I do hope they'll stop reflexively dropping blue arrows on you.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 06:42 PM
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Looks like they screwed up the search (no warrant or permission for the purses), so the drug charges were dropped. That's just good, old-fashioned police incompetence, not anything gender-related.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 06:34 PM
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So if I had gender-specific statistics demonstrating that the tax system is unfair to men, but there are well-known gender-specific statistics demonstrating that the tax system is equally unfair to women, but I claim only that men should be exempts, that's totally cool. When you say, "I claim only that men should be exempts [sic], " do you mean that you explicitly claim, "only men should be exempt"? Or that you line up a bunch of statistics and say, "and therefore, men should be exempt" and don'…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 06:14 PM
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Are you honestly saying that one can't talk about reforms needed in the incarceration of a particular gender without being sexist? That if you don't talk about both, then you must be picking favorites? Non-rhetorical question: is it racist to talk about the incarceration of blacks without talking about the incarceration of Hispanics? If that's not what you're saying, then please, please point to where in this article the author says that the incarceration of women is less just than the incarcera…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 06:09 PM
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:: shrug :: I don't know, I don't think it [EDIT (thanks /u/_Lappel_du_vide_):] wouldn't would be fucked up if you had gender-specific statistics demonstrating that the tax system is unfair to men. It would obviously be sexist if your rationale was that men were superior to women and thus shouldn't have to pay, but a rational, fact-based argument wouldn't be "fucked up" at all.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 05:40 PM
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She doesn't say that at all. On the contrary, she bases part of her argument on the lack of high-school education of many prisoners -- hardly a middle-class trait. She also dedicates the end of her article to saying that prisoners from lower socio-economic backgrounds than Kerman were likely to suffer more in prison, as they don't have access to her resources.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 05:37 PM
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You've copied and pasted that response several times now. It's clear you didn't bother to actually read my comment, which has nothing to do with whether only talking about women's incarceration is sexist.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 05:34 PM
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Actually, yes, that is why they started typing like a child. They were making fun of you. You argued poorly and childishly, exasperated the person trying to have a discussion with you, and in the end were being openly mocked without realizing it. Why you're bragging about this is beyond me.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 04:00 PM
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I'd just be extra certain that if you're not interested in a relationship, you make no illusions about that. Be super clear what level of commitment you're interested in, and you'll avoid misunderstandings, hurt feelings, headache, and heartbreak. If she knows what you're interested in and still wants to sleep with you, sure, go for it.
/r/askTRP09/06/14 03:26 PM
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The sentence isn't mentioned in the article -- where did you get that from? It sounds like one defendant turned on another to get a shortened sentence. It's a real-life demonstration of the Prisoner's Dilemma and seems only to demonstrate that you shouldn't trust your co-conspirators to keep their mouths shut when you go to trial.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 03:07 PM
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What are you talking about? Habeas corpus is a writ compelling the authority incarcerating the defendant to bring the prisoner to court. It has nothing whatsoever to do with the preponderance or type of evidence.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 03:05 PM
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What about this is injustice driven by sexism? This is a completely normal sentence for this type of crime.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 03:00 PM
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Eh. It was gender-specific because it was tying in to a popular TV show to gain clicks and shares. That doesn't make it sexist. Nowhere did she say that men don't deserve such consideration -- she simply focused on women because the popular show she's piggybacking off of is about a women's prison.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 02:58 PM
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She's using Orange is the New Black as a hook to raise the profile of her article. Reporters use cultural touchstones to boost the relevance of their pieces all the time. Many -- perhaps most -- of the people who read her article will do so because of this tie-in. Nowhere does she say that the life circumstances of men should not also be considered. To say that would be sexist and absurd. She simply happens to be talking specifically about women.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 02:56 PM
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I think her point is that: 64% do not have a high school diploma, 74% regularly used drugs, and they're 16 times more likely than the general population to have a mental illness[.] In other words, prison, which "... were designed to confine people and keep them alive, and not much else" are not a good investment of tax dollars if the ultimate goal is rehabilitation. Instead, the focus should be on ensuring educational access, drug treatment, and mental health services. We'd be spending less mone…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 02:53 PM
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Nowhere does it say the author thinks Kerman should be pitied. In fact, the end of the article goes on for several paragraphs how Kerman had it easier than her fellow inmates who had no support system on the outside.
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 02:49 PM
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I get that reasoning. But it turns out that's simply not how the criminal justice system works just about anywhere in the world. There are simply not enough resources to prosecute every potential case where there is evidence against someone. That's why, for starters, most criminal cases won't proceed without a complainant. If you punch me in the nose right in front of a police officer, they may arrest you, but they very likely won't prosecute you if I don't press charges. In this case, the girls…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 02:37 PM
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And I'm asking people in this thread, including you, whether you believe that Australian prosecutors should have used their prosecutorial discretion to file charges against a teenager for having sex with another teenager. Because here's the thing: prosecutors have too many cases to try them all, so they try the cases they think are in the highest service of justice. To argue that this girl should have been prosecuted is to argue that, even in cases with no complainant, the Australian justice sys…
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 12:42 PM
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Ok... can you show any evidence of that from major anti-trafficking groups?
/r/PussyPass09/06/14 12:27 PM
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Huh. If you pull a date out of this, you will have absolutely beaten the spread.
/r/askTRP08/06/14 07:40 PM
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A shit test is a request (implicit or explicit) for something unnecessary (be it a compliment, or a gift, or whatever) where the obvious response would, in fact, reduce your standing in the eyes of the person asking. These are just blow-offs.
/r/askTRP08/06/14 07:37 PM
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:: shrug :: I mean, despite assertions by some that girls don't poop, I'm pretty sure using the term for either gender isn't inaccurate.
/r/PussyPass08/06/14 07:33 PM
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To your "I am more fun then your other plans" message? What did she say?
/r/askTRP08/06/14 07:09 PM
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Well, the first thing you can do is TL;DR that shit. Summarize the above in five sentences. Then maybe people will help you out.
/r/askTRP07/06/14 06:55 PM
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Wait, you skipped something. You said she offered to cut off contact. Have you already confronted her, then? If so, what did you say/do?
/r/askTRP07/06/14 06:52 PM
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Pretty sure it's this.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 10:07 PM
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Prepare to get confirm friend zoned
/r/askTRP06/06/14 10:06 PM
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:: shrug :: keep us posted.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 10:00 PM
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I asked for a girls number she said What do you need it for? She's not into you. If she were, she wouldn't ask why you wanted it. I am going to save it in my phone and send you a text. No reply She's not into you. Women don't give the silent treatment to men they're attracted to when the guy is coming on to them. Sent her another message. Tomorrow i am going out to ***place 9 a clock. Put on something nice! She was like i don't give out my number just like that! She's not into you. She's giving …
/r/askTRP06/06/14 09:43 PM
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You should head on over to r/getdisciplined. They may be best able to help you out.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 09:38 PM
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Just do what you'd do if a guy asked you to do those things. Don't over-think it. If a person asks for a ride home, would you give it to them? Eh, maybe, depends where they live. If a person asks you to look after their cat, would you? :: shrug :: depends on the situation. Do things because they make sense for you to do, not because of the gender of the person asking. Would your answer change if you are open to the possibility of sleeping with her? No. This is kinda the core of what TRP is tryin…
/r/askTRP06/06/14 09:37 PM
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It's absolutely her responsibility, not his or any other person she's with. And yes, if there are emotional things that she has to work through, it's far preferable that, if possible, she do so before she's out dating. One of the biggest challenges after a traumatic sexual experience is going back to having positive sexual experiences. It's like going back into the ocean for the first time after being attacked by a shark. There's plenty that can be done to emotionally prepare for having sex with…
/r/askTRP06/06/14 07:35 PM
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While not impossible, it's a leap to go to that conclusion. It sounds like she's just busy and not all that invested.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 04:54 PM
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Don't go, but don't flake. Text her and say, "Turns out I can't go to lunch, but I'm looking forward to seeing you tomorrow night." You do not want to open yourself up to her friends creating any sort of impression of you. They will if you show up, and it will either be to pursue a relationship or to move on. But if you flake, there will be a summary judgment against you, as it will be the only thing they know about you. She will be embarrassed, and to make her feel better, her friends will tell…
/r/askTRP06/06/14 04:37 PM
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I agree with most of that, except the jokes part. Don't indicate you waste a second of your time thinking about him.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 03:24 PM
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I suspect it frustrated him enough that he gave up, and instead he focused his energies on the super-hero action figure of himself that he had in his head beating up the super-villain action figure of you extra hard.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 03:10 PM
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She's got emotional scar tissue around a horrible sexual experience. You can work through that, but you have to be ready to go very patiently and very, very slowly and rebuild sex as a positive experience for her. It's totally doable. But it takes time. Do you want to invest that time? If so, eventually, she will re-learn that sex is awesome, and then you can have awesome sex. If not, it's probably best for both of you that you move on.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 02:59 PM
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So, first of all, that doesn't sound like an "alpha friend," it sounds like an angry orbiter. He's making it clear that he wishes he were in the primary role of keeping her safe. He wants you to be abusive, not because he wants this woman to be hurt, but because he probably fantasizes about protecting her. So, you're spot on: definitely don't respond with aggression. But don't feel desperate to get the high-five, either. This guy doesn't want to like you, he wants you to be a bad guy so he can b…
/r/askTRP06/06/14 02:56 PM
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It sounds like there's a lot you can learn and apply to your own life. If these guys are happy in these relationships, see what it is that's making each of them happy. As you said, either they know about the sexual histories of their SO's and don't care, or they don't know and they're happy in that ignorance. Can you tell which it is for each of them? Watch them interact. Do these guys get walked all over? Or do they assert themselves? Where would you put each of them on the spectrum of self-con…
/r/askTRP06/06/14 02:49 PM
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Self love is the greatest love of all. If you don't love yourself then how can anyone else love you (to the best of their abilities)? Amen, brother. That should be pinned to the top and put in the sidebar. Good talk.
