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Independent_Cap7714/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 04:56 PM
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Independent_Cap7714/r/Divorce_Men15/09/21 07:23 PM
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erally been sitting here all day trying to figure out a way to start some advocacy group for 'good dads', lobby for them, create a legal defense for them, set up non biased vendors (like a child counselor) etc. . Im sure there has to be one already.. but not in my home town. Its a terrible system that im sure that the people involved dont even see it. I hear i have a good "dad friendly" lawyer, and a fair judge. I've heard the same. That I have a fathers rights lawyer and a fair judge who is als…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 06:33 PM
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I'm in the same situation here in Texas man. Ex at first sounded like she wanted to work together and make this easy and wasn't looking to take me for everything but that has flipped. Very similar to you. It sucks a ton man, and every situation is going to be a bit different.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 04:52 PM
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He knows. I’ve been lock step with him.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/21 09:30 PM
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think it will look bad for her. In general, because she’s a woman, basically nothing she does will look bad and it’s your fault if anything is not going smoothly. That’s been my experience Great...her old attorney stalls, she doesn't communicate, and I get the shank for nothing. Glad I have a good attorney, he's on top of everything.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/21 07:42 PM
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Nope. Neither of us is religious. I’m working again to try and refind my faith but that’s after the fact
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 08:49 AM
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I am asking for full custody from the court and have made him aware of the risk for postpartum. She hides it very well, but her actions are not normal. Texas doesn't require cause for divorce, but I don't care about the fact we are divorcing now. I've deserved better over these last 8+ years. Technically, we both have legal rights to the kids, but custody is a civil matter, there is no court order saying she can't take them somewhere, so not kidnapping or anything. If cops were called they would…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/21 06:19 PM
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I know man. I feel like I was so gullible with this whole relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/21 01:12 AM
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I hope so man. This time alone in an empty house without anyone else that I know in the state that isn't her family or extended family is brutal. I moved from MN to Texas to get her closer to her family and at this point, just feel used and sort of like a fool for compromising and bending over so much for her. Just a waste of almost 9 years of my life. To go from seeing my daughters every single day ALL day because I worked from home, to seeing them for 2 hours at a time 3 times all month is inc…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 09:22 PM
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Honestly, my stbxw basically threatened me with leaving before we got engaged and before we had our second child. Before our engagement she said she needed to be engaged before we could buy a house, but were already in the process of buying the house. Regarding our second child, I was happy with just one, but she was adamant that we needed a second. She went so far as to say "If you aren't willing to have another baby, then I need to know now so I can make decisions." I gave in because I cared a…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 09:18 PM
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Yeah I'm expecting a whole bunch of bullshit from her attorney considering they had the nerve to include in their petition that all visits should be supervised. She has zero grounds for that, I have been an amazing dad to those girls have done everything for our oldest daughter over the last year. I wish I had more texts because she always said verbally that "You are the best dad in the world" so many times, but never put it in writing. Good thing is, I have never done anything to her besides th…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 09:13 PM
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In this case it's her mother that I think is driving much of this. Her mother has been divorced 4 times and is on her 5th marriage. She is an expert at running from things when they get tough. It's just a shame and sad that she has become this person. It honestly embarrassing how she is has acted to this point. Not the person I thought I was married to.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 09:04 PM
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It had come up more than once in our relationship, but the fact I am taking treatment of it seriously to rid it forever, and the fact she wouldn't put in any effort just blew my mind. I wanted to reconcile at first or at least TRY marriage counseling, but the more I've seen of this side of her, and the more I've looked back our relationship, I realized how much I compromised to her the entire relationship. I'm done doing that and being treated worse than everyone else, or seeing her put effort i…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 08:51 PM
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I appreciate the reply. I do have plenty of suits and already have one ready that I feel confident in. I have a small toy that my daughter always likes to see me with so I'll bring that to have in my pocket. I think at this point my biggest concern is my wife lying or twisting things in a way that just isn't true. I know I need to really focus on keeping my facial expressions under control as I don't want to make a bad impression to the judge. Any tips on what types of things may get asked by th…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 08:37 PM
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Honestly, I've given it up for the last 28 days and finding myself much more clear headed. I'm not planning to go back to porn.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 08:08 PM
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Really depends on the state. In Texas for instance anything created or gained after the marriage besides inheritance is considered community property and therefore is subject to being split. But asset division isn't simple, you have to remember that debts also get split, so you may be able to negotiate through mediation.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 07:04 PM
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I feel you man. I completely relate to seeing in crumbling. The anxiety and unknown can be crippling. I can’t say I’m doing good yet, but I’m doing the things I can to manage and that’s all we can control. It’s a long road though, and there are definitely going to be days where you feel like you are going backwards. But keep focusing on you and be 100% open and honest with your therapist about what you are struggling with
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/21 03:59 PM
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I'd agree with this in addition to what I posted. There is no harm in starting to do free consultations if offered by family lawyers in your area and it will prepare you to act fast if you get served with papers. That is exactly what I did because I wasn't get to see my girls enough and wanted to see what legal recourse I had, then I surprisingly got papers on Wednesday and was able to file my answer and counter petition with a lawyer the very next morning. This time during a separation needs to…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/21 01:43 PM
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I'm not in the exact same position because my wife actually filed divorce, but similar to you, married 6.5 years and a 3yo and an 11 week old. I've been battling anxiety attacks since it she left in the middle of the night with the kids during a week I left to give her space to think. I'm only 2 weeks into this but I can tell you that exercise and meditation are helping with me. I've ran every morning even though I hadn't exercised in over a year and started using headspace to help myself throug…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/21 01:37 PM
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