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| 3 | Soft Rejections and what to do after saying "hi"If you're holding a drink just make eye contact and say "cheers!" while raising your glass to toast them. Honestly, I don't know an easier opener than this one. Ay that's actually really solid, I'm definitely gonna use this next time. You don't just randomly use push-pull or any other seduction method. It’s like learning a great joke but telling it at the worst possible moment, then complaining that the joke isn't funny. The girl needs to be in the "vibing" stage first. Remember the flow: Opener… | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Progress- againHey man, thanks for the suggestion. I'll definitely look into the app since I really do need a solid way to track what I'm doing and where I can improve. Is it available on android or only IOS? | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Progress- againYeah, they're super important for me. I need to do them to get in the right headspace since I work an analytical job and I'm by nature a very logical person (I get compared to Sheldon from BBT a lot) It takes a little bit to get into the right frame of mind for the more emotional/vibes based interactions so low pressure warmups are a great way to feel out the vibe of a place and settle myself into a flow. Plus, if it goes well I get to have anchor points I can go up to and chat with at any time … | /r/seduction | 04/04/26 02:21 AM |
| 13 | I am glad this community exists.Same. I honestly would have never been able to approach women or go out solo if it wasn't for the info people put here or the advice they give. There's something to be said about having a group of people who get it as well, especially when nobody else in your day to day life does | /r/seduction | 26/02/26 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Spend more time out there, less time on hereOh yeah. Reframing going out as an adventure really helped me get over the anxiety. I love adventures, it's just the people that scared me and reframing it pretty much solved the problem immediately and now I look forward to going out | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 09:29 AM |
| 2 | Spend more time out there, less time on hereProbably lack of experience. I'm kinda running into all the problems in sequence. First it was major approach anxiety, now it's fumbling the conversation and no escalation and I'm sure there will be another problem after that. But we all gotta start somewhere | /r/seduction | 24/02/26 12:41 AM |
| 3 | Spend more time out there, less time on hereYeah, I only just started going out middle of last year. I haven't gotten laid yet, but my ability to socialise has gone way beyond what I ever thought I could do. Can't wait to start seeing some success | /r/seduction | 22/02/26 06:57 AM |
| 7 | Spend more time out there, less time on hereGoing out and actually practising was definitely the best thing I did. It's just getting over the first few times and figuring out that most people aren't that scary. Touching grass works | /r/seduction | 22/02/26 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you become "that guy"?It's gotta be learnable, that's all I know. And I'm too stubborn to give up. The fact that I've been able to go from a shut in with horrible social anxiety (who may or may not have absolutely flunked his first job interview because he stuttered through the whole thing) to someone who can handle being in the city alone and just make new friends on the spot or banter with a pair of interviewers confidently, (how I got my current job) in only a year has upended pretty much everything I thought I kn… | /r/seduction | 15/02/26 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Suck at conversing, I can never convert.This one is rough for people who aren't natural at yapping. But I found that a mix of practice and conversation theory helped me. You can get someone to continue what they're saying by repeating the last few words they said When people talk, you can choose from the who/what/why/how they offer to get more details Occasionally offer related experiences/opinions when you have them Also, just go up and talk to random people. It helps a lot. I'm still not great at talking to women, but I'll go up to … | /r/seduction | 11/02/26 12:20 AM |
| 7 | How do you become "that guy"?If that was all there was to it, I'd be drowning in women. I've got my job, yeah, but I'm also a state athlete, I go to the gym, I'm building towards getting my dream car and I've been learning French for a couple of years. Discipline/passion isn't really an issue- it's probably the main reason I'm putting this much effort into my game. I saw something I wanted and I'm putting time and energy towards it | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 11:22 PM |
| 16 | How do you become "that guy"?This is pretty helpful, thanks. I learn better with examples | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Free GameI have no exposure to women in everyday life (I work, gym, sport) and I have no social circle. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 02:04 AM |
| 1 | regrets are hitting me hardI'm in a similar situation. 23 atm so still got time, but somewhere last year it hit me that I've spent so much time on academics and career that I didn't try and enjoy myself, and never picked up the social skills/confronted my social anxiety. It really made me feel like a looser for a while, but at some point we all have to get up off the floor and try. It doesn't mean you're guaranteed to win, but there's a certain satisfaction in just trying. Maybe it's just cope, but I'm genuinely enjoying … | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Any beginner who made 2026 goals how are you doing?Another beginner here, definitely not where I want to be yet, but diving into all this social calibration stuff has laid off massively elsewhere. I had a job interview recently and I absolutely aced it. A year ago I'd have stuttered my way through it and been supremely unconfident (anxiety sucks so much). I was genuinely surprised how easy it was to talk and build rapport with the guys interviewing me and I got the job within a few days. Going to the gym 5/7 days a week had me feeling pretty goo… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Long-ass Field ReportYeah, it's one of my goals for this year. I completed last year's goals and this year I'm stepping it up. 2800m run in 12 minutes, 100kg bench press, podium finish in a national competition and improving my game to the point I can consistently vibe with any girl I want. It doesn't matter if they're realistic, all that matters is that I chase them | /r/seduction | 12/01/26 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Looking for wingman in Perth AustraliaDefinitely. It sucks that nobody I know is interested in this otherwise it would be easy | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 09:05 AM |
| 52 | WHAT EXPERIENCE PROMPTED YOU TO OVERCOME MR. NICE GUY SYNDROME?Oof, I'm right in the middle of that struggle | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 10:09 AM |
| 6 | Most approach anxiety is just fear of looking cringeHey man, could I grab a copy of those ways to beat approach anxiety? I have it pretty bad and I get in my own way a lot | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 02:13 PM |
| 2 | How do I go from logical conversations to emotional onesI think you hit the nail on the head with this one. It feels pretty accurate to how I approach communication in general | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Need some helpThat makes sense, how would I best go from here. I'm still interested in her, but not in an relationship. Not entirely sure how to get that to work tho | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 01:36 PM |
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