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I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I went from wanting to have sex every day, to having zero interest in it. Has nothing to do with my husband, he's just as sexy as ever. It's kind of like doing it all for the first time again!
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 05:50 PM
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Littleknownfacts is right. At no point was I "holding out." In fact, I believe the reason my husband was so patient and understanding is that we have established open and direct communication. This was less about me being coy and more about not being gross. "Sorry, dear.My uterus is still bleeding out of my torn vagina," doesn't really encourage intimacy. If I had rejected him or played games in the past, this might have been taken as withholding sex... but thanks to my good track record (and th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 04:23 PM
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He said, "I love you, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I would marry you right now." I got one of those big goofy smiles that you can't wipe off your face and said, "Okay!" The next day, we went to his mom's and he put his grandmother's ring on my finger. A week later, we got a marriage certificate from the courthouse and a justice of the peace to sign. I cried a little, and it wasn't even a ceremony! We were just so in love and it was a time of perfect harmony for us. There was…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 06:40 AM
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This is great advice! Anytime things are tense in my marriage, laughter can always relieve that tension. When two people love each other, there's always room for laughter and play.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 06:29 PM
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Long, thick hair is one of those signs of fertility that humans register on an instinctual level, like wide hips and other signs of childbearing prowess and youth. Shoulder length hair isn't the short hair being talked about as bad for attracting men. I think it's more of the Ellen Degeneres hair that is being referenced... and Ellen isn't trying to attract men.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 07:40 PM
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23, married, pregnant with first child for both of us. Due September 27th (less than 2 weeks, yay) *1 I can understand why a man wouldn't want to get married to the woman he planned to be with permanently, and if my husband had felt strongly about it, I would've accept his commitment in everything but the marriage license as the same commitment we have now. *2 Co-habitation is a necessity for me. We did move in together early on in the relationship, but that is part of what showed me this man is…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 09:33 PM
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If you're worried about her changing her mind in a month, it might not be a good idea to allow adoption.
/r/RedPillParenting05/09/15 04:57 PM
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Oh, wow. This is so true! When my husband first approached me, I was in a relationship. I talked about my bf and the things he did for me, not the way he made me feel. I was single two weeks later, and dating my husband the next month.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/15 05:51 AM
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Oh god, the shame I felt when my husband said those 3 words to me... I ran red faced into the bathroom and came out looking "on point." Sometimes just being reminded that he notices me drives me to do better.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/15 06:29 PM
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Based on where you are right now in this dilemma, I would say you should do the race, and this is why: He told you to go! Trust that he means what he is saying, and quit making it about him like he asked. If you are making a bigger deal out of this than he is, you should stop asking him a question he's already answered (are you sure you're okay with me going?). This shows you are second guessing him and doubting that's he means what he is saying. After this race, I'd cut out the rowing. If the a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 03:17 AM
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My husband also vents and talks out his frustrations at length with me. Your mood should not be dependent on his mood. It is our job to set and keep the emotional climate of the relationship light and fun (sweet greeting when he arrives, smile often , ect.). When my husband comes to me with a bad mood, I have to remember that he is showing weakness as a trusting gesture. This is beta behavior, but it is also a chance for intimacy with him. I don't offer him solutions, even if the answer seems ob…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 02:47 AM
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Thank you for the encouragement! I have to be extra careful not to get sucked into depression right now, and I try to remind myself that I could have it so much worse since I haven't had any health problems so far. Of course, that leads to beating myself up a bit, so I just remember that pregnancy is temporary, and the payoff is priceless!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 11:34 PM
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My PMS was never bad, so it doesn't hold a candle to pregnancy! Maybe it's a good thing you're dealing with mood swings now; I had the easiest cycles, not much moodiness, and was totally unprepared for how crazy hormones can make you feel! Actually, I've been really lucky on the whole symptoms front. I've had a relatively easy pregnancy so far, only gained 18 lbs (totally normal and healthy), haven't had much of the nausea/headache problems, but the hormones.... that's enough to make this hard.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 01:20 PM
