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If she's already trying to make plans after it sounds like you are the beta bucks dinner and the cock she's planning for dessert isn't yours. I'd make sure to split the check on this one and make it known early. Besides that danp's answer was good.
/r/askTRP21/08/18 08:47 PM
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Agree and amplify is an easy rule of thumb for shit tests when in doubt. Short fence example is good. Could also joke you are superhuman, have massive deadlifts, or would do it in the pool.
/r/askTRP17/08/18 10:18 PM
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What the fuck did I just read in the comments? Are we being invaded by /r/relationships or some bullshit? Look. You need to do what you need to do, and whatever the fuck these bp faggots are spouting to shame you is of no consequence. Your head is obviously not in a mindset of settling down right now or being tied to one woman, and from a biological perspective it never is supposed to be (males by nature seek to spread their offspring via multiple partners). You can be open with your gf about it…
/r/askTRP17/08/18 09:26 PM
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Yes.
/r/askTRP17/08/18 08:48 PM
1

Not criticizing you. I'm saying there's no difference between her or other plates because she blows you (is sexually active with you), even if you haven't fucked.
/r/askTRP17/08/18 07:26 PM
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You're certainly acting like a bp beta cuck. As someone else pointed out, yes the gut is better at detecting thots than your head is. However your frame of mind should be a DGAF attitude and you should have other options open besides her at any time. Fact of the matter is women can cheat for any reason at any time. And while your frame and status influence how likely it is to occur, you have to be comfortable with leaving or withdrawing attention at a moments notice and just going with another p…
/r/askTRP17/08/18 07:18 PM
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Seconding this as the correct response.
/r/askTRP17/08/18 07:13 PM
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I get you haven't fucked but sidebar still applies. I'm also disappointed no one else in this thread linked handling the talk. https://www.trp.red/p/mattyanon/274 Soft next. Respond after a few days and just act like it didn't happen. If she raises the talk again use the techniques listed in the article.
/r/askTRP17/08/18 07:05 PM
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This is the gold standard for determining if its shitting where you eat. If something goes wrong with any of the women (keep in mind you don't know them and havent vetted for any mental issues), can it impact or make your life difficult. In this case one could argue any woman you meet through your job can complain to your bosses. If they have to entertain the complaint and ask you about it, I'd argue it is shitting where you eat.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 05:58 PM
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Yeah just living vicariously would be my bet. Don't think you need to dig deeper than that, just keep her on the roster and thank the ex-plate for the hook up.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 10:48 PM
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I can't speak to the UK but i knew my career path via school when I found a class I was passionate about and knew it was in demand (finance). Your goal should be to find something that you like or feel something for other than just the financial aspect and then look at how to seek entry level positions in the field (does it require vocational school, a college degree, or just work experience). From there you try to build a career.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 10:45 PM
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Questions for clarity/context sake: 1. is this ex your ex wife, an ex ltr, or an ex plate? 2. Why'd you break up?
/r/askTRP15/08/18 10:42 PM
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I have. In terms of just starting cold approach (like op) I'd argue that its the best place to start before even trying to complicate it further. Trying to come up with witty situational openers and over analyzing for 20 minutes like op does no good when his goal should be to open and approach as much as possible right now. Should flow to convo from there when you get a green light/reaction.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 09:47 PM
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I understand, its difficult but everyone has to look out for themeselves because no one else will. Remember you are still helping her for 2 months, and that should be more than enough, having to explain or justify yourself any further is not necessary.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 09:30 PM
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We've all been there to some degree. Just remember to see it through to the end for your own sake. If she truly values your "friendship" (i also guarantee she is going to act offended when you bring up eviction) she will understand and be appreciative of having a place to launch for 1-2 months. But she won't. And I suspect it isn't even a real friendship at that.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 09:22 PM
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Everyday I'm on asktrp I feel like I'm guaranteed to find doormat stories. She wanted to move to cali and live rent free. You live in cali. She is now living rent free. Wonder how that happened or why you developed feels on her last day visiting before. My advise to you, since at this point she has squatters rights: Look up eviction procedures and start them ( whole process is 1-2 months), tell her that you are helping her but it is a limited time, and withdraw emotional attention (you don't car…
/r/askTRP14/08/18 09:08 PM
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I do a handshake. If she curls away I smirk, say it just came out of the cleaners and leave it hanging. Rarely had someone just walk away from it or tell me to leave, you'd be surprised at the reactions you get from going with even such a simple approach. The point is to actually just approach.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 08:11 PM
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Hi, my name is ___, nice to meet you. What is your name? P.s. lol @ you asking about her bag, we all (her included) know you don't give a shit about her bag.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 07:51 PM
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I'll counter what people are saying here because they are not correct. Yes TRP makes note that your frame must be airtight to those who it has to. Make no mistake that talking to your girl about your issues will make her drier than the sahara. Leaders do not talk to their subordinates about their perceived weaknesses. However it is also natural to want to vent and discuss issues. The solution is to talk to develop male friendships or other support structures where you can show vulnerability with…
/r/askTRP14/08/18 05:46 PM
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Via text? I didn't read it as outcome independence, i read it as insecurity since at that point you had already let her know intent in your first text.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 01:40 AM
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Jesus christ. This whole thing reeks bp. You have oneitis, its really bad, and nothing you have said shows any knowledge of trp. Reread the sidebar from the start.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 12:25 AM
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Context?