/r/askTRP06/06/14 01:39 AM
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Yeah, I think TRP gives a lot of emotionally lazy people a justification to be even lazier, the same way Atkins gave dietarily lazy people a justification to triple their cheeseburger intake because they took the top bun off. You can do some damn fool things screwing around with tools you don't plan to use properly.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/14 12:31 AM
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I agree with what the community, at its core, wants to be. And I enjoy the discussions about how to get there. Any thoughts on my earlier comment?
/r/askTRP05/06/14 11:34 PM
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They just want it to be recognized as making a better bitch, and be rewarded for it with respect and sex. If you think your SO is a bitch, why be with her in the first place?
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:29 PM
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Can you explain what you mean by that? That went right over my head.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:27 PM
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Can you give me an example of someone like that, who clearly falls into both groups? Also, what do they think the difference is between their partner "manning up" and their being "oppressed"?
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:21 PM
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an LTR is a closer relationship that calls for more compromise, but men are trained by culture to not compromise, just give in. TRP doesn't talk a whole lot about how to effectively compromise, though. I suspect if you posted a thread entitled, "Effective compromising The Red Pill Way," it'd be chock-full of blue arrows in no time.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:19 PM
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To be clear, redefining manhood as "refraining", "holding back" or telling yourself "you didn't really want that girl anyway" is the first step to bluepillhood. Who's redefining manhood that way?
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:17 PM
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... though, to be fair, assholes and douchebags do that, too. Do you know you're not being one?
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:13 PM
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Thing is, you can be sweet, sensitive, and emotionally present, AND ALSO confident, assertive, and in possession of tremendous self-control and agency. I really wish TRP would focus on that fact more often, instead of saying you can either be emotionally available or be "alpha."
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:11 PM
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It's only hypocritical for women who do both. Plenty pick one, or neither.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:09 PM
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I think OP is right on the money: The Red Pill would not exist if men were not unhappy. I'd say it goes even further than that: men are downright angry. My concern is that, despite the self-improvement tenets of this sub, that anger is what is ultimately driving things, far more than the mission of making Red Pill men into better, more effective people. As an exercise, let's look at the top ten highest-voted posts on TRP. You can do this exercise with any random handful, but as the highest-voted…
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 11:04 PM
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But they didn't ban those subs over legal issues. They banned them over pressure, both internal and external. Enough pressure on TRP could theoretically bring it down too, particularly if there is a catalyzing incident of some kind.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 10:52 PM
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You seem to be splitting hairs if you're distinguishing between "hatred" and "general disdain." But we don't need to get into that level of semantics to answer the question of whether TRP is fundamentally about love, or fundamentally about anger and hate. Look at the top ten highest-voted posts on TRP. You can do this exercise with any random handful, but as the highest-voted, they're indisputably representative of the community. How many are primarily about victimhood at the hands of women? How…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 10:48 PM
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There were two others.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 09:54 PM
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You heard it here first, folks: the Illuminati are behind attempts to shut down The Red Pill. We're just getting way too alpha for them to contain.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 08:52 PM
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...... that sub was shut down and banned.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 08:51 PM
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... and then they establish a precedent of shutting down controversial subs over the years, and yours is at the front of the line.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 08:49 PM
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I've put thought into what a more palatable, I would even say feminist, red pill would look like. It would definitely not, as people suggest here, start with "just be yourself." It would retain the self-confidence-building elements, as well as projecting that confidence. It would also be built on reinternalizing the locus of control, deciding what's good for you, reclaiming agency, and not getting walked all over. Where it would diverge from TRP is that, instead of using tactics like the "dread …
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 08:47 PM
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Of course there's a power dynamic in an intimate relationship. That does not immediately imply that it's a "hierarchy," however -- in fact, the power dynamic in relationships is actually very complex. TRP assumes one person must be in control at a time, but that is simply not the case. In reality, relationships involve constant collaborative decision-making and mutual delegation. I don't think use of the word "control" is out of line with TRP content. It's very clearly part of TRP's DNA that mak…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 08:31 PM
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Oh, I'm a very intentionally positive guy. My question was whether you see all the negativity throughout TRP's subs focused on women in general, feminists in particular, and "beta" men perhaps most of all.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 08:22 PM
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You're making two huge leaps. The less important one is that if a woman doesn't wear makeup, she's therefore ugly. That's not accurate. The second big, and far more important jump, though, is leaping from "shouldn't be expected to" to "don't," or "won't," or "shouldn't." Surprise! Plenty of feminists shave their legs, wear makeup, and stay in shape -- because they want to. You can be a feminist and also want to be sexy. They're not at all mutually exclusive They simply want to be able to choose …
/r/askTRP05/06/14 08:18 PM
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Most of this sub is common sense if you're an experienced male so I won't launch into an argument with you, because it won't make sense. Oh, I'm both experienced and it makes sense -- it's just that it's based on the assumption that all relationships are about one person controlling the other, and that therefore it's better to be the controller than the controlled. And that's a pretty unhealthy framework on which to build a lasting, healthy relationship, sexual or otherwise. My entire comment wa…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 08:12 PM
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Same outcome, but if he's asexual, he's much more likely to say he has a non-existent sex drive if you ask, than he is to say he's interested in men if you ask him that. I'd start by getting the two of them to have an open, honest conversation about their respective sex drives. He might be defensive, so she's going to have to be really patient and understanding, and non-judgmental. But if she starts with asking whether he's gay, and he's not, he'll clam right up.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 07:51 PM
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I'm actually having trouble finding the "men just wanna rape women" bit around TRP I'm a little unclear by what you mean: are you saying you can't find people at TRP saying that feminists say that men just want to rape women? Also most of the untrustworthy, hypocritical, and illogical claims levied against women seem to be routinely backed up through anecdote and personal experiences, so they're not actually baseless accusations. You think so? Here's a comment I just pulled from a random thread …
/r/askTRP05/06/14 07:49 PM
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Instead of using women to get someone who friendzoned you to be jealous, why not just see these women who you say are into you? Don't base your approach to your sex life around getting this one girl's attention. I'll show far more clearly than you think that that's what you're up to.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 07:13 PM
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And do not use the term "Third Wave Feminism" until you do read that, and know that you know what you're talking about. People throw "Third Wave Feminism" around here all the time in contexts that don't make any sense.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 07:09 PM
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For the love of god do not marry someone so that you can afford to buy a house. Marry someone because you want to spend your life with them and (in your case) raise kids together. Do not do these other things so that you can invest in real estate. I do intend on having kids someday, but my plan was for each of us to have our own houses so that we can be together out of desire and not out of obligation. Kids are just about the biggest obligation you can have. This sounds like you're engineering a…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 06:49 PM
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He very may well be asexual. He's in a position where he knows he obviously can't say he doesn't want to sleep with his fiancee, so he's saying he is attracted to her, but the fact is, it sounds like he's simply not interested in sex.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 06:46 PM
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There's a third, almost-always-overlooked possibility: he's asexual. There are plenty of men and women who are simply not interested in sex whatsoever.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 06:44 PM
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Being explicitly mean and making women feel bad is a pretty shitty way to get them to want you. You're supposed to come off as a hard-to-get catch, not an asshole.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 06:03 PM
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I did fuck up, not by doing something which is legal at my age in two of the countries I'm a citizen in, but Let me finish that sentence for you: "by breaking the law in the country I was actually in at the time." Guess women aren't the only ones we need to be wary of. Yep, you've got to keep an eye out to make sure you're not doing anything stupid, too.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 06:00 PM
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Why would women hate the idea of there being more high-value prospects in the world? Would you hate the idea of mid-level-attractive women becoming more attractive?