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I'm due in September, so I'll let you know, haha. I will say pregnancy is its own struggle within a marriage. Self control gets much more difficult if, like me, you aren't used to being hormotional. Also, dealing with body changes and lack of energy means it takes more effort to care for yourself and your man. I am 6 months pregnant now, and just getting used to this so that I can go back to being the wife my husband loves to come home to.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 03:03 AM
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My husband goes through this on the anniversary of his grandfather's death... explaining that you need some time to yourself to remember those you've lost goes a long way. That's his day to be left alone, and I respect that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 04:22 PM
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I have the rule of solid colored (but lacy!) bras.. the panties are where I get creative ;) of course, my husband is an ass man so that helps.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 08:26 PM
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This exactly why I said patience is the key. And all men are not the same, it is awalt, not amalt... your comment was poetic, beautiful, and over complicating something so simple as back off and wait. Fixing a broken relationship is less about going back and fitting all the pieces together, and more about picking up the pieces you have and moving forward. Maybe I did hit the lottery with my husband, but I think it had more to do with the fact that he loves me and wanted nothing more than to grow…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 02:27 PM
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It works because we give them the room to lead and take charge. We use the captain analogy a lot here, so let me put it like this: if the co-captain stops driving the boat and releases control of the wheel, the boat will lose momentum and coast naturally with the tides. Once the captain sees that the boat needs steering, he jumps in and corrects the course, taking control. When you back off on what you expect from him and allow him to take the lead, it is very likely that he might be thrown off …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/15 02:48 AM
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Something very minor? I match my bra and panties. I don't know why, but this makes me feel more put together.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/15 07:39 PM
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Have you heard of Dragon Diction? It's a really great voice to text program for the computer, and might make his writing and blogging go much faster. It might not be romantic, but it is thoughtful.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 09:24 PM
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What you're saying sounds like it should be right, but if the motivation for self improvement comes from the women you're surrounded by, you may never reach your full potential. Knowing how to play up your assets and improve your flaws has nothing to do with where you are on the 1-10 scale. Understanding your smv only goes so far as bedding a man. Charm, manners, maintaing your appearance, and generally being a good rpwoman will make a relationship last a lot longer than just being a 9/10 versus…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 05:44 PM
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There was a chart posted on TRP a long time ago (a year maybe?) that broke down what each of the numbers stood for, with pictures as examples. The numbers are for the men to compare different women. We can only improve ourselves, so I don't really see the point of women using a number to rate our personal smv. I can compare myself to Lana Del Rey all day, but it doesn't make me any prettier. We need to be realistic and self aware, but that doesn't include comparing ourselves to other women. That…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 04:31 PM
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I listen very closely for things he likes, but won't buy for himself right then. I do this all year, and the month of his birthday he's not supposed to buy himself anything. At all. I coordinate with his mom to make sure she knows something he would like, and I sneak away money all year to buy the special something (whatever it may be) that he mentioned maybe 2 times. I just love the way he lights up when he's genuinely surprised that I was paying enough attention and worked so diligently to sur…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 06:22 PM
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Pregnant wife of an alpha here. Pregnancy makes everything hormotional and messy. It is so easy for my husband, who has established and shown all the traits of a great captain, to lose frame when I have much less control over my emotions. I think the important thing to remember here, is that she is the one going through all these changes, and you changing to accommodate that can only go so far. In my first trimester I was weepy and nauseous and had no energy. My husband turned up the comfort lev…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/15 09:29 PM
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Yikes. It's so easy to get discouraged after all that effort, but you should know that it was not wasted. He won't forget about that image in his head (good for you for being brave and outgoing!). Sometimes, being someone's partner means getting caught up in their negativity when they're down. It has always helped me to see my husband's anger as more of a plea for help. He needs your patience more than anything when he's had a bad day. I try to shift my perspective so that when it looks like he'…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/15 11:44 PM
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So, why can't a guy stuck in the middle of the ocean drink saltwater? Does it change because the salt and water are mixed? Or is the salt too concentrated to benefit from the water?