/r/askTRP13/08/18 11:34 PM
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Anything that is an investment of time (not money) from the girl in you. Hand making something Cooking dinner Planning outings Doing laundry I don't count sex because that's passive and mutually beneficial to her, though a good blowjob that isn't asked for is bonus points. Reason to count time over money is time is more valuable than money. Her time is a sunk cost in her job and she gets money for it, but her time after that is not.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 11:33 PM
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You aren't ghosting. You just weren't reaching out. You ruined any semblance of a soft next or whatever the fuck you were trying to do by answering and saying you were doing nothing of value, and she reacted accordingly. If you are softnexting or ghosting you don't have contact for a set period of time, then reach out after and respond like nothings unusual. I'd assume your plates probably broken at this time, but good luck.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 11:24 PM
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Its an IOI.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 11:19 PM
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2pm lunch date = zero chance for escalation (8pm and later) Stop talking about trp you suck at it anyways and the first through tenth rule is not to. "You don't have to come with me" lmao. The above two tenants make me feel like you are friendzoning yourself, you already proved you aren't alpha and now you are talking to her about how all women love alphas (i.e. not you)
/r/askTRP13/08/18 11:17 PM
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Why the fuck does it matter if she's damaged goods or not? What does that change? You are a fucking doormat right now, here are your options: A) Be a doormat forever more B) Next her At this point there is no frame recovery and you shouldn't be seeking anything from a woman who walks all over you while trying to branch swing as soon as she finds a committing prospect.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 11:13 PM
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You're already paranoid enough to post about it and feel concern. Hard next and be done with it.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 11:05 PM
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2 months. Jesus Christ. You are friendzoned bro. As others have said try escalating and watch it blow up. When it does and she says she values your friendship and doesn't want things to change, that's when you make the decision to either orbit her forever and become a eunich, or leave.
/r/askTRP11/08/18 04:44 PM
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Soft next/no contact for your trip, demote to plate and start gaming other women when you get back. Its disrespect, and creating drama for the sake of drama. Whether she cheated or not, her actions are giving the impression she did. Could be for the drama or could be she did.
/r/askTRP11/08/18 04:39 PM
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Escalate in the car initially in a more populous area then drive nearby. Bonus points if you finger her while driving.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:49 PM
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Make her life as better as possible. We both know coke doesn't. CCs are becoming a natural part of female hypergamy. Up to her to make the choice, you have to show her the path is all.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:37 PM
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Is my LDR a unicorn? No. AWALT.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:32 PM
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This girl is of no consequence. Your boss is. Let it go, her words are just that, words.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:31 PM
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There's a reason its sidebar'd. Frame is everything.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:29 PM
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Words mean nothing, actions mean everything. I'd expect she's referring to soyboys who would be concerned enough about the definition of "softies" to post on reddit and ask for a definition.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:20 PM
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First red pill is a lens to view the world, its not an alpha vs beta identifier. Saying someone is red pill is saying that they are aware of a womans hypergamous imperative, and have adapted a different lifestyle to succeed in the sexual marketplace. Second, you may need to rephrase your question, are you asking about women swooning for you vs giving you shit tests and resistance? Cause you should always expect shittests and screening of some sort, barring looking like Henry Cavill or some shit.…
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:18 PM
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Dumbest post I've read all week. You trying to bang your daughter? If you're talking about her riding the cc, why do you care that much? If it makes her happy so be it. Your only role as a father should be to be as strong a pillar for her to pick up on social cues, develop strong values, and try to better her life as much as possible. Her life however is her own.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 11:03 PM
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If she messages you on bumble disregard all advise here and proceed as normal. But she won't. She swipes right on everyone to get followers. Don't invest any more time, and don't orbit her.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 10:04 PM
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If you know AWALT then what are you asking? Are you asking if the word all means "most"? It doesn't. Your entire post reeks of someone who has read some of the materials but wants to stay plugged in. Let hypergamy knock you on your ass a few times, then try again.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 10:02 PM
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Use your car or use the extra time to monk mode till you move out.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 08:34 PM
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Well you already crossed that bridge man. Glad its leveling off, and hope that it works out for you.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 06:10 PM
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Other people have answered the culture question but I'll note this is exactly why you don't fuck with coworkers. Hope it ends on a personal level and she doesn't spread rumor, talk to her gfs, or contact hr on the matter because she now has the power in this dynamic.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 06:01 PM
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Uh its still another person. Yes we have plates and use them for sex but are you forgetting the part where they get to have sex with you and that's usually a pleasurable experience to them? That its give and take? That if they didn't get benefit out of it they could leave and you will continue on in life? TRP isn't about dehumanizing women, its about seeing them for how they actually are and understanding that men biologically want something from them, and providing the roadmap to getting it.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 05:53 PM