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:47 PM
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Yeah, despite the constant bashing, the fact is that feminists cover the same spectrum of potential attractiveness as all other women. This "feminists are ugly" trope really just comes across as middle-school name-calling.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:46 PM
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Just like a feminist to paint something as hateful and angry. They unknowingly project their own traits onto the groups that they bash. TRP isn't all about hate, it's all about love. ...... er, didn't you just paint feminists as hateful and angry? Where's the love in that? And are you seriously saying you don't see the hate and anger all over the place in TRP threads?
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:44 PM
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guys here are trying to live better lives, and improve their personal value, maybe we're a little selfish about it, but honestly? Girls dig that shit. And none of this is what feminists mind about what goes on at TRP and similar threads. I'm sure they all think that's dandy. It's the fact that women, as an entire gender, are routinely written off as untrustworthy, hypocritical, inferior human beings, and that baseless, negative comments are not only not called into question, but are applauded an…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:42 PM
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Really hard to tell from this context whether she was joking or not. Don't bring up the boyfriend again, but ask her out in some other context. If she brings up the boyfriend again, she may have been politely drawing a line. If she doesn't, then maybe that was just a joke that fell flat.
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:33 PM
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Here's the confident thing to do: have a conversation with her. Find out what time she wants to go to bed. Decide whether that's reasonable. If you think it's unreasonable, tell her what time you think is reasonable. Ask what she thinks of that. Work out a compromise that gets you what you want, and still lets her sleep. And ask yourself why it's such a challenge to your confidence that your wife wants to be able to sleep before going climbing, and wants you to be there. You're married. A good m…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:31 PM
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One day we started to make out and she started crying to say she feels guilty and don't want to cheat on her bf. I would take this at face value. She enjoys spending time with you, and is sexually committed to someone else. Do you like hanging out with her? Would you enjoy it as much if you knew for certain you were just friends, and would never have a sexual relationship? If her boyfriend came to visit, could you three all hang out without you feeling jealous or weird about it? If the answer is…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:21 PM
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You ask a few questions here that could fill entire threads. The first thing you have to do is define manipulation. I don't think convincing someone to do something, even if later they regret that decision, can be called "manipulation." I feel like manipulation must have some element of creating a false emotional obligation or debt. Men and women are both capable of doing that. Is seduction manipulation? No, I don't think so -- it's more like a pump-and-dump fast-flip sales job, where you're the…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:15 PM
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Yes, they do! unless they don't. Just like dudes. Women, like men, may be more or less prone to justifying behavior they know is inappropriate, or feeling more or less empathy with someone they've hurt, lied to, or betrayed. My advice: if you're entering a relationship with someone, make sure that person demonstrates empathy and loyalty -- not just to you, but to everyone in their lives. If someone is in the habit of thinking of themselves before others in their lives and taking impulsive action…
/r/askTRP05/06/14 05:04 PM
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They had no evidence of anything beyond criminal negligence. The prosecution couldn't show malice, which is why they accepted a manslaughter plea. A judge has to sentence based on the preponderance of evidence in front of them, not what they suspect occurred.
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 04:31 PM
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It's not infanticide, which, bizarrely, has a five-year maximum sentence in Canada.
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 04:31 PM
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OK, can you link to an example of an organization that influences American and British policy, and which implies through their culture "that ALL men are rapists or future rapists that are not to be trusted"?
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 03:28 PM
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How they've selectively chosen to apply the law was a double standard. Yes, it absolutely is, but it's not a double standard for men and women, it's a double standard for kids and adults. an "actual" stats trend would require stats work done Because something is hard to determine doesn't mean you get to declare what you believe as true in the meantime. which will probably never see the light of day This completely unsubstantiated assertion is made frequently on this thread. But who is it, exactl…
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 03:24 PM
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Really? You think the police are parked out in front of this guy's house? Oh, look at that -- nobody gives a shit about that guy.
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 02:52 PM
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That's because we use the word "asshole" primarily as an insult against men. Typically a woman who does something that would do something which would qualify them as an asshole is called a "bitch."
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 02:49 PM
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The backlash if somebody on the Internet made a generic, negative statement about women? I think the "backlash" would be exactly zero.
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 02:48 PM
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Great memory! It's S208(1)(a). I guess where I'm losing the thread is that it sounds like people here are advocating that we charge minors with sex crimes for sleeping with each other. Because you need to believe that first in order to say, "if he was charged, she should be." And I think that's bonkers. I don't think a 17-year-old should be charged with a crime for sleeping with a 15-year-old. And if a court declines to bring such charges, I think they're acting in the interests of justice by pr…
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 02:43 PM
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Citation and explanation? He was charged for the sex he had as an adult, which means by definition at that point she wasn't sleeping with a minor.
/r/PussyPass05/06/14 02:10 PM
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Really? Openly? Can you link to any of them openly promoting that they believe "that ALL men are rapists or future rapists that are not to be trusted"?
/r/PussyPass04/06/14 07:51 PM
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They definitely did have sex when they were both minors, but that's not what he was being tried for. From the article's fourth paragraph: But the court heard the pair had intercourse after the boy turned 18 and when he broke up with the girl her mother found out and went to police. Neither one of them was brought to court on charges related to the sex they had when they were both minors.
/r/PussyPass04/06/14 07:49 PM
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If you're focused solely on having sex without being close to people, this will maximize the amount of sex you're having, no question. If having lots of sex with people is what you want right now, then go forth and sleep with them. I feel more alone then ever, and my old dream of having a wife that loves me kind of colapse. The good news is that, once you're ready to be, you can be confident, self-improving, and in control of your life and also also be close to people you're in relationships wit…
/r/askTRP04/06/14 04:34 PM
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Is it perhaps possible that you were goofing around while everyone else was working, and that annoyed people?
/r/askTRP03/06/14 10:50 PM
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There really should be a question battery as part of the submission form for asktrp, but here goes. How old are you? How old is she? How long have you been together? How long ago did she break up with the boyfriend, and how long were they together? Are you engaged? Do you actively want to get married? That would all be very useful information.
/r/askTRP03/06/14 09:12 PM
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I don't know your situation, but if I had to place a bet, I would guess it's over. When I've seen this before, the person who "wants space" actually wants to break up while reserving the right to yell, "jjjustkiddingbacksies!" Also, never have I seen relationships that cool off and go into a "break" and then come back and are passionate and wonderful. Oh, they'll often get back together, only to break up a little while later. Usually a few times.
/r/askTRP03/06/14 09:07 PM
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The frame you should be worried about right now is the one holding the walls up. Be respectful, be grateful, and don't try to have sex with anyone in the house until you don't live there anymore.
/r/askTRP03/06/14 04:43 PM
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If you don't think women put a fuckton of effort into being attractive, you've never lived with an adult woman and seen her get ready for a night out. Or, if you have, you don't shit, because their process can take the bathroom offline for hours. And that's not even starting the discussion of what women do to stay in shape themselves. Sexual attractiveness does not happen by magic.
/r/askTRP03/06/14 04:37 PM
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Yep, and I'm asking for actual evidence that it's true that people with more previous sexual partners are more likely to cheat, and that it applies in particular to women and not men (because if it applies to men too, TRP should put up a warning that says, "know that sleeping with many partners may make you less able to be in a long-term relationship later in life"). /u/typicalcollegebrah did provide a link to a study about the connection between the age at which a woman first has sex and the li…
/r/askTRP03/06/14 02:52 PM
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Then on to point #2. Who cares who she sleeps with after you? The only exception I can think of is if you have kids with your ex, and she's prioritizing her sex life over motherhood -- but that really falls under the larger blanket rule, "don't have kids with people who will be shitty parents."
/r/askTRP03/06/14 02:15 PM
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If you're happily ever after, then it's a moot point. If you're not, whichever, and however many, men or women she has sex with after you are irrelevant.
/r/askTRP03/06/14 01:33 PM
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Why? So what, so long as it's after your relationship is over?