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 10:45 PM
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I see encouragement to be feminine, but also courageous and outgoing in this post. What makes this advice silly? I would be happy to see my daughter reading something like this!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/15 02:47 PM
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I know you probably posted here for a man's opinion, but they all have different preferences, and if your man is like my husband, he likes discussing my wardrobe and makeup like he would like to go to a fashion show- it's just not interesting to him. I'm replying because like you, I get the mixed signals from my husband. makeup should flatter, and look almost natural (excluding night life such as parties or clubs. We don't really do that anymore although we're in our twenties) feminine and flatt…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 11:23 PM
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For her lady bits, try EOS (evolution of smooth) shaving cream. It's made with magic and unicorn tears, or at least it feels like it is. Only shaving cream I've ever used without razor burn.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 11:09 PM
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I remember thinking you should break up with him from reading your previous post. This just seals the deal. Good on you for deciding not to waste your time and resources on someone you can't see yourself with in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 10:56 PM
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Did I just find my husband's reddit account? Just kidding, but seriously, meet that woman in the middle! We get our once a week in, but it's the random extra sessions that I love the most. To me, it signals my husband still desires me and wants to be close to me. I'm already pregnant, so it's worry free sex! If I got to decide, we would do it every other day at least. It doesn't even matter if we switch positions; I couldn't care less how long it lasts. I just want my husband inside me. Just wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 11:12 PM
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We definitely didn't get to this point by riding a lovely unicorn across a rainbow, haha. Our relationship was... not pretty a year ago. Me learning trusting him was actually a huge turning point for us, which means a lot of our problems were with me. I am a much happier person knowing I can lean on my husband and trust him, and he's much happier and more successful with a supportive and positive partner cheering him on (that's me! ).
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 10:47 PM
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That's a great post! I actually enjoy doing things more when my husband tells me they need to be done. Time to do laundry? Meh. But if he tells me to have a certain shirt clean, I do it with a smile, happy that I'm doing something that is useful and I will see it used (he'll wear it the next day). I absolutely delight in doing out of the ordinary tasks that he sets me to. He asked me to get an insurance quote, and I had all the housework done and the 3 best quotes before noon, haha. I think it i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 05:07 PM
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Resist the urge to rage when you lose! I love video games, and actually do better than my husband in games that require strategy and first person shooter games (these are the ones guys are supposed to be best at I think). He openly admits that I'm better at these games, but I never rub it in. I never compare our scores or challenge him. The only way he knows I'm better is when he watches me play or when we take turns. He thinks I'm cool for being a gamer girl who doesn't bring the team down. Whe…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/15 04:06 PM
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We have a joint account. He is completely responsible for the money, although he never makes a big purchase without mentioning it to me first, as a courtesy. I don't spend any unnecessary money unless I ask him. This works for us. It promotes communication and team work from both ends, because we have talked about our goals. Also, I do love being able to check the account whenever I'm curious about the state of our finances. I feel like asking him about it would show a lack of trust, but logging…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 07:01 PM
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I do yoga, and go on hikes with my husband on the weekends. He really likes a soft, feminine body, and he appreciates a toned look for legs and arms. Yoga pretty much gives me all of that. We spend a lot of time together (we live in a town where the only people we know so far are his family and coworkers), so when he wants some company at the gym, I jump on the elliptical. I'm also pregnant, so I'm definitely not pushing myself. But come September, I will be doing some intensive workouts to get …
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 06:31 PM
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Thank you, I was a bit dumbfounded at first!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 03:54 PM
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Well this is a weird thing to post as your first ever comment to this sub... but I have an awesome marriage! So, thanks but no thanks for your opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 03:47 PM
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I'm glad you liked it! After I read it I immediately thought of all the lovely ladies here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 12:36 AM
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I go to the bathroom, get naked, and then come into the bedroom and start tidying up, or, if I know he noticed right away, I'll run and jump under the covers. Haha, he has to see what's under there! Mine doesn't really initiate either, but I know if I ask he will feel bad for saying no. Obvious subtlety is key. Oh one more thing, get the damn TV out of the bedroom if you want better/more frequent sex.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 08:37 PM
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Have you asked bf what you should say? If he knows and is giving you input, he probably has your answer.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 11:19 PM
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You seem to care a little too much about what the ex thinks of you, and not care enough of what your bf would think. What does it matter if it's awkward or rude if you never want to talk to him again?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 04:16 PM
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Thank you, it would've been nice to get that advice for myself! Haha, I try to help anyone I can from learning the hard way.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 11:15 PM
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Just so you know, I'm 5'3, and I know what that weight/height combo looks like. You haven't quite reached the point where you're all the way "fat", so you still look pretty, but you're out of the "hot" territory... understand that your SO mentioning your weight was probably the best thing that could've happened for you. With a little hard work, you can get in great shape before summer is over! It's gonna take some self discipline and no slacking off, but if you stay in this blame game state wher…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 08:04 PM
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Thank you, my reply to Theopaulson applies to your comment as well. Solid advice that I put to good use!