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Your weak frame that makes you feel this girl is your only option will push her away anyways. This is your life, make your decision and stick with it. If it was me I wouldn't even waste the time and run the risk for an easy lay and not much else.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 04:19 PM
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I'll advise against even considering the possibility. You need abundance mentality; why risk anything with this girl who could get you in legal trouble and affect the rest of your life, when there are 100s of other girls in your school, and millions more out there. This is beyond dumb.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 03:18 PM
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She does actually.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 02:15 PM
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TRP isn't solely plate theory. And even within plate theory you can have an LTR. The problem from your analogy, and where you fall off theory is that you are upset/and have unrealistic expectations that your mexican vacation will never end. And once it does you go right back to a shitty lifestyle you weren't happy with in the first place. I'd also argue that pinning your emotional happiness to a woman will make you come from the position of weakness in a relationship (you need her more than she …
/r/askTRP10/08/18 06:52 AM
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It does. You are assuming that your validation and emotional happiness is due to a woman in your life. TRPs principle is that your life and your happiness are dependent on you. Success with women comes because you are the alpha and you exude it. The women you meet are an accompaniment and add spice to life but that ultimately you are responsible for your own happiness. So enjoy the moments, its ok to like women and even care about them. Just understand that no one is ever someone else's, free wi…
/r/askTRP10/08/18 06:19 AM
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You are correct you need a mission. What's the issue then, do you want a bunch of strangers to tell you what your mission is? This is something you need to find passion for on your own. Other people can't help you on this one.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 01:31 AM
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3rd meeting? Soft next imo. I wouldn't invest more time and still keep her at plate level if she does reach out.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 01:28 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3pltm2/humansockpuppets_guide_to_managing_your_bitches/ You don't choose FWB or LTRs they happen.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 01:28 AM
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There are alot of issues with this picture, but I'll open with this: You don't have abundance mentality. The hoops you are going through for this girl are insane and you are putting time into her when there are women all around you. Now for the hotel stuff, I honestly don't have enough context. You painted it badly sure, but having known and dated muslim girls I'll tell you that if her friends are muslim as well, you sharing a room could spread rumor, cause her issues (parents have murdered thei…
/r/askTRP10/08/18 12:47 AM
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Forgot to add an extra 40% for actually taking the test.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 10:17 PM
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It does when you are supposed to read the sidebar and its literally the first thing written there. No likes it when someone asks to be spoonfed.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 10:15 PM
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Jesus christ. Sidebar; rule zero.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 09:59 PM
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Call up Leonardo DiCaprio and invest in penny stocks.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 09:51 PM
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Its called a FWB reread the sidebar on plate theory. Use humansockpuppets guide. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3pltm2/humansockpuppets_guide_to_managing_your_bitches/ Demote to a plate forever more. If she withdraws sex, next her.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 09:42 PM
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She wants orbiters is the right answer. Respond as you are supposed to, say you are busy. That said, reassess your status with her. If you are getting benefits out of the friendship (going out and using her as social proof or share hobbies with her and treat her as a guy friend) then great, but if you are yearning for something and she isn't providing it you should bounce.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 09:33 PM
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"She made it her mission to see a woman in leadership" and she "was at the company less than 6 months." I don't think anything else needs to be said, the source doesn't seem credible and has an anterior motive. The fact that she was there in 2014 and is only now raising the issue screams opportunistic feminism.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 05:10 PM
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Well again its back to abundance, why bend over backwards and go somewhere unfamiliar with this girl, when another girl is available 10 ft away from you. If she was that into you a 30 min train ride would be nothing. It sounds like she isn't that interested to me and you going there would just put you in her orbit.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 04:58 PM
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So its word choice, you aren't feeling guilty you are doubting your initial decision. You can introspect after or even during but my answer to you is this: You already made the decision to next/soft next based on all of your previous experience and couldn't have made that decision any other way (remember your logic already decided that was the best decision, hence why you did it). Stopping or reversing halfway through will leave you in a worst position from a relationship standpoint (now you nee…
/r/askTRP09/08/18 04:53 PM
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Uh... tell her exactly what you just said? Distance and experience with LDRs tells you it doesn't work, no need to sugarcoat it. You can even admit you care about her (feel free to disagree brothers), but just don't bend on your resolve. Leave it open to if you cross paths again or something changes you'd be open to something then.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 04:04 PM
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"They lived before meeting me, they can live without me." "Cause and effect"
/r/askTRP09/08/18 03:57 PM
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Doesn't seem like much interest and she has you as an orbiter if that's the case.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 12:18 AM
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It is. Up to you how to play it but don't be butt hurt about it. Soft next and I would text back something implausible "Actually I was just informed that my brothers' girlfriends' cousins', goldfish died and he's having a service. Rain check."