/r/askTRP03/06/14 01:12 PM
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What does your second paragraph even mean? That people get worse at sex the more partners they've had? Also, a rental car doesn't do half the driving. Unless you're looking for someone to just lie there, the woman you're having sex with is going to be steering the sex, too -- and if she already knows some awesome places to go, what's wrong with that? And why does it matter that it's easy for women? How does that affect whether having more sexual partners is good or bad? I can naturally do more p…
/r/askTRP03/06/14 12:39 PM
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This falls under "if you have to ask, you know the answer." Just ask. She is either assuming you're exclusive, or assuming you're not, and either way it'll be a lot less messy down the road if you clear that up now. Otherwise you have to sneak around like you're exclusive while telling yourself it's not. Save yourself the headache, get a bit braver, and talk about exclusivity. And be ready to know what you're gonna do for both answers. Will you stop seeing her if she wants monogamy? Know that go…
/r/askTRP03/06/14 12:27 PM
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Can I make a suggestion? When shit like this comes out, this sub and others like it rightfully point out that "if this were the other way around, people would be up in arms!" ... And then that's it. News flash, people: no movement in the world has ever succeeded by calling out the hypocrisy and mistreatment it receives to itself and then doing nothing about it. If you want actual change, shit like this is the very best opportunity you're going to have to organize, get media attention, and streng…
/r/PussyPass03/06/14 02:54 AM
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... can't we just stop making offensive jokes about beating our domestic partners?
/r/MensRights03/06/14 02:32 AM
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That is far, far more people than like TinyPic.
/r/MensRights03/06/14 02:23 AM
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... actually, she served four years, which is twice as much as her baby-murderous co-conspiring husband. PenisPass!
/r/PussyPass03/06/14 12:20 AM
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A homeless minor who was caught committing petty theft? It doesn't even say she was arrested. But even if she were, it's a misdemeanor she committed as a minor. It would have been completely irrelevant. Also, she's an entrepreneur. She got started upselling vintage clothing. She could have robbed and burned down a bank and still started this business when she got out.
/r/PussyPass03/06/14 12:15 AM
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... because he was legally an adult and she wasn't? I don't get the confusion.
/r/PussyPass02/06/14 11:53 PM
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She got a felony on her record, 100 days of community service, a seven-year suspended sentence, a six-figure restitution, and she's still under probation. I'd way rather do the sentence you said.
/r/PussyPass02/06/14 11:50 PM
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She's under house arrest because the case is under review. They screwed up the case a bunch of different ways. Eventually, someday, this will go to trial again, and she will go to prison.
/r/PussyPass02/06/14 11:43 PM
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She had to pay a huge amount of money back, and was a first-time offender. This is a pretty typical outcome for this sort of crime.
/r/PussyPass02/06/14 11:34 PM
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Unpopular opinion inbound, but: Definitely, though it does go more smoothly if there isn't any sexual attraction between you. But you can learn a ton about the female perspective from female friends, and women are just as curious about things from males' perspectives. Trying to hook up with people of a certain gender, and then completely writing off what they have to say, is pretty short-sighted.
/r/askTRP02/06/14 09:42 PM
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LDRs do not work if you have no concrete plans to close that distance. Not, "wouldn't it be nice someday," but, "in August, I will move back to town." The time spent at distance should not be greater than the time you've been in a relationship, or even close. And if it started as an LDR, seriously, don't accelerate the seriousness of it. Because while you're in an LDR, you get to hide all the bad shit from the other person. It's not a real relationship, so you're not building anything lasting --…
/r/askTRP02/06/14 05:24 PM
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Actually, there's one in AskReddit right now. Everyone's behaving pretty well, I think.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 05:19 PM
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Men do have the right to opt out: don't fuck someone. It's not like it's a huge surprise that there's a chance that sex leads to pregnancy. Think that's a bum deal? Write a letter to Mother Nature, and until she writes back, keep your dick out of vaginas. That's how it goes, which is why TRP is constantly talking about the risk of pregnancy: if you're going to be having sex with women, you must acknowledge to yourself the risk that pregnancy may result. Issues of pregnancy cannot possibly be mad…
/r/askTRP02/06/14 04:57 PM
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Yeah, it sounds like you've got reason to move on. And it sounds pretty clear that she was over it too. A word of advice that maybe you've already heard, and that might at first seem counter-intuitive on a TRP board: once you are divorced, work on forgiving her emotional infidelity, real or imagined. Let me be super-duper clear about this before this comment gets buried deep in the mantle of the earth: I am absolutely not saying work around it, pretend it didn't happen, say that it was OK or giv…
/r/askTRP02/06/14 04:37 PM
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Stop having conversations over text. Text messages are needy by design -- whenever you send a text to anybody you say, "hey, I have no idea what you're doing right now, but can you stop that and pay attention to me?" She's not being a cunt. You're being desperate for attention. If she's like that in person, she's still not being a cunt. You're being boring.
/r/askTRP02/06/14 04:01 PM
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No worries. And nah, I was just setting blue-pill bait to lure his one-itis out into the open.
/r/askTRP02/06/14 03:57 PM
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I'd take the job. You're building your career, and experience is important. If your relationship lasts, hooray! If it doesn't... alas. Short, experimental relationships are part of being young. Future employers will ask to see your resume. Future girlfriends will not. Incidentally, your English is great.
/r/askTRP02/06/14 03:48 PM
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Seriously? Because if he still has feelings for her and isn't admitting it to himself, it's going to completely fuck his game over. It will make him be an emotionally volatile dumbass at exactly the wrong time. Emotional strategy is fundamental to sexual strategy, and if you don't even know how you feel, you are in a bad way.
/r/askTRP02/06/14 03:41 PM
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Go out and do something with your friends. Anything. Keep your mind right. Write down the reasons you broke up on a small piece of paper, with a title at the top to the effect of "WHY BREAKING UP WAS A GREAT IDEA." Fold that in half and stick it in your wallet. You may need that later if you're wavering.
/r/askTRP02/06/14 03:37 PM
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Knowing what you're talking about doesn't make you a hypocrite.
/r/askTRP02/06/14 03:32 PM
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Guys, he's not talking about TRP. He's doing the opposite of that. Hear me out. Yes, to be very clear, it's written from a feminist perspective, but is not pointed in this direction. listen up, fellow self-pitying nerd boys—we are not the victims here. We are not the underdogs. Self pity? Personal narrative of the martyr? These are not what TRP espouses. People who think like this are looked at as the pathetic, unenlightened blue pill beta hamsters of the world. If anything, I think the crux of …
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 03:24 PM
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TRP does not teach you to "be yourself." Quite the opposite, TRP teaches you how to make yourself be what you want it to be. Don't tomorrow be the person you are today if that person isn't as good as they could be.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 03:10 PM
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I cringed at the headline of the AskReddit thread when I first saw it, because it seemed rigged to be a hatefest. I was glad to see that at least most of the high-rated comments (at least when I saw it) started by saying, "Most men don't do this, but for those that do." Do remember that womanhood didn't say these things. These are the explicit preferences of individual women, which more or fewer or tons or nobody agrees with, depending on what they said. An individual woman doesn't want guys dan…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 02:51 PM
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You're her ex. She's going to have a very complicated set of emotions around you, about which she has probably only told you a tiny fraction. She misses the part of your relationship where she got to be intimate with you, and have that level of trust. She feels bad cheating on her boyfriend, so she's reticent to have sex with you, but still likes being close to you. I'm generally not a fan of the "seduce the ex" game, because it's almost always messy, complicated, and goes sideways for everybody…
/r/askTRP02/06/14 02:34 PM
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I will probably back out the papers too, as I went RP This turned my brain in a knot. No you didn't. If you've both filed for divorce, your marriage is falling apart. You're not being confident and true to who you are -- the main tenets of TRP -- by not going through with the divorce. And you certainly aren't doing that by sneaking around with somebody else's wife. Want an open marriage, but stay legally married? Tell her that and be prepared for the consequences (which include: her being upset …
/r/askTRP02/06/14 02:24 PM
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TL;DR: these shit tests have more to do with her self-esteem than anything else. Investing in your relationship through truly romantic gestures isn't the same as failing a shit test, but there is a precise and narrow definition of that which I lay out below. To figure out what those are, on your own, think about the value you get out of your relationship, and then, presuming you still see value there, think about things you want to do to strengthen the relationship, and thus get even more value …
/r/askTRP02/06/14 02:16 PM
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But that sounds exactly the same as ons way TRP says men should increase their confidence and self-esteem: play the field, be persistent, know eventually you can get what you're after. Also, if a 4/10 can get a 9/10 by being persistent, is she wrong that she's out of the league of a 7/10?
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 12:11 PM
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Really? You'd fuck a 4 who threw herself at you? I'd definitely turn that down.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/14 03:36 AM
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Is there an equivalent study for men?