/r/TheRedPill27/03/15 02:55 PM
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Thank you! I have been doing this since I saw your comment, and it made all the difference. Even when I had the "solution" to his problem, that didn't help because that's not what he needed/wanted. Just sticking to being the cheerleader and support got him to confront and solve something he's been struggling with for a few weeks. It's hard to watch him and not try to help or make it better, but now that I've put encouragement into practice, I can see that it's the right way to go... Thank you ag…
/r/TheRedPill27/03/15 02:52 PM
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I immediately remembered seeing this lol https://herabyssonline.files.wordpress.com/2014/04/2.jpg?w=726&h=524
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/15 01:34 AM
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Question: when you do turn to your wife in a moment of vulnerability, what is it that you want from her? What could she say or do to show her support? I'm asking this from a genuine place of the wife. I feel honored that my husband wants to discuss what's troubling him, but I make the mistake of offering suggestions, or trying to "fix" it.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/15 12:15 AM
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TRP stresses that a man should not ask a woman how to date women. RPW was created by a man, and when a man comments on this sub, it is a good opportunity to practice telling the alphas apart from the betas and white knights. I've noticed that when men comment from a beta point of view on this sub, they are very harshly received, just as much as a woman on TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 11:56 PM
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You are not in the sexual market anymore. You promised yourself to this man. For. Life. If that not what marriage means to you, you shouldn't be married... dwelling on why you weren't picked is a serious indicator of how much you care about yourself and your ego and your validation. You might need to brave the men's thread, not to post, but to learn just how perfectly you are fitting into the box of "cock carousel rider, beta bux, alpha fux, entitled princess, damaged goods" and once you've real…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 04:49 PM
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Maybe keep a rubber band on her wrist, and pop it everytime she had an unfaithful thought?
