HindOp Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	[FR] - Second Date Player approved.	/r/seduction	29/06/12 06:38 PM
1	[FR] - Second Date Nah, you right, you right. There might be something going on personality-wise that's hard to see; have you tried straight up asking her why she went cold? Other than that, you could reframe the making-out, grab-ass, etc. as; "I want to do this and worse to you, but it would be indecent to do it here." Hell, you could drag her to a bathroom and fingerblast her--your FR gives me the vibe that she doesn't mind playing ragdoll.	/r/seduction	29/06/12 06:28 PM
2	Dates with Older Women Obviously, calibrate to the woman--but I think generally speaking, you're pretty well off being pretty aggressive, yeah.	/r/seduction	29/06/12 06:06 PM
1	Initiated, couldn't get past there. Where did I go wrong? It's something that was taught to me directly, but you could definitely learn from experience. You don't really need a guide for online dating game--it's incredibly easy, since everyone is already looking to hang out and/or have sex. You just need to not mess up and say something dumb. If your text game is solid, OKcupid is like shooting fish in a barrel.	/r/seduction	29/06/12 05:54 PM
2	Dates with Older Women I don't have much experience with older women so take what I say with a grain of salt, but I can tell you what I've heard from people that have: older women are much more open to direct sexual frame since they've been around the block a lot and don't care about stupid indirect game--however, they also appreciate more subtle affectations of "alpha male" physicality that younger women apparently miss. Aside from that general idea, I can't imagine it being too much different. Good luck.	/r/seduction	29/06/12 05:52 PM
3	[FR] - Second Date Hard to say without meeting the girl in person since this is a pretty specific FR as it is--reading through the past two FRs related to this one, chick seems very aggressive. It's possible that she was turned off (or hurt) by the fact that you let her do all the work for the night. If something ain't broke, why'd you try and fix it? Now that I think about it, it seems even more likely--she was doing all the work and was SUPER aggressive when before you were doing most of the offensive work. The …	/r/seduction	29/06/12 05:47 PM
1	Initiated, couldn't get past there. Where did I go wrong? The issue isn't the amount of time you waited--the issue is the fact that you exchanged two sentences, numbers, and then the interaction ended there. I guarantee you that afterwards she was thinking, "Why did I just do that?" You can try calling her and schedule for another time later on if you still want to give it another shot. If she doesn't answer, go for an opening text that mirrors an OKcupid text--high reward, low risk. You want to send something that lets her give input to an interesting…	/r/seduction	29/06/12 04:47 PM
2	Does convincing two barmaids to have sex on Chatroulette count as seduction? Yeah, I dig it. Would be interested to see chatlogs--I think this definitely counts as some kind of "seduction".	/r/seduction	29/06/12 04:41 PM
19	Seddit, what are some of your go to questions when the conversation lets up? Try to stay present in the moment--be aware of what's happening. Every little detail and experience of life is a conversation topic to broach, so long as you make it relatable, universal, and human. If you want to make things fun and interesting, go for warm questions. "Warm" in this context means something that deals with the whys, the whos, the emotionality and excitement of experience. Ask her WHY she does something, what about something makes her WHO she is. If you're genuinely interested in…	/r/seduction	29/06/12 02:12 AM
6	Searing hot to icey cold.. There's two things that are required to get a chick completely head over heels--attraction and comfort. You know how to build attraction really well, it seems like--but your weak point is comfort. If there's too much attraction and not enough comfort, then basically a woman will do something wild, wake up the next morning and wonder what happened--why did I do that? He was hot, but I don't even know who that guy was--oh god now he's texting me I'm so embarrassed. It's essentially buyer's remorse…	/r/seduction	29/06/12 02:01 AM
6	Extended texting game before having a first date; how to do it? You've made plans--it's still on. You should never text unless you have to; here's why: Text game is basically a chess game that plays move by move, tit for tat. Anyone who's been doing the seduction thing for a while can attest to the fact that a single wrong step in the early stages of a new communication will hang you and have a girl flake, reject you, or straight up say no. The same rule still applies to a lesser extent the farther in you get until you're basically in rapport the moment you …	/r/seduction	29/06/12 12:54 AM
7	At what point does exclusivity need to be brought up? Just be honest! Something like: "We haven't really defined what we are as a relationship, and I feel like I need to so I don't hurt you further down the road. I'm really not looking for exclusivity because I'm in a place right now where I want to be able to have fun without committing--what about you?" The conversation will go from there.	/r/seduction	28/06/12 08:01 PM
1	Really like this girl at my coffee shop. I got her number, have asked her to hang out, but something always comes up. Not sure what to do. (kind of long story inside) That depends on whether or not you want to be playing the game--with women you really like, you should try to hold yourself to a high standard where you're not afraid to say what you want and ask for it, and expect it, but also be equally prepared to leave if you don't get it. I feel like hang-out-tag games are for people who have only just met and are feeling each other out, but you two obviously know each other; I don't feel like you need to artificially pull for the sake of disappointing her …	/r/seduction	28/06/12 07:59 PM
1	Quick Question You might be right! The part about OP's post that spooks me is that he gives no shits and "consistently escalates"--but we can leave it to him to clarify.	/r/seduction	28/06/12 07:56 PM
5	At what point does exclusivity need to be brought up? When two people don't determine the terms of their relationships and play it by ear, assuming on either side--it's a shit show. Obviously, she hasn't made it clear that you're exclusive, and you haven't made it clear that you're not. You should bring it up immediately--I guarantee that she would be incredibly hurt if she found out that you were with other women. The girl's come straight out of a 3 year relationship, so she doesn't really have any other mode of operation. If for no other reason b…	/r/seduction	28/06/12 07:45 PM
-1	Quick Question Not giving a shit how the chick reacts is a terrible idea, and thinking that it's a permissible, socially-acceptable behavior will lead you into eventual trouble and a slippery psychological slope. With that disclaimer out of the way, there's nothing wrong with making your intentions totally clear--if anything, it's a quick way to gauge the response of a woman. It tends to work on certain types of women, generally ones who are confident and know what they want (mental dimes)--it works less well …	/r/seduction	28/06/12 07:41 PM
3	Really like this girl at my coffee shop. I got her number, have asked her to hang out, but something always comes up. Not sure what to do. (kind of long story inside) If you really like this girl, be honest. Call her up, say, "Yo, why are you so damn hard to hang out with?!" Of course, sound incredulous and over the top--deliver it with funny, not solemnity and not-OK feelings. She'll probably give you some kind of excuse or apologize again--chick definitely seems into you from what I've said, but you're right: you're putting too much effort into this and not getting enough back. It's probably not conscious or intentional, but right now, she's running your li…	/r/seduction	28/06/12 07:30 PM
3	Was just flaked on (practically stood up) by a girl for our first date. Confidence is shocked. What to do/say back to her? Damn, dude, chill. She obviously can't make it and has legit reasons to not go--she's given you :(s and explicit apologies. You're fine. She didn't stand you up--she called you the day of because of a sudden scheduling change (family issues, nothing you can really do), early in the morning. This is like a best case scenario for anything in this vein. Just take a deep breath, realize it's not the end of the world, and just reschedule for another time. No big deal.	/r/seduction	28/06/12 07:18 PM