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 11:54 PM
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First of all, absolutely do not "avoid women." Second, don't be defensive around your current situation, but, if you don't have the resources you need to be effective in your sex life, guess what? Getting a better job and improving your "living arrangements" (I'm guessing you're living with family?) are improving your game. It's not a matter of tricking people into thinking you're the guy you want to be. It's about being that guy. So fixing these things that you perceive as problematic is just a…
/r/askTRP01/06/14 11:45 PM
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I'd suspect that's because those douchebags project confidence, are in great shape (hence the muscle t-shirt), and are so obviously there to get laid that women who are also there to have sex with somebody will gravitate toward them, because why waste your time with anyone but those who are clearly down to fuck?
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 11:42 PM
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You've made it clear in context here what you think it means, as it relates to TRP's view on things. But without that context, it seems to be saying that the people who fear solitude (i.e., people on dating sites, i.e., both you and the people you're trying to date) "have no virtue or ability." Not exactly a hot self-evaluation.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 11:31 PM
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You want to put a quote that says "a man of no virtue or ability is [...] afraid of solitude" on a site for meeting other people? Have you thought at all about what it sounds like you're saying about yourself?
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 11:19 PM
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I actually just posted this over in TRP's main sub: There's a difference between being nice, and being kind. Kindness comes from a place of strength, solid intention, and control. A kind person decides actively whether doing something for someone else reflects their goals and values, including non-material ones. Niceness comes from a place of deference and quiet self-sacrifice, typically for its own sake. When they say "nice guys finish last," nice guys are complaining, yes, but they're also boa…
/r/askTRP01/06/14 11:17 PM
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Also, commenting on a girl's Facebook pictures isn't attractive. It's fawning and needy. If you really want to cement it, nudge her in the direction of seeing him that way. Mention it to her by laughing out loud and saying, "who is this boy who's commenting on all of your photos? Looks like he has a widdwe cwush on you." But honestly, I'd just leave it alone.
/r/askTRP01/06/14 11:13 PM
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To be really nerdy with it, it's a reminder to honor non-sexual relationships that are built on a foundation of mutual trust (like the ones you have with your friends), and prioritize them over short-term sexual pursuits, or the needs of the people you're pursuing.
/r/askTRP01/06/14 11:10 PM
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Yeah, move. You ignored local culture, but local culture didn't ignore you. Go somewhere that's more sex-positive -- you're playing baby roulette in a town like that anyway.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 11:05 PM
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Define "successful." From what I've seen, women (people, really) are less willing to break up with the first person they've been in a dedicated sexual relationship with (I have no empirical data to back this up, just my observations). So, just measuring length of relationship, yes, it may be longer. That also means, though, that if you're in an incompatible relationship, it may take longer for it to end, because the inexperienced person will put more energy into maintaining it even if it really …
/r/askTRP01/06/14 10:58 PM
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Yeah, this is the difference between being nice, and being kind. Kindness comes from a place of solid intention and control. A kind person decides actively whether doing something for someone else reflects their values, even if it doesn't necessarily reflect their material self-interest. Niceness comes from a place of deference and quiet self-sacrifice, typically for its own sake.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 10:51 PM
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Don't people of both genders do this, though? Projection is hardly unique to women. Also, rather than projection, what you're describing sounds a lot more like she's defending her self-evaluation (which, broadly, TRP recommends men do to maintain frame).
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 10:41 PM
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AWAL what? You responded to a two-paragraph comment with a string of three Internet cliches.
/r/askTRP01/06/14 04:13 AM
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Yes, it's specifically criticizing girls and women, which is why I said "motherhood," rather than "parenthood." I'm saying, aren't there a number of reasons women are delaying starting a family, all of which would cause this conflict?
/r/TheRedPill01/06/14 02:29 AM
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Isn't this really just a comment on the general effect of the broader delay in marriage and motherhood we're seeing in society, rather than specifically those who are using their sex appeal for non-family purposes? Incidentally, what's the difference between the reasons quoted as to why women aren't settling down, and the reasons that men aren't, either? Aren't guys procrastinating for the same reasons? (And isn't this sub kind of a big fan of that?)
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 11:58 PM
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Er, you said that "Women in general are not your friend. They will fucking destroy you, then laugh about it." That hasn't happened, which is odd because you were really clear that "this is the norm, not the exception," but I've been with plenty of female sexual and emotional partners, and that just absolutely has not occurred. You said that my take on women having the same capacity as men for being good (or weak, or dull, or amazing, or...) human beings is "programming that does not serve you, b…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 11:17 PM
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See, this is what's puzzling me out here, because often in Purple Pill Debate, redpillers will say similar things, that TRP is about positivity toward men, that it doesn't have anything against women, that it's just mischaracterization. Meanwhile, in this same discussion thread, I'm having a conversation right now with u/SkorchZang who just said, "Misogyny is simply the fair recognition that all women deserve for their preponderantly shitty behavior. It is an asset when dealing with women, not a…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 11:05 PM
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Yes. That is true. But in this particular situation, OP pulling out is just wearing a poncho in a hurricane of nope.
/r/askTRP31/05/14 10:31 PM
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That's the piece you latched on to from my entire comment? My question was, given that, by all TRP metrics I've been extremely successful, and yet I have strong, warm, supportive, human relationships with many women, why hasn't this fallen apart? It's been many years and many women in many beds, and I'm healthy, happy, confident, assertive, and successful. Why has my uppance not come? I'd love an answer to that question. I'm also curious -- and if you only answer one question, this one is less i…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 10:30 PM
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Yep! And we call the people who would support her "gender-role traditionalists." I.e., people who think men should be protectors, and women should be protected. Now, does that sound more like feminism, or TRP? You're right that an article called "Our Women Are Failing Us" would be really controversial. Shoe-horning it into this context, I imagine such an article would say that women shouldn't be going to crime-ridden areas. On the one hand, I agree that anyone going to a dangerous place should a…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 09:04 PM
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:: shrug :: still waiting for this "destruction" to happen. I've had dozens of sexual relationships varying in length from hours to years, I've never been cheated on (I can already anticipate the non-falsifiable "oh I'm sure you have, you just didn't know!"), I've learned a lot from those relationships, and grown positively as a person. I'm confident, assertive, and capable of emotional commitment, all at the same time. Take everything that, at his core, TRP says makes a man "alpha." Confidence,…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 08:54 PM
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I agree with those things. And, yup, OP, she's going to be baked off her ass at a minimum all weekend. Don't make a big deal out of this, because you don't want to get her used to lying to you. This does NOT mean she's going to cheat on you. It just means being sober at a music festival sounds boring as fuck. And this guy's right, OP. you need to work on a stronger sense of self. Go out, meet people, have fun, and not just so you can show her you did, but so that you realize you're a cool dude w…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 08:14 PM
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Jesus, dude. No. They're just other people who you happen to want to convince that it would be a positive development to have sex with you. That doesn't make them villains, just people who confuse and frustrate a lot of men. If you think women are lying enemies who are all on the opposing team, why would you want to expose your unprotected junk to them?
/r/askTRP31/05/14 08:03 PM
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This. There are a ton of people in this sub who have been hurt by unfaithful SOs and will gladly (literally, it makes them feel better) tell you that all women are like that. In reality, women are all different. Ask yourself, OP: if you went to a festival of [thing you enjoy] with your male friends, would you try to have tons of sex with people? If no, why not, and what's the difference between you and her? If it's "because she's a woman," that's just not true. Some women are faithful and some a…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 07:44 PM
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Yeahhh, don't think with your dick. Think for your dick, the same way you think for your stomach, your facial hair, your arm pits, and every other body part with its own agenda. You know better what's good for it than it knows what's good for you.
/r/askTRP31/05/14 07:14 PM
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Holy shit, dude. I cannot BELIEVE you had unprotected sex with this woman. (Pulling out is NOT protection.) This isn't a trap. A trap involves some degree of subtlety. This is a nuclear meltdown site with big signs that say "DO NOT ENTER. BIOHAZARD. SEVERE INJURY AND DEATH." This is like saying the Grand Canyon is a trap because, if you put your mind to it, you can fall into it. Be amicable, get a record of it, be distant, and then break up with her over the phone.
/r/askTRP31/05/14 07:06 PM
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Yes. Also this. I'd recommend OP read "How to Win Friends and Influence People," one of the most valuable takeaways of which is learning how to show people how what you want is in their interests. Empathy and effective empathetic communication. Really good stuff.