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 04:39 PM
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Have you checked the side bar? There's a link for encouraging your man to lead. That is what you need to be doing now, and for the love of reason, cut off whatever source is telling you about your past flings. Consider taking drastic measures- that's right, delete your Facebook, and cut off your single friends if they're still in the hookup scene. Lastly, get your head in the game! You are married, and that should be a huge deal. Just from reading your comments, it sounds like you want a perfect…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 04:37 PM
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Wow, I really want to see if there is a church like that in my area, some like minded female friends would be great... He just texted me that he is actually forgoing a weekly social outing tonight to "spend some quality time with my wife" To quote him exactly, so I now have all day to get prepared for a nice night in! Time to check back on that recipe thread I saw on here ;) Thank you for your advice, I can definitely help more with the family thing, as they approach me instead of him over every…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 04:09 PM
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I love this one; he didn't want a lunch today, so I tucked it in his shirt pocket ;)
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 02:21 PM
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The man sitting pose felt great! And I have a doctor appointment Thursday, so I'll ask about the tens unit. Dr. gave me one exercise to do: arching my back while on my hands and knees, and that just felt like it was irritating the soreness. Thank you for your tips! I appreciate all the pain management advice I can get.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 02:19 PM
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Okay, phantomdream09 linked some really useful threads, but I think it needs to be said that my husband does not enjoy most kinds of physical touch. He is very particular about things like back rubs and foot massages and the like... even blow jobs require the right timing. I'm looking for more acts of service and sweet reminders that I love him because he appreciates those more. I know that it is my responsibility to figure out what he likes, but he just doesn't seem content anymore now that he …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 01:08 AM
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Thank you! Checking these out now
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 12:56 AM
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Long haired Louisiana girl here. That half up half down is always cute and feminine, something about a headband makes you seen innocent and sweet, and a headband that goes all the way around your head can hold a tucked in twist (check Google and pintrest) that looks very medieval maiden like. Also, make sure your tops are made of lightweight fabric. It makes a huge difference! Last one: if you're wearing makeup in the heat (bless your heart lol) use powder instead of cream. Let those pores breat…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/15 10:43 PM
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I think over 5 is too many.. that's 5 failed LTR's in the best case scenario; still a bad sign. For someone new to RPW, I would say, worry less about the number you have right now. You can't change it or take it back. Also, having a "limit" in mind isn't really the right mindset either. Are you going to stick with a man forever to avoid passing that number? I didn't have great stats when I found TRP, but changing my thinking, behaviour, and attitude is what got me to a place I am very proud of (…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/15 09:58 PM
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Hahaha! We got a laugh out of that, thanks. I do trust my husband, and if he wants to see the "metamorphosis" up close (shudder), so be it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/15 11:15 PM
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That's great to hear! Mine is actually fascinated by the idea of lactation... I can't wait to amaze him with breast-feeding! I envision him watching in awe as our baby takes over his playthings :P I've also noticed his balance of alpha and nurturing has become less of a battle and more of a cooperative duo. I see them both in action at once, instead of one at a time. I'm not sure if I explained that right, but I hope you understand what I'm saying, haha!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 02:07 PM
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If you are repulsed by the thought of being with someone else, what would be your motivation for dating? Yes, you might be lonely, but the companionship of someone who could never satisfy you or be satisfied by you (not just sexually) could be more damaging than being alone. Think of the negativity and resentment when they don't live up to impossible standards. If your son is spending half of his time with his dad, there is no obligation for you to find a father figure (under the impression that…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/15 10:07 PM
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Keeping the mystery with my husband is getting increasingly harder to do as my pregnancy progresses... but since I have already maintained a good level of composure up to this point, he finds it hilarious when I'm trying to hide my gassy, bloated flaws. The scariest part for me is he insists on catching the baby when the times comes.... I'm terrified he'll never look at my body the same way after watching the birthing process. I know he loves me unconditionally, but I'm not ready for certain par…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/15 08:16 PM
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Yes, that is exactly my idea. I was not asking for compliments or even flirting with the men I came into contact with, but inside, I was open to the flattery because it made me feel good. Sex drive comes from testosterone, and I was being affected by the testosterone coming from men other than the one I was committed to. I am a southern gal, and really can't help but to be polite, which was perceived as openness by other men. Now, I am borderline rude to any men who do not have some relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/15 11:35 PM
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Just speaking from my personal experience here. You sound like I used to when my husband and I were dating. Are you talking to other men over facebook, text messaging, ect? Do you have many male friends? These are mistakes I made... thankfully my husband (boyfriend back then) was patient and forgiving. I thought something was wrong with one of us because I always wanted sex, and he never did (I'm talking once a month if I was on good behavior ). But now that I no longer intreact with men unless …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 05:13 PM
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I used to do this too. I started by literally biting my tongue when I wanted to say something. Ouch, yes, but it worked. Then, I asked myself, "what makes the thing I want to say more important than what's being said now?" Interrupting is annoying because it implies that you care more about what you have to say than the actual conversation you are having. This put things into perspective for me. Hope it helps!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 04:37 PM
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