/r/askTRP09/08/18 12:16 AM
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If she doesn't reach out in a soft next, you don't reach out ever. Soft nexts are you setting a period of time (10 days is fine) and then after she has reached out you acting like nothing has happened (you were busy) and setting up a meet. If a girl doesn't even question you falling off the grid for 10 days unannounced then she doesn't give a fuck whatsoever about you. If you were chad or she was hungry for you she'd be texting you 10 times a day each day you are no contact. Sounds like you need…
/r/askTRP09/08/18 12:11 AM
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Self improvement. Better posture, better looks, more testosterone, the knowledge that you can physically wreck shit, and higher confidence. Its therapeutic and my personal time. Its why trp is synonymous with lifting, the mental and physical benefits help to naturally build a strong frame.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 11:48 PM
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Relationship != Plate, plate spinning is minimal commitment and usually done with multiple women. This sounds like a FWB. If negatives outway positives then end it. Cut contact and block or give her closure now then block. Shes old enough to take care of herself.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 09:25 PM
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This. Should have just ignored it. Realize now that you are involved that if her setup breaks because of what you said, she will blame you and that could affect your work
/r/askTRP08/08/18 08:25 PM
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Lift. Recognize that every step you take in improving yourself now improves the quality of the rest of your life. Also stop wasting time on porn.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 08:22 PM
1

Sounds like you are trying to game through texts. Should just be a simple "meet me for a drink @ x" or "come over @ y" at that point. You continuing to text after having her number will only sabotage you.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 07:22 PM
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First tinder is a numbers game. Your failure is systemic vs something you personally are doing wrong. Many endorsed contributors will tell you tinder is not a replacement for cold approaching, and supplemental at best. Have to realize with tinder you are 1 of 300 guys in her current inbox, any of them available at her choosing. While she might text you today, tomorrow she could have swiped right on Dr. Chad back from Africa after stopping the bubonic plague. Simple setups for logistics are fine,…
/r/askTRP08/08/18 07:04 PM
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You are trying to rationalize a decision you've already made. Its never worth the risk with abundance mentality, because there are always women outside your company you can meet. But you want this specific girl and that's oneitis/not trp.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 06:24 PM
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Her SMV is higher than yours. Based on your post HB3's are higher SMV than you. You have barely done anything towards TRP, have read minimal material and are confused about women getting tingles for alphas instead of you. You should devote alot more of yourself towards reading and self improvement before you do anything stupid.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 05:48 PM
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Concept of shitting where you eat doesn't refer to a physical location dumbass. In the event your workplace is your livelihood for the foreseeable future (i.e. career vs part time), you don't risk fucking up the water supply by shitting in it. In the same note, you don't fuck with coworkers, cause if it goes south, rumors, ill will, and HR will fuck any chances you have of further advancement or worst case, mess up your current state of employment.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 05:31 PM
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I've noted it before, but socializing and dealing with women from a time before you took trp tends to revert you back to your old beta self. Because that's how you are used to interacting with them to begin with. It's in the past at this point, take it as a lesson and move on.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 01:33 AM
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Your time/attention is your currency, it is given in exchange for sex under relationship dynamics. With snapchat you are giving away free money and getting jack shit in return. Of course everything dies out, you've given girls all the attention and validation they want from you with none of the cost. Don't use SM/texting for anything more than logistics for a next meetup.
/r/askTRP07/08/18 11:29 PM
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So then quit. If you don't understand that the only person you have to better than is your past self, then you should quit. Every step you take in building your power is a step further than yesterday. So who cares if you dont have a perfect jawline or sound like Gilbert Gottfried, you continuing to lift, socialize, and internalize respect for yourself makes you better for it.
/r/askTRP07/08/18 11:25 PM
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Shouldn't matter and shouldn't affect your approach with her either way. But she probably wasn't a virgin
/r/askTRP07/08/18 10:59 PM
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She was looking for validation. You gave it. That was all she wanted, to answer the question in the back of her head of "do you still want her?"
/r/askTRP07/08/18 10:56 PM
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Who the fuck cares. Shit like this is listed as bannable if you read the side bar. Your concern should be yourself, improving male sexual strategy and building power, and thats it. We aren't here to have a pity party for whoever her boyfriend is for being such a fuck up that they'd LTR a hoe. Op can bang who he wants and good on him for doing so.
/r/askTRP03/08/18 08:59 PM
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