/r/askTRP31/05/14 06:55 PM
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You misunderstand. Yep, that's the first thing I said! :) The term "harassment" is one among many appropriated by neofeminism. Can you show me where neofeminists do this? I'm by no means an expert in feminist theory, but it seems like neofeminism is a broad term for the part of the feminist movement that says "women are awesome, and being a woman is awesome, and the stuff they do is awesome." Not, mind you, in comparison to men, but as independent statements. Where are neofeminists appropriating…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 06:06 PM
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The word "passion" in its latin origin means suffering (hence, "the passion of christ") You know, you've got a good point here that made me re-read the passage in question. I now realize he's saying that the passionate person is suffering. So now it seems like he's defending the passion, i.e., suffering, of the person against whom the restraining order is placed. I'm not sure what we're supposed to do with that. The definition of harassment leaves it very unclear what is "annoying" actions. It a…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 05:50 PM
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Did you actually read that 2XC thread? Err... I never claimed to be defending the people who commented in that thread, or feminism. I'm just stating my opinions. But now that you mention it, can you link me to where anybody on that thread says that "having to say hi to their "creepy" neighbor is literally oppression"? Not an incident where someone was creeped out by repeated behavior, but where saying a single word to someone was literally oppression? (I'd imagine they use the word oppression in…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 03:34 PM
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It's how they've identified you. Being in shape is one of those physical characteristics, like being short, or tall, or thin, or red-headed, that for some reason people feel comfortable not only commenting on, but fixating on. At least yours is one you chose and have reason to be proud of!
/r/askTRP31/05/14 03:24 PM
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I'm missing your point. She's explaining an emotional reaction -- not a logical argument -- to another, real-world emotional reaction by a horribly illogical actor. She's saying that it's emotionally unsettling that this guy went off and did this thing. And she says that that reaction is underscored by the actual gropings she has personally experienced, in addition to the unwanted catcalls which she says she ignores. That doesn't sound at least a little frightening and intimidating to you? So th…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 03:23 PM
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Who, exactly, am I white-knighting? Doesn't there need to be someone to save in order for someone to white knight? This is a conversation about hypothetical situations and broad observations. The women that you're white knighting for are so privileged they think having to say hi to their "creepy" neighbor is literally oppression. Your hyperbolic words, and no one else's. Women simply don't like it when men make advances, women try to make it clear that they're not interested, and men keep it up …
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 02:50 PM
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It sounds like they're just teasing you. They're not doing it to "take value away" from you, they're doing it because they think it's awesome and couldn't possibly conceive of you taking it as any way but a compliment. Just go along with it. And if you want to have fun with it: chair is really heavy and people say you should lift it? "I got this." Put both hands on the chair, and struggle dramatically to get it even an inch off the ground. Collapse over it dramatically. Get laughs. Then casually…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 02:49 PM
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I'll take your word for it. As I wasn't, can you define "moralfag" outside of its 4Chan context? What radfems want is not relevant to my interests. Okey doke. What about regular feminists? or women? or, you know, other people? At what point do the things other people want become "relevant to [your] interests"? Non-rhetoricla question -- would love an answer.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 02:39 PM
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Then let's address that one: you'll never be in true control of yourself until you completely own your decisions. You would have done it the way I laid out if you chose to do so. Instead, you chose not to. Alcohol didn't make you do that or not do that -- you chose to drink. If alcohol makes you angry and unable to make the best decisions you can, you need to choose not to drink so much. It wasn't the weed. It wasn't the booze. It wasn't your mindset. Your big challenge here seems to be that you…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 02:35 PM
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One of the girls later told me how I seemed pissed off and I should chill out. She was giving you good advice. Don't get annoyed. Visible annoyance is an emotional statement of uncontrollable life impotence. You should have recognized that everybody was high and not moving and said, cheerily, "well people, I'm starving. I'm gonna order some food from [PLACE THAT DELIVERS]." Then you should have gotten their menu on your phone, passed it around, and said, "do you want to eat anything? I'm going t…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 02:15 PM
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Yup -- and to be clear, OP, text her after 10 PM to come over, not that morning to come over after 10. Incidentally, she might have other plans, or might just not feel like it. Be low-key about it if she declines, and then let it rest for a while -- a week or two, say, and try again.
/r/askTRP31/05/14 02:09 PM
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My free advice before I try to answer your question? Stop treating your girlfriends like angels. In fact, don't treat anybody like a divine deity. Doesn't work out. Treat people like people. Rule of thumb: if you're treating other people better than you're treating yourself, something is tremendously out of balance. Really depends what change you want in your life. There's some advice here on how to be confident, and a lot of advice here on how to project that confidence. It's not about seductio…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 02:06 PM
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The good news: you have excellent taste in Mexican food. El Matate is delicious. Now I really want a burrito. The bad news: yeah, you were way too pushy. That level of assertion is a tactic, not a rule. It helps you appear confident, especially if someone just met you. But this was an ex -- she already knows you. Bossing her around won't win points. She made it super-clear she had other shit to do -- you repeatedly telling her what she was going to be doing with her time is uncomfortable and off…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 01:52 PM
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Yeesh. That wasn't a shit-test, it was a shit mid-term. Red flags all over the place. Dramatic, emotionally manipulative.... that ain't the kind of person you want to spend your time with.
/r/askTRP31/05/14 01:46 PM
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I thought girls became attached after sex but it seems as she's just been in it for the physicality This isn't an iron-clad rule. Sometimes a woman just wants to get laid. She did, and she did. If you want to have sex with her again, I'd wait a week and try to booty-call her over the weekend. Make it clear through context -- NOT by explicitly saying so -- that you're not trying to go on a date, which she doesn't seem interested in, but just want to hook up. But if you're super-smitten by this gi…
/r/askTRP31/05/14 01:41 PM
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Ah. I guess I was thrown off because I hold the door, say nice things, and ask about the lives of my co-workers regardless of their gender. Those are pretty low-effort ways to invest in others' well-being and be liked around the office.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 01:41 PM
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Re-read my comment. "Feminists" are only one small part of "people you're not making sexual advances toward." I'm saying he should treat Bob the mailman, Doris the 60-year-old chain-smoking diner waitress, and Jane the feminist the same instead of singling out Jane and intentionally making her uncomfortable.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 01:29 PM
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... except that men seem to change the way they talk to women online all the time. So there are, in fact, girls on the Internet under this guy's standard. A small percentage of men will often even react to mentions of gender even when it's not in a context of "begging for attention," but is just casual, in passing, and in the context of the conversation. And, of course -- have you been over to CreepyPMs? -- a very, very small percentage of guys will see mentioning of a woman's gender as an excus…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 01:16 PM
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So, these exceedingly drunk guys were carefully metering their behavior to avoid detection by would-be rescuers? No, they weren't metering their behavior, they were drunk. Eh. I've seen plenty of drunk creepers who evaporate around other men. She used the drunk man as the example, after already painting all men with her brush with this statement: "Among men, misogyny hides in plain sight, and not just because most men are oblivious to the problem or callous toward its impact." Ok, but that line …
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 01:02 PM
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Yep -- you're totally right. I edited my original comment to add clarity. It was sloppy to say that the way I did.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 12:52 PM
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I'm not sure what disliking creepy people in public because some of them (a small percent, perhaps) actually commit violence has to do with starting an online campaign. I've never heard the spin you're talking about. Usually it's, "why did this lady snap and kill her kids?" I'd love to know what the goals of that campaign are. What, specifically, would you be asking for? The #YesAllWomen campaign is predicated on the idea that violence and aggression against women are overly ignored, and that fa…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 12:32 PM
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.... yeah, but they're not three times more likely to be murdered than women by creepy dudes at bars. You have to remember what we're talking about: whether women have any reason to be be afraid of sexually aggressive men, particularly those who won't take a hint and go away. EDIT: And who's murdering those men, incidentally? Look at the gender breakdown of those perpetrating the murders. Should men specifically be three times more afraid of men than women are?
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 12:22 PM
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You are saying essentially that women should be afraid of every man that comes up to them at a bar... Nope, definitely didn't say that. But some men do come off as sexually aggressive, won't take hints or even straight-up requests to go away, and are generally intimidating. That can be anywhere from annoying to unnerving to frightening, and nobody deserves that. ... because of an isolated incident committed by an obviously mentally ill man. I certainly made reference to that incident, but there …
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:49 PM
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I'm confused. Why was your opinion of the presentation based on what the "betas" thought of it, even if only to disagree with them? I imagine they were all wearing pants, too -- did you take yours off? Sounds like you're bragging about taking your social queues from people you don't even socially respect.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:37 PM
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Your response to a feminist's belief and complaint that you're treating them a particular way because of their gender is to invade their personal space and explicitly treat them differently because of their gender? Why not just treat people you're not making sexual advances toward more or less the same way?
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:33 PM
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Not one of her examples discussed a sober man doing a normal pickup like what we describe here, all of them were of drunk men (with a potential lone example of jackass at the bus stop). Well, yeah, because she's not talking about all men -- she's talking about "drunk... belligerent, sexually aggressive" men. these interactions happen all the time, but they are hardly the majority of interactions. She never said they were. She said that all women experience them, which, if a few sexually aggressi…
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:30 PM
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When the headlines feature creepy guys who snap and start shooting people because they don't get attention from women, it doesn't seem irrational to be somewhat afraid of them. EDIT: I worded this poorly, not that it's likely to change the avalanche of downvotes. A better way of phrasing what I meant was that violence and aggression against women by men who are coming on to them are real things. There really are guys out there who will do them harm, and even if it's a tiny portion of the populat…
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:25 PM
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Treat women as equals. And Treat them how they want to be treated. As men. But also... ignore them altogether. At work, keep conversation strictly business. Do not associate with them. Do not compliment them, hold doors, etc. Do not acknowledge that they exist, except in the smallest situations when allowed. Are you saying that's how you treat men where you work?
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:23 PM
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Though, for that matter, if women work for themselves and the state provides them all the protection they need, what else are men offering women other than sex?
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:20 PM
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Imagine for a moment you are in the military, about to deploy somewhere with a lack of attractive women. The very last thing you do before you go is go hang out with a woman you're attracted to. Who do you think you're gonna be calling, texting, trying to get photos of the entire time you're deployed? She's going to end up with one-itis'd long-distance super-clinger. She needs to wind that down pronto. Letting this guy come from several states away to spend time with her is like trying to put ou…
/r/askTRP30/05/14 05:08 PM
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"Try playing the 'trust card'"? I don't really know what that means. You're making it sound like you think trust is a gimmick, when it's actually a key part of any monogamous relationship. If you can't trust someone to be loyal to you and to your relationship, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. Period. It doesn't matter if they're wearing a bikini or a burqa. (Or a burqini.) Trust is definitely earned. But it's earned through what you do, not what you wear. It doesn't sound like you'r…
/r/askTRP30/05/14 02:23 PM
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Good on you! I know that kind of advice can be tough to hear. Remember that anger is an emotional commitment the same as any other. Has any Red Sox fan gotten over the Yankees by being angry at them? I wouldn't necessarily delete her, just hide her from your wall. How else does she contact you? Text? Chat? Just take a long time to reply, be polite, and be busy doing other things. Does she have other orbiters? She may collect guys who are in to her -- it's certainly flattering to be surrounded by…
/r/askTRP30/05/14 01:32 AM
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Well, not to be pedantic, but whatever she chooses, she's doing it entirely for her benefit. Part of that might be because she wants to do it for you, part of that might because she likes attention (and not just from other guys -- women check each other out all the time), and part of it might be because she's simply more comfortable not having a shirt on. And, of course, none of these are mutually exclusive. It really comes down to how confident you are in this relationship, and whether you thin…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 08:00 PM
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The #1 most important thing you have to do is forgive yourself for "fuck[ing] up" the date you were on. Your anger at her, your regret at meeting her, your frustration with your friend, all stem from the fact that you think you did something wrong and if only you hadn't, you'd be with this woman. Your brain is stuck in this "if only I'd _______" universe that does not, and will never, exist, and you're beating yourself up because you can't get there. The fact is, most people aren't compatible wi…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 07:38 PM
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She's deferring to you on when and where to meet up, and by extension, what you guys are going to do. She's not testing you, she's trusting you to be responsible enough to put together a plan for the evening, an ability which many women find attractive and which is surprisingly lacking in many men. Be attractive, and demonstrate that she's right about you having the logistical fortitude to put a plan together.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 07:22 PM
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If you trust her enough for her to be your girlfriend, who cares? Let the world know you've got a hot girlfriend. Like you said, she'll be one of plenty of people without a whole lot of clothing on, and it sounds like it's what she wants to do. Telling her not to wear something because it's too sexual may come off as insecure. Out of curiosity, why, exactly, would this bother you? Are you afraid she's going to be unfaithful to you? or that you'll have to deal with shooing other guys away? Do you…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 07:16 PM
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Walk at your own pace. She'll either stay next to you or walk off. Don't ask her to slow down (you already have); let her figure it out. Eventually she'll slow down. What is she asking you to buy her? What's the context? If you feel she's explicitly dating you to get at your money, I would be very concerned.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 05:55 PM
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Yes! There you go! That is how to show someone you aren't emotionally impacted by what they just said. Use that next time.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 04:44 PM
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Oh, please. This is someone you've never met, and will likely never see in your life. You didn't send that to her to protect the medical field. You sent that because she hurt your feelings and you wanted to get back at her by being mean. And now you're trying to emotionally justify it by saying that somehow you're doing her -- and the world! -- a favor, because the alternative is admitting that you got hurt, pondered it for a bit, and decided being petty would make you feel better. There's defin…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 04:33 PM
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Ah. It sounds like today you decided the person you want to be is petty, needlessly vengeful, and easily hurt. And now she has reason to think she dodged a bullet by canceling on you. Plenty of time left in the day, though. I'd still urge you to spend the rest of it demonstrating to yourself and others that you're confident enough in who you are that you're not impacted by things as minor as, say, somebody you met over the internet canceling a date.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 04:22 PM
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I hear that. That does sound super annoying. And now your choices are to either control your annoyance and move on with your life, or let your annoyance control you, and let her know that that's the case. The person we project to the world is maintained through the thousands of little choices we make every day. It's on you to decide which of those two choices is more in line with the guy you're trying to be.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 04:11 PM
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Again, what are you gaining from doing that? If it's just smug self-satisfaction, I challenge you to be bigger than that.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 04:03 PM
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Yup. Best-case scenario, you cause a huge amount of drama and strife so that you can stop having sex with one person and have sex with a different one for a brief while (because it won't last that long). Worst-case and most realistic scenario, you come off as a skeezebag and you're left sleeping with nobody.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 03:34 PM
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It didn't work out. Why be hurtful? There's no reason to shit in the pool, no matter how big you think the pool is, because you don't know where that's gonna float. Just say "no problem -- see you around," or something low-key, and move on.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 03:28 PM
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There's nothing "wrong" with you. It sounds like you're simply an introverted verbal processor. You're not going to be able to change that, nor should you try. It sounds like you could do with brushing up on how to tell a decent story. Pick up a book on conversation and story-telling, and learn how to trim out the things that weigh a conversation down. This will be useful to you in social situations. Again, don't try to change the way your brain is wired -- you probably can't -- but brush up on …
/r/askTRP29/05/14 03:18 PM
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Giving enough of a shit about that guy to consider fighting him is a pretty clear sign you think he's a threat, as is insulting him to his girlfriend. Unprovoked violence isn't courageous -- it's a fear response. And the only person whose respect "cannot be damaged" is someone who doesn't have any. Otherwise, why do you think people focus on ways to have and project confidence, and be attractive? Needlessly smashing a glass on this guy's face doesn't make you "alpha," it makes you a sociopath. I…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 03:05 PM
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I agree that she's going to look for signs of relationship acceleration, but if she's very religious, I strongly doubt she'd withhold sex and hold divorce over his head. Those are both in direct violation of the tenets of just about every Old-Testament-rooted faith.
/r/askTRP29/05/14 03:01 PM
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If I had to guess, I'd think that for people (like those on TRP) who are trying to take responsibility to control and better themselves, it's frustrating to be blamed, even by an extremely narrow, proxy sliver, for the actions of a lone psychopath whose problems stemmed from being unable to take on the positive responsibility of fixing the problems in his life. While there is certainly still sexism in western society, I don't think that culture is to blame, at least not entirely, or even mostly,…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 02:38 PM
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What is it you're suggesting OP argues? It's a single fact, and then an opinion about the cause of that fact. I think the better question is, what is it that is attacked by this that OP should feel responsible to defend?
/r/askTRP29/05/14 02:23 PM
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I see this the opposite way as some of the other folks in this thread. The clearest factor at play here is that she definitely does want to have sex with you. I wouldn't be surprised if she comes from a background/upbringing that frowns on sex outside of committed relationships. I don't think she's using sex to get into a relationship with you. I think it's exactly the opposite: she wants to have sex with you, and doesn't want to do it outside of the confines of a relationship, so she's trying t…
/r/askTRP29/05/14 02:19 PM
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True -- but again, I'd stress that this is a good plan in order to move past money as an issue, not in order to reassert some sort of financial control in the relationship. Anything controlling done out of ego is unhealthy. Instead of trying to "augment [his] position of power," he should be trying to change his mindset so that the income disparity is simply no longer a big deal.
/r/askTRP28/05/14 04:44 PM
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If I ask for evidence of something, and the reply is, "it's obvious," in that context, this term means, "it is so self-evident that it does not require explanation." If someone says, "it's obvious once you know, or someone tells you," as you did, then they are by definition talking about a different meaning of "obvious." The original complaint was that "it's obvious" is used to brush away questions for evidence that an assertion is true. This uses the definition of "obvious" in my first example.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/14 04:42 PM
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I think your example confuses "obvious" with "simple." The game you just described relies entirely on not being obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/14 04:27 PM
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their point is that the kinds of sexual violence often perpetrated against women Sounds pretty one-sided to the rape problem. Well, yeah... it's a film that has a subjective viewpoint. It's not a scientific study or a white paper. It's also not just about rape, but about all sorts of sexual aggression that women experience. That the film focuses on that topic doesn't mean it inherently denies the existence of other problems. That it doesn't cover an issue that's of importance to you is an odd cr…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 04:09 PM
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Gotcha. Again, it'd probably depend on the context, but if you're being asked that question, presumably you've already said you love her. So don't say that until you actually do. Once you do, answering that question shouldn't be terribly difficult. This is a hypothetical, so it's by definition impossible to know what motivated her to ask such a question, but if it's based on relationship insecurity, that's a longer topic (that works better working with actual, real-world cases).
/r/askTRP28/05/14 03:57 PM
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........ that's because there are more 5-6 women than model-looking women.
/r/askTRP28/05/14 03:53 PM
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She was into you, then changed her mind (maybe because she decided not to be unfaithful, or maybe she decided she'd rather watch TV or take a glorious post-club poop, who knows), which you ignored repeatedly with physical advances. Then, you made an implied threat of physical violence, or at the very least said you have a history of violence against women. Don't ever tell a woman you beat other women, or even let that shit take up space pretending to be a legitimate thought in your head. Even ta…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 03:51 PM
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It's not about drawing parallels to men being hit on by an ugly woman. This film is about the female experience, except the female roles are played by men, and the gendered language is switched, because that makes for a more interesting and provocative film. if an ugly man starts flirting with a woman, he's sexually assaulting her. Nobody thinks that an ugly man flirting with a woman is sexual assault. If someone makes relentless sexual advances to someone, and they clearly don't appreciate thos…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 03:40 PM
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She was on drugs. She regrets what she did, and has owned up to that. Be as mature yourself -- don't get scared by this incident. Meet up with her, and ask her to explain what was going through her head in that situation. Ask her what parts of that are still valid now that she's sober, or where she thinks that came from. Take the useful parts of that that help you to understand her better, and then move on. Don't get too hung up on what someone did while whacked out on drugs at a festival.
/r/askTRP28/05/14 03:16 PM
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Don't let your anger control you, whether you're mad at your girlfriend, or your dad, or your best friend, or a barista, or a parking meter. Don't be afraid to express how you're feeling, but that expression should be a means toward controlling your emotions, not the other way around. So no, don't get angry, but don't try to hide it if you are angry. Just bring it under control. Say clearly how you feel and what made you feel that way, maintain your composure, truly listen to the response, and r…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 03:13 PM
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Sounds like she likes the relationship you have now, i.e., sexless emotional intimacy. She won't say that to you, because she clearly likes your company and doesn't want to lose that. Bottom line: it's quite likely you're not going to have a sexual relationship with her. Ever. So either get over that and just be her friend, or take more dramatic steps like telling her you can't just be friends with her and cutting her out of your life. But I don't hear you saying you're smitten with this girl, a…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 03:07 PM
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Just break it off. The whole theory of the "friend zone" is that the person in that "zone" doesn't want to be there, so it's not a real friendship. Don't drag it out because you're squeamish about the break-up. Tell her you like her as a person but don't see the relationship going anywhere and don't want to string her along. Guess what? That'll be a shitty conversation, for both of you. Rip that Band-Aid off. Make plans ahead of time to go drinking with your friends after (without her, obviously…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 02:43 PM
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Context please. I'm guessing you've already told her that you love her. Do you? How long ago did you start saying that to her? How long have you been together?
/r/askTRP28/05/14 02:36 PM
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Step one is to ditch that part your self-identity that says that your worth is derived from your income. Get rid of that now, not after you're no longer the primary breadwinner. You can be a provider without being the one who brings home the most money. Instead, focus on taking on the challenges that will improve the life you're living together. Maybe that means spearheading projects around the house. Maybe that means putting an effort into being nice to her parents even though you don't like th…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 02:35 PM
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Don't. Why are you in a hurry? Dying of cancer this week? "I need some time" is usually a polite way of saying "I'm not interested in you," though without more context it's not clear. Is this someone you see normally in the course of your life? Regardless, you shouldn't be focused on trying to explicitly convince someone to have sex with you. You're not selling a boat -- you shouldn't be trying to come up with a sales pitch. One way or another, give it time and space. She's going to decide she's…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 02:27 PM
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Gotcha. Yeah, it sounds even more like trust in intimate relationships might be a scary prospect for her. I would guess that she feels overpowered by the weight of being in a close, trusting relationship, and her fears about emotional betrayal have her concerned, or even convinced, that it's inevitable that she will be let down or betrayed. If you want to be in a relationship with her, you're going to have to be confident and patient while she learns to trust you -- which could take a while, and…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 02:23 PM
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I don't think this video is supposed to imply that society just happened to go one way with gender norms when it could have gone the other. On the contrary, I don't think the creators of this film could possibly see a world in which these could ever be the gender norms that men and women take on. Rather, their point is that the kinds of sexual violence often perpetrated against women, from casual dismissal based on gender and religious oppression up to being accosted on the street or being viole…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 02:11 PM
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It sounds like two things are going on. First, she's got issues with trust. Has she mentioned being in relationships before where she's felt emotionally betrayed? In particular, has she been cheated on? Second, and related to that, she may have confidence issues. It's important to her that she gets overt evidence that you are interested being with her. Unfortunately, she's not using tremendously mature ways of getting that evidence -- likely she's learned in past relationships that this behavior…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 01:51 PM
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Actively spend a lot of time with him. He's going to change because of the loss of this huge, primary relationship in his life, and it's going to affect his relationships with everyone else -- and with himself. The best thing you can do for him, and the future of your relationship together, is to be there, be active, go do his favorite things, find his new favorite things that he doesn't even know exist yet, and slowly help him rediscover himself. But what about you? You're about to lose your mo…
/r/askTRP28/05/14 01:44 PM
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It sounds like she misses being intimate with you, and regardless of whatever else happened in your marriage, part of her is scared of losing that. She's hurt, and she's scared, and part of her wants you to be the bad guy so she can blame what she's feeling on you, because that's easier than taking head-on the negative emotions she's feeling. I'd avoid shitting on her appearance and her emotions. You aren't going to gain anything from that. Start modeling the relationship now you plan on having …
/r/askTRP27/05/14 09:22 PM
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What would you do if you were the only one there, and there were a mouse in the house that escaped a previous attempt at being caught? Do that. She's lashing out at you because she's afraid of the mouse and it's safer to blame you for it. Forgive her for that -- don't carry that frustration around. Calling her out on that will only make it even more emotionally imperative that she believes it really is your fault, and apologizing won't get you any closer to actually getting rid of that rodent. D…
/r/askTRP27/05/14 09:13 PM
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First of all, stop blaming your parents, your childhood, abuse you've suffered. You are today who you are today, and what came before is out of your control. All you can control is what you do now. Set that past stuff aside. I'm not saying you don't have a right to be hurt by that. It's your life -- you have a right to do whatever you want to yourself. But if you want to be confident, dwelling on the past -- or, worse, giving it control over how you think of yourself today -- is not going to hel…
/r/askTRP27/05/14 09:09 PM
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Your relationship is not going to go back to the way it was. It sounds like you've got trust problems based on your wife leaving you, which is understandable. She doesn't have that problem, and has a level of intimate trust you can't reciprocate. That's not going to change even if you say that the "rules" say so, and even if she agrees to it. What will end up happening (really, what's already happened) is that you'll slide (further) into a dynamic where she's emotionally , romantically attached …
/r/askTRP27/05/14 08:39 PM
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Two words: ass pennies.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/14 04:48 AM
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You wouldn't "let" her? You do realize that, as an adult, she has the ability to make these decisions for herself, yes?
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